Key phrase. "We gave what WE thought each of you needed". Did they ever ASK what OP needed or wanted, beyond the tools? Not just mom and dad, but the siblings. Being invisible and "less than" carries with you throughout your life. I'm still working on mine.
I'm still working on mine and I'm over 75.especially since I, as the oldest, was called to buy what my siblings needed. I have a feeling that mom never told the siblings that it wasn't her that granted their wishes.
me too. I'm the middle child of two boys , from parents who were both raised that boys are great girls are to cook and clean. They got whatever hobbies they wanted paid for. I had to pay for my own.
Yes it is. Bit this screamed, you are not important and I don't love you or not as much. I would not even come home anymore Only for a birthday to be polite. So like twice or 3 times a year. Which is exactly what I did.
Being the gifted daughter with extremely gifted offspring was reason to abuse and to cut out of will. The Golden Child could do no wrong and her ugly stupid son and wife etc took everything. Lies and manipulated too. A lifetime of spite and jealousy directed at me and mine.
I’m pretty sure the same person or group of people narrate these scripts. Because they have so many they basically just change names and minor alterations. Not a bad way to make money, but I agree some new story lines would be helpful. More stories that don’t feature the wicked MIL and her mamas boy adult sons.
I’m so tired of people think their birthday is a a high holy day. Birthdays are nice and fun recognition of you but after a while you should reach the conclusion that it’s the recognition of your worth and their love that matters and that people should receive that every day. Laziness is only providing that once a year..
It shouldn't be equal but there shouldn't be great difference. A handicapped and special needs child may cost more and the cost of all colleges are not the same. However, parents shouldn't pay for the college of their three favorite children and refuse to pay the college expenses of the fourth child. They shouldn't buy expensive new cars for some children and a bike or some inexpensive used care for another child.
Well you sure have a good family ,they were worried about you when you went to the park to let off steam. When you showed them the amount they gave their other kids .they understood and your problem is solved,be thankful ,
You don't have to give every child the same. I as a grandma don't even do because my grandchildren are all their own person with their own needs. One of my grandchildren always want explore, go to musea, the zoo, theatre and thinks like that. His brothers is the happiest when we stay at home and just spend quality time and showing interest in what he is designing on his computer and cook his favorite food. But at birthdays, Christmas, report cards, money for the fair and just giving randomly they all get the same amount of money. I don't make a distinguish about who needs it more than the other. That is just not fair. The disproportionately difference between $200,000 and $7000 is also way to much. It says, I don't love you. You are not important to me. Special because all 3 siblings got $200,000 and he was the only one who did not.
My mother gave my brother money for a car and a house. She got him new clothes for high school and gave me his old clothes. When he dropped out of high school and I continued. She still purchased clothes to him and not for me. I had a neighbor to help him with the drive way and his yard. He took me down to JC Penney's and I used my money to purchase 1 shirt and 1 pair of pants. Then he had the lady show me 5 more shirts and pants and I said when I go back to school I will try to mow more yards and come back. The lady said do you like these and I said yes and she said they have all been paid for and I could take them home and I did and put them in my closet. I told the man, I will help you with what ever you need. He said, David, I have seen how your mother treats Bobby like he walks on water and he is evil and lazy. I thought he really knows the truth. Well both mom and Bobby died and I am still alive with nothing but hatred for them both. He got a car and a house and I was made to go into the Army.
There’s feel and there’s data. My parents had different rules for each of us. My sister got way more help with everything. When I asked my mom she said that they re evaluated things and realized they were too harsh. But it never stopped. When I got married my parents stuck us with their dinner bill the night prior. They didn’t contribute one minute of effort or one dime of money. When my sister got married they gave her 12k. I can continue. It’s nit a feeling when there is actual data. It’s not about fair share. It’s about biased treatment that parents don’t want to admit to. I reminded my mom of her ex husband. And she disliked me as a result. M sister looked like my aunt and my mom preferred her. Ironically when she was at the end of her life and in the hospital I was the one there. My kids were brought to see her. She loved her grandchildren. My sister would not allow my niece to visit. What did my mom complain about? The one grandchild she didn’t get to see in the end, my mom’s favoritism damaged both of us but more damage to my sister than to me. As the golden child my sister was raised to expect to be catered to and she is divorced twice now and very unhappy. She feels cheated because our parents didn’t buy her a house. 😂. We bought our own house. So no, it’s not a feeling. That’s statement is someone who had a golden child and doesn’t give a crap about
Did HE ever ask his parents for help or specify that he would like help with his tuition even though HE CHOSE a less expensive State school. Did they ever refuse him what he asked for? Did he carry a chip on his shoulder because he didn't ask but compared himself to his siblings? Didn't he need a car or a place of his own? Were his parents supposed to read his mind? Yes, sometimes you do give based on need though nobody NEEDS a six figure wedding or expensive vacation. What did the sibs study at Ivy League that they hadn't started earning a good salary? On the same hand what gave this child the right to go snooping through his parent's bank records and listening at keyholes to discover what his siblings were getting that he wasn't. "I am getting too much. It isn't fair." said no person ever. What message was he telegraphing to his parents that caused them to think that he needed less. How were they supposed to know that he was equating "needing less" with "less than" and counting every gift to his siblings as a slight to him. Then he has to put them on trial with himself as accuser and judge. In this instance I don't think the parents were playing favorites so much as responding to the boldest most demanding children.
It is not always fair to be equal. There are often children that need more and in order to be fair you have to give by need. I have a disabled son. He needs more. My sister went through a divorce after 36 years of marriage. She did not have money to hire a lawyer and her husband was being more than unfair. Our mother had to pay for the attorney, about 30,000. She has the blessing of my other sister my brother and myself eve though it came from the money we would inherit. Why? Because it was the right thing to do even if we get less money in the end.
Michael sounds like a spoiled brat in his own way. There are always children who are overlooked when in comparison to the other sibling(s). It has been that way for centuries.
Yes, but it shouldn’t be by hundreds of thousands of dollars. Parents paid Ivy League college tuition but only gave OP $7000 that isn’t even in the same category. Parents knew exactly what was happening and their excuses are lame. They are guilty of neglect and we love you all the same in this case is a complete lie. They all knew but decided it was okay. I have children and yes we gave them what they needed but it was always as equal and transparent as it could be. Bought them cars and we paid almost them same amount for those cars. Helped with college and setting up apartments we gave them The same. Christmas we spent almost the same amount. Weddings we gave them their share and what was left was theirs. You need to be upfront and honest with your kids because they are keeping track.
What did he want ? he got his tools what would he spend 193 thousand on,he lives at home,he is fed not in debt,if he had gone to a ivy league i. Sure he would have got his student loans paid.spoiling your sister's birthday was nasty,,when he moves out maybe parents will help.I think children should learn to pay their own way,and parent step in during emergencies, they will receive a share of the families wealth when their parents die,he does play the victim
In what reality is it even remotely fair for one child out of four to have to pay for his own college, while the other three get parent paid free rides to expensive ivy league schools?
Key phrase. "We gave what WE thought each of you needed". Did they ever ASK what OP needed or wanted, beyond the tools? Not just mom and dad, but the siblings. Being invisible and "less than" carries with you throughout your life. I'm still working on mine.
I'm still working on mine and I'm over 75.especially since I, as the oldest, was called to buy what my siblings needed. I have a feeling that mom never told the siblings that it wasn't her that granted their wishes.
me too. I'm the middle child of two boys , from parents who were both raised that boys are great girls are to cook and clean. They got whatever hobbies they wanted paid for. I had to pay for my own.
This is a refreshing story, with the family understanding and trying to make amends.
Why do I have a feeling that Michael got about 100k to 250K at max. while the siblings got far over a million each.
It’s a balancing act, sometimes there’s a gifted child, but parents should give as evenly as possible.
Yes it is. Bit this screamed, you are not important and I don't love you or not as much.
I would not even come home anymore Only for a birthday to be polite. So like twice or 3 times a year. Which is exactly what I did.
Being the gifted daughter with extremely gifted offspring was reason to abuse and to cut out of will. The Golden Child could do no wrong and her ugly stupid son and wife etc took everything. Lies and manipulated too. A lifetime of spite and jealousy directed at me and mine.
ONCE AGAIN ANOTHER STORY THAT REPETE'S REPETE'S REPETE'S WHY
Spelling, spelling, spelling.
I’m pretty sure the same person or group of people narrate these scripts. Because they have so many they basically just change names and minor alterations. Not a bad way to make money, but I agree some new story lines would be helpful. More stories that don’t feature the wicked MIL and her mamas boy adult sons.
Well done
Parents shd always treat their kids the same.
Support all equally
Interesting story.
Glad you think so!
One paragraph said or narrated twice.
It happens 😳
The father must have paternity questions about you Michael.
Just walk away and forget them they are not worth the effort
Should have been divided equally
I’m so tired of people think their birthday is a a high holy day. Birthdays are nice and fun recognition of you but after a while you should reach the conclusion that it’s the recognition of your worth and their love that matters and that people should receive that every day. Laziness is only providing that once a year..
It shouldn't be equal but there shouldn't be great difference. A handicapped and special needs child may cost more and the cost of all colleges are not the same. However, parents shouldn't pay for the college of their three favorite children and refuse to pay the college expenses of the fourth child. They shouldn't buy expensive new cars for some children and a bike or some inexpensive used care for another child.
I would have not even attended. Not all kids are equal. These narrassitic people are horrible
I like it, this happened to me, I stayed away & married for 45 years my husband gave me what l need. Thank god l finished with everything?
Michael should have moved out and let the rest of decision if and how to solve the problem.
Well you sure have a good family ,they were worried about you when you went to the park to let off steam. When you showed them the amount they gave their other kids .they understood and your problem is solved,be thankful ,
Equility
Why do story start all over again
Share and share alike.
You don't have to give every child the same. I as a grandma don't even do because my grandchildren are all their own person with their own needs. One of my grandchildren always want explore, go to musea, the zoo, theatre and thinks like that. His brothers is the happiest when we stay at home and just spend quality time and showing interest in what he is designing on his computer and cook his favorite food. But at birthdays, Christmas, report cards, money for the fair and just giving randomly they all get the same amount of money. I don't make a distinguish about who needs it more than the other. That is just not fair.
The disproportionately difference between $200,000 and $7000 is also way to much. It says, I don't love you. You are not important to me.
Special because all 3 siblings got $200,000 and he was the only one who did not.
Equality....someone will always feel like they did not get their fair share
My mother gave my brother money for a car and a house. She got him new clothes for high school and gave me his old clothes. When he dropped out of high school and I continued. She still purchased clothes to him and not for me. I had a neighbor to help him with the drive way and his yard. He took me down to JC Penney's and I used my money to purchase 1 shirt and 1 pair of pants. Then he had the lady show me 5 more shirts and pants and I said when I go back to school I will try to mow more yards and come back. The lady said do you like these and I said yes and she said they have all been paid for and I could take them home and I did and put them in my closet. I told the man, I will help you with what ever you need. He said, David, I have seen how your mother treats Bobby like he walks on water and he is evil and lazy. I thought he really knows the truth. Well both mom and Bobby died and I am still alive with nothing but hatred for them both. He got a car and a house and I was made to go into the Army.
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There’s feel and there’s data. My parents had different rules for each of us. My sister got way more help with everything. When I asked my mom she said that they re evaluated things and realized they were too harsh. But it never stopped. When I got married my parents stuck us with their dinner bill the night prior. They didn’t contribute one minute of effort or one dime of money. When my sister got married they gave her 12k. I can continue. It’s nit a feeling when there is actual data. It’s not about fair share. It’s about biased treatment that parents don’t want to admit to. I reminded my mom of her ex husband. And she disliked me as a result. M sister looked like my aunt and my mom preferred her. Ironically when she was at the end of her life and in the hospital I was the one there. My kids were brought to see her. She loved her grandchildren. My sister would not allow my niece to visit. What did my mom complain about? The one grandchild she didn’t get to see in the end, my mom’s favoritism damaged both of us but more damage to my sister than to me. As the golden child my sister was raised to expect to be catered to and she is divorced twice now and very unhappy. She feels cheated because our parents didn’t buy her a house. 😂. We bought our own house. So no, it’s not a feeling. That’s statement is someone who had a golden child and doesn’t give a crap about
Heard the same story told in a much shorter way .
Did HE ever ask his parents for help or specify that he would like help with his tuition even though HE CHOSE a less expensive State school. Did they ever refuse him what he asked for? Did he carry a chip on his shoulder because he didn't ask but compared himself to his siblings? Didn't he need a car or a place of his own? Were his parents supposed to read his mind? Yes, sometimes you do give based on need though nobody NEEDS a six figure wedding or expensive vacation. What did the sibs study at Ivy League that they hadn't started earning a good salary? On the same hand what gave this child the right to go snooping through his parent's bank records and listening at keyholes to discover what his siblings were getting that he wasn't. "I am getting too much. It isn't fair." said no person ever. What message was he telegraphing to his parents that caused them to think that he needed less. How were they supposed to know that he was equating "needing less" with "less than" and counting every gift to his siblings as a slight to him. Then he has to put them on trial with himself as accuser and judge. In this
instance I don't think the parents were playing favorites so much as responding to the boldest most demanding children.
did he choose a state school or was that what he could get loans for?
the other children got their fees paid- without asking
he had to get loans
It is not always fair to be equal. There are often children that need more and in order to be fair you have to give by need. I have a disabled son. He needs more. My sister went through a divorce after 36 years of marriage. She did not have money to hire a lawyer and her husband was being more than unfair. Our mother had to pay for the attorney, about 30,000. She has the blessing of my other sister my brother and myself eve though it came from the money we would inherit. Why? Because it was the right thing to do even if we get less money in the end.
Of course people with disabilities need more, but that's usually essential equipment, and I can't believe that any sibling would object to that.
too much repeat at the end
Michael sounds like a spoiled brat in his own way. There are always children who are overlooked when in comparison to the other sibling(s). It has been that way for centuries.
Yes, but it shouldn’t be by hundreds of thousands of dollars. Parents paid Ivy League college tuition but only gave OP $7000 that isn’t even in the same category. Parents knew exactly what was happening and their excuses are lame. They are guilty of neglect and we love you all the same in this case is a complete lie. They all knew but decided it was okay.
I have children and yes we gave them what they needed but it was always as equal and transparent as it could be. Bought them cars and we paid almost them same amount for those cars. Helped with college and setting up apartments we gave them The same. Christmas we spent almost the same amount. Weddings we gave them their share and what was left was theirs. You need to be upfront and honest with your kids because they are keeping track.
a spoilt brat is one who is used to getting EVERYTHING handed to them. He is finally saying why the heck am I treated differently.
What did he want ? he got his tools what would he spend 193 thousand on,he lives at home,he is fed not in debt,if he had gone to a ivy league i. Sure he would have got his student loans paid.spoiling your sister's birthday was nasty,,when he moves out maybe parents will help.I think children should learn to pay their own way,and parent step in during emergencies, they will receive a share of the families wealth when their parents die,he does play the victim
Michael is being a crybaby. He ask for tools and he got tools.
Defensive, you seem.
Wow! I’m glad @judy wells wasn’t my parent.
In what reality is it even remotely fair for one child out of four to have to pay for his own college, while the other three get parent paid free rides to expensive ivy league schools?
Not the point! Each kid should have got the same amount.