Been no contact with my mum for 6 years … and it hurts like hell STILL … it’s so odd and confusing to me how a mother can use her daughter as an emotional punch bag … I have a daughter myself and could NEVER imagine treating her with such hatred … and to keep her feeling unworthy to keep control of her is just beyond crazy … who does this ?… I just feel heart broken and it’s affected my life so much … and it doesn’t help I’m just finding out I’m autistic and adhd
@@A_British_woman Similar situation as well. My daughter is 26, I want her to be happy & I have always seen her as a separate person. Even before she was born I wanted to respect & promote in a healthy way her separateness & individuality as a person … I think this was because I realised as an adult that my mother wanted to live in an enmeshed relationship with me & I felt smothered by her even before I knew what enmeshment was.
@@one-day-at-a-time9317 Thanks for replying. It's good to know others understand. I do didn't understand enmeshment until relatively recently. But all my instincts knew things weren't right. I'd use vocab like respecting each others choices.
It’s hard to get people to love and approve of you when they don’t love and approve of themselves game changer there for me! Narcissistic mothers hate themselves!
I would move to interview you as a man who dated a woman with a mother like this. The mother i dealt with was just like this, i have recordings from my ex that i own and used in court to win a lifetime order of protection. I can totally attest to this and have proof how this naracisstic mother did all of this to my ex girlfriend
It took Elinor dying for me to start to heal. I didn't realize the self loathing inner monologue was actually MT mother,,elinor... It played over and over in my head "what's wrong with me."
What about mother/son narcissism? My mom is also a hoarder, has mountains of junk she won't part with, has 5K books she has never read. She spent my inheritance from grandma on Y2K food, which is rotten, but she won't throw it away. Rats moved in 4 years ago and shat on everything. Her house now smells like rat death and piss, with rotten food. Her entire property is like a beach after a shipwreck. Mix in brand new expensive things from Home Depot rotting in the weather, never assembled or used. Yet she is still superior and infallible.
My mother was terrified of me growing up. She refused to buy me a bra when I needed it because, according to her, I didn't need one. I definitely did. My aunt ended up buying me my first bra set and when I said something about it years later to my mother, she said she gave my aunt the money to buy it. My loves on the other side if the country, my mother slept 20 feet away from me, why would she give my aunt money to buy a bra for me?
No contact 5 years! Scapegoat here! Best move and decision I’ve ever been able to make! My life is the life I’d only imagined! ❤
Everything you said has been true for me. I'm 50 now and looking back i see how stifled i was. Any victory i had she made her victory.
Been no contact with my mum for 6 years … and it hurts like hell STILL … it’s so odd and confusing to me how a mother can use her daughter as an emotional punch bag … I have a daughter myself and could NEVER imagine treating her with such hatred … and to keep her feeling unworthy to keep control of her is just beyond crazy … who does this ?… I just feel heart broken and it’s affected my life so much … and it doesn’t help I’m just finding out I’m autistic and adhd
Your story is so similar to mine. My daughter is 25. All i want for her is success and happiness in the ways right for her. ❤
@@A_British_woman Similar situation as well. My daughter is 26, I want her to be happy & I have always seen her as a separate person. Even before she was born I wanted to respect & promote in a healthy way her separateness & individuality as a person … I think this was because I realised as an adult that my mother wanted to live in an enmeshed relationship with me & I felt smothered by her even before I knew what enmeshment was.
@@one-day-at-a-time9317 Thanks for replying. It's good to know others understand. I do didn't understand enmeshment until relatively recently. But all my instincts knew things weren't right. I'd use vocab like respecting each others choices.
It’s hard to get people to love and approve of you when they don’t love and approve of themselves game changer there for me! Narcissistic mothers hate themselves!
Than you!!!! I look forward to the next video! Blessings to you, Ma’am! ❤
I would move to interview you as a man who dated a woman with a mother like this. The mother i dealt with was just like this, i have recordings from my ex that i own and used in court to win a lifetime order of protection.
I can totally attest to this and have proof how this naracisstic mother did all of this to my ex girlfriend
It took Elinor dying for me to start to heal. I didn't realize the self loathing inner monologue was actually MT mother,,elinor... It played over and over in my head "what's wrong with me."
Thank you. My granddaughter is likely living through this v
You are very welcome
What about mother/son narcissism? My mom is also a hoarder, has mountains of junk she won't part with, has 5K books she has never read. She spent my inheritance from grandma on Y2K food, which is rotten, but she won't throw it away. Rats moved in 4 years ago and shat on everything. Her house now smells like rat death and piss, with rotten food. Her entire property is like a beach after a shipwreck. Mix in brand new expensive things from Home Depot rotting in the weather, never assembled or used. Yet she is still superior and infallible.
On point ❤❤ I'm so frazzled with my mother and my sister which have always been a team. I can't even articulate myself.
Im 64 had a higher trait narcistic mother. I am still struggling
Where are the series videos. There are no healing videos
My mother was terrified of me growing up. She refused to buy me a bra when I needed it because, according to her, I didn't need one. I definitely did. My aunt ended up buying me my first bra set and when I said something about it years later to my mother, she said she gave my aunt the money to buy it. My loves on the other side if the country, my mother slept 20 feet away from me, why would she give my aunt money to buy a bra for me?
Can you speak to parental alienation by a narcissist?