Why do believers hear the word each Sunday and are aware of being obedient to Gods laws until marriage? Now our feelings rule our decision making in being there for our spouse. We never argue with our boss. Nor do we go into our prayer closets telling our Lord I’m going to do what I want. Then when it comes to marriage our feelings take present over doing what the Lord requires. Either we obey God or we don’t.
The "Window Analogy" is a very good description of what's happening in the life of a woman. This type of content and more of it is Much needed in Christian Marriages. Excellent episode!!
Man this was a terrible take. Only got 15 mins in and everything was aimed at the partner with more desire. Talk to people in this place and they’ve put in the work. The real problem is women lying to their husband and lying to themselves. They change the moment they’re married and make every excuse under the sun. They can juggle everything on their mind before marriage and all of a sudden they can’t after. Stop making excuses for them, they deceived their partner. Raw deal to be lied to like that.
A lot of guys don't work out if their wives are watching a screen all day. It's really unmotivating to keep working out when someone is watching Netflix all day.
Yup, I wish all the hypocrites that judged me for keeping my son as single mom would have warned me yrs ago. I waited years after chaste like a nun y'all. Then married and had great intimacy. Now we are in a sexless marriage, and im not the one saying no.
15 years ago last time, but marriage pretty much sexless before that, My wife is fatter than me. And she yelled last time" In an impatient angry tone. "Hurry up" Gave up asking after that after so much rejection after that, Feeling trapped now, because I never chose celibacy.. but a sexless power struggle saps your motivation. And it is not the other way round, when the sex stops, the intimacy stops, and the praying stops and then the man's motivation stops.
Marriage is scary, been there done that. Focus on that one person can only create tensions at least eventually. Humans pride ourselves for being more intelligent than other species; i don't think we are. I'm yet to find a female fighting male or male fighting female in other species but with humans its more or less the norm. Even when there is competition the female will fight the other female though this is less common; it's usually the males that fight. I think if we remove government, church and culture from relationships we could go back to our natural self. I may be wrong, i dont know what other people think
What if the reason is being talked about, putting down name calling, blaming me and my daughter for things we didn't do. Outside things are making for unhappy. And her son was taken around by her brother. She doesn't want help she blames everyone. I get it she's hurting. She was this before the passing of her son. I have problems, but I don't take it out on her.
I was in a sexless marriage...my wife just quit working out( gained 100lbs), stop eating good, quit having goals and only watched social media in her spare time, before you ask, yes I did EVERYTHING in the book to appropriately, healthily, positively motivate her over the years..years people but no avail! We are divorcing now.
20:34 the love languages change and one grows in different seasons. Some people learn one language and set it to default. We need to keep learning out partners
So it is all up to the man, who also has a lot of windows open, bills, scheduling, repairs around the house. When dating the girl anticipation when she was going to see her man and was ready, now he has to come home from work and go to work to warm her up. Time for her to get her self mentality ready.
You have to evolve in your romance. People change and require more the longer you're together. You can be great in everything but lazy in your marriage. God cares about your marriage more.
After dating an emotional unavailable man, who was not affectionate. I will never do that to myself again. I'm Very affectionate and require alot of touch. I definitely wouldn't marry a man like that.
Why do believers hear the word each Sunday and are aware of being obedient to Gods laws until marriage? Now our feelings rule our decision making in being there for our spouse. We never argue with our boss. Nor do we go into our prayer closets telling our Lord I’m going to do what I want. Then when it comes to marriage our feelings take present over doing what the Lord requires. Either we obey God or we don’t.
The "Window Analogy" is a very good description of what's happening in the life of a woman. This type of content and more of it is Much needed in Christian Marriages. Excellent episode!!
@@sonyalambcomer1369 Thank you
Man this was a terrible take. Only got 15 mins in and everything was aimed at the partner with more desire. Talk to people in this place and they’ve put in the work. The real problem is women lying to their husband and lying to themselves. They change the moment they’re married and make every excuse under the sun. They can juggle everything on their mind before marriage and all of a sudden they can’t after. Stop making excuses for them, they deceived their partner. Raw deal to be lied to like that.
@@mark94213 If you only watched 15 minutes you only heard one side. You can either learn or be stubborn. Women are not men.
Yes! I tell my husband that all the time. I don't put a cake in a cold oven, so why approach me without warming up first 😊
Right. Was he always like that?
A lot of guys don't work out if their wives are watching a screen all day. It's really unmotivating to keep working out when someone is watching Netflix all day.
@@cur244 Give her something to look at. 👀
Yup, I wish all the hypocrites that judged me for keeping my son as single mom would have warned me yrs ago.
I waited years after chaste like a nun y'all. Then married and had great intimacy. Now we are in a sexless marriage, and im not the one saying no.
Marriage is harder than being single 😂
I did it, I lost at it… and now I’m sleeping peacefully every night.
@@tiffanysilvera6691 Most people receive little to no training on marriage before they do it. To them it will be hard. Just like anything else.
15 years ago last time, but marriage pretty much sexless before that, My wife is fatter than me. And she yelled last time" In an impatient angry tone. "Hurry up" Gave up asking after that after so much rejection after that, Feeling trapped now, because I never chose celibacy.. but a sexless power struggle saps your motivation. And it is not the other way round, when the sex stops, the intimacy stops, and the praying stops and then the man's motivation stops.
Marriage is scary, been there done that. Focus on that one person can only create tensions at least eventually. Humans pride ourselves for being more intelligent than other species; i don't think we are. I'm yet to find a female fighting male or male fighting female in other species but with humans its more or less the norm. Even when there is competition the female will fight the other female though this is less common; it's usually the males that fight. I think if we remove government, church and culture from relationships we could go back to our natural self. I may be wrong, i dont know what other people think
LOVE YOUR CONTENT! ESPECIALLY MARRAIGE CONTENT!!! I was introduced to you through Hardly Initiated, and I have been following ever since!
Me too, just found them and I'm hooked! I've been so marriage dumb!
this issue with the sexless marriage is getting worse
Yup they always get worse.
What if the reason is being talked about, putting down name calling, blaming me and my daughter for things we didn't do. Outside things are making for unhappy. And her son was taken around by her brother. She doesn't want help she blames everyone. I get it she's hurting. She was this before the passing of her son. I have problems, but I don't take it out on her.
Love the window analogy. Women have a lot of blocks. Your hubby sounds a lot like mine. Can you two have more topics on sex in marriage?
But what if they don't the same thing you want, that is, maybe they want a roommate situation? The lower desire partner always wins in my experience.
I was in a sexless marriage...my wife just quit working out( gained 100lbs), stop eating good, quit having goals and only watched social media in her spare time, before you ask, yes I did EVERYTHING in the book to appropriately, healthily, positively motivate her over the years..years people but no avail! We are divorcing now.
@@patrickburns4821 I’m sorry to hear that. Sounds like she is dealing with depression. Hopefully she finds healing through counseling.
@taraboddie hopefully so..we tried counseling multi times but she never would reveal the root of her issue despite the books I read on Borderlines
She so funny 🤣 Yes 😂😂😂
Both should be attracted to each other…workout together….
Medications play a part as well
20:34 the love languages change and one grows in different seasons. Some people learn one language and set it to default. We need to keep learning out partners
Prioritize. Love is not valued anymore. Money, career and independence have clouded our minds. We have to get back to essence of needing love.
So it is all up to the man, who also has a lot of windows open, bills, scheduling, repairs around the house. When dating the girl anticipation when she was going to see her man and was ready, now he has to come home from work and go to work to warm her up. Time for her to get her self mentality ready.
You have to evolve in your romance. People change and require more the longer you're together. You can be great in everything but lazy in your marriage. God cares about your marriage more.
This was soo good!! Thank you! ❤
After dating an emotional unavailable man, who was not affectionate. I will never do that to myself again. I'm Very affectionate and require alot of touch. I definitely wouldn't marry a man like that.
Years...
Only love yuo need
I needed this
I agree, love them they want to be love!!! Not the way you want to be love!!!