I fell in love with a lesbian friend. Never said anything because I value the friendship too much, and when you truly love someone you want them to be happy - she's obviously never going to be happy with me because she likes women. I've had other women in my life come and go but she's still the one I always think about. And it's not because its some sort of derp macho unattainable conquest thing, its because she is the most interesting person I've ever met and she utterly captivates me.
@@zakariaealaoui1067 FYI this was 5 years ago, glad I respected her enough to let her be, kept it to myself and didn't waste any emotional energy ruining the friendship. Now married with 2 kids to an equally interesting and captivating woman, even more so because we're actually romantically compatible 😋
I'm a guy, and I would personally say that it's mostly about personal chemistry between two people... It doesn't matter if we know or do not know that she is gay. If the woman in question is a wonderful person that makes us happy etc, there is always a big chance that we'll fall in love with that person.
I fell for a tomboy when I was 14. We dated a few times from 16 to about 21 and were never "fully intimate" We just kinda stopped seeing each other. I don't really know why. I was absolutely crazy about her. We saw each other when we were 28 and she was as beautiful to me as ever and I hoped we could start where we left off but, she told me that she was a lesbian. I believe she figured that out soon after we were 21 and that's why we drifted apart. My heart was shattered. We've remained distant friends but, I can't stop loving her. I can't. I've thought about her every day for 45 years and I still love her just like I always have. I've told her how much she means to me. She said that she loved me once too, but of course none of that matters now and I know that. I try not to think about her but, I can't always stop.
In all honesty, you dodged a bullet. There are women out there that have internalized homophobia and think that getting with men it will go away. Most have been unsuccessful (except for some of the religious ones. Christian mainly). And it has ruined a lot of people due to deceit. People have the right to live the way they want and I don’t have a problem with that. But what I don’t understand in this day in age, why are so many women becoming gay?
Its sad when a guy falls for a lesbian woman. It doesn't always mean he wants to change her, he just has to accept her orientation if he truly loves her and cares about her. Its important that he has her happiness foremost in his mind, part of caring for that person.. His personal feelings have to come second.
Thank you for this video. As a straight guy who has feelings for a gay girl, this info helps alot. I think i am finally ready and know how to move forward now. Lately I had been considering to just cut the whole thing with her off completely because of how much it still hurts at times and not being able to process or fully understand these feelings of longing and sadness, and unwillingness to accept reality even after spending the last 12 months living separately again. We have one of the closest and most valuable friendships two people could have and truly i have never cared about someone before in the way I care for her. She has shown me how beautifully vulnerable she is, and she also bought out a vulnerable part of me that I myself didn’t even know existed let alone ever having felt comfortable enough or willing to show anyone else. We share a very deep and genuine trust in each other, and she knows i always have her best intentions at heart. These things mean so much to me in of themselves, and for whatever we were then and whatever were not, she is someone i really do think so much of. I will forever treasure how she made me feel in them vulnerable moments of closeness, and i will forever treasure the memories of our time together during lockdown.
This has happened to me before. I've had a couple of really amazing les-bros over the years. One kept saying that we'd making a great couple if I was straight. I didn't really know how to respond to that. However, he is very respectful and knows nothing is going to happen.
years later and I am at the exact same situation (17yo) and I know it's dumb and all because 'I am too young to fall in love ' and all but she is literally the most interesting person I've ever met and one of the few people I can hang out with for hours and never get bored of her. I would literally do anything just to see her smile. It's really emotionally draining and I just can't seem to get her out of my head.
The thing is, I’ve always been a different guy. I’m a straight man, but I’ve always been kind of different. I fell in love with somebody that who is lesbian and she doesn’t know. I’m in love with her. I never met for that to happen, but I fell in love with her. I’m kind of feminine, but I’ve always gone with girls that were lesbian. That’s kind of crazy right
I kind of fell for a girl who told me she was queer, she said she had relations with male and females. I asked her out for a drink when I was visiting her country but she told me she was more into women these days. it was a bit of a head fuck for someone who has always lived as a heterosexual (and always will) so lesson learned I guess! I'll never ever consider dating anyone who is female and not completely straight and knows what they want! So grateful for the lesson on who to avoid in dating, steer clear of the queer if your'e straight, and just be friends 😀
this recently occurred to me, although I did not know the young woman was lesbian and she wasn’t out. I mistook her genuine openness and close friendship for flirting, and I started to lose control of how I felt about her. Eventually, I had to tell her, but she didn’t take the news well, and it ended our friendship for about a month. Eventually, things cooled off, but I wanted to be sure that we both understood one another side of the event, so the future friendship wouldn’t be based on a false premise. It was at that point that she confided in me that she was lesbian. I tried to tell her that I simply thought I knew something when I saw it, and that it’s really just a misunderstanding, but I know there’s some enduring discomfort which I’m just going to have to allow her to work out for her herself. I left it to her to choose, what if any capacity she would want to associate with me in the future and I would respect that.
I'm glad I found a video about this because I've more or less been in the same situation. I think you missed one of the reasons why a guy can be attracted to a lesbian: connection. The more tomboyish ones can basically act like a guy and yet still be a girl (and be very sexy). By that I mean that they tend to like all the "manly" things that guys do and not like the "girly" things that most guys find boring. So, basically, besides the fact that they're gay, they're the perfect girl for us.
But you're not thinking about the fact that tomboyish lesbians are not gonna act like girly girls in relationships. I don't want to be led, I will not be submissive, I'm stubborn hard headed and don't like being told what to do. They way we actually carry ourselves day to day would make most men crazy if they actually tried being with us. Yall think that were gonna magically fall into feminity and were not. Even in my younger days I had flings with men and the second I got off I was right back on my tomboy shit and the dude is sitting there looking confused and disappointed that I didn't go girly on him. It's fantasy of us you like much more than the reality. I promise you.
@@joannamonique707 Wow, I wrote that comment 10 years ago and didn't even remember it! What you're describing is essentially my whole point. I'm a very independent person and I like to have time to myself to work on my projects so I don't want the responsibility of having to entertain someone all the time. I like a girl that will also have her own projects and do her own things. I'm not looking for a girl that will be expecting me to fill up all of her free time. Obviously every person will be different and this is a generalization based on my experience but the stereotypical girly girls I've been with usually fall into two categories, bossy or clingy, or submissive as you put it, and I don't deal very well with either. I did date a girl that identified as bi at the time (only gay now) and I did like the fact that she had her own things going and didn't expect me to be at her disposal all the time. But really that's not a gay or straight thing, its more a matter of personality traits. Anyway, it's a matter of finding the right person because attraction is essentially all fantasy until it gets real so I guess it's a matter of knowing the difference between what you want and what you need.
@@Ketch013you right. Like the previous commentor, not all those girls are going to be girly girly. But it becomes a problem when they think they’re something there not. I knew a stud who found out she was bi, and dated one of her homeboys. It was good at first, until the submissive and dominant role came into play. There were times she put him in his place, and he in her place. One day, they were arguing and the girl started making fun of him. She bucked up to him and everything and saying I’ve sleep with more women yada yada, and so forth. Then called him something that set him off. The girl tried to punch him, dude caught that punch like it was nothing and slammed her to the ground with minimal effort. She layed there crying and everything. Anyway, I’ve had my share of having feelings for queer women. But I never pursued them,Out of respect ,and bc I honestly don’t feel right accepting that lifestyle into my life. Yes I grew up religious, but I grew up with a relationship with God. I do honeslty believe they can become straight. But not by natural means. More like supernatural means but it’s complicated.
F'ing finally. There's a lot of fetishization around this which makes it difficult to have a real conversation about it. I've been attracted to 3 lesbians and a few others I suspected. I feel incredibly comfortable around them. The ones I've met have either been hot but hide it so well you don't even notice, ostensibly attractive, or not even my type physically. It's always the same, I like talking to them and hanging out. Then one day I start thinking why I'm eager to be around them then like clockwork the attraction starts to creep in. It's always 100% personality and comfort with me. They are surprisingly resilient to my lovable a$$ though. You'll have to take my word on it, but straight girls come at me a lot. Maybe that made me awkward when I actually like a girl because I've been in front of girls talking complete gibberish and they will smile and keep the conversation going. A lesbian might do the same but it's just because they are kind and don't want to break you down like a 3 piece nunchuck at the bar. Anyway, this summer I'm coming to those dive bars where you indie rock/folk music fans, soccer players, and artists hang out by myself and shooting my shot.
You're just so adorable to watch! I agree ... it's for men, they want what they can't have. But, since they're friends and we'll give him the benefit of the doubt, maybe it could also be that they just fall for her. As with anyone that hangs out with anyone too long, you may fall for them ... no matter who it is. He's straight, so he likes girls, she is a girl ... he fell for her.
There is one high school friend of mine that confessed to me that he likes me and is expecting a relationship but I politely said no because I don't see him in romantic light. I met a girl and fell in love with her real hard and of course as a friend I told him that I'm in a relationship with her and I'm super happy but he behaved quite strangely. A few weeks ago he send me some kind of video about sex education and literally fought with me saying "you're not gay. You just haven't tried dating any guy. Try having sex with guy and you'll know you aren't completely gay". I was really shocked and tried to get him to calm down, its on me and only me to know whom I find sexually and romantically attractive. He called me retard and what not. He still tries to hit on me though I made crystal clear that I'm not looking your way ever. So suggest me what shall I do with this guy?
I’m friends with a girl that i’m crazy about and she’s lesbian . I did ask her out before she told me but yeah . It’s tough to take but as i love her i think i’m just going to accept that she’s lesbian and take the friendship . bumped into her twice recently . I think she knows how i feel so i’m just going to show her the respect she deserves and not flirt or any of that kind of stuff but this definitely hurts . 😨
Wishing you (an early) Happy 27th Birthday! The 19th seems like a popular day to be born. I will be turning 29 on Monday. You are right it is hard to believe that in 4 years this topic just came up. Great answer!
Thank you. This helped me out a lot. Realizing that us as men cannot change people. It's only up to them souly. And even still we and they are the we we are. There is no argument about it. Sure, everyone is valid to their own feelings however. Some truths and honesties are best kept to yourself for the sake of the friendship. Sometimes it's also good to let it be known decerning of the situation at hand.
There's never a definitive answer to anything, it all about how you approach things, it's all in the method, I've been intimate with lesbians who were and are still now in relationships with girls, I'm still friends with all of them, it's all in the way you deal with things.
I realized that too, but about changing people. People cannot truly change people. They can direct a path, but it’s their choice if they want to take it. Reminds me of Genesis in Which Joseph was sold into slavery by his own brothers. Years later he became a king and met his brothers again, but didn’t recognize him. He learned that they were truly sorry and have changed they’re ways. Only God can truly change a person. I know a girl who was queer and she broke down in front of me and kept apologizing profusely. Lamenting that she wants to be straight and have a family of her own and old me she was sorry for lending me on. I ministered to her about Jesus, but I was also careful what I said. People can’t fight against the flesh on their own, it’s impossible and will drive own crazy. Instead of focusing on not sinning, just focus on God. You don’t have to be perfect to go to Him. Me and her are still cool to this day and she has a kid❤
beaverbunch It's not about women who are lesbians being "goldmines' for guys. Those guys are stereotypical superficial misguided and forever going to choose people who don't choose them. For some of us, falling in love with a lesbian is not how you stereotypically want to put it across here. You can't tell someone who to connect with, how to feel, who to fall in love with! And I realiez this concept might be tough for you to grasp, but maybe the guy is falling in love with girl for HER. For the person she is, and how amazing she makes him feel. Maybe her own sexual indentitiy or how society perceives her doesn't play into it one bit. I am getting tired of all the negative gender and sexual stereotypes being perpetrated by everyone period. Everyone is different. I myself happen to share very little in common with any guys. I am in the 1% of this population on most things. I have never fit in and I have never cared about it. I know what it is to be mistreated, degraded, demeaned for being different and not homogenizing myself to somehow be like others and the way I am "supposed to be". But being male and demisexual and an INFJ alone makes me sooo far from most others in this realm of reality that it is very hard to find anyone who truly understands me or who I could see myself connecting with. I happen to have always related far better to women. To the point that I feel as if I was probably one in another lifetime or have a female brain. I feel the way they do, I know them as well as myself pretty much. Now then I cannot get along or relate to guys at all. Never have. But here I'm heterosexual and have always had these nontypical male feelings that are emotionally oriented and have very little to do with anything physical or superficial. What I see in women is far more deep and ethereal than any other guys I've known. What I want, what l long for, what I see myself as being. The point is don't group all of us together in society's male contrived ways that enable male entitlement and holding women down as a whole. Don't judge everyone as if they are all the same because we are far from it. And as a guy, if I ever fell for a woman who was lesbian I would respect who she is, what she feels, and back off in taking a relationship in that direction. There are those of us who don't see women as objects here for our sexual purposes. But rather seee the magic they possess on the inside! So please stop dumbing down your female roles in society as that plays right into what the majority of the pathetic sexist beta males want anyway.
Happy birthday for when it comes! :) Only watched this cus i love your vids, doesn't apply to me this one, don't have any friends. That's a topic you could do, how to get friends in the glbtq community, cus i'm all out of ideas. 5 years now. Ugh
I'm 35 and been happily married to a wonderful woman for 6 years. However,,, Recently one of my employees (I know!) who's lesbian ( I KNOW!) have become very good friends. She is incredible in every way, insanely smart, wistfully funny and is honestly the most beautiful person I've ever met... I've never crushed on a woman so hard,, it was actually embarrassing. I told her I was attracted to her, she completely understood (prob not the first time she heard it), and after ta
Interesting..... Over the years I've had several crushes, but I didn't know they were lesbians. Once I found out, the crush would always disappear. The attraction is usually still there for most of them, but I never acted further on it. I wonder if this makes me different as a straight guy.
Happy Birthday for monday! It's my birthday today. As for the topic, people always liked to tell me that they thought my best friend (who's a straight guy) has a crush on my but he's always maintained he doesn't have those kinds of feelings for me, and I believe him. We're really close and comfortable together, we're like siblings. I have had problems with other men though, when they've seen my sexuality as a challenge not a deterrent. Hope this girl can maintain her friendship.
I’d say to the lady making this video that yeah it’s on us to figure it out and all that but if these guys you’re talking about are actually there friends than Don’t just leave them to their own devices with no warning have a conversation with them if you care about them hear them out listen to that uncomfortable pain in there voice and help them buy understanding and caring don’t just be so cold about it because the shit is awkward and hard for guys too we aren’t just emotionless we have feelings were just told by society to not show them. if they legitimately fall in love with you it’s not because they did that shit on purpose and it’s because they see you as the mother of their children and someone they’ll always protect and love and that’s a hard fucking thing to tell your best friend if they trust you enough to think that telling you that well either make or break a relationship not talking about it with them definitely will make it worse if you don’t want to keep them as friends you may not owe them anything and you may not have done anything wrong but Hes still your friend here hurting pouring out his heart to you and struggling with it, Show him love be understanding. Idk that’s my take
She definitely shouldn't feel bad about not having feelings for him, but unfortunately she will most likely lose him as a friend. Unless he's emotionally mature.
FYI It is kind of the main reason a straight guy would be attracted to a lesbian, the fact that she is a woman whether she will be with him or not is not part of the situation but there you have it now you know straight guys like girls gay or not
Ah, this is very relevant in my life right now. My friend likes me, and although I talked about my (ex)girlfriend, I don't think he's realized I'm gay.
You can still flirt with them. As a lesbian I don't really understand why you enjoy flirting with men anyway but whatever floats your boat. Just keep it to the okayer type dudes who aren't gonna be hurt when they realize you're just having fun. Don't be that bicurious girl who always leading on the more emotionally serious peoole. Please don't do that.
I’m a lesbian and I’m having this issue rn with a guy.. but problem is I actually like him too. And it’s so confusing because I really thought I knew what my sexuality is but the day I met him I immediately got a crush. I tried to ignore this, but fast forward several months, and he now has my number and started to flirt with me. I don’t think anyone (or I) have mentioned to him that I’m a lesbian so maybe that’s why? But now my brain is going crazy trying to figure this out. I don’t actually want to date him, or even have sex with him (I’m ace), I just want to be around him, kiss a little, and cuddle. He’s so so sweet and I just keep picturing him in my head. Oh, another problem is he’s the brother of my bestfriend’s girlfriend 😅 so I can’t even ask my best friend about it because I feel like she’ll just get mad at me 😭😭
You'll never know if you like it unless you try it. The relationship between a straight man and a lesbian is a very unique one, especially if both have no problem talking about their sexual attraction for a woman they have met. Cuddles and personality are an important part.
Something I never hear mentioned is that there's a bit of the old woody allen joke (or maybe it's groucho marx) that goes "I'd never be a part of a club that accepted me as a member". It's kinda weird, but that's how it is for me anyways.
Strangely, I fall for lesbians pretty consistently, and this is without knowing that they are lesbians before hand. I think that very few of the girls I've attempted to pursue were straight, the majority were at least bi, or all the way gay... What's up with that...
@YourDarkAccomplice It's not about what other people think about bisexuals - if someone identifies as "gay" or "lesbian", then it's really not for you to say that they're actually bisexual because one day their feelings may change. People are not labels etched in stone. Sexuality is fluid. You're either making completely unfounded assumptions or have a really unfortunate view of sexuality.
Sometimes it's just a matter of trying the right way, I myself have a lesbian best friend who's dating a girl but recently I've been getting to her slowly, giving sweets and showing affection whenever we see her, talking more about relationships, her willingness to try new things and even relationship problems. We have already exchanged a few kisses and we are nurturing a fantastic forbidden love, I recommend to guys to go slow and in the right way and for girls to give a chance to your friend, maybe he will take better care of you than your girlfriend who doesn't seem to care so much with you.❤
This is epic I'm in a simuliar situation only my lesbians been inlove with me for years & is pretty much my wife only we both date other women. I didn't realize it until she started running off the women I'd try to date and letting some Freudian slip's here and there lmao. She always talks about having 3 ways together I just haven't really looked for a 2nd woman very hard.
When she finds a woman she loves, she'll be gone like the wind. Don't be naive. I've been that woman before and when my partner came along, I dropped those men like hot potatoes & never looked back nor did I care. If she says she is lesbian, believe her or you're going to end up heartbroken sooner or later. You are simply a placeholder right now. Nothing more.
Totally been in this situation (as the guy), but it actually worked out in my case. I certainly don't recommend guys holding on to that hope though - sexuality can be fluid, but don't count on it when you want it to be. ;) And I'll be 28 next Wednesday! Yay March babies!
Ok. I had a big crash for a lesbian just one month ago, I am going to tell (my side of) the story. We met at a gathering, a rainbow gathering in Italy. From the moment we started talking, a night around the fire, I was totally taken. She was so funny and humorous and smart and easy-going and she was just amazing all around. We continued to hang out the days after at the gathering and we clearly liked each other, we were searching for each other to be with but obviously there was nothing romantic, we hugged each other once or twice but always with people around and then the day she left I walked her to the exit, a 30 minutes walk uphill, we greeted sweetly and exchanged number. Let's stay in touch for sure and it was great to meet you. 5 days after she told she was putting off work and continuing vacationing, I live by myself in a nice town by the beach in Sicily and messaging she told me: I've never been to Sicily so I went for it (already knowing I was doing something really risky but I couldn't help it) and invited her to come and see me so she could visit Sicily and we could continue to hang out and get to know each other better. She enthusiastically agreed and 3 days later, after a 2 hours and a half phone call, she booked the ticket and here we were. I was already telling some friends of mine I had done a stupid thing because I knew how this would end with she staying at my place: I was already hooked and I would fall in love with her and then I'd suffer because she obviously wouldn't correspond. But the damage was done and all I could do was cleaning my apartment the best I could to host her and hope for the best. She arrived and the first 4 days were some of the best days of my life; we would stay all the time together and up till 4 am in the morning just to go to bed, sleep a few hours and then get up and ready to enjoy our company again. We went out of my place on a car trip and so we booked a room with just one bed for the two of us; she was totally ok with it and I was already totally not caring about anyhting else but to be with her and having the time of my life: she has been one of the best friends we had just the best conversations ever, we could tell each other just about anything and I was on the moon. It started to go all downhill from there. We got drunk and smoked the first night at the air bnb room and the night in the bed was pretty agitated, we didn't exactly had amplexes or anything but she was shocked to find herself holding my hand in the morning. I woke up and she was pretty angry at me and also sad. We got over it and continued the holiday, a bit less happy but still great friends, talking and laughing and having a good time. I was totally out of my mind. By myself I was thinking that I would even get rid of my penis if that would help to call her my girlfriend. And, hear me out here, at a friend's dinner party, she referred to me as she to someone else, while recalling some of our adventures during the trip. She did that more than once and I was just so happy she would do that. I am always been straight but I didn't care, if she would see a woman in me (and believe I am not by any measure) that would be it. I am her girlfriend and that is all it matters. At some point I told her I was freakingly in love with her. By that point we were fighting like crazy, as we would be some old couple, and I was still thinking that if she gets to the point of being so angry at me, surely not friends' behaviour, that would mean that she her furiousness originated by I provoking in her feeling towards me that she didn't want, as an exclusive lesbian, to feel. She went away back home and we didn't leave well at all, our last meeting we were shouting at each other and saying thing totally less than nice. One day or two passed and we were back on our phone sending messages of affection and apology to each other. I am now distancing from her and I understand that this is totally not the way to go, she is lesbian and I must respect that but I can't help thinking about her and the things I wrote above. She said she is going to the next gathering and I am also doing that (99%) but we are not messaging as crazy as before and that's totally understandable and fine, we are keeping distance from each other. I am really curious on what's your take about this guy. Thanks for reading. Sorry if my English might read awkward, I am not a native English.
Bro, your story sounds like you have met a frigging narcissist who only played dirty games on you man. I mean if she really can do make you feel like you would chop off your wiener for her and is talking about you as a she than you can be sure that you are dealing with a manipulative monster, dude. I bet you paid the most of this crap and after you told her about your feelings she knew she got you where she wanted you. A good person, no matter if lesbian or not, would never do such things to you.
Or ppl love who they love and no one owes you an explanation nor are they obligated to date you. There are plenty of straight women - maybe if ya'll weren't so weird ya'll can find one who wants you and not have to creep into lesbian spaces for attention from women who do not like you.
@YourDarkAccomplice Uh, thanks for the clarification, I guess? ;) She had identified as lesbian before, and that was the point. But yes, bisexual would be the best label now.
I have a friend and we kinda fooled around years ago but she’s def lesbian and we haven’t fooled around for years... but I kinda catch myself crushing on her. Mainly because it’s almost like she gives that silent vibe too. Such a crazy place to be in 😪
I think it's more to do with the idea that if you're an attractive woman, guys will convince themselves that they their lady friend could be bisexual or a hint of sorts. It may not be the best excuse or answer, but this is pretty common for any hard-on driven men.
I'm a dude who finds himself being hit on by lesbians. By no means am I pursuing them or giving any hints of Romanticism or anything to that effect. It always starts the same a mutual respect then a friendship then I guess something away bromance/romance. From there it's up in the air.
If I sleep with my lesbian friend and her girlfriend what’s about it. I want them both as my 2 wife’s. And both pregnant by me, I told them you lesbians for world 🌍 not for me, because you 2 my babies mommy.
But alas, it has happened. Never say never, dear. God has made us to be man with a woman. I have seen plenty of women turn and be with a guy. We guys who understand, will not pursue after letting a lesbian know we have feelings for them. Trust we will never look back, unless she initiates the move to generate a possible relationship. Most men are turned off regardless of being attracted to her. Being a lesbian gives us more incentive to move on. A smart man knows it is a slippery slope to even think about pursuing.
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I fell in love with a lesbian friend. Never said anything because I value the friendship too much, and when you truly love someone you want them to be happy - she's obviously never going to be happy with me because she likes women. I've had other women in my life come and go but she's still the one I always think about. And it's not because its some sort of derp macho unattainable conquest thing, its because she is the most interesting person I've ever met and she utterly captivates me.
Yeah I understand. I know the feeling man. Been down that road with several women even striaght ones too
Same shit for me man what the hell!!!
@@zakariaealaoui1067 FYI this was 5 years ago, glad I respected her enough to let her be, kept it to myself and didn't waste any emotional energy ruining the friendship. Now married with 2 kids to an equally interesting and captivating woman, even more so because we're actually romantically compatible 😋
@@firstitgiveth3784 I happy for you really and I hope I can do it too
Dude me too
I'm a guy, and I would personally say that it's mostly about personal chemistry between two people... It doesn't matter if we know or do not know that she is gay. If the woman in question is a wonderful person that makes us happy etc, there is always a big chance that we'll fall in love with that person.
Your a simp no real man would ever have these types if feelings Fuck feelings
I agree with that
I fell for a tomboy when I was 14. We dated a few times from 16 to about 21 and were never "fully intimate" We just kinda stopped seeing each other. I don't really know why. I was absolutely crazy about her. We saw each other when we were 28 and she was as beautiful to me as ever and I hoped we could start where we left off but, she told me that she was a lesbian. I believe she figured that out soon after we were 21 and that's why we drifted apart. My heart was shattered. We've remained distant friends but, I can't stop loving her. I can't. I've thought about her every day for 45 years and I still love her just like I always have. I've told her how much she means to me. She said that she loved me once too, but of course none of that matters now and I know that. I try not to think about her but, I can't always stop.
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In all honesty, you dodged a bullet. There are women out there that have internalized homophobia and think that getting with men it will go away. Most have been unsuccessful (except for some of the religious ones. Christian mainly). And it has ruined a lot of people due to deceit. People have the right to live the way they want and I don’t have a problem with that. But what I don’t understand in this day in age, why are so many women becoming gay?
I'm currently trying with a lesbian too... I feel you man
Its sad when a guy falls for a lesbian woman. It doesn't always mean he wants to change her, he just has to accept her orientation if he truly loves her and cares about her. Its important that he has her happiness foremost in his mind, part of caring for that person.. His personal feelings have to come second.
I've been madly in love with a lesbian for over a year now, she lights of my life when she graces me with her presence, I could melt.
Thank you for this video. As a straight guy who has feelings for a gay girl, this info helps alot. I think i am finally ready and know how to move forward now. Lately I had been considering to just cut the whole thing with her off completely because of how much it still hurts at times and not being able to process or fully understand these feelings of longing and sadness, and unwillingness to accept reality even after spending the last 12 months living separately again. We have one of the closest and most valuable friendships two people could have and truly i have never cared about someone before in the way I care for her. She has shown me how beautifully vulnerable she is, and she also bought out a vulnerable part of me that I myself didn’t even know existed let alone ever having felt comfortable enough or willing to show anyone else. We share a very deep and genuine trust in each other, and she knows i always have her best intentions at heart. These things mean so much to me in of themselves, and for whatever we were then and whatever were not, she is someone i really do think so much of. I will forever treasure how she made me feel in them vulnerable moments of closeness, and i will forever treasure the memories of our time together during lockdown.
This has happened to me before. I've had a couple of really amazing les-bros over the years. One kept saying that we'd making a great couple if I was straight. I didn't really know how to respond to that. However, he is very respectful and knows nothing is going to happen.
years later and I am at the exact same situation (17yo) and I know it's dumb and all because 'I am too young to fall in love ' and all but she is literally the most interesting person I've ever met and one of the few people I can hang out with for hours and never get bored of her. I would literally do anything just to see her smile. It's really emotionally draining and I just can't seem to get her out of my head.
The thing is, I’ve always been a different guy. I’m a straight man, but I’ve always been kind of different. I fell in love with somebody that who is lesbian and she doesn’t know. I’m in love with her. I never met for that to happen, but I fell in love with her. I’m kind of feminine, but I’ve always gone with girls that were lesbian. That’s kind of crazy right
Same she is beautiful we get along so well!! I got to know her the best the last year and half❤❤ I love her
I kind of fell for a girl who told me she was queer, she said she had relations with male and females. I asked her out for a drink when I was visiting her country but she told me she was more into women these days. it was a bit of a head fuck for someone who has always lived as a heterosexual (and always will) so lesson learned I guess! I'll never ever consider dating anyone who is female and not completely straight and knows what they want! So grateful for the lesson on who to avoid in dating, steer clear of the queer if your'e straight, and just be friends 😀
this recently occurred to me, although I did not know the young woman was lesbian and she wasn’t out. I mistook her genuine openness and close friendship for flirting, and I started to lose control of how I felt about her. Eventually, I had to tell her, but she didn’t take the news well, and it ended our friendship for about a month. Eventually, things cooled off, but I wanted to be sure that we both understood one another side of the event, so the future friendship wouldn’t be based on a false premise. It was at that point that she confided in me that she was lesbian. I tried to tell her that I simply thought I knew something when I saw it, and that it’s really just a misunderstanding, but I know there’s some enduring discomfort which I’m just going to have to allow her to work out for her herself. I left it to her to choose, what if any capacity she would want to associate with me in the future and I would respect that.
I'm glad I found a video about this because I've more or less been in the same situation. I think you missed one of the reasons why a guy can be attracted to a lesbian: connection. The more tomboyish ones can basically act like a guy and yet still be a girl (and be very sexy). By that I mean that they tend to like all the "manly" things that guys do and not like the "girly" things that most guys find boring. So, basically, besides the fact that they're gay, they're the perfect girl for us.
But you're not thinking about the fact that tomboyish lesbians are not gonna act like girly girls in relationships. I don't want to be led, I will not be submissive, I'm stubborn hard headed and don't like being told what to do. They way we actually carry ourselves day to day would make most men crazy if they actually tried being with us. Yall think that were gonna magically fall into feminity and were not. Even in my younger days I had flings with men and the second I got off I was right back on my tomboy shit and the dude is sitting there looking confused and disappointed that I didn't go girly on him. It's fantasy of us you like much more than the reality. I promise you.
@@joannamonique707 Wow, I wrote that comment 10 years ago and didn't even remember it! What you're describing is essentially my whole point. I'm a very independent person and I like to have time to myself to work on my projects so I don't want the responsibility of having to entertain someone all the time. I like a girl that will also have her own projects and do her own things. I'm not looking for a girl that will be expecting me to fill up all of her free time. Obviously every person will be different and this is a generalization based on my experience but the stereotypical girly girls I've been with usually fall into two categories, bossy or clingy, or submissive as you put it, and I don't deal very well with either. I did date a girl that identified as bi at the time (only gay now) and I did like the fact that she had her own things going and didn't expect me to be at her disposal all the time. But really that's not a gay or straight thing, its more a matter of personality traits. Anyway, it's a matter of finding the right person because attraction is essentially all fantasy until it gets real so I guess it's a matter of knowing the difference between what you want and what you need.
@@Ketch013you right. Like the previous commentor, not all those girls are going to be girly girly. But it becomes a problem when they think they’re something there not. I knew a stud who found out she was bi, and dated one of her homeboys. It was good at first, until the submissive and dominant role came into play. There were times she put him in his place, and he in her place. One day, they were arguing and the girl started making fun of him. She bucked up to him and everything and saying I’ve sleep with more women yada yada, and so forth. Then called him something that set him off. The girl tried to punch him, dude caught that punch like it was nothing and slammed her to the ground with minimal effort. She layed there crying and everything.
Anyway, I’ve had my share of having feelings for queer women. But I never pursued them,Out of respect ,and bc I honestly don’t feel right accepting that lifestyle into my life. Yes I grew up religious, but I grew up with a relationship with God. I do honeslty believe they can become straight. But not by natural means. More like supernatural means but it’s complicated.
Thanks from a bi eteroromantic man. As lesbian you are fantastic as a Queen. You said it well
I fell in love with an lesbian friend and she loved me too, was a little adventure for two of us. 😉😊 We still love each other. Is something especial
F'ing finally. There's a lot of fetishization around this which makes it difficult to have a real conversation about it. I've been attracted to 3 lesbians and a few others I suspected. I feel incredibly comfortable around them. The ones I've met have either been hot but hide it so well you don't even notice, ostensibly attractive, or not even my type physically. It's always the same, I like talking to them and hanging out. Then one day I start thinking why I'm eager to be around them then like clockwork the attraction starts to creep in. It's always 100% personality and comfort with me. They are surprisingly resilient to my lovable a$$ though. You'll have to take my word on it, but straight girls come at me a lot. Maybe that made me awkward when I actually like a girl because I've been in front of girls talking complete gibberish and they will smile and keep the conversation going. A lesbian might do the same but it's just because they are kind and don't want to break you down like a 3 piece nunchuck at the bar. Anyway, this summer I'm coming to those dive bars where you indie rock/folk music fans, soccer players, and artists hang out by myself and shooting my shot.
This is so narrow minded in the approach.
You're just so adorable to watch!
I agree ... it's for men, they want what they can't have. But, since they're friends and we'll give him the benefit of the doubt, maybe it could also be that they just fall for her. As with anyone that hangs out with anyone too long, you may fall for them ... no matter who it is. He's straight, so he likes girls, she is a girl ... he fell for her.
Time really does fly.. jesus
There is one high school friend of mine that confessed to me that he likes me and is expecting a relationship but I politely said no because I don't see him in romantic light. I met a girl and fell in love with her real hard and of course as a friend I told him that I'm in a relationship with her and I'm super happy but he behaved quite strangely. A few weeks ago he send me some kind of video about sex education and literally fought with me saying "you're not gay. You just haven't tried dating any guy. Try having sex with guy and you'll know you aren't completely gay". I was really shocked and tried to get him to calm down, its on me and only me to know whom I find sexually and romantically attractive. He called me retard and what not. He still tries to hit on me though I made crystal clear that I'm not looking your way ever. So suggest me what shall I do with this guy?
Idk he just doe doe head but just tell him you think some men are attractive but your not sexually attractive to him if that make sense 🤷🏽♂️
lesbians are straight girls just scared to ask men out.
Once they get that pussy stretched they get straight.
@@mathewlewis5227 you should learn some manners before speaking.
@@shikhapandewa5687 it's the truth.
90% girls are just afraid to go out with men 😂
@@shikhapandewa5687 sex with dildos are strapons is not real sex.
Even you guys fake everything by acting masculine 😂😂
she should just tell him to imagine if one of his best male friends admitted that he had a crush on him
I’m friends with a girl that i’m crazy about and she’s lesbian .
I did ask her out before she told me but yeah .
It’s tough to take but as i love her i think i’m just going to accept that she’s lesbian and take the friendship .
bumped into her twice recently .
I think she knows how i feel so i’m just going to show her the respect she deserves and not flirt or any of that kind of stuff but this definitely hurts . 😨
Wishing you (an early) Happy 27th Birthday! The 19th seems like a popular day to be born. I will be turning 29 on Monday.
You are right it is hard to believe that in 4 years this topic just came up. Great answer!
Thank you. This helped me out a lot. Realizing that us as men cannot change people. It's only up to them souly. And even still we and they are the we we are. There is no argument about it. Sure, everyone is valid to their own feelings however. Some truths and honesties are best kept to yourself for the sake of the friendship. Sometimes it's also good to let it be known decerning of the situation at hand.
There's never a definitive answer to anything, it all about how you approach things, it's all in the method, I've been intimate with lesbians who were and are still now in relationships with girls, I'm still friends with all of them, it's all in the way you deal with things.
I realized that too, but about changing people. People cannot truly change people. They can direct a path, but it’s their choice if they want to take it. Reminds me of Genesis in Which Joseph was sold into slavery by his own brothers. Years later he became a king and met his brothers again, but didn’t recognize him. He learned that they were truly sorry and have changed they’re ways. Only God can truly change a person. I know a girl who was queer and she broke down in front of me and kept apologizing profusely. Lamenting that she wants to be straight and have a family of her own and old me she was sorry for lending me on. I ministered to her about Jesus, but I was also careful what I said. People can’t fight against the flesh on their own, it’s impossible and will drive own crazy. Instead of focusing on not sinning, just focus on God. You don’t have to be perfect to go to Him. Me and her are still cool to this day and she has a kid❤
beaverbunch It's not about women who are lesbians being "goldmines' for guys. Those guys are stereotypical superficial misguided and forever going to choose people who don't choose them. For some of us, falling in love with a lesbian is not how you stereotypically want to put it across here. You can't tell someone who to connect with, how to feel, who to fall in love with! And I realiez this concept might be tough for you to grasp, but maybe the guy is falling in love with girl for HER. For the person she is, and how amazing she makes him feel. Maybe her own sexual indentitiy or how society perceives her doesn't play into it one bit. I am getting tired of all the negative gender and sexual stereotypes being perpetrated by everyone period. Everyone is different. I myself happen to share very little in common with any guys. I am in the 1% of this population on most things. I have never fit in and I have never cared about it. I know what it is to be mistreated, degraded, demeaned for being different and not homogenizing myself to somehow be like others and the way I am "supposed to be". But being male and demisexual and an INFJ alone makes me sooo far from most others in this realm of reality that it is very hard to find anyone who truly understands me or who I could see myself connecting with. I happen to have always related far better to women. To the point that I feel as if I was probably one in another lifetime or have a female brain. I feel the way they do, I know them as well as myself pretty much. Now then I cannot get along or relate to guys at all. Never have. But here I'm heterosexual and have always had these nontypical male feelings that are emotionally oriented and have very little to do with anything physical or superficial. What I see in women is far more deep and ethereal than any other guys I've known. What I want, what l long for, what I see myself as being. The point is don't group all of us together in society's male contrived ways that enable male entitlement and holding women down as a whole. Don't judge everyone as if they are all the same because we are far from it. And as a guy, if I ever fell for a woman who was lesbian I would respect who she is, what she feels, and back off in taking a relationship in that direction. There are those of us who don't see women as objects here for our sexual purposes. But rather seee the magic they possess on the inside! So please stop dumbing down your female roles in society as that plays right into what the majority of the pathetic sexist beta males want anyway.
Thanks for saying this. I totally agree with every word, thanks!
I like the change of background scenery :) and my birthday is on the 19th as well! Woo!
As a guy i like my lesbian friend ans idk what to say☹️
Happy birthday for when it comes! :)
Only watched this cus i love your vids, doesn't apply to me this one, don't have any friends. That's a topic you could do, how to get friends in the glbtq community, cus i'm all out of ideas. 5 years now. Ugh
I'm 35 and been happily married to a wonderful woman for 6 years. However,,, Recently one of my employees (I know!) who's lesbian ( I KNOW!) have become very good friends. She is incredible in every way, insanely smart, wistfully funny and is honestly the most beautiful person I've ever met... I've never crushed on a woman so hard,, it was actually embarrassing. I told her I was attracted to her, she completely understood (prob not the first time she heard it), and after ta
after ta, what?
Interesting..... Over the years I've had several crushes, but I didn't know they were lesbians. Once I found out, the crush would always disappear. The attraction is usually still there for most of them, but I never acted further on it. I wonder if this makes me different as a straight guy.
Happy beaver, haaaaaaaaaaa 😂😂😂😂😂
Donut bumper
Can I get a ❤️ now after many years
If I was a girl I'd totally be a lesbian. I find them fascinating.
Lesbians are a dime a dozen nowadays.
Happy Birthday for monday! It's my birthday today. As for the topic, people always liked to tell me that they thought my best friend (who's a straight guy) has a crush on my but he's always maintained he doesn't have those kinds of feelings for me, and I believe him. We're really close and comfortable together, we're like siblings. I have had problems with other men though, when they've seen my sexuality as a challenge not a deterrent. Hope this girl can maintain her friendship.
"Want what you can't have"? I practically always have no idea until way afterwards - See: my old celeb crush on Ellen (now Eliot) Paige 🤣
I’d say to the lady making this video that yeah it’s on us to figure it out and all that but if these guys you’re talking about are actually there friends than Don’t just leave them to their own devices with no warning have a conversation with them if you care about them hear them out listen to that uncomfortable pain in there voice and help them buy understanding and caring don’t just be so cold about it because the shit is awkward and hard for guys too we aren’t just emotionless we have feelings were just told by society to not show them. if they legitimately fall in love with you it’s not because they did that shit on purpose and it’s because they see you as the mother of their children and someone they’ll always protect and love and that’s a hard fucking thing to tell your best friend if they trust you enough to think that telling you that well either make or break a relationship not talking about it with them definitely will make it worse if you don’t want to keep them as friends you may not owe them anything and you may not have done anything wrong but Hes still your friend here hurting pouring out his heart to you and struggling with it, Show him love be understanding. Idk that’s my take
She definitely shouldn't feel bad about not having feelings for him, but unfortunately she will most likely lose him as a friend. Unless he's emotionally mature.
I’m a straight guy that seems to be continually attracted to lesbian women, and I don’t realize that they are gay. What’s up with that??
FYI It is kind of the main reason a straight guy would be attracted to a lesbian, the fact that she is a woman whether she will be with him or not is not part of the situation but there you have it now you know straight guys like girls gay or not
Ah, this is very relevant in my life right now. My friend likes me, and although I talked about my (ex)girlfriend, I don't think he's realized I'm gay.
No he do
I kinda hate those situations.. I like to flirt with guys but then if I figure out they're serious about it I totally freak out!! lol
So you are a Flexisexual/lesbian?
You can still flirt with them. As a lesbian I don't really understand why you enjoy flirting with men anyway but whatever floats your boat. Just keep it to the okayer type dudes who aren't gonna be hurt when they realize you're just having fun. Don't be that bicurious girl who always leading on the more emotionally serious peoole. Please don't do that.
I’m a lesbian and I’m having this issue rn with a guy.. but problem is I actually like him too. And it’s so confusing because I really thought I knew what my sexuality is but the day I met him I immediately got a crush. I tried to ignore this, but fast forward several months, and he now has my number and started to flirt with me. I don’t think anyone (or I) have mentioned to him that I’m a lesbian so maybe that’s why? But now my brain is going crazy trying to figure this out. I don’t actually want to date him, or even have sex with him (I’m ace), I just want to be around him, kiss a little, and cuddle. He’s so so sweet and I just keep picturing him in my head. Oh, another problem is he’s the brother of my bestfriend’s girlfriend 😅 so I can’t even ask my best friend about it because I feel like she’ll just get mad at me 😭😭
What about him made you like him?
You'll never know if you like it unless you try it. The relationship between a straight man and a lesbian is a very unique one, especially if both have no problem talking about their sexual attraction for a woman they have met. Cuddles and personality are an important part.
@@Sannypowa What is your height?
@@danielg9174 6'
Something I never hear mentioned is that there's a bit of the old woody allen joke (or maybe it's groucho marx) that goes "I'd never be a part of a club that accepted me as a member". It's kinda weird, but that's how it is for me anyways.
It seems like a better investment for man
can lesbian girl can change to girl again
lesbians are straight girls just scared to ask men out.
Once they get that pussy stretched they get straight.
Strangely, I fall for lesbians pretty consistently, and this is without knowing that they are lesbians before hand. I think that very few of the girls I've attempted to pursue were straight, the majority were at least bi, or all the way gay...
What's up with that...
you just have good taste
@@blacksmokevictor1648 actually, this is hilarious. I came out as a trans woman and transitioned 3 years back. So, that's what was up with that 😆
@@blacksmokevictor1648 🤮😡
@YourDarkAccomplice It's not about what other people think about bisexuals - if someone identifies as "gay" or "lesbian", then it's really not for you to say that they're actually bisexual because one day their feelings may change. People are not labels etched in stone. Sexuality is fluid. You're either making completely unfounded assumptions or have a really unfortunate view of sexuality.
Sometimes it's just a matter of trying the right way, I myself have a lesbian best friend who's dating a girl but recently I've been getting to her slowly, giving sweets and showing affection whenever we see her, talking more about relationships, her willingness to try new things and even relationship problems.
We have already exchanged a few kisses and we are nurturing a fantastic forbidden love, I recommend to guys to go slow and in the right way and for girls to give a chance to your friend, maybe he will take better care of you than your girlfriend who doesn't seem to care so much with you.❤
This is epic I'm in a simuliar situation only my lesbians been inlove with me for years & is pretty much my wife only we both date other women.
I didn't realize it until she started running off the women I'd try to date and letting some Freudian slip's here and there lmao. She always talks about having 3 ways together I just haven't really looked for a 2nd woman very hard.
Yeah, simping yourself into her life and feelings must be a great idea, lol. If I were she, I would end this 'friendship' immediately. :D
When she finds a woman she loves, she'll be gone like the wind. Don't be naive. I've been that woman before and when my partner came along, I dropped those men like hot potatoes & never looked back nor did I care. If she says she is lesbian, believe her or you're going to end up heartbroken sooner or later. You are simply a placeholder right now. Nothing more.
You're creepy and disgusting.
Totally been in this situation (as the guy), but it actually worked out in my case. I certainly don't recommend guys holding on to that hope though - sexuality can be fluid, but don't count on it when you want it to be. ;)
And I'll be 28 next Wednesday! Yay March babies!
okay but what if the lesbian is feeling up your shirt and then kisses you passionately, (asking for a friend).
This scenario is probably more common in reverse. I've personally known MANY straight women who fell (deep) for gay men.
Ok. I had a big crash for a lesbian just one month ago, I am going to tell (my side of) the story. We met at a gathering, a rainbow gathering in Italy. From the moment we started talking, a night around the fire, I was totally taken. She was so funny and humorous and smart and easy-going and she was just amazing all around. We continued to hang out the days after at the gathering and we clearly liked each other, we were searching for each other to be with but obviously there was nothing romantic, we hugged each other once or twice but always with people around and then the day she left I walked her to the exit, a 30 minutes walk uphill, we greeted sweetly and exchanged number. Let's stay in touch for sure and it was great to meet you. 5 days after she told she was putting off work and continuing vacationing, I live by myself in a nice town by the beach in Sicily and messaging she told me: I've never been to Sicily so I went for it (already knowing I was doing something really risky but I couldn't help it) and invited her to come and see me so she could visit Sicily and we could continue to hang out and get to know each other better. She enthusiastically agreed and 3 days later, after a 2 hours and a half phone call, she booked the ticket and here we were. I was already telling some friends of mine I had done a stupid thing because I knew how this would end with she staying at my place: I was already hooked and I would fall in love with her and then I'd suffer because she obviously wouldn't correspond. But the damage was done and all I could do was cleaning my apartment the best I could to host her and hope for the best. She arrived and the first 4 days were some of the best days of my life; we would stay all the time together and up till 4 am in the morning just to go to bed, sleep a few hours and then get up and ready to enjoy our company again. We went out of my place on a car trip and so we booked a room with just one bed for the two of us; she was totally ok with it and I was already totally not caring about anyhting else but to be with her and having the time of my life: she has been one of the best friends we had just the best conversations ever, we could tell each other just about anything and I was on the moon. It started to go all downhill from there. We got drunk and smoked the first night at the air bnb room and the night in the bed was pretty agitated, we didn't exactly had amplexes or anything but she was shocked to find herself holding my hand in the morning. I woke up and she was pretty angry at me and also sad. We got over it and continued the holiday, a bit less happy but still great friends, talking and laughing and having a good time. I was totally out of my mind. By myself I was thinking that I would even get rid of my penis if that would help to call her my girlfriend. And, hear me out here, at a friend's dinner party, she referred to me as she to someone else, while recalling some of our adventures during the trip. She did that more than once and I was just so happy she would do that. I am always been straight but I didn't care, if she would see a woman in me (and believe I am not by any measure) that would be it. I am her girlfriend and that is all it matters. At some point I told her I was freakingly in love with her. By that point we were fighting like crazy, as we would be some old couple, and I was still thinking that if she gets to the point of being so angry at me, surely not friends' behaviour, that would mean that she her furiousness originated by I provoking in her feeling towards me that she didn't want, as an exclusive lesbian, to feel.
She went away back home and we didn't leave well at all, our last meeting we were shouting at each other and saying thing totally less than nice. One day or two passed and we were back on our phone sending messages of affection and apology to each other. I am now distancing from her and I understand that this is totally not the way to go, she is lesbian and I must respect that but I can't help thinking about her and the things I wrote above. She said she is going to the next gathering and I am also doing that (99%) but we are not messaging as crazy as before and that's totally understandable and fine, we are keeping distance from each other. I am really curious on what's your take about this guy. Thanks for reading. Sorry if my English might read awkward, I am not a native English.
lesbians are straight girls just scared to ask men out.
Once they get that pussy stretched they get straight .
Bro, your story sounds like you have met a frigging narcissist who only played dirty games on you man. I mean if she really can do make you feel like you would chop off your wiener for her and is talking about you as a she than you can be sure that you are dealing with a manipulative monster, dude. I bet you paid the most of this crap and after you told her about your feelings she knew she got you where she wanted you. A good person, no matter if lesbian or not, would never do such things to you.
People are capable of change they just choose not to.
Or ppl love who they love and no one owes you an explanation nor are they obligated to date you. There are plenty of straight women - maybe if ya'll weren't so weird ya'll can find one who wants you and not have to creep into lesbian spaces for attention from women who do not like you.
Thier literally born that way...
@@inyourdreams444as a Man how come ive had more gay women hit on me vs straight women?
i have heard that there is no such thang as a 100% straight female. males yes but females no. is this true? jess curious.
@YourDarkAccomplice Uh, thanks for the clarification, I guess? ;)
She had identified as lesbian before, and that was the point. But yes, bisexual would be the best label now.
@closedmouth Yesssss, exactly! That goes for a lot of things that I've heard straight guys say. (ie. how do you know unless you try it?)
I have a friend and we kinda fooled around years ago but she’s def lesbian and we haven’t fooled around for years... but I kinda catch myself crushing on her. Mainly because it’s almost like she gives that silent vibe too. Such a crazy place to be in 😪
What if the man was willing to become a woman just to be with that said woman.
I think it's more to do with the idea that if you're an attractive woman, guys will convince themselves that they their lady friend could be bisexual or a hint of sorts. It may not be the best excuse or answer, but this is pretty common for any hard-on driven men.
☹️ yeah, it's shiet...
I have both feminine and masculine features. A lot of lesbians tend to like me because of the uniqueness.
Thats what u think. Ask me...
I'm a dude who finds himself being hit on by lesbians. By no means am I pursuing them or giving any hints of Romanticism or anything to that effect. It always starts the same a mutual respect then a friendship then I guess something away bromance/romance. From there it's up in the air.
If I sleep with my lesbian friend and her girlfriend what’s about it. I want them both as my 2 wife’s. And both pregnant by me, I told them you lesbians for world 🌍 not for me, because you 2 my babies mommy.
@aamesxdavid Bisexual then.
But alas, it has happened.
Never say never, dear. God has made us to be man with a woman. I have seen plenty of women turn and be with a guy.
We guys who understand, will not pursue after letting a lesbian know we have feelings for them. Trust we will never look back, unless she initiates the move to generate a possible relationship.
Most men are turned off regardless of being attracted to her. Being a lesbian gives us more incentive to move on. A smart man knows it is a slippery slope to even think about pursuing.
This is exactly what we want - leave us alone and go find a heterosexual woman who is mutually attracted to you & shares your religious beliefs.
@@inyourdreams444Congrats no men want you anyways with you Trans looking @ss
You are cute..nice face..you aren't gay lol
What if i kipnap her and take her into the woods ,she wil be staright ?