Golden Child Sister Got Kicked Out By Her Husband For Cheating...
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- Golden Child Sister Got Kicked Out By Her Husband For Cheating... So Our Parents Convinced Me To Let Her Move In, But Then She Started Flirting With MY Husband!
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Also ...she wasn't flirting with your husband OP ...she was HARASSING your husband.
Flirting is only when its two sided.
Narcissists think the world revolves around them, someone not being interested in them doesn't make sense to them.
it stopes being Flirting when the recipient asks for it to stop. if it continues after that it is just harassments.
No, it can start as flirting until one party dont want the advance anymore
Not true at all about flirting. Flirting very often starts 1 sided since usually one person makes the move FIRST. So that’s a braindead take on your end. The sister is still nasty and OP is naive.
Like, why did op think she was safe? Your sister is a cheater, ofc she might go after your man op
*again....
She already tried going for him before.
Poisedon said it best in Ruthlessness. "The line between naivete and hopefulness is almost invisible".
@@Arcane_Route_66ruthlessness mentioned! but seriously though, what was she thinking?? nothing really stopped her sister before, so why'd she think she'd be protected from the same?
Yeah, but she also trusts her husband, the first incident of flirting was years ago and she didn't think she'd ever be so blatantly disrespectful as to do it in front of her. Personality disorders are the hardest sort of mental disorders to treat, it's very hard to separate the person from the stuff they continually do, it's not like an episodic thing like schizophrenia or bipolar, it's just constant.
To be fair she probably hoped that her sister wouldn't have stopped so low as to flirt with her sister's husband
Not the parents pulling a do-it-for-dan 💀
Buy it for Becky. 😆 🤣
I am so glad I got this reference
@@ada45169 I at the same wish I didn't and am glad I do.
@@ada45169me too lmao. I hope do it for dan becomes a meme here
😂😂😂😂😂😂 That story was crazy af.
Is anyone else bothered that the parents are treating this grown woman like a child because she has NARCISSISM?? Narcissism isn’t a disorder that means you can’t live on your own or be an adult. If anything, I think coddling her makes the disorder worse than better.
Exactly! She was begging to be left alone and build herself up but the parents refused to give her enough independence for her to manage her own life. She was obviously getting bored with life as she had thought of a great future in her childhood but ended up getting stuck with living with her parents and worse than that , not having ANY profession as such where she has an adequate amount of work and the spoon-feeding was likely annoying her.
According to this story she became like she is now due to helicopter parenting from her aunt. Her parents genious solution for this was to helicopter parent her to fix it
As someone else commented here, after reading the whole thing, I wonder if the aunt was really the helicopter parent Becky said she was, or if the parents just vilified her for having normal expectations and rules, instead of enabling their golden child like they do.
If she's really studying all the time and facing constant discipline, it makes no sense for her grades to slip or for her to become a narcissist.
Narcissists are usually the product of a lifetime of enabling, and the aunt seemed to be doing the opposite of that.
Yyyyyyyyup, sounds to me like auntie just got thrown under the bus for trying to keep her under control
Actually, narcissistic personality disorder is usually caused by severe prolonged trauma + enabling of bad coping mechanisms. I think the best analogy I can give, is a broken bone that has healed crookedly and remains brittle.
Narcissists actually have incredibly low self esteem; their delusions of grandeur and perfection are just the way their mind protects itself from the underlying feelings of worthlessness and self-hatred. If they don't pretend that they can do no wrong, and that everyone else is the problem whenever something goes wrong in their lives, then the only other possible screw-up left is them. Logical and not a big deal for a normal person, but to a narcissist this is an unbearable thought that shatters their delusion of flawlessness. Wich they believe they need to keep intact to survive. Literally. Since they are at a point where the only alternative to the lie is self-deletion. Hence why they get protective and start acting crazy as soon as they are confronted by reality. It's a life threatening situation to them to have their ego put into question. To not be the center of attention or the subject of everyone's envy. It's a terrible personality disorder to have, since the narcissist ultimately always sets themselves up for failure. And it's an even worse disorder for a loved one or relative, because living with a narcissist is exhausting and incredibly difficult.
Yeah. Kinda weird for me too. Depressed and su*c*dal are more likely. Narcisst? Hard to believe
Meanwhile the aunt literally behaved differently when the family wasn't around... the daughter was doing so well in the first place to go to a good school, that wouldn't change over night when the child Wants and Works for thise goals!!!
Most likely the parents favored OP's sister because she was better academically, the aunt abused her and controlled her, breaking the girl down until she no longer had to take care of her niece, based on the aunts story she was likely jealous of how her niece was actually getting a GREAT opportunity for her education while the aunt felt like a failure... after the golden child was returned home the parents never took care of her properly because they felt she was to smart to need therapy (this is also likely where the narcissistic behavior in the sister started)... the parents had already done a good job of gaslighting and brainwashing OP into being a carpet for her sister simply because she was smarter and OP knew that even as a child!!! While yes there are sometimes OBVIOUS differences in how smart your kids are, that doesn't mean that OP shouldn't have had any opportunities given, and she clearly never was praised for her skills by her parents or else it would have been mentioned/the sister wouldn't have been considered a golden child
When I heard that she suddenly changed I immediately thought she was being abused. It’s really hard to understand hopelessness that you can feel when you isolated from family and subjected to abuse that might not be physical to a child that is growing and developing. Can 100% taint the person that they potentially could grow into.
So.... It sounds like the parents made her a Golden child, and the aunt honestly sounds like she was trying to iron her out and make a half decent person out of her, and golden child put up with it until she couldn't. OP is only just now starting to understand that her family is shit.
she was nice when she was with her parents tho, her parents are probably doing things to ease their guilt about their daughter who lost all her potential
Nah, aunt made her a Narcissist and parents felt as if it were their fault and overcompensated by making her a golden child
@@nvm8824nope. The parents blame everyone but themselves. Look at them blaming OP for her sister not going home… smh
@@ilovesports5468 theres a lot of stories like that though
child A goes through something traumatic, parents compensate by making them the center of attention and in turn neglect their siblings
This, a few years, doesn't really make a person NPD. If that were the case, we'd all have NPD. The parents set her up for failure. Also, why on earth would you try to control a grown adult and go out of your way to tell everybody around you how crazy your daughter is. You are isolating her and ensuring she can not free herself from under your thumb. The parents are so obviously abusive it's insane. This is word for word how my X MIL is. It got to a point that people I didn't know looked down at me and with obvious disgust. They were her friends, and she talked so horribly about us that people I never met treated me like trash. So, I can say from personal experience that this is abuse.
Aunt had 0 to do with sister's narcissism. She inherited it from parents.
But the Aunt never discouraged the narcissism, and even seems to have encouraged it as well.
So the Aunt shares guilt as well.
@@matthewcardoza1190how did the Aunt encourage it?
The aunt is the one who broke her. The parents aren't much better though.
Narcissism is theorized to develop in early childhood, clinical narcissism (not what lay people mistake for narcissism, usually extreme self centeredness) is where an individual is emotionally around 4-5 years of age. There is usually a significant trauma in that age and the narcissism emerges as a defense of feelings of intense self loathing/low self worth of the person with narcissism. The narcissistic traits are the show, so to speak, put on so others don't see the depth of the pain and it is even hidden from the person suffering from the disorder as well. So all this to say, pretty sure there was something the parents did or didn't do that contributed to this diagnosis for Becky.
These parents were surprisingly good at hiding their favoritism, probably because OP was an obedient and submissive daughter... but the mask slipped off the moment OP went against their wishes.
Yeah, she's better off without any of them.
After sitting through this entire thing, I'm starting to thing that the aunt wasn't the only problem behind closed doors early on. Unfortunately the "Give her your house" comment proves they have the same tendencies, either absorbed from the sister from constant exposure or more likely was always present. The only path forward for happiness is likely going to be a permanent NC with the entire branch of the family from where aunt came from and a very tentative relationship with the other if you filter them out on a case by case basis. Sucks that things would ever have to get that far but heck this is just not healthy.
Regardless of gender, never bring someone with a past of cheating into your home
Becky is an adult. She can dissappear without the world ending. The parents are literally insane
So rude of the parents to be like "Your husband is loyal so its fine!" What about his comfort?? It doesnt matter that hes uncomfortable??? He should just deal with his SIL sexually harrasing him because what, hes a man and shes a woman so its ok?!?!?
The woman was diagnosed as a narcissist and her sister didn't investigate what that entails. It means she's selfish and doesn't empathise with people, she will blame others for any failings, nothing is her fault. That's someone with no sense of responsibility and a huge sense of entitlement, and it sounds like her parents have assisted in nurturing that behaviour to be honest, even though all the blame was foisted onto the aunt.
Ain't nobody gonna "convince" me to let someone stay at MY house.
That part!!!! Becky needs medication and a mental hospital!
@@chanellerenee5928 Becky needs some independence and being left alone.
"I didn't see the point of denying it over and over again"
(facepalm) I DO!
Parents messed her up - you can't protect someone from consequences of they actions and be surprised they didn't improve xd
Why these stories have more twists than every Ex Wife's Affairs 😭
its the ai giving the people what they want and its getting good at it
Nta. You can't help someone who doesn't want to be saved.
My sister flirted with
My husband. Am I the Asshole for kicking her out
These post are borderline pathetic because you’re telling me you feel bad after kicking your sister out after she flirted with your husband?
People feel guilt for so many things when they shouldn’t
It’s Reddit 😂 the type of place where people would cry for days just because they accidentally stepped on an ant
Thank you! It's irks my damn nerves, like do you really need to ask if yta for shit you CLEARLY aren't The asshole for
The aunt sounds like she tried but the kid was a lunatic
Your horrible sister screwed up immediately after she moved in. Im shocked. Heres my shocked face 😮
Here’s mine 👁️👄👁️
lol
Here’s mine 🤨
😂😂😂
Hold on. I just found mine. 🙄
Poor guy got cheated on for their whole marriage and lost the house he bought with his own money
Turning into a stay at home wife should have been the end of the marriage.
Welcome to marriage. The contact you sign to get cheated on and lose half or more of your shit to the one who abused you.
This is why you always sign a prenup and live in an at fault state
So just because someone has narcissistic personality disorder it doesn't essentially destroy their life it's basically just means that they're all about themselves and they're stuck on themselves you paint her as being almost an invalid and can't do anything that's why I'm leaning towards the story being fake because that's not how it works
She's never been taught accountability, that came from the parents not the aunt.
it's a bit naive to think it was all on her aunt
The parents needed someone to blame and the aunt was it. The parents made the narcissist. Not the aunt. The sister is a diagnosed narcissist. That rarely happens because A narcissist can do no wrong in their mind. The OP was just trying. The OP is a good person and tried to do a good thing
@@estrella9944 Still, after all those problems with her sister and her parents, isn't it time to stop believing whatever lies the sister told about her aunt? She never cleaned up her name lol
Never fix a problem with another problem
Also, parents could've given their own house to becky instead of telling her daughter to give hers.
You know what's killing me about the story how the parents never take accountability for anything they messed up with this child it's not your responsibility
What happens when you convince someone they are special
"You can deal with it or give her the house and go somewhere else"
Sounds a lot like they'd be finding her on the streets, cause she'd be getting kicked out regardless
No the Aunt didn't ruin the Sister the Parents did the Aunt just gave it push but its the Parents who won't let a 30 y/o Woman face any consequences
This story has a lot of range for a simple cheating story, kind of feels like the OP is also trying to justify what the sister did/tried to do
I bet the sister believed that every man was in love with her except those that are related by blood
Its pretty obvious where the Narcissism came from. It was not the aunt that caused it, her parents made her this way and the aunt was probably trying to change her.
"After a while, I didn't see the point in declining it over and over again, so I ended up agreeing to it..."
Excuse me, what?
THE TITLE MADE ME GO WOWZAAA 😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲
the aunt giving her NPD is just sickening like seriously it just boils my blood
As soon as I heard the name “Becky”, I stopped listening to the story and couldn’t stop thinking about the song “Baby Got Back”. I forgot it existed, but now I won’t be able to not hear it all day long. So thanks for that Telltales.
Too much info on the pathetic sister. Did op really expect her to be respectful towards her and her relationship? Shes a cheater that should have been enough to not let her move in and build a relationship with her.
Im curious if it's actually possible to develop NPD due to strict upbringing. I'd expect it to be more of Anxiety or trauma related 🤔. I'd say this started way before she moved in with said aunt, though aunt might have had a hand in its development
WE LET OP’S SISTER COOK AND IT’S BURNT!!!!!🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
Girlie saying to people who have their own house, their own relationship and their own careers that they are "loosers" meanwhile she does nothing with her life and make mommy and daddy buy her an apartment and that is the only thing going for her 😂 and showing it off like she was the one to work to have that singular thing. Delulu 😅
is op that crazy?? her sister flirted with her husband, cheated on her own husband, and now she's allowing her to move in with her? what part of this sounded like a good idea at the time?
Narcissism isn’t something you catch, it was there the whole time the aunt just made it worse.
Nah the parents said take one for the team💀
seem like the parents innocently fed the sisters ego all their childhood intel she moved in with the aunt who demanded perfection and the stress caused her to develop severe NPD. Now the parents baby their traumatized daughter treating it like its PTSD and not NPD witch are both vary different diagnoses requiring very different treatments even at OPs expense and that is unacceptable.
“There’s no fixing a nutcase like this because they’re always going to be ungrateful.” Maybe uh. Don’t lump all people with NPD in with her.
Bro heard everything about problem daughter and got into relationship with her lmaooooooo. Some people need to learn the hard way.
when they said "she started snapping at us, was distant, became troublesome in school" I just knew the aunt was abusing her in some way, these are the signs.
So what I understand from this is the aunt trying to get Her on track and she had to break down over it and the family Sued Her because of this What a terrible family
If she got her health bas it's totally HER fault they said she could go on campus but she refused the divorce was also HER fault
Mental health may not be your fault, but it is your responsibility
It's bad manners to shit on someone's dinner table when they offer you a meal, it's completely delusional to get angry with your host when they request you clean up your own mess or leave and never return!
Parents gonna throw away all their money enabling the nutcase daughter, then when they get old act surprised that the stable one puts them in a home and doesnt look back
This golden child sister really does have a narcissistic personality.
Its the parents making all the bad decisions.
Being close with golden child is already bad idea for me, on top of that she was a narcissist and a cheater? Let alone let them stay in my house, I don't even want to see them
If she has NPD, it wasn’t your aunt which caused but definitely stroked it deeper. NPD is personality disorder, meaning it’s connected to genetics, brain development, neurological pathways and much more. The question then comes are you identical or not. Based on the facts your presenting I’m guessing op isn’t identical. This means Becky could be 100% you could have been send the same outcome could have occurred back home.
Op's "family" will try to get in touch once OP announces she's pregnant and they will demand to be in the child's life
4:33 she didnt want to leave but she decided to screw it up entirely
No bro ... That's full on craziness bruh ... Tf
Anyone else guessing she probably made up everything about her aunts treatment?
Twins this different.. I don't doubt this is true.. but this sounds like something out of the _Sweet Valley High_ series of novels....
And that's the second thing I can never understand about parents what's the point of having a kid if you're going to put them on somebody else's their responsibility and this is the main issue why kids grow up entitled to no guidance
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The aunt may have caused the trauma that led to NPD but the parents didn't help by then turning into helicopter parents themselves. In fact, they probably made it worse.
Guess the parents chose their daughter over rhe future grabdkids.
I feel like her sister didn't do anything wrong. Her aunt quite literally ruined her whole life by treating her like that.
no the sister 100% something man. but yea its also the aunts fault too
You don't develop narcissistic behavior like that, most likely she was a narcissist from the beginning and hid it (as many do). Sounds like she was treated as special at home and moved in with the aunt where she wasn't treated special anymore and that set everything else off. It sounds like she's always been the special child and felt she could do whatever she wanted. She couldn't handle OP's husband not wanting her. I HOPE oP goes no contact with all of them.
It seems your parents were also super intrusive with her after she returned. Exactly the opposite than what she needed :-(
Why are women such poor judges of character
Trying to cure narcissism is like trying to cure uranium of radiation. 🤪
The shit apple doesn't fall far from the shit tree.
*after smoking 4 pakes of cigs* "its a twin story"
Single people especially women are not bad news ,
No. Next question.
I honestly don’t know the answer here, but… does the grey rock method work on people who aren’t spouses in an ugly divorce? Like an annoying SiL who keeps sexually harassing you?
it works even better if you go no contact and dont let them live with you
Parents turned to be as PoS as sis
My sister-in-law is a narcissist just like becky
It's not your fault it's her fault for flirting with your husband.
Of course the sister is called Becky can't trust them
F*ing Toby always messing up things... I think he could be the Scranton stranger.
He didn't mess up?
u need to get a different music somehow... getting depresed with the same music all the time xD
I know it's fake but it's pretty interesting
Im sorry but i think she already a narcissist since the school invitation come 🤷🏻♀️
Seems fake
Funny that the parents somehow supposedly sued the aunt, pretty obvious there'd be no claim for that and part of the issue is the parents.
But hey, fake story.
Genuinely decent parents. That's rare for these. Maybe they don't understand what narcissism actually is but they tried their best in a difficult situation. The "do it for dan" was bad but I understand how they thought it was justified.
I understand she is a adult that has Made a Lot of mistakes and ver family can't put up with it anymore, but I feel Bad for her, she was sent away to someone that wasn't qualified to be a parent just for a posibility of a distant Future wich probably gave her a Lot of pressure, then we can't really know what else could have happened when she lived with her parents, if the treatment was actually working, we just have some story about OP telling us distant memories. The cheating was completly wrong plus flirting with OP's Husband, but this happened when she already hit a low point and no One could do anything by then, but she still needs Help.
i dont feel bad for op. how dumb do you have to be to allow a women who cheated in your house
Some people are just too much of a doormat, aren't they OP?
Another fake story
So your parents thought it was a good idea to help your sister by becoming helicopter parents like the aunt did? Then, after she floated with him as your bf, you still came to the conclusion that it was ok for her to move into your home with you and your husband? And all because you felt you owed the family? You had it coming and your parents are just as bad as your aunt. Sister or not...she is a grown woman and if she's not good to try to help herself, she doesn't want help and should be made to go on her own. I know that sounds harsh but that's just the way I see it. You can't force people to just be ok.
Some people give into family pressure more than others. It’s easy for you to say you wouldn’t do it this way, but you may have grown up in a different situation. She didn’t have it coming as you say. Chill with the victim blaming
@@ashleyt6840 Victim blaming? Nah, she made herself a victim. I'm just stating the obvious, which op and her husband clearly chose to ignore.They all knew what sister was capable of because she has done it before. Narcissists can make you think they've changed...they're good at being con artists. But they don't change. Hopefully, op learned her lesson. Or maybe not since she keeps blaming herself for this mess.
fifth lol
First!!!!
Well I guess you had to win at something once in your life
Second
Silly girl. She didn't want to live with you, she wanted to live with your husband
Older brother pulled that crap 💩 and wondering why I put him in the ER.
The parents would have been great if they had just treated OPs sister like any other human being. She needs to learn that actions have consequences, boundaries exist etc.
And NPD isn’t a one size fits all, as some of them can heal and others are actually kind. You just never hear from those ones. I am not defending narcissistic tendencies but people withNPD
yes! also i don't get all the coddling parents were doing because of sister's mental illness. yes, she has mental illness, but that doesn't mean that her mental age has been reversed and she can't think/care for herself.
(i know there are many instances where it should be done, but in this story it seems really excesive...)
Less than 1% of the population actually has NPD though.
Go. no. Contact!