photoshopped 'hotter' to asian beauty standards
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Ok but that first person being like "I don't feel comfortable editing your body shape" is an icon. Not useful for the experiment, but still an icon 😅
I’m Chinese-American and I totally was expecting some skin lightening with the amount of colorism in society throughout the wide array of brown groups. I thought it looked like two of them made your skin darker which was very interetsting.
I was wondering what would happen if she asked an editor to darken her skin (with no other changes) and then send the darker skin tone pictures to other photo editors? Would they then lighten her skin more or leave it as is?
If she had sent photos to an Indian person they would have definitely made her skin lighter.
I think the Indian ideal might be caramel colour skin, not 'as light as possible'? Maybe her skin colour is already pretty close to that. But I know some Indian models' pictures get made lighter.
@@crossgame9479 I did kind of wonder how much the editor's own race / internal biases might have played a part in what they chose to do with skin tone. Just asking someone to google images of a beauty standard from a race or culture that is not ones own isn't going to automatically override internalized assumptions and biases. I wasn't particularly surprised by the skin darkening because I feel like it's a common thing amongst western/white beauty standards for "tanning" to be popular. (Like... be white, but darker? I guess?)
There might also be some color theory thing I don't know enough about that makes it easier to smooth out skin towards the darker end of the skin's natural color palette vs the lighter end.
@@raapyna8544 god, if only. The lighter you are, the better. There's a whole white woman that's a popular actress in Tamil movies because only fair women are pretty, apparently 😭
I actually much prefer the unedited version of the first edit. It just looks like you, and incredibly beautiful ❤️❤️❤️
Came here to say the exact same thing! Shaaba, you look soo beautiful in the unedited version. ❤
Agree! The edited version makes you look generic.
The photoshopped ones are all very uncanny valley creepy. She looks gorgeous in the originals!
had to leave a comment saying exactly that. the edited photos just don’t…. look all the way natural, or human.
Shaaba is objectively gorgeous + attractive as she is. it’s weird to see the edited ones.
Same here, the edits feel so uncanny to look at!
It's usually not that difficult for most people to clock a retouch if they are specifically looking for it, but I think the danger of that is that when we're scrolling social media or magazines, we DON'T scrutinize photos in that way. We are self-conscious by nature (or rather nurture), so we immediately jump to comparing ourselves to the photo, without stopping to evaluate the photo itself.
Yes, this! I agree that if you are LOOKING, you can probably tell where retouching has happened, but not in passing bombardment or scrolling.
You can train your brain to consider this more. When you see a picture just stop for a moment, look at it and remind yourself. Slowly you will learn to just go past them thinking "it's not a real picture anyways, I don't need to feel any way about it" and then you don't even have to think that, you can just scroll past unless it's something that interests you for other reasons.
I think it's also impacted by the phenomenon that even if you know something is a lie, if it's repeated often enough you start to believe it a little bit. We may be able to spot the fake photos, but that doesn't stop the constant barrage of them from normalising certain beauty standards in our minds.
Plus the fact that you usually see photos with make up and good light, but you see yourself also when you've just woken up and look in that one mirror with the terrible light that highlights all your pores and pimples xD
I prefer your original photos. Don't get me wrong, the edits were good, but you are such a beautiful lady, and you are such a positive role model for young teens, such as my daughter. As the saying goes "beauty is in the eye of the beholder." ❤
Yeah I think her original photos would be just as pretty with some good color grading or toning.
Also, I think that what the edits (at least the first two) lost, was the character of the picture, which actually gives it its life and makes it vibrant. The retouched versions, reminded me of posters for Disneay Channel, not real pictures.
you are BEYOND sweet 🥺💛
Thank you for sharing, I'll always do my best to reflect the positivity I want to see! Hope you and your daughter have a lovely weekend x
This made me realize how much I don't like photoshop in the context of detailed photos because I've grown to love the natural flaws and beauty marks of each human being.
This right here!
The little "flaws" are what makes the person real. I often love the features of people that they don't like themself, because usually those are what are different about them and tells them apart from other people. I love a big nose, strange ears and a nice belly, birth marks and moles, scars, wild hair and all so to say ethnical features (like middle eastern noses! So pretty! African hair is amazing and native Americans have often such a beautiful face shape).
I suffer from pretty bad face blindness so it's really hard for me to tell apart people I don't know and it can take me minutes to recognise someone even if I knew them once.
Its what makes people so beautiful as exactly as they are. Beauty standards are boring. People who follow them look all the same. I love to have a wide variety of different looking people around me, it brings me joy to see all that distinctive, individual beauty.
My heart actually dropped a bit when you said you look objectively unattractive in the first pic… you look so pretty in that picture :) like you wouldn’t look good edited either if you didn’t look good to begin with !
my heart also dropped. i dont think it's very easy to say someone is "objectively" unattractive when everyone has their own biases, which is inherently *opinion*-based!
Shaaba thinks she looks like a disney princess in the changed version, but we all know she looks like a disney princess always
As an anglo person with very fine, thin, slow-growing hair I can say thick hair definitely is a western beauty standard. There has never once been a hairstyle aimed at me in any hair magazine I have read. I have been dismissed and insulted by so many hairdressers that I literally haven’t been to see one in 12 years. I just pull my hair to the front and trim it myself, roughly every second year. I get about half a teaspoon of snipped hairs. I can encircle my whole ponytail with my little finger. It’s pretty hard to “add volume” to get the “normal” look, I generally don’t bother. Tough luck to anyone who’s offended that I don’t “make the effort” to meet their expectations.
as a fine haired person, I 100% agree. sometimes I can make my hair look voluminous in photos but that's only because you can pull it forward and fluff it up and you don't see the fact there's none in the back lol. I try to feel better about it but it's hard.
I agree and I think that's why hair extensions have become so popular - not just for length but for volume. And we have so many "volumizing" shampoos and styling products.
That may be an unusual thing, but I really like fine hair in people. It usually feels much nicer to the touch and reminds me of fairys. I have a beautiful friend with very fine hair, which fits her overall appearance so very well.
Naturally thick hair looks good on people but naturally thin hair does look good, too.
It has a more tender and fragile attractiveness but that doesn't make it less beautiful.
I like fairyhair.
@@TheLadycaramell1995 That’s such a nice comment o///o💕
I'm sorry to hear you've had such a hard time with hair dressers, that's really not ok. It speaks to their lack of skill if they can't work with fine hair.
I would agree, thick hair is a western beauty standard - but only worn the "right" way. Too much curl/too big, too "unkempt" is also deemed unacceptable.
"Im still feeling some kind of way about these photos, and im feeling some kind of way about feeling some kind if way" honestly my fave line in this whole video. Self love is such a long non linear journey, but honestly, getting to a point where you are aware about the feelings u feel being brought out. Bc then once u know those internal thought are still living in you you can finally address them and start unlearning them again
What I realized is that I never want to have a photo of me retouched like that! Lol
I have enough of a challenge thinking positively about how I look as it is. The fact that you, Shaaba, felt worse, is a bit shocking to me. I like the originals much better than the "idealized" pix. 🙂
I have a friend on snapchat who only uses filters. And I hate them because they don't make me look like me. But she loves them, because they don't make her look like her
Yup, same- and I've been thinking I was going to before watching lol.
This is such a fascinating experiment, and you're so brave for taking this on! As an artist and an asexual, I'm so used to looking at humans just how they are and just accepting them, so it was really weird and uncanny to see someone I'm used to seeing unmodified in such a photoshopped way! I'm chubby and I am very accepting of my body and all my own "imperfections", but I do not think I have the guts to try an experiment like this.
i also come from a mauritian family!! and colourism is such a huge thing. my mum was made fun of by her sisters growing up because she was significantly darker than them. and she told me once that she’s glad me and my brother are a lot lighter than her, which is really sad because she’s so beautiful the way she is
exactly!!! i’m very light skinned and we live in England compared to my mum
I have to say I prefer the og photos to all the 3 edits you showed. Because the thing about "standard" beauty is that it takes no account to what makes an individual beautiful. In your case it's your smile and your personality that really shines through in the og photos, but in all the edits the smile looks fixed and the personality is just... gone. Really helps remind you that the pictures on magazines etc are unachievable by default, because they aren't "real", and not even the models themselves look like that!
What you're describing at 8:12 is probably what a lot of models/celebrities feel like when they see themselves on magazine covers, etc.. Those pictures are always edited and it's a relief to remember that we are comparing ourselves to sth. that doesn't even exist in real life. 😅
I know it probably just sounds like something one would say to be nice, but I just wanted to say that I genuinly think real you looks more beautiful. The edited ones are beautiful too, but I would prefer real you over them. Super interesting video!
Beauty standards by culture are such a fascinating topic while also being sad to contemplate too much! Thank you for such a thoughtful exploration of the subject.
i love your videos!! my boyfriend introduced me to you and Jamie, and not only have you guys helped me accept myself as trans, but you’ve provided so many laughs and lessons along the way ♥️ you guys are awesome!!
I grew up with both parents working in visual marketing, therefore I knew about photo editing very early on, and was able to do a convincing job on my pictures or those of friends ever since I was a teenager. So I tend to notice immediately if a picture is edited, they are EVERYWHERE, and... it gets boring because everything tends to look the same in the end (nothing wrong with the features deemed conventionally attractive themselves, I'm talking about the over representation and over glorification at the expense of more diverse types of beauty). To me, the curve of your nose (I've got kindof the same thing going on and hated it as a teen) is totally one of your most attractive features, like those lines under your eyes, as well as the roundness and plumpness... look, you just look like a delicious cupcake, don't change a thing!
I'm with you on how BORING everyone looks bc they're trying to reach one ideal. It's the same skin filters, the same waist filters, the same exact hair style, the same makeup, the same poses. It's so uninspiring and dull.
I'll look at those magazines and sometimes it'll take me a whole minute to recognize the celebrity they edited to look like someone else.
To me, the most attractive people are the ones with a really distinctive look. Because of globalization and general easier access to shared media, everyone started doing the same stuff with their make up and hair. There are beauty trends that everyone starts to follow and I just get tired of everyone looking the same. But it's more than that. Most people get braces so everyone tends to have very straight teeth. So many people reject wearing glasses so we don't see a lot of people who embrace their eyewear and it's sad because some people just look better in glasses, myself included. I get tired of everyone looking exactly the same.
I had a friend/former coworker who was so beautiful. She wasn't conventionally attractive, but that was a big part of why she was so beautiful. She was a woman of color and she had these stunning green eyes, a smattering of freckles, and she had a gap in her front teeth and this wide, infectious smile. She never thought she was ugly, but I remember her saying that none of the things that I thought were so pretty about her were things that made her attractive, they were just kinda there. But to me, it's the unique features that make someone so attractive. I try not to Photoshop my own pictures beyond minor touch ups because I'm definitely not the most attractive person, but I'm uniquely me and if I edited my pictures I wouldn't look like myself.
100% agree on how "same-y" the results of these globalized beauty standards & high degree of image manipulation seem. When I scroll through a page of various Instagram 'influencers', they all look to me like plastic dolls from the same product line?
Wow, the photos were a lot more subtle than I thought. I’m trans and I wonder what an idealised photo of me would look like? I feel it could be a slippery slope as we have enough issues and regrets but I do wonder if they would mirror my own mental image of myself.
You look more natural (not the "no-make up looks better" kind of natural, but more natural expression and posture etc.) and comfortable in the original, which I personally find more aesthetic.
South Asian Beauty Standards? I have a thesis on this because it’s ridiculously complex.
Yeah. The colorism seems to be ubiquitous, but I feel like one could write completely separate theses on e.g. Indian beauty standards vs Korean ones, just to cite two examples that are very influential due to music & movie industries?
its kinda refreshing to me to hear you mention nonbinary people in a way that's so casual and integrated into your sentences, because a lot of the time they are an afterthought. like "men, women, ... oh and also nonbinary people too I guess." It's just nice to be acknowledged in a way that's nice and not awkward.
as I have had an apprenticeship in graphic design and am currently finishing about my bachelor (plus working in this field for 10+ years) I do see more easily whenever people have edited their photos. And this extend is what my tachers called the "ironed skin" and "magazine cover" edits. I always love the before pictures more, as they feel more genuine and it's absolutely wonderful to see that others agree. It's very much terrifying how well filters have gotten and how much they get under the "skin" of anyone using Social Media, feeling like they are "not okay" or "wrong" the way they are. (I'm taking gender dysphoria out of the equation here, of course)
There are ways to make beauty and skin edits less seen, but that also means there won't be actual physical changes.
I love to see when people I have photographed wanted little editing (maybe a pimple or colour correcting to match the lighting and such) and felt comfy with the pictures I made ;W;
I’m much older 64 and have found massive freedom in
Not needing to be beautiful. I can still dress up but I am in no competition. I just enjoy. I love to see beautiful young people and have a much more diverse idea of beauty than I had when young!
This video reminded me, I have such a weird relationship with editing my own photos. I used to try things like changing my face to be more "attractive", but then I would feel like absolute trash afterwards. Turns out I was changing my face to look like what I was attracted to, but not how I wanted to look. The trash feeling was dysphoria, OOPSIE 🤡.
This is why the road to hell is paved in comparisons! We always feel worse when we're comparing ourselves to something else. Even if that something else is an edited version of us. Shaaba is GORGEOUS, stunning and prettier than the edited versions! The photoshop versions seemed to reflect a lot of Western beauty standards too: skinny/elongated/lots of hair...
This video was soooo interesting!! You should try this with Jamie, reacting to edited couples photos. It'd be super interesting to see how the other person reacts to their partner's edits, whether they notice it as much, etc. I don't know if I'm just really bad with faces (I am) but I didn't notice the changes made THAT much. I would've definitely been one of the people that scrolled through Instagram and thoughts they were unedited (at least the first and third, the middle one was pretty obvious). Also as a sidenote, I absolutely LOVE the original version of that first photo, you look stunning!
🩷 Lovely Shaaba, I do hear what you're saying, and I appreciate your courage in waiting to see the edits until we were online with you. I so agree with you that the smoothed, mono-colorized skin made the end result look rather cartoony!
Me, I much prefer and admire you, the 👑 🩷 💛 ☀️ Original Shaaba 💛 🩷 👑 Beautiful Peach you are! 🍑 PS Sorry if that sounds like a compliment from Yoda...but it was sincere! 😊
I have to add my voice to the many saying they love the first photo, completely unedited. I feel like we sometimes prefer "perfected" photos of ourselves but unedited photos of others. We're more likely to be critical of tiny details of ourselves but others, especially those we love, we take in as a whole. Even if we think someone is attractive, I think we frequently aren't breaking them down into individual body parts the way we tend to when being critical of our own appearance. I also think that when you like or care about someone, you prefer the images of them that you're used to. In the first photo, it looks like Shaaba, and I really like her (and, of course, she is an attractive person, too), so I like the photo.. I don't know who the person in the edited photo is. Like she said, the Disney Princess version of Shaaba. I don't think the edited one is bad or anything but, subjectively, I just prefer the one that looks more like the Shaaba I know.
I worked as a graphic designer for an agency who had quite few fashion brands as their clients.
I remember one of the photo shoots we had to work with to make a catalogue had, as models, a real professional model and her celebrity boyfriend.
They were both gorgeous but still, we didn't have much to do on the professional model because she just knew how to pose (I remember one particular pic where we only had to delete some flyaway hair), while her boyfriend was a "mess" in that sense.
Thank goodness photographers take hundreds of pics (especially when they're dealing with a beginner) because so many were unusable.
So my point is, no matter how beautiful or confident you are, you'll always going to get retouched in a fashion photoshoot if modeling isn't your job so don't bash yourself up because the main reasons why you don't like how you look in a pic are that you don't have the perfect lighting, a good professional photographer and you'll probably wouldn't know how to take advantage of them even if that was the case
With the second edit, I’d argue that the unedited picture is not the best reflection of how you look, because the lighting isn’t “flattering” whereas the lighting is on point in the edited one
This reminds me a lot of this AI photo challenge that everybody did on instagram a while ago. Can’t remember what the IA was called but you’d feed it photos of you and it would generate essentially cartoon images but some looked hella like edited photos. Apparently we all need to be thinner, taller and more square jawed. 🤷🏻♀️
The moment I read this video's title, I was OUTRAGED, I was like "How dare they?? Shaaba is already gorgeous!!" I thought someone had tried to bully you or something. Glad that wasn't the case at all, haha! I was ready to throw fists! That being said, this was a really interesting experiment. Quite bold of you to subject yourself to that, I can see that being a blow to anyone's self-esteem, no matter how much we love ourselves as we are. So thank you for doing that and for sharing it. And hope you know deep down that you're much more beautiful than any Photoshopped picture could ever be. Because you're real and you're YOU. ♥
4:44 This feels like that one episode in ‘Ugly Betty’ where this character is stretched and pulled on Photoshop.
there's so much love here in the comments section, I'm beyond grateful 🥺🍑✨
I appreciate how vulnerable Shabba is in this video. I would not have the courage to do this and I wish I did. More of this!
This makes me glad I'm roll modelling natural beauty to my kids and minimizing their exposure to social media. The other day my daughter saw her brother's grad photo with the skin smoothed (standard edit.. Did not request it). Her reaction was immediate... She's like, they changed his face, it didn't look like my brother. I thought that was really sweet but also sad. She loves his face, blemishes and all.
5:28 Of course who can forget the dance recitals where one shade of foundation was used on everyone which made some people look like ghosts.
8:37 Yes, it almost looks like a different person and not in a good way.
This is really interesting. I agree that you look beautiful in the original pictures, and that the changes that have been made are mostly unattainable things. I think your skin winds up looking a little darker in all of them, which is unexpected but a pleasant surprise that they didn't lighten it. Sadly not at all surprised that they all made you skinnier.
I had airbrushed makeup done once, and thought it was really pretty and natural looking until I took it off later and was confronted with the actual imperfections in my skin. The skin retouching really puts me in mind of that experience, and it wasn't a pleasant one.
Maybe it's the change in hair colour that throws me off, but I feel like the second edit hardly even looks like you anymore. They've changed the face so much that even side by side with the original I struggle to find you in that one.
As a Filipino who’s been constantly told by my own parents that I’m fat or have dark skin, I’ve always wanted to try this out. I’ve always wanted to know how I’d react when seeing myself in those beauty standards.
I think a big part of the look in the second one is the lighting - they make it look like it's shot in a studio with professional lights rather than in a house lit by a domestic overhead light, and that alone really changes the impact of an image even without the changes made to you. You are stunning, don't let those edits get to you!
Fascinating!!!! Thank you for exploring this!
I think the backgrounds were pretty awesome! I especially like the bi flag aesthetics of the second one. I feel like it would be cool for comparison to see your actual photos edited onto the backgrounds with no body editing, just lighting etc.
I think a thing that has massively helped me in dealing with beauty standards has been watching UA-camrs talk about historical fashion and beauty, as it's helped me understand how much things change over time. Like it was helpful to note that when everyone made their own clothes or had them tailored, size wasn't really an issue as your clothes would always fit, and therefore the beauty standards were based on having the fashionable silhouette of the time. Whereas the introduction of off the peg fashion and standard sizes mean we are now often trying to change our bodies to fit into clothes. Idk I just find that really helpful to remember!
Taking a very long historical view on these things really helps! And so can looking at the ideals across many different cultures. It very much brings to the fore how subjective & fleeting these trends can be. And how extreme & ridiculous! (Looking at something like Italian women's super-high-plucked hairlines & comparing that with something like BBLs, for example...?)
Love you Shaaba!!🩷🩷🍑🍑
I can't wait to see this process 💖
This was a very interesting video for me to watch and think about how beauty standards apply to me as well. I am half Caucasian and half East Indian, and for a long time I didn’t really think about what that really meant because I look white. However, I still have some of the features that would be considered Indian, like the bump on the top of my nose (which I am actually quite proud of), the hourglass figure, bigger eyes, etc., but because I don’t have darker skin, they don’t really make sense to people (me included). I have started to reconnect with the East Indian part of my identity and that includes changing the way I look a little bit to look a bit more Indian. I don’t mean in my skin colour, since no amount of anything is ever going to change that, but doing certain things that are of Indian cultural significance, like getting my nose piercing, growing my hair longer, and wearing a bit more Indian jewelry or clothing. That does start to bring up anxiety of being accused of cultural appropriation if I wear Indian clothes, because I look white, but I guess it’s a process. Either way it has made me more aware and proud of my whole identity and all its aspects.
I love to draw people of lots of shapes and ages. What really helped me to accept my own face and figure was to draw myself a lot. When you break the face down to its basic shapes and structure, you start to see that your nose is a strong feature, not an ugly one. Or your jaw line might be round, or your ears stick out more. Round shapes in character design usually symbolize fun or kindness. Square shapes are reliability and sturdiness. All shapes really are beautiful, and if we all carved ourselves to fit the "standard of beauty" we would lose that diversity and character we each have. I think of myself as if I were describing a character in a book. My nose is like the prow of a ship. My face is round and kind with smile lines. I'm tall and broad and sturdy. Self love is nonlinear like you said. It's important to keep reminding yourself that character is in every feature, and it's beautiful.
Thank you for making this video, it's a topic that just overall needs to be talked about more!
I like when we see you exploring new things in videos.
love this! 💕 i don't think i would be able to do this
Dude, your original photos are sooo pretty, I know I’ve seen the London streets one in another video and I remember being so jealous. Anyway all I wanted to say is you are literally so beautiful! 💛
I've only seen the first edit so far, but I've got to say your unedited full body picture is so pretty 🩷 you already look like a princess, no editing needed!
The unedited ones are perfect!! No edits needed!❤
I liked the unedited pics better. You're stunning 💖
Your first photo, unedited, on the street, in the pink and blue dress is so lovely!
The unedited is so much better shaaba! you're gorgeous just as you are ❤️❤️
The unedited ones look sooooo much better! The editing is definitely noticible.
Would be so interested in seeing more videos like this one. Some of the edits are worryingly subtle but effective, you'd never guess just scrolling through social media. More conversations need to be had about this stuff. Thanks so much for the video
Shaaba! Thank you for this video, it was so interesting. It was so kind of you to share this with us, event though it brought up difficult feelings for you - I can confidently say that this video will help people in their journey to feeling good about their bodies. I struggle with my body image every day, and a lot of that is down to impossible standards that are created in Photoshop! You looked absolutely stunning in those photos and I hand-on-heart preferred all of the originals!
WOW that first unedited photo of you is gorgeous!! that style of dress suits you so well
I love how positive you are ❤
The photos that aren't unrealistically edited are always going to look better, but those photos also hold memories, and that's why they're so beautiful
Ok but fr ever since i started watching your vids i have thought that you are absolutely gorgeous. Girl you are beautiful and never forget it. ❤
I appreciate that you did this. It's one thing to logically know how editing can impact you when you are looking at it. I am feeling so emotional. It is so commendable to me that you still were just so open and honest and human... thank you 💕
I love this type of video and that you are trying something new! I'm looking forward to more new videos. I hope you are okay now and not too bothered by these comparisons.
Seeing the pictures side by side the original ones look better to me more iconic in my opinion
This was such a great experiment! Thanks for doing this for us :)
You are so pretty. Shocking video!
Wow, it’s so brave of you to do this experiment. It would be so hard for me to see myself in an edited picture like that.
I agree about the first 2 looking cartoonish from the retouching. The third person did a much more natural edit. I would know the first two pics were edited if I saw them, but maybe not the third one.
Very thought-provoking video. Kudos to you for being able to do this and thank you for sharing it with us.
Your original photos are so beautiful! You are definitely more attractive in the unedited pictures. It might be because I was aware of them being edited, but I feel like it's so obvious that they're edited.
What a cool and BRAVE thing to do! I love your honesty about how it makes you feel / what it makes you think. I think its also interesting to notice how looking good in real life vs in a photo can be so different. I have to add that you're frickin gorgeous just the way you are. ❤
i really appreciate your honesty when looking at the before compared to the after. i think it’s completely natural to still be affected by beauty standards while continuing to practice self love 💗
No editing needed Shaaba. You are beautiful inside and out! Love you!
This is the first video I've ever seen of yours, and I absolutely love you and your thought process. I'm sorry that you felt bad as you looked and compared them, but I'm very proud of you for refocusing your attention on gratitude and positivity by reminding yourself that you had rather eat deliciously with friends and enjoy the moment with some yummy nuggies than fit a beauty standard. It's an overlooked - and often underestimated practice - but you've done a fantastic job at it!
This is interesting! I think whatever you do there will always be aspects in which you think you could be more beautiful if you specifically think about it like that. Overall I really like myself, and then some days I have a bad hair day or smth and I start wondering how anyone could ever find me attractive. I even envy unedited pictures of myself bc I feel like I was prettier when I took them. But ofc I also rarely take pictures when I don't feel at least kind of pretty.
Btw I do think this editing makes the skin look weird. I once got an edit like that, and while I don't really like my own skin that much I liked the edited version even less.
Shaaba you are absolutely beautiful and stunning. I totally get seeing pics of yourself edited can be like... unnerving/make you feel worse about yourself but take it from a photographer- the original photos are just as stunning too.
Its very interesting to see the different kinds of 'ideals' our society and cultures have! Thank you for showing us this perspective!
This was such an interesting video, and one I think took a lot of bravery to go through making (looking at 'idealised' versions of yourself is not something I or a lot of people would be happy doing), but I really appreciate you talking about this and the effect beauty standards have on you.
I'm a stocky butch lesbian who doesn't fit into heteronormative beauty standards and can understand the feeling of growing up not seeing anyone who looks like you in magazines and media. For me, it definitely warped my idea of beauty and it's definitely still difficult for me to reconcile how I look with beauty standards, and try to be at peace withy appearance.
shaaba your smile in the unedited 2nd pic is so much better! looking at you in that pic makes me automatically want to smile back at my screen lol, you can really feel this infectious, bright, authentic joy that's completely missing from the edited pic. it's a little unnerving to see them side by side. where did that go o:
Your positivity always makes me feel a lot better about myself.
Love the honesty! We can be in a great place with our body acceptance and still be flummoxed randomly.
I am getting 'self love is not a linear journey' on a mug! ❤
Thanks for making this video!!! I also find it very interesting and mind-boggling how much seeing your own face and body changed to fit beauty standards makes you feel like your real self is ugly. I get a microdose of that every time I play with snapchat filters. It's so easy to put one on that gets rid of my skin texture and that makes me feel so much more confident. But then when I turn the filter off I realize it also slimed my jaw and shrank my nose a little and softened my cheeks and darkened my lashline, all things I didn't notice until I turned it off.
I like myself a lot. I'm not always happy with the way I look if I'm being honest, but what human is always happy with the way they look 😂
I've gone the "body neutrality" route of I like myself for who I am and I don't NEED to be ATTRACTIVE to LIKE MYSELF. And sometimes that's just easier.
This was very brave and thank you for sharing! It makes me think of a friend I have who uses Snapchat a lot and now she will only post pictures if they have a Snapchat filter over them because she thinks she's ugly without it. And she doesn't even have acne or particularly uneven skin. She is just that used to seeing herself through a filter. I'm really scared for how many CHILDREN have access to this same technology and are getting these effects before really learning about themselves and how to block that out when even people introduced to it as adults struggle so much.
I was wowed by the original version of that first pic!! absolutely beautiful. and the outfit is soo pretty too (:
I think a decent part of what makes the retouched pictures more attractive is also just the higher contrast and less busy backgrounds which makes them pop more.
You are so gorgeous! I get seeing the photoshopped versions and thinking ,'Oh, doesn't my waist/skin/hair/whatever look better there,' but, as you said, it just makes people look like what we've been trained to think of a beautiful, and it takes away the spark. You look so radiant in the original photos, but the photoshop made you look more doll-like. It so often seems to take away expression and individuality from people.
And apart from you looking stunning, those outfits are so gorgeous!
Your unedited pictured are really beautiful
I would love to see jamies reaction to these photos.
I think that the background changes look cool but they make you look so different and I think you are so pretty as you are. In your normal photos you look like a real person and the others make you you look like a doll.
Super interesting, and an important topic to bring forward. And ALSO: you're gorgeous!!
It's so messed up how beauty standards have just screwed with our self esteem. I'd love to look like you Shabba, you're gorgeous!
I also find I look back on old photos where I felt fat and ugly at the time but looking back I'm like "fuck, I wish I looked like that now" cause my brain was warped to think I was too fat etc.
I'm still in awe at the first artist putting in the background through the transparent part of the dress!
You are very pretty Shaaba! My goodness to think what those models who are constantly airbrushed go through, they can't feel that great about themselves that's sad.
Seeing the edits, I just couldn't recognize them as you. You're face is so familiar that it genuinely seems like the edits are someone else!
Your smile in photo 2 is so much prettier than the edited version. There's so much more character
Deffo like the originals better. And dang, you are gorgeous!
You are so beautiful! I feel like what is lost in the edited versions, which makes the original so much more beautiful, is your individuality, how who you are just glows out through your pores. Your smile, in particular, just evokes every moment you've smiled in a video and pulls us back to your countless moments of kindness and wisdom that we remember and me you a standout person in general.