My mother always told me "I'm not your friend but when you get grown and move out of my house, we can be friends." I'm now 40 with a 9/5yr old I completely understand this concept. I remember when I was moving out on my own. I was waiting for my mom to give her usual speech. She was usually quite. I asked her if she wanted to come sit down for her talk. My mom said the most profound thing I ever heard in my life. She said "I prepared you for this moment since the day I first held in my arms, every whooping, restriction, no non-sense prepared you today. There's isn't anything I can do or say now that I haven't already done or said."
"Good OLD Southern upbringing" as in the master, slave relationship. "I brought you here, I'll take you out." / "I feed you, clothe you, house you." / "You belong to me, I own you!" / "Disobey me or get your butt whipped." Good OLD Southern can only mean one thing.
As the old folks say KEEP ON LIVING!!! There was a time in my life when I was a single parent and I made this very grave mistake allowing our relationship to evolve to more of a friendship...I am thankful today that that os no longer the case THANK YOU JESUS!!!! Friendship are for later because they lose sight and begin to think they are on your level and lose respect to discipline. Thank you for Sharing, Teaching and Training.
TRUTH!!! RICKEY!!! ABSOLUTELY!!! KIDS NOT YOUR FRIENDS!!! DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO!! TO LET THEM KNOW!! YOU!! MEAN!! WHAT YOU SAY!!! TOLERATE!! NO NONSENSE!! RESPECT!!! YOUR HOUSE!! AND RULES!!!
Please continue to share your views on Parenting! We truly need this! So many of us are struggling on what to do with our Children, because these kids these days are very different from us, we we're raised not to be disrespectful due to those ass whoopings we got! These days we have failed to do the same with our kids & we're going through hell because of it!
#FACTS As a single mother of one son, I told him he's not the man of my house and I'm not your friend. As you get older our relationship will change and you will become the man of your house when you're in your own home. Now he's 21 short of 22 and 4th year in college. He now tells me how he respect me for how I raised him and respect our relationship. Parents has a manual to raising children contrary to what I my mother told me. God led me straight to Proverbs 24:6. We can't blame the children for being out of order when the parent(s) themselves were not in order. Happy 2019 and God bless you Ricky and everyone.
I don't have any kids, but a totally agree with Rickey. My siblings aren't shit now in their adulthood because my mother (may she rest in peace. And happy birthday to her.) tried to be their friends. All of my siblings became crackheads. And I don't have anything to do with the two now living siblings or their children because I don't want anybody coming after me because of them.
Thank you Rickey for talking on this subject, it's needed so much in our communities. I don't have a relationship anymore with my daughter and grandchildren but that's okay, because I know what I did for them and how hard I tried to show them how much they're loved. But the parents are messed up and I stop giving money and they really showed me what they thought about me. So, I'm doing fine, don't need any drama, I wished them all the best but stay away from me. That's how I am with most of my family, it hurt me a lot once I realized that they only loved me for what they could get out of me. I won the lotto and gave everyone money. When it was gone they were gone, but I'm making a come back and I don't have to worry about giving anyone a dime because they can get it on they're on just like me. I see my friends being used by their grown children and grandchildren and they only want them for their money. I don't say anything anymore because they look at me and say you don't any talk to your family like I'm in the wrong. I just sit back and watch and listen and say to them one day you'll learn but don't come to me because I don't want to hear about it.
I tell my daughter that all the time!!! 😂😂😂 'I am NOT your friend; I am your parent and I have to be a good steward over what God gave me which is YOU to...parent.' 😉 #wisdom
He needs to be the spokesman of rerearing kids these days because they are out of control. Majority of these new parents do not know how to raise kids these days and time. Sad but sooooooooooooo TRUE. More conferences like this should be all over the US. But the government would not like this because they want your kids (agenda 21, look that up, prison system, etc. )and people don't see it.
Yes sir!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yes sir!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Rickey Smiley you hit it in the head!!!!!! Man I love this kind of teaching!!!!!!!!!!!! No disrespect it's simple!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
When my daughter was 8 or 9 years old and she was reprimanded at school about something minor but, when the teacher ask her why was she misbehaving in class? My daughter said she didn't have any friends. The teacher told her that she was her friend and went on to say she was sure her parents were her friends too. My daughter looked at her and said " No Ma'am, Momma is not my friend because, she told me she is not my friend and the only friend we need is a friend in Jesus. When the teacher called me she said she couldn't help but, laugh and said I was right about that. My daughter is 25 years old and now realize am still right about that.
that's what I tell my children all the time I'm not your friend I'm your mother I'll call you out any minute I'll change on you like a chameleon I'm trying to prepare you for the outside world which can be so cold and callous.
Now that's how you do it. Give it and takeit away. When you struggle to give them the best and they spit in your face with disrespect. Given the truck to your niece was an awesome idea. Lolol lol lol lol lol lol
I’m 46yrs old with NO children, And honestly I don’t know how in this age and time you all can handle these sign -of-the-times, Besides “ Oh you just do what you have to do”. Man!
Mr. Ricky you put it down for me that's how I raised my kids I'm not your friend I'm Your Mother and I told them understand that get that and my kids are in a late twenties early twenties still saying yes ma'am no sir you better cuz I will break your face if you don't you say it ,that's what's up Ricky
I just had this similar situation with my 19 yr old daughter.. I tell mines the world don’t love you I do; if I’m not making you mad that mean, I’m not doing my job as a parent. I salute you Ricky!
Yes Ricky Say That AGAIN My 3 oldest kids thinks that I'm supposed to be their "friend" instead of parenting needless to say they had to hit that gate cause I AIN'T GOING #oldschoolparents
It’s cool to laugh and joke with your kids, and allow them to talk to you about their concerns. However, under no circumstances are they to think you All are friends. You all can be adult friends, but not when they’re young and figuring things out.
I see nothing wrong with being your child’s friend and parent, as they go through life there will be friends on different levels, our friendship is built on the trust and understanding, that we can talk about whatever, I never want mine to be afraid I will judge them, not know what the truth is... my son and I was best friends, he was never verbally disrespectful, he wanted and shared things that was on his mind, knowing I was his mother, and also his... straight up no chaser life time friend... we are all Individuals, the right way is whatever works for you and yours. Amen!
There is supposed to be a healthy balance . Yes your kids maybe shouldn't see you as a"friend" but a the same time you want your kids to be able to come to you and talk to you about personal things, and not feel like u just want to punish them for it. Don't be so quick to try and be a dictator understand the times we live in. This not the 60s
I agree. My children aren't my friends but they trust me and talk w me about a whole lot. In fact, it's habit for them to come home from school and openly tell me how their day was.
@@Sweetpea2977 that's a blessing. Because most parents especially my people (blacks) they whipping your ass as soon as u say something too real. I could never go to my mom and tell her I slipped up and smoked weed with my friends at a party ONE time. I always envied people who had parents that they could have conversations with. Real conversations and not get cursed out in the process. Always
@@waltwilliams1997 Absolutely. I couldn't talk w my parents either ☹️ My mom was a narcissist and my father didn't love his children enough to be even remotely interested. I ♥️ on my children everyday. We check up on each other, show emotion and affection. It's important to me that I handle my children's heart w care because I know without a doubt that they are GIFTS from God.
@@Sweetpea2977 thank u keya for doing that and being a good parent. Better parenting equals better people. Which in the long run makes the world a better place. And I thank u for that really. Be blessed
My mother always told me "I'm not your friend but when you get grown and move out of my house, we can be friends." I'm now 40 with a 9/5yr old I completely understand this concept. I remember when I was moving out on my own. I was waiting for my mom to give her usual speech. She was usually quite. I asked her if she wanted to come sit down for her talk. My mom said the most profound thing I ever heard in my life. She said "I prepared you for this moment since the day I first held in my arms, every whooping, restriction, no non-sense prepared you today. There's isn't anything I can do or say now that I haven't already done or said."
Speak the truth..Ricky! Amen sir
True talk Rickey! 😂👍🏻
My kids are NOT my FRIEND I didn’t go to school with you and you will RESPECT ME ......
I'm with Rickey! I'm not your friend. Good old southern upbringing.
I'm with you on this! Good old "Southern" upbringing!
"Good OLD Southern upbringing" as in the master, slave relationship. "I brought you here, I'll take you out." / "I feed you, clothe you, house you." / "You belong to me, I own you!" / "Disobey me or get your butt whipped." Good OLD Southern can only mean one thing.
E Swain Amen! Cause on a good day..I barely like you!
Yes Lord! I am the same way with my own children.
@@mobutter2879 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Preach Rickey !!! Ur telling the truth!!!! Ameeeen and Amen 🙏🏼 !!! That’s why Ur loved 🥰 👌🏼👍🏽❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Powerful. We're friendly, but not friends. Have to have a balance.
Right on Ricky
preach preach preach preach preach brother!!!!!
As the old folks say KEEP ON LIVING!!! There was a time in my life when I was a single parent and I made this very grave mistake allowing our relationship to evolve to more of a friendship...I am thankful today that that os no longer the case THANK YOU JESUS!!!! Friendship are for later because they lose sight and begin to think they are on your level and lose respect to discipline. Thank you for Sharing, Teaching and Training.
You did right thing rickey about car.
YES! YES! YES! I TOTALLY AGREE MR. SMILEY........
My my old school💃🙏teaching right
TRUTH!!! RICKEY!!! ABSOLUTELY!!! KIDS NOT YOUR FRIENDS!!! DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO!! TO LET THEM KNOW!! YOU!! MEAN!! WHAT YOU SAY!!! TOLERATE!! NO NONSENSE!! RESPECT!!! YOUR HOUSE!! AND RULES!!!
So true I agree with you
Please continue to share your views on Parenting! We truly need this! So many of us are struggling on what to do with our Children, because these kids these days are very different from us, we we're raised not to be disrespectful due to those ass whoopings we got! These days we have failed to do the same with our kids & we're going through hell because of it!
Love rickey so much he keeps it real
That right mr smiley.
Amen. You got that right!!! Say it again
Preach Rickey lol
PARENTING 101.. 💙💙💙
#FACTS As a single mother of one son, I told him he's not the man of my house and I'm not your friend. As you get older our relationship will change and you will become the man of your house when you're in your own home.
Now he's 21 short of 22 and 4th year in college. He now tells me how he respect me for how I raised him and respect our relationship.
Parents has a manual to raising children contrary to what I my mother told me. God led me straight to Proverbs 24:6. We can't blame the children for being out of order when the parent(s) themselves were not in order.
Happy 2019 and God bless you Ricky and everyone.
The realist dad. ♡♡♡
Yes, i love the old school ways ! Rick, you are certainly a great person, great Dad, and Granddad. God bless you and Family. 🙏🙂💕
Exactly!!! Mr Smiley (I Feel You) 🙏🏽
I don't have any kids, but a totally agree with Rickey. My siblings aren't shit now in their adulthood because my mother (may she rest in peace. And happy birthday to her.) tried to be their friends. All of my siblings became crackheads. And I don't have anything to do with the two now living siblings or their children because I don't want anybody coming after me because of them.
Rickey dont play..love it
Thank you Rickey for talking on this subject, it's needed so much in our communities. I don't have a relationship anymore with my daughter and grandchildren but that's okay, because I know what I did for them and how hard I tried to show them how much they're loved. But the parents are messed up and I stop giving money and they really showed me what they thought about me. So, I'm doing fine, don't need any drama, I wished them all the best but stay away from me. That's how I am with most of my family, it hurt me a lot once I realized that they only loved me for what they could get out of me. I won the lotto and gave everyone money. When it was gone they were gone, but I'm making a come back and I don't have to worry about giving anyone a dime because they can get it on they're on just like me. I see my friends being used by their grown children and grandchildren and they only want them for their money. I don't say anything anymore because they look at me and say you don't any talk to your family like I'm in the wrong. I just sit back and watch and listen and say to them one day you'll learn but don't come to me because I don't want to hear about it.
Truth 100%!!! WELL said, Rickey!! God bless
Speak Rickey
He's a #1 Parent need more of them.
I tell my daughter that all the time!!! 😂😂😂
'I am NOT your friend; I am your parent and I have to be a good steward over what God gave me which is YOU to...parent.' 😉
#wisdom
He needs to be the spokesman of rerearing kids these days because they are out of control. Majority of these new parents do not know how to raise kids these days and time. Sad but sooooooooooooo TRUE. More conferences like this should be all over the US. But the government would not like this because they want your kids (agenda 21, look that up, prison system, etc. )and people don't see it.
Yes sir!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yes sir!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Rickey Smiley you hit it in the head!!!!!! Man I love this kind of teaching!!!!!!!!!!!! No disrespect it's simple!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
When my daughter was 8 or 9 years old and she was reprimanded at school about something minor but, when the teacher ask her why was she misbehaving in class? My daughter said she didn't have any friends. The teacher told her that she was her friend and went on to say she was sure her parents were her friends too. My daughter looked at her and said " No Ma'am, Momma is not my friend because, she told me she is not my friend and the only friend we need is a friend in Jesus. When the teacher called me she said she couldn't help but, laugh and said I was right about that. My daughter is 25 years old and now realize am still right about that.
Another God sent message as my 21 y/o is “grown” now and out in them streets doing only God knows what. THANK YOU!
Preaching.
Rickey you are the best father and grandfather! Your grandfather is so proud of you I’m sure!
"Parenting is not a popularity contest."
Ain't that the truth 🎯
Thank you brother
Thank You For Paremting!!!
Preach!
$$$ Money isn't the power in a child/parent relationship. LOVE is the power!!! - Teddy Pendergrass
Thank you for telling the truth
He is telling the truth.
Absolutely!
Carmen Coburn
💯
9/17/19
I understand this message!!
Amen!!! God giveth and God taketh away... (Drops mic exits stage) 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
that's what I tell my children all the time I'm not your friend I'm your mother I'll call you out any minute I'll change on you like a chameleon I'm trying to prepare you for the outside world which can be so cold and callous.
I absolutely LOVE U Rickey!!!💕🌷🙏😘😘😍😍 I will hug you once day lol
Now that's how you do it. Give it and takeit away. When you struggle to give them the best and they spit in your face with disrespect. Given the truck to your niece was an awesome idea. Lolol lol lol lol lol lol
I’m 46yrs old with NO children, And honestly I don’t know how in this age and time you all can handle these sign -of-the-times, Besides “ Oh you just do what you have to do”. Man!
Mr. Ricky you put it down for me that's how I raised my kids I'm not your friend I'm Your Mother and I told them understand that get that and my kids are in a late twenties early twenties still saying yes ma'am no sir you better cuz I will break your face if you don't you say it ,that's what's up Ricky
I just had this similar situation with my 19 yr old daughter.. I tell mines the world don’t love you I do; if I’m not making you mad that mean, I’m not doing my job as a parent. I salute you Ricky!
I love you
AMEN.!!! SPEAK RICK.!!
LOVE IT!! EXCELLENT Parenting skills
Brandon got as small as those tail lights! Pray he got it together!
The 5 people who disliked this video's kids are juvenile delinquents lol
Fuck u
Man I feel that I wish my parents was like this they was so busy
Worry about pleasing the knuckle head kid
I wasn't my kids friend Rickey you so rite that's old school knowledge you kicking my brother
Rickey, I am in agreement with you 1000 %
Preach Rickey smiley. You sound just like my mama.
New subbie.... Amen! Amen! Amen! Rickey dropping some jewels of Wisdom, Knowledge & Understanding. I love you, but "I'm NOT your friend" 👏🙌❤
Gm Mr smiley
I'm sill young I'm 30 but I'm the same way wit my kids
Facts!!
Man Ricky I love love your messages say it brother brother brother
what conference is this?
Hi
Amen I tell my 17yr old the same thing I’m not your friend!
Yes Ricky Say That AGAIN My 3 oldest kids thinks that I'm supposed to be their "friend" instead of parenting needless to say they had to hit that gate cause I AIN'T GOING #oldschoolparents
Like Aretha says, “everyone wants respect, and everyone needs to be respected.”
It’s cool to laugh and joke with your kids, and allow them to talk to you about their concerns. However, under no circumstances are they to think you All are friends. You all can be adult friends, but not when they’re young and figuring things out.
Grown kids is worst than the younger kids!
TOUGH LOVE 101.....#loveit
Amen
Preach
I'M NOT YOUR FRIEND, at ALL!!!😶
Ok
My words EXACTLY!, I love you, but I'm Daddy first.
It is what it is...
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I agree wholeheartedly even if these kids did pay 💰 bills I earned my respect ✊🏾 when I didn’t abort your tail
Tell it like it is Ricky
I'm not interested in being my kids friends.
I see nothing wrong with being your child’s friend and parent, as they go through life there will be friends on different levels, our friendship is
built on the trust and understanding, that we can talk about whatever, I never want mine to be afraid I will judge them, not know what the truth
is... my son and I was best friends, he was never verbally disrespectful, he wanted and shared things that was on his mind, knowing I was his mother, and also his... straight up no chaser life time friend... we are all Individuals, the right way is whatever works for you and yours. Amen!
💝💝💝💝
Dont have to be their friend to get them to respect their own race
👏👏👏👏👏🙌🙌🙌🙌.
Laughing out Loud. I'm done with Ricky. His natural life story is funny.
I love Rickey Smiley
There is supposed to be a healthy balance . Yes your kids maybe shouldn't see you as a"friend" but a the same time you want your kids to be able to come to you and talk to you about personal things, and not feel like u just want to punish them for it. Don't be so quick to try and be a dictator understand the times we live in. This not the 60s
I agree. My children aren't my friends but they trust me and talk w me about a whole lot. In fact, it's habit for them to come home from school and openly tell me how their day was.
@@Sweetpea2977 that's a blessing. Because most parents especially my people (blacks) they whipping your ass as soon as u say something too real. I could never go to my mom and tell her I slipped up and smoked weed with my friends at a party ONE time. I always envied people who had parents that they could have conversations with. Real conversations and not get cursed out in the process. Always
@@waltwilliams1997 Absolutely. I couldn't talk w my parents either ☹️ My mom was a narcissist and my father didn't love his children enough to be even remotely interested.
I ♥️ on my children everyday. We check up on each other, show emotion and affection. It's important to me that I handle my children's heart w care because I know without a doubt that they are GIFTS from God.
@@waltwilliams1997 Growing up, my siblings and I were NEVER ASKED how we were. It's crazy.
@@Sweetpea2977 thank u keya for doing that and being a good parent. Better parenting equals better people. Which in the long run makes the world a better place. And I thank u for that really. Be blessed
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