Who comes first SPOUSE or KIDS?🤔
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- Опубліковано 18 жов 2024
- The debate over who receives priority in the household - wife, husband or kids - continues to be a thing on social media. So, we decided to talk about it as a family for our Question of the Day. #familyvideo #husbandwife #husbandwife #adulting #siblings #motherdaughter
The husband said it best!❤
Loved Dad's response.
The son who said the circle is going to be a great husband he understands the assignment 👏🏾👏🏾 congratulations to the parents
I don't congratulate the parents cuz dad got it wrong.
But I do agree son #2 will be a great husband and father. He wasn't afraid to go against the grain. #GreatLeadership quality 💪
His answer was the best❤.
When you marry, you enter into a covenant with your spouse, so spouse is first. It is the parent’s responsibility to ensure the kids are mentally, physically and spiritually healthy to grow up and form their own covenant.
Amen. Truth. Facts. 🙏🏽
Father is 💯 percent correct. Healthy, loving, and respectful relationship between husband and wife. Then you will have your results with healthy children. The recipe starts with the parents. ❤❤❤❤
When the parents don’t do that then it’s the kids that come first I can always get another spouse not my original children
God first , husband second & then wife subservient to the man. Get the order Correct🤏🏾 not put your own twist on it
Ephesians 5:22-24
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
My wife comes before my kids. Without my wife, my kids wouldn’t be here. After my kids move out, get married and start their own families my wife will still be here.
🤣😂😭🚮 typical simp/feminin dude act just like ya mammy
1 Timothy 2:11-12 A woman should learn in quietness and full
submission. I do not permit a woman to teach
or to assume authority over a man: she must
be quiet.
Ephesians 5:22-24
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything
@@TNS_Mafia what is your point? This has nothing to do with the post.
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Ephesians.
21 Submit yourselves to one another because of your reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband has authority over his wife just as Christ has authority over the church; and Christ is himself the Savior of the church, his body. 24 And so wives must submit themselves completely to their husbands just as the church submits itself to Christ.
25 Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it. 26 He did this to dedicate the church to God by his word, after making it clean by washing it in water, 27 in order to present the church to himself in all its beauty-pure and faultless, without spot or wrinkle or any other imperfection. 28 Men ought to love their wives just as they love their own bodies. A man who loves his wife loves himself.
Do you even know the Bible or just cherry picking to your licking? Both must be submissive to one another just like Christ submitted to the Church.
[5] But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven. [6] For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered. Paul (the one who wrote that passage) says in 1 Timothy that he doesn't permit a woman, who is learning, to 'usurp authority' over a man.
You can talk as a woman and have authority as long as you are educated.
I will go with Dad's best answer😍😍
This cannot be emphasized ENOUGH. It’s SO TRUE that when you don’t take care of your spouse first, the priorities just get messed up and the children end up suffering greatly.
Gosh yall are my kind of people. Love the energy and the values you all show on here. It’s so wholesome and RIGHT.
Sometimes we ask this question and its trauma behind it so i really liked that the third man was aware and stated that if the child is not in harms way by the other spouse then the spouse comes first.
Y’all some gorgeous melanated people!😂🤗❤️💯
Spouse should Always be 1st!....the leader and Worker has to be kept Strong...to carry/support their family mentally, physically and spiritually!!❤❤...most families are Out of Order and outta Line!
God’s Order is this:
God
Spouse
Children
The issue comes when people do not consult on who they marry.
I agree 100%
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Amen. This is it.❤
I have been trying to tell people this on another social media, for something as simple as who has their meal plated first (not eaten first. Everyone is sitting down to eat at the same time.). You would think that I have suggested that they commit a crime.
Three thumbs up to this video, the covenant comes first , because if the covenant isn't entered into lightly it will balance the whole family unit . Continued blessings and the favor of God upon your family.
Amen. Exactly. God knows what He is doing. It's God first,then Spouse and children after.
Beautifully answered 🙏🏽❣️
The answers from the three Amped family members are to the highest degree, on point👌🏾
I have heard this question posed before somewhere. A lot of the women who commented, said the child comes first. Now I am not married, nor do I have any kids. But to me, if a wife puts her children above her husband all of the time. The husband will feel neglected. If you were married before having kids, the only thing that should change once the kids come is the amount of time spent with your spouse. Naturally you will spend less time on dates and alone together, but you should still date one another and have adult time. When you start neglecting your marriage, it will suffer in the long run. I agree with what was said in this video. A healthy marriage/relationship will trickle down to the kids. Kids thrive in homes where there is unity and respect. Seeing your parents love one another always has a positive effect on children.
He couldn't have answered that any better. Alot of women prioritize their children over every relationship that's why they can't keep one. No REAL man is going to allow you to continue to abuse, neglect, and disrespect him. Christ, the man, the wife, the children, and in that order. This is biblical.
Right!
I JUST had young MEN tell me on UA-cam tonight that they would NEVER place a woman before their children. It's plain to see why many people fail in relationships.
Dad got it right. What a beautiful family!!!❤🙏💪🙌
❤❤❤❤❤for dad
Kids come respectfully second. The love is without question, the parents hold the foundation of the family. The two must stand united to protect the family(kids)
Excellent perspective dad ❤
You did well with your kids. Bravo!
Yes! This is what a healthy family should look/sound like. However, if one of the parents is dysfunctional towards their child, the other parent must intervene. This, unfortunately, is DISHARMONIOUS.
The husband and wife are one the addition to this union are the children. Order is ordained by the Most High and you are in order. Bless this family ❤
My dad passed away when I was 8 years old & when my Mamma met my current Daddy she said, I love you kids with all my heat, but, my priority is your new dad, because, come time, it'll be him & I, you guys will be living your own lives...
The Father said it 💯 💞 correctly. Before there where any Offspring him and her joined in a Covenant to become one flesh....so yes the Children are very important to building a family...but if the Husband and Wife Relationship isn't placed front and center the Home breaks down and eventually will divide and they'll go their separate ways and then Children are left in single family Homes 🏡
Im sure happy my mom put me before my Dad and her 2nd husband or I would've been in a world of hurt.
It’s the weirdest question honestly but it’s just like the son said…it only really applies if somehow the kids and the marriage were pitted against each other somehow and then the spouse must make a decision on who to “prioritize”. But other than that, it’s not like we wake up everyday and say “forget my kid” my spouse is all I’m worried about…you still gotta take care of your kid even once you take care of your spouse. It’s a daily thing.
His wife comes when he or she knows he or she is first they will make sure the children's needs are met no doubt❤❤❤❤ the 3rd son has a point but me missed the mark. 😂😂❤❤❤❤❤
The dad's answer is beautiful! Especially when stated by the man is the head of the home, as the bible states. There is wisdom in getting guidelines from the author of marriage.
So many many people, need to hear. THIS because, it's crazy the way family are today.
Bro had me doing geometry with that circle illustration. 😅
Blessings to you All 🎉🎉🎉🎉love ❤❤❤this family
The last child mind is soooo amazing u go brother
Love his response❤😢
@@cirur.3934he was on target 🎯.
I like the youngest point of view. The family should be a circle not a triangle
Exactly.❤ With God in the middle
Spot on ❤
God then spouse. Perspective from a Christian home
How embarrassing to believe in fairy tales as an adult. Grow up.
Yes, God is first overall. Then Husband, wife, and children
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If she can respect that you don’t believe, wouldn’t it also make sense to respect that she does?
@@denyshadials5702 No because their fairy tale belief impedes on other peoples lives.
God then Husband, & wife subservient to the man. Dnt twist it
This man is very wise!!! It's covenant period‼️‼️ So it matters you you choose to be in covenant with, period‼️‼️‼️‼️
THE BEST AND ONLY ANSWER THERE SHOULD EVER BE!
Where in the world did you get those kids from? Too wise too wise....Jenoah's final statement hit the nail on the head......His brother also stated a true statement as well.... Sometimes a parent(s)put their children first 😢😢😢... All who have or had step kids know sometimes their needs come first.....Have a great day Amped House. 🙋😄. Great guestion.
A parents job is to protect their children while they're young
Everyone in the family deserves to be loved , respected and protected emotionally, mentally, physically.
My children come first man last no man no woman comes before your children
NO ONE JUST BE FIRST IN THE relationship if there is UNISON. It is a package. The main thing is RESPECT among each other and great communication.
Once you start putting one person higher than the other you can create resentmrnt, conflict, and jealousy. And the idea of she LOVES her Man more than us. Feed everyone with LOVE WITHOUT making it obvious it's the Adult Male.
Am a single mom raising 2 daughters and I rather the FOCUS just on ME without their Dad because it avoids the conflicts of 2 parents.
Agreed 100%!
Spouse comes first, you can always make new kids. LOL... On a serious note if you're married like my man said the spouse comes first because that creates the relationship for the kids.
I challenge yall to go in the nursing home and interview the surviving spouse who kid's put them there and do not visit. 😂
But what is your point? Are you claiming that they were put there because the parents did not love them? I am willing to bet you will find those kids were not neglected but are selfish.
Father's answer all day for me!
If every black American household looked like this, there would be no ghetto or so called projects, or young men holding guns or joining gangs in the street. That's a well structured home.
That last song looks a little weak😔
So, thank God all households are not represented here
Kids
Your kid is not your friend. You are there to raise, love and discipline them. Period
Exactly. There are ways to respect children of any age without making them your equal before they’ve learned and earned what being an equal would even mean.
Well spoken ❤🙏🏽
In the beginning when kids are young, kids first but never neglect your spouse. Now days kids need to be protected above all and against all harm.
Kids can't fend for themselves, So kids first, unless they are grown
If your child is grown your spouse
If your child is young - your spouse should still be first. Children model what they see. The best thing you can do for your children, their future marriages, and your grandchildren is SHOW them how to do marriage and relationships successfully. While your kids are growing up, you and your spouse may be growing apart. What message does that send? How does that build a stable and secure family legacy?
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And when your spouse die, you'll find yourself in a nursing home with no visitors 😂
@@katrinab7657 I agree with you wholeheartedly.
@@aprilwashington3150 If you raise your kids with good values, they won't leave you to rot with no visitors. But if you raise them to be self-centered thinking that your world, your marriage, and every relationship is secondary to them and their needs, they will not have successful relationships AND they will probably not worry about you. Your well-being will be.... secondary.
I totally agree with daddy. I have been ridiculed by so many people who weren’t married or married but not in a true union with their spouse. The order is God_Spouse_children.
Disgusting comment.
I like Dad answer kudos to you sir.
Kids come first, they have to. The kids need a certain amount of attention which obviously two working people wouldn't understand. There has to be a balance but the kids must come first. Entering into a covenant has nothing to do with the reality of the day to day. Most neglect or compromise the well being of the children to please their spouse and that is wrong. The well being of the children should be put first by both people and they can also take care of each other, the spouse should not be neglected but realistically they cannot come first.
My daughter will always be before my spouse!! And she's 30 years old!
Spouse then children always👍🏾❤️👍🏾
So if a fire u would save ur wife and leave ur kids to die yeah
@thereeceforbes that's not at all what they're saying. You tried it
Man if you see your wife as your queen and she inspires all that love in your heart, its ok! Love her adore her, do it so strong that she always is sure you adore her no matter what people do or say. She never doubt about your love for her.
I agree with Dad, but also the middle son. The covenant is over the marriage and that should have first priority, but I'm the event that something is happening in the marriage of the family that puts it in jeopardy, whatever or whoever that is has to be addressed.
the parents are the priority...if the parents are not in hominie with each other, the other family members will reap what is being sowed....respect in a family is very important from parents on down to the children...
the thrird young man seems to be applying his answer as if he was referring to a stepdad...a mom and dad that really love their children will most likely discipline them the same most dad say ask your mom ...most moms are not going to allow harm to come to their children regardless if it's the real dad or step-dad...this mom did an excellent job with her kids she really did...appears to be very loving and respectful children ❤️ 💖 💗
Not necessarily is its a general point of view. Parent harm them children and historically having been harming their children. He is referring to the prioritization in that manor. There isn't always an evil step parent, but an evil parent. Not everyone is equip to have children. However, everything else you mentioned I agreed with.
Everyone of them were on point. What a legacy Pop is passing down to gis sons. They will make amazing husbands
I think it depends in order. For example if you had a child out of wedlock and then got married your kids come first.
If you met your husband and then had kids together. Your husband come first.
That’s an interesting perspective. It sounds like you’re saying whoever came first comes first. Considering you would be married, I would think that now you and your new spouse set the foundation for the home and your kids you had prior follow your lead together. I could easily see how putting your kids from a prior relationship first could cause your new marriage to fail. Remember, kids grow up and leave the home but you’re stuck with your spouse. If your kids have special needs or simply require more time and care then you would have to marry someone who doesn’t have a problem with being 2nd or better yet, don’t marry at all and just have a bf/gf.
Thank you Dad. Biblical order . Exactly why the Bible says the husband and wife become one and children leave their father and mother and find their own spouses to cleave unto. The man is supposed to lay down his life for his wife as Christ did for the Church. Wives are supposed to submit to their husbands. Covenant is made between husband and wife, not children.❤
I'm in the first category
That was a beautiful explanation of everything and smart❤
SPOUSE!
Dad is speaking for his 🍆
Son #1 is speaking to receive his father's approval.
Son #2 said it best. There is no priority. Once you start a FAMILY, the family comes 1st. There is no one person prioritized in a FAMILY. Everyone is of equal importance.
The last one explained it best. This shouldn't be asked.
I agree w/ father. But middle child echoes my deepest sentiment. My initial thought was only in a fractured state would this question even become relevant. In a unified family, everyone is prioritized.
Well said young Man "THERE'S IS NO PRIORITY WHEN YOUR BOTH IN THE COVENANT OF THE THE LORD!
NOW IF 1 PARENT NOT MARRIED SINGLE RAISIN THERE CHILD /CHILDREN THEN YES PRIORITY IS FOR YOUR CHILDREN.
CO/ PARENT'S PRIORITY IS FOR THE CHILDREN.
The Word of God says spouse, children, etc in that order. I believe God ❤❤❤
Your spouse because you kid leave but my spouse is always dear
Well said.
And you both will be in a nursing home with no visitors 😂
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Good answer
My spouse and I agree the kids come first.
All Great Answers 😊❤❤❤
Come 1st in what way tho? My son has autism he will always come before my husband. My husband feels the same way
Wow.
That's not what they are talking about. You're not actually putting your son above your husband. As a couple, you are meeting the needs of your child. You and your husband are unified in purpose.
But I assume that you and your husband still find time and ways to prioritize your marriage and each other. You must do this to keep your relationship strong. If your marriage breaks, then the stability your son needs will go away.
@@katrinab7657That's not what they said or meant.
@latricetaylor7427 Exactly! Like as two loving adults that made a human together, I would WANT my partner to put our kids needs above mine! Like if I’m stranded and he can only save one of us, SAVE OUR BABY!!!! And of course if you can then try & save me
I think that’s what they meant my children will always come first because the spouse is not forever your children are
Dad understands biblical order and is being a fantastic example of that. Children take notes!
You bring them into the world they are the future so it is your place to make them the best you can as a loving parent
This Question is a 2 sided question
One side asks for priority, which can only be asked if one of the 3 participants are in a situation that requires your attention the most.
The other side asks for a more generalized biblical order of the 3 participants.
Side A: The Biblical order
Who Comes First, Spouse, Kids, or Parents?
God secures your marriage, your bond till death.
You & your spouse secures your kids till they leave your home.
Your Kids will always be taken care of by you and your spouse. Benefits the most in a healthy spousal relationship.
Your Parents are relieved from their duty and can enjoy the rest of their life.
Side B:
Who Comes First, Spouse, Kids, or Parents?
This question usually lingers toward a question that most people ask: "If your Spouse, Kids, or your Parents are in danger, who do you prioritize first?"
That is another question entirely and would depend on the level of extremism in the word "Danger".
The order of that answer will fall to the morality of the individual.
Some would say, Child, Spouse, Parents
Others would say, Spouse, Child, Parents etc.
Regardless of the answer, the priority of the 3 doesn't seem to matter because the context of the question doesn't seem to hint that all 3 are in a certain amount of danger than will be fatal. So no matter who you prioritize, they will all eventually be saved.
Now if the question had a Fatal outcome, then there would be no need to ask "Who comes first" because that implies that others will be included. That's not the case in a fatal situation. Rather "Who will you save/prioritize over the others?".
Now That question would yield different answers such as
Child Only (Preserve Their Future)
Spouse Only (We can always Make another Child)
Parents Only( You brought Me Into This world, I owe you)
Raised some marvelous kids
Spouse then the kids
I don’t like the way the question is being phrased. First in what way?
the dad was totally correct... dad loving and respecting mom has a lot to do with a loving and respectful family...
Every situation is different. It depends on the age of the children. If it's a minor child sorry my child come first. Never put a grown man or women first , that can do for themself. You bring a child into the world you are to raise them, you as their parent knowing they need care, attention and to be raised in a stable household. Grown children is a little different. Putting your spouse first there's nothing wrong with that but everyone's situation is different.😊
Spouse 👰🏽♀️🤵🏽
Bibically, spouse is first then the kids.
Spouse comes first
Beautiful!
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👏👏👏mais coloquem legendas
Thinking that it’s a competition is the problem!!! Nobody comes first, everything should be on a case by case basis! Anyone that thinks there’s a clear hierarchy is not too smart!! It’s a rhetorical question!!!
I completely agree. Your children first, they didn't ask to be here.
Single mom vibes
No kids here, just adult reasoning. As adults, we have lived more life.
@@gillbenjamin47 then it's best you learn from people who have had long lasting marriages. You won't make a vow to your kids for life but you do to your husband. Like they said, everything flows from how you as parents treat each other. You don't neglect your spouse, ever especially when they aren't threatening your kids in any way. Putting kids over spouse has caused problems in lots of families and guess who suffers, the kids!
@@eLion27I agree. This is single mom vibes. The Husband is the Head of the Home and therefore God has ordained him to lead and come first in the family. Most Modern American Women don't want to obey God's will when it comes to leadership in the family. Let the man lead and be submissive. The Strong Black Woman mentality is a scam to keep Black Women poor and lonely. Obey God and you will find a partner. Lead men; lead. Leadership is your God given inheritance. Don't let women take that from you.🤷🏾♀️
@@eLion27Jealous grown boy vibes.
Emotional damage. The last son got it correct. Why is there a “priority” if you’re all a family. I need an example of practically what putting your wife first means, especially when the children are small.
He said that too, when there’s conflict WITHIN the family.
We are on the same page. I need examples because I dont even understand the question.
This! Why is it a debate
Cause parents are jealous of their children.
I would say it depe ds, when kids are young they definately come first due to their vulnerability. When they are gown spouse becomes numero uno but not entirely.
Parents , because the kids will grow up and leave 😅
A lot of women say "my kids comes first" because they are not with the father of their children. They end up with a man after they've had kids. Either way the correct equation is spouse before children because the kids will become adults and go out into the world and live their own lives.
Spouse always comes before the kids. Period. Eventually, the kids are moving out. The last guy said way too much. You didn’t marry your kids.
I like what the last gentleman said. Some people say “its my spouse and I AGAINST my kids” no you shouldn’t be “against” your kids. It should be a healthy family where EVERYONE feels loved and supported. 🤍
My husband comes first, as long as me and my kids are healthy happy and safe.
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Spouse because he's the Head and soul provider of the household.
The Most High order is Husband, wife, children.
Correct answer Father
I totally agree with dad. They are the roll models and should lead by example. But the Middle makes sense as well! When everyone respects one another, the problem may never come up. The family makes my day!! The world is full of hate and ugliness. The Amped Family is full of love, happiness and much respect one for another. I enjoy @theAmpedFamily!