Don't be discouraged by people who came in just to criticize and nitpick on your use of words. Your use of words is fine. And you should live your life happily as you like~
But isnt that just having a functioning and healthy relationship? Why does it need to be called „serving“ someone, as if you are beneath him in status? This is just two people who love each other enough to want to do nice things for each other, which I would hope anyone in a good relationship would do 🤔
This is just what I choose to say about my own relationship :) there’s a lot I didn’t include in this video but had talked about previously such as my husband not having to ever cook or clean, if he wants anything I bring it, (almost) always agreeing to his choices in life, trusting him to make all big decisions in our marriage etc
The concept of “servant” does not have a negative connotation in historical Christianity ( I have not watched enough of her videos to know if that’s where she’s coming from, but it’s certainly made it into the culture some) because our central leader asked his followers to be a servant just like he was-and he demonstrated this by doing work others did not want to do like washing feet (not to mention ultimate sacrifice). It is held up in Christianity as the greatest thing to do, not the least and a mandatory expectation of anyone in a position of leadership-so definitely expected of men seen in leadership roles of the household too. Of course the verse most people get upset about where women are asked to “submit” to their husbands, husbands are then asked to sacrifice their very lives for their wives and are actually asked a more extreme thing. This is often seen as a way to counter the way women were oppressed at the time, and not to make things actually uneven. Of course all of these words and ideas have been abused by selfish people who want others to serve them and who miss the entire point. The negative connotations are completely understandable.
Servant? I think it’s quite disrespectful to simply say that the partner who takes care of the majority of the domestic labour is a type of ‘servant’. He considers me his wife, as that is what I am. He takes care of me emotionally, physically, and financially and allows me the freedom to choose to live the life I desire, I think that is a blessing :)
@@roxy2190 you can serve without being a servant. Servant implies some kind of unpaid domestic slave, whilst I choose to serve my husband by caring for our home and lifestyle, and he serves me by proving me a life where I do not have to worry about outside stress. It is how our relationship works and if you don’t understand that is fine but to say I have a “master” and am not treated with respect is both rude and wrong :)
I am a traditional homemaker and housewife, married with 3 children. It's so lovely to see younger couples living this life too. It's such a wonderful giving, loving lifestyle. I hope you feel better soon.
I could do a longer video on this if you’re genuinely interested but to summarise I would say look for higher income men from more conservative/ traditional groups (religion/ ethnicity/ politics etc)
Don't be discouraged by people who came in just to criticize and nitpick on your use of words. Your use of words is fine.
And you should live your life happily as you like~
But isnt that just having a functioning and healthy relationship? Why does it need to be called „serving“ someone, as if you are beneath him in status?
This is just two people who love each other enough to want to do nice things for each other, which I would hope anyone in a good relationship would do 🤔
This is just what I choose to say about my own relationship :) there’s a lot I didn’t include in this video but had talked about previously such as my husband not having to ever cook or clean, if he wants anything I bring it, (almost) always agreeing to his choices in life, trusting him to make all big decisions in our marriage etc
The concept of “servant” does not have a negative connotation in historical Christianity ( I have not watched enough of her videos to know if that’s where she’s coming from, but it’s certainly made it into the culture some) because our central leader asked his followers to be a servant just like he was-and he demonstrated this by doing work others did not want to do like washing feet (not to mention ultimate sacrifice). It is held up in Christianity as the greatest thing to do, not the least and a mandatory expectation of anyone in a position of leadership-so definitely expected of men seen in leadership roles of the household too. Of course the verse most people get upset about where women are asked to “submit” to their husbands, husbands are then asked to sacrifice their very lives for their wives and are actually asked a more extreme thing. This is often seen as a way to counter the way women were oppressed at the time, and not to make things actually uneven. Of course all of these words and ideas have been abused by selfish people who want others to serve them and who miss the entire point. The negative connotations are completely understandable.
Idk I'd rather have a partner than a master but its your life so I guess its fine if you don't care about being treated with respect.
And what about this video implies to you that my husband doesn’t treat me with respect?
@@milliewang5961 That both you and he consider you as not a person but a "servant"
Servant? I think it’s quite disrespectful to simply say that the partner who takes care of the majority of the domestic labour is a type of ‘servant’. He considers me his wife, as that is what I am. He takes care of me emotionally, physically, and financially and allows me the freedom to choose to live the life I desire, I think that is a blessing :)
You used the word "serve" not me. Its literally in the title.
@@roxy2190 you can serve without being a servant. Servant implies some kind of unpaid domestic slave, whilst I choose to serve my husband by caring for our home and lifestyle, and he serves me by proving me a life where I do not have to worry about outside stress. It is how our relationship works and if you don’t understand that is fine but to say I have a “master” and am not treated with respect is both rude and wrong :)
I am a traditional homemaker and housewife, married with 3 children. It's so lovely to see younger couples living this life too. It's such a wonderful giving, loving lifestyle. I hope you feel better soon.
Whaouu beautiful video you look adorable together and the quality of your video is really nice 💖
Thank you!
and how do i find a man who wants a stay at home wife in this economy?
I could do a longer video on this if you’re genuinely interested but to summarise I would say look for higher income men from more conservative/ traditional groups (religion/ ethnicity/ politics etc)
@@milliewang5961 if you could yes please :( i also think my age is a barrier as im only 19
I was 16 when I met my husband! I’ll compile a list of good ways to find a good husband for sure
@@milliewang5961did you marry him because of his income?
He was 17 and in high school when we met, he had no income 🧍🏻♀️