Even Your Best Possessions Are Garbage (Stop Clinging to This Junk!)

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 356

  • @TheMinimalists
    @TheMinimalists  10 місяців тому +31

    What’s one treasure you owned that eventually turned into junk?

    • @user-ys8wb9ts1l
      @user-ys8wb9ts1l 10 місяців тому +8

      Our family held onto a box of hand written notes and index cards from my Great Aunt Maude’s research at Berkeley in the 1930’s. Eventually I was entrusted with the potentially good resource materials in the early 1980s. When I finally decided to “give it a go”, the treasure proved to be disconnected gibberish.

    • @goofygirl1311
      @goofygirl1311 10 місяців тому +25

      Collectible dolls that my grandmother gave to me in childhood. I tried selling them, I tried giving them away - no takers. I finally dropped them off at a donation site where I'm sure they promptly got pitched straight into the trash. People have entire houses filled with old stuff like that. I'm not going to be one of them.

    • @haiku755
      @haiku755 10 місяців тому +4

      There won't be junk if some possessions that we have ,are not out of order and are used to do something useful and good to somebody or to ourselves because we are physical too .

    • @jessicabauer7958
      @jessicabauer7958 10 місяців тому +1

      My childhood ceiling lamp after years of playing with my brother we broke it to bits, we truly trashed it hahhaha

    • @robbiedazzler6358
      @robbiedazzler6358 10 місяців тому +9

      My children are my trophy’s I want and care for nothing else! Take it all I never totally owned it, everything’s temporary everything!

  • @dougmoring7321
    @dougmoring7321 10 місяців тому +222

    Three stages of life: (1) Desiring things, (2) Acquiring things, (3) Disposing of things.

    • @user-hw9vf4pl9s
      @user-hw9vf4pl9s 9 місяців тому +31

      I was just thinking this exact thing last week as I began selling off much of my "treasures". I want a simple, simple life of a tiny house, a garden, some chickens and to be able to foster elder dogs who need a place to just be before they pass on.

    • @autumnnite1803
      @autumnnite1803 9 місяців тому +4

      @@user-hw9vf4pl9s sounds lovely, I hope you get to live it

    • @tracygaluszynski1868
      @tracygaluszynski1868 9 місяців тому +14

      I'm in the disposing stage. And it feels so good.

    • @briannab5296
      @briannab5296 9 місяців тому +3

      First half of life we gather, feathering our nests .. then the second half we push it away, tearing it all apart.

    • @PraveenSriram
      @PraveenSriram 9 місяців тому +3

      That is really true

  • @davidteovogel3482
    @davidteovogel3482 9 місяців тому +75

    "Everything in life only exists in different stages of becoming garbage." - Jerry Seinfeld

    • @PraveenSriram
      @PraveenSriram 9 місяців тому +4

      I didn’t think of that. That is very true

  • @arlenelicklider4643
    @arlenelicklider4643 10 місяців тому +87

    I had shelves of trophies and awards from my younger years, then I experienced a catastrophic health event, my husband noticed that I would sit in my wheelchair staring at them crying. He encouraged me to get rid of them, once they were gone it was amazing, I was looking ahead at adjusting to the new me instead of mourning the former me. ( Terrible grammar, but you get the point) Holding on to the past is not good.

    • @calisongbird
      @calisongbird 10 місяців тому +1

      ❤❤❤

    • @siobhanmulvey
      @siobhanmulvey 10 місяців тому +5

      Yes! I have a few items (2 blankets) I’m holding onto from my beloved dog and I don’t love these items but they remind me of him. I tell myself now he lives w me in present moment in my heart abd let’s get myself a blanket I love and he would love better too as he is in my heart experiencing all I am NOW. So I don’t need to cling to the past. I have a few items I go love of his abd I’m okay keeping those but I know I’ll let those go except for like 3-4 objects I cherish of his until I’m ready to let go of those, too. ❤

  • @Golfergirlz
    @Golfergirlz 8 місяців тому +10

    @theminimalists I had to empty my mothers house out when she died.. you inspire me to throw everything out! I want my children to be stress free when I die.

  • @RCPrepping
    @RCPrepping 9 місяців тому +77

    Matthew 6:19-21 Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal; but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal.

  • @prestonstephens7719
    @prestonstephens7719 9 місяців тому +11

    Over the years, I’ve seen different family and friends long term rented storage units. Almost always the rent paid was far more than the actual value of the contents.

  • @sw6118
    @sw6118 9 місяців тому +34

    Your house and the things you collect are a museum to who you are and were, some people like museums, others don’t.

    • @tombryan1
      @tombryan1 9 місяців тому +2

      Great analogy

  • @PankajPoddar
    @PankajPoddar 9 місяців тому +16

    It is the most beautiful podcast I ever heard. When I look at the awards, mementos, Souvenirs, and trophies piled up in my living room and office, I realize that one day, I will leave this city after retirement, and all these will become trash. Finally, our body becomes trash when we die - the same body we loved and cared for. I wish this wisdom had come much earlier to us. Then, our quality of life becomes so different. We start seeing things, momentary pleasures, in a very other way. We don't attach to objects, people, or situations. Our feverishness goes away for materials.

  • @nabzy28
    @nabzy28 9 місяців тому +65

    I remember having to go clear out the home of a relative that had passed away. As I was finishing up the first day, I clearly remember commenting to another family member who was helping "amazing, isn't it, that you spend an entire life accumulating things and it's all gone over a weekend". It REALLY helped me down that path of what's really important. You'll spend your early years trying to 'keep up' or accumulate as much as you can... all the while, it's costing you TIME. At some point, you realize what is truly valuable...

    • @briannab5296
      @briannab5296 9 місяців тому +4

      Sometimes it's much faster than a weekend. . . .a lovely woman pharmacist, lost every shred of her existence in about one hour. Her daughter murdered her, then set the house on fire which burnt to the ground. Killed her dog, destroyed everything she owned, on top of losing her life and her daughter.
      A family of four plus dog died instantly when the tire blew out on their RV causing it to swerve head on with an 18 wheeler, that driver died too. All within mere minutes there wasn't even enough left of them to bury.
      Yes, what takes years, generations, to build can be completely totally annihilated, destroyed in such a quick minute. It's heartbreaking.

    • @ib272
      @ib272 9 місяців тому

      Going through this right now its taking longer than a weekend but thats inspiration as far as a possible timeframe. In their defense after more than 7 decades you can accumulate a lot. Before internet and removeable drives papers and full file cabinets were the way. The huge amount of clothes, etc...I constantly think Im not having anywhere near this amount of stuff barely buy anything as it is and getting rid of stuff all the time.

    • @bitrudder3792
      @bitrudder3792 9 місяців тому

      @@briannab5296 - What a horrifying story. Just goes to show you, you never know what goes on behind closed doors even when people seem OK.

    • @bitrudder3792
      @bitrudder3792 9 місяців тому

      @@ib272 - I have assisted hoarders a few times, in addition to enjoying watching them on TV. Cautionary tales. I find the idea of Swedish Death Cleaning to be fascinating but I really don’t like the name. The idea is to get rid of things so that whoever has to clean up after you die isn’t going to have a horrible job of it.
      Yesterday I decided to call it Swedish LIFE Cleaning: while I would like to be thoughtful to my spouse and/or offspring who are the ones most likely to deal with my stuff, I get the benefit of clearing things out now. It’s not always easy, because of emotional attachments, hopes and dreams etc. But it’s worth it, and especially worth it to let it be a process that goes on throughout life.
      I know I have too much again anytime I feel impeded, if anything’s in my way as I move through my house. I have a lot of impediments right now because we are shifting and changing things around, with new things coming in and decisions that need to be made about what goes out. Going through old paperwork as well. The annoyance at the file boxes Stacked on the floor all around me, getting in the way when I want to go to a certain part of the room… It gives me fire and passion to get through them, Open up the floor again and move freely.

    • @nmartin5551
      @nmartin5551 9 місяців тому +2

      I had the same experience when an aunt passed. She bought nice things, took good care of them, and much of it couldnt be given away. At least 24 beautifully organized and labeled photo albums. The family albums went to family, but the other dozen? Trash. Mike T pretty much nailed it. It’s easier for me to reduce my holdings having done that. So I owe that to my aunt too!

  • @soccermommyNPC
    @soccermommyNPC 9 місяців тому +59

    I don’t know Mike Tyson, but I also grew up with him being regarded as THE man. Someone with almost God-like strength and prowess. My brothers would have done anything to be him.
    When he tossed that championship belt, I immediately thought of his daughter, who died in a horrific accident back in 2009. I didn’t see it mentioned here, but it makes perfect sense to anyone who has experienced significant loss, especially the unbearable death of a child.
    I wonder if he was thinking about her looking at those prizes, and wondering how she would have been a young adult right now, fresh out of high school, her whole life ahead of her. Of all the memories they never got to experience together because of a random accident on an otherwise uneventful day lost to history. Holidays, losing her first tooth, watching her become her own person. Wondering who she might have grown up to be.
    Of course the belts are garbage. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a more profound testament to the importance of loving those around you. My heart aches for this man. The death of a child never gets easier, you just learn to live with it.

    • @bricks-mortar
      @bricks-mortar 9 місяців тому +2

      👍

    • @BartoszRybacki0
      @BartoszRybacki0 8 місяців тому +1

      It is interesting, how you look at Mike Tyson now he is great example saying that things are garbage, when you look at him few years ago, he is great anti-example of acquiring things, houses, drugs, going bankrupt....

  • @GenerationX1984
    @GenerationX1984 9 місяців тому +25

    As a minimalist, I rarely buy anything unless I plan to eat it or wear it.

    • @GUITARTIME2024
      @GUITARTIME2024 9 місяців тому +7

      I only purchase items that are worn, then eaten. My ham shirt is a real money saver.

    • @thrashpuppy2010
      @thrashpuppy2010 9 місяців тому

      Extra large edible underwear feeds a family of 4.@@GUITARTIME2024

    • @dinocarosi4303
      @dinocarosi4303 9 місяців тому +1

      Well, I knew they created edible underwear for somebody out there.

  • @CharlesBudde-vx6vi
    @CharlesBudde-vx6vi 9 місяців тому +11

    At various times in my life I have had to 'clean up' houses and apartments after tenants, parents and relatives have passed away. The volume AND the substance of what gets thrown into dumpsters is remarkable. Keepsakes very quickly get wadded up and tossed out. Clothing, papers, brick-a-brack and an amazing array of things just go and NO ONE wants it. Shifting the mindset is core. Seeing, actually seeing and understanding what you will wear or use or need is a difficult journey (at first). Once you see the things that simply get thrown into trash bags and made to bye-bye, you change your thinking.

  • @liezl5533
    @liezl5533 9 місяців тому +22

    YES!! FROM FOOD TO THINGS!! WHEN I REALIZE WHAT MATTERS. YOUR HEALTH, YOUR MENTAL STATE, YOUR RELATIONSHIPS AND YOUR SPRITUAL BEING ❤

  • @vivrowe2763
    @vivrowe2763 9 місяців тому +7

    I only keep a few memories that I love. Give a lot of things away, only if they are in good shape. Possessions can become a stupid nuisance to say I might need that, but have not looked for it or remembered I had it.

  • @JoeyJig
    @JoeyJig 9 місяців тому +14

    We recently asked our grown children to either pick up what they had left behind or we would take care of it for them. One asked if we would ship her photos to her, as taking them with her on a plane was not feasible. Three heavy boxes at a cost of $80.00 and they are no longer cluttering up the closet in her old room. Well worth it. Their old dolls, artwork from school, trophies and awards, GARBAGE. They had absolutely no interest in the stuff.

  • @sandraboose3686
    @sandraboose3686 10 місяців тому +34

    This week I cleaned out alot it's all gone. The journey is on. Get rid of crap.😊

    • @erikcaldwell2913
      @erikcaldwell2913 10 місяців тому +1

      Yeah, but I bet there's still those few items you feel guilty about not keeping,, just admit it Sandra🤔😃

    • @craftsmanctfl3493
      @craftsmanctfl3493 10 місяців тому

      @@erikcaldwell2913 You may feel guilty for a while, but that will go away. Holding on to most things only keeps you from truly moving forward.

  • @DC-xc5jo
    @DC-xc5jo 9 місяців тому +8

    One of the most profound movie scenes is in Schindler’s List, when people honor him, and he realizes how many more lives he could have saved if he sold more possessions.

  • @ShatteredRippleBooks
    @ShatteredRippleBooks 9 місяців тому +58

    I'm far from being a minimalist and I am noticing something about my possessions. I feel comforted by them because they are mine. Some things I've had a long time so they feel like old friends. I could never live in a place without things around me, with bare walls. I don't see the reason to do so either. For example my cuddly toys are soft and tactile, colourful and cute. I suffer from anxiety and depression and I feel comforted by touching or holding them. I love books and I'm comforted by flicking through them and looking at the pictures. Minimalism is not a perfect fit for everyone.

    • @FarginBastiges
      @FarginBastiges 9 місяців тому +13

      "Minimalism is not a perfect fit for everyone." And that's the way it should be. We can't live healthy lives either as bare minimalists or as hoarders; there is a happy, healthy medium.

    • @briannab5296
      @briannab5296 9 місяців тому +4

      I feel the same way. Someday when I'm dead & gone all my things will be trash to the rest of the world but in the meantime they bring me much comfort & joy on many levels. When I come home after a real hard day my things are my friends welcoming me back to the soft comfort & sanity of home. I love people as much as anyone else, but people are fickle, can be so hurtful, damaging, abusive, evil, hard hearted, manipulative etc whereas my things aren't.
      Every single thing I own was a blessing from my FatherGod so I hesitate to call it trash, garbage, crap .. even if I've outgrown an item that no longer sustains me, it deserves respect. It's almost like a hard hearted slap in the face of God to consider his gifts as trash. We desire for something and He graciously provides it only for us to turn around and consider it garbage. Or even worse, judgemental critical people condone our blessings as garbage.
      Our cups runneth over with blessings until our cups can no longer hold it all so it gets considered trash.
      Anyone who calls my things trash are one step away from calling ME trash .. but I'm not. I have just as much value in God's heart as everyone else has.

    • @ShatteredRippleBooks
      @ShatteredRippleBooks 9 місяців тому +2

      @@briannab5296 exactly well said!

    • @briannab5296
      @briannab5296 9 місяців тому

      @@ShatteredRippleBooks ... ty

    • @madhumitadevivlogger4781
      @madhumitadevivlogger4781 9 місяців тому +1

      Watching this video i can assume that u r on the way of minimalistic path...i hope soon u will be a minimalistic soon....kudos

  • @michaelbradley6004
    @michaelbradley6004 10 місяців тому +43

    Ecclesiastes: Everything is meaningless, completly meaningless. But only without a relationship with God thru Jesus by the Holy Spirit. ❤

  • @user-xg4ue5cc2v
    @user-xg4ue5cc2v 7 місяців тому +4

    Really appreciate your very important content. Yall are changing lives for the better.

  • @paulpoco22
    @paulpoco22 9 місяців тому +11

    I threw out my swim medals a few weeks ago, from when I was a kid after keeping them in a drawer for 35 years.

  • @kellybrown6149
    @kellybrown6149 10 місяців тому +36

    There temporary fill ups, when your physical body passes away these possessions are not going with you they just decay away what's important is love, kindness, compassion for one another❤😊

  • @Haze1434
    @Haze1434 9 місяців тому +4

    Nothing physical lasts forever. NOTHING. So it's pointless to hold on to anything for dear life. Apart from experiences and memories.

  • @nogames8982
    @nogames8982 9 місяців тому +26

    I am blind. For a couple years I was on a disabled ski team. I won a few medals. It was fun and I'm very glad I did it. But 20 years later I threw away the metals. They weren't real silver or gold of course. They didn't mean anything to me. And I've never missed them.

    • @reesercliff
      @reesercliff 8 місяців тому

      sorry not to be rude but how do blind people ski? Im guessing you must be legally blind not totally black blind no vision. I'm genuinely curious

    • @nogames8982
      @nogames8982 8 місяців тому

      @@reesercliff yes, I am legally blind, my fission keeps getting worse. I had enough fission at the time that I could follow somebody. But we were literally no more than about 10 feet apart. I practically was skiing on top of the person. The person is called a guide, and she would call out things and turns and obstacles, etc. nowadays, I think they have helmets with ear phones, etc. so the person can talk into a microphone and the blind skier can hear them easily. Wow that would've made life easier back then, this was back in the 19 9091 years. but there are people who are totally blind and Kensky. If your vision is too low, they make you compete in blackout goggles to kind of even up the score between the people that can see a little bit and the people that can see absolutely nothing.

    • @reesercliff
      @reesercliff 8 місяців тому

      @@nogames8982 wow that's interesting! Thanks for responding so quickly. I hope it isn't to personal to ask what your reason for your blindness is? Were you born that way? I'm actually a medical eye photographer for a retina specialist I do photos on people with diabetic retinopathy and macular degeneration every day that's why I'm so curious.

    • @nogames8982
      @nogames8982 8 місяців тому +1

      @@reesercliff retinopathy of prematurity. I was born nine weeks to early and they gave me too much oxygen and Freidman redness. I was born in 1970

    • @reesercliff
      @reesercliff 8 місяців тому

      @@nogames8982 ah I've definitely heard of that thank you for sharing.

  • @silo3448
    @silo3448 10 місяців тому +31

    TK has really become a breath of fresh air to this podcast. He is always insightful and his perspective deepens the conversation.

  • @williamramos3350
    @williamramos3350 9 місяців тому +7

    People who have a ton of stuff become trapped by it. Waste money to keep it stored somewhere. Have to maintain it based on what it is. The harsh truth is that is all to satisfy the ego and seek validation from others. At the end, nothing goes with you. Maybe experiences. That's about it.

  • @louisefarber7573
    @louisefarber7573 9 місяців тому +29

    It's interesting that you brought up the topic of medals and trophies. When I was very much younger, I received a few, but significant to me, trophies and awards in a non athletic field. My life went on and I didn't follow that field but many times thought how lovely it might have been if I had, even part-time. I tucked the trophies and award certificates away. Now many years later, I have slowly but steadily reintroduced myself to that field and have become very active. I dug out my old awards and trophies and put them on a shelf where I can see them to remind me that yes, I do have have talent and it was innate at a young age. I totally agree they are on their way to, and will become garbage at some point but for now they are an enjoyable visual reminder of who I was and what I am (still) capable of. I fully anticipate that one day I will say to myself "I've internalized what I need from these" and be able to discard them. Until then, I will enjoy them!

    • @Recordings-ov4hv
      @Recordings-ov4hv 9 місяців тому +5

      I like the idea of 'internalizing' what trophies mean and then being able to let go of them.

    • @nmartin5551
      @nmartin5551 9 місяців тому

      Earlier this year I took all of my diplomas out of their frames to donate the frames. They are paper now. I didn’t trash them yet, but that will eventually happen. They were so important for some time. That time has passed.

    • @karav8133
      @karav8133 9 місяців тому

      It’s great to be able to enjoy the things we are still enjoying, and let go of the things that are now not worth keeping. I like your spiraling back to those interests and abilities and finding that those things actually get to play a meaningful part in your current life.

  • @uf1978
    @uf1978 8 місяців тому +3

    Ironically i work at a packaging facility that makes cartons for beverage companies such as Coke and Pepsi and we say all the time when someone ask how we doing, we say making garbage and getting paid for it.

  • @BalboaBaggins
    @BalboaBaggins 7 місяців тому +4

    People cling to stuff/garbage because they can't let go and want to feel the same as when they first got it.

  • @puidemare2337
    @puidemare2337 10 місяців тому +20

    When our mind comes from the perspective of abundance, as opposed to lack, then we feel fulfilled and have no need for "junk." That's what freed me.

  • @AZrakoon
    @AZrakoon 8 місяців тому +3

    Mike Tyson has come a long way. I would have never believed that he would be the very mature deep thinker he is today.

  • @texasmimi5566
    @texasmimi5566 9 місяців тому +6

    My pastor said this and I wrote it down. "What does not satisfy you when you find it was not what you were looking for."

  • @adamb2619
    @adamb2619 8 місяців тому +6

    Best things in life are the ones not possessed.

  • @MaybeTiberius
    @MaybeTiberius 6 місяців тому +3

    there is a really fine line here. One thing i ve learned in life is that with every aspect of life... the extreme ends are NEVER healthy or a good idea in any way and its the same with minimalism. yes, reducing things and be more mindful is awesome. but still people need things... not in terms of survival but life is more than just.. staying alive. yes things will go to garbage one day from people who passed away... but those things once served a purpose while they were alive.
    im not saying: be a hoarder and clutter your entire home. but coming home inside basically 4 drywalls with a bed feels horrible... it also looks like you re living like a drug addict. having decorations and plants around you and some candles... its not a bad thing if you feel more cozy or if they add any value to your present.
    calling everything garbage that people own is kind of insulting to be honest. think about it: if you go a little deeper that road, you as a person... you are garbage too then. at some point your body will rot away and you will be garbage over a weekend, therefor... so we now commit suicide and get rid of ourselves? for real... if you detach any sentimental connections towards a thing or a person... a person is also just a thing that will go to garbage one day. do you care about people that you dont even know? why accumulate friends if they will die one day anyways? why accumulate nice things if they will go to the trash one day?
    the answer is the exact same... because its about you having a great time while you re alive and its about finding out for yourself which people and things support that and then get rid of the others. but no...
    not owning things will NOT make you happy... just as having unlimited amounts of money wont make you happy. because the extreme ends are never healthy. but saying that you dont need anything... usually comes from people who never experienced owning nothing in the first place. do you think homeless people are the most happy people in the world? they own nothing...

  • @dianecyment1715
    @dianecyment1715 9 місяців тому +10

    But where do we put all this junk? Our landfills are sadly filling up with all this junk. It would be nice if there was a way to disintegrate everything we don't want any more unless it is recyclable.

  • @thevanman4498
    @thevanman4498 9 місяців тому +24

    If post purchase depression happened before we acquired the item we would be a whole lot more content.

  • @RhedaDolinger
    @RhedaDolinger 9 місяців тому +3

    I recently backed a 3 yard dumpster up in front of my home and filled it .... Thank you for the inspiration... Not done, but great start..

  • @RichardTLDR
    @RichardTLDR 10 місяців тому +23

    Ayn Rand summed it up. 'You must love the doing.'
    How does an athlete have multiple trophies? They love the sport.
    How does a beautiful garden get grown? Not for the outcome but because the gardener gets pleasure moment by moment gardening.

  • @weekendatbernies2265
    @weekendatbernies2265 9 місяців тому +12

    Idols. We worship idols in place of the Lord Jesus. He is the Championship 💫

  • @juditharsenault2131
    @juditharsenault2131 9 місяців тому +6

    The best thing I had was an old Trek road bicycle. I bought it used I had it made from a 10 speed into a 21 speed bike. I rode it for about 25 years all over the Adirondack Mountains where I live. I LOVED that bike because God got it for me. I also had a hybrid bicycle, too. I stopped riding it because I moved onto a dirt road with rocks strewn about it and didn't want to puncture the tires. Also I lost interest in bike riding like I used to when I got involved in an abusive relationship with an alcoholic and drug user. (Didn't know about the drugs til I was hooked on the guy. Then thought he would change.). I lost interest in everything I had once loved. Anyways, fast forward 12 years from the end of that relationship and I knew someone who needed transportation. I got the bike tuned up and gave it to him. I miss the interest in bike riding- it was my passion - but occasionally ride my hybrid which is better on my road. I did ride one beautiful August day recently listening to John Denver sing Sunshine. I had a speaker in my pocket and my grumpy neighbor waved and smiled as I rode by with that song playing. Flew down the hill and all the grasses were waving. Man, that was a day of Heaven on Earth for me! I'm 66 years old and maybe I can do it again. I'm still strong and have no physical problems- no pain nor issues. What do you think? Should I go for it again?

    • @seabiscuit726142
      @seabiscuit726142 9 місяців тому +1

      Yes, absolutely! Not only to revive old memories but just to keep the fire going...

  • @rijd2304
    @rijd2304 9 місяців тому +16

    I became much more minimalistic after practicing mindfulness meditation. The book 30 Days to Reduce Anxiety by Harper Daniels was a huge help, but then getting into the Tao Te Ching took things to a new level for me and I just saw lot of my stuff as a burden to inner freedom.

    • @briantheriault4796
      @briantheriault4796 9 місяців тому +1

      The Tao blew the doors open for me as well. Totally revamped my life and slow living has been my day to day

  • @51448katt
    @51448katt 10 місяців тому +46

    Everything hit me when my son died instantly from a blood clot. I had to go into his room and turn off the tv and lights. He was very minimal, but the things that sat there meant nothing as I looked at them. It straightened me out from trying to keep too much. I did regret buying a rv. Was too much for me.

    • @momof6boysandaprincess592
      @momof6boysandaprincess592 10 місяців тому +12

      I am so sorry for your loss 🙏🏻

    • @nancyelizabeth8364
      @nancyelizabeth8364 10 місяців тому +6

      So sorry for your loss

    • @wolke2298
      @wolke2298 10 місяців тому +4

      so so sorry for your loss! wishing you all the best

    • @robbiedazzler6358
      @robbiedazzler6358 10 місяців тому +9

      I been through the loss of my son he was 6 and my angel, only when we lose something we love and money can’t buy it all means nothing and time we spend with loved ones and the smiles and memories made are all we truly own, bless you! And I hope you find some peace until ur reunited with ur loved one, I feel your pain and understand your comment completely 🙏🏼

    • @calisongbird
      @calisongbird 10 місяців тому +1

      Oh my God… I’m so sorry. How old was he, if I may ask?

  • @shess1640
    @shess1640 10 місяців тому +25

    this also speaks to the concept of Legacy. We kid ourselves when we talk about creating our Legacy. Ultimately we are all Stardust. Nothing more. Nothing less.

    • @kristinab1078
      @kristinab1078 10 місяців тому +3

      Our physical bodies become stardust; our souls are infinite.

    • @mariastathopoulos744
      @mariastathopoulos744 10 місяців тому +3

      Think of all the wonderful music, art, literature, architecture that have survived centuries and millennia.
      We leave our mark.
      My legacy for my son will be a home that he owns without a mortgage, life insurance funds to financially support him, after my death.

    • @kristinab1078
      @kristinab1078 10 місяців тому +1

      If you don't think you possess a soul after walking this earth for many years then there is no evidence. It's a deeply personal discovery, and each must come to this on their own, or not.

  • @oceanai1924
    @oceanai1924 10 місяців тому +43

    I'm moving and downsizing from a three bedroom house in the city to a one bedroom apartment in an isolated community. I got rid of pictures and other sentimental items that family members have given me to hold onto but refuse to hold onto themselves.

    • @ramonaneyrinck2292
      @ramonaneyrinck2292 10 місяців тому +4

      I’m down at sizing from 400 square-foot studio. To my car. I have a week and a half left.

    • @kristinab1078
      @kristinab1078 10 місяців тому

      By choice? @@ramonaneyrinck2292

    • @buttercup3ish
      @buttercup3ish 10 місяців тому +1

      @@ramonaneyrinck2292 best wishes to you..living in my car at this time too.. keeping as simply organized as possible, has kept my sanity in my car space..not looking forward to 32 degrees and below!

    • @yvonneoy3124
      @yvonneoy3124 9 місяців тому +1

      ​@@ramonaneyrinck2292How long are you going to live in your car? It sounds uncomfortable but to each his own.

    • @ramonaneyrinck2292
      @ramonaneyrinck2292 9 місяців тому +2

      @@yvonneoy3124
      At least a couple months.

  • @annamaesawyer7482
    @annamaesawyer7482 5 місяців тому

    Your site just popped up this morning. I have worked on being a minimalist all my life and at 73 I find it is always a work in progress. Love the common sense approach all of you take. Love and Blessings to you all from the Sunshine Coast of British Columbia Canada. 💚🙏

  • @hadrianj684
    @hadrianj684 9 місяців тому +4

    The point was brought up a couple of times regarding the reason some lessons seem to need time and experience to acquire.
    While true in a minority of cases, IMHO many of those "lessons" could have been easily avoided if there was proper guidance early on. And I'm not having a go at our parents.
    We are a tribal people and it takes a tribe to raise a healthy strong child. When we are young our parents are busy working, hustling, paying mortgages... doing their best.
    It's the grandparents, the great grandparents, extended family, neighbours. family friends... the elders of the tribe, who have the wisdom, the time, the patience and the life experience to offer direction to the young. This is the missing piece in our modern society.
    My hope is that all things are cyclical and smaller community living will naturally return. Then, the digital world, as wonderful as it is, will take it's rightful place in our lives - a tool, much like a spanner or a food mixer, to be used when needed then put away and forgotten while we get on with our analogue lives, sharing time with our loved ones, talking with our elders, playing with our children and exploring the great outdoors.
    Love to you all.

  • @bitrudder3792
    @bitrudder3792 9 місяців тому +12

    I totally get the benefit of not having too much stuff. But on the other hand, there’s a huge agenda for people to own nothing and be happy. Sometimes I wonder how many minimalists on social media are subsidized, knowingly or unknowingly, by people with that agenda.

    • @geofractal
      @geofractal 9 місяців тому +3

      Right?! I'll bet there are those. There is something just not right about not owning anything. History has seen this kind of thing before.

    • @shaun5552
      @shaun5552 9 місяців тому +2

      Indeed. It's one thing to get rid of junk or things that no longer serve a purpose but it's quite something else to intentionally make the house look as though you're desperately poor or have just been burgled. There's a balance required as with most things in life.

    • @jmw611
      @jmw611 9 місяців тому +2

      Right, or if you have hobbies...many require STUFF. Lots of stuff in some cases. Like woodworking, art, listening to music on a hi-fi system- stuff. No supplies-no art. No tools-no building. Knowing when to let things go is important, but romancing a life with few objects in it for the sake of having less stuff is silly. I would rather make a chair bueatiful than a friend lol

    • @bitrudder3792
      @bitrudder3792 9 місяців тому

      @@jmw611 -Exactly! It would be terrible to live in a world where no one has the stuff to even learn skills or have hobbies! Maybe you would be allowed to RENT the wherewithal to do those those things, but would you even have the space to do much of anything in a sardine can apartment?
      I have a friend who built a lot of his own furniture, including a clever hidden dog crate table. He loves doing that! Others teach the disabled and emotionally-challlenged kids to ride horses as therapy. That takes a LOT of stuff and space and horses.
      To me it is concerning that this tiny minimal movement means that it’s very difficult for large groups of people to gather together. People gathering together might have ideas. Dangerous. Hugs are healthy, And there are actual studies that show that we need a certain number of them every day to feel really happy…and we get them more easily when we have access to other humans, have time to relax and enjoy each other’s company. I lean more introverted but even I understand and need this.

    • @mandelbrot2232
      @mandelbrot2232 9 місяців тому

      I have read that this "Tiny Houses" are also part of the agenda

  • @pinkroses135
    @pinkroses135 9 місяців тому +3

    Any collections I've had over the years. Barbies, hot wheels, clothing, shoes, games, dishes, notebooks, pet supplies after they die, any life chapter stuff really.

  • @valerierogers9609
    @valerierogers9609 10 місяців тому +22

    Stuff comes, and goes. So does material glory come and go. We all have to arrive at that essence of life's purpose in our own way.

  • @secretsquirrel6718
    @secretsquirrel6718 9 місяців тому +3

    I have all that old junk from school and childhood (no trophys😢) in a couple if boxes in a closet. They dont bother anyone and every few years I look through them. I alsi have alot of my old toys (wich are now quute valuable to nerdy collectors) in A couple other boxes. They alsi do not hurt anything being there. Its all pretty organized. I shouldnt die anytime soon but as far as other so called personal mementos there isnt too much.
    I think the key is to have it organized.
    At least that works for me.

  • @deericcio3379
    @deericcio3379 10 місяців тому +23

    I can picture Freddie Mercury saying the same thing , a huge amount several walls , floor to ceiling of gold records and awards are up for auction at Sotheby’s next month , I think he’d give them all up for one more day of singing , composing, and doing what he loved

    • @SusanCSmith-ik3jy
      @SusanCSmith-ik3jy 9 місяців тому

      You must be a true fan of Queen.

    • @letsshedweight4377
      @letsshedweight4377 9 місяців тому

      I’m sorry but that’s super weird to buy somebody else’s awards and stuff lol

  • @seanonfire4119
    @seanonfire4119 8 місяців тому +1

    “Out in the open wisdom calls aloud, she raises her voice in the public square; on top of the wall she cries out, at the city gate she makes her speech:”
    ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭1‬:‭20‬-‭21‬ ‭NIV‬‬

  • @percubit10
    @percubit10 9 місяців тому +6

    I gave up om materialism. Things don' t mean anything. Love is the cure.

  • @chrisl418
    @chrisl418 8 місяців тому +2

    It is not garbage. It just has a lower priority than it used to. It represents an old priority that is no longer what he wants.

  • @EllieBloo
    @EllieBloo 10 місяців тому +23

    I just want to live a simple life with only what I need at the time.

  • @clarke7230
    @clarke7230 9 місяців тому +3

    One day I was at the auction house and they had all kinds of cars on offer. There was this Daimler sedan in pristine condition but no one was interested to it. After a month or more when I was back at the auction, the car was still there and it's starting bid was as low as other nineties car yet no one showed interest to it. Almost two months later I decided to ask to test drive it and I was amazed by its condition and cleanliness but I too couldn't buy it was gonna be a liability to my life. I'm renting so I have to have only one car at any given moment. It made me think there was someone who once own that car and when the person pass away the value of the car passed too. I'm sure when the person was alive, that car was a treature to the person and was never gonna sell it

  • @bkbland1626
    @bkbland1626 9 місяців тому +2

    Stuff is just that, stuff. Wisdom doesn't take up too much space. Cheers on Big Mike.

  • @freedomring3022
    @freedomring3022 10 місяців тому +38

    my wife and I are going room by room in our house and just throwing out all of the crap we know we haven't used.

    • @goofygirl1311
      @goofygirl1311 10 місяців тому +7

      We've been doing this, too. It's quite a process but the house feels nice with that clutter gone.

    • @erikcaldwell2913
      @erikcaldwell2913 10 місяців тому +1

      I got rid of everything in my house..., furniture, clothing, everything and it feels great. I just set here naked, staring at bare walls.😉

    • @freedomring3022
      @freedomring3022 10 місяців тому

      @@erikcaldwell2913 lol

  • @B0SS330
    @B0SS330 9 місяців тому +10

    King Solomon had everything he ever wanted but he ended up asking God for one thing... wisdom.
    Your physical body along with this fallen world will no longer exist one day but there is a way to find eternal life. (Romans 8:13 KJV)
    Forget about church or religion... get yourself a copy of the King James Bible and start reading it.

  • @444tiger
    @444tiger 9 місяців тому +5

    Ive been gutting out my house for years now. I feel better. I still have more to get rid of

  • @lucystrider728
    @lucystrider728 9 місяців тому +3

    So true, all things must pass! Literally have trophies disintegrating over the decades, stored clothes elastic crumbles, paint fades... Only get and keep what you actually use, gifts should be consumable unless you know it is something the recipient actually needs-my family now exchanges food gifts instead of future clutter.

  • @bethforencich623
    @bethforencich623 10 місяців тому +6

    My 8th grade diving trophy. I worked really hard to win it over a friend with whom I was super competitive with. Forty years later my mom head tripped me over getting rid of it. Had to sneak it into the garbage. That said, I found a track medal my dad won in 1949. I'm going to make that into a necklace.

  • @user-qp6vg9ho8u
    @user-qp6vg9ho8u 10 місяців тому +19

    Even our bodies become garbage 😂

  • @reckyu7642
    @reckyu7642 9 місяців тому +2

    Clinging to things. Sounds like people who peaked in high school." I ran these hallways in high school."

  • @misssicily100
    @misssicily100 8 місяців тому +2

    An empty room with a piece of Art makes me feel good.

  • @aswithinsowithout
    @aswithinsowithout 9 місяців тому +2

    You should see my beautiful lamps. Oh and my rug. 😍 Also a stunning cabinet my husband made and I hand painted. We incarnated in bodies to experience the earth.

  • @solchau1
    @solchau1 9 місяців тому +1

    Wow, that was deep. It hit home. Thank you for such quality content.

  • @williamwoodward9852
    @williamwoodward9852 9 місяців тому +8

    As for me the only thing that filled my empty hole in my heart is Jesus

  • @REZZA2020
    @REZZA2020 9 місяців тому +1

    Im so grateful to see you guys again.

  • @FarginBastiges
    @FarginBastiges 9 місяців тому +3

    Lots of profound wisdom in this comments section. I mean that sincerely.

  • @beautifulwhitecat
    @beautifulwhitecat 10 місяців тому +14

    Wisdom shouts in the street, She lifts her voice in the square; At the head of the noisy streets she cries out; At the entrance of the gates in the city she utters her sayings: “How long, O naive ones, will you love being simple-minded? And scoffers delight themselves in scoffing And fools hate knowledge? Turn to my reproof, Behold, I will pour out my spirit on you; I will make my words known to you. Because I called and you refused, I stretched out my hand and no one paid attention; And you neglected all my counsel And did not want my reproof; I will also laugh at your calamity; I will mock when your dread comes, When your dread comes like a storm And your calamity comes like a whirlwind, When distress and anguish come upon you. Then they will call on me, but I will not answer; They will seek me diligently but they will not find me, Because they hated knowledge And did not choose the fear of the Lord. They would not accept my counsel, They spurned all my reproof. So they shall eat of the fruit of their own way And be satiated with their own devices. For the waywardness of the naive will kill them, And the complacency of fools will destroy them. But he who listens to me shall live securely And will be at ease from the dread of evil.”
    Proverbs 1:20‭-‬33

    • @deb1130
      @deb1130 10 місяців тому +3

      Written thousands of years ago….yet very aptly describes the modern age.

  • @fasteddy-fd3kr
    @fasteddy-fd3kr 9 місяців тому +2

    Truck comes will be there on Tuesday

  • @thymeparzival
    @thymeparzival 9 місяців тому +3

    Even the most prestigious trophies are like a carrot dangling from the end of a stick. Pay more attention to who’s holding the stick than the prize they are leading you with.

  • @luisaruiz5030
    @luisaruiz5030 9 місяців тому +2

    I have been asked very often why I don't keep things as a memory of my "successes" I say that the success they talk about, I take it with me every day because yesterday's success is different from today's success and tomorrow's if I have one. I don't keep what I was, I carry with me the path I walk without having to carry it in the form of things.

  • @diannebudd1
    @diannebudd1 9 місяців тому +13

    I don't watch that many of these - but Joshua always seem to put Nicodemus down. Why is that? Because Ryan's better looking? The men in my life don't put their friends down. Is that necessary? Aren't we better than that now, more evolved? Just asking - out here in nowhere important-land. It irritates me and cheapens the message.

    • @AvalonMisty
      @AvalonMisty 9 місяців тому +6

      you caught that too thanks for speaking up

  • @manga1682
    @manga1682 9 місяців тому +2

    I am getting tempted to say that novelty wearing off is a kind of entropy problem: Does that make any sense though?

  • @BipolarBowler
    @BipolarBowler 9 місяців тому +2

    My favorite part of the show is when Malabama says "Hi Guys!"

  • @maxwellspeedwell2585
    @maxwellspeedwell2585 9 місяців тому +6

    I had a nice plane (Beechcraft). The guy I sold it to wrecked it on the ground. He never flew it. Junk.
    I had a very nice, six year old apartment building. One day I sold it. Today it’s getting close to forty years old. I was recently in that city. The building is run-down. Bad tenants, and bad management. How long before they will finally have to rase it? Junk
    I had an almost mint condition 1964 Chevrolet Impala. Two door, 327, every option. (How would you like to have one of those?). I sold it to a young woman who wasn’t paying attention and ran it up a side hill and rolled it. Junk.
    I have now begun, living the minimalist lifestyle, and I really like it!

    • @kh884488
      @kh884488 9 місяців тому +1

      Agreed! The most important things in life are not things.

  • @joeynumbers33
    @joeynumbers33 9 місяців тому +2

    Ali threw his gold medal into a river.

  • @rudithedog7534
    @rudithedog7534 9 місяців тому +2

    The thing that surprised me the most about this video was how small Mike Tyson looked, this was the toughest biggest guy in the late 80s and 90s when I was growing up. Everyone changes I suppose.

  • @Rapscallion2009
    @Rapscallion2009 9 місяців тому +2

    With regard to mementoes and awards. I think the important thing is the memories.
    Did you take that vacation to acquire some sea shells and photos of the beach?

  • @charlenepomicter5345
    @charlenepomicter5345 5 місяців тому +1

    Mike Tyson's words gave me goosebumps!

  • @toyin2376
    @toyin2376 7 місяців тому +1

    When i go to car boot sale and you see folks selling their once treasured valuables for £1, basically trash

  • @Chase4everChase
    @Chase4everChase 9 місяців тому +2

    Joshua, Thank you for sharing your views on this subject. You've sure given me lots to ponder that I should have considered decades ago. Again, thank you. 🙂 (Chase)

  • @andreas.5584
    @andreas.5584 9 місяців тому +2

    My mother still had all my old childhood trophies. My children are past the age I was when I got them. They have no interest in keeping that stuff, so why would I? I have to clean it out of my mom’s home and I won’t bring it to mine just for my kids to have to do the same one day. They will be trash.

  • @Wow_ItsJimmy
    @Wow_ItsJimmy 9 місяців тому +2

    Hmmmm..
    ever seen
    Antiques Roadshow ?

  • @alannahollier2719
    @alannahollier2719 7 місяців тому +2

    That's how I feel about my masters thesis, something cool I did once ha!

  • @mhale7816
    @mhale7816 10 місяців тому +16

    I could never think that way about littérature and art…I see the point but it’s far stretched. Sometimes we accomplish things for more than just us. Sometimes obtaining medals is about the journey, the goals accomplished through discipline. A testimony to others.

    • @mariastathopoulos744
      @mariastathopoulos744 10 місяців тому +3

      Absolutely!!!! Literature, art, music live through centuries...even millennia.
      Sentimental possessions can be passed down for generations.
      We use markers for our lives: photos, certificates, special clothes etc.

    • @user-ov4wr5yu4r
      @user-ov4wr5yu4r 9 місяців тому

      Yes, the premise is a bit limited. From some things we move on when we evolve. Others continue to have significance.

    • @pinkroses135
      @pinkroses135 9 місяців тому

      Historical/heritage type of stuff

  • @rdbare4216
    @rdbare4216 9 місяців тому +5

    Live as you see fit but don’t presume to dictate to others.

  • @nc3419
    @nc3419 9 місяців тому +4

    There's truth in what Mike states and it applies to all of us. Things that are coveted will probably become junk at some point in your life...but it has market value and can be sold. So, sell it and reap some financial reward...to buy something else you can covet until it becomes junk.

  • @steelearmstrong9616
    @steelearmstrong9616 9 місяців тому +7

    Love is anxiety. Attachment is suffering. Life is suffering. Everything we do is out of fear and love. Just live how you choose and live like today is your last because tomorrow is not promised and does not exist. In the end nothing matters so just enjoy the ride 😊

  • @Ephbaum
    @Ephbaum 9 місяців тому +2

    The problem is the 'ignorance of youth' never leaves some people. I doubted it' would ever happen with Mike Tyson, but apparently, it has. He was a mouthy, angry and violent pr*ck in his youth. He wouldn't listen, act right, behave himself, and he made an ass out of himself many, many times. It took a hard dose of reality to humble him, but better than never. I hope he actually does get it and gets to enjoy a more fulfilling life and appreciate what a weird gift it really is. Now if we would figure out a way to get the message across to the younger generation so they don't keep f*cking things up worse than they already are, we'd have something.

  • @OrangeUp
    @OrangeUp 9 місяців тому +2

    Mike Tyson: "Don‘t touch my garbage!" 😂

  • @Bachconcertos
    @Bachconcertos 9 місяців тому +1

    So much for appreciating what u have.

  • @midnightteapot5633
    @midnightteapot5633 9 місяців тому +2

    I have my father's medals from the Second world war in a wooden cabinet on the wall, I am convinced, ill chuck them in the garbage and be done with the dusting..................like hell I will.

  • @Dil.Careem
    @Dil.Careem 9 місяців тому +3

    Recognizing the True Value Beyond Possessions. In this eye-opening statement, explore the wisdom of releasing attachment to material possessions, and discover the liberating journey of finding meaning beyond material things. Embrace detachment, gratitude, and inner richness.

  • @pamelacooley6457
    @pamelacooley6457 9 місяців тому +2

    So true ❤

  • @fredmercury1314
    @fredmercury1314 9 місяців тому +1

    3:20 I doubt there's any boxer who actually wants the garbage. What they want is to win, and be recognised as the best. If there was no belt they'd still want that and they'd still do it.

  • @h3arty
    @h3arty 10 місяців тому +7

    I love you Joshua. I'm SO proud of your story and journey. You made it, you survived, and you're thriving. WELL DONE!! Ryan too. I have just been relaxing in my finally as-minimal-as-I-wanted-it bedroom and feel so relieved and a huge weight off my shoulders. This minimalism journey has been the best thing, as someone with 10 ACEs from childhood, that I have EVER discovered in my life. And you're a big part of my journey, so thank you.