The Hidden Struggles of New Dad Jealousy | Dad University
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I think that a lot of men feel left out during the pregnancy, which in turn seems to make the man feel pushed away. That seems to make a man feel like he's not supposed to be around after the baby's born, like he's in the way. Could be the starting point of dads not being closer to their children, imo.
I'm sorry but if a father is feeling jealous of a bond between a mother and his child, he's probably not going to be a very good father. If men are getting jealous of babies, they are babies. Yikes 😬
Acknowledging and processing feelings actually will make you a good father. We may have different definitions.
“Nobody worries about dads” because dad’s life is not at risk. Women die all the time from pregnancy/birth… Fussing over them makes complete sense. As life is created, death lingers in the same room. Hopefully it’s merely marking the end of who they were/what their body was before parenthood, but often the outcome is worse.
There’s a metaphorical death of who the father was too, but the consequences are less severe.
A man standing in his integrity will put his ego aside and devote himself entirely to the needs of his pregnant wife. She’s giving him the greatest gift imaginable, and it’s his role to be in servitude. There’s so much beauty in that.
Anyone who can’t zoom out and see the bigger picture should do more internal work before becoming a parent, because that level of selfishness and small-minded thinking indicates a childish mentality. Too many men act like their wives children as it is, and too many women enable it.
Not to mention that the greatest threat to a woman’s life when she’s pregnant is a man ending it.
Understand that you were conditioned by society as a man to believe everything is about/for you. Becoming a dad means that maybe the first time in your life, nothing is. If complicated feelings arise, explore them - but try to do so with some perspective.
Then he should be a part of that time, that bond. We, as mothers are automatically going to do it, the dad has to take the initiative and also grow tf up if he is jealous of a baby, especially his own baby!
Yes he does need to grow and be part of it. That is a little different than just identifying feelings.
Sorry, but yes. Grow up. You are expected to suck it up and be strong. Being jealous of YOUR child is not healthy and very immature. Mothers “suck it up” a lot.
Ahh yes, the "do not feel anything or talk about anything" philosophy. That has worked really well for men.
Way to generalize and victimize. A mother being jealous of her baby is wrong as well. This is a family unit and fathers need to jump in and bond by caring for their child instead of complaining about not getting enough attention from their partners who is most likely hormonal and exhausted.
My experience was the opposite. He didn't care about the attention before the baby and I was ignored after. He had all the attention because he was a new girl dad.