Old Fashioned Habits that NEED to COME BACK! // Slow & Frugal Living Tips!
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- Old fashioned habits aren't all outdated - many need to make a come back! What other habits do you think need to come back, tell me down below in the comments!
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As a 60 yr old grandmother who wanted a house full of children & could only give birth to 1.....so she raised all the neighborhood kids....I'm sitting here crying my eyes out at "time". I now have a grandson I spend every moment I can with, but they really do grow up way too fast. I look at my 36 yr old son & I still see a 5 yr old getting ready to start kindergarten. For me, there was nothing more fulfilling than being a mother & nothing more heart-breaking than having him leave home. Okay, I have to go visit my son & grandson now. See y'all later 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖 One last thing...I have all the letters that my Mother & Father sent to each other. I cherish those letters more than gold. 💝💝💝
I recently had the task of liquidating an elderly neighbor’s farm. He is your classic depression era hoarder with 4 buildings plus his house filled with stuff. He literally had boxes of empty milk cartons, 8 extra toilets, and tons of stuff. I tossed his spelling test from 1941, he got a 91%, but it was not my place to toss all of the letters he and his wife had exchanged before their marriage. For now, the sit in boxes in a box truck while Mark and Anna each reside in separate care facilities. A sad way to end your life, but they never had children, and have outlived most of their family.
That part made me cry, also, as motherhood was my entire goal in life and I feel so lost & left behind as my 20 & 25 year old sons venture off living their own lives... though I had built my entire world around them ~ Trying to refocus & redefine at this point in my life doesn't seem as adventurous, exciting, hopeful, or doable as it did when I was their age.
@@thebaroness2977 I know what you mean. My son's have been out of our house for over 15 yrs now & I've just never been the same. Some days I just fall into a depression & become so sick at heart that it's hard to go on. Thankfully, my oldest lives close by & I can go visit them & my grandchild. I truly don't know what I would do if I couldn't do this. All I ever wanted to be was a Mother. It's absolutely heartbreaking when that job came to an end. My life has just never been the same. I pray you have an easier time with this than I've had & that you find much peace & joy in your future. 💖💖💖
Simple things like porch swings and iced tea, cutting fresh flowers from your yard, bird gardens, and rocking chairs make life worthwhile ❤
Well said! ♥
ABSOLUTELY ❤
That sounds wonderful. You really do need to find happiness in the little things.
Aprons is one of the old fashioned habits I’m trying to bring back… saves the clothes!
LOVE my apron! Absolutely agreed on this one!
Just the practicality!
Love my aprons, even in my camper, where I cook from scratch where I can. My grandchildren have aprons as one of their gifts for Christmas. Have used since they were in high chairs.Always sit at the table. Good for digestion, good for conversation and dissecting the day. Listening to what the little ones have done. You’re right about decorum and manners. Narrow paths and pavements where we live, I walk in front or behind my husband to allow another coming through. I refuse to step out into a road to allow block of 4 coming towards me. Some ‘older’ pedestrians will do what we do, which seems like a generational thing. My children and grandchildren do it, because it’s what we do.
Yes. I only starting wearing them because it made my ex laugh buy I love then. Makes me feel put together and productive
Am big on aprons. They complete many an outfit.
I grew up poor in the Appalachian mountains. A lot of people say i was 50 years behind times. Those skills mean so much today. Most people cannot guess my age. You are spot on! I remember walking down the mountain and smelling a full course homemade meal on our wood burning stove. Most of my classmates did not have that. I can still smell those sweet smells in the fall!
What a beautiful blessing! Thank you for sharing that! 🩵
One old-fashioned habit we are cultivating is that of honoring the sabbath and keeping it as a day of worship and rest. When our children were growing up they didn’t participate in sports on Sundays and we never shopped unless the ox was in the mire (in other words, we were out of milk😄). But as empty nesters we lost those habits a bit, especially after I took a job that sometimes called for Sunday work. Now we are taking the sabbath back. I no longer work on Sundays, I resist the temptation to throw in laundry or get out the vacuum and I try to plan ahead so meals are less labor-intensive. Our society lost a lot when we lost our holy day.
Fantastic! God bless
Yes! God bless you! Thanks for sharing that
Absolutely. I 100% agree. I’m disabled and have trouble walking but I called yesterday to try and see if someone will help me get to church and if I can take my service dog. And they said yes! So I’m going to try to go for the first time in a while. I’ve been watching online, but it isn’t the same. Pray for me.
@@BunnyMomx8good for you and yes I will pray for you. I just recently returned to Mass in person having learned to walk again and many other hurdles after a stroke changed my life. God bless you and give you the grace and strength to do what you want to do. Love vera
I agree!
Your comments about time really touched me. I homeschooled my 3 boys and loved being with them so much. I could never understand the parents that didn’t like being around their own children. Now my oldest is 29 and my twins are 27. They are scattered from Alaska to Mississippi, and I’m in NC. I want nothing more than to have us all together again, on the same land, or at least the same town. I want us all gathered around the dinner table, or sitting around a fire, just enjoying each other’s company. I feel so blessed that they call me almost every day (I’m on a 13 day streak of talking to one of the boys every day, and we’re determined to not break the streak lol) We are even getting ready to take a family vacation, with my parents, two of the boys, my husband and myself are all flying to Alaska to spend a week with our son that lives there, and all 7 of us are so excited to spend this time together. The time we have with our children, no matter what their age, is so precious.
When we started our homeschooling journey a seasoned mom said, "I discipline my children to be the kind of people I want to be with all the time." Now my 30 and 28 year olds are my very best friends.
I have 4 boys 16 17 18 23. The oldest is serving overseas in military and the 18 yr old left home and on own and 17 yr old in university and 16 yr old I homeschool. I have always been so close to my boys and my whole life and world besides God and my boys who are out of home used to call everyday once left and now all the 3 out of home have gone on a spree of not talking to me and nothing happened and don't understand and worry and pray day and night. This is 1st holiday without my boys even 16 yr old went to other family members house. I'm heart broken and can't wrap mind around it and so far from anything could imagine. I am praying 🙏 just phase going through.
Am a great gramma and widowed. Time went by very fast. Don't miss a minute with your family. Love them each day
My old fashioned habit is ironing my clothes. So many of my friends are proud of the fact that they don't iron anymore, but I love the look and feel of freshly ironed clothes and napkins.
Oh this is wonderful! I love wearing freshly ironed clothes. It just such a happy feeling.
I remember still doing ironing when my children were young. I tried best to time it to a local radio show on the weekend.🙂👍
Same here, after every laundry lot, comes ironing ..I find it therapeutic 😊
I love ironing. Laundry (washing machine thank goodness), so clean and fresh and pressed and hanging all pretty…..so satisfying !😊
An ironed piece always looks so sharp and feels good too.
I have a sewing machine and make simple quilts but I’ve never made clothes. I never even hemmed anything!
I started watching a very inspiring UA-camr called Thoughtful Creativity, and while I still haven’t made anything to wear she inspired me to at least mend my clothes that needed it.
I learned how to do a blind hem to fix a skirt from a different video, I sewed on some buttons that were waiting way too long to be reunited with their clothing, and I even fixed the dog’s stuffed toys.
I felt like Ma Ingalls in her rocking chair, mending for the family. I was surprised how satisfying it was, and a bit jazzed for the next rip, tear or lost button.
It's very satisfying to see something mended or remade. It makes you feel better and accomplished.
I did some mending on a couple pairs of capris and that led me to finish my embroidery project I had started many years ago.
People need to learn to SEW. Making their and their family's clothing or at the very least learn to repair and upkeep all those expensive clothes. And knitting (all needlework) can be a joy.
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I’m learning how to sew, but I’m also learning the costs of labor
I did textiles in school but only learned to reattach buttons of repair rips in my late twenties. Why were we making cd sleeves instead of learning basic skills? Bring back home economics
Bravo Lizanna, I agree fully. At the very least buttons and seam rips. And cooking the bare essentials. And basic financial like a budget. That's what I learned in school. To learn basic LIVING SKILLS.@@lizanna6390
YES. the feeling of accomplishment having mended/made something with a sewing machine/sock knitter/knitting needles/a loom is unbelievable! There's also a drop of personal pride added to it when you see your SO or kids trying on what you made/fixed and being happy with it.
I would give anything to have more time with my daughter! She lost her battle with cancer when she was 12... & I regret the times I was "too busy"! Precious times you'll never regret!
Sending hugs and love to you
For those who may be struggling with family meal time, dinner together in our house is hard, as my husband works very late. However, instead, we like to all have breakfast together. Other times we will pack up a lunch and meet him at work for a quick meal together. Sometimes you just have to think outside of the box.
Also, it doesn’t happen every day. Some weeks it’s just a few times in the week that we can sit down together. All that said, don’t feel like you’re failing if you don’t eat dinner together every night of the week. Start small and share whichever meal works best for your family. 💕
❤ So much yes & amen! I'm doing this with my growing boys and making sure they are grounded in what matters.
Where there is a will, there is a way. Right?!? People find time for the things they want to do.
Your reply made me tear up a bit. 🙂 As a child, I had no idea how fortunate I was that my Dad could come home for his lunch every day. Mom would cook a meal and 'always' have a dessert .. either pudding or pie, with her beautiful and delicious light crust .. she'd include the extras in the oven, mmm.👍 We'd come home from school (I'd try to fit in watching 'Flinstones' 😂) .. and sit together and eat.
You have the correct mindset! Doing it as often as you can, just making sure that it stays in the schedule .. it's a wonderful thing, so important for bonding with our family. ♥🌷
It also doesn't need to be completely made from scratch over a stove. A soup mixture from the store made in a slow cooker is just as good as one made from scratch.
I fondly remember the drive home from school because we are rural and that would be 20-30 minutes of just talking about our days and Mom listening.
I love your channel and all the old fashioned tips and tricks! I am a firm believer that the way our grandparents and great grandparents lived was a lot more fulfilling! They had struggles but they truly loved the life they built. I mean they put their whole heart and soul into their families and homes. They didn't care what was going on in the house next door and what they had that they didn't! I really am so glad I came across your channel!!
I grew up eating dinner with my family in the 2000s. Now it seems nobody does that anymore. My husbands family eat fast food in their bed watching TV. That actually made me sad. It's important as a family to spend time together, talk and connect and that happens when you eat together at the table.
Yes, I am already eating at the table with my family, relax, talk, taste, laugh. But your point is still helpful: when I visited my friend and saw her dining table covered in craft junk, I asked her: well, how do you guys eat. Offhandedly she gestured to the couch, placed in front of the tv.
When she ended up getting a divorce because "we're SO disconnected" two years later, I was not surprised at all. A little sad, bc she was a SAHM and could have done SO much towards mending that situation but chose not to. And now 2 little girls will grow up in a split family and I think their dinner habits are at least partly to blame.
So thank you so much for sharing!
My 5 kiddos, ages 14 to 4, all have hand, foot, and mouth disease right now. All 5 are whining, hurting, feverish, and full of itchy, painful sores and bumps. It has been a very hard week for me. I'm tired! But when you started talking about our kiddos growing up, and how time is slipping through our fingers, I lost it! I'm literally sobbing! When they're on their own and get sick, I won't be there to make them food to comfort them. I won't be there to check their temperature and bring them Popsicles or a cool wash cloth. I won't be there to hug them and rub their back. 😭 The rest of this week will be different because of what you said today! THANK YOU! I needed a new perspective. God bless you, Angela! 🥰
Oh my I feel for you! My children had that hand foot disease when they were small it doesn’t help when it’s something that just has to take it’s course! Hope the kiddos and you are feeling better soon!
I’m so sorry the children are sick and that you are going through that. I’m praying for your family. I so miss being with my daughter when she’s sick. I hope everyone gets well soon and I truly hope you don’t catch it.
Stay patient. Jesus loves yall
Don't count on it. My 28 year old grandson lives with me. It still feels like I blink and 10 years have passed.
Hang in there, it will get better. And yes, childhood flies by, savor it. ❤
Dinner together with no distractions is a must! We need old fashioned manners back. Loved everything about this video! 💕
giving cell phones to EVERYONE THAT EVER BREATHED didn't help.
We always eat dinner together. Even when my husband was at sea, in the navy, we always sat down to dinner. You have to make families your priority.
I just took my youngest to college. The heartache is real and I’m so so grateful for time with him. And my older kiddos too. The memories of those quiet or even crazy times are precious!
I really appreciate you for making this video.. this content came to me at the right time. I am a Mom of two boys, and I am expecting a girl by December 20. I have been in corporate America, and I know the hustling life of working nonstop and let go family life. Since the pandemic, I work from home and I am not going back. There's way more great value in being a homemaker than hustling to climb ladder in Corporate America. I appreciate you so so much!❤❤❤❤
Love this! Your children will be so much richer to have you at home!! I have a degree but let it go to stay home. We homeschool, and I have gotten so many comments about how amazing my kids are. They are my investment. Worth it 1000%.
When it comes to sitting at the dinner table and the family eating together I think it might be a cultural thing. I live in San Antonio, Texas, and I am Hispanic, and something that we have always done. Even nowadays when our lives are super busy that’s the one thing that we always do, it’s a time for everybody to catch up and be a part of everybody’s life like the most special time of the day for me as a mom
I love these “Grandma” videos!!!! We are taking a break this school year and not doing extracurriculars. We’ve gone hard for a few years now and it wore us out. So this school year we are not doing anything other than school related activities, tutoring, and Wednesday night church.
I will put my whole butt in!
I've been writing letters to penpals since 1994. I love writing letters!
You make amazing points and I agree with you.
An old fashioned habit I have is that I do laundry by hand in the sink. We are a family of five. I also still read books to my children even though my oldest, like yours, is sixteen and a half years old. I've been making my own cleaning products for a decade or more and haven't owned paper towels in that whole time either. You figure those weren't even invented until when? The 1970s or so? I also make quilts instead of just buying blankets. Sometimes, opening up blinds and lighting candles instead of putting on lights just feels better too. I am sure I do a lot of things in an old fashioned way, honestly.
Wow! I admire & am inspired by you!
That’s awesome.
I live like the old ways alot. I write to penpals too. If you are interested in being penpals, let me know.
for all my smaller articles of clothing i use hand-powered washers and a wringer. Clotheslines are a gift from God, btw.
I hunted it down on the internet: how to make smokeless, dripless candles. bit of beeswax for scent, paraffin and stearin (aka stearic acid). the candles form like this provided you selected the right thickness of wick: the paraffin and stearin separate in the candle mold wit hthe stearin forming an outer "sheath" for the central column of parrafin. the beeswax stays throughout, btw. let them cure for four (!) months in a dark, cool place. the paraffin burns at a lower temperature than the outer covering of stearin, hence the candles don't drip and run all over and they never smoke. i make candles starting in late spring; by october they're ready.
the trick is to find candle molds that aren't flimsy. give it a shot.
After reading a lot of the comments I think you are starting a great conversation about how we live our lives!!!
Yes! I agree especially with family dinners and hand written notes. I’d add dressing up to show respect such as church, baby/wedding showers, or even being presentable to go shopping. And the traditional skills of sewing, knitting, crochet and embroidery.
gardening, soap-making, painting/sketching, canning...
with cellphones turned OFF...
Love the direction this channel is going. So much wholesome content 🙌
I agree.
Same same!! You’re helping me survive the toddler stage!
@@heidil.kafferlin6317you precious lady, just hang on tight and know that even the toddler stage is going to be over sooner than you know. Enjoy the time. I drove past my children’s elementary school yesterday and shook my head in disbelief thinking that it was 15 years since they walked those halls.
Hallelujah!!! I am sooooo happy to hear that slowing down and manners are making a come back or at least being talked about. My kids are 23,27,28 and when they were young I wished that society would slow down and I hoped that the next generation would slow down. I know not everyone will but it is nice to see it at least being talked about. Kids don’t need all of the toys and stimulation to be happy. My background is early childhood education and I have cared for 4 children (other than my own) and have tried to do a better job of doing less
When I was teaching back in the 1990’s there was a book of the moment called THE HURRIED CHILD. Basically talking about not scheduling your child so much. Giving them down time. Our children don’t know how to just be in silence. A school near me is bringing that back. Having quiet time to just reflect. It is so hard not to succumb to the “rat race”. Good luck to all of you young moms!
With a three year old and a newborn, I'm in the trenches. And intentional living, saying no to things, en savoring time has never been more important than now. Learning and choosing the things we really want to is so important to add more value in my life. ❤
Well said! 🙂
Many learn that lesson too late.
Thank you!!! We have 2 boys who are amazing young men. I firmly believe it's because we were old-fashioned in many ways - - they had sports and school, their dad worked midnights so I know how hard it can be, but we ate dinner together almost every night with NO cell phones allowed at the table, we taught them manners and a good work ethic, spent as much time together as a family as we could, worked at being good role models to them, and frankly, it shows. They have good jobs and their bosses complement them on how hard they work and how respectful they are, they are doing so well in their lives. Taking time to be with your kids is SO worth it. Sports and activities are fun, but you can't buy back time.
Raising a child who is a wonderful, responsible, respectful, hardworking person is the sign of great parenting. You should be proud of yourself and your children. Well done. It takes some old fashioned thinking but it is possible. Well done.
I kept as much of my mother's and grandparents' furniture as my house would hold. We grew up with matching bed, dresser, chest and nightstands in each bedroom. I don't care what is trendy, these items are classic, with excellent quality and SOLID wood. I don't plan to ever let them go. Also, you make me want to wear my pearls again. All southern girls have pearls, don't they? I don't get many occasions to wear them, but I may have to find one!
if you're a Southern Girl be sure to learn The Pearl Clutch! 😂😂
Every day is a day worth enjoying the things you love. Never wait. Wear those pearls girlfriend xxx
I think we should smile more - at our family, at strangers, and everybody! A smile just makes you feel warmer!
I agree one million percent! Love this video! Basic manners and human decency would be number one on my list.
Loving the old-fashioned hair styles! You should do a video showing us how you style your hair that way! Please!
I have lived "old fashioned" my whole life. I was lucky enough to have known my great Grannies in Mississippi and spent so much time with my own Granny. I'm getting pretty darn old but still enjoy hanging laundry, cooking from scratch, baking with yeast(even home made potato water yeast) and sourdough. I have many family heirlooms, some that I use most of the time. Funny you mentioned letters. I was looking through my husband's grandma's secretary and found wonderful letters and post cards that I hadn't thought of for years. I decided to start sending letters to my grandchildren that live halfway across the country. You are so right, the old ways were so much more civil.
Makes me think of living like those did in hard economic times. Become a prepper, learn real skills, practice those skills, and poof you become old fashion. We all will be happy we did this in the coming months/years.
Great video! Love this retro vibe love these tips so much.
Totally agree with you. Skillability!
@@jajaazmi4441 Exactly! Many of them look easy but as I’m tryin to learn I see how much time they take to learn then skill. What kind are you working on?
@@Dreblueskies I hv acquired languages & dialects where I am, (southeast Asia) & a few other skills which I take for granted. How I wish I am a natural with sewing. I would love to alter my clothes, maybe too do cushions & upholstery.
@@jajaazmi4441 Sewing would be great I agree. I very versatile skill.
I’m 54 and a postal worker, wearing a uniform every day at work. But at home, which is my favorite place to be, I wear what makes me happiest - and I sew as much of my own wardrobe as I can!
Most clothes sold these days are cheap fabric, even cheaper construction, and cater to what the latest trend is. I don’t want any of that! I want beautiful, durable, one-of-a-kind creations made from natural fibers and with excellent durability. And made creatively!
One of the skirts I’ve made that gets compliments from strangers every single time I wear it (to the grocery store or running errands) was originally a 100% cotton bedskirt I found at a thrift shop for $7! I cut the fabric carefully, keeping the original lace & eyelet hem intact, and made a 3-tier gathered skirt with an elastic waist for ease of fit.
I also take store-bought garments that I’ve loved for years but aren’t in the best of shape any longer (or don’t fit as well as they used to) and take them apart at the seams to reuse the good fabric in a new item, often combining with another item. And anytime I can get a vintage tablecloth - or heavy cotton sheets in a nice color or print, or even a lightweight linen set of drapes/curtains - at the thrift shop, I know I’ll have another skirt or dress out of it eventually!
What a gift! Thank you for sharing! 😊🪻🌿🕊 where did you learn to sew?
We always eat dinner together as a family and I didn’t realize how rare it was until I started meeting more families our age.
Grounding ourselves in the physical world, indeed!
My children (mid 20s now) grew up with a phone on the wall in the kitchen. 👍 I actually invested in a vintage styled 1920s wall phone in my kitchen. It had push buttons on the spots where you'd put your fingers, but whatever .. it was an experience for them they won't soon forget .. and the cord didn't go very far, haha. They used it. It was a part of our life, and in so .. experienced 'grounding' of the past. ❤
Two channels on the television, when I was a child .. Saturday morning was a treat to get to watch a show or two of your liking. There was the comic section in the newspaper too .. Charlie Brown.
I received a hand written note in a card from a fellow church member and she wrote a sweet little note in it. I was touched by it that someone was thinking and praying for our family. And yes, I kept it🙂
I agree about the writing. I have a card ministry. Nobody sends cards or writes letters anymore. I love to bake bread & GIVE it away. I love doing that too. And everyone always is always so " oh thank you so much it means so much." And an added bonus it .makes me happy. Cooking & especially baking is therapeutic.
I didn’t even really think about it when my kids were young and we sat at the table for dinner every night. It was more to do with me not wanting food elsewhere in the house, and we were able to all be there together most nights because my work schedule allowed for it.
When my kids got it was such a habit, nobody really questioned it. Now that the oldest 2 are out on their own, they've commented how much they miss it. They also shared how weird their friends thought it was when they would come over, to sit with us and eat. They loved how the table was a safe zone to talk about anything and how we often lingered, chatting about our days and the world. Sometime digging into really big topics.
My kids are young so it's easier for us to eat every dinner together, but I still get so excited about Saturday morning breakfast together as a family. I make a special breakfast and we can take our time enjoying our food together and talk about what we want to do that day. I'm so thankful for family meal time. When I was in high school I played basketball so for almost 4 months I was eating dinner late at night in my room while doing my homework. I definitely appreciate quality family meal time ❤️
I'm reminded of something I read a while back about how there will inevitably come a time when you "carry your child for the last time". When they're babies, you'll probably carry them around everywhere without even thinking about it, but there will eventually come a last time when you put them down and never pick them back up again. And chances are that you won't even know or realize that it's the last time.
I'm not a mother yet, but that quote is something that has stayed with me. We don't really think about these things while we're going through them and chances are that we'll find it annoying at times when your child wants/needs to be carried or held, but I think it's important to remember that there will come a time when you'll miss it so make sure to cherish it now. And like you said; these years go by so very quickly.
❤ “old-fashioned”is definitely how we live here at The Pioneer Homestead , but you touched on some really important ones and I think number one was definitely eating supper together as a family. There are so many benefits to that including eye contact and communication with children, which I feel is lost in today’s technological society. Thank you so much for a refresher course for all of us mamas and blessings to you and your sweet family!💕🙏
Saying it with a smile really can change someone's mood. Just yesterday I went through a drive thru and picked up a grocery order and both times just by smiling and saying thank you I watched people go from grumpy to happy. I used to answer phones for my dance studio and was taught to just smile when saying hello and I swear every time I've done it, in person or on the phone, it's made things go better. 😊
My eldest is 17, and I am sooooo with you on the time thing! He’s been my independent child from the start, and I knew the day was coming when my little bird would fly away, but now that it’s mere months away, my heart is both full and breaking at the same time. So proud of him, and so sad I’m going to miss him like crazy!
8:40!! Yes manners and respect! It’s not faking it, it’s just being kind still in spite of your feelings 👏❤
To add to and expand on both your comfort food and eating together points: it was not uncommon pre-1960's for people to schedule a day a week (or a month) to go over to a neighbor's, friend's or relative's for dinner, and then to have the same person/family over to your house at a later time. For example, we'd go to church with Aunt Ethel and Uncle Fred (random names), and after church this week they'd come over to our house for brunch and the afternoon, and next week we'd go over to their house for brunch and the afternoon. The men would take over the living room and talk sports and politics, the women would take over the kitchen to cook and talk, and the kids would play out back until it was time to come in, wash their hands and set the table. Same with after baseball practice on Tuesday, but with neighbor Ed and his wife Margie (more random names). Benefits included giving people a break from all the cooking and cleaning, face to face social time, showing off the new recipe or creation from the kitchen, cheaper and easier than "going out", just for a few. Just my thoughts from happy memories gone by, respectfully submitted.
Hanging clothes, "Yes ma'am", "Please, May I". In an English movie I saw a man go up to a woman and say, "May I approach?" I had never heard that before and love it.😮
Im glad I stumbled on your channel. I been in a identity rut lately and your channel has helped me realized that I have been loosing sight of who i am as the world/society does not care for manners or polite kind people. I want to go back to my roots and be the girl I know I am deep down. I love writing hand written letters, being kind and sweet and love with all my heart. but society and the opinions of others has made me depressed and bitter. I dont want to be that way. I want to be the kind creative loving girl that i am.
I totally agree with you. Manners are not taught to children anymore. I think with the proliferation of cell phones has had a detrimental effect on them. I’m glad you treasure your grandmother’s secretary. Mine is a reproduction of one from the 1800’s. It is not on trend now so no one in the family wants it when I pass on
I think it’s more of both parents working. Kids in day cares with no personal love and care. Or even left at home alone with other siblings. 🤷🏼♀️
Love your blouse! Let’s bring back the older, classy clothes!!
I grew up in a large family, and everyone sitting around the table for dinner was something we always did. That brings back very good memories, it was a time of day that I looked forward to
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My children did a lot of activities growing up but for two years straight they each did 4 different sports or activities and my husband and I were also working. It was grueling in the end. The kids were tired, we were tired, we never saw each other and one day, when my daughter had a tantrum about the dance class she was taking I just said enough. They were allowed to pick one outside home activity at a time and we went from being unpaid Uber drivers to parents again. The kids were happy about it too. And the bank!
I am always courteous and polite. I interact with checkout staff, say hello and smile at strangers, compliment people if it strikes me to do so. Although I do this to hopefully brighten their day, it equally brightens mine. I live alone, so this is valuable social interaction for me.
Years ago, I met the mother of one of my friends, a lovely old lady. I found out later that she said to my friend 'that girl was clearly brought up well, she has excellent manners'. I was so touched by this and by it's implied positive reflection on my beloved, much missed parents, it made me determined to continue. God rest you, Sylvie xx
All of these are great. I feel much happier when I slow my family down, turn off the electronics, and focus on what's actually happening.
Haha yes to the poop & goldfish everywhere. Between my 6 & 2 year old daughters and almost 1 year old puppy, some days it feels like I am always cleaning up after someone.
I also agree so much with you on less obligations. We declined soccer this year as our 6 yr old enters 1st grade. There’s something special about enjoying a slow Saturday morning together making breakfast, French press coffee and staying in PJs. So I didn’t want to NEED to be someplace every single morning of the week. Mon-Fri is the daycare/school bus rush, Sunday is church. Saturday morning will be for us.🥰
💯 AGREE 👍 The happiest memories are remembering getting off the school bus and smelling mom cooking a family meal😋🥰 Thanks for sharing 🤗
Hubby and I decided before we ever had children that we would teach them at home. I LOVE being in my home. I love the cooking, cleaning, crafting, fixing and so much more. But the top of the list was always that I got to be with our two sons and watch them grow. We invited my parents to join us during those years and they cherished the experience.
Every day we all had our work to do so it was super busy but we found time to be silly and serious as the situation called for it. Now they are grown men and wonderful to be around. We never had "the terrible two's" or whiny, selfish teens. No one was sneaky. No one lied. We all learned how to be civilized and good natured and the boys got a wonderful childhood full of great memories. How I envy you young mothers! I'd do it all over in a heart beat.
Hang in there, girl... you're doing a wonderful job! ❤
I have six children together. My husband and I have seven. My oldest is 38 and my youngest is 22.🙏 I do the keto lifestyle because I was diagnosed with pre-diabetes. There is not anything that I cannot make keto! Praise the Lord!❤️🙏
I love this…. My parents gave me their old dining table. I remember eating around the table and chatting to my family. I now sit with my children at the same table eating meals we enjoy. Tradition is important and it imbeds memories ❤
Absolutely LOVE these beautifully lost suggestions that we all need to work on! Thank you so much Angela!!! 🤗💖 You are truly wise beyond your years and are inspiring countless others. 💗
I enjoy listening . My sister-in-law often laugh & comment that we are both dinosaurs . We both raised 5 married children who have blessed us with many grandchildren. We both love to pressure can,bake from scratch , care for our home & love our husbands.
As far as time goes just think in terms of years. When my son was eight I told my husband, wow, we only have ten more Christmas' or birthdays or Thanksgivings together. It really puts things in perspective when you think I you only have them for about 18 years with direct influence. Thumbs up the first 15 seconds in. I agree with everything you said. We definitely need to get back to love and decorum. I give people extra plants I have that are perennial, seeds from my garden, handmade gifts, eggs from my chickens etc. Gifts of love don't need to be expensive to friends. I love bringing hostess gifts. My house is filled with vintage and antique pieces almost all from the thrift store and heirlooms. I get stuff that other people just donated of their grandmas and you are right, most everything is so well made. Got a gorgeous Ethan Allen piece for my son from the thrift store for like $75.00. I think it was originally like $2000.00 and still sells for over a thousand used. I would say the most important thing is to teach your children to value everything discussed. Especially the value of being together as a family.
I always say "thank you" and "please" at the drive through. Most of the time the person taking my order sounds generally surprised and grateful. I almost always get a happy "You're welcome" back and more smiles.
I think that eating together at the dinner table with your family also helps to foster a better understanding of one another through communication.
For example, if your children go to school, asking questions about their time there can allow parents to spot any potential issues arising. Especially in today's climate when so much rubbish is being infiltrated through academic institutions.
That green on you is gorgeous!!
We eat dinner together almost every single night. One night my husband works late and another night chikdren get macncheese and they go to bed an hour early so my husband and I can have an at-home date. So it's definitely 5 nights a week. And I cant wait for fall soups!
Literally, all my friends have a kids' table in the living room for eating. I'll admit I really have to resist doing the same. The only reason I haven't just by accident is because I saw them do it first.
An old fashioned habit you remind me of is dressing with care. We have two extremes in the world today, women (usually younger girls) who wear 15 lbs of makeup to leave their home, in an outfit that you obviously can't be productive in at all, or the opposite, no makeup, out and about in their pajamas. I am more of a t-shirt and jeans with mascara only mother, but I am reminded that I need to put more time and care into my appearance before I leave my house or my husband comes home. My grandmother always had her pearls and lipstick on to leave the house and my Texan mama still never leaves without her lipstick. It's time I follow their example! Thanks for the reminder!
You are SO right about time flying by when it comes to your children. I had 5 kids and when they were little it felt like they'd be home forever. Now I'm 68 and can't believe how fast the time went by. My oldest is 48 and my youngest is 33. I even had to make a video about empty nest syndrome because of a simple dream about them when they were young. I miss those days with my kids all at home with all my heart and soul. Enjoy those kids as much as you can, in the blink of an eye, you'll have an empty nest. ❤
I am a Grandma that was so happy that I spent time with my children. We played and had picnics and watched good shows/movies together. I cherish those memories!
Screens can be a part of life that is hard to get away from. As a family we set aside a certain amount of time each week where we have free time no screen time (no housework during this time too) and we use that time to spend time together as a family, work on a hobby that we never have time to do and just be more present.
As a sixty year old mother and grandmother whose daughter, along with her husband and my precious granddaughter moved from Oregon to West Virginia, while my eldest daughter moved with her husband to Georgia, I spend as much time on FaceTime with them as possible and dinner with my boys every week. My youngest son struggles with MS, so we have moved in together and have breakfast together every morning and schedule dinner with my eldest boy once a week. These times are so very special and we must make time for them. Our last dinner together I made homemade chili and southern cornbread from scratch and it was a phenomenal time well spent. Family is the most precious gift.
I am so glad I stumbled across your channel. I absolutely love old fashioned things. I do a lot of those things already. Like cooking from scratch, cooking comfort foods, sewing, cross-stitching, knitting, saving a good box or jar for something later, having a homestead, making your own cleaner. I do a lot of this stuff already, but it is so rare to find that that do that or like the things we like. I would love most of the old things to come back. I truly do understand the convinces of modern day technology, but it is stepping on turfs that it should never have the freedom to do so.
I miss eating together as a family at the dinner table. I grew up doing this and it was normal. So when I had to start trying to make it happen because my husband would gravitate toward the living room then the kids would follow. If we finally got to eat at the table, everybody rushed and by the time I was sitting down to have my first bite, everybody was on seconds or done!
It is so frustrating.
Eating together and cooking are both huge things for me in our home. Another thing that should, and possibly is now, make a comeback is growing our own vegetables and fruits, pasturing and butchering our own meats. Taking children hunting and fishing is a big one for us as well. These skills are not only important for possible survival in the future, but also learning a skill while spending time together.
You are so right time goes by to fast 😢 we use to have a house full now it’s just my husband and myself. I would love to have gold fish all over the living room ❤
I just spent the whole day baking with my mom from our garden harvest. Carrot and zucchini muffins etc, apple pies. Stocking our freezers and spending quality time. ❤
You are sooo right! Hurrying steals your peace. Everything you said was true
I needed this so much!! I just cut out a couple of extracurricular activities and I was feeling so bad about it. We were made for true leisure! What a blessing of a message! Thank you!
My Aunt said one of the few rules my grandparents had was you MUST be home by 6pm for supper as a family.
So agree!!!! God gave us simple rules to live by. They are orderly and fit us as human beings. Family is the key to everything!! This why the elite are destroying it!!! Thank you for standing up for good old fashioned values!
I'm a disabled momma, suffer from chronic pain and I'm going through hell for the last WK with my entire left leg. Think I injured my tendons. but yesterday was my Mr.(spouse) Birthday and I spent 13 hrs in and out of the kitchen to make sure i made him a week nice birthday dinner. Slow cooked a nice pork shoulder with a few sides. And baked him a nice big round brownie with chocolate icing and sprinkled his age on it lol. Also making breakfast lunch and snacks in-between, as well as keeping the kitchen nice and clean. Woah man 😳 I didn't think I was gonna make it to finish. With amount of pain I went through but I managed to give one last push and it was so worth it. Everything came out sooo good. I love cooking and being able to take my time making nice meals for us. I am a proud stay at home momma. And sure do love caring and being needed by my family. Love my crafty simple life. ❤
I agree with everything you said in this video, and I don’t have kids or anything like that, but I do understand that old Timey furniture is a lot more reliable than what we have readily ready for us to buy today and yeah, you’re right the comfort foods and time is the most important thing we have with the people we care about💯💯💯💯💯 spending time in the real world is definitely important and easy to take for granted when there are easier ways to do things without getting your hands dirty, or whatever. But there are things you literally can’t do without actually interacting with people or places, so yeah, it’s really important to be interactive with the world 🌎
Love your “old fashioned “ series and everything else! Your doing great!!
My twin boys are 16! 😱 Where did the years go? Before I blink, they will be adults. I'm not ready! I still SEE them in my mind as the tiny babies they were, so little, so fragile, so sweet. But I guess our moms saw us that way, too. We must all make our way in this world at some point.
Awesome video, thanks so much great topic. I make my own detergent it’s so cheap to make. I toss every in a large trash bag to mix it, instead of paying 60 to 55 cent a load I pay .10 cent a load. I also make my own fabric softener.
Take a bow, or a swing ! Great advice ALL. Keeping the theme of home-made, Build stuff! Give your kids some scrap lumber - hammer up a bird house. Design things - sketch - knit - carve - add a personal stamp to everything! Glad to meet you!!
When my four kids were growing up, we played a simple game at dinner. Called High and low. Each of us shared the high point of our day and low point. It made us laugh and learn, everyone has hard things in life. And the kids learned compassion for each other.
Something being new OR being old fashioned doesn’t automatically make it good or bad. Surely we should take the good of the past and leave the bad, and the same with the present. We certainly don’t want to go back to the days when women had no choice but to stay in abusive relationships because they couldn’t provide for themselves financially, or when black people weren't treated like human beings.
Finding a balanced lifestyle that works for you is more important than whether it’s a new one or an old one.
Saying hello, goodmorning, smiling at people. Taking the time to really listen to others. There is such a need for these simple ways of caring for each other.
Great video! Agree with you 100% on the manners. People more and more only think of themselves. To the point of not even saying thank you for someone holding a door how easy is that. Say thank you smile you don’t know how that can change someone’s day 😁
I make my own detergents and cleaning products. But I never thought to put them in lovely containers. What a great way to upgrade your look.
Simple birthday parties, not over the top less complicated and less competitive.
We go to the park every day. My oldest (3) has his own tablet. (He’s very wishy-washy with it. If it’s available, he is absorbed with it. But if he’s not (currently), there are no tantrums.) So tablet is not introduced at the crack of dawn, ever.
However, going to the park, being outside and meeting new people, is something he will scream for. We live just on the main outskirts of town, so it is easy to go to the park every day. But it is the first thing he wants to do after preschool. Even on his days off. I love his desire to connect with anyone possible, but still willing to make his own fun (he’ll say “i’ll play by myself” if no one’s there.) Going to Walmart can be kind of crazy, but seeing how he doesn’t have a desperate need for the internet yet is such a blessing to my heart.
I’m just old fashion with things..I garden, can, cook from scratch a lot. It’s just the two of but I watch the grandsons and try to install common courtesy and good family values. Love your videos, have a great day.
I’m a new subscriber. Totally agree with you. We are dealing with furniture we waited 8 months for and now is having structural problems. We are empty nesters and not hard on it. We consider the store one of the best in our city but furniture is not made like it used to be. Love the vintage and antiques. And don’t get me started on prompt customer service!
Finding joy with hanging clothes on the clothesline 🫠
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100% right about multitasking! Whenever possible, focus on one task at a time.
Regarding politeness to strangers, it used to annoy me as a kid that mom could be cranky to us because she was in a bad mood, but if someone called, she was all polite on the phone. Just because we’re in a bad mood is now excuse to be impolite to our own family members. Why take our bad mood out on them?