Stop Competing With Your OCD and Become The Boss
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OCD is LOUD! It tries to rattle you and the more you "fight" or try to make sense of it the more it becomes louder. Both competing to see who wins or who can be the loudest. Instead of competing what if you tried being quieter?
Topics discussed:⠀
👉 Learn to no compete with OCD
👉 What to do when your OCD gets LOUD
👉 How OCD tries to overpower you
👉 What it looks like to stop competing with your OCD
👉 Learn your job with OCD
👉 How to get the voice of OCD to be quieter
👉 What it looks like to sit through an exposure
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DISCLOSURE: Although I am a licensed therapist. This video is not intended to replace medical advice. This is for information purposes only and should not be used to replace the guidance of a local mental health professional.⠀
What works for me when bad ocd thoughts come is i say "boring...yawn". That really makes the thought lose power.
Its not working for me
The exceptions are when you starts to OCD over saying “boring...yawn”...😂
@@reservoirdograyh4n it takes time. You can’t go from constantly obsessing over something to not obsessing over it at all overnight.
@@niallkquinn4458 Or maybe because what might work for some might not work for others? We have our own individual mechanisms to cope with and/or diffusive intrusive thoughts and tendencies.
@@reservoirdograyh4n definitely. I thought you meant ERP in general wasn’t working because the only times ERP doesn’t work is when people don’t commit to it, and they usually don’t commit to it because it doesn’t provide relief. If you just mean that particular kind of thing isn’t working then yeah you should probably find something that’ll work for you.
Watching your videos makes me strangely emotional. Your tone of voice, sense of humor, and just the calm way you go about talking about OCD makes me really wish this channel had been around when I was a young teenager, when I didn't know I had OCD. I thought I was crazy for so long. I am in my 20s now and know that I have OCD and this knowledge helps, but I still feel like I lost a chunk of my life due to OCD and watching these videos just makes me so grateful. I feel like when things get bad again, I have a resource. So thank you for making these videos because they help, a LOT.
Same here!
I feel the exact same
God loves you 🙏
So now ur good ? Ur not doing it now
Same here!! But we're gonna get through this.
I think the moment you actively choose to not figure anything out and just keep going with your life is the game changer because in that moment you have the control.
I'll try that
“ I ‘m totally scared right now... wuuuuu.”
Love it
I like it! 🤪
I'll never forget that one day. To begin, my OCD is on the milder side compared to some people I've read about. My OCD was at it's high water mark around ten years ago. The obsessions wouldn't allow me to leave a room that I wasn't coming back to for a while unless I spent about twenty minutes compulsing. I was surfing the net before bedtime and saw something about someone, a celebrity, songwriter, author or whoever, can't remember the specifics. Whoever it was, I was admiring them for their talents, achievements, personality, again I don't recall. It was late and time for sleep and the obsessions woke up and started their clawing at my brain and I sat there not wanting to spend the time compulsing. I said to myself "this is so exhausting, I want to be like so and so", (the individual I was admiring). That thought led into all people who don't have OCD. I want to be like them. And so I did what people without OCD would do. I let go of the mouse, turned off the light, used the bathroom and went to bed. My intrusive thoughts were in a rage, the anxiety clawed physically up my back tensing my muscles. I wanted to give in but I held my ground thinking I want to be like everyone who is free, and those I admire. I literally stuck my tongue out at my OCD while laying in bed. It's as if the thoughts got bored with me and went off to torment someone else. I kept this up, day after day, my very own personalized form of ERT. Over time my OCD got way better. Way! Better! It's not gone. I still have what I call "tender moments with my OCD". I just sometimes forget to explain to the thoughts that I'm more interested in being like people without this affliction than to spend time with them (the obsessions) and find myself, out of habit, compulsing. But when I remember, I simply say, "nope, I want to be like this guy, or that lady. It gives me the power to walk away while the thoughts continue to try and dig their claws into my head like a feral cat. I've explained this to a friend who has more severe OCD. She said no way would that be all it takes to see some improvement. I told it to another friend who has this affliction and he said "I don't even think about that crap anymore", he's on medication now. So, I realize we are quite a spectrum. But this is my story, and I'm sticking to it. Because it helped. ERT helps.
I'm proud of u my friend..💛💕
Also i would like to knw if u took any professional aid for ERT or u did it by yourself?
@@monsoonkairos234 Thanks Monsoon. I went to a psychologist once a very long time ago. I didn't go back because she seemed dismissive of OCD and was telling me it was anxiety. I thought that's fine, it's anxiety, but that seems like a big umbrella term where OCD is more specific. She never mentioned drugs or ERT as therapy. Also, that friend I mentioned above that got a prescription, gave me a book he had entitled "Brain Lock". It talked about Serotonin levels before and after therapy. It showed before and after scans. I never tried self ERT from the book although it was enlightening. It was just me being so sick of taking the time to do the compulsions along with the envy of seeing other people, (spouse, in-laws, friends and celebrities) all doing things that would take me down obsession lane. When the obsessions were loud and strong, I just pushed the thought "that nothing horrible happens to all the people in the world that don't do compulsions, I want to be like them". After what seems like a short time in hindsight, the obsessions weakened. I'm still using these tools with success. The OCD will always be with me I know, but when it rears it's head, I can push it back and keep it somewhat at bay.
@@jeffsiwicki1803 Thanks for the reply Jeff.. Best wishes ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks man ! It look like a great idea ! Im gonna try it !!
@@dror7504 I hope and pray it helps you!
I try to let the ocd do what it wants so that my mind thinks ‘oh it doesn’t give her fear’ and somehow it goes away
u are gorgeous ngl ❤️ ocd can’t tell you, you’re not
How are you now?
You have been such a big part of my acceptance with my OCD. Thank you xx
You're really saving my life with these videos
How can I thank you enough? 😭 I needed this so much!!!
this comment marks my changing point. This is the exact moment I try and change.
this comment marks that that I'm right and my OCD is wrong! this comment is the exact point from where on I won't listen to my OCD.
This comment settles that I'm not what my OCD wants me to believe! My OCD isn't representative of who I truly am, so I'm no longer giving a sh***about my OCD.
❤🙌🏾👌🏾
Well done
Man this is so inspiring and motivating! Thank you!!
Nathan you're such a gentle soul. Thanks for everything. You are very soothing in a non- reassurance assuring kind of way. 🤗 Since OCD is specialized its hard to find therapists or programs that are affordable. Only two in our area exist and I have the pleasure of having severe PTSD combined with OCD and general anxiousness which get triggered from my intense surroundings. It is people like you who help me to see that I'm safe and okay and nothing is lost. ❤
Hey I have an OCD and its hard.
The key to treat this and overcome is don't pay attention to the content of my intrusive thoughts but its hard not to argument the more I don't pay attention the more the noise so I end up answering it. But I know it will take time to practice it. Thank you for your advice and tips it's very helpful.
This is so helpful ! Thank you :-) I started to learn to accept uncertainty a little more. it is an interesting, hard and good journey.
You have helped me a lot. Even seeing you here, your presence and etc. gives some kind of relief. Thank you for this service!
Wow I never thought 6:54 could be sooo helpful I cant afford a therapist so I was forced to turn to UA-cam your channel has been a lifesaver thank u for all your videos
All the OCD guidance is great, so helpful, thank you. It helps to ignore the loud crowd and focus on the still, small voice of sanity when you can kind of just laugh at your OCD and how ridiculous it looks when you stand back from it.
But why is no one talking about how Incredibly White, Straight, and Gorgeous Nathan's Teeth are!! Nice!
I have been watching your videos a lot lately. They are so helpful. I have had contamination ocd since I was 10 years old. I am now 34 and a mother to two kids. I have tried councillors, psychologist and hypnotherapy over the years, but not one of them have been able to explain this information to me. You explain this so well and make it so easy to understand. I have started using your methods and they are helping greatly. Thank you
Plz tell which techniques u are using to cure this prblm becoz we also want to know from u by ur new experiences after applying or using methods or techniques it will definitely grt efforts to hlp others by telling us your experience 👍👍🙏🙏
thank youuuuu!!! the anxiety i get with my ocd is so unbearable that i cry breaking down sometimes when its too much!! i hurt my self, punch my self, just to be able to feel something else other than the anxiety, i wake up burses all over my body just for it to stop. this help so much. thank you!!!
I dont know if youll ever read this but thank you for being with us in this tough times. There are many content you could choose that can gather even more views but instead you focus on OCD only which only a plenty of people are aware of that they have it. Thank you very much for that your videos are very important for us.
Thanks so much for the kind words Carl!
Thank you so much for this video. I was really crying and get away from my studies bcz of these internal battle of thoughts. I was trying so much to get away from ocd but It was not working. Thanks for helping me. Good luck!
Thank you,your videos are so helpful!
I needed to find this channel so bad it just may have saved my life thank you so much.
Your vídeos actually helped me a lot. I'm 16 and i always had intrusive thoughts, but only recently i realised it was OCD and your videos helped me understand it and fight it. Now, whenever my ocd tries to act i imagine it like an ugly worm saying my intrusive thoughts in a very weird and funny voice. And whenever my ocd tries to make me doubt myself (like making me think that i'll hurt others) i think "well okay. Let it be then" and the bad things don't happen. Everytime the bad things don't happen, my ocd becomes a uglier, crustier and more pathetic worm, and life goes on.
That video saves me. Thank you! None of my terapist said that to me. And this video makes me fell peaceful again. Tahnk you so much ❤❤❤
Your voice itself is so soothing and helpful! Thank you so much
Thank you so much! I am glad to help.🙂
Thank you for making these videos, they help a lot!!🎉
Nathan Thank you so much for all of your videos!!! You are truly a blessing and have helped me and some friends so much!!! I have to make sure that I don’t come running for reassurance sometimes but my most recent bout with ocd hasn’t been nearly as debilitating as it was previously because of ocd therapy and the many tools you have shared!!! Thank you thank you thank you!!!!
You're awesome! Thanks so much!
So need some advice please. My checking once I realised I'm not fighting with had to drop. But now I check if I have checking less to tell if I'm improving. Which is still checking. I'm trying to measure my performance which in this case is whether the thoughts are not bothering me as much. Thanks
You changed my life, my life has almost resumed to normalcy. Trust me guys exposure and response works. Thanks Nathan , you are doing more good than thousands of maulvis, pastors and gurus. You changed my life and I am so much at ease.
From India
It helps so much. Can’t thank you enough.
Thank you for this video and the others you have posted. They are so helpful. Jess
Thanks Jessica! I'm so happy that it's been able to help you! I wish you the best! 😃
One thing that works for me is agreeing with the thoughts. It gives me relief tbh. “Yep, yes, definitely.”!
Your videos are great and really help me out! Thank you so much
Loved this ! Thank you so much ❤❤❤
My OCD is getting worse day by day but your videos tend to be helpful. I get some encouragement, right now I am mentally and physically drained because of it and have lost all my motivation. My brain is exhausted but I have to keep on living with this thing! I don’t even have the energy to battle with it anymore.
thank you. Your voice is so soothing and you sound so accepting and judgemental. I haven't tried your method but I will give it a try
sorry i meant non judgemental!
Thank you so much for your videos. They’re really helpful!
this video was really helpful. Thank you so much!!!
Good stuff!! Just talked with a client about this yesterday.
Awesome! Thank you!
Hearing someone else... put it into words... it's... wow... thank you... thank you so much... you get it.
Thank you for this great advice 🙏
Oh man this video is special❤thank you!
thank you man. this makes me so happy :)
Glad I could help!
Do you feel like you're always competing with your OCD? What makes you feel free? 😃
You're not a psychologist you're a psychic! Either way it's great!
That is amazing!! 👍🏻👍🏻
HAHA. Thanks! I hope you're doing well! 😃
@@ocdandanxiety sorry broo ,did you have OCD before !?
Im just frequently fighting a war with my OCD. I wonder when will it end..
I'm from India, fighting against OCD since I was 10. the battle is on. Liking your video and getting strength from it.
How r u now..?
With my logical self I say to my emotional self “Ok… you go ahead and do your thing, be anxious, I’ll wait over here and listen to this nice music & rest.” It goes away faster. So I know this technique can work.
This video was so helpful ❤️
Thanks a bunch. Your videos are awesome; they give me encouragement to overcome OCD. Thank you so much!
Wow, thank you so much for your kind words! I am so happy I could help you.
Love your style!
Thank you very much! You've helped me a lot!
This video actually helped me thank you
You can do it guys the more you understand your brain and what your going through it really does take time but i promise you will make it I just broke through right now and I plan on lasting. It feels so much better knowing it’s ocd because you can train yourself to ignore it
I’ve always had calm intrusive thoughts but recently I’ve been going through a lot to the point where my ocd wouldn’t let me leave my room . Or even talk to people becausw I was trying to meditate haha but yes do it. Just chill do what you need to to besides ruminate ❤️
Thank you for your videos. They are very helpful ♥️♥️♥️
I looove your videos. I went to the movies last night and as the movie was about to start more and more and more people started flooding in. It was busy, then people were talking, and coughing, and children crying, and the movie loud. I put in my ear plugs and watched the movie and dealt with it. your video explained that perfectly
Thanks so much Mr. Peterson. You’ve helped me immensely over the past two years and you are a grace to people with ocd.
Thank you so much for your support! It really means a lot!
Thanks for these great videos.
Nathan, you're one of my heroes
this helped me so much, thank you
Very helpful. Thank you sir.
Thaaaaaank you so much for this!
Good advice thanks
Thanks for this video very helpful
Just found out about your channel and Gotta say I love your advices and your funny reactions to OCDs it helps me fight it back by doing ERPs Thank You!
Glad to hear it! Thanks for the encouragement!
Man, you're awesome, love you 😂😍❤❤❤❤
thanks for the vid😊❤️
I've recently been researching help with my OCD after struggling with a few therapists, doing CBT and ERP - I've been really struggling because I almost feel like it's second nature to do the compulsions - Things like these help, but like compulsions, provide momentary relief, I'm super struggling to keep going, specially as it's contamination OCD and have had it for 20 years roughly, so it's all very overwhelming, though taking prozac and recently amitriptyline (which I hope in time it will help) I can finally start taking back control - It's comforting to know I'm not alone
Question: what do you do when you don't like getting relief from "agreeing" with the intrusive thoughts in order to make them stop? It starts a whole new issue of worry (IE: OCD days you think you want to hurt people, so you say "yeah, maybe I do." You feel relief from that thought, but, now you're worried that THATS how you really feel??? This is a horrible rabbit hole!
Sinai helpful..... genuinely working on me .... thanks 🙏 😃
Your voice is so calm
Hey man ı just want to thank you for posting this videos.They are really helpfull to me
Great video 😊
Hi. Idk if you'll read this or not. It's been a while since you posted this video. But I just wanted to say thank you for the information that you give.
My ocd has decided to focus on a trip I have coming up. And im learning that just because it doesn't "appear" as relationship ocd as I have experienced previously, it's still *OCD*. And I need to approach it as such.
The big problem with my recovery is getting caught up on the theme. It’s all the same it’s only trying to create fear, it’s hard to remember that sometimes. I know when it is OCD, but I just need to know that the more I react the more it’ll find new ways to scare me.
One of my problems with OCD that really bothers me is that I have to look at every mirror at our house and smile there or else I don't feel comfortable or tels me that someone's going to die if I don't do and in UA-cam I have to look at the date that it's posted and memorise it or else I'm not comfy
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You are amazing!
I love your humor!
Guys think with me: (this helps me a little hope it helps you too)
PURE O
Uncontrollable thoughts vs Controlable thinking:
You have a thought and it seems to be ATTACHED TO YOU it feels so REAL however you didnt want to have that thought so now you are AFRAID and disturbed and anxious (of course!!) and it's natural to feel all this because you are being stole from your identity!!! So with your rational thinking you say:"this is not true because I am what I choose to be,God gives me that right every single day" or "I am what I choose to be therefore this thought doesn't represent me"
If your thoughts start to ruminante on BUT'S and BUT WHAT IF... you say "Im what I choose to be PERIOD.Case closed!"
IF YOU BELIEVE IN GOD AND YOU ARE AFRAID YOU CAN EVERYDAY PRAY ASKING FOR FORGIVENESS.Tell God you dont want to be specific because it could trigger you but you want him to know that you are truly sorry.
MOSTLY IMPORTANTLY THAN EVERYTHING I SAID: FIND A PROFISSSIONAL TO HELP YOU ❤
ALLAAH Will protect his righteous servants and worshippers who put their trust in him always and try their best to please him
Thank you so much for your help Nathan, do these tips apply to all themes of OCD :) is that all we have to do whilst practicing erp just agree and accept the thoughts as they are just thoughts :)
STOP FIGHTING BACK! LET GO
Thanks Nathan your videos help
I am going to try it!
thank you so much 💖
It is exhausting
I'm sorry for what you're struggling with. 😩
Nathan it's just my handwashing compulsions
I am not gonna lie, this advice here helped me more than everything i have ever tried. An example could be such for people with ocd about contamination: “yeah, mr brain, that is indeed an extremely horrific and scary contamination i will catch if i don’t wash my hands, i will probably die because of this or suffer forever”. a week do that and you will feel much better, then your brain will automatically not be scared of intrusive thoughts, and no fear = no thoughts.
ps: applicable to every kind of ocd i believe
yep, it is the advice that helps the best and fast. Not that hard to apply too, you just have to know it and apply it. Took me 3 years to discover this and it changed my life.
Honestly I just told my self today that I’m going to forget about it ! So focus and live my life amazingly because I deserve to.
Reading the comments to find what people do.. As I'm trying to cope with my ocd and not feeed the monster. I am trying to stop and breathe, then acknowledge its just a thought and not a fact... And try to let go.. But that's the hard bit.. Letting go
Thank you so much for the help you are giving to everyone of us. All of your material is super helpful and important for all of us. I have a question about this video and ERP. What should we do if we are afraid that after we accept the thoughts although we know they are not our real us and don't react to them in any way we start to fear that this way we will accept them as real. I mean isn't the border with real and not real to thin there? Thanks again.
Thanks man 😊
Thanks ❤️❤️❤️❤️ not many people know in India and you tube is only hope because I can not tell this to my parents.
Ive come to recognisw my ocd and try and combat it with the help of therapy... I've found it difficult when there's always something new, but I really like the reminder here that my job isn't to worry about a thing I said years ago or why I did it or whether it was years ago etc... My job is to just get on with my damn life...
It's just not very easy
Absolutely love your videos. God definitely gave you a gift. 😊
And it takes alot of time for me 8 month was a got to understand the energy and 12 to 13 month when i am very comfortable with my obsessions and then later it's about actually following ur interests and doing doing what u like even if it doesn't work out hah at least u tried.
I will stop competing with my OCD and I liked and subscribed
Excellent Thanks I heard this a while ago now I'm reminded #nomorefightingocd
Thank you so so much
Yes thank u! My brain always wants to figure out if I felt weird or not good in situations which are important to me (like birthday party’s, visiting my siblings,..)🙈 So yes, I hope I will feel weird and anxious and not good in those situations, I don’t care! (Trying to do your tips haha)
I just try to let it be as much as i can and try to live through it and not do any rituals or checking because i know i will make my ocd worse in the long term. I am seeing a ocd therapist now on monday for my pocd now on monday mainly because i need help with my physical/groinal feelings wich is my worst enemy in my ocd and not the unwanted sexual toughts that i dont get. I hear how stupid it sounds but as soon as i walk by a much younger person i belive that i get a physicaland groinal reaction and get a lot of what if feelings and emotions wich gives me panic. Just because you walk by a good lookin girl you wont react that would just be weird so this is something that have to go away it`s so weird it almost sounds funny how dumb it is this whole thing is. But i guess this will go away as long as i work with it. I guess this physical thing just is a specific topic for me in my pocd and not the actual forbidden unwanted toughts wich might be something for other people with pocd or other types. Thanks for the help and i will keep fight this it will go away and it have gone away before.
I hope your therapy session goes well!
omg i so understand i have the same things too
Very useful
Thanks ❤😊 it’s just better no compulsions to reassure myself and also I am trying to take the fear response and say it’s normal the fear I just developed this month,I am trying to treat it.thnkssss I m stopping to ruminate😊
2 channels that I recommend is urs and therapy in nutshell ❤❤
I am happy 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I am blessed
Universe is full of love and abundance
I accept positivity ❤❤
He is right stop competing your thought just see the thought and ignore but when you will try to change it will become more powerfull because in your mind it seems fear thought thats why you are trying to change it
Thanks,Well im also having this thought sounds also,but ill fight it since im remember that when im doing the right positives vibe will gather,so thats voice never conquer me anymore,1st things 1st if u change the habits a small ones the small result will make smooth diffrent,thats help