Is Abstinence Worth It? | Louder Than Words with Tony Gaskins and Caleb Curl Ep 009

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  • @Leelang931
    @Leelang931 3 місяці тому +56

    I’m in a relationship were we are currently abstaining from sex. We both have productive lives and when we spend time together we do a lot of things together outside the house! Our conversations are stimulating and passionate, I’m understanding him as a man and he understanding me as a woman. We don’t live together because we waiting until marriage to take that big step. We will also be a blended family once married. My partner talks about the future of our lives a lot and it makes me feel secure going forward with him. Ladies and men, please don’t cheat yourself or your partner out of a special relationship, getting to know each other’s minds is soooo imperative. This is the greatest gift you can give yourself and your partner. If a man loves you he will WAIT!! ❤

  • @BlockchainBanks
    @BlockchainBanks 3 місяці тому +86

    Purpose and faith. 28 yo male, found TG a year ago, and now you brother. Men seeking the kingdom.

    • @quincysthillaire
      @quincysthillaire 3 місяці тому +8

      Amen brother. Keep the faith!! God is faithful

  • @Dr.Elaine1
    @Dr.Elaine1 3 місяці тому +38

    “It hurts to sleep with a woman and know I can’t trust her with my emotions, but I gave her my body.” Caleb Curl

  • @Somewhere_in_VA
    @Somewhere_in_VA 3 місяці тому +67

    I like that Caleb mentioned that he wishes he would've saved himself for marriage. Virginity is a beautiful thing. There are several reasons why it's important to hold onto your virginity until marriage. You'll never regret saving/preserving yourself for the right person in a marriage.

  • @tameekaharris6425
    @tameekaharris6425 3 місяці тому +31

    Caleb is wise beyond his years for sure. 🙏🏾

  • @anthoninalouis6904
    @anthoninalouis6904 3 місяці тому +43

    This podcast is so wholesome. Witnessing the respect Caleb shows in his speech toward Tony, and seeing how proud and in awe Tony is of Caleb, is exactly what we need more of in this generation. I’m deeply inspired by this podcast and learn so much from it. Much love, and I’m incredibly grateful that this exists.

    • @llehsir
      @llehsir 3 місяці тому +4

      Such a good way of putting it!

  • @mariadaskalakis9317
    @mariadaskalakis9317 3 місяці тому +16

    “Spiritually transmitted diseases” that is wise beyond his years. Amazing conversation to put out there.
    As a widowed mom I can’t thank the two of you enough for this. I listened to this with my almost 16 year old and it hit different when men are saying these things. May God bless your journey on this message. No one is talking about this specifically in the male space. 💫🙌🏽

  • @Annahbri
    @Annahbri 3 місяці тому +30

    Me& my boyfriend are on month 5 of abstaining until marriage , with the right man I definitely feel like it’s possible with y’all being on the same page. Me and my boyfriend got in a very intentional relationship last year and we were having sex after 6 dates together roughly 2 months after being together. He’s always been very intentional with giving me his time, planning date nights being emotionally available everything Tony says a man who really likes you does. I was a lukewarm Christian and he was finding his way. I never felt satisfied with having sex, I always felt a conviction but it got to the point to where it was eating me up! Like God was telling me in so many ways to get right. & then I’d watch Tony & here he go yelling at me through the screen “if ya in fornication ya nasty!” 😭😂 I heard enough of that! I also had to be real with myself and say out loud that me choosing to have sess was me literally putting a MAN before God. WhenI said that aloud it really clicked for me and the decision to abstain was a no brainer. I had to sit down and have the most difficult conversation with my boyfriend who I truly believe is my husband and tell him that I could no longer have sex with him anymore. Like Tony says your husband will wait it you make it a requirement and he doesn’t push me past my boundaries. I can fully live my life for Christ now and not feel guilty because of fornication. 🙌🏽

  • @devanteaboyd
    @devanteaboyd 2 місяці тому +2

    Waiting will ALWAYS be worth it, because it serves and pleases Christ.
    I'm so proud of Tony and you Caleb!

  • @chrism826
    @chrism826 3 місяці тому +16

    Real man conversation here, no lies AT ALL. 💪🏽

  • @thekimberlynproject
    @thekimberlynproject 3 місяці тому +20

    Yes it absolutely IS ... I'm almost 9 years in and it's the healthiest thing I've every done; mind, body & soul. 🎉🙏🏽

  • @SheriCheri94
    @SheriCheri94 3 місяці тому +17

    For a fellow 30 year old woman who thinks this way it’s refreshing to see another young man think this way as well. Way to keep hope alive thanks Caleb and Tony!

  • @thechassidymayo
    @thechassidymayo 3 місяці тому +6

    Come on Caleb!!!!! With the name meaning and biblical alignment! Well done Tony on disciplining and mentoring him. So much wisdom and healthy fruits! Keep going Caleb!!

  • @kourtney8850
    @kourtney8850 3 місяці тому +7

    This was SO GOOOOOOOD!!!! As a woman, I am so encouraged to hear men speaking like this in this day and age. Pursue, overtake, and recover all! 1 Samuel 30:8

  • @monicawilliams5793
    @monicawilliams5793 3 місяці тому +11

    Always a blessing to hear men have this conversation. There's something so great about this kind of mature talk from men. It's so rare and needed.

  • @cindyhoyte7972
    @cindyhoyte7972 3 місяці тому +10

    Tony is beaming and looks like a proud papa of Caleb🙏🏾🙏🏾
    Great conversation👍🏾👍🏾

  • @misskaykayRSA
    @misskaykayRSA 3 місяці тому +8

    Great conversations. Tony is beaming with pride seeing his mentee so grown and mature. So beautiful to witness. Keep it up fellas❤🎉

  • @theunoffcialwifetm1133
    @theunoffcialwifetm1133 3 місяці тому +10

    The discipline in this conversation is on one thousand percent. Blessings to everyone!!😇🙏🏿

  • @yolandaneloms13
    @yolandaneloms13 3 місяці тому +3

    This was really good you guys! I’m also saving myself for marriage and truly am Done with fornicating…… God is so good to us how could we continue to go our own way….. it’s truly refreshing to hear two men of God speaking this way. God Bless you both😊

  • @julienneriviere6723
    @julienneriviere6723 3 місяці тому +10

    good convo and it arrived just in time, I know 8 people waiting for marriage but the church men we've encountered don't want to wait.. Thank you for an encouraging convo :)

  • @sueann9065
    @sueann9065 3 місяці тому +6

    I like the Adam analogy.

  • @stirupthegift07
    @stirupthegift07 3 місяці тому +4

    Caleb's message at the end regarding purpose.... Preach!

  • @sisteroflovea7215
    @sisteroflovea7215 3 місяці тому +6

    Yes it’s worth it,we’ve waited!!! God want us to wait, if you want to be keep he’ll keep you!!!

  • @hbrdge
    @hbrdge 3 місяці тому +4

    This needa go viral fr💯

  • @sandradavis5662
    @sandradavis5662 3 місяці тому +4

    OMGG Thank you Brothers in Christ for having this important conversation! Thank you Lord for these brothers 🙏🏽

  • @azareajones5687
    @azareajones5687 3 місяці тому +2

    Absolutely worth it, I thank God every day for starting my abstinence journey! The first 3 months were out of my control due to my health, but the remaining year and 3 months have been intentional and transformational. There is beauty in waiting and in my opinion, making love to one's mind is so much more valuable than the act of sex. Quality relationships are built on strong foundations, and I'm committed to honoring God with my body. I have faith that God will command my steps and my blessing will come to pass. Amen.

  • @Next_LevelMe
    @Next_LevelMe 3 місяці тому +8

    Real conversations 🔥

  • @aprilford3067
    @aprilford3067 3 місяці тому +3

    This young man is amazing!

  • @neeshas3191
    @neeshas3191 3 місяці тому +3

    There really aren’t many people to watch, or look forward to hear from that are actually living what they are preaching. But, thank you both for providing quality conversations that help us to dive deeper and really challenge ourselves!

  • @themiaparis
    @themiaparis 3 місяці тому +3

    Caleb keeping it REAL!! We need that truth and accountability!

  • @mshunter6210
    @mshunter6210 3 місяці тому +2

    This was refreshing to hear from two mature men. May you both be blessed to keep receiving GOD’s wisdom and the mental strength to keep sharing🖤

  • @ericajoneswallace7671
    @ericajoneswallace7671 3 місяці тому +4

    Beautiful podcast. I truly enjoy theses episodes from you brothers!! CC you are truly glowing and growing in this space. Keep up the great work;) Thank you all for your wisdom😃

  • @MsChrissyr
    @MsChrissyr 3 місяці тому +5

    This is such a real conversation and such a different level of maturity. To say I'm doing this for God not of a woman.

  • @DivineManifestationofGod
    @DivineManifestationofGod 3 місяці тому +3

    This was really informative!!! You guys are so open, very deep conversations,thank you for sharing….

  • @titisweets
    @titisweets 3 місяці тому +3

    I truly appreciate this podcast topic. You all have helped me on how to articulate my abstinence journey and the benefits. Thank you!!!

  • @EFP.Elviria
    @EFP.Elviria 3 місяці тому +5

    Another important discussion 🩵

  • @kourtney8850
    @kourtney8850 3 місяці тому +2

    When I say Caleb was talking that talk on this episode!!!!! LOVED this conversation ❤️👏🏾❤️

  • @jessiemarierandle7760
    @jessiemarierandle7760 3 місяці тому +1

    Omg! The best message ive heard all day ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @Berlanciamyrtil
    @Berlanciamyrtil 3 місяці тому +3

    Great video 🙏🏿 This gave me faith that abstinence is possible.

  • @Justjess_soincreations
    @Justjess_soincreations 3 місяці тому +2

    Keep it going guys with these real conversations! 💯 This is a great discussion for men and women to receive! 🙏🏽

  • @StreetTea-Za
    @StreetTea-Za 2 місяці тому

    Wow there is hope for the future. Like hearing a young man speak this way. Thank you Jesus

  • @aprilpowell6619
    @aprilpowell6619 3 місяці тому +3

    Great Conversation and Wisdom!

  • @Dr.Elaine1
    @Dr.Elaine1 3 місяці тому +1

    Caleb, the Caleb in you is amazing. 🙏🏾

  • @kendramoten4056
    @kendramoten4056 3 місяці тому +1

    Can’t wait for Part Two! This was refreshing❤

  • @TeraChantelle
    @TeraChantelle 3 місяці тому +1

    POWERFUL!

  • @ThePoshMel
    @ThePoshMel 3 місяці тому +4

    Are there men with this mindset in the 5 Boroughs of New York? 😅😂 All jokes aside, this was a great convo!

  • @ruthdavis8020
    @ruthdavis8020 3 місяці тому +1

    Wow, this episode literally gave me goosebumps - absolute gems!!!

  • @chimezieonuoha1783
    @chimezieonuoha1783 3 місяці тому +1

    This was a great conversation as always

  • @nasowa_ki
    @nasowa_ki 2 місяці тому

    Deep authentic conversations and accountability 👍🏿

  • @petit-four1404
    @petit-four1404 2 місяці тому

    This was such a great dialogue! Thank you🙌🏽

  • @NaturalBeauty96427
    @NaturalBeauty96427 3 місяці тому +2

    Yes!! This is a great channel thank you for making this! I love listening to Tony
    You both make an amazing pair more men and women need to see this 🙌🏼

  • @joycewatt8289
    @joycewatt8289 3 місяці тому +2

    3:23 Yep! Me too especially as a woman I would tell my young single self that, “There’s value in virginity!”

  • @KidzaccountOne
    @KidzaccountOne 2 місяці тому

    I am currently in this space in my life after struggling with celibacy as it relates to honoring Christ and His plan for my life. I’m FINALLY in a place where I am ready to honor my body and my relationship with God at all costs and the person God had for me will align in the same respect. Thank you for this video, it completely confirms where I am!

  • @coachingwithp
    @coachingwithp 2 місяці тому

    ABSOLUTELY LOVING THESE CONVOS 🙌🏾

  • @kimtaylor5277
    @kimtaylor5277 3 місяці тому +7

    AMEN this was AWESOME guys Caleb you are smart guy I praying GOD sends you a beautiful loving GOD fearing woman!

  • @princesskinuthia8788
    @princesskinuthia8788 3 місяці тому +1

    Beautiful beautiful conversation
    Thanks guys🤝🏾🤗

  • @maryihezie1190
    @maryihezie1190 Місяць тому

    I needed to hear this. Thank you!🙏

  • @_Barberbaddie
    @_Barberbaddie 3 місяці тому +1

    K preaching on this one!! 💪🏾

  • @jovieappoggiatura
    @jovieappoggiatura 11 днів тому

    This is so so so good 😊😇🤩👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
    Thank you so much

  • @tarenmingo7297
    @tarenmingo7297 3 місяці тому +1

    These examples were brought up in discipleship class last night. Wow

  • @tanosdfnsodcnsdhe
    @tanosdfnsodcnsdhe 2 місяці тому

    Yo! This is PERFECT. Thank you!!!

  • @KidzaccountOne
    @KidzaccountOne 2 місяці тому

    Excellent commentary!

  • @christysherrell
    @christysherrell 3 місяці тому +1

    This was so good!

  • @kittenmayz611
    @kittenmayz611 3 місяці тому +1

    Yes! It keeps the no good ones away. I’ve been abstaining for over a year & its 1 of the 1st things out of my mouth to weed out the playboys & time wasters

  • @akilahwalcott
    @akilahwalcott 3 місяці тому +1

    Beautiful podcast episode. God bless you guys👏🏾🙏🏾

  • @peptalkswithshae
    @peptalkswithshae 3 місяці тому +2

    This was so good

  • @angelalynn4225
    @angelalynn4225 3 місяці тому +1

    Awesome Word

  • @Joejoyoyoyo
    @Joejoyoyoyo 3 місяці тому +3

    I love his dedication to God 😊❤❤❤❤❤

  • @tameekaharris6425
    @tameekaharris6425 3 місяці тому +2

    This was a very powerful message 💥🙏🏾❤️

  • @MichellePertilla
    @MichellePertilla Місяць тому

    Before listening get 🖊️ and 📜 take notes.
    I'm 62 years young. Abstinence for 24 years.
    My Father in the Heavens wanted me to listen to HIS message through both of you😊.
    I am living the purpose God wants from me.
    Ladies everything else will fall in place.

  • @kericehyatt7674
    @kericehyatt7674 3 місяці тому +1

    Good conversation!

  • @purebeauty504
    @purebeauty504 3 місяці тому +1

    Amazing conversation 🙏🏽 Definitely needed and appreciated 🗣️💯

  • @Goddessctata
    @Goddessctata 3 місяці тому +2

    This was brilliant and worth every second!!! Thank you for giving me the courage to continue abstaining from sex and focus on my purpose, which is to encourage people to grow in their faith. God knows best. Appreciate you gentleman. Always stay true to your faith❤

  • @sallla002
    @sallla002 3 місяці тому +4

    I agree 👌🏾💯

  • @tkdelvin
    @tkdelvin 3 місяці тому +1

    Great conversation ty🌹

  • @queenro3032
    @queenro3032 3 місяці тому +1

    I thank the Lord for this word today! Amen

  • @LeAnn-g2e
    @LeAnn-g2e 3 місяці тому +1

    THIS IS A GOD CONVERSATION!!!!! LOVE YOU GUYS❤

  • @felishapittman2778
    @felishapittman2778 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for this !

  • @DesCoop
    @DesCoop 3 місяці тому +2

    This was good

  • @Angela-s7e
    @Angela-s7e 3 місяці тому +1

    This is really good

  • @Gdenise
    @Gdenise 3 місяці тому +2

    I’m reading a book “Unmuzzled” it’s for Men, but such great insight on escaping sexual sin-especially as a mom to a boy.

  • @I_promise_today_
    @I_promise_today_ 2 місяці тому

    This 🔥🔥🔥… wisdom!

  • @auteciaflo
    @auteciaflo 3 місяці тому +1

    I absolutely love this build!! 🥹🤍🙏🏽

  • @sueann9065
    @sueann9065 3 місяці тому

    Great point on compatibility.

  • @kourtney8850
    @kourtney8850 3 місяці тому +1

    52:44 Amen 🙏🏾

  • @brittneyharrison9297
    @brittneyharrison9297 3 місяці тому +2

    This is so good and I’m only on 6 mins ❤

  • @Thriftingwitdiva
    @Thriftingwitdiva 3 місяці тому +1

    Wow so good

  • @nivanisadhai2476
    @nivanisadhai2476 2 місяці тому

    Yes futility is a word

  • @TreasureTeresa
    @TreasureTeresa 3 місяці тому +1

    Great podcast! Thank you …sharing with my son ❤
    Yes, there are 50 and up grown boys still wanting sex like 20 year olds…
    So sad🙏🏽

  • @unityforchrist3821
    @unityforchrist3821 3 місяці тому +2

    Amen!!!

  • @CandiceRansom-wv8bk
    @CandiceRansom-wv8bk 3 місяці тому +6

    💖 Yes it’s worth it. Is it easy no. Are you tempted yes. When you think about it the peace you have with God and having the security and peace of knowing when you go to the doctor ( yearly exams/paps) and know that you will receive a clean bill of health. It’s DEFINITELY worth it. Satan doesn’t show or tell you long term consequences of premarital sex he only wants you to focus on the instant temporary gratification you’ll receive. Especially not the eternal result of hell if one dies in their sin by refusing to sincerely repent!

  • @crystalstrong268
    @crystalstrong268 3 місяці тому +1

    New subscribers I want to hear more

  • @thebarbieinvestor5428
    @thebarbieinvestor5428 3 місяці тому +10

    Before the talk even starts… Yes!
    Just too many germs for starters. 🤕And my salvation actually matters to me. Bottom line.

  • @heather7119
    @heather7119 3 місяці тому +2

    Let me tell you as someone abstinent for yearzzzzz it is absolutely worth it cause baybeee I would not trade the peace, discernment, clarity, contentment, wisdom and confidence God via Jesus is revealing to me for nothing! God absolutely has my attention and He is preparing me for what His will may be, I don’t even care about being married anymore. I’m working on my health , body, finances, maintaining family friends and business relationships, traveling, sharing my testimony and how Good Jesus is. If it’s God will, my husband will be well satisfied . Sanctification keeping me busy ❤

  • @joarmor2838
    @joarmor2838 3 місяці тому +2

    Such a great episode, Keep it up! Tony and Caleb are a great example of discipleship. Did you all watch the Forge movie? If you haven’t go see it, reminds me of what you all are doing.

  • @drgibson4308
    @drgibson4308 Місяць тому

    When you feed into that, as I call it, well maybe instead of standing on what you know you need to; it never turns out right, and you still end up back to the position where God wanted you in the first place

  • @angelalynn4225
    @angelalynn4225 3 місяці тому +2

    I believe it would be worth waiting. I see the reasons the Bible is true

  • @j-tenn226
    @j-tenn226 3 місяці тому +1

    I’m a virgin woman at 33. I struggle because when it has come up the past people ask why, as if they desire an explanation. How do I answer?

    • @TheLevelUpDatingCoach
      @TheLevelUpDatingCoach 3 місяці тому +5

      Why even tell guys? If he is not proposing to you it’s not his business Queen. Don’t allow yourself to feel judged by fornicating grown boys. 🩷

  • @peptalkswithshae
    @peptalkswithshae 3 місяці тому +4

    The Forge

    • @joarmor2838
      @joarmor2838 3 місяці тому +2

      Yes they remind me of the movie and showing discipleship in action.

    • @peptalkswithshae
      @peptalkswithshae 3 місяці тому

      @@joarmor2838 yes the moving was so powerful. 10/10 ✨

  • @redeemed1352
    @redeemed1352 3 місяці тому +3

    People don’t realize how serious sex is and what Tony said is so powerful when he described having sex before marriage how he kept wanting it compared to how that has changed since he is married. God’s word says lust is never satisfied and I heard someone describe pleasuring yourself is an unnatural spirit and that is serious.