Entitled narcissists abusing the word phobia like some bully trying to coerce you into submitting to their demands by calling you scared. And if encouraging a healthier more fit life style is fat conversion therapy, then wouldn’t them encouraging unhealthy obesity be considered thin/fit conversion therapy? 🤔 It costs way more materials to accommodate overweight people. Imagine going into a little restaurant and all the chairs are super size like you’ll be sitting on a bench. There would be less room for tables which means less room for customers. And where does one draw the line? If we don’t stop at 300 pounds, then they’ll be at 400. Then 500. And so on. Everything designed for 300 pound people wouldn’t be enough for 400 pound people then so on. Eventually we will be living in a Wall-E universe of 1,000 pound people.
I am fat. In fact, I'm frikkin HUGE! At one time I topped out at 560lbs being 6'7". Just for reference. I am currently down to 460lbs over the past couple years of slowly changing my lifestyle, but also to keep things like acid reflux in check. I don't like having to take a pill for anything so will see if I can work with my diet first, before going pill routes. So far, so good. I used to take 40mg of aciphex a day, again for reference. Most people are prescribed 1 10mg a day. I am no longer needing anything for reflux thanks to my diet and rules. I have struggled with weight for the past 20 years, and the last 15 mainly from when I quit smoking cold turkey. No gums, no patches, and no support. All of that is just backfill for this next part... From my perspective, people always want to classify various levels in things, especially healthcare. It is not meant to be mean, but a means to create a breakpoint level to find the best possible outcome to correct something affecting a person's health. However, it is also meant to be adaptive, so someone smarter who comes along, can make improvements. The BMI is one of those things that has not been very accommodating to the individual and clumps everyone into the same category, which doesn't work. When I check the BMI, it classifies me as 'Morbidly Obese' and it says I should be at 220lbs to be in perfect health. That will never, ever, ever happen. Even the doctors have said the BMI scale cannot come close to getting me to the right weight. I actually had a doctor do tests on me. He confirmed my perfect weight to being healthy is more like 250 to 260 range, unless I start doing heavy weight lifting, and increase my muscle mass, but then I should keep it to less than 290 if possible. It's the words, "Obese" and "Morbidly Obese" that can really throw a person off. You wind up doing a number on yourself in your own head. And I'm not the only one. Here's the thing, guys who are classified as these two items, will most likely NOT lose the weight to get better. I've talked to many guys about this, and this is something they keep private, and is one of those things guys don't like talking about in general or risk being teased and mocked for being a wimp and 'man-up.' It's a good video though and does warrant discussion so we can work together to find a means to improve life for everyone!! Thank you Arielle!
I don't know if you have videos like this already, but can you interview ex-trans people that detransitioned? Their voices are really drowned out with all the extremism going on.
Currently on this journey - started a new job where I am going on route by bicycle and have to walk/do physical work all day and let me tell you - my back hurts and my feet hurt. I know this is due to my obesity and I am absolutely about to change that. For a healthy and comfortable body!
"That's a nice color on you" is a freaken compliment, people. Taking it as some sort of insult means you are immature and will take everything as an insult.
She is insecure. Even if someone doesn't mention her body shape, she thinks that they must be thinking about it. Because she constantly thinks about it and lies to herself that she doesn't.
When you view life through a certain lens, you can make anything fit your perspective. I've heard people complain that they get told ''nice dress'' and not ''that dress looks nice on you'' because they are fat. They said it as if skinnier people always get told the second version, when in reality the first one is just more commonly used. But if some were to say ''that dress looks nice on you'', they could assume that the person means ''that specific dress makes you looks less fat, which is why I specifically mention it looks good on you''. If you assume everyone has bad intentions and is by default against you, you can make anything into something negative. When they're both just nice compliments without some huge deeper meaning. I'll always remember someone being told, ''you are not interesting or important enough for just anyone to think about you that much/deeply''. It might sound a little insensitive but for someone who is overly concerned about what people think of them, that statement can give some perspective and help them to not take everything so seriously. This happened in group therapy for eating disorders and it actually became sort of a mantra for some. And we used it jokingly to remind each other that we shouldn't be so concerned with other people's opinions.
Between the attitude, and the entitlement, she probably would have gotten a "so, that's what an object on the event horizon of a black hole looks like," or similar. I feel little need to be nice to such hideous personalities...
I don't understand why you are so nice to her. She is literally a "wilfully" disabled person. To find it attractive is a fetish or some sort of mental dissorder. Non of it is normal.
@@PurePondering I'm aware of that, but let's be honest, it's a minority who can't or have problems losing weight because of medical issues, for example.
@@Effaly_ It's probably because I work in a medical office that I see the challenging cases quite a bit. However, don't come telling me that you can't lose weight then let me see you in the store multiple times with your cart full of sodas and ho-hos.
@@PurePondering most are. Having been on medication that made me gain weight meant that I had to work harder than I might have had to otherwise to lose it but it was more than doable; I just had to put the effort in.
I’m anorexic and crap like this pisses me off. I know I’m unhealthy and I don’t get offended when people point this out because they are right. Screw all these people too sensitive to accept they aren’t healthy nor does the world revolve around them.
I hear you. If you are interested the channel Of Herbs and Alters has done some thoughtful content about her struggles with anorexia. I just thought I would mention it because she is so enjoyable to listen to and helpful. Personally I think body neutrality or as I would phrase it: my body is a helpful meat puppet for my soul and the thing that gets me around.....is much more helpful than toxic body positivity.
as a nurse, i feel compelled to chime-in here to clarify a few things regarding the TikTok 'guests' in this video: 1- there is a false assumption that medical professionals utilize BMI by itself to assess patients. we do not - BMI is used only in tandem with multiple other indicators to better determine the patient's health disposition. 2- there are precious few medical reasons for obesity (cancers, cortico-steroids, some other medications, etc.), which arise to be no more than statistical outliers compared to the main causes of obesity. 3- when i assess and/or treat a patient in my care, unless we're talking about sexual health, it is not my concern to whom that patient is attracted. what i DO need to know in order to do my job well is: what is the patient's genotype (are they genetically XX, XY, or rarely intersex*), and what is the patient's phenotype (what do they physically appear as) do they have a vagina/breasts/etc. or do they have a penis/scrotum/testicles/etc. - i need to know what the plumbing is - nursing is an intimate profession. * FYI: "Trans" does NOT equal and should not be confused with "intersex" as many intersex XXY or XYY present as male or female and are quite heterosexual (and some are gay or bisexual) - the intersex presentation is so rare that i've only had one patient (that i'm aware of). thank you again, Arielle, for another sound and sane video. ~ RN,BSN, RNCM
Oh my _god_ thank you for this! I was within (for far too long) the Trans community, and it wasn't until I got out of it (reidentifed, I never medically transitioned because of ortho issues that made me not trust most surgeons-walk around with a broken kneecap for two months and you start getting really careful about who is skilled or not) and met intersex people who were welcomed into the Detrans/Reidentified community that I discovered that half the terms I'd been using had been _stolen_ from them. And as someone with (complicated spine issues that actually spared me some dysphoria but also caused the main cause of it) medical issues, chronic pain, missing bones, and etc, I was _horrified_ when I learned me using AFAB/CAFAB was basically taking a serious medical control and turning it into a set of buzzwords. I now _only_ use it if I have to or am not wanting to get into an argument online (I prefer "natal-female" anyway since lots of people throw fits if I use "XX"). Have you found (I've read a couple of accounts where this has caused issues) that if, say a transman has had… uhh YT safe "bottom surgery" where they take a part of a bone out of the leg to make the… "equipment" that it actually causes more problems? Worse if the patient won't disclose that they are, genetically, not their ID gender because we are a species that has sexual dimorphism, especially in health. I'm just glad someone is sticking up for the intersex community because I think they really got the short end when they got lumped in with the LGBTQIAETC alphabet soup.
I was always slender until I could no longer be on infusions …. I take between 40-60 mgs of prednisone at least once a month for 10 days ( starting dose 40 mgs , then cold turkey stop ) …. I’m so fat now , and am so ashamed of my body and myself for getting this heavy .
As a medical professional, can you respond about whether or not there is a genetic predisposition to obesity. I've had different medical professionals tell me different things. I've had some say that there are people who are "genetically fat" and the only way to not be is through surgery.
The lack of responsibility is the big elephant in the room, oh wait. If we’re talking about these people, that would mean there’s two elephants in the room
I’m in the middle of conversion therapy- I’ve lost 15 pounds and have another 20 to go!!! I’m still fat but soon will be thin!!! Yahhh conversion therapy!!!😀
for real. I am confident that I am an attractive young woman. I’m 21 and I take care of myself very well. I would never say that to anybody. Ever. They have such a skewed view on what it means to be confident. And none of them are, clearly all of them are bitter, unhappy, and have eaten their lives away. It’s like they wanna force people to pretend like they are attractive? Like I’m sorry but that’s not gonna happen, if you don’t take care of yourself and you can’t touch your toes, why would you expect anybody to cater to you
12 yrs ago a doctor said I was morbidly obese. I was hurt and angry. He said all my health issues were a direct result of my weight. I went home pissed. Went on the clean Atkins and lost 40 lbs in 30 days. He was right. I keep my lifestyle and have kept my health and weight on track. Literally all the other issues disappeared.
That is awesome! Congratulations. My mom has been obese for years and finally decided to lose weight. She has lost 30 pounds in a few months and found it wasn’t as difficult as she thought. She just eats smaller portions and stopped drinking wine. It’s sad that so many young people are buying into the belief that they cannot change their weight. It’s unforgivable to tell people they are stuck and can’t change. History won’t look kindly on this movement.
@@emma2370 thank you. Good luck to your mom. Discipline is hard, but so is being fat. You gotta pick your hard. I will forever be grateful my doctor called be obese.
It's amazing isn't it? I had a doctor tell me I was overweight at 5'7 and 150 lbs. I was wearing a size 6 in pants & small in tops. No one had ever said anything to me about my size except to group me in with "you small women" when discussing whether or not to have dessert. He was very negative about everything connected to being female (pms, peri menopausal symptoms, fatigue, etc) and comes from a culture where the majority of women are petite because that's just how they are. It made me lose 40 lbs at which point I was underweight - because I figured a doctor wouldn't say that unless it was true.
Maybe it's time to make "health-phobic" a thing. Because, really, that's what these people fear: being physically & mentally well. Deep down, they're afraid they don't deserve the benefits of feeling GOOD, and that's beyond tragic.
Thats an interesting angle to look at it. Perhaps health phobic AND "happy phobic" should be a thing, because it is abundantly clear that all these individuals are very unhappy. I'm not sure I agree with that last part though. It seems to me like these people would rather pull the entire world down to normalise their obesity and self loathing than lift themselves up to where they want to (and could) be. They want the world to tell them they are wonderful, beautiful, brave, empowered people, whilst doing absolutley NOTHING to deserve any of that praise, and at the same time showering everyone else with vitriol and negativity and expecting nothing but love and admiration in return. THAT is tragic!
@@soundseeker63 Fair. You make good points, even if they’re hard to accept. I’m really starting to recognize I’ve gone too easy on many such bc people (not limited to fatness). I was naïve as to how many just want to suck you dry of compassion while giving nothing back in return. They’re exhausting!
@@myabushnes9216 correct Phobia: irrational fear or aversion Fearing a heart attack or diabetes is totally rational and normal Wanting a free range of movement and agility that your skeleton provides is normal and rational Avoidance of gluttony is normal and rational Fatphobia : does not exist
I have autism and sometimes don't have a filter but I have always had way more of a filter and critical thinking than these people will or ever have had.
Closeted speccy here, one day I'll say something pretty close to that one day when people say "he's autistic or ADHD they can't help his reactions" and then persecute me for mine , as if diversity has to be announced...
that's because these people wish they were autistic... they are "mentally unstable time bombs... sociopathic, psychopathic, narcissistic ( yes narcissistic!), Envious, destructive and toxic" trust me being a sweet cute wierdo is a virtue in a world of monsters
I mean, we all die anyways. So if one lives it up and dies at 60 are they really having a better life than one who keeps careful track of their life and dies at 80? It’s a personal choice. I don’t know the ultimate answer, but I like intellectually interrogating it.
@@Vibez-o5k what? Lmao being unhealthy isn’t good no matter what. So because we’re going to die, you shouldn’t want to be healthy? Eat all the bad food you want because you’re going to die anyways, is that what you mean?😂
I'm curious whether they're remotely this condescending and smug face to face in the real world or if it's just a persona adopted for the camera. I'm a hermit now, but back in my day (lol), these are the people who were more agreeable and non confrontational.
@@psychegoddessoflight9358 I haven't been out long and last year I decided to go to this gay club LGBT event thing and let me tell you, people can be this pretentious and obsessed with identity and real life, and it is truly a bizarre experience when you see it in real life. I realized that night that people's personas online seep over into real life (I'm in my late twenties , this group of people were early twenties and teens)
@@love-ip7sz Misfits used to be friendly in the 90's and 2000's. Gay people, Punk, Goth, Emo ect. I don't know what happened? Or I do, Tumblr and Twitter.
@@psychegoddessoflight9358 They're all insecure people and most of them wouldn't dare say this crap to your face. People are more brave behind a computer screen. Them ranting about how triggered they are by the size of chairs, or people not being attracted to them speaks volumes about just how insecure they are.
oh my gosh I can’t even watch some of them. I’m literally have to pause and take a breath and meditate just to get through the video. Their bitterness and unhappiness leaks through the screen like it’s so bad they r so mad
I was like 200lbs,by eating less,fasting,working out I acheived the goals I set an I'm 160 now I do feel alot better bout myself mentally an physically. These people saying it's unattainable are lazy or have medical problems there's nothing wrong with either of that but the people you showed in.this video are addicted to the attention of being oppressed
Hi! I grew up "fat". I hated the word obese because it was a reality check not shaming. I have depression and I stopped out at 347# before I truly realized how unhealthy I was becoming as I got older. I lost the weight for my health. Today I weigh 190#. I'm still considered obese. But I don't feel shame. I feel healthier. Yes, I want to lose more weight, for me, I am 5' 8" tall. This video is perfect. Thank you for putting my feelings out there.
@@MaliciousMalcontent I have had a mental illness for 20 years. Most of my mental health doctors have told me the importance of exercise. Maybe I have just been lucky to be seen by good doctors. Going to the gym and eating healthy has really been the best treatment for my specific mental illness in addition to medicine.
I’m just saying, I’ve lost 70 lbs and I feel so much better about myself. I can’t even begin to explain how good it feels to get annoyed over having to buy smaller sizes instead of larger ones like I had for so many years. I feel healthier- mentally, physically, and emotionally. I’m more confident, I want to try new things, see new places, and step out of my comfort zone. I never thought this way when I was 300 lbs. I’m about halfway through my weight loss adventure and I’m excited to see what the future holds. Getting healthy isn’t so bad!
Same😊 I was in so much pain mentally and physically when I was a chunker. All together lost 90 lbs. It's crazy, I didn't realize how much my weight affected my mental health.
This makes me so happy, Jessica. And it also psyches me up, since my doc just reminded me that, while I've lost 15 pounds, I'm still overweight and need to nip it in the bud so that I can live in the habit of being and staying at a healthy weight. Of course, he's right, and I know it's what's good for me. But I kinda hit a plateau midway through this journey. And by hit a plateau I mean I *made the decision* to turn to comfort food rather than exercise to cope with stress. Naturally, it's not the worst decision I could make lol--and Arielle is right that shaming (even from oneself) is not productive--but it's also not in my interest, or (again as she noted) the interest of the greater good. It can be tricky to remember these things, and it's very easy (at least for me) to remember how good hamburgers and ice cream taste hah. Which is why it was really useful to read your comment, which for me really hit the nail on the head on how I become more present and active in the world around me when I'm in a healthy state and at a healthy weight. I'm saving it and going to tack it up somewhere I can see it on the regular to remember the day-to-day benefits of staying motivated and active. Thanks!
Omg..... Honestly if people want to be fat, I'd just let them. 😑 I quit. I got hate for telling someone who was borderline diabetic to start taking care of their health and lose weight.
I was that person and someone said something to me about my health...and thank goodness they did. People, no matter size or what need to have thicker skin and healthy bodies...
That's what you should do. I'd say to be honest if the issue comes up in conversation, and this might have, but aside from that, just let people live their lives.
Diabetes is a really terrible condition and it’s really sick how much fat activists downplay it. You should be proud that you have the courage to encourage someone to get healthy when they are at risk for diabetes. Diabetes affects every part of one’s body - skin, eyes, internal organs. Getting your feet amputated is not worth it.
@@theroadnottaken7 I say this all the time. I think we need to normalise being able to comment on someone's weight (among other things) as long as we do it appropriately. I'm so tired of having to tiptoe around certain issues because people get offended at EVERYTHING nowadays.
I've been overweight all my life, due to what turned out to be a thyroid issue (benign tumor). After a successful surgery, I was diagnosed with endometrial cancer (which, according to the doctor, might have been caused by me being overweight), and I just had enough, I wanted to change my life for the better. After I got okay and got done with the radiation therapy, I took upon a diet, which I'm successfully still doing (8 months have passed since then). I lost appr. 60 pounds and have never felt better. I can't wrap my head around these fatpositivity and "health at every size" videos, how they can't see how dangerous their conditions are, and instead of trying to inspire eachother to get healthier, they advocate for even more fatness. Unbelieveable.
Do it. You'll feel like an idiot floundering around at first, I did. But it didn't take long before friends started to comment and that motivated me. You can do it, you just have to decide to now and not tomorrow, which turns into the next day. You really can do it, I was massive. I mean really big, now I'm slim.
@@Madonnalitta1 You really are describing how I’ve been trying to go about loosing weight! It honestly is hard to navigate how I should go about doing it. But I think I’m finally going to go for it. I might have some trouble with it because it still confuses me. But I think I’m trying :) My mom is trying to eat right as well since she’s noticed weight gain on herself. So it’s nice to know we’re both doing it haha. I’m excited to see how far I can go this time though. Cause I really want to be healthier than I have been! Thank you for replying. I think this’ll boost me more! 💓
‘Despite zero evidence that it works’ The millions of former obese and morbidly obese people would like to have a word with you. As someone who was 320lbs, and is now 190…and now only mildly exercises but instead watches what I eat…I must be an anomaly. Then again, when I ate garbage (and lots of it) and was lazy…I got fat. And stayed fat. And when I actually stopped making excuses and kept to a diet, while being active…I eventually lost weight. But guess what…I found out that the trick was simply ‘maintaining said lifestyle’ over a long time! You know, committing to something! Doing things that are ‘hard’ (that eventually become easy). Finally, there is a reason why you rarely see any older fat people saying this crap. It’s because they’re now living with the consequences of their choices. Oh and I wouldn’t say it’s strictly class. Poorer people tend to make ‘poor’ choices, etc. So of course this trickles down to dietary habits. Walking /running, etc - is free. Deciding to drink water instead of soda…is CHEAPER. And there are countless examples. Oh and the type of obese people now did not exist when ‘being fat was trendy’ (that’s the keyword in itself…trendy. It was a fad.) They were overweight, semi-obese. Morbidly obese and obese people did not exist, or if they did - they would die at very young ages. Due to the adverse health effects of being obese, (shocker) It’s why there were no elderly obese people.
People like this piss me off, as a disabled woman. I would LOVE to be able to work out and remain active without not being able to sleep that night because I am in so much pain. I am overweight (though apparently carry it well, people never guess that🤷), and it's ANNOYING when people tell me I'm fine the way I am. I WANT TO REMAIN AS MOBILE AS I CAN. And keeping weight down and strengthening my muscles help me only periodically need my cane. Screw these idiots.
As a disabled woman, I have left many YT comments similar to yours. I happen to be naturally fairly petite, but I would happily be 100 pounds heavier in exchange for full use of my extremities. P.S. May we both have the perseverance needed to achieve/maintain improved strength and mobility.
@@cameraobscura2379 I appreciate the support. I do swimming at my local gym, and try to keep up with my PT exercises. Unfortunately, while Ehlers-Danlos isn't categorized as a degenerative disease, it's still degenerative in many cases, especially me. :/ My orthopedic surgeon told me after my first knee surgery that I have the left knee of a sixty-five year old, and that was sixteen years ago, age 20. So it's only gotten more difficult. But every bit of support and encouragement helps👍
@@TarynRMartin It's just so frustrating, because we had no choice(I'm assuming, I don't know your specific health issues). If I could choose to be able to do simple things again, I sure as hell would. I can't remember what it feels like to run. It's been about 26 years since I have been able to. I wish we could choose to be healthy, you know? But we start out at a deficit. Hang in there👍
I can sympathize. I used to work out daily, run half marathons, teach Zumba, and I loved working out. But chronic health conditions have left me with almost total exercise intolerance. I get severely ill if I try to exercise now. I would give anything to be able to workout again.
I realized in therapy that some people hold onto their weight as an emotional shield, and I that's exactly what I was doing. Once I started to take care of my emotional health, I started to loose weight and overall felt happier and more centered. I'm still a work in progress, but I gotta say that therapy along with brainspotting has definitely helped me get my life back on track. Sending love and light to anyone who needs it ❤
OK, getting her BP done with the cuff they used was painful because they had the wrong size cuff? I thought it was ALWAYS painful. Even when I was thinner, it was painful.
They really do hurt no matter the size tbh. In highschool, I was in this criminal justice club- and we were practicing with the cuffs. How to take them off and practicing how fast we could get them on. And let me tell you, they really do HURT. I’m considered overweight myself but my wrists are pretty small. So I know your right when your saying that it hurts no matter what size you are.
I was anorexic and can confirm it still hurt. If the cuff doesn’t read, they can always put it on her forearm. Incredibly low or high blood pressure as well as moving around from coughing, can all make it harder to read. It’s not that deep
Bless her heart. When the young lady at 8:43 (who couldn't get an accurate BP check) needs an MRI and must go to either a large animal vet practice or the local zoo because there's isn't a human medical facility in town with an MRI big enough to accommodate...she will lose her ever-loving mind. Not even making this up; it happens.
Body weight is a major factor when it comes to getting surgery since the anesthesiologist has to get the dosage for the anesthesia correct. Too much anesthesia and the patient OD's on the table while too little anesthesia will lead to the patient waking up on the table.
It affects other medication efficiency too. Nevermind it's undeniably causally linked to higher comorbidities and mortality overall. A lot of hospitals now make nurses pledge that they don't smoke before hiring, and even do a strip test on the tongue to check, but not hiring an obese person would be discriminatory.
I've lost 40 pounds and the reality of this loss struck home when I tried to pick up a 38 lb box of cat litter. Not having that weight burden pulling down on my body with every step gives me so much more energy and stamina. My knees feel normal and don't pinch when I walk. My A1C is normal. This is not fat phobic attitudes, it's me wanting to be a better and stronger me.
@@teekotrain6845 just wanted to say this comment made me smile, keep up the love. and Tom I agree with them. u look great, I hope you're healthy and happy!
The only one that partially made sense, was the one that commented on BMI. I have; until recently; had a lot of muscle. My BMI was high, but when they taped me, my body fat was low (according to USAF standards for females) I was very fit, but if they just went by my BMI, I was "obese". I ignore BMI, and just judge my weight by how my clothes fit.
As a young man with Crohn's disease, gaining weight has always been very difficult for me. It boggles my mind how obese people even have the time or budget to become as big as they are. I don't understand how these people aren't in constant stomach pain eating as much of the crap that they do.
I'm formerly obese. I suffer from IBS. One of the symptoms of my IBS is severe stomach pain which is temporarily resolved by eating and digesting. "Heavier" foods work the best. This resulted in me overeating and gaining a significant amount of weight. I've now had gastric surgery and have lost a lot of weight. Unfortunately I still have IBS though.
I'm obese myself. I feel insulted by the word fat - even if it's what people see. Yes, I have some medical conditions that make me way to 'big' - but I really have not the nerve to explain it every time and educate other people - they wouldn't believe anyway. Working out and eat a healthy diet is good. I'm not fat phobic because I want to loos loose weight - I do that because I'm not able to walk long distances, I cannot breathe properly and I'm in a lot of pain (hip / lower back / knees / ankles) I cannot move properly. I don't wanna loose weight to impress someone or being slim - I want to be healthier and with less pain that I'm now - and that's not fat phobic - that's self care!
I actually have an eating disorder that caused me to gain a ton of weight especially in my stomach area. I look like I’m pregnant. I am trying to get over this ED, but it’s really hard. I’m supposed to be around 135-140. Although, I’m now almost 200lbs. I’m trying to get help, and I’m trying to get over it. I completely and wholeheartedly agree with Arielle, and being overweight is not okay.
I've been big my whole life. Part genetics, part class, part upbringing, part poor health(not to do with weight) when I was younger. Adults had me "dieting" in the sixth grade. It sucks but I decided to change this about myself when I hit my highest weight two years ago. I've lost 60 pounds over the last two years. I've still got 50 pounds to go to hit my main goal but I've come such a long way and have never felt better in my life. My weight at my age is ALL on me and no one else at this point and I'm choosing to change it FOR MYSELF.
I was over 200 pounds at 5’ tall. My doctor, bless that man, looked at me and said, “Jess, you’re fat and you’re gonna die. What are we gonna do about this?” He was right! Where my family was telling me I looked fine, or was beautiful, he gave me what I needed- honesty. Raw, brutal honesty. I started that night. Making small changes I have lost 100 pounds so far. Because I have a ton of health issues it has taken me a few years. I deal with kidney failure, gastroparesis, liver disease, had (have) cancer, my spine is a mess, I mean, there’s a lot I’m dealing with. But, even with all of that, I feel so much better, am able better to do what is needed to still be here for my family. At the doctors, the bp cuffs hurt, they hurt everyone, lol, they get tight. You’ll live. If it’s getting *that* tight, it’s probably moreso because your bp is high. I do have high bp as a result of my kidney failure. I developed it in my 20’s at my skinniest. Being overweight you’re going to have an elevated bp. I was also never mistreated by anyone due to my weight. I was extremely self conscious because of it. When you’re that self conscious you feel as though everyone is judging you. Nobody is afraid of fat people. That’s ridiculous. Being fat just subconsciously tells people you don’t value yourself, you don’t take care of yourself and it’s not attractive to most people. If you want to be fat, accept that, if not then change. Those are your options.
Thank you for sharing your experiences, puts the whole debate into perspective. I'm sure you tipped the odds in your favour a huge amount by losing the excess weight! I wish you the best of luck with your issues, takes strength and luck to get through all of that.
I loathe the fat positive movement. I’ve struggled with weight my whole life. So I have to work and work hard to stay some what lean. I choose to do this because over a year ago my blood work was so horrible I was heading down the path of diabetes and early heart issues. Last time I had my blood work a few months ago it was perfect and I’ve lost over 70 pounds.
So if I'm fat but my spouse is thin and he's heterosexual but I'm bi,, that make me a self-hating fat phobic trans phobic lesbian phobic fat person? If I lose weight after pregnancy, that's more "proof" I'm trans-phobic b/c I refuse to refer to myself as a birthing chest feeding person because I am a proud breast feeding mother. These people are delusional Marxists. I deeply appreciate your content. Keep the videos coming!
As someone who is overweight and has lost a good amount of weight and am continuing on my journey. I feel as if the only problem for me is when people are mean to bigger people just because they’re bigger. Like if I’m out in public minding my business and someone calls me a fatty, etc. That’s when I feel like it’s an issue
I'm 6'5, 180lbs. I can't find clothing that fits me in most stores. There is literally nothing I can do about my size. But I do not think that the world is oppressing tall people. I design buildings for a living and if we designed for obese people everything would get larger and as a consequence prices would increase, businesses would have less capacity, and the built world would literally become larger as in everything. It's ridiculous how concieted these people are. P.S. I love watching these videos on the treadmill knowing how much they would hate me
I'm just 5'8 (173cm) with a large chest and nothing fits me either. Everything is sized for short women with smaller chests I feel. Probably because all clothes are made in China.
I hate even hearing things like this. I was very naturally skinny for most of my life now I'm 41 and have three children I had some severe health issues which caused me to have to take steroids for over a year which by the way make you gain a ton of weight and I've been off of them for a while now but they take 6 months to a year to even get out of your system so no matter what I do I can't lose weight. People think it's so easy, just eat right just exercise do this do that yes Susan because I never thought about that.
Being fat and unhealthy is a negative thing because my uncle who's 75 years old has had heart problems for as long as I've been existed, and he's obese. He's been in such bad shape recently and I worry about him so often. This is why I strive to be as healthy as I can, and in turn, I've learned to love my body.
The most important thing i learned in therapy: discipline is the highest form of self love. To make changes, routines to be the best healthiest version of oneself. And i'm saying this as obese girl who just started the second phase of losing weight.
Ironically, unlike the other leftist "phobias", I can honestly say that yes, I am afraid of getting fat, and I undergo conversion therapy at the gym 3-4 times a week. I am fatphobic and I'm not sorry.
Yes, I think its normal to be phobic of a state that will harm your body in every possible way and reduce your chance of longer survival and reproduction. I think being scared of being unable to walk or run without getting out of breath, not being able to fit into places in public, diabetes, heart disease, muscle pain etc etc are all pretty normal things any sane person would fear. To try paint it like that's wrong is them trying to justify their own failure to take care of their bodies or male themselves feel better about it if the weight gain wasn't in their control due to accident, injury or medical conditions.
I looked it up a while back, the gurney that Ambulance people roll people around on weighs 80 pounds stripped, The average weight in North America is 177, so you already have someone lifting a quarter of their body weight. ( Two people on the crew) But if someone weighs 300 both of those crew are lifting nearly 200 pounds. That's hard. If dinosaurs chase us, they will get them first.
It is only an issue if you are in a relationship, any relationship(romantic, work, neighbor). This is usually the tip of the iceberg of things people are unwilling to change.
I was 375 pounds. I went to a specialist about my back and knee pain. Doctor looked at me. Took my weight. Then proceeded to tell me to lose weight and I'd feel better.... And guess what.... I lost 175 pounds and I feel phenomenal! I thank that doctor every day. I feel so much better and my quality of life is so much better!
Well I'm signing up for that conversion therapy, I've got my 40th birthday and a wedding the week before in October. Is it still fat phobic if I'm just looking to feel better and I'm not of the insane mind set that I could actually achieve getting to a size 0? 🤔
Honestly I'm conflicted about the body positivity movement. I have PCOS and it is soooo hard for me to lose weight. I've lost about 65 lbs but I'm still considered obese and it's tough. Body positivity to me just means bettering yourself while still accepting yourself.
Hi Arielle, This was a very "punny" a.k.a. funny video, but also full of a lot of facts. As a 6' 5" "Fluffy" man who is well aware of the fact that I need to be a LOT less "fluffy". HA! I agree that I do not think the world should cater to any one niche over another, and being Tall is also equally challenging when it comes to clothes or other accommodations, and combining that with being overweight, and it multiplies the problem. I don't overeat per se, but I don't eat particularly healthy either, and working in front of a computer 12+ hours a day doesn't really help either... which doesn't leave a lot of motivation or energy to even TRY to do anything about it these days, so it becomes a snowball effect. I'm also convinced that science and manufacturers COULD solve the problem, but there is far more profit in keeping people fat and spending money on diet products and healthcare rather than just inventing a pill that will dissolve the fat cells once and for all. HA! Take care and keep doing what you do.
As someone who just had to have a total knee replacement I can tell you that losing weight helps you feel better because you have less weight on your joints!! So go ahead and stay 300 lbs if you don't like your weight bearing joints.
As someone who used to weigh 390 lb, I have lost 135 lb in 9 months and still want to lose another 80 before I hit the goal I set. And I may still want to lose more once I hit that goal, we'll see. But I can tell you how I felt in May of 2021 versus now is literally night and day difference. It's not about giving in to social pressure, it's about feeling healthy in my own skin and being physically able to do the things that I loved to do as a teenager. I am an equestrian. And at almost 400 lb I physically could not ride horses. It was not only impossible for me, but extremely dangerous for the horse. I hope that by the end of the summer, I'll have finished losing weight and be back on those horses, doing what I love. Are fat people shamed? You bet they are. But that's when you grow a thick skin and don't let things bother you 🤷♀️ they teach that in Middle School. Sticks and stones break my bones but words can never hurt me? I swear people just don't give that phrase the recognition and weight that it deserves. Again, it's not about giving into societal pressures, at least not for those of us who are legitimately desiring change and doing something about it.
Congratulations!🎉 I has gastric-sleeve procedure weight loss surgery in 2013. From 326 # I am presently about 200-205 lbs so I have kept a bit more than a hundred pounds off for ten years. I had found myself unable to do things because of my size, that I wasn't willing to stop doing. Another big factor was spaces I could not fit into or through. It is the best thing I've ever done, I wish I'd done it sooner.
Arielle as a gay man who is constantly ostracized by the Uber inclusive LMNOP Letter People it warms my soul to see more people standing up to this obscene absurdity.
For myself personally, I fought with the mds to find out what was wrong with me and for 2 decades just got told to eat healthier and exercise while I went to the gym 5 days a week with a personal trainer and measured every piece of food that went into my mouth. I finally had one md that agreed that something else was going on and then we got some tests and found some answers. And since then I’ve gotten medications and I’ve lost 100 lbs. That being said I eat very healthy and I work out and I get called lazy and told that I need to lay off the fast food. I hate that I get treated like that when it is honestly a fight to lose weight. I don’t expect anyone to cater to me but I also feel like I can’t go a lot of places because I’m treated like I’m lazy and don’t care about myself. I’m not a victim I’m overcoming the medical crap that went undiagnosed for decades and I’m going to win..it’s just a process and it sucks that I still get made to feel judged when I’m not like the people who just want to be fat and don’t care what they eat. I wish my hard work and effort could be seen.
These people don’t realize that it isn’t about becoming skinny. It’s about being a healthy weight for yourself and saving yourself some years instead of dying early. 🤦♂️
10:45 You know, confidence is attractive. And I am not ashamed to say that I think this lady is attractive as in, I'd be interested in a relationship. (Cute laugh and all!) But her acting like this and saying this stuff? That shit makes her so much more unattractive to me. She seems like a fine lady if it wasn't for this! I don't care if she's overweight, she still looks good to me. Sadly she's forgotten how much personality matters
thank you for talking about this, you made so many great points. I hate it when people twist what others say to make themselves look like the victim. If we are to be better off as a society, i think we should all be looking for the truth, not twisting ideas to meet our agendas. Love all your videos, keep doing what you're doing!
i recently had some woman call me fatphobic... because i was told a few months ago my weight was an issue and i started making healthier changes and this girl wanted me to go out with her, but i said i was focusing on my life. had nothing to do with her... i'm not wanting to date anyone, but she couldn't handle that and i was fatphobic because i wanted to be healthy and she doesn't
These TikTok losers seriously need to be put to work. They have way too much time on their hands to wallow in self pity! Walmart needs greeters, highways need cleaning, etc chop chop, get to work!
Due to severe health issues I had gained a decent amount of weight that stayed on during treatment (lost hair but not weight lol). I still remember being heavy as almost unlivable. Every day my body ached, I sat different, slept different, walked different. I was miserable due to the treatment too of course. But nausea and vomiting were intermittent while the bloated, heavy, lazy feelings of the extra weight were constant. I pray I never have to endure that again. Oh and the weirdest feeling too, you never truly feel naked when you're heavy. I can't explain it, its just a really bizarre sensation.
You described the myriad of challenges, mental and physical, that excessive weight causes, and that last statement was both apt, and unique. I am on the right path now, and commend you on your accomplishments 😀.
Wow. Eating well and taking care of your body is a form of conversion therapy?? What?! This is so bizarre! I'm not even mad I'm just utterly astounded at the degree of the stupidity and audacity saying these things requires.
I keep hearing how it costs more to be healthy,but it doesn't have to. I made up my mind to get in shape a few years ago and started eating low carb(mainly lean meat and veggies). I saved money when I quit buying fast food. I also started walking and doing exercise videos on UA-cam which costs nothing. Losing weight is possible without spending more money.
I'm on a weight loss journey and cannot fathom the mindset of the people in this video. I've been obese my entire life. I turn 41 this year & have to make major changes now. I've lost some weight & am already starting to feel better.
After an injury I gained to over 300lbs. I was miserable. My joints & feet felt like they hated me. My blood pressure & resting heart rate both got worse and I had trouble even sleeping. I was only off my routine for 6 months but it took 2 years to get my life back.
Exactly, on that gal in the white bathing suit. I am a straight male and I have used that same statement and wondered why I got attacked so hard. Thank you for the clarification on what their situation is yes
My dad was on television for 34 years telling people they can transform their bodies in any area they want . These people are using mental gymnastics to come to their conclusions and doublespeak we have first-hand evidence of people accomplishing just what they say they can’t. Either they are incredibly stupid or they are liars I choose the former
They won't like any word that you use to categorize the fact that they are overweight, because it will point out that they are overweight. This is a war of definitions, not actual words themselves.
Give the video a like if you enjoyed it!
fat acceptance people should eat more fats and sugars.
health problems are just fat unacceptance.
Entitled narcissists abusing the word phobia like some bully trying to coerce you into submitting to their demands by calling you scared.
And if encouraging a healthier more fit life style is fat conversion therapy, then wouldn’t them encouraging unhealthy obesity be considered thin/fit conversion therapy? 🤔
It costs way more materials to accommodate overweight people. Imagine going into a little restaurant and all the chairs are super size like you’ll be sitting on a bench. There would be less room for tables which means less room for customers.
And where does one draw the line? If we don’t stop at 300 pounds, then they’ll be at 400. Then 500. And so on. Everything designed for 300 pound people wouldn’t be enough for 400 pound people then so on. Eventually we will be living in a Wall-E universe of 1,000 pound people.
I am fat. In fact, I'm frikkin HUGE! At one time I topped out at 560lbs being 6'7". Just for reference. I am currently down to 460lbs over the past couple years of slowly changing my lifestyle, but also to keep things like acid reflux in check. I don't like having to take a pill for anything so will see if I can work with my diet first, before going pill routes. So far, so good. I used to take 40mg of aciphex a day, again for reference. Most people are prescribed 1 10mg a day. I am no longer needing anything for reflux thanks to my diet and rules.
I have struggled with weight for the past 20 years, and the last 15 mainly from when I quit smoking cold turkey. No gums, no patches, and no support.
All of that is just backfill for this next part...
From my perspective, people always want to classify various levels in things, especially healthcare. It is not meant to be mean, but a means to create a breakpoint level to find the best possible outcome to correct something affecting a person's health. However, it is also meant to be adaptive, so someone smarter who comes along, can make improvements.
The BMI is one of those things that has not been very accommodating to the individual and clumps everyone into the same category, which doesn't work. When I check the BMI, it classifies me as 'Morbidly Obese' and it says I should be at 220lbs to be in perfect health. That will never, ever, ever happen. Even the doctors have said the BMI scale cannot come close to getting me to the right weight. I actually had a doctor do tests on me. He confirmed my perfect weight to being healthy is more like 250 to 260 range, unless I start doing heavy weight lifting, and increase my muscle mass, but then I should keep it to less than 290 if possible.
It's the words, "Obese" and "Morbidly Obese" that can really throw a person off. You wind up doing a number on yourself in your own head. And I'm not the only one. Here's the thing, guys who are classified as these two items, will most likely NOT lose the weight to get better. I've talked to many guys about this, and this is something they keep private, and is one of those things guys don't like talking about in general or risk being teased and mocked for being a wimp and 'man-up.' It's a good video though and does warrant discussion so we can work together to find a means to improve life for everyone!! Thank you Arielle!
I don't know if you have videos like this already, but can you interview ex-trans people that detransitioned? Their voices are really drowned out with all the extremism going on.
Its like when the community attacked Adel for losing weight!
As someone who use to weigh almost 300 pounds, I'm happy to have lost weight and be healthier.
Congratulations! Proud of you!
Currently on this journey - started a new job where I am going on route by bicycle and have to walk/do physical work all day and let me tell you - my back hurts and my feet hurt. I know this is due to my obesity and I am absolutely about to change that. For a healthy and comfortable body!
Thank you.
You can do it PromisedMySun.
I was over 250. Lost close to 100lbs.
"That's a nice color on you" is a freaken compliment, people. Taking it as some sort of insult means you are immature and will take everything as an insult.
She is insecure. Even if someone doesn't mention her body shape, she thinks that they must be thinking about it. Because she constantly thinks about it and lies to herself that she doesn't.
When you view life through a certain lens, you can make anything fit your perspective. I've heard people complain that they get told ''nice dress'' and not ''that dress looks nice on you'' because they are fat. They said it as if skinnier people always get told the second version, when in reality the first one is just more commonly used. But if some were to say ''that dress looks nice on you'', they could assume that the person means ''that specific dress makes you looks less fat, which is why I specifically mention it looks good on you''. If you assume everyone has bad intentions and is by default against you, you can make anything into something negative. When they're both just nice compliments without some huge deeper meaning.
I'll always remember someone being told, ''you are not interesting or important enough for just anyone to think about you that much/deeply''. It might sound a little insensitive but for someone who is overly concerned about what people think of them, that statement can give some perspective and help them to not take everything so seriously.
This happened in group therapy for eating disorders and it actually became sort of a mantra for some. And we used it jokingly to remind each other that we shouldn't be so concerned with other people's opinions.
Between the attitude, and the entitlement, she probably would have gotten a "so, that's what an object on the event horizon of a black hole looks like," or similar.
I feel little need to be nice to such hideous personalities...
It also means she has self-esteem issues which is pretty obvious
I don't understand why you are so nice to her.
She is literally a "wilfully" disabled person.
To find it attractive is a fetish or some sort of mental dissorder.
Non of it is normal.
I'm so disgusted that they compare conversion therapy with their laziness.
Not everyone who is overweight is lazy. But you're correct that the journey to a healthier state of being is not conversion therapy.
@@PurePondering I'm aware of that, but let's be honest, it's a minority who can't or have problems losing weight because of medical issues, for example.
@@Effaly_ It's probably because I work in a medical office that I see it quite a bit.
@@Effaly_ It's probably because I work in a medical office that I see the challenging cases quite a bit. However, don't come telling me that you can't lose weight then let me see you in the store multiple times with your cart full of sodas and ho-hos.
@@PurePondering most are. Having been on medication that made me gain weight meant that I had to work harder than I might have had to otherwise to lose it but it was more than doable; I just had to put the effort in.
I’m anorexic and crap like this pisses me off. I know I’m unhealthy and I don’t get offended when people point this out because they are right. Screw all these people too sensitive to accept they aren’t healthy nor does the world revolve around them.
Same…
@@ghju Thank you. I appreciate it.
Good luck with your journey and healing. I hope you have a good support system, hang in there. You have people rooting for you.
I hear you. If you are interested the channel Of Herbs and Alters has done some thoughtful content about her struggles with anorexia. I just thought I would mention it because she is so enjoyable to listen to and helpful. Personally I think body neutrality or as I would phrase it: my body is a helpful meat puppet for my soul and the thing that gets me around.....is much more helpful than toxic body positivity.
That’s a tough one. 😔 All the best and much love on your healing journey. 💕 I’m sure you can do it! 🌿
"Everyone needs to cater to me and my terrible decisions....Reeeeeee!" -Someone on TikTok
Salty Army 👌🏽 ReeeeEEEEEEeee
Correction: "EVERYONE" on Tik Tok.
99.99999% of people on TikTok hahahahaha
Ha! 💙
as a nurse, i feel compelled to chime-in here to clarify a few things regarding the TikTok 'guests' in this video: 1- there is a false assumption that medical professionals utilize BMI by itself to assess patients. we do not - BMI is used only in tandem with multiple other indicators to better determine the patient's health disposition. 2- there are precious few medical reasons for obesity (cancers, cortico-steroids, some other medications, etc.), which arise to be no more than statistical outliers compared to the main causes of obesity. 3- when i assess and/or treat a patient in my care, unless we're talking about sexual health, it is not my concern to whom that patient is attracted. what i DO need to know in order to do my job well is: what is the patient's genotype (are they genetically XX, XY, or rarely intersex*), and what is the patient's phenotype (what do they physically appear as) do they have a vagina/breasts/etc. or do they have a penis/scrotum/testicles/etc. - i need to know what the plumbing is - nursing is an intimate profession. * FYI: "Trans" does NOT equal and should not be confused with "intersex" as many intersex XXY or XYY present as male or female and are quite heterosexual (and some are gay or bisexual) - the intersex presentation is so rare that i've only had one patient (that i'm aware of). thank you again, Arielle, for another sound and sane video. ~ RN,BSN, RNCM
Oh my _god_ thank you for this!
I was within (for far too long) the Trans community, and it wasn't until I got out of it (reidentifed, I never medically transitioned because of ortho issues that made me not trust most surgeons-walk around with a broken kneecap for two months and you start getting really careful about who is skilled or not) and met intersex people who were welcomed into the Detrans/Reidentified community that I discovered that half the terms I'd been using had been _stolen_ from them.
And as someone with (complicated spine issues that actually spared me some dysphoria but also caused the main cause of it) medical issues, chronic pain, missing bones, and etc, I was _horrified_ when I learned me using AFAB/CAFAB was basically taking a serious medical control and turning it into a set of buzzwords. I now _only_ use it if I have to or am not wanting to get into an argument online (I prefer "natal-female" anyway since lots of people throw fits if I use "XX").
Have you found (I've read a couple of accounts where this has caused issues) that if, say a transman has had… uhh YT safe "bottom surgery" where they take a part of a bone out of the leg to make the… "equipment" that it actually causes more problems? Worse if the patient won't disclose that they are, genetically, not their ID gender because we are a species that has sexual dimorphism, especially in health.
I'm just glad someone is sticking up for the intersex community because I think they really got the short end when they got lumped in with the LGBTQIAETC alphabet soup.
That's a very helpful comment; thankyou.
thank you for the insight ! and for your job
I was always slender until I could no longer be on infusions …. I take between 40-60 mgs of prednisone at least once a month for 10 days ( starting dose 40 mgs , then cold turkey stop ) …. I’m so fat now , and am so ashamed of my body and myself for getting this heavy .
As a medical professional, can you respond about whether or not there is a genetic predisposition to obesity. I've had different medical professionals tell me different things. I've had some say that there are people who are "genetically fat" and the only way to not be is through surgery.
Being a victim is totally in right now
Lmao more than ever
Especially on Twitter and TikTok. 🤯
People has always been victims social media has just given people a voice lol
Why did I real this in Will Ferrells voice
Ppl are burned out on having to improve on every gd effing thing!!!
"Why is being unhealthy bad?"
This is what it's come to... 😒
Exactly. Like do you not want to be the best version of yourself that you can be?
The lack of responsibility is the big elephant in the room, oh wait. If we’re talking about these people, that would mean there’s two elephants in the room
I’m in the middle of conversion therapy- I’ve lost 15 pounds and have another 20 to go!!! I’m still fat but soon will be thin!!! Yahhh conversion therapy!!!😀
Congratulations! Proud of you!
Kudos!
Yasss, go queen/king
Do it Dee!!!! 🚲🚵🥗
Thank you everyone- for the encouragement! It means a lot!!❤️❤️❤️
Even if a super hot woman sent me a bikini pic and said "I just blessed you with my beauty," I'd run. Creepy and out-of-control narcissism.
for real. I am confident that I am an attractive young woman. I’m 21 and I take care of myself very well. I would never say that to anybody. Ever. They have such a skewed view on what it means to be confident. And none of them are, clearly all of them are bitter, unhappy, and have eaten their lives away. It’s like they wanna force people to pretend like they are attractive? Like I’m sorry but that’s not gonna happen, if you don’t take care of yourself and you can’t touch your toes, why would you expect anybody to cater to you
12 yrs ago a doctor said I was morbidly obese. I was hurt and angry. He said all my health issues were a direct result of my weight. I went home pissed. Went on the clean Atkins and lost 40 lbs in 30 days. He was right. I keep my lifestyle and have kept my health and weight on track. Literally all the other issues disappeared.
Congratulations. I'll check out that diet. I've been trying to lose weight.
@@allenpoe17 thank you. I lost 150lbs total and kept it off
That is awesome! Congratulations. My mom has been obese for years and finally decided to lose weight. She has lost 30 pounds in a few months and found it wasn’t as difficult as she thought. She just eats smaller portions and stopped drinking wine. It’s sad that so many young people are buying into the belief that they cannot change their weight. It’s unforgivable to tell people they are stuck and can’t change. History won’t look kindly on this movement.
@@emma2370 thank you. Good luck to your mom. Discipline is hard, but so is being fat. You gotta pick your hard. I will forever be grateful my doctor called be obese.
It's amazing isn't it? I had a doctor tell me I was overweight at 5'7 and 150 lbs. I was wearing a size 6 in pants & small in tops. No one had ever said anything to me about my size except to group me in with "you small women" when discussing whether or not to have dessert. He was very negative about everything connected to being female (pms, peri menopausal symptoms, fatigue, etc) and comes from a culture where the majority of women are petite because that's just how they are. It made me lose 40 lbs at which point I was underweight - because I figured a doctor wouldn't say that unless it was true.
Maybe it's time to make "health-phobic" a thing. Because, really, that's what these people fear: being physically & mentally well. Deep down, they're afraid they don't deserve the benefits of feeling GOOD, and that's beyond tragic.
Love looking at it like this. I'm gonna start using they phrase.
And sometimes, they are health-phobic because that means they would lose their victim status.
No they just know it takes work that they don't want to put so it's easier to delude themselves.
Thats an interesting angle to look at it. Perhaps health phobic AND "happy phobic" should be a thing, because it is abundantly clear that all these individuals are very unhappy. I'm not sure I agree with that last part though. It seems to me like these people would rather pull the entire world down to normalise their obesity and self loathing than lift themselves up to where they want to (and could) be.
They want the world to tell them they are wonderful, beautiful, brave, empowered people, whilst doing absolutley NOTHING to deserve any of that praise, and at the same time showering everyone else with vitriol and negativity and expecting nothing but love and admiration in return. THAT is tragic!
@@soundseeker63 Fair. You make good points, even if they’re hard to accept. I’m really starting to recognize I’ve gone too easy on many such bc people (not limited to fatness). I was naïve as to how many just want to suck you dry of compassion while giving nothing back in return. They’re exhausting!
I lost weight simply because it was getting harder and harder to run away from my own farts. Fartphobia > fatphobia.
There’s no such thing as fatphobia or being fat phobic
I had a cat who would look and paw around like crazy when I farted to try to catch them 😂
😂😂😂😂😂
This is clearly the best comment
@@myabushnes9216 correct
Phobia: irrational fear or aversion
Fearing a heart attack or diabetes is totally rational and normal
Wanting a free range of movement and agility that your skeleton provides is normal and rational
Avoidance of gluttony is normal and rational
Fatphobia : does not exist
I have autism and sometimes don't have a filter but I have always had way more of a filter and critical thinking than these people will or ever have had.
I have ADHD and have more of a filter as well.
@@csebesta84 One time I wanna say to someone.
You realize what you said was more on the spectrum than I literally am.
Closeted speccy here, one day I'll say something pretty close to that one day when people say "he's autistic or ADHD they can't help his reactions" and then persecute me for mine , as if diversity has to be announced...
that's because these people wish they were autistic...
they are "mentally unstable time bombs... sociopathic, psychopathic, narcissistic ( yes narcissistic!), Envious, destructive and toxic"
trust me being a sweet cute wierdo is a virtue
in a world of monsters
🙄
We're really lowing our standards as a culture.
THAT is the goal
Yep.
Standards? What standards? We lost them a long time ago unfortunately. ✌️
“What’s bad about being Unhealthy?” ITS UNHEALTHY! Which is…BAD! What positive thing comes out of being Unhealthy? Name one, please
Will, the way people are acting these days and the way the world is going nuts way would anybody want to live very long. lol
I mean, we all die anyways. So if one lives it up and dies at 60 are they really having a better life than one who keeps careful track of their life and dies at 80? It’s a personal choice. I don’t know the ultimate answer, but I like intellectually interrogating it.
@@301Goldstar why would you want to die? Unless your life is that bad
@@Vibez-o5k what? Lmao being unhealthy isn’t good no matter what. So because we’re going to die, you shouldn’t want to be healthy? Eat all the bad food you want because you’re going to die anyways, is that what you mean?😂
Ferne, its also about the quality of life. You can live a home bound 60 years or an 80 years of good active life.
These TikTok people are so snarky and pretentious. It's like unattractive people, who want to be like the clique in Mean Girls.
I'm curious whether they're remotely this condescending and smug face to face in the real world or if it's just a persona adopted for the camera. I'm a hermit now, but back in my day (lol), these are the people who were more agreeable and non confrontational.
@@psychegoddessoflight9358 I haven't been out long and last year I decided to go to this gay club LGBT event thing and let me tell you, people can be this pretentious and obsessed with identity and real life, and it is truly a bizarre experience when you see it in real life. I realized that night that people's personas online seep over into real life (I'm in my late twenties , this group of people were early twenties and teens)
@@love-ip7sz Misfits used to be friendly in the 90's and 2000's. Gay people, Punk, Goth, Emo ect. I don't know what happened? Or I do, Tumblr and Twitter.
@@psychegoddessoflight9358 They're all insecure people and most of them wouldn't dare say this crap to your face. People are more brave behind a computer screen. Them ranting about how triggered they are by the size of chairs, or people not being attracted to them speaks volumes about just how insecure they are.
oh my gosh I can’t even watch some of them. I’m literally have to pause and take a breath and meditate just to get through the video. Their bitterness and unhappiness leaks through the screen like it’s so bad they r so mad
I was like 200lbs,by eating less,fasting,working out I acheived the goals I set an I'm 160 now I do feel alot better bout myself mentally an physically. These people saying it's unattainable are lazy or have medical problems there's nothing wrong with either of that but the people you showed in.this video are addicted to the attention of being oppressed
Congratulations! Proud of you!
Good for you!
You hit the nail on the head!
Thank you for acknowledging the truth. Well done on your uplifting journey 👏 ❤️
It takes someone in poor mental health to view discussing or advocating health to be a bad thing.
Hi! I grew up "fat". I hated the word obese because it was a reality check not shaming. I have depression and I stopped out at 347# before I truly realized how unhealthy I was becoming as I got older. I lost the weight for my health. Today I weigh 190#. I'm still considered obese. But I don't feel shame. I feel healthier. Yes, I want to lose more weight, for me, I am 5' 8" tall.
This video is perfect. Thank you for putting my feelings out there.
Keep it up! I believe in you!
Losing that much is amazing and you must be a badass to have done it!
That's fantastic!
@@MaliciousMalcontent I have had a mental illness for 20 years. Most of my mental health doctors have told me the importance of exercise. Maybe I have just been lucky to be seen by good doctors. Going to the gym and eating healthy has really been the best treatment for my specific mental illness in addition to medicine.
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@@SpaceTrump thanks!!! I wish I was a badass, I could get the last 20# off LOL.
I’m just saying, I’ve lost 70 lbs and I feel so much better about myself. I can’t even begin to explain how good it feels to get annoyed over having to buy smaller sizes instead of larger ones like I had for so many years.
I feel healthier- mentally, physically, and emotionally. I’m more confident, I want to try new things, see new places, and step out of my comfort zone. I never thought this way when I was 300 lbs. I’m about halfway through my weight loss adventure and I’m excited to see what the future holds. Getting healthy isn’t so bad!
Same😊
I was in so much pain mentally and physically when I was a chunker.
All together lost 90 lbs.
It's crazy, I didn't realize how much my weight affected my mental health.
Kudos!
@@zarrahprodan2180 congrats!
This makes me so happy, Jessica. And it also psyches me up, since my doc just reminded me that, while I've lost 15 pounds, I'm still overweight and need to nip it in the bud so that I can live in the habit of being and staying at a healthy weight. Of course, he's right, and I know it's what's good for me. But I kinda hit a plateau midway through this journey. And by hit a plateau I mean I *made the decision* to turn to comfort food rather than exercise to cope with stress. Naturally, it's not the worst decision I could make lol--and Arielle is right that shaming (even from oneself) is not productive--but it's also not in my interest, or (again as she noted) the interest of the greater good. It can be tricky to remember these things, and it's very easy (at least for me) to remember how good hamburgers and ice cream taste hah. Which is why it was really useful to read your comment, which for me really hit the nail on the head on how I become more present and active in the world around me when I'm in a healthy state and at a healthy weight. I'm saving it and going to tack it up somewhere I can see it on the regular to remember the day-to-day benefits of staying motivated and active. Thanks!
To all those who have lost weight. Congratulations! Endlessly proud of you!
Omg..... Honestly if people want to be fat, I'd just let them. 😑 I quit. I got hate for telling someone who was borderline diabetic to start taking care of their health and lose weight.
Lord
I was that person and someone said something to me about my health...and thank goodness they did. People, no matter size or what need to have thicker skin and healthy bodies...
That's what you should do. I'd say to be honest if the issue comes up in conversation, and this might have, but aside from that, just let people live their lives.
Diabetes is a really terrible condition and it’s really sick how much fat activists downplay it. You should be proud that you have the courage to encourage someone to get healthy when they are at risk for diabetes. Diabetes affects every part of one’s body - skin, eyes, internal organs. Getting your feet amputated is not worth it.
@@theroadnottaken7 I say this all the time. I think we need to normalise being able to comment on someone's weight (among other things) as long as we do it appropriately. I'm so tired of having to tiptoe around certain issues because people get offended at EVERYTHING nowadays.
I've been overweight all my life, due to what turned out to be a thyroid issue (benign tumor). After a successful surgery, I was diagnosed with endometrial cancer (which, according to the doctor, might have been caused by me being overweight), and I just had enough, I wanted to change my life for the better. After I got okay and got done with the radiation therapy, I took upon a diet, which I'm successfully still doing (8 months have passed since then). I lost appr. 60 pounds and have never felt better. I can't wrap my head around these fatpositivity and "health at every size" videos, how they can't see how dangerous their conditions are, and instead of trying to inspire eachother to get healthier, they advocate for even more fatness. Unbelieveable.
Congratulations!!!
I'm glad you're feeling better, great job on the weight loss!
Thank you!
Congratulations! Being overweight sadly does up your chances of many medical conditions that you don't want. It does harm the body.
Congrats on taking the positive, life affirming path and getting through all of that!
Man this kinda stuff just gets me motivated to eat more better and actually start exercising. Thanks a lot Arielle 👀!
Same here!
Do it. You'll feel like an idiot floundering around at first, I did. But it didn't take long before friends started to comment and that motivated me. You can do it, you just have to decide to now and not tomorrow, which turns into the next day. You really can do it, I was massive. I mean really big, now I'm slim.
Proud of you
@@arielle ❤️
@@Madonnalitta1 You really are describing how I’ve been trying to go about loosing weight! It honestly is hard to navigate how I should go about doing it. But I think I’m finally going to go for it. I might have some trouble with it because it still confuses me. But I think I’m trying :)
My mom is trying to eat right as well since she’s noticed weight gain on herself. So it’s nice to know we’re both doing it haha. I’m excited to see how far I can go this time though. Cause I really want to be healthier than I have been!
Thank you for replying. I think this’ll boost me more! 💓
‘Despite zero evidence that it works’
The millions of former obese and morbidly obese people would like to have a word with you.
As someone who was 320lbs, and is now 190…and now only mildly exercises but instead watches what I eat…I must be an anomaly.
Then again, when I ate garbage (and lots of it) and was lazy…I got fat. And stayed fat.
And when I actually stopped making excuses and kept to a diet, while being active…I eventually lost weight.
But guess what…I found out that the trick was simply ‘maintaining said lifestyle’ over a long time! You know, committing to something! Doing things that are ‘hard’ (that eventually become easy).
Finally, there is a reason why you rarely see any older fat people saying this crap.
It’s because they’re now living with the consequences of their choices.
Oh and I wouldn’t say it’s strictly class.
Poorer people tend to make ‘poor’ choices, etc.
So of course this trickles down to dietary habits.
Walking /running, etc - is free.
Deciding to drink water instead of soda…is CHEAPER.
And there are countless examples.
Oh and the type of obese people now did not exist when ‘being fat was trendy’ (that’s the keyword in itself…trendy. It was a fad.)
They were overweight, semi-obese.
Morbidly obese and obese people did not exist, or if they did - they would die at very young ages.
Due to the adverse health effects of being obese, (shocker)
It’s why there were no elderly obese people.
People like this piss me off, as a disabled woman. I would LOVE to be able to work out and remain active without not being able to sleep that night because I am in so much pain. I am overweight (though apparently carry it well, people never guess that🤷), and it's ANNOYING when people tell me I'm fine the way I am. I WANT TO REMAIN AS MOBILE AS I CAN. And keeping weight down and strengthening my muscles help me only periodically need my cane. Screw these idiots.
I hope you are able to explore pool therapy or other less strenuous activities to achieve your goals of mobility and health. 🙏
As a disabled woman, I have left many YT comments similar to yours.
I happen to be naturally fairly petite, but I would happily be 100 pounds heavier in exchange for full use of my extremities.
P.S. May we both have the perseverance needed to achieve/maintain improved strength and mobility.
@@cameraobscura2379 I appreciate the support. I do swimming at my local gym, and try to keep up with my PT exercises. Unfortunately, while Ehlers-Danlos isn't categorized as a degenerative disease, it's still degenerative in many cases, especially me. :/ My orthopedic surgeon told me after my first knee surgery that I have the left knee of a sixty-five year old, and that was sixteen years ago, age 20. So it's only gotten more difficult. But every bit of support and encouragement helps👍
@@TarynRMartin It's just so frustrating, because we had no choice(I'm assuming, I don't know your specific health issues). If I could choose to be able to do simple things again, I sure as hell would. I can't remember what it feels like to run. It's been about 26 years since I have been able to. I wish we could choose to be healthy, you know? But we start out at a deficit. Hang in there👍
I can sympathize. I used to work out daily, run half marathons, teach Zumba, and I loved working out. But chronic health conditions have left me with almost total exercise intolerance. I get severely ill if I try to exercise now. I would give anything to be able to workout again.
I realized in therapy that some people hold onto their weight as an emotional shield, and I that's exactly what I was doing. Once I started to take care of my emotional health, I started to loose weight and overall felt happier and more centered. I'm still a work in progress, but I gotta say that therapy along with brainspotting has definitely helped me get my life back on track. Sending love and light to anyone who needs it ❤
OK, getting her BP done with the cuff they used was painful because they had the wrong size cuff? I thought it was ALWAYS painful. Even when I was thinner, it was painful.
They really do hurt no matter the size tbh. In highschool, I was in this criminal justice club- and we were practicing with the cuffs. How to take them off and practicing how fast we could get them on. And let me tell you, they really do HURT. I’m considered overweight myself but my wrists are pretty small. So I know your right when your saying that it hurts no matter what size you are.
Yeah I'm skinny af and it has to be tight around you regardless.
I was anorexic and can confirm it still hurt. If the cuff doesn’t read, they can always put it on her forearm. Incredibly low or high blood pressure as well as moving around from coughing, can all make it harder to read. It’s not that deep
Same its so uncomfy for me i hate it and it makes my anxiety sky rocket
It is always painful, regardless of size.
Bless her heart. When the young lady at 8:43 (who couldn't get an accurate BP check) needs an MRI and must go to either a large animal vet practice or the local zoo because there's isn't a human medical facility in town with an MRI big enough to accommodate...she will lose her ever-loving mind. Not even making this up; it happens.
Body weight is a major factor when it comes to getting surgery since the anesthesiologist has to get the dosage for the anesthesia correct. Too much anesthesia and the patient OD's on the table while too little anesthesia will lead to the patient waking up on the table.
It affects other medication efficiency too. Nevermind it's undeniably causally linked to higher comorbidities and mortality overall. A lot of hospitals now make nurses pledge that they don't smoke before hiring, and even do a strip test on the tongue to check, but not hiring an obese person would be discriminatory.
I've lost 40 pounds and the reality of this loss struck home when I tried to pick up a 38 lb box of cat litter. Not having that weight burden pulling down on my body with every step gives me so much more energy and stamina. My knees feel normal and don't pinch when I walk. My A1C is normal. This is not fat phobic attitudes, it's me wanting to be a better and stronger me.
I was a fat kid. Puberty solved it for me, but I am still sensitive about my weight.
Tom ya look great. Plenty of other things to worry over!
@@teekotrain6845 just wanted to say this comment made me smile, keep up the love. and Tom I agree with them. u look great, I hope you're healthy and happy!
The only one that partially made sense, was the one that commented on BMI. I have; until recently; had a lot of muscle. My BMI was high, but when they taped me, my body fat was low (according to USAF standards for females) I was very fit, but if they just went by my BMI, I was "obese". I ignore BMI, and just judge my weight by how my clothes fit.
As a young man with Crohn's disease, gaining weight has always been very difficult for me. It boggles my mind how obese people even have the time or budget to become as big as they are. I don't understand how these people aren't in constant stomach pain eating as much of the crap that they do.
I'm formerly obese. I suffer from IBS. One of the symptoms of my IBS is severe stomach pain which is temporarily resolved by eating and digesting. "Heavier" foods work the best. This resulted in me overeating and gaining a significant amount of weight.
I've now had gastric surgery and have lost a lot of weight. Unfortunately I still have IBS though.
What happened to not doing anything to unnecessarily overwhelm the medical system????
I can smell that lunatic from here 🤨
I'm obese myself. I feel insulted by the word fat - even if it's what people see. Yes, I have some medical conditions that make me way to 'big' - but I really have not the nerve to explain it every time and educate other people - they wouldn't believe anyway.
Working out and eat a healthy diet is good. I'm not fat phobic because I want to loos loose weight - I do that because I'm not able to walk long distances, I cannot breathe properly and I'm in a lot of pain (hip / lower back / knees / ankles) I cannot move properly.
I don't wanna loose weight to impress someone or being slim - I want to be healthier and with less pain that I'm now - and that's not fat phobic - that's self care!
I actually have an eating disorder that caused me to gain a ton of weight especially in my stomach area. I look like I’m pregnant. I am trying to get over this ED, but it’s really hard. I’m supposed to be around 135-140. Although, I’m now almost 200lbs. I’m trying to get help, and I’m trying to get over it. I completely and wholeheartedly agree with Arielle, and being overweight is not okay.
THIS IS SO DUMB!! I GIVE YOU A BLAIRE SO MUCH LOVE AND RESPECT!! YAH SPEAK SO MUCH TRUTHS!!!!
I agree! I love Blaire as well:)
Same. You and Blaire are rational sweethearts at this point woke culture game
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I've been big my whole life. Part genetics, part class, part upbringing, part poor health(not to do with weight) when I was younger. Adults had me "dieting" in the sixth grade. It sucks but I decided to change this about myself when I hit my highest weight two years ago. I've lost 60 pounds over the last two years. I've still got 50 pounds to go to hit my main goal but I've come such a long way and have never felt better in my life. My weight at my age is ALL on me and no one else at this point and I'm choosing to change it FOR MYSELF.
Those are secondary reason thst make it easier to be obese, they aren't primary reasons.
I'm so happy for getting yourself in shape. I'm also in the process, best of luck
I was over 200 pounds at 5’ tall. My doctor, bless that man, looked at me and said, “Jess, you’re fat and you’re gonna die. What are we gonna do about this?” He was right! Where my family was telling me I looked fine, or was beautiful, he gave me what I needed- honesty. Raw, brutal honesty. I started that night. Making small changes I have lost 100 pounds so far. Because I have a ton of health issues it has taken me a few years. I deal with kidney failure, gastroparesis, liver disease, had (have) cancer, my spine is a mess, I mean, there’s a lot I’m dealing with. But, even with all of that, I feel so much better, am able better to do what is needed to still be here for my family.
At the doctors, the bp cuffs hurt, they hurt everyone, lol, they get tight. You’ll live. If it’s getting *that* tight, it’s probably moreso because your bp is high. I do have high bp as a result of my kidney failure. I developed it in my 20’s at my skinniest. Being overweight you’re going to have an elevated bp. I was also never mistreated by anyone due to my weight. I was extremely self conscious because of it. When you’re that self conscious you feel as though everyone is judging you. Nobody is afraid of fat people. That’s ridiculous. Being fat just subconsciously tells people you don’t value yourself, you don’t take care of yourself and it’s not attractive to most people. If you want to be fat, accept that, if not then change. Those are your options.
Thank you for sharing your experiences, puts the whole debate into perspective. I'm sure you tipped the odds in your favour a huge amount by losing the excess weight! I wish you the best of luck with your issues, takes strength and luck to get through all of that.
I loathe the fat positive movement. I’ve struggled with weight my whole life. So I have to work and work hard to stay some what lean. I choose to do this because over a year ago my blood work was so horrible I was heading down the path of diabetes and early heart issues. Last time I had my blood work a few months ago it was perfect and I’ve lost over 70 pounds.
A job is conversation therapy for poor people!
As marriage is conversion therapy for unwed mothers.
They wouldn’t be so defensive if they were truly happy with themselves.
So if I'm fat but my spouse is thin and he's heterosexual but I'm bi,, that make me a self-hating fat phobic trans phobic lesbian phobic fat person? If I lose weight after pregnancy, that's more "proof" I'm trans-phobic b/c I refuse to refer to myself as a birthing chest feeding person because I am a proud breast feeding mother. These people are delusional Marxists. I deeply appreciate your content. Keep the videos coming!
Lol you clearly understand completely and I couldn't have said it better myself.
As someone who is overweight and has lost a good amount of weight and am continuing on my journey. I feel as if the only problem for me is when people are mean to bigger people just because they’re bigger. Like if I’m out in public minding my business and someone calls me a fatty, etc. That’s when I feel like it’s an issue
I'm 6'5, 180lbs. I can't find clothing that fits me in most stores. There is literally nothing I can do about my size. But I do not think that the world is oppressing tall people. I design buildings for a living and if we designed for obese people everything would get larger and as a consequence prices would increase, businesses would have less capacity, and the built world would literally become larger as in everything. It's ridiculous how concieted these people are. P.S. I love watching these videos on the treadmill knowing how much they would hate me
I'm just 5'8 (173cm) with a large chest and nothing fits me either. Everything is sized for short women with smaller chests I feel. Probably because all clothes are made in China.
I am going through "conversion therapy" myself. Need to get in shape. Wish me luck guys.
Our society is so unjust and oppressive. Everyone makes the chairs that they intend to have humans sit in human-sized.
I hate even hearing things like this. I was very naturally skinny for most of my life now I'm 41 and have three children I had some severe health issues which caused me to have to take steroids for over a year which by the way make you gain a ton of weight and I've been off of them for a while now but they take 6 months to a year to even get out of your system so no matter what I do I can't lose weight. People think it's so easy, just eat right just exercise do this do that yes Susan because I never thought about that.
It's kind of ironic that, according to these people, being a sweaty fat dude gives me a place in the Oppression Olympics.
Being fat and unhealthy is a negative thing because my uncle who's 75 years old has had heart problems for as long as I've been existed, and he's obese. He's been in such bad shape recently and I worry about him so often. This is why I strive to be as healthy as I can, and in turn, I've learned to love my body.
The most important thing i learned in therapy: discipline is the highest form of self love. To make changes, routines to be the best healthiest version of oneself. And i'm saying this as obese girl who just started the second phase of losing weight.
Ironically, unlike the other leftist "phobias", I can honestly say that yes, I am afraid of getting fat, and I undergo conversion therapy at the gym 3-4 times a week.
I am fatphobic and I'm not sorry.
Yes, I think its normal to be phobic of a state that will harm your body in every possible way and reduce your chance of longer survival and reproduction. I think being scared of being unable to walk or run without getting out of breath, not being able to fit into places in public, diabetes, heart disease, muscle pain etc etc are all pretty normal things any sane person would fear. To try paint it like that's wrong is them trying to justify their own failure to take care of their bodies or male themselves feel better about it if the weight gain wasn't in their control due to accident, injury or medical conditions.
I looked it up a while back, the gurney that Ambulance people roll people around on weighs 80 pounds stripped, The average weight in North America is 177, so you already have someone lifting a quarter of their body weight. ( Two people on the crew) But if someone weighs 300 both of those crew are lifting nearly 200 pounds. That's hard.
If dinosaurs chase us, they will get them first.
They have to create new terms to win arguments and shut down debate, so they don't look in the mirror and fix their own problems.
It is only an issue if you are in a relationship, any relationship(romantic, work, neighbor). This is usually the tip of the iceberg of things people are unwilling to change.
"How dare you call me morbidly obese!"
"Ah, crap.. sorry.. you have a great day now. See you in the resus bay when you're in arrest!"
I was 375 pounds. I went to a specialist about my back and knee pain. Doctor looked at me. Took my weight. Then proceeded to tell me to lose weight and I'd feel better.... And guess what.... I lost 175 pounds and I feel phenomenal! I thank that doctor every day. I feel so much better and my quality of life is so much better!
Good on you, buddy.
Well I'm signing up for that conversion therapy, I've got my 40th birthday and a wedding the week before in October. Is it still fat phobic if I'm just looking to feel better and I'm not of the insane mind set that I could actually achieve getting to a size 0? 🤔
I feel you on the height issue. Being 5' 1" in a grocery store and trying to reach the top shelf sucks!
TESTIFY!!
Honestly I'm conflicted about the body positivity movement. I have PCOS and it is soooo hard for me to lose weight. I've lost about 65 lbs but I'm still considered obese and it's tough. Body positivity to me just means bettering yourself while still accepting yourself.
I agree!
You forgot to point out how they're also appropriating the terminology of the disabled by talking about "accessible" seating.
Hi Arielle,
This was a very "punny" a.k.a. funny video, but also full of a lot of facts. As a 6' 5" "Fluffy" man who is well aware of the fact that I need to be a LOT less "fluffy". HA! I agree that I do not think the world should cater to any one niche over another, and being Tall is also equally challenging when it comes to clothes or other accommodations, and combining that with being overweight, and it multiplies the problem. I don't overeat per se, but I don't eat particularly healthy either, and working in front of a computer 12+ hours a day doesn't really help either... which doesn't leave a lot of motivation or energy to even TRY to do anything about it these days, so it becomes a snowball effect. I'm also convinced that science and manufacturers COULD solve the problem, but there is far more profit in keeping people fat and spending money on diet products and healthcare rather than just inventing a pill that will dissolve the fat cells once and for all. HA! Take care and keep doing what you do.
Weird how you don't see many of these types of ppl in their 70's..
As someone who just had to have a total knee replacement I can tell you that losing weight helps you feel better because you have less weight on your joints!! So go ahead and stay 300 lbs if you don't like your weight bearing joints.
Thank you for another upload! on time and i am always begging for more of your content
As someone who used to weigh 390 lb, I have lost 135 lb in 9 months and still want to lose another 80 before I hit the goal I set. And I may still want to lose more once I hit that goal, we'll see. But I can tell you how I felt in May of 2021 versus now is literally night and day difference. It's not about giving in to social pressure, it's about feeling healthy in my own skin and being physically able to do the things that I loved to do as a teenager. I am an equestrian. And at almost 400 lb I physically could not ride horses. It was not only impossible for me, but extremely dangerous for the horse. I hope that by the end of the summer, I'll have finished losing weight and be back on those horses, doing what I love.
Are fat people shamed? You bet they are. But that's when you grow a thick skin and don't let things bother you 🤷♀️ they teach that in Middle School. Sticks and stones break my bones but words can never hurt me? I swear people just don't give that phrase the recognition and weight that it deserves. Again, it's not about giving into societal pressures, at least not for those of us who are legitimately desiring change and doing something about it.
Congratulations!🎉 I has gastric-sleeve procedure weight loss surgery in 2013. From 326 # I am presently about 200-205 lbs so I have kept a bit more than a hundred pounds off for ten years. I had found myself unable to do things because of my size, that I wasn't willing to stop doing. Another big factor was spaces I could not fit into or through. It is the best thing I've ever done, I wish I'd done it sooner.
This video reminded me that it's been a year in my weight loss journey :D I've lost about 25 lbs and I'm no longer obese!!
Also, you can workout for free you don’t have to go to the gym. UA-cam, going to the park, there are free groups etc
It's simple. Who wants to plan a long term relationship with someone who won't be around very long?
Convert me already!!! 💃
Yeah... So they think we should just throw self control out of the window?
Arielle as a gay man who is constantly ostracized by the Uber inclusive LMNOP Letter People it warms my soul to see more people standing up to this obscene absurdity.
For myself personally, I fought with the mds to find out what was wrong with me and for 2 decades just got told to eat healthier and exercise while I went to the gym 5 days a week with a personal trainer and measured every piece of food that went into my mouth. I finally had one md that agreed that something else was going on and then we got some tests and found some answers. And since then I’ve gotten medications and I’ve lost 100 lbs.
That being said I eat very healthy and I work out and I get called lazy and told that I need to lay off the fast food. I hate that I get treated like that when it is honestly a fight to lose weight. I don’t expect anyone to cater to me but I also feel like I can’t go a lot of places because I’m treated like I’m lazy and don’t care about myself.
I’m not a victim I’m overcoming the medical crap that went undiagnosed for decades and I’m going to win..it’s just a process and it sucks that I still get made to feel judged when I’m not like the people who just want to be fat and don’t care what they eat. I wish my hard work and effort could be seen.
These people don’t realize that it isn’t about becoming skinny. It’s about being a healthy weight for yourself and saving yourself some years instead of dying early. 🤦♂️
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You know, confidence is attractive. And I am not ashamed to say that I think this lady is attractive as in, I'd be interested in a relationship. (Cute laugh and all!) But her acting like this and saying this stuff? That shit makes her so much more unattractive to me.
She seems like a fine lady if it wasn't for this! I don't care if she's overweight, she still looks good to me. Sadly she's forgotten how much personality matters
thank you for talking about this, you made so many great points. I hate it when people twist what others say to make themselves look like the victim. If we are to be better off as a society, i think we should all be looking for the truth, not twisting ideas to meet our agendas. Love all your videos, keep doing what you're doing!
Life is about Happy Mediums not extra large .. Kudos to that..🤗
i recently had some woman call me fatphobic... because i was told a few months ago my weight was an issue and i started making healthier changes and this girl wanted me to go out with her, but i said i was focusing on my life. had nothing to do with her... i'm not wanting to date anyone, but she couldn't handle that and i was fatphobic because i wanted to be healthy and she doesn't
I’m 5’9” 297 lbs and just started my trip to get Bariatric surgery. I hate being this large.
As a fat person myself the entitlement of these people is astonishing. Love your content 🥰🥰🥰
I’ve just discovered your channel, new sub here, love your videos and you’ve restored my faith in humanity ❤ the madness is real…
Got diagnosed with type 2 diabetes, immediately cut sugary drinks, potatoes, and bread out of my diet. Dropped 25 lbs in 3 weeks with no exercise.
Good work!
These TikTok losers seriously need to be put to work. They have way too much time on their hands to wallow in self pity! Walmart needs greeters, highways need cleaning, etc chop chop, get to work!
Due to severe health issues I had gained a decent amount of weight that stayed on during treatment (lost hair but not weight lol). I still remember being heavy as almost unlivable. Every day my body ached, I sat different, slept different, walked different. I was miserable due to the treatment too of course. But nausea and vomiting were intermittent while the bloated, heavy, lazy feelings of the extra weight were constant. I pray I never have to endure that again. Oh and the weirdest feeling too, you never truly feel naked when you're heavy. I can't explain it, its just a really bizarre sensation.
You described the myriad of challenges, mental and physical, that excessive weight causes, and that last statement was both apt, and unique. I am on the right path now, and commend you on your accomplishments 😀.
Wow. Eating well and taking care of your body is a form of conversion therapy?? What?!
This is so bizarre! I'm not even mad I'm just utterly astounded at the degree of the stupidity and audacity saying these things requires.
I keep hearing how it costs more to be healthy,but it doesn't have to. I made up my mind to get in shape a few years ago and started eating low carb(mainly lean meat and veggies). I saved money when I quit buying fast food. I also started walking and doing exercise videos on UA-cam which costs nothing. Losing weight is possible without spending more money.
I'm on a weight loss journey and cannot fathom the mindset of the people in this video. I've been obese my entire life. I turn 41 this year & have to make major changes now. I've lost some weight & am already starting to feel better.
Just came across your videos and love you! ♥️ Thanks for standing up against the tick-tock crazies. Xx
So loved to actually tell you this!
After an injury I gained to over 300lbs. I was miserable. My joints & feet felt like they hated me. My blood pressure & resting heart rate both got worse and I had trouble even sleeping. I was only off my routine for 6 months but it took 2 years to get my life back.
"life is about happy mediums... not extra larges." lmfao so hard!
Exactly, on that gal in the white bathing suit. I am a straight male and I have used that same statement and wondered why I got attacked so hard. Thank you for the clarification on what their situation is yes
My dad was on television for 34 years telling people they can transform their bodies in any area they want . These people are using mental gymnastics to come to their conclusions and doublespeak we have first-hand evidence of people accomplishing just what they say they can’t. Either they are incredibly stupid or they are liars I choose the former
Arielle, it's scary, I listen to your videos, think of something, then you discuss it.❤❤❤
Idunno about the whole not shaming bit. Military D.I.s shame people all the time, and I'd say their results are pretty solid.
Actively trying to stay fat is thinphobic and healthphobic.
They won't like any word that you use to categorize the fact that they are overweight, because it will point out that they are overweight. This is a war of definitions, not actual words themselves.