Absolutely! Did you ask your daughter her career goals? Is it possible that the school she chose was the best place to go for her career aspirations? What if she wanted to attend a trade school? Would you have paid for that? Or does a female mechanic/ plumber/electrician/ you get the point not fit with your vision of your daughter’s destiny? Sounds like you are more interested in the “status” of your daughter’s education than you are about her actual goals.
@@Black-Rose12 I rarely meet a fellow student of pure common sense, so when I hear the truth stated so plainly, it hits like the punchline to a joke. I am not ashamed to admit I laughed at this. thank you.
No he is TA, not because of not providing money. Which she did not ask for. But for refusing to provide the paperwork so she could receive financial aid, the paperwork that proves he wont be financially supporting her education and that her application for financial aid is not a scam from a well off family to game the system.
What… it’s college money set aside for her… so it should be for her to spend on college in anyway she sees fit. Also, depending on the state, you can start your degree with community college then transfer those credits over to a state college. This gives you the degree from a state college at a lesser cost. So not only is he an AH. He’s a moron as well.
YTA. She picked the school she wanted to go to and reconciled with the fact that you wouldn’t support financially. Her solution to you not paying is financial aid which you still would not help her secure. Regardless, you can’t force your kids to go to the school you want and it would have cost you nothing to fill out the forms she needed.
@@rodrigojose8724 He said he would pay for private college but would not pay community one, Hence why I said he was paying for it and he was, She just didn't wanted a private college for some dumb reason. Yeah collage is lot of money but if someone else is paying for you then its not and also it had increased her chances to be more successful, Not guaranteed but at least odds would be in her favor, He was just looking out for her.
I dont think so investing in a childs higher education is a very serious investment, the op made a serious plan for all his kids and communicated it from the start. I don't understand why people are always rooting for consequence less decision making. If you have been given an option and dont accept the terms associated with it you simply cant have it. Just as shes free to choose what she does in life the dad is also free to pick and choose what aspects he feels comfortable investing in. Its very entitled to expect your parents to roll over once you are an adult. Hes already fulfilled his responsibility to raise you and as an added bonus wanted to pay for regular University. Its fine if you dont want that but holding it against him is not justified in my books. You cant always get your cake and eat it too. The way op communicated might be harsh but just on a standing point of view, he didn't do anything wrong.
I don't think he's a jerk. she's not entitled to him supporting efforts he refuses to support. unlike most people who get into these sorts of spats, he has also stated that he's made himself crystal clear on this point, so she was doing this thing despite how he felt about the matter. she can't do this thing he's against but then expect his cooperation. this is not to say that his stance is "good" or "correct", but simply that he has one, and that he's entitled to stick by it. she's entitled to go to community college. regarding his stance, I have little to say. but what I'm trying to communicate is like... I don't think it's absolutely unacceptable. but.. even if it WERE something that's indisputably unacceptable by most people, like "you can't go to college unless you agree to an arranged marriage with this man" or "if you date a guy of a certain race, I'll disown you", he makes his stance clear. you can't then go and do the exact thing he just made a line in the sand about, but then feel entitled to his support regarding that very thing. make something happen on your own power and stop blaming other people for your inabilities.
No he is TA, not because of not providing money. Which she did not ask for. But for refusing to provide the paperwork so she could receive financial aid, the paperwork that proves he wont be financially supporting her education and that her application for financial aid is not a scam from a well off family to game the system.
@@idminister well, the point I was making is that he doesn't have to help her in any way, including that way, to do something that he doesn't support. it's his right. and it's her right to figure out how to get that done, but without his help, which she did.
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I know the dad's a jerk but man did the daughter blow it. I'd kill to have a dad pay for my college.
Absolutely! Did you ask your daughter her career goals? Is it possible that the school she chose was the best place to go for her career aspirations? What if she wanted to attend a trade school? Would you have paid for that? Or does a female mechanic/ plumber/electrician/ you get the point not fit with your vision of your daughter’s destiny? Sounds like you are more interested in the “status” of your daughter’s education than you are about her actual goals.
“Community college” and “best place for your career aspirations” should not be in the same line
@@Black-Rose12 I rarely meet a fellow student of pure common sense, so when I hear the truth stated so plainly, it hits like the punchline to a joke. I am not ashamed to admit I laughed at this. thank you.
Nta, a bit of jerk sure, but it seemed like he it made to clear the college funds were not for a community college.
Nta she knew the whole time and kept playing around she proabbaly just wanted any spare money left over
No he is TA, not because of not providing money. Which she did not ask for. But for refusing to provide the paperwork so she could receive financial aid, the paperwork that proves he wont be financially supporting her education and that her application for financial aid is not a scam from a well off family to game the system.
What… it’s college money set aside for her… so it should be for her to spend on college in anyway she sees fit.
Also, depending on the state, you can start your degree with community college then transfer those credits over to a state college. This gives you the degree from a state college at a lesser cost.
So not only is he an AH. He’s a moron as well.
Definitely TA
Yta
YTA. She picked the school she wanted to go to and reconciled with the fact that you wouldn’t support financially. Her solution to you not paying is financial aid which you still would not help her secure. Regardless, you can’t force your kids to go to the school you want and it would have cost you nothing to fill out the forms she needed.
How YTA? He is paying for it didn't he?
No, he wasn't paying for the community college, and was gatekeeping her from getting there not sending her his information, definetly the YTAH
@@rodrigojose8724 He said he would pay for private college but would not pay community one, Hence why I said he was paying for it and he was, She just didn't wanted a private college for some dumb reason.
Yeah collage is lot of money but if someone else is paying for you then its not and also it had increased her chances to be more successful, Not guaranteed but at least odds would be in her favor, He was just looking out for her.
@@formanga8871Yeah it doesn’t make sense if he’s covering everything why she wanted community college unless she’s a terrible student
@@Catherine.Dorian. That's the think I am asking, He willing to cover everything for private collage of her like he did with her other siblings.
@@rodrigojose8724 so she can decide what to do with her education but he can't decide what he wants to do with his money?
I dont think so investing in a childs higher education is a very serious investment, the op made a serious plan for all his kids and communicated it from the start. I don't understand why people are always rooting for consequence less decision making. If you have been given an option and dont accept the terms associated with it you simply cant have it. Just as shes free to choose what she does in life the dad is also free to pick and choose what aspects he feels comfortable investing in. Its very entitled to expect your parents to roll over once you are an adult. Hes already fulfilled his responsibility to raise you and as an added bonus wanted to pay for regular University. Its fine if you dont want that but holding it against him is not justified in my books. You cant always get your cake and eat it too. The way op communicated might be harsh but just on a standing point of view, he didn't do anything wrong.
Excuse me? Community college IS a real college thank you very much! YTA!
Yeahhh suree buddy 👀
It’s really not let’s nit pretend like it is
Yup YTA
You're both TA. You refused to accept that she wanted to go to a different college of her choice and she was sneaky in turn.
I don't think he's a jerk. she's not entitled to him supporting efforts he refuses to support. unlike most people who get into these sorts of spats, he has also stated that he's made himself crystal clear on this point, so she was doing this thing despite how he felt about the matter. she can't do this thing he's against but then expect his cooperation.
this is not to say that his stance is "good" or "correct", but simply that he has one, and that he's entitled to stick by it. she's entitled to go to community college.
regarding his stance, I have little to say. but what I'm trying to communicate is like... I don't think it's absolutely unacceptable. but.. even if it WERE something that's indisputably unacceptable by most people, like "you can't go to college unless you agree to an arranged marriage with this man" or "if you date a guy of a certain race, I'll disown you", he makes his stance clear. you can't then go and do the exact thing he just made a line in the sand about, but then feel entitled to his support regarding that very thing. make something happen on your own power and stop blaming other people for your inabilities.
No he is TA, not because of not providing money. Which she did not ask for. But for refusing to provide the paperwork so she could receive financial aid, the paperwork that proves he wont be financially supporting her education and that her application for financial aid is not a scam from a well off family to game the system.
@@idminister well, the point I was making is that he doesn't have to help her in any way, including that way, to do something that he doesn't support. it's his right. and it's her right to figure out how to get that done, but without his help, which she did.
Yta