I was meant to be a mom after 35-here’s why | Trying For Baby: My Journey
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- Опубліковано 23 жов 2018
- "There shouldn't be a stigma for older women; I think anyone could have an issue, not just based on age."
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When Sasha Exeter was 36, she got pregnant for the first time. And while she endured many hardships leading up to having her daughter Maxwell, she realized that being a first-time mom at the age she is now is how it was always meant to happen.
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Shame on a society that thinks having a child at 36 is old. I had my first at 36 and my second at 39. I have zero regrets about it.
It’s not that bad cause I was 16 when I had my first son and I was 21 when I had my second son and I was 36 when I had my third son and I was 40 when I had my daughter and I was 42 when I had my second daughter lol
@@josephdalton6968 beautiful just beautiful 😍😍😍
I know .am 33 and I feel old already with 5 kids😊😊
39 and expecting my 2nd child this September.
@@Bonisilexaba congratulations 😘😘😘❤❤❤
36 is not old at all. I had my first child at 37, my second one at 39 and my third one at 41.
That’s so encouraging to hear. I’m 37 and haven’t gotten pregnant 🤰🏾 yet and felt discouraged. But your comment gives me hope. ☺️
By medical terms it is. It is considered a geriatric pregnancy. But yes 36 is not old
Christine S at 26 I was told I was too old to have my first child 🙄
I agree! I had my first daughter at 37 too, and now, after a miscarriage I’m pregnant again at 40 years old 😊
I’m 35. Very encouraging!
36 is not an old age at all, my parents had me at 41 and I’m here 18 years later a healthy and very much competent teen.
Treasure Okoh love this!!
Wow! God is Awesome.
Thanks for sharing this
As the saying goes, where there's a God there's a way it's something for everybody. You are a blessing.
My baby was born the night before my 35th birthday. I was in no way ready to be a mother in my 20's.
The same. I didn’t want to have a kid in my 20’s. I am 36 and just got pregnant. I am so happy.
You got the best birthday gift in life
@@lenamatt3387 hi, how is life with your 2 year old ?
@@Satsusss
Year and a half (will be 18 months on Christmas Day)
It’s good,I enjoy every second of my time with baby.
How is yours doing, how old now?
Really enjoyed this video warmed my heart. I am 38 years and 3 weeks pregnant.
Amen! I’m happy for you!
Amen believing God to have a baby girl
I’m late but congratulations 🎉
See I specifically need to see more black women posting stories and comments about having babies at an older age.There is a lot out there especially right now saying that its exceptionally hard in general for black women to have babies in general,let alone when you hit your mid 30s.You give me hope that I can hopefully start a family at 35.
thank you for posting this. I'm 35 and for the first time I'm seriously considering children. Good luck and Gods blessings on other women over 35 considering children.
girl go have your babies. everyone i know is having kids over 35 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️.
So true
Isn’t late yet. Hurry up, Now is time.
The best time. Women 35 is confident, completely ready physically and mentally....
💜
I'm 38 years old pregnant with my first due 6/20/20...😁😁😁😁😁♥️♥️💕💕💕
Congratulations!!!!
What did you call the babe?
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Congrats
Congrats
I wish more women would post their stories of having babies late in life. It really relieves the anxiety of societal/family pressures of feeling too old to have kids once you hit your 30s.
Thank you same
god the pressure to have kids while you're young is so real... this was nice ♥️
Only in America that we might as well tell girls not to go to school start breeding by the time you're 18 19 because hey look at that 35 is so young yet in America it's so old so many women are having kids past 35 even 40 45 and they're having healthy babies but only in America women are considered Old Wombs dirty old bats by the time they're 34. The food is dirty
@@FS02012 Yea sadly I wanted kids when I was in 6th grade but never happened as I was jealous of all the young mothers. Now I’m in my early 20s and it not fair I have to wait for my partner to be ready as he prioritize careers over kids so tell society blame sometimes men..
I had my first at 33 years old. I was mentally, physically and emotionally ready for a baby. Lots of peoples comments were that I was too old and what if I want another. Well I’ll be 37 when my second baby is here and we are ready and more prepared. I feel more confident with myself and my state of mine is more suited to be a mom now. I think we women are more prepared and more comfortable with ourselves in our 30s and 40s.
You are not old at all. That’s good ages to have a kid
I will be 37 , first baby
I just had my second baby at 37. He will be 8 months soon. We just adore him.
So true..
Too old? Only if you hit menopause. I’m not even in my 30s yet.
Had my baby girl at 37. Everything Sasha said I agree with. I'm more confident and understand myself. I also think I have a lot more patience than my mom did. I have no regrets.
I will get my baby at 37 , next year.
I think it is not to late
I am 34,no husband,no kids,You give me some hope.
Same here
:(
Hurry up for kids
Beautician Babe
Hurry up for kids
No don't rush it wait as long as you can. I turn 31 this year and I look forward to having a healthy baby or babies at age 37.
Who cares if its 23 or 38? It dosnt matter sweetheart enjoy your life everyone has their own destiny
Moreli Creations yeah and she looks like she could be either tbh
Moreli Creations I’m absolutely agree with you
I just had my first child at 35. My only regret is that I didn't have a child earlier as my parents are older and won't get see her grow old, but life goes on and I can't go back in time. 💕
I just turned 32 and could use a couple more years for career, but I have this same concern. I feel you!
Léa Beauvais this one weighs sooo heavy on me. As my grandparents were/are vital in my life.
This is my fear too💔
Really needed to hear this. Thank you😪
Same here. I'm crying so much I'm relieved!!
Me too girl.
I couldn't agree more! I am going to be 40 in October and I do want a child. I see everyone around me with children, but their journey is not mine. If God wants me to mother one his souls then the circumstances needed for me to be confident enough to do so will align in its time. Thank you for your video. And congrats on your journey.
My mom had me when she was 39 it happens 💪🏾
It's also totally normal to have children at 39. We are fertile until about age 44 for a reason. Why should society dictate when those babies should come along? I'm 40 and have a 4 year old and a 1 year old. It would seem more strange to have a 25 year old (to me), but that too would be completely normal.
My mom had me at 38 (her last born though)
35 is not old to have a baby. I had my first at 28 and my second at 45. Would I recommend it? Nope!!! Not unless your in decent shape. It damn near killed me. Very thankful however, I was blessed with a beautiful daughter.
What was so hard about second pregnancy/baby
Wow
I’m six weeks pregnant now and I’m 35. I truly appreciate this video.
Had my first baby at 32 (Eli, stillborn), second boy at 33. Hoping and praying for more babies in a couple of years. 30s is a good time to have babies. It all depends on the person and when they are ready.
I don’t care what ever I give birth 17 or 39 everyone’s have owned destiny💕 best wishes for you 💖
My parents were in their mid to late 30s when they had me and my sibling. Now in their 60s, they look a decade younger than their same age peers who had kids in their 20s. Why? Because they spent their 20s not getting aged by the stress of parenthood; they basically had 10 extra years of youth. Meanwhile, I had my kid in my 20s and I already look older than my former classmates who either haven't had kids or are just now starting in our 30s. It's a myth that the earlier you have children, the earlier you can relax. Kids are a lifetime commitment, and the earlier you start, the more aged you are at the end.
Good for those who wait until their 30s, that's honestly the best timing.
My mom had me at 36, one month before she turned 37 :D I'm 25, healthy and doing fine! I consider having a child when I'm around 40. I want to live my life to the fullest first before settling down.
i needed to see this today, thank you. I have been feeling pretty defeated being 36 and childless.
Im also 36 and childless😭😭😭had 3 miscarriages
I am 36 , just got pregnant for first time
@@lenamatt3387 Congrats!!! Thank you for sharing that. I hope you have a happy, healthy and stress frees pregnancy. Prayers up to your family :)
@@celiwengubane8024 Im sorry to hear that. I hope you are doing alright with having gone through losing 2 babies. Take care of yourself. Sending prayers to you that the universe will direct you to where you need to be in life.
I'm trying at 34 and this definitely gave me inspiration after all of the comments about me being old. God bless, she is beautiful 😍❤️
I have no children and i just turned 35 last week I'm literally freaking out i don't have a husband yet😪 may God bless every woman that wants to be a mother.💞👶✨💞
Freeze your eggs! They should work at your age...
Same here……except I haven’t freaked out yet 😂
I’m 37 and recently single after a 7 year relationship. I can’t tell you how much hope this has given me after some of the darkest days lately. Thank you for sharing ❤
I'm a man and this gives even me hope. I'm about to turn 37 and I currently have no children but would like to have one some day.
I met my husband when I was nearing 29 and he was 36. We had our first child when I was 33 and he was 40. We may have some more. You certainly have time. I have hope for you.
36 is not old to have a baby. Honestly!
Really so I still have a chance ? I thought ppl would think I'm getting too old ! (35 turning 36 next month Aug 30)
Shayla Banks I’m 28 and I feel that way 😂😂😂😂
Much too old🤦🏼♀️
Kylie Pretty so 36 is too old to have a child? You sound stupid asf, that’s not even middle age.
Omg, when are you women going to get to your senses? We do don’t have forever to have kids. I’m 35 and I feel so old to have kids. I worry myself to death most of the times. The older you get the harder it will be so why risking it? Why not having kids sooner and set yourself worry-free?
Im 35. 5 months preggo with my first (now 6 months hehe)
Congrats
@@tatianajames399 xo
congrats
@@tunrayoalesinloye9094 thank you 👼
Congratulations!!
She is 37 and looks younger than many 25 y.o. girls I know
I understand her fear about the miscarriages. I’ve had three. Every one was filled with joy and an indescribable fear of losing the baby again. To someone that has NOT lost a child, you cannot possibly understand.
37 isn’t old by any means. However my burden comes in thinking about the future and outside factors. How I’ll be 60+ at college graduation, how my parents won’t be there to help Much, not the way my grandparents were there for me, how I probably won’t be there much for my own grandkids. I’m 27 with no near future prospects and it’s weighing heavy to the point that I’m thinking I may not even want to have children. Smh no one fills you in on this part of womanhood.
Desiree Franco live your life the way that is best for you! YOU get to decide. This has been a big lesson for me and it is the truth!
I think that if a woman can have a natural pregnancy and birth as an older woman then she will probably be healthier in the years to come too! Just take care of yourself the best you can. Eat right, exercise, and try not to use products that mess with your hormones. Remember that people are living longer today now too. So 60 or 70 isn’t as old as it used to be. God’s timing will all work out!
Am having my third one at 35 and am overwhelmed by this high risk pregnancy stories by Drs...so help me God.
habiba ali I pray for you love. You are so lucky. 💕
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Yes to EVERY Word you said!!!!!
Thank you for sharing this! ❤️
I love your story❤. I had my first at 32 and next Summer gonna try again for our second at 34 yrs old.
They are so beautiful. Awww
Great video, thanks for sharing your story.
Thank you for this. I needed it. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story. It's very similar to my own story. I commend you for being forthcoming and real.
Thank you so much, I really needed to hear this. I will be 33 soon 💜
I 💗💗 this so much!! Thanks for sharing your story
Had my children at 18! Wouldn’t change it for the world. I believe woman should be free of all pressures of society. Live your life freely. 💕
Oooookaaaay. Like literally this video aint for you. It's for women struggling to have their first in their THIRTIES and older. We get that u have no regrets having your kid young but Idk why the hell u decided to even come to this video.
@@blacksapphire04 THIS. I agree fully.
That's not what this video is about. Many women are worried about conceiving later because we have been frightened that you can be too old to have a baby. Your comment is like you are gloating
Unfortunately the only pressure you can get rid of is time.
If anyone can point me to some UA-camrs who were FTM at age 30+ that would be great. Most mommy UA-camrs are like 23. Nothing against them at all, I just want to watch someone who I can relate to more. Watching this video showed me exactly what' missing in some of the younger mommy UA-cam videos. I don't mean to offend, I just think it's different!
Fertility journals on youtube. She got pregnant at 44 using an egg she extracted when she was 43.5yo
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I'm so glad that you were able to become pregnant again. Beautiful child you have! 😊
Born by surrogacy, but my mom was 42 with me and 46 with my sister.... were never too old to have babies, even if they're not birth babies xx
Bree R thank you! Your mom is lucky to have a daughter with an open mind
I am considering surrogacy too and definitely want a biological child. 💕😋
Having my first at 27. We wanted one before 30 and one after 30. I want my parents to still be alive when she grows up.
this is a non story. everyone i know is having kids over 35 🤷🏽♀️. i mean people are living longer so they should adjust the age range by now.
This problem is only in America I don't understand why I had my first kid at 41 my second one at 43 and they all were made naturally and easily in fact my periods didn't start becoming regular until I was 34 35 but then again and not a fat obese American eating processed foods other countries are able to have babies all the way until 55 Americans can't for them 34 is considered old
Everywhere in world pregnancy over 35 have some risks. Women getting older, her body, her organs are not like in 20’s
I'm 41 will be 42 in a few months and hoping to have at least one
Egg freezing an option?
Hi dear sasha soo happy see this story
Even I'm 36 trying to get pregnant
Same here!! Any luck yet?
Thanks
❤❤❤ beautiful 😊it's gave lot of strength to women around the world..stay blessed 💕💕 guys n baby
🥰 I love it!
Beautiful!!!
I so so sooo needed this video! Thank you so much. I would be so grateful if you could give me some advice on my video.
🙏🙏🙏have more babies may god bless you with all children u want 💖💖💝💝😍
My mom had me at 38
Carly Pacifici same
Carly Pacifici and there’s nothing wrong with that 😊
Same
Oh my goodness that was so beautiful ❣️❣️❣️❣️ ahh I just love it 😊
Ooo this is my story too😭
I m 25 and in my society, people around me are telling me to get married else no suitable man will marry me or I can have kids.
My aunt had her last kid at 39 and the baby came out healthy and had no problems delivering it age is just kinda a number when it comes to giving and that’s my opinion ❤
35 is old to have your first baby only if you want 7-8 kids wtf, there may be health issues the older your body gets but if you keep yourself in shape its still young. Anyway you are way more prepared emotionaly and there’s a way better chance your partner’s gonna be a better man also. Enjoy your 20’s to party ladies haha
We can still have mad kids. And Idk what u talkin about but I'm gonna be partying all my life!
She looks great
Hopeful♡♡♡
Cute kid. Congratulations:-)
life happens, sht happens. Getting pregnant and becoming a mom after 35 with a happy fmily is whole lot better than pregnant at 20s and divorced with 3 kids by 30
Faaaaaaacts! That’s like 70% of relationships today. Waiting for the right one wins in the end over those that had a kid earlier. Lot those relationships haven’t lasted. There’s so many factors.
I think you can have a baby at whatever age you want when it's between 20 and 39-40
Sorry for my English... Not a native speaker
I have been pretending I don't want kids for a long time and my doctor told me at 33 that we are running out of time. My husband just went back to school and we didn't want to rush! Thank you so much for your story. We are talking about our options
Did you have any ?
Smh... I blame our society. If you're 18 or 90 an want a kid it's still very possible. God didn't put a time limit. We set that for ourselves. I hate to hear people say, oooo... you better have them when you young and health. Like...🙄 as if you can't be old and health. Sarah was 90 when she had her first. Nd she was barren. Yet GOD opened up her womb an made it possible. Trust in( God only) not in what Man says... A doctor cud come and tell you your barren bcuz such an such, but boom!!! it happens. God has funny way of show up nd showing out. We are a bunch of contradicting people who think we know the outcome for everything and others. Smh the faster we stop trying to play God nd actually let him do his job the faster some" of us results would be. Also I think when your too desperate for something it usually never happens. (Likkle Jamaican saying: Wanty wanty nuh get it! & Getty Getty nuh want it. So in other words... when you desperate you don't get. It's usually when you don't put so much energy into it is when it happens. You will end up stressing and putting more pressure on your ownself, by being sooo.... desperate. Shit!!! Like calm down take a step back. Let Go nd let God. Silly people.
I can’t believe some of my female friends,relatives are older than 35 and still engaging in leisures, having time of their lives not worrying about their biological clocks ticking. I’m not a mother but I know how hard it can be to have kids after 35 and I feel bad 😞 for those women not realizing this in their early twenties. Us women are very limited in many aspect of life. Just saying. 💕😋
It just doesn’t happened for some people. So if the only chance is after 35. Why not.
Bruh,who has kids before 30s
Seems a bit absurd
I’m 35 and I feel like a granny already. 😾
This wasn’t uplifting rather depressing. Saying 36 is old
My mum had me at 19
And I opp sksksksksksks
Yes it is a problem🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️
So? A lotta people have children after 35. I beat you. I was 37. Heck a lotta people are having children in their '50s. And? Lol. Jk. I just don't get why so over dramatic?
Jennifer Loves Make-up, Nails, Hair & Lashes I think it's to do with age being tied to mental development issues in children who are Bron to mothers in their 40's
30s are fine for children.
40s though, that’s too late!!!
It forties are easy to conceived in for a lot of women we all still have periods in your forties too you know every month and when you have periods in your 40s you can get pregnant surprise a yes it's true only in America you can't
mm 12 actually mm I believe what they meant was that the rates of birth defects and mental issues tend to get higher in your 40's
Say's who?
I'll have mine in my 40s...I know ones who have had their last at 49...50s is too late imo
My mother had my youngest sister at 40. And she is fine