Preach it gurl. From my experience guys who liked me made it known to me that they liked me even if some of them were shy. They found a way to pick up that courage and not only that, they respected me. Those who were hot and cold were hot and cold for a reason. In my early twenties I would think of all the possibilities why someone is hot and cold with me, now I know the real reason. They are usually already involved with someone or they are not sure whether they like you. Those are the types who want u to make the decision for them. I no longer do the convincing. I am what I am .. you either like me or you don't. And as a woman I like a man who makes me feel like a prize.
She's right...lol, I've actually had girls who would do this and its...honestly a little creepy. Its like the "Nice Guy" thing in reverse. A girl I'm not attracted to decides to "Be my friend" and then expects more and tells her friends she just needs to "Show him what he's missing out on" in relation to me...now to be honest, I think its really attractive if its a girl who I'm already attracted to...but it gets creepy if I say "No" and it continues. So ladies! If we say "No" the first time, just move on, and you'll find the right one.
Totally I agree with your points. As per my opinion, learn to say no to people. Saying yes will only please people but in turn decrease your respect in others eye.
+Sarah King Wow, come on. Life coaches like Corey Wayne are telling men not to ever chase women, if the woman don't chase them it is her loss. And at the same time she is telling women not to chase any men. - These games are really fucking things up. This just end up that nobody initiate contact, because they are waiting for the other to do it. even though two people that like each other want to see each other again, they are not going to meet again ... Kind a fucked up, don't you think?
Men are suppose to chase women. Try to win her heart this is how it always was in all ages... except for now. Dating couches also teach girls not to be clingy cause it scares guys.... so what is girl suppose to do?
PuPup2004 stop playing games, be honest. I started dating this girl. We went home together after a club, after that we met in the same wedding that we were going to attend, before we met. After the wedding I started to see that there was something special with this girl for me. Week later I asked her out on a date. The date was great. our conversation flowed like we were long time friends. After that both of us had a crush. When I started to feel that way I started to have doubts, therefore started to play games. after that it didn´t go as naturally as it was suppose to. couple of months later. I decided to stop playing games, and with all the girls that I hooked up after that everything started to be much more smooth sailing. - Recently I started to act that way towards the first girl (not playing games) only on facebook. Instead of not like-ing her post because I want to play it cool. I just do it with love, with out expecting anything back. Now we like or comment on every other each post. Before that it wasn´t as frequent from either of us, I guess she was playing games as well. But because I have stopped playing games, she starts to be honest as well - So the moral of this story is playing games creates disconnection when you are with the right person. Hope that it wasn´t too long for you. On the side note. I started meditate every day about two months ago. And after each meditation I send my love out to her, without expecting anything back. Nobody knows, except me, and now you and those that are reading this post ;)
Stefán Atli Jakobsson Thank you very much for your honesty. But I never play games.... I also do not understand the reasons why people play games. So you got a crush on girl #1 and you started to play games? Why? Did you think it would attract her more? I am 37 years old you don't look like 16 either. Why play games. So liking on Facebook means flirting? So if a guy I like is heavily liking girls' pictures should I be worried? It is so childish. If you really like her - stop liking her posts with love - just tell her that you like her and you want to try if you guys could start dating. This means no games. In my case. I had tones of misfortunes. Because I am naive and guys just wanted to have sex. Kinda hard to adjust to the dating cesspool after 12 years. I had guys wanted to see me every day and then started to ignore me all of the sudden. And I thought if I can only show that I am good he will like me.... did not work. The other guy just vanished after 3 months of heavy dating.... again - there were no issues no arguing ...only I miss you and can't wait to see you. Now I just have dating anxieties ...every time I text, every time I don't get a response, or get a delayed response. They say don't be needy .. they say you should show the interest. So what to do? Anxieties everywhere... It should not be this hard. We are all people - we all want love and be loved.
Great video. Some people confuse chasing (the person is running away aka not interested) with approaching. They are not the same. Learn the signs of interest and walk away lukewarm, confused, unavailable bs. You deserve someone that wants you as much as you want them.
S Smith fuck him! For ever. Had he really loved you, he wouldn't wanna go back to his ex at the first place. If the reason he told you for your break up is true anyway and that ex truly exists, you sure he's telling the truth ?! It could be a new one he met, it could be any other reason, you never really know. He used you though whatever the reason and used your time and feelings the loser. Do you want that drama to get deep into you and harm you psychologically now ?! It's his fault, not yours! Fuck him and run fast away from him, never look back, you deserve a real man who will willingly stick up to you and no exes, ridiculous excuses and uncertainty over his decision for you will distract him
You curse a lot, you're bright and bubbly, you give amazing advice and you're fucking HILARIOUS!! La la la love your videos!! I'm sooooo tuning in for #MantraMonday every week!! Very empowering stuff Amy!
It doesn't work of you have anxious attachment style. So do some research about it. It's not chasing, it's the person you are attached to that enable your attachment activating strategies...
Ya know, if it seems that nobody wants to be with you and you can't attract anyone, the answer isn't do less. You can't just sit there and think that if you wait long enough your perfect guy will find you... He won't. Or, if he does, he won't like you. Stop chasing, fine, but a little self Improvement goes a long way. Better yourself, become more attractive. If you want something you still have to get off you're ass and go get it.
I agree but “go get it” can be as simple as going out with friends or to grab a Starbucks. Head to the beach. You attract what you are & I totally agree that you do need to work on yourself to attract quality relationships with quality individuals.
Yeah and we should work on ourselves for our own betterment and not just to attract potential boyfriends or girlfriends. Bettering ourselves should be for our own happiness and overall fulfillment.
i agree but also i dont see how stop chasing a guy equals stop improving yourself ... i dont get why improving yourself is always related to someone else when it should always be about you being your best for your own good
Thank you :)! I've learnt from numerous experiences that the chasing, putting more effort than them does not work. I believe that they have it in their innate nature to hunt and if things are holding them back such as shyness, desire will triumph that.
Such a great video! I think this concept can be applied to friendship as well. Ever notice how friendships and romantic relationships happen so effortlessly and naturally when both parties are interested and there's no chasing involved?
😢😢😢 have had to do this, convince someone I am worthy. It truly hurts and it's exhausting no matter how much you love the person. Even if you end up getting the person, then it still doesn't feel good knowing he didn't really want you in the first place and was just using you. It makes you feel pathetic to chaseS
personally have never met a female that chases a guy...it's usually the same old boring "I like you but I'm not gonna tell you cuz I can't be vulnerable" BS. News flash ladies we aren't mind readers either. if you're into a guy you could let him know with plain English instead of mixed "hope he figures it out" signals. I'm a go getter myself and I actually was after someone who decided to play hard to get so I cut her off, those games are pointless, stupid and childish. if you want to know if someone is serious about you then guess what you gotta actually let them see and meet you...the real you. it's kind of two faced and counter productive to hide who you are and then wonder why you aren't connecting. Ijs....
what if no one THAT I WANT TOO will look at me and saying "hell yes i want to be with you" in the long run ? feels like guys just want to have fun with me then bail a couple months downt the road
My mom showed me this video recently when I was constantly asking her "What does it mean when a guy does this?" and "What does it mean when a guy does that?", but watching your videos has definitely opened up my eyes to what the situation really can be, point blank. I'm so glad I came across your videos because now I feel more confident in myself and I don't question the situation I'm dealing with. I just move on from it and continue chasing my goals. Thanks for your inspirational videos Amy, stay awesome! 😊😙😀
+Cameron West Wow, come on. Life coaches like Corey Wayne are telling men not to ever chase women, if the woman don't chase them it is her loss. And at the same time she is telling women not to chase any men. - These gaming are really fucking things up. This just end up that nobody initiate contact, because they are waiting for the other to do it. even though two people that like each other want to see each other again, they are not going to meet again ... Kind a fucked up, don't you think?
Positive message. Women have always been the chooser but it took Cosmo and Alllure 20-30 years to screw with women's heads. One thing, though... a man may want to "get on board with this", but that doesn't mean a woman should go for the first guy that tries to dock. Character takes time to reveal itself..
OMG That's Exactly what I needed to hear right now! I must say, Amy you helped me with one of my worst times in life. I've been watching your videos for the past week and you actually saved me from losing my self and my faith So Thank you so much Amy ..Your'e Amazing 😘
Coercision and convincing are harmful, but the chasing thing... Obviously there is a limit to it, but on the other hand if both decide that "I'm not going to do any chasing" it won't go anywhere, will it?
CrackerXZ why would anyone have to chase if both like n want each other? I mean here she's talking about ppl who are in a relationship but not serious or the ones who have broken up.
Rewatching some of these videos. This one caught my attention again as I’m currently “talking” to a guy. Noticing his texts are getting further and further apart and all that fun jazz. I’ll give him a few days but after that, boy bye! I don’t have time to try to convince him if he’s not already convinced.....
I have relationship anxiety. I can’t tell if my concerns about my boyfriend are totally valid or if it’s just me worrying. I don’t feel like he is over the moon about me.. not the “Hell yeah I want her” type of thing.
I am going to share some much needed information with you and your viewers. Men are super simple. Absolutely no complexity at all. You see a man you like get to know him. See if he has a strong moral code, ask yourself is he ethical? If he does/is and you can tolerate his imperfections and can prevent yourself from thinking you can or need to change him in some way, then ding ding ding you have a winner. Blow him frequently, tell him you love him, and literally live happily ever after.
Wow, come on. Life coaches like Corey Wayne are telling men not to ever chase women, if the woman don't chase them it is her loss. And at the same time you are telling women not to chase any men. - These games are really fucking things up. This just end up that nobody initiate contact, because they are waiting for the other to do it. even though two people that like each other want to see each other again, they are not going to meet again ... Kind a fucked up, don't you think?
Stefán Atli Jakobsson that's what I'm sayin.. there's so much contradicting information out their, so you don't know whether a girl wants to be chased or not.. coach Corey says not to chase.. other coaches say to get the man to chase.
well the truth is coaches want you to be confident about " what you are" and 'what you want" and then sticking to your own rules..but the titles are misleading... chasing someone is being persistent with getting what you want from someone.its different from showing interest. PS: if a guy wants to marry a woman..what does he do? he simply proposes! relationships are kinda like that if hes in then he is and if he isnt as much as you cant get people on the street to propose to you, you cant get a guy to love you or wanting a relationship with you. if you really come to terms with who you are and your worth then you already are in the right place...
Nastaran S they're very misleading indeed! Like I'm fucking confused on whether I should be persistent or sit back & "act" like I don't care if I speak to someone. We live in a generation where if you text back instantly, you're seen as needy or desperate.. dating/relationships really shouldn't be this complicated lol.
you're so right i agree.what i have learnd my self so far is that...all these guides and stuff are to just help us modify our selves to eventually have better relationships.its not only acting some certain way but then being whatever we were yesterday inside,its about changing the way you think and act...for example if youre naturally a very persistent and pushy person in life in your relationships you will be too! so all you have to do is improving yourself. the best thing i can tell you is that if you are looking for a very satisfying relationship dont play games.and if the one youre trying to be with doesnt understand how well balanced and good you are then.why bother? ps: always be balanced.i my self sometimes text instantly because im free and in a good mood and sometimes i dont when im busy.they key is not making texting a big deal and complicated.take it easy and respect yourself be smooth about it.
Nastaran S yeah, you're right about the whole texting thing, but both parties have to be willing to do that.. if I'm immediately replying back to a girl while she takes 15-30 minutes to text back, she's going to intuitively think I don't have much going on with my life because of the stigma attached to texting.. funnily enough, our phones are always attached to our hands at all times & we'll reply back to friends INSTANTLY without feeling like we're desperate! Funny how dating works!
I came back to watch this again....and again....because I need this stuff drilled into my brain! Sometimes you send that text, or message, or whatever, because you want to & you are just being yourself which is totally cool....and sometimes you need to take a step back and realize you are headed into familiar territory & starting to chase this guy. No thank you! If you can't SEE me dude, then you are gonna miss out! Thanks for the redirect, Amy!!!
F%$# I love you! Like seriously though you're amazing 💜 always saying what I need to hear, speaking like you're talking at me and slapping me in the face with truths
Guy will not chase if women, who keep showing, he can’t win, so acting as if your not interested in him, is dumb! If you like him, talk to him, how is he going to know how good you are when you hide who you are from him!
Met a guy, he did feel like I was just great already, broke up with him, think maybe I wasn't ready for that...Not sure what to make of not being ready for that. Even when something's really nurturing, why is it you can not feel ready for it?
Ok, explain this to me.. why would a girl displays signs of interest (laughing at everything you say, slight teasing, actually providing questions in a conversation, give her number out) text a bit, then slowly stop responding -- then completely act uninterested to the point where they ignore you & then reject you. I left out some detail, but you get the point... why do girls do this shit? Like why give out your number in the first place. As a guy, if I ask for your number after blatantly making it obvious that I'm romantically interested & you give the number to me, I'm gonna assume there's some level of mutual attraction..
As a guy, I found this video very interesting. Girls don't have to chase us guys, but they should definiely show that they are interested. From my experience, most guys if they see the girl is not interested in them, will not continue to waste their time. A lot of guys don't believe that you should have to convince someone to love you, but rather you just present yourself, and show either interest or disinteresy.
I have been talking to this guy online for one month and few weeks. We were heading to relationship but he wasn’t given me time so I went crazy on him and that pushed him away from me. I was overly attached to him. We still both have feelings for each other. So past 5-7 days, I texted him this, “ hey I can’t be friends with you. I need to move on to find a person who wants to be with me. The reality is you do not want me and it’s hurting me” He hasn’t even replied back. I wonder why. Is he respecting my boundaries? Or he is being an asshole by not saying anything. Or he simply doesn’t care about me. Would he contact me back in the coming future? Did I made the right decision? P.S. I work at the airport at the USA side and he is flying out to Florida in June or July. I have no idea how I will react around him. We haven’t seen each other
@2:24 This is where a dude will say i love or want to be with you .Next the girl responds as such that was fast,turns ship the other deriction ,and or she thinks he's desperate. (id really like to see what this girl in her late 20's can bring to a realtionship)Girl doing this shit is why your still single(giving up is the wrong anwser)Another reason why men dont want to be with girls like you bc the know they can get girl in 18's(legal age/consent). My regards, Arthxe
The guy I am seeing started ignoring me, so I blocked him out of everywhere. This was an awful day for me, I thought I’m gonna go mad or suicidal. I can’t believe I was given something nice and now they take it from me. It felt like drug addiction.
Second time watching this. The first time I just watched for fun, now I'm on the situation. Funny thing: watching it the same day!!! Yeayyyy Love you Amy!!
This girl won't stop chasing me she's obsessed with me and I don't like her she chases me everywhere in college and I'm honestly scared of her I feel like she will do something and it makes me dislike her even more please don't chase anyone this women is right
Hello.. Im so confused right now. He greet me on our 2 years and 2 month anniversary. And we had a long talk about our future and we had little misunderstanding about future. Right now I get his point and there is nothing wrong about what he said. But when I replied he suddenly logout without seeing my replied. And i check his Mobile Legend account and hes playing mobile games. I suddenly feel like "Why? Why he choose to play online games rather than read my replied? What I did right now is that i texted him that im so upset that he choose to play games rather than talkled to me on our special day. And after that Im planning not to go online until i dont know. I need tou opinion. Thank you
Preach it gurl. From my experience guys who liked me made it known to me that they liked me even if some of them were shy. They found a way to pick up that courage and not only that, they respected me. Those who were hot and cold were hot and cold for a reason. In my early twenties I would think of all the possibilities why someone is hot and cold with me, now I know the real reason. They are usually already involved with someone or they are not sure whether they like you. Those are the types who want u to make the decision for them. I no longer do the convincing. I am what I am .. you either like me or you don't. And as a woman I like a man who makes me feel like a prize.
+Sabina Мёд You really hit the nail on the head with the last three lines. Something I needed to read.
Sabina Мёд I agree!
Serena agree
Serena 🙌🙌
Serena Im chasing my ex but he avoids me..
fkn chasing doesn't work
Alloof for sure but I can't stop doing it
It never works for anybody
now this video gave me a reality slap! your really right Amy!
Alpha~ me too!
ARMY?
She's right...lol, I've actually had girls who would do this and its...honestly a little creepy. Its like the "Nice Guy" thing in reverse. A girl I'm not attracted to decides to "Be my friend" and then expects more and tells her friends she just needs to "Show him what he's missing out on" in relation to me...now to be honest, I think its really attractive if its a girl who I'm already attracted to...but it gets creepy if I say "No" and it continues. So ladies! If we say "No" the first time, just move on, and you'll find the right one.
Chris D'Amato
The problem is most guys never say no, they keep it going as long as sex is there.
Totally I agree with your points. As per my opinion, learn to say no to people. Saying yes will only please people but in turn decrease your respect in others eye.
These are so hard to watch because I'm like "FUCK. She's right"
+Sarah King Wow, come on. Life coaches like Corey Wayne are telling men not to ever chase women, if the woman don't chase them it is her loss. And at the same time she is telling women not to chase any men. - These games are really fucking things up. This just end up that nobody initiate contact, because they are waiting for the other to do it. even though two people that like each other want to see each other again, they are not going to meet again ... Kind a fucked up, don't you think?
Men are suppose to chase women. Try to win her heart this is how it always was in all ages... except for now. Dating couches also teach girls not to be clingy cause it scares guys.... so what is girl suppose to do?
PuPup2004 stop playing games, be honest. I started dating this girl. We went home together after a club, after that we met in the same wedding that we were going to attend, before we met. After the wedding I started to see that there was something special with this girl for me. Week later I asked her out on a date. The date was great. our conversation flowed like we were long time friends. After that both of us had a crush. When I started to feel that way I started to have doubts, therefore started to play games. after that it didn´t go as naturally as it was suppose to. couple of months later. I decided to stop playing games, and with all the girls that I hooked up after that everything started to be much more smooth sailing. - Recently I started to act that way towards the first girl (not playing games) only on facebook. Instead of not like-ing her post because I want to play it cool. I just do it with love, with out expecting anything back. Now we like or comment on every other each post. Before that it wasn´t as frequent from either of us, I guess she was playing games as well. But because I have stopped playing games, she starts to be honest as well - So the moral of this story is playing games creates disconnection when you are with the right person.
Hope that it wasn´t too long for you.
On the side note. I started meditate every day about two months ago. And after each meditation I send my love out to her, without expecting anything back. Nobody knows, except me, and now you and those that are reading this post ;)
Stefán Atli Jakobsson Thank you very much for your honesty. But I never play games.... I also do not understand the reasons why people play games. So you got a crush on girl #1 and you started to play games? Why? Did you think it would attract her more? I am 37 years old you don't look like 16 either. Why play games. So liking on Facebook means flirting? So if a guy I like is heavily liking girls' pictures should I be worried? It is so childish. If you really like her - stop liking her posts with love - just tell her that you like her and you want to try if you guys could start dating. This means no games.
In my case. I had tones of misfortunes. Because I am naive and guys just wanted to have sex. Kinda hard to adjust to the dating cesspool after 12 years. I had guys wanted to see me every day and then started to ignore me all of the sudden. And I thought if I can only show that I am good he will like me.... did not work. The other guy just vanished after 3 months of heavy dating.... again - there were no issues no arguing ...only I miss you and can't wait to see you.
Now I just have dating anxieties ...every time I text, every time I don't get a response, or get a delayed response. They say don't be needy .. they say you should show the interest. So what to do? Anxieties everywhere... It should not be this hard. We are all people - we all want love and be loved.
YES I KNOW SAME I FEEL LIKE SOMEONE'S JUST ALL IN MY HEAD SAYING MY THOUGHTS BC ITS LITERALLY ME, i feel so embarassed lmao
Great video. Some people confuse chasing (the person is running away aka not interested) with approaching. They are not the same. Learn the signs of interest and walk away lukewarm, confused, unavailable bs. You deserve someone that wants you as much as you want them.
Great way to put it: chasing vs. approaching.
"But im so good at it.. " i can relate.. :P
He acted like he liked me for months up until one day he randomly told me about this ex he's going to get back together with. Wtf?! :(
S Smith Yep. I don't blame him. He was totally into you and you played too many dumb games. He finally got sick of it.
Just happened to me yesterday
hidden75 ??? I don't get it?
S Smith fuck him! For ever. Had he really loved you, he wouldn't wanna go back to his ex at the first place. If the reason he told you for your break up is true anyway and that ex truly exists, you sure he's telling the truth ?! It could be a new one he met, it could be any other reason, you never really know. He used you though whatever the reason and used your time and feelings the loser. Do you want that drama to get deep into you and harm you psychologically now ?! It's his fault, not yours! Fuck him and run fast away from him, never look back, you deserve a real man who will willingly stick up to you and no exes, ridiculous excuses and uncertainty over his decision for you will distract him
Exactly what I'm going through rn. :(
You curse a lot, you're bright and bubbly, you give amazing advice and you're fucking HILARIOUS!! La la la love your videos!! I'm sooooo tuning in for #MantraMonday every week!! Very empowering stuff Amy!
Got me teary eyes on how true this is and applicable to me just now.
I chase, convince, and coerce no man 💁🏼♀️🖕🏼😉😘
I bet you enjoy them chasing you though🤔
@@ratours9531 according to biology, it should be that way 🤷🏻♀️
It doesn't work of you have anxious attachment style. So do some research about it. It's not chasing, it's the person you are attached to that enable your attachment activating strategies...
Madalina Caramarcu that plays a big role too
Madalina C. It is still chasing stop justifying it😂
can you please be my best friend, this is fucking perfect. I need a best friend telling me this stuff
Your hair is lovely
Ya know, if it seems that nobody wants to be with you and you can't attract anyone, the answer isn't do less. You can't just sit there and think that if you wait long enough your perfect guy will find you... He won't. Or, if he does, he won't like you.
Stop chasing, fine, but a little self Improvement goes a long way. Better yourself, become more attractive. If you want something you still have to get off you're ass and go get it.
Sloe Bone I agree👍🏻
I agree but “go get it” can be as simple as going out with friends or to grab a Starbucks. Head to the beach. You attract what you are & I totally agree that you do need to work on yourself to attract quality relationships with quality individuals.
Yeah and we should work on ourselves for our own betterment and not just to attract potential boyfriends or girlfriends. Bettering ourselves should be for our own happiness and overall fulfillment.
i agree but also i dont see how stop chasing a guy equals stop improving yourself ... i dont get why improving yourself is always related to someone else when it should always be about you being your best for your own good
i wish i saw this vid beforeee
You literally remind me so much of Anna Hathaway.
Thank you :)! I've learnt from numerous experiences that the chasing, putting more effort than them does not work. I believe that they have it in their innate nature to hunt and if things are holding them back such as shyness, desire will triumph that.
Such a great video! I think this concept can be applied to friendship as well. Ever notice how friendships and romantic relationships happen so effortlessly and naturally when both parties are interested and there's no chasing involved?
I'm rewatching and it's helping me so much
Aileen Garcia same
😢😢😢 have had to do this, convince someone I am worthy. It truly hurts and it's exhausting no matter how much you love the person. Even if you end up getting the person, then it still doesn't feel good knowing he didn't really want you in the first place and was just using you. It makes you feel pathetic to chaseS
personally have never met a female that chases a guy...it's usually the same old boring "I like you but I'm not gonna tell you cuz I can't be vulnerable" BS. News flash ladies we aren't mind readers either. if you're into a guy you could let him know with plain English instead of mixed "hope he figures it out" signals. I'm a go getter myself and I actually was after someone who decided to play hard to get so I cut her off, those games are pointless, stupid and childish. if you want to know if someone is serious about you then guess what you gotta actually let them see and meet you...the real you. it's kind of two faced and counter productive to hide who you are and then wonder why you aren't connecting. Ijs....
He doesn’t have to do anything! That was so brilliant and unexpected that I woke up half the neighbors with my laugh 😂
You're my favorite youtuber.
what if no one THAT I WANT TOO will look at me and saying "hell yes i want to be with you" in the long run ? feels like guys just want to have fun with me then bail a couple months downt the road
My mom showed me this video recently when I was constantly asking her "What does it mean when a guy does this?" and "What does it mean when a guy does that?", but watching your videos has definitely opened up my eyes to what the situation really can be, point blank. I'm so glad I came across your videos because now I feel more confident in myself and I don't question the situation I'm dealing with. I just move on from it and continue chasing my goals. Thanks for your inspirational videos Amy, stay awesome! 😊😙😀
You give really amazing advice! I might not be a woman but I feel as though the advice you give can at times also apply to men as well. Keep it up.
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+Cameron West Wow, come on. Life coaches like Corey Wayne are telling men not to ever chase women, if the woman don't chase them it is her loss. And at the same time she is telling women not to chase any men. - These gaming are really fucking things up. This just end up that nobody initiate contact, because they are waiting for the other to do it. even though two people that like each other want to see each other again, they are not going to meet again ... Kind a fucked up, don't you think?
Omg I’m going through a really devastating separation and you are the first person to make me full on laugh in weeks!!
Oh, this video is perfect Amy! Thank you for your wise words!
Positive message. Women have always been the chooser but it took Cosmo and Alllure 20-30 years to screw with women's heads.
One thing, though... a man may want to "get on board with this", but that doesn't mean a woman should go for the first guy that tries to dock. Character takes time to reveal itself..
OMG That's Exactly what I needed to hear right now!
I must say, Amy you helped me with one of my worst times in life.
I've been watching your videos for the past week and you actually saved me from losing my self and my faith
So Thank you so much Amy ..Your'e Amazing 😘
this is the most helpful video i have come across. it's very real and in your face but in the best way possible
Yess! Just what I needed to hear right now. I’m done chasing. I chase, convince and coerce no man.
Coercision and convincing are harmful, but the chasing thing... Obviously there is a limit to it, but on the other hand if both decide that "I'm not going to do any chasing" it won't go anywhere, will it?
CrackerXZ why would anyone have to chase if both like n want each other? I mean here she's talking about ppl who are in a relationship but not serious or the ones who have broken up.
Just went through a breakup this weekend. I needed this so much. Thank you 😭💚
Rewatching some of these videos. This one caught my attention again as I’m currently “talking” to a guy. Noticing his texts are getting further and further apart and all that fun jazz. I’ll give him a few days but after that, boy bye! I don’t have time to try to convince him if he’s not already convinced.....
Thank you!!! I needed to hear this message!
I just found your channel tonight and have fallen in love! New subscriber here, really looking forward to new videos! :)
The BEST advice ever for every women. Don’t chase no man, ever!
Amy, thanks so much again for the great relationship advice. YOUR VIDEOS MAKE MY LIFE SO MUCH EASIER!! :)
I have relationship anxiety. I can’t tell if my concerns about my boyfriend are totally valid or if it’s just me worrying. I don’t feel like he is over the moon about me.. not the “Hell yeah I want her” type of thing.
I am going to share some much needed information with you and your viewers. Men are super simple. Absolutely no complexity at all. You see a man you like get to know him. See if he has a strong moral code, ask yourself is he ethical? If he does/is and you can tolerate his imperfections and can prevent yourself from thinking you can or need to change him in some way, then ding ding ding you have a winner.
Blow him frequently, tell him you love him, and literally live happily ever after.
roger hurd makes sense. Ethical is important :) thanks for sharing
yes i won't do that anymore,,,,,,
I have to watch this mantra on repeat.
Wow, come on. Life coaches like Corey Wayne are telling men not to ever chase women, if the woman don't chase them it is her loss. And at the same time you are telling women not to chase any men. - These games are really fucking things up. This just end up that nobody initiate contact, because they are waiting for the other to do it. even though two people that like each other want to see each other again, they are not going to meet again ... Kind a fucked up, don't you think?
Stefán Atli Jakobsson that's what I'm sayin.. there's so much contradicting information out their, so you don't know whether a girl wants to be chased or not.. coach Corey says not to chase.. other coaches say to get the man to chase.
well the truth is coaches want you to be confident about " what you are" and 'what you want" and then sticking to your own rules..but the titles are misleading...
chasing someone is being persistent with getting what you want from someone.its different from showing interest.
PS: if a guy wants to marry a woman..what does he do? he simply proposes! relationships are kinda like that if hes in then he is and if he isnt as much as you cant get people on the street to propose to you, you cant get a guy to love you or wanting a relationship with you.
if you really come to terms with who you are and your worth then you already are in the right place...
Nastaran S they're very misleading indeed! Like I'm fucking confused on whether I should be persistent or sit back & "act" like I don't care if I speak to someone. We live in a generation where if you text back instantly, you're seen as needy or desperate.. dating/relationships really shouldn't be this complicated lol.
you're so right i agree.what i have learnd my self so far is that...all these guides and stuff are to just help us modify our selves to eventually have better relationships.its not only acting some certain way but then being whatever we were yesterday inside,its about changing the way you think and act...for example if youre naturally a very persistent and pushy person in life in your relationships you will be too! so all you have to do is improving yourself.
the best thing i can tell you is that if you are looking for a very satisfying relationship dont play games.and if the one youre trying to be with doesnt understand how well balanced and good you are then.why bother?
ps: always be balanced.i my self sometimes text instantly because im free and in a good mood and sometimes i dont when im busy.they key is not making texting a big deal and complicated.take it easy and respect yourself be smooth about it.
Nastaran S yeah, you're right about the whole texting thing, but both parties have to be willing to do that.. if I'm immediately replying back to a girl while she takes 15-30 minutes to text back, she's going to intuitively think I don't have much going on with my life because of the stigma attached to texting.. funnily enough, our phones are always attached to our hands at all times & we'll reply back to friends INSTANTLY without feeling like we're desperate! Funny how dating works!
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I LOVE THIS LOL! I LOVE HER ENERGY! U GO GIRL
10K today, 1Milli tomorrow! Keep em coming girl! xo :)
I love you're outlook. The same goes for men. Needy people... as desperation is a nasty stench...
I came back to watch this again....and again....because I need this stuff drilled into my brain! Sometimes you send that text, or message, or whatever, because you want to & you are just being yourself which is totally cool....and sometimes you need to take a step back and realize you are headed into familiar territory & starting to chase this guy. No thank you! If you can't SEE me dude, then you are gonna miss out! Thanks for the redirect, Amy!!!
Jen C so texting someone who you are romantically interested in is considered chasing to you?
OMG U ARE A GODSEND THANK GOD FOR YOU GIRL AWESOMENESS
Ahh. I am so this. I find myself trying to promote myself for him to see and he never will.
F%$# I love you! Like seriously though you're amazing 💜 always saying what I need to hear, speaking like you're talking at me and slapping me in the face with truths
Amazing mantra and fantastic delivery and perspective, refreshing and insightful - subscribed 😄
So happy I found you on UA-cam!! You are soo awesome!! Thank you for your extremely helpful content- sending much love your way!! ❤️❤️❤️
Guy will not chase if women, who keep showing, he can’t win, so acting as if your not interested in him, is dumb! If you like him, talk to him, how is he going to know how good you are when you hide who you are from him!
Met a guy, he did feel like I was just great already, broke up with him, think maybe I wasn't ready for that...Not sure what to make of not being ready for that. Even when something's really nurturing, why is it you can not feel ready for it?
Wait for this every week never disappoints! X
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You are so cool Amy!! Totally dig what you have to offer and the advice you give!!
Ok, explain this to me.. why would a girl displays signs of interest (laughing at everything you say, slight teasing, actually providing questions in a conversation, give her number out) text a bit, then slowly stop responding -- then completely act uninterested to the point where they ignore you & then reject you.
I left out some detail, but you get the point... why do girls do this shit? Like why give out your number in the first place.
As a guy, if I ask for your number after blatantly making it obvious that I'm romantically interested & you give the number to me, I'm gonna assume there's some level of mutual attraction..
To answer your question, girls like that are a tease.
Solution provide: stay away from those.
Tell it as it is. You are a God sent. We are mentally skilled here. Bravo
Thank you Amy...I am f*cking laughing out loud, this is reality slap for me. Awesome video n nice expressions😂😂
I chase, convince, and coerce NO MAN
As a guy, I found this video very interesting. Girls don't have to chase us guys, but they should definiely show that they are interested. From my experience, most guys if they see the girl is not interested in them, will not continue to waste their time. A lot of guys don't believe that you should have to convince someone to love you, but rather you just present yourself, and show either interest or disinteresy.
I've literally watched this everyday for the last five days. Thank you for this message!
This is awesome! :) Just found your page yesterday! I love this you're awesome!
Hahaha I laughed so hard and relate WAY too much. This is so on point! Thanks and much love and peace. I chase, convince, and coerce no one!
I have been talking to this guy online for one month and few weeks. We were heading to relationship but he wasn’t given me time so I went crazy on him and that pushed him away from me. I was overly attached to him. We still both have feelings for each other. So past 5-7 days, I texted him this, “ hey I can’t be friends with you. I need to move on to find a person who wants to be with me. The reality is you do not want me and it’s hurting me”
He hasn’t even replied back. I wonder why. Is he respecting my boundaries? Or he is being an asshole by not saying anything. Or he simply doesn’t care about me. Would he contact me back in the coming future? Did I made the right decision?
P.S. I work at the airport at the USA side and he is flying out to Florida in June or July. I have no idea how I will react around him. We haven’t seen each other
@2:24 This is where a dude will say i love or want to be with you .Next the girl responds as such that was fast,turns ship the other deriction ,and or she thinks he's desperate. (id really like to see what this girl in her late 20's can bring to a realtionship)Girl doing this shit is why your still single(giving up is the wrong anwser)Another reason why men dont want to be with girls like you bc the know they can get girl in 18's(legal age/consent).
My regards,
Arthxe
This is so true! thank you so much for this video! I needed that!
yupp! You never catch up when you're chasing but I'm still waiting for somebody to chase me - 11 years of being single now.
Been waiting for this vid since this morning :D thanks!!
The guy I am seeing started ignoring me, so I blocked him out of everywhere. This was an awful day for me, I thought I’m gonna go mad or suicidal. I can’t believe I was given something nice and now they take it from me. It felt like drug addiction.
Second time watching this. The first time I just watched for fun, now I'm on the situation. Funny thing: watching it the same day!!! Yeayyyy
Love you Amy!!
watching this on the 28th of December 2016 and thank youuuuu so so much for this video! I needed to hear this and you did help me a lot!
where were you a month ago!! I could have stop wasting my time a long time ago
thanks for the video 😘 ur energy is so beautiful ♥️
You're amazing! Love your advices and you're soooo funny! Please keep doing video you are making my day better! :)
Seriously I wish I would have found you earlier... but I think I did at the right time. I would love to meet you one day and glean on your wisdom 🙌🏾💕
This girl won't stop chasing me she's obsessed with me and I don't like her she chases me everywhere in college and I'm honestly scared of her I feel like she will do something and it makes me dislike her even more please don't chase anyone this women is right
I freaking love this channel!!!!💓
I really need to stop chasing this guy I love I need to give him space even though he's in my class.
You have such helpful videos thank you so much! Cos I really need this right now
As a happy single man I don't have to chase any woman for my romantic interests. I am more than happy in the friend zone.
Omg I've been watching these all day. Haha already taken, but this advice works on many levels & with friends too.
Hello.. Im so confused right now. He greet me on our 2 years and 2 month anniversary. And we had a long talk about our future and we had little misunderstanding about future. Right now I get his point and there is nothing wrong about what he said. But when I replied he suddenly logout without seeing my replied. And i check his Mobile Legend account and hes playing mobile games. I suddenly feel like "Why? Why he choose to play online games rather than read my replied? What I did right now is that i texted him that im so upset that he choose to play games rather than talkled to me on our special day. And after that Im planning not to go online until i dont know. I need tou opinion. Thank you
This FUCKING SPOKE to me everything you said! Even the unsubscribe part was just perfect (he does youtube) Love you Xx
This advice would go better for guys, since 90% or more of the time, the guy has to approach the female and doing most of the chasing after isn't it?
Nope. Men start the courtship, women chase. A real man will value a woman who does this.
You are so gorgeous! love your hair, your face (reminds me of Winona Ryder), and you speak volumes of wisdom. xoxo
I CHASE, CONVINCE & COUERSE NO MAN!
Amy, great advise. You just save me.... What a motivation, n you helped me by taking off a big load from my shoulder.
Amy reminds me so much of Debra from 'Dexter'
this girl is hilarseou...any way she s funny.
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These vids have helped my sanity lol they’ve brought me back from rock bottom I thought I had completely lost my shit
i love your statements @amy young so powerful and convincing 😀
Woow ur good thank u for the advice it really changed my life
For some reason, I feel like she could be a great actor 👌🏻
I just met you but i love you gal!!! You are amazing 🙌🏻
you are amazing... im gonna stop chasing after him now... not worth for my effort!!! love ya
Shamveena Sham1988 I'm curious to know your definition of chasing?