Should I Adopt My Wife’s Son?
Вставка
- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
- On today’s episode, we hear about:
- A man wondering if he should adopt his wife’s son
- A woman struggling to balance work, school and home life
- A wife worried about starting a family on her husband’s income
Next Steps
📞 Ask John a question! ter.li/0pimqr
📚 Building a Non-Anxious Life: ter.li/516el6
📝 Anxiety Test: ter.li/l4ghre
📚 Own Your Past, Change Your Future: ter.li/6o1ggn
❓ Questions for Humans Conversation Cards: ter.li/sth7tj
💭 John's Free Guided Meditation: ter.li/564roo
💭 Learn more about Nina Rehu and Mother Untitled: ...
Offers From Today's Sponsors
• 10% off your first month of therapy at BetterHelp ⮕ bit.ly/3seoBCe
• 3 free months of Hallow ⮕ www.hallow.com...
• 25% off Thorne orders ⮕ www.thorne.com...
• 20% off Organifi with code DELONY ⮕ www.Organifi.c...
• Up to 30% off + 2 free pillows at Helix Sleep ⮕ www.HelixSleep...
Listen to More From Ramsey Network
🎙️ The Ramsey Show ⮕ ter.li/wtjnp7
💸 The Ramsey Show Highlights ⮕ ter.li/3opzgn
🍸 Smart Money Happy Hour ⮕ ter.li/iy4cj0
💡 The Rachel Cruze Show ⮕ ter.li/46pj7d
💰 George Kamel ⮕ ter.li/9rrvlr
💼 The Ken Coleman Show - Highlights ⮕ ter.li/drmpbx
📈 EntreLeadership ⮕ ter.li/ux0fyw
Ramsey Solutions Privacy Policy
www.ramseysolu...
How easy it is for some people to just get divorced.... I know relationships are hard, But I've figured out that there's always a way to fix things when there's a problem. Five years back, my wife and I were on the brink of divorce because of issues in our marriage, but we found a way to fix them. It was hard, but we made it through.
I honestly want to find happiness too. I've got a partner, and even though we're not together right now, I can't imagine life without her; my love for her is strong. I really miss her, and I'm fully committed to bringing her back. We've explored different paths, like therapy, to fix things.
Moving on from someone you hold dear is invariably challenging, but in my experience, I was guided by a spiritual counselor who prevented the breakdown of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Your guidance is well-received. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; her absence is keenly felt.
You should
Well I'm stronge on abuse is a deal breaker. Was still willing to allow him to seek help. Ofcourse it didn't work. After. 25 yrs divorcing I don't give a crap if you or anybody else calls me a quitter. I bet you brag and show off how amazing you are and everybody rolls their eyes behind your baack😂😂😂😂
A thought for the follow up caller: ask your husband if he would like to stay home as the stay-at-home parent. Assess as you move forward. It sounds like his job could be done on a part-time/voluntary basis, like she's the breadwinner, and she's not hyped about being home through the early years. It might be a worthwhile conversation to have. 🤷🏼♀️
That’s a great thought ! And I don’t blame her for wanting to keep a specific lifestyle that she’s worked so hard for.
@@theresahaire9660you won't blame her for anything. As a fellow woman, you will always cosign her bs in hopes of receiving the same
@@benmyers9030 actually that’s not true at all! I was simply saying that might be a viable option if he isn’t inclined to make more money -which is fine if they both agree on it and I don’t believe you can “ make someone earn more $ if you want me to have your baby “ either. But her personality seems like she will not be satisfied living a life based on his current income because she will end up resenting him for not being more like herself and if that never ends well and if him being the stay at home parent would work for them it is simply an option. Personally I would’ve been more than happy to stay home with my kids but life didn’t work out that way and I had no choice but to work and raise them on my own because some men don’t know how to keep their hands to themselves but I made it work because sometimes you just do what you have to do.
She'll never do that though, because she wants to control every second of that child's life. That's why she insists on being the one that stays home. It isn't about the child; it's about feeding her need for control.
Hello incel @@benmyers9030
Haylee, it’s a good thing he is only your boyfriend and you aren’t married yet. It doesn’t matter how “sweet” he is, if the man doesn’t know how to use a vacuum let that mango.
Mmm... mangos... 😋
You have to let the wrong mango for the right one to ap pear
😂@@delespai5592
@@delespai5592 touché
😂
I will never get used to "We are pregnant" lmao. No, WE are not. My WIFE was pregnant 3 times 😂😂😂
As a woman who is currently pregnant, I don’t get it either. I’m married but, we don’t say that “we’re pregnant”, lol.
I was thinking the same thing 😅 We ?? Like no buddy you're not pregnant
@@sarastrange5282. Why do so many women use this phrase, though?
@@Trolly.Troll. You're asking me? You're asking the wrong person I have no freakin clue I think it's ridiculous 😂
@@sarastrange5282 😂😂😂
As a mom you can do everything “right” and still have troubled or difficult kids. And a mom who does the “wrong” things (like working/daycare) can still raise easier, more stable kids. I’m not sure Kari will be able to handle that with her current mindset.
Caller three. Never have kids. You would always resent them
For leaving your career. They would deserve better.
I struggle with this call. Like she isn’t hearing John at all I feel like. She needs to surrender her heart and expectations. Because you cannot plan your life to a t. It will crumble somewhere at some point. If she doesn’t surrender her expectations and quit trying to control every single thing she could be at peace with way less.
I rebuffed a single dad once. He was piss and vinegar after that, pointed all the "red flags" about me when we just barely met. All I said was I didn't date single dads and that it wasn't a character issue.
Same. I was so shocked by the response.
that’s something men love to do to comfort themselves over their insecurities. he did that to you because he’s so deeply insecure that his life didn’t go as planned, and that he’s single with kids.
it’s like when men get angry when a woman rejects their advances and they start calling them “ugly and fat”.
I met a guy that was super cool and we got along fairly well. I found out he had a child late in the game, because he was embarrassed he didn't have custody. I never asked him if he had kids because I never saw any and he never spoke of a child.
I just let him know nicely that it wasn't for me. He went off, and I had to remind him that's probably why he doesn't have visitation rights. Even if I did date men with kids I would never date men who can't step up for their own child.
I am not keen on dating single mothers. I understand your apprehension entirely. More often than not, being a step-parent is an awful job-obviously there are exceptions.
I don’t blame you. My mom told me not to date or marry a man with kids.
Please don’t adopt a little person if you have not raised yourself first. Redpill nonsense is not anyone’s daddy
Too late, he already has two additional kids with her.
Thank God the caller seems to be absolutely on the edge to break the redpill cycle and may be the one to show up for the little one, so he can become a good man.
Thank you so much for the red pill convo. So dangerous!
They already have two brand new kids together so I'm not sure why this guy thinks that exiting the situation is a plan
Less child support if he doesn't adopt the boys
Red pill losers tell themselves - and each other - that feminism is to blame for every bad day they have and that it justifies any and all behavior that a man chooses to inflict on women and children. He can abandon his children and then pretend that an evil man-hating judge in a man-hating system took his kids away from him. It doesn’t make any sense. But it’s what they do.
Unadopted kids can collect child support, welfare, social security payments, etc, from outside sources if needs be. Kid gets to keep his own bio heritage, family and name. Adoptive dad has to pay child support for adopted kid if marriage ends , if he doesn't want to.
The first caller is in serious need of counseling. He's damaged by what his own fathers cheating & abandonment, he's repeating another version of it. He leaps before he looks then has his "Oh sh*t moment" when it's too late.
Time for him to fix his issues before going out seed spreading.
Him and his wife both or they are gonna keep traumatizing the kids.
@@TG-nh6ni Agreed.
I loved the first call. I’m rooting for this family ❤
She can continue working after having the baby and he can be stay home dad until the child starts school.
Thank you for addressing red pill, Dr John
@@dabd8175 real men are at work now, not trolling Dr. John.
@@dabd8175 most women would choose single life over dealing with a red pill bro, every time & without any hesitation.
@@dabd8175 It's called patriarchy. It destroys both men's and women's lives. I've never heard this doctor address it.
He comes off as a closeted gay man.
Red pill is not a reaction to feminism. It’s plain old misogyny, which pre-dates feminism by … all of human history. It’s just the current manifestation of traditional male anger and emotional immaturity and laziness packaged to appeal to modern men whose brains have been saturated by porn and video games. It’s hateful and hurtful, and people need to realize how detrimental it is. I appreciate how JD responded to the caller.
he doesnt understand it and you don't understand it, its a reaction to how modern women behave like the worst of those men you talk about, women have become the men you purport are so misogynicstic
do you buy there is a gender war?
Literally not true. I think most Red Pill ideology is horrible. But many folks become “red pilled” after having horrible experiences with women.
So many men have been cheated on by a wife, and then have to pay for their new lover in alimony. Countless examples of good husbands who are dragged through the courts and unfairly treated when it comes to custody.
Females are like men - they are human. Which means women can be capable of absolute cruelty and despicable abuse.
You can lie to yourself and paint millions of people with a brush. Or you can actually read into their stories and get an understanding why they ended up this way.
It’s true red pill ideology is idiotic and many men end up falling down the path. But there are also many men who end up that way due to injustices and no one caring.
I'm older GenX, and young men seem a lot more angry and bitter than they were 25 years ago. I was shocked by comments coming from the 30 year old family friend recently. I think women having more options is part of the problem, they dont need a man for fihancial support.. But social media plays a huge role, telling white men they are "victims". Which is sad, because it's not going to help these men lead productive lives.
@@Jessica-rf7lv I’m also older Gen X. And I agree that young men are being duped into believing that women are to blame for their poor financial lives and for the terrible excesses of late-stage capitalism - and in openly expressing their rage and hatred. But I still think that’s just plain old misogyny that’s been around forever. Men have always gone out of their way to diminish women and hold us back and pretend that accomplished women were aberrations. And men have always directed their anger and violence at women who they didn’t respect. 🤷🏼♀️
Ha, ha! The husband not doing his share of the housework, is such a masculine ego trip. When I started the discussion about unequal responsibility for caring for the house, my husband tried this using changing the oil in the car, and mowing the lawn as his share. I shot that down and he did dishes and vacuumed for a few weeks.Then he just went back to his old habits. It was a sign of other things. It wasn't about doing dishes..He had given up a little bit of his control. You guessed it.; we got divorced within a year of that time.He just had to find a substitute before he could walk away.
Kari seems like the kind of person who would like a less orthodox situation. Maybe her husband is a stay at home dad and works part time or vaulenteers for the environment or Maybe they have a nanny 2 days a week and she works less hours. It feels like the reality of a newborn and a new lifestyle may not be her cup of tea and that's okay.
Yikes!! 3rd caller is a nightmare ball buster. Does not respect her husband at all. Thinks she is way smarter than any other parent out there and talks about having a kid without any emotion to it. I seriously doubt she even wants to be a parent but thinks its a good idea cause all of her friends are doing it.
You need to vacuum and clean bathrooms more than once a month.
John’s descriptions of “I don’t love you or your sister” echos in my head, and into my marriage to my kids father. I married my dad!
Kari's a whirlwind. Her call made me anxious and I'm not even married to her haha. I hope she finds what she needs.
My mother didn’t tell me to get a prenup or my father when I got married at 38. My wife was 34 with a little boy and my mom told me I should adopt him, I told her he has a dad who has him 50% of the time so how would that work lol. 😂
Sounds like Kari does NOT actually want to be a stay at home mom. As a stay at home mom who does it because I know it is best for my baby, don’t do it if you’re going to resent everyone (including your baby) for doing so. How about you keep working and have your husband stay at home. Then you dont have to sacrifice your precious income and you don’t have to resent and nag everyone to death because you did something you actually didn’t want to do and didn’t think the sacrifice was worth the reward.
Haylee please listen to Dr. John. Later if you have kids the stress/work will compile even more. Please hear what he’s saying and avoid a lifetime of hurt.
Red pill guy: I wonder how many red pill guys, like this guy, watched their fathers treat their moms terribly, mom stands up for herself, dad wants to continue to be trash and leaves. Then they blame mom (and all future women) for blowing up their life. Then they treat women the way their dad did to try to get the respect of him/ men like him. What a cycle.
Kari should work full time while her husband is the stay-at-home dad. Asking her husband to make 100k so she can quit her 170k job is laughable. She probably doesn't want to watch her husband stay at home with the kids.
The third caller is wild. She doesn’t even know what being a part of a family who makes $100k feels like. She’s in such a privileged position with a paid off house. My god lady just take a couple breaths and relax 😂.
Right? Or how bout this, the husband stays home and she works since she makes soooooo much more.
She definitely could use a xanax or 2
She's beyond insane with the way she's looking at things. Her house is paid off. Their cars are paid off. Maybe her husband is happy in his job and doesn't want to change? Doesn't even seem like she's considered how he feels at all. She kinda seems like a nightmare to me as far as controlling and micro-managing.
Does she not realize that most people survive just fine without making anywhere near that amount of money? I've got to imagine the pressure on this poor dude is immense and it's kinda telling she didn't even bring that up.
@@RndmAnvgr777 we make 70k single family income ( i stay home with the three kids and homeschool) and we are debt free. totally doable---it is hard but do able. we live in VA in a low cost area. my husband is an engineer.
I think I actually hate Kari
My partner being clean is a non-negotiable for me.
James, I'm so sorry your dad walked out on you guys. 😢 I feel your pain. My dad emotionally "walked out" and is still around. It's just heartbreaking. Both stink, majorly. Big hugs, brother. ❤
Some people weren’t meant to be cleaners. Everyone has their strengths. Thank God for that. Don’t try to be everything. Chasing perfection, will burn you out. Hire a local person who likes to do that. Pay them something. Barter with them. Don’t bash yourself for not being all of it.
Nah, any physically able person can clean the house. If he has time to frolf and play games, he has time to freaking vacuum.
Part of my family lives in West Palm and what you have is a major importance in that area. That mean driving BMWs and Mercedes are the everyday cars.
Im so lucky my mom and dad gave us a peaceful loving home. My love didn’t have that at all in fact his story is horrific but we are determined to give that good love to our baby. It’s not easy but we are determined.
25:25 girl, please - you were NOT middle class. You grew up with horses and acres of land, your mom didnt have to work, and im banking that your daddy was pulling 6 figures a year back in the 80s or 90s when you were growing up. Im sure he's funded your degrees and made sure you were cushioned for a successful life, nothing wrong with that, but dont lie and claim middle class, because that is NOT middle class by a long stretch. Middle class is malcolm in the middle, clipping coupons, both parents working full time, shuffling bill payments, no vacations, and hand me downs.
You’re projecting HARD! That is NOT middle class, period. Middle class is comfortable and probably living super cozy but will ongoing and forever debt. You can chill out now. She WAS middle class. Hush and talk to your parents about why they let you suffer. Yikes
The caller is describing upper middle class. You are describing lower middle class. In 2024, It's as much about where you live as how much you make. Low six figures in California ( near the big cities) is definitely middle class.
I agree. Horses and such is rich people stuff.
@@Jessica-rf7lvif you delineate to the point of lower and middle class, middle class no meaning.
I bought my own deodorant in high school too!
My parents would buy necessities, but not my preferences unless prices were comparable. If I didn't like the sale or Costco pack, I could buy my own. Seems reasonable to me...
23:15 I literally laughed out loud at her question! I am self-employed, and I have like five jobs. Three of them are businesses that I own, none of them full-time. I’m also going back to school, one class at the time, not counting the monthly training and supervision sessions that I for one of my businesses. I make my kids clean some of the house, and I just do little bits and pieces here and there. This morning I took out some trash. Last night I spent about 10 or 15 minutes cleaning the kitchen. On Friday, I pushed clean on the robot vacuum, picked up everything that was in its way, and called it good enough. You just do what you can do, and you don’t stress about everything else.someday I’ll make enough money to hire a house cleaner. Or to takeoff time to do a better job on my house.
Kari, your reasoning is whack! I think you two should probably hold off on having kids until you are able to see having children from a different perspective. It’s not like buying an expensive item or a business investment.
She should hold off till her eggs are gone. She's really smart!
@@benmyers9030 if her and him are healthy and have no reproductive issues they can easily have 5+ kids into their 40’s.
@@benmyers9030 that’s a bit harsh. If she really wants them, she should have them. It seems like she’s making excuses why not to though, so she’s not ready.
@@karr1990yeah i know shes not ready. She likes being rich and kids are not a great money making proposition. Shes a few years away from geriatric pregnancy, closely followed by infertility, so she doesnt have time to get ready. Its now or never. She gets to be rich, or have children, but not both.
Theres nothing harsh about affirming the biological reality that women have to have children sooner rather than later. Whats harsh is telling women to prioritize their careers and wait till they feel ready then say oops when they wake up one day and realize they can never have children.
@@benmyers9030well assuming they are both healthy and fertile, she can have many children well into her 40’s. My comment wasn’t really about the biology of it, more that she should hold off and maybe mature a bit before having kids.
Wait did I hear right, her oldest kid from the first marriage is only 5? So she had 2 kids and then got divorced and remarried and had 2 kids all in 5 years? Is that right?
It sounds like the second kid might be from another relationship which is why he is adopting the first but not the second. So, that would be 3 relationships and 4 kids in 5 years
@@AliciaMcIntire that is mind blowing. I got married and had one child in five years and that feels like a lot. How do people have the energy for this? 😂
Second caller is playing house
Minute 3 and that man is already a walking red flag. The more I listen to this show, the more I'm very happy to be single.
For a time during college when you’re working and going to school “let things go” for a while. It’s impossible to do both.
Third caller needs to grow up. She’s postponing having a child because she wants to be able to go out to eat?
What's wrong with that? She wants to enjoy the only life she has and doesn't want to be miserable.
It's expensive to live nowadays, I can see her side. It's not about going out to eat, it's about saving for college, having enough to retire, etc.
@@ana_1661 enjoying life is one thing, stalling out on life / your spouse until he makes the arbitrary amount of money that you want is not that.
@@Magdalene41 Well as I see it, in a current world we live in it's not stalling anything, but being protective of yourself and your family. She also doesn't want to lower the quality of life she's used to, and it's absolutely fair. I also assume she wants to give the kid everything best that she can, so that they never have any memories similar to hers when "times were tough".
@@ana_1661 yeah, i just see it very differently. Like John said, they are the exact opposite of struggling. They have their house basically paid for with substantial savings. On 70k they will be more than comfortable if they budget. She just doesnt want to budget.
What have you got against disc golfers?
3rd caller is exactly why a woman shouldn’t choose a man that makes less money
I. Can't. Even. This Kerri is a child herself. A child should not be having a child. Kerri is the most self-centered, infuriating caller I have heard in ALL of John's shows. To just TELL your spouse that he should change jobs and make more money because that is what SHE wants. Unbelievable. Dr. John had immeasurable patience with this spoiled brat. She wants everything HER way. Life is full of tough decisions and she has obviously never had to make any with regard to anyone but herself. The word compromise is not in her vocabulary. If I were her spouse, I would tell her to grow up first, and then she might be able to handle raising a child. Any child she raised would ALSO be her pawn. She would look it straight in the eyes and say that the child should do whatever it takes to make HER happy, just like she did her spouse. Dr. John was way too kind to her and should have told her that she was not capable of being a good mom. Still shaking my head.....
You don’t just find a 100k job. Kari needs to get her priorities straight. Shes the bread winner she doesn’t just get to stop working
I can't listen to the money call unbiased. We clawed our way through a sudden child and marriage on $40k, not even spending on wifi to make sure we would have everything we actually NEEDED. Kari lives in a bubble.
She is greedy and shallow
So much idolatry. The love of money is the root of all evil. Money money money. Money doesn’t make you happy.
"all kinds of evil" but yes.
Third call: just leave him. Dr.john called it out immediately, she doesn't respect him due to his income. I've met women like this in the dating phase where they were more ambitious than me in school and would end up out earning me by the same margin the third caller is. Their ego matches their income and it was projected onto me. It's super toxic and he deserves someone that will love him for who he is, just like she deserves someone that will give her the lifestyle she wants. I'd say more but it just wouldn't be respectful to say it in the comments
Lol. She does not deserve that. Why does a greedy woman deserve to be taken care of? She deserves to pay her own way and have all the cats she can afford
@@benmyers9030 Yeah, I was trying to be a little kinder than just saying that outright lol. I don't think people deserve bad things to occur, I just think people deserve the outcome of the choices they consciously make
She didn't sound like the mom kind of woman at all. Kids are not "investments" and neither are husbands. She may bring financial stability to the family, but what else is she good for?
Kari 's gonna be a nightmare helicopter mother.
To the middle caller - save money by not going out to eat as much and pay a housekeeper to come every other week. It is the best money I have ever spent. Tell your partner that if he is so interested in caring about how the cleaning is done he can do it himself.
I am continuously editing my comment because the more she talks about her partner the more of a lame-a$$ he sounds like....he can play video games and she has to clean the house? Bro.
Once you see your baby, you will feel love you never knew is possible, and you will instantly have all this anxiety disappear because you will be so in love with your new baby.
No. You won’t. Stop lying to men about this. Average guys don’t have that instant magic feeling at birth and setting that expectation for men is super toxic
She is clearly writing to the third caller here. Pay attention‼️
@@karr1990yeah she's not going to lose that anxiety. Third caller is an absolute disaster lol
not always true!!
That wasn't the case for me. Had my 1st at 35 and 2nd at 40. I had zero interest in kids all my life and never really dealt with them before in the way a standard issue female does. It was duty and obligation all day long in the beginning. THEN the affection and love came, NGL. I've always maintained my first stayed alive due to pure animal instinct and the internet. I had no idea what I was doing and his was the 1st diaper I ever changed, first everything. Thank god he was a chill kid. My 2nd put me through the ringer before he leveled out. No way could I have ever handled more than 2 either looking back or came out well if I'd had them younger. Everyone is def not the same in this regard.
5:57 so men be blaming their hurt from absent INFIDEL fathers on the women in their lives. preposterous. 23:59 john is good. Sheesh. She's asked about how to keep her house clean. John was able to get to the root. 23:59 ma'am don't get married to him, he wants a housemaid and you to pay 50/50. Leave now babe.
Johns face when the 1st caller explains what the red pill movement is 😂😂
The third caller is the most selfish person I’ve ever heard… that husband should RUN
She sounds like a LOT of work!😅
Go Dr. John!!!
Even room mates share chores.
Speak for yourself. This isn’t even the case most of the time either. I’ve always picked up after a roommate. Did her dishes before I could cook my food.
Woah hey John stop with the slander of disc golf. Disc golf is great!
It sounds like this woman’s MO is to get pregnant ASAP - 2 kids from 2 different guys, meets this guy and soon into the relationship he said they “found themselves pregnant”. Sure.
Just the fact that you have to ask.....means no.
🏃♀️ Run Hayley!!! Saboteur on the rise
Brilliant !! Hope she agrees...
The third callers problem is 2 sided. She needs to work on her anxiety, but her husband also needs to consider ways to make more. They need to meet in the middle.
42:00 this part repeated
15:44 - 🤯
Feel he missed the boat slightly with the third caller. He doesn't sound to me like she really wants or is prepared for what having a child entails. Also why doesn't Dad stay at home and she goes out to work? Sounds like her temperament would not be a good fit for a SAHM.
This was soooo good!
Hard decision because they are many women that after their kids are adopted, they leave their husbands and take the exes for everything they can and I feel sorry for so many guys who get played.
Advice for caller 2 was a stretch🙄
The hand that you have on the shelf is giving the devil sign. Please take it down. I was shocked when I saw it. What do you feel that it is meaning?
For the last caller: Make an extra 30 grand part time from home.
Lmfao, that's not how it works
@@身赤-w3w
If she can make 170 grand doing sales full time, I'm sure she can earn 30 grand working part time.
Stop propagating problems, like girl with messy homes. That's not always an overarching demise of the relationship. Your too far counseling, sometimes a pizza just has the wrong toppings. Lord.
NO, if you divorce you will be paying child support for some other man's kid. If your marriage in not stable why are you even thinking of anchoring yourself to her even more.
Her oldest is 5? And has 3 children after that....and some where there a new husband? Wtf
What's the Redpill? Where did the term come from?
From the film the matrix. Redpill means difficult truth. Dr johnny pretends it means prejudice. He prefers the blue pill where you live in blissful ignorance
Google it.
The Matrix movie, red pill blue pill
Generally, a toxic mens movement. They all repeat the same anti-women things and use the same phrases. Not a bunch of deep thinkers across the board. Nothing original ever and they don't take accountability for their own bad decisions and bad picking. Bunch of whining complainers seeing them in action, really.
So in context here it's related to incel and men's rights advocates. The term itself is from the movie The Matrix. The group are railing against what they see as lies in our current culture. The problem is, there are lies in our current culture but not everything they think of as lies in fact are. So. There you have it. That's the gist from what I can tell.
That last caller is A LOT lol. Poor girl is so scared and avoiding the real conversation. Having a kid would probably be good for her. She would see that money isn't everything
I hate it when men say “we” are pregnant.
What are your thoughts on Dan Bilzerian?
And what about j ep Steen? Inquiring minds must know!
Women like the last caller are the reason men like the first caller get sucked into the red-pill movement.
No
*NO*
Haley’s fake forced laugh got on my nerves. Take an honest look at your partner and run.
Hayley is going to be real upset real quick when they go from $240k to $100k with 3 people...
He doesnt want to do the deep cleaning. He doesnt want to pay someone to do it... So he EXPECTS her to do it???? so... He is taking advantage of her FREE LABOR????
Omg. Weaponized incompetence is SO 1950
Caller 2 and her bf aren't going to make it. She doesn't respect him.
Third caller, you are too invested with you and your career. Kids will require more time, money and your job. You should resolve your money issue emotionally first before having kids.
Red pill means other things as well. Opening one's eyes to get reality of things, etc.
She makes 170k and wants to give it up to stay home. I actually love that but it sure flies in the face of the modern left
Absofuckinglutely not. Red pill is not wrong on this one and it's not even red pill, it's common sense. Do not do it.
When will we ever learn and believe that shacking up before marriage will never work?! Because it is unbiblical. God’s plan is sure and comes with many blessings, even in the middle of hardships.
But not everyone is religious 🤷🏼♀️
@PSi_14.7 people are able to discern what’s right and wrong without having to be told by a book that’s millions of years old written by a man 😉
@@eclipse.5295then why is society crumbling
@@dannelle17 Becsuse of the patriarchy and men…
First guy, call back in three years and tell us how John's advice worked out. She's already threatened to leave?????
No he just needs to simp harder. She'll love that!
I predict he's going to be in a worse spot whether he stays or goes.
He did not describe the red pill movement at all.
Omg…he!! no!!!! Are you kidding me???😂
I wouldn’t have a child w/ a man I out earn by over 50%. I’d rather enjoy my $170K income in peace.
Do you make close to that now and will you still be enjoying that money alone in your 50s 60s 70s all alone and without the ability to earn an income?
What is the Redpill movement ?🤔
Wait till you go down that rabbit hole. 😂
Hitting the wall
304s
Chad
Tyrone
Simps/simping
Sexual marketplace
Modern women never taking accountability
Blah, blah, blah
Yatta, yatta, yatta
Pfffffft
Most unoriginal "thinking" men on the planet.
"I will never leave you" is such a powerful phrase. I think if it is said with honesty it would calm any woman down.
Aside from those of us who’ve already heard it all, only to later realize that all it really means is that, they will just cheat and use you!😂
@@sarahalderman3126 yeah, it’s like they say “I love you” just to get in bed 😅. I just wish all people to finally meet someone who is a good person and wouldn’t leave them.
@@inostrankatyt_eng so true! Unfortunately we live in the real world though. ❤️
Um you must not know any women then
@@sarahalderman3126whoa there your bitterness is showing!
You felt emasculated by the ex wife and are taking it out on the new one. You are the problem in the new marraige. Quit your crap and you will be much happier. Count your blessings before you lose it all. You were vulnerable when the red pill nonsense caught you up in its wave. Please for the love of god, just live life without external influence. Men and women can have traditional roles without it being a competition on who is more important
Lmfao what a selfish woman if money is the biggest issue why can’t he be the one that stays home? Dr D you dropped the ball this time brotha
Im a woman and I understand the red pill concepts but I think this guy didnt describe it very well.
I also how John bashes the red pill with the first caller and totally embraces everything the red pill teaches with the third caller.
I think red pill has different meanings. I am red pilled in the sense of recognizing biology (created order) and how that plays out in healthy relationships. I realize men are drawn to beauty and women to security. Feminism has not made women happier (see depression rates). Men are often raked over the coals on divorces usually initiated by women. But, there is an extreme side to red pill that scoffs at marriage and wants to tank society and families by sleeping around and never committing. That side is defeatist and harmful for men, women, and children. Work to change laws and society without placing all the blame on women.
If he embraces red pill he'd have agreed with the third caller, not corrected her expectations.
He sounds dumb and broke.
He shoudl file for divorce to get rib of that broke woman and her fatherless sons.