Hell isn't a place with fire anyways. Apparently that was made up by the catholic church, but I do love that line in the song because it just hits home.
@@JamieeSupernova Well... The entire concept of hell and the devil is completely made up and far more recent then people realise. It was a tactic to control even more what people would do. The entire idea of the looming eternal condemnation makes people easily manipulated. If those that preach about it actually believed in it you wouldn't see them commiting the crimes that will make them go to hell for eternity...
Same and I'm only 18 bruh. This shit exhausting. Literally if good jobs actually hired I feel we'd ALL be doing way better mentally and physically etc.
This moved me to tears. I connect so deeply to this. I’m 32 and have been struggling to keep my head high and stay strong through illness and financial stress. I needed this today. Thank you.
Sending you love fellow 32-year-old! I took a different path. Got married at 22 and had children young. Same tears, but for different reasons. Life gives us so many challenges. Last year has been so freakin’ hard. I wish you the best! ❤
I'm 41 now, and I finally feel like I'm figuring my life out now. Took a lot of struggling to get here, but I am definitely happy...there's still time, trust me, it'll all be worth it 😊😊😊
32 is really just the beginning of when you start to feel like your feet are really under you. It's when you hit your 40s that you really come into your own for most of us. Give yourself grace and patience. You are right where you need to be. Your 30s are much better than your 20s. Enjoy them and don't worry about how other appear to be doing.
I’m a 74 year old boomer. My struggles are way behind me now. But I can tell you, the advice and the words of hope and encouragement I read in these responses are brilliant, uplifting and very, very wise words. You’ll make it kids. Reach out. Help is out there. Struggles make you strong. Just don’t EVER, EVER GIVE UP! 🙏
It's nice to hear someone of your generation being so positive. You and your words make me miss the well of calm wisdom that was my husband's grandmother, she just passed 3 months ago and I frequently find myself still wanting to call her and ask things like "what will get this stain out?" And "life is feeling overwhelming, what could I do about this situation?". Thank you for being a positive voice online
Honestly, thank you so much for saying this. I don't think I've ever heard anyone from your generation be so... validating. I'd be lying if I didn't say if I didn't cry for a good 5 minutes after reading this (part of a much longer cry listening to this song on repeat/reading the comments). I didn't have any clue how much it would mean to me hearing someone from my 'grandparent's' generation say something kind as opposed to simply gaslighting us that we're not working hard enough or something. Thanks for helping this struggling millennial feel... seen.
Hahahah!! You had a good guy, you left him, dyed your hair pink and wonder why you have no one. That behaviour is a way of life. And I will tell you all the guys I know avoid that like the plague. It’s poison. The flat truth is you’ve already hit “the wall”. Yer 90% a forever cat lady. Yer only chance now is to clean up, get “normy” and hope, with all your fibre you can find a good guy that’s still looking. Because at this age, the guys who aren’t hooked know the pink and green hairs and blue hairs are nutz and want nothing to do with them. We’ve learned they aren’t worth it. So you can be pissed at me, or listen up and realize this advice is all you have between you and cat lady. I only feel for that poor guy that you string along. I hope he found a good match. Guys out there, this is a warning. Don’t put up with the woman who think something better is there if they turn rainbow haired and say they won’t take a man’s last name. They aren’t worth it, and still haven’t figured out it’s still their grandFATHERS name.
Yeah, that’s easy to say when things were still feasible for the average person when you guys were coming up. The ignorance in that statement is mind blowing. Millennials are the first generation in a long time that are projected to be less successful and struggle more than their parents. The first generation in a long time that can’t buy a house without significant help from their parents or other relatives. The first generation to have an increase in multigenerational homes thought to be due to cost of living-it’s the only way some can provide. The cost of one year in college insanely more expensive than it was back your day if you account for inflation and average salaries. Houses are crazy expensive, interest rates are high, inflation is crazy, rents are ridiculous and anyone trying to buy a house is competing with corporations that can offer more and in cash than any regular families can do. To add insult to injury, the cost of living has been steadily rising far beyond the wages & have for quite sometime now. So easy to say “you’ll make it, kids” because you guys did but thanks to the generations before us and just as that one WWII vet said while in tears recently “this country has gone to hell In a hand basket…no one will have the opportunities that we did. No one will live the kind of lives that we did, no one will have the kind of freedoms and the fun that we had.” He’s right. It’s regretfully ignorant statements like that that birth idiotic phrases like “okay, boomer.” If ever there was a legit time to say that, it would be here. 🙄
My name’s actually Colin and I’m 32. This is such a cute and sad song all at the same time. We’re all trying to figure life out and making it up as we go. The best thing we can do is not compare ourselves to others but find joy in the things we can control.
Thank you so much for sharing! I restarted university last year at 38 and feel a bit alone with that :D (and here, I have to study for 5 years until I finally can fulfill my dream of becoming a teacher)
@nriamond8010 I'm 36 and I feel like I'm restarting life. My chronic illnesses caught up to me right after I graduated with my masters. So I've never gotten to actually work in my intended career. Now all of my credentials are out of date and I'm starting an art career instead of taking those credential exams again.
30 years old millenial here, your song hit me in the guts pretty hard. Started tearing up out of nowhere. Telling everyone everything's fine, can't find the strength to talk to anyone about how empty i feel. Thank you for this song.
Hey Guillaume. Guillaume…you must be French? Hey I’m so sorry. Your comment stood out to me. I’m praying for you tonight. God sees you and he has a plan for you. Jeremiah 29:11. Keep swimming brother!
@@sarahgowens7652 Thank you, yes I'm french, i suppose my name gave it away I'm not a spiritual person, but i understand the strength and meaning of these words and how they can give you hope. Thank you for this
@@guillaume3972 Salut, juste pour te dire que tu n'es pas seul, je sais que socialement la santé mentale des hommes est assez tabou et que par conséquent ça peut être difficile de trouver de l'aide... Bon courage. Je bataille moi même avec une dépression depuis des années mais la thérapie aide vraiment. Si tu veux en parler n'hésite pas à me répondre.
I went to law school at 38. I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up, but at least now I get to be a lawyer in the meantime 😂 Anyway, the point is that's a potent age with so much potential. Taking your first 40 years to figure out who you are will make the second 40 so much happier and more meaningful, I promise. Sending you love
I’m 35 and was sobbing like two days ago, thinking of how alone and left behind I feel. This song and the comments are both super comforting. Have a therapy session scheduled for Monday. Sending love and positive vibes to everyone who’s going through a rough time.
36 and feeling the same. I feel like I've sobbed my whole life away in just these past few years. I'm starting therapy in 5 days. I wish us both (us all) the best in life. We'll get there eventually.
35 and same here. Feeling like I’m behind everyone else and not having the life I thought I would by this age is hard. Every day I mourn the life I wish I’d had. Gotta try to do the best with my last few years in thirties to change it. Hope we three all find our happy
Turning 34 this year and finding some comfort here that we are not experience this alone. I also have been mourning the life I wish I had since my engagement with my first love ended a couple years back. And seeing friends reach the next milestones in their life while I’m still sad and alone. It’s tough, but may us get through it all together 😌
I'm turning 30 and feel similar. But I found something that helped is. I quit a few years ago my job after I found it not satisfying to just work 7 to 5 for living and collecting money just for myself. So I went into a crisis region to help rebuild after a disaster and if you can't help practical, just being there for the people and listen to them make a huge difference. It gave my life new meaning. Sure it wasn't easy. On the beginning stress hit my stomach and took at least a half year to get some friends on the new place. But I think it was worth it. And found a new family of the local people. But be warned helping isn't always thankfully, but god sees it and if he's your friend too in him he will repay it, latest in heaven. Just ask the locals how you can help they'll know what's missing. More and more it's even scientific approved that helping others helps yourself mentally as well.
Every version of this song hits hard. I have heard three versions orignal one , then a senior version and then this one and they all have there own stories which many might relate to. I just love them all.
I'll be 29 in less than 3 months and this really made me depressed yet enlightened because I was in college exactly 10 years ago and due to life circumstances which involved drugs and prison time which thankfully, I am out of that lifestyle now, but it really makes me think about everythiing that has happened up to this point... I guess in a way this brings me comfort to know there are so many people out there who are going through the struggles life throws at us while probably not as extreme as others, what matters is what we do about it now. Keep your heads up, people! If you want things in life, you have to go and get it. Embrace positivity and don't forget to smile.
I never got this thing about caring if others are happier. Well, I care about the people that are my friends, them being happy makes me happy. But the rest is just scenery, right?
The day i turned 25 suddenly hit me. I was fine before but then suddenly exsistencial crisis on max for whole day. At night i had a talk with my (16 years older) husband about what i was feeling and how he went through similar at some point. He helped me see accomplishments i didnt and i geniinly am now happy with where i am❤it seems we all go through this!
I’m still in college but this “10 years later” version brings me more comfort than the original. I’m so scared of not knowing what to do after I graduate that sometimes it feels like I have no future at all. But listening to this version, hearing people still figuring things out in their 30s, it reminds me that I still have my life ahead of me. Things will not be perfect and there will be struggles and challenges but I still have a future. Thank you for this cover.
I'm 48 and life just keeps happening regardless of my plans. So I feel you and the best advice I can give is just roll with it. I was pleasantly surprised by where I ended up
And Sometimes you don’t realize what you want to do until you’ve had some real life experience too. I’m 39 currently applying for dental hygiene school after being a dental assistant for 16 years. My oldest is taking some college classes now and my youngest gets is in 2nd grade. We all get there eventually even if it isn’t the same road someone else travels by.
I'll be 40 in summer and I'm so much looking forward to it. My own life didn't really start until my mid thirties. Now I found my own balance and strength and the love of my life, all within the last four years. Don't give up, brothers and sisters. Concentrate on all the things you have already learned and experienced. Getting older can feel so good. Independent and calm. ♡
So true, I’m seeing that 20s is trying to gain traction, 30s building on whatever traction you may have hopefully gained, and 40s plus working on a legacy that will hopefully sustain you the rest of the way 🤞
Hang in there! Life doesn’t get easier, but you get stronger and it gets better. I’ll be 59 in a couple weeks; I’m having the best time of my life! I didn’t enjoy my 20s and 30s _nearly_ as much.
So true, I had to get rid of all the toxic people first to start my life properly. For some people it takes longer to get there, as we don't all start at the same point, but if you keep trying and working you will eventually get to where you want to be.
I'll be 39 in a few months, and I found myself only 3 years ago. Things get better, friends. Not as fast as we all wanted or envisioned, but they do get better with every struggle and every challenge and every risk. Sending love to all
good to hear but it can still be rough sometimes. I'm a late bloomer/has to restart because my dream career just wasn't possible anymore. gonna go back to school with my siblings who are 10-14 years younger than me 💀🙃
I needed this. I’m approaching 30 quickly and I feel so lost and feel like a failure since I haven’t achieved all the greatness I feel like I was supposed to hit before 30
I am going to be 40 next month, and I also discovered my calling a couple of years ago. I am back in school to pursue my dream and will finally go after the life I have always wanted. Its not too late.
“Wonder where Colin ended up” “Got so used to hell, don’t even feel the fire” Those lines hit hard. Edit: omg the likes 😭 Edit: and I’m top comment? Tysm!
I was probably Colin for a lot of girls. I'm good looking, good personality, hard working, and truly kind. A ton of girls rejected me for some reason. I blame Disney Frozen. All women got paranoid after that movie. If Colin is like me and did well, he will not want any of his exes to see how well he did. People think it will feel good when the person rejected us will regret not choosing us, but it actually a terrible feeling. This actually happened to me. The girl who ghosted me and I think she chose another guy and then try to get with me again after her break up and after she found out the type of guy I was, but it was too late. I got married to someone else. She saw me and my wife at the store. My wife and I were very nice to each other. I can feel how bad the girl who ghosted felt. It was one of the worst feelings. I rather a girl hate me and think I'm a loser, so they can move on than get stuck on me.
Ya Colin was the nice guy she ignored because he liked dfferent things. Imagine wanting a partner because they like all the same things you do, that's not how love works lol
I'm almost 34, and this song hits home hard. I have a Bachelors degree and made deans list every semester before graduating in 2012. 12 years later, me & my dog are living with my dad. We'll be homeless in 3 weeks since he's moving out of state. I lost my job due to the company getting buried financially with sky-high property taxes and increased rent. I feel like I've worked so hard throughout my life, and here I am, single and alone at 33, no career, no relationship, no family, nothing to show for all the pain & struggle. Thank you for this song. It gave me some much needed comfort .
Stay strong kiddo - when it feels like you're being pushed off the edge of a cliff it's the perfect time to believe you can fly. And you can - metaphorically. Cover every inch of you in self-esteem and fight tooth & nail to come out on top. I know this world can be unfair and maybe it feels cruel to feed the system by doing whatever it takes to survive but believe me - there's room for you in this world. ❤
Im old and widowed your struggle is understandable At you age you feel life is at its critical This day and age a relationship seems not so hospitable But im sure if you look there will be a person in your current life you overlooked There are men out there looking for you Maybe look in a different place thats new Im alone but saying prayers for you😢
Looking back on my life I wish I went to a shelter and started over instead of chosing 2 bad relationships which caused so much severe trauma. If I had to do it over again, I wouldn't. I would go to a shelter and accept their help and guidance to turn my life around. I was too proud back then and I regret it immensely.
Damn.. we are truly never alone in our experiences. I've been through similar experiences 25 and I have nothing to show for it except depression and trust issues caused by 2 relationships barred with trauma. I feel inferior to the point I won't talk to people because I feel I'm not worth the effort. They didn't love me and stay so why should anyone anymore. I miss who I used to be. I used to ask why grandpa was so.. angry or cynical.. I see now why he feels the way he does.
I like this reel cause it hits multiple levels. Like the first song irritates me a little, but the second one I relate to. I really like contrast. If you happened to listen to this when you were in first year of college, listening in 10 years would be very interesting
I would have cried listening to this song 2 years back. Now I'm in a much better place in life and I'm grateful for where i stand. Insecurities and hard ships will go away. Believe in yourself and work hard in what you want. You will be in a better place too ❤
If you can relate to a 32 year old woman with Pink Hair who apparently has accomplished NOTHING in her life despite attending college, then YOU ARE DOING LIFE WRONG. Time for a change.
I'm genuinely tearing up -- I promise it does get better. I'm 41 and it took each decade past being 2 days in college to recognize that *everyone's* 20s and 30s are devastatingly hard.
42.8 here.... now health problems have been added to all the rest 🤣🤣🤣 though i have a loving partner, can't complain there. all the best to everyone who reads this 💕💕💕 you've got this!! one day at a time 💕💕💕
It will never get better. This world is a pointless sesspool. Full of plague walking around on two legs. What's the point to breathing in this shit hole? There isn't one. You are born. You suffer. You die. You are forgotten. If you are remembered you aren't remembered for the life you live but for the life people imagine you lived. Living is pointless and means nothing. So the fact that we are stuck here is bullshit.
Im surprisingly still a 12 year old stacked with pressure from everyone in school. Im lost on everything and its barely the second month of school. Im wondering if everything i dreamed of would happen. Some people might think this is discouraging that they realize its hard to be immediately successful but this helps me a lot. Reminds me im still young enough to try my best, and that its fine to be lost even by the time the age in this song is my age.
My sweet summer child, I'm 37 and still wonder if my dreams will happen....some have, most haven't, but if I could give you one piece of advice, it would be to just enjoy the journey everyday no matter where you wind up because one day we all reach our final destination. 🙏🏻
@@andrerodon3921 oh damn you are right! learned something new today! Thought you compare yourself to others, hence self-comparison. My bad. Thanks for letting me know!
I'm sixty now and just learning that life is grand today with or without accomplishments on a schedule. I've beat depression, cancer, and hope springs eternal that love makes all the difference in life. Drop the schedule and embrace now!
This gave me so much comfort. You seem like a very nice person! I’d love to “drop my schedule” but unfortunately I’m 29 and I have to survive somehow. 🥲
I would have cried listening to this song 2 years back. Now I'm in a much better place in life and I'm grateful for where i stand. Insecurities and hard ships will go away. Believe in yourself and work hard in what you want. You will be in a better place too ❤
The lyrics, the cadence, the pretext about "Collin", the sweetness in her voice, the use of her syllables, just Wow. I'm impressed. She has a very promising future as a song writer.
The wall has arrived, she's realized that a family should have been a priority and she squandered her prime years riding the c.c. Now its time to think about moving in with other modern women for survival.
Yesterday was my 32 birthday and damn do I feel this. Like a punch to the gut. I’m glad in a weird way I’m not the only one that feels this way. Millennials have been so divided over the years on so many things, but when you sit down we are all just trying to do our fucking best in this crazy beautiful fucked up chaotic world. For those feeling like me don’t ever stop fighting forward. Find the beauty and grasp it tight. I wish us all luck as we move forward.
Much love. Us millenials have been hit the hardest. Made to believe we can do anything, hell a lot tried. But it's true, we're just trying to make the best of our situation. Got tears in my eyes. I'm 36.
I'm 32 also, a mother of 3, a wife for 5 years, but in the relationship for 17 years, and somehow I still feel like I should be a kid. I'm not emotionally or financially ready for this world. I need the time to slow down or a restart. I really don't think life should be this freaking hard. But all we can do is keep moving forward. Happy belated birthday and I hope one day it will get easier for all of us and we can stop fighting to live and just live.
@@mistibransford6954 One thing, from a 55yr old male...who has kids half your age......KEEP going.....NEVER blame yourself....ALL of us - EVERYONE, is getting pumped over - Nothing is personal - NEVER EVER Blame yourself - Positive Mental Attitude - PMA. x
Look don't take this the wrong way you are where you are because of your choices just like everybody else apparently on this thread I'm 34 I'm a millennial then make better choices I get there are things that are out of our control but I know a lot of millennials that are in your position aren't focusing on what they can control they focus on everything that doesn't matter between our generation and gen z everybody wants to be an activist instead of just taking care of the responsibilities
I’m 38 and thought I had my life figured out. Made my permanent life decisions. But then I got a devastating illness that leaves me often bedridden and house bound. Even if you get it figured out at 24 like I did you have no clue what life’s going to throw at you. Be grateful if you’re healthy and can still make choices. We all have our own battles. No human fights alone
Same boat here, but I got sick at 18 right after getting married… divorced now, and way better than I was, but it still is a battle every day and some weeks and months I’m back to where I started. It’s tough.
You all are so compassionate! I thought I was gonna get so my hate. I’m so sorry you all are ill as well. I hope you all can at least cope with the hand you’ve been dealt and find someone who will love you just as you are ❤❤❤❤
This isn't some feels good fantasy were in a global economic recession seeing a decline in quality of life. The working class is losing ground day by day. It's great to feel the good vibes and all but your an adult and you should face the facts in front of you
We often feel we are behind and not where we are supposed to be in life. We don't have the right job making the right amount of money and benefits so we have no way to buy the house of our dreams, heck, we can barely pay rent, even with sharing expenses with annoying and unreliable roommates. We haven't found the love of our life, either, to share our journey with, except that maybe we did but just didn't realize that this someone was THE someone. It can be very frustrating and depressing when you feel that not only are you not where you want to be...but that you never will be. It's hard to be a human in 2024. All you can do is just keep trying every day to put one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward.
I feel horrible for the children who bought the lies about college, now stuck in debt,high cost of living with no marketable skills or experience. The only thing that saved me was I dropped out of school.Started working two jobs, renting my bedroom from my parents, and saved every penny possible. Own my own home now free and clear. They sell you a dream with a price tag, library cards are free. You can still go to college parties, especially when all your friends are there🎉
Im 39 this year. Happier than ive ever been and more settled than i thought i would be. I didnt succeed, in my 20's or early 30's i had lessons to learn and things needed to fall apart, to fall right where they needed to be ❤❤
Turning 41 in a few months. My life gets better every year, but at 30 I would never have believed it. No joke, the most accurate statement I still reflect on was from the sex and the city movie, something about your 20s are for mistakes, your 30s paying for those mistakes, 40s for picking up the tab. My heart breaks for the unique challenges of younger folks, but if anyone ever asked me I would tell them the best thing I've learned this far is to stop competing, delete social media, dump the ___ you only see potential in, get a therapist and travel. I'm stoked as hell for 41...42...
Yes! I’ve got an additional verse in my head that starts “ i’m this far out of college, things finally fell in line, I wish I could tell my former self things are gonna be just fine”
This cover couldn't have come at the most perfect time. Is there like a full version? heck even and hour long one? could be a good background for one of those self deprecating nights.
Being 28 I have some unsolicited advice (featuring bonuses from my mother) Fuck everyone else. Much easier said than done, but it took until my 26th birthday for the switch to flip in my head. At this stage, no one else’s opinion matters. They can give advice, sure, but it’s not worth tailoring everything you do to pleasing other people. It’s not easy at all. And also, don’t compare yourself to other people. Everyone is going at their own pace, and too many people are spending too much time looking at everyone else and wondering why they aren’t where that other person is. It is a waste of precious time and energy
I have more unsolicited advice as a wee old 27 yr old. You always hear the kind of advice that says “make every day count” “life is short” “you only live once” and those kinds of things. The thing is, that advice was made by older people and it puts a lot of pressure on you to always be thinking ahead and pushing on. And yes, that’s good. But it’s also bad. It’s too much pressure. Our society puts too much pressure on younger people. So you have to balance that and take time to fuck around and find out. Take time to lounge all day and do nothing. Take time to do that hobby that people judge you for. Life isn’t short at all as long as you give yourself the time to live it. For old people, yeah, their life be short. Cause they fuckin old. Us? Nah, we have time. They just want us to believe we don’t.
Thats because we all pretend we have our life together. You can only see the outside. Everyone struggles and you are not behind. Go your path and dont forget to take breaks to enjoy the view❤
Oh dear love, this is all too relatable. I’m 30 now and am only starting to get grasp on my life. My 20s were absolutely hellish mentally and emotionally, and I probably am behind from most of my peers, but that doesn’t matter. I learned to stop comparing myself, and am just living each day peacefully, slowly getting to a point where I can sustain myself and be content with my life. I hope everyone else who’s struggling will be able to do so too. Wishing the best for everyone ♥️
I'm almost 40 and as a Xillennial, there's a lot I feel so behind on. I feel like I should have more stability and security, but seriously, my 30's were better than my 20's, and I'm WAY more excited about my 40's than I ever was about any decade. None of us really have it together. None of us really know anything. But at 39, I'm feeling cute in my own skin and I'm always open to learning more.
I'm 36 and this are the exact same thoughts every day. I can't stop bawling now 💔 luckily I have therapy tomorrow 😂 Wait, 1.3K likes ?!?!!!! Thank you guys!!! Feels good that we are in the same sinking boat, but still rowing to the shore 😎👍🏼✨
@RocketMomma-ig5ttnot true, my friend. There are those who can laugh at this world's nonsense because, even when life hurts, we don't place our hope in the things of this life. ❤ Jesus loves you, my friend.
I just turned 50 and have been out of college for over 20 years now, and you're singing my song! I can't wait to finally see how my life goes, once I'm all grown up...
Old millennial here, I'm 40 and finally have a good job, steady income, decent home, and loving relationship. Some of us pull it together later than others. Never compare yourself to others. You only see what they want you to see on social media. We are all struggling in our own ways, even the people who look like they have it all figured out.
Another old millennial. Took my kid and ran from an abusive relationship. Went back to school. Completely starting over and I’ll be 40 in October. Terrified, but I have no other choice. Kiddo starts school in fall.
You have this. Little younger than you guys, little older than OP but I can tell you this your not starting over your just doing it your way. There's only one end to our story and there's nothing after that!
47, and I thought I would have more wins then L's too. I feel for every step forward I am able to take I am pushed back five. It feels neverending. I'm crying while listening on repeat now but know I have to x out soon because I don't want my little one walking in on the tears. I needed this video, even for just the five minutes I am able to take for myself. Thank you.
I'm 40 this year. Can't buy a house, separated with two kids (and still living together). I have a good new job but I'm still constantly broke. This world sucks right now. I'm rooting for you, Steph!!!
@@Palafertiil Perspective is everything.The fact that you have a roof over your head and are able to provide for your children tells me that you're doing pretty well. Millions of people would love to be in your position. Don't forget that.
💝 I'm sorry you're struggling. Remember that it's okay to take a moment every now and then to recognize and feel your feelings... feeling what you feelnis not a denial of the good in your life. Acknowledging that things aren't the way you wanted or expected isn't wrong or bad. It's totally natural. Healthy even. Also... remember that it's okay to let your kid see you having feelings and even struggling... it's important they can see you working through those things and moving forward despite your difficulties.. if you hide it always, they'll maybe come to think there's something wrong with them for not understanding what to do with their own big feelings... maybe don't give them all the whys and wherefores of your big feels, but it's okay to let them see that sometimes life is hard... that way they'll know that they can come to you when they're struggling because you're a safe place to collapse and reorient themselves. Sending you a comforting hug from a total stranger on the internet. You'll get through this. 💝💖💝
I feel you. A few years older than you and feel like I've had more L's than W's, but I think it's perspective as there are always people worse off than me even when I am struggling. Saving grace came as a new career after turning 50 in a field I never dreamed I wanted to work in. Finally have a career instead of just a job, but now dealing with hubs severe health issues, but it's okay as it can't always be a bed of roses. Somehow we'll make it through like we always do and I know you'll do it too.
@@ladymoonmyst4872 At your age, you should have better wisdom to pass on. We're SUPPOSED to have more L's than W's. Who told you it should be the other way around? Life is supposed to be full of challenges to overcome, and those challenges increase with everything you bring into your life. (Job, Kids, Husband, House, etc.) It's how we learn, grow, and get better. Difference is, we have SO many tools to help us face those challenges, and we're acting helpless. Comparing your life to other people like this woman is doing in the song is a recipe for disaster. Showing empathy is fine, but please don't feed into the "woe is me" narrative that pollutes these comments. Saying "you'll get through it" can be encouraging, sure, but that downplays the degree of difficulty they'll experience in their life. The truth is, they're gonna have to deal with shit like this for the rest of their lives, and it'll probably get worse.
@@dIxy_DazIe Have you ever had a song with lyrics that hit close to home? Thats what this comment reads. Many feel like they’re getting more L in life than they are getting any W. These same people might think they’re failures cause of this. So someone comments that you are essentially supposed to have more L than you’ll ever have W. It tells people beating themselves that they don’t have to have this mindset, they can recover false pretenses they’ve had and appreciate their growth with all the L and W. That it’s normal. Thought you needed it explained to you.
@@donsmith6640 What do you mean? I was just explaining what the comment meant, since it seemed like they didn’t understand the original commenters intentions with the post. I wasn’t being rude. You are tho. Do you feel better writing that and trying to make fun of someone? That’s why you put the laughing face. Right?
I'm 48 and just now getting on my feet where I feel like I've accomplished something and I still have plenty of goals to achieve. Don't give up folks, just because it's not happening for you right now doesn't mean it won't in the future. Take baby steps to get to that goal. Don't overwhelmed yourself about what you think you should have and focus on one thing at a time. Sometimes people need to take a step back and shift their perspective and take a look at the bigger picture and look back at what you have accomplished in the past. Stop beating yourself up and get out there and do what you need to do to achieve that first step in a long list of goals.
As a fellow 48 year old who seemed to blow every opportunity and careen into every brick wall, I can attest that achievements and accomplishments don't really provide lasting satisfaction. The only thing that really provides fulfillment is learning to appreciate exactly where we are with all its joys and sorrows, to experience ourselves as simply another flourishing of nature, no greater or less than any other, with all the poignant beauty that implies
37 this year, married, burnt out and trying to stave off anxiety attacks at the end of each work day. I don't know how your cover found it's way into my feed, but thank you, it's comforting to know you're not crazy even when you're on the brink of a breakdown. This, on loop, is my drinking soundtrack until this passes.
I know how it was. I wanted to be a nurse and I made it.... before pandemic hit, which then had me questioning my choices. Four years later, I realized this is where I belonged the whole time, helping people where I can. I pray you find where you belong. In the meantime, sending hugs.... for you and your significant other
Hey, just want you to know that I'm also 37 as well and can relate. But I'm cheering you on, friend. You got it, chin up, tighten those bootstraps and remember your family is why you do what you do!
Practice strong will and discipline my friend. I’m 30 running multiple businesses, and never once had an anxiety attacks. Figure out your demons, deal with it and forgive yourself. Don’t go to a therapist, their job is to enable and not help you, only you can pull yourself out.
@@LoLMitBlade lol do you run so many businesses to push away friends? cuz that response was kind of insensitive.. ;) Just like therapy sometimes people's form of support is just being heard. but kuddos on being a bossass bitch
That collin line was amazing, my reason being, it doesn't matter how things ended up with both of em, the thing is that having a healthy sense of wonder or nostalgia about a person from your past is important because without em' you would not have been where you are. Every action has an equal and opposite reaction
You are not alone. I’ve spent my life putting one foot in front of the other, never deciding what I wanted to do with my life, and too busy to really think much about it. Now I’ve been retired for three years, and it’s a little late for those thoughts. 🤷♀️
You finally have time to chase your dreams!!! It’s never too late! You did your part. Now it’s your turn, and with everything you’ve learned about yourself it’s a great start. Even if you don’t know where to start you’ll figure it out 😊 I believe you 👍🏽
Life’s not perfect in retirement, but I’m finally in control. Well, mostly. Actually not as much as I’d like, but I still have options. And if you need help, there are options for most people.
I started college at 16 & now I’m 27 & nowhere near how I imagined my life would be. Maybe it’s all the same for us, things won’t always go the way we expect them to be.
Beautiful and relatable at 28 and 6 years out of college. Stumbling, falling, picking myself, falling again, hitting rock bottom, picking myself up again and again. I am struggling to find my compass, the career and the life I thought I would achieve after college has not yet arrived for me and not for lack of trying. Although this time trying to go within and heal as I go. Studying yoga, breathwork and meditation as well as going to therapy on the side has helped me to understand my inner world better, even if I am still yet to see changes in my outer world, Its a start. Much love to everyone and you aren't alone.
I am 20 years out of collage met the love of life on day 1 and didn't know it. It took another 12 years to get married and 3 more for our first child. I still lock myself out at night. The difference now there is somebody inside that i keep calling to set things right.
@nwnmiria ..... please tell me you are joking. He met his love on the first day of college and got married 12 years later. 3 years after they got married, they had a kid = 15 years after meeting her day 1 in college. He's only been out of college for 20 years.
Those breathy high notes were absolutely angelic!! I sometimes feel like I had more potential in life and should've continued on with my education, but then I remember how scary that leap would be, how much effort it would take, and how I'm very comfortable where I am right now, and I feel okay again.
this hits so close to home. i am also a millenial (1990) and still got nothing in life. struggling with depression and anxiety. saw almost all of my friends succeeds in life.
This one hit me right in the feels and I actually started crying. You start feeling so alienated when everyone around you starts succeeding at life while you are figuring yourself out. Depression is a bitch.
I fully understand how you feel. Lost years of my life to depression and am way behind compared to others. The thing is, I'm doing much better now. I'm proud of how far I've come compared to then. And thats my thing now, whenever I think how I'm not where I wished I was. I know how far I've come! That makes me immensely proud, the struggle is real, but there are bright spots too! You'll figure it out, keep believing, better days will come! ❤
You are in your own journey life seems unfair sometimes when we try to view through the lens of others it’s the fire inside and the fire outside that makes us grow I’m a college dropout and I feel like fighting and learning is the only way through all of this
How cool if each generation did one verse of this song, so we can all understand each others' struggles a little more. I'm Gen Z and currently in college so the first one hit, everything feels so uncertain and the world is so big and always changing, I always feel lost in the shuffle.. It feels like I could do so many different things, there are so many options available that choosing one feels impossible :( Also, getting locked out of the dorm. lol
I’m 20 years out of college, and my life feels halfway over and I’ve only just barely gotten anything started. There’s so much to do and so little time. I’ve found myself and my place and I’ve begun carving my spot in the world but I’m wondering if I’ll finish before I run out of the time I’m given. I just need more time.
Gen x here: I've never had a problem, and nothing bad ever happened. I got challanges galore, which sometimes turns to growth opportunities , and as much as it may suck, I embrace it and move on. This is why I know for sure: it's all good.
"...there are some many options available..." That is the good problem to have. Pick anyone to do. It literally doesn't matter which. And when you do it you might discover you like it and boom, it's all good. Or you may discover it sucks... and thats fine two because it just helped you narrow down your options and fine tune your search. You got this. Options are good.
Too real. I made the decision to move back in with my parents so I could actually save money (rent was eating my savings) and because my mental health was suffering (I needed practical assistance), and it’s been wonderful having their support, it was a good decision, but I sometimes feel so dumb for not having a house and a family of my own and a higher salary. I have younger friends in the same field making way more than me and it makes me feel like I’m so behind.
I too am moving back in with my mom once my lease is up for the same exact reasons you listed. It's nice to know I'm not alone but dealing with the shame associated with it can be so tough.
Lol, I'm 35, was kicked out of an abusive home at 16. Had my first child at 20, got a trade, now run my own business bringing in 6 figures a year. My wife is a stay at home mum looking after our 3 boys, been with her for 16 years, we have a semi traditional relationship, she has helped build me up so I can provide for our family. Dropping out of college to get a trade was the best thing I've ever done. 99% of my friends have office based jobs and are struggling to pay bills. My suggestion to you would be to utilize your time living at your parents the best way by ditching your current career and getting a trade then going self employed and taking in your own jobs.
@@Pablosplace that's horrible advice...trades are not for everyone you don't know their situation either. Being self-employed is incredibly hard and not stable, being your own boss only sounds good but most people are nowhere close to knowing how to run a business correctly. Plus you just rubbed your successful life in their face not cool. We can't all do the same thing or no one would be doing the jobs we need, you keep doing you but don't make it seem like the only way to be.
@@nerdycurls6253 I've been self employed for 8 years and am absolutely killing it, same as everyone I subby in on my jobs. It's fantastic advice, you just don't have the drive to do it. What do you do for a living?
Yes i hope they make a full version- can they keep doing more ad ons with other people who are questioning life choices? even successful ones? Because that would be amazing
The production is alright, if she's the one who actually composed / learned whatever software she's using. But you know it's 100% autotune making the "incredible voice" part right?
36, and somehow still single, dream job has fallen apart and has turned into a nightmare … I feel this song in my soul. Sending love to everyone here! We’ve got this! 💪 I don’t think anyone has it all together. Everyone’s doing great. Hang in there. Be proud of yourself. ❤
Somehow I find myself in my mid 70's, and this brings back the early years. I'm very happy in my modest life today, enjoying my wonderful spouse of many decades, and I feel for the confusion you describe. I find very encouraging the comments from people a few years older who finally found more of what they needed in life; I hope you do too! Life IS hard to figure out for most of us. I'm on your side!
I'm approaching 30 and I really do find it reassuring to see that most people want exactly that, a modest life with someone they love and a little compassion. I hope you have a good life, mate ❤
Oh my god. I'm crying.😢33 and i relate so hard. I'm married and have kids, but i still don't know what I'm doing with my life. I still feel like a little kid pretending to be an adult yet I'm responsible for two small humans. I just hope that life works out for them in the way that if feels lile it hasn't for me.
What you’re doing with your life is raising two small humans. That is as important a purpose in life as anything, if not more. Give yourself more credit. And don’t worry; nobody really knows how to adult …. ❤️
You are excelling at life is what you are doing....as long as you raise them right with a conscience and strong independence. - an old man ( and father)
I'd argue you are doing THE most important job in the world! We were sold a load of crap that we have to do it all and pretend we do it all well. Thats just garbage. No one can, but some of us are much better at marketing than others and spinning tales. @@samtheham57
Never give up trying things out. Don’t give into “living through ur kids”. U’ve got time and you’re doing great! Maybe it’s just time for you to focus on raising them and naturally sooner or later you will find your balance and you all will celebrate your happiness together 🥰 Cheers!! ❤️❤️❤️
UA-cam showing me this when I'm 10 years out of college and stuck in a hard place is really blowing my mind 😭😭. I love this so much, her voice is beautiful!
Just turned 73. Retired in 2012 after 36 years of employment. Didn't feel like my life was my own and how I wanted it to be until 2017. My son was grown (raised him alone), out of college, married with 2 kids of his own in high school (the last one graduates from university this Saturday). 2017 was the year my mom died after being in long term care for 3 years, before which I cared for her by myself. Only recently have I felt like my life is where I want it to be and how I want it to be. It just happens for some of us quite a bit later.
You might see this as intruding but I felt like I have to share with you the source of the peace in my heart. It’s simply my religion. So, wherever you are in the world just visit a mosque and ask for a free copy of The Quran or order it online. Try reading it, I’m sure you won’t regret it. Take care!
As a 21yo woman that's gonna be out of college in just a couple days, has failed or not sent all my exams and doesn't know - has no clue - what the futur holds (which is turning my brain into a anxious/depressed mess) [I sent applications nowhere and haven't searched schools/jobs]... Thank you. I sometimes forget that I want to live a long life. It doesn't need to be happy all the time. Even if it's not next year, one day I'll feel happy and right where I belong, and I won't fear what's coming for me. Hope you live long and well miss. You're amazing. 💙
I hear you. I am 40 and my life feels like there is still something missing somehow although I have a kid (which I love more than anything else) and am married.
I just turned 30 on the 18th of September and I really wasn’t worried about it. The day after my birthday it really hit me that I was now what I had always considered old and a proper adult. Yet I haven’t accomplished anything I thought I would by now. It’s a weird feeling of feeling like you just left a whole group of peers behind that you don’t want to leave and joined a group you never imagined you actually would. The passing of time and how quick it actually does go has sunk in and it’s terrifying. I now relate more to my parents than to teens and that’s weird when I still feel like my teenage self and like nothing’s really changed since then.
I'm turning 60 and this also applies to me as well. I had it together just 4 years ago and a few things happen in life and I'm starting over again. The things that happened were not of my making but I'm left to pick up the pieces of my life. But I'm more than thankful for God getting me through the trauma and giving me opportunities to rebuild.
in short, none of us know wtf we are doing. just trying to make it all work, day by day, hour by hour, and sometimes even second by second. it's easy to fall for glossy narratives of what and where one should be. in reality, you will be what you will be when you'll be it.
Wow this got me in the feels. I'll be 45 next week. Lost the love of my life, my husband of almost 20 years to cancer 5 1/2yrs ago. Then at 42 give birth to my first child. Life is an amazing ride but never what anyone imagines.
@@ibelovedsai_it’s pretty necessary to constantly do so or else you’d lose meaning in your own life and lack an ability to pick out importance. Life is comparison. Meaning, definition, is comparison. Maybe you don’t need to compare to people you use to know- but you have to constantly compare yourself to those currently around you. Or else- how are you getting any feedback on how you’re doing? You can’t unless you do that.
@@honeybee416 Even if we would ignore the fact that both of them have different English accents and different facial features (which could be changed by personal preference and surgery etc.) TikTok (which is the first version) wasn't a thing 10 years ago.
This is one of the most lyrically and musically beautiful things I've ever heard. Please don't ever stop singing or writing. I haven't touched my guitar in over 6 years and immediately went and took it out of its case, restringged it, and tuned it. I've written 4 songs so far using you as a muse and inspiration. Thank you for helping me relearn my love of music. ❤
I befriended a man in community college who was a retired marine. He went back to school at 70 to become an anthropologist. I never again felt too old to go after a dream!
I had people 70+ at my community college when i got my first degree (ASN). Every time someone tells me they are too old to go to college I tell them about this. My dad is 55 and like 2 semesters away from a bachelor's and I'm like if you want to DO IT BRO you're almost there and still young!
It’s not good but it’s kind of relieving for me to see that other people also feel the same I’m 28 and it always feel like I’m going through this struggle alone. I can’t really say if this song helped or just made it more clear to me that I’m doing nothing important with my life but you do have an amazingly beautiful voice
Please do full cover I want to keep listening
Me tooooooo!!!!!
Sammmmmmeee!!!! I love that song!! 🎧
Agreed!
Same
Yes!
"Got so used to h3ll, I don't even feel the fire." I felt that line so much... 😔
Me too
God has all of us just believe
Hell isn't a place with fire anyways. Apparently that was made up by the catholic church, but I do love that line in the song because it just hits home.
@@JamieeSupernova Well... The entire concept of hell and the devil is completely made up and far more recent then people realise.
It was a tactic to control even more what people would do. The entire idea of the looming eternal condemnation makes people easily manipulated.
If those that preach about it actually believed in it you wouldn't see them commiting the crimes that will make them go to hell for eternity...
Same and I'm only 18 bruh. This shit exhausting. Literally if good jobs actually hired I feel we'd ALL be doing way better mentally and physically etc.
This moved me to tears. I connect so deeply to this. I’m 32 and have been struggling to keep my head high and stay strong through illness and financial stress. I needed this today. Thank you.
Sending you love fellow 32-year-old! I took a different path. Got married at 22 and had children young. Same tears, but for different reasons. Life gives us so many challenges. Last year has been so freakin’ hard. I wish you the best! ❤
you will be fine brother keep at it
Stay strong you will get through
I'm 41 now, and I finally feel like I'm figuring my life out now. Took a lot of struggling to get here, but I am definitely happy...there's still time, trust me, it'll all be worth it 😊😊😊
32 is really just the beginning of when you start to feel like your feet are really under you. It's when you hit your 40s that you really come into your own for most of us.
Give yourself grace and patience. You are right where you need to be.
Your 30s are much better than your 20s. Enjoy them and don't worry about how other appear to be doing.
I’m a 74 year old boomer. My struggles are way behind me now. But I can tell you, the advice and the words of hope and encouragement I read in these responses are brilliant, uplifting and very, very wise words. You’ll make it kids. Reach out. Help is out there. Struggles make you strong. Just don’t EVER, EVER GIVE UP! 🙏
Thank you ❤
It's nice to hear someone of your generation being so positive. You and your words make me miss the well of calm wisdom that was my husband's grandmother, she just passed 3 months ago and I frequently find myself still wanting to call her and ask things like "what will get this stain out?" And "life is feeling overwhelming, what could I do about this situation?". Thank you for being a positive voice online
Honestly, thank you so much for saying this. I don't think I've ever heard anyone from your generation be so... validating.
I'd be lying if I didn't say if I didn't cry for a good 5 minutes after reading this (part of a much longer cry listening to this song on repeat/reading the comments).
I didn't have any clue how much it would mean to me hearing someone from my 'grandparent's' generation say something kind as opposed to simply gaslighting us that we're not working hard enough or something.
Thanks for helping this struggling millennial feel... seen.
Hahahah!! You had a good guy, you left him, dyed your hair pink and wonder why you have no one. That behaviour is a way of life. And I will tell you all the guys I know avoid that like the plague. It’s poison. The flat truth is you’ve already hit “the wall”. Yer 90% a forever cat lady. Yer only chance now is to clean up, get “normy” and hope, with all your fibre you can find a good guy that’s still looking. Because at this age, the guys who aren’t hooked know the pink and green hairs and blue hairs are nutz and want nothing to do with them. We’ve learned they aren’t worth it. So you can be pissed at me, or listen up and realize this advice is all you have between you and cat lady. I only feel for that poor guy that you string along. I hope he found a good match.
Guys out there, this is a warning. Don’t put up with the woman who think something better is there if they turn rainbow haired and say they won’t take a man’s last name. They aren’t worth it, and still haven’t figured out it’s still their grandFATHERS name.
Yeah, that’s easy to say when things were still feasible for the average person when you guys were coming up. The ignorance in that statement is mind blowing. Millennials are the first generation in a long time that are projected to be less successful and struggle more than their parents. The first generation in a long time that can’t buy a house without significant help from their parents or other relatives. The first generation to have an increase in multigenerational homes thought to be due to cost of living-it’s the only way some can provide. The cost of one year in college insanely more expensive than it was back your day if you account for inflation and average salaries. Houses are crazy expensive, interest rates are high, inflation is crazy, rents are ridiculous and anyone trying to buy a house is competing with corporations that can offer more and in cash than any regular families can do. To add insult to injury, the cost of living has been steadily rising far beyond the wages & have for quite sometime now. So easy to say “you’ll make it, kids” because you guys did but thanks to the generations before us and just as that one WWII vet said while in tears recently “this country has gone to hell
In a hand basket…no one will have the opportunities that we did. No one will live the kind of lives that we did, no one will have the kind of freedoms and the fun that we had.”
He’s right.
It’s regretfully ignorant statements like that that birth idiotic phrases like “okay, boomer.” If ever there was a legit time to say that, it would be here. 🙄
My name’s actually Colin and I’m 32. This is such a cute and sad song all at the same time. We’re all trying to figure life out and making it up as we go. The best thing we can do is not compare ourselves to others but find joy in the things we can control.
Hugs
You go Colin!
You got it, Colin! Comparison kills our joy and makes contentment difficult. Gratitude for the things I can control leads to a happier life.
The algorithm must be summoning all 32 year old Colins
My sister's boyfriend's name is Colin. He's like 35 though.
I was 30 and my hubby was 32 when we got married. I went back to college at 38 and started my career at 40. You’re not alone and have plenty of time.
That's inspirational 🙏🏼 thanks for sharing ☺️
Thank you so much for sharing! I restarted university last year at 38 and feel a bit alone with that :D (and here, I have to study for 5 years until I finally can fulfill my dream of becoming a teacher)
Thank you
@nriamond8010 I'm 36 and I feel like I'm restarting life. My chronic illnesses caught up to me right after I graduated with my masters. So I've never gotten to actually work in my intended career. Now all of my credentials are out of date and I'm starting an art career instead of taking those credential exams again.
She’s definitely not alone but no one has all the time in the world.
30 years old millenial here, your song hit me in the guts pretty hard. Started tearing up out of nowhere. Telling everyone everything's fine, can't find the strength to talk to anyone about how empty i feel.
Thank you for this song.
Hey Guillaume. Guillaume…you must be French? Hey I’m so sorry. Your comment stood out to me. I’m praying for you tonight. God sees you and he has a plan for you. Jeremiah 29:11. Keep swimming brother!
@@sarahgowens7652 Thank you, yes I'm french, i suppose my name gave it away
I'm not a spiritual person, but i understand the strength and meaning of these words and how they can give you hope. Thank you for this
As a fellow millennial I can say, most of us didn't make it.
Are you a millenial if you where born in the 90es? I always thought i would be a 90es child because I was born 94
@@guillaume3972 Salut, juste pour te dire que tu n'es pas seul, je sais que socialement la santé mentale des hommes est assez tabou et que par conséquent ça peut être difficile de trouver de l'aide... Bon courage. Je bataille moi même avec une dépression depuis des années mais la thérapie aide vraiment. Si tu veux en parler n'hésite pas à me répondre.
I'm 38 and still completely lost. Some of us never figure out how to navigate this world. Beautiful song.
38 also and I think it’s all of us 😅
Same... I still feel so lost😅..
Hey. Don't feel bad. Some of us are about fifteen years older than you and we're still struggling too......
35 and I feel it😔
I went to law school at 38. I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up, but at least now I get to be a lawyer in the meantime 😂 Anyway, the point is that's a potent age with so much potential. Taking your first 40 years to figure out who you are will make the second 40 so much happier and more meaningful, I promise. Sending you love
I’m 35 and was sobbing like two days ago, thinking of how alone and left behind I feel. This song and the comments are both super comforting. Have a therapy session scheduled for Monday. Sending love and positive vibes to everyone who’s going through a rough time.
36 and feeling the same. I feel like I've sobbed my whole life away in just these past few years. I'm starting therapy in 5 days. I wish us both (us all) the best in life. We'll get there eventually.
35 and same here. Feeling like I’m behind everyone else and not having the life I thought I would by this age is hard. Every day I mourn the life I wish I’d had. Gotta try to do the best with my last few years in thirties to change it. Hope we three all find our happy
Turning 34 this year and finding some comfort here that we are not experience this alone. I also have been mourning the life I wish I had since my engagement with my first love ended a couple years back. And seeing friends reach the next milestones in their life while I’m still sad and alone. It’s tough, but may us get through it all together 😌
wish u all the best❤
I'm turning 30 and feel similar. But I found something that helped is. I quit a few years ago my job after I found it not satisfying to just work 7 to 5 for living and collecting money just for myself. So I went into a crisis region to help rebuild after a disaster and if you can't help practical, just being there for the people and listen to them make a huge difference. It gave my life new meaning. Sure it wasn't easy. On the beginning stress hit my stomach and took at least a half year to get some friends on the new place. But I think it was worth it. And found a new family of the local people. But be warned helping isn't always thankfully, but god sees it and if he's your friend too in him he will repay it, latest in heaven. Just ask the locals how you can help they'll know what's missing. More and more it's even scientific approved that helping others helps yourself mentally as well.
Turning 32 in a couple months and feeling this. Please release a full cover!
lol. That’s me and about 2 weeks.
@@sophiamingnonette1847 Happy Birthday!
I’m even worse, I’m 37 and often think where did life go wrong 😹🙈
Same! 🫂
Same!! Happy 32! 🎉
Every version of this song hits hard. I have heard three versions orignal one , then a senior version and then this one and they all have there own stories which many might relate to. I just love them all.
Listen to the one made by Colin's POV.
What are they called
@@-Crystal.X.- I only remember a really gross one from Colin's POV. Was there a non-gross one?
@@mjlim6610 I'm not sure, the only one I heard from Colin's POV was a stalker version.
How could I find these?
I'll be 29 in less than 3 months and this really made me depressed yet enlightened because I was in college exactly 10 years ago and due to life circumstances which involved drugs and prison time which thankfully, I am out of that lifestyle now, but it really makes me think about everythiing that has happened up to this point... I guess in a way this brings me comfort to know there are so many people out there who are going through the struggles life throws at us while probably not as extreme as others, what matters is what we do about it now. Keep your heads up, people! If you want things in life, you have to go and get it. Embrace positivity and don't forget to smile.
Thanks for saying this man. It helps.
“Did everyone succeed and are they happier than me” is so real!!! I’m 25 and I thought I’d be so much farther than I am now.
I'm freshly 43 and that feeling hasn't gone away. 🤗🤗
I never got this thing about caring if others are happier. Well, I care about the people that are my friends, them being happy makes me happy. But the rest is just scenery, right?
My friend, I'm 43 and I'm still behind.
I'm 27 and I used to think this way as well. But then you realize everyone is on their own path at different speeds and that's ok.
The day i turned 25 suddenly hit me. I was fine before but then suddenly exsistencial crisis on max for whole day. At night i had a talk with my (16 years older) husband about what i was feeling and how he went through similar at some point. He helped me see accomplishments i didnt and i geniinly am now happy with where i am❤it seems we all go through this!
I’m still in college but this “10 years later” version brings me more comfort than the original. I’m so scared of not knowing what to do after I graduate that sometimes it feels like I have no future at all. But listening to this version, hearing people still figuring things out in their 30s, it reminds me that I still have my life ahead of me. Things will not be perfect and there will be struggles and challenges but I still have a future. Thank you for this cover.
❤❤
Indeed. We all continue forward, even if it makes no sense, even if we have no idea which way it is, we continue forward
Wishing you loads of luck!!!❤
I'm 48 and life just keeps happening regardless of my plans. So I feel you and the best advice I can give is just roll with it. I was pleasantly surprised by where I ended up
And Sometimes you don’t realize what you want to do until you’ve had some real life experience too. I’m 39 currently applying for dental hygiene school after being a dental assistant for 16 years. My oldest is taking some college classes now and my youngest gets is in 2nd grade. We all get there eventually even if it isn’t the same road someone else travels by.
I'll be 40 in summer and I'm so much looking forward to it. My own life didn't really start until my mid thirties. Now I found my own balance and strength and the love of my life, all within the last four years.
Don't give up, brothers and sisters. Concentrate on all the things you have already learned and experienced. Getting older can feel so good. Independent and calm. ♡
So true, I’m seeing that 20s is trying to gain traction, 30s building on whatever traction you may have hopefully gained, and 40s plus working on a legacy that will hopefully sustain you the rest of the way 🤞
God I needed to read this ❤
Hang in there! Life doesn’t get easier, but you get stronger and it gets better.
I’ll be 59 in a couple weeks; I’m having the best time of my life! I didn’t enjoy my 20s and 30s _nearly_ as much.
🙏🏾
So true, I had to get rid of all the toxic people first to start my life properly. For some people it takes longer to get there, as we don't all start at the same point, but if you keep trying and working you will eventually get to where you want to be.
This song is so poetic. Please make a full version!
I'll be 39 in a few months, and I found myself only 3 years ago.
Things get better, friends. Not as fast as we all wanted or envisioned, but they do get better with every struggle and every challenge and every risk.
Sending love to all
good to hear but it can still be rough sometimes. I'm a late bloomer/has to restart because my dream career just wasn't possible anymore. gonna go back to school with my siblings who are 10-14 years younger than me 💀🙃
I wish you luck !😊
I needed this. I’m approaching 30 quickly and I feel so lost and feel like a failure since I haven’t achieved all the greatness I feel like I was supposed to hit before 30
I am going to be 40 next month, and I also discovered my calling a couple of years ago. I am back in school to pursue my dream and will finally go after the life I have always wanted. Its not too late.
@@mansibhagwate5hearing from people like you gives me so much hope and positivity for the future 🥹🩵
“Wonder where Colin ended up”
“Got so used to hell, don’t even feel the fire”
Those lines hit hard.
Edit: omg the likes 😭
Edit: and I’m top comment? Tysm!
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In prison maybe
I was probably Colin for a lot of girls. I'm good looking, good personality, hard working, and truly kind. A ton of girls rejected me for some reason. I blame Disney Frozen. All women got paranoid after that movie. If Colin is like me and did well, he will not want any of his exes to see how well he did. People think it will feel good when the person rejected us will regret not choosing us, but it actually a terrible feeling. This actually happened to me. The girl who ghosted me and I think she chose another guy and then try to get with me again after her break up and after she found out the type of guy I was, but it was too late. I got married to someone else. She saw me and my wife at the store. My wife and I were very nice to each other. I can feel how bad the girl who ghosted felt. It was one of the worst feelings. I rather a girl hate me and think I'm a loser, so they can move on than get stuck on me.
@@alexlilano1931you need to sit down babes🫶
“Wonder where Colin ended up” really gets me because there’s always the thought of the “what ifs” in life.
Freeturtle132 I have a boyfriend named Colin
@Britishempirewillneverdie who shat in your coffee😂
it gets me because I do want them happier than me
@@booknerdjebbi5037bro woke up british i assume and that explains it tbh
Ya Colin was the nice guy she ignored because he liked dfferent things. Imagine wanting a partner because they like all the same things you do, that's not how love works lol
We need a full version of this song. This song hits home already
I'm almost 34, and this song hits home hard. I have a Bachelors degree and made deans list every semester before graduating in 2012.
12 years later, me & my dog are living with my dad. We'll be homeless in 3 weeks since he's moving out of state. I lost my job due to the company getting buried financially with sky-high property taxes and increased rent.
I feel like I've worked so hard throughout my life, and here I am, single and alone at 33, no career, no relationship, no family, nothing to show for all the pain & struggle.
Thank you for this song. It gave me some much needed comfort .
Stay strong kiddo - when it feels like you're being pushed off the edge of a cliff it's the perfect time to believe you can fly. And you can - metaphorically. Cover every inch of you in self-esteem and fight tooth & nail to come out on top.
I know this world can be unfair and maybe it feels cruel to feed the system by doing whatever it takes to survive but believe me - there's room for you in this world. ❤
Im old and widowed your struggle is understandable
At you age you feel life is at its critical
This day and age a relationship seems not so hospitable
But im sure if you look
there will be a person in your current life you overlooked
There are men out there looking for you
Maybe look in a different place thats new
Im alone but saying prayers for you😢
Looking back on my life I wish I went to a shelter and started over instead of chosing 2 bad relationships which caused so much severe trauma. If I had to do it over again, I wouldn't. I would go to a shelter and accept their help and guidance to turn my life around. I was too proud back then and I regret it immensely.
When there is life, there is hope
Damn.. we are truly never alone in our experiences. I've been through similar experiences 25 and I have nothing to show for it except depression and trust issues caused by 2 relationships barred with trauma. I feel inferior to the point I won't talk to people because I feel I'm not worth the effort. They didn't love me and stay so why should anyone anymore. I miss who I used to be. I used to ask why grandpa was so.. angry or cynical.. I see now why he feels the way he does.
Out of nowhere UA-cam shows this reel. It's beautiful. And it hits me in a very relatable way.
I like this reel cause it hits multiple levels. Like the first song irritates me a little, but the second one I relate to. I really like contrast. If you happened to listen to this when you were in first year of college, listening in 10 years would be very interesting
I would have cried listening to this song 2 years back. Now I'm in a much better place in life and I'm grateful for where i stand. Insecurities and hard ships will go away. Believe in yourself and work hard in what you want. You will be in a better place too ❤
This!
Yea the algorithm do throw us some "feels good" at times or some "feels sad"
If you can relate to a 32 year old woman with Pink Hair who apparently has accomplished NOTHING in her life despite attending college, then YOU ARE DOING LIFE WRONG.
Time for a change.
This was way more emotional than I expected. 😥
the best cover i‘ve heard since that song dropped
I'm so grateful to know that there are many people feeling this way
This. Thank you. I don't feel as alone
Me too 🥺
Yeah life is just shit like that. 🤷♀️
You are not alone I’m 31 this hit me really hard :/
Im in my mid 50s - still feel the same. Hope you do better than me.
I'm genuinely tearing up -- I promise it does get better. I'm 41 and it took each decade past being 2 days in college to recognize that *everyone's* 20s and 30s are devastatingly hard.
I’m 39. Please tell me this is the end of it 😅
I'm 43...when is it going to end? Will it ever be easier or is this just how my life is going to be?
42.8 here.... now health problems have been added to all the rest 🤣🤣🤣 though i have a loving partner, can't complain there.
all the best to everyone who reads this 💕💕💕 you've got this!! one day at a time 💕💕💕
It will never get better. This world is a pointless sesspool. Full of plague walking around on two legs. What's the point to breathing in this shit hole? There isn't one. You are born. You suffer. You die. You are forgotten. If you are remembered you aren't remembered for the life you live but for the life people imagine you lived. Living is pointless and means nothing. So the fact that we are stuck here is bullshit.
Just turned 40....didn't even get my 1st "real" job, one with benefits and good pay, until I was 30 or 31.
Damn this hit hard. Dammit, freaking tearing up. Thanks for the wicked song dude. I hope to hear the full cover.
What do you want to get better at? The rest of us that are poor own community, so we can learn from each other.
Exactly what I came into the comments section to say 😭
@@kylegrant6365you sound like you could be my friend
Wherever you are and whenever this may reach you, I wish you happiness
Agreed
Im surprisingly still a 12 year old stacked with pressure from everyone in school. Im lost on everything and its barely the second month of school. Im wondering if everything i dreamed of would happen. Some people might think this is discouraging that they realize its hard to be immediately successful but this helps me a lot. Reminds me im still young enough to try my best, and that its fine to be lost even by the time the age in this song is my age.
My sweet summer child, I'm 37 and still wonder if my dreams will happen....some have, most haven't, but if I could give you one piece of advice, it would be to just enjoy the journey everyday no matter where you wind up because one day we all reach our final destination. 🙏🏻
Omg i need the full cover 😢😢 This is very relateable
You're like 7 no it isn't💀 and you can't even spell💀
So relatable 😢😢😢
"are they happier than me now" is such a devastating question to ask oneself.
The comparison is what truly k*lls you inside
That's not self comparison - That's comparing yourself to others.
@@andrerodon3921 oh damn you are right! learned something new today!
Thought you compare yourself to others, hence self-comparison. My bad. Thanks for letting me know!
This should be on spotify
Exactly, so i can put it in all my playlists and listen to it on repeat 🥹
that what they think about themselves, avoiding real progress in live.
You are so inspirational. Thanks for putting yourself out there to give me a reason to keep pushing forward.
I'm sixty now and just learning that life is grand today with or without accomplishments on a schedule. I've beat depression, cancer, and hope springs eternal that love makes all the difference in life. Drop the schedule and embrace now!
Check out aubrey de grey
He's an alcoholic. @@snorttroll4379
This gave me so much comfort. You seem like a very nice person! I’d love to “drop my schedule” but unfortunately I’m 29 and I have to survive somehow. 🥲
Love you man
❤❤❤🎉🙌🏾⚡️👍🏽
That high note was actually so smooth my lord
Yeah, she tuned that thing up real good.
As someone who spent 8 years in music college, sounds like auto-tune to me.
Autotune.
The entire thing is autotune. Nobody sings anymore, except for Billie Eilish.
I could listen to that over and over
Please put a full version of this on spotify I wanna listen to it on repeat and cry
Mee too
I admit I'll almost cried
Did everyone else succeed
I would have cried listening to this song 2 years back. Now I'm in a much better place in life and I'm grateful for where i stand. Insecurities and hard ships will go away. Believe in yourself and work hard in what you want. You will be in a better place too ❤
she's so smooth she thought I wouldn't notice she re-harmonized the chords and then completely flipped the melody.
“All the things I thought I’d have by now are still so out of sight” 🥺 that line is so real
That's where entitlement comes in
@@FionnCr huh?
how did you arrive at this conclusion.
Yeah..yeah:/
I feel ya ❤ 31 and going to start college this fall because I believed I couldn't do it 13 years ago.
The lyrics, the cadence, the pretext about "Collin", the sweetness in her voice, the use of her syllables, just Wow. I'm impressed. She has a very promising future as a song writer.
Who is she?
Ye she does
The wall has arrived, she's realized that a family should have been a priority and she squandered her prime years riding the c.c. Now its time to think about moving in with other modern women for survival.
Which one??
@@Dade13305 I found her: Aimee
Yesterday was my 32 birthday and damn do I feel this. Like a punch to the gut. I’m glad in a weird way I’m not the only one that feels this way. Millennials have been so divided over the years on so many things, but when you sit down we are all just trying to do our fucking best in this crazy beautiful fucked up chaotic world. For those feeling like me don’t ever stop fighting forward. Find the beauty and grasp it tight. I wish us all luck as we move forward.
This made me cry ❤ I’m 32 as well and couldn’t relate more to this!! Happy birthday to you 🙂
Much love. Us millenials have been hit the hardest. Made to believe we can do anything, hell a lot tried. But it's true, we're just trying to make the best of our situation. Got tears in my eyes.
I'm 36.
I'm 32 also, a mother of 3, a wife for 5 years, but in the relationship for 17 years, and somehow I still feel like I should be a kid. I'm not emotionally or financially ready for this world. I need the time to slow down or a restart. I really don't think life should be this freaking hard. But all we can do is keep moving forward.
Happy belated birthday and I hope one day it will get easier for all of us and we can stop fighting to live and just live.
@@mistibransford6954 One thing, from a 55yr old male...who has kids half your age......KEEP going.....NEVER blame yourself....ALL of us - EVERYONE, is getting pumped over - Nothing is personal - NEVER EVER Blame yourself - Positive Mental Attitude - PMA. x
Look don't take this the wrong way you are where you are because of your choices just like everybody else apparently on this thread I'm 34 I'm a millennial then make better choices I get there are things that are out of our control but I know a lot of millennials that are in your position aren't focusing on what they can control they focus on everything that doesn't matter between our generation and gen z everybody wants to be an activist instead of just taking care of the responsibilities
Need a full song please. I love this.
I desperately need a third person to do the next verse-- "20 years out of college..."
Yes 🇦🇺 😊
She did one 😊 - ua-cam.com/video/5vtO2qxGgSA/v-deo.htmlsi=o48Sz5gVn5n6a_Od
Gen x for the win...
I can try lol😊
but 🤞🏻 positive
I’m 38 and thought I had my life figured out. Made my permanent life decisions. But then I got a devastating illness that leaves me often bedridden and house bound. Even if you get it figured out at 24 like I did you have no clue what life’s going to throw at you. Be grateful if you’re healthy and can still make choices. We all have our own battles. No human fights alone
Im so sorry, i hope you manage to get better 😢
Wish the best for you and your future. I hope you are able to eventually recover.
Same boat here, but I got sick at 18 right after getting married… divorced now, and way better than I was, but it still is a battle every day and some weeks and months I’m back to where I started. It’s tough.
We have a similar situation.
You all are so compassionate! I thought I was gonna get so my hate. I’m so sorry you all are ill as well. I hope you all can at least cope with the hand you’ve been dealt and find someone who will love you just as you are ❤❤❤❤
We always think we're behind. We all do this life thing at our own pace. You're right where you're supposed to be. Great tune
Perfect words! :)
This isn't some feels good fantasy were in a global economic recession seeing a decline in quality of life. The working class is losing ground day by day. It's great to feel the good vibes and all but your an adult and you should face the facts in front of you
I needed to hear that. 😢
We often feel we are behind and not where we are supposed to be in life. We don't have the right job making the right amount of money and benefits so we have no way to buy the house of our dreams, heck, we can barely pay rent, even with sharing expenses with annoying and unreliable roommates.
We haven't found the love of our life, either, to share our journey with, except that maybe we did but just didn't realize that this someone was THE someone.
It can be very frustrating and depressing when you feel that not only are you not where you want to be...but that you never will be.
It's hard to be a human in 2024. All you can do is just keep trying every day to put one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward.
I feel horrible for the children who bought the lies about college, now stuck in debt,high cost of living with no marketable skills or experience. The only thing that saved me was I dropped out of school.Started working two jobs, renting my bedroom from my parents, and saved every penny possible. Own my own home now free and clear. They sell you a dream with a price tag, library cards are free. You can still go to college parties, especially when all your friends are there🎉
Wow!
Please do a full record! I would love it!! ❤
Im 39 this year. Happier than ive ever been and more settled than i thought i would be. I didnt succeed, in my 20's or early 30's i had lessons to learn and things needed to fall apart, to fall right where they needed to be ❤❤
I'm 33 and much happier and more confident than in my 20s. I think it goes like that for many people.
❤❤❤ thank you
Turning 41 in a few months. My life gets better every year, but at 30 I would never have believed it. No joke, the most accurate statement I still reflect on was from the sex and the city movie, something about your 20s are for mistakes, your 30s paying for those mistakes, 40s for picking up the tab. My heart breaks for the unique challenges of younger folks, but if anyone ever asked me I would tell them the best thing I've learned this far is to stop competing, delete social media, dump the ___ you only see potential in, get a therapist and travel. I'm stoked as hell for 41...42...
Yes! I’ve got an additional verse in my head that starts “ i’m this far out of college, things finally fell in line, I wish I could tell my former self things are gonna be just fine”
@@manateepottery this I love
That high note was actually so smooth my lord..
Helps it ain't live and has been tuned to shit
It's so processed it hurts. You can clearly hear it. I bet she sings like sh*t without electronic help.
@@gggggggz5even if it's tuned, your voice has to be good or else the tuning would be very obvious and bad sounding
This cover couldn't have come at the most perfect time. Is there like a full version? heck even and hour long one? could be a good background for one of those self deprecating nights.
I love this song so much also I’m subscribed!
😭 i might be 19 but your version hit me cuz i cant keep up with what i hoped to do with my life & i feel so behind compared to everyone else
I wonder if we all feel this way. I'm with you right now and I haven't even graduated highschool.
Being 28 I have some unsolicited advice (featuring bonuses from my mother)
Fuck everyone else. Much easier said than done, but it took until my 26th birthday for the switch to flip in my head. At this stage, no one else’s opinion matters. They can give advice, sure, but it’s not worth tailoring everything you do to pleasing other people. It’s not easy at all.
And also, don’t compare yourself to other people. Everyone is going at their own pace, and too many people are spending too much time looking at everyone else and wondering why they aren’t where that other person is. It is a waste of precious time and energy
Omg I'm 19 too and I feel so behind. Like when I was younger I thought I'd have more going for me at 19 then I do now.
I have more unsolicited advice as a wee old 27 yr old. You always hear the kind of advice that says “make every day count” “life is short” “you only live once” and those kinds of things. The thing is, that advice was made by older people and it puts a lot of pressure on you to always be thinking ahead and pushing on. And yes, that’s good. But it’s also bad. It’s too much pressure. Our society puts too much pressure on younger people. So you have to balance that and take time to fuck around and find out. Take time to lounge all day and do nothing. Take time to do that hobby that people judge you for. Life isn’t short at all as long as you give yourself the time to live it. For old people, yeah, their life be short. Cause they fuckin old. Us? Nah, we have time. They just want us to believe we don’t.
Thats because we all pretend we have our life together. You can only see the outside. Everyone struggles and you are not behind.
Go your path and dont forget to take breaks to enjoy the view❤
Oh dear love, this is all too relatable. I’m 30 now and am only starting to get grasp on my life. My 20s were absolutely hellish mentally and emotionally, and I probably am behind from most of my peers, but that doesn’t matter. I learned to stop comparing myself, and am just living each day peacefully, slowly getting to a point where I can sustain myself and be content with my life. I hope everyone else who’s struggling will be able to do so too. Wishing the best for everyone ♥️
I'm almost 40 and as a Xillennial, there's a lot I feel so behind on. I feel like I should have more stability and security, but seriously, my 30's were better than my 20's, and I'm WAY more excited about my 40's than I ever was about any decade. None of us really have it together. None of us really know anything. But at 39, I'm feeling cute in my own skin and I'm always open to learning more.
Why would you feel like you’re behind if I may ask? Sometimes, we’re competing against our own shadow
Idk man. I have no college beyond some career specific certs and I made 77k last year. College is a scam.
@@jenerin905genuinely love this for you 😊
I'm 36 and this are the exact same thoughts every day. I can't stop bawling now 💔 luckily I have therapy tomorrow 😂
Wait, 1.3K likes ?!?!!!! Thank you guys!!! Feels good that we are in the same sinking boat, but still rowing to the shore 😎👍🏼✨
💐💅 Treat yourself, sis
It must be nice to afford therapy 🥲 I can barely afford rent 😰😭😭😭😭
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 yes! Work it out in therapy.
@RocketMomma-ig5ttnot true, my friend. There are those who can laugh at this world's nonsense because, even when life hurts, we don't place our hope in the things of this life. ❤ Jesus loves you, my friend.
Same 🤚
I just turned 50 and have been out of college for over 20 years now, and you're singing my song! I can't wait to finally see how my life goes, once I'm all grown up...
45, kids, wife, stable job and still having these thoughts. You are wonderful. Thank you. No one is alone. ❤
I'm a couple of years older than you, and I've become convinced - everyone is winging it. Everyone. No exceptions.
Same.
Damn that's alot of kids
@@brock8993There is a comma, though.
@@carolyndeemer4518it was a funny joke, though
Old millennial here, I'm 40 and finally have a good job, steady income, decent home, and loving relationship. Some of us pull it together later than others. Never compare yourself to others. You only see what they want you to see on social media. We are all struggling in our own ways, even the people who look like they have it all figured out.
Another old millennial. Took my kid and ran from an abusive relationship. Went back to school. Completely starting over and I’ll be 40 in October. Terrified, but I have no other choice. Kiddo starts school in fall.
You have this. Little younger than you guys, little older than OP but I can tell you this your not starting over your just doing it your way. There's only one end to our story and there's nothing after that!
47, and I thought I would have more wins then L's too. I feel for every step forward I am able to take I am pushed back five. It feels neverending. I'm crying while listening on repeat now but know I have to x out soon because I don't want my little one walking in on the tears. I needed this video, even for just the five minutes I am able to take for myself. Thank you.
I'm 40 this year. Can't buy a house, separated with two kids (and still living together). I have a good new job but I'm still constantly broke. This world sucks right now. I'm rooting for you, Steph!!!
@@Palafertiil Perspective is everything.The fact that you have a roof over your head and are able to provide for your children tells me that you're doing pretty well. Millions of people would love to be in your position. Don't forget that.
💝
I'm sorry you're struggling.
Remember that it's okay to take a moment every now and then to recognize and feel your feelings... feeling what you feelnis not a denial of the good in your life. Acknowledging that things aren't the way you wanted or expected isn't wrong or bad. It's totally natural. Healthy even.
Also... remember that it's okay to let your kid see you having feelings and even struggling... it's important they can see you working through those things and moving forward despite your difficulties.. if you hide it always, they'll maybe come to think there's something wrong with them for not understanding what to do with their own big feelings... maybe don't give them all the whys and wherefores of your big feels, but it's okay to let them see that sometimes life is hard... that way they'll know that they can come to you when they're struggling because you're a safe place to collapse and reorient themselves.
Sending you a comforting hug from a total stranger on the internet.
You'll get through this. 💝💖💝
I feel you. A few years older than you and feel like I've had more L's than W's, but I think it's perspective as there are always people worse off than me even when I am struggling. Saving grace came as a new career after turning 50 in a field I never dreamed I wanted to work in. Finally have a career instead of just a job, but now dealing with hubs severe health issues, but it's okay as it can't always be a bed of roses. Somehow we'll make it through like we always do and I know you'll do it too.
@@ladymoonmyst4872 At your age, you should have better wisdom to pass on. We're SUPPOSED to have more L's than W's. Who told you it should be the other way around? Life is supposed to be full of challenges to overcome, and those challenges increase with everything you bring into your life. (Job, Kids, Husband, House, etc.) It's how we learn, grow, and get better. Difference is, we have SO many tools to help us face those challenges, and we're acting helpless.
Comparing your life to other people like this woman is doing in the song is a recipe for disaster. Showing empathy is fine, but please don't feed into the "woe is me" narrative that pollutes these comments. Saying "you'll get through it" can be encouraging, sure, but that downplays the degree of difficulty they'll experience in their life.
The truth is, they're gonna have to deal with shit like this for the rest of their lives, and it'll probably get worse.
Fellow millennial here! This is so freakishly accurate, I can relate to every sentence of this song - except the guy named Colin.
You can never have more Ws than Ls because you have to Lose more so that you can Win, this is for everyone.
Hope you recover!! ❤😊
Thanks. I needed this.
Recover? It’s it’s just a song it could be true but it could not be
@@dIxy_DazIe
Have you ever had a song with lyrics that hit close to home? Thats what this comment reads.
Many feel like they’re getting more L in life than they are getting any W. These same people might think they’re failures cause of this. So someone comments that you are essentially supposed to have more L than you’ll ever have W. It tells people beating themselves that they don’t have to have this mindset, they can recover false pretenses they’ve had and appreciate their growth with all the L and W. That it’s normal.
Thought you needed it explained to you.
@@earthdwellingmartianDid writing that make you feel better?😂
@@donsmith6640
What do you mean? I was just explaining what the comment meant, since it seemed like they didn’t understand the original commenters intentions with the post. I wasn’t being rude.
You are tho. Do you feel better writing that and trying to make fun of someone? That’s why you put the laughing face. Right?
I'm 48 and just now getting on my feet where I feel like I've accomplished something and I still have plenty of goals to achieve. Don't give up folks, just because it's not happening for you right now doesn't mean it won't in the future. Take baby steps to get to that goal. Don't overwhelmed yourself about what you think you should have and focus on one thing at a time. Sometimes people need to take a step back and shift their perspective and take a look at the bigger picture and look back at what you have accomplished in the past. Stop beating yourself up and get out there and do what you need to do to achieve that first step in a long list of goals.
As a fellow 48 year old who seemed to blow every opportunity and careen into every brick wall, I can attest that achievements and accomplishments don't really provide lasting satisfaction. The only thing that really provides fulfillment is learning to appreciate exactly where we are with all its joys and sorrows, to experience ourselves as simply another flourishing of nature, no greater or less than any other, with all the poignant beauty that implies
I needed to hear that. Well said!
Thank you. That....was far more needed than I can ever express.
thanks.
I was excitedly trying to sing that in my head, and it didn't work at all 😅
37 this year, married, burnt out and trying to stave off anxiety attacks at the end of each work day.
I don't know how your cover found it's way into my feed, but thank you, it's comforting to know you're not crazy even when you're on the brink of a breakdown.
This, on loop, is my drinking soundtrack until this passes.
Awhh. i saw your comment randomly. Sending you love hun!!
I know how it was. I wanted to be a nurse and I made it.... before pandemic hit, which then had me questioning my choices. Four years later, I realized this is where I belonged the whole time, helping people where I can. I pray you find where you belong. In the meantime, sending hugs.... for you and your significant other
Hey, just want you to know that I'm also 37 as well and can relate. But I'm cheering you on, friend. You got it, chin up, tighten those bootstraps and remember your family is why you do what you do!
Practice strong will and discipline my friend. I’m 30 running multiple businesses, and never once had an anxiety attacks. Figure out your demons, deal with it and forgive yourself. Don’t go to a therapist, their job is to enable and not help you, only you can pull yourself out.
@@LoLMitBlade lol do you run so many businesses to push away friends? cuz that response was kind of insensitive.. ;) Just like therapy sometimes people's form of support is just being heard. but kuddos on being a bossass bitch
That collin line was amazing, my reason being, it doesn't matter how things ended up with both of em, the thing is that having a healthy sense of wonder or nostalgia about a person from your past is important because without em' you would not have been where you are.
Every action has an equal and opposite reaction
You are not alone. I’ve spent my life putting one foot in front of the other, never deciding what I wanted to do with my life, and too busy to really think much about it. Now I’ve been retired for three years, and it’s a little late for those thoughts. 🤷♀️
🥺 You can still find purpose and fulfilment even in retirement it might take some praying and waiting but I know a door will be opened for you! 🙂🙏
I have a friend finally chasing his dreams in retirement ❤
You finally have time to chase your dreams!!!
It’s never too late! You did your part. Now it’s your turn, and with everything you’ve learned about yourself it’s a great start. Even if you don’t know where to start
you’ll figure it out 😊 I believe you 👍🏽
Life’s not perfect in retirement, but I’m finally in control. Well, mostly. Actually not as much as I’d like, but I still have options.
And if you need help, there are options for most people.
It’s easy for people on the outside to say it’s never too late but until you believe it for yourself, you can’t make it come true.
I started college at 16 & now I’m 27 & nowhere near how I imagined my life would be. Maybe it’s all the same for us, things won’t always go the way we expect them to be.
And that’s okay
Oh my GOD
You are preaching to the CHOIR. You have no idea how heartwarming it is to hear other people in their early 30s in this same place! Ahhh ❤
Beautiful and relatable at 28 and 6 years out of college. Stumbling, falling, picking myself, falling again, hitting rock bottom, picking myself up again and again. I am struggling to find my compass, the career and the life I thought I would achieve after college has not yet arrived for me and not for lack of trying.
Although this time trying to go within and heal as I go. Studying yoga, breathwork and meditation as well as going to therapy on the side has helped me to understand my inner world better, even if I am still yet to see changes in my outer world, Its a start. Much love to everyone and you aren't alone.
I am 20 years out of collage met the love of life on day 1 and didn't know it. It took another 12 years to get married and 3 more for our first child. I still lock myself out at night. The difference now there is somebody inside that i keep calling to set things right.
If you are 35 years out of college when you have your first kid, you are a 56-57 year old man (or older).
@nwnmiria ..... please tell me you are joking. He met his love on the first day of college and got married 12 years later. 3 years after they got married, they had a kid = 15 years after meeting her day 1 in college.
He's only been out of college for 20 years.
@@Vantiastar93 He was 20 years when he MET her. 20+12+3+21 (unless he is a genius
Wooow 12 years! When did you guys actually start dating or realized you liked each other?
@nwnmiria interesting idea or the kid is 5 years old now.a
I was not emotionally prepared for this hit in the guts 😢 ❤ this verse
Those breathy high notes were absolutely angelic!!
I sometimes feel like I had more potential in life and should've continued on with my education, but then I remember how scary that leap would be, how much effort it would take, and how I'm very comfortable where I am right now, and I feel okay again.
Same here!
this hits so close to home. i am also a millenial (1990) and still got nothing in life. struggling with depression and anxiety. saw almost all of my friends succeeds in life.
This one hit me right in the feels and I actually started crying. You start feeling so alienated when everyone around you starts succeeding at life while you are figuring yourself out. Depression is a bitch.
I fully understand how you feel. Lost years of my life to depression and am way behind compared to others. The thing is, I'm doing much better now. I'm proud of how far I've come compared to then. And thats my thing now, whenever I think how I'm not where I wished I was. I know how far I've come! That makes me immensely proud, the struggle is real, but there are bright spots too! You'll figure it out, keep believing, better days will come! ❤
Me too!!
@@danielh12345 Proud of you! We are never behind when comparing to others, we can only compared our own journey to where we started it
I'm in the same shoes
You are in your own journey life seems unfair sometimes when we try to view through the lens of others it’s the fire inside and the fire outside that makes us grow I’m a college dropout and I feel like fighting and learning is the only way through all of this
How cool if each generation did one verse of this song, so we can all understand each others' struggles a little more. I'm Gen Z and currently in college so the first one hit, everything feels so uncertain and the world is so big and always changing, I always feel lost in the shuffle.. It feels like I could do so many different things, there are so many options available that choosing one feels impossible :(
Also, getting locked out of the dorm. lol
I’m 20 years out of college, and my life feels halfway over and I’ve only just barely gotten anything started. There’s so much to do and so little time. I’ve found myself and my place and I’ve begun carving my spot in the world but I’m wondering if I’ll finish before I run out of the time I’m given. I just need more time.
Gen x here: I've never had a problem, and nothing bad ever happened. I got challanges galore, which sometimes turns to growth opportunities , and as much as it may suck, I embrace it and move on. This is why I know for sure: it's all good.
"...there are some many options available..."
That is the good problem to have. Pick anyone to do. It literally doesn't matter which. And when you do it you might discover you like it and boom, it's all good. Or you may discover it sucks... and thats fine two because it just helped you narrow down your options and fine tune your search. You got this. Options are good.
"I'm 80 years old and I fought the Nazis in a World War and then got home and got a job and built the modern country like nothing happened."
@@swickens930 airborne Sir.
Quirky jaunt, gorgeous voices, terrifyingly-relatable lyrics.
I'm getting heavy Edie Brickell/Lisa Loeb vibes here. But still with a heavy dose of refreshing originality. Love it!😊
Too real. I made the decision to move back in with my parents so I could actually save money (rent was eating my savings) and because my mental health was suffering (I needed practical assistance), and it’s been wonderful having their support, it was a good decision, but I sometimes feel so dumb for not having a house and a family of my own and a higher salary. I have younger friends in the same field making way more than me and it makes me feel like I’m so behind.
I too am moving back in with my mom once my lease is up for the same exact reasons you listed. It's nice to know I'm not alone but dealing with the shame associated with it can be so tough.
Never feel ashamed of making smart decisions, especially when those smart decisions help you be happier :)
Lol, I'm 35, was kicked out of an abusive home at 16. Had my first child at 20, got a trade, now run my own business bringing in 6 figures a year.
My wife is a stay at home mum looking after our 3 boys, been with her for 16 years, we have a semi traditional relationship, she has helped build me up so I can provide for our family.
Dropping out of college to get a trade was the best thing I've ever done. 99% of my friends have office based jobs and are struggling to pay bills.
My suggestion to you would be to utilize your time living at your parents the best way by ditching your current career and getting a trade then going self employed and taking in your own jobs.
@@Pablosplace that's horrible advice...trades are not for everyone you don't know their situation either. Being self-employed is incredibly hard and not stable, being your own boss only sounds good but most people are nowhere close to knowing how to run a business correctly. Plus you just rubbed your successful life in their face not cool.
We can't all do the same thing or no one would be doing the jobs we need, you keep doing you but don't make it seem like the only way to be.
@@nerdycurls6253 I've been self employed for 8 years and am absolutely killing it, same as everyone I subby in on my jobs.
It's fantastic advice, you just don't have the drive to do it.
What do you do for a living?
"Did everybody succeed now? Are they happier than me now?" Hits different 😩
My god this is perfect i need a spotify version. Please publish a full version
Yes i hope they make a full version- can they keep doing more ad ons with other people who are questioning life choices? even successful ones? Because that would be amazing
Thank you for understanding how some of us feel.
How many times have you listened to this?
Me: yes.
Wow, incredible voices, incredible song writing. 🔥🔥🔥
Incredible autotune you mean
The production is alright, if she's the one who actually composed / learned whatever software she's using. But you know it's 100% autotune making the "incredible voice" part right?
36, and somehow still single, dream job has fallen apart and has turned into a nightmare …
I feel this song in my soul.
Sending love to everyone here! We’ve got this! 💪 I don’t think anyone has it all together.
Everyone’s doing great. Hang in there. Be proud of yourself. ❤
Thank you. This is amazing. This is exactly my life right now.im glad I'm not the only one.
I love it when you go into your soprano range.
please release a full version, I love your lyrics so much
Right I NEED this!!!
Somehow I find myself in my mid 70's, and this brings back the early years. I'm very happy in my modest life today, enjoying my wonderful spouse of many decades, and I feel for the confusion you describe. I find very encouraging the comments from people a few years older who finally found more of what they needed in life; I hope you do too! Life IS hard to figure out for most of us. I'm on your side!
I'm approaching 30 and I really do find it reassuring to see that most people want exactly that, a modest life with someone they love and a little compassion. I hope you have a good life, mate ❤
The lyrics from a few days into college versus 10 yrs out of college is an eyeopener.
Oh my god. I'm crying.😢33 and i relate so hard. I'm married and have kids, but i still don't know what I'm doing with my life. I still feel like a little kid pretending to be an adult yet I'm responsible for two small humans. I just hope that life works out for them in the way that if feels lile it hasn't for me.
What you’re doing with your life is raising two small humans. That is as important a purpose in life as anything, if not more. Give yourself more credit. And don’t worry; nobody really knows how to adult …. ❤️
You're doing fine, hun, keep going.
You are excelling at life is what you are doing....as long as you raise them right with a conscience and strong independence. - an old man ( and father)
I'd argue you are doing THE most important job in the world! We were sold a load of crap that we have to do it all and pretend we do it all well. Thats just garbage. No one can, but some of us are much better at marketing than others and spinning tales. @@samtheham57
Never give up trying things out. Don’t give into “living through ur kids”. U’ve got time and you’re doing great! Maybe it’s just time for you to focus on raising them and naturally sooner or later you will find your balance and you all will celebrate your happiness together 🥰 Cheers!! ❤️❤️❤️
UA-cam showing me this when I'm 10 years out of college and stuck in a hard place is really blowing my mind 😭😭. I love this so much, her voice is beautiful!
Life is like driving a bike; focus well ahead of you, where you want to go. I could go on, but you get the idea.
It's showing me this at age 59 and disabled. Don't read into it
Yes
@@joannaquanttumphysics true, wishing you the best Joanna.
@@Leeny017 very true, thank you for the analogy.
This should be turned into full song. It is amazing, please continue your amazing work of art!
Please do a full song of this. Both versions are so beautiful but I love how yours resonates.
I'm 29, and I feel this! Please give us a full version, thank you
Me tooo
I'm 16
Protip from much further up the line. The only way to win is to abandon all hope. 🎉
@@solomondees.4632 What do you mean by that?
@@solomondees.4632 yaaaaayyy 🥲🥲🥲🥲🥲
I'm 61 and broke down crying listening to this. Bravo! (and hang in there, everybody!)
This just goes to show the struggle is universal and life goes on regardless. I hope you've been able to find some happiness 🙏
Why
thank you for this comment. 33 and same
hang in there old man
L bozo
Just turned 73. Retired in 2012 after 36 years of employment. Didn't feel like my life was my own and how I wanted it to be until 2017. My son was grown (raised him alone), out of college, married with 2 kids of his own in high school (the last one graduates from university this Saturday). 2017 was the year my mom died after being in long term care for 3 years, before which I cared for her by myself. Only recently have I felt like my life is where I want it to be and how I want it to be. It just happens for some of us quite a bit later.
You might see this as intruding but I felt like I have to share with you the source of the peace in my heart. It’s simply my religion. So, wherever you are in the world just visit a mosque and ask for a free copy of The Quran or order it online. Try reading it, I’m sure you won’t regret it.
Take care!
Your comment gives me ao much hope. Thanks for sharing your story. 💓
As a 21yo woman that's gonna be out of college in just a couple days, has failed or not sent all my exams and doesn't know - has no clue - what the futur holds (which is turning my brain into a anxious/depressed mess) [I sent applications nowhere and haven't searched schools/jobs]... Thank you. I sometimes forget that I want to live a long life. It doesn't need to be happy all the time. Even if it's not next year, one day I'll feel happy and right where I belong, and I won't fear what's coming for me.
Hope you live long and well miss. You're amazing. 💙
I hear you. I am 40 and my life feels like there is still something missing somehow although I have a kid (which I love more than anything else) and am married.
Was I supposed to read this in the song's melody? Because that's what I did. ;_;
I just turned 30 on the 18th of September and I really wasn’t worried about it. The day after my birthday it really hit me that I was now what I had always considered old and a proper adult. Yet I haven’t accomplished anything I thought I would by now. It’s a weird feeling of feeling like you just left a whole group of peers behind that you don’t want to leave and joined a group you never imagined you actually would. The passing of time and how quick it actually does go has sunk in and it’s terrifying. I now relate more to my parents than to teens and that’s weird when I still feel like my teenage self and like nothing’s really changed since then.
I'm turning 60 and this also applies to me as well. I had it together just 4 years ago and a few things happen in life and I'm starting over again. The things that happened were not of my making but I'm left to pick up the pieces of my life. But I'm more than thankful for God getting me through the trauma and giving me opportunities to rebuild.
💪
in short, none of us know wtf we are doing. just trying to make it all work, day by day, hour by hour, and sometimes even second by second. it's easy to fall for glossy narratives of what and where one should be. in reality, you will be what you will be when you'll be it.
I'm sorry to hear that. I hope that it all works out for you.
I wish the best for you ❤️❤️❤️
@@Thewhiteandorangewords of wisdom right there! Thanks for sharing them, W&O. 👍🏻
Never felt lyrics hit my soul like this before
Wow this got me in the feels. I'll be 45 next week. Lost the love of my life, my husband of almost 20 years to cancer 5 1/2yrs ago. Then at 42 give birth to my first child. Life is an amazing ride but never what anyone imagines.
So glad that you were able to find some happiness after such a tragedy ❤
32 y/o male and I do not think about if my HS or college peers are happier than I am. I refuse to waste my time comparing my life to another person.
@@ibelovedsai_it’s pretty necessary to constantly do so or else you’d lose meaning in your own life and lack an ability to pick out importance.
Life is comparison.
Meaning, definition, is comparison.
Maybe you don’t need to compare to people you use to know- but you have to constantly compare yourself to those currently around you.
Or else- how are you getting any feedback on how you’re doing? You can’t unless you do that.
42 is too old to have a child, shame on you
@@freetranslate-u8eu are so rude! it is her choice and there is nothing wrong with that. Mind ur own business please.
Beautiful. Everyone feels this way.
Both of you sound angelic. Bless you both. I would love to hear a full version of this.
this is the full version, ya dink
@@coreyg7364 okay donk
@@coreyg7364kid, chill. Better ways to convey this.
Isn't this the same person, 10 years later?
@@honeybee416 Even if we would ignore the fact that both of them have different English accents and different facial features (which could be changed by personal preference and surgery etc.) TikTok (which is the first version) wasn't a thing 10 years ago.
This is one of the most lyrically and musically beautiful things I've ever heard. Please don't ever stop singing or writing. I haven't touched my guitar in over 6 years and immediately went and took it out of its case, restringged it, and tuned it. I've written 4 songs so far using you as a muse and inspiration. Thank you for helping me relearn my love of music. ❤
this is special
This is beautiful. I hope you always have your muse and your music brings you peace and happiness💕 I’m always in awe of talented people.
This video cured me of my cancer.
I befriended a man in community college who was a retired marine. He went back to school at 70 to become an anthropologist. I never again felt too old to go after a dream!
I had people 70+ at my community college when i got my first degree (ASN). Every time someone tells me they are too old to go to college I tell them about this. My dad is 55 and like 2 semesters away from a bachelor's and I'm like if you want to DO IT BRO you're almost there and still young!
It’s not good but it’s kind of relieving for me to see that other people also feel the same I’m 28 and it always feel like I’m going through this struggle alone. I can’t really say if this song helped or just made it more clear to me that I’m doing nothing important with my life but you do have an amazingly beautiful voice