EXACTLY! Your man shouldn't be so comfortable being around somebody who is running around chasing underaged girls or assaulting women unless your man is a predator himself. Also, pay attention to his opinions on people like R. Kelly and Chris Brown. If he's always spouting that' "ThEy JuSt TrYiNg To BriNg A BLaCk MaN dOwN!" nonsense in situations like those, then that's a HUGE red flag. The same logic applies to cheaters. If your man is so comfortable hanging around other men who cheat on their wives and girlfriends then he's probably a cheater himself.
I think your comment is underrated. I have yet to meet a man with trash friends that didn't share the trash logic their friends have. Even the ones that claim to hold their friends responsible.
This is spot on, anytime their friend(s) are derelict and/or womanizers (Man whores) they usually share the same ideology. Now that I’m in my 20’s and learned men of dust flock together I look at their friends or inner circles VERY closely.
@@almamater9346 that is my motto since I have been single .. my ex husband. literally said when they are single and older they are desperate and easier and he just cheats. I was like " wow is this how this dude thinks" He started cheating on me .. the 3rd time that I knew of this girl was poly and she was going on tinder .. I guess to keep him to find other girls that would accept that live style. I told him I never signed up to be polygamous and if he knew he was like this why did he marry me. My point is men like to do emotional conartistry. You thinking this person aligns with your morals. But they know preceeding that you would not sign up for their me. There is a "nice guy con man" They love to get good girls as a beard Then by the time you know what the hell is going on its 10years later. The I thought deeply the the father had many women The cousins all cheat. The brother was a mess and cheated Ps. They newer generation men were all married to white women trashing their wives left and right. This is why I say I should have known statistical speaking he would have. Food don't grow in bad soil. He also idolized his father and he was a bastard child. They found his father hung back home in his country His Philapino friend literally slept with his wife's friend. Left her met a nice girl and she got pregnant lost the baby and he told her it was her fault.. He left her and him and his ex are sleeping together. Crazy to all the girls and they are all nice. These type of men prey on the "I am a nice girl I can prove it to you" type They all make good money by the way. Personally white collar men that much some are very toxic. Many have God complex choose wisely ladies
@@cvzdez so, you basically got to see first hand how that trash mindset is passed from generation to generation. I hope you are doing much better out from around all that bs
@@FuchsiaSquare I've had multiple men LIE about having children. I've caught at least 5 men who lied to me, and they do it to childless women MAJORITY of the time, not women with kids. There were probably more who lied, but those are the ones I caught.
This is why I preach for the hypergamous woman (I am one myself) to Also have a side business & side income of her own an LLC etc because it's facts looks will fade over time, and unfortunately once the woman's 'looks' go away the HVM will lose interest often times leaving the woman alone and broke, having your own to the side is YOUR Your ULTIMATE safety net
"When they discover that something is wrong with you, they will not have empathy for you, they will move on to the Woman they want, who has what they are looking for" - Chrissie you hit the nail on the head. I enjoy watching your videos. You are so smart!
A lot of these dudes are promoting other men to be dusties. I see women on the internet saying that they went out on a date to Chick- Fil-A and they had to pay for it. Then these dude have the audacity to think they're getting sex after that. They think being a man is "simping". I feel bad for this generation
After my mother passed away, I was worried about who would give me advice on dating and marriage the way my mother did. I’ve been listening to you ever since I was sixteen, Chrissie, but life happened and I lost touch with you. I’m 18 now, got back to your videos, and I feel like I’m more prepared than ever to conquer the world, because of you. Thank you! ☺️
Yess girl. Wishing you more strength, love, and knowledge. You should also listen to Tony Gaskins, RC blakes, and Benjamin Zulu. I find they give the most honest advice. They also all practice what they preach.
@@se6669 You should check out The Universe Guru. She is very blunt and practices what she preaches. Something I learned is Men cannot teach Women how to be a Woman. They can give great advice and perspective, but they can't teach you how to be a truly feminine Woman. I love Tony Gaskins and RC Blakes, but I limit watching them b/c of this and noticed a complete change in my feminine energy when I started watching feminine content made by Women for Women. Adrienne Everhart and Dr. Michelle Daf are great too. Check them out when you have a chance. ❤
Amen to that. My husband isn't a millionaire but we have a great nest egg to put a down payment on a house. Great health insurance, and he takes care of me. He's in the military and in school. I'm currently finishing my bachelor's. I'm happy and our relationship is healthy.
One way to tell is a man is high earning and high quality is if he offers his time is a meaningful way and not just flash money. Like if something happens and you need him, does he show up to be there by your side and offers to help you out financially , or does he just ask you to send him the bill but basically ignores your calls or avoids you until everything is rosy again.
Somewhat true... at the end of the day some people are smart and understand how things work... even if he does this... make sure he keeps doing this even after 37 years of marriage.
For me, I’ve been paying attention to their network inclusive of their net worth. Do they hold positions in the community? Gotten any awards or honors lately? Connected to top industry professionals? Has access to certain clubs? I see that as someone who cares about their public image and who they’re connected to. Which means they have something to lose.
I can understand this POV but we’ve clearly seen men do things behind closed doors and simply do damage control if it ever becomes public. men in positions of power or high esteem also can be violent, abusive, manipulative and whatever else bc they say “who will people believe?” Men that aren’t just known in their network, but even men h that are known to the world (R Kelly) is a good example so be careful with this thinking. It really has nothing to do with what they do professionally, who they know or what they have achieved/been recognized for. Pay attention to how they treat their family, treat their employees, how they treat the cashier. What they think about other people achieving great things..... look deeper.
Stay far away from high income earning, lone wolfs! A man without any networks is like a stagnant body of water: Swamps and lagoons come to mind. They are not interested in learning anything new, can think they know everything, doesn't cultivate relationships, just one big ole dead end😕
@@neen8369 This is so important! I’ve worked with many women who were abused-in all forms but due to the positions of the men in the community, the wives were either not believed or not valued because of his status. I think there are more good men in these positions than abusive men you just don’t want to end up with the bad apple.
I literally had a bm tell me I was the darkest women he ever been with. It made me confused. Ten years later, he now has four different baby mommas. All light skin or other and none of them married. Oh well.
Sis you definitely dodged a bullet. It kills me because a lot of black men and women believe that because of their complexion they get treated better when in all actuality (like in your case) they did nothing but get a baby and a bunch of drama out of this BOY*.
Why not stigmatize polyamorous relationships? They often times lead to the breakdown of families, especially when children are involved. I had a Ghanaian male friend who witnessed polygamous relationships back in Ghana. He said that it was something he would never ever want. It led to too much dysfunction. Dysfunctional behavior, especially behavior involving untraditional sexual relationships should be stigmatized. That’s one of the biggest problems in the black community. People doing whatever the heck they want to do with reckless disregard for consequences, partly due to the fact that many of us are too ignorant recognize the totality of the consequences.
there are polyamorous relationships that do work & it can work with constant proper communication. I have a friend whose been in a polyamorous with her boyfriend for 3 years now and she said it's one of her best decision ever made.
I would rather a man that works hard and makes an effort to bring home their 70k and adores me and is loyal and honest and attentive then a high earning dusty and negligent cheater or something similar.
@@misssymone4011 That's not true. Depending on where you live and what kind of life you want to live 70k can be more than enough. If he's smart with his money, that can provide a comfortable life.
@@misssymone4011 in my and my husband's case we live in an old historical 1934 restored cottage across from Seattle on 3 acres and we don't have a mortgage. So 70k would be fine for us ....and we live in a top 5 most beautiful states in the USA. So we're good. I live better than most women my age that I know because of my husband. He has redone everything top to bottom , I have a gleaming kitchen with drawers that light up when opened. My backyard overlooks forest pines ,. a snowy mountain in the distance and our 2 goats jumping around. I open my front door and butterflies are flying around on cue as if I'm in a movie and roses are blooming everywhere. In the fall the leaves are ablaze with fiery reds and orange. Trust me I'm not suffering.
6:55 - 7:12 is a whole word! Married people who do not have your best interest at heart will always talk you out of a good thing then ask you why you haven't found a man yet. I had this happen to me. Level up in silence ladies and even filter advice from people who have your best interest at heart. Do what works for you always!
Parents need to change how they are raising their sons. They need to be taught how to be responsible from a young age, just the way girls are taught. My brothers are disrespectful, and entitled because they expect everything to be done for them. To be honest that is how men are where I am from, and I would never be with a Zambian man, the disrespect, laziness, entitlement, and cheating is on another level.
Sis this is a similar experience that I have noticed across most blk cultures. The father, mothers , aunts and other family members ignore these trash behaviors And make excuses. They are not good for any women. I stopped dating them entirely bc of this. Of course this is not to say there aren’t some good ones but I’ll leave them to the bw who only date bm. I’m done. I don’t want to mother a man or put up with bs.
@@BeautifullAngell I’m starting to believe this. Even ones that I thought were good men they have eventually proved me wrong. I mean African (various countries), African American and Caribbean. All problematic.
My phone background image says if he's not generous, he might as well be broke. And that's with money or emotions. It doesn't matter how sweet or kind a man can be, if he's stingy with it to you. Thank you Chrissie for always reminding us to value ourselves and ask for what we deserve.
@@truthseekingfreethinker5214 That's how you get the woman to want to be with you in the first place. Men can run off at any time. This is why men have historically had to prove their ability to protect and provide in order to get her to choose to give her womb to you. I understand that in this promiscuous society its been forgotten, but if you want a high quality woman(or simply a good woman) you do have to play that game. If you don't you won't really get women who cares about dedicating themselves to you in return.
@@indeehood7882 being able to provide needs and being able to provide a woman's wants is two different things. If a woman disregards a man for not getting what she wants, she will have to suffer them consequences.
@@babygirla5717 why the name calling? I got more money than you, but I know this is the internet and people can say all kinds of crazy things, but if it helps you feel better about yourself, I'll be a dusty, lol
@@lavishlovergirl It's a non-traditional black person who preaches about how black people are spirituality different from the rest of society (how we were kings and queens, or we are spirituality favored by God), and about how black people would do better if we separate from and behave against society's standards (how we should practice polyamory and not be married under the law, or we should live off-the-grid, or (in rare cases cause these men usually want to be in control) matriarchs should be the leaders).
@@funkslave9425 stats count.. Not going for the team with the worst stats. They have the worst star in relationships. Everyone has preferences.. This are unapologetically mine
@@funkslave9425 everyone is judgemental Some people don't like my 4c hair Their right Some people may not like me because I am Haitian.. their right Some people may think I am boogie Their right Some people don't like me because I am Catholic their right. Why do I care about why some don't like me when I am happy with me.. Their right I will go to those who align with my beliefs.. go to you your tribe
@@cvzdez Fair enough. Personally I don't support any degradation of African women. We all know attractiveness is not based on skin tone or hair texture. I've seen tonnes of average looking White chicks. That being said, you cant judge a persons character based on how they put food on the table. There are plenty of athletes, band members, even rappers who are decent people that would treat you with respect.
Chrissie came throughhhhh with a great video as always! And she included all of the recent and relevant examples of men to avoid. All black women need to watch this video and share it with someone you know!
A combination of high value /high quality is what women should look for. If a man is high quality but cannot provide what is the point? And that goes the the other way too. I’d rather be single.
Honestly.... I have enough money and to take care of a family on my own, as a woman. I would be considered a high value man. I could support a stay at home wife and 2 kids. If I had to pick between money and love, I'd pick love. Let's say a dude worked construction and made 30k. I could put him to work flipping houses and working in my real estate business. I could quite literally give him access to information and tools to turn him into a high earning man. Easy peasy. I can't turn an emotionally unavailable and poor communicator into a good partner. Once again, if I had to pick.
I had to a friend who's a Black Hebrew Israelite actually cut ties with me cause I refuse to date guys in her congregation. And when I happily told her I'm dating a geochemist getting a PHD, my so call friend told me, girl you need to make smarter choices and how can lay down with my people's oppressor... So glad we stopped talking 😂😂
@@dahveedandsarkis2123 Girl I don't know. It was so much talking, that sometimes I space out 😂😂😂 Funny thing is, I was on my Wakanda mindset and was considering joining her church- until I realized how miserable I'll be.
How do you, as a man have a family and *JUST STRAIGHT UP REFUSE* to buy the groceries!???😲 I remember my mother was dating a guy long time ago, and he came to BJ's with us and I had picked my own stuff and she had her own cart and he bought BOTH OF our carts of stuff. I was like "No, thank you don't have to do that!", but my mother told me back in the day men bought groceries. That's just what they did.🤷🏾♀️
@Amanda Rivera Right?! I'm petty, so (before I tell you to leave), I'd be like,"Ok well I bought the groceries.... but don't you dare touch any of MY food".
Sis let's break it down further because you have a good point. I have male *friends* that will pay for things for me, or help me as well when these type situations come up. They get insulted when I offer to pay them back. I will also pay for some of my girl friends when we're together, especially when I know it helps them financially, and I don't require anyone to pay me back. It seems to me if you at least LIKE someone, you will make sure they are cared for. It makes one wonder if these men even like these women they're willing to bed and impregnate...
@@almamater9346 Exactly! You do basic nice and helpful things without even thinking twice about it because you care about the people you're doing them for. Your last two sentences are especially crucial. It's like, F*## questioning if it's LOVE, because is it even LIKE if as a man you're whining about buying groceries or diapers? Speaking of men getting insulted when you pull out money, I remember back in the day I went out with an Indian man, and I asked him to stop at the ATM because I realized I had left some of my money at home. He looked at me like I was crazy and said "What do you need money for? You don't have to pay for anything". I had never dated an Indian man before and didn't know that in their culture the men pay PERIOD and would NEVER ask a woman to go 50/50, and providing for their family is not debatable or negotiable because it's just what men do.
A dude not paying for groceries in a home that he lives in makes no sense to me. Like, dude you’re eating these groceries too… Why wouldn’t he just pay for them if his gf is out of work??? A lot of these men are worthless.
A dude not paying for groceries in a home that he lives in makes no sense to me. Like, dude you’re eating these groceries too… Why wouldn’t he just pay for them if his gf is out of work??? A lot of these men are worthless.
AS BLACK. WOMEN we need to learn how to empathise, acknowledge but not EXCUSE men's behaviour. Its amazing, for how 'stupid' men could be about things, they sure have higher standards when it comes to dating women.. If we cheat, it's Goodbye! Not no, 'we're working through it' We women need to learn to not accept so much struggle and stress that men give us, and constantly be working hard to turn lemons it into lemonade.. ☝️
Exactly Arielle, I agree with you 100%. Most men do not forgive, tolerate and accept their women cheating but except otherwise when they cheat. And it's women forgiving and accepting this, that is enabling men to continue, as there are no real consequences for their actions.
Women file 70-80% of all divorces, with infidelity being one of the top 3 cited grounds for divorce. According to the Institute of Family Studies, females under 30 cheat significantly more than their male counterparts. Even above 30, the rates are comparable. By the numbers, this logic doesn’t hold up to scrutiny.
@@jellydoughnut9779 The Institute of Family Studies and American Sociological Institution (as well as a dozen other private, local, and federal organizations that study divorce rates).
7:28 My goodness, I can see the pain behind the eyes of Snoop Dog’s wife. That woman must love the lifestyle more than herself to be riding with that devil so long 😢
@@datgurlky1 lol she is definitely his type black but light skin with light eyes I mean he name dropped her in a song yearssss ago and had her star his music video. He’s been gushing over her.
If this is a ploy for her to write an album about him being abusive or toxic, and destroy these men’s image, I’d support her, but for now I’m not liking her as much as I did when I was kid. It’s like after she got with the abuser Chris Doo Doo Brown, she is frozen in trauma.
This is the first video I’ve seen on this topic. I’ve dated plenty of high earning men who have little to no morals or integrity. It’s a must to vet them too because they skipped a step in character development all while earning degrees and obtaining high paying jobs.
I loved this video. It even speaks to why it’s so necessary to grow our EQ and to stop relying on $$ alone to be symbolic for wealth and growth. High earners can lack emotional maturity. High earners can be emotionally disconnected and difficult to relate to people, like anyone really. They can be less concerned about the emotional needs of others, and justify not growing and maturing in other areas because of high success with money they’ve already achieved. But I’ve learned…..money doesn’t make you wealthy. If you believe you’ve arrived in life, there’s no room for a growth mindset. This includes wealth and relationships. You may be on level 100 in making money but level 2 on learning how to love and forgive and treat people right. Thank you for sharing this!
@@kmc1994 How can do many BW depend on these men you described when statistically, the higher a Blk dudes income, the likelihood that he’ll get married decreases and when he does marry, it’s to nonBlk women?
@@kittykatz4001 exactly 😂 most BAM are incarcerated, uneducated, and/or unemployed while BW are the highest educated and employed within the BC. Also doesn’t blk manosphere tell us that BW chose to depend on welfare instead of BM which is what took them out the home? So how exactly do we depend on them? 😂 If you’re a woman who cannot think critically or logically, these men and their rhetoric will eat you alive.
I don't know much about African American culture and relationship dynamic. However, I'm still a black woman from Africa. In my culture, the men provide for the wives and children. The women are traditional. But they still have careers if they choose to. Her money is all hers and his money is shared money. A high quality man is measured by four things: good lineage (from a good, stable background/family/someone who is close to his womenfolk. If he honours the women in his family, he will honour you as his wife), beauty (good looking) religion (I'm Muslim, so having a noble character is a must. A man who is accountable, trustworthy, loyal, who cherishes his wife and the mother of my his children), wealth (it's a must for Muslim man to have financial means in order to take care of his wife/children. He doesn't have to be obscenely wealthy but he should have a stable professional job).
Had my first experience with a high value dusty this year. Made good money in the medical field with multiple cars and homes and I thought I hit the jackpot in my small town. But I kept my eyes open and didn't do much of the talking and surprise surprise dude was a whole creep 😤. Racist AND sexist AND a Republican🥴. Didn't take me anywhere after our first date and wanted me to pay my own expenses on a trip he invited me to. Blocked him with no explanation and didn't look back.
Lol he probably saw you as easy pickings and in his mind, you should be happy to be with him. Glad you blocked him because he sure as hell isn't asking his bombshell type to pay the bills. He is the type to pay 50k for a high class escort that looks like Pamela Anderson. PS not saying you are not pretty i see how my comment can seem that way, but most racists and Republicans have a type. Thats what I'm getting at.
Umm why do you make Republican sound like a bad thing? Republican is what BW should be. That plantation party needs to die in a fire and take these violent dusties they keep putting on pedestals with them.
I dated a guy who was the president of a well known bank, he was so selfish with his resources, but loosely spent it on his boy toys… motorcycles, a new car every couple years, etc.. it’s what lead to the break up.
I had a high earner man he was a truck driver and owned businesses spending money for him was nothing. He payed my bills and bought me multiple things even a Mac book. He did everything a good man would do even met my father and claimed he wanted to marry me. The red flags was there and I let the gifts and money blind me. In the end he ghosted me on our Muslim holiday eid!!!! I was hurt and I wasn’t perfect in the situation or realistic. Still I’m happy for the situation and I’m excited to see what comes next after this. I feel like it is preparing me for a better man God willing. I’m going to continue to work on me because a good man comes I want to be ready.
And girl he owned multiple trucks and had drivers sweetie with other businesses as well. I hate how people think they can say whatever they want because this is the internet. Also I have no problem pulling other provider men so once again beat it troll.
My bestie who's an high earning dog said some real stuff to me I asked why do the things you do he said because I can and they let me get away with it and that's why I'll never go after a woman with her head on straight because she won't let me get away with a thang also heavy trust issues
@@charmaineespeut4627 I don't date him so he's EXTREMELY Loyal to me .naw I'm kidding his mom and mine are best friends since kids and we grew up as brother and sister basically.... He's just a bad seed that's all 🤣 there's a little good in him lol
I'm married to a black high value man. They exist. Did these nonblack one marry you? If you can't find a man of value from any race do you qualify for one? Do you meet the standard of what high value men find to be valuable in women?
Lol you’re their last option for marriage mam. 1. Hispanic 2. Asian 3. Multiracial 4. Black This is the factual ranking of women chosen for interracial marriage according to Pew Research Center. You hype up and put non black men on a pedestal and they collectively don’t want you. You’re a self hating clown 🤡. Go to therapy.
"they'll attempt to use black women until they get the women they really want" you mean how I've always suspected Giveon was just using Justine, anytime now he's gonna pop up with a non black woman or a light skin biracial.
I got in the comments today with someone against my better judgment. He talked about black women being accountable. When I brought up black men and their low marriage rates and high divorce rates....it switched to white supremacy. SMH. I dont even think he realized he shifted the accountability lol.. I definitely wish all of this was around for me about 7 years ago. Lol. Take heed younger women. You are the new targets. I was at least happy that I knew all of these already lol. At least I've learned and I'm not an old fool 😂
Guess what? I've dated a teacher, a boxer, a Hoteph, a street thug and a doctor....they were all the same Black man at the end of the day 🤦🏽♀️...time to divest....
As a man I see this stuff and it's laughable. Most of these Kevin Samuel followers complain about takin girls on dinner dates lol. according to them thts golddigging... hIgh value is high morals, high integrity , high values, high regard for GOD.. if you have none of those qualities you're just a HIGH earner. stay safe ladies.
Exactly different types of men. Know what you want. Traditional men deserve traditional women. Like us the southern belles. High value men are doctors, lawyers, engineers, successful business owners, accountants, electrician, I know a guy that drive trucks that brings in 250k/year, ladies put the attitude aside and talk to these guys
Software engineers too. Don't pass up these types especially in large cities. My (black male) cousin just graduated college at a starting salary of $150K with only $20k of student loan debt. Other solid careers: tech sales ($120-300k), Physician Assistants and Pharmacists ($150-250k), Investment Banking/Private Equity ($180-350k), (Tech or Management) Consultants ($100-200k+). Level up your girlfriend circle as well! You'll start becoming naturally familiar with the high earning college-educated world and have more access to these men (because they tend to date and marry their female counterparts)
@@ilysaportax33 Yep, friend circle is so important. Look at Meghan Markle and other (extreme, popular) examples... hypergamous women typically meet their men through social connections.
@@ilysaportax33 exactly! But I only mentor those that listen. These women concerned about looks and him being lame. My current guy very lame. He stay home all the time working from his 500k home. Take me on expensive dates in either the jaguar or range rover. My ex was super lame physician/lawyer we did lame things in his 500k house while he flew me out and took me on nice dates. I love the lames!
Chrissie! Listening from my country Zambia. I missed you so much. Welcome back! You changed our lives, thank you for the work you do. You are a brilliant light that shines to show us the way. You are so valuable to us. Much love to you.
Ne-yo with the hairline starting behind his back said such foolishness? Even if his kids are light skinned, that hairline will do them no favors. There’s no accounting for ignorance.
@@sylviathomas1495 If I remember correctly, Ne-yo wife was complaing that their children didnt get "mommy's silky Hawaiian hair". She will be pissed once they start balding at the age of 17 lol
Also, for the meek mill situation- where are trans women now???? They’re regular women right? They are notably silent in matters like these but if it were trans women he was dragging all over the country on tour he would be cancelled. I don’t want to hear anymore from them about how we are the same! We are different and separate and they know it. Screw their agendas also. We have no allies 💯
There is a huge, huge difference between a High earning man and a High value man. Unfortunately too many people confuse these two. Most Black American rappers are not high value at all! A high value man is a man who apart from having a well paying job, respects himself and his family, if he's married, he takes care of and protects his wife and children, he gives back to his community, treats people with respect. Most of the rappers in this videos earn highly, but none of them are high value in any way.
What I’ve noticed personally is dark skin women in effort to get a hv bm start over emphasizing their body parts and focusing on bbls and snatched waist. The only thing they ever end up getting is sex from the bm not marriage or commitment. An example of this is K Michelle when she was dating idris Elba and he wouldn’t claim her. Now she is not dark skin exactly but what happened to her is what I see happening to dsbw who don’t know the signs. The example she gave of Paige and Chris from MAFS was the perfect example. She thought sexing him up right away and a lot would make him want to treat her right .
@Amanda Rivera when your community has beat you down and helped lower your self esteem sometimes things happen. It’s the reason these channels exist. These channels exist to get women to value themselves and go where they are treasured
@Amanda Rivera and “they do it to themselves” that’s an over simplification. Plenty of women sleep with men before marriage. Dsbw have more factors to consider than others and this is exhausting. WW I know sleep with almost every man they meet on the first date and it doesn’t prevent them from getting marriage or commitment from someone.
We keep getting the term “high income/high earners” mixed up with “high value”. These men are far, far, far from being valuable. We need to call a turd a turd.
My mother practiced hypergamy and married my step father who was a narcissistic/obnoxious abusive high value man. For a very long time it scarred me and turned me off to hypergamy because I automatically correlated a man with lots of money and social currency with abuse and powerlessness.
Growing up watching TV shows like Good Times and That's My Mama...I NEVER knew the hatred I would face from my own Black men. I was totally unprepared for that. It was shocking at the self hate out there. I knew of White oppression but NO ONE taught me of the dislike I would get from Black men.
Very powerful statement, we are raised to love and care for black men and see them as victims of the system. No one prepares us for their animosity towards us
@@highandmightyqueen79 So true! It must be a mutual respect not one way. . Black women do NEED to stop coddling Black men especially if they are jealous of you and place other women before you.
Chrissie with a WORD 🙌🏾 , as usual. Truth: As a Black Women, I am MF TIRED!! It’s hard to rest in our femininity when we have to guard ourselves from these dusty men. I just want to be a good person and attract someone who is like minded. 😔😩 this can’t be life.
My mom is a single mother working one job trying to support 3 out of 6 kids and that’s not what I want! I want a husband who is gonna take care of me and our future children, be the man of our household. I hate struggle love, I already struggle enough to struggle with a man. I might be seen as the lazy type but I don’t care, I rather take the easier route.
One common one I would add is men who are in there 30s and still don't know what they want. My ex was high earning and from a wealthy Portuguese family, but he was 34 when i met him and soooo flaky not knowing what he wanted. He woild say he wanted kids then change his mind, then say he wanted marriage and then change his mind again. I wish i would have ran earlier. Getting engaged became a complete war, he decided he wanted kids and planned to start trying but still refused to get engaged and just avoided it and then false promises. People change yes, but the stress he put me under was immense espc considering women have a body clock!!! In short, if a man is in the 30s and STILL hasnt decided what he wants out of family life, run. He will ruin your confidence and lie to you. Make sure you are 100pc on thr same page before commiting to a relationship.
Thank you so much for speaking up for black women and specifically darker colored women. You are right, darker women are used for hookups and that is it! They will marry lighter women quick! Darker women get treated so badly all across the board.
Yesss such an amazing video!! I just had a date on Sunday with one of the men in my rotation and he is an adopted black man from Haiti who was adopted by a white family. Overall I would say he checked many boxes educated has a decent career going and is upwardly mobile. However I do think he’s the man on this list that May want to try and use me for entertainment and sex while he gets more money and is able to find the woman that he truly wants. He even told me that he does not feel like he is financially stable enough to support a family even though he wants to support a family. So what did I do paid attention I listen and I don’t think I’m going to give him the opportunity of having a second date with me. It’ll just be a waste of time. On to the next in the circle! Pay attention to what they say as well as actions because a lot of times they will tell you what’s up. Also the fact that it started as a coffee date and he didn’t pay for my Starbucks was a turn off, He did pay for our food at this little Restaurant we went to but that was basically a fast food joint where you could sit down like a burgers and sandwich place with drinks and a bar. 😂 He was so shocked when I told him I don’t believe in being someones girlfriend lol it’s not a status to me anymore but to each their own. Keep your options as well let them fight for you!! ❤️❤️❤️
What you said speaks to what Chrissie is saying we should avoid in a real life scenario. The girlfriend thing should be flagged up more, as its a trap especially past the 2-3 year mark especially over the age of 30-35+.
@@og1881 Yesss girl!! I saw it coming!! Took notes ate my food and will Continue to date the other potential suitors!! I’m sharing my dating experiences to let everyone know just recently a couple of days ago I had a date with one of these guys!! And I paid attention and I’m smart enough to realize that he’s not a good match. No hard feelings, no drama, no shame, just moving forward with my other suitors ❤️ Wishing all you ladies the best on your journey!!!
I am not stable enough to support a family= won't be engaged in less than 2 yeras, won't be married in less than three, will attain financial success in 5-6 years and then go find the one I really want. And will say,in some sense rightly so, I did not force you to say. Now you have wasted 6 years.
Are they real polyamourous relationships or just a regular cheating relationships? A lot of dusties are using progressive buzzords to wrap up traditional abuse.
Preach!!! I had to subscribe after this video. I'm older..66 yo single & out of the dating game...but can appreciate the knowledge to pass on to younger relatives & daughters 🥰
I work as a Security Guard and I will admit that I watched a few Kevin Samuel videos but I was curious. It wasn’t for me. It was just negative. This new guy watches Kevin Samuels religiously and talks about high value this and high value that and considers himself high value. He is in the same boat as me making 24k a year and does nothing but smoke weed at work and believes this bullshit.
Just let that brick hit him square in his face. What kind of woman does he think he's going to attract by being a weed head who cannot pass a drug test? He better mind that someone doesn't lace that ish and he becomes strung out and homeless dopehead!
I had a guy friend back in the day tell me how he would play Rock Paper Scissors with girls on the first date to see who would pay for the first day . Like wth😩
That's not a date that's old friends hanging out and just having fun together. Anyone who does that should not be dating, instead they should be paying for entertainment by the hour.
I follow Chloe_ on YT & was curious if there are other channels that speak upon hypergamy & femininity & I’m so glad I found your channel! You articulate yourself clearly & explain thoroughly.
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A high value man will never tell you he’s high value. Watch what he does, not what he says.
THIS.
Bloop‼️I always say the exact same thing
@M Muss he seems quite of misogynistic... all blame on women...
EXACTLY! He won't have to say it
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I love how high value men never announce that they are high value. They let their actions and earnings speak for themselves.
Money talks. Wealth whispers😎.
@@ashleyofnaath I love this! ❤
@@ashleyofnaath love this quote! 🙌🏾❤️
And don’t talk about women online
Yes!!!
Check a man's circle. Predators of a feather flock together.
Hooligans stick together
EXACTLY!
Your man shouldn't be so comfortable being around somebody who is running around chasing underaged girls or assaulting women unless your man is a predator himself. Also, pay attention to his opinions on people like R. Kelly and Chris Brown. If he's always spouting that' "ThEy JuSt TrYiNg To BriNg A BLaCk MaN dOwN!" nonsense in situations like those, then that's a HUGE red flag.
The same logic applies to cheaters.
If your man is so comfortable hanging around other men who cheat on their wives and girlfriends then he's probably a cheater himself.
I think your comment is underrated. I have yet to meet a man with trash friends that didn't share the trash logic their friends have. Even the ones that claim to hold their friends responsible.
This is spot on, anytime their friend(s) are derelict and/or womanizers (Man whores) they usually share the same ideology. Now that I’m in my 20’s and learned men of dust flock together I look at their friends or inner circles VERY closely.
@@almamater9346 that is my motto since I have been single .. my ex husband. literally said when they are single and older they are desperate and easier and he just cheats.
I was like " wow is this how this dude thinks"
He started cheating on me .. the 3rd time that I knew of this girl was poly and she was going on tinder .. I guess to keep him to find other girls that would accept that live style. I told him I never signed up to be polygamous and if he knew he was like this why did he marry me.
My point is men like to do emotional conartistry. You thinking this person aligns with your morals. But they know preceeding that you would not sign up for their me.
There is a "nice guy con man"
They love to get good girls as a beard
Then by the time you know what the hell is going on its 10years later.
The I thought deeply the the father had many women
The cousins all cheat.
The brother was a mess and cheated
Ps. They newer generation men were all married to white women trashing their wives left and right.
This is why I say I should have known statistical speaking he would have. Food don't grow in bad soil.
He also idolized his father and he was a bastard child. They found his father hung back home in his country
His Philapino friend literally slept with his wife's friend. Left her met a nice girl and she got pregnant lost the baby and he told her it was her fault..
He left her and him and his ex are sleeping together.
Crazy to all the girls and they are all nice.
These type of men prey on the "I am a nice girl I can prove it to you" type
They all make good money by the way.
Personally white collar men that much some are very toxic. Many have God complex choose wisely ladies
@@cvzdez so, you basically got to see first hand how that trash mindset is passed from generation to generation. I hope you are doing much better out from around all that bs
Dust lives in every class. Watch out ladies!
Say that again sis for the people in the back👏🏾
And race
Just like dusty baby momma
Sadly, so!
@@charlespinkett864 You need to choose better. Who hurt you etc etc 😒
I love how Chrissie puts the picture of an example of the type she’s talking about lol they sync so well 😂😂
The guy with the pockets out took me out
Yep lol
I'm cackling
Yes lol😂😂
@@jnnlis Typical black man
I watched and liked this 2 years ago but didn't comment. Now I'm commenting because Chrissie's words STILL reign true
High value doesn’t always mean high quality. High value dusties do exist lol
Hiding the fact they have multiple children is a major red flag. 😑
@@FuchsiaSquare
And multiple children means multiple raw intimacy and possible STD.
Amen!!!!
@@FuchsiaSquare I've had multiple men LIE about having children. I've caught at least 5 men who lied to me, and they do it to childless women MAJORITY of the time, not women with kids. There were probably more who lied, but those are the ones I caught.
High value dusty ain't it the truth !! hahaha🤣🤣
Chrissie: *doesn't post for a week*
Me: There's a void...
Sameee lol
Yes! I got so excited when I saw her post a video!
Lol
EXACTLY! We be feeling it
I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way 😂
The high value man that ONLY view you as a trophy/object because when your looks fade, they'll trade you in
YEP!
An unfortunate truth seen this happen with a High value brother in my family who used to run through women (even when he was legally married )
Especially after birth, when your body changes!!
This is why I preach for the hypergamous woman (I am one myself) to Also have a side business & side income of her own an LLC etc because it's facts looks will fade over time, and unfortunately once the woman's 'looks' go away the HVM will lose interest often times leaving the woman alone and broke, having your own to the side is YOUR Your ULTIMATE safety net
@@ElitePhysiqquesAndForm15 💯💯💯💯you better preach!!
"When they discover that something is wrong with you, they will not have empathy for you, they will move on to the Woman they want, who has what they are looking for" - Chrissie you hit the nail on the head. I enjoy watching your videos. You are so smart!
I always say this.....smh....
A lot of these dudes are promoting other men to be dusties. I see women on the internet saying that they went out on a date to Chick- Fil-A and they had to pay for it. Then these dude have the audacity to think they're getting sex after that. They think being a man is "simping". I feel bad for this generation
That’s why I honestly don’t care being single cuz these dudes are weird and entitled af
Only bm use that word "simping". Smdh. That should tell you something.
Chic fil a as a date? 😳😮😱
@@sweetpeaj1952 Exactly. Other groups of men call it being a man. They don't even know what "simping" is.
Girl. Lmfao. It’s such a shame. I love me some Chicken-Fil-A, but that’s just ridiculous. 😭
After my mother passed away, I was worried about who would give me advice on dating and marriage the way my mother did. I’ve been listening to you ever since I was sixteen, Chrissie, but life happened and I lost touch with you. I’m 18 now, got back to your videos, and I feel like I’m more prepared than ever to conquer the world, because of you. Thank you! ☺️
Love to you❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yess girl. Wishing you more strength, love, and knowledge. You should also listen to Tony Gaskins, RC blakes, and Benjamin Zulu. I find they give the most honest advice. They also all practice what they preach.
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Sending you ❤️❤️❤️ on today especially
@@se6669 You should check out The Universe Guru. She is very blunt and practices what she preaches. Something I learned is Men cannot teach Women how to be a Woman. They can give great advice and perspective, but they can't teach you how to be a truly feminine Woman.
I love Tony Gaskins and RC Blakes, but I limit watching them b/c of this and noticed a complete change in my feminine energy when I started watching feminine content made by Women for Women. Adrienne Everhart and Dr. Michelle Daf are great too. Check them out when you have a chance. ❤
Amen to that. My husband isn't a millionaire but we have a great nest egg to put a down payment on a house. Great health insurance, and he takes care of me. He's in the military and in school. I'm currently finishing my bachelor's. I'm happy and our relationship is healthy.
One way to tell is a man is high earning and high quality is if he offers his time is a meaningful way and not just flash money. Like if something happens and you need him, does he show up to be there by your side and offers to help you out financially , or does he just ask you to send him the bill but basically ignores your calls or avoids you until everything is rosy again.
This!
Somewhat true... at the end of the day some people are smart and understand how things work... even if he does this... make sure he keeps doing this even after 37 years of marriage.
True
Bingo! Finally someone gets it. We can’t spend a day at the beach together, because you’re always busy. But you can take care of me, bad combination.
High Value does pay the bill when she sends it without seeing her.
For me, I’ve been paying attention to their network inclusive of their net worth. Do they hold positions in the community? Gotten any awards or honors lately? Connected to top industry professionals? Has access to certain clubs? I see that as someone who cares about their public image and who they’re connected to. Which means they have something to lose.
Smart!
I can understand this POV but we’ve clearly seen men do things behind closed doors and simply do damage control if it ever becomes public. men in positions of power or high esteem also can be violent, abusive, manipulative and whatever else bc they say “who will people believe?” Men that aren’t just known in their network, but even men h that are known to the world (R Kelly) is a good example so be careful with this thinking. It really has nothing to do with what they do professionally, who they know or what they have achieved/been recognized for. Pay attention to how they treat their family, treat their employees, how they treat the cashier. What they think about other people achieving great things..... look deeper.
Stay far away from high income earning, lone wolfs! A man without any networks is like a stagnant body of water: Swamps and lagoons come to mind. They are not interested in learning anything new, can think they know everything, doesn't cultivate relationships, just one big ole dead end😕
@@neen8369 This is so important! I’ve worked with many women who were abused-in all forms but due to the positions of the men in the community, the wives were either not believed or not valued because of his status. I think there are more good men in these positions than abusive men you just don’t want to end up with the bad apple.
@@neen8369 duh we know
I literally had a bm tell me I was the darkest women he ever been with. It made me confused. Ten years later, he now has four different baby mommas. All light skin or other and none of them married. Oh well.
U dodged the bullet, thank God
Sis you definitely dodged a bullet. It kills me because a lot of black men and women believe that because of their complexion they get treated better when in all actuality (like in your case) they did nothing but get a baby and a bunch of drama out of this BOY*.
Yikes. Thank God you dodged that bullet 🎉
Why not stigmatize polyamorous relationships? They often times lead to the breakdown of families, especially when children are involved. I had a Ghanaian male friend who witnessed polygamous relationships back in Ghana. He said that it was something he would never ever want. It led to too much dysfunction.
Dysfunctional behavior, especially behavior involving untraditional sexual relationships should be stigmatized. That’s one of the biggest problems in the black community. People doing whatever the heck they want to do with reckless disregard for consequences, partly due to the fact that many of us are too ignorant recognize the totality of the consequences.
I am Ghanaian American and my mom's dad had 3 wives. My mom has told me directly to be monogamous. Not worth it.
And it only leads to unwanted babies and stds.
there are polyamorous relationships that do work & it can work with constant proper communication. I have a friend whose been in a polyamorous with her boyfriend for 3 years now and she said it's one of her best decision ever made.
There is dysfunction in all communities
Thank you 💘
I would rather a man that works hard and makes an effort to bring home their 70k and adores me and is loyal and honest and attentive then a high earning dusty and negligent cheater or something similar.
Lol the “cheating” is always a no go huh.
70k is not a lot of money. Don’t set the bar too low
@@misssymone4011 That's not true. Depending on where you live and what kind of life you want to live 70k can be more than enough. If he's smart with his money, that can provide a comfortable life.
@@misssymone4011 in my and my husband's case we live in an old historical 1934 restored cottage across from Seattle on 3 acres and we don't have a mortgage. So 70k would be fine for us ....and we live in a top 5 most beautiful states in the USA. So we're good. I live better than most women my age that I know because of my husband. He has redone everything top to bottom , I have a gleaming kitchen with drawers that light up when opened. My backyard overlooks forest pines ,. a snowy mountain in the distance and our 2 goats jumping around. I open my front door and butterflies are flying around on cue as if I'm in a movie and roses are blooming everywhere. In the fall the leaves are ablaze with fiery reds and orange. Trust me I'm not suffering.
@@babymoon5282 such beautiful imagery…I can feel your happiness ❤️
6:55 - 7:12 is a whole word! Married people who do not have your best interest at heart will always talk you out of a good thing then ask you why you haven't found a man yet. I had this happen to me. Level up in silence ladies and even filter advice from people who have your best interest at heart. Do what works for you always!
Much needed...even though WE should all ready know this. Thanks Chrissie!
Already
How can we know this when from the moment we step out the womb they are force feeding us struggle love
Yay, Chrissies back! We missed you, boo!
Parents need to change how they are raising their sons. They need to be taught how to be responsible from a young age, just the way girls are taught. My brothers are disrespectful, and entitled because they expect everything to be done for them. To be honest that is how men are where I am from, and I would never be with a Zambian man, the disrespect, laziness, entitlement, and cheating is on another level.
Sis this is a similar experience that I have noticed across most blk cultures. The father, mothers , aunts and other family members ignore these trash behaviors And make excuses. They are not good for any women. I stopped dating them entirely bc of this. Of course this is not to say there aren’t some good ones but I’ll leave them to the bw who only date bm. I’m done. I don’t want to mother a man or put up with bs.
@@RC-iq2hh 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
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@@RC-iq2hh it might just be in their blood. I'm Nigerian. Believe my parents have tried but I don't think anything can be done 😭💀
@@BeautifullAngell I’m starting to believe this. Even ones that I thought were good men they have eventually proved me wrong. I mean African (various countries), African American and Caribbean. All problematic.
This is what I like about Chrissie's content. It's short, sharp and to the point..
Exactly
Yup I hate those hour long videos
Chrissie I’m not gonna keep letting you come in and out of my life like this you can’t just keep popping up and going ghost when you want to 😒
Right like she know I have abandonment issues 🥺
Yes, I am looking for her commentary about the meek mill bus video.
@@ShanyShannon Absolutely! It’s so disgusting and embarrassing.
Right...feelings be getting hurt
😂😂😂😂😂😂
My phone background image says if he's not generous, he might as well be broke. And that's with money or emotions. It doesn't matter how sweet or kind a man can be, if he's stingy with it to you. Thank you Chrissie for always reminding us to value ourselves and ask for what we deserve.
A man should only spend money on his wife, why should he spend his money on random women?
@@truthseekingfreethinker5214 That's how you get the woman to want to be with you in the first place. Men can run off at any time. This is why men have historically had to prove their ability to protect and provide in order to get her to choose to give her womb to you. I understand that in this promiscuous society its been forgotten, but if you want a high quality woman(or simply a good woman) you do have to play that game. If you don't you won't really get women who cares about dedicating themselves to you in return.
@@indeehood7882 being able to provide needs and being able to provide a woman's wants is two different things. If a woman disregards a man for not getting what she wants, she will have to suffer them consequences.
@@truthseekingfreethinker5214 I see your in multiple comments being a dusty pot.
@@babygirla5717 why the name calling? I got more money than you, but I know this is the internet and people can say all kinds of crazy things, but if it helps you feel better about yourself, I'll be a dusty, lol
Chrissie I love your channel. I’m in my 20s and I’ve been taking your advice and my dating experience has completely changed for the better.
Your picture is very beautiful
@@welliminitnowso thanks beautiful 🥰💕
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Stay away from Kevin Samuel type of men as well ‼️
Exactly! They secure their platforms tearing down BW. Ive never seen groups of BW succeeding in tearing down BM. Nobody’s ready for that discussion.😬
So basically black males that follow him. Those men aren’t typically high value anyway
Girl, any dude wear Pink Fluffy Coats and purses and tight pants is a no no no no for me😁😂🤣
There is a growing number of KS minions, even non black ones.
@@chocolaterini17 and other black women.
I screamed when the hotep category came up, and Nick Cannon was the first picture😂😂
What does hotep mean
Yes! The pictures where on point for each category🤣👌🏾
@@lavishlovergirl It's a non-traditional black person who preaches about how black people are spirituality different from the rest of society (how we were kings and queens, or we are spirituality favored by God), and about how black people would do better if we separate from and behave against society's standards (how we should practice polyamory and not be married under the law, or we should live off-the-grid, or (in rare cases cause these men usually want to be in control) matriarchs should be the leaders).
With that turban 👳♂️ on
@@digthewarmth hoteps are a great level of racist disgust
*High financial value will NEVER be more important than high quality and good character.*
I don't do athletes, party promoters, band members, music promoters, rappers, r&b singers
What's wrong with them? Stop being so judgemental
🤦🏾♀... 🤷🏾♀
@@funkslave9425 stats count..
Not going for the team with the worst stats.
They have the worst star in relationships.
Everyone has preferences..
This are unapologetically mine
@@funkslave9425 everyone is judgemental
Some people don't like my 4c hair
Their right
Some people may not like me because I am Haitian.. their right
Some people may think I am boogie
Their right
Some people don't like me because I am Catholic their right.
Why do I care about why some don't like me when I am happy with me..
Their right
I will go to those who align with my beliefs.. go to you your tribe
@@cvzdez Fair enough. Personally I don't support any degradation of African women. We all know attractiveness is not based on skin tone or hair texture. I've seen tonnes of average looking White chicks. That being said, you cant judge a persons character based on how they put food on the table. There are plenty of athletes, band members, even rappers who are decent people that would treat you with respect.
You treat him like a broke man period.
Chrissie came throughhhhh with a great video as always! And she included all of the recent and relevant examples of men to avoid. All black women need to watch this video and share it with someone you know!
A combination of high value /high quality is what women should look for. If a man is high quality but cannot provide what is the point? And that goes the the other way too. I’d rather be single.
Don't worry you will be
Why r u here?
Honestly.... I have enough money and to take care of a family on my own, as a woman. I would be considered a high value man. I could support a stay at home wife and 2 kids. If I had to pick between money and love, I'd pick love.
Let's say a dude worked construction and made 30k. I could put him to work flipping houses and working in my real estate business. I could quite literally give him access to information and tools to turn him into a high earning man. Easy peasy.
I can't turn an emotionally unavailable and poor communicator into a good partner. Once again, if I had to pick.
I had to a friend who's a Black Hebrew Israelite actually cut ties with me cause I refuse to date guys in her congregation. And when I happily told her I'm dating a geochemist getting a PHD, my so call friend told me, girl you need to make smarter choices and how can lay down with my people's oppressor... So glad we stopped talking 😂😂
"people's oppressor" lol these dusties/dustinettes and their victimhood mentality is laughable.
@@dahveedandsarkis2123 She's a black Hebrew Israelite she converted after her husband did. He was a dusty at first, but he changed
@@Ms.MD7 When I told him about that foolishness, he seem pretty hurt.
@@dahveedandsarkis2123 Girl I don't know. It was so much talking, that sometimes I space out 😂😂😂 Funny thing is, I was on my Wakanda mindset and was considering joining her church- until I realized how miserable I'll be.
@@sunshineshanti2124 lol
How do you, as a man have a family and *JUST STRAIGHT UP REFUSE* to buy the groceries!???😲
I remember my mother was dating a guy long time ago, and he came to BJ's with us and I had picked my own stuff and she had her own cart and he bought BOTH OF our carts of stuff.
I was like "No, thank you don't have to do that!", but my mother told me back in the day men bought groceries.
That's just what they did.🤷🏾♀️
@Amanda Rivera
Right?!
I'm petty, so (before I tell you to leave), I'd be like,"Ok well I bought the groceries.... but don't you dare touch any of MY food".
Sis let's break it down further because you have a good point. I have male *friends* that will pay for things for me, or help me as well when these type situations come up. They get insulted when I offer to pay them back. I will also pay for some of my girl friends when we're together, especially when I know it helps them financially, and I don't require anyone to pay me back. It seems to me if you at least LIKE someone, you will make sure they are cared for. It makes one wonder if these men even like these women they're willing to bed and impregnate...
@@almamater9346
Exactly! You do basic nice and helpful things without even thinking twice about it because you care about the people you're doing them for. Your last two sentences are especially crucial. It's like, F*## questioning if it's LOVE, because is it even LIKE if as a man you're whining about buying groceries or diapers?
Speaking of men getting insulted when you pull out money, I remember back in the day I went out with an Indian man, and I asked him to stop at the ATM because I realized I had left some of my money at home. He looked at me like I was crazy and said
"What do you need money for?
You don't have to pay for anything". I had never dated an Indian man before and didn't know that in their culture the men pay PERIOD and would NEVER ask a woman to go 50/50, and providing for their family is not debatable or negotiable because it's just what men do.
A dude not paying for groceries in a home that he lives in makes no sense to me. Like, dude you’re eating these groceries too… Why wouldn’t he just pay for them if his gf is out of work??? A lot of these men are worthless.
A dude not paying for groceries in a home that he lives in makes no sense to me. Like, dude you’re eating these groceries too… Why wouldn’t he just pay for them if his gf is out of work??? A lot of these men are worthless.
AS BLACK. WOMEN we need to learn how to empathise, acknowledge but not EXCUSE men's behaviour.
Its amazing, for how 'stupid' men could be about things, they sure have higher standards when it comes to dating women..
If we cheat, it's Goodbye! Not no, 'we're working through it'
We women need to learn to not accept so much struggle and stress that men give us, and constantly be working hard to turn lemons it into lemonade.. ☝️
Exactly Arielle, I agree with you 100%. Most men do not forgive, tolerate and accept their women cheating but except otherwise when they cheat.
And it's women forgiving and accepting this, that is enabling men to continue, as there are no real consequences for their actions.
Preach!!
Women file 70-80% of all divorces, with infidelity being one of the top 3 cited grounds for divorce. According to the Institute of Family Studies, females under 30 cheat significantly more than their male counterparts. Even above 30, the rates are comparable.
By the numbers, this logic doesn’t hold up to scrutiny.
@@AJweathersby source?
@@jellydoughnut9779 The Institute of Family Studies and American Sociological Institution (as well as a dozen other private, local, and federal organizations that study divorce rates).
Love the breakdown. High Value vs High Quality
7:28 My goodness, I can see the pain behind the eyes of Snoop Dog’s wife. That woman must love the lifestyle more than herself to be riding with that devil so long 😢
I had no clue ASAP Rocky made that statement. Rihanna needs to watch out. Now that she is a Billionaire she will have a hard time vetting people.
RhiRhi is his preference though so she may not think there is a problem.
@@MsCruzan Nah. She's still "too black". She's tolerable until he gets a white Latina.
@@datgurlky1 lol she is definitely his type black but light skin with light eyes I mean he name dropped her in a song yearssss ago and had her star his music video. He’s been gushing over her.
@@MsCruzan the preferences get the same bm we do. They don't treat them any better
If this is a ploy for her to write an album about him being abusive or toxic, and destroy these men’s image, I’d support her, but for now I’m not liking her as much as I did when I was kid. It’s like after she got with the abuser Chris Doo Doo Brown, she is frozen in trauma.
This is the first video I’ve seen on this topic. I’ve dated plenty of high earning men who have little to no morals or integrity. It’s a must to vet them too because they skipped a step in character development all while earning degrees and obtaining high paying jobs.
It's the ego. All that money goes to their head and they start treating people and women like second class.
@@catharsismemory that’s a good explanation. To add to it that I believe it’s also low self worth because money should not define you.
Just stay away from BM altogether
😂😂 Agreed
@@naeem9795 As will we. 😁👏🏾
@@naeem9795 your comment just solidified her point. Y’all have bully tendencies.
@@chrislyn1868 *abusive; #TheColorPurple
@@naeem9795 Who fills the prisons and have the highest unemployment and STD rates?
Omg Chrissie spot on.
I like this channel, very informative, classy, neutral without extremism. It's like awe..not toxic!
Thank you!
I think I know what ur hinting at. 😂
Thank you for this. I’m so tired of women thinking because a man has money he’s a good man. Men with money can also be a nightmare.
I loved this video. It even speaks to why it’s so necessary to grow our EQ and to stop relying on $$ alone to be symbolic for wealth and growth. High earners can lack emotional maturity. High earners can be emotionally disconnected and difficult to relate to people, like anyone really. They can be less concerned about the emotional needs of others, and justify not growing and maturing in other areas because of high success with money they’ve already achieved. But I’ve learned…..money doesn’t make you wealthy. If you believe you’ve arrived in life, there’s no room for a growth mindset. This includes wealth and relationships. You may be on level 100 in making money but level 2 on learning how to love and forgive and treat people right. Thank you for sharing this!
Love this
Watching again. Still relevant 🎯.
This aged well. 😮
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Yesss Chrissie these YT streets been calling!
Everything Chrissie said is exactly what Cassie ignored.
Cassie was 19 and naive
There are a lot of low value men who have high incomes. In fact, for BAMs (Black American Men), the more they earn, the lower they stoop.
I've never heard them be called BAMs before...I like it! 😅
Any facts on that? Or just more anecdotal hyperbole and conjecture?
@@kmc1994 How can do many BW depend on these men you described when statistically, the higher a Blk dudes income, the likelihood that he’ll get married decreases and when he does marry, it’s to nonBlk women?
@@kittykatz4001 exactly 😂 most BAM are incarcerated, uneducated, and/or unemployed while BW are the highest educated and employed within the BC. Also doesn’t blk manosphere tell us that BW chose to depend on welfare instead of BM which is what took them out the home? So how exactly do we depend on them? 😂 If you’re a woman who cannot think critically or logically, these men and their rhetoric will eat you alive.
@@sadelorraine8437 IKR? I’m thinking the person who made that comment is a b dudes posing as a BW. They do it all the time…
so basically... avoid all high earning black men lmao
They are still good black men out here: Morris chesnut, denzel Washington, Russel Wilson and the list goes on....
@@nubieblack886 Exactly 💯
@Mikado Even Denzel? My goodness!
Sadly, most black men don't know what it means to be real men. They were never taught. It's rare to come across a true MAN who is black.
@@mimia.4810 More unfounded self hating anti black male bigotry.
I don't know much about African American culture and relationship dynamic. However, I'm still a black woman from Africa. In my culture, the men provide for the wives and children. The women are traditional. But they still have careers if they choose to. Her money is all hers and his money is shared money. A high quality man is measured by four things: good lineage (from a good, stable background/family/someone who is close to his womenfolk. If he honours the women in his family, he will honour you as his wife), beauty (good looking) religion (I'm Muslim, so having a noble character is a must. A man who is accountable, trustworthy, loyal, who cherishes his wife and the mother of my his children), wealth (it's a must for Muslim man to have financial means in order to take care of his wife/children. He doesn't have to be obscenely wealthy but he should have a stable professional job).
I'm African too and I can relate to this. But the difference is the fact that I'm christian.
This is also the norm in my culture!
Yes. Agreed
Chrissie... u're simply the BEST.
Had my first experience with a high value dusty this year. Made good money in the medical field with multiple cars and homes and I thought I hit the jackpot in my small town. But I kept my eyes open and didn't do much of the talking and surprise surprise dude was a whole creep 😤. Racist AND sexist AND a Republican🥴. Didn't take me anywhere after our first date and wanted me to pay my own expenses on a trip he invited me to. Blocked him with no explanation and didn't look back.
Lol he probably saw you as easy pickings and in his mind, you should be happy to be with him. Glad you blocked him because he sure as hell isn't asking his bombshell type to pay the bills. He is the type to pay 50k for a high class escort that looks like Pamela Anderson.
PS not saying you are not pretty i see how my comment can seem that way, but most racists and Republicans have a type. Thats what I'm getting at.
Most rich or well to do are probz going to be republican! Why would they democratic?
Umm why do you make Republican sound like a bad thing? Republican is what BW should be. That plantation party needs to die in a fire and take these violent dusties they keep putting on pedestals with them.
Racist, sexist, and Republicon. Yeah that sounds about right.
Them white boys are smart isn’t it. Thought the grass will be greener uh 🙄
"Hoteps and hoteptresses" LMAO hahaha
I dated a guy who was the president of a well known bank, he was so selfish with his resources, but loosely spent it on his boy toys… motorcycles, a new car every couple years, etc.. it’s what lead to the break up.
I think he is smart
LaTrese
His money and material things brings him comfort. No woman or man (for the g@y$) can compete with that.
Love the picture examples lol
The GOAT is back 🙌🏾
Yes 💅🏾🥂
I had a high earner man he was a truck driver and owned businesses spending money for him was nothing. He payed my bills and bought me multiple things even a Mac book. He did everything a good man would do even met my father and claimed he wanted to marry me. The red flags was there and I let the gifts and money blind me. In the end he ghosted me on our Muslim holiday eid!!!! I was hurt and I wasn’t perfect in the situation or realistic. Still I’m happy for the situation and I’m excited to see what comes next after this. I feel like it is preparing me for a better man God willing. I’m going to continue to work on me because a good man comes I want to be ready.
Since when is being a truck driver "high value" lol.. raise your standards
@@Joseph-zd7kg girl by learn how to comprehend he had other businesses as well so beat it troll
And girl he owned multiple trucks and had drivers sweetie with other businesses as well. I hate how people think they can say whatever they want because this is the internet. Also I have no problem pulling other provider men so once again beat it troll.
Girl, he was probably married lol.
@@golden926 he probably was smh🥴
Well, this video sure did age well.
Hi Chrissie! I clicked so fast🌟! I miss you! Thank you for the amazing content🌹!
My bestie who's an high earning dog said some real stuff to me I asked why do the things you do he said because I can and they let me get away with it and that's why I'll never go after a woman with her head on straight because she won't let me get away with a thang also heavy trust issues
Yikes 😵💫😭😭😭 it’s rough out here
Wow your friend is trash. Why are you friends with him?
@@charmaineespeut4627 I don't date him so he's EXTREMELY Loyal to me .naw I'm kidding his mom and mine are best friends since kids and we grew up as brother and sister basically.... He's just a bad seed that's all 🤣 there's a little good in him lol
@@Southern.Nappiness 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Real “high-value” men I’ve met were non-Blk. So!🤷🏾♀️
Listen! 👀🤷🏾♀️
nor were they celebrated for the bare minimum such as the oh so low bar of simply existing?
Lol right and a lot of them are not loud either.
I'm married to a black high value man. They exist. Did these nonblack one marry you? If you can't find a man of value from any race do you qualify for one? Do you meet the standard of what high value men find to be valuable in women?
Lol you’re their last option for marriage mam.
1. Hispanic
2. Asian
3. Multiracial
4. Black
This is the factual ranking of women chosen for interracial marriage according to Pew Research Center.
You hype up and put non black men on a pedestal and they collectively don’t want you.
You’re a self hating clown 🤡. Go to therapy.
"they'll attempt to use black women until they get the women they really want" you mean how I've always suspected Giveon was just using Justine, anytime now he's gonna pop up with a non black woman or a light skin biracial.
I get that feeling now. He’s almost mainstream in the White community, then he may flip.
I got in the comments today with someone against my better judgment. He talked about black women being accountable. When I brought up black men and their low marriage rates and high divorce rates....it switched to white supremacy. SMH. I dont even think he realized he shifted the accountability lol.. I definitely wish all of this was around for me about 7 years ago. Lol. Take heed younger women. You are the new targets. I was at least happy that I knew all of these already lol. At least I've learned and I'm not an old fool 😂
Why You do not have a class is beyond me! You have a mission You have a clear goal Black women everywhere need to hear you
Missed you Chrissie! Great video
Guess what? I've dated a teacher, a boxer, a Hoteph, a street thug and a doctor....they were all the same Black man at the end of the day 🤦🏽♀️...time to divest....
As a man I see this stuff and it's laughable. Most of these Kevin Samuel followers complain about takin girls on dinner dates lol. according to them thts golddigging... hIgh value is high morals, high integrity , high values, high regard for GOD.. if you have none of those qualities you're just a HIGH earner. stay safe ladies.
Thank you T!
I met a high earner last year that was stingy. I felt like I had to hold on, but his character was garbage. So glad I woke up.
Chrissie you worked hard on these pictures lol 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Exactly different types of men. Know what you want.
Traditional men deserve traditional women. Like us the southern belles.
High value men are doctors, lawyers, engineers, successful business owners, accountants, electrician, I know a guy that drive trucks that brings in 250k/year, ladies put the attitude aside and talk to these guys
Software engineers too. Don't pass up these types especially in large cities. My (black male) cousin just graduated college at a starting salary of $150K with only $20k of student loan debt.
Other solid careers: tech sales ($120-300k), Physician Assistants and Pharmacists ($150-250k), Investment Banking/Private Equity ($180-350k), (Tech or Management) Consultants ($100-200k+).
Level up your girlfriend circle as well! You'll start becoming naturally familiar with the high earning college-educated world and have more access to these men (because they tend to date and marry their female counterparts)
@@ilysaportax33 Yep, friend circle is so important. Look at Meghan Markle and other (extreme, popular) examples... hypergamous women typically meet their men through social connections.
@@ilysaportax33 exactly! But I only mentor those that listen. These women concerned about looks and him being lame. My current guy very lame. He stay home all the time working from his 500k home. Take me on expensive dates in either the jaguar or range rover. My ex was super lame physician/lawyer we did lame things in his 500k house while he flew me out and took me on nice dates.
I love the lames!
@@therealsouthernbelles 👀👀👀I need me lame 😒 person to date too.
@@lavonnealexander6936 I posted a video on my channel where to meet these type men.
Chrissie! Listening from my country Zambia. I missed you so much. Welcome back! You changed our lives, thank you for the work you do. You are a brilliant light that shines to show us the way. You are so valuable to us. Much love to you.
It's good to see a comment from someone from my country 🥰😍
I'm Zambian too 😘
@@pink8290 you’re soo pretty 😊
@@evelyn_uchiha thanks, you too 😘
15:03 Neyo hair look looking like a disappearing act. Mr. "Now you see me. Now you don't." 🤣
Ne-yo with the hairline starting behind his back said such foolishness? Even if his kids are light skinned, that hairline will do them no favors. There’s no accounting for ignorance.
@@sylviathomas1495 If I remember correctly, Ne-yo wife was complaing that their children didnt get "mommy's silky Hawaiian hair". She will be pissed once they start balding at the age of 17 lol
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Wearing those ugly ass fedoras to cover it up.
Also, for the meek mill situation- where are trans women now???? They’re regular women right? They are notably silent in matters like these but if it were trans women he was dragging all over the country on tour he would be cancelled. I don’t want to hear anymore from them about how we are the same! We are different and separate and they know it. Screw their agendas also. We have no allies 💯
There is a huge, huge difference between a High earning man and a High value man. Unfortunately too many people confuse these two. Most Black American rappers are not high value at all! A high value man is a man who apart from having a well paying job, respects himself and his family, if he's married, he takes care of and protects his wife and children, he gives back to his community, treats people with respect. Most of the rappers in this videos earn highly, but none of them are high value in any way.
Very interesting. Especially that part about Colorist and the bed room. Can you tap more into that?
No but your skin😍✨
What I’ve noticed personally is dark skin women in effort to get a hv bm start over emphasizing their body parts and focusing on bbls and snatched waist. The only thing they ever end up getting is sex from the bm not marriage or commitment. An example of this is K Michelle when she was dating idris Elba and he wouldn’t claim her. Now she is not dark skin exactly but what happened to her is what I see happening to dsbw who don’t know the signs. The example she gave of Paige and Chris from MAFS was the perfect example. She thought sexing him up right away and a lot would make him want to treat her right .
@@RC-iq2hh thank you
@Amanda Rivera when your community has beat you down and helped lower your self esteem sometimes things happen. It’s the reason these channels exist. These channels exist to get women to value themselves and go where they are treasured
@Amanda Rivera and “they do it to themselves” that’s an over simplification. Plenty of women sleep with men before marriage. Dsbw have more factors to consider than others and this is exhausting. WW I know sleep with almost every man they meet on the first date and it doesn’t prevent them from getting marriage or commitment from someone.
We keep getting the term “high income/high earners” mixed up with “high value”. These men are far, far, far from being valuable. We need to call a turd a turd.
My mother practiced hypergamy and married my step father who was a narcissistic/obnoxious abusive high value man. For a very long time it scarred me and turned me off to hypergamy because I automatically correlated a man with lots of money and social currency with abuse and powerlessness.
I need to write this down.💯💯
We miss you here Chrissie
IKR!? I listen to other black women but... Chrissie is clearly a step above to me. She right in the middle of two extremes
Thank you, Chrissie 🎀🤍🌸💵
Growing up watching TV shows like Good Times and That's My Mama...I NEVER knew the hatred I would face from my own Black men. I was totally unprepared for that. It was shocking at the self hate out there. I knew of White oppression but NO ONE taught me of the dislike I would get from Black men.
Very powerful statement, we are raised to love and care for black men and see them as victims of the system. No one prepares us for their animosity towards us
@@highandmightyqueen79 So true! It must be a mutual respect not one way. . Black women do NEED to stop coddling Black men especially if they are jealous of you and place other women before you.
Chrissie with a WORD 🙌🏾 , as usual. Truth: As a Black Women, I am MF TIRED!! It’s hard to rest in our femininity when we have to guard ourselves from these dusty men. I just want to be a good person and attract someone who is like minded. 😔😩 this can’t be life.
Go to therapy. You have bad boundaries. You get used bc you don't protect yourself.
Thank you for the advice Chrissie 💖💖💖
I can't wait to watch.
My mom is a single mother working one job trying to support 3 out of 6 kids and that’s not what I want! I want a husband who is gonna take care of me and our future children, be the man of our household. I hate struggle love, I already struggle enough to struggle with a man. I might be seen as the lazy type but I don’t care, I rather take the easier route.
One common one I would add is men who are in there 30s and still don't know what they want. My ex was high earning and from a wealthy Portuguese family, but he was 34 when i met him and soooo flaky not knowing what he wanted. He woild say he wanted kids then change his mind, then say he wanted marriage and then change his mind again. I wish i would have ran earlier. Getting engaged became a complete war, he decided he wanted kids and planned to start trying but still refused to get engaged and just avoided it and then false promises. People change yes, but the stress he put me under was immense espc considering women have a body clock!!! In short, if a man is in the 30s and STILL hasnt decided what he wants out of family life, run. He will ruin your confidence and lie to you. Make sure you are 100pc on thr same page before commiting to a relationship.
That's why I believe women over 25 date men 45 and up from now on.
@@Blissedx no its crazy, woman in 30s in her best years and 50+ man, who most likely have problems with erection, just no)
Right on time Chrissie I really needed this
I like the list. Been looking for a video like this. Dating becomes a lot clear when we understand the red flags.
You are so right about scammers. Many high value people run into tax issues and everything. Have to be careful.
Thank you so much for speaking up for black women and specifically darker colored women. You are right, darker women are used for hookups and that is it! They will marry lighter women quick! Darker women get treated so badly all across the board.
Not true. I'm light skinned, dated a dark skinned dude, he knocked me up and left. He always dated light skinned or white.
Yesss such an amazing video!! I just had a date on Sunday with one of the men in my rotation and he is an adopted black man from Haiti who was adopted by a white family. Overall I would say he checked many boxes educated has a decent career going and is upwardly mobile. However I do think he’s the man on this list that May want to try and use me for entertainment and sex while he gets more money and is able to find the woman that he truly wants. He even told me that he does not feel like he is financially stable enough to support a family even though he wants to support a family. So what did I do paid attention I listen and I don’t think I’m going to give him the opportunity of having a second date with me. It’ll just be a waste of time. On to the next in the circle! Pay attention to what they say as well as actions because a lot of times they will tell you what’s up. Also the fact that it started as a coffee date and he didn’t pay for my Starbucks was a turn off,
He did pay for our food at this little Restaurant we went to but that was basically a fast food joint where you could sit down like a burgers and sandwich place with drinks and a bar. 😂 He was so shocked when I told him I don’t believe in being someones girlfriend lol it’s not a status to me anymore but to each their own. Keep your options as well let them fight for you!! ❤️❤️❤️
What you said makes no sense at all.
What you said speaks to what Chrissie is saying we should avoid in a real life scenario. The girlfriend thing should be flagged up more, as its a trap especially past the 2-3 year mark especially over the age of 30-35+.
@@seann54 So you’re making your rounds under all of our comments I see. Please take a break babe 😂💅🏿
@@og1881 Yesss girl!! I saw it coming!! Took notes ate my food and will
Continue to date the other potential suitors!! I’m sharing my dating experiences to let everyone know just recently a couple of days ago I had a date with one of these guys!! And I paid attention and I’m smart enough to realize that he’s not a good match. No hard feelings, no drama, no shame, just moving forward with my other suitors ❤️ Wishing all you ladies the best on your journey!!!
I am not stable enough to support a family= won't be engaged in less than 2 yeras, won't be married in less than three, will attain financial success in 5-6 years and then go find the one I really want. And will say,in some sense rightly so, I did not force you to say. Now you have wasted 6 years.
I would love to hear about the polyamorious relationships that you've seen work. Usually they don't last long even without drama.
Are they real polyamourous relationships or just a regular cheating relationships? A lot of dusties are using progressive buzzords to wrap up traditional abuse.
Preach!!! I had to subscribe after this video. I'm older..66 yo single & out of the dating game...but can appreciate the knowledge to pass on to younger relatives & daughters 🥰
I work as a Security Guard and I will admit that I watched a few Kevin Samuel videos but I was curious. It wasn’t for me. It was just negative.
This new guy watches Kevin Samuels religiously and talks about high value this and high value that and considers himself high value. He is in the same boat as me making 24k a year and does nothing but smoke weed at work and believes this bullshit.
Just let that brick hit him square in his face. What kind of woman does he think he's going to attract by being a weed head who cannot pass a drug test? He better mind that someone doesn't lace that ish and he becomes strung out and homeless dopehead!
Men that make less than their mates are more likely to cheat and be abusive. Research it.
It goes both ways, I was making less and still being abused. Smh 🤦🏿
The "obnoxious high earner" category made me laugh. There's a lot of truth to it.
I had a guy friend back in the day tell me how he would play Rock Paper Scissors with girls on the first date to see who would pay for the first day . Like wth😩
Lol childish
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That's not a date that's old friends hanging out and just having fun together. Anyone who does that should not be dating, instead they should be paying for entertainment by the hour.
I follow Chloe_ on YT & was curious if there are other channels that speak upon hypergamy & femininity & I’m so glad I found your channel! You articulate yourself clearly & explain thoroughly.