A Couple’s Final Words to Each Other Accidentally Recorded | The New Yorker Documentary

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  • A son makes a surprising discovery on his elderly parents’ answering machine after his father’s passing in Sara Joe Wolansky’s film “The Last Conversation."
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  • @davademon
    @davademon 4 роки тому +2021

    "And before you know it, time will have passed.. and we'll be together again"

  • @MiMiMiMi-du6jy
    @MiMiMiMi-du6jy 2 роки тому +574

    "He was a very nice man wasn't he?"
    He was a great man.

    • @lauramalizia9636
      @lauramalizia9636 2 роки тому +9

      💔😭

    • @freehugs8670
      @freehugs8670 2 роки тому +16

      best husband and father one can wish for

    • @nadou760
      @nadou760 2 роки тому +20

      And the best husband any woman could dream of .I have been married to narc for 7 years and i know what I'm talking about .I wish i had a man beside , caring husband like this man .His wife was so blessed to have him and their kid should be so proud having such human beings as parents .

    • @Silenced23
      @Silenced23 2 роки тому +7

      That's like some movie type quote

  • @patriciacole8773
    @patriciacole8773 2 роки тому +149

    The best gift a father can give his son or daughter is to love their mother.

    • @fiat3879
      @fiat3879 2 роки тому +4

      My father has always said this & it’s TRUE💗

    • @patriciacole8773
      @patriciacole8773 2 роки тому +4

      @@fiat3879 Coming back and reading this makes me think that our Heavenly Father loves His faithful Commandment keeping remnant church so much that it will draw the hearts of those in the valley of decision.

    • @appraiser1717
      @appraiser1717 8 місяців тому +1

      My father did the opposite and this is very true. Thank you for sharing this. This quote really caused a reaction with me.

  • @saniya8885
    @saniya8885 2 роки тому +171

    “Time will pass and we will be together again” BROKE MY HEART!!!! They loved eachother so much

    • @BeverleyMiller_
      @BeverleyMiller_ 2 роки тому +10

      No, be happy for them bc their last conversation came true! They are together for eternity now💕

    • @opticon28
      @opticon28 4 місяці тому +1

      ​@@BeverleyMiller_ username checks out.

  • @greetgoods
    @greetgoods 4 роки тому +1717

    The thing that really stood out to me in this recording is how completely and entirely kind and respectful and loving the two were to each other in every thing they said.

    • @kathyh4804
      @kathyh4804 2 роки тому +52

      Not many marriages like that anymore... sad to say

    • @stephaniebaker6001
      @stephaniebaker6001 2 роки тому +75

      My 87 year old dad and my 84 year mom are both completely independent and luckily both have all of their faculties. My dad was diagnosed with incurable Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma when he was 73, but is doing extremely well. I'm so glad that they can spend this time together and remember all of it. I feel very lucky! 💕😌

    • @michellejames10987
      @michellejames10987 2 роки тому +25

      @@stephaniebaker6001 That's wonderful, best wishes to them!!

    • @stephaniebaker6001
      @stephaniebaker6001 2 роки тому +13

      @@michellejames10987 Thank you Michelle! 💕

    • @janetspell1396
      @janetspell1396 2 роки тому +4

      Yes!❤️

  • @HartsHideaway
    @HartsHideaway 2 роки тому +550

    I never called back...I felt that to my core.

    • @frogieZ
      @frogieZ 2 роки тому +36

      It hit me too 😭
      Since covid, I came to realization how temporary life is. So I’ve made a promise to drop everything each time my parents & family call, trying my best to be there for them whatever they need me for.

    • @juliashireen6195
      @juliashireen6195 2 роки тому +11

      @@frogieZ good for you MerryJane. And thank you for reminding me. I am gonna help mom and dad now. Xoxox

    • @frogieZ
      @frogieZ 2 роки тому +5

      @@juliashireen6195 ❤️ I wish you well. Be safe & take care!

    • @rociobany290
      @rociobany290 2 роки тому +9

      Always , always keep your word to loved ones **

    • @MK_1Ultra
      @MK_1Ultra 2 роки тому +7

      I always answer my mom and dad's calls

  • @h.r.puffinstuff431
    @h.r.puffinstuff431 2 роки тому +180

    His Dad sounded like a great guy! And so in love with his wife! How awesome!

    • @aikaterineillt9876
      @aikaterineillt9876 2 роки тому +1

      Blind obsession is not awesome.

    • @h.r.puffinstuff431
      @h.r.puffinstuff431 2 роки тому +3

      Aikaterine Illt How is this blind obsession?

    • @josephdockemeyer6782
      @josephdockemeyer6782 2 роки тому +2

      @@aikaterineillt9876
      "Blind obsession"? WHAT?
      This is a loving man who had a heart attack and can't see his wife.

    • @h.r.puffinstuff431
      @h.r.puffinstuff431 2 роки тому +1

      Aikaterine Illt It is called true love! True love is blind, but not obsessed. True love loves through sickness- mental and physical. That is true love. Back then lots of people took their marriage vows seriously, unlike the throw away love of today.

  • @Silenced23
    @Silenced23 2 роки тому +377

    It was like she didn't have Alzheimer's when she was speaking to him. She missed him too, she hoped they would be together soon, it was like she was coherent. Maybe he was her bridge in her brain.

    • @MsViva710
      @MsViva710 2 роки тому +16

      I noticed that she had clarity .

    • @CallawayVanZeeberg
      @CallawayVanZeeberg 2 роки тому +35

      But that's the thing about Alzheimer's... One moment they remember everything and all seems totally normal... then the next moment it's like someone pulled the plug... that's the heart wrenching part. It's terrible because you don't know if your loved one is going to remember you in the next 5 minutes.
      I believe the recorded phone call was an amazing stroke of fortune for both of them to have a beautiful conversation as if nothing was wrong. It could have been the other way...

    • @beetenyeo7258
      @beetenyeo7258 2 роки тому

      @@CallawayVanZeeberg.

    • @marilyndillard1658
      @marilyndillard1658 2 роки тому +9

      I loved that they had a perfectly clear great talk at the last..that was wonderful!

    • @carolehankinson4969
      @carolehankinson4969 2 роки тому +4

      @@marilyndillard1658 it was a beautiful conversation between a husband & wife who loved each other, love is amazing and it can hurt sooo much. I'm so glad the son had this on his wonderful Parent's last conversation. ❤️

  • @abutterfly7975
    @abutterfly7975 2 роки тому +1678

    We just accidentally taped my mom and dad talking for the last time while they were both in the hospital with covid, dad died shortly after that. They didn’t know that would be their last conversation.
    It all happened because the nurses pushed my dad down the hall to my moms hospital room so they could have dinner together, what a blessing that was for all of us. ❤️❤️

    • @jacquelinewubbena6604
      @jacquelinewubbena6604 2 роки тому +98

      I'm sorry for your loss and grateful for your blessing.

    • @happycook6737
      @happycook6737 2 роки тому +22

      😭🙏💐

    • @kellygrubbs915
      @kellygrubbs915 2 роки тому +55

      I’m so deeply sorry for your loss but so precious that they were able to have dinner together and you were able to record their conversation. Cherished memories

    • @Angel-tw3ko
      @Angel-tw3ko 2 роки тому +31

      May God please bless you and your family, I know the pain of losing your parents, I lost my dad in 2012, almost killed me.

    • @elsablue3646
      @elsablue3646 2 роки тому +21

      Im so sorry your father passed to heaven. Its so sweet they were able to have dinner together. These are great loves. So wonderful to see and know of. Thank you for sharing. Someday we all will be with our loved ones in heaven again. The blessed hope. God bless you.

  • @65sheilakay
    @65sheilakay 2 роки тому +1178

    This man's Mom and Dad had everything people strive for in life.

    • @carriecardwell608
      @carriecardwell608 2 роки тому +14

      Amen

    • @marmitenot.
      @marmitenot. 2 роки тому +46

      And so many more could be blessed with this if they realized marriage can be very hard sometimes. Nothing worth having ever comes easy, but people give up at the first sign of adversity instead of sticking it out.

    • @robingagan6288
      @robingagan6288 2 роки тому +8

      And so did he

    • @beanghelly5666
      @beanghelly5666 2 роки тому +2

      I agree

    • @merncat3384
      @merncat3384 2 роки тому +7

      @@marmitenot. the problem is.. people don't know how to laugh at things and pick their battles. not everything is THAT serious. many problems can be avoided if people just let it go.

  • @LoveYamachan
    @LoveYamachan 2 роки тому +104

    I had a bed ridden resident but still quite cognitive whose wife used to visit routinely. The wife died due to health problems and he was depressed for a while after that. One day he was smiling and happy, told me "I'm going to paradise, friend" I said "Can I come?" He smiled and said "No, I'm going to see my wife"... He did not wake up the next day and went to palliative care~ He died soon after~

    • @youtoo2072
      @youtoo2072 2 роки тому +1

      amazing!!

    • @bettyh3747
      @bettyh3747 2 роки тому +6

      The morning my daughter died (she was 25, an ALS patient) she looked up rather shocked. I asked her what was wrong. She said she saw Grandpa (died 20 years earlier) and an angel. I asked her outwardly if it meant she would be leaving soon. She said she didn't know but she had a wonderful day died that evening. (I wish I could say peacefully) 💔

    • @blue-calla
      @blue-calla 2 роки тому +2

      @@bettyh3747 💟

  • @chrisholzhauer3698
    @chrisholzhauer3698 2 роки тому +18

    This was more beautiful than words can express. The first worthwhile thing I've seen on youtube in a long while. What a treasure that voicemail is.

  • @ThatJakeGuy99
    @ThatJakeGuy99 2 роки тому +488

    "Time will have passed, and we'll be together again"
    I'm done. Goodnight

  • @debbiecraddock7204
    @debbiecraddock7204 2 роки тому +578

    This sounds like they had a Beautiful Relationship together. He got to tell her good by . A true Love story.

  • @tabittheha
    @tabittheha 2 роки тому +16

    A beautiful, bright love like this is one that defies time, space, and place. We should all feel humbled to have had the opportunity to watch this.

  • @saturdayradionova1734
    @saturdayradionova1734 2 роки тому +31

    How wonderful and special that he got to hear the last conversation they had….. and that we get to hear it as well!! I hope that their memories are a blessing and that the son feels at peace for in the moment not taking his fathers call

  • @Dan5819
    @Dan5819 2 роки тому +174

    Boy, those two were soulmate if there ever was such a thing. What a loving bond.

    • @styphlynne8253
      @styphlynne8253 2 роки тому +1

      Right? Because she forgot all the bad stuff ! lol

  • @ltraina3353
    @ltraina3353 4 роки тому +647

    I wasn’t planning on crying before bed, but here I am....

  • @JenniferMcCrayEileen
    @JenniferMcCrayEileen 2 роки тому +22

    What a wonderful memory to have of your parents. Brought a tear to my eye.

  • @maxinewoolston2296
    @maxinewoolston2296 2 роки тому +13

    Their marriage was beautiful, loving and respectful🙏in every video you could see that he was very much a kind and loving husband and family man and so was his wife.
    God Bless them Both 🙏🙏

  • @henryottis295
    @henryottis295 2 роки тому +282

    You were blessed to have them as parents.
    But you know that.

  • @joysoul4089
    @joysoul4089 2 роки тому +1098

    My grandparents were married nearly 80 years, outliving 4 of their 9 children. She died not long before their wedding anniversary, and my grandfather wouldn’t go to her funeral. He went to bed and turned his face to the wall. A few months after that, he announced to the nursing staff that “I’m going to see my baby and I’m going tonight”. And he did. Cause of death? Decision (not suicide) - he was 98.

    • @happycook6737
      @happycook6737 2 роки тому +57

      😭🙏💐

    • @Mexicobeanpole
      @Mexicobeanpole 2 роки тому +80

      Sad, but also so lovely.

    • @doyoulovehimloretta1607
      @doyoulovehimloretta1607 2 роки тому +52

      Omg I am balling hearing about your gpa.

    • @mikajo1971
      @mikajo1971 2 роки тому +125

      My grandpa died in Sept..Grandmother died Nov on their wedding anniversary..Would have been 64 yrs...So they never spent a wedding anniversary apart..She went on to join him.

    • @clwbchbabycakes
      @clwbchbabycakes 2 роки тому +62

      Yes, people can make a conscious transition. My friend's sister just did this a week ago.

  • @MissingPersonsMysteries
    @MissingPersonsMysteries 2 роки тому +3

    Omg! I can't stop crying. Absolutely beautiful!

  • @engineergirl6869
    @engineergirl6869 2 роки тому +73

    I needed this. Seeing how respect is the number one pillar that should never fall in a relationship. It really encompasses all els in love.
    I really needed this for guidance.

    • @Synth256
      @Synth256 2 роки тому +6

      I needed this, too. Hearing the respect and love the couple felt for each other had such a positive impact on me. It's amazing that their last conversation was recorded, to show the rest of us what real love is. But also, hearing Mr. Kornberg say that he never called his father back comforted me just a little. I needed that, too. My last words to my father were "I'll come back tomorrow". I did not. He died. This was in 1992, and it still haunts me. Maybe we're all just human, doing the best we can, with what little information we have, and we should be kind to ourselves, too -- not just others.

    • @youtoo2072
      @youtoo2072 2 роки тому +3

      @@Synth256 YES , WE JUST DON'T KNOW, AND BEING ONWARDS WITH LIFE ISN'T WORSE THING REALLY.

    • @youtoo2072
      @youtoo2072 2 роки тому +3

      EXACTLY

  • @kasarija
    @kasarija 2 роки тому +510

    My mom had dementia when my dad died in October of 2019. I never told her. Didn’t see the point. She died last month. I hope they’re together again.

    • @mrs.elentz2336
      @mrs.elentz2336 2 роки тому +42

      Oh wow, not telling her was probably a very difficult act of love. I've witnessed people with dementia, but I've never lost a loved one or witnessed a loved one suffer with dementia. I can't even imagine how utterly heart-shattering that would be. Sorry for your losses!! Prayers to you 🙏❤

    • @gatdemun
      @gatdemun 2 роки тому +8

      💜

    • @novice5895
      @novice5895 2 роки тому +12

      I’m so sorry for your losses! I wish you peace & comfort & I hope they’re together, as well💗.

    • @dawnatkinson7704
      @dawnatkinson7704 2 роки тому +14

      Im very sorry for your losses.
      I think you did the right thing for your mum. You spared her pain xx

    • @kariay50
      @kariay50 2 роки тому +5

      My condolences. May they rest in peace 🙏🌈

  • @kevinloveshistory7353
    @kevinloveshistory7353 2 роки тому +355

    As soon as I listened to the recording, I just burst into tears. You can feel the strong love and bond between and despite the mother’s Alzheimers, you can tell she at least remembers him. Their talk was bitter sweet and powerful. They may have been journeying towards the end of their lives but he knew they’ll one day be together again once he passes.

    • @BabyGirl-cw6uj
      @BabyGirl-cw6uj 2 роки тому +12

      I couldn't watch the entire video, it hurt too much and I don't even know them personally 😭😭😭😭

    • @edwardoneil3962
      @edwardoneil3962 2 роки тому +16

      Yes It was remarkable last conversation between both cought on voice recording. Quite miraculous actually lolx 😀❤😀

    • @ArnoldZiffle-jw2mv
      @ArnoldZiffle-jw2mv 2 роки тому +10

      People who have near death experiences say everyone in Heaven is young & I’m good with that, so he was reunited with her when she’s got all her faculties. 👍

    • @dionst.michael5818
      @dionst.michael5818 2 роки тому

      Thats just your so-called ‘toxic masculinity’ working double time, I’ll bet. Lol!

    • @ME-gz8yi
      @ME-gz8yi 2 роки тому +5

      Freakin Alzheimer's!! And kudos to the brave son for admitting his blunder, you could almost hear the strains of "Cats in the Cradle" smh. His honesty made the story that much more powerful.

  • @glamdolly30
    @glamdolly30 2 роки тому +8

    A beautiful story - what a love they shared! They were so lucky to find each other. And the recording of their final phone conversation is an incredible gift.
    How kind and loving they were to each other. Even with her dementia, she responded so affectionately to every loving platitude. It's clear despite the cruelties of old age, their love endured, undiminished, to the very end.
    God bless them and the fine son who was born of that great love.

  • @pamelagillham755
    @pamelagillham755 2 роки тому +15

    That recording is a blessing, and it’s heart breaking at the same time. Bitter-sweet!

  • @paymweaver5650
    @paymweaver5650 3 роки тому +406

    What a wonderful gift they left for their son.

  • @Emy53
    @Emy53 2 роки тому +185

    We already know we are going to die...it's inevitable...we should always be kind to each other.

    • @lorishiversdogmom
      @lorishiversdogmom 2 роки тому +6

      Amen.

    • @CassieShakespeare
      @CassieShakespeare 2 роки тому +3

      Without death, life has no meaning.

    • @cybertech6625
      @cybertech6625 2 роки тому +3

      We are simply humans, and we are imperfect. That is why it is important to learn to be able to forgive those we love, and even those we don't.

    • @willowb1527
      @willowb1527 2 роки тому +2

      Amen. More love no more hate. ✌️❤️

    • @TheLuckyjoenga
      @TheLuckyjoenga 2 роки тому +1

      Well said. 🙏

  • @julitt4317
    @julitt4317 2 роки тому +5

    So beautiful. I lost my husband 2 years ago at the age of 51 of ALS (MND). He couldn't speak for the last year of his life and I envy the ease of their conversation, born of love and familiarity. For her to live on, unaware that he has gone, is comforting in a way. How blessed they were.

    • @lucymerkom9571
      @lucymerkom9571 2 роки тому +2

      God bless you and yours. Your beautiful husband wants you to live each day with strength, courage, laughter and few tears. Love lives forever in the heart. Take care

    • @julitt4317
      @julitt4317 2 роки тому +1

      @@lucymerkom9571 Thank you Lucy x

    • @youtoo2072
      @youtoo2072 2 роки тому +1

      That's The Most/More Beautiful way to let it be Meant to be! Good Bless

  • @Orpilorp
    @Orpilorp 2 роки тому +1

    That was beautiful. I'm so glad he called her for your sake.

  • @krizzy__
    @krizzy__ 2 роки тому +140

    This was both heartbreaking and heartwarming at same time.

  • @exdus235
    @exdus235 4 роки тому +356

    Such a tender, loving story told with a remarkably subtle, professional visual editing feature. Beautiful all the way through. The family should know that, although the recording tape ended, it does not mean that the conversation was cut off to the couple. If one answered the telephone AFTER the answering machine clicked on, then the recorder would capture for as long as it was programmed to do, but when it stopped recording the couple's conversation was not affected. So...they were definitely able to finish their loving last talk. They had a relationship that most people long for. Bless them wherever they are, and bless the son for sharing his 'memory treasure' with us.

  • @dbcruser3133
    @dbcruser3133 2 роки тому +4

    This man is so blessed to have had very loving parents. God bless them, RIP dear ones.

  • @maxbang1813
    @maxbang1813 2 роки тому +3

    I'm so jealous that you have those "movies" of your family experiences. Your parents seemed to be loving and vibrant. I'm so happy that you have the recording of their last conversation. Priceless and very special. Thank you for sharing. ❤

  • @jusletursoulglobaby
    @jusletursoulglobaby 4 роки тому +268

    I felt that "I never called back." same. what a haunting moment.

  • @mssiaes
    @mssiaes 4 роки тому +153

    Don’t need to be sad. Your dad is such a loving man, your mom is so lucky.

    • @MaIContent
      @MaIContent 4 роки тому

      and I bet they will be together again if they both wish it

  • @mb5612
    @mb5612 2 роки тому +5

    I’m crying inconsolably right now. Thank you for sharing something so beautiful, precious, and bittersweet.

  • @bbigfish1langille940
    @bbigfish1langille940 2 роки тому +3

    How Sweet and ment to be to comfort thier Beautiful son thier love for each other made .God Bless you and thank you so much for sharing .Your parents are Proud of you 💖💙💖

  • @SergMilli
    @SergMilli 4 роки тому +140

    I don't think I've ever heard of something so beautiful and sad at the same time in my life.

  • @denisepaulsenful
    @denisepaulsenful 2 роки тому +102

    I've been married 25 yrs. My husband tells me every single day he loves me. If you feel it then say it out loud to the person you love. It's important. It's not a matter of "they knew so there was no need to say it all the time." Make sure you say it too. Need needn't come into it.

    • @whitepouch0904
      @whitepouch0904 2 роки тому +13

      It depends on the person's top love language. If the person love language isn't affirmation then she doesn't need to hear it all the time.

    • @eej1983able
      @eej1983able 2 роки тому +5

      I do the same thing. We've been married 11 years and still say i love you to each other daily

    • @Deenique16
      @Deenique16 2 роки тому +5

      I want to be in love one day

    • @Volkslady
      @Volkslady 2 роки тому +3

      You are SO right. My husband was the love of my life, and always will be. I did know he loved me - he showed it in hundreds of ways - but my heart yearned to actually hear the words. He passed away on Christmas Eve 2019. I miss him so. If only I could’ve had that small three-word gift to keep in my heart... 💔

    • @beckyhighfield1781
      @beckyhighfield1781 2 роки тому +2

      My husband and I have been together 50 years and we tell each other multiple times a day that we love each other and kiss each other every night before going to bed ❤️❤️

  • @76trenalynnroles21
    @76trenalynnroles21 2 роки тому +8

    That was the most precious thing ever! I wish people today could learn to love and have patience with each other like that.
    They were blessed to have each other ♥️

  • @ceciliacalabrano
    @ceciliacalabrano 2 роки тому +1

    That last phone conversation was so beautiful to hear.♥️

  • @MaNkYmInX
    @MaNkYmInX 2 роки тому +75

    No matter what, always tell your loved ones you love them. Don't part on bad terms. Make sure they are ok and make sure to always treasure all the moments together.

  • @shantipoet
    @shantipoet 4 роки тому +243

    I loved this piece and just wanted to let Jeffrey Kornberg know that I had a similar regret with my Mom, where she left a message on my answering machine, asking how I was doing, and I had planned to call her back on Saturday when I was less busy. She died Friday night. It took me a while to forgive myself, but I know that she knew that I loved her and that the last time I saw her in person, we parted with a hug. This beautiful tribute to your parents shows how deeply you loved your father, and I'm sure he knew.

    • @emiliabolsas
      @emiliabolsas 4 роки тому +28

      Alyce Wilson He gave his father something to look forward to - that he would be calling him. That he gave his father a future state of time shouldn’t be a regret.

    • @shantipoet
      @shantipoet 4 роки тому +25

      @@emiliabolsas That's a beautiful way of looking at it. Thank you.

    • @edwardoneil3962
      @edwardoneil3962 2 роки тому +8

  • @ardevenuta37
    @ardevenuta37 2 роки тому +31

    Dear Mr. Kornberg, I just wanted to say, thank you for posting this video. As short as it is, you said a lot. You conveyed a message of love. At the same time, you remind the viewer, how precious our time is here on earth, with the ones we love. It is important that we make it known and to never take each other for granted while we are here. God always has a purpose and much of the time, we have no idea what the plan is, especially, as life events unfold. You told your dad that would call him back. This is our day to day life. We don't think that this person (or we ourselves) might not be there to call back. There is a lesson in everything, in this case, you, yourself, learned something. Learining is not a bad thing. To the contrary, it is a good thing. Your dad knew you loved him. You, I am sure, showed him this over a lifetime. One thing that struck me was your dad saying to your mom "Patience." Your dad stated, "before you know it, time has passed, and we will be togther again." This is true, thos os God's promise. Thank you again for sharing, this was very touching.

  • @betsybabf748
    @betsybabf748 2 роки тому +1

    Couples are so lucky to get so many years. My husband suddenly 10 days after his 45th birthday when our 5 children were ages 6 to 23. I'd give the rest of my life for 1 more day with him.

  • @OldRaver
    @OldRaver 4 роки тому +227

    I recently found a massive tied up pile of letters my mum wrote to my dad in 1957/8, the year before they married when he was stationed in Belfast training as an air traffic controller.
    Oh my god, they are a WONDERFUL insight into just how madly in love they both were! 2 or 3 letters a day they’d write!!
    So sweet that dad must have kept these and hidden them away!!❤️
    (It appears that mum chucked hers away at some point over their 54 years of marriage. 😳
    Would have been so romantic to have both sides of the conversation on record❤️)

    • @RJelly-fi6hd
      @RJelly-fi6hd 2 роки тому +23

      I also kept my letters between my ex-husband and I, when he was in basic training. I didn't know I still had them after the divorce. I almost through them away, in my anger, but had the good sense to keep them for my children should they want them. There were beautiful words of love in those letters.

    • @edwardoneil3962
      @edwardoneil3962 2 роки тому +8

      Relationships really were special in the golden years of yon 😀❤😀

    • @TREVASLARK
      @TREVASLARK 2 роки тому +4

      @@edwardoneil3962
      (Please forgive me, but I feel words are very, very important. You wanted to say "in the golden years of YORE.")

    • @edwardoneil3962
      @edwardoneil3962 2 роки тому +2

      @@TREVASLARK yon as in yonder. I sometimes make mistakes in using keyboard on phone. Digets tend to be small for fingers especially when busy like now.

    • @TREVASLARK
      @TREVASLARK 2 роки тому +3

      @@edwardoneil3962 Yes, yes, I see - but still, Edward, the fact is that "yonder" means "over there" , as in distance of space, while "yore" means distance in time, specifically past times. Check it out !
      Cheers ! :)))

  • @andij605
    @andij605 2 роки тому +178

    I'm crying so hard. I miss my grandma so much. Her Alzheimers was so bad for her last few years that she couldn't speak anymore. Yet her last words were vocalizing my name over and over and over again.
    I love you granny, I'll love you forever.

    • @kristineill2378
      @kristineill2378 2 роки тому +11

      Bless you for loving your gramma so much. I never had any closeness with my grandparents and wished I had treasured memories of them. It's a gift that can never be taken back. I try to spend time with my grands...love them babies.

    • @irisrodriguez7753
      @irisrodriguez7753 2 роки тому +6

      Im so sorry for ur lost i wish i was there to give a friendy hug stay strong

    • @caroled3943
      @caroled3943 2 роки тому +8

      Granny loved you too! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🐥

    • @joanodom2104
      @joanodom2104 2 роки тому +5

      Cake, believe me...she knows. 💜

    • @vielkadenerson2534
      @vielkadenerson2534 2 роки тому +2

      I'm crying for you .

  • @MegaSnow121
    @MegaSnow121 2 роки тому +1

    So touching. Your mom sounded so clear of mind during that last talk with your dad. What a touching gift this must have been to your family in the midst of grieving the passing of your father. God bless you all.

  • @steendful
    @steendful 2 роки тому +7

    That is the most amazing story, then recording I've ever heard. My heart is filled with.... Sadness, joy, compassion, etc all at the same time ❤️.
    What a recording to have.

  • @whatever5000
    @whatever5000 4 роки тому +180

    Thank you, The New Yorker, for publishing this story. While painful, this is beautiful. This is love.

  • @MelliaBoomBot
    @MelliaBoomBot 2 роки тому +48

    My mother passed on last November. Even with the all ALL the technology available these days I have only a few videos of her...I was videoing a caterpillar outside the back door and I realised afterwards that in the back ground were my parents talking about going for doctors appointments. Its a little bit of treasure that means so much to me.

    • @CassieShakespeare
      @CassieShakespeare 2 роки тому +5

      Sad, isn't it, that with all the technology we have, that we often miss the opportunity to capture those wee moments that makes life worth living. I have 2 videos of my Mum. One of her getting punched in the head at the newsagency that she owned, and the other of her on April Fool's Day, 2011... the day she was diagnosed with cancer...she was immediately admitted to hospital, and we made a video of her talking to her cat. She died 4 months and 10 days later, as predicted by her oncologist. Sending much love to you...losing your Mum is devastating. 💖💖💖

    • @MelliaBoomBot
      @MelliaBoomBot 2 роки тому +3

      @@CassieShakespeare thank you so much for your kind words. Im sorry for your loss as well. Bless you..

  • @sharibigay4712
    @sharibigay4712 2 роки тому +17

    That's a tough decision to make, when to stop reminding them of reality. When my mom was losing her memory and asked about my dad (she wasn't that bad yet), I'd remind her that was gone, and she'd be like yeah, that's right what was I thinking of. But one day when I said that, she responded like getting the news for the first time. It broke my heart. I've never corrected her since. We just make an excuse and she goes on to the next thing.

  • @alanmorris7669
    @alanmorris7669 2 роки тому +59

    As the old man, Fagin once said to little Oliver Twist: _"It's a terrible thing, Oliver - old age."_

    • @youtoo2072
      @youtoo2072 2 роки тому +1

      but MOST OF US still DO IT!!!! L! poor kid, Scared!.. old people, they're just like you and me Will Be! and hey, Dying, Everybody Does that TOO! THERE'S REALLY NO OTHER WAY TO GET OUT OF HERE THAN TO GO THROUGH THAT!! ;)

  • @pattysalvatore1407
    @pattysalvatore1407 2 роки тому +43

    About two minutes in I realized I was smiling as I listened to you describing your parents lives. Your father was incredible. You seem to have a similarly thoughtful heart.

  • @belindasnell7922
    @belindasnell7922 2 роки тому +80

    Be still my heart... thank you for sharing this most precious moment. My young husband fought cancer and we knew what was coming. I never left the room without kissing him goodbye and making him guess the flavor of chapstick I had on. I was blessed to share his last breath with him.

    • @bethlanders6608
      @bethlanders6608 2 роки тому +2

      im so sorry for your loss. THis made me smile/cry

    • @belindasnell7922
      @belindasnell7922 2 роки тому +2

      @@bethlanders6608 thanks so much for your reply. You brought a smile to my heart.

    • @bethlanders6608
      @bethlanders6608 2 роки тому +2

      I love your story 💝

    • @maid4thelamb85
      @maid4thelamb85 2 роки тому +2

      I'm so sorry, it is so hard. 😔

    • @belindasnell7922
      @belindasnell7922 2 роки тому

      @@maid4thelamb85 thank you love. I needed to hear that today!

  • @geinikan1kan
    @geinikan1kan 2 роки тому

    Unbelievably touching. The humble answering machine someone forgot to turn off.

  • @tracietowner9619
    @tracietowner9619 2 роки тому

    This recording should be played during sessions of couple's counseling. It was truly adorable and probably the sweetest thing I have heard in a very long time. I can't thank you enough for sharing this.

  • @epifan3_
    @epifan3_ 2 роки тому +126

    My dad was my best friend. We talked every day, sometimes all day. Since I was a teenager. We had a dispute back in October 2020. We didn’t talk for 5 months. The first and only time we ever went without speaking. He suddenly passed in March. We never got to make up. But he’ll always be the best thing that ever happened to me 😭

    • @countrygirl4213
      @countrygirl4213 2 роки тому +5

      I'm sorry for your loss,he was very lucky to have you as well.We all meet up again later on.

    • @suzbone
      @suzbone 2 роки тому +4

      I'm so sorry for your loss 😢

    • @ArnoldZiffle-jw2mv
      @ArnoldZiffle-jw2mv 2 роки тому +16

      Your Dad knows, yes he knows for sure. That kind of relationship never dies

    • @denasharpe2393
      @denasharpe2393 2 роки тому +16

      He never stopped loving you....

    • @monicajean37
      @monicajean37 2 роки тому +12

      HE KNOWS, I was told by a very wise person after my father died who I was extremely close too, "talk to your Dad" I said what? That wise person said "In heaven they can hear you", So I talk to my Father, now Mother all the time......It makes me feel better knowing they can hear me, That's the last thing that fades when someone dying, there hearing......

  • @misunderstood2156
    @misunderstood2156 2 роки тому +41

    It’s so comforting to know love like this exist .. may their soul find each other and peace forever 💕

  • @valiantsfelinesmccarty6678
    @valiantsfelinesmccarty6678 2 роки тому +1

    The love this couple half and the way they raise their children is what we all wish we could have it our lives wiskim one and in our family. What an example and an uplifting story. I'm grateful their son shared this with us.

  • @joannaflores7483
    @joannaflores7483 2 роки тому +5

    This was true, pure genuine love that Is so hard to find today. His parents were so blessed to have found each other and show their son that love that most of us long to find. How amazing to have us see a glimpse of what real love is like. Thank you sir for sharing their love and an insight to how love is all bittersweet, wonderful, heart breaking and restoring all at once.

  • @cynthiar7350
    @cynthiar7350 2 роки тому +36

    1953 baby here & while I didn’t go thru Alzheimer’s, I did go thru Parkinson’s with mama & just old age decline with daddy. They died within 7 weeks of each other in 2005. It’s hard. This special message is just wonderful & so loving. I’m so glad you have it. God Bless.

  • @bru1015
    @bru1015 2 роки тому +80

    I came across a taped phone call with my deceased sister talking on it. Her and my brother were taping a discrepancy with a credit card co. She passed 4 years ago. Bonnie was not only my sister, but my best friend. I made sure I labeled the cassette and put it away for safe keeping.

    • @augustaugust7667
      @augustaugust7667 2 роки тому +1

      ❤️🌟

    • @tazz3663
      @tazz3663 2 роки тому +1

      my aunt Bonnie Daniels passed away four years ago too👍 she was an awesome human being .

    • @Britz1393
      @Britz1393 2 роки тому +3

      You should try and get the recording transferred to s digital file. Tape deteriorates over time even just sitting there untouched.

    • @Joy-TheLazyCatLady
      @Joy-TheLazyCatLady 2 роки тому

      I have my favorite brother's last voice mail message that he left me. 😢

    • @emveetu3672
      @emveetu3672 2 роки тому

      @@Britz1393 I agree. It's really important to digitize any analog recordings on tape, video and audio, otherwise they will be lost to time forever.

  • @Dfender67
    @Dfender67 2 роки тому +5

    Wow, what loving and respectful parents….that in itself is such a blessing! Just knowing your parents had such a good relationship and loved each other until the end is comforting.
    Also don’t beat yourself up about not talking to your father right away, he understood and both of you couldn’t have known.
    He knew you loved him! ❤️

  • @cathleenhanson4617
    @cathleenhanson4617 2 роки тому +5

    I really loved this! I have been a nurse for almost 4 decades and I must admit, I am not easily impressed. I was deeply touched by your sharing this. It has impacted me in a very deep way for the good. It is a blessing to see the depth of love you have for parents. Thank you very much for sharing this. May you find a deep peace that surrounds you in comfort. I will pray that you do. There is a book called "Jan's Story. The Long Goodbye" That helped me a lot. It is about a 55 year old woman who developed Early onset Alzheimer's and I found it freeing and very helpful. May you find the comfort and peace your heart seeks. You have a beautiful, tender heart and I think your parents know just how very much you loved and honored them.

  • @janethomas78
    @janethomas78 2 роки тому +129

    In a book by Hospice Nurses, they say "YES" people do know when they are going to die and only do so when ready.

    • @nachogirl35
      @nachogirl35 2 роки тому +16

      As a hospice nurse, I totally agree.

    • @dyerstraight391
      @dyerstraight391 2 роки тому +14

      This is 100% true my parents owned Palliative care centres basically my whole life and many of those people wouldn’t pass until every I was dotted and T was crossed! I took care of a lady who wouldn’t pass until she knew the Pies being served at her funeral were in Her kitchen waiting on the table she passed that night at 4:17am. A lot of people won’t pass if theirs other people/family in the room either sometimes if we noticed a person dragging out their passing we’d invite the family into the great room for Tea or lunch and the person would use that opportunity to pass…

    • @cordeliav3055
      @cordeliav3055 2 роки тому +6

      The Dalai Lama says EVERYONE knows within two years when they are going to pass away.

    • @becknireckn
      @becknireckn 2 роки тому +10

      My father definitely wasn't ready. He wanted to leave hospice but was too weak. I wish I would have thought to say I'll help you bust out of here. He would have been happy to hear that.

    • @cordeliav3055
      @cordeliav3055 2 роки тому +1

      @@becknireckn I assume your father has passed. If so, he is 100 times happier now than he was in his past life. If he hasn't tried to contact you to reassure you that he is now ok, it is because people who have passed don't necessarily have the skills to communicate with the still-living.

  • @bmoisgood3228
    @bmoisgood3228 2 роки тому +82

    I wish my parents could've stayed together. I wish I could have more memories with my parents together.

    • @weebunny
      @weebunny 2 роки тому +13

      In this life, often the loose ends don't ever get tied up the way we would have wanted them to. It's normal to grieve when that happens. I wish you peace.

    • @Deborahboenke2
      @Deborahboenke2 2 роки тому +5

      😪😪😪

    • @GoodPersonTestWebsite
      @GoodPersonTestWebsite 2 роки тому +2

      I'm so sorry :(

    • @jesidepresi
      @jesidepresi 2 роки тому +10

      My parents divorced when I was three (I’m eighteen now) and I always think about what my life could’ve been if my parents just worked things out…they live in different states so being with one for a long time and then not seeing the other for about a year is just painful. And broken homes puts you in the middle of everything which sucks. I feel you.

    • @glamdolly30
      @glamdolly30 2 роки тому

      @@jesidepresi I often think how sad it is that something so profound and important - the creation of a child - can happen so easily between people who are not compatible enough to raise and nurture that precious offspring together.
      You can be glad you do have both your parents in your life and make the most of that, they won't be around forever.

  • @GoodPersonTestWebsite
    @GoodPersonTestWebsite 2 роки тому +10

    My maternal grandmother had alzheimer's. Her son died a few months before she did and her other children made the decision not to tell her because it would be pointless to break her heart over and over again as she continued to forget.

  • @benjerry8987
    @benjerry8987 2 роки тому

    They were there for each other every day supporting each other and that action means "I love you" no words required.

  • @toryglen
    @toryglen 2 роки тому +75

    In a strange way, that was very heartwarming, beautiful, charming, romantic and everything that is special in a loving relationship.
    (Even although I don’t know this family, I thank them for sharing a very small piece of their lives)
    Than you for sharing.
    God bless.

  • @missytyrrell1
    @missytyrrell1 2 роки тому +50

    The way that it ends, so abruptly. Heartbreaking.

  • @prall0915
    @prall0915 2 роки тому +1

    Before my grandma died she started seeing her mother. She would tell us her ma was walking through the room. The expression on her face was like she was a little girl again. We took comfort in knowing she was seeing her mother before she died.

  • @Janet8925
    @Janet8925 2 роки тому +1

    That was Beautiful! Made Me laugh and cry at the same time! What a great man! Always loved his wife through many years. That was the Sweetest Message Ever!! So glad You have that for life now. 🥰 Awesome

  • @bonniedunbar6717
    @bonniedunbar6717 2 роки тому +32

    Your dad understood and he got to hear your voice. He knew you were there.

  • @madasahatter5514
    @madasahatter5514 2 роки тому +35

    This was heartbreaking, poignant and beautiful in equal measures.

  • @breannepender9268
    @breannepender9268 2 роки тому +1

    That's was sooo beautiful had me crying at 553am cause I can't sleep. Thats love right here

  • @HeyDutchgurl
    @HeyDutchgurl 2 роки тому +5

    This was wonderful! They were devoted and expressed so much love right till the very end. The son seemed great too….just like his parents.

  • @donnagpalk912
    @donnagpalk912 2 роки тому +117

    😥 I wish I could have had a man that loved me just half that much. Wasn't meant to be this life time.😥
    Just imagine if you can , how they really felt together. I cant even imagine...
    You are blessed to have had them as parents... that kind of love growing up.💞🙏🏻rare.

    • @ayeshakadwa7317
      @ayeshakadwa7317 2 роки тому +6

      Start loving yourself and you will attract the same love you crave.

    • @donnagpalk912
      @donnagpalk912 2 роки тому +22

      @@ayeshakadwa7317
      I'm done...im 63 now & raising my 8 yr old grandson. His dad, my son lives with me also.
      Been single since 2015 & honestly dont want to get involved again. I like being single now....never thought I be raising my grandson. 😱🥰
      Hes such a good kid. Now if my son would grow the H$$$ up.😃

    • @bethlanders6608
      @bethlanders6608 2 роки тому +16

      me too,,,me too. Gonna be 55 soon and not even close to being married. Makes me sad cause i have so much love to give. Sucks

    • @bethlanders6608
      @bethlanders6608 2 роки тому +28

      @@ayeshakadwa7317 oh bs. I love myself a LOT and never met the right one. That is such nonsense

    • @joanodom2104
      @joanodom2104 2 роки тому +5

      @@bethlanders6608 Dear, I'm right there with you. My mother told me, " Do you realize even Charles Manson found a wife and you can't even get a date!"

  • @heidiherr905
    @heidiherr905 2 роки тому +52

    Bawling! What an absolute gift to have that message. It seemed as though she may have had some clarity at times in the call…I like to think so. Thank you for sharing!

  • @janiceconnett3192
    @janiceconnett3192 2 роки тому

    PRICELESS! Never go to bed angry. Always say you love them.

  • @AEArato
    @AEArato 2 роки тому +1

    It was nice that she was lucid at that moment. It sounded like a regular conversation between 2 people who loved and missed each other. Both hopeful.

  • @dawnmacwhinnie2103
    @dawnmacwhinnie2103 2 роки тому +17

    I’m crying. Their last conversation spoke of their love and having patience until they’re together again. Oh.. that enduring love that some people never get the chance to experience it; but these two had that kind of love.

  • @lauramassi1957
    @lauramassi1957 2 роки тому +16

    It's nice that the family has the conversation between the parents to keep forever for memories and to remember how much they loved on another.

  • @debsayler624
    @debsayler624 2 роки тому +3

    This story is so sweet ! They had so much love for each other ! So happy their son found the message ! Happy tears !!!

  • @bethlovesdogs
    @bethlovesdogs 2 роки тому +1

    What a beautiful gift that was for you to find! How precious!

  • @Sonny84586
    @Sonny84586 2 роки тому +19

    What an incredible gift. As if their beautiful life together weren’t enough, it’s wrapped up with a bow. Waterworks.

  • @tracey6556
    @tracey6556 3 роки тому +40

    There should be more content like this on UA-cam. I have a wonderful mom but would have loved to have had a dad like yours!

  • @jackevans3480
    @jackevans3480 2 роки тому

    I couldn't help crying while listening to this. It was beautiful. In spite of his heart problems and her Alzheimer's, they managed to have a wonderfully loving last conversation. R.I.P Isidore.

  • @kennyrogers3919
    @kennyrogers3919 2 роки тому +5

    I’ll be making sure that I never tell my parents that I’ll call them back! They are both getting up there and I never want to have that feeling that you do. Thank you very much for this story

  • @adamweston4152
    @adamweston4152 2 роки тому +25

    A lady in know once said to me"never go to bed on an argument" and it's stuck with me all my life and now my parents are old they argue alot especially at bedtime and I hate the thought of them not being happy when that inevitable time comes and this is so beautiful to hear, brought tears to my eyes.

    • @novice5895
      @novice5895 2 роки тому +2

      Maybe you should gently remind them. One trial of this life, of being human, is that we never know the time or place. It’s the hardest part, I think. I wish you & your parents well💗.

  • @SarahSmith-lr9pg
    @SarahSmith-lr9pg 4 роки тому +85

    Snot and tears pouring out of my face.

  • @dreamwidow4290
    @dreamwidow4290 2 роки тому +1

    when a loved one is gone,the heart is broken,
    while a loved one lives,leave no words unspoken.
    DREAMWIDOW SEPT 3 2021.

  • @AntiqueCycles
    @AntiqueCycles 2 роки тому +2

    Beautiful. Your parents sure did love each other. Amazing.

  • @That_AMC_Guy
    @That_AMC_Guy 2 роки тому +30

    Ouch. Right in the feels.
    Makes a guy wish he had parents or at least, you know, ones that got along.

  • @poodlejam777
    @poodlejam777 2 роки тому +13

    Simply precious. Your soul knows, even when the earthly you does not. And, Love never dies.

  • @jojosangrytarots
    @jojosangrytarots 2 роки тому +1

    How sweet is this?! I am crying. This is beautiful.

  • @Sjb2077
    @Sjb2077 2 роки тому +1

    I am crying for you. So much love and respect between your parents. I wish you peace and happy memories. God bless