7 Driving Tips For Nervous Drivers

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  • Опубліковано 30 вер 2024

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  • @bruhavi7316
    @bruhavi7316 3 роки тому +431

    I like how everyone is complaining about their mom making them nervous, can relate lmao

    • @BCdgz
      @BCdgz 3 роки тому +1

      Fak moms
      They're stupid
      And fak our lives

    • @bakuhex786
      @bakuhex786 3 роки тому +11

      Oh totally, I just was casually parking on the street outside my house no biggie, then my mom comes out and suddenly I'm a frantic mess lol.

    • @MyPinkJelly
      @MyPinkJelly 3 роки тому +1

      Or my man lmao

    • @patronis3208
      @patronis3208 2 роки тому

      me but my grandma

    • @addiesummers2262
      @addiesummers2262 Рік тому

      I make my mom nervous lmao

  • @RockyLuvsJonghyun
    @RockyLuvsJonghyun 5 років тому +259

    I’m always on edge and nervous. But I’m ESPECIALLY antsy when my mom is in the car with me. She always starts bugging and freaking me out. So whenever we’re done, I always have to vomit and finish my panic bout by crying from how bad my nerves were. 😬 so this was really helpful.
    Edit: I always keep a paper bag in the car.

    • @andygalante7606
      @andygalante7606 4 роки тому +11

      Literally same! My mom told me my first time behind the wheel that her life was in my hands and it totally freaked me out.

    • @rosalia3468
      @rosalia3468 3 роки тому +3

      Me too I had a panic attack once. Worst feeling

  • @rosalia3468
    @rosalia3468 3 роки тому +279

    The only reason im a nervous driver is because my mom literally tells me im useless and dumb and yells at the top of her lungs when im LEARNING how to drive and im not even bad

    • @LostinTranslation479
      @LostinTranslation479 3 роки тому +17

      I really get you :(
      I ended up getting my license :D

    • @720_shawn
      @720_shawn 3 роки тому +1

      Fr thoo

    • @thatcoolxcrunner
      @thatcoolxcrunner 3 роки тому +8

      My mom literally starts screaming in panic if I just barely touch the gas pedal and I immediately start going 30 mph. I have an instructor as well, but I heard that he called someone he was instructing that I knew a retard. That's all that makes me nervous and also the fact I almost killed all of my neighbors livestock.
      Edit: I finished Drivers Ed last weekend and my instructor definitely made me nervous. He kept yelling at me for messing up one little thing and if I knew I didn't have time to make it onto the roadway when someone is coming, he screams "What are you waiting for Christmas" or he just repeatedly screams go

    • @aliassem1035
      @aliassem1035 3 роки тому +11

      That’s not how a parent should do when teaching their kids to drive

  • @vinothkumar4895
    @vinothkumar4895 3 роки тому +185

    The only reason I get nervous is because I don't know the route sometimes.

    • @avinashvarghese1027
      @avinashvarghese1027 2 роки тому

      guessing you from india too . haha yeaaa even though we ask strangers for direction someplaces to hard to navigate .

  • @ELP1125
    @ELP1125 5 років тому +161

    I have my license, but haven’t driven in 5 years. Paying for driving lessons was helpful, but depends on the instructor TBH, mines was kinda just there for the ride and didn’t really evaluate my skills. But it definitely increased my confidence behind the wheel. Good tip!

    • @wya6575
      @wya6575 3 роки тому +1

      @Diane Divinec you got another G1 license and do another test or for G2, do another re-examination and lose your license

  • @saananmalik5884
    @saananmalik5884 5 років тому +295

    I get soo scared like when I’m making a turn, i feel like ill turn the wheel too much and crash

  • @musicilya6674
    @musicilya6674 5 років тому +177

    Hey everybodyyyyyyyy!!!

    • @NYse821
      @NYse821 4 роки тому +1

      😂😂

    • @gustavocastroortiz7645
      @gustavocastroortiz7645 3 роки тому

      Lovely Video! Sorry for the intrusion, I would love your initial thoughts. Have you tried - Fiyilliam Uncomplicated Formula (should be on google have a look)? It is an awesome one of a kind guide for stopping your fear of driving minus the hard work. Ive heard some decent things about it and my buddy finally got great success with it.

    • @stoneirvin6086
      @stoneirvin6086 3 роки тому

      hey

    • @prettyhandsomegang5227
      @prettyhandsomegang5227 3 роки тому

      😂😂

    • @GoofyGirlLovesu
      @GoofyGirlLovesu 3 роки тому

      😂😂😂😂😂😂 love hearing him saying it’s funny

  • @sarahh2072
    @sarahh2072 2 роки тому +51

    I took 17 lessons and I'm still terrified of driving 😂 I get in these situations where I'm not sure what I should do sometimes, a new situation and I have no one to ask what I Should do.. and if I choose wrong I get honked and yelled at 🥴

    • @Leslie-lt5qr
      @Leslie-lt5qr 2 роки тому +2

      me too im currently learning bc school is coming up but I always end up doing something wrong, especially when idk what to do. My parents repeat and repeat the same things I’m doing wrong but i just get nervous and do the first thing that comes to mind. i feel u 🥲

  • @ronaldoalberto3510
    @ronaldoalberto3510 3 роки тому +63

    Im only scared bc I don't want my dad to get frustrated with me. I have all the patience in the world and accept that I'll make mistakes. My dad, however, completely throws that out the window

    • @Eisa.sh06
      @Eisa.sh06 3 роки тому +1

      My dad told me that he doesn't have temperament to teach someone how to drive
      He gets mad at me because I don't APPLY THE BRAKES!!

    • @user-jn7mv4gl1r
      @user-jn7mv4gl1r 2 роки тому +1

      😂😂😂

    • @keeppushin2697
      @keeppushin2697 2 роки тому +1

      @@Eisa.sh06 a lot of parents say that why have kids then smh

  • @TheZainjauda
    @TheZainjauda 5 років тому +70

    Pls gather these driving videos in one playlist so that we can easily find them. Huge thanks for your efforts.

  • @GoofyGirlLovesu
    @GoofyGirlLovesu 3 роки тому +32

    My biggest problem is I’m just trying so hard to center the vehicle and for the life of me I’m just not doing it but I keep practicing

    • @avaa22_81
      @avaa22_81 3 роки тому +2

      Hey! I have struggled with this as well. My mom tells me to look where I want to go, and the car usually stays centered this way! Maybe this can help :D

  • @chapman_cole0491
    @chapman_cole0491 3 роки тому +38

    I’m nervous because I feel like I’ll mess up the rules of the road. Sometimes I overthink about making a right at a red light or something.

    • @chapman_cole0491
      @chapman_cole0491 3 роки тому +8

      Sometimes a get random panic attacks when I’m on the freeway.. it’s weird

    • @mariyahrosete3835
      @mariyahrosete3835 3 роки тому +7

      ME TOO!!!! like ik the rules but i feel like i’m always doing something wrong

  • @sandsam6410
    @sandsam6410 5 років тому +99

    Large intersections make me nervous, going for my road text in two weeks and I'm pretty nervous, should I have a drink before I go to calm me, just kidding I would never do that. just positive thoughts.

    • @stghesonetap
      @stghesonetap 5 років тому +3

      sand sam good luck

    • @soartearstudio
      @soartearstudio 4 роки тому +4

      How'd your driving test go?
      Also I know this a year old but I want to comment this I'm heading for my driving test next month and is really nervous cause I have to drive my little brother(9) to school on Tuesday and myself on the same day.
      My dad is the yeller type of teacher my eldest brother (27), step mom and step aunt were all taught the same way as well. I finished driving some today but when my dad gets back he going to take me out to drive more. when we got home today he got out and told me to drive all the way to the end of the Neighborhood and back home, to my brother's school then back home again. Some how it was less stressful without him in the care but I was still super nervous.
      I just scared that I'll crash it forget the directions to my own school (my little brother is close and easy to remember)
      He told me if I don't get this right by Monday then my Career in running Track and Field is over, which I'm extreamly upset about.
      Any tips on getting better with lane changes and Trying to keep from slowing down constantly, I'm doing good with parking

    • @Kyle-ze5qy
      @Kyle-ze5qy 4 роки тому

      @@soartearstudio Hey how did it go?

    • @FalconMain3
      @FalconMain3 3 роки тому

      @@soartearstudio how did that go

    • @soartearstudio
      @soartearstudio 3 роки тому

      @@FalconMain3 Decided to cancel, I wanted to practice my reverse driving skills more

  • @cjayh4589
    @cjayh4589 5 років тому +39

    i have watched alot of your driving videos over the past couple of months. i failed my road test the first time but was able to pass the second time i just wanted to thank you for the videos and i will still be watching just to learn more

  • @aruzenimon
    @aruzenimon 2 роки тому +20

    I tried learning how to drive from my dad but long story short, he yelled to the point where I don’t even want to drive anymore. I decided to take driving lessons from a driving school and it’s been amazing (although be warned, pair up with the teacher you are most comfortable with) and I feel more confident now. Hoping to get my license by the end of the year!

  • @giselleg3571
    @giselleg3571 3 роки тому +9

    I’ll only feel calm when there’s no car behind me

  • @bigstomp3965
    @bigstomp3965 2 роки тому +5

    I think I’m nervous because i feel like the people in the car with me, and the people in other cars will judge me. I also believe I’m nervous because it’s so much to be aware of on the road.😭

  • @jmgb2954
    @jmgb2954 2 роки тому +5

    I have a license and I’ve been driving quite a lot lately, but when I make a small mistake my family members quickly jump to being extra corrective (screaming, etc). I kind of pushed myself to quickly learn bc I needed to be ready for whatever (in this case, I had to take some trips I wasn’t fully ready for). I sound silly when I say this, but that alone doesn’t help my constant driving anxiety. Thankfully, I’ve never crashed or gotten into an accident since I’ve been driving, but man! It’s not easy. Nice to see I’m not the only one struggling 🙂

  • @erica11717
    @erica11717 5 років тому +26

    How do you get rid of sudden onset of driving anxiety? After driving for years

    • @adriennecarrasco37
      @adriennecarrasco37 5 років тому +20

      I was a confident driver until I got in an accident caused by a health condition I wasn't aware of. I was okay for about a year after but then I started feeling anxious while driving. I find music can feed anxiety, even if it's something I enjoy. Despite not liking talk radio I have noticed I forget my nerves with talk radio or an audible book. I take the time to plan my route and look at google maps and satellite view if needed. Even if I have driven that route 100 if I'm nervous it helps to plan and visualize it. I also chew gum, a lot of gum. Also taking deep breaths in through your nose and out your mouth. Outside of driving I meditate and reduce my caffeine intake in hopes to prevent or reduce anxiety once I get behind the wheel.

    • @pwersurge_688
      @pwersurge_688 4 роки тому +2

      @@adriennecarrasco37 thanks for sharing. I am taking notes lol.

  • @davidl5786
    @davidl5786 3 роки тому +9

    I want to tell my personal story with driving . I got the driving license 1 year ago and after that I was really scared to drive the car alone . In fact I always drive the car with my parents or someone . I was scared because maybe I would hit some other car or make an accident . Months past and I was always in the same situation . Then I got a work in a place far from my home , to reach this place I must drive for all the city and in its more traffic roads . In this week I made the very first long drive alone and I wasn't scared because I expected everything . So I made another 4 drives alone and now I don't feel any fear with driving . So my tips is :
    Find a rout to do everyday possible , this route must be traffic and difficult

  • @QueenFlareMay
    @QueenFlareMay 5 років тому +18

    Unfortunately your advice doesn't really work for me. You said by the 100th time not so nervous but I am still always about to puke or puke once I get home from practicing with my mom. I'm 19 and I've been practicing for 2 almost 3 years to learn how to drive. I just recently got my permit, as I failed that test before but I hate driving. I've already crashed into someone before too because I'm just bad at turning. I literally can't breathe when I'm in the driver's seat and I just can't help but want to puke. I've tried getting over it but at the end of the day, I don't want to drive but I don't want to burden my mother. I went to college for a year and I'm going back so I'm worried I'll forget a lot. I doubt I'll get my license before I go back because I just can't stand to be in the front seat. I am unsure what I can do. I honestly just want to get my license so my mom won't bug me about it but I actually never want to have to drive again unless it's necessary or an emergency.
    Also our driving lessons in our area require at least a week paid and it's just too expensive.

    • @cosmic_rain9417
      @cosmic_rain9417 4 роки тому +1

      Hey i just started driving recently and i also dont know if i even want to drive because i also get really nervous, did it get better for you? And do you have any tips to stay calm while driving

    • @QueenFlareMay
      @QueenFlareMay 4 роки тому +2

      @@cosmic_rain9417 oof sorry I don't have any good advice. My mother and I went back to my old home town that has hardly no traffic and she forced me to drive the entire time and I still was in bad shape. In fact, I still don't have my license due to what was happening in the world, but I also don't make a real effort to learn. I'm thinking about paying for lessons elsewhere so that I can learn from a professional and not from a parent who expects you to know everything already in the seat and how to do certain things. Maybe take lessons from a professional and I guess, just go for it. I'm not really sure what to say to it.

    • @MirandaYocumHitachiin
      @MirandaYocumHitachiin 3 роки тому +2

      I've never driven but I plan to do alot of my driving at times where not a lot of people will be on the road, like early in the morning or late at night

    • @fathiamaani3243
      @fathiamaani3243 3 роки тому +2

      Maybe just try driving on a empty road at first, then move on to busy roads. Also meditation can help with calming your nerves. Practice makes progress, im sure if you just keep practicing you will eventually get the hang of it, and it will become 2nd nature to you. Good luck you got this!

    • @MirandaYocumHitachiin
      @MirandaYocumHitachiin 3 роки тому

      @Diane Sophia he aint lying 😏👌

  • @jaynereilly9059
    @jaynereilly9059 3 роки тому +9

    Thanks! I passed my test over 30 yrs ago but haven't driven for about 10 yrs. My daughter just gave me her car when she got her new one. I have a terrible fear of stalling and so it keeps happening and now I'm to scared to get behind the wheel! 😲 I'll definitely take your tips on board, especially trying the audio rain sounds as i often use that to help me fall asleep.

  • @wrenchweilder835
    @wrenchweilder835 5 років тому +15

    What would you recomend doing for someone that steers in the direction opposite of a shoulder check? If I look over my right shoulder..I veer left and vice versa. Thank you so much.

    • @iwanttowatchyoutubenow
      @iwanttowatchyoutubenow 5 років тому +1

      Do quick should check. Your eyes help you drive in direction you look. Practice makes perfect. I wish you good luck on your driving journey x

  • @squashedopossum7584
    @squashedopossum7584 2 роки тому +5

    I feel like my parents make me a nervous driver. My test is tomorrow. Binging a bunch of videos like this.

    • @kennadydunn
      @kennadydunn Рік тому

      Literally me rn. I know this was a while ago but did you pass?

  • @nickpatterson492
    @nickpatterson492 5 років тому +10

    IM CURRENTLY GETING DRIVING LESSONS AND GET EXTREMELY NERVOUS AND SERVERE AXIETY RIGHT FROM THE START,THANKS FOR THE TIPS I LOVE YOUR
    VIDEOS

    • @JS-jk8iw
      @JS-jk8iw 5 років тому +5

      NICK GONZALEZ me too. Yesterday was my first lesson and I was such a nervous wreck made so many mistakes. I guess Practice makes perfect, lol Good luck

    • @nickpatterson492
      @nickpatterson492 5 років тому

      @@JS-jk8iw THANKS FOR THE FEEDBACK

  • @smartkidslose
    @smartkidslose 3 роки тому +5

    Tomorrow will be my first time behind the wheel by myself and I’m so scared

    • @jroc4267
      @jroc4267 3 роки тому +1

      Just relax and have confidence in yourself the more you tell yourself you got this the more you’ll start to believe it

    • @smartkidslose
      @smartkidslose 3 роки тому +3

      @@jroc4267 thank you so much I don’t know why I was so nervous driving is fun I was really whipping it in sports mode playing with the shifters

    • @devindhoojeet905
      @devindhoojeet905 3 роки тому

      How was it ?

    • @favourazukaego3803
      @favourazukaego3803 2 роки тому

      @@smartkidslose congrats dear.

    • @smartkidslose
      @smartkidslose 2 роки тому +2

      @@devindhoojeet905 I’m an excellent driver now I go on the highways and all

  • @theflashfan3234
    @theflashfan3234 2 роки тому +3

    I just don't wanna hurt other commuters and/or cause property damage

  • @dearmaria4654
    @dearmaria4654 5 років тому +21

    I listen to Lana del Rey 😂 she has a calming driving effect that surprised me. But then I still get anxious getting out of the driveway, but planning ahead which roads to take helps me become more prepared and less nervous.

    • @KristoferProphet
      @KristoferProphet 5 років тому

      Maria Maria A+ for you. Check my channel.

    • @jaynereilly9059
      @jaynereilly9059 3 роки тому +1

      I get you! Your not alone. Getting out the drive is nerve shattering. I don't know if that's maybe because we know our neighbours will be secretly peeping behind the nets to see how well the newbie driver handles the car🙈😲😏👀

    • @dearmaria4654
      @dearmaria4654 3 роки тому +1

      @@jaynereilly9059 hahaha true!

  • @TTVToxicWill789
    @TTVToxicWill789 3 роки тому +3

    I live in Florida and I’m just nervous because people cannot drive safely here

  • @bigmanj_4137
    @bigmanj_4137 3 роки тому +2

    Tbh I’m probably being dumb I’ve driven 4 times in my life today was my first time driving on the road and my mom yelling at me was so like nerve racking ( I also live In a area where people will turn corners on dirt bikes going 50 not caring and that happened today which was my first time driving on the road so I’m probably being stupid)

  • @Lazy666Turtle
    @Lazy666Turtle Рік тому +1

    Passengers will make things ten times worst

  • @PMD90
    @PMD90 4 роки тому +4

    I'm feeling like anxious when I drive and I think i'm exceeding the normal limits. Do you have any advice regard this issue. I'm a new driver and the crazy drivers around me makes me more anxious.

  • @khidirgreen7100
    @khidirgreen7100 5 років тому +6

    These driving video's are really helpful thanks helpful Diy guy🙂

  • @sandsam6410
    @sandsam6410 5 років тому +16

    can I listen to soft music on the radio in my car while on my road test

    • @stghesonetap
      @stghesonetap 5 років тому +6

      sand sam NOO😂😂 dude

    • @Manu-gq5ke
      @Manu-gq5ke 4 роки тому +3

      No because you have to listen to the road test instructor commands.

  • @candidenise1806
    @candidenise1806 5 років тому +6

    Thank you for the tips! Great advice!

  • @WastelandAmerica
    @WastelandAmerica 5 років тому +18

    I start shaking bro

  • @panchodizon3789
    @panchodizon3789 3 роки тому +5

    you make it soud so easy but it's hard when you'vee got someone yelling your ear haha

    • @sweetangelgirl23
      @sweetangelgirl23 3 роки тому

      I hate that makes it that much more aggravated

    • @loolyoo27
      @loolyoo27 2 роки тому

      @Diane Divinec welp that someone yelling is usually our parents lmao

  • @m.southern9113
    @m.southern9113 5 років тому +8

    no glasses?

  • @chum3192
    @chum3192 2 роки тому +3

    👇🙃
    To be saved as a Christian:
    The bible says we cannot do anything to earn salvation. It is a gift from God. What we have to do is confess and turn away from our sins. after that we live holy in obedience to Jesus (through) faith. And Believe that Jesus died for ur sins and rose again the 3rd day.
    Once we see how serious sin is, and repent (turn) from it, and ask God for mercy and forgiveness, God will give us His Holy Spirit to dwell with us and help us overcome sin and live holy. No religion or church can save you.

  • @amandafernandez4780
    @amandafernandez4780 5 років тому +3

    can you make another video i look forward to your teaching on safe driving.
    i have request! can you do another video on steering through intersection small streets and etc and how much to turn using numbers or formula plz

  • @yosefelisimeon6217
    @yosefelisimeon6217 3 роки тому +2

    Hey everybooodeeee whos hearing this video of being a nervous driver while driving nervously anxiety at 1000

  • @preciouspayne723
    @preciouspayne723 3 роки тому +2

    I want to drive again 😫without being nervous because I want to go back to school or driving 🚗

  • @briannajones8820
    @briannajones8820 4 роки тому +4

    Why is he screaming

  • @yourfriendlach
    @yourfriendlach Рік тому

    In the beginning it was turning and now it’s just my driving instructor
    Nothings EVER good enough for her. All complaining with no actual teaching, if I wanted trial and error I’d drive alone.

  • @waterlol4994
    @waterlol4994 2 роки тому +1

    My dad makes me nervous even tho he's calm. My sister screams at me like "not like that you dumbass" but that gives me some comfort bc that's just how we talk to each other

  • @Drew_2152
    @Drew_2152 3 роки тому +1

    I was driving down a road and my mother screamed at me to hit the break... Fucking scary ass time.

  • @chibisting
    @chibisting 3 роки тому +2

    Me being a nervous driver: *Takes notes*

  • @SaltySugarPlum
    @SaltySugarPlum 2 роки тому

    AAHHHH the into already makes uneasy. too much.

  • @EliF-ng6un
    @EliF-ng6un 3 роки тому +1

    Heeyyyyyyyyy Everybodyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

  • @mehjabeenshaikh4607
    @mehjabeenshaikh4607 5 років тому +3

    Hi

  • @travonyaa_
    @travonyaa_ 3 роки тому +2

    it’s so loud...

  • @caribaez5711
    @caribaez5711 5 років тому +1

    He is too much for the camera.. I would be a bit O_O nervous.

  • @smashedcoconut7
    @smashedcoconut7 4 роки тому +1

    he looks like a teacher at my school hold up

  • @jerryhall5709
    @jerryhall5709 2 роки тому

    I feel relaxed when I drive the company car. It's big and feels safe. Already have many scratches. In my private car it feels different.Only had it for a couple of weeks. I'm much more nervous and careful when I drive it.

  • @karengrant3468
    @karengrant3468 2 роки тому

    I was never nervous when I was younger now I’m a freaking nervous wreck driving on the highway, I’m 52 esp a highway that I don’t travel often or ever. No trying to tell myself that the risks are irrational don’t help at all. I get panic attacks now driving on highways I never drive.

  • @idanorland502
    @idanorland502 2 роки тому

    Who else is watching before their driving exam? 👀

  • @destinycasey7392
    @destinycasey7392 2 роки тому

    I’m nervous because I don’t wanna hit anyone but I’m good driver just nervous

  • @weega9852
    @weega9852 2 роки тому

    Bruh i just started driving im scared of what’s ahead when its an empty road at night i feel like when im going fast will i have to make a sudden turn

  • @anabustos6926
    @anabustos6926 2 роки тому

    I almost crashed today getting out of my driveway. Bad 🥺

  • @samrjitsandhu3460
    @samrjitsandhu3460 3 роки тому

    hi im new driver ill help for calm relax i cant focus on driviing get nervous so please hlep me thanks

  • @bayyinahjefferson4558
    @bayyinahjefferson4558 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much for those tips. That is definitely going to help me when I go out the road for the first time by myself Wednesday

  • @favourazukaego3803
    @favourazukaego3803 2 роки тому

    I use chewing gum to help with my driving anxiety

  • @hecv448
    @hecv448 2 роки тому

    Is it ok to try a driving school even if you got your license to be less nervous

  • @ayakasalih4189
    @ayakasalih4189 2 роки тому

    I took a (theoretical) driving lesson for my student's permit and my husband was surprised about some of the things he's not aware of regarding driving rules etc

  • @PaveLiki
    @PaveLiki Рік тому

    Thanks

  • @geomundi8333
    @geomundi8333 2 роки тому

    i like to listen to the radio! talk radio. also setting the goals and using gps helps me a lot. or having a navigator

  • @x1marshmello1x47
    @x1marshmello1x47 2 роки тому

    I’m only like this because of my mom

  • @stephanieesquivel5741
    @stephanieesquivel5741 5 років тому +2

    😭😭 THANK YOUUUUU

  • @giftchipato8124
    @giftchipato8124 5 років тому +1

    Nice

  • @ctrcx
    @ctrcx 2 роки тому

    this video is so helpful thank you 😊

  • @stghesonetap
    @stghesonetap 5 років тому +1

    Thank you so much

  • @vc4597
    @vc4597 5 років тому +1

    Great

  • @onnet6754
    @onnet6754 3 роки тому

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  • @jhudayVlogs
    @jhudayVlogs 2 роки тому

    Thank youuuu

  • @leogasparian9736
    @leogasparian9736 3 роки тому

    Amazing love ur vids

  • @alyasoliman1986
    @alyasoliman1986 3 роки тому

    Thank you, that was really helpful!

  • @NYse821
    @NYse821 4 роки тому +1

    You look like my ex 😃