Friendships & Growing Apart in Your Twenties
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- Опубліковано 19 жов 2024
- Sierra Schultzzie, Riayn Christina, & Paloma Malfavon chat long-distance friendships, being busy vs seeing your friends, and learning how to communicate needs in a friendship!
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Twenty Whatever features Sierra Schultzzie, Riayn Christina, & Paloma Malfavon talking candidly about navigating your 20's with your friends through different phases of life. (formerly Sierra Unfiltered)
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big fan of the earlier post schedule. - love an eastern time zone girlie
Sameeee
I love how you all are able to take a heavy topic and make it entertaining without loosing the genuine feelings behind it! It makes this podcast so enjoyable and so helpful
I can totally relate to the point Sierra made about if a kid spoke French and English they would be amazing but a kid speaking English and Spanish is just like mmm ok. I also think the same apples to accents. When people from Britain or some other part of Europe come and speak English, people will compliment their accent but if a person from Mexico or south America or any Spanish speaking country has an accent in English it's frowned upon...so happy Paloma is on this podcast to give her point of view growing up with both. I too give thanks to my parents for teaching me both English and Spanish. 😁
This episode inspired me to reach out to some friends I haven't seen in at least a year and invite them to a Friendsgiving. It is so easy to fall in the trap of just looking at social media posts and feeling like it's good enough because you see the highlights, but that doesn't have the same weight as a back and forth conversation and connection. A good reminder episode to put forth effort into cultivating a community, instead of passively allowing it to wither!
I’m a military spouse living in Japan. I have a son who is the same age as Grace and he speaks Japanese at his Japanese daycare and English at home. His bilingual abilities impress me everyday. Also all of you NEED to come to Japan. Like Riayn said it’ll change your life!
I stopped the video halfway through to call my best friend that I’ve been thinking about calling for the last month because of y’all. It was great to chat with her, and I probably wouldn’t have done it if not for you, so thanks ❤️
Making time for your friends is so important for "friend maintenance" and keeping the conversations open if things don't feel right. The constant change in life always made me fear that I would lose my two closest friends, but we need to realise as well that friends are also in our lives for a season and reason, sometimes they are there for the whole journey of your life and sometimes they were just there to teach you things and to be there, because that is who you needed at the time.
IM DYING AT MARIO’s STORY 💀🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
My 3yr old speaks two languages because tv🙈 miss Rachel specially, we are native Spanish speakers, but all the TV we see is in English so my little girl learn like that, we speak primarily Spanish but when she speaks in English we answer in English, kids brains are amazing ❤
I love that situation! Children’s brains are amazing
As we grow up, we also need to understand that we are not doing the same thing every day. In school, you are at school every day, in college, you are there most days, at work, living together, you are in the same place anyway, and living in each other's lives. We grow up and individualize, and that process moves you to different spots on the chess board. Not wrong, not broken, just different. As an elder millennial myself, I have learned to let go of the friends I cannot keep, and still hold them in my heart, and give space to care for the new friendships that grow around me
I absolutely loved the language discussion!!! i grew up speaking italian, both of my parents are from italy and i will say it has helped with understanding spanish. i can’t respond back but it helps! when i have kids i will definitely be teaching them italian because it is such a great skill to have.
When I was in my thirties, my mom friends and I used to joke that it was like asking someone out. Lol
Really enjoyed the language conversation! It's something I've thought about even though it won't be a while till I consider having children. I hope to be able to teach my child both of me and my husband's native languages and grow appreciation for all the culture on our household❤️
So weird! I’ve been saying “it’s a no from me dog” all the time, just lately and I don’t know what brought it back to me 😂😂
After a stressful, work heavy day, it's nice to watch this and think of something else
OMG IM EARLY I LOVE 😍👏🏼obsessed with you guys !!! Thank you for everything you do💙
My friend actually has trilingual kids. She only spoke to them in Russian and her husband only spoke to them in Spanish and they learned English at school. I thought that was pretty amazing. My parents didnt even teach me Hindi so I thought it was so cool that her 2 kids knew 3 languages at a young age.
Talking with others behind their back doesn’t always have to be bad either, it could be as simple as getting catty shit off your chest then add the huge game of telephone you have to have to explain yourself to someone who may have over heard pieces. It’s an invasion of privacy in my opinion although i totally understand listening to a good convo at a restaurant.
Sometimes having the power of the internet is really stupid. Because seemingly my parents have had the same friends since I was young and was that because of the lack of social media presence and more in person hangs. Idk🤷🏼♀️
I totally would love to make more friends who are in similar places in life but the one problem with growing up in a small town is everyone knows everyone, so it’s a bit of a challenge to meet new people and make new friends when your familiar with most individuals.
love this podcast episode. ❤
We went to Italy a few years ago and we learned quickly that speaking Spanish was the way to go.
Love you girls, another amazing episode 🎉
I am such a language nerd. So I love that you’re talking about this! I also used to live in Japan and go back every few years to backpack another part of the country. It’s very easy to travel there and highly recommend using miles to fly business class if you have a flexible schedule. So worth it!
I'm in my early 30s and an introvert; it's so hard to make new friends. I cling to the few old friendships I already have and it seems impossible to start something new. There isn't enough time and energy for trying to navigate making new connections, and following up with new people, along with keeping tabs on and making time for my few older friends, and family/work social demands, and general responsibilities, on top of the fact that any kind of social interaction is very draining and my natural inclination is to be a homebody. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I just entered my thirties and making new friends seems impossible lol I'll just say the newest friend I've made is technically my boss 😅
Wow this topic was an immediate click for me!
Just reached out to my childhood best friend who I haven’t seen in a couple of months. I only get to see her around the holidays when she visits family where I live. I miss our close relationship so much 😢
As always, really appreciate how candid yall got
I relate to this so much. My best friend and I are long distance (FL to DC) and we don’t see each other often. We try to talk as much as we can but I just recently texted her and asked if she was mad at me cuz we hadn’t talked much. She responded that she had just been so busy and then we scheduled a FT and talked forever. Miss my bestie. 😢
The language topic - it is very common in India for us to learn multiple languages in our childhood.. You will find almost every kid to be atleast bilingual if not multilingual
My husband and I are hoping to go to Japan this coming summer. We've been using Duolingo this year and it's so surprising how fast we're picking up stuff. I can't wait but I am also nervous to speak the language correctly while there as well. 😅
My favorite podcast ever 😱👏🏼😊😍love you guys
Wow what a great conversation! ❤
Yes so glad I can watch this in the morning. 🎉
Love the morning post! Best way to start the day!!
We use OPOL in our home, and even though my toddler has heard me speak fluent Spanish with my in-laws, at our church, etc. She still only speaks English to me and when my husband (who speaks Spanish with her) and I are together, she will say the Spanish word to him and then turn to me and say it in English. They really make the distinction.
Hello ladies, thank you so much for always talking about white privilege. Paloma, I relate to you. As an arab american 🇵🇸🇵🇸i never wanted to speak arabic but now im so happy im bilingual. I’ve been scared im going to lose my culture, as my partner doesnt speak arabic. But Sierra, thank you for the idea to have one parent speak 2 different languages. If i ever have children i will def be doing that.
Xoxo
Great episode❤ I loved the language part, I often think about it.. I speak 5 totally different languages, I feel like in Europe its not considered a big deal.. I can recommend to everyone to learn 1 or 2, even if just at a very basic level.. Also traveling,seeing other cultures, traditions and ways of life is so important, it truly changes your perspective..
12:55 with P talking about accidentally speaking Japanese, it reminds me of learning German and French in high school and, for months, not actually being able to consciously control which language I used when I'd start speaking.
Provecho basically means I hope you have good digestion lol that’s why it’s used before and after meals but it is very Mexican :)
that moment when ur driving home and ur like “it’s wednesday omg lets goo”
We feel more comfortable telling romantic partners about our discomfort because the stakes are lower, with friendships, you can't simply find a new best friend, you build that over years, and want them in our lives through the breakups. Romantic partners are people we were interested in and understand there will be some adjusting, friends are people we chose because we already like them
Such an amazing and deep episode! one of the best yet!!!
Provecho is like 'enjoy your meal' there's really no translation.
I didn’t say fucking yee has been stuck in my head since that moment. You could say Roman Empire level
The Conversations in San Diego part reminded me of Post Secrets, does anyone remember that website?? It was anonymous so obviously very different than taking a picture of someone and posting a private conversation.
23:08 lol i’m convinced sierra is in love with all of her friends
Sierra! Was that the “babies” documentary on Netflix? It’s so good!!
I think the meaning of "provecho" its like "i hope you enjoy your food" I don't think English have a word that substitute that phrase
I would so bon appetite but that's French 😅
Needed this video ♥️
Haha not the Randy Jackson "yeah dawg" 😂😂😂😂
Buen provecho is basicly the french's Bon appetite
I’m white and southern my mom use to constantly say “point blank period” or “no if ands or buts, period”
Our plan is to speak one parent one language if we ever have kids because I speak English and Afrikaans and often will think in the opposite language that I am speaking and it messes with my grammar and word selection
hoping this helps me because i just started a new job and idk how to make friends
I have mix feelings with this post time, I love that it's available early, but I feel super late cause I can heart till 2hours past when I send my kid to school😅
When ppl post that they overheard someone's conversation at a restaurant etc and it seems like that person is cheating..and then post it on social media...is crazy!!! Like at one point I'm like I'm so glad the cheater was caught. But my Lord how embarrassing. Regardless if you put the person's name out there, ppl who know them will see it. Even if it's the one who got cheated on that's embarrassing. But to hear ppl are now doing it with someone's friendship is sooo crazy. Ppl need to focus on themselves.
@Paloma killing me laughing, the number of times I have accidentally said Afrikaans things to people, then been confused by their reaction lol
❤❤❤ loved this episode.
That's absolutely INSANE. Hearing you ladies say that someone ease dropped on someone else's conversation in public. And instead of minding their business and enjoying the company their with, they invaded someone else's private conversation. Already crossed the line. But then to post it publicly on social media is pyscho!!!
Does anyone know what's going on here? HELP!!! I'm 30-whatever😢😢😢😅😅😅
Are you still friends with Skylar?!
Yes. They just doesn’t talk about her online because she’s chosen to be private with her life and not be online.
@@timmer13 gotcha! I just miss her so much! She was the best :)
41:41 it's giving Gossip Girl irl
I'm bilingual 😊 because gibraltar (British colony) is frontiers with Spain we mix them both like we might say ponte el seatbelt 😂
In regards to the ideals of an individualistic community compared to a collectivist community, you should look into how white supremacy culture affects American education! A huge part of it is this idea and why students of color, who are from these collectivist cultures, do not do as well as their white peers. Just some food for thought! Love you, ladies!!
Morning!!
Yay ❤
Japan is beautiful but there violence just goes unreported and they are careful around outsiders
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YASSSSSS
As a European it’s always funny to me how Americans get extremely excited about someone’s ability to speak a second language. Don’t get me wrong, being raised bilingual is amazing, it’s just that in many other parts of the world (including Europe) being fluent in two languages (often even three or more) is the norm. There’s truly sth wrong with the American education system.
I’m Australian and also get excited about people being bilingual or multilingual and Australia is a very culturally diverse country. Languages are offered here in school, but really, unless you have language class daily (it’s usually only once or twice a week at school), have someone to practice with or someone at home who speaks it, the language won’t be retained. Not necessarily a reflection of the education system
@@danaology. The US is a very culturally diverse country too, yet children don’t get taught languages properly in school. In the US, language classes are also offered, but just like in your country, it’s too little time dedicated to it.
I think the main issue is, that English speaking countries don’t see the need for teaching their children a foreign language.
I grew up in a non-English speaking country. By default, everyone here speaks our country’s language (German) and is fluent in English, the language in which business is done.
Just as an example: in Germany we had 5h a week dedicated to English, starting in 5th grade, and another 4h to French. Later I added Spanish to my curriculum, which was another 4h a week. This made me become fluent in English and Spanish and I reached a decent level in French.
I think it’s cool that Sierra thinks being bilingual is cool-I got teased most of my life for speaking Spanish 🥹
It's sad that this is true in some levels in this days, my kid it's 10 and even it's not fully bilingual, kids at her class make her feel sad that she knows more, not necessarily say anything but the way they look at her when teachers complement her