I know I am late to the party on this one but THANK YOU!!! I am 1 month into recovery and REALLY trying hard and begining to gain BUT I am SO scared to completely let to to fully honour ALL hunger. I know this isnt FULL receovery, its more baby steps in the right direction. Your video is so helpful because I over think EVERYTHING I also do this after Ive eaten lunch asking myself am I full and I don't know. I guess I just need to stop thinking of myself as a healthy person and what I would eat but as someone trying to get better. I know I havent always thought about food but the idea of not thinking of food feels odd x
I just watched this 3 times; once to hear your advice and two more times to admire your gorgeous Stinky! How lucky you are to have such a beautiful cat as a companion ❤️🐱, so precious!
Stinky is a mini lion! Look at his face structure and hair! I agree with your point of if you're thinking you should eat you probably should. It's hard for me to get up and eat for many reasons. But my mom always asks me if she should eat and I cant get her to stop and realize she being the same way I was. She definitely has a problem with food.
Thank you for all your help!! I was wondering, I am currently in recovery and eating a lot more than I used to. I still have a few fear foods though but feel more able to eat them if I have a small amount of alcohol as it helps with my anxiety (I dont mean excessively, eg. just one gin). I want rewiring to be effective though and worried incase the alcohol would effect this? (Sorry if this isn't the right place to ask questions - could someone please tell me where to send them if not?) Thanks again
I gotta know, does he stink? 😂 He’s gorgeous even if he does! Recently got a long haired grey kitty we named Rona. Seemed fitting. Sorry for interjecting. Great video, as always! Thanks, Tab!
Omgoodness I’m actually chortling out loud at Stinky eating your hair... how am I supposed to listen to your message when this is happening!? Haha. Ps. Stinky is so gorgeous!!!
Hallo ihr Lieben, Hallo liebe Tabitha! Zuerst einmal schicke ich hier allen eine Umarmung- jeder hat wahrscheinlich eine Story, die nicht leicht war. Tabitha! danke an dich für all deine Mühe und Kraft, die du für den Support für andere aufwendest! Ich heiße Nicola, studiere Psychologie im 6. Semester und schreibe gerade meine Bachelorarbeit über Anorexie und Bulimie (als ehemalige selbst Betroffene). Ich kenne also alle noch so verrückten Gefühle von Trauer, Scham, Hass, Stolz, Freude und Hoffnung, die in dem ganzen Prozess aufkommen. Mit mehr Forschung in dem Thema will ich Erkenntnisse in diesem Gebiet voran bringen und somit anderen Mädchen helfen. Wenn jemand von euch bereit dazu wäre (selbstverständlich komplett anonym) mit mir über eure Situation zu quatschen, dann würde mir das und vielleicht langfristig anderen Mädchen enorm weiterhelfen. Erreichen könnt ihr mich gern bei Insta unter Nicola_nnika oder unter Heurich.nicola@gmail.com Egal wie- ich schicke euch allen eine Umarmung hier! Glaubt an euch und an die Schönheit eures Herzens! ❤️
Okay but where the lines go grey for me is when you have been in recovery for 1 1/2 years and at a stable weight for a third of that time (as I have), hunger cues have largely reset, but still overeat on occasion. If I am still thinking about food after overeating, am I supposed to continue to eat?
Yes, you should definitely eat more! And I think, if you call it "overeating", you've not fully rewired your brain, could that be true? Because if it is, you should even AIM to eat more in order to change those remaining ed neural pathways
Does the answer change if you also have a history of b/p too? I am weight restored and actually have now overshot. Because of this I always presume that if I want more than my ED nutritionist has suggested, it is wrong and I'm just having these thoughts and cravings because I'm greedy. I find it hard as she doesn't have a sweet tooth, whereas I v much do. Great video. Love Stinky cat by the way-super cute xx
.......Hi guys, I just need someone to talk to or maybe reply to this comment. I want to be honest to myself and recover as soon as possible. I'm struggling now with my eating disorder. I'm always thinking about food all day. When I first wake up in the morning and even before sleep ,thiking food that i will going to eat next and thinking what I ate. It's hard to live your life revolving and only thinking about it. I constantly think about it and I think this is a serious problem😭 I really want to recover and live a normal life again. I want to enjoy my life again :( pls help me guys.
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I do see where you are coming from, but I think this viewpoint provides an over-simplistic explanation of the issue. Of course when you are in energy deficit, your body is very hungry and yes, you do need a lot of food. You also need a good amount of food after weight restoration/energy balance. However, what about those of us with bulimia and problems with bingeing that are unrelated to hunger? I have bulimia and although I have a history of anorexia, I am above my pre ED weight and have been for ages. My urges to eat/binge is frequently driven by intense emotions and a kind of destruction, NOT hunger. I have constant food thoughts but in my case, that absolutely does not mean I should eat because I’d be eating all the time. Also, food thoughts aren’t always as a result of being hungry - yes they probably are for non ED people because most people don’t really need to think about food unless they are hungry, but for people with EDs food thoughts could be about food anxiety, weight anxiety, fear of the food itself etc. Not a constant hunger signal. It’s starting to frustrate me that most recovery content is aimed purely at restriction. Most people with EDs have a more complex combination of behaviours than just restriction.
Can you please do a “what I eat in a day”. There needs to be more “normal” looking ones out there. I’m sick of seeing all those “perfect” what I eat. For those of us who eat more than just to feed a pigeon. Thanks
Sarah Bartlett I guess this is mental hunger!! There’s no need to judge or compare what you’re eating, and besides, ppl posting these “what I eat” are probably eating more and not filming it, binging later on or trapped in an ED... you never know what’s going on so best to focus on you. 💕 And as someone in recovery you probs need more than a “normal” person! If you’re really lost, I’d recommend sticking to a structure of 3 meals 3 snacks (as a minimum), and check out megsy_recovery channel, she’s a real queen. Hope that helps x
I get you! I'm the same way. But if you still have mental hunger, your body hasn't fully recovered all of these inner functions, and it needs food. As does your mind, and your soul too, because you have to completely rewire your brain and teach yourself that it's ALWAYS okay to eat. And it's okay to gain even more weight. You're still enough and worthy
It's not just about weight or being weight restored.. if you haven't rewired you will still want more and more. You cant have ED without being underweight or in energy deficit. It's a mental thing. If I keep thinking diet for a day or next week I will be "good" I will want all the stuff I wont allow myself .. but If I just eat I even often forget to eat which isn't often haha but I have gone from 3 meals 3 snacks to often just 3 meals and it's enough. Do not think about dieting do not act on it and just push these thoughts away and eat and it will get better over time.
It's like asking 'if i'm thinking about drinking water, should I drink water'? Yeah... you should. Whenever you can.
I know I am late to the party on this one but THANK YOU!!! I am 1 month into recovery and REALLY trying hard and begining to gain BUT I am SO scared to completely let to to fully honour ALL hunger. I know this isnt FULL receovery, its more baby steps in the right direction. Your video is so helpful because I over think EVERYTHING I also do this after Ive eaten lunch asking myself am I full and I don't know. I guess I just need to stop thinking of myself as a healthy person and what I would eat but as someone trying to get better. I know I havent always thought about food but the idea of not thinking of food feels odd x
I just watched this 3 times; once to hear your advice and two more times to admire your gorgeous Stinky! How lucky you are to have such a beautiful cat as a companion ❤️🐱, so precious!
thank you so much for answering!! 💕 It’s true, i wouldn’t have asked if I wasn’t afraid of weight gain. Let’s go for all da food!!
Stinky is a mini lion! Look at his face structure and hair! I agree with your point of if you're thinking you should eat you probably should. It's hard for me to get up and eat for many reasons. But my mom always asks me if she should eat and I cant get her to stop and realize she being the same way I was. She definitely has a problem with food.
I love the straight style of your answers.. without many explanation and bla bla bla you give the right path
This is such an inspiring video with a bit of humor from stinky to break the mood lol
Thank you.
Thank you for the helpful video!
Omg Stinky cleaning you is the cutest thing ever!! Thanks for the video. :-)
Thanks for this encouraging video!! Also, Stinky is so fucking cute! 😊🐾😍
I wish I could ask questions! Stinky looks brilliant 😆
Go on the community tab xxx
Thank you for all your help!! I was wondering, I am currently in recovery and eating a lot more than I used to. I still have a few fear foods though but feel more able to eat them if I have a small amount of alcohol as it helps with my anxiety (I dont mean excessively, eg. just one gin). I want rewiring to be effective though and worried incase the alcohol would effect this? (Sorry if this isn't the right place to ask questions - could someone please tell me where to send them if not?) Thanks again
Beautiful cat ❤️
I gotta know, does he stink? 😂 He’s gorgeous even if he does! Recently got a long haired grey kitty we named Rona. Seemed fitting.
Sorry for interjecting. Great video, as always! Thanks, Tab!
1 of my cats used to lick and "comb" my hair lol, it's actually quite sweet x
Amazing!
what about if you think about food a lot due to gastric issues/not knowing what to eat NOT to get more pain?
Omgoodness I’m actually chortling out loud at Stinky eating your hair... how am I supposed to listen to your message when this is happening!? Haha. Ps. Stinky is so gorgeous!!!
Awww, hi Stinky!!! 🐱🐱🐱🐱 How is Dave?
Hallo ihr Lieben, Hallo liebe Tabitha! Zuerst einmal schicke ich hier allen eine Umarmung- jeder hat wahrscheinlich eine Story, die nicht leicht war. Tabitha! danke an dich für all deine Mühe und Kraft, die du für den Support für andere aufwendest!
Ich heiße Nicola, studiere Psychologie im 6. Semester und schreibe gerade meine Bachelorarbeit über Anorexie und Bulimie (als ehemalige selbst Betroffene). Ich kenne also alle noch so verrückten Gefühle von Trauer, Scham, Hass, Stolz, Freude und Hoffnung, die in dem ganzen Prozess aufkommen. Mit mehr Forschung in dem Thema will ich Erkenntnisse in diesem Gebiet voran bringen und somit anderen Mädchen helfen. Wenn jemand von euch bereit dazu wäre (selbstverständlich komplett anonym) mit mir über eure Situation zu quatschen, dann würde mir das und vielleicht langfristig anderen Mädchen enorm weiterhelfen. Erreichen könnt ihr mich gern bei Insta unter Nicola_nnika oder unter Heurich.nicola@gmail.com
Egal wie- ich schicke euch allen eine Umarmung hier! Glaubt an euch und an die Schönheit eures Herzens! ❤️
Do we ask questions here or should I email?
What a darling cat stinky ❤️
Okay but where the lines go grey for me is when you have been in recovery for 1 1/2 years and at a stable weight for a third of that time (as I have), hunger cues have largely reset, but still overeat on occasion. If I am still thinking about food after overeating, am I supposed to continue to eat?
Yes, you should definitely eat more! And I think, if you call it "overeating", you've not fully rewired your brain, could that be true? Because if it is, you should even AIM to eat more in order to change those remaining ed neural pathways
Does the answer change if you also have a history of b/p too?
I am weight restored and actually have now overshot. Because of this I always presume that if I want more than my ED nutritionist has suggested, it is wrong and I'm just having these thoughts and cravings because I'm greedy. I find it hard as she doesn't have a sweet tooth, whereas I v much do. Great video. Love Stinky cat by the way-super cute xx
Good question
I'm wondering this too
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.......Hi guys, I just need someone
to talk to or maybe reply to this comment. I want to be honest
to myself and recover
as soon as possible.
I'm struggling now with my eating disorder. I'm always thinking about food all day.
When I first wake up in the morning and even before sleep
,thiking food that i will going to eat next and thinking what I ate. It's hard to live your life revolving and only thinking about it.
I constantly think about it and I think this is a serious problem😭
I really want to recover and live a normal life again. I want to enjoy my life again :( pls help me guys.
Maria Cruz I’m happy to advise lovely - are you on Instagram 😃
@@samantharichards7420 yaaass can we talk?? Whats your name on IG
Maria Cruz absolutely let me just check as I’m out at the shops lovely xxx
Maria Cruz sams_journey87 my name is Sam Windsor
Maria Cruz
Did you get it? It’s a private account but will accept your request to follow. You will be able to see my own Did you get it? It’s a private account but will accept your request to follow. You will be able to see my own recovery journey and I will do my best to support you through yours 😘
I do see where you are coming from, but I think this viewpoint provides an over-simplistic explanation of the issue. Of course when you are in energy deficit, your body is very hungry and yes, you do need a lot of food. You also need a good amount of food after weight restoration/energy balance. However, what about those of us with bulimia and problems with bingeing that are unrelated to hunger? I have bulimia and although I have a history of anorexia, I am above my pre ED weight and have been for ages. My urges to eat/binge is frequently driven by intense emotions and a kind of destruction, NOT hunger. I have constant food thoughts but in my case, that absolutely does not mean I should eat because I’d be eating all the time. Also, food thoughts aren’t always as a result of being hungry - yes they probably are for non ED people because most people don’t really need to think about food unless they are hungry, but for people with EDs food thoughts could be about food anxiety, weight anxiety, fear of the food itself etc. Not a constant hunger signal.
It’s starting to frustrate me that most recovery content is aimed purely at restriction. Most people with EDs have a more complex combination of behaviours than just restriction.
cuz all ed behaviours form out of restriction. Yes even binge eating
Love stinky!
Can you please do a “what I eat in a day”. There needs to be more “normal” looking ones out there. I’m sick of seeing all those “perfect” what I eat. For those of us who eat more than just to feed a pigeon. Thanks
Sarah Bartlett I guess this is mental hunger!! There’s no need to judge or compare what you’re eating, and besides, ppl posting these “what I eat” are probably eating more and not filming it, binging later on or trapped in an ED... you never know what’s going on so best to focus on you. 💕 And as someone in recovery you probs need more than a “normal” person! If you’re really lost, I’d recommend sticking to a structure of 3 meals 3 snacks (as a minimum), and check out megsy_recovery channel, she’s a real queen. Hope that helps x
Oh no, he is not eating it, he is just grooming you! Isn't that right Stinky?
What if you're gaining a substantial amount of weight but still have mental hunger? This I find is very hard to respond to!
I get you! I'm the same way. But if you still have mental hunger, your body hasn't fully recovered all of these inner functions, and it needs food. As does your mind, and your soul too, because you have to completely rewire your brain and teach yourself that it's ALWAYS okay to eat. And it's okay to gain even more weight. You're still enough and worthy
It's not just about weight or being weight restored.. if you haven't rewired you will still want more and more. You cant have ED without being underweight or in energy deficit. It's a mental thing. If I keep thinking diet for a day or next week I will be "good" I will want all the stuff I wont allow myself .. but If I just eat I even often forget to eat which isn't often haha but I have gone from 3 meals 3 snacks to often just 3 meals and it's enough. Do not think about dieting do not act on it and just push these thoughts away and eat and it will get better over time.
i would b morbid
stinky