As I watch this tonight, I'm waiting for the call from my best friend who is on hospice. She is not expected to make it through the weekend. I live 800 miles away and can't be there to say goodbye. I love you, Lynn.
You've broken my heart. I'm so so sorry. I don't know you or where in this world you are, but know this for certain....I'm sitting in my bed thinking of you and sending love, hugs and I'm holding your hand. ❤
I know how you feel. My best friend died from pancreatic cancer in late Nov after bravely fighting it for 19 months. We were friends for 36 yrs. I am heartbroken.
I am 78 and have lost several people I’ve loved…losing my husband in 2019 was the worst and I still miss his presence every day. I’m grateful to friends who have “filled some of the gap” but no one can take his place. I haven’t moved on but I’ve gone forward. My husband was an outgoing person and when we met I was reserved, and through the years he gave me the confidence to be more outgoing. If I have confidence it’s because “he had my back” and now I have to stand up alone. When I get into a challenging situation I think of Alan and how he would react to the circumstances. Thinking about that and relying on my faith has helped me move forward for the past three and half years.
Immense condolences on the loss of your dearest Alan. I’m sure he must be so proud of how you honor him every day by consulting his wisdom and influence❤ A forever gift 💝
Hi Susan! I’m so sorry for your loss. I met an amazing man like that. Through him I found my voice. We use to sit and look into each other’s eyes and talk for hours. But I fell in love with mine. That was 25 years ago. The meaning of life is GOD. It’s having a relationship with the creator. It’s reading the Bible and finding out how much HE loves you. HE loves you so much HE wants to spend every day with you, and eternity too. To GOD you are someone special to HIM. ❤️
Three years before the world “went crazy” I lost seven loved ones in one year. Recently I’ve lost four family members to stroke, sudden heart problems, and five friends have almost died of clots and strokes. I wish it got easier but it never does. Each death, each funeral or hospital visit is just as hard as the first one. What in the world 😢
I felt this immediately! He does love Susan. How could he not? She’s the real deal, inside and out. Also notice at 13:23 the “question” scene. Hal’s question to Susan and her response to him. I know, I know, I’m probably looking too close and reading way too much into this. But I’m intuitive and a psychologist so I just can’t help myself. They’re probably just very close friends and that’s all there is to it. But I’m not totally convinced. Either way, they’re great together.
My Dad was a musician in a big band long before I was born. One day when Dad was at work my mom & I heard my Dad on the radio. So surprising. I was quite young.
My brother passed suddenly the end of August 2022. He gave me this one word of advice when our mom passed away. I asked him what do we do now? He said Live. He lived everyday of his life on his terms. Our sister passed away in December of 2022 after a three year battle with cancer. She lived every day to the fullest until the las two weeks of her life. She traveled, sold one house and bought a condo, rode a adult tricycle around her neighborhood, made new friends, was involved with her church, loved her boys and spent as much time with her only grandson Michael. I never heard her complain, or ever pity herself. So, my biggest piece of knowledge I learned, Live each day to the fullest.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I'm 70 and my husband and I seem to be losing friends every year. Memories will keep them alive in our hearts. Each new grief reminds us to be thankful for those still with us and teaches us to treasure each other. Time is short - reach out - send a card - make a phone call. Live without regrets.
I can relate. I have lost elders, but recently I have learned that my longest running friendship is coming to an end. We dont know exactly when, but the sand is running out of her hour glass. At first, a year ago I was all about helping her to see that she could make a difference in her lifespan. But she only tried a little for a short while. The disease is progressing. I am swinging wildly from abject fear to anger, to constant prayer, to sadness and denial. But this is HER LIFE. SO... now I am just going to love and support her. And Susan gave me a great idea. I am going to create a journal as to why I love her, how I came to love her in our heyday and what she has taught me. We met in June 1975. I am targeting June of 2023...48 years of friendship ups and down. Periods of Estrangement. Reunions. Reconnecting. Doing Winterteur together. Cape May in August. Watching the snow fall on the Hudson River as we sat having cocktails at a Bar in Hotel Thayer at West Point, waiting to be joined by out fiancee's and listening to the BeeGees "How deep is your love." Magical times. Horrible times. Divorces. Children, family brokenness, laughter and so many tears. Sitting in her kitchen, Drinking Iced tea from Harvest Gold Tupperware tumblers while we smoked Marlboros and dreamed of going to other parts of the country and the world. These are some of what I wii write to her. So much to say, so little time to say it. Thanks for having this wonderful group of women where we can make a chain of holding each other's hands as well as our 💚💔❤🙏🌹🎵💙😘. Love to all.💗🎉
You're the first person I thought about as I paid tribute to Aris on my Facebook page. Please accept my heartfelt condolences on your immeasurable loss. He was a dear soul and something in the universe will never be right again because of this loss. I am so sorry, Susan.
I love to read psychology channels. This past week I read that someone said, “when you get past the initial pain 😮 😢 😊 you have the future to see them again! Right now I have more friends dead than alive.
lost an ex boyfriend who i cared for very much.He suffered towards the end.i reached out to his children to comfort them and help with some bills .miss him even though 20 yrs passed.
Susan- I'm sorry about the loss of Eris. I know that I lost someone this week, too, but she was 98. I think since I turned 63, I have begun to wonder what will take me down and when? It's a strange feeling. I love your videos because they are so real. I know I'm not the best griever, but I try to travel as light as possible. Thank you for sharing the story about your friend. Bless you.
Wonderful video. Having just lost my sister four weeks ago and it has been so difficult. I can still hear her voice in our conversations, saying, "one day at a time".......and she never wanted anyone to be sad about her but rather joyous as she made it to Heaven. Indeed she did! I have lost eight friends/family in the past year and a half and it is enough to rip ones heart out but yet I remember all the good times and the laughter and to me they never are gone. Not from my mind, my heart, my loved ones always live, in the best place ever, in the heart/mind and memory! Blessings......have a beautiful week!
Harry was my classroom assistant for 6 years. He retired last year and was looking forward to traveling with his wife and spending time with his grandkids. On December 23rd, he tested positive for COVID. On December 26th, he went into cardiac arrest and died on December 30th. Harry never took life too seriously. He always had my back in the classroom. He encouraged me not to work so hard and to retire as soon as I could. Harry lived life on his own terms and didn’t care what anyone else thought. Many great memories and laughs came to mind as I watched your video. Rest in peace. Harry! ❤️
Wow, how excited you were and a great memory of when you were down your friend lifted you up by playing your music for 1 hour on the #1 station back in the day. A found memory of the kindness of your friend.
I get where you’re coming from and what you’re feeling. My first husband, Stephen, died in Jan 2007 and six months later my mum passed away unexpectedly. I can honestly say I have never been the same since their passing. The loss of a loved one changes us. I remarried, not once, twice, neither of them lasted. One cheated and the other turned out to be quite cruel, mentally and emotionally, not a good recipe for a happy and successful marriage. I now live with the love of my life, Mika, an adorable Shih Tzu who taught me about unconditional love. There’s nothing I wouldn’t do for her. I love her so very much. You could say she’s my happy ending, so to speak. She’ll certainly be a hard act to follow, not that I’m looking for one 😊 I cherish the good Stephen and I had and what we shared, and at times when I’m feeling lost and alone, I feel his presence, and that’s enough for me. Thank you so much for sharing ‘you’ with us, it’s not only respected and appreciated, it’s also beautiful and wonderfully interesting and exciting getting to know you. Until next time. God bless xx
Hi Susan! I'm so sorry for your loss ... each one hurts so much! When I saw the tile for this video, I read the title and I saw Hal's picture and i got so sad thinking it was going to be the loss of Hal! In fact, I'm so relieved I'll just say what I've thought a number of times! I hope you're taking Hal when you move! Y'all are adorable together! I don't understand how you and Hal met ... but I love your videos and you represent our age group so well! Love you and Desi and Hal!
My heartfelt condolences to you Susan. I am very acquainted with grief. An 68 yr old only child myself to a single mother, loosing her in 2016 at the age of 85 still leaves a hole in my heart and then my very best friend 2 1/2 yrs later. The list goes on.Thank God that he is also acquainted with grief seeing his only son being crucified for us, he understands and cares. My comfort comes from that assurance.
Loss of those who we love, created and shared memories with, can never be replaced. In 1.5 years lost 7 family members and one good friend. Most of them were younger than 65. I am heartbroken, and today would have been my 41 year old niece’s birthday. Life is hard, and I try to heal and make the best of my time on earth. I am in my 50s, and my kids are 24 and 26. My friend’s brother, who is 57, is expected to pass in 10 weeks. I did buy a travel trailer and plan to travel with my puppies and my bff.
@@davisholman8149 Just came back from a 10 trip to Tucson. It is gorgeous there in the winter. I have a bucket list, which does not include air travel. My husband likes to fly, but he is not included in my thrift shopping and beading acrossed America via travel trailer tour. He would hate it. He can golf, play poker, fish and fiddle with his cars.
This morning the first video I saw was members (friends) on a TV station talking about Aris. His impact and legacy he leaves behind. It brought tears to my eyes. He sounded like a very good person. Peace.
Sorry for your loss, Susan😢 I do not handle well losing so many special people in my life. I’ve lost my best girlfriend from high school, she was my maid of honor. My significant other of over 33 years & just last night on his birthday his best friend, our friend, passed away. So many in such a short time. How ironic our talk tonight was about your loss & how you feel about losses. I cried. I feel we are friends & you just understand. Love Desi, he is a sweetheart. Ty for being here for us all❤️❤️❤️
This is so beautiful on so many levels...in the past year I lost two friends, my uncle, my brother and very recently my mama. I have never loved another human being as much as I loved her. 💞🌺💞
I am sorry for your loss, but I know he'll be proud of you for the rest of your life. You are beautiful, wise and talented in so many ways. Thank you so much Susan for sharing yourself.
That was a beautiful eulogy you gave your friend and some very good advice. You are a sweet soul. I have lived through the loss of my husband, grandson and mom. When I think of them I think of our love. Love is the greatest gift that lives forever in us.
This week I lost another friend and this one made me inconsolable because I not only cried for her and her family, I cried for everyone I know who is battling cancer right now. Two days later one of my youngest daughters best friends lost her daddy. He died suddenly and had no chronic illness. There’s been too many deaths in my life recently and I cried for all of them. So I guess I didn’t handle it well? I’m better now. The goodbyes don’t get easier. Sending you love Susan. This too shall pass for nothing stays the same.
I attended the funeral today of a dear friend of mine. She was 92. She has been sick a while and I helped take care of her during these past few weeks. I will sure miss her so much. We had some good times together! She, as well as I, both love animals and she would adore your Desi, just as I do!! She had one cat and he is now living here with me and my two cats! lt is not easy losing so many. I see in the paper all the time where people much younger than we are, have died. My sister in law just lost her nephew and he was just 58. He got some kind of meningitis and got better, got worse, and then had a major heart attack, and his funeral will be on Valentine's day, so that families Valentines Day will never be the same. He had a wife, 4 grown children, and some grandkids. So sad. It's all a part of life, not a good part, but life. One way to look at it (to me anyway) is to look around at others, just like the people in Turkey who have lost everything, including all their family, in just a few seconds. So sad. I saw a woman the other day that I know, and she lost her husband and then just a few months later she lost her daughter, their only child. Her husband had been sick for some time, and I don't know what happened to her daughter, but the obit said she was surrounded by family when she passed, so cancer? Covid? I don't know. She does have some grandkids though. Susan, I am long winded, as you can tell!! Have a good week dear lady, and Desi too!!
Dear Susan, I am so sorry for your loss. Aris seemed like such a great friend . Grief doesn’t go away - we just find a way to move on and treasure those memories. I lost my brother and best friend. I keep them alive by sharing there stories as I go through life. You are a light in my life, I wait for your video to go up every Saturday - you always manage to touch my heart and seeing Desi and his bow ties gives me a giggle . Wishing the very best for you as you move to your new residence .❤
I'm so sorry for your loss. My mother passed away a few days ago and the grief, emptiness and sorrow are very real. She truly was my best friend and I am lost without her. The world seems quite 'dim' now and I thank you for your words of encouragement in this video.
Susan I'm rewatching this video...I love your personality! You are a True Genuine kind hearted because lady! I have a close friend who is gravely Ill,who I dont know how much longer she will be here. I love your great advise! Thank You!!
I am so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful friend. I'm not sure how I cope except to get up every morning and just put one foot in front of the other and walk it out. I have outlived all of my immediate family. Mother, Father , Brother and Sister. Hugs to You and Desi. He is the sweetest little fellow. ❤❤❤
I lost my husband in 2016 and miss him but I know he would want me to live my life and be happy. I’m very blessed and I’m very vocal about telling my family and friends I love them! ❤
I usually just simply cry…. let the grief come forth and embrace your loss in this moment. It is……… just that simple. The Simple Pleasures…. carry the deepest lessons. You have proved this today. And now I will embrace you with no words….. nothing to say but Amen my friend.
I'm a hospice nurse. I know that God called me to help families deal with their grief. My belief is that when this chapter (life on planet Earth)is over your next chapter begins in eternity. When my patients get very near passing I whisper in their ear to please tell my parents hi for me. I love your channel it's so beautiful and so are you.❤
My condolences Susan. Losing a loved one or a friend is never easy. Within the last 5 years i’ve lost 2 Sisters and my Husband/ my marriage. Grieving a death is hard but so is grieving the loss of your marriage. Your words spoken tonight are so beautiful. I find strength in my work, taking care of my clients better. I love how you and Desi match tonight. ❤🌹
Susan, so very sorry for the loss of your friend Eric. You two had the kind of connections that is so special! So many of us are dealing with loss and grief. My ex-husband, father of my two children, passed away 6 months ago. We remained good friends after the divorce to raise our son and daughter in a healthy way. Then just two months ago the love of my life passed away. We were childhood sweethearts but our life together was just not to be. I am realizing at 74 I better enjoy each day of my life that ai have left. I have moments of sadness and still cry a little but I have children and grandchildren to love and enjoy, that has helped me during my grieving. Thank you for this video, you are like a best friend talking to me. Sending love to you and sweet Desi. ❤
Six years ago I lost my husband. He was my one true soul mate. We were married for only 25 years. Still, it was enough love to fill a lifetime. Then last year in August I lost my dear sweet childhood friend after 53 years of friendship. During covid I've lost five close friends. Loss is hard but your right. Let's move on in our grief and celebrate the wonderful memories we have in remembrance of them. Love to you and Desi x ❤
What a beautiful remembrance of your good friend. I am 69 and feel like every time I lose someone dear to me it gets a little harder. I do believe we will be reunited someday and that helps me. My mom is 103 and still doing pretty well. She has seen her 7 brothers and sisters pass and most of her friends. I’m not sure how she handles that but I think it’s her faith in someday being reunited. Thank you for your videos. They always bring me a peaceful feeling and a smile. Take care.
"Dear Suzy, I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear friend Aris. I am sending you LOVE ❣️, LIGHT🕯️, & HEALING 🕊️🙏. The pain never goes away, you just learn to deal with it, the best way you can. God bless lovely lady & Desi"💋💕 🙏
Sorry for the loss of your dear friend. Yes it is hard when we get older and 2 weeks ago I lost my best friend my hubby of 51 years. We had wonderful times and hard times but I don't regret one moment of time we had together. I love your channel and words of wisdom and insights from coffee mugs.....LOL Love to you, your friends, Desi and RIP to your long time dear friend.....Blessings and looking forward to next week's video.
This past year I have lost five acquaintances and it has really affected me a lot. Your video really was meaningful to me. I am 72 and I guess this is going to be a part of my life from now on. It's made me realize how important my life going forward is.
Susan, I'm Sorry for the Loss of your Dear Friemd!! It Looks like you & Hal are Dating?? I lost my Mom 6yrs ago & my Dad 2 yrs ago. I grieved hard! Finally..I thought they want me to be happy !! They are Happy in Heaven! As time passes I cry Less,& I sense they are around me, the smell of Coffee, buttons, flowers & I say I Love you, Mom & Dad!!! Thank you Susan !!! Blessing to you!
I don’t cry often but tears are slipping down my checks as I write this. I lost a dear friend recently. I was able to see her and hold her hands as she laid in bed, on hospice, and we said our final words to each other. And she looked deeply into my eyes and said, “Remember me.” She saw my tears, and some landed on her. I muttered, “Of course, I will always.” Since her passing, a few more friends have also died. Your tender video has helped me get in touch with my grief and feelings of anxiety. Thank you for sharing the tools you use to cope with losing your loved ones.
Hal is Hal-arious. Thank goodness for his light-heartedness and your friendship. I lost my husband when I was 39, and ended up joining a widows group. The members of the group became such good friends of mine. The lady who started our group just passed in 2022. She made such a difference in all of our lives, because we shared that common loss of our husbands who we dearly loved. Sorry to hear about your recent loss of Aris. I want you to know how much I enjoy your channel. You are a ray of light, Susan.
Thank you, Food for thought. Keeping the Happy Memories of a person you have loved is what Life is all about. I am 70 Yrs old and what I have learned in Life is to not hold grudes on the people who have done wrong things to me. There had to be something special about me and that is what they saw. Desi is so adorable
I'm so sorry for your loss. Aris sounds like he was a very interesting, caring, and talented individual. Last month, I just lost a cousin to pneumonia. She was only 55. She was the cousin my sister and I spent the most time with. It's a long story but years ago, her mom inadvertently gave my mom the push she needed to leave my alcoholic dad. Darlene had recently lost her job due to alcoholism. When she passed, her son revealed that she had earned her one month of sobriety. Why was she taken before she could earn her 2nd month, 6 month or 1 year pin? Loss is hard. Blessings to you and Desi from Midas and me.
Oh Little Poet, I am so sorry for the loss of your old friend! Its sounds like you were kindred spirits! I feel so much shock with people passing!! Shock and horror, and sadness! I'm reaching for acceptance, gratitude that they were in my life, and hope in the unseen! Love you Suzanne and Desi! Thank you for all you do for all of us as you share life's journey with us. ❤🙏🌈
You have been truly Blessed with amazing people in your life. For me you are amazing . i truly enjoy visiting with you every week. You and Desi are a joy to visit with.
Oh, Susan. Loss is never easy. We grieve, we remember, we take a step forward. He was truly an exceptional human being. He felt your pain when you were so low, and did what he could to make you ride up. Beauty for ashes. He was, and shall always be, a firm foundation that keeps your steps solid as you step forward. The memories you have of him, the glorious stories you are sharing with us, will live on eternal. Like your deep friendship love you both shared. I want to thank you for sharing these most precious memories, moments with us here. I feel very honored to have met this man through your words, description, the light that shines from you as you tell us of him. I will keep you in my thoughts as you heal from your grief, and step forward. Thank you again for sharing. This was a very special opportunity.
I've been losing people since I was 12 years old. At 67, I still find it heart-wrenching. Many transitioned tragically, some unexpectedly, while others left me with the extraordinarily wonderous gift of 'knowing' and 'presence' in the moment of their passing! "Losing" someone dear has been a surreal and profound experience with each "loss" an opportunity beyond measure for me to reevaluate what "life" is all about. I've learned that it most certainly is not static, nor is it ever what I thought it is! Perhaps most importantly, I know what we call 'death' is never 'the end'. 💞
Lost my husband at 61 years we had such a great life I smile at the life we shared one regret is I didn't make the apple cake I had 1 week shy of 41 years married and that is my regret. I have a new guy in my life and so much in life's lessons I embrace and am writing a new chapter and maybe going forward this time with no regrets only Love to share and trying to make this chapter another one of wonderful chapter memories! Love is the answer!
Thank you for sharing about your great friend, Aris ..... now that I'm a senior (can't believe it though!) I so appreciate what seniors have gone through and with such grace & dignity. They lose their mom & dad, siblings, spouses and best friends over the years and continue on. You're a beautiful soul for always sharing such personal feelings and stories :)
I recently attended my 40th High School reunion and a group of us were remembering those friends who had passed away. There was a board with their pictures on it and it was so surreal. My other friend and I went to another friend's memorial recently. He had the best parties and he was so fun and warm.
I'm "SO" glad you're keeping Hal in our lives! I can see he genuinely cares about you and I love that! So sorry for your loss of Aris. What a genuine friend. 💜. I loved how Desi's bowtie matched your jacket!
I’ve lost so, so many people. It is different each time. It was lovely to have you share. I turn To God and Jesus is my strength. Aris sounded amazing. My sincere sympathy.
I am so sorry for your loss --- your friend Aris sounds like a wonderful, kind person. I felt so touched by your posting. How kind of you, too, to share your memories of your dear friend. I enjoyed hearing more about your singing career, with it's challenges and successes. And I appreciate your wise words on travelling light, and letting go of emotional baggage that just drags us down. I cannot share any advice on grieving, as my heart is still hurting from the loss of my parents, several years ago. But I do think that the passing of time helps. I talk to those two good souls sometimes when I'm alone. My main comfort is that I know their spirits continue to exist somewhere, in a place of beautiful, peaceful rest. Love and light to you, Susan, and to all here in this community of Little Poets. 💗
Oh Susan, I'm so sorry for your loss of your friend Aris. It's wonderful that you remembered and recognized his goodness and genuineness in this video. And he honored you and your music--such a true friend! And what a hottie he was!! Last year I lost my good friend Paul Grupp, who was also in the music business, (he was a record producer and engineer). It's just so sad. I just got a message on my high school class website that two more of my former classmates passed away. I've lost five cousins in the last five years. Even my sister Tina passed away suddenly 9 years ago at the age of 57! That is the hardest part of getting older. I keep praying that my special, closest people won't die before they reach 90. I'm learning that many don't even make it to 70--or even 60 sometimes. How have I coped? I cry and try to remember to tell the ones who remain how much they mean to me. 😥 Thank you for the message to travel light. I've been married three times too. And now I am making the choice to live alone. It can be that simple.❤
I found you by accident and I’m so happy I did!! I turned 65 in January, I’m my husbands caregiver, he’s been battling cancer for 5 years and I see the downhill trend with him. Your videos have been so helpful to me in so many ways. There’s no time for me anymore, I rarely wear makeup or care what I look like. I lost interest in decorating my home, gardening, painting etc. I figured what’s the point anymore. I feel like I’m just waiting for my husbands life to come to an end while I take care of him and try to keep hope alive. But , your videos have inspired me to start taking care of myself again, I have to wake up very early to do that but I’m gonna try more often to care for my skin, my hair, etc. I’m sorry for your loss and hope I can deal with loss well too. Thank you and I will look forward to your every video!
What an excellent video! You have such happy memories of your great friend, but I am sorry for your loss. You will always have him in your heart, so he will be with you forever. Desi is so cute at the end when he is up against your face. Blessings to you Susan.
I lost my mom years ago. My dad died when l was still a child. My husband passed before we were able to retire and my best friend went in 2020. I enjoy my time at this point with my cats and birds. I have a lot of plans like decorating my house, assembling outfits, doing crafts, writing. Living in Canada the changing seasons require planning. You have a nice life and many wonderful memories. And you have adorable Desi. And you have us.
I lost a close friend in November and had to put my dog of 12 plus years two weeks later. I think I am grieving both of them at the same time. It has been over two months and I am finally feeling better and getting back to a social life. I am grateful I had my friend in my life. She taught me a lot. My dog Teddy was one of a kind and I am not ready to get another dog. I would like a sweet boy like Desi. Maybe some day. Happy ❤ Day to you and Desi!
Hi Susan and Desi! Grief is not easy for us, that are over 60. We think that we have a lot of time ahead of us, but when someone our age dies is when we realize that we have travel a lot and it has been good, but it hits like an arrow. We start to think, whom will I lose next. God help us and let us live up to when we are called. Blessing and have a safe week!
You said....."they are a witness of your life"!!! I so understand that statement! So sorry Susan for you loss! You could tell by his picture and what you shared what a special person Aris is. My Mama passed this last December and it dawned on me one day that the one person who seriously cared whether I live or die, is gone! This void just swept over me. I am so glad for you that Aris who really knew his craft and was filled with talent presented you to world because he saw such talent and didn't want the world to miss out on YOU! What a wonderful validation. God knew when you needed that praise! How wonderful! Love to you and Desi!🥰
Hi Susan. Your story about your friendship with Aris touched me and I'm so sorry for your loss. When music is so close to your heart and soul and then someone recognizes it and can totally understand and appreciate your gift, it is just the best feeling. I don't play, but I sang in a gospel quartet over 10 years and I really miss those days with my friends. I turned 65 this past December and hold every day as precious as I can. I look forward to your videos with Desi and Hal and your thrift finds. I know you are so excited to be closer to your grandson and family. Mine live in Florida about 5 hours away so we can only visit for now. Hope you have a very nice rest of your weekend and week.
So sorry for your loss. This is something we must all get more familiar with as we live on....it is so wonderful this life if you just stop and think about it. We need to leave our kind and generous mark on life when we go.
From my heart to yours.💔 So sorry for the loss of your dear friend, Aris. Thank you for sharing a little of the great memories of your friendship. The memories live on into eternity. Peace to you sweet poet and hugs to you and Desi.
First Susan let me tell you how 😔 sorry I am for the loss of your dear friend....many prayers....I have come to realize through many rough days and sleepless nights that whatever was bad/ wrong in my past is there....and I am HERE in the present moving FORWARD...for however long that is ,I do not know.. however...I will not allow that nightmare past steal one minute of joy I have now today with my Grand children!!! May you and your entire family be well ❤️🩹 and joyful 🥰!!!
Our lovely friend .... I lost my wonderful Mum in 2019. I have to have chats with her every day and I hear her in my ear at times when I have a decision to make or I'm just about to make a mistake ! The spirit of our dear ones are always with us and having lost my Dad too who was a very special gentleman (in both senses of the word) and who I adored , I rapidly came to the conclusion that the only way I could deal with the grief of losing them both was to think of them not being far away.....and always being in my ear !!! Tears never came easily when I lost either of them as I knew that was a precarious road to take, so I ploughed my energy into listening for them in every situation . Everyone grieves in their own way I know but this has been my way of celebrating my parents - think only of the joy the laughs the kindness and the love - the pain will ease and you can hear them clearly . They were great dancers, and I imagine them on some distant cloud - jiving to Glen Miller or waltzing to Strauss. I love your chats . Thanks for sharing your graceful life. Janice 👵 🇬🇧 xxx
I’m so sorry for your loss, Susan. You have lovely life-changing memories of your dear friend and I’m certain you’ll always treasure them. Since I almost lost myself to a serious illness (and no green lights for a bit) I’m doing my best one day at a time. Getting stronger and feeling hopeful and grateful for each day. I realize it’s not exactly the answer you asked for but it IS grief for who you were and making necessary adjustments for physical changes! I wish there was more to laugh about, but smiling is 😊an easy gift to give others! Sometimes people even smile back 🙏🏻
"Travel light". What a great analogy! I so often see and hear the bitterness in middle aged and older people. That is what drives people away. The whole thing becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. You are a lovely soul Susan and what a life you have led! You should write your autobiography. I would buy it. xx
Susan, I am so sorry for the loss of your friend and soulmate Aris. What a privilege to have had that level of kinship in your life for so many years. I read once that tears/grief is your heart overflowing with love for someone but having no one to give it to. I lost my parents the last week of January 2022. They died 4 days apart. It may sound odd, but the fact that I lost them together provided a strange sense of comfort. They were married for 64 years, and we always knew that they were holding on for each other. When Dad died my Mom insisted that she wasn't going to attend his funeral. We didn't understand-how do you share a life for 64 years, and not want a final goodbye? Perhaps she knew something we didn't because she didn't attend his funeral. She shared it.
Patriciastern9430, I am so sorry for the loss of your parents. Reading your comment brought tears to my eyes. I can imagine how hard it was for you. My parents died in close succession several years ago, after 60 years of marriage. I understand your comment that their passing so close together provided a strange sense of comfort. My mother passed quickly, and my father had a difficult time coming to terms with the fact that she was really gone. He was heartbroken. May your heart continue to heal. 💗
Thank you for this video! I too am getting older and losing more and more people in my life. Each of these individuals that are gone have given me something, meaning that they taught me things and made me realize things in life. I was blessed with the time that I had with them and I truly appreciated them when they were here and they will always be in my heart. But I always felt that their job here on earth was completed and they had to move on back home. Loss is so painful that to this day, I miss them and cry just thinking about them, but I know that they are no longer in pain either physical or mental and life is short so we, meaning the ones that are left behind, need to complete our job here and be thankful for each day that we have. Life is short, so let's make the best out of it in the meantime, let's enjoy it and make the best out of each day.
As a 69 year old.. I journal my life events for my family. I keep pictures all over my apartment of fun times with family and friends. As a nurse that’s witnessed so much death I too think about my own mortality. I try to live each day to the fullest …laughing at myself or something I find funny … laughter is medicine for the soul. I try to find laughter in everything. Hugs to you and Desi… ❤️
As I watch this tonight, I'm waiting for the call from my best friend who is on hospice. She is not expected to make it through the weekend. I live 800 miles away and can't be there to say goodbye. I love you, Lynn.
You've broken my heart. I'm so so sorry. I don't know you or where in this world you are, but know this for certain....I'm sitting in my bed thinking of you and sending love, hugs and I'm holding your hand. ❤
My heart aches for you, I’m praying for you and your best friend, I hope someone is there with you at this time 💔
I know how you feel. My best friend died from pancreatic cancer in late Nov after bravely fighting it for 19 months. We were friends for 36 yrs. I am heartbroken.
I'm so sorry. I'm sure she will come wake you up to say goodbye.
saying prayers my dear friend...
I am 78 and have lost several people I’ve loved…losing my husband in 2019 was the worst and I still miss his presence every day. I’m grateful to friends who have “filled some of the gap” but no one can take his place. I haven’t moved on but I’ve gone forward. My husband was an outgoing person and when we met I was reserved, and through the years he gave me the confidence to be more outgoing. If I have confidence it’s because “he had my back” and now I have to stand up alone. When I get into a challenging situation I think of Alan and how he would react to the circumstances. Thinking about that and relying on my faith has helped me move forward for the past three and half years.
Thank you so much!!! I am so happy you are here! Happy Sunday Weekend...xxoo Susan & Dez
It’s so hard to move forward when we lose someone so dear to us. I am so sorry for your loss ❤
Kathy - I have been two years without my husband and feel the same - it is the necessary forward but every day I miss him - we were together 58 years
Immense condolences on the loss of your dearest Alan. I’m sure he must be so proud of how you honor him every day by consulting his wisdom and influence❤ A forever gift 💝
So sorry for your loss. I dread the day as my husband is the dearest. Strength and love to you.
Hi Susan! I’m so sorry for your loss. I met an amazing man like that. Through him I found my voice. We use to sit and look into each other’s eyes and talk for hours. But I fell in love with mine. That was 25 years ago.
The meaning of life is GOD. It’s having a relationship with the creator. It’s reading the Bible and finding out how much HE loves you. HE loves you so much HE wants to spend every day with you, and eternity too. To GOD you are someone special to HIM. ❤️
Three years before the world “went crazy” I lost seven loved ones in one year. Recently I’ve lost four family members to stroke, sudden heart problems, and five friends have almost died of clots and strokes. I wish it got easier but it never does. Each death, each funeral or hospital visit is just as hard as the first one. What in the world 😢
I probably shouldn't say this, but when I saw the look in Hal's eyes at 2:29, I said "Susan, he loves you. He really loves you." ❤️
Right?! "...the look.." Genuine.
I felt this immediately! He does love Susan. How could he not? She’s the real deal, inside and out. Also notice at 13:23 the “question” scene. Hal’s question to Susan and her response to him. I know, I know, I’m probably looking too close and reading way too much into this. But I’m intuitive and a psychologist so I just can’t help myself. They’re probably just very close friends and that’s all there is to it. But I’m not totally convinced. Either way, they’re great together.
I'm glad you got the opportunity to find such a friend, Susan. Friends like that don't come along very often.
Thank you so much!!! I am so happy you are here! Happy Sunday Weekend...xxoo Susan & Dez
If, after we leave this world, only a single person loves us and remembers us the way you do Aris , then our lives have fulfilled their purpose. ❤
Oh your dear words made me cry....good tears..thank you so so much......xxoo with gratitude, Susan
Wonderfully said
cherish Hal's friendship as I know you do...he's a good friend and is good company and a good looking man
My Dad was a musician in a big band long before I was born. One day when Dad was at work my mom & I heard my Dad on the radio. So surprising. I was quite young.
I gotta say that you have the BEST thrift shops!
Uh!! I am gonna cry everytime! Love you...
I am so glad you would be staying in touch with Hal. He is very good friend and they are few and far between
Thank you my beautiful friend! Happy Sunday!!!
My brother passed suddenly the end of August 2022. He gave me this one word of advice when our mom passed away. I asked him what do we do now? He said Live. He lived everyday of his life on his terms.
Our sister passed away in December of 2022 after a three year battle with cancer. She lived every day to the fullest until the las two weeks of her life. She traveled, sold one house and bought a condo, rode a adult tricycle around her neighborhood, made new friends, was involved with her church, loved her boys and spent as much time with her only grandson Michael.
I never heard her complain, or ever pity herself.
So, my biggest piece of knowledge I learned, Live each day to the fullest.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I'm 70 and my husband and I seem to be losing friends every year. Memories will keep them alive in our hearts. Each new grief reminds us to be thankful for those still with us and teaches us to treasure each other. Time is short - reach out - send a card - make a phone call. Live without regrets.
I can relate. I have lost elders, but recently I have learned that my longest running friendship is coming to an end. We dont know exactly when, but the sand is running out of her hour glass. At first, a year ago I was all about helping her to see that she could make a difference in her lifespan. But she only tried a little for a short while. The disease is progressing. I am swinging wildly from abject fear to anger, to constant prayer, to sadness and denial. But this is HER LIFE. SO... now I am just going to love and support her.
And Susan gave me a great idea. I am going to create a journal as to why I love her, how I came to love her in our heyday and what she has taught me. We met in June 1975. I am targeting June of 2023...48 years of friendship ups and down. Periods of Estrangement. Reunions. Reconnecting. Doing Winterteur together. Cape May in August. Watching the snow fall on the Hudson River as we sat having cocktails at a Bar in Hotel Thayer at West Point, waiting to be joined by out fiancee's and listening to the BeeGees "How deep is your love."
Magical times. Horrible times. Divorces. Children, family brokenness, laughter and so many tears. Sitting in her kitchen, Drinking Iced tea from Harvest Gold Tupperware tumblers while we smoked Marlboros and dreamed of going to other parts of the country and the world.
These are some of what I wii write to her. So much to say, so little time to say it.
Thanks for having this wonderful group of women where we can make a chain of holding each other's hands as well as our 💚💔❤🙏🌹🎵💙😘. Love to all.💗🎉
You're the first person I thought about as I paid tribute to Aris on my Facebook page. Please accept my heartfelt condolences on your immeasurable loss. He was a dear soul and something in the universe will never be right again because of this loss. I am so sorry, Susan.
Oh thank you so much...it was a long sad week...just seeing you makes me so happy!
I love to read psychology channels. This past week I read that someone said, “when you get past the initial pain 😮 😢 😊 you have the future to see them again! Right now I have more friends dead than alive.
Dear Susan you were a good friend to him as welk.God bless you and Desi.
lost an ex boyfriend who i cared for very much.He suffered towards the end.i reached out to his children to comfort them and help with some bills .miss him even though 20 yrs passed.
I totally relate to this video. I'm 65 and am astounded how much loss there has been. My heart is with you. ❤️
Thank you so much!!! I am so happy you are here! Happy Sunday Weekend...xxoo Susan & Dez
Susan- I'm sorry about the loss of Eris. I know that I lost someone this week, too, but she was 98. I think since I turned 63, I have begun to wonder what will take me down and when? It's a strange feeling. I love your videos because they are so real. I know I'm not the best griever, but I try to travel as light as possible. Thank you for sharing the story about your friend. Bless you.
Hi Lori. Yes I do ask myself that question too.
The most precious thing in life is having friends who care deeply about you. You are lucky to had Aris in your life. Cherish the moments with Hal.
Wonderful video. Having just lost my sister four weeks ago and it has been so difficult. I can still hear her voice in our conversations, saying, "one day at a time".......and she never wanted anyone to be sad about her but rather joyous as she made it to Heaven.
Indeed she did!
I have lost eight friends/family in the past year and a half and it is enough to rip ones heart out but yet I remember all the good times and the laughter and to me they never are gone. Not from my mind, my heart, my loved ones always live, in the best place ever, in the heart/mind and memory!
Blessings......have a beautiful week!
What a completely lovely tribute to your friend. My condolences to you, Susan. I can tell Desi is trying to help you. Love to you both.
I can't say enough about this woman....what a beautiful person she is inside and out.
Harry was my classroom assistant for 6 years. He retired last year and was looking forward to traveling with his wife and spending time with his grandkids. On December 23rd, he tested positive for COVID. On December 26th, he went into cardiac arrest and died on December 30th. Harry never took life too seriously. He always had my back in the classroom. He encouraged me not to work so hard and to retire as soon as I could. Harry lived life on his own terms and didn’t care what anyone else thought. Many great memories and laughs came to mind as I watched your video. Rest in peace. Harry! ❤️
Wow, how excited you were and a great memory of when you were down your friend lifted you up by playing your music for 1 hour on the #1 station back in the day. A found memory of the kindness of your friend.
I get where you’re coming from and what you’re feeling. My first husband, Stephen, died in Jan 2007 and six months later my mum passed away unexpectedly. I can honestly say I have never been the same since their passing. The loss of a loved one changes us.
I remarried, not once, twice, neither of them lasted. One cheated and the other turned out to be quite cruel, mentally and emotionally, not a good recipe for a happy and successful marriage.
I now live with the love of my life, Mika, an adorable Shih Tzu who taught me about unconditional love. There’s nothing I wouldn’t do for her. I love her so very much. You could say she’s my happy ending, so to speak. She’ll certainly be a hard act to follow, not that I’m looking for one 😊
I cherish the good Stephen and I had and what we shared, and at times when I’m feeling lost and alone, I feel his presence, and that’s enough for me.
Thank you so much for sharing ‘you’ with us, it’s not only respected and appreciated, it’s also beautiful and wonderfully interesting and exciting getting to know you. Until next time. God bless xx
So sorry for your lost of your loving husband. Maybe you got remarried looking for the same kind of caring. So thankful for your happy ending❤️🥰
Hi Susan! I'm so sorry for your loss ... each one hurts so much! When I saw the tile for this video, I read the title and I saw Hal's picture and i got so sad thinking it was going to be the loss of Hal! In fact, I'm so relieved I'll just say what I've thought a number of times! I hope you're taking Hal when you move! Y'all are adorable together! I don't understand how you and Hal met ... but I love your videos and you represent our age group so well! Love you and Desi and Hal!
My heartfelt condolences to you Susan. I am very acquainted with grief. An 68 yr old only child myself to a single mother, loosing her in 2016 at the age of 85 still leaves a hole in my heart and then my very best friend 2 1/2 yrs later. The list goes on.Thank God that he is also acquainted with grief seeing his only son being crucified for us, he understands and cares.
My comfort comes from that assurance.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend. He sounds like he was such a great, caring, talented man. Love to you and Desi xx
Thank you so much!!! I am so happy you are here! Happy Sunday Weekend...xxoo Susan & Dez
@@LittlePoet I hope that you have a wonderful peaceful Sunday with a little moment or two of joy. Don't forget to take care of you. x
You never lose a good friend because they are part of the story of your life .😊even if they are not in it anymore they are in your script.😊
Loss of those who we love, created and shared memories with, can never be replaced. In 1.5 years lost 7 family members and one good friend. Most of them were younger than 65. I am heartbroken, and today would have been my 41 year old niece’s birthday. Life is hard, and I try to heal and make the best of my time on earth. I am in my 50s, and my kids are 24 and 26. My friend’s brother, who is 57, is expected to pass in 10 weeks. I did buy a travel trailer and plan to travel with my puppies and my bff.
Please do that, MiMi. I am starting to look mortality in the face also. Still have some places I want to go…✌🏽😎🏙
@@davisholman8149 Just came back from a 10 trip to Tucson. It is gorgeous there in the winter. I have a bucket list, which does not include air travel. My husband likes to fly, but he is not included in my thrift shopping and beading acrossed America via travel trailer tour. He would hate it. He can golf, play poker, fish and fiddle with his cars.
This morning the first video I saw was members (friends) on a TV station talking about Aris. His impact and legacy he leaves behind. It brought tears to my eyes. He sounded like a very good person. Peace.
Thank you so much for telling me this!
Sorry for your loss, Susan😢 I do not handle well losing so many special people in my life. I’ve lost my best girlfriend from high school, she was my maid of honor. My significant other of over 33 years & just last night on his birthday his best friend, our friend, passed away. So many in such a short time. How ironic our talk tonight was about your loss & how you feel about losses. I cried. I feel we are friends & you just understand. Love Desi, he is a sweetheart. Ty for being here for us all❤️❤️❤️
This is so beautiful on so many levels...in the past year I lost two friends, my uncle, my brother and very recently my mama. I have never loved another human being as much as I loved her. 💞🌺💞
I am sorry for your loss, but I know he'll be proud of you for the rest of your life. You are beautiful, wise and talented in so many ways. Thank you so much Susan for sharing yourself.
That was a beautiful eulogy you gave your friend and some very good advice. You are a sweet soul. I have lived through the loss of my husband, grandson and mom. When I think of them I think of our love. Love is the greatest gift that lives forever in us.
This week I lost another friend and this one made me inconsolable because I not only cried for her and her family, I cried for everyone I know who is battling cancer right now. Two days later one of my youngest daughters best friends lost her daddy. He died suddenly and had no chronic illness.
There’s been too many deaths in my life recently and I cried for all of them. So I guess I didn’t handle it well?
I’m better now. The goodbyes don’t get easier.
Sending you love Susan. This too shall pass for nothing stays the same.
You handled it like a caring human being...so sorry for your losses...
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It’s good to cry. It’s a way to express our grief and release the pain. I’m sad for your loss ❤️🩹
Oh dear, I am so so sorry!!!!! You are such a lovely woman and I am so sorry you are going through this...
But you did...you could have gone into not feeling.
I attended the funeral today of a dear friend of mine. She was 92. She has been sick a while and I helped take care of her during these past few weeks. I will sure miss her so much. We had some good times together! She, as well as I, both love animals and she would adore your Desi, just as I do!! She had one cat and he is now living here with me and my two cats! lt is not easy losing so many. I see in the paper all the time where people much younger than we are, have died. My sister in law just lost her nephew and he was just 58. He got some kind of meningitis and got better, got worse, and then had a major heart attack, and his funeral will be on Valentine's day, so that families Valentines Day will never be the same. He had a wife, 4 grown children, and some grandkids. So sad. It's all a part of life, not a good part, but life. One way to look at it (to me anyway) is to look around at others, just like the people in Turkey who have lost everything, including all their family, in just a few seconds. So sad. I saw a woman the other day that I know, and she lost her husband and then just a few months later she lost her daughter, their only child. Her husband had been sick for some time, and I don't know what happened to her daughter, but the obit said she was surrounded by family when she passed, so cancer? Covid? I don't know. She does have some grandkids though. Susan, I am long winded, as you can tell!! Have a good week dear lady, and Desi too!!
Dear Susan, I am so sorry for your loss. Aris seemed like such a great friend . Grief doesn’t go away - we just find a way to move on and treasure those memories. I lost my brother and best friend. I keep them alive by sharing there stories as I go through life. You are a light in my life, I wait for your video to go up every Saturday - you always manage to touch my heart and seeing Desi and his bow ties gives me a giggle . Wishing the very best for you as you move to your new residence .❤
I'm so sorry for your loss. My mother passed away a few days ago and the grief, emptiness and sorrow are very real. She truly was my best friend and I am lost without her. The world seems quite 'dim' now and I thank you for your words of encouragement in this video.
Im so very sorry fir the lods of your Mama! Sending you much love and hugs during this sad time....🙏❤️
@@dianaschoen4485 Thank you
So sorry ❤
Susan I'm rewatching this video...I love your personality! You are a True Genuine kind hearted because lady! I have a close friend who is gravely Ill,who I dont know how much longer she will be here. I love your great advise! Thank You!!
I am so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful friend. I'm not sure how I cope except to get up every morning and just put one foot in front of the other and walk it out. I have outlived all of my immediate family. Mother, Father , Brother and Sister. Hugs to You and Desi. He is the sweetest little fellow. ❤❤❤
I lost my husband in 2016 and miss him but I know he would want me to live my life and be happy. I’m very blessed and I’m very vocal about telling my family and friends I love them! ❤
I usually just simply cry….
let the grief come forth and embrace your loss in this moment.
It is………
just that simple.
The Simple Pleasures….
carry the deepest lessons.
You have proved this today.
And now I will embrace you with no words….. nothing to say but
Amen my friend.
My condolences, Susan.🥀
I'm a hospice nurse. I know that God called me to help families deal with their grief. My belief is that when this chapter (life on planet Earth)is over your next chapter begins in eternity. When my patients get very near passing I whisper in their ear to please tell my parents hi for me. I love your channel it's so beautiful and so are you.❤
oh you bring me to tears....so so sweet!
My condolences Susan. Losing a loved one or a friend is never easy. Within the last 5 years i’ve lost 2 Sisters and my Husband/ my marriage. Grieving a death is hard but so is grieving the loss of your marriage. Your words spoken tonight are so beautiful. I find strength in my work, taking care of my clients better. I love how you and Desi match tonight. ❤🌹
Susan, so very sorry for the loss of your friend Eric. You two had the kind of connections that is so special! So many of us are dealing with loss and grief. My ex-husband, father of my two children, passed away 6 months ago. We remained good friends after the divorce to raise our son and daughter in a healthy way. Then just two months ago the love of my life passed away. We were childhood sweethearts but our life together was just not to be. I am realizing at 74 I better enjoy each day of my life that ai have left. I have moments of sadness and still cry a little but I have children and grandchildren to love and enjoy, that has helped me during my grieving. Thank you for this video, you are like a best friend talking to me. Sending love to you and sweet Desi. ❤
Six years ago I lost my husband. He was my one true soul mate. We were married for only 25 years. Still, it was enough love to fill a lifetime. Then last year in August I lost my dear sweet childhood friend after 53 years of friendship. During covid I've lost five close friends. Loss is hard but your right. Let's move on in our grief and celebrate the wonderful memories we have in remembrance of them. Love to you and Desi x ❤
You are so right - honor those who go before us by being happy again.
oh, Susan i grew up listening to Aris Hampers and all the DJs from WLAV FM . still listen today. RIP Aris.
What a beautiful remembrance of your good friend. I am 69 and feel like every time I lose someone dear to me it gets a little harder. I do believe we will be reunited someday and that helps me. My mom is 103 and still doing pretty well. She has seen her 7 brothers and sisters pass and most of her friends. I’m not sure how she handles that but I think it’s her faith in someday being reunited. Thank you for your videos. They always bring me a peaceful feeling and a smile. Take care.
I am so sorry for your loss It never is easy loosing someone we love. It sounds like he was an amazing friend. Thank you Susan and Desi!
"Dear Suzy, I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear friend Aris. I am sending you LOVE ❣️, LIGHT🕯️, & HEALING 🕊️🙏. The pain never goes away, you just learn to deal with it, the best way you can. God bless lovely lady & Desi"💋💕 🙏
Sorry for the loss of your dear friend. Yes it is hard when we get older and 2 weeks ago I lost my best friend my hubby of 51 years. We had wonderful times and hard times but I don't regret one moment of time we had together. I love your channel and words of wisdom and insights from coffee mugs.....LOL Love to you, your friends, Desi and RIP to your long time dear friend.....Blessings and looking forward to next week's video.
I am so sorry, for the loss of your beautiful friend, Aris. 🙏💞
This past year I have lost five acquaintances and it has really affected me a lot. Your video really was meaningful to me. I am 72 and I guess this is going to be a part of my life from now on. It's made me realize how important my life going forward is.
Susan, I'm Sorry for the Loss of your Dear Friemd!! It Looks like you & Hal are Dating?? I lost my Mom 6yrs ago & my Dad 2 yrs ago. I grieved hard! Finally..I thought they want me to be happy !! They are Happy in Heaven! As time passes I cry Less,& I sense they are around me, the smell of Coffee, buttons, flowers & I say I Love you, Mom & Dad!!! Thank you Susan !!! Blessing to you!
I don’t cry often but tears are slipping down my checks as I write this. I lost a dear friend recently. I was able to see her and hold her hands as she laid in bed, on hospice, and we said our final words to each other. And she looked deeply into my eyes and said, “Remember me.” She saw my tears, and some landed on her. I muttered, “Of course, I will always.” Since her passing, a few more friends have also died. Your tender video has helped me get in touch with my grief and feelings of anxiety. Thank you for sharing the tools you use to cope with losing your loved ones.
Hal is Hal-arious. Thank goodness for his light-heartedness and your friendship. I lost my husband when I was 39, and ended up joining a widows group. The members of the group became such good friends of mine. The lady who started our group just passed in 2022. She made such a difference in all of our lives, because we shared that common loss of our husbands who we dearly loved. Sorry to hear about your recent loss of Aris. I want you to know how much I enjoy your channel. You are a ray of light, Susan.
Thank you so much!!! I am so happy you are here! Happy Sunday Weekend...xxoo Susan & Dez
When you move you are really going to miss your friend ❤
I’ve thought the same often.
Thank you, Food for thought.
Keeping the Happy Memories of a person you have loved is what Life is all about.
I am 70 Yrs old and what I have learned in Life is to not hold grudes on the people who have done wrong things to me.
There had to be something special about me and that is what they saw.
Desi is so adorable
I'm so sorry for your loss. Aris sounds like he was a very interesting, caring, and talented individual. Last month, I just lost a cousin to pneumonia. She was only 55. She was the cousin my sister and I spent the most time with. It's a long story but years ago, her mom inadvertently gave my mom the push she needed to leave my alcoholic dad. Darlene had recently lost her job due to alcoholism. When she passed, her son revealed that she had earned her one month of sobriety. Why was she taken before she could earn her 2nd month, 6 month or 1 year pin? Loss is hard. Blessings to you and Desi from Midas and me.
You're so sweet Deb....oh this broke my heart....she was trying and making it! My love to you, Susan...xxoo
Sounds like your friend Aris was a nice person and friend. I'm sure he now has his Wings, I know you will keep him in your heart tucked away.
Im so very, very sorry Susan. Praying for you in your grief. Thank you for sharing your beautiful memories with us.....❤️🙏😇
Oh Little Poet, I am so sorry for the loss of your old friend! Its sounds like you were kindred spirits! I feel so much shock with people passing!! Shock and horror, and sadness! I'm reaching for acceptance, gratitude that they were in my life, and hope in the unseen! Love you Suzanne and Desi! Thank you for all you do for all of us as you share life's journey with us. ❤🙏🌈
Thank you so much!!! I am so happy you are here! Happy Sunday Weekend...xxoo Susan & Dez
You have been truly Blessed with amazing people in your life. For me you are amazing . i truly enjoy visiting with you every week. You and Desi are a joy to visit with.
Oh, Susan. Loss is never easy. We grieve, we remember, we take a step forward. He was truly an exceptional human being. He felt your pain when you were so low, and did what he could to make you ride up. Beauty for ashes. He was, and shall always be, a firm foundation that keeps your steps solid as you step forward. The memories you have of him, the glorious stories you are sharing with us, will live on eternal. Like your deep friendship love you both shared. I want to thank you for sharing these most precious memories, moments with us here. I feel very honored to have met this man through your words, description, the light that shines from you as you tell us of him. I will keep you in my thoughts as you heal from your grief, and step forward. Thank you again for sharing. This was a very special opportunity.
I've been losing people since I was 12 years old. At 67, I still find it heart-wrenching. Many transitioned tragically, some unexpectedly, while others left me with the extraordinarily wonderous gift of 'knowing' and 'presence' in the moment of their passing! "Losing" someone dear has been a surreal and profound experience with each "loss" an opportunity beyond measure for me to reevaluate what "life" is all about. I've learned that it most certainly is not static, nor is it ever what I thought it is! Perhaps most importantly, I know what we call 'death' is never 'the end'. 💞
You are so wise...not even dearth can stop all that love!
So sorry for the loss of your friend, cherish the wonderful memories and person he was.
Lost my husband at 61 years we had such a great life I smile at the life we shared one regret is I didn't make the apple cake I had 1 week shy of 41 years married and that is my regret. I have a new guy in my life and so much in life's lessons I embrace and am writing a new chapter and maybe going forward this time with no regrets only Love to share and trying to make this chapter another one of wonderful chapter memories! Love is the answer!
As long as Aris is in your memories, he will never be gone.
So true as long as you keep those you love. Deep inside your heart and never be afraid to speak of them. They leave on with you.🙏🦋🙏🦋🧚♂️💐💕
Thank you for sharing about your great friend, Aris ..... now that I'm a senior (can't believe it though!) I so appreciate what seniors have gone through and with such grace & dignity. They lose their mom & dad, siblings, spouses and best friends over the years and continue on. You're a beautiful soul for always sharing such personal feelings and stories :)
I recently attended my 40th High School reunion and a group of us were remembering those friends who had passed away. There was a board with their pictures on it and it was so surreal. My other friend and I went to another friend's memorial recently. He had the best parties and he was so fun and warm.
Sorry for the loss of your dear friend Susan.💔
I'm happy you and Hal will still be spending time together.
You two are so cute together. 😍
I'm "SO" glad you're keeping Hal in our lives! I can see he genuinely cares about you and I love that! So sorry for your loss of Aris. What a genuine friend. 💜. I loved how Desi's bowtie matched your jacket!
I’ve lost so, so many people. It is different each time. It was lovely to have you share. I turn To God and Jesus is my strength. Aris sounded amazing. My sincere sympathy.
I am so sorry for your loss --- your friend Aris sounds like a wonderful, kind person. I felt so touched by your posting. How kind of you, too, to share your memories of your dear friend. I enjoyed hearing more about your singing career, with it's challenges and successes. And I appreciate your wise words on travelling light, and letting go of emotional baggage that just drags us down. I cannot share any advice on grieving, as my heart is still hurting from the loss of my parents, several years ago. But I do think that the passing of time helps. I talk to those two good souls sometimes when I'm alone. My main comfort is that I know their spirits continue to exist somewhere, in a place of beautiful, peaceful rest. Love and light to you, Susan, and to all here in this community of Little Poets. 💗
Last year I lost 13 friends and family members. You are so right. Remember the good. Leave a legacy and live with dignity, and integrity.
God bless you Susan, I'm sorry for your loss.
Oh Susan, I'm so sorry for your loss of your friend Aris. It's wonderful that you remembered and recognized his goodness and genuineness in this video. And he honored you and your music--such a true friend! And what a hottie he was!! Last year I lost my good friend Paul Grupp, who was also in the music business, (he was a record producer and engineer). It's just so sad. I just got a message on my high school class website that two more of my former classmates passed away. I've lost five cousins in the last five years. Even my sister Tina passed away suddenly 9 years ago at the age of 57! That is the hardest part of getting older. I keep praying that my special, closest people won't die before they reach 90. I'm learning that many don't even make it to 70--or even 60 sometimes. How have I coped? I cry and try to remember to tell the ones who remain how much they mean to me. 😥 Thank you for the message to travel light. I've been married three times too. And now I am making the choice to live alone. It can be that simple.❤
I found you by accident and I’m so happy I did!! I turned 65 in January, I’m my husbands caregiver, he’s been battling cancer for 5 years and I see the downhill trend with him. Your videos have been so helpful to me in so many ways. There’s no time for me anymore, I rarely wear makeup or care what I look like. I lost interest in decorating my home, gardening, painting etc. I figured what’s the point anymore. I feel like I’m just waiting for my husbands life to come to an end while I take care of him and try to keep hope alive. But , your videos have inspired me to start taking care of myself again, I have to wake up very early to do that but I’m gonna try more often to care for my skin, my hair, etc. I’m sorry for your loss and hope I can deal with loss well too. Thank you and I will look forward to your every video!
Well I love being found! Happy Sunday to you!!!
So very sorry for your loss. Deepest sympathy, thank you for your videos! You are appreciated!
What an excellent video! You have such happy memories of your great friend, but I am sorry for your loss. You will always have him in your heart, so he will be with you forever. Desi is so cute at the end when he is up against your face. Blessings to you Susan.
I lost my mom years ago. My dad died when l was still a child. My husband passed before we were able to retire and my best friend went in 2020. I enjoy my time at this point with my cats and birds. I have a lot of plans like decorating my house, assembling outfits, doing crafts, writing. Living in Canada the changing seasons require planning. You have a nice life and many wonderful memories. And you have adorable Desi. And you have us.
I only remember the good. The rest is irrelevant. Sorry for your loss, Susan. Aris looked like a great guy!
That is very sad. I am very sorry for the loss of a friend. God bless and hug you.
I lost a close friend in November and had to put my dog of 12 plus years two weeks later. I think I am grieving both of them at the same time. It has been over two months and I am finally feeling better and getting back to a social life. I am grateful I had my friend in my life. She taught me a lot. My dog Teddy was one of a kind and I am not ready to get another dog. I would like a sweet boy like Desi. Maybe some day. Happy ❤ Day to you and Desi!
Hi Susan and Desi! Grief is not easy for us, that are over 60. We think that we have a lot of time ahead of us, but when someone our age dies is when we realize that we have travel a lot and it has been good, but it hits like an arrow. We start to think, whom will I lose next. God help us and let us live up to when we are called. Blessing and have a safe week!
Thank you so much being here and being so kind..xoxo Susan & Dez
You said....."they are a witness of your life"!!! I so understand that statement! So sorry Susan for you loss! You could tell by his picture and what you shared what a special person Aris is. My Mama passed this last December and it dawned on me one day that the one person who seriously cared whether I live or die, is gone! This void just swept over me. I am so glad for you that Aris who really knew his craft and was filled with talent presented you to world because he saw such talent and didn't want the world to miss out on YOU! What a wonderful validation. God knew when you needed that praise! How wonderful! Love to you and Desi!🥰
Hi Susan. Your story about your friendship with Aris touched me and I'm so sorry for your loss. When music is so close to your heart and soul and then someone recognizes it and can totally understand and appreciate your gift, it is just the best feeling. I don't play, but I sang in a gospel quartet over 10 years and I really miss those days with my friends. I turned 65 this past December and hold every day as precious as I can. I look forward to your videos with Desi and Hal and your thrift finds. I know you are so excited to be closer to your grandson and family. Mine live in Florida about 5 hours away so we can only visit for now. Hope you have a very nice rest of your weekend and week.
Thank you for your words...you understand...it's so hard to explain that musical bond...but you know
@@LittlePoet What a unique name- Aris. I love it. So sorry, Susan.😢
So sorry for your loss. This is something we must all get more familiar with as we live on....it is so wonderful this life if you just stop and think about it. We need to leave our kind and generous mark on life when we go.
From my heart to yours.💔 So sorry for the loss of your dear friend, Aris. Thank you for sharing a little of the great memories of your friendship. The memories live on into eternity. Peace to you sweet poet and hugs to you and Desi.
First Susan let me tell you how 😔 sorry I am for the loss of your dear friend....many prayers....I have come to realize through many rough days and sleepless nights that whatever was bad/ wrong in my past is there....and I am HERE in the present moving FORWARD...for however long that is ,I do not know.. however...I will not allow that nightmare past steal one minute of joy I have now today with my Grand children!!! May you and your entire family be well ❤️🩹 and joyful 🥰!!!
I’m sorry for your loss. I was also married to a popular radio DJ. I lost him to cancer a while back.
Thank you for your loving and honest post. What a treasure to have such a long time friend!
Our lovely friend ....
I lost my wonderful Mum in 2019.
I have to have chats with her every day and I hear her in my ear at times when I have a decision to make or I'm just about to make a mistake !
The spirit of our dear ones are always with us and having lost my Dad too who was a very special gentleman (in both senses of the word) and who I adored ,
I rapidly came to the conclusion that the only way I could deal with the grief of losing them both was to think of them not being far away.....and always being in my ear !!!
Tears never came easily when I lost either of them as I knew that was a precarious road to take, so I ploughed my energy into listening for them in every situation .
Everyone grieves in their own way I know but this has been my way of celebrating my parents - think only of the joy the laughs the kindness and the love - the pain will ease and you can hear them clearly .
They were great dancers, and I imagine them on some distant cloud - jiving to Glen Miller or waltzing to Strauss.
I love your chats .
Thanks for sharing your graceful life.
Janice 👵 🇬🇧 xxx
I’m so sorry for your loss, Susan. You have lovely life-changing memories of your dear friend and I’m certain you’ll always treasure them. Since I almost lost myself to a serious illness (and no green lights for a bit) I’m doing my best one day at a time. Getting stronger and feeling hopeful and grateful for each day. I realize it’s not exactly the answer you asked for but it IS grief for who you were and making necessary adjustments for physical changes! I wish there was more to laugh about, but smiling is 😊an easy gift to give others! Sometimes people even smile back 🙏🏻
"Travel light". What a great analogy! I so often see and hear the bitterness in middle aged and older people. That is what drives people away. The whole thing becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. You are a lovely soul Susan and what a life you have led! You should write your autobiography. I would buy it. xx
Susan, I am so sorry for the loss of your friend and soulmate Aris. What a privilege to have had that level of kinship in your life for so many years. I read once that tears/grief is your heart overflowing with love for someone but having no one to give it to. I lost my parents the last week of January 2022. They died 4 days apart. It may sound odd, but the fact that I lost them together provided a strange sense of comfort. They were married for 64 years, and we always knew that they were holding on for each other. When Dad died my Mom insisted that she wasn't going to attend his funeral. We didn't understand-how do you share a life for 64 years, and not want a final goodbye? Perhaps she knew something we didn't because she didn't attend his funeral. She shared it.
Patriciastern9430, I am so sorry for the loss of your parents. Reading your comment brought tears to my eyes. I can imagine how hard it was for you. My parents died in close succession several years ago, after 60 years of marriage. I understand your comment that their passing so close together provided a strange sense of comfort. My mother passed quickly, and my father had a difficult time coming to terms with the fact that she was really gone. He was heartbroken. May your heart continue to heal. 💗
@@Elizabeth-arb22 Thank you Elizabeth.
Thank you for this video! I too am getting older and losing more and more people in my life. Each of these individuals that are gone have given me something, meaning that they taught me things and made me realize things in life. I was blessed with the time that I had with them and I truly appreciated them when they were here and they will always be in my heart. But I always felt that their job here on earth was completed and they had to move on back home. Loss is so painful that to this day, I miss them and cry just thinking about them, but I know that they are no longer in pain either physical or mental and life is short so we, meaning the ones that are left behind, need to complete our job here and be thankful for each day that we have. Life is short, so let's make the best out of it in the meantime, let's enjoy it and make the best out of each day.
As a 69 year old.. I journal my life events for my family. I keep pictures all over my apartment of fun times with family and friends.
As a nurse that’s witnessed so much death I too think about my own mortality. I try to live each day to the fullest …laughing at myself or something I find funny … laughter is medicine for the soul. I try to find laughter in everything.
Hugs to you and Desi… ❤️
Susan I’m so sorry for the loss of your dear friend but I’m happy you have all those beautiful memories. Bless you and Desi ❤