How to get dads & kids to help more with Tidy Dad (Podcast Ep. 15)
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- Опубліковано 11 вер 2024
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Thank you so much for listening and could I ask a favor? Would you mind subscribing? It helps UA-cam recommend this podcast to more friends. Thank you! Dawn
IN THIS EPISODE:
Tidy Dad on Instagram: / tidydad
Tidy Dad Website: thetidydad.com/
ABOUT THE MINIMAL MOM:
Hi, I'm Dawn, if we haven't met before, I'm married to Tom and we have four kids ages 8-13. We live outside of the Twin Cities in MN and have called ourselves minimalists for 8 years now. We got rid of 85% of our stuff and don't miss ANY OF IT!
If you'd like to see more instructional videos about minimalism and decluttering, be sure to check out my other channel @theminimalmom
You can find Tyler here! The Tidy Dad on Instagram: instagram.com/tidydad/
The Tidy Dad Website: thetidydad.com/ THANK YOU for watching and would you mind subscribing? It helps us reach more friends -- THANK YOU!!! Have a great weekend, Dawn
Hello Dawn, I just received your book today in the mail. I found you by accident watching a diy craft video that Cass posted. I started crafting during covid but I’m over it. Hence more clutter😮 One video of yours & I was hooked! I’m a single mom of 2 and love being at home but something was missing. After watching you for a few months everything just clicked and you inspired me to start my minimalism journey. I look forward to your content and words of wisdom😊
I wish he had a UA-cam page!
He was a wonderful guest so eloquent and informative. Thanks for introducing us to Tidy Dad.
I agree
Oh Dawn! Could we love you more? You inspire, but you are also extraordinarily willing to learn and generous with your guests. Kudos to you for teaching things you may not even intend to just by being a great person. 🎉
I was blessed with the most wonderful husband. I became very sick a few years ago and my husband stepped up to the plate and started doing whatever needed to be done. Now that I am starting to feel better he still does about 75% of the housework and 100% of the yard work.
My husband and I have switched roles several times because of illness or work ❤️
Good math teacher's don't grow on trees!!!.....what an awesome guest with such practical, insightful wisdom!!!....love Dawn's statement about "it's not an employee problem, it's a management problem"....."I....we....you".....so brilliant!!!.....keeping our homes "tidy and clean" as you go!!!....keep it simple with less stuff, really helps keep everyone on the same page.....
Tidy Dad, you as one with a teacher's heart [as am I, but I'm MUCH older!] you follow the adage of "Give a man a fish vs teach a man to fish..." So important at every age!
We’ve been married over 40 years and Continue to have the conversations about groceries, cooking, dishes, household chores, yard work, laundry, cars, finances, social life, technology. Our lives keep changing with retirement, part time work, nannying the grandkids part time. We are flexible, we treat each other with grace and apologize when we need too.
I often will make indirect compliments to motivate my husband. Like "wow I just love cooking dinner in a tidy kitchen" or "I find it so much easier and enjoyable to clean the living room now". If I'm happy my husband takes credit and is happy. :)
Finally, someone who shares my calming closet trick. I keep my closet very well sorted and have the clothes hanging in rainbow order and this last year I emptied it out and painted the walls a light sage green color-makes me think of a spa. :) Sometimes I just stand there looking at it to destress.
When I had my first classroom, the retiring teacher who left it, didn’t even clean her candy wrappers from the desk. When I retired, I left the incoming teacher the classroom I always wished I had. Totally clean and organized. My colleague left her classroom of 20 years with only a Starbucks bag. The new teacher inherited all her junk
As a 7th grade math teacher and mom myself, I loved this episode! Thanks Dawn and Tidy Dad!
Amazing podcast!! It’s so true-we should be saying ‘go tidy your room’ instead of go clean your room 🤯
Thanks for introducing us to the Tidy Dad. Loved his comment at the end about the closet space. He's bang on. When there's chaos all around, if you know you will see everything nicely folded when you open up a space that belongs only to you, it's so refreshing.
Dawn, Great interview. I was a teacher for many years & I totally resonated with Tyler. Now I'm going to go check out his pg. 😊
Good job in not giving up when there is pushback from kids. Adults are in charge.
Isn’t it interesting how men have never wondered if they were a “nag”?!
As a 5th grade teacher I say YES!!! He’s soooo right!!!
So frustrating! All my family members walk right past something that needs taken upstairs or to another room. Even the husband. So I guess we have to chat again.
Same here. And it's so frustrating having to tell an adult to freaking put away something instead of walking right over it when going upstairs... And then if you tell them too often they get upset you treat them like a child, and when you talk to them about roles they get offended and feel accused
This is profoundly helpful. Thank you both! Living in an East Coast apartment with very young children, I find a lot of help from Tidy Dad's perspective.
Sharing his page with my teacher friends is a great idea…I’m a retired teacher and media specialist and all this is spot on! Thanks, Dawn!
As much as I love Tidy Dads ability to 'make it work', I feel claustraphobic watching them move within this very small space on IG. I wonder if he/they would have to work so hard if there was more breathing room. Best to all.
This is GOLD 💛 I’m going to sit and share this with my husband as it covers everything I never know how to explain to him, and I’ve been trying for 15 years. Thank you so much Dawn xxx
I’ve had the conversation several times over the years with my husband, because he truly doesn’t see any problem with the kitchen piling up or the bathroom getting dirty. I’ve always said that there is no such thing as a nagging wife, if the husband would just do what we ask the first time we ask him! I’ve just come to the conclusion that it is just a part of his personality in being messy certain places in our house. I just have to concentrate on all the stuff that he does help me with, like laundry and eventually dishes, etc.
I am so guilty of not equipping my kids with the skills because I feel like they'd do it wrong and it would take twice the time 😬😬 I totally need to work on it, especially for my oldest who is almost 8
We started cleaning house as a family on Saturday mornings and rotated jobs each week when the oldest was 8. I knew they were kids-doing what they could do. I reasoned that they would get better with time and training. They did, a job done “poorly” is better than not at all. I also looked at all their energy, why not use some of it on a few household chores?
I love this! I can relate a lot, as 2 young parents working full time with a 3 year old and 4 month old daughters. The second baby was much harder and the open conversation about task management is so important!
Retired math teacher and this was spot on.
Love these podcasts!! ❤❤
I have an adult daughter who has autism. We are working on home management skills- I am going to do the I do, WE do and YOU do method. Thank you so much for such simple advice. Seems like common sense but you broke it down in a way that I feel confident teaching her without becoming overwhelmed myself.
I love Tidy Dad. I have followed him for a while now. I was told once the secret to a tidy house is to not leave the room empty handed, and the story of the teacher just moving things back around the room during the course of the day just reminds me of that statement.
another excellent interview Dawn .... I too value my tidy closet
Wow so many emotions brought up with this conversation. It’s so true that women can feel like we have to do it all (especially if they stay at home and husband goes to work). The sad thing is, so many women tell us that we do have to do it all ourself, either directly or indirectly. Some will never say what tidy dad said: “ you need to have that conversation.”
This is the first time I’ve heard of tidy dad but PLEASE have him back again! He’s awesome! I loved this! ♥️🙌🏻
Love this! I’ve never heard of Tidy Dad before!
Yay! It’s so fun to see my friend Tyler being interviewed by one of my favorites !! ❤ I love this
Wow what a heart-warming, encouraging and educational podcast. Thank you so much Dawn ❤
Oh my gosh, I so agree that a new teacher inheriting some old teacher’s 35 years of stuff is the worst as I was put in that position too. Add in a principal who is suspicious of materials leaving the classroom 🙄 and it was a very difficult thing to deal with. From then on I kept a very tidy classroom.
Oh wow! I wasn’t aware of him previously, but he seems great! Going to check him out & follow immediately!
Awesome guest today! Thanks for introducing us! 💕
A friendly comment about the premise in the podcast title: Dads don't "help," they contribute their part to the family and household, just like Moms do. 😉
Phenomenal episode today, especially the thoughts on kids & parenting!
Wow some great advice from tidy dad.
Aubrey was so so cute folding the towels!💞💞. I could use the cleaning motivation every day thanks❤
Such great advice, this episode was one of the best. I will teach and put into practice “I do, we do, you do.” Thanks Dawn!
I see too many families where the parents are the maids because they let their kids refuse to help out with chores.
I love how he broke down getting kids ro clean. They dont know how unless theyre taught and you have to word things differently, because theyre can be super literal.
You make me want to come spend the summer back home in PA. Ugh I miss it so much. I'll get about a week this year and that's it. The country life is for me but unfortunately it's just not possible right now.
It's so hard sometimes to change your will to what the Lord wants you and your husband to do. But it's so much better than fighting the Lord. Whatever he wants is always best and you'll be happier in the end.
Oh my goodness- THIS WAS FANTASTIC!!!!!!! I loved every minute! Thank you so much Dawn and Tyler! We do have a tidy home. I DO need to pass through my closet again and my husband and I are working on some spots in our home that need attention. What a great video!!!
Great guest & great interview!
Haha, my 5th grade male teacher I loved was named Mr. Moore!
Loved this! That man got it❤️Jannike from Sweden 🇸🇪❤️
Very very helpful! Thank you so much!
This was great!Thank you both!
Looooooved Tidy Dad 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Oh my gosh😂 we live in a small town everyone knows everyone so someone would’ve told me. plus teenagers are easily embarrassed. I would’ve come to school and wore a sign that stated I’m here because my child doesn’t know how to behave correctly.
Very cool Dawn. I love this interview.
This was so good! Thank you!
I ALWAYS ask myself that, “am i doing the right thing?”
Fantastic episode!
Excellent podcast!
We have 3 kids, are moving and both work different shifts so the kids dont have to be in daycare. We are also planning on homeschooling next year. If we dont communicate and share roles its a disaster.
Wow! This was such a great podcast, Dawn!
I wish this guy had a UA-cam channel but I’ll check his website. He’s great!
He has an amazing Instagram account. Lots of great info
Awesome podcast ❤❤
I love Tidy Dad!
That was great!
I would hate that chair changing thing. ASD people want the same thing, so the light and the sound are coming from the same angle. Even deeper, some people hate to sit in the middle because the noise is coming from every direction. Can't be cured, and it is torture for her to move her around. It's not going to be better. She might not even know why she feels so strong where she sits.
Thank you for this comment, I was thinking the same exact thing!!! I work in Special Education and was thrown off by this portion of the podcast.
Her behavior didn't continue. She was attempting to control the teacher and situation, not a person with sensory issues.
Fun interview!
Hey Tidy Dad, I would love to listen to your podcasts, if you have any, or videos pertaining to how to choose, set up, and establish systems in place. For someone who has some ADHD tendencies, is a bit sensory sensitive, and empathic, who battles with mild depression periodically; the intention is to find ways to make it fun, inclusive teamwork for the whole household, and pre-kids vs. post-kids breakdowns into time chunks. My parents never taught me how to tidy nor clean, and actually looked down at it as a hired hand, but got angry for me not doing things. I struggle with trauma coming up sometimes as a way of processing emotions as I’m trying to clean, often afraid of throwing anything away, and executive function skills. We are working on it, but consistency is key for what we’re going for, and visual systems set in place, with reminders on what to do and how to check in emotionally or turn what we are feeling into something helpful? Thanks so much!!
Some suggestions of UA-cam channels:
Clutterbug
A Slob Comes Clean
The Secret Slob
Erica Lucas
A Horders Heart
AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
Great video
some need to be taught what to do
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Im not sure why teachers dont get more money!
Tan eik fai l am 23 years malaysia loph😍😘🐱📀hi
I think people look at teachers as babysiters...not enough respect.
Have all the conversations, still won’t help or even pick up after himself. What then. Ongoing conversation = “nagging” apparently
Find ways to take care of yourself and listen to Dawns story of how she started decluttering and simplifying. Hang in there.
This was amazing!! Thank you!