This... i just cried so hard at the thought that someone could verbalize this when I- as someone who suffers from it daily- could never verbalize the words in my head.
@@jessiehwaa Hi Jessie, I overcame it completely by praying daily and reading my bible. The scripture says whom the son sets free is free indeed: be it anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts; anything. For nothing is impossible to whoever believes in him...you can 100% overcome depression if you sincerely ask Jesus to help you, he will do. Just try it tonight...open your heart to him and ask him to remove depression. You will thank me after. Take care..blessings
I have what i call 'closeted depression'. When my depression started, i didnt want to bother anyone with my problem, because i was just a child and things were rough. And i just kept it to myself like i do all my problems and at this point, i am too afraid of what might happen if i reveal that i have been depressed for 10 years. I am too afraid of the way i would be treated, the look on my mothers face when she learns her kid isnt alright. Im just stuck in my dark closet, it is so good to see and hear from people who understand and feel the way i feel, i dont get that much involvement with others like me and its nice to see someone that understands
I have depression for about 4 years now...hided about it for 3 years...but one day I decided to tell people. .it ended up ..they...don't understand. .they only tell me to be positive on my situation. .but I can't blame them ..they have never feel like how I do :'( I feel so lonely...
+ross greaney I always feel that my past, present and future will be just the same..but there are other depressed people who overcame it..so why can't I..
hey, sorry only after seeing the 2nd comment now. this isnt the best place to chat any other social media you wanna add me on where its easier to chat ?
As a depressed person my self, I cried in this video cause non of my friends or family how it feels, and yet you helped me so much cause you described it without me even telling you.. Depression sucks and my depression causes me to do things that are not healthy to me but dangerous and all I get is "don't be stupid that's not necessary"
That was wonderful. When you said "What your going through is valid" I just...words cannot explain. Everything you said is so on point. Thank you Jake.
Thank you so much for making this video. I really needed to hear this tonight. I feel like a lot of videos about depression only talk about the symptoms, but this actually explores it in depth. Thank you, Jake. -Christi
I love that you said it's something only someone who has felt it can explain and that you can only explain it to others who are feeling it. One of the most important things that happened for me, was that my best friend couldn't understand. Instead of getting frustrated and trying to do things to 'make me feel better' he said "i'll never understand how you feel and I'm never going to know what to do, so if there ever is something that I can do, just tell me." And that was one of the first times I had a very meaningful relationship with someone who didn't understand.
the physics metaphor you used in this was the best explanation/comparison of sadness vs. depression i have ever found. people get angry when you tell them you don't know why you are depressed. i don't know. sadness is something you can feel very strongly and you can go to sleep to lessen it a little, and when you wake up it's (sometimes, usually) more bearable. depression is needing to go to sleep and sleeping all the time because depression hangs in the air and follows you around everywhere you go. and not even that explanation really explains depression accurately. thank you for making this video. i feel like thanking you isn't enough.
This was little to nothing short of perfection. It astounds me how many people these past couple years have dealt with anxiety and depression compared to the last few decades. Your Voldemort analogy was great, I talked about my first ever anxiety attack with a close friend and suddenly it became a little less scary. The longer you keep it inside, the more you're fueling it. People just freak out when they deal with someone who's depressed, and I sincerely hope this video makes a difference.
***** I am not so sure its more people, its just more people are being outspoken about how they feel. Which is a good step. Its just too bad so many have to get crushed in the process of we finally understanding. But thats the nature of life.
That message you shared was so beautiful. I've suffered from serious depression, and a lot of my friends, especially one I considered close would say things like, "You're letting yourself be taken by it", "Just be happy", "It's being selfish", and it threw me over the edge. It kept on pounding me in the back of the head, that no one understood why I bottled up my thoughts. And the things they said, I eventually believed, which of course made life a whole lot worse. They still don't understand. But I'm glad that a video like yours happened upon my search, and it inspired me. Such a beautiful message that sheds so much light on what depression is and how to understand it. Thank you so much!
Man, you said it right, I've been swinging in and out of depression for a while now and it's a living hell. My sleep paralysis does nothing to help but I have this friend who is the nicest person ever. She helps me every time I swing into depression in an instant. She drops whatever she's doing and helps me having hours of conversation with me just to pull me through depression and if it weren't for her I probably would not be alive. People need to understand depression and you, Jake, are doing a great job informing people about it. You are amazing
I can't thank you enough for this video. I watched your social anxiety video prior to watching this one. And I can honestly say I've never had someone perfectly articulate exactly what I'm feeling before. You've said everything I wish I could say, because I quite honestly don't know how to explain how I feel and what I've been experiencing for many years now. You've got me in tears. Thank you thank you thank you so much for this. You're so inspiring.
Two of the people I love most in this life suffer from severe depression. This video helped my understand them that much more, and be there for them. THANK YOU!!
I have been surrounding myself with and piling on negativity. It's just really nice to hear someone speak about this positively without making it sound fake or ingenuine. I really appreciated this...
i watched this when it first came out and i was in a really bad place. This is the video that convinced me to finally talk to someone and it changed my life for the better. You did so so much for me Jake, thank you.
I’ve been dealing with depression on and off for 3 years now and no one understood. They’d ask all the time, “why are you depressed?” Or, “just be happy”. It would frustrate me because I felt like I couldn’t talk to anyone or tell them how I would truly feel. This video helped my boyfriend understand and look at it another way. Thank you so much!
Thank you so much. There was always something about you that I felt I connected with somehow but I couldn't find what that was. I've struggled with a pretty bad anxiety and depression disorder for 3 and a half years. I often search for people who understood me and know how I felt and how much that sucked and it took me a REALLY long time to find those people. Thank you so much for talking about this and explaining this. When I watched a video, it's rare that I'm like "Oh my gosh! Yes!!!" But you really spoke to me and I just wanted to thank you. It's a dream of mine to meet you and Olan, I hope one day that can happen. Thank you, sir. I hope you are doing well.
this right now is a god send. my Wife is VERY depressed and most of the time its next to impossible for me to wrap my head around it because i have never dealt with depression and dont know what its like. that said we are finally in a position to start getting her help and this helping me to get an idea of where she is at and how i can better support her. thank you you beautiful Human Being!
Depression us the loneliest place. I've suffered from it since early childhood but didn't realise it wasn't meant to be that way. I finally accepted that I needed help. It's been 2 years since I started getting help and I'm on the road to recovery. It's a long painful journey but it's worth it.
i watch this video repeatedly every time i go to bed. It gives me a reason to get up in the morning. Thank you for this Jake it will forever be inspirational to me. Get better soon mate and always keep fighting :)
I have suffered from depression for years and I have tried so hard to live a normal life. Career, Travel, Marriage, but I have come to realize that I need help. I saw this video because I finally had the motivation to want to change. I am currently starting my life over, and I seek change. I seek people that can relate with what I am dealing with. People that don't have depression seem to think that I have been making up excuses and it's hard to explain to them because they don't listen. Great Video.
Yes. I have major, reoccurring and moderate depression and also anxiety. I have suffered most of my life from it but was diagnosed almost 4 years ago. Single mom. I needed help and I'm glad I did it. Thank u for posting this.
"There's no reason to be sad" is something I hear on a weekly basis. It's so hard to explain what I feel, because people in my life have never dealt with depression. And sometimes I can't even get it out, i'll talk slow, it's hard to just get words out. And as you said about not being able to see your life without fear/anxiety, that's how I feel every day. I've dealt with this for 13 years and it's become my norm, I can't even see a world for me where I wouldn't be anxious and miserable all the time. I don't even understand how to do that or what it would be like, this is all I know.
Neonavery, I went through it when I lost all the money I worked for in my business. I was frauded went to zero and couldn't pay my rent. My sister in law helped me pay for the 1st 3 months. I was so depressed and stressed and couldnt afford to put food on my table. I overcame depression when I decided to completely decided to relinquish completely to Christ and surrendered 100% to his power to rescue through prayer, fasting and forgiveness. I read my bible everyday and felt like a whole new being, this awesome peace was constantly all over me that I literally forgot my problems. I kept crying to God, and lifted the entire burden off my shoulders! 6 months later, I got a deal to supply food stuffs four times big the money I lost. I was in total shock, it's only God that can 100% rescue you. Let no man lie you or any demon from hell. It's only Christ Jesus who can 100% redeem you from depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, drugs! You can never liberate yourself with your own power, you will eventually slip back. Salvation is free, u went pay any dime to a counselor! Come to Christ for complete freedom, you will thank me later. luv you and blessings!
This video is unbelievably helpful, Jake! I've never had any form of Depression, but I've been looking for a good explanation so I can be more encouraging/helpful to those who do. This is the best one I've heard, and from one of my favorite people too! Thanks, Jake!
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! Tried so hard to explain to people who have never had depression. One thing I tried explaining was depression is not sadness, sadness is a symptom of depression.
Thanks for making this video man I have social anxiety which is probably related to depression I appreciate the realistic and non judgemental approach keep doing what you are doing because giving people hope in life is priceless
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Had anxiety and depression at different levels for over 10 years and only just seeing some slight progress now. This last year has been probably the best of my life just for my own identity and self-esteem and opening up a little bit. I owe a lot of it not just to my own hard work and some important people about me, but also to videos like yours. The internet is amazing if used in the right way and it's a big relief to here from other guys with similar experiences to mine. I definitely think that more guys need to open up about stuff like this because mental illness is still seen as weak or needy, especially in the UK anyways. Obviously women and girls suffer exactly the same things but I think there's another level for guys because they're often expected to be stronger and more stoic and self-reliant. Also, I think it's often pretty hard to tell when you or someone around you needs help (again, especially in guys cos they're usually more desperate to hide it). There still needs to be more public awareness/understanding about the difference between being down or fed-up and having depression or anxiety problems. I think when I'm ready I'd like to do my bit to help change the culture of 'stiff-upper-lip' and 'man-up' and all that crap, even if it's just posting a video like yours or doing something in my community. Thanks for the inspiration and being so open mate. :)
I really do not know why listening to your speech made me cry .maybe I walked through the depression path myself . thank you so much for making such a video ,I think that whenever or wherever I denied my true feelings pretend ing to be a strong girl ,there is a missing thing here .
Amazing video...one of the best I've seen on the subject. I think I literally spoke out loud to the video a couple of time agreeing with you...lol. I know and am still feeling everyday the types of things that you described. But every time I hear a formally depressed person say "I'm happy now". It gives me a little more hope Thanks!
Thanks. I hate feeling this way. Nothing feels right. No direction or motivation. Afraid to go out at times. Empty inside. Awaiting someone to speak to me so I can live through some of what they are feeling . Don't care about myself . Lots of a he's and pain . Refuse to take anything for it. I want to move on somehow but my feet are in quicksand
Total agree in not trying to run away from depression. For me there are 3 mammal responses to fear: fight, flee and freeze. I'm a zen meditator, and I have explored the roots of what for me is depression, and I found that was the freeze response to a fear, so I agree with you that the worst thing to do is to try to think there is not reason to feel depressed, my philosophy in life is: there is always a reason for everything, even depression. So if I get in contact with the fear that is causing me the freeze response, then as soon as I find the roots of it and I make it conscious the depression goes away automatically. Of course I'm not a bipolar, I think in the case of bipolarity may be something else or more severe. Thanks for you video very nice.
Thank you so much... +Jake Sidwell .... for verbalizing my thoughts... I really need somebody really close to me who can listen to me without judging... But there's none who can do it...😢😢 😭😭 I really feel hopeless and worthless...
This was a really interesting video, coming from someone who is not/has not been depressed. I have had friends with depression though, and I feel this helps a bit in understanding them now. It's also interesting in that I have my own invisible illness, neurocardiogenic syncope. It's different in that my autonomic nervous system doesn't work correctly, which affects the rest of my body. I simply make the connection in that outwards, you can't tell I have it and many people say "Nothing's wrong" or "Get over it." Seemingly long paragraph aside, I appreciated this video. Thank you.
This is the second video of yours that I've seen and I really admire your honesty. I guess you're helping people through your videos and I like that you started speaking first before advising people. I hope things go well for you ^^
Thank you so much. I was looking for a video that would help my fiance try to understand what its like for me. That very day I was going to check myself in to be held from doing something I know would affect my family forever ❤️ Thank you
i have a boyfriend who thinks my depression isn’t real and says he will never understand it. its nice having other people like you saying things like this so i know i’m not crazy.
God bless you, my brother in Christ. I love you dearly. I have never heard or read anything that described depression as clearly and simply as you just did. May the Lord bless you and keep you safe. Florence Ann
its hard to explain... when i am trying to, people always say "get over it! just stay positive try do something you like" while the stuff i like is not interesting suddenly...
I'm 48 and my Dad still says get over it ! My Mom who I miss use to say it too. She died along with my younger Sister when I was 21. I became an alcoholic and went to jail many times ! This didn't help the anxiety and depression that I already had before they died. I'm now and always have been single and no children. I can't handle taking care of myself besides those responsibilities. I was an honor student in a private school. I have musical and artistic talents ! I could have done anything ! It all went to waste because I fear everything. I still live in my hometown and never had the balls to try something different. I guess I'm comfortably miserable.
I’ve dealt with severe social anxiety all my life! I feel like when put into a social situation with others where I’m anxious, my body decides to not work properly. My mind either goes blank, or I know what I want to say I just feel physically stuck by fear to where I can’t seem to get the words out and if I do, it comes out in a mere whisper too quiet for even me to hear sometimes. I feel like I can relate to others who stutter so much, because in a way my social anxiety is like a stutter in the brain, where I get stuck on the sentence, unable to get it out because of fear. It’s bad enough to where it’s even affecting me at my simple job, at McDonald’s. I’ve developed a bad coping skill, where I am usually extremely quiet, almost mute, in social situations. This happens to me everywhere, school, work, the only place it doesn’t happen to me at is when I’m at home. This bad coping skill only makes it even worse, and even more challenging to try and break the nasty cycle of fear and me not talking, because it has become a habit. A very bad, hard to break habit. It doesn't help that this learned helplessness coping mechanism, lead me to not have as much experience in social situations growing up, leading me to where I am probably deficit in some of my social skills, or have poor social skills. I was just wondering if I was the only one out there in the world who feels like this, or if anyone else can relate?! Also your video is very beautiful and has a very powerful message to it! Keep doing what your doing! :)
wow, you have made more sense than most of the people I've seen. this has dictated my life so long.. since my dad passed away I've not been the same. and I've not understood what it was.
Great explanation of depression and its difference from sadness. This helped me understand depression more deeply. I'm sure I will probably borrow some of the phrases you said when I'm in a situation where I'm needing to explain depression to someone. You said this is your last video on the subject of anxiety and depression. But you might have more thoughts on a different aspect that you want to make a video about later, and you might not. If you do, don't let what you said hold you back from making another because I'm sure it would help people like this has.
Same. I’m about to break up with him because I can’t put him through this anymore. I don’t even feel like I’m in a relationship. I feel I need to fix myself before being in a relationship. He doesn’t understand but he is there for me always but I know this hurts him.
Thank you . I can't talk about my depression with my family. It makes it difficult. I have to fake my way through things . The down side to that is when you can stop being fake you crash. It is living two lives and it is exhausting .
I've been depressed on and off for three and a half years, and I'm not depressed right now-- fact I'm happy--but I've become categorized as "the depressed girl" to all my extended family. They send me everything depression-related. I got a small book on dealing with depression from my grandmother two weeks ago and my dad sent me a link to a comic on depression and anxiety. I am not depressed. I do not want to be reminded that I used to be depressed every single day. Do you now what I mean? What do I do to stop that?
Anne Warke Yes. 99% of the time, being direct with people is the quickest and healthiest way to communicate Tell them what you just told me. That the constant nagging of depression isn't actually coming from the depression but from the people around you, and that a healthy thought life begins when you refocus your attention on being active, creative, and emotive. I hope that helps.
Just tell them how you feel. Don't be upset about their ignorance. People are imperfect, but just know that they speak without understanding. I know that it's enough on your plate. I personally felt like people should have been more understanding. Explain to them that depression is like cancer. If a person's cancer is in submition, while it's nice to give them presents that improve their health, such as organic food or gym memberships, it's not helpful to always remind them of the disease. They just want to feel like they're helping, but really it's them that should do the research on depression. You already know enough. Don't give up, and remember, there's always sunshine after it rains, you just have to weather it.
Anne Warke wow! Your family is sure trying to reach out to you it would seem. I hope they can be there for you while your not depressed as well. I wish you well wherever you are on the spectrum
It gradually creeps in like sand through a hourglass over several days/weeks. It peaks at a random severity level and stays there for weeks/months. Just like it slowly creeped in, eventually it slowly leaves over several days/weeks. Most suicides are the inability to find relief from the excruiating misery.
I believe people are drawn to 2 facts in this video : 1) you speak from your heart and you are very articulate and intelligent 2) you are very handsome
Thnx... that really help me and motivate me to continue 😘 panic attack is so hard to live with... first time i had it... i thought i was going to die.... 1 over 4 ppl has a mental illness... so we r not alone... but being in the age of 16... is really hard to suffer from depression especially when my friend , teacher nor my family understand my attitude and blame me for that... it would be so grate to have someone who is near me and understand me.... but whatever ur video really help me thx 😘
For me it’s sadness.. I don’t know anything else, it’s what I’m kinda comfortable with even though it’s still painful.😔 my brain is messed up.. thank u for the video.
U understand it so well and I normally feel like a peace of shit but u have made me feel better and I'm not alone and that there are other people out there that are dealing with what I am going through
im 25 years old and suffering from depression and anxiety for 3 years now. i had a life, a job, friends, school. but after my hospitalization i had to return to my mom's home. She's bipolar and can't seem to understand what I'm going thru. i can't ask her for help because she thinks I'm taking advantage. I'm not sure what exactly to do. I've seek professional help and they only want me to try medicine, but i don't want to be a zombie. i want my life back but i can't seem to find the will anymore.
Every time I have a panic attack, I watch this and it saves me just one more time. I'm worth too much. Thank you so much for this ❤ validation matters. They ask me to not think about too much, only if.
I have depression sometimes, it's not always active. It's mostly active at night when I'm alone and it's only me and my thoughts. I get it probably about once a week.
I have a good friend who sinks in and out of depression. I'm not sure what I can do to help. I've never experienced depression before so I'm not even going to pretend like I know how it feels or what to do. I'm hoping that I can get advice from people who have been through depression or have helped someone with depression before. Please I want to help.
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This... i just cried so hard at the thought that someone could verbalize this when I- as someone who suffers from it daily- could never verbalize the words in my head.
same here!
You are not alone.
We're not alone!❤️
@@jessiehwaa Hi Jessie, I overcame it completely by praying daily and reading my bible. The scripture says whom the son sets free is free indeed: be it anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts; anything. For nothing is impossible to whoever believes in him...you can 100% overcome depression if you sincerely ask Jesus to help you, he will do. Just try it tonight...open your heart to him and ask him to remove depression. You will thank me after. Take care..blessings
Thank you. Little energy to write much else, but just, thank you.
ostrichlives You're not alone. :)
Thank you for this. This is my first time ever experiencing true depression and I feel like no one understands. Thank you
I have what i call 'closeted depression'. When my depression started, i didnt want to bother anyone with my problem, because i was just a child and things were rough. And i just kept it to myself like i do all my problems and at this point, i am too afraid of what might happen if i reveal that i have been depressed for 10 years. I am too afraid of the way i would be treated, the look on my mothers face when she learns her kid isnt alright. Im just stuck in my dark closet, it is so good to see and hear from people who understand and feel the way i feel, i dont get that much involvement with others like me and its nice to see someone that understands
its amazing how far a 5 minute video will go. how much it can help people. thank you so much.
I have depression for about 4 years now...hided about it for 3 years...but one day I decided to tell people. .it ended up ..they...don't understand. .they only tell me to be positive on my situation. .but I can't blame them ..they have never feel like how I do :'( I feel so lonely...
you are not alone :) i know at times it may feel that way but there is people like us all around. just got to find them.
+ross greaney thanks :')
+ross greaney I always feel that my past, present and future will be just the same..but there are other depressed people who overcame it..so why can't I..
Ariana Alias no bother :) stay strong :)
hey, sorry only after seeing the 2nd comment now. this isnt the best place to chat any other social media you wanna add me on where its easier to chat ?
As a depressed person my self, I cried in this video cause non of my friends or family how it feels, and yet you helped me so much cause you described it without me even telling you.. Depression sucks and my depression causes me to do things that are not healthy to me but dangerous and all I get is "don't be stupid that's not necessary"
That was wonderful. When you said "What your going through is valid" I just...words cannot explain. Everything you said is so on point. Thank you Jake.
Thank you so much for making this video. I really needed to hear this tonight. I feel like a lot of videos about depression only talk about the symptoms, but this actually explores it in depth. Thank you, Jake. -Christi
I love that you said it's something only someone who has felt it can explain and that you can only explain it to others who are feeling it. One of the most important things that happened for me, was that my best friend couldn't understand. Instead of getting frustrated and trying to do things to 'make me feel better' he said "i'll never understand how you feel and I'm never going to know what to do, so if there ever is something that I can do, just tell me." And that was one of the first times I had a very meaningful relationship with someone who didn't understand.
the physics metaphor you used in this was the best explanation/comparison of sadness vs. depression i have ever found. people get angry when you tell them you don't know why you are depressed. i don't know. sadness is something you can feel very strongly and you can go to sleep to lessen it a little, and when you wake up it's (sometimes, usually) more bearable. depression is needing to go to sleep and sleeping all the time because depression hangs in the air and follows you around everywhere you go. and not even that explanation really explains depression accurately. thank you for making this video. i feel like thanking you isn't enough.
This was little to nothing short of perfection. It astounds me how many people these past couple years have dealt with anxiety and depression compared to the last few decades. Your Voldemort analogy was great, I talked about my first ever anxiety attack with a close friend and suddenly it became a little less scary. The longer you keep it inside, the more you're fueling it. People just freak out when they deal with someone who's depressed, and I sincerely hope this video makes a difference.
***** I am not so sure its more people, its just more people are being outspoken about how they feel. Which is a good step. Its just too bad so many have to get crushed in the process of we finally understanding. But thats the nature of life.
That message you shared was so beautiful. I've suffered from serious depression, and a lot of my friends, especially one I considered close would say things like, "You're letting yourself be taken by it", "Just be happy", "It's being selfish", and it threw me over the edge. It kept on pounding me in the back of the head, that no one understood why I bottled up my thoughts. And the things they said, I eventually believed, which of course made life a whole lot worse. They still don't understand. But I'm glad that a video like yours happened upon my search, and it inspired me. Such a beautiful message that sheds so much light on what depression is and how to understand it.
Thank you so much!
Man, you said it right, I've been swinging in and out of depression for a while now and it's a living hell. My sleep paralysis does nothing to help but I have this friend who is the nicest person ever. She helps me every time I swing into depression in an instant. She drops whatever she's doing and helps me having hours of conversation with me just to pull me through depression and if it weren't for her I probably would not be alive. People need to understand depression and you, Jake, are doing a great job informing people about it. You are amazing
I can't thank you enough for this video. I watched your social anxiety video prior to watching this one. And I can honestly say I've never had someone perfectly articulate exactly what I'm feeling before. You've said everything I wish I could say, because I quite honestly don't know how to explain how I feel and what I've been experiencing for many years now. You've got me in tears. Thank you thank you thank you so much for this. You're so inspiring.
Two of the people I love most in this life suffer from severe depression. This video helped my understand them that much more, and be there for them. THANK YOU!!
I have been surrounding myself with and piling on negativity. It's just really nice to hear someone speak about this positively without making it sound fake or ingenuine. I really appreciated this...
i watched this when it first came out and i was in a really bad place. This is the video that convinced me to finally talk to someone and it changed my life for the better. You did so so much for me Jake, thank you.
This made me cry quite a bit. Thank you.
I’ve been dealing with depression on and off for 3 years now and no one understood. They’d ask all the time, “why are you depressed?” Or, “just be happy”. It would frustrate me because I felt like I couldn’t talk to anyone or tell them how I would truly feel. This video helped my boyfriend understand and look at it another way. Thank you so much!
Thank you so much. There was always something about you that I felt I connected with somehow but I couldn't find what that was. I've struggled with a pretty bad anxiety and depression disorder for 3 and a half years. I often search for people who understood me and know how I felt and how much that sucked and it took me a REALLY long time to find those people. Thank you so much for talking about this and explaining this. When I watched a video, it's rare that I'm like "Oh my gosh! Yes!!!" But you really spoke to me and I just wanted to thank you. It's a dream of mine to meet you and Olan, I hope one day that can happen. Thank you, sir. I hope you are doing well.
this right now is a god send. my Wife is VERY depressed and most of the time its next to impossible for me to wrap my head around it because i have never dealt with depression and dont know what its like. that said we are finally in a position to start getting her help and this helping me to get an idea of where she is at and how i can better support her. thank you you beautiful Human Being!
Depression us the loneliest place. I've suffered from it since early childhood but didn't realise it wasn't meant to be that way. I finally accepted that I needed help. It's been 2 years since I started getting help and I'm on the road to recovery. It's a long painful journey but it's worth it.
Your videos are so unique and have such honesty to them that not many you tubers have, I love it.
This is exactly it. I can never find the right words. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
i watch this video repeatedly every time i go to bed. It gives me a reason to get up in the morning. Thank you for this Jake it will forever be inspirational to me. Get better soon mate and always keep fighting :)
I have suffered from depression for years and I have tried so hard to live a normal life. Career, Travel, Marriage, but I have come to realize that I need help. I saw this video because I finally had the motivation to want to change. I am currently starting my life over, and I seek change. I seek people that can relate with what I am dealing with. People that don't have depression seem to think that I have been making up excuses and it's hard to explain to them because they don't listen. Great Video.
Yes. I have major, reoccurring and moderate depression and also anxiety. I have suffered most of my life from it but was diagnosed almost 4 years ago. Single mom. I needed help and I'm glad I did it. Thank u for posting this.
"There's no reason to be sad" is something I hear on a weekly basis. It's so hard to explain what I feel, because people in my life have never dealt with depression. And sometimes I can't even get it out, i'll talk slow, it's hard to just get words out. And as you said about not being able to see your life without fear/anxiety, that's how I feel every day. I've dealt with this for 13 years and it's become my norm, I can't even see a world for me where I wouldn't be anxious and miserable all the time. I don't even understand how to do that or what it would be like, this is all I know.
Neonavery, I went through it when I lost all the money I worked for in my business. I was frauded went to zero and couldn't pay my rent. My sister in law helped me pay for the 1st 3 months. I was so depressed and stressed and couldnt afford to put food on my table. I overcame depression when I decided to completely decided to relinquish completely to Christ and surrendered 100% to his power to rescue through prayer, fasting and forgiveness. I read my bible everyday and felt like a whole new being, this awesome peace was constantly all over me that I literally forgot my problems. I kept crying to God, and lifted the entire burden off my shoulders! 6 months later, I got a deal to supply food stuffs four times big the money I lost. I was in total shock, it's only God that can 100% rescue you. Let no man lie you or any demon from hell. It's only Christ Jesus who can 100% redeem you from depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, drugs! You can never liberate yourself with your own power, you will eventually slip back. Salvation is free, u went pay any dime to a counselor! Come to Christ for complete freedom, you will thank me later. luv you and blessings!
You're a beautiful person, thank you
This video is unbelievably helpful, Jake! I've never had any form of Depression, but I've been looking for a good explanation so I can be more encouraging/helpful to those who do. This is the best one I've heard, and from one of my favorite people too! Thanks, Jake!
I adore you, sir.
“That’s valid and real”
“You’re not alone”
❤️❤️
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! Tried so hard to explain to people who have never had depression. One thing I tried explaining was depression is not sadness, sadness is a symptom of depression.
You have managed to put into words what I could not. Thank you for taking the time.
Thanks for making this video man I have social anxiety which is probably related to depression I appreciate the realistic and non judgemental approach keep doing what you are doing because giving people hope in life is priceless
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Had anxiety and depression at different levels for over 10 years and only just seeing some slight progress now. This last year has been probably the best of my life just for my own identity and self-esteem and opening up a little bit. I owe a lot of it not just to my own hard work and some important people about me, but also to videos like yours. The internet is amazing if used in the right way and it's a big relief to here from other guys with similar experiences to mine. I definitely think that more guys need to open up about stuff like this because mental illness is still seen as weak or needy, especially in the UK anyways. Obviously women and girls suffer exactly the same things but I think there's another level for guys because they're often expected to be stronger and more stoic and self-reliant. Also, I think it's often pretty hard to tell when you or someone around you needs help (again, especially in guys cos they're usually more desperate to hide it). There still needs to be more public awareness/understanding about the difference between being down or fed-up and having depression or anxiety problems.
I think when I'm ready I'd like to do my bit to help change the culture of 'stiff-upper-lip' and 'man-up' and all that crap, even if it's just posting a video like yours or doing something in my community. Thanks for the inspiration and being so open mate. :)
I really do not know why listening to your speech made me cry .maybe I walked through the depression path myself . thank you so much for making such a video ,I think that whenever or wherever I denied my true feelings pretend ing to be a strong girl ,there is a missing thing here .
Thank you for beautifully articulating what I haven't been able to for years.
Amazing video...one of the best I've seen on the subject. I think I literally spoke out loud to the video a couple of time agreeing with you...lol. I know and am still feeling everyday the types of things that you described. But every time I hear a formally depressed person say "I'm happy now". It gives me a little more hope Thanks!
Thanks. I hate feeling this way. Nothing feels right. No direction or motivation. Afraid to go out at times. Empty inside. Awaiting someone to speak to me so I can live through some of what they are feeling . Don't care about myself . Lots of a he's and pain . Refuse to take anything for it. I want to move on somehow but my feet are in quicksand
Total agree in not trying to run away from depression. For me there are 3 mammal responses to fear: fight, flee and freeze. I'm a zen meditator, and I have explored the roots of what for me is depression, and I found that was the freeze response to a fear, so I agree with you that the worst thing to do is to try to think there is not reason to feel depressed, my philosophy in life is: there is always a reason for everything, even depression. So if I get in contact with the fear that is causing me the freeze response, then as soon as I find the roots of it and I make it conscious the depression goes away automatically. Of course I'm not a bipolar, I think in the case of bipolarity may be something else or more severe. Thanks for you video very nice.
Thank you so much... +Jake Sidwell .... for verbalizing my thoughts... I really need somebody really close to me who can listen to me without judging... But there's none who can do it...😢😢 😭😭 I really feel hopeless and worthless...
spot on to how i am feeling right now! Thankyou for putting into words what myself and many are too afraid to
YOUR OPENNESS TO OTHERS ONLINE IS HELPING ALOT OF PEOPLE, INCLUDING MYSELF CONTUNE OPENING YOUR HEART AND MIND ,GREAT STUFF!!!!🤗🤗🤗
I always thought I was alone... thank u
This is absolutely beautiful. Thank you so much for this :) I also appreciate hearing Jonsi & Alex in the background.
This was a really interesting video, coming from someone who is not/has not been depressed. I have had friends with depression though, and I feel this helps a bit in understanding them now. It's also interesting in that I have my own invisible illness, neurocardiogenic syncope. It's different in that my autonomic nervous system doesn't work correctly, which affects the rest of my body. I simply make the connection in that outwards, you can't tell I have it and many people say "Nothing's wrong" or "Get over it." Seemingly long paragraph aside, I appreciated this video. Thank you.
You're such an amazing person, I completely adore you and am so glad to see how far you've come
Wow! You helped me so much! Your comment about not internalizing things spoke volumes to me! Thank you!
This is the second video of yours that I've seen and I really admire your honesty. I guess you're helping people through your videos and I like that you started speaking first before advising people. I hope things go well for you ^^
This was beautifully said.
Thank you. Seriously, thank you.
I thank you so much. So so much. Really it means so much to me. Thanks.💜 x
Thank you so much. I was looking for a video that would help my fiance try to understand what its like for me. That very day I was going to check myself in to be held from doing something I know would affect my family forever ❤️ Thank you
I needed this, I don't know how to express it.
i have a boyfriend who thinks my depression isn’t real and says he will never understand it. its nice having other people like you saying things like this so i know i’m not crazy.
You would seriously be a wonderful teacher and dad.
Beautifully expressed. Keep being awesome. Thank you
God bless you, my brother in Christ. I love you dearly. I have never heard or read anything that described depression as clearly and simply as you just did. May the Lord bless you and keep you safe.
Florence Ann
its hard to explain... when i am trying to, people always say "get over it! just stay positive try do something you like" while the stuff i like is not interesting suddenly...
I'm 48 and my Dad still says get over it ! My Mom who I miss use to say it too. She died along with my younger Sister when I was 21. I became an alcoholic and went to jail many times ! This didn't help the anxiety and depression that I already had before they died. I'm now and always have been single and no children. I can't handle taking care of myself besides those responsibilities. I was an honor student in a private school. I have musical and artistic talents ! I could have done anything ! It all went to waste because I fear everything. I still live in my hometown and never had the balls to try something different. I guess I'm comfortably miserable.
I’ve dealt with severe social anxiety all my life! I feel like when put into a social situation with others where I’m anxious, my body decides to not work properly. My mind either goes blank, or I know what I want to say I just feel physically stuck by fear to where I can’t seem to get the words out and if I do, it comes out in a mere whisper too quiet for even me to hear sometimes. I feel like I can relate to others who stutter so much, because in a way my social anxiety is like a stutter in the brain, where I get stuck on the sentence, unable to get it out because of fear. It’s bad enough to where it’s even affecting me at my simple job, at McDonald’s. I’ve developed a bad coping skill, where I am usually extremely quiet, almost mute, in social situations. This happens to me everywhere, school, work, the only place it doesn’t happen to me at is when I’m at home. This bad coping skill only makes it even worse, and even more challenging to try and break the nasty cycle of fear and me not talking, because it has become a habit. A very bad, hard to break habit. It doesn't help that this learned helplessness coping mechanism, lead me to not have as much experience in social situations growing up, leading me to where I am probably deficit in some of my social skills, or have poor social skills. I was just wondering if I was the only one out there in the world who feels like this, or if anyone else can relate?!
Also your video is very beautiful and has a very powerful message to it! Keep doing what your doing! :)
wow, you have made more sense than most of the people I've seen. this has dictated my life so long.. since my dad passed away I've not been the same. and I've not understood what it was.
this video deserves an award
Jake Sidwell,
you're an amazing person.
Great explanation of depression and its difference from sadness. This helped me understand depression more deeply. I'm sure I will probably borrow some of the phrases you said when I'm in a situation where I'm needing to explain depression to someone. You said this is your last video on the subject of anxiety and depression. But you might have more thoughts on a different aspect that you want to make a video about later, and you might not. If you do, don't let what you said hold you back from making another because I'm sure it would help people like this has.
trying so hard to get my boyfriend to understand this.
Odd World For Weirdos me too and he just gets mad at me 😔
Same. I’m about to break up with him because I can’t put him through this anymore. I don’t even feel like I’m in a relationship. I feel I need to fix myself before being in a relationship. He doesn’t understand but he is there for me always but I know this hurts him.
Ditto
Emotional blackmail apparently.... I just need him to understand
Same! :( When I talk about it, all he tells me is “cheer up” and “it’ll pass”
I don’t know what to tell him anymore.
Thank you . I can't talk about my depression with my family. It makes it difficult. I have to fake my way through things . The down side to that is when you can stop being fake you crash. It is living two lives and it is exhausting .
thank you so much for making this and sharing your experience. congratulations on overcoming your demons xx
You describe how I feel , but I can't explain it to people
Hi Jake,
Thank you so much for making this video and helping to change society's limited perceptions of Depression.
thanks a lot jake for sharing this, i think i could use this video to explain what exactly happening in my mind, thanks a lot
I've been depressed on and off for three and a half years, and I'm not depressed right now-- fact I'm happy--but I've become categorized as "the depressed girl" to all my extended family. They send me everything depression-related. I got a small book on dealing with depression from my grandmother two weeks ago and my dad sent me a link to a comic on depression and anxiety. I am not depressed. I do not want to be reminded that I used to be depressed every single day. Do you now what I mean? What do I do to stop that?
Anne Warke You can stop it by telling them you aren't currently depressed, ask them to stop, possibly send them this video.
Hey amen to that.
Anne Warke Yes. 99% of the time, being direct with people is the quickest and healthiest way to communicate Tell them what you just told me. That the constant nagging of depression isn't actually coming from the depression but from the people around you, and that a healthy thought life begins when you refocus your attention on being active, creative, and emotive. I hope that helps.
Just tell them how you feel. Don't be upset about their ignorance. People are imperfect, but just know that they speak without understanding. I know that it's enough on your plate. I personally felt like people should have been more understanding. Explain to them that depression is like cancer. If a person's cancer is in submition, while it's nice to give them presents that improve their health, such as organic food or gym memberships, it's not helpful to always remind them of the disease. They just want to feel like they're helping, but really it's them that should do the research on depression. You already know enough. Don't give up, and remember, there's always sunshine after it rains, you just have to weather it.
Anne Warke wow! Your family is sure trying to reach out to you it would seem. I hope they can be there for you while your not depressed as well. I wish you well wherever you are on the spectrum
Oh my goodness. Thank you.
I watch this video when ever I'm depressed thank u 💞
Thank you for this... Jake
Thank you so much for this. Just...thank you. I don't have to explain why beceause you will understand why this is so meaningfull for me!
this made me cry
It gradually creeps in like sand through a hourglass over several days/weeks. It peaks at a random severity level and stays there for weeks/months. Just like it slowly creeped in, eventually it slowly leaves over several days/weeks. Most suicides are the inability to find relief from the excruiating misery.
Thank u so much I have depression and I couldn't explain it much to my friend but I couldn't so I am going to show him this video
I believe people are drawn to 2 facts in this video :
1) you speak from your heart and you are very articulate and intelligent
2) you are very handsome
Thnx... that really help me and motivate me to continue 😘 panic attack is so hard to live with... first time i had it... i thought i was going to die.... 1 over 4 ppl has a mental illness... so we r not alone... but being in the age of 16... is really hard to suffer from depression especially when my friend , teacher nor my family understand my attitude and blame me for that... it would be so grate to have someone who is near me and understand me.... but whatever ur video really help me thx 😘
This video has helped me so much u have helped me understand more about it and what it is
For me it’s sadness.. I don’t know anything else, it’s what I’m kinda comfortable with even though it’s still painful.😔 my brain is messed up.. thank u for the video.
"Thinking about it isn't gonna do a damned thing." - Revy
U understand it so well and I normally feel like a peace of shit but u have made me feel better and I'm not alone and that there are other people out there that are dealing with what I am going through
Thank you for this incredible video💕
Thank you....
This is so important!
Thank you for making this.
im 25 years old and suffering from depression and anxiety for 3 years now. i had a life, a job, friends, school. but after my hospitalization i had to return to my mom's home. She's bipolar and can't seem to understand what I'm going thru. i can't ask her for help because she thinks I'm taking advantage.
I'm not sure what exactly to do. I've seek professional help and they only want me to try medicine, but i don't want to be a zombie. i want my life back but i can't seem to find the will anymore.
thank you! so much i wanted to say
thank you for this.
this is so true.
Every time I have a panic attack, I watch this and it saves me just one more time. I'm worth too much. Thank you so much for this ❤ validation matters. They ask me to not think about too much, only if.
I have depression sometimes, it's not always active. It's mostly active at night when I'm alone and it's only me and my thoughts. I get it probably about once a week.
I tried explaining to my stepdad and he said stop isolating yourself and you need to eat properly
Thank you.
I have a good friend who sinks in and out of depression. I'm not sure what I can do to help. I've never experienced depression before so I'm not even going to pretend like I know how it feels or what to do. I'm hoping that I can get advice from people who have been through depression or have helped someone with depression before. Please I want to help.