Why Some Guys Can't Find Love in the Philippines: looks don't matter?
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- Опубліковано 6 лют 2025
- I asked my friend Ellie to help me with this video. If you come to the Philippines, you will see beautiful Filipinas with young, old, skinny, chubby, short, tall, rich and poor guys alike. So what's actually going on behind the scenes? Why can't some guys find love in the Philippines? Let me explain.
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This video was inspired by and uses direct quotes from psychologist Dr. Orion Taraban. If you enjoyed this episode, consider subscribing to his UA-cam channel: / @psychacks . You might also consider buying his new book "The Value of Others," available on Amazon. We're big fans of Dr. Taraban have enjoyed trying to adapt his ideas to how dating works in the Philippines.
Smart Girl: Ellie
Camera: Irish
Writing Assistant: Maricel Dela Cruz
Editing: Rosamie Mendoza
Artwork: Jasmin Villanueva
There are hundreds of videos covering this same topic.
Consider making a video explaining to Filipinas how they can attract a quality man from another country:
Don’t lie
Be on time
Put your phone down
Don’t bring friends/relatives on a date
Try engage in an interesting conversation
Don’t ask for money
If the relationship progresses, don’t allow others to destroy it by begging for money.
Ladies, you have a very short window of opportunity to make decisions that will result in a wonderful life. Choose wisely.
Another great thumbnail from SGP! I so love that cat.
Find a girlfriend in the Philippines doesn't mean you found love.
That statement is true of any girl, in any country, on this 3rd rock from the sun. Additionally, the same holds true for her ... a boyfriend, but no love.
Thank you Ellie for this stabling advice. Gotta think more of what someone else might want or be feeling because you always know your own.
Steve😊
Maturity, sense of humor, respect for the Filipina, her culture, her family, good listener, humble, no addictions and sense of accomplishment and stability are very attractive for LTR with Filipinas
Maturity + + + (if by this you mean competence and leadership qualities)
Respect for the Filipina - - -
Respect for her Culture - - (it means cucking to this primitive "saving face" crap)
Respect for her Family +
Good listener - -
Humble - -
No addictions -
Sense of accomplishment + + + (being _the best_ at something)
Stability - - -
You're welcome.
BTW...
LTR = Using you for protection, provision, and stability without reciprocating with respect, loyalty, and genuine passionate love.
Very true! Well said.
Her culture:
Lying
Insane, unwarranted jealousy
Envy
Getting pregnant without being married
Coveting other’s wealth and feeling entitled to it
Sloth
Corruption
Addiction to social media
My filippina would add no tatoos and no video game addiction.
Ellie, you're doing a great job pinch-hitting for Irish! Smart GirlS Philippines.
Very honest and truthful even if sad 😢 if they can't find love thank very much Ellie and your beautiful Filipinas from Smart Girl Philippines 🇵🇭❤❤❤
Don’t ask a fish how to catch a fish, ask a fisherman.
Some good information, thanks.
If I find one even remotely like Ellie or Irish I’d be happy to
Awesome info, very insightful
It's not love, it's opportunity.
It’s always best to consider actions more than words. Observe both, because if the words and actions match, it’s a great sign.
When visiting the Philippines, don't buy just rent. You can get daily, weekly or monthly rates - with no contract. If you do decide to go long term consider leasing - still with no contract. What a country!
There are so many variables in the Phillipines. It's better to just travel and do what makes you happy. We are all told to look through their eyes but no one ever look through the foreigner eyes
Great point! 💯
I love ❤️ Smart Girls
My criteria is very simple almost like an Excel formula. If she, is nice and cute and loving person, great, but if she has no money and expects me to pay for everything, I will simply walk away. Also, I will not be building a house (Prefer to rent) or starting any kind of business, if this is also propositioned see above, walk away immediately.
Ellie! u r a 👸🏻! ✌️😎
Another pretty woman telling you to put yourself aside and 'think about the woman'. If you do that in the States you'll, rightfully, be called a simp. So, you want to be a simp in the PI? Feel free, cause if you listen to this advice that's EXACTLY what you'll be.
Isn't it interesting how everyone says they want respect? People should also ask themselves, why do I deserve respect? What have I done to EARN respect?
I tried to put myself in the shoes of a Filipina but they were too small and hurt my feet. She also wondered why I was wearing her shoes 😀
I only dated 40+ college educated. Polo shirt's sometime long pants (i saw this in a video before my first trip to the PH). I don't smoke, swear rarely drink, and Hold their door open & clean shaven. There was never a shortage of dates. When we went out with her friends sometimes they wispier, call me. Guy's don't ever go out with her friends.
Unfortunately the topic is how foreigners are to find a Filipino. A bigger question maybe how a Filipino might attract and catch a stable man that can secure her future. Ladies ask yourself why should he choose me?
How you just gonna change the topic lol?
Filipina
lol what? lol
you're sweety and beautys smile Filipina..salamat po
Men should look good if you look good you feel good work out take care of yourself and act happy and respectful and if you're tall that's an advantage I know Filipinas love tall guys. I used to work night shifts I had to sleep all day and go back to work the next night
I am 52 and I’m about to marry an absolutely gorgeous 21 year old Filipina. I’ve been with her for 2 years and she is the love of my life. I am 100% devoted and faithful to her. I will be with her until my last breath. And there is no female that could make me stray from her !!!
Yep. Be an objectivist and a results oriented person.
Ellie, I would never cheat on you, unless I had permission from Irish to do so..we could become a family of just 3, taking care of each other’s needs..is ok?
Warn them to step over the tongue and swinging hammer. A trip hazard. 😂
Don't find poor filpono be paying for whole family.
So many guys think women are all alike and have only a single motivator. They need to turn off the TV and engage with reality. Only a psychopath has a single motivation. And cultures are different. What matters in one doesn't matter in another culture. The superficial qualities western women want are not the same as what Filipinas want. And while different Filipinas have different things they look for, loyalty is almost universal. Sadly, that is not viewed as valuable in the west by women, except for those that married before turning 25.
Money...
I’ve done all of these things correctly for six months and nothing worked. 🤷🏿♂️
Wow, never gave it much thought beyond just dating.....there has to be a plan, an end game.....
Great advice....You need to write a book: Filipina for Dummies 😂😂😂😂
nothing to do with economical status??? Come on, be honest...
This can apply to all types of women
It really surprised me to hear the word 'exotic' knowing how different the interpretation is in each country.
Pfft. Are you kidding? I am Latino and everywhere I go, there is a pretty lady trying to know me.
Hi Ellie
Ellie 😍🥰😘🌹
So filipo has kid to old bf . But foreigner has too pay and l9ok after her family too . Too much baggage
Terrible spelling and grammar. Maybe you should be disallowed entry, based on that, and your attitude. But come anyway, fool, and get bamboozled by a teen girl, 10 times smarter than you!!!
When they learn were the catch they might get one of us. So far I haven't found one. Seems like whatever city I am in. It's the wrong city.
How many channels use this set? I can think of three.
Not sure what you mean.
@@SmartGirlPhilippines I've seen this exact background used by at least three different channels. It's no big deal, I'm just curious. Is it green screen?
Let me know what channels. It's not a green screen and I'm the only one who films here. LOL!
@ I will, like I said it's no big deal, I just figured someone had a set they loan out or green screen. It's a distinctive backdrop, when I see the others I just guessed your all roomates producing your own content. I'll get the names and come back to you.
No offense, but you’re so sweet. 😊
Sounds like they are a emotional and sensitive. High maintenance, and on the immature side with showing off. If this is how they think, non marriage material. Just play play.❤
Very sensitive. Always ghost you rather than talking out problems. Would fly into a jealous rage if your auntie kissed you on the cheek. Superstitious AF. Very few are educated. Even the college grads can seem ditzy and frivilous.
The odds are good, but the goods are odd
Your wrong I have beard bandanas am not a scrub
"you need to put yourself in the shoes of a Filipina." I don't think that there will be a size 12 Filipina shoe. I am out....
Lmao foreign men are the prize in Philippines, not girls 😂 They gotta chase us not the other way around. Idgaf what she wants and her life situation, if she needs smth she gotta ask, and I might consider giving it to her… or I’ll find another girl 😂
No money, no honey😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Truly smart and SWEET!
If I Come To The Philippines Can Ellie Show Me Around? 💘💘💘
I will pay you whatever you think is reasonable, if you can pull that off.
Hi, Ellie. Are you single?
Ellie and Irish have been asked that question a thousand times. Wonder why they never answer you guys?
She’s a babe
I call bullshit
Don't shoot the messenger. This is how it works.
On what specifically?
@SmartGirlPhilippines You say looks and money don't matter, but being tall, fit, maybe a little muscular with a fat wallet and a fatter banana goes a long way to woo a Filipina. Women would rather cry in a Mercedes than laugh on a bicycle.
I found love in Phil's it was the pinay who tossed it
Did she bounce on you?
The poor guy will not last because everyone needs money to survive. The poorer the family the higher the likelyhood of more pressure on the foreigner to contribute (as a general rule). It's all really up to the Pinay and how realistic her expectations are, then the expectations of the family, then the type of family, there could be lots of chismis or marites, but given that they are so catholic I am sure they don't do that.......🤣😂🤣😂. Don't forget about the utang na loob. Basically, chose your Pinay carefully or you will get chewed up and spat out regardless of how cute she is. So, look through her eyes as to her expectations of you, then make your decisions. It's all about how she see's the world and how she see's you, and how her family see you and treat you. Remember, you're marrying the family, that's fine if you get a good realistic one but I think the odds are stacked far higher against you if the age gap is high and/or the Pinay is a 9 or 10. This is the age of the internet and Pinay's have phones and many more options than ever before😆. You might hit the jackpot but I think that it's highly likely you will spend quite a while before finding a most suitable partner, if that is what you are looking for. Fun casual girls shouldn't really be hard to spot if you are open and honest, but if you are punching above your weight it must get harder, it's just a statistical truth. If you have personality and a great bod, and take care in your appearance, then you're over half way there.....😆😆😆what you lack in one area you will have to make up for in another. Be picky and observant, and if it looks like trouble and it's all going sideways......run Forrest......😂🤣😂🤣
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