Q&A : Body Image After Twins? Cultural Differences Raising Kids in South Korea?
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“Luna needs my titty” I am deaaaad 😂😂😂 y’all are killing it!
Luna crys way to much
Gotta appreciate Megan for being raw and real. She really do be giving hard insight 💯
True that. Love her so much for being real❤️❤️
I couldn't sit up for 3 months or breath/ sneeze without pain after having my twins, (normal weight,nine months twins pregnancy).They forced me to push in a lot if pain for more than 8 hrs... so cesarean surgical procedure finally.Just to tell next day to the students of medicine that ALL my abdominal muscles were torn appart for months before the birth. So I wasn't able to push in the first place.Its not only the time and means to recovery but the HEALING that takes longer.And everyone treats you like if you are fine and only made the effort for one baby and not two, just grabbing the walls with your hands as your abdominal muscles don't support you, anymore..no much left to look good though.
Hello koriand
She always been real since day 1!
You’re such a strong beautiful mamas. I love how you’ve always been so transparent and your honesty and outlook on everything is sooo refreshing.
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Can you leave the ties tied on the onesies?
@@julieseidel7044 or add some snaps.
Hello, I'm an RN student and I am so happy that you stood your ground and chose to follow evidence-based practices. Super glad your family believed you too! Your babies are gonna be good people :)
Well the 100 day tradition was sorta evidence based in those times when the baby mortality rate was much higher so to eliminate any chance for baby to get infected with any illness from outside or person. Yes this may not be as relevant today with advancement in medical technology and what not. But with COVID going around it's better to be safe than sorry.
Ooooooooh the intro has the babies in it 🥺🥰💖 Also, I appreciate this honest journey so much!!
Creatorsception... also love you're channel ❤️
Hi StarPuppy! Nice to see you here💖💖 Love to see influencers supporting each other💖💖
Hey Starpuppy! Lovely seeing you here ❤️
Isn’t it just incredible how the body can transform? I really will never get over this. These bodies are TRIPPY
ITS WILD HOW WE CAN GROW AN ENTIRE HUMAN FROM SCRATCH it's crazy
womens bodies are amazing!!
Yes! So trippy. I remember the first time I wen to the cardiologist while pregnant, I almost fell off the table when they went to my shoulder to look at my heart. I was like well when did that go there, and the tech was all nonchalant, “oh yeah, it moves when you’re pregnant.” Ummm excuse me? Why wasn’t that common knowledge, I was 30 and had been around countless pregnant women 😂
I am so impressed with your attitude about babies! Science and cultural sensitivity combined for a WIN!!!
Also, if the baby cries for a long time because of hunger, they will fall asleep from exhaustion and miss the "feeding schedule". build the parental relationship with trust and care
I bled through everything for 3 months after having my daughter, and I've never heard anyone mention that until you. Thank you for being so honest! 💓 The fact that you're already going to the gym 🏋️♀️ after just 2 months is awesome & motivating. You'll be back to your pre-baby body in no time🤗
Wow!! I bled for like 2-4 weeks after both my babies. I remember cramping, but 3 MONTHS?! 😱
Why are women obsessed with getting back the bodies they had pre-baby just months after giving birth? That's so sad. We're supposed to be focused on recovering from birth and on learning how to take care of the little ones, not on punishing our bodies even further than waking up every 2 hours to feed the baby and barely finding 10 minutes to take a dump or shower in any given day. There's plenty of time to lose weight.
@@aquarius2284 I think in Megan's case it's also a form of self-care for her. It's hard to feel like you get to do anything for yourself with the littles. Having even 15 minutes of "me time" is hard for me with a 3-year-old and an 11-year-old, let alone 2 little babies.
@@aquarius2284 Going to the gym isn't always about getting your body back, though there is nothing wrong about wanting to feel like yourself after having given up your body to another organism for 9 months(!), it's also about being active. Having twins, working from home, breastfeeding all keeps her pretty home bound. I am sure she is excited to get out and move.
Woman shouldn't be pressured to bounce back, but they also shouldn't be shamed for wanting to change. That is some BS.
@@jemxstar 2-4 weeks? I'll take it! 😅 I was really young when I had my daughter who is now 20 yrs old, but I remember bleeding for months and thought I was going to die 😭 lol. I was changing my pads every 30 min to an hour after giving birth smh It was the worst!
It's amazing to think how far you've come just as an outsider whose been watching your videos since high school. Can't say 'congratulations' to you and Mr. Moon enough on your kiddos. Looking forward to you eventually getting those million subscribers you deserver
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I’m having my c section in October. It’s nice seeing how you’ve been recovering and
Mr.Moon is killing the dad game too!
@da midwif thank you because what a weird ass comment!
Nobody is picking a date. I’m high risk pregnancy and cannot do a vaginal birth like I had the last time. I had a car accident that damaged my hip and spine. Many need to worry about their bodies instead of shaming others.
@@LeeHanHart you must not have seen that original comment they were replying to that’s looks to be deleted or that blocked us. Either way you offended for nothing
@da midwif Yeah! Some people have the very weird take that "you must pay X much pain for a baby" and c-sections are major surgery, so I don't understand why people act as if they aren't pain enough. Besides which they can't "preserve the vagina" the way some people think, because pregnancy itself is what causes people to have issues with pelivic floor, and you gotta do your exercises no matter what.
I had a vaginal birth, and while it hurt to sit, my sister had a c-section and could barely move. Birth is birth, but c-sections are not 'the easy way out' they're birthing a baby via surgery.
Since you are still bleeding a lot ... ask for an internal exam. You may still have pieces of placenta left and body is still trying to eject. Some Drs will do D&C to clean the uterus up as a last effort. I hope it doesn't need to go that far but be proactive. Feel better soon!
I was a single mom of twins. It was the best life experience I've ever had. They slept thru the night from 5 weeks and hardly ever cried. Definitely blessed.
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I’m so jealous 😍😩
It must have been really tough but this is what happens when you're not careful with your reproductive choices and not being married
@@blackirishrose4040 she doesn't need judgment from a stranger on the internet. Chill.
@@blackirishrose4040 lmao this must be a joke. Do people like you who jump to conclusions and judge without any background information really excist? God help all us people with actually brains 🧠 🙏🏼😂
It's awesome that Moon
wants to live in America,
Megan, the cultural shift
will D. E. F. I. N. I. T. E. L. Y.
be beneficial for y'all! ☺️
he dont speak english, we dont want people like that here
Like gun violence,mass commercialism and rude ppl?? As opposed to humble/polite/hardworking folk in Korea?
Korea is far from perfect but tbh the US is an absolute mess right now. Idk how moms even send their kids to school with a peace of mind because there’s so many school shootings happening.., if I were them, I’d stay in Korea. A lot of Americans are immigrating out of the States right now
the U.S. is scary rn
@@Imokayluv it’s really not that bad 🙄 turn off the news for a bit and go live life. Life here is relatively good if you’re not constantly tuned into the fear based media cycle and have a positive mindset
One thing I struggled a lot with while raising a baby in Korea was SIDS risks. I swear there is no SIDS awareness here whatsoever. My MIL wanted to pile blankets and pillows into my newborn’s crib and would keep putting them back in after I took them out. And my husband wanted to keep swaddling our baby long after she was able to roll which is dangerous. I had to really fight to get them to stop doing crap like that. It was so stressful.
There is no such thing as a spoiled baby. Babies need lots of attention and love to thrive and be secure. You are right about holding them and feeding them often. In the cold world, no one will love them like their parents. Just keep using knowledge, and a mother's intuition to guide you. I am glad you stuck to your guns. Good luck!
Huge yes to secure attachment!!! I'm an early childhood educator and we've been taught that the first year of a baby's life is the most important for creating that. Always aswering to their needs helps create it, plus you can't spoil a baby! Having their needs met is so important. So glad you stood your ground on that 😊
Watching you document your pregnancy so transparently has honestly changed my opinion of how I will [try to] think about my body during and after childbirth. I have a much more positive outlook on going through pregnancy now. Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us.
Just prepare your body before and be fit and healthy and after as well and you'll be fine. So much easier when you're fit and healthy
Also wanted to add to your great answer, that babies go through periods on "Cluster feeding". And it's a period of increased development for the baby where they are physically developing (internally and externally) exceptionally fast and they need to be fed more often. Denying them and setting them on a schedule means you're not giving them their needed nutrients during this time. For example if they need to feed 3 times in 2 hours but you already determined you need to feed them once....they're missing out on their needed nutrients!
Just thought I would add that cause I found it interesting when I learned this in my medical classes.
My husband wants my baby to be on a feeding schedule, i am breastfeeding, she is growing a lot and eating a lot. I will ignore his request because my baby will eat whenever she wants. Period. I will not risk her not having what she needs because of my comfort. F that.
In SOOO glad you stood your ground on the feeding schedule issue!!! I had a pediatrician try to tell me the same b.s. here in the USA. I just listened my gut. Feed them when they're hungry!
Now I understand the 100 day birthday! I'm happy to hear that you are doing your research and not just taking what the doctors are telling you as gospel like the whole feeding thing. I would get so upset with people who did that or try to schedule napping in the infant stage. You and Mr. Moon are amazing parents and incredible together. You guys are so sweet!! Subscribers xo's sent to Luna and Rubin.
My sister had twins and before them, she had 3 kids all of them are under the age of 6. When I go in her house it's so filled with love and joy from the kids and I can tell that even though it's exhausting, she loves every minute of it and wouldn't change anything 💕 so seeing happy families makes my heart swell with joy 💖
As a person who grew up in a very unstable environment, watching her happy, planning, accepting how her life flows , gives me an easy feeling and soothes my anxiety . I don't want a family on my own , but watching her teach me it's not that bad after all💙 I wish you the best Megan , you so strong and truthful, I'm so proud !
I’ve said this before but for all my mamas; pelvic floor therapy was life changing for me!!! I firmly believe all women should have access to it especially after birth. My pelvic floor therapist taught me and helped me in ways my OBGYN never would have even tried. If you have any incontinence, pain with intimacy, lower back pain, diastasis recti, etc, I’m telling you pelvic floor therapy might do wonders for you!!
Megan, would you be open to doing a video on postpartum fitness? I recently had surgery on my uterus and I can relate to the non stop bleeding (finally stopped a few weeks ago) and the horrible cramps. I use to do kettlebell pre surgey but now idk what to do to get back into the swing of things without injury or bleeding but I've gained soooo much weight from the bed rest after surgery. Wishing all of you Moons 🌙 the very best!! You guys are doing a great job.
I can’t wait to see the little ones as they grow! Mr Moon seems like such a good papa 💜
You’re beautiful girl!! Still so happy for you and Mr Moon! Hello from Orlando Fl
Orlando whoop! I went to UCF. It’s my second home hehen
@@MrsMeganMoon Same! Florida girl for life
I'm so happy that you spoke about attachment parenting and how meeting your babies needs leads to secure babies! They don't need to feel scared because they KNOW you will help them. It is proven to build healthier and happier babies, who grow into healthier, happier adults.
Be careful when you're working out at the gym. The incision heal from inside out and takes about a year to fully heal (I had 2 of them) and prayerfully you don't develop scar tissues.
BTW, the more you breast feed the faster your stomach goes down and the clots will also come down faster but, the contractions sucks 😕
Take your time healing and enjoy the babies it's all so worth it. Regards from the Big Apple 🍎 😀 🤗
Thanks guys🥰
@Taiwo Omotosho yes. That too.🙂
Yikes. Should just be walking for now. I had a very easy birth and am fit too .. but my legs were still jelly at this time. Took effort to get back into just walking first
You are a legend! You left your mark on Korea. You made America proud. Congrats to you and your husband ❤️
I like the fact that the baby crying in the background wasn't edited out (as a mom I'm sure theres also a time constraint with how much editing can actually happen nowadays 😅) Real life happens and it's refreshing to see it on UA-cam esp now that so many channels put on a glossy exterior. Happy for the growth of your family.
10:42 THIS. I regret trying to schedule our baby early on. Baby is unhappy, milk production issues, etc. I listened to the wrong folks with old school mindsets. Glad you know better, and are so open to share.
Edit to add: How open are moms about post-partum depression? I stateside Asian communities are finally being more open about mental health. Is PPD in S. Korea discussed, or taboo, or...?
Asia is very closed off against mental health in general (improving but..) so ppd is a bit brushed aside and people don’t seek help as much
I laughed so hard when you grabbed the mic. It was like you and the baby in competition to see who can be the loudest.
I'm so glad you're feeding your babies on demand, I did the same with all of my children. You will find people always give you advice on what they did and how things should be. You are their mother and you naturally know what is right and the best thing for them. Just keep doing what you're doing. And well done, breastfeeding is time consuming but nothing compares to it ♥♥♥
Oh Luna has some lungs! Bless her! It's so nice to hear someone who feeds on demand. When I had my daughter, I fed her when she wanted and I felt she definitely slept better and was happier. I have a few friends who fed on a time schedule and only a certain mount of milk per feed, let them cry and I just couldn't understand it! It's great to see you all doing so well ❤
You’re doing amazing. You guys are keeping 2 brand new people alive and safe and healthy and that takes a LOT. You guys are great parents and I’m so glad you include us in your journey.
Many working moms shared this: "When I'm working, I feel guilty leaving my babies. When I'm with my babies, I feel guilty neglecting my work. So, I'm never fully present wherever I am and it's a constant guilt trip for not being able to give my 100% to my job and babies." It's a tough place to be for working moms. Most working dads don't share the same account.
I’m so inspired by how you just 👏🏽 get 👏🏽 things 👏🏽 done! From how you moved your whole life and assimilated in another country, learnt a new language so fluently, your fitness journey, marriage, and now motherhood… honestly it’s so inspiring!
I have been watching you for a long time, it’s amazing to see you with your family.. it’s like we grew up together because I’m married with kids now too..
I loveeee your philosophy on parenting and feeding. I’m 9 months pregnant and learning from you and your family! Thank you for sharing the ups and downs but staying so positive, it helps a lot
Megan, I’m praying over the whole family, but especially you. Postpartum hit me hard and I’m praying that you dodge it ❤️🙏🏾 and keep happy and smiling forever
Making humans is hard work! Baby girl was hard mad at the end! 😂 I love these videos because it feels like some friends gathered and just having some honest conversation. Wishing you and your family all the best. Parenthood is hard but worth it. ❤
Hello Katrina
Megannnnnn gurlllll I’ve been checking your channel daily for updates! It’s lovely to see that you and Mr. Moon are getting into the swing of things with the babies! You are doing such a great job 👏🏼!!
After 3 babies I was able to get back into 👙competing 💪🏼. It can be done!! Give your body time and appreciate all that it has done. I’m so proud of you mommas ❤️
Thanks for being open and transparent. You and Mr Moon are doing a fab job. The fact that you're still able to create content for your fans is amazing.
Haha so interesting!!! Can't wait to meet them!
Thank you so much for your transparency it’s so refreshing to see what real motherhood and postpartum is for most of us, I also had my first baby last year via c section and my stomach took months to go down and I bleed for almost two months as well just last week am 1 year postpartum I’ve lost most of my baby weight but I do have a lot of extra skin and a little mom pooch unfortunately I do have scar tissue and it does hurt my abdominal area a bit, but am just taking this journey one day at a time, recovery takes time again thank you for being so relatable and honest with your experience the babies are so cute btw sending love from Puerto Rico
You guys are doing an amazing job. I’m happy to be able to be apart of your journey of parenthood through your videos. And as for your body image (although easier said than done) don’t beat yourself up too much for not being how you were before. You just had 2 beautiful babies so give yourself some credit. This is coming from a single mother of 2 girls.
Megan THANK YOU for talking about the feeding schedule!! So happy for y'all 💗
Finally!!!!
I have been checking for a video everyday for the past 2 weeks+
I'm learning a lot watching you, Megan. Thanks for inviting and answering questions; it's interesting to hear about your experiences and also how you're all getting on. We really appreciate you making time to make videos!. 💕
I love that you found information in Korean so that everyone can understand. You two are doing great! I’m so happy your able to find time for yourself that was the biggest mistake I made. No time for myself.
I love how open and real you are in opening up with these Q&A’s.
Thank you Megan and Mr. Moon for sharing your time with us !!!!!💖💗💗💗💗💗
Whoa I can only imagine the duties of two tiny joyful bundles 💘 Glad you all are doing so well. We 💕💕💕 love 💕💕💕 love 💕💕💕 love you girl!
Your doing great Meagan!! Feeding newborns on demand is very important… you can’t really put them in any kind of schedule until they are about 4 months old anyway… and the schedule then is a rolling 4hr rotation of feed, diaper, interact, nurse/feed again and nap… and that’s only as they start spending more time awake during the day. Proud of you for trusting your maternal instinct and sticking to your beliefs about the babies well being. Praying for your lovely little family.
I’m a grandmother and I want to say you are brilliant, funny and so helpful. I can’t wait to share this channel!
"Are you okay" The loaded question of it all. I reacted the same way and I didn't have twins.
More videos of babies please!!!!
Thank you for your transparency and honesty. You don’t hear a lot of women speaking about what your body goes through or what you are going through in general after giving birth. You & Moon are great parents and it’s amazing to see how the kids will be nurtured & cared for with the mix of both cultures and personalities. I will be praying for healing, recovery and peace in your minds and hearts. Thank you for bringing us on your journey!
LMAO!!! You took me out with pulling the mic down. Thank you for your sharing perspective and experience. We adore you both (all)!
Got to do what I can to keep filming lol
Woooow it's been a long time! I can't believe you're a mama now...축하합니다! 🎉💐
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@@MrsMeganMoon I've been a fan since the beginning so it's amazing to see all the changes you've been through.
You’re a champ for having twins. I’m pregnant with my first baby & I’m already overwhelmed watching my friends with their newborns. I’m excited to have my baby girl in the fall 💕
Megan, I need more content😭😭😭. I’m preg with twins and hearing you talk about it makes me excited
Yes, feeding is on demand the first months and breastfeeding and sink to skin contact creates a bond with your child. I learned this in child development courses. Cramps can sometimes be attributed to your stomach going back to how it was before.
Love the new intro with the babies! Congrats to you and Mr.Moon!
Your answer to "are you okay?" is so relatable! I totally understood everything in your look and I remember when I was there in the early days. I hope you are able to take in what everyone is saying about what a great mom you are and how well you're adjusting because it's really true. And I super appreciate how transparent you're being. It's really crazy how differently we look at life after we've brought babies into it but you're educating everyone that watches your channel and that's huge!!
Also if the childcare/preschool situation is anything there like it is currently here, it's never too early to start thinking about where you want to send them when you'll be ready. I felt the exact same way as you described for at least 6 months - no wanting to be away from my baby and not seeing the value in work compared to the value of caring for him myself. Then as he started developing a lot and becoming more and more like a toddler i.e. after he turned 1 I was really wanting him to be in a program that helps him grow mentally/socially even more. we applied to some preschools that I picked for him after a lot of research when he was 9 months, and they won't have a spot for him until fall of next year when he'll be turning 3! These waitlists are crazy. not sure if it's the same in Korea/where you live.
I love your honesty. It’s a breath of fresh air.
The babies finally made it into the intro!! 🥰 This was the update I was waiting for 😆💜💜
I’m glad your back!! You’re doing great!!
Thanks for always being transparent. Again, thanks for taking us into your life and sharing important moments with us. All the best to you children and your family.
LOL, I had children in Japan and those baby clothes were da bomb! If you choose the little gowns, lay it flat and opened, lay the undershirt inside it, then baby on top, put the arms in, then start tying. The outside gown was usually press studs. So easy, throw it open to change diapers and you were all done!
I was also charged separately for the diapers I used in the hospital. One day a van rolled up to my gate and he handed me a bill for approximately $70 for diaper service.
Cool was, you could use cloth diapers and pop the used diapers and cover pants in a special bucket and they’d collect and drop off clean ones.
Yes a different but nice experience.
That's awesome that you're open to other's ideas and stand up for yourself and what's best for them. Good for you!
Don’t worry your body will go back in a year :) it took 9 months and it was two beautiful babies!! That was amazing you were able to keep them and deliver them full term ☺️☺️ your body is truly amazing!
Was looking forward to this video Megan! You are glowing and you look so beautiful girl! ❤️
I’ve been watching Meghan since 2014 and it has been such an awesome journey! Congratulations and I pray strength over you and Mr Moon to take care of the babies❤
Ive been watching your videos for years, you actually inspired me to keep studying korean 🥲 Im so happy for you guys, your babies are so cute and most important, healthy ✨ congratulations and thank you for being honest and transparent!!
Greetings from Lima, Peru! 🥳💫
Really really appreciate this honesty, it’s very refreshing x
Was awesome, thank you so much for making the time to chat to us 💜💜
In South Africa, we have been demand feeding babies for decades (I am a midwife). Some private clinics will help new mums create a feeding schedule so they can get some rest in between feeds, but they would only usually start something like that from about three months, and it’s mostly with bottle-fed babies. If a baby is on the boob, it should be demand fed (that’s how our bodies know how much milk to produce), and that is what we are taught to teach our mums. Most babies are breast fed here too. Bottle feeding is fine, and each mum must do what is best for her and her baby - a happy mum is very important, so I would never judge - but we really do encourage breast feeding.
You guys are doing great, some stress is normal of course, especially when everyone is exhausted, but it’s heartwarming to see how you are taking all these changes and challenges in your stride - it’s it’s brilliant that you have such a supportive hubby, and in-laws!! You look beautiful, btw 🤗🤗
I'm just happy for you all, looking forward to seeing the Bowens.
And the twins getting bigger & interacting with one another.
Loved the video, Megan! Excited for just any content post birth, it’s so interesting :)
Thank you for sharing your pregnancy journey and experience with us Megan ✨
Congratulations Moon family! Enjoy this beautiful time.
Can't wait to see your post pregnancy work out series! It's gonna be fire!
The way you explained responsive feeding ! Super important for infant development. Your doing amazing 💖 love watching your journey through motherhood.
Yes secure attachment is sooo important. I took a family studies course recently and it was crazy to learn how important it is and how important the first 2 years of life are.
Girl you have me hanging onto your every word. Go ahead and do your thang. Congratulations on the beautiful babies and I adore how you and Moon are working it out!
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So happy to see you and the family! I love everything about this q&a and really helpful too
You’re so funny and real. 😂 I love how you sped up answering the questions at the end in order to get to Luna.
I love that you advocated for your babies regarding that feeding schedule issue! I love to see it!!
You are such a lovely family, when I watch you I feel like you are a role model for so many things that I wish I was. I wish I had your patience, your liveliness, your maturity, watching you brings me joy.
Love your videos, Megan. You're doing such a wonderful job. I love how thoughtful and considerate you are. That Mr. Moon be one lucky man!
MEGAN!!!!!!! YOU ARE GENIUS! Thank GOD you're parenting style is BABY'S NEEDS FIRST! Love this! You're doing such an EXCELLENT job!!! Way to go Mr. Moon!! Such a lovely couple!
Yey! New video! I hope you guys are having the best time possible! 😀🙏
I hope you feel better soon Meg 💕 congrats on your beautiful family!
The new intro is so cute!! With the babies and kitties. Loved the update on everything and hope you guys continue to do well! I will say that next to the attachment to the baby, at least in the States, moms staying home can be a because of finances. Child care is very expensive and even more so now, so a lot of times it's cheaper to actually stay home and watch the baby yourself. If your entire income would be sucked up by having someone else watch your baby it doesn't make sense for some families.
Hello dumbdumbpop
Im sooo happy for you guys!! God bless your little family!!🥰😘
So proud of you as a new Mom standing up for her kids needs! However twins bond also so let them sleep together when you can.
Thank you so much for always being so open and honest and sharing so much. You look so happy I am so glad for you and Mr Moon
You're right about the feeding schedule. It's more about the parents' convenience than it is for the child.
I've been watching you for so long and it's just so nice to see how much you've grown. Those babies are beautiful. Luna wasn't playing though haha.
You look amazing for a woman who just had twins, beautiful. Loved the questions and especially your answers!
You are so amazing Megan❤️you created two absolutely perfect wee babas❤️ your so real with us and that’s what I love about your vids please never stop making videos! I’d be lost without you😭❤️xx
Love the openness and honesty. Being a new mum is soooo hard. Not only are you now responsible for the lives of these children, you have to deal with the changes in yourself and relationship. Word of mum advise, remember to take care of yourself. I swore by 10min alone time a day, 1 hr alone time a week and 1 date a month (with hubby). To be the best mum you can be, you need to be the best you first.