Go to tryfum.com/SYDNEY and use code SYDNEY to save an additional 10% off your order today. Sorry about those of you who saw the miss-fire of this vid this morning. I posted it and UA-cam age restricted it lmao. Also, apologies for the audio in some parts, I've been battling an air-conditioner that is very loud, but it's far too hot to turn it off. Lastly, I'm not here to tell any ladies what is right or wrong for them - but I believe it's our personal responsibility as adults to understand what these medications will do to us AND those around us. If I could go back, I'd undo taking HBC because of what it has done to me and I have a lot of regret around it. Messing with your hormones is no joke. Make sure you know what is at risk if this is a path you intend to take. :)
I remember just a few years after I started my period, we went to see our family doctor for a regular checkup. When he saw my age and knew of my menstrual cycle, he checked, "Are you on birth control? (No...) You should go on birth control. It will help regulate your hormones and make sure you have a regular period." I was really weirded out by it and declined his advice, since I wasn't sexually active (or planning to be) and my cycle seemed fine... I've also just been paranoid about anything like that, since I've always wanted to have children and am hyper-alert when it comes to anything that might harm that. But still always struck me as odd that he recommended it in such a flippant way, with no comments about possible side-effects. It was just a "you're X age, so you should be on birth control" kind of comment.
Yikes. I’d consider getting a new doctor for that kind of naked promotion of a drug without ensuring informed consent by volunteering BOTH potential benefit AND potential harms.
Sydney, you always have responses to any issue that are logical and very well thought out. Although this issue doesn't effect me directly, I have a number of female friends who are dealing with serious medical issues in their fifties and I desperately hate this for them. One has Lupus along with other medical issues and others suffer from odd, debilitating, systemic issues that effect their overall general health. This makes me wonder if in their youth, some medical practitioner nonchalantly gave them a drug which, over time, destroyed their general health and yet never made them aware of the risks involved. I've learned now that it's up to all of us to research drugs prescribed to us before we start taking them. I don't know if it's because they don't have the time to explain how the drug works and it's potential side effects, or if they think we're too stupid to understand, but it looks like the least they could do is distribute literature, on the drug they are prescribing and all of the potential side effects. I think the best advice is, if you can avoid taking a drug, if at all possible, then do so and if you are told the drug will just make you a better you, then refuse it if you are not suffering medical issues. 32:09 32:09
It’s because the side affects are incredibly less drastic than having a child. They know what teenagers are mostly doing. I did it, we almost all did by 16.
I had the worst experience with birth control pills. It turned me into a depressed, unstable person who would start crying for no reason. My whole personality changed. I told my doctor and he said I'd get used to it. I threw away the rest of the pills and changed doctors.
Dude ME TOO!! It made me soooo flippin crazy, and my worthless asshole doctor told me that it couldn't be the birth-control that was causing my sudden craziness 🤦🏻♀️. Apparently he thought it made more sense to believe I must've suddenly developed some kind of mental issues. Unfortunately, this is when I was like 19 (I'm 37 now) and I hadn't learned yet that a lot of doctors are assholes and they don't know everything. So, he decided to prescribe me antipsychotics and antidepressants, and my stupid ass took them… Needless to say I was a fucking mess for the better part of a month, and then finally something clicked in my head and I stopped taking all of it, including the birth control, and I was perfectly fine after a day. I was so pissed off and I never went back to that doctor again
As I heard that the pills can change personalities it had me worried my sister might switch after marriage and having kids. She wasn't on them anymore but still.
These kinds of stories are soo common! Luckily for me, I got off the pill after a short time, but I was talked into the progestin iud when I wanted nonhormonal Copper, which i left in for 5 years (different side effects). My friend was madly in love with a guy and got on the pill (even as a natural, herbalist type) and said it made her so crazy and a different person, their relationship tanked.
Yea same thing happened to my ex as soon as she took the pill she became super emotional ended up crying for no reason and got angry over the smallest things I tried to help I even said that if she’s having all these side effects she should come off it never listened but it’s crazy to know that years later I ended up being right not that it matters point is I think a lot of women are going threw this and it’s a shame that doctors are allowing this, honestly tho I’m not shocked I mean I remember when I was young my doctor told me not to workout cuz it will stunt my growth 😂
I remember going to my first gynecologist appointment and telling the doctor that I was waiting till marriage, so I didn't need any birth control pills. I also explained my concerns about the chemical aspects. She smiled, and sent some home with me regardless. I wonder if there's some kinda quota they have to fill 🤔
I remember going to my Dr appointment after giving birth. Unfortunately, my sons father broke up with me during that time. My midwife and doctors kept pushing birth control on me. Even though I told them I wasn't with the father anymore. They were still persistent. Eventually, I had be bitchy and tell them I won't be dating anyone for awhile.
I saw the same family doctor until I aged out at twenty-four (military brat.) He never brought up putting me on birth control and I have never had sex so I didn't bring it up either. I am fortunate my periods, though a bit irregular, are rather mild compared to many of my friends who use birth control for this reason. But I do get pap smears on the suggestion of my mother, due to my maternal side having fibrous, non-cancerous growth in our reproductive organs. Nothing abnormal yet. I think I would have gone along with what he said if he had mentioned it. It has only been as an adult that I found out it is heavily pushed.
Dr. Bruce Lipton said if woman is in great stress during pregnancy, the child can be born with some defects or illness or weaker brain, or cancer....because her body releases the stress hormones and the stress hormones get into her blood and into the fetus. So she need a husband who isnt in stress either who is supportive and she need a good environement.....and also good environement for the child. Because if child doesnt feel loved according to scientists the first years, then the child learnms unwanted habits, subconsciously...these habits continue to adulthood. In adulthood it takes many months to unlearn the habits......It maybe shows why some men or women have smaller brain or not developed brain, emotionally intelectually.....It seems if a man has bigger front of brain, he is probably good, loayal, intelligent......If man is abusive toward women before pregnancy and during pregnancy... then he may have "kids" with weaker brain, smaller forehead or other illnesses. So its better if men treat women wel land women also take care of themselves.
I’m a therapist and whenever I’m treating a woman the first thing I do is look at her medical history, including birth control. We then discuss how hormonal birth control exacerbate mental health symptoms, and alternative safer ways to pregnancy prevention. I can’t tell you how many of my female clients over the years have had their mental health benefit from just getting off BCP/hormonal birth control. Additionally, I have them get blood work done for other deficiencies that can easily be corrected. Just thought I’d share.
I am curious about the safer alternatives- condoms and natural family planning don't get the best rep regarding safety, especially if you look at common use. Are there other methods or ways to increase these odds?
@@johaff8202hey! There’s always the IUD’s (copper and silver without hormones) and hormonal implants that have a lower dose of hormones (doesn’t interfere as much)
Hi, I wasn't aware therapists could order tests (blood work and such) for their patients. I've visited 3 doctors in the past and not one ordered blood work. They checked my head (hair loss) and said its normal to shed. I've had to do my own research on why hairloss could occur and there are so many reasons. Hard water, BC, etc. I had to pay out of pocket to be told I am deficient in vitamin D3. Do you know of tests that test your hormones? If so , what're they called? Tests that test your deficiency in nutrients?
Even better, you should have a full, thorough blood panel ordered. Check the thyroid! Not just the TSH. That number means very little. Check TSH, T4, T3, and check her vitamin D. I was misdiagnosed as bipolar and agoraphobic, over medicated on nearly 2 dozen psych meds for over a DECADE. Turns out, I have Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis. When I moved and found my new psychiatrist in 2011, it was her who looked at me, my records, and actually for the first time in my life, she was the first doctor to actually LISTEN to me. She ordered the bloodwork, and surely enough, I was damn near headed to a coma or death, for my thyroid wasn’t functioning AT ALL, and I was seriously, dangerously Vitamin D deficient. I will always have Generalized Anxiety Disorder with panic attacks, as I’ve had that since childhood (lots of trauma, chaos, changing schools 16 times before I graduated high school, etc). I’ll always have bouts with my depression. But I am NOT bipolar. My body was so sick that it mimicked not only serious mental illnesses, it mimicked dozens of other diseases. My autoimmune thyroid disease went undiagnosed for ALL of my 20s, and some of my 30s (over a decade). I’m not even going to get started on the *25 YEARS* I went ignored, mocked, patronized, dismissed, disrespected, and yes, even verbally abused by countless doctors and other medical professionals- From before the age of 12 until I was 37, no one would listen to me when I told them that I felt like I was literally DYING with my pelvic pain. They said it was all in my head. They asked me why I didn’t just get pregnant and have kids. They asked why I wasn’t married. They asked if I had been molested and/or raped. They looked at me like I was some insane hypochondriac and even, less of a woman, because I told them repeatedly that I *DO NOT GIVE A FUCK* about “preserving my fertility.” I wanted the laparoscopic procedure to formally diagnose Endometriosis. I saw so many doctors! They all refused. They all were fucking condescending, and honestly, 98% of ALL doctors, nurses, etc are just as ignorant and stupid as laypeople are about this *incurable* disease than afflicts *at least* 1 in 10 girls and women across the world. I suspect that number is much higher, as most women go close to 10 years before diagnosis (my 25 years is the most extreme I’ve personally heard of), or they don’t get diagnosed at all. It sucks. I don’t “look sick.” I am friendly, warm, funny, bright, articulate, educated, attractive, young looking, etc. I thought having that diagnosis would help in my journey to receive proper pain management and surgical intervention(s). It has helped, but only just a little. I still have to fight like fkn crazy just to get the tiny ration of opioid meds I am now granted. I have ONE good week out of every month of my life. The rest of the time, my pain is so debilitating that I cannot get out of bed. I am on permanent disability because of all this shit. You didn’t say you are a doctor, but a therapist. So, that means you cannot actually prescribe any medications, and you likely have your masters in psychology. But even if you aren’t able to actually diagnose and treat anyone, you can recognize the signs and refer them to physicians who may be able to help. I shared all of this in the hopes that it might help someone, or maybe even just resonate with another woman who has been treated like absolute shit by our broken healthcare system and most doctors- Because we are women. If a man had, since before the age of 12-13, been in AGONIZING pain in his dick and balls, people would worry! They would care! They sure as shit wouldn’t have to PROVE themselves and their validate their agony over and over and over for the rest of their lives. They absolutely wouldn’t be casually told to have their dick and balls chopped off and thrown in the bin. They would not go undiagnosed for YEARS or DECADES. If Endometriosis were a mans disease, there would very likely be a cure, and everyone would know about the illness. There would be funding for research to find out more information and better treatment options. Yet, people (even Sydney here) deny that women are treated in ways that are unequal to and worse than men. I am living proof. You cannot deny me. These are facts. And to think, as bad as I’ve had it, I am pretty sure that it’s not nearly as bad as women of color have it.
I was placed on birth control at 16 mainly to regulate hormones. During that time, I struggled with weight, GI issues, and depression. 12 years later, I decided to go of it so I could get pregnant and discovered how good I felt. Now 8 years later, I have never gone back and feel “normal” with my body.
The goal of the pill might have been scienticist, but the anti-placebo effect was to fear “voices”, the baby’s brain, the man’s brain etc… what they would say. Pregnancy became a stigma and the pill’s solution to that was schizophrenic existentialism, which really is reducing one’s existence to the immediate time and concerns of oneself down to the no-self with additional antidepressant “quieting” the voices of own.
And the biggest lie they told you there was that it would regulate anything. It does not regulate. It overrides and shuts down your own hormones and hijacks everything that those hormones control (which is way more than just how your cycle is).
it's f-ed up to give hormones to a TEEN. Their bodies haven't reguleted their hormones itself, didn't even had a chance yet! It's almsot same level of f-ed up as giving puberty blockers... And I'm all in for birth control pills because I felt better on them... but I have PCOS and too high testosteron level for my own good without them. I had to be over 18 y.o. to got my first, lighter, pills and I was menstruating 2-4 times a year(!!). To got stronger ones I had to go to the hospital for a few days full of tests... For me it's f-ed up to give hormones to teens overall (I'm not talking about hormones for illnesses, ofc, like hashimoto or something) AND to adult women without blood tests. It's medicine, for f sake, not a candy...
I think maybe there was another reason, besides regulating your hormones that you were asked to go on the pill. Was this a suggestion from your parents?
I remember about 10 years ago my aunt tried convincing me to go on birth control pill and I just knew deep down inside and straight out told her that I did not want to mess with my natural hormones. She got so angry at me. So happy I never took it.
I went on birth control at 19 because the stress of college made my already crazy hormonal issues even crazier. My period was erratic and my cramps were awful. My doctor put me on hormonal bc. Worst mistake of my life! The bc helped with my two issues I was having but caused so many more. I kept having to change bc because of my issues. Then after getting married and going off bc I realized that many of my problems were caused by my bc. I have suffered with migraines since 20 (not long after starting bc). My blood sugar (hypoglycemia) got extremely worse after starting bc. My mood swings were off the charts. And my decision making was greatly impacted (I still made the decision but I do believe bc had an impact).
I remember wanting to get birth control and setting up an appointment just to talk about it with my gynecologist and within two minutes she was writing me a prescription for birth control, and she didn’t even know anything of my past medical history. And I do have a blood disorder, and and blood clots do run in my family. After she wanted a recommendation from my doctor, but she still wrote the prescription. I never picked it up. I wanted nothing to do with it because she obviously didn’t care. They’re just giving out those prescriptions like candy and don’t care about anyone’s personal health.
Honestly, it happens this way all the time for all medications. It has more to do with the limited time of the provider than not caring. If a Dr. Has 5 minutes to spend with you then they don't have time to review your detailed history. It's about risk management much of the time. If the Dr. Feels there's a greater chance of good coming from the Rx then it's likely to be prescribed.
I had a similar experience. My general care doctor prescribed me regular birth control pills but they were really messing me up. So I got a referral to an actual obgyn. I made an appointment to talk about birth control options, including iud's. I had done a lot of reading online before going to the doctors appointment, but most of the articles had the same surface level stuff repeated ad nauseum, so I wanted to talk to a professional about it. And get better information. She couldn't answer any of my questions. Was visibly annoyed by them. And in the end, she just handed me a bunch of brochures -produced by the IUD manufacturers. Needless to say, I didn't get an IUD. Nor did I go back to her. It took several more months of trying other pills and having doctors tell me to just wait a little longer and then the pill on was on wouldn't be effecting me so negatively, before I saw a doctor who actually listened to me. And did the research to get me a pill that worked for me. She is still my doctor. I followed her when she left to start her own practice.
Every man should be informed about the topic. Most prefer to ignore it and push it aside; but it is important if you really care about womans in your life. There is no such a thing as too much knowledge
Why should a gay man who has no intention of raising daughters need to be informed of that? That is useless knowledge for that man. I don't think men need to know anything about menstruation unless their spouses or family members need them to. Yes I agree if you have daughters you should know something about menstruation because it's your job to care for your child's health and that is part of your daughter's health. But saying that all men should know something because it benefits women is sexist. It's not men's job to benefit women.
I believe it's fair to say that if you want to be a properly supportive boyfriend, you should be well versed in the various methods of BC. Not just to be informed, but also to be educated enough that you can have meaningful and detailed discussions about the issue with your partner. Even if at the very least, to be a good listener on the topic. Not only that but it helps your girlfriend to not feel so alone on dealing with the issue itself. But as tell so many others, look into the copper ring IUD (i.e. ParaGard) BEFORE considering chemical treatments. That particular IUD if appropriate ends up being such a hassle free way to address the need without messing with someone's body or their mental state. Beyond that, it'd be nice if society would stop assuming that men would never have interest in having their OWN HBC. I don't know of any male friends of mine who wouldn't at least consider the option. In fact, many of us would be absolutely ELATED to have a higher level of control when it comes to BC. From our side, it can be absolutely scary when the entire issue rests with the responsibility of the woman, making us feel powerless. Nobody wants to deal with barrier protection in a committed relationship when you're also not ready for children. Especially if either or both of you have any allergies to latex or other things.
We are fathers and partners to women. I became as informed as I could on the birth process, and steered my partner away from an uncaring gynecologist who loved c sections to a nurse midwife who provided us with a loving experience. No barriers to any topics.
The nexplanon literally destroyed my uterus and made me very sick, i was on it for almost 10 years and by the start of my 9th year (3rd stick) i started an 8 month long "period". I had been turned away by primary care doctors and gaslit evertime into believing months of bleeding is normal. Eventually i had to get an emergency removal due to fainting caused by significant blood loss. Initially i had it replaced with a new stick but quickly had that removed due to continued bleeding. Its been 3 years since the removal and have been healing since. Those same doctors who gaslit me now keep trying to get me in for monthly b12 shots .Ive been told that i'll need the transfusions for the rest of my life. It's crazy. These contraception's are very dangerous and it needs to be addressed. Thank you for helping to bring these issues to light. We need to be educated.
My wife had something wrong with her where she was not pregnant but randomly lactated. Like that’s not normal when she went to the docs, instead of trying to figure out what was actually going on they just said “take this birth control” without literally even doing one test. Well that wasn’t an acceptable answer so we did some specialist testing elsewhere. Turns out she had a small and benign growth in her brain that pushed on the pituitary gland She’s gotten some other medication to help with that and is good to go. 👍🏻
That's so scary! They should've investigated immediately! Once when I went to an optician's they asked if I was lactating on the medical form, and I laughed at how ridiculous it was, but I had a friend who went for an opticians appointment where they asked if she was lactating, and she was, so they did some tests and found she had cancer! It's insane that they tried to brush your wife off ❤
" Like that’s not normal..." Um, it's NOT normal. WTF are you even saying? You might think twice before frivolously inserting the word "like" into your sentences.
I took BC for 6 months when I was 18. I bled the entire time. I made an appointment with my doctor and she said, “That’s normal.” I was floored! I said, “Uh, bleeding for 6 months doesn’t sound normal to me so I’ll just stop taking this now.” I’m so happy I stopped when I did as my dear friend ended up having a pulmonary embolism at the age of 27 caused by her BC.
My ex had the same problem!! She had a 3 month period and her doctor, with me in the room (it was a codependency, there's no sugar coating it. Young me and her weren't in a healthy place lol) told her "oh yeah that's perfectly normal. There's nothing to worry about." I was like "uh, I'm a guy, and even I know there's nothing normal about that."
This happened to me too, but after I told the doctor, I was put on a bc pill with higher estrogen content. It worked! I felt wonderful for over a decade on that pill. Higher levels of estrogen may cause blood clots though, so it is a risk.
I'm a certified childbirth educator and lactation coach...after 2 of my children I've been offered the pill despite informing my doctor I was breast feeding. They tried to convince me that the pill was not known to interfere with lactation. The actual medical evidence says that it does impact milk supply and let down. It is also linked to increased post partum depression
Given breast feeding has an impact on reproduction already, it would almost be more surprising if there were no effect on lactation from taking the pill.
Maybe the doctor has just had lots of women assume that while breastfeeding, it isn't possible to get pregnant. I've heard that myth before and have had 2 friends who got pregnant anyway, while breastfeeding.
As a lad. I just like to be informed about such things. Understanding culture and the effects of different things like birth control is important for being informed about larger issues and the motivations of different generations of people! Thanks for the information! 😊
It's also a good idea to have some understanding if you plan to ever have a wife, possibly a daughter, or to be sexual active with a woman at all. When I was in labor with my first child, my husband knew more about what was happening with my body than I did, & I was grateful for his understanding! So, kudos for caring & paying attention!
I remember going to my gynaecologist for the first time in my late teens, and the doctor was so rude to me when I refused the pill. She literally laughed at me when I said I wasn't going to be sexually active before marriage. (This was a personal conviction I had for myself) I was shocked at her attitude. She was so manipulative in the way she was trying to get me to change my mind. Manipulating my emotions and using fear to convince me. I looked at her was like, "Yeah no." Here I am almost 15 years later pregnant with my first child, married for 3 years, and never needed birth control until marriage. I got the copper IUD when we got married, and it worked for us for many years. I remembered that woman when I was considering birth control and I'd never been so grateful that I stood up for myself in that moment. No matter how young you are, you can stand up for yourself. I'm sure that as I get closer to birth that there will be more medical professionals who push things on me that I don't need or want, and I plan to handle them in the same way. Follow your convictions (within reason) and don't let people manipulate your emotions.
@@ewidontlikeyou they see it more as an issue lol, like something is wrong with you, they usually see it as like you've been brainwashed by a higher authority or religious figure or something, that's why they see it that way, like you're in bondage and they're free
They tried to put me on the pill at 15 for acne but my mom, who’s a toxicologist, shut that down. It’s scary how frivolously the doctor was with prescribing it.
have they let you try other medication before the pill? cause if they didn't, that's bad practice. OCP is like the last line of acne treatment. But certainly every other medication has side effects, one class can even kill a fetus. I wonder what your mom thought about those.
Yep, I got put on the pill at the same age for particularly painful menstrual cramps and acne. It helped those symptoms but I can't help feeling that shouldn't have been the first resort.
it should be illegal for doctors to receive kickback commissions from pharmaceutical companies. It causes them to give the wrong prescriptions. It can't help but bias. Doctors will say they are scientific and unable tone biased but that's an extremely naive opinion.
Went on birth control a few months before turning 19. Started experiencing anxiety, depression and volatile mood swings for the first time in my life. Put on weight out of nowhere. Hated every second of it, but my doctor insisted it was perfectly safe (though he did offer to switch to another brand). Stopped taking the drug at 20 and never looked back. I'm 36 now.
Mine was the opposite! I lost weight and I didn't get any pimples. No depression, no heavy bleeding or period cramps. I'm glad to this day my doctor gave me the right birth control!
Same. Except I was 17. I tried the oral contraceptive then the ring. No matter how low the hormonal dose, it was like I raged 24/7 and felt out of my head and body. Never once went back. I still get harassed by VA doctors every single appointment I have. They act like I'm not brushing my teeth or something....like it's abnormal to just not want to be on artificial hormones
As a father to two girls, I have a deeply personal stake in this topic. Now that I am more aware of this stuff, I will not so blindly accept these types of drugs for my kids in their teen yrs. It wasn't going to take much though due to my extreme distrust of big pharma after the last few yrs
Just so you do know if you’re daughters ever want some kind of protection, there are types of non hormonal birth control options that you can research just so you don’t feel like you have no choices! Good luck dad!!
Well, as one of those lads just watching, THANK YOU! I'm a new father of a baby daughter, and it terrifies me to think how many dangerous and bad influences there are out there, so many bad things to help her avoid. Good to keep myself informed for the future!
Congratulations Papa! And a friendly welcome to you into parenthood! First things first: read up on sugar is my only advice. And maybe one more thing...because...you are going, no doubt to, get a great deal of advice. Listen politely & breath...smile, say something pleasant if you can...then later do what you and your spouse feel is right. Sugar tip # 1 keep it away for as long as you can up to 3 years or so. After that the metabolic processing in a kid seems to be squared for it much better. Still a tough temptation to educate at any age.
I’ve been a very happy person my whole life , after 4 months of birth control at 17 years old I was so Sad all the time for no reason and so angry and repulsed by people around me. I stopped the pill and felt back to myself within a month. I was so frustrated that anytime I tried to look this up all that came up was things saying there’s “no evidence that birth control negatively effects your mood” like yeah there’s no evidence because it’s not studied enough. It felt very invalidating. Obviously taking hormones is going to effect how you feel
Wow, that's also exactly my experience, I also took it for a few months, I was 16, and stopped it for the same reasons. Negative mood plus weight gain and didn't feel like myself. Never touched that crap again.
As a Dad and husband I want to thank you. Very well spoken. I have forwarded the link to this video to my girls. They’re adults and can make their own better informed decisions.
A lot of us lads have women that we care about, so thank you for allowing us to join and be better informed. I greatly appreciate all of the candid information.
Went to see a gynaecologist for fibroids/cysts in my late thirties. Kept pushing and pushing to get me on birth control pills and I kept refusing, as I look for root cause healing. I eventually discovered eliminating junk food from my diet and eating more animal protein and fats shrunk my fibroids and cyst after a year. After the last ultrasound scan she gave up on me and sent me on my merry way, prescription free. 😊
Lack of iodine in diet causes cysts in the body. You can buy lugol's iodine and apply on the skin. It will absorb what the body needs. I got rid of a cyst on my foot that way.
I had the same experience with a 5cm ovarian cyst that I was able to completely eliminate with OTC supplements- DIM, NAC, and Serrapeptase… I also quit making caffeinated coffee at home (but allowed it once a week or so outside of the house), kept everything else the same. Went to a different gyno a few months after starting the regimen for a second opinion (first gyno said surgery was the only option) and the second gyno didn’t even believe I ever had a cyst. (Cyst was originally discovered via ultrasound, so its existence was undeniable.) Always do your own research! Doctors are incentivized to medicate and operate.
@@visualnativeDoctors are usually NOT incentivized to medicate or to make a surgery. They are incentivized to help as much as they can. And for people it is usually extremely difficult to change their habits and medics observe it on daily basis
I did research on this in HS and came to very similar conclusions about the negatives of birth control, but was told by my professor that questioning birth control is a religious conspiracy with no basis in science, even when I presented him with peer reviewed papers. Ironic.
I had a teacher in high school who was pretty liberal, but she also considered herself a Christian. She advocated for natural family planning and since it was working, her doctor told her she "couldn't get pregnant" (because she wasn't using contraception). It's one of the things that opened my eyes to what scammers doctors can be. And, p.s. she did have a child later.
@@VictorianMetalGirl But he was right, the possibility of fail is way too hight and is exactly why religious folks acept it. I had problems with the pill, but for many women it doesn't happen and provide the very needed safety about family planing. Iuds and male contraception surgery should be more encouraged though.
Hey, as a father, I want to thank you for the information you presented. My 13 year old was at the doctor the other day, and he proscribed the pill to help with her prolonged period pain. I was like, "ok, if it will help." But then I just watched your video about the subject. Then i had my daughter watch your video and let her make the decision. She decided not to take it after the information you presented. It is sad that our doctor didn't present both sides of the issue. We even asked him about some of the side effects you mentioned. Fortunately, we watched your video before she started taking the pill.
Thank God. You have saved your daughter years of pain that many women are still going through. Props to you for being such an amazing Dad! Wish these resources were available 10 years ago.
If your daughter is still experiencing severe menstrual symptoms, I suggest taking her to a homeopath or an acupuncturist. She should be able to gain some relief.
Look into some supplements she can take for period pain. The modern diet is lacking in some areas and pain or other period symptoms can be a symptom of a deficiency in her diet (can also be another underlying medical cause, so be careful). Doctors are discouraged from investigating these simple issues and anything else that might put people off prescription medication. But if you are curious and diligent, you can help her.
First of all, I can't believe men watch this show but then I see that you let your 13 year old make her own decision take birth control. Who needs parents? Perhaps if she wanted to remove her breasts, you'd let her do that too?
Re period pain. When I was 18 I worked with women from South America who said women back home dont eat carbs the day their period started, and the day after. It worked like a charm for 45 years. Why don’t more women know this?!?
If I get enough milk the following month no pain at all / when I was vegan I had the worst pain ever. No pain when I did keto. I don’t think pain is supposed to be part of a period unless something else is out of wack in the body - pain is the symptom something else is wrong
@@ElinWinblad That’s interesting because I had also learned way back when that Chinese women didn’t have a word for menopause because it was either a, they didn’t consume dairy, or be they’ve had a lot of fermented soy in their system for protein.
My story is kind of the opposite. When I hit puberty I sprouted with horrible acne, started binge eating, self harming, EXTREME PMDD that turned me suicidal before my period. I was on so many meds, and when they didn't work I was sent to wilderness therapy and experience the most horrible time of my life. Then I went to the doctor about my acne and got prescribed BC. I cried for days because the depression and anxiety my family has spent 10s of thousands of dollars helping me cure vanished within a week of taking the pill. I feel happy, I can make friends. Therapy works because my hormones arent a problem anymore. I understand birth control isn't a cure-all for everything. It ruins some people but it is a GODSEND for people like me. Always be aware of what you are putting in your body and advocate for yourself!
I just started taking the pill a month ago for cramps and hearing all these stories and stuff is really freaking me out. It was nice to see a positive comment on here. I don’t want to mess anything up but I don’t want to have painful cramps anymore either. If I could throw away the whole period I would.
My wife suffers from debilitating cramps when she isn't on some form of hormones. Like everything else the flippant attitude of medical "professionals" is what ruins people. I've been lucky and had doctors who were interested in balancing actual treatments and not just making money.
@@shadamyandsonamylover All the negative stuff freaks me out too! I know there's merit to some of their concerns, but birth control is life saving for people like me and it's frustrating when it's so blanketly demonized.
@@onlybug3186 yes! Sometimes it feels like you either buy into big pharma or go “alternative” - both of which claim to have disastrous consequences by either side. I’m hopeful that for me…it just works 😅 I don’t want to deal with any drama anymore in my medical life…
I was placed on birth control around age 16 to “regulate my cycle” because I had very irregular periods. Lucky for me, it made me feel crazy and I stopped taking it after a few months. One of the best decisions I’ve made and I didn’t even know it at the time.
i'm sorry about your experience. I started birth control around 28 to fix my backne and chestne. It was very effective, my acne is almost cleared in 1 year. I had no hormonal or mental issues from it, but I had no issues before either. And it made my period flow and cramps lighter, but my period was scarily regular to begin with, just the cramp was annoying. Oh, and I still have good sex drive, and my weight never changed, but my sex drive and weight were good before as well. Overall, it only did good to me.
The not knowing at the time is the scariest part! I didn't realize how insane I felt on birth control until I was off of it. Also, it's interesting how women are put on birth control to "regulate their cycle". Birth control is what MADE my cycle irregular, considering my cycles completely stopped while on birth control.
What does it made you feel crazy mean? That's such a meaningless blanket statement to make. Elaborate, maybe your explanation will be of use to others!
@dian277 You started it at 28. At least you waited after you went through puberty before you started taking birth control. Taking birth control during puberty will permanently damage you, physically and mentally. Mentally might be reversible, but it definitely changes your perception, mood, and emotions. People fall in love while on birth control and while they get off the pill, they lose love interest, it literally messes with hormones and changes you.
This 100% affects the Lads. It had a huge impact on my wife and I’s life. I brought this up to her after seeing Sydney talk about it before, and my wife did a ton of research and got off that garbage a while ago. Never been better. Thanks Syd, and it does matter to the Lads! We want the best for the women in our lives!
Yes. Was going to say this exactly, but I figured someone else would beat me to it. It may not affect us directly as users, but the mental and physical state of the women in our lives is paramount to our well-being too.
Just the libido issue is enough to recommend against the pill. To put it bluntly: The best thing in the world isn't having sex with a woman: It's having sex with a horny woman. This is important as good sex is like magic pixie dust for marriages.
I swear, as a guy, I didn't click this to "get involved", I just automatically jumped to, "oh shit, new studies have revealed some sort of serious side effect". I feel kind of dumb that I never really did dig deeper into it, but that's the scary thing about all the glazed over topics in this world. Lots of misdirection going on with politics in the world.
Being a single father I am very curious about this issue, as I would like my daughter to be as safe and healthy as she can. Thank Sydney for doing this video.
Pack or 50 ovulation tests for $15 … test on morning urine sample day 10 to 15 of cycle. Clearly shows ovulation hormone 24hrs before the event. No need to guess anymore. Very useful information. Of course works best in committed exclusive relationships with no fear of STDs on days where there is no need to use anything since there is no possibility of pregnancy
Best advice you’re gonna get in this hellworld. Be the father you think she needs. I can’t stress the importance of the father difference hard enough. The majority of criminals in the prison system? Single mother homes. Literally all people tend to turn out worse without a proper active father role in their life. Just being there when she needs you? Looking out for her? Being genuinely interested in her life and interests? All go a long way. The further from daddy issues she is, the more ready she will be for life’s challenges. Things are not looking up there, so young girls need their dads to help them be ready.
Use caution with this information as well as its not all full truths and is decently biased. Additionally, some people don't have issues at all. Ie the copper IUD doesn't change hormones and the Mirena IUD (very low levels of progesterone) also has minimal effects. There is just a lot more to it than this to know.
Anything that isn't natural and tampered with by "well meaning " humans should be approached with great caution. If something is a "lesser evil," it's still not good. There are plenty of natural ways to avoid pregnancy like a woman truly knowing her cycle. And very few women know their own cycle apart from when they bleed.
I was not sexually active, but as a teenager every sports physical came with an argument with the doctor about birth control. This started at AGE 12. Thankfully my parents were on my side. Even as an adult, every doctor except for my current one has been extremely insistent. I've never used it, never will.
These are the same types of drs that start pushing for pap smears at age 13. If you have your HPV shots or are not sexually active you have no reason for a pap smear. Creepy.
15 years ago, I was given birth control that I took for only 8 months and stopped because I didn't like how I felt mentally. I am a person who almost never cries. In the first month, I cried every day for no reason. I felt mentally different and not right and went to my doctor 3 months in, and she said that birth control doesn't cause mood changes....
These "doctors" seem to rither be uneducated or pushing out false info on purpose. I have a condition and saw a doctor about it and he said it doesn't affect me mentally yet EVERYWHERE online reports otherwise, as well as other doctors. How do these people get these jobs??
My mom made me go on birth control when I went to basic training because she was convinced I'd get SA'ed. I did not. Then I stopped using it a year or so later because my period had always been perfectly regular, and I wasn't seeing anyone. My mom was definitely passive aggressive with me about it, but there was literally no reason to go messing with my natural hormones, and I'm so glad I held my ground.
Even weirder is there is the morning after pill for that. You don't need to be on a hormonal pill just for the 1 in a million chance something happens. But she was brainwashed as much as we all were to think its a miracle drug and just ignore the side effects.
Same thing happened to me, but I was 13 and had a boyfriend (we never did anything) and my mother forced me onto birth control. Stopped taking it after a month because it made me suicidal.
@@Brownsheep10 I know they (our moms) were probably doing it out of some genuine sense of worry and whatnot, but it still gets me. The message being sent is that you don't trust me enough to believe that I'll make responsible decisions and good choices for myself.
I started birth control right before getting married at 21 years old. I went from being fun-loving and easy-going to someone who cried every time he went out with friends. It was awful. My husband was so sweet, but I’m sure he was second-guessing what he had just done to himself 😂 After 8 months, I stopped taking it, and it felt like I had just stepped out of a fog. I had no idea how much it had been affecting me until then. I was shocked - and in many ways relieved! Haha. Thankfully, we have four beautiful children now, and I’ve found ways around ever taking the pill again.
I was on the pill for years and then again after having a baby and that’s when I realized all the side effects are from the actual pill. Doctors are too quick to prescribe it with zero questions about your health. I took myself off and refuse any of it.
Isn't this a US issue? In Europe all the girls (at least that I knew) were informed about the side effects and majority chose different type of contr. such as a condom. To me it sounds like healthcare in the US is about squeezing more long term profits rather than ... sorting out the problem.
@@janchovanec8624apparently it is. We had a major moral panic from about the early 80s to the early 2010s about combatting teen pregnancy. The pill was seen as a preferred means because teens were thought to be too impulsive and dumb for condoms.
@janchova3c8624 you're acting as uf Europe was a country. Girl, Europe where? I'm from Germany and doctors here give away prescriptions for the pill like candy, even to literal children.
I'm one of the people that BC has significantly helped. I was dealing with crippling menstural cycles, mood swings that literally ran my life, and a number of other hormonal related issues. I doubt that I'll stop taking it. However, my best friend had a horrible time going on it, and dealt with heightened depression and harmful thoughts. Like all medical practices, it's not for everyone and can be harmful for the wrong person.
As a teenager, my doctor suggested I go on the pill but since I wasn't "active" I didn't really see the point, when I said no they got really defensive and told me that if I didn't I would ruin my life if I got pregnant. I was so confused why they were pushing it so hard, and I felt uneasy leaving there after arguing that I didn't need it. Now 10 years later hearing all of this, I'm so glad I've never been on it, it sounds like an absolute nightmare. The fact that the doctor tried to make me go on it without telling me any of the side affects is also super shady imo.
I had a similar moment with a doctor. She suggested I go on the pill (I forget why), I said no because I saw no reason for it & she got defensive & fought me on it. I have no regrets about my choice
What the hell for NO REASON??? I was forced to at age 14 because I have epilepsy and when I'd have my period & loose my seizure medications I had life threatening ones. I stayed on it until around six months ago and wish I did sooner and I'm pist off at the doctor's who FORCED ME to do it because I didn't want to and now I'm a 23 yr old VIRGIN who can't even have a period...
@@JusticeGypsy Yep, for no reason. I didn't have any medical conditions, and I wasn't putting myself in a position to get pregnant, their only reason was "it will stop your period, and what if you get r*ped!!!". Imagine trying to scare a little girl like that just to get money from putting her on medication she doesn't need
Splitting men, woman, for sake of goal for depopulation on illusion of climate change for of control population all indecisive elites one world government WEF....
@@JusticeGypsy oh my. Wonder what percentage are sterilised by it. Said for a while, birth control uses control, like pest control. But directed at humans.
I personally agree. I am in your age bracket Sydney. As a teenager my period was so erratic. Instead of finding out why, my doctor put me on hormonal birth control to make my cycle more "normal". My cycle never got better it got worse. One day after rushing to the ER as a young teen, they found out I had a cyst on my ovary. The cause...birth control that I was prescribed by my doctor. My mother and I were never told about the long term effects just that it would "fix" my problem. When I went into surgery for them to remove the cyst. The surgeon found out that my fallopian tube was twisted backwards. That is why my cycle was always messed up. If my doctor would have done a better job instead of just prescribing me medication then I would have had a different story to tell. I would have never had to be on them. You would think I would learn my lesson. Nope. Fast forward to a older 20 year old self. I was prescribed birth control again to "regulate" my system. My doctor did not say anything about how I would eventually have a very heavy, painful cycle for 7 weeks straight. The doctors thought that I had a rare blood disease. After so many more blood tests and biopsy I was told it was caused from my birth control that I was prescribed. As a personal decision I have sworn off birth control since. Now in my late 30s my cycle is as normal as it is going to get. Not painful, not ridiculously long. Just manageable. Now as a Mom of two girls you bet I will be educating them more on their choices. I normally don't comment, but I am really glad you are addressing this. Women need to be told more information. Sometimes as a patient sometimes you forget to ask. Sorry for the long book.
Any body remember when you could actually say and write the term "s***ide when having a discussion about people killing themselves? Softening the action by calling it "self deletion" is scary and pathetic. It's like when they quit calling the mental stresses of combat "shell shock" and changed it to "combat fatigue" and then changed it to "PTSD." Changing the language reduces the appearance of the severity of the situation, leaving those suffering poorly responded to.
Agree on principle but UA-cam can take down the video. It’s better to have this up with the message getting out there than the video removed cause of a word.
There's a lot of that right now. i have noticed it especially after these last few years. Before, I could easily make a comment or an innocent joke, but now it seems I'm constantly getting a warning when I post anything online that what I say may offend someone or break some rule. I feel like, if I ever started my own UA-cam channel, I'd end up banned after 5 seconds. I love watching true crime-channels and let me tell you; it's not the same when the person telling the story keeps tiptoeing around the subject and changing out words that could get them banned or demonetized otherwise. That said, it's all done on purpose.. They're teaching us so self-censor so that we won't talk about anything the powers-that-shouldn't-be don't want us to talk about.
To be fair, as a PTSD sufferer, I can tell you that from a diagnostic and psychological point of view, the change in name was actually very appropriate and necessary. The military certainly liked the name change because it didn’t sound as bad as shell shock - but the real reason it changed to PTSD is because we learned trauma disorder isn’t limited to war vets. In fact, most PTSD comes from auto accidents. It wouldn’t make sense to diagnose someone with “battle fatigue” after getting kidnapped or being in a car crash. Trauma of any kind can cause PTSD, not just war. Now we’re learning that there are also different types of PTSD - such as “Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder” - which is an even more extreme form of the disorder and comes from repeated, long term trauma. (Such as child abuse) However, I 1,000% agree with your main point about language manipulation. Absolutely. ..and as someone who has witnessed a lot of suicide, it infuriates me that we came all this way to be more open to discussing mental health, only to start tiptoeing around it and avoiding it again. We’re regressing SO fast right now.
I was on the pill for a little less than a year. During that period my entire personality changed. I'm not talking about depression here, I'm talking extreme paranoia and anxiety to the point where I couldn't get out of my room to go to the bathroom. I had to literally be escorted because *something bad might happen to me*. I couldn't walk in the dark and God forbid I watch something even remotely scary (I was a horror fan before that). My taste in music also changed! I gained so much weight and I had cellulite even on my forearms. In the end, I developed acute pancreatitis and had to be hospitalised. That's when I stopped the pill. Everything went away immediately. I regained my personality back and lost all the extra weight. Sadly, I also lost more than half of my hair. Later I learned pharmaceutical company was getting sued because women died because of this pill. Thanks a lot...
I had something similar happen. Except I lost a lot of weight, and had the kind of anxiety where I couldn’t go anywhere outside by myself because I felt like the world was ending. I also couldn’t eat food without an anxiety attack of the same “the world is ending” level. As soon as I stopped taking the pill my weight stopped dropping and I was able to start going outside on my own.
Interesting thing. Birth control pills made me feel great and helped my acne, period pain etc. But my sister feels insane, gets severe cystic acne, hives, and generally unwell. So even in the same family, the results can vary greatly.
I was on 2 separate kinds in the 14 years I took BC. The first kind was fine, no real side effects. The last year I was on it, my doctor put me on a new kind and it was absolute hell. I’m still recovering from it after being off about a year. My point is - I agree with you. There’s so much variation, even among the pills prescribed.
That's modern medicine for you: unpredictable results but you give it to everyone regardless. Don't forget to get boosted, it might be good for you... Honestly, who knows?! It literally could!
I have the same experience. Pills cleared my acne and my period only hurts a little bit now. Before it was literal hell I would be screaming in pain and bleeding like I was about to die. I know that people sometimes have bad side effects but screaming that birth control is bad is ridiculous. If you feel bad then just switch to different pills or find something else. We still need to use some kind of birth control because almost no one wants 10 kids and pregnancy can destroy your body as well.
@@alicja5602 no one is "screaming that birth control is bad", what we're saying is that if you see someone eat Skittles, you'll go "these are bad for your teeth and did you know that some of them apparently give cancers?!"... The pill is literally less scrutinized than fµcking Skittles... That's the issue.
@@alicja5602 You might want to talk to your doctor to see if you have a health issue that caused periods like that, if you haven't already. I know the Pill can help with some of them, and not much else is researched for treating them, but if nothing else, it's good to know your body, and that medical history could be important to someone else in your family.
The weight gain I was told was normal. After 20 years of being on the pill I chose to come off it. In 4 months I lost 25lbs by doing absolutely nothing different. The only way I could lose weight while on the pill was starving myself and working out like a psycho and I could never lose anything more than 10-15 lbs of water weight. We shall see where this goes! For once I have some high hopes in getting to a healthier point.
This was one of the things that kept me away from it when I was young. All of my friends and classmates I knew who were taking it told me it had caused them to gain weight and because I was bulimic as a teen, I was terrified of gaining even 1 lb I ended up trying it when I was about 22 and it immediately turned me into a psycho. I felt suicidal and homicidal rage and stopped taking it after 9 days. Though I felt a little bit better within a couple days, it took months before I felt back to normal so I have never been willing to risk trying any form of hormonal bc again and glad I haven't. I have a history of severe depression and suicidal thoughts + mild psychosis and imo it's probably extremely risky to give bc to women with a history of severe mental health issues like mine and should at least be very closely monitored in that situation
@@BejitaConnor you need to stop believing in the calories in vs calories out, it doesn’t work like that in real life, hormones cause weight gain or weight loss regardless of nutrition; so as far that it is acquired. If you eat 3000-3500 calories of potatoes you’re gonna be thin, eat the same calories of cheese, not so much.
@@dawseyboy1 Nope, that's just scientifically false. You are not above the law of thermodynamics. Especially potatoes would get you EXTRA fat since they are carbohydrates. Man there's a lot of fucking stupid people on the internet, unbelievable.
I was on the pill for a little over a year when I was newly married and when I got off the medicine I remember just feeling actually happy. It was just shocking how happy I felt for “No reason “
I have a question for you though...so since I have fibroids, that won't effect me from having a baby, yet the birth control, helps with period pain, will I be okay without it? ( Not active. )
I'm not a person who comments often on videos, but this video needed a comment. I am so thankful people are talking about this! I went on birth control the first month of my marriage and was weepy ALL THE TIME. I am not that person. I got off of it, only had a month of birth control and don't have any hormone issues like so many of my friends and family who started taking it in high school. Everything about it breaks my heart.
I’m a man who works in the health care industry and have been working with and educating my clients for years on the negative effects of hormonal birth control and without exception, every woman who has gone off of birth control once they understand what it is doing to their bodies has been incredibly grateful for the change.
I took it 10 years and i am almost 7 years without it and i still am a messy ball of weird feelings, getting very depressiv around my period and much more. Is there anything i can do to detox it or.... or is it just who i am? I cant imagine living like this for more years. Its a unnecessary roller coaster of selfsabotaging abuse. Help.
Instead of advising women about negative effect of birth control, it is men who should be advised about the benefits of the "snip". Women do not get pregnant out of thin air.
@@viovalentine273Stop drinking coffee, eating sugar and eat a high fat diet with alot of meat and if that doesn’t work try excluding gluten. And workout, but specifically do strength training, avoid LISS cardio. My wife is well versed in these subjects and these worked great for her, completely getting rid of her PMDD and we got pregnant really fast after years of trying. If you were Swedish I’d recommend the book Fertilitetsförståelse by Jenny ”Vulverine” Koos
As someone that also worked in both medical and psychological health care, I think this blanket statement is suspect. Hormones are highly complex and vary between race, sex, age and even diet. Some women require estrogen and progestin to stabilize their health/biology. This kind of statement is dangerous, especially without any context or explanation.
It's controversial because people have made it a political issue rather than a health-based one. HBC works for some ladies, but I'd argue for a lot of us, it is catastrophic long term.
I would try to discourage the use of it because unless it was for health related reasons. I knew someone who took it because she had an irregular period schedule and would get horrible periods every few months. Apparently it helped her not have horrible pain. On the other hand, when my girlfriend in 2010 started taking it, I felt like it was contributing to obvious changes in behavior and it almost changed her entire personality. Everyone essentially just blamed it on "discovering themselves" back then.
@@masterachelesMy Sister In Law took it, had "personality changes" and other symptoms from trying different kinds before quitting and got back to normal. I decided at that time to use only non-hormonal methods. Hubby says he supports me trying them and says I'm a different person than his sister but I told him, "I don't want to mess with anything in how God created my body unless absolutely necessary. I have no health problems besides the common cold. I won't throw a wrench in that nor will I ask that of you." Our methods: Pull Out, cycle tracking, barrier, and avoiding intercourse at times. I requested of him that he not get a V unless he really wants to but it would make me sad if he did....even though I support his choice. I made it clear I will not get any surgery for the purpose of birth control either. 19 years married and all 4 of our kids are planned...no surprises.
I was 19 when I tried the birth control pill for the first time. I was having trouble regulating my periods and was told this would help. I took the first 7 doses and by the end of the week, I knew something wasn't right. I felt as though my brain was being taken out and put in a blender. My thoughts were different, I was screaming and crying over simple things. I felt like I had no control over my own mind. I quit immediately and have never tried and other form of birth control since.
I was on birth control off and on through high school and college for various reasons. I stayed on it consistently once I got married. When my husband and I decided to try to have kids, I thought it would be as simple and just quitting the pill. It was not. My hormones were so completely messed up that I stopped having periods, and the few times I would get a period I wasn’t ovulating. It took two years and two doctors to figure it out, and I had pretty much resigned myself to believe I couldn’t get pregnant. By the grace of God, I am six months along now! But I will never, ever take birth control again. And if I do have a daughter one day I will encourage her to stay away from it too. It causes too much grief, and there are way too many risks for it to be worth it.
This is exactly what happened to my best friend. Before starting the pill, her periods were like clockwork. When she tried getting off it to have kids, she had irregular periods and stopped ovulating. She went through two years of infertility and medical intervention, but thankfully is about to give birth to her first child.
I took 2 years to get pregnant after being on the pill for 7 years (thankful it was not longer). But when I tried to breastfeed there was more hormonal havoc and it was a miserable experience. I was glad to find an alternative health provider who balanced out those hormones... my second pregnancy (and lactation) was a much better experience.
I went on the pill when I was 12 because I had a painful menstruation. I got off when I was about 24 and it felt like an awakening. For the first time in my life I actually felt how I was naturally supposed to feel and it improved my life significantly. Without realizing I felt numb all throughout my teenage years. I never went back on.
@@airgin3000 this was in the early 90s and it was extremely common to just get prescribed the pill (in the Netherlands). I didn’t know the side effects or anything about it. Everyone just told me it was fine to use.
My cousin was on bc since about 18 yrs old? By the time she was 30 she was extremely overweight, completely shut down romantically, and depressed ans angry as well as diabetic. She decided to come off bc. After an insane withdrawal period she lost a large amount of Weight, reversed her diabetes, and got a boyfriend. Her depression and anger issues are minimal now she's pretty happy. We couldn't believe the change
diabetes is irreversible, if you get over the threshold thats it your diabetic for life so that part I don't believe you, my problem with your comment is people reading this and believing without verification, don't spread wrong information
Thank you for this episode! I took "the pill" for almost 10 years. I stopped cold turkey when I couldn't handle the "insane" feeling anymore. Ten years, and two kids later, I still suffer from hormonal surges and have to recognize them for what they are. I will not let my children take hormones or zombie pills.
I sooo feel you on this one! I wandered around stuck in a state of unhinged pubertal thoughts. Either it was wrong with everyone around me or I was the problem. So I had enough and quit could turkey and went through puberty once again at 24 years old.
@@darthmetalus7469Because 1) if you are a teenager, you are , technically, still pretty much a kid, and 2) those ghastly pills are prescribed as "period regulators" or even acne control by some doctors, even if you are not sexually active.
I really wonder where this pressure comes from. I never took these pills and nobody ever enquired about it as it is a very private matter. How could random people pressure you into something like this unless you decide to openly discuss this topic with them? I only ever had one "colleague" advising me to get on them and I simply ignored her.
When I was a young preteen and I heard that my mum helped someone get off those medicines, I asked her why can't women just take those pills instead if they don't want any more children. My mum explained to me the side effects of those medicines early on without sugar coating it. Thank the lord I got a resourceful mum who keeps her ear on the ground about the common public talk about this stuff. Shoutout to her.
Seriously appreciate you shining light on this topic. I was put on it at 16 to "regulate cycles" but I already had normal cycles, 28 every month. Within a year, I had crippling anxiety attacks. By 20 I learned to live with them and self medicated to ease how severe it was when out and about. And at 23 I stopped taking it for no reason aside from the price increasing by $45 a pack. In protest, I stopped. And 2 weeks later I stopped having anxiety attacks. I lived in horrible fear for years, through what should have been years that I spent socializing and living normally, because of the pill. 6 years of infertility 3 years after I stopped it that no one could explain. I have yet to meet a woman who is glad to be on the pill and feels good all the time on it.
Hello, I am here. I've taken contraceptive pill from 16-31, stoped to get pregnant, had o beautiful boy, breastfed him for 2 years and 4 months, then had a gorgeous baby girl, breastfed her for 2 years and 8 months. I don't want more babies, so I'm back with the pill. No side effects at all.
@@LeticiaAGentil I never said women who are happy with it don't exist. I said I've yet to meet one who has been satisfied with the decision. Since we've never met, my statement stands. I'm glad it works for you, truly. It doesn't for far more of us.
@lianebuonamici6288 hello, I didn't mean to correct any of your statements, I just introduced myself as a woman who never had side effects while using the pill, but I must say the one I take has a micro dosage.
Have ypu ever looked into the side effects for the male birth control that was once tested? They actually suspended the study because they felt that the side effects (similar to those in women) were too harsh. You're experie ce is geeat, but most women have a different experienxe. Luckily birth control has been studied long enough for the science to state that some even die because of bc.
My partner and I are currently going through IVF and she is really struggling. She's been on the pill since a doctor put her on it at as soon as she started menstruating, and it was only this year when she stopped taking it to fall pregnant that we discovered she had fertility problems. Maybe the pill itself caused the issue, we don't know, what we do know is that those problems would have been diagnosed well over a decade ago if the symptoms weren't covered up by the pill. She has suffered through depression all her life because of that pill and now we've learned that it stopped her getting treatment for her fertility issues the entire time as well. We sincerely hope that at the very least this pill stops being handed to children like lollies.
I friend of mine has a 15 yo daughter and she was having a lot of mood swings and hormone issues when she first started her cycles at 14. Her doctor decided to put the girl on the pill to control the swings. It has been quite the struggle for her and her Mom. My wife had a hard time getting pregnant after she took the pill for 10 yrs and had very screwed up menstruation cycles for the next 30 years. There were several times she thought she had gone into menopause before she was 40 only to start having a period after 18 months of not having one. She also suspects the pill had some impact.
Maybe that's the goal of the pill after all? I hear a lot about women past their 30s having fertility problems. From all I read from the past, problems in conceiving is really a new thing.
@@ThZuaoLow sperm counts are also a new thing from PFOS in the water and also from birth control hormones in the water supply-there’s no way for water treatment facilities to filter them out, so even if you discontinue the Pill, you’re still getting it in the water, even in the shower.
Please make more of this sort of content, this should be required viewing in school systems globally, not only for the information you provide, but the candor in which you deliver it.
I stopped taking my BC when I turned 18. It was because I didn't have insurance anymore so I didn't want to spend the money on it. I am married, so I wasn't as worried about it. But I did immediately notice a change in my cycle. I have PCOS and while on the pill I had such severely painful periods that I would spend hours in the nurses office in school. When I stopped the pill, the frequency of those debilitating periods dropped to maybe once a year. It was a relief. Ask lots of questions ladies, if you think the pill is hurting you, discuss it with your doctor. Don't let them discredit your concerns! If they blow you off, go to a different doctor that will actually discuss your concerns. Do that with all your medications, not just BC
@tothewoods190 I'm glad it worked for you! The cramps I had were so bad, and I'm thankful they're rare for me now. Every woman's body is different, so what worked for me won't work for everyone and what worked for you won't work for everyone. I'm thankful that you found something that limits that awful pain though. Have a great day 😀
Pcos is a result in insulin resistance which is fixed by a low carb diet, there’s a reason keto got soo big, women with pcos who were told they were infertile had surprise pregnancies, ‘ketobabies’ is a thing, we aren’t meant to consume even half of the carbs we do, look at pics of our ancestors, they were trim and fit, look at beaches back in the 70’s and beyond, maybe one far person, now look at modern times…
I was on birth control from 17 to 21. It made me depressed and very emotional. My body did weird things. My body was a mess after I stopped taking it but my depression stopped. My head cleared and I broke up with the guy I had been dating the whole time I was taking the pill. I had painful periods. I skipped periods. When I tried to get pregnant, my doctor said that I didn’t ovulate every month. It took me a year to get pregnant. After I gave birth and nursed, my body healed. I started having regular periods and no more pain.
At some point I started having painful, but regular periods as well. Before I gave a birth. But I have never taking any kind of pills. And it’s hard to get pregnant after being on pills. On average 1-2 years. I heard that from women as well. But doctors don’t talk about it . Unless they have been asked. I feel Like doctors gets extra in their pockets for the selling those pills… Remember , I just gave a birth and in 6 weeks visit doctor already prescribed me a pill… without me even mention anything … well, just in case if you change your mind... This minute I realized something is not right …
Thank you for allowing us dudes to just vibe, Sydney. Though I will say, some of us DO benefit from this video, because we have wives and daughters who this affects. Even if it doesn't affect my body, it affects those closest to me.
I've been on a combined pill for over 10 years and it's been nothing but good for me. No crazy mood swings and my painful periods are gone. Can't say anything bad about it. I see my GP every 6 months to renew my prescription and we've been monitoring my health e.g. blood pressure, weight etc. And, it's been all good.
Something I realise is that we’re discussing something that may or may not affect us mentally or psychologically. Coming from us. Imagine if I ‘drink socially’ and report that it’s been great for me. On the flip, imagine my list of exes, friends that deleted my number…and people who sponge drinks off me, etc what I’m saying is that we often have no clue how something has affected us, meanwhile other people (who aren’t even ‘close’ to us do).
The first three minutes of this video absolutely nails it. Choice, yes. INFORMED choice. And what women often have is anything but that - not for lack of choice, but for lack of information and a genuine understanding of their options. This is true with contraception, abortion, and labor and birth as well. Let’s empower women to make INFORMED choices, not protect them from the uncomfortable bits and just herd them toward the choices other people approve for them. Thank you!
THIS. What frustrates me so much about pro choice rhetoric is there doesnt seem to be enough disscussion about what the consequences of the choices women are pushed to make. Are they really educated about all the risks of abortion and birth control? Instead of covering up the icky parts, show the consequences straight, no sugar coating. It's not empowering if it's not an informed choice.
@@ga6589 It’s absolutely terrible for women, society, and nature it should be banned. The muh whamin argument doesn’t work and is irrelevant that it’s for women. It’s an evil drug that’s just as bad as any hardcore drug it just doesn’t get you high. Yet the ones that do are banned because we all know they’re bad and evil. The only reason this isn’t is because of the muh whamin feminist nonsense which has done nothing but harm women. Just as Eisenhower warned about the military-industrial complex and the dangers of it this falls under it. No drugs, no big pharma period.
This is important to all men who have women in their lives, whether it is partner, daughter, sister, or just a friend. Understanding what each other goes through physically and mentally is always good.
I remember discussions I had around the time the male pill trial happened. A few female friends said it was great that maybe they wouldn't be having to take the pill any longer--they would just force their male partners to. When I mentioned how the trial ended with most men sinking into depression and such, their response was, "Yeah now they know what it feels like to be on the pill." So my follow up was, "Then why are we allowing ANYBODY to take these?" It's societal brain damage that has created the continuing forced reliance/usage of medication.
That's actually quite horrible and shows they don't care for their male partners at all. The moment I heard of the male birth control causing depression I told my husband to never take it under any circumstances.
Because when women feel pain or discomfort, especially in relation to gynecological issues, doctors just brush it off. I've just recently read a woman had her iud had punctured her womb and lodged somewhere near the ovaries (incorrectly inserted) and was walking in pain for a few days, dismissed by all the doctors, until finally getting emergency surgery. This might be quite extreme but also how many times I've heard women having great pains from endometriosis and also being dismissed by the doctors. Or how often women after talking hormonal bc develop life-threatening blood clots - the relatively not uncommon and known side effect, and yet it's seen as acceptable to put women in such a risk, just so that they be rendered temporary sterile. And many men aren't even aware on the effects on the female body the hormonal contraception has, or some others as well, such as iud. While they can't themselves stand any slight discomfort but expect women to handle it all - all the difficulties - in their own bodies. It's the same also with pregnancy and delivery, it's a great effort for a female body which many don't appreciate enough and don't think about it as a consequence of also their own actions.
@@lovetobe6118 It was quite horrible, and pretty revealing to me at the time--both in terms of how these friends treated people around them, and also just how pervasion and manipulative some of these societal forces can be. That as a person you could become convinced somebody else's suffering is justifiable and completely palatable. For at least one of them, I didn't really continue associating with them. For the 1-2 others who expressed something similar, I like to give them the benefit of the doubt, since it was in college and everybody can be dumb at that age. But maybe I'm just the kind of person who'd be willing to make whatever lifestyle changes needed to allow the ones I love to not have to be continuously medicated.
@@joane24 Your solution to the problems women face is to spread more pain and suffering onto other people? That doesn't solve any of the problems you've outlined--disregarding the numerous sweeping generalizations you've made. The solution to ending the suffering you're talking about is to make people more informed and stop allowing doctors to push potentially harmful pharmaceuticals onto everybody by deliberately ignoring their patients. Neither of those things requires deliberately, maliciously, counter-intuitively, insanely punishing whoever you've deemed worthy of punishment.
Birth control is one of the single best things that ever happened to women collectively. It must always be available, accessible and an absolute and unconditional choice. Some women have side effects and some dont. If you dont like it, just dont use it. Dont get in the way of other women's dignity, freedom and overall well-being. The absolute best for women is allowing women to CHOOSE
I second this!!!! You dont even have to watch to tell this is a fearmongering video, just read the comments! Sexual education is so important, way too many people saying “i didnt know x 🤡”
I had the non hormonal IUD for a decade and it was great. After having my kid, I went on the pill and within a few months it totally messed me up. Heart palpitations, shortness of breath, dizziness, nausea, vertigo so bad that I fell and am still a year later dealing with the injury and recovering. I actually fell twice. The second was literally straight back like a board onto the ground while getting into the car. My husband immediately threw away the pills. And now I am cured of the heart issue, dizziness, and vertigo. It’s so bad what that pill does.
I am sorry if I sound inconsiderate. Why did not you tak the UID again? Is there something preventing you from taking it after you have kids? I have no idea but i am interested in this topic...
16 years ago, one of my best friends 15 year old sister hanged herself from the balcony with an extension cord. Everyone was shocked because she was a smart, likable, happy, talented, and beautiful girl. Her doctor had started her on birth control to help with acne. Both her physical and mental health suddenly declined and no one knew why or how to help her in time. It devastated so many people.
... "Everyone was shocked because she was a smart, likable, happy, talented, and beautiful girl." "... she was a smart, likable, happy, talented, and beautiful girl..." "...smart, likable, happy, talented, and beautiful..." Can't tell you the number of times I've heard this exact list at a funeral of a friend who finally succeeded in offing themselves. And the fact that ya'll ALWAYS put "happy" in the list is infinitely amusing...
@@Othique Brother, it was really unnecessary for you to let everyone know you disapprove of cliché adjectives. This is a short form comment among thousands of others that I typed in half a minute, not her obituary. This video evoked my memory of her and I wanted to share it with others who have been affected.
@@Focus_23 No, I think its necessary to let anyone unaffected by mental illness know that their bullshit list of what makes life "worth it" is actually really harmful to people suffering with suicidal ideation. It needs to stop being said. It ESPECIALLY needs to not be said on public platforms.
@@rebeccaknudsen6190 I didn't say anything about being happy. Happiness consistents of very small moments in time. Completely unrelated to having to live every day with the realisation that the world we live in is pretty f*cked up.
I'm a male, and for many years thought the pill was great now in my thirties and my fiance and i have been trying to get pregnant for 4 years i have somewhat blame the pill/ bar inserted into the upper arm for causing long term effects on females and now look back to my younger self and know I could have easily been more careful without relying on the female to take the pill. I believe it's a large reason our birth rate in most countries is on the steep decline. But that's just my two cents.
Thank you for recognizing you could have been more responsible rather than expecting women to damage their bodies. The male reporoductive system is far more simple than female's, but few men are willing to take be responsible. It's easier to poison the woman and if she gets pregnant, expect her to murder her child.
Agreed it took me a year to get pregnant after being on birth control for 15 years and it took my friend two years it definitely delays it more for some people than what they say when they put you on it
The first time I went to a gynecologist, after the exam she was sitting at her desk and asked me "Are you on the Pill?" I said No, so she then asked "Would you like to go on it?" As she spoke those words, she quickly grabbed her script pad and a pen and by the end of the sentence she was already starting to write a prescription, before even giving me a chance to answer! I politely told her no thank you, I don't have a boyfriend and am not sexually active so I didn't feel I needed it. She then said "Fine." with obvious annoyance in her voice, letting go of the pen and scripts. I didn't understand at the time why she was so quick to try to give me a prescription and then pissed when I declined. Years later I found out that doctors sometimes got perks and bonuses from pharmaceutical companies if they prescribed their drugs. Maybe I unwittingly deprived her of a perk? Anyway, I never did go on the Pill, and when I hear stuff like on this video I'm glad I didn't take it.
Thank you for this! As a health teacher, I have challenged teenagers to think about big pharma and government in the regulation of hormone use in males and females. It's illegal for men and boys to take hormones to build their bodies and enhance athletic performance, while women are encouraged to take hormones mainly to suppress their reproductive systems. So glad you mentioned this.
Interesting. Are you opposed to everything big pharma puts out? Should we all just die at age 40 and forget about blood pressure medications, cholesterol medications, let alone Viagra, Cialis and everything else. This is a thinly veiled attempt to subjugate women. Don’t fall for it.
I don't think steroids are the best example, kids do not rationalise things the same way adults do. They'll think, "well, one is legal, and the other is illegal." That means different things to children and adults. Should use the hormones kids are taking to "change" their gender as an example, and also, not all PEDs that utilise hormones are illegal. MK-677 is a growth hormone secretagogue, it's pretty much legal everywhere, can buy it online. Many believe it's a SARM, but it's not, plus, it's not the only example. Another good example would be opiates and how badly they effect people's lives. Even adults are often unaware how bad they are, and often have their lives ruined by them, and they're legal, just like the pill. To kids, the pill and steroids are too dissimilar for the message to have any impact. Should maybe start by explaining how something like alcohol/nicotine, the biggest drug-related killers in the world, are completely legal. Whereas cannabis, something that's illegal in most places, has never killed anybody. This would be a good way to get kids to rationalise the "legal/illegal" thing the way you want them to. Making a direct comparison right off the bat will leave a lot of kids lost.
@@MsMeyarait might temporarily increase the risk of breast cancer, but the risk goes away when you’re not taking it. However I don’t think cancer is a reason to avoid birth control because it actually significantly decreases the risk of ovarian and endometrial cancer!
Yes but anyone over 18 can obtain a vasectomy. There's also the legality of Viagra and penis enlargements. It is also legal for men to be misogynistic.
I stopped taking the pill in my early twenties because of the emotional toll these hormones put my brain through. I started crying uncontrollably for no reason, wanted to scratch off my face and jump off the roof. I called my family and hung out with them for a weekend until it passed. I stopped taking the pill after that and have not had such a severe mood swing since.
Exactly the same here… simply that unfortunately I took it till my late twenties. Wouldn’t recommend it to anyone and will NOT allow my future daughter to take it as easily as I’ve been given it (at 14 years young 🙈).
I must state, I'm one of those women that hormonal BC actually helped. But my doctor was candid about the effects of hormone-affecting medicines. But considering how insane way my internal plumping was acting, I was willing to take the risk. Its still not perfect, but compared to what it was, I'm definitely happier. However I recognize that hormonal treatment isn't great for everyone, and obgyns need to give us girls all the choices along with downsides rather than just shoving the pill into some teen's hand and tell them to figure it out...
Great to see an opinion like this coming from a woman, since I was afraid sharing the same sentiment, as a man. Multiple girl/women in my vicinity took it. Some was prescribed since they were 13 yo because issues, others took it as a contraceptive. Majority of them had no issue with it, some had different side effects, what vanished with changed the brand/generation of medication. My ex took it before me, then with me and she had a nice boy without problem at 37 or so. Many women whom I talk with seems totally uneducated about the topic and having the "common fear/knowledge" about it from the '80s first generations medication from their mom or other relative/friend. I think the discussions are very much needed and we have to come clear about all of the sides. There are so many options now, I dont think it sohuld be an issue to chose the preferred one
I didn't have any issues with being on it, but I was so glad to come off it. I think I was given it too easily and when I told my doctor I wanted to come off it and I was having fortnight long light periods because of it, she suggested taking double the dose I was taking! It was obvious that it wasn't on my records why I was taking it in the first place. Me and my mum were the only people who actually knew why. Everyone else made guesses. I found it quite amusing when I was warned my fertility would come back if I stopped because I'm a virgin and have no plans to stop being one anytime soon.
Thank you so much! I'm still 20 and had never been informed about this sort of thing ever in my life. My family, school and doctor never explained any sort of side effect to me about taking it. I always thought it was something good and even preferable to othe types of contraceptives. I'm still not taking it, but I was just considering to start doing it as part of "growing up". I was just about to throw myself over the edge on this topic without being rightfully informed on the matter. So, really, thank you
Doc pushed me onto birth control to regulate my periods without explaining anything. She said to give my body 3 months to adjust to it. Had a blood clot after 2 months, no family history. Even during those 2 months, I was irritable, depressed, had a mental fog, and I bled out golf-ball-sized globs from my vagina. Doctor dismissed my concerns and just said GiVe It 3 MoNtHs. After the blood clot I stopped, didn’t care what she said.That shit wrecks you. Edit: Got a new OBGYN who actually listens. Not all docs are slimy pieces of used toilet paper.
Don't forget high blood pressure along with all that you say. I felt a sort of "blunting" when I was on them. Perhaps the brain fog and also my libido changed and I was young. I dismissed all these things because I believed it was "safe". I don't feel that it made me free at all. It made my life more difficult. I don't know what the answer is but I am done being a lab rat.
This is happening to me right now . I was bleeding continuously for a month straight. So I went to a mbbs doctor . He suggested me overall-g and oh my god I was a wreck. I was crying the whole day and having suicidal thoughts. Then I changed doctors coz it was too much for me. She put has put me on another birth control and its not as worse but it is still messing with my head. Im gonna stop after the month is over. I just have to lose weight and eat right . This has been nothing but a nightmare since I started. I have had too many bad days in my life but I have never felt such gut wrenching urge to kill myself than as much as I wanted to when I was taking the pill.
@@avs9521Oh, I hope you're doing okay! Food has SUCH a big impact on our hormones. I was fortunate to have a nutritionist mother who immediately researched into estrogen-inhibiting vs estrogen-enhancing foods when my periods were getting out of whack as a teen, to help me sort out the right hormonal balance - the idea of taking me to a doctor to get drugs for it would never have crossed her mind. It takes time to find the right diet that works for us individually, though, as we all have different metabolisms. But once worked out, just eating the right foods for you is incredibly important for SO many health issues. Drugs can really only go so far: for most of history doctors were mainly dieticians, and some still prefer prescribing healthy lifestyles to drugs, but are under a lot of pressure for 'results.' But don't worry about losing weight right away. Once you get your hormones back in balance it will be so much easier; finding the right healthy foods that work for you will take some trial and error and research first, but worth it I promise. And then you'll likely move closer to your healthy weight without even trying, which will make it much easier to get all the way there! And remember you do not have to eat the same food balance or have the same weight/exercise regime as others to be the healthiest version of YOU. Wishing you the very best. ❤🙏
@jcrunk Gross, but a necessary medical information to tell because it is CAUSED by the fucking birth control pills. It's a fucking plague that destroys women. Why the fuck else do you think we have a practical pandemic of depressed women that have to seek out the most insane ways of feeling better about themselves... because they HAVE no other way.
I took birth control pills for 8 years, and honestly, I can't say that I noticed any bad side effects from it. It took a couple months after stopping it for my period to get back to normal, but other than that, nothing really happened. That being said, I know hormones are powerful chemicals and that there are always some risks to take into consideration.
I've taken pills and the injection and had no reactions, no change in mood or biology whatsoever. I personally don't know any woman who had any side effects when it came to moods, only changes in their periods. Some longer some shorter.Maybe it's our bodies or maybe our treatments have a different composition. While there are women affected by it but there also seems to be a lot of fear mongering about this lately, as if the pill was the just invented.
Most women I know who were on it took at least 5 years to get pregnant after stopping. While I was on it my period stopped functioning and didn't return after stopping, so I'm glad it worked fine for you but it is most definitely not risk free and none of the risks were stipulated to me by the doctor prescribing it.
I don't understand how people do not understand that fucking with or injecting hormones is a bad idea Roids, contraceptives, bla bla bla It should be common sense that assisting your body unnaturally is very likely going to have severe side effects.
@@tropistan7735 just because you didn't get side effects doesn't mean it didn't cause havoc to your endocrine system. B/C are oral steroids. Taking oral steroids for years on end is horrible for you. Just like taking anabolic steroids for decades is bad for you. Some guys go bald, some guys get cystic acne, some guys get bitch tits... anabolic steroids react differently for everyone. That doesn't mean just because I get no side effects from them that they are not causing other issues...
I was just discussing this with my girlfriend the other day actually. She had never been on birth control and when we became more intimate we decided better safe than sorry and looked into getting her on birth control. Fast forward she had the birth control that is placed in the arm of the patient. Being that I was a guy I've obviously had very little experience with this sort of thing but I went with her to the appointment, and listened to what he doctor had to say about this method... She made it seem as if this was completely harmless to the majority of users and whenever we were ready we could just have it removed. My girlfriend has sadly had some side affects, I won't go into detail as for privacy but its caused me to do more research... Kind of scary some of the stories I have heard about pretty much all of the available birth control out there. I've briefly talked to my girlfriend about this but she's scared to switch to another method
My brother's girlfriend is on the same kind of birth control. She's got a lot of acne now (that she previously didn't have), super cranky, and has had depressive moods. It's not really worth it, honestly. My mother (54 years old, menopausal stage), who never had birth control, is a lot healthier, no hot flashes, and not mood-swingy than my brother's girlfriend, who's just 23 years old. Tells a lot about how these stuff screws over women's bodies.
@@tkraid2575 It's crazy to think that the pills mess with mental health to that extent. I don't think she gets too angry, or at least she doesn't show it. But the depressive mood is something I've noticed too. She's had a history of depression and chalked it up to this. Even talked about going back to her therapist, but I'm now convinced it's the birth control
@@judeross3875 The withdrawal method isn't as effective as the others, especially if you don't know yourself super well. However, you're right about alternatives.
This is totally crazy... I was involved in that clinical trial for male birth control and I voluntarily dropped out after developing severe depression. I.... I never felt more seen lol
I don't know much about that trial but I'm sorry for your suffering.. I was put on the SHOT at age 14, a week EARLY every time so I had no period & wouldn't loose epilepsy medications. Because itd cause life threatening ones so I was put on it by my epileptologists. I stopped around 6 months ago of six months ago and still haven't had a period... I'm 23 have gained weight and my high amount of hormones are causing non epileptic seizures caused by stress(psychogenic seizures) I'm a virgin for God sake😔 it's depressing and I know it's not the pill but any medications stopping your natural cycle is just not safe..
@@JusticeGypsy really sorry to hear that! My experience was not nearly so severe.... For me, I had a lot of external things going on. At the same time. I was finishing grad school, going to internship, trying to complete my dissertation /thesis, so it's really hard for me to say for sure whether it was the birth control or other things. I do know (because they took blood samples every two weeks) that my testosterone was low enough that it was considered a problem and they were worried about it. Like, if my testosterone had been that low without me being part of the birth control study, my primary care doctor would have wondered what caused it and assumed I had an illness that needed treatment. And I like they would have been prescribed testosterone injections. So I do know that it was affecting me, but I don't know if it truly caused the depression. After I got off, and finished the semester, I started feeling better and there were certainly no lasting effects. Sorry you had such a horrid response! Seems scary.
One time I saw a gynecologist. They wanted to put me on brith control. I told her I didn't need it because I don't have sex and therefore wouldn't get pregnant anyway. She got angry with me and started acting in a very nasty way after that. She seemed offended that I wasn't going on regular booty calls.
That's why my mom and I both turned it down, not having sex so it wasn't needed. Doctors were incredulous that a teen girl didn't want sex until she was married...
as a med student who has been preparing since 8th grade, i cry for women who never had classes discussing birth control pills or tsh hormones before taking the pills. we are so fragile and the littlest change of hormones in our bodies can lead to enormous changes in our bodies
YES! Ive been on birth control because of my PCOS and it messed me up. Now I have intense migraines that makes me throw up in pain. They stopped coming frequently after I stopped my birth control pills.
#1 reason as a guy I am freaked out about taking Finasteride. I feel like once you start messing around with hormones it's *really* hard to get things back on track.
Today I learned that my birth control periods were not periods. WHAT!? Ugh. I went off my pills in March 2020 after being on it for probably 13 years. Although my acne came back, so did my actual personality. All my brain fog vanished and I became mentally healthier than ever. I need to read lady's book! I have to know more about this all.
When I was 19 and started dating my future husband, my painful periods and sudden sexual activity motivated the doctors to practically shove the birth control pills down my throat. I couldn't go into a doctors office for a sprained ankle without having "the talk" about how irresponsible it was for me to be sexually active without taking the pill. Even though we were aware of the risks even back then and knew we'd eventually be married and that a pregnancy would not have been any issue for us. So basically, I got worn down into taking the pills. I was on them for a few months before I began to notice my brain fogging and my stomach always hurting. I was quite sad about a lot of things and sometimes nothing at all. For the most part, I just wanted to sit around and do nothing. This was a 19-year-old woman who used to at that point, run 5 miles a day rain, snow or shine, and suddenly I couldn't be bothered. As that year progressed my husband and I did end up getting married, and by this time I was 20 years old of course and the doctors were still telling me that I should stay on the pill until we felt that we wanted to conceive. I was gaining weight and felt awful 24/7 and I had a feeling it was the pills. Worse yet, the original issue I had, the painful periods...were not lessened at all by taking these pills. I still had horrible cramps, headaches, puking, etc. But I just wasn't having a period technically. I lasted for only a few months or so after marriage, having been on the pills for about a year. I was sure that the pills were the cause of all these new symptoms and as it turns out I was correct. After stopping the birth control, my body almost sighed in relief. My brain went back to normal levels of focus and my emotions weren't so bat shit crazy and random. I still to this day, in my late 30's, have incredibly painful periods, and wouldn't you know it...every time it comes up in discussion everyone from doctors to nutritionists to other women try to sell me on taking birth control pills. But I've always politely declined. I can't imagine being on the pill for longer than I was. I can't imagine the havoc it caused in me for the year I did take them. I also wonder if some of the issues that popped up later on in life could have been caused by the birth control pills that I did take. It is insane to me how it is changing women totally, from brain function to the way we choose our mates. It sounds like society itself has been altered unnaturally all in the name of making a dollar. We were made to feel irresponsible as teens for not regulating our bodies on these drugs, made to feel shamed and possibly even scared of what might happen if they weren't taken. Growing up pregnancy was introduced to all the girls in my class as though it were an addition to the long list of STDs you could contract. You didn't want to be the girl in high school that got pregnant, you didn't want to be 'stupid' and get 'knocked up', pregnancy was unknown and terrifying and to get pregnant was basically themed as this death sentence. And now as all the girls my age back then grew up into older women today, many of us don't even want to have children at all. And yet everyone is scratching their heads confused as to why. Because in health class the boys and girls were separated and only one of those groups came back crying like their lives were over. From too young an age, girls are expected to carry this heavy burden of responsibility, to grow up quick past puberty. Plan ahead so no one notices our body doing anything girl's bodies naturally do, take pills so we can permanently alter our system, suppress and be embarrassed of our bodies and what they do monthly, etc. And for what? So, the guys don't have to worry about anything substantial except maybe bringing a condom? I'm genuinely interested in what that study of men taking hormonal drugs as a form of men's birth control would have showed if it had not been cut short. I'm not saying men, or anyone should take any form of medication that negatively affects the body, I'm just saying that maybe it wouldn't be so bad if men carried some of the weight of that responsibility given to us way too early of an age, once in a while.
Rest assured if the men had to take a pill and risk stroke, weight gain and stuffing up their hormones it would be off the market in a matter of weeks if not days 😅
@@itsmexena4727 Unless it had _STEROID_ effects - in which case we'd have a decade or so of super hero posing followed by serious health issues and early death!
I didn't realize how grateful I should be to my mom. Growing up my mom was repeatedly asked by doctors/nurses if she wanted to put me on BC. She kept saying no, not that she is against she had an IUD, she believed that hormonal BC could cause a lot of problems for me as a developing girl. She said I could chose to take it when I hit 18. I still don't take it as an adult, I've just never wanted it or needed it. Even tho periods can suck sometimes lol. I'm really grateful for my mom giving me the chance to decide and not allow big pharma to push it on me.
"Even tho periods can suck sometimes" Technically the bc is supposed be the contraceptive. Then they started marketing it to also sexually inactive girls for acne or periods as if that were the most normal treatment. It isn't.
What about the impacts of the effects of being part of organized religion on women ? This is far more damaging to human females than any side effect of birth control ... Religious control can and is deadly to women on many situations .
The control of reproduction has freed women from the slavery of pregnancy and breast feeding for life ... As this was the plight of human females prior to any scientific acheivement in the domain of contraception . Clothes hangers killed many ... Ignorance and submission to gods KILLED MORE . The end goal of contraception is life .
@niniv2706 as someone who also did a research paper on oral contraceptives and someone who was on the suicide hotline after my gyno switched my pills in the middle of a pack (and was not religious at the time), I can definitely say my religion now has never had me crying on the hotline like I was then (at 18 years old!!)
@niniv2706 also OP never even mentioned organized religion? So confused why this was even brought up in response to a simple comment about her research
@@coletteespagetti9911 - Well good 4 U . Nothing better than one that finds what is the problem about and ... Works to make life better for oneself . Unwanted pregnancies are a far lousier side effect than anything else OC could deliver ... But hey, I am a guy ... A farmer and ... It is an opinion . Colette ... Be safe, happy and ... healthy . Later
My birth control experience was horrible. I wasn't on birth control for very long because my body is super sensitive and will kick anything out it doesn't like. I had an allergic reaction to 3 different types of birth control. I will never go on birth control again!
I tried to make a comment about how men's version of the pill failed the trial because of side effects. Then I saw you made note of this. Women and children are a kind of liability anymore. Luckily the mandatory thing which shall remain unspeakable will probably render American women infertile. Allegedly.
I honestly feel this is why "the thing we must not speak of" was pushed. There's no real way other than condoms/abstinence to limit/lower fertility without causing other health problems. And since overt eugenics isn't popular anymore they're using covert eugenics which is much more damaging and harder to detect.
@@rachelbuckley4499 they want to depopulate the earth but don't stop complaining about low birth rates in the news.... ig it's the different types of people but it's still funny to me
I went on progesterone pills when I got married at age 21. They completely changed my personality. My poor husband didn't know who he married. I was horribly depressed, crying all the time, feeling like a crazy person- the opposite of how I actually am. Luckily, my husband and I realized this wasn't normal, and as soon as I stopped taking them, I went back to my normal happy, peaceful self. No wonder so many men think women are crazy. It's the birth control!
Yeah, so many things were normalized in the sexual revolution of the 60s that we are just now seeing its societal effects on people. More to come from all the drugs being taken for ADHD and such. Men also have their fair share of all of this stuff. The normalization of pornography and daily masturbation being one. It is a widespread addiction that is being marketed as “good” and “healthy”. Even claims that it prevents prostate cancer. You can tell men to try to stop, and they’ll have a very hard time to. Cutting those off had such a drastic effect on my personality and especially how I viewed women. It might sound weird, but I finally can see women as humans with life experiences instead of a sexual means to an end that I had to constantly stop myself from seeing that way. I think a lot, for both sexes, was normalized when it has a lot of harmful effects on how we view each other, and it is saddening to say the least, that the fingers are being pointed elsewhere instead of what has been normalized in the last few decades. Some are deeming those fighting against it as bad people, going off about how it is morally fine, when instead the argument being made is that “hey, this thing has some bad effects.”
My husband is going to get a vasectomy in a few months because he’s seen how birth control is effecting my mental health. I only got on it after having my second kid cause we don’t want anymore.
Same. I was on it for 2 months and felt completely crazy. I dissociated so hard that I felt like I was hovering behind myself most of the time. I got suicidal thoughts and was very depressed. I stopped taking it and went back to normal pretty quickly. I use natural family planning now and it works. Additionally, I think there is too little awareness what hormones (or any meds in general) do to neurodivergent people as they've naturally been tested on neurotypicals. I'm leaning towards the adhd spectrum. Meds have far more side effects or can be infinitely stronger or have unexpected side effects. There is no awareness of that! In my opinion neurodivergent people should never take hormonal birth control. It should be a contra indication
surprisingly i am having the opposite effect - i was a mess to begin with (without having taken any birth control before) and when i started taking progestin only pill, my mood and energy levels actually stabilized. it's almost as if it changes your mental state to the opposite of what you already are
I wanted to educate women about birth control because i am convinced it played a huge role in aiding my sister's suicide in 2016. Her and i suffer bipolar disorder terribly. When i started taking birth control i suddenly found myself more manic and angry than ever. I was punching myself and having nervous breakdowns over situations i would normally be able to handle in a more composed manner. My sister and i went to a pp clinic and got our birth control. Only i requested lo estrogen option. My sister did not. I didn't think itd have such a huge impact on her but it did and she asked me if i could give her a month supply of mine until we made her appointment. She was becoming erratic and impulsive when it came to any negative situation. The night i was to being her my birth control ia when my dad called me ans told me i needed to get there asap and informed me what has happened. He said that day she was acting crazy. I really kick myself in the ass when i think about it. Ive always thought they should do psyche screenings
Heartbreaking. Sorry you lost your sister. This will always be an unknown in your life, as if she wasn't on the pill, it could have happened anyway at some point in her life. I lost a cousin to suicide. Nobody knows why and never shall. Its tragic.
I suffered heavily after my gyno switched my pills up. She switched me mid pack and my anxiety and depression went off the rails. I was on the suicide hotline one night and didn't even know why. I am so sorry for your loss and I hope you find healing
I am sorry for your loss. Pills made me miserable and I felt ugly inside and outside. I stopped taking them. I was told by a doctor that I have hypothyroidism and I wonder if the pills may have affected my thyroid gland??
I’m so sorry about your sister. I also commented about having bipolar disorder & the pill! I was diagnosed after taking it for a few years. I made me sooo mean to people & impulsive.
You’re singing my song sister! This is EXACTLY what happened to me. I watched this and just cried. I don’t like publishing much about myself but if I had daughters, I’d advise them to stay away from birth control and educate them about the alternatives.
Every woman in my family that has used birth control, even the smallest dose available, struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts during her time on it. Those feelings were gone once off it for a couple of months.
I was never on the pill, but was on anti-depressants and they gave me suicidal thoughts. I could tell they were intrusive and not my own. Doctor said "Medications can't give you suicidal thoughts. Those thoughts are your own." Now 20 years later you see 'suicidal thoughts' as a side effect to many big pharma meds.
Yikes. I didn't get suicidal, but it made me super angry and crabby, snapping and yelling all the time. I soon as I went off of them, the extreme crabbiness went away.
Women can and do suffer from PMS, mood swings, and depression as a result of their menstrual cycles. Those feelings get better for many of them once they start taking oral contraceptives.
As a man (18) I’ve seen a lot of my girl friends go through mental health issues; some of it being influenced by life ofc, but after watching this video I’m starting to make some connections. Coming into this video knowing nothing about birth control at all, it definitely sparked my interest in learning more.
I’m a Aussie male, I’ve always had deep respect for you Sydney, yore presentations are very professional but with a touch of humour, never stop you’re channel, you are an amazing young lady, keep strong ,keep going, you are respected
Totally agree about lack of info. When I was in my early 20s and had some questions for my doctor about going on the pill, she dismissed them and said, "well everyone uses it." I was still too scared to try the drug, so tracked my cycle instead. After years of doing that, I'm still totally happy with the decision.
My fiancé was on the birth control pill for about three months. It made her moody, groggy, and depressed, and it increased her stress levels and made her acne worse and gave her back pain. Almost as soon as she got off it, those symptoms went away. She hasn't been on it since.
My daughter ended up in the emergency room because she had lung embolism and she is only 24 years old. They ran tons of tests on her and found nothing so doctors were pretty sure it came from the birth control pills. It makes me angry that my healthy daughter could have died from this and still doctors hand out this stuff like candies.
It is no exaggeration to say they hand it out like candy. They really do push it on all us women it seems.. for any little reason and starting from the time we're teens. Disgusting.
A common issue I'm seeing is that if they can't find anything when someone has a serious health problem they say the birth control did it. I'm not sure what to think about that.
I got severe migraine in the age of 21 for the first time. They immediately took me off the pills and the migraine haven't happened since then. When the seizure-like symptoms begun, I knew from the start it was from pills. Got them when I was 11 to treat my acne. Too bad they forgot they prescribed the ones that have most hormones in them and it was never changed back so, fast forward 10 years of using those daily, something broke. Just now, after being around 4 years hormone free I'm starting to be normal-ish again. I'm not against hormonal birthcontrol, but it should be treated more carefully and be more monitored.
This topic is beyond important and massively under-discussed. I read “Your Brain on Birth Control” a couple of years ago (right after I had my first baby and was being encouraged - aka pressured - to start taking birth control) and I was shocked at how detrimental it is to essentially every facet of brain functioning, particularly your hypothalamus. I get that not everyone wants kids but it is unacceptable that society and the medical industrial complex pushes the narrative that birth control is the best/only option.
@@Spicy_Spores Planned parenthood says it is 96% effective with perfect use. It fails with horny 22 year olds fooling around in the backseat of a car. It is very effective if you are married and f-ing it up means having to buy a mini van. They don't want to tell people how effective it is because they don't want horny 22 year olds using it.
@@MedicalAutonomyProjectYou are totally right! I have had unprotected sex with my hubby for almost a decade now and we haven’t had any pregnancies yet. We are not ready yet, but will soon. (:
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Sorry about those of you who saw the miss-fire of this vid this morning. I posted it and UA-cam age restricted it lmao. Also, apologies for the audio in some parts, I've been battling an air-conditioner that is very loud, but it's far too hot to turn it off.
Lastly, I'm not here to tell any ladies what is right or wrong for them - but I believe it's our personal responsibility as adults to understand what these medications will do to us AND those around us. If I could go back, I'd undo taking HBC because of what it has done to me and I have a lot of regret around it. Messing with your hormones is no joke. Make sure you know what is at risk if this is a path you intend to take. :)
If a person who KNEW the risks CHOOSES to take poison, do you blame the poison or the person's stupidity? 🙄
If you ask me, medical professionals could do with being much more grounded in reality, nowadays. 😑
I think you should talk about your fellow conservatives.. Candice Owens and that Pimp
@@offlineraidedSchrödinger's cat. 🤔
Birth control puts over 10 million doses of hormones in the water supply in the u.s. every day.
Well who would expect, that messing with hormones will change people in a bad way.
I know right? lmao
@@SydneyWatson Sadly it messed my wife up
Jesus, you get about a bit turtle chad
I would of thought its best to let doctors tell me that... not someone who clearly didn't even bother finishing high school.... my God....
How many otherwise great relationships have been ruined thanks to birth control?
I remember just a few years after I started my period, we went to see our family doctor for a regular checkup. When he saw my age and knew of my menstrual cycle, he checked, "Are you on birth control? (No...) You should go on birth control. It will help regulate your hormones and make sure you have a regular period." I was really weirded out by it and declined his advice, since I wasn't sexually active (or planning to be) and my cycle seemed fine... I've also just been paranoid about anything like that, since I've always wanted to have children and am hyper-alert when it comes to anything that might harm that.
But still always struck me as odd that he recommended it in such a flippant way, with no comments about possible side-effects. It was just a "you're X age, so you should be on birth control" kind of comment.
Yikes. I’d consider getting a new doctor for that kind of naked promotion of a drug without ensuring informed consent by volunteering BOTH potential benefit AND potential harms.
They do it for the money. They don't all care.
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Sydney, you always have responses to any issue that are logical and very well thought out. Although this issue doesn't effect me directly, I have a number of female friends who are dealing with serious medical issues in their fifties and I desperately hate this for them. One has Lupus along with other medical issues and others suffer from odd, debilitating, systemic issues that effect their overall general health. This makes me wonder if in their youth, some medical practitioner nonchalantly gave them a drug which, over time, destroyed their general health and yet never made them aware of the risks involved. I've learned now that it's up to all of us to research drugs prescribed to us before we start taking them. I don't know if it's because they don't have the time to explain how the drug works and it's potential side effects, or if they think we're too stupid to understand, but it looks like the least they could do is distribute literature, on the drug they are prescribing and all of the potential side effects. I think the best advice is, if you can avoid taking a drug, if at all possible, then do so and if you are told the drug will just make you a better you, then refuse it if you are not suffering medical issues. 32:09 32:09
It’s because the side affects are incredibly less drastic than having a child. They know what teenagers are mostly doing. I did it, we almost all did by 16.
I had the worst experience with birth control pills. It turned me into a depressed, unstable person who would start crying for no reason. My whole personality changed. I told my doctor and he said I'd get used to it. I threw away the rest of the pills and changed doctors.
Dude ME TOO!! It made me soooo flippin crazy, and my worthless asshole doctor told me that it couldn't be the birth-control that was causing my sudden craziness 🤦🏻♀️. Apparently he thought it made more sense to believe I must've suddenly developed some kind of mental issues. Unfortunately, this is when I was like 19 (I'm 37 now) and I hadn't learned yet that a lot of doctors are assholes and they don't know everything. So, he decided to prescribe me antipsychotics and antidepressants, and my stupid ass took them… Needless to say I was a fucking mess for the better part of a month, and then finally something clicked in my head and I stopped taking all of it, including the birth control, and I was perfectly fine after a day. I was so pissed off and I never went back to that doctor again
Smart!
As I heard that the pills can change personalities it had me worried my sister might switch after marriage and having kids. She wasn't on them anymore but still.
These kinds of stories are soo common! Luckily for me, I got off the pill after a short time, but I was talked into the progestin iud when I wanted nonhormonal Copper, which i left in for 5 years (different side effects). My friend was madly in love with a guy and got on the pill (even as a natural, herbalist type) and said it made her so crazy and a different person, their relationship tanked.
Yea same thing happened to my ex as soon as she took the pill she became super emotional ended up crying for no reason and got angry over the smallest things I tried to help I even said that if she’s having all these side effects she should come off it never listened but it’s crazy to know that years later I ended up being right not that it matters point is I think a lot of women are going threw this and it’s a shame that doctors are allowing this, honestly tho I’m not shocked I mean I remember when I was young my doctor told me not to workout cuz it will stunt my growth 😂
I remember going to my first gynecologist appointment and telling the doctor that I was waiting till marriage, so I didn't need any birth control pills. I also explained my concerns about the chemical aspects. She smiled, and sent some home with me regardless. I wonder if there's some kinda quota they have to fill 🤔
I remember going to my Dr appointment after giving birth. Unfortunately, my sons father broke up with me during that time. My midwife and doctors kept pushing birth control on me. Even though I told them
I wasn't with the father anymore. They were still persistent. Eventually, I had be bitchy and tell them I won't be dating anyone for awhile.
I don't believe so, it's more ideologically driven. Like sending a patient home with vitamin supplements to prevent illness.
I saw the same family doctor until I aged out at twenty-four (military brat.) He never brought up putting me on birth control and I have never had sex so I didn't bring it up either. I am fortunate my periods, though a bit irregular, are rather mild compared to many of my friends who use birth control for this reason. But I do get pap smears on the suggestion of my mother, due to my maternal side having fibrous, non-cancerous growth in our reproductive organs. Nothing abnormal yet.
I think I would have gone along with what he said if he had mentioned it. It has only been as an adult that I found out it is heavily pushed.
Dr. Bruce Lipton said if woman is in great stress during pregnancy, the child can be born with some defects or illness or weaker brain, or cancer....because her body releases the stress hormones and the stress hormones get into her blood and into the fetus. So she need a husband who isnt in stress either who is supportive and she need a good environement.....and also good environement for the child. Because if child doesnt feel loved according to scientists the first years, then the child learnms unwanted habits, subconsciously...these habits continue to adulthood. In adulthood it takes many months to unlearn the habits......It maybe shows why some men or women have smaller brain or not developed brain, emotionally intelectually.....It seems if a man has bigger front of brain, he is probably good, loayal, intelligent......If man is abusive toward women before pregnancy and during pregnancy... then he may have "kids" with weaker brain, smaller forehead or other illnesses. So its better if men treat women wel land women also take care of themselves.
Is it just me or did she have red on her butt?
I’m a therapist and whenever I’m treating a woman the first thing I do is look at her medical history, including birth control. We then discuss how hormonal birth control exacerbate mental health symptoms, and alternative safer ways to pregnancy prevention. I can’t tell you how many of my female clients over the years have had their mental health benefit from just getting off BCP/hormonal birth control. Additionally, I have them get blood work done for other deficiencies that can easily be corrected. Just thought I’d share.
Thank you for being thorough.
I am curious about the safer alternatives- condoms and natural family planning don't get the best rep regarding safety, especially if you look at common use. Are there other methods or ways to increase these odds?
@@johaff8202hey! There’s always the IUD’s (copper and silver without hormones) and hormonal implants that have a lower dose of hormones (doesn’t interfere as much)
Hi, I wasn't aware therapists could order tests (blood work and such) for their patients. I've visited 3 doctors in the past and not one ordered blood work. They checked my head (hair loss) and said its normal to shed. I've had to do my own research on why hairloss could occur and there are so many reasons. Hard water, BC, etc. I had to pay out of pocket to be told I am deficient in vitamin D3. Do you know of tests that test your hormones? If so , what're they called? Tests that test your deficiency in nutrients?
Even better, you should have a full, thorough blood panel ordered. Check the thyroid! Not just the TSH. That number means very little. Check TSH, T4, T3, and check her vitamin D. I was misdiagnosed as bipolar and agoraphobic, over medicated on nearly 2 dozen psych meds for over a DECADE. Turns out, I have Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis. When I moved and found my new psychiatrist in 2011, it was her who looked at me, my records, and actually for the first time in my life, she was the first doctor to actually LISTEN to me. She ordered the bloodwork, and surely enough, I was damn near headed to a coma or death, for my thyroid wasn’t functioning AT ALL, and I was seriously, dangerously Vitamin D deficient.
I will always have Generalized Anxiety Disorder with panic attacks, as I’ve had that since childhood (lots of trauma, chaos, changing schools 16 times before I graduated high school, etc). I’ll always have bouts with my depression. But I am NOT bipolar. My body was so sick that it mimicked not only serious mental illnesses, it mimicked dozens of other diseases.
My autoimmune thyroid disease went undiagnosed for ALL of my 20s, and some of my 30s (over a decade). I’m not even going to get started on the *25 YEARS* I went ignored, mocked, patronized, dismissed, disrespected, and yes, even verbally abused by countless doctors and other medical professionals- From before the age of 12 until I was 37, no one would listen to me when I told them that I felt like I was literally DYING with my pelvic pain. They said it was all in my head. They asked me why I didn’t just get pregnant and have kids. They asked why I wasn’t married. They asked if I had been molested and/or raped.
They looked at me like I was some insane hypochondriac and even, less of a woman, because I told them repeatedly that I *DO NOT GIVE A FUCK* about “preserving my fertility.” I wanted the laparoscopic procedure to formally diagnose Endometriosis. I saw so many doctors! They all refused. They all were fucking condescending, and honestly, 98% of ALL doctors, nurses, etc are just as ignorant and stupid as laypeople are about this *incurable* disease than afflicts *at least* 1 in 10 girls and women across the world. I suspect that number is much higher, as most women go close to 10 years before diagnosis (my 25 years is the most extreme I’ve personally heard of), or they don’t get diagnosed at all.
It sucks. I don’t “look sick.” I am friendly, warm, funny, bright, articulate, educated, attractive, young looking, etc. I thought having that diagnosis would help in my journey to receive proper pain management and surgical intervention(s). It has helped, but only just a little. I still have to fight like fkn crazy just to get the tiny ration of opioid meds I am now granted. I have ONE good week out of every month of my life. The rest of the time, my pain is so debilitating that I cannot get out of bed. I am on permanent disability because of all this shit.
You didn’t say you are a doctor, but a therapist. So, that means you cannot actually prescribe any medications, and you likely have your masters in psychology. But even if you aren’t able to actually diagnose and treat anyone, you can recognize the signs and refer them to physicians who may be able to help.
I shared all of this in the hopes that it might help someone, or maybe even just resonate with another woman who has been treated like absolute shit by our broken healthcare system and most doctors- Because we are women. If a man had, since before the age of 12-13, been in AGONIZING pain in his dick and balls, people would worry! They would care! They sure as shit wouldn’t have to PROVE themselves and their validate their agony over and over and over for the rest of their lives. They absolutely wouldn’t be casually told to have their dick and balls chopped off and thrown in the bin. They would not go undiagnosed for YEARS or DECADES. If Endometriosis were a mans disease, there would very likely be a cure, and everyone would know about the illness. There would be funding for research to find out more information and better treatment options. Yet, people (even Sydney here) deny that women are treated in ways that are unequal to and worse than men. I am living proof. You cannot deny me.
These are facts. And to think, as bad as I’ve had it, I am pretty sure that it’s not nearly as bad as women of color have it.
I was placed on birth control at 16 mainly to regulate hormones. During that time, I struggled with weight, GI issues, and depression. 12 years later, I decided to go of it so I could get pregnant and discovered how good I felt. Now 8 years later, I have never gone back and feel “normal” with my body.
The goal of the pill might have been scienticist, but the anti-placebo effect was to fear “voices”, the baby’s brain, the man’s brain etc… what they would say. Pregnancy became a stigma and the pill’s solution to that was schizophrenic existentialism, which really is reducing one’s existence to the immediate time and concerns of oneself down to the no-self with additional antidepressant “quieting” the voices of own.
I hope this is how it happens with my wife who just got off herself so we can try to have kids.
And the biggest lie they told you there was that it would regulate anything. It does not regulate. It overrides and shuts down your own hormones and hijacks everything that those hormones control (which is way more than just how your cycle is).
it's f-ed up to give hormones to a TEEN. Their bodies haven't reguleted their hormones itself, didn't even had a chance yet! It's almsot same level of f-ed up as giving puberty blockers...
And I'm all in for birth control pills because I felt better on them... but I have PCOS and too high testosteron level for my own good without them. I had to be over 18 y.o. to got my first, lighter, pills and I was menstruating 2-4 times a year(!!). To got stronger ones I had to go to the hospital for a few days full of tests...
For me it's f-ed up to give hormones to teens overall (I'm not talking about hormones for illnesses, ofc, like hashimoto or something) AND to adult women without blood tests. It's medicine, for f sake, not a candy...
I think maybe there was another reason, besides regulating your hormones that you were asked to go on the pill. Was this a suggestion from your parents?
I remember about 10 years ago my aunt tried convincing me to go on birth control pill and I just knew deep down inside and straight out told her that I did not want to mess with my natural hormones. She got so angry at me. So happy I never took it.
She got angry because you invalidated her choices, probably. Good on you for standing your ground.
I went on birth control at 19 because the stress of college made my already crazy hormonal issues even crazier. My period was erratic and my cramps were awful. My doctor put me on hormonal bc. Worst mistake of my life! The bc helped with my two issues I was having but caused so many more. I kept having to change bc because of my issues. Then after getting married and going off bc I realized that many of my problems were caused by my bc. I have suffered with migraines since 20 (not long after starting bc). My blood sugar (hypoglycemia) got extremely worse after starting bc. My mood swings were off the charts. And my decision making was greatly impacted (I still made the decision but I do believe bc had an impact).
i wonder why she'd be angry if it was really your choice?
Listen to your instincts. We all have a sixth sense that tries to guide us. Tune in and listen to it. So glad you did too.
@@jinvidinstinct can point you in a direction, but not always the right one. Always do research.
I remember wanting to get birth control and setting up an appointment just to talk about it with my gynecologist and within two minutes she was writing me a prescription for birth control, and she didn’t even know anything of my past medical history. And I do have a blood disorder, and and blood clots do run in my family. After she wanted a recommendation from my doctor, but she still wrote the prescription. I never picked it up. I wanted nothing to do with it because she obviously didn’t care. They’re just giving out those prescriptions like candy and don’t care about anyone’s personal health.
Probably because they’re use to their patients not caring either so why should they? Especially if they’re using it.
Honestly, it happens this way all the time for all medications. It has more to do with the limited time of the provider than not caring. If a Dr. Has 5 minutes to spend with you then they don't have time to review your detailed history. It's about risk management much of the time. If the Dr. Feels there's a greater chance of good coming from the Rx then it's likely to be prescribed.
Thats pretty much any drug with corporate paid doctors. If you went to a soc for back pain, you'd probably come out with a powerful sedative.
All they care about is the money lmao
I had a similar experience. My general care doctor prescribed me regular birth control pills but they were really messing me up. So I got a referral to an actual obgyn. I made an appointment to talk about birth control options, including iud's.
I had done a lot of reading online before going to the doctors appointment, but most of the articles had the same surface level stuff repeated ad nauseum, so I wanted to talk to a professional about it. And get better information.
She couldn't answer any of my questions. Was visibly annoyed by them. And in the end, she just handed me a bunch of brochures -produced by the IUD manufacturers.
Needless to say, I didn't get an IUD. Nor did I go back to her.
It took several more months of trying other pills and having doctors tell me to just wait a little longer and then the pill on was on wouldn't be effecting me so negatively, before I saw a doctor who actually listened to me. And did the research to get me a pill that worked for me.
She is still my doctor. I followed her when she left to start her own practice.
Every man should be informed about the topic. Most prefer to ignore it and push it aside; but it is important if you really care about womans in your life. There is no such a thing as too much knowledge
Agreed, brother. My girlfriend takes it and I care about her so I want to be more educated on it, should any issues arise.
How about us guys with daughters? We should have all the information we can to help our kids.
@@ScottSmith-nd2jjand never forget the grandbabies. Many parents struggle to raise their children and it’s up to the grandparents to step up.
Why should a gay man who has no intention of raising daughters need to be informed of that? That is useless knowledge for that man. I don't think men need to know anything about menstruation unless their spouses or family members need them to. Yes I agree if you have daughters you should know something about menstruation because it's your job to care for your child's health and that is part of your daughter's health. But saying that all men should know something because it benefits women is sexist. It's not men's job to benefit women.
Good luck telling them, 😂
As a man, I don't think it's wrong to want to learn about these issues. Broadening your knowledge is never a waste.
As a woman, I agree. Thank you for wanting to learn about us.
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same
I believe it's fair to say that if you want to be a properly supportive boyfriend, you should be well versed in the various methods of BC. Not just to be informed, but also to be educated enough that you can have meaningful and detailed discussions about the issue with your partner. Even if at the very least, to be a good listener on the topic.
Not only that but it helps your girlfriend to not feel so alone on dealing with the issue itself. But as tell so many others, look into the copper ring IUD (i.e. ParaGard) BEFORE considering chemical treatments. That particular IUD if appropriate ends up being such a hassle free way to address the need without messing with someone's body or their mental state.
Beyond that, it'd be nice if society would stop assuming that men would never have interest in having their OWN HBC. I don't know of any male friends of mine who wouldn't at least consider the option. In fact, many of us would be absolutely ELATED to have a higher level of control when it comes to BC. From our side, it can be absolutely scary when the entire issue rests with the responsibility of the woman, making us feel powerless. Nobody wants to deal with barrier protection in a committed relationship when you're also not ready for children. Especially if either or both of you have any allergies to latex or other things.
We are fathers and partners to women. I became as informed as I could on the birth process, and steered my partner away from an uncaring gynecologist who loved c sections to a nurse midwife who provided us with a loving experience. No barriers to any topics.
It's so tragic how many people are so messed up emotionally, physically and mentally in this generation.
Wait till the next generation comes up.
It's the lack of fathers (mom pushed them away, in case you were wondering).
wtf do mean messed up...!!!!??? who are you calling people messed up...
@@734ch3r That is such a load of bs. Most of these men sleep around and have several baby mamas. Stop making excuses for losers.
Defection at its finest. You're OK mate... no one expects you to do any work on yourself, as per usual you'll leave that up to the woman lol. Pathetic
The nexplanon literally destroyed my uterus and made me very sick, i was on it for almost 10 years and by the start of my 9th year (3rd stick) i started an 8 month long "period". I had been turned away by primary care doctors and gaslit evertime into believing months of bleeding is normal. Eventually i had to get an emergency removal due to fainting caused by significant blood loss. Initially i had it replaced with a new stick but quickly had that removed due to continued bleeding. Its been 3 years since the removal and have been healing since. Those same doctors who gaslit me now keep trying to get me in for monthly b12 shots .Ive been told that i'll need the transfusions for the rest of my life. It's crazy. These contraception's are very dangerous and it needs to be addressed. Thank you for helping to bring these issues to light. We need to be educated.
My wife had something wrong with her where she was not pregnant but randomly lactated. Like that’s not normal when she went to the docs, instead of trying to figure out what was actually going on they just said “take this birth control” without literally even doing one test.
Well that wasn’t an acceptable answer so we did some specialist testing elsewhere. Turns out she had a small and benign growth in her brain that pushed on the pituitary gland
She’s gotten some other medication to help with that and is good to go. 👍🏻
Wow !!!! Imagine if you didn’t get a second opinion. Great job advocating for yourselves. And recognizing the bs
That's so scary! They should've investigated immediately! Once when I went to an optician's they asked if I was lactating on the medical form, and I laughed at how ridiculous it was, but I had a friend who went for an opticians appointment where they asked if she was lactating, and she was, so they did some tests and found she had cancer! It's insane that they tried to brush your wife off ❤
Dude, thank God yall went for that second opinion, that growth could’ve been something more serious.
Some doctors are evil
" Like that’s not normal..."
Um, it's NOT normal. WTF are you even saying? You might think twice before frivolously inserting the word "like" into your sentences.
I took BC for 6 months when I was 18. I bled the entire time. I made an appointment with my doctor and she said, “That’s normal.” I was floored! I said, “Uh, bleeding for 6 months doesn’t sound normal to me so I’ll just stop taking this now.” I’m so happy I stopped when I did as my dear friend ended up having a pulmonary embolism at the age of 27 caused by her BC.
Wow. So sorry about your friend. 😢
My ex had the same problem!! She had a 3 month period and her doctor, with me in the room (it was a codependency, there's no sugar coating it. Young me and her weren't in a healthy place lol) told her "oh yeah that's perfectly normal. There's nothing to worry about."
I was like "uh, I'm a guy, and even I know there's nothing normal about that."
Sue the doc
This happened to me too, but after I told the doctor, I was put on a bc pill with higher estrogen content. It worked! I felt wonderful for over a decade on that pill. Higher levels of estrogen may cause blood clots though, so it is a risk.
@@dee20221 blood clots, weight gain and other problems 😬
Not that higher levels of testosterone are much better lol
I'm a certified childbirth educator and lactation coach...after 2 of my children I've been offered the pill despite informing my doctor I was breast feeding. They tried to convince me that the pill was not known to interfere with lactation. The actual medical evidence says that it does impact milk supply and let down. It is also linked to increased post partum depression
The first word that came to mind was fuck! I had a lactation problem and I was on contraceptive. I never knew there was a link 🤯🙃
Given breast feeding has an impact on reproduction already, it would almost be more surprising if there were no effect on lactation from taking the pill.
@@rebeccazikode5558s😅 32:09 32:09
Maybe the doctor has just had lots of women assume that while breastfeeding, it isn't possible to get pregnant. I've heard that myth before and have had 2 friends who got pregnant anyway, while breastfeeding.
while i'm a guy, that right there sounds like me finding a new doctor and suing the old one for malpractice
As a lad. I just like to be informed about such things. Understanding culture and the effects of different things like birth control is important for being informed about larger issues and the motivations of different generations of people! Thanks for the information! 😊
❤
It's also a good idea to have some understanding if you plan to ever have a wife, possibly a daughter, or to be sexual active with a woman at all.
When I was in labor with my first child, my husband knew more about what was happening with my body than I did, & I was grateful for his understanding! So, kudos for caring & paying attention!
Lad here, great video, thanks for it.
Also, your dog's reaction on "get away from me" was priceless😂
Considering most of the estrogen from the pills ends up in the water we eventually drink,which ofcourse affects men its good to be informed.
I remember going to my gynaecologist for the first time in my late teens, and the doctor was so rude to me when I refused the pill. She literally laughed at me when I said I wasn't going to be sexually active before marriage. (This was a personal conviction I had for myself) I was shocked at her attitude. She was so manipulative in the way she was trying to get me to change my mind. Manipulating my emotions and using fear to convince me. I looked at her was like, "Yeah no."
Here I am almost 15 years later pregnant with my first child, married for 3 years, and never needed birth control until marriage. I got the copper IUD when we got married, and it worked for us for many years. I remembered that woman when I was considering birth control and I'd never been so grateful that I stood up for myself in that moment. No matter how young you are, you can stand up for yourself. I'm sure that as I get closer to birth that there will be more medical professionals who push things on me that I don't need or want, and I plan to handle them in the same way. Follow your convictions (within reason) and don't let people manipulate your emotions.
I don't know what to say, but wow'❤❤
Why are people, especially other women, so shocked to hear others choosing abstinence like it's an issue or impossible? WTF.
@@ewidontlikeyou they see it more as an issue lol, like something is wrong with you, they usually see it as like you've been brainwashed by a higher authority or religious figure or something, that's why they see it that way, like you're in bondage and they're free
@@maran.ath4interesting how being actually free involves not being subject to altering your body's normal reproductive function
Wow. Not many people would have the balls (ovaries) to stand strong in the face of an ‘authority figure’ like a doctor in their teens. Well done.
They tried to put me on the pill at 15 for acne but my mom, who’s a toxicologist, shut that down. It’s scary how frivolously the doctor was with prescribing it.
Doctors are priests of humanism. They spread their pagan beliefs through pills and "education".
have they let you try other medication before the pill? cause if they didn't, that's bad practice. OCP is like the last line of acne treatment. But certainly every other medication has side effects, one class can even kill a fetus. I wonder what your mom thought about those.
Yep, I got put on the pill at the same age for particularly painful menstrual cramps and acne. It helped those symptoms but I can't help feeling that shouldn't have been the first resort.
Yep I got put on it for acne at that age too. Awful.
it should be illegal for doctors to receive kickback commissions from pharmaceutical companies. It causes them to give the wrong prescriptions. It can't help but bias. Doctors will say they are scientific and unable tone biased but that's an extremely naive opinion.
Went on birth control a few months before turning 19. Started experiencing anxiety, depression and volatile mood swings for the first time in my life. Put on weight out of nowhere. Hated every second of it, but my doctor insisted it was perfectly safe (though he did offer to switch to another brand). Stopped taking the drug at 20 and never looked back. I'm 36 now.
I got on an iud after the birth of my first son never again. The weight gain and mood swings almost destroyed me.
Same experience here, tried 2 brands, took it 3 months and stopped, never looked back.
Mine was the opposite! I lost weight and I didn't get any pimples. No depression, no heavy bleeding or period cramps. I'm glad to this day my doctor gave me the right birth control!
Same. Except I was 17. I tried the oral contraceptive then the ring. No matter how low the hormonal dose, it was like I raged 24/7 and felt out of my head and body. Never once went back.
I still get harassed by VA doctors every single appointment I have. They act like I'm not brushing my teeth or something....like it's abnormal to just not want to be on artificial hormones
Same! Was on it for 3 months, never again. Just wasn't myself.
As a father to two girls, I have a deeply personal stake in this topic. Now that I am more aware of this stuff, I will not so blindly accept these types of drugs for my kids in their teen yrs. It wasn't going to take much though due to my extreme distrust of big pharma after the last few yrs
Just so you do know if you’re daughters ever want some kind of protection, there are types of non hormonal birth control options that you can research just so you don’t feel like you have no choices! Good luck dad!!
my wife was on a copper IUD before we had our girl no hormones in it and its good for 10 years i believe it it was called paraguard just so ya know
Well, as one of those lads just watching, THANK YOU! I'm a new father of a baby daughter, and it terrifies me to think how many dangerous and bad influences there are out there, so many bad things to help her avoid. Good to keep myself informed for the future!
Congratulations Papa!
And a friendly welcome to you into parenthood!
First things first: read up on sugar is my only advice. And maybe one more thing...because...you are going, no doubt to, get a great deal of advice.
Listen politely & breath...smile, say something pleasant if you can...then later do what you and your spouse feel is right.
Sugar tip # 1 keep it away for as long as you can up to 3 years or so.
After that the metabolic processing in a kid seems to be squared for it much better. Still a tough temptation to educate at any age.
Congratulations to you. Just teach her to respect herself more than she needs the approval of other people and she should come out just fine!
Congratulations!!
Be her protector and educate her to be self confident, then she’s able to say “No” to doctors and toxic influences.
they learn more from what they catch you doing when you aren't aware they can see you than what you say,
I’ve been a very happy person my whole life , after 4 months of birth control at 17 years old I was so Sad all the time for no reason and so angry and repulsed by people around me. I stopped the pill and felt back to myself within a month. I was so frustrated that anytime I tried to look this up all that came up was things saying there’s “no evidence that birth control negatively effects your mood” like yeah there’s no evidence because it’s not studied enough. It felt very invalidating. Obviously taking hormones is going to effect how you feel
Exactly. People crying about hormones in the meat they consume but sure taking hormone pills isn't going to effect you. Why would you think that? 😮
Wow, that's also exactly my experience, I also took it for a few months, I was 16, and stopped it for the same reasons. Negative mood plus weight gain and didn't feel like myself. Never touched that crap again.
Thanks Lord for being you
As a Dad and husband I want to thank you. Very well spoken. I have forwarded the link to this video to my girls. They’re adults and can make their own better informed decisions.
thank you for being a wonderful & caring parent
Hopefully you raised them better than most who choose casual sex.
Good man
Thanks Lord for your peace 🤟
Aww you're such a cutie! Your children are soo lucky to have you as a parent.
A lot of us lads have women that we care about, so thank you for allowing us to join and be better informed. I greatly appreciate all of the candid information.
Went to see a gynaecologist for fibroids/cysts in my late thirties. Kept pushing and pushing to get me on birth control pills and I kept refusing, as I look for root cause healing. I eventually discovered eliminating junk food from my diet and eating more animal protein and fats shrunk my fibroids and cyst after a year. After the last ultrasound scan she gave up on me and sent me on my merry way, prescription free. 😊
Lack of iodine in diet causes cysts in the body. You can buy lugol's iodine and apply on the skin. It will absorb what the body needs. I got rid of a cyst on my foot that way.
go girl
I had the same experience with a 5cm ovarian cyst that I was able to completely eliminate with OTC supplements- DIM, NAC, and Serrapeptase… I also quit making caffeinated coffee at home (but allowed it once a week or so outside of the house), kept everything else the same. Went to a different gyno a few months after starting the regimen for a second opinion (first gyno said surgery was the only option) and the second gyno didn’t even believe I ever had a cyst. (Cyst was originally discovered via ultrasound, so its existence was undeniable.) Always do your own research! Doctors are incentivized to medicate and operate.
@@visualnativeDoctors are usually NOT incentivized to medicate or to make a surgery. They are incentivized to help as much as they can. And for people it is usually extremely difficult to change their habits and medics observe it on daily basis
Good for you! Thank you for sharing your story ❤
I did research on this in HS and came to very similar conclusions about the negatives of birth control, but was told by my professor that questioning birth control is a religious conspiracy with no basis in science, even when I presented him with peer reviewed papers. Ironic.
wow......
Excuse me professor but are you a real doctor?
Follow the science! (Unless it goes against my ideology)
I had a teacher in high school who was pretty liberal, but she also considered herself a Christian. She advocated for natural family planning and since it was working, her doctor told her she "couldn't get pregnant" (because she wasn't using contraception). It's one of the things that opened my eyes to what scammers doctors can be. And, p.s. she did have a child later.
@@VictorianMetalGirl But he was right, the possibility of fail is way too hight and is exactly why religious folks acept it. I had problems with the pill, but for many women it doesn't happen and provide the very needed safety about family planing. Iuds and male contraception surgery should be more encouraged though.
Hey, as a father, I want to thank you for the information you presented. My 13 year old was at the doctor the other day, and he proscribed the pill to help with her prolonged period pain. I was like, "ok, if it will help." But then I just watched your video about the subject. Then i had my daughter watch your video and let her make the decision. She decided not to take it after the information you presented. It is sad that our doctor didn't present both sides of the issue. We even asked him about some of the side effects you mentioned. Fortunately, we watched your video before she started taking the pill.
Thank God. You have saved your daughter years of pain that many women are still going through. Props to you for being such an amazing Dad! Wish these resources were available 10 years ago.
If your daughter is still experiencing severe menstrual symptoms, I suggest taking her to a homeopath or an acupuncturist. She should be able to gain some relief.
Look into some supplements she can take for period pain. The modern diet is lacking in some areas and pain or other period symptoms can be a symptom of a deficiency in her diet (can also be another underlying medical cause, so be careful). Doctors are discouraged from investigating these simple issues and anything else that might put people off prescription medication. But if you are curious and diligent, you can help her.
First of all, I can't believe men watch this show but then I see that you let your 13 year old make her own decision take birth control. Who needs parents? Perhaps if she wanted to remove her breasts, you'd let her do that too?
Periods are not supposed to be painful! There may be an issue like PCOS or Endometioses. I'd push to figure out why she is having prolonged pains.
Re period pain. When I was 18 I worked with women from South America who said women back home dont eat carbs the day their period started, and the day after. It worked like a charm for 45 years. Why don’t more women know this?!?
If I get enough milk the following month no pain at all / when I was vegan I had the worst pain ever. No pain when I did keto. I don’t think pain is supposed to be part of a period unless something else is out of wack in the body - pain is the symptom something else is wrong
Oh wow I will keep this in mind
@@ElinWinblad That’s interesting because I had also learned way back when that Chinese women didn’t have a word for menopause because it was either a, they didn’t consume dairy, or be they’ve had a lot of fermented soy in their system for protein.
@@Omeomy
Id bet it's more the protein.
My story is kind of the opposite. When I hit puberty I sprouted with horrible acne, started binge eating, self harming, EXTREME PMDD that turned me suicidal before my period. I was on so many meds, and when they didn't work I was sent to wilderness therapy and experience the most horrible time of my life.
Then I went to the doctor about my acne and got prescribed BC. I cried for days because the depression and anxiety my family has spent 10s of thousands of dollars helping me cure vanished within a week of taking the pill. I feel happy, I can make friends. Therapy works because my hormones arent a problem anymore.
I understand birth control isn't a cure-all for everything. It ruins some people but it is a GODSEND for people like me. Always be aware of what you are putting in your body and advocate for yourself!
I think the problem here is understanding how hormones work, and what quantities and type of hormones to prescribe if needed
I just started taking the pill a month ago for cramps and hearing all these stories and stuff is really freaking me out. It was nice to see a positive comment on here.
I don’t want to mess anything up but I don’t want to have painful cramps anymore either. If I could throw away the whole period I would.
My wife suffers from debilitating cramps when she isn't on some form of hormones. Like everything else the flippant attitude of medical "professionals" is what ruins people. I've been lucky and had doctors who were interested in balancing actual treatments and not just making money.
@@shadamyandsonamylover All the negative stuff freaks me out too! I know there's merit to some of their concerns, but birth control is life saving for people like me and it's frustrating when it's so blanketly demonized.
@@onlybug3186 yes! Sometimes it feels like you either buy into big pharma or go “alternative” - both of which claim to have disastrous consequences by either side.
I’m hopeful that for me…it just works 😅 I don’t want to deal with any drama anymore in my medical life…
I was placed on birth control around age 16 to “regulate my cycle” because I had very irregular periods. Lucky for me, it made me feel crazy and I stopped taking it after a few months. One of the best decisions I’ve made and I didn’t even know it at the time.
It's also a band aid for a more serious issue that can be treated in other ways with less serious medications
i'm sorry about your experience. I started birth control around 28 to fix my backne and chestne. It was very effective, my acne is almost cleared in 1 year. I had no hormonal or mental issues from it, but I had no issues before either. And it made my period flow and cramps lighter, but my period was scarily regular to begin with, just the cramp was annoying. Oh, and I still have good sex drive, and my weight never changed, but my sex drive and weight were good before as well. Overall, it only did good to me.
The not knowing at the time is the scariest part! I didn't realize how insane I felt on birth control until I was off of it. Also, it's interesting how women are put on birth control to "regulate their cycle". Birth control is what MADE my cycle irregular, considering my cycles completely stopped while on birth control.
What does it made you feel crazy mean? That's such a meaningless blanket statement to make. Elaborate, maybe your explanation will be of use to others!
@dian277 You started it at 28. At least you waited after you went through puberty before you started taking birth control. Taking birth control during puberty will permanently damage you, physically and mentally. Mentally might be reversible, but it definitely changes your perception, mood, and emotions. People fall in love while on birth control and while they get off the pill, they lose love interest, it literally messes with hormones and changes you.
This 100% affects the Lads. It had a huge impact on my wife and I’s life. I brought this up to her after seeing Sydney talk about it before, and my wife did a ton of research and got off that garbage a while ago. Never been better. Thanks Syd, and it does matter to the Lads! We want the best for the women in our lives!
Yes. Was going to say this exactly, but I figured someone else would beat me to it. It may not affect us directly as users, but the mental and physical state of the women in our lives is paramount to our well-being too.
*my wife's and my life. you're welcome
@@daphneferrizone2335 No body likes grammar cops.
You just sound pretentious.
I am curious what is your guys form of birth control now? How do you guys avoid pregnancy?
Just the libido issue is enough to recommend against the pill.
To put it bluntly: The best thing in the world isn't having sex with a woman: It's having sex with a horny woman.
This is important as good sex is like magic pixie dust for marriages.
@SydneyWatson As a dad with a young daughter, this is great information that I would not otherwise know about. Thanks very much.
Plz UA-cam don’t delete.
Karen's gotta Karen....if they can't control themselves, they Will try and control you
Amen! ❤
I swear, as a guy, I didn't click this to "get involved", I just automatically jumped to, "oh shit, new studies have revealed some sort of serious side effect".
I feel kind of dumb that I never really did dig deeper into it, but that's the scary thing about all the glazed over topics in this world.
Lots of misdirection going on with politics in the world.
Yes. Please don't delete, UA-cam. This should be discussed more.
@@poopingwhilestanding5801you mean just like pro lifers try to controll women by baning abortions🤔?
Being a single father I am very curious about this issue, as I would like my daughter to be as safe and healthy as she can. Thank Sydney for doing this video.
Pack or 50 ovulation tests for $15 … test on morning urine sample day 10 to 15 of cycle. Clearly shows ovulation hormone 24hrs before the event. No need to guess anymore. Very useful information. Of course works best in committed exclusive relationships with no fear of STDs on days where there is no need to use anything since there is no possibility of pregnancy
Best advice you’re gonna get in this hellworld. Be the father you think she needs. I can’t stress the importance of the father difference hard enough. The majority of criminals in the prison system? Single mother homes. Literally all people tend to turn out worse without a proper active father role in their life. Just being there when she needs you? Looking out for her? Being genuinely interested in her life and interests? All go a long way. The further from daddy issues she is, the more ready she will be for life’s challenges. Things are not looking up there, so young girls need their dads to help them be ready.
Use caution with this information as well as its not all full truths and is decently biased. Additionally, some people don't have issues at all. Ie the copper IUD doesn't change hormones and the Mirena IUD (very low levels of progesterone) also has minimal effects. There is just a lot more to it than this to know.
I appreciate your interest in your daughter's health!
Anything that isn't natural and tampered with by "well meaning " humans should be approached with great caution. If something is a "lesser evil," it's still not good. There are plenty of natural ways to avoid pregnancy like a woman truly knowing her cycle. And very few women know their own cycle apart from when they bleed.
I was not sexually active, but as a teenager every sports physical came with an argument with the doctor about birth control. This started at AGE 12. Thankfully my parents were on my side. Even as an adult, every doctor except for my current one has been extremely insistent. I've never used it, never will.
That's pure evil. I can't believe how doctors push drugs like drug dealers.
Wait wait wait --- they pushed birth control on you at 12 years old??? Is that what you meant?
These are the same types of drs that start pushing for pap smears at age 13. If you have your HPV shots or are not sexually active you have no reason for a pap smear. Creepy.
12?!?! 🤯🤯🤯
Jesus these pharmaceutical companies will stop at nothing to push their drugs on everyone
15 years ago, I was given birth control that I took for only 8 months and stopped because I didn't like how I felt mentally. I am a person who almost never cries. In the first month, I cried every day for no reason. I felt mentally different and not right and went to my doctor 3 months in, and she said that birth control doesn't cause mood changes....
And then they give women antidepressants...been there...done that. Im glad to birth control free for the last 9 yrs
These "doctors" seem to rither be uneducated or pushing out false info on purpose. I have a condition and saw a doctor about it and he said it doesn't affect me mentally yet EVERYWHERE online reports otherwise, as well as other doctors. How do these people get these jobs??
My mom made me go on birth control when I went to basic training because she was convinced I'd get SA'ed. I did not. Then I stopped using it a year or so later because my period had always been perfectly regular, and I wasn't seeing anyone. My mom was definitely passive aggressive with me about it, but there was literally no reason to go messing with my natural hormones, and I'm so glad I held my ground.
Even weirder is there is the morning after pill for that. You don't need to be on a hormonal pill just for the 1 in a million chance something happens. But she was brainwashed as much as we all were to think its a miracle drug and just ignore the side effects.
Same thing happened to me, but I was 13 and had a boyfriend (we never did anything) and my mother forced me onto birth control. Stopped taking it after a month because it made me suicidal.
@@Brownsheep10 I know they (our moms) were probably doing it out of some genuine sense of worry and whatnot, but it still gets me. The message being sent is that you don't trust me enough to believe that I'll make responsible decisions and good choices for myself.
Good on you!
@@darthdaddy3071children should not be trusted to make good decisions.
I started birth control right before getting married at 21 years old. I went from being fun-loving and easy-going to someone who cried every time he went out with friends. It was awful. My husband was so sweet, but I’m sure he was second-guessing what he had just done to himself 😂 After 8 months, I stopped taking it, and it felt like I had just stepped out of a fog. I had no idea how much it had been affecting me until then. I was shocked - and in many ways relieved! Haha. Thankfully, we have four beautiful children now, and I’ve found ways around ever taking the pill again.
I was on the pill for years and then again after having a baby and that’s when I realized all the side effects are from the actual pill. Doctors are too quick to prescribe it with zero questions about your health. I took myself off and refuse any of it.
Isn't this a US issue?
In Europe all the girls (at least that I knew) were informed about the side effects and majority chose different type of contr. such as a condom.
To me it sounds like healthcare in the US is about squeezing more long term profits rather than ... sorting out the problem.
@@janchovanec8624apparently it is. We had a major moral panic from about the early 80s to the early 2010s about combatting teen pregnancy. The pill was seen as a preferred means because teens were thought to be too impulsive and dumb for condoms.
@janchova3c8624 you're acting as uf Europe was a country. Girl, Europe where? I'm from Germany and doctors here give away prescriptions for the pill like candy, even to literal children.
I'm one of the people that BC has significantly helped. I was dealing with crippling menstural cycles, mood swings that literally ran my life, and a number of other hormonal related issues. I doubt that I'll stop taking it. However, my best friend had a horrible time going on it, and dealt with heightened depression and harmful thoughts.
Like all medical practices, it's not for everyone and can be harmful for the wrong person.
As a teenager, my doctor suggested I go on the pill but since I wasn't "active" I didn't really see the point, when I said no they got really defensive and told me that if I didn't I would ruin my life if I got pregnant. I was so confused why they were pushing it so hard, and I felt uneasy leaving there after arguing that I didn't need it. Now 10 years later hearing all of this, I'm so glad I've never been on it, it sounds like an absolute nightmare. The fact that the doctor tried to make me go on it without telling me any of the side affects is also super shady imo.
I had a similar moment with a doctor. She suggested I go on the pill (I forget why), I said no because I saw no reason for it & she got defensive & fought me on it. I have no regrets about my choice
What the hell for NO REASON??? I was forced to at age 14 because I have epilepsy and when I'd have my period & loose my seizure medications I had life threatening ones. I stayed on it until around six months ago and wish I did sooner and I'm pist off at the doctor's who FORCED ME to do it because I didn't want to and now I'm a 23 yr old VIRGIN who can't even have a period...
@@JusticeGypsy Yep, for no reason. I didn't have any medical conditions, and I wasn't putting myself in a position to get pregnant, their only reason was "it will stop your period, and what if you get r*ped!!!". Imagine trying to scare a little girl like that just to get money from putting her on medication she doesn't need
Splitting men, woman, for sake of goal for depopulation on illusion of climate change for of control population all indecisive elites one world government WEF....
@@JusticeGypsy oh my. Wonder what percentage are sterilised by it. Said for a while, birth control uses control, like pest control. But directed at humans.
I personally agree. I am in your age bracket Sydney. As a teenager my period was so erratic. Instead of finding out why, my doctor put me on hormonal birth control to make my cycle more "normal". My cycle never got better it got worse. One day after rushing to the ER as a young teen, they found out I had a cyst on my ovary. The cause...birth control that I was prescribed by my doctor. My mother and I were never told about the long term effects just that it would "fix" my problem. When I went into surgery for them to remove the cyst. The surgeon found out that my fallopian tube was twisted backwards. That is why my cycle was always messed up. If my doctor would have done a better job instead of just prescribing me medication then I would have had a different story to tell. I would have never had to be on them. You would think I would learn my lesson. Nope. Fast forward to a older 20 year old self. I was prescribed birth control again to "regulate" my system. My doctor did not say anything about how I would eventually have a very heavy, painful cycle for 7 weeks straight. The doctors thought that I had a rare blood disease. After so many more blood tests and biopsy I was told it was caused from my birth control that I was prescribed. As a personal decision I have sworn off birth control since. Now in my late 30s my cycle is as normal as it is going to get. Not painful, not ridiculously long. Just manageable. Now as a Mom of two girls you bet I will be educating them more on their choices. I normally don't comment, but I am really glad you are addressing this. Women need to be told more information. Sometimes as a patient sometimes you forget to ask. Sorry for the long book.
Any body remember when you could actually say and write the term "s***ide when having a discussion about people killing themselves? Softening the action by calling it "self deletion" is scary and pathetic. It's like when they quit calling the mental stresses of combat "shell shock" and changed it to "combat fatigue" and then changed it to "PTSD." Changing the language reduces the appearance of the severity of the situation, leaving those suffering poorly responded to.
Nice one mate!
So beautiful to see that George Carlin is still around in our general memory!
Cheers for the comment.
Agree on principle but UA-cam can take down the video. It’s better to have this up with the message getting out there than the video removed cause of a word.
There's a lot of that right now. i have noticed it especially after these last few years. Before, I could easily make a comment or an innocent joke, but now it seems I'm constantly getting a warning when I post anything online that what I say may offend someone or break some rule. I feel like, if I ever started my own UA-cam channel, I'd end up banned after 5 seconds.
I love watching true crime-channels and let me tell you; it's not the same when the person telling the story keeps tiptoeing around the subject and changing out words that could get them banned or demonetized otherwise.
That said, it's all done on purpose.. They're teaching us so self-censor so that we won't talk about anything the powers-that-shouldn't-be don't want us to talk about.
To be fair, as a PTSD sufferer, I can tell you that from a diagnostic and psychological point of view, the change in name was actually very appropriate and necessary.
The military certainly liked the name change because it didn’t sound as bad as shell shock - but the real reason it changed to PTSD is because we learned trauma disorder isn’t limited to war vets. In fact, most PTSD comes from auto accidents. It wouldn’t make sense to diagnose someone with “battle fatigue” after getting kidnapped or being in a car crash. Trauma of any kind can cause PTSD, not just war.
Now we’re learning that there are also different types of PTSD - such as “Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder” - which is an even more extreme form of the disorder and comes from repeated, long term trauma. (Such as child abuse)
However, I 1,000% agree with your main point about language manipulation. Absolutely.
..and as someone who has witnessed a lot of suicide, it infuriates me that we came all this way to be more open to discussing mental health, only to start tiptoeing around it and avoiding it again.
We’re regressing SO fast right now.
that's a youtube rule, not a societal norm.
I was on the pill for a little less than a year. During that period my entire personality changed. I'm not talking about depression here, I'm talking extreme paranoia and anxiety to the point where I couldn't get out of my room to go to the bathroom. I had to literally be escorted because *something bad might happen to me*. I couldn't walk in the dark and God forbid I watch something even remotely scary (I was a horror fan before that). My taste in music also changed! I gained so much weight and I had cellulite even on my forearms. In the end, I developed acute pancreatitis and had to be hospitalised. That's when I stopped the pill. Everything went away immediately. I regained my personality back and lost all the extra weight. Sadly, I also lost more than half of my hair. Later I learned pharmaceutical company was getting sued because women died because of this pill. Thanks a lot...
I had something similar happen. Except I lost a lot of weight, and had the kind of anxiety where I couldn’t go anywhere outside by myself because I felt like the world was ending. I also couldn’t eat food without an anxiety attack of the same “the world is ending” level. As soon as I stopped taking the pill my weight stopped dropping and I was able to start going outside on my own.
That sounds intense! o.o
What kind of birth control did you take? And where do you live (if you don't mind sharing)
Interesting thing. Birth control pills made me feel great and helped my acne, period pain etc. But my sister feels insane, gets severe cystic acne, hives, and generally unwell. So even in the same family, the results can vary greatly.
I was on 2 separate kinds in the 14 years I took BC. The first kind was fine, no real side effects. The last year I was on it, my doctor put me on a new kind and it was absolute hell. I’m still recovering from it after being off about a year.
My point is - I agree with you. There’s so much variation, even among the pills prescribed.
That's modern medicine for you: unpredictable results but you give it to everyone regardless.
Don't forget to get boosted, it might be good for you... Honestly, who knows?! It literally could!
I have the same experience. Pills cleared my acne and my period only hurts a little bit now. Before it was literal hell I would be screaming in pain and bleeding like I was about to die. I know that people sometimes have bad side effects but screaming that birth control is bad is ridiculous. If you feel bad then just switch to different pills or find something else. We still need to use some kind of birth control because almost no one wants 10 kids and pregnancy can destroy your body as well.
@@alicja5602 no one is "screaming that birth control is bad", what we're saying is that if you see someone eat Skittles, you'll go "these are bad for your teeth and did you know that some of them apparently give cancers?!"... The pill is literally less scrutinized than fµcking Skittles... That's the issue.
@@alicja5602 You might want to talk to your doctor to see if you have a health issue that caused periods like that, if you haven't already. I know the Pill can help with some of them, and not much else is researched for treating them, but if nothing else, it's good to know your body, and that medical history could be important to someone else in your family.
The weight gain I was told was normal. After 20 years of being on the pill I chose to come off it. In 4 months I lost 25lbs by doing absolutely nothing different. The only way I could lose weight while on the pill was starving myself and working out like a psycho and I could never lose anything more than 10-15 lbs of water weight. We shall see where this goes! For once I have some high hopes in getting to a healthier point.
This was one of the things that kept me away from it when I was young. All of my friends and classmates I knew who were taking it told me it had caused them to gain weight and because I was bulimic as a teen, I was terrified of gaining even 1 lb
I ended up trying it when I was about 22 and it immediately turned me into a psycho. I felt suicidal and homicidal rage and stopped taking it after 9 days. Though I felt a little bit better within a couple days, it took months before I felt back to normal so I have never been willing to risk trying any form of hormonal bc again and glad I haven't. I have a history of severe depression and suicidal thoughts + mild psychosis and imo it's probably extremely risky to give bc to women with a history of severe mental health issues like mine and should at least be very closely monitored in that situation
20 years on the pill ? Check your body for tumours: breast and ovaries - thats an insane amount of exogenous high estrogen for too long
Huh, didn't now the pill could just disable the law of thermodynamics, interesting.
@@BejitaConnor you need to stop believing in the calories in vs calories out, it doesn’t work like that in real life, hormones cause weight gain or weight loss regardless of nutrition; so as far that it is acquired.
If you eat 3000-3500 calories of potatoes you’re gonna be thin, eat the same calories of cheese, not so much.
@@dawseyboy1 Nope, that's just scientifically false. You are not above the law of thermodynamics. Especially potatoes would get you EXTRA fat since they are carbohydrates. Man there's a lot of fucking stupid people on the internet, unbelievable.
I was on the pill for a little over a year when I was newly married and when I got off the medicine I remember just feeling actually happy. It was just shocking how happy I felt for “No reason “
After my prescription runs out.... I'm thinking about going off of it actually. Gradually, not cold turkey.
I have a question for you though...so since I have fibroids, that won't effect me from having a baby, yet the birth control, helps with period pain, will I be okay without it? ( Not active. )
I'm not a person who comments often on videos, but this video needed a comment. I am so thankful people are talking about this! I went on birth control the first month of my marriage and was weepy ALL THE TIME. I am not that person. I got off of it, only had a month of birth control and don't have any hormone issues like so many of my friends and family who started taking it in high school. Everything about it breaks my heart.
I’m a man who works in the health care industry and have been working with and educating my clients for years on the negative effects of hormonal birth control and without exception, every woman who has gone off of birth control once they understand what it is doing to their bodies has been incredibly grateful for the change.
What beneficial changes did they report on?
I took it 10 years and i am almost 7 years without it and i still am a messy ball of weird feelings, getting very depressiv around my period and much more. Is there anything i can do to detox it or.... or is it just who i am? I cant imagine living like this for more years. Its a unnecessary roller coaster of selfsabotaging abuse. Help.
Instead of advising women about negative effect of birth control, it is men who should be advised about the benefits of the "snip". Women do not get pregnant out of thin air.
@@viovalentine273Stop drinking coffee, eating sugar and eat a high fat diet with alot of meat and if that doesn’t work try excluding gluten. And workout, but specifically do strength training, avoid LISS cardio. My wife is well versed in these subjects and these worked great for her, completely getting rid of her PMDD and we got pregnant really fast after years of trying.
If you were Swedish I’d recommend the book Fertilitetsförståelse by Jenny ”Vulverine” Koos
As someone that also worked in both medical and psychological health care, I think this blanket statement is suspect. Hormones are highly complex and vary between race, sex, age and even diet. Some women require estrogen and progestin to stabilize their health/biology. This kind of statement is dangerous, especially without any context or explanation.
Ty for actually covering this. People used to think I was just full of shit when I'd bring this up back in 2010, it was a controversial idea.
It's controversial because people have made it a political issue rather than a health-based one. HBC works for some ladies, but I'd argue for a lot of us, it is catastrophic long term.
I would try to discourage the use of it because unless it was for health related reasons. I knew someone who took it because she had an irregular period schedule and would get horrible periods every few months. Apparently it helped her not have horrible pain. On the other hand, when my girlfriend in 2010 started taking it, I felt like it was contributing to obvious changes in behavior and it almost changed her entire personality. Everyone essentially just blamed it on "discovering themselves" back then.
@AdamWellsOfficial I doubt this was controversial in 2010. You're more than likely just sundered by pig headed closed minded individuals.
@@masteracheles i solved my period pain with diet
@@masterachelesMy Sister In Law took it, had "personality changes" and other symptoms from trying different kinds before quitting and got back to normal. I decided at that time to use only non-hormonal methods. Hubby says he supports me trying them and says I'm a different person than his sister but I told him, "I don't want to mess with anything in how God created my body unless absolutely necessary. I have no health problems besides the common cold. I won't throw a wrench in that nor will I ask that of you."
Our methods: Pull Out, cycle tracking, barrier, and avoiding intercourse at times.
I requested of him that he not get a V unless he really wants to but it would make me sad if he did....even though I support his choice. I made it clear I will not get any surgery for the purpose of birth control either. 19 years married and all 4 of our kids are planned...no surprises.
I was 19 when I tried the birth control pill for the first time. I was having trouble regulating my periods and was told this would help. I took the first 7 doses and by the end of the week, I knew something wasn't right. I felt as though my brain was being taken out and put in a blender. My thoughts were different, I was screaming and crying over simple things. I felt like I had no control over my own mind. I quit immediately and have never tried and other form of birth control since.
It seems you have dodged a bullet
I was wondering why those symptoms are so common…..
Same here
I was on birth control off and on through high school and college for various reasons. I stayed on it consistently once I got married. When my husband and I decided to try to have kids, I thought it would be as simple and just quitting the pill. It was not. My hormones were so completely messed up that I stopped having periods, and the few times I would get a period I wasn’t ovulating. It took two years and two doctors to figure it out, and I had pretty much resigned myself to believe I couldn’t get pregnant. By the grace of God, I am six months along now! But I will never, ever take birth control again. And if I do have a daughter one day I will encourage her to stay away from it too. It causes too much grief, and there are way too many risks for it to be worth it.
congrats
may you journey into motherhood be wonderful and your baby be perfect and healthy and bring you much joy
I have a similar story!! It took me 4 years to get pregnant after stopping birth control!
This is exactly what happened to my best friend. Before starting the pill, her periods were like clockwork. When she tried getting off it to have kids, she had irregular periods and stopped ovulating. She went through two years of infertility and medical intervention, but thankfully is about to give birth to her first child.
You have no clue that hormonal contraception is what "completely messed up" your hormones.
I took 2 years to get pregnant after being on the pill for 7 years (thankful it was not longer). But when I tried to breastfeed there was more hormonal havoc and it was a miserable experience. I was glad to find an alternative health provider who balanced out those hormones... my second pregnancy (and lactation) was a much better experience.
I went on the pill when I was 12 because I had a painful menstruation. I got off when I was about 24 and it felt like an awakening. For the first time in my life I actually felt how I was naturally supposed to feel and it improved my life significantly. Without realizing I felt numb all throughout my teenage years. I never went back on.
That really sucks -- maybe you just needed to sort of power through your first menstruations or something like that...
@@airgin3000 this was in the early 90s and it was extremely common to just get prescribed the pill (in the Netherlands). I didn’t know the side effects or anything about it. Everyone just told me it was fine to use.
Exact same situation for me!
My cousin was on bc since about 18 yrs old? By the time she was 30 she was extremely overweight, completely shut down romantically, and depressed ans angry as well as diabetic. She decided to come off bc. After an insane withdrawal period she lost a large amount of Weight, reversed her diabetes, and got a boyfriend. Her depression and anger issues are minimal now she's pretty happy. We couldn't believe the change
diabetes is irreversible, if you get over the threshold thats it your diabetic for life so that part I don't believe you, my problem with your comment is people reading this and believing without verification, don't spread wrong information
Thank you for this episode! I took "the pill" for almost 10 years. I stopped cold turkey when I couldn't handle the "insane" feeling anymore. Ten years, and two kids later, I still suffer from hormonal surges and have to recognize them for what they are.
I will not let my children take hormones or zombie pills.
I sooo feel you on this one! I wandered around stuck in a state of unhinged pubertal thoughts. Either it was wrong with everyone around me or I was the problem. So I had enough and quit could turkey and went through puberty once again at 24 years old.
The amount of pressure I’ve felt to take the pill as a literal child was crazy, I have never taken a single pill and I’m grateful.
And why exactly did you feel this pressure, being a child?
@@darthmetalus7469Because 1) if you are a teenager, you are , technically, still pretty much a kid, and 2) those ghastly pills are prescribed as "period regulators" or even acne control by some doctors, even if you are not sexually active.
I really wonder where this pressure comes from. I never took these pills and nobody ever enquired about it as it is a very private matter. How could random people pressure you into something like this unless you decide to openly discuss this topic with them? I only ever had one "colleague" advising me to get on them and I simply ignored her.
When I was a young preteen and I heard that my mum helped someone get off those medicines, I asked her why can't women just take those pills instead if they don't want any more children. My mum explained to me the side effects of those medicines early on without sugar coating it. Thank the lord I got a resourceful mum who keeps her ear on the ground about the common public talk about this stuff. Shoutout to her.
Seriously appreciate you shining light on this topic. I was put on it at 16 to "regulate cycles" but I already had normal cycles, 28 every month. Within a year, I had crippling anxiety attacks. By 20 I learned to live with them and self medicated to ease how severe it was when out and about. And at 23 I stopped taking it for no reason aside from the price increasing by $45 a pack. In protest, I stopped. And 2 weeks later I stopped having anxiety attacks. I lived in horrible fear for years, through what should have been years that I spent socializing and living normally, because of the pill. 6 years of infertility 3 years after I stopped it that no one could explain. I have yet to meet a woman who is glad to be on the pill and feels good all the time on it.
Hello, I am here. I've taken contraceptive pill from 16-31, stoped to get pregnant, had o beautiful boy, breastfed him for 2 years and 4 months, then had a gorgeous baby girl, breastfed her for 2 years and 8 months. I don't want more babies, so I'm back with the pill. No side effects at all.
@@LeticiaAGentil I never said women who are happy with it don't exist. I said I've yet to meet one who has been satisfied with the decision. Since we've never met, my statement stands. I'm glad it works for you, truly. It doesn't for far more of us.
@lianebuonamici6288 hello, I didn't mean to correct any of your statements, I just introduced myself as a woman who never had side effects while using the pill, but I must say the one I take has a micro dosage.
Have ypu ever looked into the side effects for the male birth control that was once tested? They actually suspended the study because they felt that the side effects (similar to those in women) were too harsh. You're experie ce is geeat, but most women have a different experienxe. Luckily birth control has been studied long enough for the science to state that some even die because of bc.
@@sunshineand Sydney discusses this in the video
My partner and I are currently going through IVF and she is really struggling. She's been on the pill since a doctor put her on it at as soon as she started menstruating, and it was only this year when she stopped taking it to fall pregnant that we discovered she had fertility problems. Maybe the pill itself caused the issue, we don't know, what we do know is that those problems would have been diagnosed well over a decade ago if the symptoms weren't covered up by the pill.
She has suffered through depression all her life because of that pill and now we've learned that it stopped her getting treatment for her fertility issues the entire time as well.
We sincerely hope that at the very least this pill stops being handed to children like lollies.
I friend of mine has a 15 yo daughter and she was having a lot of mood swings and hormone issues when she first started her cycles at 14. Her doctor decided to put the girl on the pill to control the swings. It has been quite the struggle for her and her Mom. My wife had a hard time getting pregnant after she took the pill for 10 yrs and had very screwed up menstruation cycles for the next 30 years. There were several times she thought she had gone into menopause before she was 40 only to start having a period after 18 months of not having one. She also suspects the pill had some impact.
"Partner" 😆 🤣 😂
You're doing it wrong
Maybe that's the goal of the pill after all? I hear a lot about women past their 30s having fertility problems. From all I read from the past, problems in conceiving is really a new thing.
@@ThZuaoLow sperm counts are also a new thing from PFOS in the water and also from birth control hormones in the water supply-there’s no way for water treatment facilities to filter them out, so even if you discontinue the Pill, you’re still getting it in the water, even in the shower.
@@docsavage8640Agreed. Sounds like a business relationship that has a planned ending after a contracted condition is met.
Please make more of this sort of content, this should be required viewing in school systems globally, not only for the information you provide, but the candor in which you deliver it.
I stopped taking my BC when I turned 18. It was because I didn't have insurance anymore so I didn't want to spend the money on it. I am married, so I wasn't as worried about it. But I did immediately notice a change in my cycle. I have PCOS and while on the pill I had such severely painful periods that I would spend hours in the nurses office in school. When I stopped the pill, the frequency of those debilitating periods dropped to maybe once a year. It was a relief.
Ask lots of questions ladies, if you think the pill is hurting you, discuss it with your doctor. Don't let them discredit your concerns! If they blow you off, go to a different doctor that will actually discuss your concerns. Do that with all your medications, not just BC
@tothewoods190 I'm glad it worked for you! The cramps I had were so bad, and I'm thankful they're rare for me now. Every woman's body is different, so what worked for me won't work for everyone and what worked for you won't work for everyone. I'm thankful that you found something that limits that awful pain though. Have a great day 😀
Pcos is a result in insulin resistance which is fixed by a low carb diet, there’s a reason keto got soo big, women with pcos who were told they were infertile had surprise pregnancies, ‘ketobabies’ is a thing, we aren’t meant to consume even half of the carbs we do, look at pics of our ancestors, they were trim and fit, look at beaches back in the 70’s and beyond, maybe one far person, now look at modern times…
I was on birth control from 17 to 21. It made me depressed and very emotional. My body did weird things. My body was a mess after I stopped taking it but my depression stopped. My head cleared and I broke up with the guy I had been dating the whole time I was taking the pill. I had painful periods. I skipped periods. When I tried to get pregnant, my doctor said that I didn’t ovulate every month. It took me a year to get pregnant. After I gave birth and nursed, my body healed. I started having regular periods and no more pain.
At some point I started having painful, but regular periods as well. Before I gave a birth. But I have never taking any kind of pills.
And it’s hard to get pregnant after being on pills. On average 1-2 years. I heard that from women as well. But doctors don’t talk about it . Unless they have been asked.
I feel
Like doctors gets extra in their pockets for the selling those pills…
Remember , I just gave a birth and in 6 weeks visit doctor already prescribed me a pill… without me even mention anything … well, just in case if you change your mind...
This minute I realized something is not right …
Yeah my obgyn also told me it was likely that i dont ovulate every month. And i stopped taking birth control 9yrs ago. That stuff is dangerous
Thank you for allowing us dudes to just vibe, Sydney. Though I will say, some of us DO benefit from this video, because we have wives and daughters who this affects. Even if it doesn't affect my body, it affects those closest to me.
Im a guy and it completely ruined my last relationship. My ex would absolutely agree too.
more men need to be aware especially because of the mass medication aspect pushed on half of society
I've been on a combined pill for over 10 years and it's been nothing but good for me. No crazy mood swings and my painful periods are gone. Can't say anything bad about it. I see my GP every 6 months to renew my prescription and we've been monitoring my health e.g. blood pressure, weight etc. And, it's been all good.
thankyou, this video is literall clickbait for views. completely biased uneducated
Something I realise is that we’re discussing something that may or may not affect us mentally or psychologically. Coming from us. Imagine if I ‘drink socially’ and report that it’s been great for me. On the flip, imagine my list of exes, friends that deleted my number…and people who sponge drinks off me, etc what I’m saying is that we often have no clue how something has affected us, meanwhile other people (who aren’t even ‘close’ to us do).
The first three minutes of this video absolutely nails it. Choice, yes. INFORMED choice. And what women often have is anything but that - not for lack of choice, but for lack of information and a genuine understanding of their options. This is true with contraception, abortion, and labor and birth as well. Let’s empower women to make INFORMED choices, not protect them from the uncomfortable bits and just herd them toward the choices other people approve for them. Thank you!
It needs to be banned completely.
THIS. What frustrates me so much about pro choice rhetoric is there doesnt seem to be enough disscussion about what the consequences of the choices women are pushed to make. Are they really educated about all the risks of abortion and birth control? Instead of covering up the icky parts, show the consequences straight, no sugar coating. It's not empowering if it's not an informed choice.
Stop being sheep in a herd then.
Think for yourself
@@ImperialSenpai Women should make their own choices. You do you.
@@ga6589 It’s absolutely terrible for women, society, and nature it should be banned. The muh whamin argument doesn’t work and is irrelevant that it’s for women. It’s an evil drug that’s just as bad as any hardcore drug it just doesn’t get you high. Yet the ones that do are banned because we all know they’re bad and evil. The only reason this isn’t is because of the muh whamin feminist nonsense which has done nothing but harm women. Just as Eisenhower warned about the military-industrial complex and the dangers of it this falls under it. No drugs, no big pharma period.
This is important to all men who have women in their lives, whether it is partner, daughter, sister, or just a friend. Understanding what each other goes through physically and mentally is always good.
Wholesome ❤ God bless you!
I remember discussions I had around the time the male pill trial happened. A few female friends said it was great that maybe they wouldn't be having to take the pill any longer--they would just force their male partners to. When I mentioned how the trial ended with most men sinking into depression and such, their response was, "Yeah now they know what it feels like to be on the pill." So my follow up was, "Then why are we allowing ANYBODY to take these?"
It's societal brain damage that has created the continuing forced reliance/usage of medication.
That's actually quite horrible and shows they don't care for their male partners at all. The moment I heard of the male birth control causing depression I told my husband to never take it under any circumstances.
Because when women feel pain or discomfort, especially in relation to gynecological issues, doctors just brush it off. I've just recently read a woman had her iud had punctured her womb and lodged somewhere near the ovaries (incorrectly inserted) and was walking in pain for a few days, dismissed by all the doctors, until finally getting emergency surgery. This might be quite extreme but also how many times I've heard women having great pains from endometriosis and also being dismissed by the doctors. Or how often women after talking hormonal bc develop life-threatening blood clots - the relatively not uncommon and known side effect, and yet it's seen as acceptable to put women in such a risk, just so that they be rendered temporary sterile. And many men aren't even aware on the effects on the female body the hormonal contraception has, or some others as well, such as iud. While they can't themselves stand any slight discomfort but expect women to handle it all - all the difficulties - in their own bodies. It's the same also with pregnancy and delivery, it's a great effort for a female body which many don't appreciate enough and don't think about it as a consequence of also their own actions.
@@lovetobe6118 It was quite horrible, and pretty revealing to me at the time--both in terms of how these friends treated people around them, and also just how pervasion and manipulative some of these societal forces can be. That as a person you could become convinced somebody else's suffering is justifiable and completely palatable.
For at least one of them, I didn't really continue associating with them. For the 1-2 others who expressed something similar, I like to give them the benefit of the doubt, since it was in college and everybody can be dumb at that age. But maybe I'm just the kind of person who'd be willing to make whatever lifestyle changes needed to allow the ones I love to not have to be continuously medicated.
How to control female population. Tell them men are all evil -> elimininates their moral -> eliminates society. Easy game.
@@joane24 Your solution to the problems women face is to spread more pain and suffering onto other people? That doesn't solve any of the problems you've outlined--disregarding the numerous sweeping generalizations you've made.
The solution to ending the suffering you're talking about is to make people more informed and stop allowing doctors to push potentially harmful pharmaceuticals onto everybody by deliberately ignoring their patients. Neither of those things requires deliberately, maliciously, counter-intuitively, insanely punishing whoever you've deemed worthy of punishment.
Birth control is one of the single best things that ever happened to women collectively. It must always be available, accessible and an absolute and unconditional choice. Some women have side effects and some dont. If you dont like it, just dont use it. Dont get in the way of other women's dignity, freedom and overall well-being. The absolute best for women is allowing women to CHOOSE
I second this!!!! You dont even have to watch to tell this is a fearmongering video, just read the comments! Sexual education is so important, way too many people saying “i didnt know x 🤡”
I had the non hormonal IUD for a decade and it was great. After having my kid, I went on the pill and within a few months it totally messed me up. Heart palpitations, shortness of breath, dizziness, nausea, vertigo so bad that I fell and am still a year later dealing with the injury and recovering. I actually fell twice. The second was literally straight back like a board onto the ground while getting into the car. My husband immediately threw away the pills. And now I am cured of the heart issue, dizziness, and vertigo. It’s so bad what that pill does.
Pill becomes increasingly unsafe for 30+ due to heart complications and thrombosis risks skyrocketing through the roof. Take care
I am sorry if I sound inconsiderate. Why did not you tak the UID again? Is there something preventing you from taking it after you have kids? I have no idea but i am interested in this topic...
@@vitrozsypal1866 it was money. they cost around $700 and my insurance only covered the one with hormones. So I got the pill instead.
16 years ago, one of my best friends 15 year old sister hanged herself from the balcony with an extension cord. Everyone was shocked because she was a smart, likable, happy, talented, and beautiful girl. Her doctor had started her on birth control to help with acne. Both her physical and mental health suddenly declined and no one knew why or how to help her in time. It devastated so many people.
... "Everyone was shocked because she was a smart, likable, happy, talented, and beautiful girl."
"... she was a smart, likable, happy, talented, and beautiful girl..."
"...smart, likable, happy, talented, and beautiful..."
Can't tell you the number of times I've heard this exact list at a funeral of a friend who finally succeeded in offing themselves.
And the fact that ya'll ALWAYS put "happy" in the list is infinitely amusing...
@@Othique Brother, it was really unnecessary for you to let everyone know you disapprove of cliché adjectives. This is a short form comment among thousands of others that I typed in half a minute, not her obituary. This video evoked my memory of her and I wanted to share it with others who have been affected.
@@Focus_23 No, I think its necessary to let anyone unaffected by mental illness know that their bullshit list of what makes life "worth it" is actually really harmful to people suffering with suicidal ideation.
It needs to stop being said.
It ESPECIALLY needs to not be said on public platforms.
Living ignorantly has significant benefits. Unfortunately
@@rebeccaknudsen6190 I didn't say anything about being happy. Happiness consistents of very small moments in time. Completely unrelated to having to live every day with the realisation that the world we live in is pretty f*cked up.
I'm a male, and for many years thought the pill was great now in my thirties and my fiance and i have been trying to get pregnant for 4 years i have somewhat blame the pill/ bar inserted into the upper arm for causing long term effects on females and now look back to my younger self and know I could have easily been more careful without relying on the female to take the pill. I believe it's a large reason our birth rate in most countries is on the steep decline. But that's just my two cents.
The plummeting birth rate is a serious issue and for physicians to continue to push birth control is really criminal.
Thank you for recognizing you could have been more responsible rather than expecting women to damage their bodies. The male reporoductive system is far more simple than female's, but few men are willing to take be responsible. It's easier to poison the woman and if she gets pregnant, expect her to murder her child.
I would say you are right
Agreed it took me a year to get pregnant after being on birth control for 15 years and it took my friend two years it definitely delays it more for some people than what they say when they put you on it
The first time I went to a gynecologist, after the exam she was sitting at her desk and asked me "Are you on the Pill?" I said No, so she then asked "Would you like to go on it?" As she spoke those words, she quickly grabbed her script pad and a pen and by the end of the sentence she was already starting to write a prescription, before even giving me a chance to answer! I politely told her no thank you, I don't have a boyfriend and am not sexually active so I didn't feel I needed it. She then said "Fine." with obvious annoyance in her voice, letting go of the pen and scripts. I didn't understand at the time why she was so quick to try to give me a prescription and then pissed when I declined. Years later I found out that doctors sometimes got perks and bonuses from pharmaceutical companies if they prescribed their drugs. Maybe I unwittingly deprived her of a perk? Anyway, I never did go on the Pill, and when I hear stuff like on this video I'm glad I didn't take it.
Thank you for this! As a health teacher, I have challenged teenagers to think about big pharma and government in the regulation of hormone use in males and females. It's illegal for men and boys to take hormones to build their bodies and enhance athletic performance, while women are encouraged to take hormones
mainly to suppress their reproductive systems. So glad you mentioned this.
Interesting. Are you opposed to everything big pharma puts out? Should we all just die at age 40 and forget about blood pressure medications, cholesterol medications, let alone Viagra, Cialis and everything else.
This is a thinly veiled attempt to subjugate women. Don’t fall for it.
I don't think steroids are the best example, kids do not rationalise things the same way adults do. They'll think, "well, one is legal, and the other is illegal." That means different things to children and adults.
Should use the hormones kids are taking to "change" their gender as an example, and also, not all PEDs that utilise hormones are illegal. MK-677 is a growth hormone secretagogue, it's pretty much legal everywhere, can buy it online. Many believe it's a SARM, but it's not, plus, it's not the only example.
Another good example would be opiates and how badly they effect people's lives. Even adults are often unaware how bad they are, and often have their lives ruined by them, and they're legal, just like the pill. To kids, the pill and steroids are too dissimilar for the message to have any impact.
Should maybe start by explaining how something like alcohol/nicotine, the biggest drug-related killers in the world, are completely legal. Whereas cannabis, something that's illegal in most places, has never killed anybody. This would be a good way to get kids to rationalise the "legal/illegal" thing the way you want them to.
Making a direct comparison right off the bat will leave a lot of kids lost.
right! It's so awful that they do that. I always have sais that the pill has got something to do with the increase of breastcancer.
@@MsMeyarait might temporarily increase the risk of breast cancer, but the risk goes away when you’re not taking it. However I don’t think cancer is a reason to avoid birth control because it actually significantly decreases the risk of ovarian and endometrial cancer!
Yes but anyone over 18 can obtain a vasectomy. There's also the legality of Viagra and penis enlargements. It is also legal for men to be misogynistic.
I stopped taking the pill in my early twenties because of the emotional toll these hormones put my brain through. I started crying uncontrollably for no reason, wanted to scratch off my face and jump off the roof. I called my family and hung out with them for a weekend until it passed. I stopped taking the pill after that and have not had such a severe mood swing since.
I'm a damn man
I felt the same!
Exactly the same here… simply that unfortunately I took it till my late twenties. Wouldn’t recommend it to anyone and will NOT allow my future daughter to take it as easily as I’ve been given it (at 14 years young 🙈).
It can cause akathisia.
@@gwjsbm it causes Chinks in the armor
I must state, I'm one of those women that hormonal BC actually helped. But my doctor was candid about the effects of hormone-affecting medicines. But considering how insane way my internal plumping was acting, I was willing to take the risk. Its still not perfect, but compared to what it was, I'm definitely happier. However I recognize that hormonal treatment isn't great for everyone, and obgyns need to give us girls all the choices along with downsides rather than just shoving the pill into some teen's hand and tell them to figure it out...
Another Big Pharma shill...
Great to see an opinion like this coming from a woman, since I was afraid sharing the same sentiment, as a man. Multiple girl/women in my vicinity took it. Some was prescribed since they were 13 yo because issues, others took it as a contraceptive. Majority of them had no issue with it, some had different side effects, what vanished with changed the brand/generation of medication. My ex took it before me, then with me and she had a nice boy without problem at 37 or so. Many women whom I talk with seems totally uneducated about the topic and having the "common fear/knowledge" about it from the '80s first generations medication from their mom or other relative/friend. I think the discussions are very much needed and we have to come clear about all of the sides. There are so many options now, I dont think it sohuld be an issue to chose the preferred one
Im a woman and I started taking it around 28 because of problems and it has helped a lot for me in making mine lighter and a lot less painful
I didn't have any issues with being on it, but I was so glad to come off it. I think I was given it too easily and when I told my doctor I wanted to come off it and I was having fortnight long light periods because of it, she suggested taking double the dose I was taking!
It was obvious that it wasn't on my records why I was taking it in the first place. Me and my mum were the only people who actually knew why. Everyone else made guesses.
I found it quite amusing when I was warned my fertility would come back if I stopped because I'm a virgin and have no plans to stop being one anytime soon.
I use oral contraceptive. I am healthy, no acne, no unwanted kids, no weight gain, I have always had mood swings.
Thank you so much! I'm still 20 and had never been informed about this sort of thing ever in my life. My family, school and doctor never explained any sort of side effect to me about taking it. I always thought it was something good and even preferable to othe types of contraceptives. I'm still not taking it, but I was just considering to start doing it as part of "growing up". I was just about to throw myself over the edge on this topic without being rightfully informed on the matter. So, really, thank you
Doc pushed me onto birth control to regulate my periods without explaining anything. She said to give my body 3 months to adjust to it. Had a blood clot after 2 months, no family history. Even during those 2 months, I was irritable, depressed, had a mental fog, and I bled out golf-ball-sized globs from my vagina. Doctor dismissed my concerns and just said GiVe It 3 MoNtHs. After the blood clot I stopped, didn’t care what she said.That shit wrecks you.
Edit: Got a new OBGYN who actually listens. Not all docs are slimy pieces of used toilet paper.
Don't forget high blood pressure along with all that you say. I felt a sort of "blunting" when I was on them. Perhaps the brain fog and also my libido changed and I was young. I dismissed all these things because I believed it was "safe". I don't feel that it made me free at all. It made my life more difficult. I don't know what the answer is but I am done being a lab rat.
This is happening to me right now . I was bleeding continuously for a month straight. So I went to a mbbs doctor . He suggested me overall-g and oh my god I was a wreck. I was crying the whole day and having suicidal thoughts. Then I changed doctors coz it was too much for me. She put has put me on another birth control and its not as worse but it is still messing with my head. Im gonna stop after the month is over. I just have to lose weight and eat right .
This has been nothing but a nightmare since I started. I have had too many bad days in my life but I have never felt such gut wrenching urge to kill myself than as much as I wanted to when I was taking the pill.
Does your male partner use condoms?
@@avs9521Oh, I hope you're doing okay!
Food has SUCH a big impact on our hormones. I was fortunate to have a nutritionist mother who immediately researched into estrogen-inhibiting vs estrogen-enhancing foods when my periods were getting out of whack as a teen, to help me sort out the right hormonal balance - the idea of taking me to a doctor to get drugs for it would never have crossed her mind.
It takes time to find the right diet that works for us individually, though, as we all have different metabolisms. But once worked out, just eating the right foods for you is incredibly important for SO many health issues. Drugs can really only go so far: for most of history doctors were mainly dieticians, and some still prefer prescribing healthy lifestyles to drugs, but are under a lot of pressure for 'results.'
But don't worry about losing weight right away. Once you get your hormones back in balance it will be so much easier; finding the right healthy foods that work for you will take some trial and error and research first, but worth it I promise. And then you'll likely move closer to your healthy weight without even trying, which will make it much easier to get all the way there! And remember you do not have to eat the same food balance or have the same weight/exercise regime as others to be the healthiest version of YOU. Wishing you the very best. ❤🙏
@jcrunk Gross, but a necessary medical information to tell because it is CAUSED by the fucking birth control pills. It's a fucking plague that destroys women. Why the fuck else do you think we have a practical pandemic of depressed women that have to seek out the most insane ways of feeling better about themselves... because they HAVE no other way.
This makes me so happy I've never taken any of the birth control pills.
Ditto👍🏾
Same
Same for me too.
Same!❤️🙏🏼
Same! Wait, I'm a dude, I don't think this applies to me, nvm.
I took birth control pills for 8 years, and honestly, I can't say that I noticed any bad side effects from it. It took a couple months after stopping it for my period to get back to normal, but other than that, nothing really happened. That being said, I know hormones are powerful chemicals and that there are always some risks to take into consideration.
I guess it depends on the person
I've taken pills and the injection and had no reactions, no change in mood or biology whatsoever. I personally don't know any woman who had any side effects when it came to moods, only changes in their periods. Some longer some shorter.Maybe it's our bodies or maybe our treatments have a different composition.
While there are women affected by it but there also seems to be a lot of fear mongering about this lately, as if the pill was the just invented.
Most women I know who were on it took at least 5 years to get pregnant after stopping. While I was on it my period stopped functioning and didn't return after stopping, so I'm glad it worked fine for you but it is most definitely not risk free and none of the risks were stipulated to me by the doctor prescribing it.
I don't understand how people do not understand that fucking with or injecting hormones is a bad idea
Roids, contraceptives, bla bla bla
It should be common sense that assisting your body unnaturally is very likely going to have severe side effects.
@@tropistan7735 just because you didn't get side effects doesn't mean it didn't cause havoc to your endocrine system. B/C are oral steroids. Taking oral steroids for years on end is horrible for you. Just like taking anabolic steroids for decades is bad for you. Some guys go bald, some guys get cystic acne, some guys get bitch tits... anabolic steroids react differently for everyone. That doesn't mean just because I get no side effects from them that they are not causing other issues...
I was just discussing this with my girlfriend the other day actually. She had never been on birth control and when we became more intimate we decided better safe than sorry and looked into getting her on birth control. Fast forward she had the birth control that is placed in the arm of the patient. Being that I was a guy I've obviously had very little experience with this sort of thing but I went with her to the appointment, and listened to what he doctor had to say about this method... She made it seem as if this was completely harmless to the majority of users and whenever we were ready we could just have it removed. My girlfriend has sadly had some side affects, I won't go into detail as for privacy but its caused me to do more research... Kind of scary some of the stories I have heard about pretty much all of the available birth control out there. I've briefly talked to my girlfriend about this but she's scared to switch to another method
My brother's girlfriend is on the same kind of birth control. She's got a lot of acne now (that she previously didn't have), super cranky, and has had depressive moods. It's not really worth it, honestly. My mother (54 years old, menopausal stage), who never had birth control, is a lot healthier, no hot flashes, and not mood-swingy than my brother's girlfriend, who's just 23 years old. Tells a lot about how these stuff screws over women's bodies.
@@tkraid2575 It's crazy to think that the pills mess with mental health to that extent. I don't think she gets too angry, or at least she doesn't show it. But the depressive mood is something I've noticed too. She's had a history of depression and chalked it up to this. Even talked about going back to her therapist, but I'm now convinced it's the birth control
@swlb2 Research alternatives. Does she have a regular cycle? Can you use the withdrawal method? Barrier method, condoms, lots to choose from.
The condom is an easy alternative that also prevents many STDs. All advantages.
@@judeross3875 The withdrawal method isn't as effective as the others, especially if you don't know yourself super well. However, you're right about alternatives.
This is totally crazy... I was involved in that clinical trial for male birth control and I voluntarily dropped out after developing severe depression.
I.... I never felt more seen lol
"more seen"? Hit the gym bro, you gotta work that language out yo damn head. 🤣
I don't know much about that trial but I'm sorry for your suffering.. I was put on the SHOT at age 14, a week EARLY every time so I had no period & wouldn't loose epilepsy medications. Because itd cause life threatening ones so I was put on it by my epileptologists. I stopped around 6 months ago of six months ago and still haven't had a period... I'm 23 have gained weight and my high amount of hormones are causing non epileptic seizures caused by stress(psychogenic seizures) I'm a virgin for God sake😔 it's depressing and I know it's not the pill but any medications stopping your natural cycle is just not safe..
@@JusticeGypsy really sorry to hear that! My experience was not nearly so severe.... For me, I had a lot of external things going on. At the same time. I was finishing grad school, going to internship, trying to complete my dissertation /thesis, so it's really hard for me to say for sure whether it was the birth control or other things. I do know (because they took blood samples every two weeks) that my testosterone was low enough that it was considered a problem and they were worried about it. Like, if my testosterone had been that low without me being part of the birth control study, my primary care doctor would have wondered what caused it and assumed I had an illness that needed treatment. And I like they would have been prescribed testosterone injections. So I do know that it was affecting me, but I don't know if it truly caused the depression.
After I got off, and finished the semester, I started feeling better and there were certainly no lasting effects. Sorry you had such a horrid response! Seems scary.
One time I saw a gynecologist. They wanted to put me on brith control. I told her I didn't need it because I don't have sex and therefore wouldn't get pregnant anyway. She got angry with me and started acting in a very nasty way after that. She seemed offended that I wasn't going on regular booty calls.
Maybe she got a kickback from big pharma for every new customer.
That's why my mom and I both turned it down, not having sex so it wasn't needed. Doctors were incredulous that a teen girl didn't want sex until she was married...
Doctors get money if they get people on certain meds.
it’s true, I face this problem with my generation… they got so upset and think you’re strange if you’re not into boring ass overrated hook up culture
All about the $
as a med student who has been preparing since 8th grade, i cry for women who never had classes discussing birth control pills or tsh hormones before taking the pills. we are so fragile and the littlest change of hormones in our bodies can lead to enormous changes in our bodies
Catholic Med school I'm betting.. they teach you to hate yourself especially if you're a woman
YES! Ive been on birth control because of my PCOS and it messed me up. Now I have intense migraines that makes me throw up in pain. They stopped coming frequently after I stopped my birth control pills.
the medical system kills over 1 million Americans a year.
how to live a long happy life, avoid medical people and big pharma like the plague.
Starting it before the pituitary is matured can lead to prolonged infertility. It is all bad bad stuff.
#1 reason as a guy I am freaked out about taking Finasteride. I feel like once you start messing around with hormones it's *really* hard to get things back on track.
Today I learned that my birth control periods were not periods. WHAT!? Ugh. I went off my pills in March 2020 after being on it for probably 13 years. Although my acne came back, so did my actual personality. All my brain fog vanished and I became mentally healthier than ever. I need to read lady's book! I have to know more about this all.
When I was 19 and started dating my future husband, my painful periods and sudden sexual activity motivated the doctors to practically shove the birth control pills down my throat. I couldn't go into a doctors office for a sprained ankle without having "the talk" about how irresponsible it was for me to be sexually active without taking the pill. Even though we were aware of the risks even back then and knew we'd eventually be married and that a pregnancy would not have been any issue for us. So basically, I got worn down into taking the pills.
I was on them for a few months before I began to notice my brain fogging and my stomach always hurting. I was quite sad about a lot of things and sometimes nothing at all. For the most part, I just wanted to sit around and do nothing. This was a 19-year-old woman who used to at that point, run 5 miles a day rain, snow or shine, and suddenly I couldn't be bothered. As that year progressed my husband and I did end up getting married, and by this time I was 20 years old of course and the doctors were still telling me that I should stay on the pill until we felt that we wanted to conceive.
I was gaining weight and felt awful 24/7 and I had a feeling it was the pills. Worse yet, the original issue I had, the painful periods...were not lessened at all by taking these pills. I still had horrible cramps, headaches, puking, etc. But I just wasn't having a period technically. I lasted for only a few months or so after marriage, having been on the pills for about a year. I was sure that the pills were the cause of all these new symptoms and as it turns out I was correct. After stopping the birth control, my body almost sighed in relief. My brain went back to normal levels of focus and my emotions weren't so bat shit crazy and random. I still to this day, in my late 30's, have incredibly painful periods, and wouldn't you know it...every time it comes up in discussion everyone from doctors to nutritionists to other women try to sell me on taking birth control pills. But I've always politely declined.
I can't imagine being on the pill for longer than I was. I can't imagine the havoc it caused in me for the year I did take them. I also wonder if some of the issues that popped up later on in life could have been caused by the birth control pills that I did take. It is insane to me how it is changing women totally, from brain function to the way we choose our mates. It sounds like society itself has been altered unnaturally all in the name of making a dollar. We were made to feel irresponsible as teens for not regulating our bodies on these drugs, made to feel shamed and possibly even scared of what might happen if they weren't taken.
Growing up pregnancy was introduced to all the girls in my class as though it were an addition to the long list of STDs you could contract. You didn't want to be the girl in high school that got pregnant, you didn't want to be 'stupid' and get 'knocked up', pregnancy was unknown and terrifying and to get pregnant was basically themed as this death sentence. And now as all the girls my age back then grew up into older women today, many of us don't even want to have children at all. And yet everyone is scratching their heads confused as to why. Because in health class the boys and girls were separated and only one of those groups came back crying like their lives were over.
From too young an age, girls are expected to carry this heavy burden of responsibility, to grow up quick past puberty. Plan ahead so no one notices our body doing anything girl's bodies naturally do, take pills so we can permanently alter our system, suppress and be embarrassed of our bodies and what they do monthly, etc. And for what? So, the guys don't have to worry about anything substantial except maybe bringing a condom? I'm genuinely interested in what that study of men taking hormonal drugs as a form of men's birth control would have showed if it had not been cut short. I'm not saying men, or anyone should take any form of medication that negatively affects the body, I'm just saying that maybe it wouldn't be so bad if men carried some of the weight of that responsibility given to us way too early of an age, once in a while.
Very interesting.
Rest assured if the men had to take a pill and risk stroke, weight gain and stuffing up their hormones it would be off the market in a matter of weeks if not days 😅
Well said
@@itsmexena4727 Unless it had _STEROID_ effects - in which case we'd have a decade or so of super hero posing followed by serious health issues and early death!
@@itsmexena4727 But if men could get pregnant they would also take it.
I didn't realize how grateful I should be to my mom. Growing up my mom was repeatedly asked by doctors/nurses if she wanted to put me on BC. She kept saying no, not that she is against she had an IUD, she believed that hormonal BC could cause a lot of problems for me as a developing girl. She said I could chose to take it when I hit 18. I still don't take it as an adult, I've just never wanted it or needed it. Even tho periods can suck sometimes lol. I'm really grateful for my mom giving me the chance to decide and not allow big pharma to push it on me.
"Even tho periods can suck sometimes"
Technically the bc is supposed be the contraceptive. Then they started marketing it to also sexually inactive girls for acne or periods as if that were the most normal treatment. It isn't.
Your mom sounds much smarter than mine.
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IUD can cause a lot of problems too. My favourite one is growing in the uterus and being surgecly removed with it later.
As a women who done a research paper on the side effects of oral contraceptives pills, I'm truly happy that Sydney did this video.
What about the impacts of the effects of being part of organized religion on women ? This is far more damaging to human females than any side effect of birth control ... Religious control can and is deadly to women on many situations .
The control of reproduction has freed women from the slavery of pregnancy and breast feeding for life ... As this was the plight of human females prior to any scientific acheivement in the domain of contraception . Clothes hangers killed many ... Ignorance and submission to gods KILLED MORE . The end goal of contraception is life .
@niniv2706 as someone who also did a research paper on oral contraceptives and someone who was on the suicide hotline after my gyno switched my pills in the middle of a pack (and was not religious at the time), I can definitely say my religion now has never had me crying on the hotline like I was then (at 18 years old!!)
@niniv2706 also OP never even mentioned organized religion? So confused why this was even brought up in response to a simple comment about her research
@@coletteespagetti9911 - Well good 4 U . Nothing better than one that finds what is the problem about and ... Works to make life better for oneself .
Unwanted pregnancies are a far lousier side effect than anything else OC could deliver ... But hey, I am a guy ... A farmer and ... It is an opinion .
Colette ... Be safe, happy and ... healthy . Later
My birth control experience was horrible. I wasn't on birth control for very long because my body is super sensitive and will kick anything out it doesn't like. I had an allergic reaction to 3 different types of birth control. I will never go on birth control again!
I tried to make a comment about how men's version of the pill failed the trial because of side effects. Then I saw you made note of this. Women and children are a kind of liability anymore. Luckily the mandatory thing which shall remain unspeakable will probably render American women infertile. Allegedly.
I honestly feel this is why "the thing we must not speak of" was pushed. There's no real way other than condoms/abstinence to limit/lower fertility without causing other health problems. And since overt eugenics isn't popular anymore they're using covert eugenics which is much more damaging and harder to detect.
@@rejanrobinson8797that and the mass sterilization of teenagers. If I wanted to quickly depopulate the earth, what would I do differently?
@@rachelbuckley4499 they want to depopulate the earth but don't stop complaining about low birth rates in the news.... ig it's the different types of people but it's still funny to me
@@lovelymill the people complaining about low birth rates are also targets of "the thing we must not speak of". Although, they don't know it.
I went on progesterone pills when I got married at age 21. They completely changed my personality. My poor husband didn't know who he married. I was horribly depressed, crying all the time, feeling like a crazy person- the opposite of how I actually am. Luckily, my husband and I realized this wasn't normal, and as soon as I stopped taking them, I went back to my normal happy, peaceful self. No wonder so many men think women are crazy. It's the birth control!
Yeah, so many things were normalized in the sexual revolution of the 60s that we are just now seeing its societal effects on people.
More to come from all the drugs being taken for ADHD and such.
Men also have their fair share of all of this stuff. The normalization of pornography and daily masturbation being one. It is a widespread addiction that is being marketed as “good” and “healthy”. Even claims that it prevents prostate cancer. You can tell men to try to stop, and they’ll have a very hard time to.
Cutting those off had such a drastic effect on my personality and especially how I viewed women.
It might sound weird, but I finally can see women as humans with life experiences instead of a sexual means to an end that I had to constantly stop myself from seeing that way.
I think a lot, for both sexes, was normalized when it has a lot of harmful effects on how we view each other, and it is saddening to say the least, that the fingers are being pointed elsewhere instead of what has been normalized in the last few decades.
Some are deeming those fighting against it as bad people, going off about how it is morally fine, when instead the argument being made is that “hey, this thing has some bad effects.”
Oh, the girl bosses are so cause of birth control pills ?
My husband is going to get a vasectomy in a few months because he’s seen how birth control is effecting my mental health. I only got on it after having my second kid cause we don’t want anymore.
Same. I was on it for 2 months and felt completely crazy. I dissociated so hard that I felt like I was hovering behind myself most of the time. I got suicidal thoughts and was very depressed. I stopped taking it and went back to normal pretty quickly. I use natural family planning now and it works. Additionally, I think there is too little awareness what hormones (or any meds in general) do to neurodivergent people as they've naturally been tested on neurotypicals. I'm leaning towards the adhd spectrum. Meds have far more side effects or can be infinitely stronger or have unexpected side effects. There is no awareness of that! In my opinion neurodivergent people should never take hormonal birth control. It should be a contra indication
surprisingly i am having the opposite effect - i was a mess to begin with (without having taken any birth control before) and when i started taking progestin only pill, my mood and energy levels actually stabilized. it's almost as if it changes your mental state to the opposite of what you already are
I wanted to educate women about birth control because i am convinced it played a huge role in aiding my sister's suicide in 2016. Her and i suffer bipolar disorder terribly. When i started taking birth control i suddenly found myself more manic and angry than ever. I was punching myself and having nervous breakdowns over situations i would normally be able to handle in a more composed manner. My sister and i went to a pp clinic and got our birth control. Only i requested lo estrogen option. My sister did not. I didn't think itd have such a huge impact on her but it did and she asked me if i could give her a month supply of mine until we made her appointment. She was becoming erratic and impulsive when it came to any negative situation. The night i was to being her my birth control ia when my dad called me ans told me i needed to get there asap and informed me what has happened. He said that day she was acting crazy. I really kick myself in the ass when i think about it. Ive always thought they should do psyche screenings
Heartbreaking. Sorry you lost your sister. This will always be an unknown in your life, as if she wasn't on the pill, it could have happened anyway at some point in her life. I lost a cousin to suicide. Nobody knows why and never shall. Its tragic.
I suffered heavily after my gyno switched my pills up. She switched me mid pack and my anxiety and depression went off the rails. I was on the suicide hotline one night and didn't even know why. I am so sorry for your loss and I hope you find healing
I am sorry for your loss. Pills made me miserable and I felt ugly inside and outside. I stopped taking them. I was told by a doctor that I have hypothyroidism and I wonder if the pills may have affected my thyroid gland??
I’m so sorry about your sister. I also commented about having bipolar disorder & the pill! I was diagnosed after taking it for a few years. I made me sooo mean to people & impulsive.
@@coletteespagetti9911 I can't understand why your gynecologist switched the pills. Is she a psychopath?
You’re singing my song sister! This is EXACTLY what happened to me. I watched this and just cried. I don’t like publishing much about myself but if I had daughters, I’d advise them to stay away from birth control and educate them about the alternatives.
The best alternative is a radical misterectomy.
Every woman in my family that has used birth control, even the smallest dose available, struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts during her time on it. Those feelings were gone once off it for a couple of months.
I was never on the pill, but was on anti-depressants and they gave me suicidal thoughts. I could tell they were intrusive and not my own. Doctor said "Medications can't give you suicidal thoughts. Those thoughts are your own." Now 20 years later you see 'suicidal thoughts' as a side effect to many big pharma meds.
Yikes. I didn't get suicidal, but it made me super angry and crabby, snapping and yelling all the time. I soon as I went off of them, the extreme crabbiness went away.
Women can and do suffer from PMS, mood swings, and depression as a result of their menstrual cycles. Those feelings get better for many of them once they start taking oral contraceptives.
As a man (18) I’ve seen a lot of my girl friends go through mental health issues; some of it being influenced by life ofc, but after watching this video I’m starting to make some connections. Coming into this video knowing nothing about birth control at all, it definitely sparked my interest in learning more.
I’m a Aussie male, I’ve always had deep respect for you Sydney, yore presentations are very professional but with a touch of humour, never stop you’re channel, you are an amazing young lady, keep strong ,keep going, you are respected
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Totally agree about lack of info. When I was in my early 20s and had some questions for my doctor about going on the pill, she dismissed them and said, "well everyone uses it." I was still too scared to try the drug, so tracked my cycle instead. After years of doing that, I'm still totally happy with the decision.
That will help with your long term relationship(s) too. Couples who track the woman's cycle are far more likely to stay together in the long run! 👍🏻
My fiancé was on the birth control pill for about three months. It made her moody, groggy, and depressed, and it increased her stress levels and made her acne worse and gave her back pain. Almost as soon as she got off it, those symptoms went away. She hasn't been on it since.
There are many birth controls
My daughter ended up in the emergency room because she had lung embolism and she is only 24 years old. They ran tons of tests on her and found nothing so doctors were pretty sure it came from the birth control pills. It makes me angry that my healthy daughter could have died from this and still doctors hand out this stuff like candies.
It is no exaggeration to say they hand it out like candy. They really do push it on all us women it seems.. for any little reason and starting from the time we're teens. Disgusting.
Was it recent? Covid or covid vaccine? Estrogen is definitely a culprit for many women, but there something else going around laltely I feel .
You sure it wasn't the clot shot? Cos it sounds suspiciously like the clot shot.
A common issue I'm seeing is that if they can't find anything when someone has a serious health problem they say the birth control did it. I'm not sure what to think about that.
I got severe migraine in the age of 21 for the first time. They immediately took me off the pills and the migraine haven't happened since then.
When the seizure-like symptoms begun, I knew from the start it was from pills.
Got them when I was 11 to treat my acne. Too bad they forgot they prescribed the ones that have most hormones in them and it was never changed back so, fast forward 10 years of using those daily, something broke. Just now, after being around 4 years hormone free I'm starting to be normal-ish again.
I'm not against hormonal birthcontrol, but it should be treated more carefully and be more monitored.
This topic is beyond important and massively under-discussed.
I read “Your Brain on Birth Control” a couple of years ago (right after I had my first baby and was being encouraged - aka pressured - to start taking birth control) and I was shocked at how detrimental it is to essentially every facet of brain functioning, particularly your hypothalamus.
I get that not everyone wants kids but it is unacceptable that society and the medical industrial complex pushes the narrative that birth control is the best/only option.
If you are in a committed relationship the pullout method actually works very well.
@@MedicalAutonomyProject It is not and please do not do this.
@@MedicalAutonomyProjectpull out method is how I happened.
@@Spicy_Spores Planned parenthood says it is 96% effective with perfect use. It fails with horny 22 year olds fooling around in the backseat of a car. It is very effective if you are married and f-ing it up means having to buy a mini van. They don't want to tell people how effective it is because they don't want horny 22 year olds using it.
@@MedicalAutonomyProjectYou are totally right! I have had unprotected sex with my hubby for almost a decade now and we haven’t had any pregnancies yet. We are not ready yet, but will soon. (: