@@suelizmungai8863 I get exactly what you mean. Sometimes you need a distraction from the pits so you can get out. Try and find one or two little things that give you a bit of happiness and you'll slowly work yourself out of it.
There are some people like me who feel like we have been adulting all our lives. #FirstbornDaughter. Ever since I was young, I always had to put others first before myself. I learnt how to take care of the home, know what is needed, what has run out. Stepping into adulthood has not been as hard for me because I have always had to do a lot of stuff for others and also for myself from a young age. I moved to France about 3 years ago and I did all the processes myself (school application, visa, passport, scholarship) and I would pass on the information to my dad 🤓 but it is not easy because while I am just in my twenties, at times I feel like i have lived 60 years 😵💫
😵 I felt this on a spiritual level babe. I have been adulting and semi-parenting since I was 3. Transitioning into adult life was somewhat seamless but my gosh, I'm 30 going on 80 inside 😅
when a meeting is called to discuss a shopping list, they give you a pen and paper and you all contribute Points, but you are left with the list you wrote to figure the money out
Honestly speaking, i find myself sending them money and shopping ...i don't have a stable job but i try...i don't live with them but whenever money hits my account..the first thought is, mom and dad..then after sorting them out,,,i work on settling my bills. Its not that am totally obliged to do all that right now since they are working and I've to put myself together(full provision,i still think about them). #firstborn
You know you’re an adult when you have to be your own motivational speaker, pep yourself up to do the hard things. Such a lovely episode, had me reflecting on a couple of things. Loved it!
1. You know you are adult when you start doing self introspection. 2. You know you are adult when you start going out of your way to learn about finances. 3. Yoy know you are an adult when you start being keen on matters global system, how it operates and the economics behind it. 4. You know you are an adult when you come to the realisation that everything in your life depends on YOU. 5. You know you are an adult when you start aligning your energy and time to the things that matter to you irrespective of any one’s opinions.
I sit every Monday and watch these 4 ladies and what comes to my mind every time is I would love to watch a Netflix movie about their lives. You four are so different and diverse and that's what makes your friendship so unique and keeps it thriving.
I am 100 percent on board with Jules in that the idea of paying for healthcare in unethical. People are dying because they are poor and it cannot be allowed to happen
Although at the same time medicine is important and doctors spend a lot of time mastering their craft because health is a very sensitive issue. I think there should be a balance... Decent Affordable health care which is covered by the government but then again this comes from taxpayers money🥹
The way Ivy calls Lornzie "baby" at 5:35 🥰🥰 The love you guys have for each other is so authentic, it radiates so effortlessly and that's what makes this channel so special. You feel like you're at the feet of wise women, soaking up wisdom, and love.
Listening to this episode I was struck by how much corruption has affected life in Kenya. I'll explain, first, access to healthcare. NHIF is similar to the government run systems in Europe and the UK, the UK has NHS for example. If you read about these systems online, you will see that they are not perfect, they support millions but even then, sometimes not everyone's needs are met. Healthcare is expensive world over. But in Kenya public hospitals lack even the most basic of supplies in some cases. Why is this the case? Theft of public funds etc that are supposed to cater for these and other needs for the public good. Even in Europe, there are private insurance schemes but usually they supplement the government programs. The same can be extended to education, most people I know are now sending their kids to private schools either because the quality of education in public schools has fallen or they cannot access a good school close to them. It is hard having to pay out of pocket for almost everything, that is why it is important to have a system where you can access some services through the public system. In addition, each of these ladies is working for themselves, so in terms of accounting for certain services, they have to do it on their own. I am not saying it is a bad thing, it is just different. Some of these things are somewhat masked when one is an employee, your employer remits taxes to KRA, they might provide a health insurance cover even though deductions might come from your paycheck etc. So to sum my long comment, I wish Kenyans would realize that some of the difficulties in navigating life as an adult are coming from the dysfunctions in the system, and/or sabotage of systems that were setup to provides services to the public but are left to crumble to benefit individuals out to make money. Coming to this realization might mean people reject corruption and demand more accountability from leaders and really anyone working in an institution designed to serve the public.
Lornzie- your point on the year feeling short is spot on! When you’re busier time flies faster and before you know it, it’s the end of the year. Unlike when we were young and had enough time to get “bored”
This has been a very important conversation and I believe its time that we ask why we always feel not ready for adulting. Truth is, we are barely prepared for what real life looks like. There is a lot of cushioning children from what real life entails and I think its about time that changes. We feel unprepared for adulthood because all through childhood and teenagehood, parents try to create a perfect picture and not share the challenges of life and then one day you wake up and realize life is hard. 😑
That point on health by Julia really resonates with me. Especially if you work in healthcare in Kenya and see how those who do not have money cannot get treatment. Some public hospitals do not even have basic medication. It really is sad since health is a basic human right.
In university, my laptop and phone got stolen and I couldn't cry to my mum juu she is home. It hit me that you can't cry anymore when yo loose things you have to look for a solution with your OWN MONEY.
Adulting is hard buana. relocting to Europe was the biggest adulting season for me. Figuring things out wacha tu. Plus I had covid in a foreign country last month I had to parent myself. Anyway Its interesting how in different seasons and challenges you see a different you show up for you. I love you guys.
@@gobel610 i totally agree with you. I hope to write a paper on this soon. We tend to loose and find ourselves in equal measure. You will be fine and we must thrive home and away ama namna Gani☺️
Amazing episode as always. Regarding the expressway, it is under private good not public good. The 72B spent was fully funded by the Chinese, and our governments job was to ensure that the toll was affordable for Kenyans. Other than that the Kenyan Government had no input in much of the operations, as it is not under public good in Economics.
My dad also keeps the documents lol. When I went through the passport obtaining process, I had to ask him to bring my birth certificate and before he left he said, ''Ukimaliza uniletee.'' 😆 😆 😆
Lornzie, I'm with you. I am always saying adulthood is like Monday- Friday, Monday-Friday, Monday-Friday, oooppppssss!!! Happy New Year!!! Rubbish 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Adulting hit me properly....very well...like a month ago...when my friend lost her husband....for me to imagine that now...my friends are becoming widows....Lord...
Thanks ladies for this great content, I am going through all the things you ladies have said. Paying rent, uni tuition and medical. I am pushing on with my low salary God has been Faithful. Every morning is black tea 😊
Wooow, ladies this really resonated with me. Signs that show I've adulted: I check my restaurant bill in detail before I pay. I've been charged a couple of times for something I didn't have/buy.
Hey Fellow First Borns. We became adults a short while after the second borns came really. I am 27 now and it hits me that I am an adult when I realize that no one is gonna help me figure my shit out. LIke, it is my responsibility to heal myself in all aspects (especially financially) before I think about committing to someone. Like, I cannot just go about forming relationships carrying so many burdens. And for real, this realization especially came when I turned like 25. Lemme not write and essay
honestly am never on UA-cam that much BUT THIS EPISODE!!!! kwanza where Jules says we should just be able to realise we aint competing . Makes me proud of myself and the far I have come!! eh,,,,Aki am proud ,,,my heart is full.
Ivy is right. Sometimes the supermarket is cheaper. I get some groceries from the supermarket and some in the market because I have noticed the difference.
😂😂😂😂 Ivy on the DL... guess we're many whose licenses expire in Dec and we've had to cram that expiration month courtesy of an episode with the cops. It's like cops can smell an expired DL, you'll go for months without a cop stopping you and then boom! a day after your DL expires wako hapo "madam, leta license" 😬 machos.,
Started watching you guys when I was 19, I am 23 now and have started the real adulting and its a scum 😂😂😂. Every lady needs to watch this channel cz it's very relatable and helpful.
When Jules was talking about comparisons I think it says a lot about the household she grew up in and her parents being comfortable with who they were/ what they have. For kids who grew up with insecure parents/ guardians, they definitely didn't have the same sentiments.
I knew I was an adult when I had to track my tokens use esp. nowadays when elec is so high up....Also, knew it when tracking my expenditure calculating how and where I can reduce costs on and how I can stretch my meals and shopping for longer. Eish! Gherroooo I agree on the pressure thing too. Nowadays it is so hard not to compare since people put most of their highlights on SM and you're huko caught up in between manifesting and moneyfesting when some people just have to ask from home and get it done. I am trying to think that it gets better with time perhaps...because the speeds out here are at 1000 Wueh's per hour because wuuueehhhh! I enjoyed this one ladies.
It hit am an adult when I had a tough day and broke down into tears when I reached home and I had no one to talk to so I had to talk myself out of the situation and say no one is coming get the f**k up and move on
I started adulting immediately after high school when my mum told me we no longer need a househelp and i started taking care of my two young siblings...weeh kupika chai,lunch and dinner kila siku and to know how budget coz mum akitoka morning atarudi jioni...until now am 40 i feel like it's my responsibility to take care of them all...woii aki first born daughters we need a therapist..
Thank you for this and how appropriate you have been. My adulthood kicked in when l decided to move out of my uncle’s house (after moving to Kansas City from Nairobi) at age of close to 20 because he wanted to use his homophobia to control me. I bounced out and since then never asked a dime from him!
On the expressway there are 3 modes of payment. Cash is one of them. You don’t have to register. No you don’t need to stop at every spot you go express to your exit. You also don’t pay at the entry you pay at the exit. At the entry, you pick a “pass voucher” which you present at the exit.
The comparison lifestyle is a very Kenyan thing speaking from someone who lives abroad. Here people focus on their lives and work towards individual goals. There’s no pressure to live like akina nani.
I discovered that I'm an adult when I moved out from my parents House 🏠.I realized that the curtains,mops and beddings they don't come with the house 🏠.they actually cost a million.water is not boiled on gas nor beans.Not giving someone money without valid reason is make you stingy.Also doing kra returns, Annual check up without being forced.paying for insurance and groceries.housr repairs.Adulting is real
I think the noticeable differences in lifestyle has been amplified by social media especially because nowadays people are posting their (almost daily) lives and we have access to them so you keep seeing how they’re going for all these holidays whereas before social media you wouldn’t know if so and so went on holiday and if you did you wouldn’t be having access to the type of holiday they went on.. idk if it makes sense Even down to the house someone lives in ata the car they drive where they shop.. sometimes I miss the sort of oblivious life we had before social media anyway we have to adapt I think there needs to be a deep study on how social media has had an impact on humans as technology continues evolving Other than that this was a very interesting and insightful video.. loved every minute of it as I continue to ask myself why I wanted to grow up so bad 😂😂
Adulting hits you start counting on how much your being deducted on NHIF, PENSION, etc. Also when your lazy do anything/cook, and remember breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Also when its weekend and you just want to be in the house sleeping, am 23 lived for 3years alone paying bills. I loved this Chat. Thanks for the AFYA RECORD APP RECOMMENDATIONS.
I really enjoyed this episode. Looks like I could use some of the content here to trigger conversations in my family and small social circles. Thank you for mature content.
I used to compare myself too with my agemates until I put into perspective that I'm taking care of my son and he's joined school and is well taken care of all by me so it's a different lane
Lool. Mine was taking myself to the hospital when I’m ill . One day I was feeling so poorly and I started crying for my mum as I was burning up in my house alone. After feeling sorry for myself, I had to pull myself up and take myself to the hospital for treatment because absolutely no one was coming to help me get medications or carry me to the hospital. At that moment I knew I was adulting to the max. 😂.
I agree with Ivy that buying groceries at the supermarket is way cheaper (kwanza Carrefour na their deals). Also way safer because they really check their food as they have a higher probability of being sued as compared to mama mboga.
Hi! 27 I knew i was an adult When i was finding out which courses my younger siblings wanted to do and started thinking which universities they would go to way before they finished high school....then started looking up scholarships for them and guiding them in applying. Because bruh! When you know the price of bread you look for many ways to save elsewhere. The school fees headache ild see my mum get every new school term was real, something had to be done. Result: both got scholarships to study abroad(thank God). Yes there were many fails and rejections but after a long time of not giving up,guess who can buy 2loaves of bread without a headache now😜
I love Ivy's statement" I don't go to the market! I can't go!" God when? I wanna get there...where I can't go to the market simply because I don't have to" love you ivy! You are the moment! You are a fucking inspiration ♥️
I knew I was an adult like back in campus. I always wanted to be far from home for the "freedom and like space" which was great I concentrated on my studies never too distracted and all. But I hit a low point and everything was so bleak for me. I pulled myself out of the muck through sheer will and even that was running out. My first employment gave me character development and then I was ushered into the workings of the world. Wueh I mean! It's been very interesting. I'm looking forward to making long term plans for myself. I keep reminding myself "My life is my own." So that I have the courage to make necessary risks.
Haha ... trust me after listening to this just shows me each person is going through it..... as for me i knew adulting was a scam was wen I left highschool...😂😂😂at 18... at 20 am still shouting it is a scam wen my mum sends me to the shop without money😂😂and am not working but still expects me to deliver but it gives me joy wen I come through for her❤so it is mixture of emotions 😂😂 Shld I add am firstborn so my whole life I have been adulting but didn't know till I was old enough to understand this things😂😂
The fact that you're now providing for them brings to you a sense of achievement....goes to even the small things like not going home empty-handed despite being a campus student
I am 27, my adulting began at around 20. It hit me that I was an adult when I understood why my mom would complain over too much tomatoes in food /I would notice they are no longer 2 for 10 and now 1 for 10. Aiiiii...Like nyanya...still pisses me off. I related with health insurance, parenting myself, generational wealth thing, plugging parents and shower gel /serviette use. Eiii Adulthood is the ghetto.
I'm 27 and my dad has that special briefcase with everyone's documents 🙌🙌😂😂😂😂I still go and ask for my certificates from him and I don't find it weird 😂😂😂he even has our kindergarten documents weeeuhh
I knew I was an adult when I got to thirty and the realisation that I have nothing to my name hit me HARD!!!. I looked at my finances and I wanted to cry. Why hadn't I done better, made investments or taken greater risks in my younger years? It also hit me when I had to get a to do list app to help me properly manage my time and make sure I accomplish as much as I can In the day.
I'm here for Lornzie's hair!!! It. Is. Giving.
I wish Jules all the happiness in this world aki
And I'm here in the pits, I'm able to just be in the pits but I'm here wishing I was busy so that I have sth to get me out
@@suelizmungai8863 shiiiiish!this is me rynow Mungai.....I wish I was busy to get out of this hood💔💔
@@suelizmungai8863 I get exactly what you mean. Sometimes you need a distraction from the pits so you can get out. Try and find one or two little things that give you a bit of happiness and you'll slowly work yourself out of it.
Me too. Love her so much!
You know you're an adult when you wake yourself up to go hustle!
Dito!!!!!
This the one 😢
🤣🤣🤣🤣 I keep my alarm ringing till I wake up
Shida zako zinakuamsha😅
Jules! Don’t worry about geriatric pregnancy. I am 43 with my first . It all works out!
THANK YOU FAITH
Oh wow! Congratulations Faith! Blessings.
Wooow........ Congratulations girl. Blessings blessings blessings.
❤️
Congratulations Faith,I personally want to have kids in my 30's and I pray it works out
There are some people like me who feel like we have been adulting all our lives. #FirstbornDaughter. Ever since I was young, I always had to put others first before myself. I learnt how to take care of the home, know what is needed, what has run out. Stepping into adulthood has not been as hard for me because I have always had to do a lot of stuff for others and also for myself from a young age. I moved to France about 3 years ago and I did all the processes myself (school application, visa, passport, scholarship) and I would pass on the information to my dad 🤓 but it is not easy because while I am just in my twenties, at times I feel like i have lived 60 years 😵💫
Hugs mami..
😵 I felt this on a spiritual level babe. I have been adulting and semi-parenting since I was 3. Transitioning into adult life was somewhat seamless but my gosh, I'm 30 going on 80 inside 😅
Sis we need a support group for firstborn ghels. I'm 27 heading 45 too
I'm 26 heading on 70.. I'm tired tired
Omg 30s heading on 80s.no wonder my love language is acts of service and quality time. It's wat I never got always the one giving
You know you're an adult when you can't visit your parents empty handed. Or when you start getting shopping even when you live with them
omg yes
when a meeting is called to discuss a shopping list, they give you a pen and paper and you all contribute Points, but you are left with the list you wrote to figure the money out
Honestly speaking, i find myself sending them money and shopping ...i don't have a stable job but i try...i don't live with them but whenever money hits my account..the first thought is, mom and dad..then after sorting them out,,,i work on settling my bills. Its not that am totally obliged to do all that right now since they are working and I've to put myself together(full provision,i still think about them). #firstborn
Wow ivy is so thoughtful to actually ask them, how they are. She is such a darling 💕
I became an adult when i was comfortable saying no. Period, no explanation.
Maaahn Ivy should be paiiiid for her marketing skills. The number of apps I have solely based on her input …🤯
I knew I was an adult when I gave birth to my daughter,, and I looked at her tiny self and thought to myself...am all she got!!!!
I feel you when i gave birth i knew there is no turning back saa hii niko hiyo waist deep because motherhood is the biggest adult check
You know you’re an adult when you have to be your own motivational speaker, pep yourself up to do the hard things. Such a lovely episode, had me reflecting on a couple of things. Loved it!
I realised that I'm an adult (I'm 26) when I had to take this year to study and upgrade my skills because I couldn't get decent employment!
Totally relate.
1. You know you are adult when you start doing self introspection.
2. You know you are adult when you start going out of your way to learn about finances.
3. Yoy know you are an adult when you start being keen on matters global system, how it operates and the economics behind it.
4. You know you are an adult when you come to the realisation that everything in your life depends on YOU.
5. You know you are an adult when you start aligning your energy and time to the things that matter to you irrespective of any one’s opinions.
I knew I was an adult when I started watching and enjoying every episode of over 25✨✨
You know you're an adult when you start fixing things like a blocked sink coz plumbers are expensive
Julia said the ocean just looked sad AND I FELT THAT 😂😂😂
Sad and ugly even the waves are not waving🤣🤣
@@beckyisaac538 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Felt it deep. 😂
Ivy just threw "when i used to live with my baby daddy" in there
The hardest part of living alone as a single person,is being sick when there's no one around to help.Waah😭
The WORST part😩
I literally had to start being conscious of what I consume .
😪😪
I knooooow
Totally. You just have to take care of yourself, while sick.
I sit every Monday and watch these 4 ladies and what comes to my mind every time is I would love to watch a Netflix movie about their lives. You four are so different and diverse and that's what makes your friendship so unique and keeps it thriving.
They always remind me of 'THE BOLD TYPE " cast
A movie, Yes!
@@Wandia_bobo me too!
Lornzie looks so beautiful😍😍😍...
This is very educative,,, I'm under 25 yet learning alot and preparing myself for some of the things
When you start wearing Kamatas and Spanx to hold the stomach in 😂😭😅
Bruh that one 🤣, it's tough hey
😂🤣😂
Wueh! 😂😂
hahaha,,so funny
Hi Lorna, kindly share the name of the lippie you were wearing on this episode.
I am 100 percent on board with Jules in that the idea of paying for healthcare in unethical. People are dying because they are poor and it cannot be allowed to happen
Although at the same time medicine is important and doctors spend a lot of time mastering their craft because health is a very sensitive issue. I think there should be a balance... Decent Affordable health care which is covered by the government but then again this comes from taxpayers money🥹
The way Ivy calls Lornzie "baby" at 5:35 🥰🥰 The love you guys have for each other is so authentic, it radiates so effortlessly and that's what makes this channel so special. You feel like you're at the feet of wise women, soaking up wisdom, and love.
It's the, " Hio ni wash wash " comment from Lornzie from me. I'm literally on floor because that's what I always say! Hahaaa.
This is so true haha and also drawers when they fall out. Haha I have a whole toolkit in thr house
Listening to this episode I was struck by how much corruption has affected life in Kenya. I'll explain, first, access to healthcare. NHIF is similar to the government run systems in Europe and the UK, the UK has NHS for example. If you read about these systems online, you will see that they are not perfect, they support millions but even then, sometimes not everyone's needs are met. Healthcare is expensive world over. But in Kenya public hospitals lack even the most basic of supplies in some cases. Why is this the case? Theft of public funds etc that are supposed to cater for these and other needs for the public good. Even in Europe, there are private insurance schemes but usually they supplement the government programs. The same can be extended to education, most people I know are now sending their kids to private schools either because the quality of education in public schools has fallen or they cannot access a good school close to them. It is hard having to pay out of pocket for almost everything, that is why it is important to have a system where you can access some services through the public system. In addition, each of these ladies is working for themselves, so in terms of accounting for certain services, they have to do it on their own. I am not saying it is a bad thing, it is just different. Some of these things are somewhat masked when one is an employee, your employer remits taxes to KRA, they might provide a health insurance cover even though deductions might come from your paycheck etc. So to sum my long comment, I wish Kenyans would realize that some of the difficulties in navigating life as an adult are coming from the dysfunctions in the system, and/or sabotage of systems that were setup to provides services to the public but are left to crumble to benefit individuals out to make money. Coming to this realization might mean people reject corruption and demand more accountability from leaders and really anyone working in an institution designed to serve the public.
Well said!
Lornzie- your point on the year feeling short is spot on! When you’re busier time flies faster and before you know it, it’s the end of the year. Unlike when we were young and had enough time to get “bored”
This has been a very important conversation and I believe its time that we ask why we always feel not ready for adulting. Truth is, we are barely prepared for what real life looks like. There is a lot of cushioning children from what real life entails and I think its about time that changes. We feel unprepared for adulthood because all through childhood and teenagehood, parents try to create a perfect picture and not share the challenges of life and then one day you wake up and realize life is hard. 😑
Could you just call her in for an episode of insurance talk? 😁
You are spitting facts.....Some points hadn't occured to me till I got to hear what was shared on the episode and the coments as well.
That point on health by Julia really resonates with me. Especially if you work in healthcare in Kenya and see how those who do not have money cannot get treatment. Some public hospitals do not even have basic medication. It really is sad since health is a basic human right.
In university, my laptop and phone got stolen and I couldn't cry to my mum juu she is home. It hit me that you can't cry anymore when yo loose things you have to look for a solution with your OWN MONEY.
Happened to me also....I realized at that point now this life is mine and hit me hard I can't cry over everything
Adulting is hard buana. relocting to Europe was the biggest adulting season for me. Figuring things out wacha tu. Plus I had covid in a foreign country last month I had to parent myself. Anyway Its interesting how in different seasons and challenges you see a different you show up for you.
I love you guys.
You gat this Girl.
I’m with you on the relocation part weeeh! It hasn’t been the easiest.
@@chanyabecky1292 thank you dear. I have got this for sure.☺️
@@gobel610 i totally agree with you. I hope to write a paper on this soon. We tend to loose and find ourselves in equal measure. You will be fine and we must thrive home and away ama namna Gani☺️
Hi ladies, thoroughly enjoyed this episode. This could be a great series, the scam that is ... investing etc etc
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Have a wonderful week.
OVER 25 Kujeni hapa please!!!!! such a good idea
Awesome idea
Lornzie is literally glowingggg😍 dress, hair, lipstick, skin👌👏
Amazing episode as always. Regarding the expressway, it is under private good not public good. The 72B spent was fully funded by the Chinese, and our governments job was to ensure that the toll was affordable for Kenyans. Other than that the Kenyan Government had no input in much of the operations, as it is not under public good in Economics.
My dad also keeps the documents lol. When I went through the passport obtaining process, I had to ask him to bring my birth certificate and before he left he said, ''Ukimaliza uniletee.'' 😆 😆 😆
lol!
Lonzie, we need your hair stylist's info. Your hair is snatched 😘
Lornzie, I'm with you. I am always saying adulthood is like Monday- Friday, Monday-Friday, Monday-Friday, oooppppssss!!! Happy New Year!!! Rubbish 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Adulting hit me properly....very well...like a month ago...when my friend lost her husband....for me to imagine that now...my friends are becoming widows....Lord...
Wueh! JULES😍 umeamua vayolens on monday, love it😂😂. Amen to smart,beautiful👶🏾. Learn new apps thanks to IVY😍. Nie reke ngwere adulting is a scam🤦🏿♀️
First borns need a holiday aki!!
Thanks ladies for this great content, I am going through all the things you ladies have said. Paying rent, uni tuition and medical. I am pushing on with my low salary God has been Faithful. Every morning is black tea 😊
All the best Alice.
Adulting is hard but will make it eventually
Wooow, ladies this really resonated with me. Signs that show I've adulted: I check my restaurant bill in detail before I pay. I've been charged a couple of times for something I didn't have/buy.
Hapo kwa being mindful of the resources you have in the house is where I truely realized am an adult.
Hey Fellow First Borns. We became adults a short while after the second borns came really.
I am 27 now and it hits me that I am an adult when I realize that no one is gonna help me figure my shit out. LIke, it is my responsibility to heal myself in all aspects (especially financially) before I think about committing to someone. Like, I cannot just go about forming relationships carrying so many burdens. And for real, this realization especially came when I turned like 25. Lemme not write and essay
honestly am never on UA-cam that much BUT THIS EPISODE!!!! kwanza where Jules says we should just be able to realise we aint competing . Makes me proud of myself and the far I have come!! eh,,,,Aki am proud ,,,my heart is full.
I knew I was an adult when my laptop was no longer for watching movies.
Ivy is right. Sometimes the supermarket is cheaper. I get some groceries from the supermarket and some in the market because I have noticed the difference.
😂😂😂😂 Ivy on the DL... guess we're many whose licenses expire in Dec and we've had to cram that expiration month courtesy of an episode with the cops. It's like cops can smell an expired DL, you'll go for months without a cop stopping you and then boom! a day after your DL expires wako hapo "madam, leta license" 😬 machos.,
I feel like this topic was not exhausted, Part II please.
💜
Started watching you guys when I was 19, I am 23 now and have started the real adulting and its a scum 😂😂😂. Every lady needs to watch this channel cz it's very relatable and helpful.
When Jules was talking about comparisons I think it says a lot about the household she grew up in and her parents being comfortable with who they were/ what they have.
For kids who grew up with insecure parents/ guardians, they definitely didn't have the same sentiments.
Interesting
I knew I was an adult when I had to track my tokens use esp. nowadays when elec is so high up....Also, knew it when tracking my expenditure calculating how and where I can reduce costs on and how I can stretch my meals and shopping for longer. Eish! Gherroooo
I agree on the pressure thing too. Nowadays it is so hard not to compare since people put most of their highlights on SM and you're huko caught up in between manifesting and moneyfesting when some people just have to ask from home and get it done. I am trying to think that it gets better with time perhaps...because the speeds out here are at 1000 Wueh's per hour because wuuueehhhh!
I enjoyed this one ladies.
Aaaaaaaaaahhhhhh, sasa lonzie, you just want all my money??? Cos that outfit I got to gerrit 🤭looking fab queen
Never watched this early but just finished my morning routine and this is perfect to start the week
You guys talking about Abraham Hicks🙌🏽⚡
It hit am an adult when I had a tough day and broke down into tears when I reached home and I had no one to talk to so I had to talk myself out of the situation and say no one is coming get the f**k up and move on
Sorry about that🫂. Great self-therapy move that. Glad you snapped out of it soon
I started adulting immediately after high school when my mum told me we no longer need a househelp and i started taking care of my two young siblings...weeh kupika chai,lunch and dinner kila siku and to know how budget coz mum akitoka morning atarudi jioni...until now am 40 i feel like it's my responsibility to take care of them all...woii aki first born daughters we need a therapist..
Thank you for this and how appropriate you have been. My adulthood kicked in when l decided to move out of my uncle’s house (after moving to Kansas City from Nairobi) at age of close to 20 because he wanted to use his homophobia to control me. I bounced out and since then never asked a dime from him!
On the expressway there are 3 modes of payment. Cash is one of them. You don’t have to register.
No you don’t need to stop at every spot you go express to your exit. You also don’t pay at the entry you pay at the exit. At the entry, you pick a “pass voucher” which you present at the exit.
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Thanks for this
How I wish this Over 25 was an episode in a series I have to watch everyday... 🥺🥺💗
Shout out from Rwanda, You are such an adorable circle, but Jules and Ivy knock me off my feet, I just love the way you express yourselves.
Guys for the airlock just open your taps and leave them running for like 2mins. I know I am an adult because I understand this.
Hindiot 😂 😂 😂 even the ocean was sad. 😂 😂 😂
True, I'm telling you if you don't deal with your issues, they will travel with you wherever you go.
Bt someone seriously needs to open a group chat for people living alone because weuh😢
The comparison lifestyle is a very Kenyan thing speaking from someone who lives abroad. Here people focus on their lives and work towards individual goals. There’s no pressure to live like akina nani.
I love Jules I relate to her so much, I wish her and all the over 25 everything great🙌🏾❤️
Me too.
Am in the pits for real real..😂
Getting into debts to keep up with this adulting thing..Help me God!
Girl, I feel you😂😭
Have bn in the same situation for 2 years now...learned to live within a budget and purposing to be debt free end of this year.you will be fine.
I hear you......I feel you....I knowwwww.....and it is ok
I discovered that I'm an adult when I moved out from my parents House 🏠.I realized that the curtains,mops and beddings they don't come with the house 🏠.they actually cost a million.water is not boiled on gas nor beans.Not giving someone money without valid reason is make you stingy.Also doing kra returns, Annual check up without being forced.paying for insurance and groceries.housr repairs.Adulting is real
I think the noticeable differences in lifestyle has been amplified by social media especially because nowadays people are posting their (almost daily) lives and we have access to them so you keep seeing how they’re going for all these holidays whereas before social media you wouldn’t know if so and so went on holiday and if you did you wouldn’t be having access to the type of holiday they went on.. idk if it makes sense
Even down to the house someone lives in ata the car they drive where they shop.. sometimes I miss the sort of oblivious life we had before social media anyway we have to adapt
I think there needs to be a deep study on how social media has had an impact on humans as technology continues evolving
Other than that this was a very interesting and insightful video.. loved every minute of it as I continue to ask myself why I wanted to grow up so bad 😂😂
I discovered I was an adult when I signed my life insurance documents, I was like wow, I'm really doing this adult thing now...wow.
same sis, I received that acceptance letter and was like wueh!
Ikr!
Adulting hits you start counting on how much your being deducted on NHIF, PENSION, etc. Also when your lazy do anything/cook, and remember breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Also when its weekend and you just want to be in the house sleeping, am 23 lived for 3years alone paying bills. I loved this Chat. Thanks for the AFYA RECORD APP RECOMMENDATIONS.
You know you're an adult when you wake up in the middle of the night to fumigate coackroches 😂😂😂
It's literally 3.23 am when am posting this 🙈
Loved the episode, taking care of your parents thing is so true, that slaps differently
You know you are an adult when you fix your own bulbs 😂
I really enjoyed this episode. Looks like I could use some of the content here to trigger conversations in my family and small social circles. Thank you for mature content.
Yeah for sure
Same thing for us in our family. My dad keeps stuff for everyone including my mum...hehe. Enjoyed this episode. Very relatable
💃💃such a nice episode, thank you ladies for acknowledging the APA team(I'm happy our efforts go noticed 😜
I used to compare myself too with my agemates until I put into perspective that I'm taking care of my son and he's joined school and is well taken care of all by me so it's a different lane
Lool. Mine was taking myself to the hospital when I’m ill . One day I was feeling so poorly and I started crying for my mum as I was burning up in my house alone. After feeling sorry for myself, I had to pull myself up and take myself to the hospital for treatment because absolutely no one was coming to help me get medications or carry me to the hospital. At that moment I knew I was adulting to the max. 😂.
I knew I was adult when I noticed there's certain things I don't eat anymore because they are for my kids school lunches
I agree with Ivy that buying groceries at the supermarket is way cheaper (kwanza Carrefour na their deals). Also way safer because they really check their food as they have a higher probability of being sued as compared to mama mboga.
Hi! 27
I knew i was an adult When i was finding out which courses my younger siblings wanted to do and started thinking which universities they would go to way before they finished high school....then started looking up scholarships for them and guiding them in applying. Because bruh! When you know the price of bread you look for many ways to save elsewhere. The school fees headache ild see my mum get every new school term was real, something had to be done. Result: both got scholarships to study abroad(thank God). Yes there were many fails and rejections but after a long time of not giving up,guess who can buy 2loaves of bread without a headache now😜
I love Ivy's statement" I don't go to the market! I can't go!" God when? I wanna get there...where I can't go to the market simply because I don't have to" love you ivy! You are the moment! You are a fucking inspiration ♥️
Any episode with Jules around is a must watch 😌😌
I knew I was an adult like back in campus. I always wanted to be far from home for the "freedom and like space" which was great I concentrated on my studies never too distracted and all. But I hit a low point and everything was so bleak for me. I pulled myself out of the muck through sheer will and even that was running out. My first employment gave me character development and then I was ushered into the workings of the world. Wueh I mean! It's been very interesting. I'm looking forward to making long term plans for myself. I keep reminding myself "My life is my own." So that I have the courage to make necessary risks.
adulting is overwhelming....... lots of love😘
I knew I was adulting when I hit 19 and started feeling some typa way asking my mom for upkeep money 🤦🏻♀️
This is the worst ...
Wooow am glad am learning alot from you guyz ..just finished Campo & got a job but I can relate ..😌😌♥️♥️♥️♥️
Congratulations girl, cheers 🥂
Haha ... trust me after listening to this just shows me each person is going through it..... as for me i knew adulting was a scam was wen I left highschool...😂😂😂at 18... at 20 am still shouting it is a scam wen my mum sends me to the shop without money😂😂and am not working but still expects me to deliver but it gives me joy wen I come through for her❤so it is mixture of emotions 😂😂
Shld I add am firstborn so my whole life I have been adulting but didn't know till I was old enough to understand this things😂😂
The fact that you're now providing for them brings to you a sense of achievement....goes to even the small things like not going home empty-handed despite being a campus student
Jules got me at "the f*ck I can't come to Italy, WHY are you even asking me that"😂😂😂😂😂😂😂💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
Lornzie looks amazing!! The rich colour of her items🙌🏾
You guys have an amazing friendship,look at them convincing Ivy to go to the gym the following day
Haiyaa! Had forgotten my DL expiry date!! Enyewe auditing is a scam! Kwanza when you have a car that poliz don't simamisha ovyo, ovyo!
I am 27, my adulting began at around 20. It hit me that I was an adult when I understood why my mom would complain over too much tomatoes in food /I would notice they are no longer 2 for 10 and now 1 for 10. Aiiiii...Like nyanya...still pisses me off.
I related with health insurance, parenting myself, generational wealth thing, plugging parents and shower gel /serviette use. Eiii Adulthood is the ghetto.
Two for 30 where I am... Weuh! Adulting!
Nii reke nguire i came to America at 21 and finding my ways out by myself hapo ndio nilijua sijui
Character development mamboz😁
Madam Money Monday is giving us wisdom....
Holiday for firstborns forshoo. Adulting comes with some grace moreso being the first kiddo.
I'm 27 and my dad has that special briefcase with everyone's documents 🙌🙌😂😂😂😂I still go and ask for my certificates from him and I don't find it weird 😂😂😂he even has our kindergarten documents weeeuhh
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I just love Lorna's lipstick
I enjoyed this one walayi👍👌🏾👌🏾
/when I started budgeting my money…/ but JULES😹😹😹😹😹😹😹
I knew I was an adult when I got to thirty and the realisation that I have nothing to my name hit me HARD!!!. I looked at my finances and I wanted to cry. Why hadn't I done better, made investments or taken greater risks in my younger years? It also hit me when I had to get a to do list app to help me properly manage my time and make sure I accomplish as much as I can In the day.
Don't worry you still can make a difference in your life.
30?? You still have time