I was working new at a company and really needed the job. The person training me was very critical/negative plus I was dealing with some personal stress. It got so bad that I would cry before going in and it was making me ill. She was known to be difficult to work with but knew her technical material enough that they kept her. Instead of going directly to our boss, I talked with her. There were two technical paths (both of which eventually needed to be mastered). Pretty sure it was her suggestion that I shift to the other one under another trainer first and that we should go to our boss together and recommend to move. It worked. I learned the other track then moved back in under her training in a less stressful frame of mind.
I worked in a corporate environment all my life, and there was favoritism and incompetent management who made employees feel unappreciated, the lies, etc. and was hard to grow in this environment. I never tapped into my potential, and I'm happy to take an early retirement at 65. I followed my passion and felt so satisfied. It was well worth leaving the corporate world 🌎
I’ve been quietly watching and enjoying your videos for years. Thank you for your genuine well intended efforts, your lovely means of expressing the simple truths, and that unyielding passion that reminds so many of us we need to be completely honest with ourselves. I just stepped away from a career in which everyday seemed like an eternal commitment to compromise. No more snuffing my spirit to pay my bills. And so into the wind I went… “I am a leaf on the wind. Watch how I soar.” (RIP Wash) It feels great being free. Bills are tight but tomorrow I have an interview and it truly feels like a new season is on the horizon. Have a beautiful day everyone!
Omg, Wenzes! This one really spoke to me. I just left a banking job of 9 years, where my boss was an ISTJ woman 😂 I don’t want to sound mean but talking to her was like talking to a very advanced well-developed chatbot 🤖 Like she would always say and do “the right thing” but it would feel like the human component was missing somehow. No true empathy, just a very well programmed cognitive empathy. Overall I learned a lot from her - being diligent, hyper responsible, ability to multitask, but man… that bot-like energy really got to me at a certain point. I carried a lot of emotional labor in the department, which is an extremely overlooked quality that literally can be a make it or break it component when it comes to team building. But that emotional labor wasn’t recognized or appreciated at all. Also, as independent as ISTJs may look like on the outside, they are actually pretty insecure inside. They want to fit in so badly, it’s not even funny. Like my boss ISTJ married some loser Peter Pen guy just so that she fits in with the “cool girls” in the company. Nothing can be more pathetic than that for an authentic INFJ who couldn’t care less about societal expectations. I felt like my nonchalant free spirited energy was always misperceived by her and other people in the company. It definitely ruffled some feathers. I would act respectful but would never try to kiss anyone’s you know what, would do an excellent job but withdraw from bragging or competition, would see through everyone’s insecurities, but would never use it against them…. Corporate world is just like a high school on steroids. It’s great for sensors, they enjoy the game, enjoy the mundane predictable day to day grind, but for us INFJs it feels like being forced into a kids playground where you have to pretend like you are on the same level as toddlers who are very proud of being able to build a tower out of 3 cubes 😂 It felt a little weird for like a week after I quit my job, but then I started feeling like my creative energy was coming back to me and I’m super excited about my future now. Being in a corporate world felt like a spell, you can’t be who you really are and it sucks so much energy out of you. Better spend that energy on independent pursuits!
Infj here and working from home self employed for 3 years now.. Creative fields, and I cam say this is a dream job for INFJ. In weekends I do social works.
I think, we need to find a job that is from home office which you can create the way you want it and a side hustle that encourages us and pays well, personal business that we’re excited to wake up every morning for… What I’ve realized is that i really can’t stay for good in a stagnant toxic environmental even though the pay is good like i am for real…
How am I supposed to even find a job in the first place? It's so complicated to find something and apply. I wish there was a related course in school, about how to find a job.
Yes, I've been out of work for too long and it's been an arduous task to find meaningful work. I have a very hard time working for money alone. I'm compelled to serve, to make the world a better place. If those components aren't there I can't muster the motivation.
Great video, going through a career change at the age of 33 after 10 years as a software engineer. Taking a bit of effort and confidence to figure out my next step. Thank you.
@@braxtonmills1235 it’s an easy job just our new manager gets in her moods and makes it complicated, I do agree I am switching soon but sadly might stay in retail for now
I worked retail. The good was getting promoted very quickly and easily, because I targeted small stores (maternity, plus, cosmetics, etc.). The bad of that is you are Responsible and have no dependable employees and if you have to rely on the income (single parent), you don't have time or Confidence to shop yourself to a better position. But if you do? I have full faith that you can rise if no one is Actively dragging you down. I had a child and crazy parents and a crap boyfriend. I had everything working against me Plus the job drama. And theft? #1 rule of shrink is sales kill shrink. You can't punish theives anyway so don't even concern yourself with that. Let them steal while you ring & sell. Sell it before they can steal it. That actually works. LP is for the sensors. Get yourself to store manager asap. Then train your replacement as you plan to move up or out.
@@CrierwyMorfran I was checking out who made this amazing comment. Turns out it's an Aquarius. You are super interesting and entertaining. ; Miss INFJ.
I resigned my residency in internal medicine because the work environment was way too toxic and insecure.2 years later I still regret it because it took away the opportunity for me to grow . Still wonder if i did the right thing ! At the time it was a life and death kind of situation
You did the right thing for you at the time. You made that decision for a reason. It’s easy to go back and romanticize about life choices you didn’t take. Working in internal medicine can be soul crushing, especially with health care today. Thank your younger self for recognizing your needs. You are making room for new opportunities that will add to your life rather than debilitating you rendering your INFJ skills useless.
Well guess what? I'm on the accounting career and I think I picked the wrong course🤦♀️ I struggle not because of the job market or I'm slacking, but because as what you have said...I cannot tap on my full potential😞
I'm in a soul destroying job. As a single parebt and sole provider it is fear that's holding me back from changing my job. I also have ADHD so I get bored easily. 😮💨 Job security is not exactly a thing these days. My worry is that I find a better job and that comany has to let people go and the people who have been there the shortest amount of time will be the ones they let go of and then I'll end up without a job and kids to take care of. I have to think about the people I'm responsible for first before I think about my fulfillment.
❤yeah...everything goes into the pot if I follow my passions I mean I used to teach in primary sch ... Became the Art co ordinator coz no one else wanted to do it... Years later ...did a couple of community exhibitions, used Art as my therapy, wrote a free expression course with music, colour, chakras... Made an LP cover for a Cornish band coz I loved them...❤ They ended up supportin Hawkwind❤🎉🎉🎉 I roadied for Hawkwind 😂❤🎉 On a flippin Ace Adventure now..which keeps gettin more cool ...and hotter than before 😂 Thankyou Flower ❤❤❤ You Rock🎉🎉🎉 Keep Being true to how you feel ...really tune in to how you feel...then the flow flows Heart logic ❤😂🎉🎉🎉
Yes but don't give yourself an excuse. Marketing you can learn. Getting projects you can learn. Get up earlier or stay up later. I've been freelancing from since 2020. Pays for rent & insurance & whatever. What's special about me?
Hey Wenzes. I recently read an essay called myth of sisyphus by Camus. It made me realize how meaningless life is. I am trying to find peace in it and live but its really difficult. Would love to hear your thoughts on it. Can you please give it a try? It’s only a few pages long.
Thanks for writing this. I just began reading it after your comment. Prior to today my favorite 'meaning of life' saying was "Life isn't the type of thing that stands for something else" - we can't define life using words that exist within it. Life is the experience of those things, which is where universes (or perhaps prisons) of thought are born. That being said, The Myth of Sisyphus is so beautifully written I could at once drown and soar while immersed. I will come back and comment once I reach the end. I realize you asked for Wenzes advice in particular, so I hope you are ok with me chiming in. ❤
Having read just the summary...condemned to push a rock up a hill forever..I would say YOU are in charge and control, stop doing what someone else wants you to do (if you don't want to) and YOU decide to do something that IS valuable and worthwhile. Be causative, not effect. Be self-determined, not other-determined.
Loved the video, thanks!! I'm a first-year accounting student at university, but I'm considering studying psychology instead. Do you think psychology is a good fit?
I’m an INFJ who works in a high stress medical job. Going into work I feel blessed that I have a job where I can care for people and make a difference. Leaving the job at the end of the day I feel drained and depressed at all of the horrible things in the world. You are living people’s worst days and experiencing their trauma every day you go into work. It can take me a couple of days to recover from a shift. Some days I think I am not strong enough to take it. Working in psychology is also trauma work and can be incredibly overwhelming. Working in healthcare is a blessing and a curse. It gives me purpose and has made me so grateful for all of the simple blessings I have. But it is also very draining and depressing and if you aren’t careful it can overwhelm you. Maybe shadow a therapist at a mental health clinic if they do that sort of thing to see what you think about it. Also a lot of jobs in the mental health field where you actually make decent money require a master’s degree so make sure you are ok with that or taking jobs at a lower salary if you only have your bachelors.
Socionics Model G shows INFJ progresses by becoming more involved with people and concrete like ISFJs and ESFJs. They shrivel up by becoming overly detached and in their heads like INTPs and ENTJs.
I notice the you tube ai responds to things i give a like to but the ai does not even understand my like in depth and so it us beating round the bush, making conclusions which are not always based on accurate data. So this is a small problem isnt it
I do a better job and get no appreciation or respect. The people work against me. Not all of them but by the foreman and his minions who knows less then me.
What has helped you get over a difficult environment at work as an INFJ?
Demanding that my managers protect me from the gang of Narcissists Women that was repeatedly attacking me
I was working new at a company and really needed the job. The person training me was very critical/negative plus I was dealing with some personal stress. It got so bad that I would cry before going in and it was making me ill. She was known to be difficult to work with but knew her technical material enough that they kept her.
Instead of going directly to our boss, I talked with her. There were two technical paths (both of which eventually needed to be mastered). Pretty sure it was her suggestion that I shift to the other one under another trainer first and that we should go to our boss together and recommend to move. It worked. I learned the other track then moved back in under her training in a less stressful frame of mind.
@@Wenzes Move over cause the Wenz coming through.
Try meditation and bring your experience to us. Meditates help me so much focus in me and really help me..
Stopped caring so much, surface level engagement. Decline all staff parties. Don't answer phone on weekends.
I worked in a corporate environment all my life, and there was favoritism and incompetent management who made employees feel unappreciated, the lies, etc. and was hard to grow in this environment. I never tapped into my potential, and I'm happy to take an early retirement at 65. I followed my passion and felt so satisfied. It was well worth leaving the corporate world 🌎
I’ve been quietly watching and enjoying your videos for years. Thank you for your genuine well intended efforts, your lovely means of expressing the simple truths, and that unyielding passion that reminds so many of us we need to be completely honest with ourselves. I just stepped away from a career in which everyday seemed like an eternal commitment to compromise. No more snuffing my spirit to pay my bills. And so into the wind I went…
“I am a leaf on the wind. Watch how I soar.” (RIP Wash)
It feels great being free. Bills are tight but tomorrow I have an interview and it truly feels like a new season is on the horizon. Have a beautiful day everyone!
Wenzes what a good video to wake up to in the Morning. We are in a employee market many opportunities available.
Omg, Wenzes! This one really spoke to me. I just left a banking job of 9 years, where my boss was an ISTJ woman 😂 I don’t want to sound mean but talking to her was like talking to a very advanced well-developed chatbot 🤖 Like she would always say and do “the right thing” but it would feel like the human component was missing somehow. No true empathy, just a very well programmed cognitive empathy. Overall I learned a lot from her - being diligent, hyper responsible, ability to multitask, but man… that bot-like energy really got to me at a certain point. I carried a lot of emotional labor in the department, which is an extremely overlooked quality that literally can be a make it or break it component when it comes to team building. But that emotional labor wasn’t recognized or appreciated at all. Also, as independent as ISTJs may look like on the outside, they are actually pretty insecure inside. They want to fit in so badly, it’s not even funny. Like my boss ISTJ married some loser Peter Pen guy just so that she fits in with the “cool girls” in the company. Nothing can be more pathetic than that for an authentic INFJ who couldn’t care less about societal expectations. I felt like my nonchalant free spirited energy was always misperceived by her and other people in the company. It definitely ruffled some feathers. I would act respectful but would never try to kiss anyone’s you know what, would do an excellent job but withdraw from bragging or competition, would see through everyone’s insecurities, but would never use it against them…. Corporate world is just like a high school on steroids. It’s great for sensors, they enjoy the game, enjoy the mundane predictable day to day grind, but for us INFJs it feels like being forced into a kids playground where you have to pretend like you are on the same level as toddlers who are very proud of being able to build a tower out of 3 cubes 😂
It felt a little weird for like a week after I quit my job, but then I started feeling like my creative energy was coming back to me and I’m super excited about my future now. Being in a corporate world felt like a spell, you can’t be who you really are and it sucks so much energy out of you. Better spend that energy on independent pursuits!
Infj here and working from home self employed for 3 years now.. Creative fields, and I cam say this is a dream job for INFJ. In weekends I do social works.
What are you doing at your job?
@@gosiama480 video editor/videographer
I have a friend... who, as an INFJ, in the workplace, has noticed a high number of sociopaths and narcissistic sycophants.
It’s pretty common in corporate (unfortunately). Higher percentages of really toxic people in positions of power…
@@buscaquenoestoy snakes in suits
😅 feels like me .. I can't stand all of them..and once you spot em... it's never the same again
I think, we need to find a job that is from home office which you can create the way you want it and a side hustle that encourages us and pays well, personal business that we’re excited to wake up every morning for… What I’ve realized is that i really can’t stay for good in a stagnant toxic environmental even though the pay is good like i am for real…
How am I supposed to even find a job in the first place? It's so complicated to find something and apply. I wish there was a related course in school, about how to find a job.
Yes, I've been out of work for too long and it's been an arduous task to find meaningful work. I have a very hard time working for money alone. I'm compelled to serve, to make the world a better place. If those components aren't there I can't muster the motivation.
This was absolutely BRILLIANT! Thank you. ❤
Great video, going through a career change at the age of 33 after 10 years as a software engineer. Taking a bit of effort and confidence to figure out my next step. Thank you.
Thinking same as u, what is your next step may I know
Retail in cali, theft everyday. Easy job horrible management, I carry my team so much and I’m tired of it
Switch industry retail is tough. But management is possible.
@@braxtonmills1235 it’s an easy job just our new manager gets in her moods and makes it complicated, I do agree I am switching soon but sadly might stay in retail for now
I worked retail. The good was getting promoted very quickly and easily, because I targeted small stores (maternity, plus, cosmetics, etc.). The bad of that is you are Responsible and have no dependable employees and if you have to rely on the income (single parent), you don't have time or Confidence to shop yourself to a better position. But if you do? I have full faith that you can rise if no one is Actively dragging you down. I had a child and crazy parents and a crap boyfriend. I had everything working against me Plus the job drama. And theft? #1 rule of shrink is sales kill shrink. You can't punish theives anyway so don't even concern yourself with that. Let them steal while you ring & sell. Sell it before they can steal it. That actually works. LP is for the sensors. Get yourself to store manager asap. Then train your replacement as you plan to move up or out.
@@CrierwyMorfran I was checking out who made this amazing comment. Turns out it's an Aquarius. You are super interesting and entertaining. ; Miss INFJ.
INFJ's who are self-employed and globally remote. What do you do for a living and do you thoroughly enjoy it?
Expat in NZ, photographer 🖤 Free and happy 🌀
I resigned my residency in internal medicine because the work environment was way too toxic and insecure.2 years later I still regret it because it took away the opportunity for me to grow . Still wonder if i did the right thing ! At the time it was a life and death kind of situation
No job is worth your mental health !
You did the right thing for you at the time. You made that decision for a reason. It’s easy to go back and romanticize about life choices you didn’t take. Working in internal medicine can be soul crushing, especially with health care today. Thank your younger self for recognizing your needs. You are making room for new opportunities that will add to your life rather than debilitating you rendering your INFJ skills useless.
This is so right on for you.
Well guess what? I'm on the accounting career and I think I picked the wrong course🤦♀️ I struggle not because of the job market or I'm slacking, but because as what you have said...I cannot tap on my full potential😞
My current dilemma... I really needed this, thank you ❤❤❤
Thank you dear,very insightful 🌹🍀
this format really suits me
OK, I will apply now. Thank you!
I'm in a soul destroying job. As a single parebt and sole provider it is fear that's holding me back from changing my job. I also have ADHD so I get bored easily. 😮💨
Job security is not exactly a thing these days. My worry is that I find a better job and that comany has to let people go and the people who have been there the shortest amount of time will be the ones they let go of and then I'll end up without a job and kids to take care of. I have to think about the people I'm responsible for first before I think about my fulfillment.
Awww you are safe. What state are you in.
Great insights! Thank you!
Wenzy thx💙
Thank you! Needed this 😊
❤yeah...everything goes into the pot if I follow my passions I mean I used to teach in primary sch ...
Became the Art co ordinator coz no one else wanted to do it...
Years later ...did a couple of community exhibitions, used Art as my therapy, wrote a free expression course with music, colour, chakras...
Made an LP cover for a Cornish band coz I loved them...❤
They ended up supportin Hawkwind❤🎉🎉🎉
I roadied for Hawkwind 😂❤🎉
On a flippin Ace Adventure now..which keeps gettin more cool ...and hotter than before 😂
Thankyou Flower ❤❤❤
You Rock🎉🎉🎉
Keep Being true to how you feel ...really tune in to how you feel...then the flow flows
Heart logic ❤😂🎉🎉🎉
really liked this video
49 word list from bill gothard seminar adds value and guidance.
I established a business in 1997 which allows me to be semi-retired
Freelance from home or start a side hustle
How tho?
@@couchowl767work out what people need, what you like doing and offer it to them.
Easier said than done.
Yes but don't give yourself an excuse. Marketing you can learn. Getting projects you can learn. Get up earlier or stay up later. I've been freelancing from since 2020. Pays for rent & insurance & whatever. What's special about me?
The work environment is a difficult arena for me. No matter being humble and in service..
Hey Wenzes. I recently read an essay called myth of sisyphus by Camus. It made me realize how meaningless life is. I am trying to find peace in it and live but its really difficult. Would love to hear your thoughts on it. Can you please give it a try? It’s only a few pages long.
You make your own meaning. None of us asked to be here.
Thanks for writing this. I just began reading it after your comment.
Prior to today my favorite 'meaning of life' saying was "Life isn't the type of thing that stands for something else" - we can't define life using words that exist within it. Life is the experience of those things, which is where universes (or perhaps prisons) of thought are born.
That being said, The Myth of Sisyphus is so beautifully written I could at once drown and soar while immersed.
I will come back and comment once I reach the end.
I realize you asked for Wenzes advice in particular, so I hope you are ok with me chiming in. ❤
Having read just the summary...condemned to push a rock up a hill forever..I would say YOU are in charge and control, stop doing what someone else wants you to do (if you don't want to) and YOU decide to do something that IS valuable and worthwhile. Be causative, not effect. Be self-determined, not other-determined.
Loved the video, thanks!! I'm a first-year accounting student at university, but I'm considering studying psychology instead. Do you think psychology is a good fit?
I’m an INFJ who works in a high stress medical job. Going into work I feel blessed that I have a job where I can care for people and make a difference. Leaving the job at the end of the day I feel drained and depressed at all of the horrible things in the world. You are living people’s worst days and experiencing their trauma every day you go into work. It can take me a couple of days to recover from a shift. Some days I think I am not strong enough to take it. Working in psychology is also trauma work and can be incredibly overwhelming. Working in healthcare is a blessing and a curse. It gives me purpose and has made me so grateful for all of the simple blessings I have. But it is also very draining and depressing and if you aren’t careful it can overwhelm you. Maybe shadow a therapist at a mental health clinic if they do that sort of thing to see what you think about it. Also a lot of jobs in the mental health field where you actually make decent money require a master’s degree so make sure you are ok with that or taking jobs at a lower salary if you only have your bachelors.
Yes, especially nowadays.
best!!!
Your hair looks good that way.
Socionics Model G shows INFJ progresses by becoming more involved with people and concrete like ISFJs and ESFJs.
They shrivel up by becoming overly detached and in their heads like INTPs and ENTJs.
I notice the you tube ai responds to things i give a like to but the ai does not even understand my like in depth and so it us beating round the bush, making conclusions which are not always based on accurate data.
So this is a small problem isnt it
So what about the cases when you do know very well and outperform those around you and get treated like crap
leave or put way less into work, not more than others and use your energy to create something outside of work
I hate money i dont value it at all😅
💯
I do a better job and get no appreciation or respect. The people work against me. Not all of them but by the foreman and his minions who knows less then me.
read the forbidden book Magnetic Aura on Borlest, and you'll see the secrets they're keeping from us.
0:04 "They not like us"