FINDING MY HAPPY | AN HONEST CHAT

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  • @lovelyskull3483
    @lovelyskull3483 2 роки тому +130

    Luke there are only a few vlogs that truly I feel are true, yours is one of them.You have shown me so much and shared so much and I deeply respect you. Now for an honesty, I’m 69yrs old. So many of your decorating skills have made my home my safe haven. Your love for your family, Zara and your friends has made me a better person. Your love and devotion for Maggie helped me get another dog this year after the loss of old dog. His name is Rudy Arthur, huge black lab and my finest friend. Also I still can’t cook😃, even with your help. You inspire me. It’s okay to be sad and frustrated. You are helping so many even me at my age. Take care, be kind to yourself and know you are magnificent. As always cheers.

    • @LukeCatleugh
      @LukeCatleugh  2 роки тому +37

      I cannot tell you how much this means to me. I’ve just read this and had a little tear. Thank you SO much. It means the world🧡

    • @healthybodz1969
      @healthybodz1969 2 роки тому +14

      Such sweet genuine words x

    • @alexandrafingleton7407
      @alexandrafingleton7407 2 роки тому +9

      I agree

    • @maireadbrosnan3554
      @maireadbrosnan3554 2 роки тому +4

      Awh that's so nice ❤️

    • @rachaeljones5767
      @rachaeljones5767 2 роки тому +6

      Totally agree and couldn't put it better myself , we all have ups and downs or we wouldn't be human x

  • @MrCarrington
    @MrCarrington 2 роки тому +27

    So well put mate. Always here for you ❤️

    • @tadeuszoltarzewski
      @tadeuszoltarzewski 2 роки тому +5

      Good job he's got you as a good friend. Mrs O from Devon. I'll take you guys out for a proper cream tea😍☕xx

    • @altheadavis6364
      @altheadavis6364 2 роки тому +1

      Mr Carrington is a good friend to have. Very caring ❤️🙏

  • @victoriafoley7470
    @victoriafoley7470 2 роки тому +51

    Totally understand...am Cancerian too....the emotional side is a typical trait. We are your 'family community' and we love you when you are either happy or a bit down. You have enjoyed living in London, but over time it can start to grate on you. When the time comes it will be amazingly rejuvenating for you when you do move and the occasional return to London will suffice. It is so true that people come and go through our lives as we grow/change/evolve. We are grateful for having had them in our lives but sometimes changes pull us apart. We all need coping mechanisms....well done for being honest and allowing us into your thoughts/feelings. Que sera sera. x P. S. you are still doing amazingly well for a 25 yr old!!

    • @LukeCatleugh
      @LukeCatleugh  2 роки тому +9

      Thank you so much Victoria - honestly that is so kind of you🧡 big love x

    • @sandraholland5663
      @sandraholland5663 2 роки тому +1

      Aw Luke I was in tears watching your video, I totally get how you feel as a fellow cancerian I am very emotional and sensitive and I suffer from panic attacks, anxiety and depression and your video has really helped me thank you for sharing how you feel. You are helping so many people. I really feel for you, you are such a genuine, kind and caring young man and I just love how you are so honest and authentic. What you said about control is exactly me I need to be in control and I spiral down when I can’t control and with all that’s going on in the world just now I need to take the advice about if it doesn’t affect me in next 5 minutes stop worrying about it for the next 5 years what a lightbulb 💡 moment for me thank you. My daughter has been desperate to move house and has sold her house and she was so worried but do you know last week she found a house when she had almost given up looking and the lady said put in a bid and I will accept as she didn’t want any hassle so just wait and see you will find somewhere else when you don’t expect it. I love your videos you have so much to be grateful for your beautiful lady Zara and the gorgeous Maggie and your family and friends just to start. Thank you Luke for reminding me I have so much to be grateful for and keep being you. Much love to you and Zara 💕

    • @LukeCatleugh
      @LukeCatleugh  2 роки тому +1

      @@sandraholland5663 oh Sandra thank you so much for such a lovely & heartfelt comment. I wish your daughter all the happiness in her new chapter & I hope you’re doing okay too🧡 take each day as it comes x

  • @jackiroswell
    @jackiroswell 2 роки тому +39

    This totally resonated with me as I moved last year to a house I thought would make me happy and less than a year later I have moved. And at first I felt like I had messed up but the new house is just beautiful. It’s cheaper and the street is so much quieter and neighbours are friendly too which makes such a difference. Like you said each day I am grateful for everything I have like a roof over my head and food and a job - I literally agree with everything you have said. PLEASE take all the time you need to stay happy and peaceful 🙏🏾

  • @annhydeArtist
    @annhydeArtist 2 роки тому +37

    Well done Luke, speaking about this is refreshing to hear. And btw, you will move at the right time, the universe is lining it up.

  • @4nicmac4
    @4nicmac4 2 роки тому +14

    Well that made me sit up and listen! So sorry you are going through a sad time but so glad you have found and shared what is helping you. I’m in my mid 40’s and find myself half way through replacing my four major leg joints due to early arthritis. This is not where I thought I would be and it’s somewhat taken the wind out of my sails.
    But that point about control is so true.
    So after watching your blog, I’ve gone out side, just for a little walk to enjoy the sun before it’s too hot. Did it hurt? Yes a little. But did I smile? Yes. And today I’ll know I did something I chose to and it made me smile.
    Thank you Luke, and may you have your smile today x

  • @emmachappell4270
    @emmachappell4270 2 роки тому +17

    You are so very emotionally intelligent and this will take you far. I agree that life is not easy. It takes time and there will be fights but when you get there its so worth it speak from someone who at 42 has only just got their own home after years of renting xxx

  • @amandauren5487
    @amandauren5487 2 роки тому +17

    Beautifully spoken Luke. Sometimes we just need to take the time to reset our own life expectations and respect our own decisions. Thank you for your honesty and showing your integrity in sharing how your feeling. Many people do not have this emotional maturity.😘

  • @denisechristina708
    @denisechristina708 2 роки тому +6

    my grandpa used to say "if it's not okay just yet, it's not the end" and that's something i live by now, in this moment we may not feel happy, or content to where we are now in life, but things will get better and that is a reason to keep going and to keep fighting, taking it day by day, accepting what you feel and then someday, things will be okay again, it may not be now, or tomorrow or even next month, but that day will come
    be proud of how far you've come by staying true to yourself and fighting for the things you want and love, cus there are so many people out that who are SO proud of you!!

  • @heulwenhughes4110
    @heulwenhughes4110 2 роки тому +22

    Hi Luke, I'm a cancerian too so understand how you feel. After 62 years on this earth there's a few things I've learnt and no doubt many more I'll get to learn along life's journey. Two valuable lessons are: everything happens for a reason. Second is, challenges can build and mould character, making us stronger as we go. At the age of 22 I'd lost both my parents within 5 months of each other. I'd been married just 9 months. As you can imagine, I was devastated. A friend of mine handed me a poem written by Corrie Ten Boom called My life is just a weaving. Have a read, it helped me so much in learning about letting go of control xxx

    • @alinamonica6726
      @alinamonica6726 2 роки тому +2

      Yes,I agree with you: everything happens for a reason (although we don't understand it when it happens) and all the challenges mould your character and your strenght. You have the chance to become a better version of yourself and learn with every experience you live. Obviously, people that do a no 2 on your doormat, or no 1 where you park your car, have serious mental issues,in my opinion, just troubled people with severe trauma😔 they need healing,but first acknowledgement that they have a problem...and for us,patience, to wait for what will come and accept what it is and just let go, sometimes 🤗

    • @heatherhouston7371
      @heatherhouston7371 2 роки тому +2

      Corrie Ten Boom isn’t it? Brilliant !

    • @heatherhouston7371
      @heatherhouston7371 2 роки тому +2

      Ditto to all you said

  • @mags8014
    @mags8014 2 роки тому +12

    Luke, whenever you feel down, just take a moment and remember all the pleasure you give to your followers. You have lightened many lives, I sincerely hope that some of our comments can lighten yours a little. Thank you for just being there.

  • @sarahmirgaux6029
    @sarahmirgaux6029 2 роки тому +29

    Good Morning Luke, thank you for being honest and sharing your feelings, I'm so Sad you've been feeling low and had some negative experiences recently. Sending you lots of positive vibes, 'all good things come to those who wait' is what my nanny use to say, I believe you and Zara will one day have your everything! Make sure you have lots of time doing the things you enjoy, when hour feeling low remember to share as we are all hear to listen and support! x

  • @juliesteele-smith1553
    @juliesteele-smith1553 2 роки тому +33

    ❤️ needed to hear this today. I'm a 58 yr old mum caring for my son 27, who has Downs Syndrome. I don't feel like me any more. I'm just mum the carer who doesn't have much of a life. I have a partner who is a big help. My son has autistic traits and challenging behaviour, is doubly incontinent and non verbal. He is very hard work physically and mentally. Emagine a 27 yr old man but who has some behaviours of a 2 yr old. Who gets agitated, aggressive, sometimes destructive and has limited understanding of the world around him. I haven't had a break since early 2019 and that was 2 nights. I also suffer from arthritic knees. I see people going on holidays, having lovely days out ...I'd love a week off but sadly it's impossible due to adult service budget cutbacks and personal finances but you have made me see we have a roof over our heads , food in the fridge and a car in the drive and my son goes to a day centre so i have a lot to be grateful for. You and Zara will get all you want in life when the time is right .. and you're right..let go of what you can't control. I'm sure this video has helped a lot of people. I wish you both well and look forward to coming on your journey with you through your videos. Much love and Thank you Luke . 😊 ❤️

    • @dippycatlady
      @dippycatlady 2 роки тому +13

      I hope you won't mind me replying to you, I have a Son in their 20's, with Asperger's and Tourettes, so I wanted to send you love. Sometimes Carers need love, support and care too. I hope another poster on here might have ideas for where to find some respite or assistance for both you and your Son to give you time to rest and recharge yourself xxx

    • @sandralangley2807
      @sandralangley2807 2 роки тому +9

      Julie you are doing a fantastic job hardest one in the world being a mother xxxxx

    • @ginagarrod2374
      @ginagarrod2374 2 роки тому +9

      I also have a son with Asperger syndrome and many other difficulties, he is 34yrs old! I don’t have a partner so I do it all by myself, since the pandemic I have also felt very low and keep wondering what the next bad thing is going to be! I’m trying very hard to stop thinking like this and thinking how lucky I am compared to a lot of people who have lost everything, I think we’re all struggling one way or another at the moment x

    • @LukeCatleugh
      @LukeCatleugh  2 роки тому +5

      Julie this has broken me, you sound like an absolute power house and I absolutely am in awe of your commitment. I know your son will love you so much 🧡

    • @juliesteele-smith1553
      @juliesteele-smith1553 2 роки тому +1

      @@ginagarrod2374 it's so hard isn't it, especially as you're doing it all alone. I've been attacked, had my furniture tipped over and i've lost count of the things he's broken during a destructive meltdown. He does have a lovely, funny side too. In fact he's a right character and makes us laugh a lot. It gets harder as we het older but we are doing our best for our children and should be proud of ourselves. No one would look after them like we do. You're doing a fantastic job. X

  • @sibslawrence2335
    @sibslawrence2335 2 роки тому +18

    Luke thank you so much for sharing what's on heart, with such transparency, eloquence and clarity. This resonates. I was in similar position a few years ago. The persistent sound of police sirens became the soundtrack for my life, it was horrendous!! I moved to different area of London and my inner peace was instantly restored. As unpleasant as they may have been, your recent life experiences will go a long long way in building your character, levels of resilience and lateral thinking. Your strength, rationale and pragmatism shine throughout in this video. Sending love ❤

  • @RiciaAA
    @RiciaAA 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you for sharing Luke, I really hope you find peace and happiness. I completely understand what you mean about home being your sanctuary and I know you will find your joy again❤

  • @mariewolski4056
    @mariewolski4056 2 роки тому +9

    You speak the truth, since losin my mum i have graitude living everyday. You have done so much positive stuff, amazing oppunatities! Enjoying your life is the goal .keep being you xx😍

  • @janetward2456
    @janetward2456 2 роки тому +3

    Oh Luke, I can completely understand you're emotions surrounding you're home. I was in a similar position a few years ago. We had to stay for various reasons but things got better and we are now very happy. Thank you for your honesty. I hundred percent know that you will look back in a few years time with a smile having got through this difficult period. X

  • @samold-smith441
    @samold-smith441 2 роки тому +17

    Oh Luke, I’m so proud of you for sharing your thoughts, feelings and struggles with us all. 🥰 I’ve been thinking for a while now that behind your lovely smile all was not well (Mum instincts kicking in ☺️). As much as we all love the vlogs that you share with us about your life with Maggie and Zara, you definitely must put yourself first. I’m sure that I won’t be the first to say, but we all have struggles in life. These days those struggles seem even harder as we try to cope with the world that we find ourselves living in. Don’t feel guilty for taking time for yourself. I read today, “Self care is giving the world what’s best of you, instead of what’s left of you”. Let yourself rest and take care. 🥰 Sam xx

    • @LukeCatleugh
      @LukeCatleugh  2 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much for your support & such a lovely comment Sam🧡

  • @dawnsmith8116
    @dawnsmith8116 2 роки тому +8

    Oh bless you, I know exactly how you feel hun, me and my partner had similar experiences living in London, one day I just had enough and we decided to move away to the country and although work is not in abundance we managed to find work, we managed to get a two bedroom detached property in a beautiful village for an amazing price, when I go back to London although it’s nice to see friends and family and the shows etc.. I could never go back to live. Your an amazing role model for young people both you and Zara and you will complete your journey to where you wan5 to be honestly; We have two rescue dogs who are so much happier and settled here; big hugs to you 🥰

  • @frankelly9773
    @frankelly9773 2 роки тому +1

    Dear Luke, Thank you for sharing your feelings in the video. I’m 80 and haven’t had or got the best of life but I look around and there are people worse off than me, my saying is soldier on. I feel for you and pray you will soon be in a better position please keep your lovely smile it gives so many people happiness. Love from Franx

  • @susanfisher1205
    @susanfisher1205 2 роки тому +6

    Covid and lockdown have had a huge effect on everyone. Even if you don’t realise it at the time. I’ve had to make some big changes due to my health. I was told life is a marathon not a sprint you have to look after your physical and mental health and make changes if you need to. Best wishes. Xx

  • @sueprior3207
    @sueprior3207 2 роки тому +8

    Such an honest and heartfelt vlog Luke. Shows what a lovely genuine person you are! Please be kind to yourself and know that it’s ok not to vlog if you don’t feel like it on a certain day. That’s absolutely fine with us!! 😀😘x

  • @emmabrown4804
    @emmabrown4804 2 роки тому +2

    Wouldn't have missed one of your vlogs you're a truly wonderful, genuine person! Life is about how you deal with the not so great stuff it's all a mind set thing isn't it. Thank you for sharing your feelings and being so honest. It will help so many people xx

  • @sybilleulinski1827
    @sybilleulinski1827 2 роки тому +2

    Oh Luke, I wish I could hug you! Thank you for this honest, heartfelt film. I have been several times in my 78 years of life in similar situations and learnt every time a little bit about myself. You are on the right way! If you can't change a situation - deal with it, as best as you can. I wish you all the best!

  • @maryokeefe7306
    @maryokeefe7306 2 роки тому +1

    You make me happy, love to see you and Zara building a life together. You are so lucky to be such good friends, keep smiling and know you have lots of support from your readers. You have so much ahead of you so live life to the full xxx

  • @janiceburgess5906
    @janiceburgess5906 2 роки тому +2

    A great listen Luke, it’s good to know you feel comfortable enough to share. As you know you have viewers across the whole age spectrum - I am one of the ‘oldies’ and, although this will be hard for you to accept now, it can take many many years to find your happy place. Don’t be in too much of a hurry to try and get there at breakneck speed as you may just miss something wonderful on the way. You have started a slightly different journey now with the help of Mo and others. And with gratitude in mind that God ( or the universe) that you wake up each morning and have your youth and good health to see you through another day. X

  • @pamwardell3215
    @pamwardell3215 2 роки тому +1

    Luke this is an amazing video and I agree with everything you said.
    I was in A bad place a few years ago and have learnt to stop worrying over the stuff you can't change and happiness is within yourself.
    This year my brother passed away and then last month my father in law,but I'm dealing with it and rembering the happy times.
    You are such a lovely man and I wish you love and happiness.♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @roxane3711
    @roxane3711 2 роки тому +8

    Im a strong believer of that ,what is meant to be will be, when the time is right.
    Life is not a straight road, theres turns,bumps, obstruction etc, but eventually you reach your destination. Make the most of the life you have now, find things that make you happy and be with people that make you happy. Sending you hugs Luke 🤗

  • @rickeydonald4756
    @rickeydonald4756 2 роки тому +2

    At 68, I am no more immune to what you are experiencing. We all are living in the same global fishbowl now. Every time we think we have the answers, we are thrown right back into doubt. You can only trust yourself, knowing that YOU are a good person with good intentions. Finding purpose and happiness isn’t always easy. Thanks for starting the conversation about a complex and complicated topic, being human in turbulent times. Stay positive with hope. Just find love for yourself and others. Not easy, I know. The negative noise levels can be daunting. Peace and a blessed journey for YOU and those you love!

  • @kat7777
    @kat7777 2 роки тому +5

    I'm also a cancerian but remember, Happiness is not a destination, it's a journey. We must take each moment to try and stay positive.. Setting goals are great but it's no good to be unhappy until we reach that goal as it will stop us ever getting there. We have to live in the present but keep the faith in the moment and don't rush the future..
    There is a very true saying in, Everything happens for a reason and there is no such thing as coincidence. Our destiny is mapped out but we can manifest certain things by making what we do in the present mould the best paths to our destiny.
    Keep the faith and live the best way in the moment, Stay strong and positive and everything will happen at the right time 🙏 💕

  • @nickyroberts5860
    @nickyroberts5860 2 роки тому +4

    Life happens while you’re busy making other plans….a John Lennon quote. A lovely vlog, and that move will happen when the time is right x

  • @sandravellaattard7779
    @sandravellaattard7779 2 роки тому +3

    Dearest Luke, thank you so much for sharing your feelings, thoughts and journey. I felt what you were/are feeling, been there - done that, most of us have ,I guess. You are the lovliest, most honest, and talented person I follow on you tube, and will do so, for ever. Dont change, you are so going to get through this, and go onto bigger things that you love, wish I could give you a big hug 🙏❤

  • @loreenneufeld1495
    @loreenneufeld1495 2 роки тому +2

    I totally feel with you. Just remember you are blessed more than you know. Your videos are a blessing to me. Sending love and prayers your way...Luke, Zara and Maggie.

  • @jenkane8070
    @jenkane8070 2 роки тому +1

    Luke I really admire you for sharing your personal feelings. Love you lots babes. Your new journey has started in a positive way. Well done xxx

  • @allisonsaul4681
    @allisonsaul4681 2 роки тому +1

    Good morning Luke ,listening to you talk about how you feel at the minute has just touched my heart ❤️
    I am a mother of 4 children, 53 years old , married to a man in the forces so spent a lot of time by myself, raising our children, every week I watch your videos you are so true to life and say things how they are .Cherish every day ,life is hard ,sometimes you have to say things how they are ,sometimes I've said to myself pull up your big girl pants and get on with things but it's not always good to do that .Time with your loved ones is so precious, breathe enjoy each moment, cry if you want to ,laugh if you can just carry on being yourself you are fabulous.
    Beautiful couple xx

  • @michelledewart2170
    @michelledewart2170 2 роки тому

    Hey Luke. I too have been going through this over the past few years because of many things out of my control and like you have come to the realisation that we need to accept where we are and be grateful for what we have. You are truly a lovely person and deserve great things which I'm sure will come to you eventually. I wish you tons of luck for the future. Take care and thanks for sharing xxx

  • @vanessas.4616
    @vanessas.4616 2 роки тому +1

    Know you are not alone in this, there are so many people that feel this way. Thank you so much for your honesty. Getting a house or apartment is rough all over same in the States here. It is a sellers market the prices go higher and higher. You will get what you want. Sending love, joy and happyness to you.

  • @terrirouleau4758
    @terrirouleau4758 2 роки тому +1

    I love that you speak your truth and share your feelings. I can connect with what you said. I get unhappy and don’t know why also. I am a restless individual who constantly need’s change. It took me along time to figure that out. So I find ways to feed these feelings. I suffer from social anxiety but through therapy, education and meds I am me again. Some of the points you made are spot on from therapy. The small things. Always wanting is unhealthy. This image or goal of what we should be or have accomplished by now is destructive. Social media is terrible for this. I love your channel because you are real and for that I say thank you. I am always here to listen. You are so loved and valued by this community. Take that to heart.

  • @karensalter1560
    @karensalter1560 2 роки тому +4

    The lessons and emotional awareness you are learning at 25 I didn't learn until I was in my 50s. Theres plenty of time and you will have a golden future. Go with the flow my lovely, not easy for us cancerians is it x

  • @lovecara1
    @lovecara1 2 роки тому

    You are amongst friends, so you can just say how you feel and we will listen to you always. I felt a bit choked up listening to how you have felt so unhappy. I am glad you found someone that resonated with you. You are such a lovely and genuine young man and I wish so much happiness for you and Zara xxxxxxx

  • @NaomiMcDonald
    @NaomiMcDonald 2 роки тому +4

    Thanks so much for the beautiful honest and open post! I have been going through the exact same thing and I can’t say how much comfort solidarity brings during these extremely anxious times. I moved into my flat with my sis just before the first lockdown… and I too thought it was my “dream home”… but that all changed when I eventually met my really nasty neighbours! What once felt like a secure home to feel guarded in; suddenly felt like a scary prison.
    Like you; my first reaction was that I wanted to run away, to find safety somewhere else…anywhere but here!
    But my amazing sister and therapist both reminded me that in order to find happiness anywhere you must find it within first…(Believe me it’s so much easier to say when you’re not in the midst of an anxiety attack!) but I really do think that it’s so important to find the strength within to move through these awful / scary times before making new big decisions. If we can do that; and get ourselves into a more stable state of mind first- we will undoubtedly manifest the beautiful new shift in life that we want…
    Just wanted you to know you’re not alone, and that I know we will all find a dreamy place to live very soon… just gotta take this time as a massive learning curve along our journey. Sending you love and peace! Thanks again 💜

  • @susancharbonneau1891
    @susancharbonneau1891 2 роки тому +1

    It’s amazing how the universe will supply you with the tools when you open yourself up to this.

  • @nicola4543
    @nicola4543 2 роки тому +1

    So good to hear you talk from the heart and say
    It how it is . I admire your ability to find a solution to help how you are feeling - all the points you read out are so true and will help you enormously. You are only 25 and I think you have achieved so much and are so wise for your years. Continue being you, and take time out when you need to. As you so rightly say, we have so much to be grateful for. You will get to where you want to be Luke, it may take longer than you had hoped. Through your journey in life you may find that many of the goals you set yourself change. Take care and love to you.

  • @m.mccolgan2250
    @m.mccolgan2250 2 роки тому +4

    I once heard someone say that when we get our way, we assume it’s a “good thing” and when we don’t get our way(not meant in a bratty sense) we assume it’s a “bad thing”, when many times it’s the other way around….
    Also: It’s Darkest Before The Dawn!

  • @lisadeluca4076
    @lisadeluca4076 2 роки тому +1

    Awwww Luke, what an absolutely smashing vlog. So completely honest. You are so right in saying that you and Zara are exactly where you’re supposed to be at this time - sometimes it’s so difficult to accept this but great things will come to you when they are meant to happen. I firmly believe that you have to go through some lows to appreciate the rest. We tend to only see you when you’re happy and living life to the full but can easily forget what goes on behind the scenes. Love that you call us your family community! ☺️ xx

  • @candyisforgirls
    @candyisforgirls 2 роки тому +11

    Mo Gawdat is a life changer! I too came across him recommended by my daughter. Yes, everyone needs to hear the words of wisdom from this guy. Also Dr. Rangan Chatterdee omg he's truly incredible too. I listen to all these guys including Steven Bartlett. All spot on, all will change our lives and ways of thinking. Bless you Luke for your honesty and showing your vulnerability. I think most of us have been changed by this pandemic. It's left a remnant which has scarred us. But we will move on and learn from it all. Bless you and your household in every way.

  • @linreynolds392
    @linreynolds392 2 роки тому +1

    Awwww Luke.....this video made me cry & I just wanted to give you the biggest hug ever & tell you that everything will be fine. You have the kindest soul of anyone I know & I dont know if its your star sign or not but you are a people pleaser......a beautiful quality to have BUT that means what you do to please everyone else is clearly not pleasing you & ultimately you will have people walking over you. Its time for you now hun.....put down your phone, take maggie for a walk, go lay or sit somewhere & just stare.....look around you & see what really is beautiful.....it may be a sunrise or a sunset or some architect but something that just is there & try & clear your mind whether its for a few minutes or a few hours makes no difference but do it for YOU & no-one else. You are a beautiful soul hun & you deserve happiness.....take each day as it comes & a blessing & you will achieve your dreams......does it really matter how long???? Not really!!!! I hope you find your inner happiness.....until then, accept a REALLY BIG healing hug from me! 😍 xx

  • @carolbarnes7825
    @carolbarnes7825 2 роки тому +1

    It’s so good that you have been brave enough to share your unhappiness with us . Living in a place where you are not happy can be so bad as it happened to me however over time I found the home I needed . Life throws us lots of curved balls that can bring us down and talking about it with others helps you to see it in a different way . You will find your happiness Luke but until you do keep talking it through with others . Take care x x

  • @janicegagnon2294
    @janicegagnon2294 2 роки тому

    So glad you took the time to reflect and to come to this point of your journey. At times we lose sight of all that we do have and all the options that we have available to us to build our happiness and our gratitude.

  • @mandynuttall6627
    @mandynuttall6627 2 роки тому +2

    Dear Luke all I can say is that if I've been feeling down I've often watched several of your videos in a row of your adventures with Zara and Maggie and it's cheered me up so much. Things won't ever make us happy or only for a short time at least, because inner joy isn't based on our possessions or even our achievements. We love you Luke, thank you for being so honest xx♥️

  • @darlenemartin248
    @darlenemartin248 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you, Luke. I really need to find my happiness again as well. Thanks for sharing.

  • @joannemorrall3332
    @joannemorrall3332 2 роки тому +2

    Hey Luke, Well honestly a massive BIG THANK YOU to you for posting this video. Your raw open honesty was a breath of fresh air. It was very brave of you to be so honest in your feelings and i appreciate and applaud you for it. I am so sorry to hear you have been feeling down recently and i really hope you start to feel more yourself very soon. I too have felt this way on numerous times in my life and thankfully it passed and so it'll pass for you too. Please know you are very much loved on your channel and i'm sure we wish you well in the next coming weeks and months. x

  • @DavidandPaula
    @DavidandPaula 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for sharing. I was at this point in my life not so long ago, incredibly sad all the time, then one day I realized I have to release control, just like you said. After so long being in this tunnel waiting for the light at the end, I realized I can become the light that I've been needing. One step at a time my tunnel has begun illuminating and I know I will reach the other side. Stay Blessed

  • @catherineb6565
    @catherineb6565 2 роки тому

    Good for you Luke. You're honouring what is in your spirit. Your authenticity towards yourself (and being vulnerable to share life's realizations with us) already puts out a different energy of positivity and hopefulness. I think there's many folks out there who need to feel hopeful again. It's gonna be ok. You're going to be ok . Thank you for being a compassionate, genuinely lovely man. 💖

  • @susanhall3438
    @susanhall3438 2 роки тому +6

    Hi Luke, I know exactly where you are coming from. I'm usually a happy person, but the last few years I have felt melancholy, and like you it's a series of events which has triggered this off. Covid, health issues with me and family members. I was just talking to my husband about this yesterday and I told him I just have to have a word with myself, and 9 times out of 10 it works! I try and think of good things which will be happening ie, our holiday to Florida in 3 weeks. I loved your vlog and could totally relate to all you said. A lot of things that happen which we think is a major thing is really just trivia, and we have to get past that way of thinking. Very best wishes to you, and you will get there. xxx

    • @LukeCatleugh
      @LukeCatleugh  2 роки тому

      I completely agree Susan. Have the best time away in Florida. Try to relax and unwind as much as possible🧡 big love x

  • @christine1373
    @christine1373 2 роки тому +1

    Luke, I have dealt with depression for over 11 years and each day is different. I just turned a young 60 and am learning things about myself every day. I too am a bit of a perfectionist and like to be in control so I give myself permission to let the small things go because it’s a lot of wasted energy and, yes, in 5 years is it gonna matter. One thing that’s very important is that it’s OK to have a “pity party” every once in awhile. I’ve been in the darkness but I’ve come out stronger. The fact that you recognized what was happening to you and you sought help and understanding is HUGE! I don’t know you but I can tell you are a very genuine person who loves freely and openly and I love you! ❤ (and Zara and Maggie!)

  • @sarahb5601
    @sarahb5601 2 роки тому +2

    I know exactly how you feel, EXACTLY word for word, my heart is so heavy with the struggle of coping with everything and I completely empathise with you. I will listen to that podcast and hope will see the same rays of hope you have. I need happy back too. 😘😘

  • @gailgulliver8970
    @gailgulliver8970 2 роки тому +1

    Dearest Luke every day we are blessed to wake and be able to walk and live a life ,your boat was rocked and it made you feel unsafe in your surroundings but it was a blip and the best way to stay happy within yourself is to live in the moment for tomorrow is not here and yesterday has gone we cannot control a lot of things in our life but we just take each day as a new one yes you little crabs love your shell but you also like to be near water so I think a nice day at the seaside would clear your energy's and and make you feel a lot clearer in the mind lot's of love and a big hug to you both.xxx

  • @lyndavey4392
    @lyndavey4392 2 роки тому

    Thank you Luke! Just what I needed to here!
    Love your channel !
    My husband is spinal and brain injury after car accident caused by teenagers...Life changed forever he lives his life by enjoying and appreciating each day! Not a bitter bone in his body!!
    He loved this vlog
    You will get there your already doing amazing!
    You both deserve your dream!!
    Xxx

  • @nickyrowlinson7160
    @nickyrowlinson7160 2 роки тому

    Don’t know how I’ve missed this one , but what a heartwarming and honest video . Everything you have touched on is relevant to probably most people right now . I know it’s really hit something with me . Thank You for sharing and for talking . It will have helped so many people who are feeling like this right now . I personally think this is the best video you have ever posted . Thank you x

  • @patrickmorgan7913
    @patrickmorgan7913 2 роки тому +1

    Hi Luke, I was nodding along with everything you said in your video. I too am someone who hates being unable to control my situations. Becoming self employed was the best thing I ever did and I wish I’d taken the plunge years earlier! However I’m strangely grateful for what the jobs I hated over the years taught me about how to cope with difficult situations, so I guess it wasn’t all bad. It’s crucial to be able to manage the symptoms of unhappiness with positive thinking and a “c’est la vie” attitude but in my experience it’s always better to address the causes of the problems as far as one is able. From watching your content I know that you never shy away from addressing things that make you unhappy and your future house move will happen I have no doubt! Rest assured that your videos bring so much comfort and inspiration to so many people and we hugely admire your entrepreneurship, attitude and tenacity. Keep up the good work - it means a lot to us. X

  • @andreabenson2491
    @andreabenson2491 2 роки тому

    Your candidness is applaudable....you are speaking words a lot of people out there are experiencing - so many are feeling stuck, sad, together with others yet alone - times have been hard, different, difficult - recognizing feelings and opening up about them is a step toward healing - professionals are out there to help people process, you or anyone out there who needs that help should reach out....I'm a firm believer in gratitude, breathing and staying in touch with right here, right now as we count our blessings and strive for the light at the end of that tunnel - wishing you a peaceful, joyous journey ahead 👍😊

  • @heatherhouston7371
    @heatherhouston7371 2 роки тому +1

    And I applaud you for taking the time to share this with us! I think many of us feel the same way . I have made a note of all that advice and will listen to those podcasts. Thank you sincerely. I have been following your channel for about 18 months and don’t miss any of them. Love you and Zara and hope you reach your goal. My husband and I have been married for 52 years and have had lots of ups and downs, mainly through tough business failures. However, we have managed to survive and thrive in spite of that. Everything you said, made absolute sense! Keep smiling through.

  • @jeffplawrentz269
    @jeffplawrentz269 2 роки тому +1

    It can be easy to forget to live in the moment when I get caught up in work and other life challenges. I enjoy this vlog and it makes a lot of sense to me what you covered and I appreciate how authentic you are in sharing this with us. One of my best friends was a lady who lived to be 102 years old. She had so many interests in life always kept a great sense of humor no matter how bad her day was and I think that was a secret to her happiness and longevity. So know that wherever you and Zara go (and Maggie) that you have our love and support. You're a great inspiration.

  • @TeresaGuerrero115
    @TeresaGuerrero115 2 роки тому +1

    I'm so happy for you. Your personal growth is commendable and such a great example for others. As a mother of 3 daughters (the youngest being 27) and the eldest of 5 siblings, I have watched many go through this stage of life including myself. 25 is a big milestone and we all put pressure on ourselves to reach certain goals. There are many stages in life and there will be many more goals achieved and many that will not. You're doing the best thing for yourself by training your brain and ultimately protecting your heart to handle those highs and lows. This is not an easy process however you're handling it the best way possible by reaching out for support. xo Teresa

  • @helenjackson7174
    @helenjackson7174 2 роки тому

    Thank you Luke, I honestly and genuinely feel having watched this haul that in the few minutes you were talking you have made me think differently about my life and I truly think I will now get up every morning feeling happier as I now believe my life will become better in the future, like you I was planning on moving from somewhere that's making me unhappy and now that's having to be put back a couple of years but listening to you has changed my thought process so thank you Luke for this very special vlog x

  • @kimrushant962
    @kimrushant962 2 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts. We all feel sad at times and so many people always hide their feelings. Sending lots of love and hugs. Much love. Kim x

  • @wendywilson858
    @wendywilson858 2 роки тому

    You brought me to tears as I feel life hasn't been very good for you and Zara. I know everyone has their problems but you've been so good at trying to save for a house. I went through a very similar thing about 12 years ago and it affected my family as I just couldn't say why I felt that way. Hope you do get your dream. X xx

  • @stephaniemoss6823
    @stephaniemoss6823 2 роки тому +1

    Sweetheart you are an Amazing young man and im glad that youve spoken about your feelings to us. Yes you will get to where you want to be and yes it will take a little longer than you had planned but you will still get to where you want to be and your mum and family and friends must be so proud of you as i am too. Sending you lots of hugs and love. Xx

  • @michelleslow5603
    @michelleslow5603 2 роки тому +11

    Luke I was feeling the same as I had plans to move and retire but due to certain things I have had to put this on hold.I found I was feeling sad and angry that I wasn’t in control of my life also soI started writing down 3 things every morning that I was grateful for and started listening to some mindfulness podcasts maybe this might help you to.I love watching what you and Zara get up to that also puts me in a good mood.sending love to you❤️🇦🇺

    • @LukeCatleugh
      @LukeCatleugh  2 роки тому +1

      I’m so sorry Michelle, that’s a wonderful idea though. Gratitude is always the best way🧡

  • @greytales6816
    @greytales6816 2 роки тому

    I noticed that a lot of the comments are from people 50+, this shows that you have wise words on those young shoulders of yours Luke. I am 62 and like to watch your weekly vlogs, for a bit of escapism. I am at a stage in my life where I also want to move out of a city and back to another part of the country to be near my children and grandchildren, but it can't happen yet. It is so difficult not to think about this every day, but you are right. We have to be thankful for what we have and make the most of our current situation. Our time will come. Great vlog and thanks for being so honest 🧡

  • @laraineweinberg2329
    @laraineweinberg2329 2 роки тому +1

    So happy you have found something that will help you through how you are feeling, I have experienced a few problems like you where I live and it drove me to distraction last year, but i told myself like you, I have my health which for my age (66) is not too bad, I have a lovely family 2 children and 4 grandchildren a husband. I have a lot to be thankful for enough money to do what I want to do, a warm home and food on the table. I am thankful for that especially when I see the homeless and people struggling through what is going on at the moment. May your mood continue to get better. Love to Maggie she is gorgeous 💕🐾🐾

  • @vintageresalemama903
    @vintageresalemama903 2 роки тому +1

    I'm sorry for the things that have happened in your neighborhood recently. I've had similar experiences. I'm so glad that you're learning to let go of the things you can't control and also about gratitude. I struggle with that too. It's too bad we can't just pick up our homes and move them somewhere else, but we can't. The change in mindset is definitely helpful. For me, I find that working outside in my yard lifts my spirits. I've also rediscovered reading cozy mysteries and also re-reading some of my favorite books from my teenage years are also helpful. I enjoy the escapism; it brightens my mood. Also being able to Facetime with my daughter is extremely helpful as she lives over 828 miles (1,333 km) away. I think the pandemic has changed the way many of us look at life and what's important to us. I always enjoy your videos and I'm grateful that you shared your feelings with us in this one. Take care.

  • @angesews8110
    @angesews8110 2 роки тому +1

    I appalled you with your honesty and compasion in this podcast. You will get there just be yourself . You have a wise head on your shoulders . Always look forward in life and not back xx

  • @janeklebba76
    @janeklebba76 2 роки тому +2

    I can relate to your feeling. We all will get there, it may take time, that's ok

  • @Michael_Sheldon
    @Michael_Sheldon 2 роки тому +1

    Luke, the internal work you’re doing now is so important and, you’ll find, something you need to come back to periodically as you age. Your self-awareness and seeking soul are gifts that will always set you right. Sending you a big, virtual hug. 😘🙌

  • @teresahalliday3680
    @teresahalliday3680 2 роки тому +2

    Luke, you are an impressively self-aware and mature young man. This was very generous of you to share this. You will get to where you want to be eventually. We didn't get our first house until in our forties. It will come. Hang in there! 😀

  • @M15Guys
    @M15Guys 2 роки тому

    You are a beautiful man, in touch with your feelings, empathic and sensitive to your surroundings. Thank you for sharing your emotions so candidly and championing the positives ... This is a gift for everyone sharing this with you xx

  • @paulmagus2133
    @paulmagus2133 2 роки тому

    agree with all you said, people have said i'm lucky at times, the truth is i try to make the best of the many dissapoinments we all get and smile and be positive with hope. things seem to magically improve. no-one can stop difficulties in life but one can change your reaction long term .

  • @dorispurvis4942
    @dorispurvis4942 2 роки тому +1

    Good for you Luke! A very honest and candid vlog. You are young and talented and all the things you wish for, will come in time. It’s important to show that everything in UA-cam world is not perfect.

  • @heidibay6799
    @heidibay6799 2 роки тому +1

    I can relate. I am the same star sign as you and my home is everything to me. I have been on the waiting list for a new rented apartment for 3,5 years now and still waiting. And I feel in limbo. Like I am waiting for my life to continue. And it is hard. But I try to live in the now and to make my home, my safe place, the best it can be.

  • @elainedeegan5885
    @elainedeegan5885 2 роки тому +5

    Hi Luke, Thank You for making this video . You will get there & remember we all care about you & Zara & Maggie . I struggle with my mind & I worry so much & it's so hard at time's so I understand . Take Care ❤ XX

  • @jenwilliams9453
    @jenwilliams9453 2 роки тому +1

    Hi Luke, you always come over so happy, goes to show you never know how a person is feeling inside. You are still very young, I’m sure you and Zara will be able to buy your own place before too much longer. I love watching your videos, I don’t usually comment but felt as though I needed to. Sending you lots of love and hugs xxxx

  • @sophiepaterson7545
    @sophiepaterson7545 2 роки тому

    Loved this video Luke, so honest! It's a great way of thinking! I'm in the same position regarding moving but I am trying to be grateful for the lovely home I have made and enjoy it until the time for a change comes for me!
    Lots of love xxx

  • @patriciabrackenridge2732
    @patriciabrackenridge2732 2 роки тому

    Thankyou for talking honestly and openly we all go through our own feelings of being lost and hope to find a way back , I’m currently unhappy as one of my daughters lives far away with 4 toddlers who I love and miss so much and I’m struggling with knowing it’s impossible for me to move close to her , thankyou for your words they have helped me massively today with my struggles xx

  • @altheadavis6364
    @altheadavis6364 2 роки тому

    Oh Luke. Just listened to your video and it made me cry. I am 68 years old and totally understand all you have said. You will find your happiness. Be strong. Everything happens for a reason. ❤️🙏🙏❤️

  • @Roo-s_Life
    @Roo-s_Life 2 роки тому

    Learning to let go is the key to happiness. Mindfulness and living in the moment really sets us free 💚

  • @Hannah-beth99
    @Hannah-beth99 2 роки тому

    Your are one of few UA-camrs I follow. I am so sorry you are feeling low recently, I’ve currently in the same boat. But I’m so happy you are looking at the positives rather than the negatives right now. I am proud of you for doing that, because I know how hard that is to do sometimes. Keeps being you, you radiate happiness and positive energy and I don’t think you realise! Wishing you and Zara all the best. Lots of love x

  • @thefightingfelter6456
    @thefightingfelter6456 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you for sharing this Luke, I feel the same unfortunately I know my reason for sadness, I have terminal cancer but listening to you have really given me hope 🙏❤️thank you xx

    • @dandare2586
      @dandare2586 2 роки тому

      Mrs. Dan Dare here. Sending you love as make your way along this path x

  • @codyplayzroblox6481
    @codyplayzroblox6481 2 роки тому +1

    Hi luke. Such an excellent and honest talk from you. Really helpful to everyone who isn't in a good place, because of where they live or because of their emotions. It's good to live in a supportive community, to belong to a church or any community group and to connect with others. God bless you luke.

  • @user-lp1uy4tw6p
    @user-lp1uy4tw6p 2 роки тому +3

    This video came well timed for me. Similarly to you, i find myself feeling blue by my current circumstances, some I feel out of my control. Taking your advice and I shall hunt down said podcast and hopefully find some happy too xx thank you for your vulnerability, honesty and courage in sharing how you feel.

  • @bonitaparry7249
    @bonitaparry7249 2 роки тому +2

    I know exactly where you are coming from. I feel trapped at the moment and can't see any solution. Listening to your words helped me to think about things and try not to focus on the small annoyances that make it all seems so much worse. Find pleasure in the everyday things.

  • @kitkatbrabson2794
    @kitkatbrabson2794 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you for this video, you are such a strong person without knowing it. Your honesty about your feelings and advice about the podcast make me feel human, normal and ok with me. I spend my time helping and supporting others so I don't have to think about my issues/problems. How many times I pray to win the lottery so I can change things. I have learnt over many sad years that the things worth having are inside you. I have watched your channel for a long time and want you to know you are a genuine bloke with a good heart ❤️ and you have helped me today more than you'll ever know. Keep being you! Xxxx

  • @izzyhde-santis350
    @izzyhde-santis350 2 роки тому +1

    Firstly thank you Luke for your honesty. You’re a kind soul who shows all of us a better way to be. Unlike some vloggers who only want to show a ‘perfect’ representation of their lives you’re humble and genuine nature shows through and you share your life with us. I think anyone who follows your story wants to see you and Zara be happy and settled somewhere lovely. Remember that we’ve all been through so much over the past few years that we might all be feeling wobbly for a number of reasons. I know I definitely am too, and am looking at ways to help myself readjust to life again. So thank you for recommending we check out this podcast, I’ll definitely follow that up now.
    Be kind to yourself. A wise friend once said to me that it’s ok not to feel you have to show only a happy face to the world, as it’s draining to try to keep that going when you’re not feeling that way inside. It’s okay to acknowledge it, then take a moment to take stock of all the love and positivity you do have. As if we always only ever felt joy we wouldn’t know we are happy as we’d have nothing to compare it with. Life throws us all some real challenges at times, and that’s when I reach for my ‘little book of happy’. It’s a notebook with moments I want/need to remember that give me a shot of joy. Memories of times when I’ve laughed until my tummy hurts, songs that make me happy, a list of people I love and who love me. I’ve even stuck some photos inside too. (Oh and the other thing I do is stop watching the news as I can get all too anxious about everything that’s going on. It doesn’t mean I don’t care, as I do, but there’s times I need to step back from it.)
    I’m sorry for rambling on, but I just want to say thank you again for your caring and your honesty. I wish there were more people like you in this world.

  • @naomiakulu-haulangi3502
    @naomiakulu-haulangi3502 2 роки тому +3

    Woah Luke, sounds like youve done some deep reflecting and listened to things that resonate with you. Was a vulnerable video i thought that took alot of courage. Thank you for sharing your struggles. I can relate.

  • @cathylynnpietranton
    @cathylynnpietranton 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks Luke for sharing. I needed this video. I completely understand because I'm feeling a little bit down right now myself. Dealing with some health issues.❤

  • @MildredRHolmes
    @MildredRHolmes 2 роки тому +1

    We were in London 3 weeks ago. It was a trip 51 years in the making. It started back when I read about Stonehenge in one of my books, most likely a history book of some sort. Probably during research for one of the endless term papers teachers are so fond of assigning. My sister and I had so much fun; she'd fulfilled her lifelong dream of seeing Buckingham Palace and the changing of the Guards. We got home on the 24th of July, a week before my birthday. Then had a couple funerals to attend: one was unexpected and the other was as my cousin had cancer. That funeral was Thursday. Since then, I've been sleeping odd hours of the day and awake during the night hours. I usually get up with the sun and go to sleep with the sun. I know, to a certain extent, what you were/are feeling. Both my sister and I crossed off an item on our list of dreams. And now we're trying to find something to put in its' place. Listening to you has helped me figure out a bit more of my "malaise" as meditation wasn't helping as much. Chii-miigwitch, many thanks, for having this chat and I will be checking out that podcast. Take care, stay safe.

  • @emlawrence226
    @emlawrence226 2 роки тому

    Well done Luke, we will always support and love you! You speak such sense and you’re so grounded. Thanks for this vid, it’s so important to self reflect, you take care of yourself x

  • @deniseallott3756
    @deniseallott3756 2 роки тому +2

    Luke, I am so glad you are finding your way again. I have followed you for quite some time and always enjoy your vlogs and watching you grow and learn and share. I think you would enjoy the videos of Professor Kim Emerson on you tube especially the one titled 'Put the glass down' ❤️

  • @marklewis8588
    @marklewis8588 2 роки тому +2

    Luke that was amazing to listen too and yeah listened to the end. It's so true with life I have had so many ups and downs and life testing you with your surroundings and life in general. But am still here postive and a different attitude as I have got older and look at things differently. You will get there Luke and Zara is such a good support and family x👍🏻