The natural law is that humans in general are attracted to self-assured and self-sufficient healthy species who are not desperate on seeking approval and winning favor. Self love could turn the tables. You project that aura and you will eventually attract the right attention. Its just natural selection.
He speaks the truth. I just started dating a much younger man than me, and I do nothing, literally nothing… I used to do all the worrying about going out, doing the most for them like cooking, texting calling… This guy is happy to make all the plans, is concerned with making his home comfortable for me when I come over so that I can sleep there and have my creature comforts… Will drive a half hour at any time of the night just to make sure he sees me even though he has work in the morning. He’s the most thoughtful man I have ever met and he is only 29 years old. Always thinking about us in the future, and actually not scared to talk about it. Asked me the other day what my goal was with him! I was so floored. Never in my wildest dreams what I have ever thought that a man under 30 could be this normal in this day and age. Ladies… they are out there and a man who loves you will never ever let you second-guess how he feels about you!
And that’s what he should be in the first place, if you two want to end up a couple. Being with someone who weren’t interested from the start feels wrong, mostly.
i gave that man a chance and he immediately pulled back and ghosted then after he came back ghosted again men are so complicated now a days i dont want to play games i wanna love somebody
So if a man is a " hunter" then when he conquers his prey. ...he'll still keep hunting! I sat back all summer and they swarmed. All I realized is the more a person love bombs the more potential for a co dependant controlling relationship. I'd rather just be alone. Even the one I thought I wanted , I realize I don't. Free bird is the only way. I'd just screw it up anyway. Waist so much time and energy on illusions.
Ladies listen to him. Hes a man, of course he knows how men operate. I would trust what a man says over your own instincts. A man should always pursue.
When my boyfriend of 5 years was acting bizarre, I chose to confide in 5 men, all of whom I had a paternal or fraternal sort of friendship. They belonged to different ages groups and were at different stages of their own committed relationships. I shared every detail of my own relationship and after listening to their advice, my bf swiftly became my ex. Best decision ever!
Let me simplify this…be yourself but have your own life to the point where if someone left today or tomorrow you wouldn’t be lost. Include them in your life but do not make them your life. Don’t let social media try to bully you into a box that minimizes who you really are so you can change your personality for someone. You’re the prize, if they don’t like you because you’re not “‘mysterious enough” they can let themselves out…bye!
So true 😂 that’s how I got my boyfriend this year and how we met , not to say I didn’t like him back I just literally fell back and allowed him to chase and he still does the chasing ❤ he’s a Pisces and I’m a Scorpio 🎉
That’s our exact match - I’m a Scorpio, he’s a Pisces. At first he was leading and pursuing, but after a couple of years, I became insecure and began chasing. It didn’t work in my favor at all! I’ve been working hard to fall back, and do pretty well for the most part. But when he goes into his Pisces cave (I’m sure you know what I mean!), it still sometimes triggers that insecurity and chasing behavior. I hate it when I’m doing it and am becoming much better at getting out of that energy and focusing on me. And there he comes! My goal is to not even notice when he withdraws, as it doesn’t have anything to with me - and when I do notice and react, it prolongs him snapping back!
People need to do their inner work, men and woman. Yes you can pull back and create interest but then what? The moment the woman shows interest again he will go back to his cave... The cycle goes on an on until both people want to work on themselves and heal their inner wounds that prevents authentic connection in the first place.
Exactly. This strategy keeps people on a hamster wheel. The best thing people can do is heal and release as much dense emotions as they can and the the world will become your Oyster. Healed people shine brighter in their aura and naturally attract all kinds of people including people with secure attachment styles who are open to being authentic & vulnerable in connections.
Thank you, I had the exact same thought. This method only attracts people who want what they can’t have, or someone they can project all of their fantasies onto. Then when the person being pursued shows their real self, then pursuer backs off because they want a blank slate to project their fantasy onto, not a real person to build a relationship with. This isn’t even about men and women, it’s a toxic dynamic. Maybe it’s more common for men to do this pursuing (or maybe not), but it’s not the only model for relationships, and certainly not the healthiest one.
I think its fine to be vulnerable but you still should take it slow & be a challenge. People value what they work for. I wouldn't show a man too much access or interest until he made his intentions CLEAR. No casual dating & never hook up. I believe in courtship towards marriage.
How do lover girls survive in this world 😭😭 I wanna be close immediately while guys push back. Never in my life met a man to pursue me. How do I even find a guy who loves me more than I love him? Cause if I love I love all the way
It’s kind of a natural law. Think about the guys you don’t like. You never pursue or even care about them. Do nothing. If it comes, it comes. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t. ❤ Being a “lover girl” is really just being an “eager” girl.
The natural law is that humans in general are attracted to self-assured and self-sufficient healthy species who are not desperate on seeking approval and winning favor. Self love could turn the tables. You project that aura and men sense that.
You do have to have an open and inviting energy about you if you want men to show interest. Smile, laugh, flirt, have positive banter. Know you are the price, let him do the persuing and make you feel loved and adored. If so just be happy, if not just focus your energy on yourself and what serves you. Just see of he is right for you if not pull back. Never try to win a man over, just let go.
Another really good advice is to not try too hard to ignore them, and instead ignore them in a more “natural” way. What I mean by this is focus on yourself, your career, your education, your health. It’s really obvious for a man when you’re playing hard to get and for some (usually busier men with established careers), it puts them off. Great quality guys don’t have time to play cat and mouse. However, if we’re genuinely busy doing other things like spending time with family and friends, career, health, and or bettering ourselves, it makes us a lot sexier to them because it shows our livelihood, and that we’re not just living our entire lives obsessed with them. It would feel a lot more rewarding for them to ‘earn’ a date from us, because even though we have other priorities in mind, we still make time for them.
I think this dosent just apply to men, but to most people 😅. Ever since I stopped giving more, I started receiving more. Though you need to put some effort time to time.
The way i had to stop what i was doing while listening so i could stare at you when u said you're Ai so i could make sure you really weren't snd then paused to process that we really reached this point in technology...
I have two brothers who have been happily married for many years. They are both, kind, gentle men. They both met and married their true soul mates. When it's truly right it just happens naturally. Nobody has to purposely "do nothing" and there are no games whatsoever. Nobody is playing hard to get and nobody is afraid of "turning off" the other person by making themselves too available. When it is truly right you can show tons of interest and make yourself totally available and you will not scare off the right person. In fact they will be jumping for joy and think they won the lottery. There is no waiting three days before you call in fear of seeming "desperate". All the games that people play only work when it's the wrong person for you. Did you understand what I just said? The "games" work because the person you are dealing with is ego driven and thrives on the concept of "challenge". It's a facade. It isn't real. It will go nowhere. Real love happens fast and hard. It can't be stopped. If you are playing games and acting aloof it's because you have to. It's because you haven't met your soul mate yet. Because when you do, it will happen almost immediately and you will start planning a wedding.
Your brothers don’t represent the majority of men or even people. It’s likely you were raised in a healthier household than most. Be grateful for that. But understand that Tom’s advice works because most men do like challenges and solving problems. And as a woman, being a challenge is actually fun once you learn to get good at it.
@@jaylynnfarr1276 Fair enough. Being a "challenge" was never fun for me back when I was younger and dating. It was torture. I have been happily married for years now and when we met, we clicked immediately and got married six months later. I never had to be a challenge or play games for one split second. When I met him, he pursued me hard and quickly proposed. It was love at first sight and that love continues on.
it's terrible, you men choose a woman who you like and suits you, and we women only have to appreciate that someone tries and pays attention; If we want a man to have something more than just running around us, we are being picky.
I’ve heard it said that men fall in love alone. Which is the absolute opposite of women ..women fall in love when the guy is… There to fall in love with. It’s very contradictory to think about. Question for me is what happens when you’re finally together? When you’re no longer a mystery?
Same thing as in the game , the chasing level ends he gets the reward and moves on to a harder level which is basically another girl that is harder to get
I don't doubt he's telling the truth about most men, but fuck this. I am already a do-nothing mysterious type and am thus because I hate to play mind games with people. The men who show interest in me because of this I automatically write off because they are merely in love with their own ideas, not my actual person. I will never willingly enter a relationship knowing my affection is a game to be played, knowing I can't let my guard down and love in the way that is comfortable and hardwired into my nature. Being chased doesn't flatter me; being respected for my merits and inspired to express my most virtuous self for someone does, though. If this keeps me single forever, I'll consider myself saved.
Just don’t focus too much on this love getting a guy thing. Get a life. Be a person, life has more to offer you than a guy. Also we are all human, them as well, get in touch with your humanity, you are not just a girl
Just stay away from them. Stop thinking about him. Bad news, he'll just do the same to you if you get with him and it'll be complicated then because feelings or more feelings than you have now will be involved and you'll more than likely wind up hurt while he'll probably be fine.
100% I agree.. I advise all women to avoid married men who pursue esp bc they are very pushy and will love bomb blah blah I have been ignoring him, sadly we go to the same gym, so I have been doing my best to avoid him or just straight up pretend he doesn’t exist when I do see him
It became more difficult to show feelings than showing your body. That’s how I perceive this generation. You show the slightest interest back, and they are gone. It’s a game for most of them. And many answer the same « I messed up with my ex », « I loved her », « I don’t have time », etc etc. Bro won’t heal but is ready to hurt women’s feelings. Especially the ones they approached themselves, not the other way around. Dating someone shouldn’t be so complicated. Feelings became more private than your body.
When I am reading the subtitles in English, your face is light green. But as soon as I look at your face, it's dark again. You're not Ai, but you're not human either. And it's just your face that turns green in my peripheral view. Nothing else. Other than that, I think you're spot on about the knowledge you drop on us. Thank you green man!
Okay, but what to do if you are a mid girl? If you beautiful then you sooner or later meet someone who wanna approach you, but if you are not like that you will always be unseen, alone, no one will ever come to you
you have to wait until someone wants you and be happy that someone paid attention to you at all... if I "did nothing" I wouldn't enter into any relationship for the rest of my life
the advice you gave is good. absence makes the heart grow fonder. but dont you think once men have access to you after their relentless pursuit, they will just grow tired if what you have to offer doesnt suit his tastes. or they will want to chase some other mysterious women because they have access to you now. and they want something thrilling again?
Not so sure about this. High school version. Football player/cheerleader. Percussionist/the dance team girl who well shakes her stuff, and then the hockey player who goes for the choir/theater girl. In all three cases, the girls are definitely doing something to gain attention in a feminine way. You'll see these guys show up at the games, the shows, all looking to run into THAT girl afterwards. The show, spotlight, draws them in. The singer, dancer, cheerleader type. You don't see these guys showing up at the honors club, the book club,. They in their sport are in the spotlight; they want the girl who is also in the spotlight. AT least, that's what I've seen high school version.
In the adult world , that would translate into the "dream girl". The status of the entertainer girls is the sense of every1 wants her but who can get her(cheerleaders, etc) Real world being that Dream Girl like (Tyla, other models, etc) is that they seem valuable & every1 wants them, but who can get them?
@@sarahsmile2883 I have a very tight knit family. I'm also the youngest so I was showered in love by my parents. So, what else could it be? Is it just that I am able to find the beauty and good in every man's heart?
I kinda agree with this concept however…I think when the man is pursuing a woman…she has to give a little in order to keep his interest, even if that little is not much.
Guys who were genuinely interested in me had a type. I didn't like them but I see women who they married similar to my personality or looks. I don't mean that to be vain it's just an observation. People have types other guys I was attracted to there wasn't anything wrong with me. They just weren't physically attracted to me. They liked very skinny short women. That's fine. But I'm 5'8 and a size. Not short and definitely not skinny I'm curvy though and gorgeous but everyone almost has a type.
This is true but how long will this last. I Watch your videos you post and I try to refer back to see what I should avoid saying and what I should I need you literally in my ear to guide me in what I should say keep doing what you are doing the problem I have had is am I saying the wrong thing 🥰
Gosh, this make me so much things to think about. I currently start dating a guy and I feel like he's about to vanish because I'm pushing to hard, and expecting him to ask how was my day, do I want to spend more time with him e.t.c. Now, I'll try to do nothing. But I really confused, because I thought that guys like openness, and this 'doing nothing thing ' sounds for me a bit manipulative (
I understand how it feels when someone is so obsessed with you, and it's only one way. It feels gross. I get why a man, wouldn't want too much of that. However, that is basically what the men who have asked me out feel like; I didn't like any of them because it *also* feel one way. What then? If I spend time around a man, who then suddenly realizes he 'wants to spend more time with me' and I don't, then I likely *do* have to do something! Which is: going out of my way to now avoid them, because if a guy got to know me enough to want to spend more time with me, that means he's likely spend time around me doing something I like, like a writing group, or something which I will now have to decide whether to continue going to based on whether or not he shows up. Ya know? Also I think this advice isn't helpful for women who are naturally more avoidant either.
So one, your Drake analogy immediately disproved that this was a man thing, and showed that it was a human thing: people are generally turned off by anyone begging them to give them their time! Neither men nor women are generally attracted to this. But with your last point, it’s not that it isn’t true, but it sets up a very problematic dynamic for the relationship. If the only way to get a man’s dedication is doing nothing and letting him fantasize about the life he’s going to have and build with you, what happens when he’s actually with you? Do you have to just keep doing nothing forever to hold his interest? This isn’t how you build a long-lasting marriage. Eventually there will come a time where he’s no longer fantasizing and actually has you and you have him. Then what?
After dating for 3years his family stopped him from marrying because im not a moslem though i accepted to convert but his family rejected his proposal because im from a different tribe😢😢😢😢😢😢
Forget about muslim sorry but a lot of them hey have a lot of traumas I born in that I know what I am talking about I have no relegion no more my relegion is love ❤sending love stay strong
My other problem is man referring to dating as a “game” while us we calling it a relationship thats why im done with man, yall can go play with kids we are grown this side
Yes, women must do nothing. Not even give him back anything in return for his love. Men should always chase women who don't even want them in the first place and always take that woman for granted who genuinely lusted after him.
Do nothing? Haha! My bf does do nothing. I haven't seen him for 1,5 week! He sold his 2 cars and travels now per public transport. When he is at work he has a car. But I never see him on the weekends. Those are the days he works for himself or to hang out with family and friends
Mine claimed to not have money to see me for 6 months long distance relationship and he stopped calling and ended up talking once a month when he wants emotional support. Turned up he was back together with his baby mama
@Celestials1aurora it was new , I've healed but the trauma stays behind. Still hurts when I think about it. Best to trust your gut feeling and leave soon before it is too late. He made a fool out of me and I made excuses for him but it's all good God will see him
He's talking about the "hunters" mentality and men gaining respect , hence why the 🎮 gaming producers see this as what men do. I'm here visualizing some overweight middle age dude in his mom's basement playing computer games 😕😆😆. The bar is soooo low.
The natural law is that humans in general are attracted to self-assured and self-sufficient healthy species who are not desperate on seeking approval and winning favor. Self love could turn the tables. You project that aura and you will eventually attract the right attention. Its just natural selection.
Absolute facts!
Yes!
He speaks the truth. I just started dating a much younger man than me, and I do nothing, literally nothing… I used to do all the worrying about going out, doing the most for them like cooking, texting calling… This guy is happy to make all the plans, is concerned with making his home comfortable for me when I come over so that I can sleep there and have my creature comforts… Will drive a half hour at any time of the night just to make sure he sees me even though he has work in the morning. He’s the most thoughtful man I have ever met and he is only 29 years old. Always thinking about us in the future, and actually not scared to talk about it. Asked me the other day what my goal was with him! I was so floored. Never in my wildest dreams what I have ever thought that a man under 30 could be this normal in this day and age. Ladies… they are out there and a man who loves you will never ever let you second-guess how he feels about you!
How old are you?
Thank you for sharing 🙏
Same as my story😢
@@Nathaly0886 55 yrs youngster
All of those things can only happen if the man is intested in a first place.
That's why you need to choose correctly your target/victim first. It's the first rule so yeah. Men who dont like you don't even exist.
Dahhj.... you didnt discover america
And that’s what he should be in the first place, if you two want to end up a couple. Being with someone who weren’t interested from the start feels wrong, mostly.
Definitely
Well..duhh
i gave that man a chance and he immediately pulled back and ghosted then after he came back ghosted again men are so complicated now a days i dont want to play games i wanna love somebody
You have to let a man fall in love with you first.
You must first practice self love. You will attract whatever you are.
@@lena8255 i already do though im a christian so its a bit different for me
You’re so pretty!
@@alecarrasquilloriverablock him
Why can’t two people mutually just be selfless and love one another...it’s not rocket science if your hearts intentions are pure.
🙏🏻💕👌🏻✨❤️😊
You expect too much from monkey
@@mermaidcodes 🤣
That part right there!
True however it’s called the dating game for a reason. Its strategic.
So if a man is a " hunter" then when he conquers his prey. ...he'll still keep hunting!
I sat back all summer and they swarmed. All I realized is the more a person love bombs the more potential for a co dependant controlling relationship.
I'd rather just be alone.
Even the one I thought I wanted , I realize I don't.
Free bird is the only way.
I'd just screw it up anyway.
Waist so much time and energy on illusions.
Yes that’s why after marriage they still cheat 😂😂😂😂
You mean man... not person.
4B
Ladies listen to him. Hes a man, of course he knows how men operate. I would trust what a man says over your own instincts. A man should always pursue.
Girl no. Listen and think. Just because he's a man doesn't mean he's right about everything.
When my boyfriend of 5 years was acting bizarre, I chose to confide in 5 men, all of whom I had a paternal or fraternal sort of friendship. They belonged to different ages groups and were at different stages of their own committed relationships.
I shared every detail of my own relationship and after listening to their advice, my bf swiftly became my ex. Best decision ever!
Not trusting your instincts is wild
You sound like you're easy to abuse and manipulate. Or you're an abuser yourself
@@shalbec3232 🙄 and is your instinct to pursue and chase after men? Girl, get real.
Let me simplify this…be yourself but have your own life to the point where if someone left today or tomorrow you wouldn’t be lost. Include them in your life but do not make them your life. Don’t let social media try to bully you into a box that minimizes who you really are so you can change your personality for someone. You’re the prize, if they don’t like you because you’re not “‘mysterious enough” they can let themselves out…bye!
no
So true 😂 that’s how I got my boyfriend this year and how we met , not to say I didn’t like him back I just literally fell back and allowed him to chase and he still does the chasing ❤ he’s a Pisces and I’m a Scorpio 🎉
That’s our exact match - I’m a Scorpio, he’s a Pisces. At first he was leading and pursuing, but after a couple of years, I became insecure and began chasing. It didn’t work in my favor at all! I’ve been working hard to fall back, and do pretty well for the most part. But when he goes into his Pisces cave (I’m sure you know what I mean!), it still sometimes triggers that insecurity and chasing behavior. I hate it when I’m doing it and am becoming much better at getting out of that energy and focusing on me. And there he comes! My goal is to not even notice when he withdraws, as it doesn’t have anything to with me - and when I do notice and react, it prolongs him snapping back!
the title should've been "why men fell in love when you do nothing AND LOOK PRETTY"
People need to do their inner work, men and woman. Yes you can pull back and create interest but then what? The moment the woman shows interest again he will go back to his cave... The cycle goes on an on until both people want to work on themselves and heal their inner wounds that prevents authentic connection in the first place.
Exactly. This strategy keeps people on a hamster wheel. The best thing people can do is heal and release as much dense emotions as they can and the the world will become your Oyster.
Healed people shine brighter in their aura and naturally attract all kinds of people including people with secure attachment styles who are open to being authentic & vulnerable in connections.
Thank you, I had the exact same thought. This method only attracts people who want what they can’t have, or someone they can project all of their fantasies onto. Then when the person being pursued shows their real self, then pursuer backs off because they want a blank slate to project their fantasy onto, not a real person to build a relationship with. This isn’t even about men and women, it’s a toxic dynamic. Maybe it’s more common for men to do this pursuing (or maybe not), but it’s not the only model for relationships, and certainly not the healthiest one.
I think its fine to be vulnerable but you still should take it slow & be a challenge. People value what they work for. I wouldn't show a man too much access or interest until he made his intentions CLEAR. No casual dating & never hook up. I believe in courtship towards marriage.
How do lover girls survive in this world 😭😭 I wanna be close immediately while guys push back. Never in my life met a man to pursue me. How do I even find a guy who loves me more than I love him? Cause if I love I love all the way
It’s kind of a natural law. Think about the guys you don’t like. You never pursue or even care about them. Do nothing. If it comes, it comes. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t. ❤ Being a “lover girl” is really just being an “eager” girl.
@@tifftreads yeah nothing comes
then most guys just see you as easy sorry
@@muhammadyoussef8 that's true unfortunately
The natural law is that humans in general are attracted to self-assured and self-sufficient healthy species who are not desperate on seeking approval and winning favor. Self love could turn the tables. You project that aura and men sense that.
Hunter = Predator
Also opportunist..
@@jessicahitchens6926 Exactly, makes me want not to be caged and shot down
huh?
I’ve been doing nothing and I’ve been single for the last 5.5 years🗿might there be a correlation?🧐
Then you’re simply not attractive or a recluse
@@miscellaneous7777 shit, I knew it 🥲
@@miscellaneous7777😏
You do have to have an open and inviting energy about you if you want men to show interest. Smile, laugh, flirt, have positive banter. Know you are the price, let him do the persuing and make you feel loved and adored. If so just be happy, if not just focus your energy on yourself and what serves you. Just see of he is right for you if not pull back. Never try to win a man over, just let go.
Do nothing inside your brain tooo don't think about them
Another really good advice is to not try too hard to ignore them, and instead ignore them in a more “natural” way. What I mean by this is focus on yourself, your career, your education, your health. It’s really obvious for a man when you’re playing hard to get and for some (usually busier men with established careers), it puts them off. Great quality guys don’t have time to play cat and mouse.
However, if we’re genuinely busy doing other things like spending time with family and friends, career, health, and or bettering ourselves, it makes us a lot sexier to them because it shows our livelihood, and that we’re not just living our entire lives obsessed with them. It would feel a lot more rewarding for them to ‘earn’ a date from us, because even though we have other priorities in mind, we still make time for them.
The way he video-called me to tell me how much he loves me in the middle of watching this video 😂
Love it! 😊
You can Call yourself Lucky 😊
I really like this man now. I got used to his sarcasm and blunt truth. He is precise and honest. He's a King.
I think this dosent just apply to men, but to most people 😅. Ever since I stopped giving more, I started receiving more. Though you need to put some effort time to time.
I used to say, when I was 18, that I didn't chase good things, but good things chased me. I should have continued with that mindset into adulthood.😂
@@miyangtangwan7046omg same hehe
The way i had to stop what i was doing while listening so i could stare at you when u said you're Ai so i could make sure you really weren't snd then paused to process that we really reached this point in technology...
This is what woman need to hear ! Excellent advise without bashing them in the process ! But this is so true !!
I have two brothers who have been happily married for many years. They are both, kind, gentle men. They both met and married their true soul mates. When it's truly right it just happens naturally. Nobody has to purposely "do nothing" and there are no games whatsoever. Nobody is playing hard to get and nobody is afraid of "turning off" the other person by making themselves too available. When it is truly right you can show tons of interest and make yourself totally available and you will not scare off the right person. In fact they will be jumping for joy and think they won the lottery. There is no waiting three days before you call in fear of seeming "desperate". All the games that people play only work when it's the wrong person for you. Did you understand what I just said? The "games" work because the person you are dealing with is ego driven and thrives on the concept of "challenge". It's a facade. It isn't real. It will go nowhere. Real love happens fast and hard. It can't be stopped. If you are playing games and acting aloof it's because you have to. It's because you haven't met your soul mate yet. Because when you do, it will happen almost immediately and you will start planning a wedding.
Your brothers don’t represent the majority of men or even people. It’s likely you were raised in a healthier household than most. Be grateful for that. But understand that Tom’s advice works because most men do like challenges and solving problems. And as a woman, being a challenge is actually fun once you learn to get good at it.
@@jaylynnfarr1276 Fair enough. Being a "challenge" was never fun for me back when I was younger and dating. It was torture. I have been happily married for years now and when we met, we clicked immediately and got married six months later. I never had to be a challenge or play games for one split second. When I met him, he pursued me hard and quickly proposed. It was love at first sight and that love continues on.
Tomisin, your advice is genius.
I feel like Cleopatra now. 😂👸
it's terrible, you men choose a woman who you like and suits you, and we women only have to appreciate that someone tries and pays attention; If we want a man to have something more than just running around us, we are being picky.
I’ve heard it said that men fall in love alone. Which is the absolute opposite of women ..women fall in love when the guy is… There to fall in love with. It’s very contradictory to think about.
Question for me is what happens when you’re finally together? When you’re no longer a mystery?
So I am a man
@@simhotpepper9761 okay…?
Same thing as in the game , the chasing level ends he gets the reward and moves on to a harder level which is basically another girl that is harder to get
He has to appreciate you as more than an idea in his head of what he wants you to be.
That is actually true in a lot of ways. Women and men are so completely different.. Women do all the emotional labour as well as running the home.
I don't doubt he's telling the truth about most men, but fuck this. I am already a do-nothing mysterious type and am thus because I hate to play mind games with people. The men who show interest in me because of this I automatically write off because they are merely in love with their own ideas, not my actual person. I will never willingly enter a relationship knowing my affection is a game to be played, knowing I can't let my guard down and love in the way that is comfortable and hardwired into my nature. Being chased doesn't flatter me; being respected for my merits and inspired to express my most virtuous self for someone does, though. If this keeps me single forever, I'll consider myself saved.
Is it only me or actually the mimic parts are just HILARIOUS and get everyone every time? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
teaching women to play games, yaaawn. The society already thinks we should be doing that - both men and women. No, we shouldn't
Just don’t focus too much on this love getting a guy thing. Get a life. Be a person, life has more to offer you than a guy. Also we are all human, them as well, get in touch with your humanity, you are not just a girl
You are the shit! Keep doing you!
“Doing nothing is complex - you have to do nothing strategically” 😂 best quote
Tomisin you're smart and valuable ❤❤
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Thank you😊
Lol😂
What is the deal with Married men that won’t stop pursuing you even though you have made it clear you are not into married men?
Just stay away from them. Stop thinking about him. Bad news, he'll just do the same to you if you get with him and it'll be complicated then because feelings or more feelings than you have now will be involved and you'll more than likely wind up hurt while he'll probably be fine.
100% I agree.. I advise all women to avoid married men who pursue esp bc they are very pushy and will love bomb blah blah I have been ignoring him, sadly we go to the same gym, so I have been doing my best to avoid him or just straight up pretend he doesn’t exist when I do see him
Ask him for the number of his wife. Makeup any excuse to him about why you want to speak to his wife. Keep it up. He will eventually stop.
Excellent video. 🎉I learned so much. Thank you
It became more difficult to show feelings than showing your body. That’s how I perceive this generation. You show the slightest interest back, and they are gone. It’s a game for most of them. And many answer the same « I messed up with my ex », « I loved her », « I don’t have time », etc etc.
Bro won’t heal but is ready to hurt women’s feelings. Especially the ones they approached themselves, not the other way around.
Dating someone shouldn’t be so complicated. Feelings became more private than your body.
“Stacey where’s the link??????” Looool 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂I read your comment before that part of the video. Then I watched him scrambling for that link and I had to come back here.
I'm in tears.😂
@@miyangtangwan7046 I know it’s sooo funny and so very real 😂🤣🤣🤣
The Drake voice was subtle but on point lmao
You work too hard for us 🎉 thx
When I am reading the subtitles in English, your face is light green. But as soon as I look at your face, it's dark again. You're not Ai, but you're not human either. And it's just your face that turns green in my peripheral view. Nothing else. Other than that, I think you're spot on about the knowledge you drop on us. Thank you green man!
Wtf
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I think you’re high
Drugs are bad, kids.
Thank you! Love that so much! Thanks for sharing
Okay, but what to do if you are a mid girl? If you beautiful then you sooner or later meet someone who wanna approach you, but if you are not like that you will always be unseen, alone, no one will ever come to you
He is mid too, u're not a mid girl going for model so if u think u dont have options then he has none.
you have to wait until someone wants you and be happy that someone paid attention to you at all... if I "did nothing" I wouldn't enter into any relationship for the rest of my life
@@mymusic6384 exactly!
If you think you’re mid, you gotta change that babe. Don’t just accept anyone paying attention to you.
@@tifftreads that's what I think too
Thank you Tomisin❤
This is the video with most nothing in the history of youtube, love it!
the advice you gave is good. absence makes the heart grow fonder.
but dont you think once men have access to you after their relentless pursuit, they will just grow tired if what you have to offer doesnt suit his tastes.
or they will want to chase some other mysterious women because they have access to you now. and they want something thrilling again?
6:11 - “Where’s the link to the concert?!?!?” Loooool!!!
If I don’t call/text, he won’t.
He isn't invested. Move along and forget him.
Leave him
Forget about him, he already forgot about you!
If I have to "do nothing," I don't want him anyway. Sounds like work and bullshit.
Hmm right because your not invested
Not so sure about this. High school version. Football player/cheerleader. Percussionist/the dance team girl who well shakes her stuff, and then the hockey player who goes for the choir/theater girl. In all three cases, the girls are definitely doing something to gain attention in a feminine way. You'll see these guys show up at the games, the shows, all looking to run into THAT girl afterwards. The show, spotlight, draws them in. The singer, dancer, cheerleader type. You don't see these guys showing up at the honors club, the book club,. They in their sport are in the spotlight; they want the girl who is also in the spotlight. AT least, that's what I've seen high school version.
In the adult world , that would translate into the "dream girl".
The status of the entertainer girls is the sense of every1 wants her but who can get her(cheerleaders, etc)
Real world being that Dream Girl like (Tyla, other models, etc) is that they seem valuable & every1 wants them, but who can get them?
This is great. I'm a confident woman but I'll try to pull back with men.
Why do I fall in love with every man who gives me the slightest bit of attention?
Childhood neglect wound
@@sarahsmile2883 I have a very tight knit family. I'm also the youngest so I was showered in love by my parents. So, what else could it be? Is it just that I am able to find the beauty and good in every man's heart?
Desperation?
@@nancychege6777 Probably. I want to taste the greatest fruit life has to offer: love.
We are traumatized that’s why so we should heal and move on ❤❤❤
I kinda agree with this concept however…I think when the man is pursuing a woman…she has to give a little in order to keep his interest, even if that little is not much.
"there's not a mysterious bone in my body" 😂
5:13 I let this be the announcement that I made a short film about what women bring to the table. :)
Guys who were genuinely interested in me had a type. I didn't like them but I see women who they married similar to my personality or looks. I don't mean that to be vain it's just an observation. People have types other guys I was attracted to there wasn't anything wrong with me. They just weren't physically attracted to me. They liked very skinny short women. That's fine. But I'm 5'8 and a size. Not short and definitely not skinny I'm curvy though and gorgeous but everyone almost has a type.
Pure genius
This is true but how long will this last. I Watch your videos you post and I try to refer back to see what I should avoid saying and what I should I need you literally in my ear to guide me in what I should say keep doing what you are doing the problem I have had is am I saying the wrong thing 🥰
Thank you 😊
Gosh, this make me so much things to think about. I currently start dating a guy and I feel like he's about to vanish because I'm pushing to hard, and expecting him to ask how was my day, do I want to spend more time with him e.t.c.
Now, I'll try to do nothing.
But I really confused, because I thought that guys like openness, and this 'doing nothing thing ' sounds for me a bit manipulative (
Poet syndrome part killed me 😂😂😂
wonderful video
I don't usually listen to men's advice lmao but this man right here is not telling bullshit
Solid advice
Would someone post the summary points under here❤
It's a 11 min video 😒
this is pure laziness
@@WishySissy 😂
@@aleahyoung😂
😂 laziness pro max
You are hilarious! Love it
I understand how it feels when someone is so obsessed with you, and it's only one way. It feels gross. I get why a man, wouldn't want too much of that. However, that is basically what the men who have asked me out feel like; I didn't like any of them because it *also* feel one way. What then?
If I spend time around a man, who then suddenly realizes he 'wants to spend more time with me' and I don't, then I likely *do* have to do something! Which is: going out of my way to now avoid them, because if a guy got to know me enough to want to spend more time with me, that means he's likely spend time around me doing something I like, like a writing group, or something which I will now have to decide whether to continue going to based on whether or not he shows up. Ya know?
Also I think this advice isn't helpful for women who are naturally more avoidant either.
Hahaha you're hilarious. Good content
Ommmmmg I am happy I find your channel ❤
Vary interesting 🤔 and vary true . Thank you
Bro vary?
Ty
Good video 😂❤
Woooow😮
Understood ❤
So one, your Drake analogy immediately disproved that this was a man thing, and showed that it was a human thing: people are generally turned off by anyone begging them to give them their time! Neither men nor women are generally attracted to this. But with your last point, it’s not that it isn’t true, but it sets up a very problematic dynamic for the relationship. If the only way to get a man’s dedication is doing nothing and letting him fantasize about the life he’s going to have and build with you, what happens when he’s actually with you? Do you have to just keep doing nothing forever to hold his interest? This isn’t how you build a long-lasting marriage. Eventually there will come a time where he’s no longer fantasizing and actually has you and you have him. Then what?
That’s a great news cuz I’m lazy
Ew People are messed up 😂
Men men men
Well but then tjey going to treat you like a resource, not a human.
I came for advice, I left in love. Sigh.
Lovely video but WHY DO YOU HAVE MY NAME!😂
Are people still going to Drake concerts…? 😬
You are hilarious!!!!
Love it
What my social anxiety wants in life 😂:-
Jokes on you Tomisin i have no men interested periodt 😔😂😭(I'll still take your advice cause you know what you talking about)
Omg your videos are hilarious 😆
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After dating for 3years his family stopped him from marrying because im not a moslem though i accepted to convert but his family rejected his proposal because im from a different tribe😢😢😢😢😢😢
Did he not fight for you?
@@mufasahm8238 No dear we have never had any fight, his father just stopped him,now we chat as friends nothing much 💔
Forget about muslim sorry but a lot of them hey have a lot of traumas I born in that I know what I am talking about I have no relegion no more my relegion is love ❤sending love stay strong
My other problem is man referring to dating as a “game” while us we calling it a relationship thats why im done with man, yall can go play with kids we are grown this side
Yes, women must do nothing. Not even give him back anything in return for his love. Men should always chase women who don't even want them in the first place and always take that woman for granted who genuinely lusted after him.
Actually you kind of give AI vibes but your advice is 💯
Do nothing? Haha! My bf does do nothing. I haven't seen him for 1,5 week! He sold his 2 cars and travels now per public transport. When he is at work he has a car. But I never see him on the weekends. Those are the days he works for himself or to hang out with family and friends
He got the one he wanted , he just want you to take the hint and leave him alone.
Mine claimed to not have money to see me for 6 months long distance relationship and he stopped calling and ended up talking once a month when he wants emotional support. Turned up he was back together with his baby mama
@@ntombihadebe4822im sorry😭did you know about the baby mama beforehand?? Or was that just new..
@Celestials1aurora it was new , I've healed but the trauma stays behind. Still hurts when I think about it. Best to trust your gut feeling and leave soon before it is too late. He made a fool out of me and I made excuses for him but it's all good God will see him
That sounds like a whole load of bullshit to me. You are wasting your time and energy. Move on..
You can tell this dude had a strong farther
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He's talking about the "hunters" mentality and men gaining respect , hence why the 🎮 gaming producers see this as what men do. I'm here visualizing some overweight middle age dude in his mom's basement playing computer games 😕😆😆. The bar is soooo low.
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It’s in hells hell
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this guy has a girl bestfriend fs 😂
Thisssss
This dude straight lying to women .. and the eating it up....
Keep doing nothing ladies 😂😂😂
This isn't dating advice, so much as it's misandry fuel. Dating advice doesn't tell me "why," because I don't care.
its no different than red pill bs
U repeat and talk to much!
there’s thousands more videos for you to watch on this platform BYE
Not biblical at all…lol 🙄🤥🤭🤫🧐😷😵😴🤭🙄🤥🤫🧐😷🤢
Does « do nothing » also mean that im not allowed to stare at him? Because thats like literally my hobby…