Yeah. He sacrificed his whole life and tried to restrict his love for one woman but in the end all these years have been wasted. Now ofcourse this will push him to go for affairs willingly or unwillingly. Thats unfortunate.
If you feel cheated and it causes you emotional distress then it's best to divorce and move on because that's the best for everyone. Marriage is for peace. If after learning the fact of who she is, you lose your ability feel peace, then there's no point in the marriage anymore.
finally someone smart. allah says in the quran that he created for us mates not for the sake of love but rather peace, if that peace has been breached….whats the goddamn point anymore? “And one of His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may find comfort in them. And He has placed between you compassion and mercy. Surely in this are signs for people who reflect.” (30:21)
If a person isn't allowed to ask someone else about the sins in their past, how does it make sense to divorce over it? Her past is none of his business, and he's surely committed his own sins; who is he to hold her past against her? She doesn’t even have to ask for his forgiveness if these events happened before they were married. I understand being upset about it, but since it’s none of his business, he needs to get over it and move on. Otherwise, should he divorce every woman he marries who has sinned before or done something he doesn’t like?
@@ibrahim_-_-_ Do you think Islam calls us to resort to divorce every time a marriage isn’t peaceful? That’s not true. We should strive to live with our spouses in peace, but both life and marriage are tests and are not always easy. Divorcing a spouse who is good to you over sins committed prior to the marriage-sins which have nothing to do with you-is unwise, and this applies to both men and women. Only Allah knows if such actions are permissible. Allah says in the Quran, "If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good" [al-Nisa’ 4:19]. This means that even if a man dislikes something about his wife, he might find other qualities in her that make staying worthwhile. We are all human and we all sin. If she is a changed woman and a good wife, there is no reason a man cannot find peace with her if he genuinely desires to do so for the sake of Allah.
@@ibrahim_-_-_ Do you think Islam calls us to resort to divorce if a marriage isn’t peaceful all the time? That’s not true. We should strive to live with our spouses in peace, but both life and marriage are tests and are not always easy. Divorcing a spouse who is good to you over sins committed prior to the marriage-sins which have nothing to do with you-is unwise, and this applies to both men and women. Only Allah knows if such actions are permissible. Allah says in the Quran, "If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good" [al-Nisa’ 4:19]. This means that even if a man dislikes something about his wife, he might find other qualities in her that make staying worthwhile. We are all human and we all sin. If she is a changed woman and a good wife, there is no reason a man cannot find peace with her if he genuinely desires to do so for the sake of Allah. And if you are a Muslim, use better language for the sake of Allah.
~ I WAS INTO A MARRIAGE WITH A NON VIRGIN~ After 2 weeks of my marriage, my wife's ex had given me intimate photos of her with different people. I was shocked and traumatised. I got a fatwa to accept her. I went to accept her. Before going, I spoke to her over phone where she expressed hapiness. But when I went her place, she told that she had not done anything wrong. She said whatever she had done was before marriage and I should not have over reacted. And she asked khula (may be luckily) because I "said many bad things". I dont know what was it. I said her if there is anything I said in anger I am sorry for that. I want to resolve the issue. She didnt agree. But she did take money for the Khula. I married again. May be with the most innocent girl on earth. My wife loves me a lot. She is highly dedictated to our family. Allah has listened my prayers.
Now I get scared, I am a young man and want to get married so that I will get my needs done in the halal way but with all these stories of guys going through such scary things, I'm hesitant ..
My advice to all our brothers and sisters that aren't married. Please stay far away from zina despite your desires. It can have a detrimental impact on your future. If you can, get married young. You don't have to be financially settled to get married, I wasn't. You have time to grow your wealth later with your spouse
yeh brother but how are we going to get married young if no father is going to hand their daughters to us as, we are not financially stable. idk akhi im struggling with this
Salamaliekum I got married with no money Alhamdulilah I put my trust in Allah and everything worked out also depends on who you want to marry if they have imaan and patience find one that doesn’t follow the world my brothers and sisters
This is scary. No man would tolerate this especially if he himself was pure and put it as a requirement before marriage. Anyways may Allah protect everyone and grant all of us good & pure spouses.
If your son weren't a virgin, wouldn't you like him to be forgiven if he repents ? Would you rather have hil being rejected by all potential spouses he may propose to ?
@@halimazahri6203 impure things are supporting impure things. Let me clear if you are impure then go and marry one of your dirty kind. But if you're pure then you can have the pure one. That's it. Shits and flowers can't be together. If you have repent doesn't mean you can have the pure one. Go and marry the people who repented. Why you want the pure one? Do you think of us as a fool? Who remained pure their whole life and then got what? the shit? 🤣
@@halimazahri6203 impure things are supporting impure things. Let me clear if you are impure then go and marry one of your dirty kinds. But if you're pure then you can have the pure one. That's it. Shits and flowers can't be together. If you have repent doesn't mean you can have the pure one. Go and marry the people who repented. Why you want the pure one? Do you think of us as a fool? Who remained pure their whole life for what? For used shit? 🤣
@@halimazahri6203 impure things are supporting impure things. Let me clear if you are impure then go and marry one of your dirty kinds. But if you're pure then you can have the pure one. That's it. Shits and flowers can't be together. If you have repent doesn't mean you can have the pure one. Go and marry the people who repented. Why you want the pure one? Do you think of us as a f••| ? Who rem@ined pure their whole life for what? For used things? 🤣
@mattarjaiskel4625 definitely... Unless it's man/woman of great control ... it's never one time thing ... cause sex is something that gives indescribable pleasure and if done once, you'll feel urge stronger than any withdrawal symptoms to do it again and again ....
There is a correction I want to point out. Not every unmarried woman is a virgin in Islam, that's not the meaning. Every unmarried woman is assumed to be a virgin, unless there is evidence to suggest otherwise. In this case there was an actual confession, so there is no disparity. And in the Quran Allah tells us to marry so we may find peace, but what peace is one expected to find when you were deceived before the nikah and one of your 2 conditions were not fulfilled. It's really up to the man, but if this was my close relative or a friend I really care about who asked me for advise, I would tell him to divorce
Agree. Men are told to marry women who are appealing to them in order to bring a sense of calm and happiness to their hearts. But when that feeling is no longer there, and has changed into something that makes you unhappy. Divorce is the best way. But do it peacefully. Divorce and get married again. No wrong about it. Islam is not christian.
If he wanted her VIRGIN and she wasn't, then that's a major lie Sheik started explaining the definition of 'virgin' That's irrelevant. The man wanted a woman who was not touched by another man. Period
@@sadique7359 Don’t defend bro. It’s minor zina and haram. It's like a drug that pollutes their minds and can create a bad character in them. And most orn addicts are not good brothers who can protect their sisters. In fact, some of them invite the innocent those things.
@@Cat-it9kk iam not defending .iam just saying the fact. Asthafirullah. Yea it's like drug. But its not like the zina , Well if the man quits the behaviour its okay for them to marry
How did she take full advantage of him. You learn about Islam first. You are not supposed to talk about your past in Islam and if she repented j don’t see the problem same goes with the guy you need to wake up
@@AshAbdurI don't see how her repenting makes her a virgin again. His problem is not that she had any random sins which she didn't tell him about. His problem is that she was not a virgin even though she said she is a virgin. Moreover, how does repenting to allah give you the right to LIE and say that you are a virgin? ON TOP OF THAT HOW DO YOU EVEN KNOW THAT ALLAH HAS EVEN FORGIVEN YOU? If you deceive or lie to your potential spouse about important things like that, you are twisting the rules of islam to your benefit. Your sins are between you and Allah. But virginity is between the men and women.
I don't agree with Sheikh this time , Allah may forgive her but the husband is not obliged to forgive her . The man was betrayed, may Allah give him strength to recover 😭🤲
Surah An-Nur 26: "Wicked women are for wicked men, and wicked men are for wicked women. And virtuous women are for virtuous men, and virtuous men are for virtuous women. The virtuous are innocent of what the wicked say. They will have forgiveness and an honourable provision." He tells that clean past was one of his requirements for marriage. So, by lying did she violated his haqq. Now he's to blame because his wife is a liar? How could you trust such a wife? That so called sheikh is partly wrong.
And he gives a literal translation of ‘virginity in Islam’ , a woman who has not married before implies that she has not been touched. I really like this sheikh but he is wrong here, and we all make mistakes. May Allah unite us.
He has a right to divorce her bcz she accepted she lied and had multiple men before. If she repented Allah will forgive her but he is not obligated to keep her now he is armed with this information. I would divorce her asap.
She didn't lie but I also would be broken if this happened and wouldn't tolerate such a woman, although as per haq brother she didn't lie and repented and as for the man he never asked her as well.
I don't think Sheikh truly understood, the guy was a virgin and wanted a virgin and rightfully so, men have higher sex drive than women yet my guy stayed virgin despite his sexual desires, you have no idea how hard it must've been for him, and all he asked in return was a wife who's a virgin. So why are you telling him to accept it, it's not even about forgiveness it's about the fact that she lied to him and she was not the kind of person he wanted, so why are you telling him to suck it up???? He has the full right to divorce her, so stop saying "if Allah forgives her sins why can't you?" Because my guy ain't known as "the all forgiving", plus it ain't about forgiveness it's about the kind of person he wanted to share his life with. So disappointed on Sheikh's advice
@@watiflappynounou3302 what if your husband/wife took your virginity when they aren't themselves and deceived your whole life. If she has slept with other men then she is more likely to cheat on you and have a baby which is not yours.
So its ok to commit adultery before marriage and lie, deceive to future spouse? Repentance doesn't give you free pass to deceive someone especially your future spouse. Muslim men have choice to marry Christian or jew women but Muslim men will opt for Muslim women because they are thought to be more modest. i am afraid that your advice will give more freedom to those who commit adultery. instead of condemning the act you are giving leverage. Guys do not compromise in such situations, we must protect our women from such fitna. may ALLAH subhanahu wa ta'la guide us to the straight path.
@@Slave_of_the_Most_Merciful as harsh as it sounds, you‘re actually supposed to lie and can’t tell anyone that you‘ve committed a sin. I know most won‘t like this but it’s the truth. But as a decent person, you can of course reject the proposal knowing you can’t fulfill their requirements but you shouldn’t tell them the reason in this case.
@@amy87174 Marriage is for peace. If every time he looks at her he is reminded of her past and it causes him distress and his peace is lost then I feel like there's no point in staying with her anymore.
what this sheikh and so many others do not realise is how detrimental this is for the future of marriage. People who previously engaged with other men, especially multiple men/non practicing /non-muslim men are then psychologically used to the novelty of multiple partners, accustomed to doing un-islamic sexual acts , acting out their vile desires, these people eventually get bored of their spouse or start comparing them to previous partners and probably end up committing parental fraud. Sure, Allah is ever merciful and can forgive, but there's no stipulation on men to forgive, but only to conceal. just imagine for a second, if this was a man, who had told the wife he is very wealthy or financially stable, but then after marriage it turns out he wasn't, the wife would be running to the courts to get a divorce or to the islamic juror for a khul. double effing standards, why do we men have to get the short end of the stick everytime?? just because we want a wife, want to have intimate relations and want to have kids?? No thank you, ask one of the men you slept with you to marry you, let's see what they have to say.
This argument is hilarious. Muslim guys get the shorter end of the stick in marriage? Seriously? A Muslim wife literally has to tolerate a second, third, or fourth wife if her husband decides to take them, she literally has to depend on her husband's permission to work or even education, and she has to go wherever her husband goes to live, even if her husband lies to her before marriage about being wealthy (which is boasting and definitely not the same as concealing your sins when you are asked about it) and later finds that he is not so rich, she will have to go to a court for khula and may even have to give up the mahr, whereas the husband can divorce his wife whenever he wants without asking anyone's permission. The list goes on and you guys still get the shorter end! Sure!
@JannatRiyatahasin All the things you mentioned are rights given by Allah. And the main point is why should anyone especially those who fear Allah and guard their private parts take a Zani as their spouse?
No you are wrong. The past is the past. If you committed a major sin in the past, would you want us to stone 🪨 you for it or would you like to repent and like a second chance to reform yourself and be forgiven? When it comes to others you don't want to give them a chance but when it comes to you it's a different issue. May Allah deal with people like you.
For all brothers or sisters please stay away from zina, don't give in to the peer pressure of your friends or society or social media, change your friends to those who would stop you from walking on the haram path, if still you think you will commit some haram then fast on alternate days, the entire world around us today is just vulgur and degenerate, it's very very easy to sin today, no matter your income just get married at the earliest don't fall into the shaytans trap of becoming stable in career, good bank balance, have own house, car etc. All the best!
Ok so now in this day and age, No father would give their daughter's hand in marriage to an unemployed man. Now the least requirement for a guy to get married is to have a high-end job, a car and a house. So for the majority of the men in our society it's impossible to get married early. And also to get all of these requirements the man already gets to the age of 35-40.
Sheikh's opinions can't always be right. He's wrong here. The basic outcome of marriange should always be mental and physical peace as mentioned in Quran by our Lord. If her being NOT CLEAN is upsetting him, he's not in wrong to divorce her and move on for his own mental health is at stake. Even if she repented. Cuz its not about her, its about them.
@@HerPrimeYearsHis logic is sound and inline with the fitrah of a man. The man cannot be made responsible for the sins the woman used to commit. If the man doesn't feel peace with such a woman, it's not his problem to force himself to stay. He's free to leave and find a clean person.
The Sheikh didn't say it's sinful to divorce her he said it's your call to do what you want if you feel betrayed and cheated But the best thing to do in the eyes of Allah is to forgive her and move on because forgiving people is part of our faith and Allah will reward those who forgive and Allah hates divorce But still if he prefers to get divorced he's free to do that and he will not be judged for it because he has a proper excuse for the divorce
Bro if your wife had a promiscuous past, it’s going to mess up your future. Idk why this man is saying to just accept it. You can’t find peace knowing your wife has been dug out by multiple men before you. Leave her and find another. She should’ve been straight up with you before your marriage.
I kinda agree with you tbh. The sheikh explained it from a neutral stance. The problem is that in the case of the person who asked the question, he felt betrayed. My solution would be simple either divorce her or don’t divorce her and marry another woman
A major point people are looking over is these women often carry a LOT of emotional baggage. This can be a ticking time bomb for when the couple have kids, its best to be truthful about how you feel before anything is set in stone.
@@Nabee_H not only that, she will compare the husband with past partners when theirs difficulty, she won’t be able to pairbond with him, her body carried the dna of the men she’s been with previously etc. etc.. It’s a big hell no across the board. Marrying a woman with a promiscuous past will mess up your future.
Correction shaikh didn't tell him to accept her he directly told him it is his call at the end of the day so the guy has choice wheather to accepr her or divorce her
I had a similar event that happened to me, i tried to accept her but i became too traumatized, she was perfect in every way imagineable but that one mistake she did. I couldn’t forgive her no matter what, even though she repented and she is genuinely regretting it. I held myself clean i deserve someone clean without experience. All this eventually led to our relationship getting dissolved. I couldn’t stop thinking about it for months and it was a nightmare. It’s really unfortunate for innocent people to fall for such a huge sin. Take care everybody and may Allah protect us all from this situation.
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Well clearly you are stupid because you are not supposed to judge someone for their past. Like our prophet had married Khadija who had been married twice
@@AshAbduridiot she was not a fornicator or adulterer don't compare widows with fornicator,or adulterer Widows are pure I will marry a widow who is chast no problem
Till the time his wife didn't tell him, it was fine as it was between her and Allah. After she told the truth it becomes difficult to stay with such person. Trust will always be a question. Moreover you will not find yourself comfortable with such person as your requirement is breached. I am sure brother tried to get the words from her mouth by speaking such word as "pure" so that emotionally she will speak the truth. This guy would have already noticed whether she is virgin or not. What i agree is that sheikh said if she is now God fearing, following her deen religiously and trying to be best for him then that's fine, no need to divorce her.
@Nomad_Adventurer no need to divorce her. But best to get another wife as well so you don't end up resenting your 1st wife for damaging your self worth.
There is a need to divorce her you cant build a marriage upon lies and catfishing to opress your past actions have consequences i would never accept a non virgin sister as a spouse i expect the same from the opposite gender……
If my requirement was a virgin husband and he didnt meet the requirement and still married me that is a deception.I would feel emotionally hurt too as a woman.He doesnt need to tell me if he was a virgin or not he could just say I cant marry you since I dont meet all the requirements.Same goes for men.
Exactly bro . 15 years ago, they said oh its just talking . Nowadays , oh she had few Tomorrow they will say , Its a normal thing just accept it . Its crazy that ppl are both directly and indirectly supporting zina
A person involved in Zina should get married to another one involved in Zina only. No problem with that. However, a person involved in Zina should not marry a man/woman who is clean without informing that person before marriage. Then it depends on his/her decision. Otherwise that marriage is not approved by Allah. Feminism is a pagan concept. For the women's health benefits, hijabi feminist women should convert to pagan religions and marry a pagan man. Otherwise she picks up fight with Allah. Islam and true Judaism is for only the uplifted women with a cool composed head. Real men only worship one God Almighty who is his creator and created male in his own image! Only weak girly men are idol worshipers!
@@Universe30243used one? You are talking about a human being not an item of clothing. A human being whose soul was crafted by the benevolent which however did some questionable things. If you think of woman as some items of clothing then do not get married and if you do get married I pray to god then your daughter shall be called an object.
As a woman I agree with you may Allah guide us bro amin bcz now a days everyone is fake and defend their sins even do it after getting married but only Allah knows the best if someone repent it or not otherwise time will always tell you the truth
i noticed always woman defending this and saying whats the problem if shes not virgin.. and then i remember what rasool allah said majority of jahunnami will be woman
As a historian, the Sheikh COMPLETELY disregards the FACT that for thousands of years up until the 2000s in all Muslim societies, 99% of women would ONLY have sex in marriage. The 1% were prostitutes and EVERYONE knew that they were prostitutes or the rare slut. Adultery was also very rare for the married women. Completely disregarding this reality that NEVER existed during the time of the companions or any sahaba. There is even the hadeeth where the Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him advised marrying a virgin to one of the sahabas instead of a previously MARRIED widow or divorcee woman. The MARRIED being the emphasis. He is basing his judgement on it being okay to marry a divorcee or widow and equating it with a woman who has not preserved her chastity for a husband but rather given it out freely. The men MARRYING knew 100% that a woman that was NOT a divorcee or a widow were virgins. Even that hadeeth is a testament to that fact. I believe with this modern reality, it is a right for a man to KNOW what he's getting as the basic virginity and purity of a marriage expectation has been absolved and destroyed. Such statements by Sheikhs only assist in giving Muslim women courage to go down the path of more debauchery expecting it to be "accepted" by their future husbands to be...
Nobody has a right to know about another person’s sins. It is a major sin to expose your wrongdoings as Allah (ﷻ) covers the sins of the person at night as though a blanket has been put over them. To throw this blanket away is an insult to Allah (ﷻ) and shows pride in the sin. Cursed is the one who exposes either their own sins or the sins of another. Asking someone to expose their sins and expecting that to be a right is completely impermissible. Whatever is in a person’s past is none of your business. You bring up the sahaba (رضي الله عنهما) but do you not know that some of the greatest of them were also the greatest enemies of Islam in their past such as ‘Amr ibn al-‘As (رضي الله عنه) prior to him accepting Islam yet we would never dare hold that over him. You claim to be a historian, and even though this is not a matter of history but of Islamic rulings, I will entertain it for you: do you not know that among the companions, there were those who used to drink alcohol and whom were not virgins? However, when a person accepts Islam, all of their sins are forgiven and it is the very same with the one who seeks forgiveness, so who are we to judge a person’s past if it is forgiven by the True Judge (ﷻ) ? I’ll leave you with one hadith on the matter. I heard Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) saying. "All the sins of my followers will be forgiven except those of the Mujahirin (those who commit a sin openly or disclose their sins to the people). An example of such disclosure is that a person commits a sin at night and though Allah screens it from the public, then he comes in the morning, and says, 'O so-and-so, I did such-and-such (evil) deed yesterday,' though he spent his night screened by his Lord (none knowing about his sin) and in the morning he removes Allah's screen from himself."
@Silence4725 Your point is valid regarding the sahaba that were men. As I pointed out, there was prostitution and naturally the prostitute ratio was not 1 FEMALE prostitute serving one man. She would service many men of which it is possible that there may have been male sahaba prior to their conversion. Everyone in those societies KNEW who the prostitutes were. Everyone KNEW who was married, divorced and/or widowed. You KNEW what you were getting into with a woman. Failing to understand that basic societal condition and reality and the advice of the Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him to marry a VIRGIN to the MALE sahaba when he mentioned that he would marry a woman with children so she could take care of his siblings. Asking a woman IF she was a virgin would be considered lunacy because a NON-VIRGIN did NOT exist amongst non-married bachelor women. I believe that scholars should look at it from this lens and figure out a way to understand and vet because unlike use of alcohol, there is also a very real psychological thing that men undergo called "Retroactive Jealousy." Do you question taking the advice of the Prophet? I doubt it. So how do you carry out his Sunnah? Women do not undergo that and do not experience physical or physiological muscle contractions like getting kicked in the stomach. Men do and it festers in the mind with men till the day they die.
@@omerfarukkaratas2742 Akhi, the hadith on the Prophet (ﷺ) advising the man to marry the virgin does not relate to zina, it relates to a previous marriage. The word used in Arabic is بِكراً which solely refers to a woman who was never married. The word for chaste women as found in many other ahadith is المحصنات. I believe you are confounding two very different concepts. A woman can Islamically be a virgin even though she had fornicated and repented but would not be considered chaste thus she would by assumption be deemed chaste if she was never married as she is not allowed to disclose her sin and we as Muslims must always make the best assumptions of our brothers and sisters. This is the idea of حسن الظن as indeed Allah says: “O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.” [49:12] Therefore, since we cannot ask a person to expose their sins and we cannot make negative assumptions of a person then we would never know if a woman is truly chaste or not unless her sin was to be exposed in some other way that does not include deceit and it is not our business to know either way. Hopefully this answers your doubts inshaAllah.
@@omerfarukkaratas2742 Akhi, the hadith on the Prophet (ﷺ) advising the man to marry the virgin does not relate to zina, it relates to a previous marriage. The word used in Arabic is بِكراً which solely refers to a woman who was never married. The word for chaste women as found in many other ahadith is المحصنات. I believe you are confounding two very different concepts. A woman can Islamically be a virgin even though she had fornicated and repented but would not be considered chaste thus she would by assumption be deemed chaste if she was never married as she is not allowed to disclose her sin and we as Muslims must always make the best assumptions of our brothers and sisters. This is the idea of حسن الظن as indeed Allah says: “O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.” [49:12] Therefore, since we cannot ask a person to expose their sins and we cannot make negative assumptions of a person then we would never know if a woman is truly chaste or not unless her sin was to be exposed in some other way that does not include deceit and it is not our business to know either way. Hopefully this answers your doubts inshaAllah.
@@omerfarukkaratas2742 Akhi, the hadith on the Prophet (ﷺ) advising the man to marry the virgin does not relate to zina, it relates to a previous marriage. The word used in Arabic is 'bikran' which solely refers to a woman who was never married. The word for chaste women as found in many other ahadith is al-mohsinat. I believe you are confounding two very different concepts. A woman can Islamically be a virgin even though she had committed zina and repented but would not be considered chaste thus she would by assumption be deemed chaste if she was never married as she is not allowed to disclose her sin and we as Muslims must always make the best assumptions of our brothers and sisters. This is the idea of husn al dhun as indeed Allah says: “O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.” [49:12] Therefore, since we cannot ask a person to expose their sins and we cannot make negative assumptions of a person then we would never know if a woman is truly chaste or not unless her sin was to be exposed in some other way that does not include deceit and it is not our business to know either way. Hopefully this answers your doubts inshaAllah.
The overall lesson men should learn from this is to not simply marry any woman without knowing them well beforehand as well as making strict conditions regarding purity of the women in the marriage contract. Prevention is always better than cure.
@@perdana5786 exactly bro.... Examples like these will help to prevent future problems. BTW , iam not that interested in getting married. After seeing this it motivated me more not to marry . But staying single is not easy,it will be hard life
How can you expect a s*utty girl be honest enough to confess about her sins before marriage!! Most s*utty girl would think, "I had all the fun I needed, now I will tawbah to Allah & find a nice guy to live peacefully from now on" 😂
As a Muslim girl myself, even mere thought of any non mehram ever touching me even with just one finger makes me extremely disgusted and horrified, how do people fall that low that they don't even have fear of God😢 if any man from my family ever get married to non virgin when he himself is virgin, I won't find it wrong if he divorces her, what would be point of marriage if u don't feel affection for your partner your whole life, and it horrifies me too what if my future partner is non virgin too😢 all I can do is pray to get a pious partner
As a man; a strong obligation of a decent father and human being is entrusting the motherhood of your children with someone who isnt of a completely radically different morality and values because your children will be just like her. Theres men who never unnecessarily speak to and show respect to every women in life and theres women who commit Zina and choose Dunya. How can one expect a MARRIAGE of the two?
@@StreetDrilla exactly, that's like a betrayal from your partner when you keep yourself away from such sins and save yourself for your life partner, and it turns out that he/she has committed such sin
Sister "bad men are for Bad women And Good men are for Good women" whether your a man or a woman Please if you want to have pious wife or husband in future Do your best to stay away from Zina because haram will not make you happy it is temporary and once you lost your virginity you cant get it back the beauty of Halal is something that is for your own Good So Do your best and fight against the Devil for the sake of your Good future
So a woman just gets away. I as a man keep myself from all the temptations, contain myself from premarital relations and I can't even ask for a virgin wife. Meanwhile she can do whatever she wants as long as she repents and keeps it hidden and away from the husband. This is just unfair.
Have a problem? Go and have a word with the prophet. We all know he is the best person to ever live and you already know he'll say the same things as sheikh.😂
Come on stop arguing over this. For both man and woman, Zina is so dangerous. Both of them must stay away from it. And it's required for both of them to repent for their mistakes. If a man or woman gets engaged in Zina or premarital relations, he/she must repent to Allah for that. If they feel genuinely guilty for their mistakes, inshallah Allah will forgive them. You heard the sheikh saying Allah can even forgive those who shirq. Then of course He can forgive these men and women. Islam is all about equality. About men and women equality, Allah said, “So their Lord responded to them: “I will never deny any of you-male or female-the reward of your deeds. Both are equal in reward….”4 (Quran 3:195). So please stop this argument. Men and women are same. They are made for each other. Husband and wife should forgive each other for their past mistakes if they have repented. Cause Allah is almighty. He created us, if He can forgive us, why can't we? Both man and woman can end a relationship they don't want. If you don't feel happy with your husband or wife, then leave. It's not about gender. It's the same for man and woman. Allah will forgive **ANYONE** who repents. May Allah forgive all of us for our mistakes. Amin.
@sadique7359, The Sheikh is giving his opinion according to Quran and Hadith. So, it is safe to assume that the prophet will most likely have the same opinion.
@@Saad-tmg Forgiving is a thing but not many ppl are able to sincerely forgive, it's rare, I guess it's a really bad idea to stay with someone your feelings cant forgive, not point on living with a women if what she done hurts your feeling and you cant forget/forgive it, simple.
I hope none of you ever go through this in this day and age… its really divastating to be in such situation after spending all your mind, heart, energy, wealth and expectations into the future with this person. For those who forgave may allah protect them and reward them with their sabr.
That definition of a virgin is not correct astaghfirullaah. Not a fair answer & I would even seek advice from more scholars for validity of this advice given. It's easy to say you won't care if not having personally experienced a certain situation. If he made his "requirements" known then she should not have accepted his proposal because that is deceptive.
Sheikh missed the point, may Allah forgive him. The man made it a marraige requirement, so that has to be respected. Also the sheikh is incorrect about the definition of a virgin. This is not acceptable from the woman. She needs to accept who she was and hopefully the new person who she is, but also must respect the requirements a man has put forth. If she doesn't fit those requirements, she doesn't have to marry him, but to cheat him is wrong and she is deserving of a divorce. We as muslims cannot cheat people then apply our own subjective definitions on something clear like virginity in order to get the best of both worlds at the expense of somebody's honor: it is wrong and disingenuine. May Allah compensate this man and provide him the virgin he is looking for. The sister should have maybe married someone previously divorced or become someone's second wife, but she shouldn't have cheated this man into a marraige. I am assuming everything the man said in this context was true as we only know one side of the story, and Allah knows best. May Allah forgive me for whatever incorrect thing I said.
Also doesn't Allah (azawajal) give the definition of a virgin within the Qur'an? Someone untouched by any man. Can someone find the ayat? JazakAllah khyr. This is why its so important to have local teachers that have an authentic sanad (chain of authentic teachers that follow a madhabb), otherwise you get opinions from popular people rather than that from our 1400+ old tradition.
@@PerspectiveNarrative No, a virgin is someone sexually untouched by a man, regardless of marraige. Having a nikah does not immediately make you a non virgin. One must commit to intimacy to lose their virginity. If you are sincerely sure that he is totally correct, can you bring this question to your local Imam? Ask him that: "if a woman sleeps with a bunch of men, but is not married, is she still a virgin?" Also please be careful with making argumentive statements that you do not believe in, as we have to answer before Allah in Qiyamah.
@@FruitsOfTheHearts don't talk without knowledge. you can't come up with your own definitions, virgin is someone who has not married before regardless of sexual intercourse occurred or not. the ayat you are referring are the characteristics of houris.
I think there is nothing wrong with the man if he really didn't pressure her or have any other hidden intentions. If he is a clean person, it is really a very difficult test from Allah that he has to marry this woman. I hope the brother finds peace. He needs to take his time to calm his mind and if it becomes completely difficult for him to endure, I see no wrong of him to leave the girl. But I also agree with Sheikh, he needs to try and see things from the Sheikh's perspective first. May Allah make it easy for him.
Never let yourselves be emotionally dominated by a woman. Don't overlook your own rules and don't let yourself be overwhelmed in your rules and masculinity. Above all, don't get too emotional with women and be able to walk. And not be dependent on the beauty of a woman.
@MrOsmanu Bruh pls you don't understand women if you think we have different problems. There are many men who gaslight and manipulate women. Infact, it's more of a common attribute of men than women. Women are more emotional and sensitive and easy to manipulate and gaslight. Hence, it goes for them as well. If you still believe we both have completely different issues bc of different gender then you are really naive.
@MrOsmanu Bruh pls you don't understand women if you think we have different problems. There are many men who gaslight and manipulate women. Infact, it's more of a common attribute of dudes than women. Women are more emotional and sensitive and easy to manipulate and gaslight. Hence, it goes for them as well. If you still believe we both have completely different issues bc of different gender then you are really naive.
@MrOsmanu Bruh pls you don't know anything about females if you think we have different problems. There are many guys who gaslight and manipulate females. Infact, it's more of a common attribute of guys than females. Females are more emotional and sensitive and easy to manipulate and gaslight. Hence, it goes for them as well. If you still believe we both have completely different issues bc of different gender then you are really naive.
Sheikh is wrong in this case.If he is a clean virgin man he needs a clean untouched wife. If he feels cheated he should do another Nikah to a virgin.She should have told him before Nikah not after.
@@elelelel9822he explicitly says in this video that he is. And set virginity as a requirement for the marriage. If he wasn't a virgin himself he wouldn't have cared.
@burakcoskun1865 That's not true. MANY men, even after having slept around, demand a virgin. Don't tell me that there aren't double standards regarding virginity. Most men get away with it. Haven't heard of a single incident where a man has even been asked about such. The virginity issue always revolves around women. That's why even the video discusses a WOMANS virginity, not the other way around. You KNOW this.
@@elelelel9822 then that's his sin. But if the man is honest then you're trying to slander and lie about him. I never said there aren't double standards in general but we r talking about this specific case. Don't cop out because you're emotional and try to negate the wife's dishonesty in this case. Just because u never heard it doesn't mean it doesn't happen. The video discusses this because the man called and asked for the sheikhs advice. Quit gaslighting because u're emotional.
@burakcoskun1865 Wow, narcissistic much? Guess you can't keep up a discussion and just have to insult the other person just because you don't handle a disagreement. Says a lot about your character. Never defended her dishonesty, just telling facts about the issue on a general basis. Boş yapma! Hadi yürü..!
Bro it's too painful ..😢. No man can accept that. It's too tough for us men with so many opportunities but we still remained pure. And When we learned that we remainded pure for the girl who didn't even care about this ? How to accept this?🤷🏻♂️
@@haziqalakhani I got your point. It can't be like I'm doing something wrong and then become righteous. Allah can forgive but we humans can hardly forgive or forget. I mean you have to think about the fact that he struggled at the time , the girl didn't. So it's about deserving & expecting. So it hurts as hel*.
@@zalis2992 look what your saying is wrong but i get that a man would feel bad because of that so he can divorce if he wants he doesnt have to keep her and i know that humans cant forgive easily but they should to a certain level but ofc in this case he can divorce her if he wants because im sure the guy doesnt feel like forgiving so the marriage is already broken but she has to hide her sins or else how is she gonna get married (given that she already repented ofc) so its not about the hard time he had before marriage its just that he can choose what he wants to do. hope u understand
@@haziqalakhani I didn't disagree to ur point what you have said. That's what I'm saying divorce is the only option left for those who can't accept this. (Most of them can't..I won't accept that too. Cause I could do the same if I wished. So I won't forgive the same as them). But yeah..if possible the girl should keep it hidden. It will be wise. So the man before him wouldn't know and wouldn't regret it. Good for Everyone.
For everyone saying sheikh missed the point you guys are naiive, Sheikh is not only saving a house from being torn apart, but is also telling the man to be mature about this, when Allah never reveals what sins you have done in the past and if somehow you get to know them, doesn't mean the person is still bad. If they are kind and they do everything according to Islam, then what's wrong? Since Allah forgives everything, you can't forgive a person for being how they were just because now you know what they did? And what if you marry a virgin woman and she goes and cheats behind your back and doesn't tell you? What then? Only Allah knows, so be kind to your spouses.
But in another video he says A woman who has committed zina can't be married with anyone other than the man who she committed zina with and vice versa... i am left confused now.
@@shaheerejaz1009nah that the mistake first she need to ask god forgiveness and promise for not do it again and then she can get married to anyone but better keep her mouth shut
The context here matters a lot! Firstly, the condition this brother had, he wanted to marry a chaste person like he was, and did he or did he not make it clear. Secondly, no person is allowed to disclose his/her sins which ALLAH has concealed. Third, then how he could have known if she was a virgin or not if she should have concealed her sins. Also he or no person has the right to ask this question to anyone. Scenario 1: So the ideal thing to have been done in this case before marriage is that the brother should have just put the conditions that he wants to marry a pious, ALLAH fearing, one who prays her Salah and most importantly a Virgin & chaste person. And assuming that the Sister had changed her life and repented from her sins and was already a GOD fearing lady when this proposal came, she should have still rejected the proposal without giving any reasons whatsoever or disclosing her sins. Scenario 2: If There was no such condition put by the brother before marriage, he does not have any right to blame the sister now. Assuming that there was no pressure on her and the sister disclosed her sin in naivety (which btw is another sin in itself and shouldn't have been done), even then the brother doesn't have any right to blame her for her past and the better thing to do would be to move on in life given that she's a pious person and has changed her ways. Either way, now that this thing is out in the open, if the condition was put before marriage and the sister lied or did not reject the proposal knowing very well what the man wanted, this is deceit and better thing for them would be to separate, no questions asked. And if there was not such conditions clearly defines before marriage, high chances are that once this thing came out in the open, the brother might be scarred mentally, and that varies from person to person. If the brother is certain that he cannot forgive and forget, then it's better to just separate and move on rather than destroying each other's life as the barrier of trust between them has broken and no matter what, he will never ever trust her again period. But if he chooses to ignore this, or this is something he understands happened in the past, and he was not that concerned about before marriage, and gives her a second chance as we are always advised to think good of people, especially if there are children involved, and the brother has the mental strength to move forward, he should keep her with him. The answer from Sheikh is on point though. Whatever she was before marriage, if she's an excellent mother and wife then it's your call akhi at the end of the day...
for your kind of knowledge what guarantee is there that she won't commit zina again? commit zina then apologize to Allah and destroy the mental health of husband wowo
@@abc-kn6ex He is saying that don't play around that topic that much, whether your (future) spouse is a virgin or not. The dunya is a test and the paradise eternal. So, may Allah reward anyone who just accept his faith and lives with a woman whose past isn't that innocent.
This kind of speeches makes people go out of the way to make their need instead of marriage, Sheikh please don't make our girl's go crazy , Allah will forgive everything doesn't mean you can do anything you want or say anything you want ,may allah give you hidayat.
I have read this somewhere that Pure men are for pure women and impure men are for impure women so u basically should keep ur own self pure and away from evil tendencies Allah the most merciful will indeed do something in ur utmost favor
Marriage is a sacred 'covenant'. If someone agreed to the covenant that she/he is virgin and agree to the marriage by lying then that covenant should be questioned. She/he should marry someone who has no problem with virginity. Why lie to someone?
My uncle was married to girl that was in pre marrital affair but my was uncle was willing to accept her if she remained faithful but she said she was in love with her ex and didn't engage in any intimacy with my uncle. Few days later she and her father plotted against my uncle and threatened to file dowry case and harrasment. Dowry is strictly illegal in India. And now they asking hefty amount as divorce settlement, now she denied everything about her affair and is blaming us for mental harrassment. Now my uncle is stuck....
Actually the fact nowadays is like if girl has multiple partners before marriage had s ' with them. She will repeat such actions even in future i am not saying all but this is in general.
We should mention the matter of virginity before the marriage is finalised (of course in a civil, mature way). Expectations more or less end up with disasters. Precautionary measures are the best for avoiding such situations InshaAllah. Dear Brothers and Sisters, protect yourselves from the traps of human and jinn shayateen.
Says who? Hadith says your wife can lie to you to keep harmony in the marriage. IN this case, if she was a hoe but repented, then she can lie to you to keep harmony according to Allah. Are you a kufr?
@@yellowSmileyFacee No hadith says your wife can lie. She just reject his proposal. It's haram to deceive someone. The brother put virginity in his marriage contact. She didn't full fill. So, She can not marry him. This old men is Jahi--l. Don't know what he is telling.
I don't think most of the people understood what he said, In summery, their relationship was just fine, when she didn't reveal her sin that she repented from. Now she disclosed her sins he doesn't want to be with her which is understandable. Also forgiveness is a biggest plus a human can have, Every time anyone asks for forgiveness Allah forgives them (Allah is not bound to it but he is merciful and he forgives because he wills it) so we as his creation, should also think about forgiveness because it is such a noble and good thing. And then at the end he said in the end it's his decision. Meaning it isn't sinful but as you know devorce is disliked by Allah but not haram.
We need to understand Allah is Allah because he can forgive any sin no matter what, humans are creations of creator and both are different, Allah has put different emotions in us for different reasons, sometimes it happens you are not able to forgive which is totally fine as long as you are not cursing and backbiting about the person specially if he/she has repented, just leave them as they are and mind your own business if you are unable to forgive. Humans are weak because of emotions
@@pecha0 Yes however that doesn't make them flawless and emotionless, Allah can forgive gravest sin however humans are not capable enough to forgive sins like zina , specially emotional forgiveness, however it doesn't mean they taunt, curse the person, if you are hurt deeply and unable to forgive the person who has already repented, you should move ahead with your life and don't talk slander that person, that's it. It wary from human to human, some can forgive and some are so much hurt they are unable to specially emotionally, we can't compare Allah's prospective and human's prospective , Allah's prospective is infinite, while human prospective is limited. Reading your reply seems you are not mature enough to understand all these things.
You feminists should lecture yourself about forgiveness. Why can't you accept a man having more than 1 wife? Something halal and permissible??? Yet he is expected to forgive and accept a woman disgusting haram past and lies and deception? Don't lecture us about tolerance and mercy and forgiveness and acceptance.. when you can't do it yourself
@ertugrulbae46 I am a boy and i speak for people, not one specific gender if you read the comments with your mind being not biased, you would understand i didn't take anyone's side. Also i mentioned, it's his choice if he would forgive or not, As the sheikh said. The main point was if you have asked forgiveness from Allah for a sin, don't bother disclose it to other people. And btw i am not against marrying more than one women. I'm against it if it goes against Allah and Islam and or if the person who is marrying multiple, couldn't care and provide for them properly. May Allah make you understand and may Allah forgive me if i am mistaken.
thats not for anyone to say! everyone has a past that theyre most probably ashamed of and she may have turned her life around. so assume the best of her and many in general IF we know nothing about them
It feels wrong because I try to be the best version of myself in terms of wealth, mindset, body, manners, and being clean for my future spouse. As a man I want to see the same from a woman, I expect her to be like me like clean I can teach her everything and even help her on home chores, but she has to be clean it feels like I got cheated on even if it was before marriage. I don't agree with this sheikh that his pov, if it's causing discomfort I'd just divorce. May Allah Give all of us clean virgin beautiful ladies, ameen.
@@IDRIS-wl3qy If the man lied about being a virgin and it was of your preference to marry a virgin man then yes, get a clean man. How is it sick? You know what is sick? Cheating a innocent person who just wanted an honest person to marry. If the very foundation of your marriage was based off lies and misinterpretations of each other then the marriage will likely not last.
If you feel cheated and incomplete after discovering she is not virgin, you might consider a second nikah instead of divorcing. This can bring balance to the couple dynamic
By the way this mufti has failed to address the issue rightfully. And about such people who commit sex crimes multiple times and even murders as you have said don't usually have the heart to repent or may be one in a million. Somethings can be understood by logic and not through Muftis.
It doesn't matter if she repented or not . Even if she is the most religious or angelic person who was previously engaged in physical relationship before marriage , I swear to Allah I'd rather die before I marry her .
@@AshAbdur she didn't sleep around with anyone outside of marriage. i wouldn't mind marrying a divorced woman, because she may not be virgin but is chaste. Her character and integrity is intact. However, a woman who has made the decision to commit adultery before manage, she is not virgin nor is she chaste. Allah forgives all sins. And Allah has permitted men to put conditions before marriage the same as He has granted women the permission to put conditions. The man doesn't need to blatantly ask her if she has slept around or committed Zina. He can put a list of two or three (or more) things that are deal breakers for him, and mention that if she indulged in anyone or more of those things he would respectfully like to part ways with her. She won't have to say i slept around and partyed around. She can respectfully mention that i'm not the one for you as per the deal breakers you have for a prospective spouse. And GO their spearate ways.
As Muslims we are direly missing unapologetic scholars with unfiltered judgements and opinions . Beware of those who've turned teaching Islam into a business
@@sadique7359 can ask for whatever money for counseslling its not money for iislamic knowledge. Nunber 2 this fatwa is actually fatwa of classical scholars..the brother didnt specify if he had wrotten in marriage contract if he assumes she is vrgin the advuce us like this go read some fiqh books
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May Allah protect us from this type of situation.
Ameen.
Aameen Ya Rabb
Allahumma Ameen
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Ameen ♥️
He sounds so broken 🥺💔
Yeah. He sacrificed his whole life and tried to restrict his love for one woman but in the end all these years have been wasted. Now ofcourse this will push him to go for affairs willingly or unwillingly. Thats unfortunate.
@@rushadrazib4239it’s a test for him
You have no right or authority to call her a sinner, as she may choose to repent before the Lord.
it's not wasted, we do it for allah after all and he'll get his good deeds @@rushadrazib4239
@@Uzairmosin yeah we know. No one is calling her anything.
If you feel cheated and it causes you emotional distress then it's best to divorce and move on because that's the best for everyone. Marriage is for peace. If after learning the fact of who she is, you lose your ability feel peace, then there's no point in the marriage anymore.
finally someone smart. allah says in the quran that he created for us mates not for the sake of love but rather peace, if that peace has been breached….whats the goddamn point anymore?
“And one of His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves so that you may find comfort in them. And He has placed between you compassion and mercy. Surely in this are signs for people who reflect.”
(30:21)
This brings fulfilment to the answer l
If a person isn't allowed to ask someone else about the sins in their past, how does it make sense to divorce over it? Her past is none of his business, and he's surely committed his own sins; who is he to hold her past against her? She doesn’t even have to ask for his forgiveness if these events happened before they were married. I understand being upset about it, but since it’s none of his business, he needs to get over it and move on. Otherwise, should he divorce every woman he marries who has sinned before or done something he doesn’t like?
@@ibrahim_-_-_ Do you think Islam calls us to resort to divorce every time a marriage isn’t peaceful? That’s not true. We should strive to live with our spouses in peace, but both life and marriage are tests and are not always easy. Divorcing a spouse who is good to you over sins committed prior to the marriage-sins which have nothing to do with you-is unwise, and this applies to both men and women. Only Allah knows if such actions are permissible.
Allah says in the Quran, "If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good" [al-Nisa’ 4:19]. This means that even if a man dislikes something about his wife, he might find other qualities in her that make staying worthwhile. We are all human and we all sin. If she is a changed woman and a good wife, there is no reason a man cannot find peace with her if he genuinely desires to do so for the sake of Allah.
@@ibrahim_-_-_ Do you think Islam calls us to resort to divorce if a marriage isn’t peaceful all the time? That’s not true. We should strive to live with our spouses in peace, but both life and marriage are tests and are not always easy. Divorcing a spouse who is good to you over sins committed prior to the marriage-sins which have nothing to do with you-is unwise, and this applies to both men and women. Only Allah knows if such actions are permissible.
Allah says in the Quran, "If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good" [al-Nisa’ 4:19]. This means that even if a man dislikes something about his wife, he might find other qualities in her that make staying worthwhile. We are all human and we all sin. If she is a changed woman and a good wife, there is no reason a man cannot find peace with her if he genuinely desires to do so for the sake of Allah.
And if you are a Muslim, use better language for the sake of Allah.
~ I WAS INTO A MARRIAGE WITH A NON VIRGIN~
After 2 weeks of my marriage, my wife's ex had given me intimate photos of her with different people. I was shocked and traumatised.
I got a fatwa to accept her. I went to accept her. Before going, I spoke to her over phone where she expressed hapiness. But when I went her place, she told that she had not done anything wrong. She said whatever she had done was before marriage and I should not have over reacted. And she asked khula (may be luckily) because I "said many bad things". I dont know what was it. I said her if there is anything I said in anger I am sorry for that. I want to resolve the issue. She didnt agree. But she did take money for the Khula.
I married again. May be with the most innocent girl on earth. My wife loves me a lot. She is highly dedictated to our family. Allah has listened my prayers.
im sorry you had to go through that. Happy you nad your Wife Allahumabarik are happy.
Alhumdulilahi Allah said in quran 24 26 that pure men are for pure women
Virgin means in Islam some one who was never married
@@Wealth_Inspects yes. And it's true.but rare case will happen also. Depends on Allah only
Now I get scared, I am a young man and want to get married so that I will get my needs done in the halal way but with all these stories of guys going through such scary things, I'm hesitant ..
My advice to all our brothers and sisters that aren't married. Please stay far away from zina despite your desires. It can have a detrimental impact on your future. If you can, get married young. You don't have to be financially settled to get married, I wasn't. You have time to grow your wealth later with your spouse
yeh brother but how are we going to get married young if no father is going to hand their daughters to us as, we are not financially stable. idk akhi im struggling with this
Unfortunately there is almost no way to get married without being financially stable in today time
Lol no one gives their daughter to low earning men's. Everyone wants good salary men. Generation made zina easy and married difficult
Salamaliekum I got married with no money Alhamdulilah I put my trust in Allah and everything worked out also depends on who you want to marry if they have imaan and patience find one that doesn’t follow the world my brothers and sisters
@@Ayden-ei2rbme too 😢💔…. What do we do we want to stay away from the haram and want to make a halal
Please brothers and sisters stay away from zina.😔
Allah Razı olsun kardeş
May Allah bless you
especially the brothers, I am saving myself for marriage and I hope my future husband isn't some playboy or stuff
@@DesignGon women are more scary nowadays, not men
@@DesignGon sheik says unless you're not marriage, you're called virgin even though you sleep around before 😅 crazy
@@DesignGon🤡look who's saying this, fellas...A play girl is saying "especially the brothers" 🥴 In 90% of cases ya'll are responsible for this!!
This is scary. No man would tolerate this especially if he himself was pure and put it as a requirement before marriage.
Anyways may Allah protect everyone and grant all of us good & pure spouses.
@@thehourglassfan3515 go marry her then
@@thehourglassfan3515 you know what else is wicked? saying it's in different shapes knowing what the main topic is.
@@thehourglassfan3515 the facts always hurt akhi
@@filywreck So you’re encouraging people to go commit adultery zina since she is already married? I seek refuge in Allah.
@@filywreck Btw, I wouldn’t marry a woman who was previously married either. I would only marry a pure woman.
I’m a woman and I wouldn’t like if my son was a virgin and married a non virgin.
Exactly
If your son weren't a virgin, wouldn't you like him to be forgiven if he repents ? Would you rather have hil being rejected by all potential spouses he may propose to ?
@@halimazahri6203 impure things are supporting impure things. Let me clear if you are impure then go and marry one of your dirty kind. But if you're pure then you can have the pure one. That's it. Shits and flowers can't be together. If you have repent doesn't mean you can have the pure one. Go and marry the people who repented. Why you want the pure one? Do you think of us as a fool? Who remained pure their whole life and then got what? the shit? 🤣
@@halimazahri6203 impure things are supporting impure things. Let me clear if you are impure then go and marry one of your dirty kinds. But if you're pure then you can have the pure one. That's it. Shits and flowers can't be together. If you have repent doesn't mean you can have the pure one. Go and marry the people who repented. Why you want the pure one? Do you think of us as a fool? Who remained pure their whole life for what? For used shit? 🤣
@@halimazahri6203 impure things are supporting impure things. Let me clear if you are impure then go and marry one of your dirty kinds. But if you're pure then you can have the pure one. That's it. Shits and flowers can't be together. If you have repent doesn't mean you can have the pure one. Go and marry the people who repented. Why you want the pure one? Do you think of us as a f••| ? Who rem@ined pure their whole life for what? For used things? 🤣
Multiple men? Damn if it was one okay a mistake but now it's not even a mistake it's a choice made by a grown woman
Exactly 😂
Yes you're right brother
If you sex before marriage. It has never been one time. Don't get fooled by anyone saying it was just one day.
@mattarjaiskel4625 definitely... Unless it's man/woman of great control ... it's never one time thing ... cause sex is something that gives indescribable pleasure and if done once, you'll feel urge stronger than any withdrawal symptoms to do it again and again ....
hush, you males are out here bragging about sleeping around. Lets not
There is a correction I want to point out. Not every unmarried woman is a virgin in Islam, that's not the meaning. Every unmarried woman is assumed to be a virgin, unless there is evidence to suggest otherwise. In this case there was an actual confession, so there is no disparity. And in the Quran Allah tells us to marry so we may find peace, but what peace is one expected to find when you were deceived before the nikah and one of your 2 conditions were not fulfilled. It's really up to the man, but if this was my close relative or a friend I really care about who asked me for advise, I would tell him to divorce
❤ thank u
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Ridiculous
@@joyceidornigie4631 ridiculous to feminists and zina supporters
Virgin means chaste, so stop finding excuses for adultery and changing the meaning of the Quran !
@@joyceidornigie4631what's ridiculous
I think Sheikh missed point, and is completely dismissing how this man feels
Is his feeling important or what is right by Allah?
@@faizullakhan1556 did Allah said to cheat in marriage contract?
Ooo so men also are emotional?
It’s logic mate, if you get married to a girl and you’re telling me that you don’t need to know about the 50 other men she slept with? Sfe
Agree. Men are told to marry women who are appealing to them in order to bring a sense of calm and happiness to their hearts. But when that feeling is no longer there, and has changed into something that makes you unhappy. Divorce is the best way. But do it peacefully. Divorce and get married again. No wrong about it. Islam is not christian.
If he wanted her VIRGIN and she wasn't, then that's a major lie
Sheik started explaining the definition of 'virgin'
That's irrelevant. The man wanted a woman who was not touched by another man. Period
A Muslim man who likes to watch orn also want a virgin.
@@Cat-it9kk watching corn 🌽🌽 is not adultery.
@@Cat-it9kk indeed , orn is a sin .
But its not like zina.
@@sadique7359 Don’t defend bro. It’s minor zina and haram. It's like a drug that pollutes their minds and can create a bad character in them. And most orn addicts are not good brothers who can protect their sisters. In fact, some of them invite the innocent those things.
@@Cat-it9kk iam not defending .iam just saying the fact.
Asthafirullah.
Yea it's like drug.
But its not like the zina ,
Well if the man quits the behaviour its okay for them to marry
It was a requirement of the marriage for her to be a virgin.
in that case would the nikah be invalidated and should the guy say talaq?
Idk he's choice he's life@@haziq0007
She took undue advantage of him 😢
That's already a ground for divorce 😭😭
How did she take full advantage of him. You learn about Islam first. You are not supposed to talk about your past in Islam and if she repented j don’t see the problem same goes with the guy you need to wake up
@@AshAbdurcause she lied first, and then told him. You 🤡
@@AshAbdurI don't see how her repenting makes her a virgin again. His problem is not that she had any random sins which she didn't tell him about. His problem is that she was not a virgin even though she said she is a virgin.
Moreover, how does repenting to allah give you the right to LIE and say that you are a virgin? ON TOP OF THAT HOW DO YOU EVEN KNOW THAT ALLAH HAS EVEN FORGIVEN YOU?
If you deceive or lie to your potential spouse about important things like that, you are twisting the rules of islam to your benefit. Your sins are between you and Allah. But virginity is between the men and women.
@ nobody knows Allah has forgiven you but if you go by the Quran he has.
And In Islam you aren’t even supposed to bring up your past…
@@AshAbdur But that doesn't mean you are now allowed to lie about these things, are you?
I don't agree with Sheikh this time , Allah may forgive her but the husband is not obliged to forgive her . The man was betrayed, may Allah give him strength to recover 😭🤲
Gintoki like us would just kick that s*ut out of the house & divorce her right away, what do u say?
recovery from what bro?
You people are crazy
😂
true bro the sheikh here is totally wrong
@@aarona4131 you are the crazy person here. are you a virgin ? are you married to a virgin ?
Are you saying that you feel insecure.
Surah An-Nur 26:
"Wicked women are for wicked men, and wicked men are for wicked women. And virtuous women are for virtuous men, and virtuous men are for virtuous women. The virtuous are innocent of what the wicked say. They will have forgiveness and an honourable provision."
He tells that clean past was one of his requirements for marriage. So, by lying did she violated his haqq. Now he's to blame because his wife is a liar? How could you trust such a wife? That so called sheikh is partly wrong.
And he gives a literal translation of ‘virginity in Islam’ , a woman who has not married before implies that she has not been touched. I really like this sheikh but he is wrong here, and we all make mistakes. May Allah unite us.
Islam allows premarital sx with captive women, what can U expect
So what if she was raped??😢
exactly 😂
@@najaatuiliyasu7543 tis is exception an exception cant be example if se is rvpe by men its not er fault
i would immediately divorce if this happens to me. Not my cup of tea to tolerate this
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@@Fearlesskash Ditto
He has a right to divorce her bcz she accepted she lied and had multiple men before. If she repented Allah will forgive her but he is not obligated to keep her now he is armed with this information. I would divorce her asap.
You are definetely right kardeş
well she failed in repentance because she told someone so it is blocked
Where did she lie
@@gloryandpraisefromkoran6467perhaps you might ask where the part did she lie?
She didn't lie but I also would be broken if this happened and wouldn't tolerate such a woman, although as per haq brother she didn't lie and repented and as for the man he never asked her as well.
I don't think Sheikh truly understood, the guy was a virgin and wanted a virgin and rightfully so, men have higher sex drive than women yet my guy stayed virgin despite his sexual desires, you have no idea how hard it must've been for him, and all he asked in return was a wife who's a virgin.
So why are you telling him to accept it, it's not even about forgiveness it's about the fact that she lied to him and she was not the kind of person he wanted, so why are you telling him to suck it up????
He has the full right to divorce her, so stop saying "if Allah forgives her sins why can't you?" Because my guy ain't known as "the all forgiving", plus it ain't about forgiveness it's about the kind of person he wanted to share his life with.
So disappointed on Sheikh's advice
yea exactly, this shit "Sheikh" should stop doing this "JOB".
Exactly
But the sheikh also said at the end that it was up to husband though?
The sheikh said it's his call not yours. That's that.
Agreed. I would not even seek advice. Would be so disgusted and divorce immediately.
It’s haram to say you’re a virgin when you’re not.
It’s Haram to disclose your sin after you have repented.
@@watiflappynounou3302 what if your husband/wife took your virginity when they aren't themselves and deceived your whole life. If she has slept with other men then she is more likely to cheat on you and have a baby which is not yours.
make sense
No it is not…
@@watiflappynounou3302 no its not. if u ask for a requirment and u lie then u say the truth u fooled and lied and betrayed another person.
So its ok to commit adultery before marriage and lie, deceive to future spouse?
Repentance doesn't give you free pass to deceive someone especially your future spouse.
Muslim men have choice to marry Christian or jew women but Muslim men will opt for Muslim women because they are thought to be more modest.
i am afraid that your advice will give more freedom to those who commit adultery.
instead of condemning the act you are giving leverage.
Guys do not compromise in such situations, we must protect our women from such fitna.
may ALLAH subhanahu wa ta'la guide us to the straight path.
What does modesty have to do with this?
@@Thatsfine1998_it does brother
@@Noname-u5h9e so a non virgin can never be modest again?
@Thatsfine1998_ Of course they can be but if a spouse is seeking a virgin exclusively then it's wrong to deeive and lie to the spouse.
@@Slave_of_the_Most_Merciful as harsh as it sounds, you‘re actually supposed to lie and can’t tell anyone that you‘ve committed a sin. I know most won‘t like this but it’s the truth. But as a decent person, you can of course reject the proposal knowing you can’t fulfill their requirements but you shouldn’t tell them the reason in this case.
he should divorce her. It will cause issues down the line as he will always think about it from now on. Hes only a few weeks in, thats nothing.
I just saying this but if you know nothing just silent.
And what if she is loyal now and repents, and makes a beautiful life with him??
@@amy87174 Marriage is for peace. If every time he looks at her he is reminded of her past and it causes him distress and his peace is lost then I feel like there's no point in staying with her anymore.
@@amy87174not everyone forgets and forgives
what this sheikh and so many others do not realise is how detrimental this is for the future of marriage. People who previously engaged with other men, especially multiple men/non practicing /non-muslim men are then psychologically used to the novelty of multiple partners, accustomed to doing un-islamic sexual acts , acting out their vile desires, these people eventually get bored of their spouse or start comparing them to previous partners and probably end up committing parental fraud. Sure, Allah is ever merciful and can forgive, but there's no stipulation on men to forgive, but only to conceal.
just imagine for a second, if this was a man, who had told the wife he is very wealthy or financially stable, but then after marriage it turns out he wasn't, the wife would be running to the courts to get a divorce or to the islamic juror for a khul. double effing standards, why do we men have to get the short end of the stick everytime?? just because we want a wife, want to have intimate relations and want to have kids?? No thank you, ask one of the men you slept with you to marry you, let's see what they have to say.
This is what people fail to realise is that Allah forgives and overlooks but not human beings.
the guy is a human, not Allah
This argument is hilarious. Muslim guys get the shorter end of the stick in marriage? Seriously? A Muslim wife literally has to tolerate a second, third, or fourth wife if her husband decides to take them, she literally has to depend on her husband's permission to work or even education, and she has to go wherever her husband goes to live, even if her husband lies to her before marriage about being wealthy (which is boasting and definitely not the same as concealing your sins when you are asked about it) and later finds that he is not so rich, she will have to go to a court for khula and may even have to give up the mahr, whereas the husband can divorce his wife whenever he wants without asking anyone's permission. The list goes on and you guys still get the shorter end! Sure!
@JannatRiyatahasin All the things you mentioned are rights given by Allah. And the main point is why should anyone especially those who fear Allah and guard their private parts take a Zani as their spouse?
Replying because this is a good comment that people need to see, so I want to bump it
No man can tolerate this after finding out
most men can if you have any self control lol
@@subhanrashid132 "self control"
So, a man should control himself even if he finds out that his wife is a sl*t, right? 🤔
@subhanrashid132 sounds like you don't know what self control means.
Most men can especially if they are not south Asian whose culture tend to be the cruelest towards women
No you are wrong. The past is the past. If you committed a major sin in the past, would you want us to stone 🪨 you for it or would you like to repent and like a second chance to reform yourself and be forgiven? When it comes to others you don't want to give them a chance but when it comes to you it's a different issue. May Allah deal with people like you.
Rise your Hand if You think this man should divorce her present wife
It's his choice but if Allah forgave her who are we to not forgive?
If this men married her for her vagina then must divorce her
@@artby3dAllah may forgive her. But I can't spend my life with someone who slept with another guy before me.
LOUD AND CLEAR
@@Jewel_Rana802what's make me sad is.. he said she's doing it with multiple guys 😢
@@Jewel_Rana802but you have had affairs and kissed a girl probably and slept with them? Should your wife leave u
For all brothers or sisters please stay away from zina, don't give in to the peer pressure of your friends or society or social media, change your friends to those who would stop you from walking on the haram path, if still you think you will commit some haram then fast on alternate days, the entire world around us today is just vulgur and degenerate, it's very very easy to sin today, no matter your income just get married at the earliest don't fall into the shaytans trap of becoming stable in career, good bank balance, have own house, car etc.
All the best!
Ok so now in this day and age, No father would give their daughter's hand in marriage to an unemployed man. Now the least requirement for a guy to get married is to have a high-end job, a car and a house. So for the majority of the men in our society it's impossible to get married early. And also to get all of these requirements the man already gets to the age of 35-40.
Sheikh's opinions can't always be right. He's wrong here.
The basic outcome of marriange should always be mental and physical peace as mentioned in Quran by our Lord. If her being NOT CLEAN is upsetting him, he's not in wrong to divorce her and move on for his own mental health is at stake. Even if she repented. Cuz its not about her, its about them.
tell your logic to Allah and lets see what Allahs says on the day of judgement
@@HerPrimeYearsshe lied. You will be responsible for defending her sin before Allah.
@@HerPrimeYearsHis logic is sound and inline with the fitrah of a man. The man cannot be made responsible for the sins the woman used to commit. If the man doesn't feel peace with such a woman, it's not his problem to force himself to stay. He's free to leave and find a clean person.
The Sheikh didn't say it's sinful to divorce her he said it's your call to do what you want if you feel betrayed and cheated
But the best thing to do in the eyes of Allah is to forgive her and move on because forgiving people is part of our faith and Allah will reward those who forgive and Allah hates divorce
But still if he prefers to get divorced he's free to do that and he will not be judged for it because he has a proper excuse for the divorce
@@tutigseg girl lied so assim didn't even get the question. He said irrelevant to the topic stuff.
Bro if your wife had a promiscuous past, it’s going to mess up your future. Idk why this man is saying to just accept it. You can’t find peace knowing your wife has been dug out by multiple men before you. Leave her and find another. She should’ve been straight up with you before your marriage.
I kinda agree with you tbh. The sheikh explained it from a neutral stance. The problem is that in the case of the person who asked the question, he felt betrayed. My solution would be simple either divorce her or don’t divorce her and marry another woman
A major point people are looking over is these women often carry a LOT of emotional baggage. This can be a ticking time bomb for when the couple have kids, its best to be truthful about how you feel before anything is set in stone.
@@Nabee_H not only that, she will compare the husband with past partners when theirs difficulty, she won’t be able to pairbond with him, her body carried the dna of the men she’s been with previously etc. etc.. It’s a big hell no across the board. Marrying a woman with a promiscuous past will mess up your future.
@@strokedout9807 maybe she did taubah who are you people nothing your not Allah remember that.
Correction shaikh didn't tell him to accept her he directly told him it is his call at the end of the day so the guy has choice wheather to accepr her or divorce her
I had a similar event that happened to me, i tried to accept her but i became too traumatized, she was perfect in every way imagineable but that one mistake she did. I couldn’t forgive her no matter what, even though she repented and she is genuinely regretting it. I held myself clean i deserve someone clean without experience. All this eventually led to our relationship getting dissolved. I couldn’t stop thinking about it for months and it was a nightmare. It’s really unfortunate for innocent people to fall for such a huge sin. Take care everybody and may Allah protect us all from this situation.
She is not repented she is trapped. Cause she do not have any more option 😢.
@@mdrokebtamim648 she have ( stay single or marry a divorcee or become 2nd wife)
@@mdrokebtamim648 nop there are options
1. Marry a divorced men
2. Marry her type
3. Become 2nd wife
4 .stay single
Ask them before marriage. You can’t determine someone’s virginity by their appearance
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Multiple men? I cannot accept that. I can never look at her the same way after knowing that
Well clearly you are stupid because you are not supposed to judge someone for their past. Like our prophet had married Khadija who had been married twice
@@AshAbduridiot she was not a fornicator or adulterer don't compare widows with fornicator,or adulterer
Widows are pure I will marry a widow who is chast no problem
@ You didn’t even read my whole comment so don’t comment here
@ the guy in the comment section doesn’t care about the women’s past status he cares if she’s a virgin or not. Do you understand or not ??
@@Afridarbaz if you look at the video she is not a widow she has had haram sex
Till the time his wife didn't tell him, it was fine as it was between her and Allah. After she told the truth it becomes difficult to stay with such person. Trust will always be a question. Moreover you will not find yourself comfortable with such person as your requirement is breached.
I am sure brother tried to get the words from her mouth by speaking such word as "pure" so that emotionally she will speak the truth. This guy would have already noticed whether she is virgin or not.
What i agree is that sheikh said if she is now God fearing, following her deen religiously and trying to be best for him then that's fine, no need to divorce her.
Can’t be sure about that though
Then why did god say in quran pure women are for pure men?
@Nomad_Adventurer no need to divorce her. But best to get another wife as well so you don't end up resenting your 1st wife for damaging your self worth.
There is a need to divorce her you cant build a marriage upon lies and catfishing to opress your past actions have consequences i would never accept a non virgin sister as a spouse i expect the same from the opposite gender……
If my requirement was a virgin husband and he didnt meet the requirement and still married me that is a deception.I would feel emotionally hurt too as a woman.He doesnt need to tell me if he was a virgin or not he could just say I cant marry you since I dont meet all the requirements.Same goes for men.
What a sad phase of muslim community where scholars, men and women are supporting Zina.
Just f around and settle down without having any consequences.
Exactly bro .
15 years ago, they said oh its just talking .
Nowadays , oh she had few
Tomorrow they will say ,
Its a normal thing just accept it .
Its crazy that ppl are both directly and indirectly supporting zina
this would incourage hijabi feminist,
remember you can do all the good thing seikh said but you can also divorce her it wouldnt be a sin...
A person involved in Zina should get married to another one involved in Zina only. No problem with that.
However, a person involved in Zina should not marry a man/woman who is clean without informing that person before marriage. Then it depends on his/her decision. Otherwise that marriage is not approved by Allah.
Feminism is a pagan concept. For the women's health benefits, hijabi feminist women should convert to pagan religions and marry a pagan man. Otherwise she picks up fight with Allah.
Islam and true Judaism is for only the uplifted women with a cool composed head.
Real men only worship one God Almighty who is his creator and created male in his own image! Only weak girly men are idol worshipers!
Exactly
he is probably not even a virgin😅
@@Lala_monzz He is saying he is a Vrgn. That's why he wants the same. But got the used one. Check again.
@@Universe30243used one? You are talking about a human being not an item of clothing. A human being whose soul was crafted by the benevolent which however did some questionable things. If you think of woman as some items of clothing then do not get married and if you do get married I pray to god then your daughter shall be called an object.
If fornicator=virgin and divorcee=nonvirgin, then brothers will always prefer the non virgin. Because we are trying to avoid the fornicator.
@@SandiegoRockstar love you!
You are right... But how would be a fornicator virgin?
You are right... But how would be a fornicator virgin?
@SigmaTrader05 the sheikh said a fornicator is a virgin because virgin just means never married.
@@SandiegoRockstar yes 🤣 many people think like this 😂...
But the reality is different
the problem nowadays is girls use this as a loophole
@@asimfaizlabib1959 is it scholar opinion or sunnah to lie in marriage requirement ?
@@sadique7359 I have no knowledge about it sorry.
@@asimfaizlabib1959 okay .no prob
As a woman I agree with you may Allah guide us bro amin bcz now a days everyone is fake and defend their sins even do it after getting married but only Allah knows the best if someone repent it or not otherwise time will always tell you the truth
May Allah keep the brother firm on the deen, wallahi i pray this never happends to any Muslim
Learn from the prophet
@@AshAbdurnone of any prophet wives were fornicator or adulterer prophet Mohammad saw married widows there is no problem marrying a widow!!!
Hilarious seeing all the non virgin girls in the comments coping by saying she made tawba so she’s like a virgin again 😂
@@strokedout9807 hahaha
Yes also non virgin men as well accepting non virgin women lame excuses.
The man is lied to. He has a right to file divorce.
i noticed always woman defending this and saying whats the problem if shes not virgin.. and then i remember what rasool allah said majority of jahunnami will be woman
As a historian, the Sheikh COMPLETELY disregards the FACT that for thousands of years up until the 2000s in all Muslim societies, 99% of women would ONLY have sex in marriage. The 1% were prostitutes and EVERYONE knew that they were prostitutes or the rare slut. Adultery was also very rare for the married women.
Completely disregarding this reality that NEVER existed during the time of the companions or any sahaba. There is even the hadeeth where the Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him advised marrying a virgin to one of the sahabas instead of a previously MARRIED widow or divorcee woman. The MARRIED being the emphasis. He is basing his judgement on it being okay to marry a divorcee or widow and equating it with a woman who has not preserved her chastity for a husband but rather given it out freely. The men MARRYING knew 100% that a woman that was NOT a divorcee or a widow were virgins. Even that hadeeth is a testament to that fact. I believe with this modern reality, it is a right for a man to KNOW what he's getting as the basic virginity and purity of a marriage expectation has been absolved and destroyed. Such statements by Sheikhs only assist in giving Muslim women courage to go down the path of more debauchery expecting it to be "accepted" by their future husbands to be...
Nobody has a right to know about another person’s sins. It is a major sin to expose your wrongdoings as Allah (ﷻ) covers the sins of the person at night as though a blanket has been put over them. To throw this blanket away is an insult to Allah (ﷻ) and shows pride in the sin. Cursed is the one who exposes either their own sins or the sins of another. Asking someone to expose their sins and expecting that to be a right is completely impermissible. Whatever is in a person’s past is none of your business. You bring up the sahaba (رضي الله عنهما) but do you not know that some of the greatest of them were also the greatest enemies of Islam in their past such as ‘Amr ibn al-‘As (رضي الله عنه) prior to him accepting Islam yet we would never dare hold that over him. You claim to be a historian, and even though this is not a matter of history but of Islamic rulings, I will entertain it for you: do you not know that among the companions, there were those who used to drink alcohol and whom were not virgins? However, when a person accepts Islam, all of their sins are forgiven and it is the very same with the one who seeks forgiveness, so who are we to judge a person’s past if it is forgiven by the True Judge (ﷻ) ? I’ll leave you with one hadith on the matter.
I heard Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) saying. "All the sins of my followers will be forgiven except those of the Mujahirin (those who commit a sin openly or disclose their sins to the people). An example of such disclosure is that a person commits a sin at night and though Allah screens it from the public, then he comes in the morning, and says, 'O so-and-so, I did such-and-such (evil) deed yesterday,' though he spent his night screened by his Lord (none knowing about his sin) and in the morning he removes Allah's screen from himself."
@Silence4725 Your point is valid regarding the sahaba that were men. As I pointed out, there was prostitution and naturally the prostitute ratio was not 1 FEMALE prostitute serving one man. She would service many men of which it is possible that there may have been male sahaba prior to their conversion. Everyone in those societies KNEW who the prostitutes were. Everyone KNEW who was married, divorced and/or widowed. You KNEW what you were getting into with a woman. Failing to understand that basic societal condition and reality and the advice of the Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him to marry a VIRGIN to the MALE sahaba when he mentioned that he would marry a woman with children so she could take care of his siblings. Asking a woman IF she was a virgin would be considered lunacy because a NON-VIRGIN did NOT exist amongst non-married bachelor women. I believe that scholars should look at it from this lens and figure out a way to understand and vet because unlike use of alcohol, there is also a very real psychological thing that men undergo called "Retroactive Jealousy." Do you question taking the advice of the Prophet? I doubt it. So how do you carry out his Sunnah? Women do not undergo that and do not experience physical or physiological muscle contractions like getting kicked in the stomach. Men do and it festers in the mind with men till the day they die.
@@omerfarukkaratas2742 Akhi, the hadith on the Prophet (ﷺ) advising the man to marry the virgin does not relate to zina, it relates to a previous marriage. The word used in Arabic is بِكراً which solely refers to a woman who was never married. The word for chaste women as found in many other ahadith is المحصنات. I believe you are confounding two very different concepts. A woman can Islamically be a virgin even though she had fornicated and repented but would not be considered chaste thus she would by assumption be deemed chaste if she was never married as she is not allowed to disclose her sin and we as Muslims must always make the best assumptions of our brothers and sisters. This is the idea of حسن الظن as indeed Allah says: “O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.” [49:12]
Therefore, since we cannot ask a person to expose their sins and we cannot make negative assumptions of a person then we would never know if a woman is truly chaste or not unless her sin was to be exposed in some other way that does not include deceit and it is not our business to know either way. Hopefully this answers your doubts inshaAllah.
@@omerfarukkaratas2742 Akhi, the hadith on the Prophet (ﷺ) advising the man to marry the virgin does not relate to zina, it relates to a previous marriage. The word used in Arabic is بِكراً which solely refers to a woman who was never married. The word for chaste women as found in many other ahadith is المحصنات. I believe you are confounding two very different concepts. A woman can Islamically be a virgin even though she had fornicated and repented but would not be considered chaste thus she would by assumption be deemed chaste if she was never married as she is not allowed to disclose her sin and we as Muslims must always make the best assumptions of our brothers and sisters. This is the idea of حسن الظن as indeed Allah says: “O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.” [49:12] Therefore, since we cannot ask a person to expose their sins and we cannot make negative assumptions of a person then we would never know if a woman is truly chaste or not unless her sin was to be exposed in some other way that does not include deceit and it is not our business to know either way. Hopefully this answers your doubts inshaAllah.
@@omerfarukkaratas2742 Akhi, the hadith on the Prophet (ﷺ) advising the man to marry the virgin does not relate to zina, it relates to a previous marriage. The word used in Arabic is 'bikran' which solely refers to a woman who was never married. The word for chaste women as found in many other ahadith is al-mohsinat. I believe you are confounding two very different concepts. A woman can Islamically be a virgin even though she had committed zina and repented but would not be considered chaste thus she would by assumption be deemed chaste if she was never married as she is not allowed to disclose her sin and we as Muslims must always make the best assumptions of our brothers and sisters. This is the idea of husn al dhun as indeed Allah says: “O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.” [49:12] Therefore, since we cannot ask a person to expose their sins and we cannot make negative assumptions of a person then we would never know if a woman is truly chaste or not unless her sin was to be exposed in some other way that does not include deceit and it is not our business to know either way. Hopefully this answers your doubts inshaAllah.
The overall lesson men should learn from this is to not simply marry any woman without knowing them well beforehand as well as making strict conditions regarding purity of the women in the marriage contract. Prevention is always better than cure.
I appreciate your thinking brother, prevention is better than cure...........
@@perdana5786 exactly bro....
Examples like these will help to prevent future problems.
BTW , iam not that interested in getting married.
After seeing this it motivated me more not to marry .
But staying single is not easy,it will be hard life
@@sadique7359 Find a chaste wife that truly embodies Islamic teachings and you will have a great life. Do not let feminist women trick you.
How can you expect a s*utty girl be honest enough to confess about her sins before marriage!!
Most s*utty girl would think, "I had all the fun I needed, now I will tawbah to Allah & find a nice guy to live peacefully from now on" 😂
What about a man's purity who's gonna give surety about that ?
As a Muslim girl myself, even mere thought of any non mehram ever touching me even with just one finger makes me extremely disgusted and horrified, how do people fall that low that they don't even have fear of God😢 if any man from my family ever get married to non virgin when he himself is virgin, I won't find it wrong if he divorces her, what would be point of marriage if u don't feel affection for your partner your whole life, and it horrifies me too what if my future partner is non virgin too😢 all I can do is pray to get a pious partner
As a man; a strong obligation of a decent father and human being is entrusting the motherhood of your children with someone who isnt of a completely radically different morality and values because your children will be just like her.
Theres men who never unnecessarily speak to and show respect to every women in life and theres women who commit Zina and choose Dunya.
How can one expect a MARRIAGE of the two?
@@StreetDrilla exactly, that's like a betrayal from your partner when you keep yourself away from such sins and save yourself for your life partner, and it turns out that he/she has committed such sin
Shame
Sister
"bad men are for Bad women And Good men are for Good women"
whether your a man or a woman
Please if you want to have pious wife or husband in future
Do your best to stay away from Zina
because haram will not make you happy it is temporary and once you lost your virginity you cant get it back
the beauty of Halal is something that is for your own Good
So Do your best and fight against the Devil
for the sake of your Good future
finallyyy found a good muslim girl online mashaallah sister may allah bless you
So a woman just gets away. I as a man keep myself from all the temptations, contain myself from premarital relations and I can't even ask for a virgin wife. Meanwhile she can do whatever she wants as long as she repents and keeps it hidden and away from the husband. This is just unfair.
Have a problem? Go and have a word with the prophet. We all know he is the best person to ever live and you already know he'll say the same things as sheikh.😂
@@Saad-tmg really , and how do you know ?
Did you time travel to meet prophet
Come on stop arguing over this. For both man and woman, Zina is so dangerous. Both of them must stay away from it. And it's required for both of them to repent for their mistakes. If a man or woman gets engaged in Zina or premarital relations, he/she must repent to Allah for that. If they feel genuinely guilty for their mistakes, inshallah Allah will forgive them. You heard the sheikh saying Allah can even forgive those who shirq. Then of course He can forgive these men and women. Islam is all about equality. About men and women equality, Allah said, “So their Lord responded to them: “I will never deny any of you-male or female-the reward of your deeds. Both are equal in reward….”4 (Quran 3:195). So please stop this argument. Men and women are same. They are made for each other. Husband and wife should forgive each other for their past mistakes if they have repented. Cause Allah is almighty. He created us, if He can forgive us, why can't we? Both man and woman can end a relationship they don't want. If you don't feel happy with your husband or wife, then leave. It's not about gender. It's the same for man and woman. Allah will forgive **ANYONE** who repents. May Allah forgive all of us for our mistakes. Amin.
@sadique7359, The Sheikh is giving his opinion according to Quran and Hadith. So, it is safe to assume that the prophet will most likely have the same opinion.
@@Saad-tmg Forgiving is a thing but not many ppl are able to sincerely forgive, it's rare, I guess it's a really bad idea to stay with someone your feelings cant forgive, not point on living with a women if what she done hurts your feeling and you cant forget/forgive it, simple.
Bro best option is to get a 2nd wife
No the best option is to divorcee
First of all not all people have money
Yes from my side, I have the same mentality....... believes ...
why a second wife? also wouldn't that cost a lot plus if u get kids from both of them 💀💀
Allah might forgive her because he is the most merciful but i am not the most merciful or supposed to forgive a cheater. instant divorce
It’s a great question and a great answer. Everyone deserves a chance and she is being honest on the topic
I love this Sheikh. Clean, unbiased response.
May Allah SWT bless him
He give very biased response. The brother said he want untouched. But she was a pr0stitute. She lied in marriage contract. She is a deceptive women.
I hope none of you ever go through this in this day and age… its really divastating to be in such situation after spending all your mind, heart, energy, wealth and expectations into the future with this person.
For those who forgave may allah protect them and reward them with their sabr.
That definition of a virgin is not correct astaghfirullaah.
Not a fair answer & I would even seek advice from more scholars for validity of this advice given.
It's easy to say you won't care if not having personally experienced a certain situation.
If he made his "requirements" known then she should not have accepted his proposal because that is deceptive.
Sheikh missed the point, may Allah forgive him. The man made it a marraige requirement, so that has to be respected. Also the sheikh is incorrect about the definition of a virgin. This is not acceptable from the woman. She needs to accept who she was and hopefully the new person who she is, but also must respect the requirements a man has put forth. If she doesn't fit those requirements, she doesn't have to marry him, but to cheat him is wrong and she is deserving of a divorce. We as muslims cannot cheat people then apply our own subjective definitions on something clear like virginity in order to get the best of both worlds at the expense of somebody's honor: it is wrong and disingenuine.
May Allah compensate this man and provide him the virgin he is looking for. The sister should have maybe married someone previously divorced or become someone's second wife, but she shouldn't have cheated this man into a marraige.
I am assuming everything the man said in this context was true as we only know one side of the story, and Allah knows best. May Allah forgive me for whatever incorrect thing I said.
Also doesn't Allah (azawajal) give the definition of a virgin within the Qur'an? Someone untouched by any man.
Can someone find the ayat? JazakAllah khyr. This is why its so important to have local teachers that have an authentic sanad (chain of authentic teachers that follow a madhabb), otherwise you get opinions from popular people rather than that from our 1400+ old tradition.
What is wrong with the definition of Bikr(Virgin)?
He is totally correct
@@PerspectiveNarrative No, a virgin is someone sexually untouched by a man, regardless of marraige.
Having a nikah does not immediately make you a non virgin. One must commit to intimacy to lose their virginity.
If you are sincerely sure that he is totally correct, can you bring this question to your local Imam? Ask him that:
"if a woman sleeps with a bunch of men, but is not married, is she still a virgin?"
Also please be careful with making argumentive statements that you do not believe in, as we have to answer before Allah in Qiyamah.
@@FruitsOfTheHearts According to such imams, their daughters are virgins even if they secretly have s*x with many men. 🙄
@@FruitsOfTheHearts don't talk without knowledge. you can't come up with your own definitions, virgin is someone who has not married before regardless of sexual intercourse occurred or not. the ayat you are referring are the characteristics of houris.
I think there is nothing wrong with the man if he really didn't pressure her or have any other hidden intentions. If he is a clean person, it is really a very difficult test from Allah that he has to marry this woman. I hope the brother finds peace. He needs to take his time to calm his mind and if it becomes completely difficult for him to endure, I see no wrong of him to leave the girl. But I also agree with Sheikh, he needs to try and see things from the Sheikh's perspective first. May Allah make it easy for him.
Exactly
@@mmt5120 Sheikh perspective is weak it can cuase more harm than good.
Never let yourselves be emotionally dominated by a woman. Don't overlook your own rules and don't let yourself be overwhelmed in your rules and masculinity. Above all, don't get too emotional with women and be able to walk. And not be dependent on the beauty of a woman.
Don't make it about gender, it goes both ways
@@userfriendlyforever What I write here goes to men. Women have completely different problems. E.g. to learn what respect and gratitude are.
@MrOsmanu Bruh pls you don't understand women if you think we have different problems. There are many men who gaslight and manipulate women. Infact, it's more of a common attribute of men than women. Women are more emotional and sensitive and easy to manipulate and gaslight. Hence, it goes for them as well. If you still believe we both have completely different issues bc of different gender then you are really naive.
@MrOsmanu Bruh pls you don't understand women if you think we have different problems. There are many men who gaslight and manipulate women. Infact, it's more of a common attribute of dudes than women. Women are more emotional and sensitive and easy to manipulate and gaslight. Hence, it goes for them as well. If you still believe we both have completely different issues bc of different gender then you are really naive.
@MrOsmanu Bruh pls you don't know anything about females if you think we have different problems. There are many guys who gaslight and manipulate females. Infact, it's more of a common attribute of guys than females. Females are more emotional and sensitive and easy to manipulate and gaslight. Hence, it goes for them as well. If you still believe we both have completely different issues bc of different gender then you are really naive.
I'm A boy. Sometimes I think I will never get married.
(Allah's plan is best, ingshaallh allh will give us the best things)
Peace be with you brother.
Inshaallah things will get better
Sheikh is wrong in this case.If he is a clean virgin man he needs a clean untouched wife. If he feels cheated he should do another Nikah to a virgin.She should have told him before Nikah not after.
@@tinaraymond6483 What if she was a virgin and not him?
@@elelelel9822he explicitly says in this video that he is. And set virginity as a requirement for the marriage. If he wasn't a virgin himself he wouldn't have cared.
@burakcoskun1865 That's not true. MANY men, even after having slept around, demand a virgin. Don't tell me that there aren't double standards regarding virginity. Most men get away with it. Haven't heard of a single incident where a man has even been asked about such. The virginity issue always revolves around women. That's why even the video discusses a WOMANS virginity, not the other way around. You KNOW this.
@@elelelel9822 then that's his sin. But if the man is honest then you're trying to slander and lie about him. I never said there aren't double standards in general but we r talking about this specific case. Don't cop out because you're emotional and try to negate the wife's dishonesty in this case. Just because u never heard it doesn't mean it doesn't happen. The video discusses this because the man called and asked for the sheikhs advice. Quit gaslighting because u're emotional.
@burakcoskun1865 Wow, narcissistic much? Guess you can't keep up a discussion and just have to insult the other person just because you don't handle a disagreement. Says a lot about your character. Never defended her dishonesty, just telling facts about the issue on a general basis.
Boş yapma! Hadi yürü..!
She cheated
Why are you at her side😡
Is cheating permissable or breaking a heart is?😡
She clearly lied about the requirement to marry him😡
Bro it's too painful ..😢. No man can accept that. It's too tough for us men with so many opportunities but we still remained pure. And When we learned that we remainded pure for the girl who didn't even care about this ?
How to accept this?🤷🏻♂️
thus us why he said in the past bro shes not doing it in the present if she does she is in wrong then
@@haziqalakhani I got your point. It can't be like I'm doing something wrong and then become righteous. Allah can forgive but we humans can hardly forgive or forget.
I mean you have to think about the fact that he struggled at the time , the girl didn't. So it's about deserving & expecting. So it hurts as hel*.
@@zalis2992 look what your saying is wrong but i get that a man would feel bad because of that so he can divorce if he wants he doesnt have to keep her and i know that humans cant forgive easily but they should to a certain level but ofc in this case he can divorce her if he wants because im sure the guy doesnt feel like forgiving so the marriage is already broken but she has to hide her sins or else how is she gonna get married (given that she already repented ofc) so its not about the hard time he had before marriage its just that he can choose what he wants to do. hope u understand
@@haziqalakhani I didn't disagree to ur point what you have said. That's what I'm saying divorce is the only option left for those who can't accept this. (Most of them can't..I won't accept that too. Cause I could do the same if I wished. So I won't forgive the same as them).
But yeah..if possible the girl should keep it hidden. It will be wise. So the man before him wouldn't know and wouldn't regret it. Good for Everyone.
Vice versa to muslim men who go out and commit zina .
Hope and pray, that we don't get Run D's.😢
Divorce but don't humiliate will be best
Run D's 😂😂😂
@@UmerJan-m4j🤣
For everyone saying sheikh missed the point you guys are naiive, Sheikh is not only saving a house from being torn apart, but is also telling the man to be mature about this, when Allah never reveals what sins you have done in the past and if somehow you get to know them, doesn't mean the person is still bad.
If they are kind and they do everything according to Islam, then what's wrong? Since Allah forgives everything, you can't forgive a person for being how they were just because now you know what they did?
And what if you marry a virgin woman and she goes and cheats behind your back and doesn't tell you? What then? Only Allah knows, so be kind to your spouses.
exactly
But in another video he says A woman who has committed zina can't be married with anyone other than the man who she committed zina with and vice versa... i am left confused now.
@@shaheerejaz1009 lol everything is left to interpretation.
@@shaheerejaz1009nah that the mistake first she need to ask god forgiveness and promise for not do it again and then she can get married to anyone but better keep her mouth shut
@@AJ-nd4nk such a helpful comment 😒
The context here matters a lot!
Firstly, the condition this brother had, he wanted to marry a chaste person like he was, and did he or did he not make it clear.
Secondly, no person is allowed to disclose his/her sins which ALLAH has concealed.
Third, then how he could have known if she was a virgin or not if she should have concealed her sins. Also he or no person has the right to ask this question to anyone.
Scenario 1: So the ideal thing to have been done in this case before marriage is that the brother should have just put the conditions that he wants to marry a pious, ALLAH fearing, one who prays her Salah and most importantly a Virgin & chaste person. And assuming that the Sister had changed her life and repented from her sins and was already a GOD fearing lady when this proposal came, she should have still rejected the proposal without giving any reasons whatsoever or disclosing her sins.
Scenario 2: If There was no such condition put by the brother before marriage, he does not have any right to blame the sister now. Assuming that there was no pressure on her and the sister disclosed her sin in naivety (which btw is another sin in itself and shouldn't have been done), even then the brother doesn't have any right to blame her for her past and the better thing to do would be to move on in life given that she's a pious person and has changed her ways.
Either way, now that this thing is out in the open, if the condition was put before marriage and the sister lied or did not reject the proposal knowing very well what the man wanted, this is deceit and better thing for them would be to separate, no questions asked.
And if there was not such conditions clearly defines before marriage, high chances are that once this thing came out in the open, the brother might be scarred mentally, and that varies from person to person. If the brother is certain that he cannot forgive and forget, then it's better to just separate and move on rather than destroying each other's life as the barrier of trust between them has broken and no matter what, he will never ever trust her again period. But if he chooses to ignore this, or this is something he understands happened in the past, and he was not that concerned about before marriage, and gives her a second chance as we are always advised to think good of people, especially if there are children involved, and the brother has the mental strength to move forward, he should keep her with him.
The answer from Sheikh is on point though. Whatever she was before marriage, if she's an excellent mother and wife then it's your call akhi at the end of the day...
for your kind of knowledge what guarantee is there that she won't commit zina again? commit zina then apologize to Allah and destroy the mental health of husband wowo
She have no right to lie
Fear Allah people. Don’t be so frivolous. Jannah is everlasting. Don’t fret over small desires in this temporary dunya.
What?
@@abc-kn6ex He is saying that don't play around that topic that much, whether your (future) spouse is a virgin or not. The dunya is a test and the paradise eternal. So, may Allah reward anyone who just accept his faith and lives with a woman whose past isn't that innocent.
@@atszist3187 you're simply wrong
This kind of speeches makes people go out of the way to make their need instead of marriage, Sheikh please don't make our girl's go crazy , Allah will forgive everything doesn't mean you can do anything you want or say anything you want ,may allah give you hidayat.
Correct 💯
I have read this somewhere that Pure men are for pure women and impure men are for impure women so u basically should keep ur own self pure and away from evil tendencies Allah the most merciful will indeed do something in ur utmost favor
This is very bad advice. If you have been lied to about this, you have the right to annule the marriage.
Marriage is a sacred 'covenant'. If someone agreed to the covenant that she/he is virgin and agree to the marriage by lying then that covenant should be questioned. She/he should marry someone who has no problem with virginity. Why lie to someone?
Astagfirullah if this is case then we are happy to be single and never get married.
💯💯. But we can still look for good girl if we want... There are good ones but very rare
I totally disagree with you seikh, if I ever encountered such a situation with me in future, I'll not spare a second to leave her .
Coming back here daily for a laugh 🤣
My uncle was married to girl that was in pre marrital affair but my was uncle was willing to accept her if she remained faithful but she said she was in love with her ex and didn't engage in any intimacy with my uncle. Few days later she and her father plotted against my uncle and threatened to file dowry case and harrasment. Dowry is strictly illegal in India. And now they asking hefty amount as divorce settlement, now she denied everything about her affair and is blaming us for mental harrassment. Now my uncle is stuck....
Actually the fact nowadays is like if girl has multiple partners before marriage had s ' with them. She will repeat such actions even in future i am not saying all but this is in general.
We should mention the matter of virginity before the marriage is finalised (of course in a civil, mature way). Expectations more or less end up with disasters. Precautionary measures are the best for avoiding such situations InshaAllah.
Dear Brothers and Sisters, protect yourselves from the traps of human and jinn shayateen.
Nah I'd still divorce
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@@SZK_PLAYA W
Counseling session 110 USD/ Half hour 😂😂😂😂
More like a business
If u feel.cheated, then divorce. No need to stay with a liar
Says who? Hadith says your wife can lie to you to keep harmony in the marriage. IN this case, if she was a hoe but repented, then she can lie to you to keep harmony according to Allah. Are you a kufr?
@@yellowSmileyFacee No hadith says your wife can lie. She just reject his proposal. It's haram to deceive someone. The brother put virginity in his marriage contact. She didn't full fill. So, She can not marry him. This old men is Jahi--l. Don't know what he is telling.
I don't think most of the people understood what he said, In summery, their relationship was just fine, when she didn't reveal her sin that she repented from. Now she disclosed her sins he doesn't want to be with her which is understandable. Also forgiveness is a biggest plus a human can have, Every time anyone asks for forgiveness Allah forgives them (Allah is not bound to it but he is merciful and he forgives because he wills it) so we as his creation, should also think about forgiveness because it is such a noble and good thing. And then at the end he said in the end it's his decision. Meaning it isn't sinful but as you know devorce is disliked by Allah but not haram.
We need to understand Allah is Allah because he can forgive any sin no matter what, humans are creations of creator and both are different, Allah has put different emotions in us for different reasons, sometimes it happens you are not able to forgive which is totally fine as long as you are not cursing and backbiting about the person specially if he/she has repented, just leave them as they are and mind your own business if you are unable to forgive.
Humans are weak because of emotions
@@Ilmseeker844 humans are Allah's best of creation because of emotions
@@pecha0
Yes however that doesn't make them flawless and emotionless, Allah can forgive gravest sin however humans are not capable enough to forgive sins like zina , specially emotional forgiveness, however it doesn't mean they taunt, curse the person, if you are hurt deeply and unable to forgive the person who has already repented, you should move ahead with your life and don't talk slander that person, that's it.
It wary from human to human, some can forgive and some are so much hurt they are unable to specially emotionally, we can't compare Allah's prospective and human's prospective , Allah's prospective is infinite, while human prospective is limited.
Reading your reply seems you are not mature enough to understand all these things.
You feminists should lecture yourself about forgiveness. Why can't you accept a man having more than 1 wife?
Something halal and permissible??? Yet he is expected to forgive and accept a woman disgusting haram past and lies and deception?
Don't lecture us about tolerance and mercy and forgiveness and acceptance.. when you can't do it yourself
@ertugrulbae46 I am a boy and i speak for people, not one specific gender if you read the comments with your mind being not biased, you would understand i didn't take anyone's side. Also i mentioned, it's his choice if he would forgive or not, As the sheikh said. The main point was if you have asked forgiveness from Allah for a sin, don't bother disclose it to other people. And btw i am not against marrying more than one women. I'm against it if it goes against Allah and Islam and or if the person who is marrying multiple, couldn't care and provide for them properly. May Allah make you understand and may Allah forgive me if i am mistaken.
Allah may forgive ,indeed Allah is greatest...But I will never forgive as a husband....
sheik, so even the woman has sleeping around but unmarried, she still consider virgin in Islam? 👏👏
Sheikh is wrong ok
May Allah swt make it easy for the man. He has pain in his voice
Damn. Bro's voice sounds how hearted he is. May allah give patient to him.
This is flawed.
She made wrong choices and lied.
Why would I have to bare that when I chose to remain chaste
She will never be a housewife
The ex will always be an issue
They smashed her for years
thats not for anyone to say! everyone has a past that theyre most probably ashamed of and she may have turned her life around. so assume the best of her and many in general IF we know nothing about them
@@callmebab3sThe issue is that he had a requirement in place and she lied. You cannot trust a person who basically lied like that to be your spouse.
How do you know?
Why does she have to disclose something embarrassing
100%
Well from the voice of that brother I can feel his sadness . May Allah give him strength
i move on by divorce her immediately ...no question
Jazak Allah kul khier, may Allah swt keep you guided and steadfast
As a muslim man, I thought zina was really bad until i watched this video 😂
It feels wrong because I try to be the best version of myself in terms of wealth, mindset, body, manners, and being clean for my future spouse. As a man I want to see the same from a woman, I expect her to be like me like clean I can teach her everything and even help her on home chores, but she has to be clean it feels like I got cheated on even if it was before marriage. I don't agree with this sheikh that his pov, if it's causing discomfort I'd just divorce. May Allah Give all of us clean virgin beautiful ladies, ameen.
I don't understand why Sheikh asked him how he found out. It doesn't matter, it was the the marriage contract between them and it's void.
Thank you sheikh. Now I can become a playboy and enjoy my life.. I will repent grow beard and would not tell my future wife about it.
Wow❤❤
What a logic brother
Love from my side😂😂❤❤❤
😂 don't try this Allah already knows your intentions
@@alisha8162 then what a boy should do madam
After getting to know tht.. girls are doing this thing
@@Cordo067 u protect yourself from sins for the sake of Allah not for any girl
divorce her. get a clean woman.
Sick way of thinking what about men?
@@IDRIS-wl3qy If the man lied about being a virgin and it was of your preference to marry a virgin man then yes, get a clean man. How is it sick? You know what is sick? Cheating a innocent person who just wanted an honest person to marry. If the very foundation of your marriage was based off lies and misinterpretations of each other then the marriage will likely not last.
@@IDRIS-wl3qy then I why did she lie ?
Now u defending em?
@@IDRIS-wl3qy why did she lie?
Is it okay to cheat?
@sadique7359 my point is everyone has a past who is the husband to judge as long as she's faithful
If you feel cheated and incomplete after discovering she is not virgin, you might consider a second nikah instead of divorcing. This can bring balance to the couple dynamic
So if a woman murders someone and never gets caught, repents and become a good muslim and doesnt tell anyone of her sins then what.
By the way this mufti has failed to address the issue rightfully. And about such people who commit sex crimes multiple times and even murders as you have said don't usually have the heart to repent or may be one in a million. Somethings can be understood by logic and not through Muftis.
It doesn't matter if she repented or not . Even if she is the most religious or angelic person who was previously engaged in physical relationship before marriage , I swear to Allah I'd rather die before I marry her .
Yeah, If she really repented the devoice will make her more faithful
@@BoringTammam
I can see lot of feminists in the comments
Our prophet married khadija she wasn’t a virgin and was married twice. That was his first marriage
@@AshAbdur she didn't sleep around with anyone outside of marriage. i wouldn't mind marrying a divorced woman, because she may not be virgin but is chaste. Her character and integrity is intact. However, a woman who has made the decision to commit adultery before manage, she is not virgin nor is she chaste.
Allah forgives all sins. And Allah has permitted men to put conditions before marriage the same as He has granted women the permission to put conditions.
The man doesn't need to blatantly ask her if she has slept around or committed Zina. He can put a list of two or three (or more) things that are deal breakers for him, and mention that if she indulged in anyone or more of those things he would respectfully like to part ways with her. She won't have to say i slept around and partyed around. She can respectfully mention that i'm not the one for you as per the deal breakers you have for a prospective spouse.
And GO their spearate ways.
@ yes but if he didn’t ask before the marriage or during the marriage and didn’t bother to ask then he can’t get angry at her
What a nice answer, this is what ISLAM is all about. Alhamdulillah for being a Muslim
He is ignorant. If the sister is not virgin, she can simply reject his proposal.
Male or women ,same law applicable to both ,If you are a virgin you have a right a get marry a virgin.If you are not don't ever think about it
Not for you to say! That’s very “racist” type of comment - but can’t think of the word for it. Everyone was “virgin” a some point.
@@rebeccahenkins1697 average feminist
Just Divorce her. Don't listen to anyone.
If you don't have anything good to say, just stay silent. Btw this is also a hadith.
@@THYB737 exactly. You should follow that.
@@THYB737 Exactly if you can't be honest then keep silent.
What if he wasn't a virgin either?
@@elelelel9822 then he can go to marry one of his type. Impure one.
Yoo I know his kids must love him.... He gives the best advice and he's sooo real.
As Muslims we are direly missing unapologetic scholars with unfiltered judgements and opinions . Beware of those who've turned teaching Islam into a business
I fell the same way
I need to find such scholars, everyone is always fearful of backlash and lack any backbone to say what's there.
Fr bro.
He is asking 110 dollar for a session .
Not only that i saw him with mufti menk.
I think hes more like a celebrity but
I don't know for sure
@@sadique7359 can ask for whatever money for counseslling its not money for iislamic knowledge. Nunber 2 this fatwa is actually fatwa of classical scholars..the brother didnt specify if he had wrotten in marriage contract if he assumes she is vrgin the advuce us like this go read some fiqh books
Leave her it's better than relationship
I'm a woman but this brother's voice breaking my heart too