We are all social beings but the biggest problem is that when you are unemployed you literally loose your community, nobody from you previous job will care about you when you are no longer attached to your previous job. The same for friends, they all have families, employed and have no time for you. Thus, to be social you have find new communities but that’s difficult because you are not a teenager. I think this is the biggest challenge I mean when you start to understand that you are almost alone with your problems. That’s the reality. And as soon as you understand this and accent you will move forward.
Farhad Khan And ones that last a while. I keep getting contracts and they last anywhere from 2-8 months. I’ve been living with my parents for over 2 years since college graduation it sucks
This is me....my ego has taken a big hit with being unemployed and my self worth. Im not one to suffer with depression but i am struggling. i feel embarrassed to talk about it with friends and family and ive been isolating myself.
A year ago I watched this video and now have a job I love. Read, write, meditate, be social, exercise, limit time spent job searching, "you are not your job" . Thanks!
I'm actually unemployed again 😥😖 Right now I'm relieving guilt by doing one application a day, doesn't matter where. If my depression gets unbearable I'm going to go to a rehab.
Losing my job a month ago has put in one of the worst depressions ever. I thought at first it be easy and I’d find something soon but I was too sadly mistaken. I’m still putting myself out there everyday and applying myself and my certifications to find work. It’s so hard to find a reason to be happy at times so thank you so much for this video.
I feel bad that Im unemployed. It literally feels like im the only one going through this situation and everyone else has money and can buy whatever they want when they want. I feel bad that I cant even buy new video games. I just feel like a sack of shit
A downward spiral for sure. Read about "The Hero's Journey" which is a mythological story theme that's arisen throughout human history across all major human cultures. Like Frodo Baggins or Luke Skywalker, you are facing your demons both internal and external. You may dissolve which is the fate of all of us eventually BUT you may just defeat the demons and arise renewed. How the face the demons is ultimately YOUR choice. Good luck.
I’m currently unemployed. Two of my close friends just got good jobs (one of them just got it today and starts next week), and we all graduated from college in May, and I’m happy for them, but I feel like I’m so behind everyone else. My confidence in myself is plummeting,my anxiety is awful, and I’ve just had a massive cry session 😅 Job hunting is the worst and I can’t wait for the day I’m employed.
I just lost my job ( they did me dirty) and I was so hurt. This has helped me so much you are so loving!❤ I have been resting a bit and tending to my children. Thank you so much!
I been unemployed since after quitting my entry level job in marketing during college but then I graduated college and I had to move back to my parents’ house (they moved across country where we knew almost no one except only family) so that meant moving out of my home state and quitting that job. During my time of unemployment, I got involved in guest writing, workinggg on my blog, and then picking up a side job of freelance writing (but it pays peanuts!!), hiking once a week, reading a lot of articles to help me hone my skills in my field and meeting ppl to befriend in my new home state. All of these things KEPT me sane! Your tips were very similar to mine so that was all very helpful to anyone who is in this same boat.
I work for a company for almost 3 years at pandemic..then get new job..after that I didn't pass probation and now jobless again..being unemployed really making me suicidal even though I have saving
wow you are so beautiful. This video helped me turn my sadness into laughter and I can't thank you enough virtually but I wish I could give you a huge hug my friend. Thank you so much! Keep doing what you're doing!
It feels like as though barely no one in society thinks about the unemployed . Why aren't high schoolers taught on how to correctly job hunt? It’s such a critical issue.
I just lost my job last week that I have been in for almost 3 years that's why I'm here. It sucks, really, and I know it would be hard to find a decent one again but I can really do nothing about it. I'll just try harder perhaps.
Being unemployed for 3 months now.. barely have money to buy food. Starting to learn that I might not be able to eat today, just so I can eat tomorrow. Maybe I'll last a bit longer living that way.
This is absolutely solid advice. Going through this currently and the bit about limiting time spent applying for jobs is golden. I absolutely detest cover letters.
Hey Grace. Sorry you're having a bad time of it but I'm glad this helped. Ping me a message on Instagram if you want to talk more. Great channel btw! X
I'm a 37 year old solo parent. I have been working for such a long time and unfortunately I can't continue my job because the employer can't pay anymore. My only child is 16, he has a part time job and is a musician. I just stay at home now and feel like I've gone so backwards. I cook, clean, tidy up, run errands and of course job search. I spend most of my time on my own as all my friends work and when they do get together, it's always to dinners or lunches or something involving money. I can barely afford the petrol to make extra, unplanned trips. I can only afford all our essentials and I know I am lucky for this. I wish I could have a bit of breathing space. It's all so lonely and quiet at home.
I have always been the person that arrives for work early, does my job well, recommends improvements, thinks outside the box. I have amazing experience in so many industries. But in 2019, I was made redundant ...... Twice .... And am still now unemployed having finished up in late December. Exercise is very important, so is reconnecting with people. Volunteering is something I'm considering. I find peace at the library, it's just great there. I must say, you raised many good points . I have a very structured day, I get up at the same time each day "as if I was going to work", but I do tend to have an afternoon shirt nap sometimes. I walk a lot down at the beach , I find the mornings almost like I'm on holiday. But I find the afternoon s very depressing. I also don't spend more than 1.5 hours a day looking for jobs. It's exhausting and if there's nothing to apply for you tend to , if not managed , just apply for jobs that are completely unsuitable, and that is not helping anyone. Also "if you always do what you always did, you will always get what you always got". Try a different approach each week. Check jobs in other places that you don't normally check. Walk around a commercial area and just ask business owners for a job. You don't need 10 offers you need one interview and one offer. Good luck to all and good luck to me . 🙂
@@wendypeters6084 update: I am now employed full time. I run a department at a cold storage company, I also do special projects for the MD. I must say, life is good now, but all experience is generally good experience, including the times I was out of luck. Take care everyone!
@@richardgray115 Hey Richard, extremely inspiring post. I guess one thing I'm finding difficult is keeping my day full of activities. I feel like I have certain amount of energy in me throughout the day to network/email/apply for jobs/prep for interviews and I find that's mostly around 5-6 hours, sometimes 8 if I really push it. How did you keep yourself occupied? I'm exercising already, reading books/etc.
@@AliMalik-yt5ex I have a harbour town about 30 minutes away from where I live. I'd drive down there a couple of times a week, and go for long walks. Very occasionally I treated myself to a coffee, as its expensive. When not doing that I'd go for a walk around the shopping centres near home, basically never spending a cent. It was hard, but have set times for doing stuff, you can't apply for jobs non stop, need set hours to do that in the morning, then have some relaxing time in the afternoon. I also did casual jobs for a year before I got this current job. Very menial jobs but they kept me busy. There were months though that I had zero income. Researching jobs and options on the net, and how people love different lifestyles and created their own jobs and businesses was also something that I did a lot of research on.
I’m going to gym daily and reading , meditating and so on , but honestly this unemployment gonna kill me I’m in a very bad anxiety, depression and stress. 😭 god please help me 🙏🏻
i love u ty ty ty. I thought being unemployed would be nice until I was unemployed for too long... I hate seeing my applications withdrawn so I end up avoiding filling up applications.
This is really helpful! I really liked the way you said “You’re not the job you do”. I think a lot of people who judge unemployed people unnecessarily, putting a lot of pressure on them Should hear this.More power to you! God bless
I hate being unemployed. I'm not unemployed by choice. I quit 2 jobs this year because I felt taken advantage of. I hated management complaints about speed. My last job was to be faster when it did have folks to do the job. My job only have the direct manager doing the when I took on the job. They borrow someone from other departments to do the work. The employee want go back her job because she didn't get along with the direct manager. So the direct manager only have herself. So why store complaining about speed. The place was a mess. So I quit. Now my feelings are bother me. I can't take being unemployed.
My friends are at work.Ive done reading.But I'm running out of stuff to clean at my house.Dishes done them all ready vaccumed done that cleaned the bathroom done that .I miss working my away from home.
I was a crane operator for 15 years and I owned the crane. It was 24 years old and finally wore it out. I didn't want the debt of a newer crane so I tried working for somebody else as a truck driver. I should've stayed but I just couldn't see myself there for another 15 - 20 years. I tried day trading for 4 years I only made money in one year out of 4. When I got serious about getting a job I couldn't get an interview. Nobody would talk to me. I'm 51 and been self employed most of my life with a 4 year gap. I have two jobs now both part time still don't make a living but it's a start. I'm just glad that I don't have a family to support.
I don't work. I've created a life on my own. Some days it gets reaaaaaaallly boring I mean it. That's why I'm looking for hobbies to do and food to cook. But on a limited budget. Spend wisely. The guy is a smiling person. I love his positive personality and I'm drawn to his charm. Hehe! Way to go. :)
Been unemployed for just over three years now, all of my friends have decent jobs ..I really don't want to end up working in a sweatshop getting spoken to like shit or cleaning toilets for a living. I have an arts degree and feel I'm worth more than that! I'm also living at home at the age of 41..its embarrassing. Being in this situation just stresses me out constantly, my family just keep pushing me unto things I hate..like getting a trade. Things I want to go into I just don't have the experience or know the right people.. I also have a disability, trying to get support but honestly no one out there will help me. Most other people get that break, get a leg up but I feel like I'm completely on my own. Nothing ever works. People say to think positive but day to day I am just finding that impossible. I feel totally lost.
It's even harder when you got serious anxiety which makes it difficult to even apply for a job. I know I could get a job from the same place I worked at earlier, but now when time has passed, it's so damn difficult to go back. I know it's my thing and I'm not ready to study anything new now, so I should just try.
Much appreciated video of advice. Only problem is I don't feel like exercising, meeting friends or meditating because I don't have a job to talk or moan about while they all do. Just constant responses of declined application emails. Doesn't really make for good company.
That does suck. In that case, as counter-intuitive as it may seem, take a break from applying altogether. I do actually mention this in the video. Limit your search to 2 hours a day or whatever suits you, otherwise it ends up being unproductive and soul-draining. Best of luck to you.
@@OliverCowlishaw Thanks a lot. Plus quick reply. I will or at least to more applicable jobs. I would also add doing courses which I'm considering as that helps spice up the CV. The worse feeling is when u get to a good stage of meeting a head to head recruiter but then get blanked by them. Gives ur confidence a big hit. But will try ur steps and maybe do and read things I enjoy.
@@mohamedzaki7127 Anytime, my friend. Also it helped me to remember that all of this is a temporary phase. It won't last forever and you will find employment at some point. A great help is to have that trust in yourself, you're tougher and more resourceful than you think. Much love
Thank you for your words! I haven't graduated yet but I feel like I may be unemployed given the rough time that everyone is living in. 太好了吧！！今年疫情国内内卷成了什么啊！天天失眠脱发！
People fear unemployment and this enigma has taken many good souls. I am in a debt trap and definitely loosing my job will be very big blow but let's think what if it is a chances to make my saving even it is one dollar to 5 dollars then grow it eventually it's is not easy rather it requires more hard work than our current jobs but atleast we will be free from dependency... People think jobs are our ultimate goal yes for some it is, for some it is way of paying the debts.... People here who are in depression or feeling like loosers let me tell you don't feel sad or disheartened this is the time when you need to get your shit together and find a way to make money ... It's all about money in the end .. once you discover it then a new beginning will start for you...
I've been unemployed for a year now due to the economic recession brought by covid. I lost my job and got injured at my previous work. I'm in a position that no one even wants to hire me anymore because of the previous injury I sustained from my previous workplace. Hopefully, something comes up for me soon.
I'd really love if you bring up the topic of guilt and shame of the past, of something you've done but that now you deeply regret and wish you hadn't done it and that now eats up your peace of mind. How do we cope with that and continue on? Of course I'm not talking about homicid and dark stuff like this. I'm talking more of when you really hurted someone emotionally or over expended the money you didn't have and now you're stuck up with bills and can't find a way out of it. I feel like it's really hard not to condemn yourself when in such situations you know. And even though you're growing out of it, I feel so hard not to let of such things, I guess it's because you didn't only demaged yourself but others also.
Thank you Oliver for your advice. I am trying to keep a routine of exercise, creative writing/music, and job hunting to help keep my spirits up thanks to you.
Been unemployed for several months now but feels like you have helped me for the time being to feel better about this experience. Something I have to keep reminding my self that being unemployed isn't so terrible. Thanks Oliver!
Thank you for this video. All the best on your job search. In May of 2019 took the leap of faith and left a stable job to be a freelance photographer and am now enrolled in a career transition course. I aim use this course to find employed work as a photographer. The tips outlined were fantastic, totally agree with tip # 1 exercise is so powerful! I will share your video with friends who need practical tips on how to work through being unemployed.
I work in the Airport and it’s a 0 hour contract, so sometimes I’ll be working for a month then I’m sitting at home for like 3 weeks then I’ll get a random 2 shifts then I’ll be off again for like a month, the last time I went into work was 9th March and currently since then I’ve been sitting at home bored out of my mind, it’s not fun at all when your friends and family are all working and at college and you’re just at home feeling like a total bum
I know it sounds cliche but having or building up faith I should say has helped me tremendously. It's a hard pill to swallow when you see everyone else smiling and having a great successful time on social media as we are drowning in a glass of water. It's hard but we are not alone...none of us are. I mean if you read all the comments you can get an idea of just how many good people out there are struggling both physically and emotionally. Have faith I like the last part of this video. You are not your job thus not having one doesn't mean your worthless. It just means unfortunately we have to find a way out. Easier said than done I know I'm one of you but one thing I refuse to lose is the hope in myself. Food for thought.
thank you for this. i just quit my job today because i am extremely unhappy there now. and this will definitely help me out in the next couple of months.
Comment: It comes across as though barely no one in society worries about the employment seekers . It's a constant struggle . Why aren't high schoolers taught on how to correctly job hunt? It’s such an important issue.
You have NO idea how difficult my life is! I'm 25 next month and still unemployed,living with disabled parents in a non decorated shithole house with no help or support from anyone! I have been applying for jobs daily to no success yet! I am suicidal 247. WHat more can I try?
Why don’t you help your poor parents out by decorating their house/cleaning it up for starters, rather than complaining it is a shithole? Then you could do something voluntary/help out in your community. Get off your entitled little arse and do something for someone else stop complaining you have no support from anyone when you live in your parents’ house presumably at their expense.
I basically quit a soul destroying job in a call center towards the end of last year and basically spent 3 weeks chilling and not doing much productive. Then I applied for multiple jobs in places slightly out of my established skillset (primarily teaching English abroad) and in January got rejected across the board. A bit disheartening but no biggie, I then applied for the job I'm in now which was fine at first but is in essence just a slightly better paid version of what I was doing before and don't see myself sticking around much longer, so the cycle may just repeat :/
I have to quit my job to go back to school in my home town in a week, I’m having a really hard time with this decision because I will only be attending to 2 classes (one hour and a half each ) each week. My hometown is really boring, I have no friends here and I overall feel really lonely. I hope I can make it through this tough period
I'm struggling because I used to be a graphic designer and people hear that and think so why are you applying for a job like this... People assume I was earning loads because of my job role and I probably would have if I worked in a city but I was on pretty much minimum wage working as a graphic designer in a small town. The second I tell people I was a graphic designer and I apply for a job like shop work or cleaning they see me as over qualified and as someone who isn't going to stay so they don't hire me.
I decided to know myself instead of accepting very first job offered and I found many faults and strengths inside me, it was amazing to know myself. But now I think I should seriously get a job.
i love having nowhere to be lol. excercise helps for sure. everytime im unemployed i always work on my own stuff, I produce alot more content when im unemployed
I don't have a lot of jobs near me.. so I most likely have to move away and start living a long distance relationship. But I am looking for over a year now and I don't have the luxury of waiting any longer to find a job in my area. And all my friends have moved away/living somewhere else/ are away on weekdays. I had an idea what job I would like after uni... but they are all gone now... I just want any job that is somewhat related to my studies. And this is the part that breaks me the most.
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my UA-cam channel 6 months ago about self development. Now I have 352 subs and > 100 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.
I have been unemployed for years , however i am self employed and work for myself which means i am still unemployed i look for my own cash , i invest on the sharemarket those sorts of things , no way i could ever go back to a “JOB” ever unless i am working for someone very special which is fairly unlikely in this society, being self employed is incredibly hard you basically just cover expenses and work for nothing anyway , and that is why i INVEST as well !
@@Marsha-be hello! Thank you for your comment. Hang in there. It’s really disheartening. I’m trying to stay positive and keep my chin up during these difficult times.
Was very helpful, love the video. I am unemployed at moment due to having an accident and breaking arm. Also found out I have serious back problems. Never thought I would be unemployed at 53. I do what exercise I can in the day, always in pain. I have been reading a lot, doing meditation, praying. I checked all my fiances and I am coping on benefit money. Some weeks are tight tho. It has forced me to be more creative. I make my own clothes, soaps, washing powder and such. I don't buy junk food at all. All meals are home cooked using cheap cuts of meat and cheap in season veges. I have a craft idea which I am going to work on, could make money at the markets. I am also looking at getting back into novel writing. Yes, this time off is making me more creative.
Why do people get stressed about being unemployed? i love being unemployed, sit at home stay relaxed and stress free, i dont take no orders from nobody for minimum wage plus i collect more from benefits than some people who work a low pay job slaving away haha. easy to do if you know the system and much more satisfying using government cheques to live a happy free life, smoking weed, play playstation and watch netflix, no injuries or mental stress for me.
Wow, thank you so much! :D You make something like unemployment seem like its not a big deal. Thanks for all the positivity and love, its really really helpful, thank you! :)
You are not the job you do! Love it, Brad Pitt says it perfectly in Fight Club lol Jobless at the moment myself as well and I honestly dont know what to be doing with myself but some really great tips, very helpful thanks!
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We are all social beings but the biggest problem is that when you are unemployed you literally loose your community, nobody from you previous job will care about you when you are no longer attached to your previous job. The same for friends, they all have families, employed and have no time for you. Thus, to be social you have find new communities but that’s difficult because you are not a teenager. I think this is the biggest challenge I mean when you start to understand that you are almost alone with your problems. That’s the reality. And as soon as you understand this and accent you will move forward.
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I've been in a very serious form of depression because of my unemployment its so hard.
I hear you and you aren't alone 💚
Now how r u?
Stephanie Li stay strong you got this
How are you now Stephanie? All the best
Me too
1.excercise
2. Meditate
3. Write journal
4.limit time spent job searching
5.spend time with friends
6. Read
7. You are not your job!
I hate feeling like this where everyone else like all your friends have decent paid jobs
Farhad Khan And ones that last a while. I keep getting contracts and they last anywhere from 2-8 months. I’ve been living with my parents for over 2 years since college graduation it sucks
Farhad Khan stay strong my friend time is limitless, you’re alive that’s all that matters go out there
yeah that's pretty much me.
This is me....my ego has taken a big hit with being unemployed and my self worth. Im not one to suffer with depression but i am struggling. i feel embarrassed to talk about it with friends and family and ive been isolating myself.
This is me, such a disheartening time 😢.
I feel you. How do I get out of this?!
A year ago I watched this video and now have a job I love. Read, write, meditate, be social, exercise, limit time spent job searching, "you are not your job" . Thanks!
What steps did you take that helped you be kinder to yourself while being unemployed?
I'm actually unemployed again 😥😖
Right now I'm relieving guilt by doing one application a day, doesn't matter where. If my depression gets unbearable I'm going to go to a rehab.
And might severely limit time spent online getting exposed to happy, gainfully-employed people.
@@wendypeters6084 That sounds difficult. Sorry to hear that. Do you feel that these tips in the video are still helping?
@@AliMalik-yt5ex thank you. They're helping me not go (totally) insane
"you're self-worth is not solely a result of the job that you do in this society" 👍
I never felt that way
Losing my job a month ago has put in one of the worst depressions ever. I thought at first it be easy and I’d find something soon but I was too sadly mistaken. I’m still putting myself out there everyday and applying myself and my certifications to find work. It’s so hard to find a reason to be happy at times so thank you so much for this video.
I feel bad that Im unemployed. It literally feels like im the only one going through this situation and everyone else has money and can buy whatever they want when they want. I feel bad that I cant even buy new video games. I just feel like a sack of shit
A downward spiral for sure. Read about "The Hero's Journey" which is a mythological story theme that's arisen throughout human history across all major human cultures. Like Frodo Baggins or Luke Skywalker, you are facing your demons both internal and external. You may dissolve which is the fate of all of us eventually BUT you may just defeat the demons and arise renewed. How the face the demons is ultimately YOUR choice. Good luck.
Yes I'm unemployed and soon be homeless. Thanks for this info and positivity!
God bless you!!
Dee Doromal Oh no!!! Are you okay? 😱
How are you now? I hope you're ok.
I hope you're okay Dee Doromal
I hope your doing well
I’ve burnt through all of my savings while looking for a job, I’m about to be homeless too. I hope you’re okay though, thanks for sharing.
Ive applied for past 2 years and nothing so I'm taking a break from applying and focusing on my artwork. This has been extremely emotionally draining.
I’m currently unemployed. Two of my close friends just got good jobs (one of them just got it today and starts next week), and we all graduated from college in May, and I’m happy for them, but I feel like I’m so behind everyone else. My confidence in myself is plummeting,my anxiety is awful, and I’ve just had a massive cry session 😅 Job hunting is the worst and I can’t wait for the day I’m employed.
Did u find a job?
I just lost my job ( they did me dirty) and I was so hurt. This has helped me so much you are so loving!❤ I have been resting a bit and tending to my children. Thank you so much!
Call an anti-depression hotline.
Spend time with friends? All my friends got job buddy except me. So they are busy not talking any more. LOL
I been unemployed since after quitting my entry level job in marketing during college but then I graduated college and I had to move back to my parents’ house (they moved across country where we knew almost no one except only family) so that meant moving out of my home state and quitting that job. During my time of unemployment, I got involved in guest writing, workinggg on my blog, and then picking up a side job of freelance writing (but it pays peanuts!!), hiking once a week, reading a lot of articles to help me hone my skills in my field and meeting ppl to befriend in my new home state. All of these things KEPT me sane! Your tips were very similar to mine so that was all very helpful to anyone who is in this same boat.
I work for a company for almost 3 years at pandemic..then get new job..after that I didn't pass probation and now jobless again..being unemployed really making me suicidal even though I have saving
Set up a company! That's what's I'm doing. Getting the capital is a slog !
Dont give up,your life is precious
wow you are so beautiful. This video helped me turn my sadness into laughter and I can't thank you enough virtually but I wish I could give you a huge hug my friend. Thank you so much! Keep doing what you're doing!
I'd give you a big squeeze if I could!!! :D
Thank God for my parents. I wish this damn nightmare would end
I have been unemployed for 5 months and until now I am starting to feel bad... :(
It feels like as though barely no one in society thinks about the unemployed . Why aren't high schoolers taught on how to correctly job hunt? It’s such a critical issue.
I just lost my job last week that I have been in for almost 3 years that's why I'm here. It sucks, really, and I know it would be hard to find a decent one again but I can really do nothing about it. I'll just try harder perhaps.
How are you doing now? Found a new job?
Being unemployed for 3 months now.. barely have money to buy food. Starting to learn that I might not be able to eat today, just so I can eat tomorrow. Maybe I'll last a bit longer living that way.
This is absolutely solid advice. Going through this currently and the bit about limiting time spent applying for jobs is golden. I absolutely detest cover letters.
Me too. Doesn’t your résumé already say what you’ve done and then you’ve done it and said it on the application lol
I’m currently overwhelmed by the fact of being unemployed it’s so annoying
Thanks Oliver, I'm unemployed, having a shit mental day and this helped x
Hey Grace. Sorry you're having a bad time of it but I'm glad this helped. Ping me a message on Instagram if you want to talk more. Great channel btw! X
It did thanks :) I watched a few of your videos your content is great, really helpful for mental health. Thank you! x
I'm a 37 year old solo parent. I have been working for such a long time and unfortunately I can't continue my job because the employer can't pay anymore. My only child is 16, he has a part time job and is a musician. I just stay at home now and feel like I've gone so backwards. I cook, clean, tidy up, run errands and of course job search. I spend most of my time on my own as all my friends work and when they do get together, it's always to dinners or lunches or something involving money. I can barely afford the petrol to make extra, unplanned trips. I can only afford all our essentials and I know I am lucky for this. I wish I could have a bit of breathing space. It's all so lonely and quiet at home.
I have always been the person that arrives for work early, does my job well, recommends improvements, thinks outside the box. I have amazing experience in so many industries. But in 2019, I was made redundant ...... Twice .... And am still now unemployed having finished up in late December. Exercise is very important, so is reconnecting with people. Volunteering is something I'm considering. I find peace at the library, it's just great there. I must say, you raised many good points . I have a very structured day, I get up at the same time each day "as if I was going to work", but I do tend to have an afternoon shirt nap sometimes. I walk a lot down at the beach , I find the mornings almost like I'm on holiday. But I find the afternoon s very depressing. I also don't spend more than 1.5 hours a day looking for jobs. It's exhausting and if there's nothing to apply for you tend to , if not managed , just apply for jobs that are completely unsuitable, and that is not helping anyone. Also "if you always do what you always did, you will always get what you always got". Try a different approach each week. Check jobs in other places that you don't normally check. Walk around a commercial area and just ask business owners for a job. You don't need 10 offers you need one interview and one offer. Good luck to all and good luck to me . 🙂
Thankyou for that!
I love you for writing this!
@@wendypeters6084 update: I am now employed full time. I run a department at a cold storage company, I also do special projects for the MD. I must say, life is good now, but all experience is generally good experience, including the times I was out of luck. Take care everyone!
@@richardgray115 Hey Richard, extremely inspiring post. I guess one thing I'm finding difficult is keeping my day full of activities. I feel like I have certain amount of energy in me throughout the day to network/email/apply for jobs/prep for interviews and I find that's mostly around 5-6 hours, sometimes 8 if I really push it. How did you keep yourself occupied? I'm exercising already, reading books/etc.
@@AliMalik-yt5ex I have a harbour town about 30 minutes away from where I live. I'd drive down there a couple of times a week, and go for long walks. Very occasionally I treated myself to a coffee, as its expensive. When not doing that I'd go for a walk around the shopping centres near home, basically never spending a cent. It was hard, but have set times for doing stuff, you can't apply for jobs non stop, need set hours to do that in the morning, then have some relaxing time in the afternoon. I also did casual jobs for a year before I got this current job. Very menial jobs but they kept me busy. There were months though that I had zero income. Researching jobs and options on the net, and how people love different lifestyles and created their own jobs and businesses was also something that I did a lot of research on.
I’m going to gym daily and reading , meditating and so on , but honestly this unemployment gonna kill me I’m in a very bad anxiety, depression and stress. 😭 god please help me 🙏🏻
Praying for the same myself, Hope things have become better for you
i love u ty ty ty. I thought being unemployed would be nice until I was unemployed for too long... I hate seeing my applications withdrawn so I end up avoiding filling up applications.
You forgot no Job means barely any food and you are always at risk of being homeless
This is really helpful! I really liked the way you said “You’re not the job you do”. I think a lot of people who judge unemployed people unnecessarily, putting a lot of pressure on them
Should hear this.More power to you! God bless
I've noticed people tend to treat you way worse when you're unemployed.
I hate being unemployed. I'm not unemployed by choice. I quit 2 jobs this year because I felt taken advantage of. I hated management complaints about speed. My last job was to be faster when it did have folks to do the job. My job only have the direct manager doing the when I took on the job. They borrow someone from other departments to do the work. The employee want go back her job because she didn't get along with the direct manager. So the direct manager only have herself. So why store complaining about speed. The place was a mess. So I quit. Now my feelings are bother me. I can't take being unemployed.
My friends are at work.Ive done reading.But I'm running out of stuff to clean at my house.Dishes done them all ready vaccumed done that cleaned the bathroom done that .I miss working my away from home.
I was a crane operator for 15 years and I owned the crane. It was 24 years old and finally wore it out. I didn't want the debt of a newer crane so I tried working for somebody else as a truck driver. I should've stayed but I just couldn't see myself there for another 15 - 20 years. I tried day trading for 4 years I only made money in one year out of 4. When I got serious about getting a job I couldn't get an interview. Nobody would talk to me. I'm 51 and been self employed most of my life with a 4 year gap. I have two jobs now both part time still don't make a living but it's a start. I'm just glad that I don't have a family to support.
kingmike40 u didnt marry?
@@nogodbutone2450 Maybe he didn't find the one. Maybe he didn't want to get married. Why are you so concerned about a stranger being single?
exercise ,set a goal , do something nice ,get to know yourself , find out who you are.
Been unemployed as in a fulltime job for 2 years (on and off have small freelances)
struggling to keep sane and suppress suicidal mood
I feel you, brother. I wish you luck in your search.
@@OliverCowlishaw hugs. Thanks.
Hope so.
9 months unemployed now, feeling quite useless actually. My trade is pretty much obsolete, so who knows what 2021 holds.
I don't work. I've created a life on my own. Some days it gets reaaaaaaallly boring I mean it. That's why I'm looking for hobbies to do and food to cook. But on a limited budget. Spend wisely.
The guy is a smiling person. I love his positive personality and I'm drawn to his charm. Hehe! Way to go. :)
Thank you for your support it was one of the most relieving videos for this situation when being unemployed, keep your good work you’re helping people
It´s like starting from zero again, great video!
Been unemployed for just over three years now, all of my friends have decent jobs ..I really don't want to end up working in a sweatshop getting spoken to like shit or cleaning toilets for a living. I have an arts degree and feel I'm worth more than that! I'm also living at home at the age of 41..its embarrassing. Being in this situation just stresses me out constantly, my family just keep pushing me unto things I hate..like getting a trade. Things I want to go into I just don't have the experience or know the right people.. I also have a disability, trying to get support but honestly no one out there will help me. Most other people get that break, get a leg up but I feel like I'm completely on my own. Nothing ever works. People say to think positive but day to day I am just finding that impossible. I feel totally lost.
Dont give up,i wish you a really nice day and a good life
It's even harder when you got serious anxiety which makes it difficult to even apply for a job. I know I could get a job from the same place I worked at earlier, but now when time has passed, it's so damn difficult to go back. I know it's my thing and I'm not ready to study anything new now, so I should just try.
Much appreciated video of advice. Only problem is I don't feel like exercising, meeting friends or meditating because I don't have a job to talk or moan about while they all do. Just constant responses of declined application emails. Doesn't really make for good company.
That does suck. In that case, as counter-intuitive as it may seem, take a break from applying altogether. I do actually mention this in the video. Limit your search to 2 hours a day or whatever suits you, otherwise it ends up being unproductive and soul-draining. Best of luck to you.
@@OliverCowlishaw Thanks a lot. Plus quick reply. I will or at least to more applicable jobs. I would also add doing courses which I'm considering as that helps spice up the CV.
The worse feeling is when u get to a good stage of meeting a head to head recruiter but then get blanked by them. Gives ur confidence a big hit. But will try ur steps and maybe do and read things I enjoy.
@@mohamedzaki7127 Anytime, my friend. Also it helped me to remember that all of this is a temporary phase. It won't last forever and you will find employment at some point. A great help is to have that trust in yourself, you're tougher and more resourceful than you think. Much love
@@OliverCowlishaw Much appreciated bud. Yes fingers crossed I find something soon. One needs to keep faith in himself even when things are down.Cheers
I got unfairly dismissed from my job i worked for 4 years now find myself on Universal Credit, Absolutely kills me!.
There is nothing I hate more in the entire world than applying for jobs.
I here you it absolutely drives me insane I hate it so much
Thank you for your words! I haven't graduated yet but I feel like I may be unemployed given the rough time that everyone is living in.
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People fear unemployment and this enigma has taken many good souls. I am in a debt trap and definitely loosing my job will be very big blow but let's think what if it is a chances to make my saving even it is one dollar to 5 dollars then grow it eventually it's is not easy rather it requires more hard work than our current jobs but atleast we will be free from dependency... People think jobs are our ultimate goal yes for some it is, for some it is way of paying the debts.... People here who are in depression or feeling like loosers let me tell you don't feel sad or disheartened this is the time when you need to get your shit together and find a way to make money ... It's all about money in the end .. once you discover it then a new beginning will start for you...
Can you do a video on how to stay sane in work?
I've been unemployed for a year now due to the economic recession brought by covid. I lost my job and got injured at my previous work. I'm in a position that no one even wants to hire me anymore because of the previous injury I sustained from my previous workplace. Hopefully, something comes up for me soon.
I'd really love if you bring up the topic of guilt and shame of the past, of something you've done but that now you deeply regret and wish you hadn't done it and that now eats up your peace of mind. How do we cope with that and continue on?
Of course I'm not talking about homicid and dark stuff like this. I'm talking more of when you really hurted someone emotionally or over expended the money you didn't have and now you're stuck up with bills and can't find a way out of it. I feel like it's really hard not to condemn yourself when in such situations you know. And even though you're growing out of it, I feel so hard not to let of such things, I guess it's because you didn't only demaged yourself but others also.
Thank you Oliver for your advice. I am trying to keep a routine of exercise, creative writing/music, and job hunting to help keep my spirits up thanks to you.
Been unemployed for several months now but feels like you have helped me for the time being to feel better about this experience. Something I have to keep reminding my self that being unemployed isn't so terrible. Thanks Oliver!
No problem Onam!
Thank you for this video. All the best on your job search. In May of 2019 took the leap of faith and left a stable job to be a freelance photographer and am now enrolled in a career transition course. I aim use this course to find employed work as a photographer. The tips outlined were fantastic, totally agree with tip # 1 exercise is so powerful! I will share your video with friends who need practical tips on how to work through being unemployed.
I work in the Airport and it’s a 0 hour contract, so sometimes I’ll be working for a month then I’m sitting at home for like 3 weeks then I’ll get a random 2 shifts then I’ll be off again for like a month, the last time I went into work was 9th March and currently since then I’ve been sitting at home bored out of my mind, it’s not fun at all when your friends and family are all working and at college and you’re just at home feeling like a total bum
I know it sounds cliche but having or building up faith I should say has helped me tremendously. It's a hard pill to swallow when you see everyone else smiling and having a great successful time on social media as we are drowning in a glass of water. It's hard but we are not alone...none of us are. I mean if you read all the comments you can get an idea of just how many good people out there are struggling both physically and emotionally. Have faith I like the last part of this video. You are not your job thus not having one doesn't mean your worthless. It just means unfortunately we have to find a way out. Easier said than done I know I'm one of you but one thing I refuse to lose is the hope in myself. Food for thought.
Oliver thank you for this video btw it truly made me smile.
Realising shared humanity is a powerful thing. No matter how much it may feel like it, ultimately, we are not alone.
thank you for this. i just quit my job today because i am extremely unhappy there now. and this will definitely help me out in the next couple of months.
My pleasure sweetheart. Your channel looks cool 😘
Comment: It comes across as though barely no one in society worries about the employment seekers . It's a constant struggle . Why aren't high schoolers taught on how to correctly job hunt? It’s such an important issue.
You have NO idea how difficult my life is! I'm 25 next month and still unemployed,living with disabled parents in a non decorated shithole house with no help or support from anyone! I have been applying for jobs daily to no success yet! I am suicidal 247. WHat more can I try?
Its hard but you can get through it!
Why don’t you help your poor parents out by decorating their house/cleaning it up for starters, rather than complaining it is a shithole? Then you could do something voluntary/help out in your community. Get off your entitled little arse and do something for someone else stop complaining you have no support from anyone when you live in your parents’ house presumably at their expense.
I basically quit a soul destroying job in a call center towards the end of last year and basically spent 3 weeks chilling and not doing much productive. Then I applied for multiple jobs in places slightly out of my established skillset (primarily teaching English abroad) and in January got rejected across the board. A bit disheartening but no biggie, I then applied for the job I'm in now which was fine at first but is in essence just a slightly better paid version of what I was doing before and don't see myself sticking around much longer, so the cycle may just repeat :/
What do you want to do? In this day and age, upskilling to the point where you can be paid for the value you provide is always a possibility.
Lack of confidence and being over weight are my issues at the moment I haven’t worked proper for the past 10 month because of it
Dude email me I'm serious. Let's sort this out.
I have to quit my job to go back to school in my home town in a week, I’m having a really hard time with this decision because I will only be attending to 2 classes (one hour and a half each ) each week. My hometown is really boring, I have no friends here and I overall feel really lonely. I hope I can make it through this tough period
I'm stressed and often have high anxiety because of unemployment. Any tips?
Its not just unemployment, people often lie about what job they do.
I'm struggling because I used to be a graphic designer and people hear that and think so why are you applying for a job like this... People assume I was earning loads because of my job role and I probably would have if I worked in a city but I was on pretty much minimum wage working as a graphic designer in a small town. The second I tell people I was a graphic designer and I apply for a job like shop work or cleaning they see me as over qualified and as someone who isn't going to stay so they don't hire me.
FoxyRockerGamer Damn. Where I live I have had no luck or even an interview for a graphic design role, just rejection letters
Thank you, I needed your perspective to keep my momentum.
I greatly appreciate you.
And I appreciate you sharing that. Thankyou 💚
These are good points but the harsh reality is that the bills dont pay themselves noone wants to be homeless so what should you do about that?
I decided to know myself instead of accepting very first job offered and I found many faults and strengths inside me, it was amazing to know myself. But now I think I should seriously get a job.
This made me feel so much better, thanks.
I really appreciate you helping me with this
Thanks for making this
This was lovely, thank you. You deserve more views.
Great advice. It is a period of interia. Need to understand ourselves better🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
i love having nowhere to be lol. excercise helps for sure. everytime im unemployed i always work on my own stuff, I produce alot more content when im unemployed
Corona made me lose my job and I am thankful I found this video.
You made me feel better 😊
Love the video so much. Thank you ❤️ wish you all the best.
Brilliant video im going through this now
I don't have a lot of jobs near me.. so I most likely have to move away and start living a long distance relationship.
But I am looking for over a year now and I don't have the luxury of waiting any longer to find a job in my area.
And all my friends have moved away/living somewhere else/ are away on weekdays.
I had an idea what job I would like after uni... but they are all gone now... I just want any job that is somewhat related to my studies.
And this is the part that breaks me the most.
Thanks Oliver for making this video... Just what i wanted right now 🙂
youre so sweet for making this video. Im freaking the F O right now feeling so down for being rejected despite my great qualifications :(
It's a game where persistence wins. It's tough but keep going. You're being tested.
Oliver Cowlishaw ❤️🙏🏽
i clicked on this vid with a lot of scepticism...but this is exactly what i needed to hear. Thanks
two months?! thats not unemployment, its a bank holiday. #2 years ..
i'm so glad i stumbled upon your video! i really needed it. thank you.
It's a tough spot to be in. But we are not alone.
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my UA-cam channel 6 months ago about self development. Now I have 352 subs and > 100 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.
That's amazing to hear 🔥
@@OliverCowlishaw
Dude, this is great - thanks so much..
On point !!
I have been unemployed for years , however i am self employed and work for myself which means i am still unemployed i look for my own cash , i invest on the sharemarket those sorts of things , no way i could ever go back to a “JOB” ever unless i am working for someone very special which is fairly unlikely in this society, being self employed is incredibly hard you basically just cover expenses and work for nothing anyway , and that is why i INVEST as well !
Thanks for your tips, I am currently unemployed and have been for 4 months now. I will limit my Job Search hours. thanks
I needed this video! I have been unemployed for the last 6-7 months and honestly, it’s been real tough!
This is me right now, it's so disheartening. I hope things have become better for you.
@@Marsha-be hello! Thank you for your comment. Hang in there. It’s really disheartening. I’m trying to stay positive and keep my chin up during these difficult times.
Thank you so much. This gives me peace
Wow. Your tips were right on point. Thank you my Friend.
Thanks for this. Helpful ❤
you are too cute it hurts!! hopefully i will get a job this year,im new to being unemployed after i been working for 6 years...its very strange
Was very helpful, love the video. I am unemployed at moment due to having an accident and breaking arm. Also found out I have serious back problems. Never thought I would be unemployed at 53. I do what exercise I can in the day, always in pain. I have been reading a lot, doing meditation, praying. I checked all my fiances and I am coping on benefit money. Some weeks are tight tho. It has forced me to be more creative. I make my own clothes, soaps, washing powder and such. I don't buy junk food at all. All meals are home cooked using cheap cuts of meat and cheap in season veges. I have a craft idea which I am going to work on, could make money at the markets. I am also looking at getting back into novel writing. Yes, this time off is making me more creative.
You’re amazing! Thank you!!❤
I'm going it through but sucks
Why do people get stressed about being unemployed? i love being unemployed, sit at home stay relaxed and stress free, i dont take no orders from nobody for minimum wage plus i collect more from benefits than some people who work a low pay job slaving away haha. easy to do if you know the system and much more satisfying using government cheques to live a happy free life, smoking weed, play playstation and watch netflix, no injuries or mental stress for me.
Yes I don’t understand it either. But probably social pressure.
very sound advice my friend. i've made note of it. maybe i'll follow it.
Wow, thank you so much! :D You make something like unemployment seem like its not a big deal. Thanks for all the positivity and love, its really really helpful, thank you! :)
You are not the job you do! Love it, Brad Pitt says it perfectly in Fight Club lol
Jobless at the moment myself as well and I honestly dont know what to be doing with myself but some really great tips, very helpful thanks!