I Dodged Colorism As A Dark Skin Woman | Beauty and Perception
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- Опубліковано 27 лют 2024
- In this video I talk about my experience with colorism, featurism and texturism and it may surprise you.
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ppl thought that because I was “white washed” that I’ll get a white husband.
Being dark skin was never a problem for me. My 4c hair was what I used to be insecure about. But when I was 18, I started loving my own hair.
That's beautiful, I love this comment.
@@PrettyEyesz thank you 😊
Omg!!! You are not 48!!!??? I thought you were 32 or something!! You look amazing!
You had confidence and probably had black pride that people notice. When you're confident people notice it and give you respect because they can't break you.
This!!! I’ve learned from being on both sides of the spectrum.
Hello and great video .
I am considered black in Mexico because of my Afro features .
Growing up I was teased by some kids for my features . That always made me feel sad because they were being malicious. Before that , my step father was the first to bring up color and he is a racist for sure
He i fact bullied me growing up
And he called me so many names for my black features that at one point I resented being black .
Then there were the others
Relatives that pointed out and were mesmerized by me so I was always kinda confused by color. Then I’m 6 foot tall , I don’t look like the typical chicana and gravitated more towards back Puertorriquens , Colombians , Dominicans …. BC I felt more welcomed and at home with them.
No 5’6 short Mexican was ever looking for me,
I dated more black and white then any other Latinos .
Colorism happens in the Latino community for sure .
So I taught my kids that dark skin is beautiful and made a point to show proof for their self esteem.
The fact that those girls called you “darkie” at 15 proves you did not “dodge colorism” as a dark skinned person. This topic is complex, so societal norms and biases will color everyone’s experience differently, but these systems-sexism, racism, colorism, texturism, etc.-all affect us. No one is “safe.” I believe that certain privileges can delay our exposure to prejudice, though only for so long. Pretty privilege sure helped me. It took a while for me to experience colorism (at the hands of a Black boy), but my mom did such a great job of affirming me and instilling self-esteem in me as a child, that when it happened, I literally thought he had mental health issues. Even my fair skinned friends who were there were perplexed because I was undoubtedly attractive. It wasn’t until he admitted that I wasn’t ugly, but that he just “didn’t like dark skinned girls” that I realized he was just prejudiced. So to reiterate, NO ONE is “safe” from bigotry. Humans will ALWAYS try to recreate hierarchy.
Those girls? Literally 1 girl. Thanks for sharing your experience.
One light skinned girl for you, one Black boy for me…all it takes is one.
...but who lets it scar them? She escaped being damaged. Hang on to the thoughts of others all you want, but why should everyone internalize it?
@@exoticallovergirl SMH, that’s not the point. She gives an example about how she experienced the very thing she claims to have “dodged.” This is a blatant contradiction. My emphasis is on the broader issue of societal biases rather than whether or not she personally internalized that specific instance. Frederick Douglass “didn’t internalize” the racism he undoubtedly experienced and went on to achieve great things, but imagine him claiming to have dodged it because perhaps he experienced it less than others of his time. And ok she “escaped damage” and experienced it less than others around her, good for her! Now, how do we dismantle it?
She has small features, though. Her nose is small and looks 'euro centric'. Also, she claims that she got Male attention from Non-BM, only. Where was the love from BM? And the gaze of a Non-BM is still the Male gaze.
From what I can tell: black American women that have a father, and or mother that truly adores them do not have self-esteem issues interpreted as colorism.
Your household sounds a lot like mine growing up...My dad was the same as you described yours lol...24/7..ANYTHING you talked about. I'm also 1 of 6 children. God Bless you sis♥
Colourism = not getting the person you want
Girl you said "back in the 80s" I was shooook cause you loook like you're in your 20s
It means that you had a high level of self-esteem that your father is still in you with all that black power talk. And even though you didn’t understand it, you were given off a high sense of self-confidence and pride. You did not lose self-pity and being ashamed of your blackness, the freedom in the comfortability of you in your own skin told that to the whole world. They saw that you were comfortable in your blackness comfortable in your own skin and you didn’t hold your head down in apologize for being you.
They saw a black young girl, who believed in herself, and was not bothered by the opinions of others, because those stories your father told you built up your mental strength beyond your understanding.
I wish all a little black girls had a father like yours.
Be well, my sister.
I'm not sure if you have ever heard of the phrase "acceptable/safe black" but from how you look, the way you speak/carry yourself, and from your experiences i would say you fall in this category where your "blackness" is respected more/challenged less compared to those who are seen as the stereotypical BW. I say this as a BW who has been called "safe black" before by all races and have benefited from colorism(brown skin), featurism(smaller facial features), and texturism (looser hair texture 4a/3c).
I have never heard of this wow! None of these conversations were had with me my whole life and I wonder why. I was in the Caribbean for the entire winter 2022 and got about 2 shades darker. I'm going to post photos in the community tab. Even with my tan, do you think I still fall into this acceptable black?
@@nomakeupneeded1029 I was able to view your community post (firstly I have to agree with everyone commenting how beautiful you are and the fits are slaying ❤) but from what I could tell 3/5 of the photos posted you could still fall under this safe black category. In 2 of the photos you appear to be dark skin now this could be due to the lighting( either making you look lighter or darker than you were in person). I wonder what your experiences in America would be like if you were this shade? but this highlights the devious nature of being a so called safe black, if you become "too dark" you have a higher chance of experiencing colorism...speaking from personal experience growing up as a kid who played outside I began to view summer as a curse because I would get darker and people would mention it(although not always in a bullying manner) I would wear long pants and shirts to cover my skin as to not get darker. Thankfully I no longer have this complex about my skin tone but it took years of learning about, accepting, and understanding the trauma I experienced from the discrimination I faced to get to the place where I am at now.
I would have to agree with this! I’ve been assumed to like white boys but I think it’s less in how I act and more my features. I have more European features or they would be like “you have pretty eyes go get a white boy”. So with her I think it’s less features and more how she acts. It’s an interesting conversation for sure
@dess3050 Not at all, skin color is on a spectrum it's easy to see if you aren't colorist
New subscriber. Love your talking points. ❤💐
You have an essence.✨ That beats type. I love how you are honest about your experience yet still acknowledge the colorism you recalled from people around you. I’m Haitian and I agree with you about the complexion spectrum. You’re either light or dark. The “brown skin” thing is weird.
You look very young for your age
It is refreshing to see a woman of your body structure and skin type to be so down to earth with your upbringing.
Much love to your Father who instilled Self Love into you ❤
You exude Beauty and Confidence ❤
And didn’t Buy into the BS❤️
Colorism has created a mess in the Blk community.
@samarmolix-marshall4452 - How do you suggest we eradicate it?
@@nomakeupneeded1029 everyone must decide for themselves to reject Eurocentric beauty standards, and teach future generations to do the same.
Im an African living in the States. You look African to me. We have beautiful women all over Africa. If you loved in any country in Africa, you would blend in with them
She looks African cos that’s what she is. I’m Nigerian and proud 😊
The Whitney Houston/ Diane Ross/ Kelly Roland, Janae Monet, Dianne Carol features- slim, straighter nose, dainty shoulders,
Her blackness is not in your face/ doesn't make them uncomfortable. She's in that category that her color or body type is not intimidating.
I absolutely love this video! Thank you for addressing this viewpoint! It's not something I can freely discuss with most Black people.
You're in NYC? I'd love to meet you and trade stories! Your experience parallels my own! Your father sounds like my grandpa. You sound like my mother and me.
However, imo you *do not* have "full lips"! Especially your top lip! I'd call your lips "standard issue". I bet you've never been called "liver lips" to your face! 💋 😆
PS - I get excited about bones! I'm totally into ribs and collar bones showing! 😀
I think you dodged colorism because your skin is neither light nor dark. You’re brown skinned. I find that brown skinned people don’t generally have negative experiences regarding their skin tone.
@HarrisPilton789 - I have only recently been called "brown skin" and specifically on UA-cam never in person. My whole life I have been considered dark.
Your dad did right 💯💯💯
The reason why I stopped considering people brown skinned is because people will consider someone like Terrence Howard light skinned but will call Tyla who has a similar complexion brown skinned. Nah! I’m not doing that. You’re either light skinned or dark skinned. Most Black people consider Denzel, Washington Brown skin when he’s clearly dark skinned. Why?
I'm new to this whole conversation, I never enveloped myself in it.
@@nomakeupneeded1029 You’re better off. 😂
I am on the dark spectrum but people have always complimented my skin tone. It always made me uncomfortable because it’s weird to me to care about that. I feel lucky to not experience this foolishness. Colorism was an issue with my mom but luckily she did not pass that silly complex down to me and I did not pass that complex to my kids either. Being the “white type” just means you attract white men & are receptive to them.
You are a beautiful woman. Although you are black you don’t possess exaggerated/strong facial features. I believe it is none threatening and when you smile your teeth are sparkling white. Your eyes are small as well, which can be enhanced with makeup. You can even appear very plain if you dress down for a role. However, you can be made up to ultra sexy if that’s what you want. Being thinner you are very attractive. Not overly thin. You’re lovely as far as am concerned.
As a black woman myself, am also questioned about ethnicity. However, I have what one would call Nubian features. I also attract the Asians and white male gaze. This made me uncomfortable because it made me feel fetishized. I’ve also attracted West Indian and men from Africa. Rarely Black American men.
I don't think any darker-skinned black woman can dodge colorism, any more than they can dodge racism or sexism. It's ingrained in this society. That doesn't mean it had to tie you down. You can still fly high despite it, and I think it has a lot to do with how confident you are, how you navigate spaces, and how you learn to cut your losses. You might've not felt it because these qualities are inherently part of who you are, but not everyone is like that. Some of us grew up with insecurity issues. Some of us didn't know how to navigate certain spaces, or how to accept rejection gracefully.
31:01 this part, guys always ask me am I mixed smh
You should have told those girlsthe only reason they are yellow is because they are mix with white thats the white part of them
Not all lighter skinned Women and biracials are light due to Whiteness. Get a clue. Whites are not the only people on earth with lighter skin.
Northern Sudanese people are NOT all dark with "strong" features. It literally borders Egypt. Some of those people have lighter skin, looser hair, keener features... Africa is diverse.
@redj2045- Thank you for educating me. I have never visited the country but I’ve worked with many and every single one looked as I described.
@@nomakeupneeded1029 of course! they were likely souther sudanese. Same with Ethiopia. Southern Ethiopians tend to look like west and central africans while northern Ethiopians are lighter with keen features.. Loved the video!
Your nose is small to me.
Her nose is flared and broad
Babe I don’t think your dark skin, when i think of dark skin, i think of lupita
I was thinking this too.
Interesting. I'm my opinion dark skin doesn't begin at Lupita. There are many shades of dark. Kelly Rowland is dark. Tika Sumpter is also dark but not as dark as Lupita.
@@nomakeupneeded1029 darkskin indeed doesn't start at Lupita. But I wouldn't consider you darkskin either. I'm in between your shade and Lupita's shade. And still some consider me brown skin. But even if you were to be considered darkskin, there's definitely something like being the ''acceptable'' darkskin, speaking from experience. So I would recommend to keep that in consideration and mentioning that when making videos like this. Because it might come of as inconsiderate towards women who are ''undeniably darkskin''. I know that isn't your intention, but I just wanted to give that as advice
@@rl.8011 i agree with you, i dont think she is dark skinned. more brown skin
She is definitely consider brown skin over dark skin to me which is consider "safe" skin and can be a factor for why she was protected from experiencing colorism to the same degree as someone who is dark skin
I think there may be a generational bias for you to claim that the 70s and 80s was a pinnacle time for colorism. The US population is slated to be majority mixed race by the year 2050. Those of us in Gen Z were born into a generation were there is a large demographic of mixed race people , particularly with black fathers. We also grew up in a time when Latinos made up a larger minority than black. With that comes a long history of colorism implemented and brought here from various other cultures. Social media played a large part in who we were told is beautiful. Black is not it. If she has a nice body, she gets a pass but she is still not considered a better catch than someone with a lighter skin tone. The world favors lighter skin period and no one gate keeps and upholds that philosophy more than a black guy in this day and age.
Thank you for your comment. What else did you gain from my video?
Why in America you guys are so obsess with colour and race what's wrong with you guys
Remnants of the effects of slavery in America. Slavery lasted from 1619 to 1865. Segregation did not end until 1954. It hasn’t been very long. Google it. Colorism originated from slavery.
You think it’s just America? So many countries in Africa have skin bleaching products at every mf store. India had a whole cast system and dark people are still seen as below light people. It’s a problem in every single culture where there is people of color
There is lots of skin bleaching going on in Africa, so colorism is not exclusively an American phenomenon.
@@samaramolix-marshall4452 No l Disagree with you the level of self hate in America between black brown and mixed race is unbelievable has a black woman in America their believe now is marrying a white man is now the solution that is self hate
Dark skin is gorgeous. We Scorpio women love love darkness and the color black. The thing is .....I am a power monger, I got a nose job, have hair extensions and I a straighten my hair, and I also bleach my skin. I like to manipulate people to get nice things.
I love your channel nevertheless and always.
🥴 You seem a little crazy.
Manipulateee????
@@AminaPhilosophy no way bleach cream is big even in Africa
@@cutiepiea3687 well if men like lighter women and they are willing to spend more on lighter women like miss mulatto vs mash doll yeah manipulate they didn’t know I was born dark they wouldn’t even give my fucking time of day
I applaud you for being honest! I’m Caribbean and considered dark skin. I bleach my skin too, I have a straight nose,but it’s a bit flared. I want a nose job so bad. Ever since I got lighter people assume I’m half Latina. My mother is what they call “red skin” in the islands. She always told me that she wishes I was lighter. I love being a black woman, but I’m benefiting from manipulating my features for sure.
Damn your as old as my parents 💀💀💀. I’m 20 💀💀💀.