I like coming back to this video every now and then because the other women looks so much like how my mom was at the pool down to the earrings and reading a book while keeping an eye on my sister and I. RIP Mommy ☺️. PS: the happy face was in remembrance of summertime fun.
This will always be my favorite episode of This Is Us. My favorite scene is at the end when Jack pulls Kevin towards him while he's sitting on the cooler and all the kids lay down and fall asleep on him. It makes me fall in love with the family so much more.
@@raellmoreland4863 Nicole’s kids with Tom are adults ...and I think they chose to live with him post divorce so they can handle it themselves ...but hopefully when they were adolescents their parents knew
People of all skin colors can gets skin cancer, but not all people will burn. I am a very pale white person who never uses sunscreen. I burn easily, but don't really tan. I should use sunscreen, but try to stay covered instead. As for approaching the woman, it takes courage to admit that you don't already know everything. It takes courage to address the fact that we as individuals will have differences. It makes you vulnerable.
Ryan Bathe (Sterling K. Brown's wife) on two of my favorite shows, with Sterling. "This Is Us" and "Army Wives", where she played Charlie and he played Roland. I wish there had been many more scenes of her on "This Is Us". Whenever I see them onscreen together, I think of an acting power couple who worked together, Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee.
Sorry but I totally get where Rachel was coming from - my first thought was literally "Back off" but I also get what the black woman was saying - people who adopt any kind of race different then theirs need to be aware of hair, skin and other info like that.
I agree if your first encounter is you attacking me and then giving me advice. I would feel a way too. She could have introduced herself as well. Ignorance is annoying but sometimes it is unintentionally. But I'm glad Rebecca did what was best for her son and took the other mom's recommendation.
I watched this a little while ago video about a class these women set up to teach adopted and biracial couples how to do and care for black children’s hair. All I could think about is why there aren’t more classes like that.
In reality some people think they can get away without it. Misinformation about sunscreen has only really started getting cleared up in more recent years.
@@cathya7045 It really has nothing to do with skin darkness or lightness, it's skin protection. The sun gives of uv rays that are damaging to the skin. Some people that lived through the 1970s put on baby oil while at the pools and beaches and there are tons of people with skin cancer because of it. Then there are people that just generally spending time in the sun that have found cancerous spots now. The old belief was darker skin didn't need sunblock because it you couldn't get darker and didn't burn. I will tell you this, I am a good brown color and have gotten super dark from lifeguarding and developed a burn before (not full body but still). I have seen some little dark marks on my skin that weren't there years ago or when I was a kid. Just protect your skin sis, it's beautiful and you don't get a new one.
@@cathya7045 you need protection from the sun regardless of your race or skin shade. It simply protects your skin against the harshness of the sun, such as sun damage, wrinkles, and cancer. I’m black and I try to wear it daily. You can also wear it year round.
@@DChillen2011 I understand what you meant. It's hard to know how to handle a type of hair you don't have. There are a few who have had extra training in working with ethnic hair that are great at it. But if you have the hair that you're trying to work with it comes so much easier to you because you've been working with it your entire life.
I had something similar to this happen, and I was so thankful for it actually. First time we kept my niece for longer than a few days, we had to wash her hair. Poor baby was looking at us like “these crazy ass white people..”. The thing is, if it reverted back to her natural hair style I wouldn’t really care because I think she’s BEAUTIFUL with her natural hair. Her hair gets super poofy when natural, but this was… this wasn’t okay. Like it felt like we were going to DAMAGE your hair if we tried to style it in any way. Like after we washed it and rinsed it.. it was was MESS. I didn’t know how to manage it to style it. We went to Walmart and just grabbed all the products that had little black girls on them lol. We got to the checkout and this woman looks at us, at my niece, at her hair, and then at all the stuff we were putting up on the counter and she goes “oh honey!”, and stopped my mom and was like “you don’t need that, that, or that. You need this, this is how you wanna use it”, and stood there for like ten minutes feeling my nieces hair between her fingers, and telling us the best way to care for it and style it. Apparently the shampoo we used is AWFUL for black hair and strips it way too much making it very brittle and wiry and hard to manage. It was a “moisturizing” shampoo, but the ingredients in it tend to just sit on top of black hair and doesn’t actually help it, and the silicones strip it and make it super unhealthy. We were sooooooo thankful for this woman! Went home and was able to moisturize and treat her hair, then easily style it. And we knew how and what to wash it with from then on. Lady said if we ever had to use that shampoo again, to just use a tiny bit and mix it with coconut oil, and ONLY clean her scalp, not so much the hair itself. From then on we made sure we had products that worked for her.
This was sweet, but looking back at it, it shouldn't have been just him getting to know black culture, but his entire family should have been immersed in that along side him. Kind of sad to think about it now.
There are many moments that family displays causal internalized taught racism passed down through the years. That's not to say they were doing it on purpose obviously they loved their son but theres no denying it was just something that was inevitable and I'm glad the show portrays that. Rebecca acting the way she did in this episode is an example of it. Keeping William away is an example of it even Jack telling randall he doesnt see color on the golf field is an example of it. Its impossible to not portray something stitched into the fabric of america. Only way to undo it is actively pull the threads loose of that stitching and repair.
I agree, white people need to stand up to black people and stop putting up with their crap, and men and males need to stand up to women and females and stop putting up with their crap.
Terry Knight excuse me? It hasn’t even been 100 years since black people were given equal rights! And it’s time for white people to stand up to black people again? When they really didn’t even stand down in the first place? BAFFLING!
Effy Black You should watch the show. But there’s an episode where Randall visits an HBCU with the lady’s son. Randall also ends up going over to her house regularly so that he’s able to interact with kids who look like him. They haven’t really explored much of that, yet, though. But hopefully at some point they bring up her son being friends with Randall.
Could be nerves? I mean in this scene I think she had gotten bad talked for not introducing her son to the other black people at the pool. People make assumptions plus there are some mixed couples that when the child has different needs or self care than them it can be a bit tricky for them to understand. While I do think that she should have perhaps looks for herself you can see how she does note what they lady tells her to do once her son gets out of the pool. Just my view though
A lot of people dont realize that black hair is different to handle. You think hair is hair. My asian friend has a similar problem with dying her hair. Went to many hairdresser and they all thought of course i can bleach you cause we live in a super white place and even they thoight it would be fine. She only seeked out asian hairdresser when she turned 25.
I just watched the episode today at the gym. I have a question and forgive my ignorance. Why Rebecca needs to take Randall to a hairdresser who know how to cut black hair? My question comes from utter curiosity and I don’t mean to be disrespectful or anything. I apologize in advance if my question offends someone. I have seen similar situations in other shows which depict black women with long hair don’t washing their hair on daily basis because takes hours to style it.
Norma G Thank you for your question. I can tell you are genuinely curious and nothing else. A black person's hair grows out in spirals. So it has more of a chance to get stuck in the follicle when it is growing back out if it is not cut properly. A black man is more likely to get hair bumps because of this reason. A black barber knows how to cut it so that does not happen. Earlier in this episode, Rebecca says he has a rash but it is actually hair bumps irritating him. That is why she asks for a barber. It is true black women do not wash our hair everyday. It is because the oils in our hair do not stay. Our hair soaks the moisture. If we were to wash it everyday we would be stripping our hair of natural moisturizing oil and risking dry damaged hair. On average, a black woman washes and styles her hair every other week. And uses proper maintainence for up keep. Does this help?
Brianna Fulford That's interesting, I never knew that. Good to know. 😊 I'm caucasian and one time, I spontaneously stopped at a hair salon to get a quick cut and style ( my hair was short at the time). I entered the salon and told the hairdresser (who happened to be facing the doorway while doing her client's hair) what I needed done. Well, she immediately looked at the other hairdressers with a comical look on her face, like a "I can't believe this girl (me) just asked me to do her hair." She then abruptly told me that I was in the wrong place, that I should go to the barber a few doors away instead. I said, "you don't want to do my hair?" She said, "no, go to the barber." Needless ro say, I felt insulted, confused and upset! So, I left and because I really needed my hair done, I went to the barber afterall. While he was doing my hair, I realized that I had just been discriminated against. The ladies at the hair salon were all black, and the barber told me that they prob refused me because they specialized in African American hair. Well, I never heard of such a thing. Hair is hair, right? Or so, I thought (and still do). Really now, how hard is it to cut short hair? It literally needed a shampoo, a few snips (1/4 inch cut in length) and I didnt even need a blow dry. I'm sure African hairdressers know how to style short Caucasian hair. It was a hurtful experience and I never told anyone what happened until now. That was over 5 years ago.
Not trying to be mean but why are you sure that African hairdressers know how to style short Caucasian hair? It sucks if they were rude to you for sure- but the fact is that 9 out of 10 salons a black woman "spontaneously" stops into don't know how to do "African" hair and they are refused service as well (or in my case they lie and try to do the hair and end up burning your scalp with a botched relaxer or the like). Why should you be upset that the 1 salon out of the ten doesn't cater to your type of hair?
Actually, African American hairdressers are at an advantage because they can do a range of hair, including white women and men. The person was probably sent to the barber because the hairdresser assumed she wanted to maintain a short cut and style, who better to provide that service than a barber. Also, the hairdresser might have been full and wouldn't get to the lady for a while (we know what that's like) and opted for her to been seen quicker at the barber.
I absolutely love how sweet and understanding she is of their situation. This is what it should be. The reality is, all races are equal in right, but not in biology and that’s okay!
My family is good friends with a priest born & raised in Uganda. He tells the best stories. He is also bald. For some reason we were all talking about hair at one point. Where he is from, neither girls nor boys really have hair. I already knew this. He then told us that black people’s hair doesn’t naturally grown out of their heads; they use an oil on their scalps that stimulates the hair follicles or something. This blew my mind. Anybody have any further info?
Lianna Pfister that's not necessarily true. All hair grows the same, but black hair has natural oils that help keep hair healthy and stimulates growth, which is why we don't wash our hair every day.
Jacqueline Griffin that’s kinda what I thought. ‘Not necessarily true’ sounds like a good way to put it. It DID explain why I’d seen some girls use what I think of as a soft shower cap in bed though, so I couldn’t completely debunk it, not for this part of the world at least.
Lianna Pfister That priest is unaware of the uniqueness of Black folks hair. Just so you know, Black people's hair DOES grow naturally OUT of our HEADS. African (Black) babies are BORN with hair while other races are born BALD or nearly BALD. Every race will have healthy hair if it is maintained properly. Does you priest friend live among affluent or poor Ugandans? African hair flourishes when moist. The boys and girls who have extremely short hair aren't bald. If you priest friend will observe he'll noticed he's confused short hair for baldness because of the children's SKIN tone. Their skin is dark and so is their hair. That confusion happens often when white Americans describe dark skin African American MEN with close to scalp haircuts.
You know what I don't understand there are three races on this planet African Asian or european if we act like there's not differences you can take a Nigerian a Jamaican an African-American and chances are we would like similar music similar food same thing in the Asian race if you take a Japanese a Korean Chinese they will find some similarities same thing if you take an Italian or Irish or Polish American to a social event they will find commonality this doesn't mean that there is not things that interracially we can Bond on when it comes to raising children we've seen a lot of people grow up and have a lot of conflict when they are put in interracial homes I mean if people wonder why Michael Jackson Mike Tyson and so many of our celebrities are so messed up just look who they were heavily influenced by who they were around so much contrary to public belief interracial relationships not just romantic but socially and everything else does not always mean it's going to work well
I was raised in a multiracial family and I feel your comment in my soul. my brothers and sister and mom are black and so often we were judged by everyone. We are all human so what does the color of our skin matter? My brothers will always be my brothers, my sister will always be my best friend, and my mom will always be my role model.
I agree, and I'm a 29 year old black male, and the day that people stop obsessing over gender and the day that we call women and females out on obsessing over gender as much as we call black people out on obsessing over race will be the happiest day of my life.
Jeff H it’s the mid to late 80s and it wasn’t normal for white parents to adopt a little black boy. it’s not like they had black friends lol. + they’re new parents tackling 3 different kids at one time. no internet to ask. given the factors that can answer your question.
I am white and live in a pretty white country. I am not friends with anyone who is black. After this episode I always wondered wether or not black people need sunscreen, and I just learned some months ago over youtube how different black hair is to the one of white people, and how different it needs to be treated. How would the mom know it, without internet and in a pretty white area herself? I think ahe should have made an effort sooner but those are nit things you just can figure out, it's not common sense. It's knowledge about a topic she never had much contact with
I think it' was extremely important to teach her white kids to see as Randall's black friends simply as friends. After all Randall was adjusting in a dominantly white culture, Kevin and Kate should have been made to do the same for Randall.
Chitra Adkar not everything is about white people. This boy is brought up in a white family and it is important that he be taught/experience being a black boy. That can not be taught by white people. Being around black children or black people allows him to realize that there are people who look like him and understand him in ways that not even his family will understand.
DeMauri Nycole I totally agree not everything is about white people. Which is why I think it's important for Randall that his family mixes with other black people and not just push him away for a few hours. White people can take some initiative in making their kids think playing with black children is like playing with other children, esp after adoption.
Chitra Adkar No. The two white twins will have little interaction with Black people except for Randall and eventually his family. That's the reality of Black children in white adoptive situations. Besides, Randall needs to befriend Black people alone so he can observe. He may have questions or made observations about white people that he won't feel comfortable sharing if his white brother and sister is present. He's different. He's unique within the family. This isn't about the twins.
Growing up not socialising with anyone like you must be hard. It doesn’t matter what family you come from if you look black are black you’ll get treated like that it’s the black experience and he needs to be prepared white people dont have that experience so seeing other black people will help him
@@92You. lmao.. no like he actually does? Sunscreen doesn’t just help with sun burns, it helps block the suns rays. The sun can cause skin cancer in literally any skin type, regardless of skin color. For an anatomy class I took we did a whole segment specially on the types of skin cancers you can get from the sun. The sun doesn’t care what race you are lmao, Randall needed sunscreen
@@92You. Yes, he does. We all do. Educate yourself. It's one thing to be misinformed, it's another to spread misinformation that affects whether people live or die. Your arrogance is not worth other people's lives. www.healthline.com/health/black-people-need-sunscreen#Word-of-mouth-myths:-Is-there-natural-sun-protection?
LMFAO!! HOW is this racist???! she clearly is showing the woman that she needs advice on raising a black boy because there are differences. nobody of any race is offended besides you. and people like you who are offended by everything really take the REALITY out of series' like this. imagine if this scene was considered inappropriate, *SIGHHH*
this isn't racist? yes there are some scenes depicting racism in the show (like rebecca's mom discriminating against randall), but this isn't one of them.
Yea I whould not help the mom unless she said please honestly she need something from this women and she is still approaching her with a air of Superiority. Honestly her short question are showing how much she whould not and dose not want to talk to this black women
The reason why the white mom got defensive was because the black mom made the smart ass comment of the white mom not introducing herself. Who are you to say I am to introduce myself? Are you my mom dad or supervisor? Do you sign my pay checks? Are you my landlord?
Pride and ego is something humans struggle daily to deal with. The black mom should've introduced herself instead of making the sly comment of the white mom not introducing herself.
It's funny, women and females operate the same way black people operate, the only differences are that black people use their race and women and females use their gender, black people get called out on their flaws, their double standards, and their crap way more than women and females get called out on their flaws, their double standards, and their crap, and you catch way more backlash calling out women and females than you do calling out black people, and women and females play the gender card and use their gender for their advantages just as much as black people play the race card and use their race for their advantages. Nobody ever talks about this. Rebecca is pissed off that she's dealing with crap from that black woman because of the fact that she's white and has a black child, but if that black woman were to give a man crap because of his gender and for the sake of "women's rights" both her and Rebecca would stick together like glue.
Um no Rebekah is furstrated because she know that although she loves Randal Randall's hair texture, skin color are different and she doesn't want to admit because Randall is still her child but the woman wasn't being rude but just letting her know that the reality you're dealing with a black child we need more lotion our hair is different and we have to mosturixr and grease her hair they don't there's difference and Rebekah had to set aside her pride and get the information to help Randall ....
Found longer video of scene to see how the telling her off goes and the mother was talking to the son. No one stopped the child from going with his mother Way less dramatic lol 🫠
I like that she did not let pride get in the way of asking. That's a mother right there.
Luminosity same. I was very impressed when I first watched this .
"Can you tell my husband that please?" Lmao
The lady Mandy Moore's talking to is Sterling K. Brown's real-life wife.
L1F3 1NVAD3R She is stunningly beautiful!
Ryan Michelle Bathe
She looks exactly like that IRL. Gorgeous 24/7.
Really? She is sooooooo beautiful!
They was is army wives together
the fact that thats sterling's wife makes this 100 times better
Alright, that laugh means "we're gonna be friends now.. "
I like coming back to this video every now and then because the other women looks so much like how my mom was at the pool down to the earrings and reading a book while keeping an eye on my sister and I. RIP Mommy ☺️.
PS: the happy face was in remembrance of summertime fun.
This will always be my favorite episode of This Is Us. My favorite scene is at the end when Jack pulls Kevin towards him while he's sitting on the cooler and all the kids lay down and fall asleep on him. It makes me fall in love with the family so much more.
That's my favorite scene too!
This episode will always be special to me too
Lol this is pure gold.The best scene ever
That lady was really nice and cool about everything!! I wish they would show her more often...
Her laugher is my favorite part I keep going back to that
The black lady is so beautiful and when she smiled at 0:57 my God 😍😍😍😍
Agreed, she is stunning !
Her name is Ryan Michelle Bathe. And yes, she is gorgeous, and also a wonderful human being
Flawless
Ryan Michelle Bathe he's married to Sterling K. Brown in real life.
I hope Angelina Joli, Sandra Bullock and’em are watching and taking notes....
FRE ALVA STILL GINA 😂😂😂
and Charlie Theron? Probably not.
Don’t forget Nicole Kidman and Amy Adams
@@raellmoreland4863 Nicole’s kids with Tom are adults ...and I think they chose to live with him post divorce so they can handle it themselves ...but hopefully when they were adolescents their parents knew
@@ryanamari2233 what r u actually saying?
Thats sterling's wife in real life.. damn randall got taste on and off the show!
People of all skin colors can gets skin cancer, but not all people will burn. I am a very pale white person who never uses sunscreen. I burn easily, but don't really tan. I should use sunscreen, but try to stay covered instead.
As for approaching the woman, it takes courage to admit that you don't already know everything. It takes courage to address the fact that we as individuals will have differences. It makes you vulnerable.
She is a good mom
She just needs a little help. Never wrong to ask questions ladies! All our babies need different things❤️
Ryan Bathe (Sterling K. Brown's wife) on two of my favorite shows, with Sterling. "This Is Us" and "Army Wives", where she played Charlie and he played Roland. I wish there had been many more scenes of her on "This Is Us".
Whenever I see them onscreen together, I think of an acting power couple who worked together, Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee.
Absolutely love it.....you go girl.....No Pride....
Sorry but I totally get where Rachel was coming from - my first thought was literally "Back off" but I also get what the black woman was saying - people who adopt any kind of race different then theirs need to be aware of hair, skin and other info like that.
I agree if your first encounter is you attacking me and then giving me advice. I would feel a way too. She could have introduced herself as well. Ignorance is annoying but sometimes it is unintentionally. But I'm glad Rebecca did what was best for her son and took the other mom's recommendation.
Agreed my mom's hair was always in a fro. I felt bad for my mom cause honey they didn't have youtube in the 60s.
I watched this a little while ago video about a class these women set up to teach adopted and biracial couples how to do and care for black children’s hair. All I could think about is why there aren’t more classes like that.
No they don’t it’s moronic. It’s like when you adopt indian children you should know about their hair. It’s so retarded i can’t even.
Yeah they dont educate themselves before hand. But it also helps if you associate with any race other than your own. UGH ! 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
He’s human, of course he needs sunscreen 🤣
In reality some people think they can get away without it. Misinformation about sunscreen has only really started getting cleared up in more recent years.
I'm Dominican with tan skin I'm a lot lighter than Randall and I never wear the stuff so I think it just depends
@@cathya7045 It really has nothing to do with skin darkness or lightness, it's skin protection. The sun gives of uv rays that are damaging to the skin. Some people that lived through the 1970s put on baby oil while at the pools and beaches and there are tons of people with skin cancer because of it. Then there are people that just generally spending time in the sun that have found cancerous spots now.
The old belief was darker skin didn't need sunblock because it you couldn't get darker and didn't burn. I will tell you this, I am a good brown color and have gotten super dark from lifeguarding and developed a burn before (not full body but still).
I have seen some little dark marks on my skin that weren't there years ago or when I was a kid.
Just protect your skin sis, it's beautiful and you don't get a new one.
@@cathya7045 you need protection from the sun regardless of your race or skin shade. It simply protects your skin against the harshness of the sun, such as sun damage, wrinkles, and cancer. I’m black and I try to wear it daily. You can also wear it year round.
He doesn't need sun screen because us minorities have Melanin and it naturally protects our skin against sun damage. That's the reason she laughed
I love William, he is such a beautiful character on the show
1:04 makes me laugh so hard 😂
💗=💗 Period.
I don’t go to a white barber because they are white but just because they are not use to my hair type. Just one of those things.
@@DChillen2011 as a hairdresser I totally understand that!
@@Blackitty Yeah, and I meant to say not because they are white lol. Not a racist.
@@DChillen2011 I understand what you meant. It's hard to know how to handle a type of hair you don't have. There are a few who have had extra training in working with ethnic hair that are great at it. But if you have the hair that you're trying to work with it comes so much easier to you because you've been working with it your entire life.
This series I keep saying it after this series Mandy Moore will always and forever be invited to the cookouts.
A CLASSIC SCENE
I had something similar to this happen, and I was so thankful for it actually. First time we kept my niece for longer than a few days, we had to wash her hair. Poor baby was looking at us like “these crazy ass white people..”. The thing is, if it reverted back to her natural hair style I wouldn’t really care because I think she’s BEAUTIFUL with her natural hair. Her hair gets super poofy when natural, but this was… this wasn’t okay. Like it felt like we were going to DAMAGE your hair if we tried to style it in any way. Like after we washed it and rinsed it.. it was was MESS. I didn’t know how to manage it to style it. We went to Walmart and just grabbed all the products that had little black girls on them lol. We got to the checkout and this woman looks at us, at my niece, at her hair, and then at all the stuff we were putting up on the counter and she goes “oh honey!”, and stopped my mom and was like “you don’t need that, that, or that. You need this, this is how you wanna use it”, and stood there for like ten minutes feeling my nieces hair between her fingers, and telling us the best way to care for it and style it. Apparently the shampoo we used is AWFUL for black hair and strips it way too much making it very brittle and wiry and hard to manage. It was a “moisturizing” shampoo, but the ingredients in it tend to just sit on top of black hair and doesn’t actually help it, and the silicones strip it and make it super unhealthy. We were sooooooo thankful for this woman! Went home and was able to moisturize and treat her hair, then easily style it. And we knew how and what to wash it with from then on. Lady said if we ever had to use that shampoo again, to just use a tiny bit and mix it with coconut oil, and ONLY clean her scalp, not so much the hair itself. From then on we made sure we had products that worked for her.
This has three dislikes? Best show ever! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼😀❤️❤️❤️
This was sweet, but looking back at it, it shouldn't have been just him getting to know black culture, but his entire family should have been immersed in that along side him. Kind of sad to think about it now.
Have you seen the beginning of series 5? Randall is addressing that now.
sorry but i think they were too busy being a perfectly normal and lovable family.
There are many moments that family displays causal internalized taught racism passed down through the years. That's not to say they were doing it on purpose obviously they loved their son but theres no denying it was just something that was inevitable and I'm glad the show portrays that. Rebecca acting the way she did in this episode is an example of it. Keeping William away is an example of it even Jack telling randall he doesnt see color on the golf field is an example of it. Its impossible to not portray something stitched into the fabric of america. Only way to undo it is actively pull the threads loose of that stitching and repair.
This is a great scene.
The real wife of SKB😂😂
This is amazing. This with the part where the woman took her son and was “watching him” shows how amazing of a mom she is
I hope people are more tolerant after this show
What is it called?????
Can someone please tell me the episode and season
- thanks
My girl!!
I agree, white people need to stand up to black people and stop putting up with their crap, and men and males need to stand up to women and females and stop putting up with their crap.
Terry Knight excuse me? It hasn’t even been 100 years since black people were given equal rights! And it’s time for white people to stand up to black people again? When they really didn’t even stand down in the first place? BAFFLING!
Movie Name: This is Us
Do they and their kids become friends?
Effy Black You should watch the show. But there’s an episode where Randall visits an HBCU with the lady’s son. Randall also ends up going over to her house regularly so that he’s able to interact with kids who look like him. They haven’t really explored much of that, yet, though. But hopefully at some point they bring up her son being friends with Randall.
There’s a picture of the lady with the family showing that they become life friends
The fact that it never occurred to her to seek out a "black" barber or just drive around to find one near her home is baffling.
Could be nerves? I mean in this scene I think she had gotten bad talked for not introducing her son to the other black people at the pool. People make assumptions plus there are some mixed couples that when the child has different needs or self care than them it can be a bit tricky for them to understand. While I do think that she should have perhaps looks for herself you can see how she does note what they lady tells her to do once her son gets out of the pool. Just my view though
In real life, yes. As part of the storyline of this show, no...
A lot of people dont realize that black hair is different to handle. You think hair is hair. My asian friend has a similar problem with dying her hair. Went to many hairdresser and they all thought of course i can bleach you cause we live in a super white place and even they thoight it would be fine. She only seeked out asian hairdresser when she turned 25.
I just watched the episode today at the gym. I have a question and forgive my ignorance. Why Rebecca needs to take Randall to a hairdresser who know how to cut black hair? My question comes from utter curiosity and I don’t mean to be disrespectful or anything. I apologize in advance if my question offends someone.
I have seen similar situations in other shows which depict black women with long hair don’t washing their hair on daily basis because takes hours to style it.
Norma G Thank you for your question. I can tell you are genuinely curious and nothing else.
A black person's hair grows out in spirals. So it has more of a chance to get stuck in the follicle when it is growing back out if it is not cut properly. A black man is more likely to get hair bumps because of this reason. A black barber knows how to cut it so that does not happen. Earlier in this episode, Rebecca says he has a rash but it is actually hair bumps irritating him. That is why she asks for a barber.
It is true black women do not wash our hair everyday. It is because the oils in our hair do not stay. Our hair soaks the moisture. If we were to wash it everyday we would be stripping our hair of natural moisturizing oil and risking dry damaged hair. On average, a black woman washes and styles her hair every other week. And uses proper maintainence for up keep.
Does this help?
Brianna Fulford Thank you so much for your answer. Really informative 😉😉😉
Brianna Fulford
That's interesting, I never knew that. Good to know. 😊
I'm caucasian and one time, I spontaneously stopped at a hair salon to get a quick cut and style ( my hair was short at the time). I entered the salon and told the hairdresser (who happened to be facing the doorway while doing her client's hair) what I needed done. Well, she immediately looked at the other hairdressers with a comical look on her face, like a "I can't believe this girl (me) just asked me to do her hair." She then abruptly told me that I was in the wrong place, that I should go to the barber a few doors away instead. I said, "you don't want to do my hair?" She said, "no, go to the barber." Needless ro say, I felt insulted, confused and upset! So, I left and because I really needed my hair done, I went to the barber afterall. While he was doing my hair, I realized that I had just been discriminated against. The ladies at the hair salon were all black, and the barber told me that they prob refused me because they specialized in African American hair. Well, I never heard of such a thing. Hair is hair, right? Or so, I thought (and still do). Really now, how hard is it to cut short hair? It literally needed a shampoo, a few snips (1/4 inch cut in length) and I didnt even need a blow dry.
I'm sure African hairdressers know how to style short Caucasian hair.
It was a hurtful experience and I never told anyone what happened until now. That was over 5 years ago.
Not trying to be mean but why are you sure that African hairdressers know how to style short Caucasian hair? It sucks if they were rude to you for sure- but the fact is that 9 out of 10 salons a black woman "spontaneously" stops into don't know how to do "African" hair and they are refused service as well (or in my case they lie and try to do the hair and end up burning your scalp with a botched relaxer or the like). Why should you be upset that the 1 salon out of the ten doesn't cater to your type of hair?
Actually, African American hairdressers are at an advantage because they can do a range of hair, including white women and men. The person was probably sent to the barber because the hairdresser assumed she wanted to maintain a short cut and style, who better to provide that service than a barber. Also, the hairdresser might have been full and wouldn't get to the lady for a while (we know what that's like) and opted for her to been seen quicker at the barber.
Cool.
I absolutely love how sweet and understanding she is of their situation. This is what it should be.
The reality is, all races are equal in right, but not in biology and that’s okay!
What’s this called
Black woman is gorgeous
I don't exactly understand what's happening since I've never seen the show can someone explain it please
The lady asking has a black son and is asking for advice since her family is white
The black lady said he needs a barber who knows how to cut black hair.
Miss Edits do yourself a favor and go back and watch all of the episodes so far… It’s a terrific show! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼❤️😀
Honestly it's am amazing show. I suggest you watch it from the startveith a box of tissues
Miss Edits watch the show.
My family is good friends with a priest born & raised in Uganda. He tells the best stories. He is also bald. For some reason we were all talking about hair at one point. Where he is from, neither girls nor boys really have hair. I already knew this. He then told us that black people’s hair doesn’t naturally grown out of their heads; they use an oil on their scalps that stimulates the hair follicles or something. This blew my mind.
Anybody have any further info?
Lianna Pfister that's not necessarily true. All hair grows the same, but black hair has natural oils that help keep hair healthy and stimulates growth, which is why we don't wash our hair every day.
Jacqueline Griffin that’s kinda what I thought. ‘Not necessarily true’ sounds like a good way to put it. It DID explain why I’d seen some girls use what I think of as a soft shower cap in bed though, so I couldn’t completely debunk it, not for this part of the world at least.
Nah our hair grows out of our own heads naturally, we don’t need oil.
Lianna Pfister That priest is unaware of the uniqueness of Black folks hair. Just so you know, Black people's hair DOES grow naturally OUT of our HEADS. African (Black) babies are BORN with hair while other races are born BALD or nearly BALD. Every race will have healthy hair if it is maintained properly. Does you priest friend live among affluent or poor Ugandans? African hair flourishes when moist. The boys and girls who have extremely short hair aren't bald. If you priest friend will observe he'll noticed he's confused short hair for baldness because of the children's SKIN tone. Their skin is dark and so is their hair. That confusion happens often when white Americans describe dark skin African American MEN with close to scalp haircuts.
underablackgaze wow ok...I think he’s from a moderate community...and the man now has a doctorate...so he’s clearly not an idiot
This scene iou s so cute!
Really you didnt know about like really. What's next you know you need to feed him right. There is a difference but at the end of the day still a kid.
You know what I don't understand there are three races on this planet African Asian or european if we act like there's not differences you can take a Nigerian a Jamaican an African-American and chances are we would like similar music similar food same thing in the Asian race if you take a Japanese a Korean Chinese they will find some similarities same thing if you take an Italian or Irish or Polish American to a social event they will find commonality this doesn't mean that there is not things that interracially we can Bond on when it comes to raising children we've seen a lot of people grow up and have a lot of conflict when they are put in interracial homes I mean if people wonder why Michael Jackson Mike Tyson and so many of our celebrities are so messed up just look who they were heavily influenced by who they were around so much contrary to public belief interracial relationships not just romantic but socially and everything else does not always mean it's going to work well
As a 33 year old black male, I have to say that the day people stop obsessing over race will be the happiest day of my life.
I was raised in a multiracial family and I feel your comment in my soul. my brothers and sister and mom are black and so often we were judged by everyone. We are all human so what does the color of our skin matter? My brothers will always be my brothers, my sister will always be my best friend, and my mom will always be my role model.
Why did you have to mention that you were a 33 year old black male?
I agree, and I'm a 29 year old black male, and the day that people stop obsessing over gender and the day that we call women and females out on obsessing over gender as much as we call black people out on obsessing over race will be the happiest day of my life.
Who is obsessing over race in this clip besides in the comments??
Savvi C That is literally incorrect.
This mom did not and could not figure out all of that common sense stuff out on here own, right?
Jeff H it’s the mid to late 80s and it wasn’t normal for white parents to adopt a little black boy. it’s not like they had black friends lol. + they’re new parents tackling 3 different kids at one time. no internet to ask. given the factors that can answer your question.
I am white and live in a pretty white country. I am not friends with anyone who is black. After this episode I always wondered wether or not black people need sunscreen, and I just learned some months ago over youtube how different black hair is to the one of white people, and how different it needs to be treated. How would the mom know it, without internet and in a pretty white area herself? I think ahe should have made an effort sooner but those are nit things you just can figure out, it's not common sense. It's knowledge about a topic she never had much contact with
She doesn't have to introduce herself to you yall. Gtfoh
So are we going to learn that this is really Randall's birth mother?
No, she isn't.
No, this is Randall’s wifey 😅
Why did she want only Randall to play with her son? Why not bring the triplets?
I think it' was extremely important to teach her white kids to see as Randall's black friends simply as friends. After all Randall was adjusting in a dominantly white culture, Kevin and Kate should have been made to do the same for Randall.
Chitra Adkar not everything is about white people. This boy is brought up in a white family and it is important that he be taught/experience being a black boy. That can not be taught by white people. Being around black children or black people allows him to realize that there are people who look like him and understand him in ways that not even his family will understand.
DeMauri Nycole I totally agree not everything is about white people. Which is why I think it's important for Randall that his family mixes with other black people and not just push him away for a few hours. White people can take some initiative in making their kids think playing with black children is like playing with other children, esp after adoption.
Chitra Adkar No. The two white twins will have little interaction with Black people except for Randall and eventually his family. That's the reality of Black children in white adoptive situations. Besides, Randall needs to befriend Black people alone so he can observe. He may have questions or made observations about white people that he won't feel comfortable sharing if his white brother and sister is present. He's different. He's unique within the family. This isn't about the twins.
Growing up not socialising with anyone like you must be hard. It doesn’t matter what family you come from if you look black are black you’ll get treated like that it’s the black experience and he needs to be prepared white people dont have that experience so seeing other black people will help him
How can people judge a parent, and i mean a WHOLE life as a parent, by how he or she take care of children’s hair. People are f up.
We live in a world full of judgmental people
Lol No Rebecca, he does not need sun screen
-92- Uh actually yes he does lol!
-92- ummm black people still can get skin damage from the sun even if they don’t burn as easy...
@@92You. lmao.. no like he actually does? Sunscreen doesn’t just help with sun burns, it helps block the suns rays. The sun can cause skin cancer in literally any skin type, regardless of skin color. For an anatomy class I took we did a whole segment specially on the types of skin cancers you can get from the sun. The sun doesn’t care what race you are lmao, Randall needed sunscreen
@@92You. you're...not black
@@92You. Yes, he does. We all do. Educate yourself. It's one thing to be misinformed, it's another to spread misinformation that affects whether people live or die. Your arrogance is not worth other people's lives. www.healthline.com/health/black-people-need-sunscreen#Word-of-mouth-myths:-Is-there-natural-sun-protection?
Do a story line where a black woman adopts a white child and a random white woman gives advice to the black mother on how to raise her child.
Not how it works lol
This series has some real racists scenes
LMFAO!! HOW is this racist???! she clearly is showing the woman that she needs advice on raising a black boy because there are differences. nobody of any race is offended besides you. and people like you who are offended by everything really take the REALITY out of series' like this. imagine if this scene was considered inappropriate, *SIGHHH*
I guess to some people, everything is racist.
this isn't racist? yes there are some scenes depicting racism in the show (like rebecca's mom discriminating against randall), but this isn't one of them.
What is the name of this I would like to watch it
@@drawingau7703 the show is called 'this is us'
Yea I whould not help the mom unless she said please honestly she need something from this women and she is still approaching her with a air of Superiority. Honestly her short question are showing how much she whould not and dose not want to talk to this black women
This wasn't their first interaction
The reason why the white mom got defensive was because the black mom made the smart ass comment of the white mom not introducing herself.
Who are you to say I am to introduce myself? Are you my mom dad or supervisor? Do you sign my pay checks? Are you my landlord?
Its funny how she took her son away from the other black kids and now wants him to play with them 🧐😐
Pride and ego is something humans struggle daily to deal with. The black mom should've introduced herself instead of making the sly comment of the white mom not introducing herself.
It's funny, women and females operate the same way black people operate, the only differences are that black people use their race and women and females use their gender, black people get called out on their flaws, their double standards, and their crap way more than women and females get called out on their flaws, their double standards, and their crap, and you catch way more backlash calling out women and females than you do calling out black people, and women and females play the gender card and use their gender for their advantages just as much as black people play the race card and use their race for their advantages. Nobody ever talks about this. Rebecca is pissed off that she's dealing with crap from that black woman because of the fact that she's white and has a black child, but if that black woman were to give a man crap because of his gender and for the sake of "women's rights" both her and Rebecca would stick together like glue.
Um no Rebekah is furstrated because she know that although she loves Randal Randall's hair texture, skin color are different and she doesn't want to admit because Randall is still her child but the woman wasn't being rude but just letting her know that the reality you're dealing with a black child we need more lotion our hair is different and we have to mosturixr and grease her hair they don't there's difference and Rebekah had to set aside her pride and get the information to help Randall ....
Found longer video of scene to see how the telling her off goes and the mother was talking to the son. No one stopped the child from going with his mother
Way less dramatic lol 🫠