My body image reality...
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- Опубліковано 18 вер 2024
- Things really took a turn in this vlog and whilst crying on camera is up there with my least favourite things to do... I felt it more important to capture those raw thoughts than care how it may look. Spend a couple of days in London with me whilst I do the glamorous (very grateful for) part of my job. Lot's of meetings and stunning events and I feel truly spoiled to be able to try so many products as a result. However, let this tiny insight remind you that no matter how happy or perfect somebody's life may look to you, especially through a screen... may not always be the reality.
Thanks for watching,
S x
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There is SO MUCH pressure on women to look ‘instagram ready’ at all times and it is f*cking exhausting. Your feelings are so valid and i imagine that we all feel that way more often than not. Just know that you’re not alone and we’re all behind you, with our Crocs and oversized jumpers 👑
love this so much, thank you *crocs4lyf
I feel like so many people have felt this way and it prevents them going! Good for you for stepping out even when you feel uncomfortable and representing for the girls who can't. I always think of the quote that says people will never remember what you were wearing or how your body looked, but will remember how you made them feel. You're a good person, you show up and support, you express gratitude for attendance... you are what we need in a world of influencers who seemingly take all this for granted
Girl…I’ve just had to stop at the part where you’re having a good old cry. Sending you the biggest virtual hug. I’m not a stylist, just a normal gal in my thirties with a love of clothes! So wish I could take you shopping! You are beautiful. Can we all send you outfits recs to help you? What can we do for you my girl?
And lastly…treat yourself to an amazing new haircut as you’ve mentioned…I promise that will make such a difference too. Sending love xx
This is so sweet
I completely relate to you - I'm 30 and I've never felt so much pressure to be "stylish" & "fit" and always tripping over my feet and feeling less than. It sometimes results in me avoiding events/family whatever because I think my body will be so harshly judged as it's not what media is perceiving as "healthy". Thank you for being so raw and talking on these difficult topics, it takes a lot of courage, authenticity and honesty, I respect you so much for it. Sending you lots of love and support as you navigate your way through this ❤🧡
I hear you Sasha. It had taken a long time for me to be able to say the simple two words ‘thank-you’ when given a compliment, rather than detracting from what someone has just said. I think it comes down to your own self-belief, love and acceptance. Slow steps
Sasha, I have been following you for some time now and I understand your issue with body image. I am 68 years of age and have had issues since I was probably 8 or nine with believing I was fat. My whole life has been affected by body image so much so that I still at times will not eat for days or just enough to keep hunger at bay. Pretending to eat when others are around.
I think you are heading in the right direction with getting out in front of it while still young. You are gorgeous and have such a great personality.
DON’T BE A SPECTATOR IN YOUR OWN LIFE
Live it up girl you deserve the best
Sasha.....you are stunning and you should always dance to your own tune.. be a bratz doll in a world full of barbies !!!
Your hair is beautiful!!! Maybe just a good cut, few layers to get those waves waving 😉 just think your insecurities are taking over , you have been through so so much and then buying your own home, moving .. again...so stressful. You need time to re evaluate, chill down ,and focus on you.❤️. ...bills is your best medicine!! She is so so awesome 😎.... Your time is coming sasha and no one deserves it more than you...😘.much love 💖
Sasha, you’re amazing and you’re such a beautiful woman, truly . I think if we could see ourselves through the eyes of those who love us we’d never be so hard on ourselves. What helps me is to remind myself that the little girl I was is still inside me, when I look in the mirror I’d never want to say things to her that would make her feel unworthy before I send her out the door. Naturally we all have down days but flip the thought as soon as you can. It gets easier the more you practise 😘
P.S I’ve just chopped - with the help of a hair dresser lol - 9 inches off my hair this weekend to bring it to my shoulders rather than halfway down my back (and it’s so freeing!! Not to mention it’ll be so much easier to wash, style and blow dry as we approach winter), it was scary because I thought to myself ‘do I have the right face shape for this?’ but honestly life is too short to worry about crap like that (I can’t change my face shape), and it will grow back 🥰 I love it! Go for it!
Aaawww Sasha you’re such a beautiful soul, sad to see you cry. I’m sure in the room most of the people there are in therapy or sure need it. We self sabotage ourselves and paint a picture of others that’s so far from the truth. What anyone thinks of you is no concern to you. Your journey to self love has started. Being able to go with good and bad emotions shows emotional maturity. Maybe when in a meeting leave hair down, playing with your hair is our way of calming ourselves. ❤
Hi Sasha. As a disabled woman (Spina Bifida and Double Below Knee Amputee), i have had a long life battle with how i look, and constantly trying to cover up the bad bits, and there are a lot of bad bits. It wasn't until my 40's that i began to accept myself. I do believe that as we get older we care less. I think it's about identifying and learning to enhance our good bits rather than to fix what we don't like about ourselves it's not easy, and i know it won't mean anything to you, but you're a very attractive woman, you have lovely skin, hair and eyes. xx
Hi Sasha, Thank you for representing us girlie's that are not a size 8, I love you and Billie for being relatable in a lot of ways. It's important to speak kindly to yourself and maybe an area to explore with your therapist to, about how you use humour to disguise certain things. You could have a stylist etc but you hold the key to how you view yourself, one day at a time. Maybe a shopping day with Billie is on the cards, like you say back on the journey of acceptance and embracing who you are whilst still trying to grow. You have been through so much ❤ xx
this is such a lovely comment, thank you so much. A shopping day with BB (no doubt ft. many arguments)
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A Stylist to help with a few pieces to wear when there is an event would be helpful, let them do the leg work. A trouser suit or comfortable co-ords just for go to lunches/meetings., Classic pieces. You cannot be so stressed and upset each time, this is your career we hate to see you in tears. We all love comfy clothes as a cover up but investing in work wear would give you confidence, does not have to be designer. Much love, big hug❤❤❤.
So sorry you are feeling this way.
I recently paid to get my colour season done with Curate your Style based in London and it’s really helped me. They also help with styling for different body shapes ect.
You are such a beautiful woman Sasha. I’m sure your vulnerability will help so many feeling the same way. X
huge love Sasha, I truly feel ya x
Sending you a huge hug ❤❤❤ you are not alone. I spent my whole life feeling the same xx
sending love too, thank you
Got your back always and forever bestie. Now, let’s go shopping because fashion is our armour to face this big, bad world and you can’t be confident without being comfortable. LOVE YOU ❤
I feel you, I have a lot clothes, my size and beautiful but then the insecurities hit and I just dont feel worthy of wearing them and end up in the same clothes as always that cover me completely. Perceived beauty standards really kick ar$e. Huge love and hugs your way ❤
thank you love, sending big love to you right back
Loved this little trip to Landan Town thank you! As for your hair go abit shorter try it you have lush hair so it will always grow after all you have the best hair stylist at your fingertips! As for the clothes you know I will always help you just need to get the basics right and the rest will follow! Infact you have myself and your mother to help me on fashion your mum on hair. Job done ❤ xxx
maybe we need to film a video all three of us. Love you Sal
@@sashapallari yes that would be fabulous love you too just say when xxx
I have watched “fashion” do many a full circle. One thing remains, Do You, ❤ not everyone else’s expectations. I constantly encourage my teenage granddaughter to be herself, Find your style and confidence will flow. 😘
Sending you the biggest hug Sasha 💙 your realness is SO appreciated, and I relate so much. I've went through the works in the last couple of years and with that my body has changed, with weight gain due to mobility issues being one. Even voicing it out loud is a challenge and I've realised how damaging - ve self talk really is for me, and I've done it for years. I've made a point now to follow people online who look more like me, and save a folder of outfit inspo whilst having a couple of go to things I know I always feel like me in. Thank you for being real 💜 also love love your podcast with Billie, first one I've ever listened to and can't wait for S2
Ive always admired you for being strong and confident, you seem to be able to compartmentalise your insecure feelings once youve stepped outside. You come across as so confident and carefree and its beautiful and inspiring. Do you consciously make the effort to be confident? Do you believe in "fake it til you make it"? Any tips on letting go and allowing yourself to enjoy the day out instead of feeling self conscious the whole time? Thanks Sasha, youre a true beauty. ❤
Girl 💜 have you thought about trying a personal shopper or stylist session? Might help to experiment styles you’ve never tried before
Can you find a stylist? Or a personal shopper? Not full time, just to go shopping? Buy outfits, keep them as outfits. You don’t need to be rich.
Start by clearing your wardrobe of anything you don’t like or doesn’t fit. All that shit will make you feel bad.
Also, stop following size 8 influencers! There are plenty of people at ALL the sizes around for you to watch, and if going into shops like VB’s make you feel bad, then don’t go in. If Bills is comfortable in there, great she can go in, you don’t have to 🤷🏻♀️ protect your peace honey, it means more that any pic with a neon teddy…
So v true and many wise words, thanks love
You are so beautiful and I can totally understand how you feel.
I found when my body changed what helped me most was following people who looked like me. Something else was having a fake it til you make it attitude which is hard but it can help ❤
Tailoring & key pieces! Look at men and their suits, easy as. Invest in expert tailoring, seriously a great tailor is a god send regardless of shape or size x
Wanted to give you the biggest hug!! Please try and remember brands and your followers love you because of who you are, your personality and what you stand for not because of how you look. Please don’t compare yourself to other people we follow you because you’re YOU. Be comfortable and re wear the outfits as many times as you want, how many times do you meet someone and remember what they’ve worn after? You’ll remember how they made you feel though and that’s what counts. You’re beautiful inside and out!
Times like these we need to make sure we're talking back to the negative thoughts. I've been caught up in a spiral of thinking like this. Comparing ourselves to others is toxic. Remember you are beautiful inside and outside. Your shape and weight and body fat is beautiful. Whatever you want to change about your health and appearance you can in time. Say "today I embrace myself. Today I celebrate myself."
You are beautiful. I think you need to start experimenting with your style and try not to compare yourself. A lot of what you are feeling resonates and I'm trying to exercise more each day and eat a little healthier to get back in control. Hope you start feeling more positive xx
you’re so right, it’s all the little steps isn’t it
Your hair is gorgeous!
Thanks love
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I fucking love you! You’re amazing
Thank you so much love
I feel exactly the same! Xx
Sasha lovely why don’t you go to John Lewis and book a session with a personal shopper I don’t think you have to pay for the service and you can end up with lots of lovely outfits that you can wear with confidence you are so gorgeous and it is so sad to watch you get upset over f’in fashion! Xxx
Long bob 🤩
Unfortunately for you you are 100% invested in the rat race. You can choose to leave it or get on with it. The choice is yours. Good luck in the superficial world you are in.