Thoughts on 20:05 - I personally think that grace doesn’t get extended to someone who assaulted you. I think if someone was just generally shitty and actually trying to be better, sure, opening that door a bit after some time is alright, but what Ben did was legitimately criminal - and the amount of time that has passed in the show between Ben assaulting Charlie and this trip is about four months. Ben has never, not once, spoken to Charlie in public, so for him to even say out loud ‘I haven’t spoken to you properly in ages’ is wild. Also, a reminder that in season 1 episode 2, we saw a flashback of Ben being ‘nice’ to Charlie after he was outed. It wasn’t actually genuine, it was just manipulation. So I wouldn’t, personally, take this bait and turn it into an olive branch. I really like hearing your thoughts throughout the show!
Ooooooh you got me there! Great point about him saying ‘I haven’t spoken to you properly in ages’ when he outright avoids him in public spaces and/or lies about knowing him! And you're right the SA is still very fresh, I didn't know the timeline was this close! No bueno Ben, no bueno! Thanks for watching!
as someone who has been through the same as charlie with ben assauling him, there will never be a day in my life where i forgave or feel bad for ben or my own assaulter.
Ben absolutely does not deserve to move up in tier ever. He has been horrible to Charlie and assaulted him. No one wants to be forced to interact regularly with the person who assaulted them. He can rot in the bottom tier.
I don't think Ben was trying to be "nice" to Charlie. I think he's annoyed to have lost control of Charlie and is trying to rope him back in. He messed with my baby boy and no redemption will move him from the bottom tier for me. Dig a hole under the bottom tier... and Ben's home! Not me being toxic! 😁
I disagree I do think Ben liked Charlie I just think he hated himself and his home life so to counter act that he lashed out and used control as a way to cope with it all but I do think he liked him I was hoping for some type of breakthrough for him not necessarily Charlie forgiving him and becoming his friend or anything but that he learned to accept himself by the end
lmaooo not a hole under the bottom tier is Ben's home! I get it though. Yeah, at this point in the season I guess there is no room really for him to "be nice" until he makes amends and apologizes
I think you forgot that Ben physically assaulted Charlie. It has nothing to do with Nick asking Ben not to talk to him or about him. Ben also said very hurtful things to him at the movie theater right before Nick got into that fight. How do you expect Charlie to react? 🤨
Nope! I didn't forget. Just trying to give Ben some grace, though it, most are in agreeance that he doesn't deserve it! He was indeed so horrible in Season 1, that him being any kind of decent has been for a loop
I understand your conflicted feelings about Ben. He is definitely directing his internal homophobia outward and treating people badly as a result. It makes me wonder how bad people are hurting inside when they act that way. Sometimes, all it takes is someone to hold you accountable for your actions while doing their best to be there for you at the same time. I just don't think Ben is prepared to accept any support or responsibility at this point in his journey.
When Ben sat next to Charlie, Charlie immediately shutdown. He loved Imogen's takedown of Ben. She said what he was thinking, but couldn't in that moment. Nick saw Charlie shutting down and was going to intervene, because he's Nick. Best boyfriend ever🎉. I also understand why you haven't given up on Ben. He's got issues. He's in pain. A lot of us hope for a redemption arc for Ben. But he displayed a huge amount of internalized homophobia in Seaon one. But there is always hope ❤.
Yes, I noticed Charlie's body language was completely despondent once Ben's dark energy approached! We love ride or die Nick Nelson! And yes, that's where I'm at with Ben at this moment, holding out hope for a better him! How he goes about getting there, is the question.
i get your thoughts on ben and his internalized homophobia towards himself but it's definitely a bit triggering to hear someone say to someone like charlie who was sexually assaulted by ben, ignored by ben, said mean things to by ben in the cinema, and more in the nick and charlie novella, for charlie to just "be polite". charlie does not owe ben that courtesy, i'm sorry. he was just saying mean things about charlie in the past couple of episodes plus he also belittles charlie's choices when he was discussing with nick in front of the Eiffel tower. charlie has the right to not want to talk to him. sexual assault is sexual assault no matter the degree. charlie is a victim.
definitely agree but i'm pretty sure at 20:09 he didn't tell charlie to just be nice, he said that he wouldn't be mad if charlie was polite and he wouldn't be mad if charlie was "mean" and pushed him away (because it's deserved and either way his choice)
Great Reaction! 🥳 also, Your just in time for Joe Locke’s (aka Charlie Spring) 21st birthday. 🫶🏼 I’m loving your reaction videos. Keep up the great work! 👍🏼
My relationship with Ben is basically, if I was on the show, I would grab him by the ear, drag him faaar away from Charlie and then have a chat with him and help him. He is a real exercice of nuances. I hate all his actions, but I have empathy for the core emotions that he is feeling. And I want him to feel better about himself, for himself and the others around him. He is rotting inside and doesnt know how to handle it and hurts everyone around him. And no Charlie doesnt have to show any grace at Ben. That door is closed. But it doesnt mean Ben cant get better. It will just be far away from Charlie (and redemption arc isnt really the right term. But simply, character development) While I loved Imogen standing up for herself, she shouldnt have added the Charlie part. It put a spotlight on Charlie that made him uncomfortable and it was treading too close to outing Ben. But for all the rest, heck yes you deserve better
I'm screamminggg! Not grab him by the ear and drag himmmm! But honestly same! Now listen here Benjamin!!!! Ooooh great way of saying it! Empathy for the core emotions that he is feeling! YES! You're right on Charlie not having to show Ben any grace! That's where I come in lol. But yes lets leave some space for Ben to grow and develop as you say! Ooh great point on Imogen's remarks! It definitely put Charlie in the unneeded hot seat and if their were messy classmates like myself I could have connected some dots lol. I think she was just frustrated with the whole situation and notably observed Ben's weird fixation with Charlie.
I know its a joke, but a lot of reactors say the same like they are alot of g4y people, but it isn't actually true there are only 13 and 10 are students, only 8 are out of the closet, they mentioned the girls school have 1200 girls, assuming the boys school have the same in total they are 2400 students, they are even less qu33r people than other series. XD
I see your point but in terms of the show and the characters we see on screen, everyone is gayyyy or questioning. Which makes sense because they are the focus of the show and I wouldn't have it any other way! No harm, no foul!
“Damn, everybody at they dang school is gay!” 😂 Honestly! It’s ok, the community is thriving Bless your heart for wanting the best for Ben. You’re a better person than me 😅 Whether whatever he may do in the future makes up for his past transgressions (which are many, including bullying & assaulting Charlie), I think my thing is that Ben always seems to act out of selfishness & cruelty. His moments of niceness always come off as manipulation - especially since he hasnt apologized or taken accountability of his actions yet. Always be cautious of people like that b/c they’ll break you down with those few bright spots to make you think they’ve changed - and maybe they have, but they can be changed with someone else away from you 🙅🏽♀️ Be safe & protect your peace. If someone who’s hurt you has truly changed, then they’ll find their own way eventually, but you don’t have to be there for them. Maybe this is all harsh to judge a teen like that, I just feel so protective over these kids 😩😅
Oooooh you are preaching a word and I needed to hear it!!!! "Be safe & protect your peace" Amenn!! You're right! at this point Ben's advances on Charlie continue to be self-centered, possessive and harmful! I'm too nice because just his "kind, elusive" approach trying to strike up conversation (In public nonetheless) was enough to have me thinking, okay are we making progress? But we can't make progress until he holds himself to account for the harm he has caused Charlie! And yes the fact that they are kids definitely causes me to give more grace than I EVER would for an adult character who has done things similar to what Ben has done! and yes, shoutout to this gay a$$ school lol. Love it
It really isn't a very gay school at all though! We know Higgs has about 1200 students (stands to reason *some* of them must be lesbians!) so we would expect at least 120 or so queer students there. Probably more, given that recent survey that said, what was it, 30 percent of GenZ identifies as something other than totally straight! And it seems safe to assume that Truham is about the same size as Higgs, so figure the same number for the boys. That's 240 total, Year 7 through Year 13, so about 34 kids per class year between the two schools. And in the show, at this point, we know of...7 of them in Year 10 and Year 11. That's a tenth of the minimum expected number there should be! And yet, people talk about these schools being so gay...nope. It's just, we're not used to queer youth being centered in this kind of story. As an old straight lady myself I find it *delightful* to have my unthinking assumptions challenged in this way. Yep, the community is thriving and the kids are alright. Well, not Ben. Ben is definitely not alright, but...well, I won't spoil it. :) Well said, @mitchellhp
so Ben thinks he gets to sit next to and try to have a conversation with someone he assaulted. What is wrong with him? Oh. yeah it's all about what Ben wants.
i love your reaction and i cant waite to see the rest of this season and i hope u are ready for season 3 this one is going to be a lot harder to watch that all iam going to say about but u have to be ready
Thoughts on 20:05 - I personally think that grace doesn’t get extended to someone who assaulted you. I think if someone was just generally shitty and actually trying to be better, sure, opening that door a bit after some time is alright, but what Ben did was legitimately criminal - and the amount of time that has passed in the show between Ben assaulting Charlie and this trip is about four months.
Ben has never, not once, spoken to Charlie in public, so for him to even say out loud ‘I haven’t spoken to you properly in ages’ is wild. Also, a reminder that in season 1 episode 2, we saw a flashback of Ben being ‘nice’ to Charlie after he was outed. It wasn’t actually genuine, it was just manipulation. So I wouldn’t, personally, take this bait and turn it into an olive branch.
I really like hearing your thoughts throughout the show!
Ooooooh you got me there! Great point about him saying ‘I haven’t spoken to you properly in ages’ when he outright avoids him in public spaces and/or lies about knowing him! And you're right the SA is still very fresh, I didn't know the timeline was this close! No bueno Ben, no bueno!
Thanks for watching!
as someone who has been through the same as charlie with ben assauling him, there will never be a day in my life where i forgave or feel bad for ben or my own assaulter.
Totally understandable! Wishing you well
Ben absolutely does not deserve to move up in tier ever. He has been horrible to Charlie and assaulted him. No one wants to be forced to interact regularly with the person who assaulted them. He can rot in the bottom tier.
Valid! Totally get that
I don't think Ben was trying to be "nice" to Charlie. I think he's annoyed to have lost control of Charlie and is trying to rope him back in. He messed with my baby boy and no redemption will move him from the bottom tier for me. Dig a hole under the bottom tier... and Ben's home! Not me being toxic! 😁
I disagree I do think Ben liked Charlie I just think he hated himself and his home life so to counter act that he lashed out and used control as a way to cope with it all but I do think he liked him I was hoping for some type of breakthrough for him not necessarily Charlie forgiving him and becoming his friend or anything but that he learned to accept himself by the end
lmaooo not a hole under the bottom tier is Ben's home! I get it though. Yeah, at this point in the season I guess there is no room really for him to "be nice" until he makes amends and apologizes
I think you forgot that Ben physically assaulted Charlie. It has nothing to do with Nick asking Ben not to talk to him or about him. Ben also said very hurtful things to him at the movie theater right before Nick got into that fight. How do you expect Charlie to react? 🤨
Nope! I didn't forget. Just trying to give Ben some grace, though it, most are in agreeance that he doesn't deserve it! He was indeed so horrible in Season 1, that him being any kind of decent has been for a loop
Another fantastic reaction, the waiting over a year for it was worth it.
Thank you!!!! 🙏 ✨ not the year long wait lmaooo 😭😅
I understand your conflicted feelings about Ben. He is definitely directing his internal homophobia outward and treating people badly as a result. It makes me wonder how bad people are hurting inside when they act that way. Sometimes, all it takes is someone to hold you accountable for your actions while doing their best to be there for you at the same time. I just don't think Ben is prepared to accept any support or responsibility at this point in his journey.
When Ben sat next to Charlie, Charlie immediately shutdown. He loved Imogen's takedown of Ben. She said what he was thinking, but couldn't in that moment. Nick saw Charlie shutting down and was going to intervene, because he's Nick. Best boyfriend ever🎉.
I also understand why you haven't given up on Ben. He's got issues. He's in pain. A lot of us hope for a redemption arc for Ben. But he displayed a huge amount of internalized homophobia in Seaon one. But there is always hope ❤.
Yes, I noticed Charlie's body language was completely despondent once Ben's dark energy approached! We love ride or die Nick Nelson! And yes, that's where I'm at with Ben at this moment, holding out hope for a better him! How he goes about getting there, is the question.
Ben gets no redemption arc! He’s a sexual assaulter he’s lucky he didn’t get locked away
i get your thoughts on ben and his internalized homophobia towards himself but it's definitely a bit triggering to hear someone say to someone like charlie who was sexually assaulted by ben, ignored by ben, said mean things to by ben in the cinema, and more in the nick and charlie novella, for charlie to just "be polite". charlie does not owe ben that courtesy, i'm sorry. he was just saying mean things about charlie in the past couple of episodes plus he also belittles charlie's choices when he was discussing with nick in front of the Eiffel tower. charlie has the right to not want to talk to him. sexual assault is sexual assault no matter the degree. charlie is a victim.
definitely agree but i'm pretty sure at 20:09 he didn't tell charlie to just be nice, he said that he wouldn't be mad if charlie was polite and he wouldn't be mad if charlie was "mean" and pushed him away (because it's deserved and either way his choice)
don't put words in my mouth, please!
thank you!
Great Reaction! 🥳 also, Your just in time for Joe Locke’s (aka Charlie Spring) 21st birthday. 🫶🏼 I’m loving your reaction videos. Keep up the great work! 👍🏼
Thank you Lizzy! 🔥🙏. Shout out to Joe! He’s having a good year so far between Heartstopper S3 & Agatha All Along!
My relationship with Ben is basically, if I was on the show, I would grab him by the ear, drag him faaar away from Charlie and then have a chat with him and help him. He is a real exercice of nuances. I hate all his actions, but I have empathy for the core emotions that he is feeling. And I want him to feel better about himself, for himself and the others around him. He is rotting inside and doesnt know how to handle it and hurts everyone around him. And no Charlie doesnt have to show any grace at Ben. That door is closed. But it doesnt mean Ben cant get better. It will just be far away from Charlie (and redemption arc isnt really the right term. But simply, character development)
While I loved Imogen standing up for herself, she shouldnt have added the Charlie part. It put a spotlight on Charlie that made him uncomfortable and it was treading too close to outing Ben. But for all the rest, heck yes you deserve better
I'm screamminggg! Not grab him by the ear and drag himmmm! But honestly same! Now listen here Benjamin!!!! Ooooh great way of saying it! Empathy for the core emotions that he is feeling! YES! You're right on Charlie not having to show Ben any grace! That's where I come in lol. But yes lets leave some space for Ben to grow and develop as you say!
Ooh great point on Imogen's remarks! It definitely put Charlie in the unneeded hot seat and if their were messy classmates like myself I could have connected some dots lol. I think she was just frustrated with the whole situation and notably observed Ben's weird fixation with Charlie.
I liiiive for these reactions. Honestly the " even the bottom tier Henry" 😂 sent me out .
This show has me feeling all kinds of things lol. Henry standing up for Imogen 😳 I had to do a double take. Growth for our bottom tier boy 😌
I know its a joke, but a lot of reactors say the same like they are alot of g4y people, but it isn't actually true there are only 13 and 10 are students, only 8 are out of the closet, they mentioned the girls school have 1200 girls, assuming the boys school have the same in total they are 2400 students, they are even less qu33r people than other series. XD
I see your point but in terms of the show and the characters we see on screen, everyone is gayyyy or questioning. Which makes sense because they are the focus of the show and I wouldn't have it any other way! No harm, no foul!
@@KOFI_ESCAPES yes, it's all about perspective.
“Damn, everybody at they dang school is gay!”
😂 Honestly! It’s ok, the community is thriving
Bless your heart for wanting the best for Ben. You’re a better person than me 😅
Whether whatever he may do in the future makes up for his past transgressions (which are many, including bullying & assaulting Charlie), I think my thing is that Ben always seems to act out of selfishness & cruelty. His moments of niceness always come off as manipulation - especially since he hasnt apologized or taken accountability of his actions yet.
Always be cautious of people like that b/c they’ll break you down with those few bright spots to make you think they’ve changed - and maybe they have, but they can be changed with someone else away from you 🙅🏽♀️
Be safe & protect your peace. If someone who’s hurt you has truly changed, then they’ll find their own way eventually, but you don’t have to be there for them.
Maybe this is all harsh to judge a teen like that, I just feel so protective over these kids 😩😅
Oooooh you are preaching a word and I needed to hear it!!!! "Be safe & protect your peace" Amenn!! You're right! at this point Ben's advances on Charlie continue to be self-centered, possessive and harmful! I'm too nice because just his "kind, elusive" approach trying to strike up conversation (In public nonetheless) was enough to have me thinking, okay are we making progress? But we can't make progress until he holds himself to account for the harm he has caused Charlie! And yes the fact that they are kids definitely causes me to give more grace than I EVER would for an adult character who has done things similar to what Ben has done!
and yes, shoutout to this gay a$$ school lol. Love it
It really isn't a very gay school at all though! We know Higgs has about 1200 students (stands to reason *some* of them must be lesbians!) so we would expect at least 120 or so queer students there. Probably more, given that recent survey that said, what was it, 30 percent of GenZ identifies as something other than totally straight! And it seems safe to assume that Truham is about the same size as Higgs, so figure the same number for the boys. That's 240 total, Year 7 through Year 13, so about 34 kids per class year between the two schools. And in the show, at this point, we know of...7 of them in Year 10 and Year 11. That's a tenth of the minimum expected number there should be! And yet, people talk about these schools being so gay...nope. It's just, we're not used to queer youth being centered in this kind of story. As an old straight lady myself I find it *delightful* to have my unthinking assumptions challenged in this way. Yep, the community is thriving and the kids are alright. Well, not Ben. Ben is definitely not alright, but...well, I won't spoil it. :) Well said, @mitchellhp
First one! I love your channel! Your saying everything that's in my head. Really enjoying your Heartstopper reactions ❤
Thank you so much! We’re in sync when it’s comes these characters 🔥 glad you’re enjoying them
so Ben thinks he gets to sit next to and try to have a conversation with someone he assaulted. What is wrong with him? Oh. yeah it's
all about what Ben wants.
Shameful behavior, indeed!
i love your reaction and i cant waite to see the rest of this season and i hope u are ready for season 3 this one is going to be a lot harder to watch that all iam going to say about but u have to be ready
I was about to complain about Charlie being only one level above he’s assaulter