Single Mom by Choice: An IVF Journey

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  • Опубліковано 21 гру 2024

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  • @camiller958
    @camiller958 4 роки тому +928

    Planning to become a single mom by choice if my current relationship doesn’t work out. I’m just tired of being used by men and I’d rather go through this alone than to keep trying to date. But I’m gonna save up and get a degree first

    • @eviecalder2871
      @eviecalder2871 4 роки тому +49

      Camille R literally same🙌🏻

    • @pastelmask
      @pastelmask 4 роки тому +50

      You got this, sister! I totally understand where you're coming from, and I hope that you and your future babies do really well! ❤

    • @LaziSmokes17
      @LaziSmokes17 4 роки тому +6

      And that goes no matter how much either parent is making

    • @anonimotion
      @anonimotion 4 роки тому +80

      Same girl. I’m tired.. I always wanted a family, a child even though I’m young, but it seems that men don’t want that. I started to feel like men have no role anyway. From what I see, women do all the work. Women give birth, women have to clean, cook, take care of the baby, etc. But what's the man's role? Lol. Yeah.. he can provide money for you, but it’s not good to depend on someone else and women can have money too..
      (I know that there are good men, but they are so rare and our time passes, our time doesn’t wait for them to appear or for them to mature)..
      I’m planning on doing this too, I personally think there are much more benefits than disadvantages

    • @redpooh5
      @redpooh5 4 роки тому +13

      Facts that’s where I’m at to but at the same time don’t want to wait and wait for a degree and my eggs get old smh it’s just frustrating 😫

  • @LaoSoftware
    @LaoSoftware 5 років тому +806

    I'm 45 and I'm a single mom by choice. I love it. Don't need to worry about custody battles or nothing at all.

    • @strawberriesblueberries2258
      @strawberriesblueberries2258 5 років тому +24

      LaoSoftware amen to that.

    • @taymarwilliams263
      @taymarwilliams263 5 років тому +23

      LaoSoftware I’m thinking of this but I’m nervous

    • @seblevian2293
      @seblevian2293 4 роки тому +34

      Taymar Williams Please keep in mind how much time and effort you need to invest for a human being...especially if you want to be a single mom by choice. I don‘t think you should be doing this, because it‘s going to be hard for the kid to be growing up without a dad. Ur not going to be able to be there all the time for your child and I think a child definitely needs a dad... Wouldn‘t want the child to be growing up without a dad, because that would certainly suck.

    • @vesainthesewer
      @vesainthesewer 4 роки тому +29

      Please, just make sure the donor isn't anonymous. It hurts so much, I long to know who he is, even though I'll never know who is the man that is behind my birth.

    • @zainabkainaat1117
      @zainabkainaat1117 4 роки тому +2

      Lucky u❤️🧸

  • @skyrobin4008
    @skyrobin4008 5 років тому +720

    I'm planning for this. Im 29 now....hoping after 3-5 years of building my savings and moving into a better career I'll be fully prepared financially take this journey.

    • @strawberriesblueberries2258
      @strawberriesblueberries2258 5 років тому +30

      Sky Robin me too. As soon as I make good money; I’m thinking of do that too.

    • @katstella8930
      @katstella8930 5 років тому +45

      Sky Robin me too. I’m 29 also and have been battling infertility for 6 years. I really pray that I get to be a mum to a beautiful and healthy little girl 💗 Wishing you all all the very best on your journey!

    • @JessiXMessi
      @JessiXMessi 5 років тому +20

      Praying for y'all and sending you ladies much love!🙏🙌💜 My son is almost 2 I had years of loss and was blessed with a little one. Planning baby number 2 rn working on saving more and to have baby 2 by 29 years old.

    • @skyeantonia3118
      @skyeantonia3118 5 років тому +2

      Do you have to pay for a sperm donor? X

    • @teeyateeyah233
      @teeyateeyah233 5 років тому +6

      @@skyeantonia3118 yes you have to pay for the sperm.

  • @carolesydney
    @carolesydney 5 років тому +498

    I love this story. I'm also a single mother by choice, I'm 41 and have a 6 week old baby after 7 rounds of fertility treatment over 5 years. Its a dream come true to have this child and cudnt be happier. I think its great that we can now do this and not miss out just because we didn't meet the right person x

    • @ijasahammed149
      @ijasahammed149 5 років тому +1

      Am seriously interested am sure i will marry you

    • @strawberriesblueberries2258
      @strawberriesblueberries2258 5 років тому +10

      Congratulations

    • @yahayakani3503
      @yahayakani3503 5 років тому +1

      Carol o brien I would like to chat with you about single mommies, please.

    • @yahayakani3503
      @yahayakani3503 5 років тому

      Carol o brien text me via+2349025648454, if granted.

    • @camiller958
      @camiller958 4 роки тому +2

      T J it’s nice to hear your perspective because not a lot of men are supportive of it

  • @kdlane4046
    @kdlane4046 3 роки тому +105

    I'm not crying I'm chopping onions. I'm 41 and this will be my journey soon.

  • @yazminduvall133
    @yazminduvall133 4 роки тому +198

    Am 46 and am doing it! I found out today that my fiance 67 year old is not on board. Am not afraid if everything I feel stronger 💪 wish me luck 🙏

    • @beccause9851
      @beccause9851 3 роки тому +11

      Best of luck for you and your baby ❣️❣️

    • @sandybrown4470
      @sandybrown4470 3 роки тому +7

      Happy for you already!!!

    • @melenamayson8275
      @melenamayson8275 3 роки тому +7

      Good luck dear! I hope your reserve tank still has a healthy vital eggs!😊

    • @luluamethyst1573
      @luluamethyst1573 3 роки тому +3

      Wish you all the luck ♥️

    • @CandyCandy-y1q
      @CandyCandy-y1q 3 роки тому +3

      Good luck!!.. i hope everything are going well for u and ur baby!! 🥰❤️

  • @tempkinvient
    @tempkinvient 3 роки тому +358

    This seems so much more viable than trying to find a relationship first. Also not ever having to have a custody battle!

    • @sandybrown4470
      @sandybrown4470 3 роки тому +26

      My baby got stolen by his dumb dad. Now I have pay and wait to see my own child. I say go for it! Because that's what I will do next one day lord willing. Done trying to be a perfect wife or girlfriend for bad outcomes to keep occurring ending up broke and homeless. Enough is enough can not do it anymore or im at risk of ending up on snapped.

    • @jocey20111
      @jocey20111 3 роки тому +7

      Yes. Me and my wife are now waiting on our sample. Custody sucks. I have been going through a custody battle for 3 years with my children's father and this way me and my wife can have a baby or two and keep the court system and department of social services out of our lives.

    • @ddo8521
      @ddo8521 Рік тому +2

      Thats societies fault, and parenting fault. Teaching your kids that marriage is a life time commitment. But people dont want to feel that these days. People want to be free, and do whatever feels good.. But that isnt how life works. Nothing worse for a kid to grow up with out a father figure. A kid needs to see both role models, a man, and a woman, and how they work together, and their roles in life. but in todays world, its so messed up , no wonder kids are so messed up.

    • @9doggie12
      @9doggie12 Рік тому +2

      Women get default custody

    • @MaryBlair-cu7ry
      @MaryBlair-cu7ry Місяць тому

      Not every body has a custody battle. Many CO PARENT just fine.

  • @strawberriesblueberries2258
    @strawberriesblueberries2258 5 років тому +270

    I’m so happy to see positive comments here. She makes a good mommy.

  • @misakit.4110
    @misakit.4110 4 роки тому +97

    I'm so proud of every one commenting

    • @melenamayson8275
      @melenamayson8275 3 роки тому +11

      I love read our comments here! We all women should support, not hate each other! Why women would act so catty toward each other! Life is too short, it's better help and power each other instead of putting people down!

    • @michaelmichael8314
      @michaelmichael8314 3 роки тому

      @@melenamayson8275 women do act catty to one another, and it's an evolutionary trait for women to distrust other women. Just a fact of life

    • @icyunvme2400
      @icyunvme2400 3 роки тому +6

      @@michaelmichael8314 Says a man🤡
      Also I trust most women and very few men

  • @iammenaaa
    @iammenaaa 4 роки тому +275

    Thinking about doing this 😔 I’m 27 and still single. I really want to be a mom

    • @louisemitchell3418
      @louisemitchell3418 4 роки тому +22

      27 isn't old. You have plenty of time to find someone.

    • @nay3267
      @nay3267 4 роки тому +21

      I'm considering doing this too... I'm 29

    • @redpooh5
      @redpooh5 4 роки тому +16

      Same here but I’m in my 30’s and trying to do marriage first but I’m losing time at this point!😔

    • @TeddyBear-lc5tn
      @TeddyBear-lc5tn 4 роки тому +6

      Do it

    • @NumberNeverLie
      @NumberNeverLie 4 роки тому +44

      Same, I just turned 27 and men aren't getting any more appealing.

  • @boston07able
    @boston07able 4 роки тому +131

    This just killed me. I’m 43, single and if I cannot have my own child then I rather adopt then going through pregnancy at all. I’m happy to see her she made her dream come true.

    • @oneida9217
      @oneida9217 4 роки тому +13

      Going through pregnancy it’s a beautiful feeling of love of joy happiness of being a mom even if is through ivf or a donated ovum,it’s wonderful,I’m so happy for her ,Godbless you

    • @influencerupdateYT
      @influencerupdateYT 3 роки тому +4

      Surrogacy might be an option. Someone else carries your biological child if pregnancy is too risky for your health.

    • @heatherhousesatlanta888
      @heatherhousesatlanta888 2 роки тому +10

      Adoption can be a lot more expensive and regulated for a single person

    • @racheljackson5083
      @racheljackson5083 Рік тому +1

      It is her child. What a rude thing to say

    • @bevs9995
      @bevs9995 Рік тому +1

      embryo adoption is way cheaper than regular adoption; but you will have to go through pregnancy

  • @marlenebtagelman2451
    @marlenebtagelman2451 4 роки тому +67

    I am 74 and chose a man that I married to help me have children. The marriage didn't last. I wish I could have had more options.

  • @ifonlyunu994
    @ifonlyunu994 5 років тому +385

    this is so great. ladies can now avoid the trauma of dating.

    • @lebonheur6614
      @lebonheur6614 5 років тому +27

      Me too the trauma of dating

    • @SpriteoftheDnieper
      @SpriteoftheDnieper 4 роки тому +15

      lol, is dating supposed to be less traumatic and otherwise easier as a single mother? The vast majority of SMCs (about 90%, albeit much less vocal) aren't really what I'd call single mothers "by choice". Rather, they faced a mixture of fertility-limiting conditions, exacerbated by age, and frequently the recent end of a serious relationship or no relationship at all--and an overwhelming desire to be a mother. They decided they'd rather be a single mother, than risk never being a mother at all. You can't control when you meet your spouse, or whether you'll meet them before your fertility runs out, but you *can* control when you become a mother to some extent. If you're not lucky enough to be in a happy, healthy, respectful marriage with someone's who thinks he's "ready" to have kids early on, then you can get at least part of the dream by becoming a mother (SMC) and hoping you'll find a spouse later on. I hope dating will become less traumatic in the future for everyone, and that my future daughters won't be left to choose between "single mother by choice" and "no motherhood at all"--not to mention the beauty of not only skipping dating trauma, but gaining a supportive, loving partner to walk through life with from an earlier age.

    • @ifonlyunu994
      @ifonlyunu994 4 роки тому +18

      @@SpriteoftheDnieper well what would you call them? Last call single moms lol? there is no perfect answer some say no kids, young mom, old mom, its still your choice:) BTW being a single mom at 18 was hard for my friend.

    • @Dolly351
      @Dolly351 4 роки тому +1

      Dawn Hodges yup

    • @shamimsardar6653
      @shamimsardar6653 4 роки тому

      Hello my friend

  • @naziaahmed1190
    @naziaahmed1190 5 років тому +189

    I love your Mom!!! I'm about to be a single mom but not by choice. Your story gives me a fresh new perspective and honestly is a breath of fresh air in this cruel cruel world. Love to you and your bundle of joy!

    • @strawberriesblueberries2258
      @strawberriesblueberries2258 5 років тому +1

      Nazia Ahmed her mom is the best

    • @brendandonaldiarmaid3110
      @brendandonaldiarmaid3110 4 роки тому +10

      Nazia Ahmed reading your comment is so torching, i know how it feels to lose your half, But i wont you to know despite the pain, life goes on. Regardless of the amount of pain you may feel, you should move past the pain and heartbreak and continue with your life. Nothing lasts forever, and although you might be experiencing immense pain, you have to move on. Friendships wither with time, activities that you used to love become boring, people move on, and things get old. Yes, moving on is hard, but once you get past the pain, you’ll realize that you had the strength to move forward, thank you

    • @someone3187
      @someone3187 Рік тому

      Consider it a blessing. I'd be happy to get pregnant.

    • @wanishabirahmad9268
      @wanishabirahmad9268 4 місяці тому

      ❤where from u nazia

  • @Vicky-by2hq
    @Vicky-by2hq 4 роки тому +50

    Wonderful to see!
    I’m a SMBC to a wonderful 3yo and I’m 8weeks pregnant with baby #2!
    It’s an amazing journey. Motherhood is not a dream one has to give up for lack of a partner.

  • @savenature2319
    @savenature2319 2 роки тому +13

    I just watched a Filipino guy who spent almost $200,000 in Russia just so he can have a child and he's also single. He's not rich or anything but he really saved up his hard earned money because he wants to become a parent so bad. I want to say that I respect people who have the guts to do something like this. It's better to have a child on your own than to get married or force yourself to have a relationship with someone just because you want to have a child. I also have so much respect for the doctors and nurses and all of the medical staff who helps people with their IVF journey.

    • @veekay6142
      @veekay6142 2 роки тому +1

      maybe who are talkgin about Joel cruz, the one who has 8 children.

  • @BrunaFernandes-w1e
    @BrunaFernandes-w1e 5 місяців тому +6

    Im 29 almost 30. I definitely do not want to marry. I find so hard today relationships, I honestly this doing alone it’s the best option if you are independent financially and emotionally. It’s so nice that we have this option. I think about this a lot. I need to still work on some of my problems and focus on work for a longer time. Hopefully by 35 I’m ready

    • @ME-ru5wo
      @ME-ru5wo Місяць тому

      Hello, I think I am exhausted with dating as well. I'm definitely looking into this as well.

  • @luisafernandasepulvedadomi2377
    @luisafernandasepulvedadomi2377 5 років тому +60

    Wow ❤️ my pregnancy was unplanned but I love my baby boy I’m 37 weeks, life is miracle

    • @pastelmask
      @pastelmask 4 роки тому +1

      How's the baby doing? I hope both of you are doing well and in good health! ❤

  • @shwetasv6520
    @shwetasv6520 3 роки тому +37

    Her mom is so supportive about everything , my best wishes for future .

  • @TheRainbowStork
    @TheRainbowStork Рік тому +20

    I'm a single mother by choice. I had low egg reserves and after 4 failed IUI's (the last 2 that resulted in early miscarriages) I opted to try something that I'd never heard of -- that my fertility clinic offered. It was much cheaper than IVF (which was great since I was living in LA and it was during the pandemic). I gave birth to my twins 3 days after my 41st birthday! They just turned 2 last month.

    • @TheKnoxvicious
      @TheKnoxvicious 11 місяців тому

      Don’t they deserve a father? That just doesn’t seem right. Fathers are there because they have a purpose and are needed. I need my father and mother. This just feels…not good

  • @normandyangel
    @normandyangel 4 роки тому +43

    Love this story! I love that we live in a time where women have options! Seeing as she was an older mom is also truly inspiring!

  • @sheilacastillo3988
    @sheilacastillo3988 4 роки тому +68

    She's an inspirational, strong, and a positive woman I admire her so much. I'm not saying all guys are bad but now these days are challenging to find a good guy that is loyal and determine. I'm so happy that finally she achieved her dreams came into reality hip hip hooray for her!!! Wishing her daughter and her a healthy life, success , peace , and success .

  • @carmendee6481
    @carmendee6481 5 років тому +75

    I can’t stop crying from joy.

  • @ashleyberry6242
    @ashleyberry6242 5 років тому +139

    This is truly inspiring! I'm 22 years old and I can relate so much to this. I've always wanted to become a mother for the longest time. I went under a ovarian cyst surgery last year, and honestly I am praying to god I atleast have enough eggs to produce a child someday. I am planning to be a single mother by choice, I have always considered that, so this has truly brough inspiration to me. I felt so connected with this story and can't wait to start my journey someday! Hopefully very soon!

    • @guineapiggirl400
      @guineapiggirl400 5 років тому +25

      I'm 21 and i want the same thing! I want to be a single mom by choice by 26. Good luck on your journey!

    • @pastalover16
      @pastalover16 5 років тому +18

      natalie omg I’m also 21!! This is so crazy that there are people out there just like me! My goal is to be a mom by 26! 😊💕 Good luck and many blessings to you both!

    • @cupcakesthompson6118
      @cupcakesthompson6118 5 років тому +3

      Evening, hope u are well, oh my ur story is amazing and I haven't got to the end yet, plus may I say u the story seems so like mine I'm 43, doing double donor and my mum is my best friend, I hope I can be a lucky as you. Best wishes for the future.

    • @nerdlover4444
      @nerdlover4444 5 років тому +11

      I'm 22 and am planning to be a single mom by choice as well! I hope to have my first child by 26. I've also always known that I wanted to be a mother and can't wait to start my journey in a few years :)

    • @strawberriesblueberries2258
      @strawberriesblueberries2258 5 років тому +4

      I’m 37 and thinking of becoming a single mother. I wish you all the good luck on your journey

  • @empowerempathsnow9192
    @empowerempathsnow9192 2 роки тому +16

    This is such an inspiring story. I was so touched and moved to tears. I just turned 43 and will be doing the same thing this year as a future single Mom by choice. It felt so divinely timed and synchronistic that I watched this video today. Thank you for sharing your journey. We are happy for you and it really helps us believe that our motherhood dreams can come true too. ❤❤❤🙏🏾

    • @TheRainbowStork
      @TheRainbowStork Рік тому

      It always helps to see other people doing what you're considering. I didn't know anyone when I started my journey to becoming a single mother by choice but I met one person along the way. I gave birth to my twins at 41 -- but I didn't do IVF. I did something a bit more unconventional and more cost effective for me. My twins just turned 2 last month!

  • @rabbitaniyo
    @rabbitaniyo 4 роки тому +26

    To all the women who wants to be a good mom, you're all amazing and beautiful. To the mother's out there, thank you for taking care of us and loving us and being the most amazing and beautiful mommy that you are. We are all lucky to have you in our lives. 💗

  • @sNiCkErLiCkErIsH
    @sNiCkErLiCkErIsH 5 років тому +118

    I feel like I was just watching my story! I am going through this myself now. My 7 week ultrasound in this coming Monday and I can hardly wait. My family is so supportive as well and my mother and I have this same bond.

    • @lollobackis
      @lollobackis 4 роки тому +3

      How did it go?❤️

    • @Philosopher_Queen
      @Philosopher_Queen 4 роки тому +1

      How is the baby doing now?

    • @yazminduvall133
      @yazminduvall133 4 роки тому +3

      I am going through this as well am so scared because my fiance decided not to be on board. I know I can do it because I desire this baby with all my heart ❤ good luck to you and keep us posted.

    • @desiresoul5359
      @desiresoul5359 3 роки тому +5

      Same! Mine is 2years and such a happy soul doing so well at nursery

  • @salvatore3915
    @salvatore3915 4 роки тому +12

    all people on here are saying why not adopt. Let her do what she want.

  • @AllAmericanBabe
    @AllAmericanBabe 2 роки тому +8

    Single and pregnant by choice! Was married with my first so it’s different in many ways but I’m happier in general at this point in my life and am so thankful to be able to carry children. God makes no mistakes! I know this baby is something special ❣️

  • @EP-qi8ed
    @EP-qi8ed 3 роки тому +12

    Our paths are nearly identical. I'm currently 43 and pregnant with a double-donation baby as a single mom by choice. Unlike the woman featured, I spent 2.5 years doing 6 IVF cycles with my own eggs and 6+ IUI (inseminations in clinic) before finally moving onto donor eggs. Note that egg donation IVF is extremely expensive in the US. For those seeking to pay under $10K USD for 2 egg donation cycles with fresh donor eggs, I highly recommend considering IVF clinics abroad (Europe and Caribbean).

    • @FRANCESCA01234
      @FRANCESCA01234 3 роки тому +2

      Congratulations, sweetheart. 🥳

    • @anacarolinapinholodi
      @anacarolinapinholodi 9 місяців тому

      Thank you for speaking of values. I was searching this information, and having Hard time tô find it, until I found your comment. Thank you!

  • @Sunflowers9191
    @Sunflowers9191 3 роки тому +43

    I am turning 30 this year and I’m considering this as wel.. not yet but if I am still single around 32 I would definitely go for it! I think it’s wonderful and the child will be so loved and wanted

    • @S.R92
      @S.R92 2 роки тому +3

      OMG same!! Hopefully we find the one before we are 32. But If not, we are strong enough to do this on our own. Like you said our babies will be so loved and wanted.
      Im so excited. I wish you luck!

    • @MsChitterchat
      @MsChitterchat Рік тому

      Freeze your eggs now

    • @Wina-pv8kr
      @Wina-pv8kr 9 місяців тому

      I'm turning 31 years Ina few days. I have one year left so I need get my finances right. If I don't have any man by 32 I'm starting this process. Better be alone than unhappy.

  • @devo7390
    @devo7390 3 роки тому +12

    28yo and I have female infertility. We're doing an IUI right now after I responded very well to the meds, 2 days ago they did the insemination. I'm hoping for a positive in 2 weeks and for a little Eagles baby of my own. You made me cry from happiness for you.

    • @melenamayson8275
      @melenamayson8275 3 роки тому

      Hi. How are you?
      What is IUI? Did it worked for you?

  • @evancarneal7057
    @evancarneal7057 5 років тому +73

    I am 23 and already planing my journey which I'll start when I'm 27. I just got a way better paying job and 2020 is gonna be a good year for me I just know it. I'm so excited to start saving for this.

    • @firdausali8470
      @firdausali8470 4 роки тому +10

      Evan Carneal honestly I’m 21 looking at your comment currently. I am also interested in this please update us on how it goes for you if you feel comfortable with that. Would love to get a young person’s input (young as in similar to my current age).

    • @crissyanngreen9693
      @crissyanngreen9693 4 роки тому +17

      Corona virus just ruined this for you.

    • @graceocampo9632
      @graceocampo9632 4 роки тому +1

      You guys know how much will it cost?

    • @jaidev7184
      @jaidev7184 4 роки тому +1

      @@firdausali8470 I'm 21 too,thinking the same

    • @mrspokitstheriot477
      @mrspokitstheriot477 4 роки тому +7

      I too am curious if you still feel good about 2020

  • @blahblah7928
    @blahblah7928 3 роки тому +9

    I'm 36, single and am trying IUI. I havent had success with relations and have decided to not let this door close. I just pray I can find a partner latter in life who will accept my child as his own because fathers are important.

  • @kellsliving3220
    @kellsliving3220 4 роки тому +128

    man i cant wait to have my own child i refuse to wait on a man to get me pregnant i no im pretty in beautiful

    • @osmosisjones4912
      @osmosisjones4912 4 роки тому +1

      Incubation Chambers already exists for premature or maybe unwanted fetuses.
      Maybe some guys can be single dads by choice

    • @redpooh5
      @redpooh5 4 роки тому +3

      Exactly

    • @TeddyBear-lc5tn
      @TeddyBear-lc5tn 4 роки тому +3

      Same

    • @patriciav.1891
      @patriciav.1891 4 роки тому +1

      Do it. I waited all my life and now i regret.

  • @elissaboles6247
    @elissaboles6247 3 роки тому +13

    I wish everyone would stop driving yourself crazy in your 20s. You are still so young. I worried all my life about this because I worked in IVF in my 20s. I found my partner in my mid 30s and got pregnant at 39 and 40. I have a perfect son with no IVF needed. Stop spending so much time worrying and enjoy your life’s. If you want to be a young mom that’s one thing, but single mom life is rough and exhausting. Babies are hard and I’m still waking up in the middle of the night with my son at 15 months. Don’t think this is easy and perfect. IVF is hard. The injections are hard. The emotional impact is hard. Think about these things before you decide. This is a lifelong commitment.

  • @sidsualsweets.1211
    @sidsualsweets.1211 4 роки тому +26

    For people talking about the child being with out a Father. God is the child’s father and will protect the child, God is the one who will be there along with the Mother.🥰❤️ can’t wait to have mine. At 29-30

  • @kikitelevi2700
    @kikitelevi2700 4 роки тому +14

    I love her personality. She’s spunky, and awesome, and I’m sure she’s a great mom. This video had me in tears. I hope I can bring half of this love and energy to the table on my pregnancy journey. Currently ttc!

  • @lilitgambino7515
    @lilitgambino7515 2 роки тому +11

    I’m 34 years old and for the longest time I have been wanting a baby. Unfortunately, I have not found the right man. At my age I know that my fertility is declining and am strongly considering getting an insemination because currently I want to have a baby more than I want a relationship. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t want to be alone forever, I would love to one day find my soulmate but I just can’t keep waiting while my biological clock is ticking. I never thought that I would be considering something like this because I had a wonderful dad and I always envisioned having kids who would also be close to their dad like I was. I love seeing stories like this because it lets me know that I’m not alone.

  • @GinaGina1029
    @GinaGina1029 2 роки тому +13

    I'm a single Mom and I guess it's by choice because I didn't have an abortion like he wanted me to. This is beautiful and let's me know that I can definitely do it!!

    • @BrittanyOglesby23
      @BrittanyOglesby23 Рік тому

      You're a good mother. You made the perfect decision.❤️✝️

  • @kriskris4214
    @kriskris4214 11 місяців тому +6

    You are not a single mum. You are a solo mum ❤

    • @gailainsley6939
      @gailainsley6939 2 місяці тому +2

      Actually. This term sounds better. I knew the term ‘Single mom’ (for this sort of thing) rubbed me the wrong way and I didn’t know why. ‘Solo mom’ for women that go through this procedure sounds much better.🙌🏾

  • @amandawood9440
    @amandawood9440 2 роки тому +13

    This was amazing and very emotional (and a bit painful to see). I am so happy to see this wonderful woman become a beautiful mother.
    I am almost 43 (crap AMH) an only child of an only child , (I also have pets ❤️). I am in the early stages of IVF (maybe egg donor ?). I do not have family support at all, no financial stability to comfortably do this, I don’t have a supportive dr (2 15 min phone calls 8 weeks apart) or a helpful clinic or anyone to explain the process or my choices or my best option to me and I am beyond terrified - but the alternative intolerable to me. So here I go 🙏🤞

    • @MsChitterchat
      @MsChitterchat Рік тому +1

      You have strong will. You’ve got this!

    • @TheRainbowStork
      @TheRainbowStork Рік тому

      It always helps to have a community of people that support you but sometimes that community isn't related to you at all. There are groups online (facebook) that give support to single mothers by choice and would be single mothers by choice. I am a single mother by choice. I didn't do IVF -- it was too expensive for me and my egg reserves (and egg quality) were low but what I did was less than half the cost. I gave birth to my twins 3 days after my 41st birthday. Just just turned 2 last month! Best decision of my life!

  • @moi_kanal
    @moi_kanal 2 роки тому +6

    I always say that a woman who wants to be a mother will find a way to be one, you can do it'' alone '' you can adopt you will find a way if that is what you really want

  • @MadyLeeMoore
    @MadyLeeMoore 4 роки тому +34

    Her excitement is so cute. I'm happy for her.

  • @Bamboo-hp2xp
    @Bamboo-hp2xp 9 місяців тому +1

    OMG! I have tears seeing the first image of the baby implanted in you ❤❤❤ So so so happy for you 🥲🥲🥲 You are so lucky and the baby is lucky to have you ❤❤

  • @jen23719
    @jen23719 Рік тому +2

    Cried through this whole video. I'm starting IVF to be a SMBC this week. SO many emotions.

  • @REYANNWALTON
    @REYANNWALTON 3 роки тому +9

    Great story. Happy for mom, baby and grandma. I had twin boys thru IVF, now I just became a grandma. It is so wonderful, little babies.

  • @buddhapiyao1315
    @buddhapiyao1315 3 роки тому +2

    i was completely bawling out from the minute you held that picture of the embryo in your hands. I went thru 3 unsuccessful cycles of IVF and had such pictures with me too. I kept it on the pillow next to me and kept toys around it , talked to it and told the picture to manifest to a baby. it did not work I was devastated. I am so glad this worked for you. God bless you and your child with Health and Happiness Always.

  • @colleenquiton
    @colleenquiton 3 роки тому +11

    I love watching this. This made me so emotional in a positive way. I felt the happiness and joy they've been through the whole process. Her baby is so beautiful. Her relationship with her mom and siblings are awesome!

  • @fivemjs
    @fivemjs 4 роки тому +26

    I am 100% on board but I have to be honest and say that I laughed when they were talking about fresh and frozen eggs because I suddenly felt like a grocery store =)

  • @rainabeveridge2495
    @rainabeveridge2495 4 роки тому +27

    Two complete strangers create life that grows within someone else's body ...

    • @MichelleOsorio
      @MichelleOsorio 3 роки тому +4

      Three women if you count the doctor!

  • @danaprovenzano3961
    @danaprovenzano3961 4 роки тому +21

    My husband and I just started trying this month, so now I have my 10 day wait to see if I’m pregnant. I’m 32 which was waiting a little longer than I wanted but in reality it was perfect timing. Seeing the fertility decline chart showing at 33 made me 😬 please pray for me !! I hope we have an easy time conceiving ! I’m so ready to be a mom 😭 sending love and support to everyone here !

  • @NeviLeo
    @NeviLeo 3 роки тому +7

    I'm almost 28 and now really considering this in the next few years. Fingers crossed xx

  • @chucitachirimoya1086
    @chucitachirimoya1086 3 роки тому +8

    God bless this family. My 36 year old daughter in going trough this process. Yes women like that are so brave. Thank you for sharing.

  • @rosamedina18
    @rosamedina18 5 років тому +44

    I'm 23 weeks pregnant and I'm crying because of all the love...

  • @sherrimercer7288
    @sherrimercer7288 4 роки тому +4

    I made an appointment Dr Gracia today to restart my SMBC journey. This makes me feel like I made a great choice.

  • @northerngirl4924
    @northerngirl4924 4 роки тому +27

    Great story. So lucky to have such a supportive community behind her. Beautiful and loved baby.❤️

    • @prerna95
      @prerna95 2 роки тому

      Why would one need a man to get pregnant. #medicalscienceplayingadvances

  • @Langlang852
    @Langlang852 4 роки тому +2

    I was in tears when I watched ur story to have a baby eagerly,I don’t lose hope,there is always hope...hopefully I have also mine soon..i am so happy for your good blessings in life,u are a good mom...ur story inspired everyone especially to me...stay safe and Godbless

  • @joan0388
    @joan0388 4 роки тому +24

    I am 32 years old filipina living in the Philippines,I. Had my artificial insemination 5 days ago, i hope it will work, waiting for 10days to have pregnancy test, hope and pray it will works..

  • @ghettogirl222
    @ghettogirl222 2 роки тому +6

    I did this twice and it was the best decision I ever made. And I knew I would never find love because I’m not really that attractive & I always had a fear of being alone.

    • @z7z766
      @z7z766 2 роки тому

      What’s their sex if you don’t mind me asking? Also is it possible to choose the sex of the child in US clinics?

    • @ghettogirl222
      @ghettogirl222 Рік тому +1

      Two boys and I’m not sure I never asked I was just happy with whatever.

    • @MsChitterchat
      @MsChitterchat Рік тому +3

      You are attractive. Be kinder to yourself. Wish you all the best.

  • @silence9122
    @silence9122 5 років тому +52

    I’m a Happily Single Mom 💃 If I had to do it over, I would never have gotten married! There are many men that choose surrogate over marriage too. A brave New World 💥👏

    • @starruchan3798
      @starruchan3798 4 роки тому +1

      Yes it's so beautiful.
      Brave New World is a great but disgusting book. Children doing adult things to each other. 🤢🤢

    • @skybbb22
      @skybbb22 4 роки тому +2

      I would love to be a father. I am a single man.

    • @pastelmask
      @pastelmask 4 роки тому +4

      @@skybbb22 You could always adopt! 😁

    • @itzmeg3988
      @itzmeg3988 4 роки тому +2

      Ken adoption or surrogacy are amazing options ❤️

    • @EnlightenedGoldenBeauty
      @EnlightenedGoldenBeauty 3 роки тому

      Surrogate = Baby mamas

  • @Vasudevah-ht9ws
    @Vasudevah-ht9ws 5 місяців тому +2

    Imagine making a baby for your love ones and they leave u. This is much better

  • @mariamkinen8036
    @mariamkinen8036 4 роки тому +5

    In my relationships , the few I've had , I've been independent . My doctors treated me with all respect n value , too❤️ It's worth going through all the way.

  • @VanillaSlash
    @VanillaSlash 5 років тому +38

    I think this might be the right move for me. I'm researching.

  • @dakilanginasinglemom9457
    @dakilanginasinglemom9457 3 роки тому +13

    Soon i become a single mom because my ex bf didnt want this child on my womb but i'm still thinking if i can handle this baby on my own and accidentally watch this video. I want to inspired. I dont have parents because they passed away 3 yrs ago.. i hope i will be good mother.

    • @0pheliadsouzaa
      @0pheliadsouzaa 3 роки тому

      You be an awesome mom!! All the best. Your baby will change your life ❤️❤️

    • @FRANCESCA01234
      @FRANCESCA01234 3 роки тому

      🤗

    • @taticalifornia
      @taticalifornia 3 роки тому

      Your baby is your family! It's the best gift anyone can have! You will do great and you will find a new supportive partner!

    • @preciousoutwesigav5867
      @preciousoutwesigav5867 3 роки тому

      You will be a good mother

    • @dianangoma4474
      @dianangoma4474 3 роки тому

      Men are crazy. My ex wanted me to terminate. My boy is 11yrs now is back he wants him. Have got two kids with another man. I met him when he was 2yes, is the only father he knows. Is a loving father.

  • @noelleaoas4656
    @noelleaoas4656 5 років тому +23

    To ALL STRONG SINGLE MOTHERS WHO ALSO STAND AS FATHERS TO THEIR CHILDREN, I GREET YOU HAPPY FATHERS DAY

  • @allkindsofgroove
    @allkindsofgroove 5 років тому +29

    I'm 33 right now and might do an insemination next year. I want babies, but don't want a man since I'm not much of a relationship type of person.
    I don't think I have any fertility issues but that remains to be seen.

    • @faraqkul
      @faraqkul 5 років тому +13

      @Goku Godly why dont you?

    • @allkindsofgroove
      @allkindsofgroove 5 років тому +22

      @Goku Godly Because I want the baby to be mine and not let my own eggs go waste. Stupid question. next!

    • @jpatino786
      @jpatino786 4 роки тому

      Give It A Try

  • @JENNYLADYLASHES
    @JENNYLADYLASHES 4 роки тому +17

    I pray to God that he blesses me with a child through IVF 💛🙏🏼 I do not plan on getting married or having a partner long term. I just want to be able to have the opportunity to love something as precious as a baby.

  • @fusemore1059
    @fusemore1059 3 роки тому +2

    I’m a 30 year old single mom by choice that’s going through ivf literally right now! I go in for my egg retrieval hopefully Friday or Saturday and then I’ll be doing pgs testing and will transfer a baby girl maybe in six weeks from egg retrieval. So excited and thankful for science!!

  • @shaquayviahyder4195
    @shaquayviahyder4195 11 місяців тому +4

    Such a motivating story ❤I’m going to be a single mom by choice

  • @Jooliecn
    @Jooliecn 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you Penn Medicine for doing this unique story on Diedre. It’s informative and inspiring.

  • @izzygee2216
    @izzygee2216 3 роки тому +7

    This was a beautiful story, loved every minute of it, wish you and your family the best! God bless you and yours! 🙏🏽❤️

  • @autumnsgarden6706
    @autumnsgarden6706 4 роки тому +6

    This is sooooo heart felt 🤍 I’m so confident now preparing to go through the process myself as a single by choice mom thank you for sharing your beautiful experience with us 🥰

  • @donnamarr9538
    @donnamarr9538 4 роки тому +3

    I’ll be 40. I’ve had numerous ectopic pregnancies. I have one son. IVF may be my last hope. No I am not alone, but I did want 1 more child. This story is very encouraging thank you for sharing

  • @tonyjohnson7917
    @tonyjohnson7917 5 років тому +37

    What a wonderful doctor and a wonderful woman. I was so happy watching this :-)

    • @strawberriesblueberries2258
      @strawberriesblueberries2258 5 років тому +3

      Talia A me too 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

    • @davisholman8149
      @davisholman8149 3 роки тому +1

      She has a supportive family nearby. That makes a huge difference for both the single mother & the child.

  • @Gina19876
    @Gina19876 Рік тому +3

    What a wonderful loving daughter including her mom all the way. So sweet and considerate.

  • @lnilsson9935
    @lnilsson9935 8 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for sharing your journey! ❤ Your story touched me deeply and gives me hope when it comes to my own IVF-journey.

  • @rachelfaith3578
    @rachelfaith3578 5 років тому +42

    she's beautiful

  • @gracebolton1222
    @gracebolton1222 4 роки тому +3

    I’m glad that this comment section is so positive. The other video on her is toxic as hell.

  • @josyetl2595
    @josyetl2595 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful experience. I needed this to make up my mind. I decided to be a smbc but have been doubting lately... I'm scheduled to go for my baseline this month and will definitely go on with the process. It's so worthy, can't wait to have my baby girl soon

  • @juliahall4359
    @juliahall4359 4 роки тому +4

    I don’t know how I got here but wow this was so emotional. What an incredible story.

  • @eurocareivfcentercyprus5694
    @eurocareivfcentercyprus5694 4 роки тому +2

    What an inspiring story!🤩 It’s surprising how many women decide to become single moms through IVF.
    Regardless of your marital status, this video shows that you can still be a successful parent just like any other mom. What matters is the parenting style you will adopt, not the type of household your child live in. Good relationships are what makes the child happy, and spending quality time with them is the most important thing that leads to a happy family.
    💞
    Single moms, good luck on your wonderful journeys to parenthood!🍀

    • @HikaruYamamoto
      @HikaruYamamoto 4 роки тому

      Its people like you that spread false rose tinted delusions about parenthood. Fact is most people have kids with these expectations and then are disappointed. Then they are trapped raising children and unhappy in life.

  • @sarahakbar3014
    @sarahakbar3014 4 роки тому +3

    More power to every one fighting single parenthood, infertility and adoption

  • @graceotoole2467
    @graceotoole2467 Місяць тому

    I am a seventy year old woman, and have 3 children, did not realise they are so many different processes and choices, so interesting to tâches her journey.

  • @katiegodwin5109
    @katiegodwin5109 3 роки тому +7

    This woman is so inspirational

  • @7lol2007
    @7lol2007 4 роки тому +2

    her journey is pretty smooth! my cousin did ivf 4 times and each time it had problems. I am pregnant naturally but i had 2 mc before (28). It is great that there are these options. However be aware of the cost and success rate along with miscarriage's etc. Some of my family spent over 80k. I had 3 cousins who did ivf. It is still amazing that we have the options to do this. Tbh I always thought that was how I was going to have my child.

  • @tuliko8678
    @tuliko8678 Рік тому +1

    I am 32, happily single, living in australia and I’m infertile. This year has been difficult. Coming to terms with so much in such a short space of time.
    I had 2 rounds of IVF trying to collect my own eggs but this failed.
    In the New Year I plan to start my new IV journey using known donor eggs.
    This video made me cry.
    Thinking positive, but I can’t wait to meet my little goblin xx

    • @wanishabirahmad9268
      @wanishabirahmad9268 4 місяці тому

      ❤❤❤ why so..
      Girls prefer artifical insemination

  • @IslandGurl85
    @IslandGurl85 Рік тому +4

    This is my journey now after a breakup as I wasn’t ready to have a baby with an ex partner.
    I’m now 38 I’m looking to be a single mum done the GP check and I just want to know if I’m fertile I’m manifesting and praying that I will be pregnant this is why my relationship ended he wanted to be a dad a long time ago for me i was not ready and now with Gods help I know I will get pregnant.

  • @ellieg.9595
    @ellieg.9595 4 роки тому +7

    22 now planning and saving up for this. Honestly I can’t see myself in a stable relationship. I’m (dramatically) too damaged to ever fully experience that (my father saw to, to that. Evil f.u.c.k.e.r that he is). Single mom life is the way for me. My brother will just have to be their father figure in the future. But I don’t think he’ll mind it too much considering he loves children just as much as me.

  • @Lesliek79
    @Lesliek79 5 років тому +45

    I want to be a Single Mom by Choice. I also wanted a baby since I was young, ver y young. Now I am 40 and want that baby so badly.

    • @custardgannet4836
      @custardgannet4836 5 років тому +1

      Why did you decide to wait so long? Busy with career etc?

    • @boston07able
      @boston07able 4 роки тому +6

      Custard Ganet I guess she hoped to meet that man who would be willing to go through pregnancy together, there’s always tiny hope. I’m 43 and still hoping that man will come into my life.

    • @starruchan3798
      @starruchan3798 4 роки тому +1

      You can do it, I know you can

    • @newstv2300
      @newstv2300 4 роки тому +1

      Hi

    • @lah1667
      @lah1667 4 роки тому +2

      @@boston07able freeze you eggs! You'll be sterile by the time you're 45...

  • @Musicandfilms7
    @Musicandfilms7 3 роки тому +10

    I'm 42 and I frozed my eggs when I was in my 30's , I'm an antisocial person so I know that the only way for me to have a child is with a donnor and alone. I'm not worried about being able to parent my child by myself but I'm worried that if I have a child without a father when he/she's older will feel bad about not having a dad, and I don't have a big family to help me, so I'm still trying to make a desition.

    • @elisscaliving4776
      @elisscaliving4776 3 роки тому +6

      Put your kid in sports,A coach is a good father figure

    • @z7z766
      @z7z766 2 роки тому +2

      Your child won’t feel bad about nothing that don’t exist

  • @HelenNichol-u1p
    @HelenNichol-u1p 5 місяців тому

    I have been through IVF (twice) and been very fortunate to use my own eggs and my husband. Currently watching this documentary pregnant with my little one kicking away. God bless this Mother, from the UK x

  • @Elsiedevan11
    @Elsiedevan11 2 роки тому +4

    I’m so happy for her! Gives me so much hope too :’)

  • @devonmay5960
    @devonmay5960 5 років тому +20

    I have a plan for this being a possibility in the future. I have PCOS so for a while my future fertility has been a concern for me even when I was diagnosed as a teenager. I'm 19, turning 20 soon, but I worry that if I wait too long waiting for a boyfriend/husband and my ovaries won't have enough eggs.
    I've decided to see by my mid to late 20s to see what my romantic situation looks like (seeing if who I'm with then would want children) and if it's not a possibility that way I'm going to have IVF with donor sperm. Because I doubt I'm one of those women who can get to their late 30s and 40s and still have children. I know it's a 'you never know' situation but I don't want to take that chance. I'd love to have my own children

    • @Talkwithtina808
      @Talkwithtina808 5 років тому +4

      Devon May hey I have pcos and had 2 children my first when I was 17 and my second when I was 37 I’m now 40 and thinking about have my third!! It will happen God willing 🙏🏾

    • @camiller958
      @camiller958 4 роки тому

      FLYTAILS MOBILE SALON good luck and congrats on your kids

    • @Rachelhancock8
      @Rachelhancock8 4 роки тому

      Devon May I am right there with you! Same thing, have PCOS and not being able to have my own child/children really is scary and sad for me to think, decided the same to wait and see where i was at a certain age and if not doing IVF with donor! I wish you nothing but the best and hope it all work for you! 💗💗💗

    • @lesliecartagena1292
      @lesliecartagena1292 Рік тому

      My mom has PCOS she had me at 38 my brother at 28 and my sister at 32 .
      She suffered a stillborn and an ectopic before having us , and it took her a long time to conceive all throughout her pregnancies. Doctors even told her she couldn’t have kids because her cervix is underdeveloped but she proved them wrong and she gave birth to us . PCOS and pregnancy is not impossible it just requires more work and may take longer.

  • @m.d.j174
    @m.d.j174 6 місяців тому +2

    I'm 45. I used embryo donation. I got pregnant on my first try. I gave birth a week ago..my daughter is so precious and beautiful I had the best pregnancy. I was happy everyday of every hour. The only thing is my parents are not as open minded about fertility. They are those judgemental Christian, I wanted to share the experience with them but, I decided not to. It's really sad. The hood thing is they live out of state so it's easy to keep them in the dark.

  • @lolipopPrincess
    @lolipopPrincess Рік тому +2

    This made me cry it’s beautiful
    to her dream come true.

    • @Uber1937
      @Uber1937 Рік тому

      El sueño es una pesadilla: el niño ha de ir a buscar a su madre. La naturaleza no admite juegos.

  • @kbremer22
    @kbremer22 4 роки тому +21

    I think if you have financial stability, its ok because then you dont have the constant struggle, but i think the best situation for raising kids is a 2 parent family.

    • @cocovercoe784
      @cocovercoe784 3 роки тому +10

      It’s the norm of the society to have two parents, however just remember there are always exceptions for everything, some by personal choice, some not. We are all different, we should respect each other.

    • @jacquelineplaatjies9052
      @jacquelineplaatjies9052 3 роки тому +6

      Everybody wants a child to have two supportive parents. From own experience one amazing supportive parent is better than screwed up two parents. We don't always have our happy ever after family life..

  • @Cuteneyth
    @Cuteneyth Рік тому +3

    This is also my goal to become a mother, even if i don’t find a man. I’m only 27, but i really need/want to be a mom.

  • @cameronross7662
    @cameronross7662 2 роки тому +4

    Starting fertility drugs for my upcoming transfer! Love hearing others stories.

  • @amandaadair3316
    @amandaadair3316 5 років тому +15

    I’m glad I watched this. I’ve been considering this for well over a year now.

    • @brendandonaldiarmaid3110
      @brendandonaldiarmaid3110 4 роки тому

      Amanda adair there is no amount of this can keep body and soul together then with chemistry of life, you are a beautiful woman with a lovely smile too, You we get your match and make babys with him that is the best, kids love seen there dads around them