How I Came Out to my Parents!

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  • @sleepycasper899
    @sleepycasper899 7 років тому +16

    I'm in a situation at the moment where I have no idea if my parents would accept me for being genderfluid. My older brother accepted my pansexuality right away. I texted him about it when I was having trouble with girls and I wanted to come out to my mum. He then called me and just calmly talked me through how I should tell mum because he knows her better than I do. So I might be able to talk to him about it, but I don't want to burden him.
    My mum acted accepting of my sexuality but used it as ammo when she was mad at me for whatever reason. I think she might accept me for my genderfluidity if I explain it well but I don't know.
    My sister is really religious. Nuff said.
    Recently my mum took my little brothers and moved a fair way away, so I have my dad to tell if I want something but I can't bring myself to tell him I don't identify as female because I am his first-born and his only 'daughter' and to him, I have always been his lovely girl. How do I tell him I am genderfluid without hurting him...?

  • @gpwil3847
    @gpwil3847 7 років тому +43

    Never told mine...they are gone now...their generation would have never understood. My wife knew (Alzheimer's), both sons...about your age, and my sister...half sister too religious, traditional...I am 60...fluid.... Coming out to be who you are is the best thing in so many ways...congrats!

    • @kirishima638
      @kirishima638 7 років тому +9

      Good for you. Life is too short to pretend to be something you're not.

    • @jamieisnotokay3298
      @jamieisnotokay3298 4 роки тому +2

      Life is too short to not be your authentic self :)

  • @carolinaesperanca4686
    @carolinaesperanca4686 7 років тому +28

    I've learned a little bit about myself watching you, and thinking " I not that wierd" so please keep talking to us, because u can help a lot more of people know themselves and know they're not alone.
    Love ur videos

  • @taylorbarnhart1464
    @taylorbarnhart1464 7 років тому +29

    I came out as GF by wearing a dress to my mom's wedding abt a year ago.

  • @chuckgan
    @chuckgan 7 років тому +9

    I am bi and love crossdressing but still haven't told my parents. Only a few friends know. I am 47 years old and don't know how to come out at this point

  • @katalinalaurenwilliams3813
    @katalinalaurenwilliams3813 7 років тому +3

    ive watched some of your videos. I love your bubbliness and confidence. thanks for being you and being here xx

  • @eternalkaro
    @eternalkaro 7 років тому +4

    Thanks so such! I'm genderfluid and pansexual and I can't come out rn or really ever...I'm scared my parents/family are not expecting

  • @mgbrad5018
    @mgbrad5018 7 років тому +14

    Honestly, im trans and cameout to my parents almost three years ago and they pulled the card of it being a phase and them being unsupportive....havnt moved out or started hormones and thats perfectly fine for me! Cause when i moveout and start hormones etc. I won't need them in my life anymore and I KNOW EVERYTHING WILL TURN OK IN THE END

    • @Maximusbuckelew
      @Maximusbuckelew 7 років тому +5

      Manga Games Brad
      I love your positivity your comment gave me some hope for my own situation

  • @baileyravenwick
    @baileyravenwick 7 років тому +17

    I had my mom watch your 'what is gender fluidity' video when i came out to her last year. She was very accepting.

    • @Seadresa
      @Seadresa  7 років тому +3

      +Bailey Lake YAY that's awesome!! So glad she was accepting 😊

  • @jadeforest7924
    @jadeforest7924 7 років тому +13

    My mother decided one day last summer to go through all of my belongings and so I got outed way before I was prepared to tell my parents. I did my best to explain to them everything I could, but it really didn't go so well. My dad did his best to understand, but my mom... not so much. Instead of going to see a psychologist like your mom, she refuses to talk to anyone except her church friends and pastors, who only confirm that I'm in the wrong and need to change and somehow have to force myself to be cis-male. So I won't feel comfortable going back home for several years probably. And since my own parents reacted so negatively, I'm afraid to tell the rest of my extended family.

    • @rozeqrtz3096
      @rozeqrtz3096 7 років тому +4

      thats really shitty , i hope you stay strong though!

    • @M0OSE
      @M0OSE 7 років тому +1

      Darth Kaas I really hope that everything turns out okay for you. I'm sorry to hear that your family wasn't exactly supportive. Church can help so many people but my gosh if it turns people away from each other too... you're a beautiful person and you deserve love and if some people won't do it, others will.

    • @MysticDragon23
      @MysticDragon23 7 років тому

      My mom went through my belongings as well, because she for one reason or another thought I was prostituting myself in the city, when in reality I was taking tap dance lessons. Half of my cousins know, and claim to be fine with it, but I don't see them much more than once every couple of years.

    •  6 років тому

      Sorry if im being rude but im done with my mom rejecting me and society not accepting me

    • @Jimmyvida
      @Jimmyvida 6 років тому

      I'm so sorry. I hope she could understand someday. Maybe looking for a church leader that accepts it and take him to your mother but... Idk. I haven't officially told to my mother because she is a closed box, so maybe I'm not allowed to give advices. I wish you good luck and love.

  • @cfgeyer
    @cfgeyer 5 років тому

    I find you to be very inspirational. I’m currently 68 years old and my youngest child is your age. I’m gender fluid myself. I have learned that this is what I am and it’s never going to change so the hell with not enjoying it and so far so good. I’ve had many obstacles because of this gift. I just lost my partner of five and a half years partly because of this. It hurt but the woman within is the real partner and she wants to be heard and seen! She wins every time. I enjoy your attitude about all the trials and tribulations we learn from this and you are very positive in your vlogs. Also, I would like to mention that I enjoy your use of language. Your grammar and vocabulary are miles ahead of most people that I see on any media. (like, dude. amazing, awesome, anyways, and other cliches.) I look forward to more observations from you. You help me normalize this whole experience. Peace, Charlene

  • @andreyedward9804
    @andreyedward9804 6 років тому +6

    you look so beautiful in this video

  • @OWmofat
    @OWmofat 7 років тому +4

    Ha 24! I waited until I was 29 to come out.

  • @matildab2231
    @matildab2231 6 років тому

    Love and hugs to you for your courage and persistence, Seadresa! And oh yes, when you shave your legs for the first time doesn't it feel wonderful for the first 24 to 48 hours? And then those bumps!!! OMFG!!!! It feels like wearing hedgehog trousers inside out for the following month or so!!!!! Aaaaggghh!! Oh roll on autumn please, when I can do it again! Although perhaps I shall indulge in a proper waxing this year!? But it will remain forever tricky to turn Chewbacca in to Princess Leia. Sigh. Cry. Lol! xxx

  • @phenbuz
    @phenbuz 7 років тому

    I like the way you express yourself. Adorable person

  • @dragongirl4286
    @dragongirl4286 5 років тому

    That was lovely, brought a tear to my eyes when you said it gets better xx

  • @kirishima638
    @kirishima638 7 років тому +3

    I agonized how I would 'come out' to my family but in the end I just showed them. I dressed how I normally dressed and they were OK with it.

  • @AlexAdmiralAvocado
    @AlexAdmiralAvocado 7 років тому

    I came out at 16/17.
    First to my friends, that to my sister and at the end to my parents and UA-cam. It was/is really difficult for my parents I think because my brother died 13 years ago and now they have a "son" again. But everything got better in the last year and its okay :)

  • @Iceheartxo
    @Iceheartxo 7 років тому

    aww i remember those old videos! :D youre amazing Grace!!

  • @randyshaver6365
    @randyshaver6365 7 років тому

    Great video and inspirational story! Thanks for sharing. I'm sure it will help anyone who has to go through the coming out to the family process, whether they are gay, bi, gender fluid, or whatever people deem different. I never came out to my parents (I'm pansexual), but my sister knows and while she may not be totally accepting and supportive, she also knows that's what I am and still loves me. Anyway, thanks again, and don't worry, as long as you keep posting we will keep watching!

  • @ct7547
    @ct7547 7 років тому +1

    I'm 16 and Iam at the step "I accept you but I don't want to see it" since June 2016 and today is my Birthday, your video was useful in the way you showed me maybe a solution to help her accepting it (with the psychologist moment) ! Thank youuu

  • @lorenakademar5267
    @lorenakademar5267 7 років тому

    What a great family you have! they are incredible

  • @xloveisblindx87
    @xloveisblindx87 7 років тому +2

    I'm pansexual and I was afraid to come out to my step dad cuz I was afraid he wouldn't love me and stuff but my cousin fucked it up for me when she sent him a pic of me and my ex girlfriend kissin and it was very awkward talkin to him about it but Idk what he thinks now. I never wanted one of my family members goin to him I wanted to tell him on my own time

  • @newkid5256
    @newkid5256 7 років тому

    I am sooo happy that there are people like you who are just like me.... Thank God!! And you look super cute in those dresses. :)

  • @lorenakademar5267
    @lorenakademar5267 7 років тому

    As usual...you are amazing!! I love ur videos!!! and now your hair is incredible!!! and of course you are gorgeous!!

    • @Seadresa
      @Seadresa  7 років тому

      +Lorena Kademar ahh thank ya!! So glad you love my vids😊 hahaha it has grown out a bit PLUS I had a shower - best way to get hair that is doing the whole "hair" thing correctly!

  • @JordanCassie
    @JordanCassie 7 років тому

    So good to head from you. Love your stuff. :)

  • @emilykuang3680
    @emilykuang3680 7 років тому

    Yay! New video! I check all the time to see if there's more genderfluid awesomeness on your channel. Your letter is so beautiful. Been watching your videos for probably a year and now your hair is so long! :) PS makeup is good and 24 is not old (im 23)! I have not told my parents about gender queer/fluidity yet. ;)

  • @TheMattastic
    @TheMattastic 7 років тому

    I ended up moving to pretty much the opposite end of the country from my parents before I came to terms with my identity, so I'm fully open to the idea of never coming out to them at all. I think I can fake it a couple of times a year.

  • @Alzzarla
    @Alzzarla 7 років тому

    24 isn't old Grace, at least it isn't unless you feel it is. I should know, I'm also turning 24 😆
    And as long as you come back to us, I don't mind that you've been gone a long time. Always appreciate your videos.

  • @lorenakademar5267
    @lorenakademar5267 7 років тому

    BTW, ur hair is lovely and your eyebrows are getting in shape

  • @jasgrace6662
    @jasgrace6662 7 років тому

    Hey Grace, what happened to all those modeling videos you used to have up?

  • @paulsharkey6576
    @paulsharkey6576 4 роки тому

    You're naturally beautiful. I really don't think that you could ever look bad.

  • @sirmidget7073
    @sirmidget7073 7 років тому

    I still wonder where you bought that red dress you showed at 8:31 ._.

  • @springlocksuit2115
    @springlocksuit2115 5 років тому

    my parents found out about it by looking at my phone lol. ive never trusted them fully and im adopted so yee. they dont know what to think of it and im still too scared to dress female in public. i always dress male. im too scared to express myself and dysphoria just makes depression worse and worse. my mom grew up thinking that people like me are "broken inside" or "hurting" and i wish she could just accept who i am and who i want to be. im still in school and i normally dont go out at all so i can never express myself. any ideas about how to cope with this? ill do anything at this point.

  • @MrYeeee
    @MrYeeee 7 років тому +1

    I have two lesbian moms and two gay dads (long story) and when I was younger I never really realised that they were different or gay. I saw a traditional family like everyone else, a mom and a dad. I did not think about the fact that my family was different. So when I was older my parents came out to me. They talked about being gay to me and I was really confused. Thinking back we all think this is a funny story.

  • @challacustica9049
    @challacustica9049 5 років тому

    How old do you have to be to do this? I've been wanting to do this for about three years now.

  • @bradenpeltz4370
    @bradenpeltz4370 6 років тому

    Your makeup looks amazing.

  • @cinderlotus8380
    @cinderlotus8380 7 років тому

    Omg thank you so much for this, you've helped me so much. I'm now able to tell my mom and dad that I'm planning to be Gender Fluid... it's something I've been waiting to do soooooo much and I'm very happy and excited about this now 😸😁😋

  • @oliviameek9405
    @oliviameek9405 7 років тому

    awWH YOUR AWESOME TOO SHOTTIES FOR THE SHOUT OUT 😎😎😎 lauv yooou

    • @Seadresa
      @Seadresa  7 років тому

      +Olivia Meek WOOOOOOO all good Libs, love ya tooooooo 😋😄😄

  • @fvfgx
    @fvfgx 7 років тому

    wow grace I just clocked the music of dresses I love there music we have the same taste in music I'm the only Texas Korean that like hipster music like this

  • @TheTwitchyBrownGuy
    @TheTwitchyBrownGuy 7 років тому

    Is it just me or does the door in the thumbnail look like it moves when you scroll up and down?

  • @nickyftv
    @nickyftv 7 років тому

    An inspiring video and so glad it is going well for you :) x

  • @gemmaxd6ft525
    @gemmaxd6ft525 5 років тому

    makeup looks lovely as you are xx

  • @fvfgx
    @fvfgx 7 років тому +1

    you should look up a Korean pop Groop called AOA (Hart Atack)

    • @mandymartin1381
      @mandymartin1381 7 років тому +1

      fvfgx omg there is one of us kpopers in EVERY UA-cam video😂

  • @kuroichan101
    @kuroichan101 7 років тому +1

    I always thought that I wouldnt come out to anyone and especially my parents because they just wouldnt get it but lately, since Im now older, my parents keep saying woman or lady happily when speaking about me. It irks me. I told my sister that Im nonbinary and she was okay with it. I wear men clothes often and my family doesnt care but my mom's worried that I might be a lesbian and my siblings trans jokes and stuff are starting to irk me. Anyway, good video and you are really pretty.

  • @sleeplord2466
    @sleeplord2466 7 років тому +20

    today I came out as a lesbian to my parents :)

    • @legiblepotato2588
      @legiblepotato2588 7 років тому +2

      I hope it ended well. :)

    • @Seadresa
      @Seadresa  7 років тому +4

      +sleep lord same here!! Hella proud of ya 😃

  • @Quoobuss
    @Quoobuss 7 років тому

    I thought I was genderfluid (it was a phase personally for me) I told my sister, and she told me I was being stupid, cause it's not a real thing, and that its just a phase. And like I mentioned it was for me.

  • @Jaybird196
    @Jaybird196 7 років тому +1

    Grace, is there any difference, between genderfluid, and crossdresser? Thanks.

    • @ShikisaiMaki
      @ShikisaiMaki 7 років тому +4

      Jaybird196 Genderfluid is a gender under the non-binary umbrella. Genderfluid is feeling that your gender changes over different periods of time. It's not just one set feeling that always remains the same everyday of your life.
      Non-binary (umbrella term) means that you don't feel exclusively male nor exclusively female. Some people who identify with a label under the non-binary umbrella also feel like they have no gender at all or feel detached from the concept of gender.
      Some non-binary people also identify as transgender. Transgender is also an umbrella term that means someone who doesn't identify as the gender they were assigned at birth.
      Gender (identity) is how you feel inside. It's very personal and it's not something others can see.
      Crossdressing is wearing clothing that is considered to be for the "opposite gender" by society. It's part of (gender) expression. Gender expression is how you dress, style your hair, your manners, etc.
      Some people crossdress just because they enjoy wearing those clothes/make-up. They don't have to be transgender and/or non-binary to do it. For exemple, someone could have been assigned male at birth, identify as a man but like wearing dresses and make-up.
      Basically, it's important to remember that gender identity, gender expression, genitalia, sexual and romantic attraction are all different things. I hope this helps! 😊

    • @Seadresa
      @Seadresa  7 років тому +3

      +Jaybird196 +getoutofmyband what they said! That was an awesome explanation by the way!! Couldn't have put it better myself!!

    • @ShikisaiMaki
      @ShikisaiMaki 7 років тому +1

      +Seadresa I'm glad I didn't make any mistake! 😊
      I love your videos by the way! Been following you for a long time! I find there's not a lot of genderfluid representation out there! It's nice to see someone who was assigned male at birth talk about it too! 🌈❤️🤗
      Much love all the way from Quebec, Canada 🇨🇦
      A fellow enby (they/he) 🙂

    • @Jaybird196
      @Jaybird196 7 років тому

      getoutofmyband Thank you, for this in-depth explanation. I found this, helpful :) .

  • @zhao6786
    @zhao6786 6 років тому

    I have so much difficulty in telling my parents... especially because I'm so young and probably they're going to be like "Hm okay, fine, but don't you think you're kinda too young?", this if they take it well. I'm not sure what's going to happen though, if they will understand, I came out as bisexual and then pansexual and everything went ok, not WELL you know? They're open minded but not as much as I and my friends are. For us this is such an ordinary thing and I'm really glad about this, because it should ALWAYS be a normal thing. It is. I think my mom kind of knows I'm genderqueer but now and then, when a wear a masculine outfit, she says I should "dress up like a girl, you ARE a girl". I hate this so much. 21st century. Clothes DON'T have gender. About my dad, he doesn't have idea, but a year ago (I hadn't discovered myself as genderfluid yet) said something like "ok being genderqueer, but you don't have to create a new pronoun just because of it". I seriously don't know what is going to happen and I'm really scared, but I know that I should come out soon. I'm so sure about being genderfluid, do you know what I mean? It's just so right. I should come out soon because I can't stand being always a female anymore. In fact, I don't feel like a female often. Most of the time I'm just genderqueer/non-binary. I hate how complicated everything has to be. I hope I'm able to tell them soon.

  • @kolmikaelson840
    @kolmikaelson840 7 років тому

    I find your videos so inspirational, I never knew that I was Genderfluid let alone know what it was, but after watching your videos and learning, I did my own research looked at my life and discovered that I am Genderfluid. I am 18 soon to be 19 (I found out that I was Genderfluid when I was 17) and I know I am Genderfluid and I am proud of it. My family doesn't know yet and neither does my subscribers, but my friends know. I just want to say, Thank You very much for the inspiration to let me be me.
    Cody(Katie)

  • @kseniakudri4722
    @kseniakudri4722 7 років тому

    You are great))) I really like your story))

  • @lorenakademar5267
    @lorenakademar5267 7 років тому

    What a brave girl u r!

  • @lorenakademar5267
    @lorenakademar5267 7 років тому

    BTW, happy birthday to you!!!!

  • @artisan555
    @artisan555 7 років тому

    thank you for this. :)

  • @th3randomn3rd74
    @th3randomn3rd74 7 років тому

    "its time for a story, its time for a story, a very special story especially for you! Its time for a story! Its time for a story! Sit down and listen now,...." bo burnham

  • @sebastienfabre8781
    @sebastienfabre8781 7 років тому +1

    té trop belle j'adore ton makeup 💗😘😘

  • @Crasson08
    @Crasson08 7 років тому

    You're pretty great. Keep on being you.

  • @markthomas717
    @markthomas717 7 років тому

    you look great i like to cross dress my self to great video well done i started wearing tight then i went on to the clothes

  • @rexhaney7281
    @rexhaney7281 7 років тому +5

    Hugs and kisses 😍😆❤💋👄💛💜💕❣💞👚👗👡👜👛

  • @nikolaynedev7525
    @nikolaynedev7525 7 років тому

    LOVE YOU

  • @r.clemons5946
    @r.clemons5946 7 років тому

    Well stated and prescient.
    namaste

  • @kirishima638
    @kirishima638 7 років тому

    LOVE

  • @vanlevy2008
    @vanlevy2008 7 років тому

    Glad its better, pretty blouse too,

  • @senpa1moch1
    @senpa1moch1 7 років тому

    MAKE ANOTHER VIDEO............. please.

  • @ariholder4762
    @ariholder4762 7 років тому

    You in New Zealand!!!! Have meet up please. (Almost none of the UA-camrs I like live in the same country as me)

  • @f.t.wh.m.8421
    @f.t.wh.m.8421 7 років тому

    i am in nz

  • @Yawakayex90
    @Yawakayex90 6 років тому

    24 you are so young, I wish I was 24 again...

  • @MissAbadeer
    @MissAbadeer 7 років тому

    When my parents had "the talk" they told me if I was transgender or something I would be disowned :c didn't think that would be a problem till now :ccc

  • @junjuncamacho8998
    @junjuncamacho8998 5 років тому

    💖

  • @njeevans5768
    @njeevans5768 6 років тому

    I'm found out I was genderfluid two years ago, and am preparing to tell my mother. I'm sure she'll be ok, but my stepfather is rude about lgbtq+ people, so that makes me nervous.

    • @njeevans5768
      @njeevans5768 6 років тому

      Also I'm 18yrs old, and go under the names Nicolas and Jade

  • @MattyCaff
    @MattyCaff 7 років тому

    Nice. :)

  • @tastyaplysia
    @tastyaplysia 7 років тому

    Shhhh you're not old~~ I'm turning 29 this year. Now that's old xp

  • @retrogradeamnesia4120
    @retrogradeamnesia4120 6 років тому

    I'm kinda confused about something. This is not a criticism at ALL. You seem to use the phrase "I like to wear girls clothes" several times as an initial lead in to telling your folks you are genderfluid. Do you equate those things? I am genderfluid but I never dress in women's clothes (although seeing you kinda makes me want to try it out--you're stunning). It's all my own identity, not how others perceive me. so in my OWN case, I don't equate those things, and I'm wondering if I'm off base here.

  • @cookiejar3094
    @cookiejar3094 7 років тому

    Thanks for your videos! I hope one day my country will be able to accept its people, pride walks in Istanbul and my family will let me go there as a genderfluid, wear and buy my own suitjacket.I hope one day no one gets killed because they have different colors.

  • @gloriatg100
    @gloriatg100 6 років тому

    I love the red lips.

  • @StarDeShine
    @StarDeShine 7 років тому

    Do you see yourself sort of like Alice in Wonderland? coming to be the person you always wanted to be?

  • @cosmaki1
    @cosmaki1 7 років тому

    THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!! for helping be to decide never to have children!!!!

  • @rexhaney7281
    @rexhaney7281 7 років тому

    little honey xoxoxoxo u are looking sooooooo very beautiful and I love ur Beautiful hair hugs and kisses xoxoxoxo

  • @markezbutler7230
    @markezbutler7230 6 років тому

    do'you'boyfriend'

  • @rexhaney7281
    @rexhaney7281 7 років тому

    Hey love one more thing if I ever get to come to your country I want to see invent cargo New Zealand I hope that's pronounced right I watched a movie called the world's fastest Indian Anthony Hopkins he played Burt Munro I love that movie I got it on DVD I want to see that City because he said in the movie one of the most beautiful cities on the planet and you're close to the equator will be standing sideways where I'm at it's kind of a little more if you go to the North Pole you're standing straight up one day I'd love to go to the South Pole but civilians not welcome at the South Pole you'd be standing upside down you won't notice it but you are upside down I love this big blue planet and I love you love all women and love your wife I love your country I love New Zealand there's a lot of history there a lot of beautiful things and it's so live with life and I love the rainforest in Australia your country's got mountains it would mind me of my home I live in Wyoming I'm from Montana in the United States I love mountains I love snow I love the wildlife and I love wild women

  • @rexhaney7281
    @rexhaney7281 7 років тому

    ur very beautiful

  • @jadeforest7924
    @jadeforest7924 7 років тому

    I shaved my leeegs. Haha your accent...

  • @HighLifeTGOD
    @HighLifeTGOD 7 років тому

    #NotMyRodrick
    (no offense)

  • @nitroisback8891
    @nitroisback8891 7 років тому

    there are two genders

  • @choccymilkconnoisseur2775
    @choccymilkconnoisseur2775 5 років тому

    its scientifically impossible to be genderfluid

  • @jennafalls
    @jennafalls 7 років тому

    you look good, but your muscle and bone frame is getting too manly, in your case may be you need to take hormones to loose some muscle and return to the point were you feel comfortable.

    • @kirishima638
      @kirishima638 7 років тому +1

      Hormones won't do anything to change your bones post puberty. Besides, it sounds more like you're the one who is uncomfortable.
      We all have our ideals as to how men and women should be but few individuals measure up to those standards.

    • @jennafalls
      @jennafalls 7 років тому

      you need to learn how to read, I never said anything about losing bone mass, but muscle, and you are the one who sounds uncomfortable, I think you are uncomfortable to me and a bunch of others. dont comment on other people comments, do your own.

  • @hamxiam
    @hamxiam 7 років тому

    congratulations
    all of you genderfluid fungi
    your pronoun is now officially "it"