How to Deconstruct Suffering in Three Steps
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Here is my own little summary that actually helped me to deal with chronic pain that today became overwhelming: "You create a separate self by singling out one aspect of your experience that you like or don't like and forming a relationship with that aspect. You deconstruct the sense of a separate self by becoming aware of the totality and fluidity of your experience and seeing that what you singled out as the "relevant" aspect of the experience is always a thought fabrication. And so is the one having a relationship with it."
Jean Klein suggested a similar approach for pain that is more on the energetic level: Become aware that the feeling of pain is a contraction that seems to occupy a certain space in the body. Then you become aware of the spaces in your body where the energy is neutral. Then you become aware of the fact that there is no defined boundary between the neutral energy and the contracted energy. And then you "invade" the contracted space with the neutral energy, consciously dissolving the imagined boundary (by recognising that it's not really there).
So, when fixation is cut, there is a feeling of being a bit lost and vulnerable. When the sense of loss and vulnerability are felt into deeply...........that's perfect Angelo!
Bro really knows how it is outside the matrix
For real.
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Take notice of your being and allow the thoughts to surface and be at ease with this seeing.
God bless you friend. You just showed me how take the intense denigrating energy of a very hard experience today and use it to walk out of my conceptual world and into the impersonal.
wonderful!
Exactly what i needed right now!! Thank you♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
Angelo, there is an "understanding" of the fabrication of the subject and object, that all the voices, including the searcher, the viewer... All is a made up. Even the one that "understand" it.
And also the one that says to bring attention to breath and meditate...That there is no problem to solve, no search.
There is not lightness, there's anger and frustration. Anger for "understanding" and still "stuck" in the loop of thoughts and see nothing else but them.
Who is angry and frustration? Thought. And it (thought) gets me (thought) angrier.
Chris Guimond referred me to this video to help me with longstanding chronic insomnia. I had a deep insight listening to this video and have been sleeping well almost consistently since I first heard it. I’ve been meditating with it over and over again. I think there’s more insight to be gotten from this. I’ve been meditating on dependent arising for 8 years and didn’t have any life changing insight. One listen to this and thinks have shifted big-time for me. Thank you so much Angelo. You’re an amazing teacher.
I’m glad to hear it ❤️
Thank you Angelo, this actually started working for me, it's way easier than I initially thought. From observing a random heavy situation, insights started coming up such as 'oh, it looks like I believe life is some kind of game to be won - and it's a fabrication! And who is the one believing that? Who am I trying to impress/appease', etc. It seems like there's much more to uncover. I'm hyped
!!!! Yes it is rather simple 😂. Once you find the thread you can follow it down that rabbit hole 🕳️
It doesn’t click! 😢
So needed to hear this right now. ❤🙏
What an incredibly helpful technique! Will continue working with this, thanks so much Angelo ❤
deeper more subconscious structures will always control the upper parts of the mind
only deeper surrender through the fear of death can wipe them out
Thank you so much this feels like the best way to find out how the suffering started in the first place. I want to know, feel, and be freedom it Self. To be unburdening happiness to and for all of us.
Angelo, how do you always have the coolest shirts?
This is so good!! Wow. Thank you
This was one of your best videos for me! Great explanation! Thanks for sharing your wisdom Angelo. ❤
Glad it was helpful!
Thank You, Angelo!
I’m realizing one of the largest sticking points for me is that life and all the glorious experiences are temporal and therefore pretty meaningless. Even if a person has little problems, they still can’t get away from the numbness of the illusion of a temporary life. But of course the problems are welcome to pass quickly! :-)
Thank you!
Thanks Angelo
Awesome……….thank you Angelo 🙏🏻💫🌟❤🕊🫠
Welcome!
Infinite thanks, as always ❤🙏
You are so welcome
the last two statements … would be grateful for any insight on that. It hit here in some way
superb.
Thank you for taking me from my head to my heart 💜
This is very helpful. Also, the video quality is outstanding. Love the intro and the sound. Thank you.
Awesome, thank you!
thank you ❤
Welcome!
Thanks!
Thank you!!
in one of ur old vids u were explaining abt being lika an eye ball and looking at things happening, i dont remember but something like that would love making a separate video abt being an eye ball
If the problem is unworthiness, it has to be fully felt into first, doesn't it, before it can be deconstructed in this way?
Yes, feel it deeply, without describing into words "what is that"
@yser, "unworthiness “ is a thought. It has nothing to do with you. The mind wants your illusionary Ego to be Seeker. You already are what you seek.
This is a radical message. Seems to really be saying reality and Everything about it , bills, pain, situations are all fabricated
By whom?
&agent, the Mind wants a better experience. It wants to be identified as the Self. It wants the illusionary Ego to be a seeker. Peace.
It's not saying anything about facts of life, only about your relationship to them as the "I" defined by a certain "story/narrative" about these facts of life. (That's at least how I understand it.)
I get all the what, but I have yet to hear a how...
what happens if my biggest problem corresponds to my most authentic desire? At first I thought I wanted to realize my awakening, but over time I discovered that I was ignoring an important desire in my life. In a way I can understand how all this is just a series of heavy thoughts, but to me it seems like there is a certain reality associated with it that wants to be realized . But I get very desperate when I make contact with it!
However, I trust what is happening
If you have a desire to do something else, you can of course feel free to follow that desire, and see where it takes you. Desire most, doubt least. Do whatever it is you feel you need to do, and who knows where you'll find yourself, or how you'll feel?
I'm also reminded of Nisargadatta Maharaj (spelling?) who says something along these lines: we dont find water by digging many shallow holes, but by digging a deep hole in one place.
Angelo I have a question in regards to the"problem" in life holding me back from liberation. The voice is telling me I don't deserve this freedom because I haven't found my purpose in life. I am aware this is all just thought, but it's sticky. Would it make sense to pursue and try to work on this within in realm of normal life, or to work deeper on coming into presence and seeing this voice/stuckness for what it is.
The mind keeps telling me that the awakening process is a way to avoid my actual life. But the stuckness keeps me so down and depressed that I can't act in ways to better my external life. It's a weird paradox that's hard to break free from.
Both options are the same thing.....and seeing options is 'the' game. It is all just a story. When you catch yourself doing it, that's how the shift begins. There is nothing other than 'this', here now.
I am exactly where you are too
Why do you need a purpose in life? Do you want to do certain things rather than others? (Nothing wrong with that) Where does this idea come from? Why do you need to deserve freedom? Idk, my guess is dig a little, notice how the answers feel - when u hit sth authentic you will probably know it (that's my experience at least)
I am practicing this and kind of came to a realization that looking for “who” is upset is the same as the who. Am I right? Or in other words, the seeker is the who/fabrication? I sense the person trying to figure it out but it’s so subtle. Not sure if it’s me (Self) looking or another layer of the who. Make sense?
Thank you so much this was excellent. 18:43 Is it actually normal to feel a huge sense of relief in the knowing that I don’t exist? Is this not supposed to be something we generally want to hold onto?
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The thing thats feels like I need to "sort out" or "navigate" now is work. I recently finished a job that was no longer serving and don't have another lined up. I feel like I should be more worried than I am. I feel like I should be figuring it out. I'm also at my parents house where they overtly tell me that I need to figure it out. I get it, I'm not rejecting what they're saying. But, currently nothing is arising to try to "sort it out". I know that when it's time for a plan to be made, it will be made. When it's time for hard action, it will be done.
I've been navigating almost solely on intuition for quite some time now, and it even took me to the other side of the world and I didnt really even know why I was there and at times I didn't even want to be there. Then it took me back. And, it always worked out, in ways I wasn't expecting.
Looking forward to the retreat at the end of this month. I feel like a "house of cards" so maybe it will eventually just blow over.
I trust that things happen in their own time, when the conditions are right. Each time there's an opening, something always comes out, so I'm in no real rush to open "Pandora's box", particularly given me living with my parents. Good and bad go completely out of the window, so I'd rather not explode some unresolved material onto people around me.
So dizzy! So fuzzy! So colorful
Hi Angelo, I see there is no me. And now I see in my experience how thoughts are just appearing in consciousness. If there is nothing else what part of this experience wants to continually fixate on the thoughts?
Is it just residual ego?
You have brought me so far, thank you! 🙏🏻
I wouldn't worry about the hows so much as keep investigating the arisings, appearances etc in directness
Thank you!
On the beach..evidence or conclusion? When reaching put with my hands..I cannot touch/feel the rock. I am not wet from the water. Evidence what for...? Separation? Grateful for a reply, Angelo 🙏
Looks like people are walking behind the green mist in the background 😱👻
Thanks
Thank you!!
If you had told me a month ago, that I would be staring into a doctor's eyes while eating ice cream after work, I would have called you insane yet, here I am
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So I always struggle with this, perhaps it's me not understanding, and perhaps it's this teaching which dismisses something that shouldn't be dismissed. So when you're talking about this moment being illusionary and how it's the hypnotic narrative of the mind.... so let's say someone is in an abusive situation, and yes they want to get out, but we don't live in a black and white world where abuse can always just be left. You can interchange abuse for anything that happens on an ongoing basis which is NOT something that can always be easily stepped away from. So are we saying that if someone feels suffering because they are being abused and they would really like to NOT be abused but circumstances won't currently allow it, that they should simply convince themselves that this abuse in this moment is an illusion or a hypnotic narrative? I'm not being a smartass here, I'm really trying to understand. Is this the message you would give to someone who, say, just came to you after a trauma? That they should just see it as an illusion? I just don't understand that... it feels so dismissive and like spiritual bypassing the emotional experiences in life.
Yes this is the kind of question that stops me too. Not being a smartass either but it's funny how in your hypothetical you replaced one thought: "This abusive circumstance is NOT ok" with another "I'm convinced this abusive circumstance IS ok". Both of those are thoughts that overlay reality. And (they say, I don't know) reality doesn't need either thought to function: The person will naturally move away from those circumstances once the thoughts are recognised as mere thoughts (in fact the thoughts are usually what keep the person in those abusive circumstances longer than necessary: "What if this is what I deserve...etc").
I agree this kind of question seems to be overlooked by awakened folk and I assume for valid and probably obvious reasons but they would be wise to address it more because it's a major hold up
Not Angelo but my 2 cents - it's not an "either or" kind of situation. You can see that it's all an illusion, while at the same time acting in the right way to make things better. Ultimately, you and your decisions are also part of the illusion, so deciding what to do is just another appearance, like in a (non-lucid) dream where you think you're doing things voluntarily but actually it's just a dream. But until that's realized, you should do your best to improve your situation in the relative world. Stepping away from abuse, if it's possible, is not a contradiction and should absolutely be done. If there's nothing that can be done, then at least this way of viewing things can bring some relief. It's not spiritual bypassing when things really are that way, but we reify emotions and solidify them in a way that cause us more suffering unnecessarily. It has to be experienced rather than just understood intellectually.
The way I see it, it's about beliefs we hold about a given situation. Sometimes it feels like it's a rigged game with no way out, and if we dig deeper, we find that behind what we 'want', for instance, there's a hidden belief which we are scared to see. And the 'I' which is illusory, in this context, is the 'I' which can be understood as a role you were assigned in this game - the idea of this 'I' is part of the game, and there's also implicit rules - what this 'I' should do or not do. And it's a belief, adopted unconsciosly. Seeing through that doesn't change the fact that you can still act however you choose, but you have more clear insight, and you're not bound by the belief that the game is real - you're less of a prisoner. That's my insight at least, from doing this practice, hope it makes sense.
Sorry - I misread the OP I think. So in this case - my guess that the word 'suffering' relates more to the the pain we add by mentally resisting the situation which we cannot change (so spending energy on 'what if's' and other kinds of mental dwelling on the pain), instead of seeing the little gaps of freedom that are here, despite the pain that we experience and that is very real. Sure, with trauma and abuse it sounds like an objectively shitty situation, I wish you much strength and hope you manage to exit this situation somehow.
It would be interesting if you could explore and discuss this subject with Nukunu and his method associated inquiry. It’s Carl-Jonas teacher btw
Meditation has been starting to make a lot less sense to me, getting 'somewhere else' working towards freedom. Just being with your current experience with a sense of giving it freedom is the only way, you have to start with freedom not work towards anything.
Inotropes may be required here. I shit you not. 😢
What do you mean?