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- HOW TO DEAL WITH A PARTNER WHO IS MEAN, BELITTLING, AND PUTS ME DOWN? | The #AskNick Show #13 | Is your partner mean to you? Does he or she put you down and belittles you? If that is the case, you need to explore if this type of relationship is healthy for you. I cannot answer that for you. When it comes to this topic, it comes back to your own personal boundaries and self-worth. What are you ok and not ok with. It's not the other person. You need to take a honest look at yourself and your relationship in order to make that decision.
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I hate how my spouse makes me feel, he makes me feel bad and I'm not good enough for him. Every time I tell him about how he makes me feel, we get into bad arguements. It makes me want to cry. I'm so tired of it
Hi brandy. Thank you for taking the time to watch this video. I'm sorry to hear your situation. That's unfortunate. Have you considered any type of counseling?
There is never smoke without fire!!
Same,🙁
I know the feeling as well.
I understand your pain girl.. its like talking to a brick wall... it's hard to deal with especially if you love them
For those who need to hear it… I decided to leave. I was willing to go anywhere, a shelter, a roommate situation, anything. I was willing to take whatever judgement from others, friends and family but I decided to leave. It DOES boil down to feeling like you don’t deserve that and you deserve to be treated with respect and love and when you’re tired, you’ll leave. The peace after leaving will be indescribable. Think about yourself. Is this worth dying for, because stress can kill you eventually. I lost 25-30lbs in a year and half my hair. It’s still thin but idc… I’d rather be single than to deal with that. Hopefully you will too. ❤ oh yeah and THEY WON’T CHANGE!!! It’s who they are. Believe it!
They don’t value you, simple
,,,it also comes down to whether or not you are trapped, have children, no money, no where to go, and no support system. Please don't put this on the person who is being mistreated.
I agree. I believe i mentioned this in the video as well 🙏🙏
Same.😭
@@venusbeautygirl ❤❤
Exactly....not everyone can just leave...and trying to have " boundaries" doesn't work....some people just are the way they are and will not change because of your boundaries ....they don't care and they think they are right about everything......
jane vance absolutely!!!!
It's hard to leave when you have a child. Sometimes Mom's gotta sacrafice there happiness for there kids. It's hard😭
Yes definitely. Children definitely makes the situation more complicated. Please hang in there and sending you good wishes.
More power to you stay blessed 😗
Ignore your husband , they just steal peace from your life
oh yeah
But keep in mind that your partner is teaching your kids that abusive behavior. Sometimes the toughest and best thing for a momma to do is leave, so her children can have happy relationships in adulthood
I have PTSD from Iraq. My wife learned to trigger me on purpose. She has put me down in the middle of my attacks when I'm at my lowest point in life, but you right, why? Why am I putting up with it? You got my gears turning.
Thank you so much for your service my friend.
I hope you can find peace and some resolution in your current situation 🙂 sending you blessings from Thailand.
I have gotten to the point where I am absent in the mind. And I am aware that my body will follow soon. I just can't simply voice my hurt, without it being narcissistically turned around. I am suffering, I know. But honestly I have no where to go. No one to turn to. I don't like this at all, but it is what it is.
Same 😔
Awww I'm sorry to hear this. ive definitely been there before. Hopefully you can reach out ...do a few close friends or family for support as well.
@@aizzam5048 hang in there
@@nickkeomahavong01 Crazy you said that, cause I stood up for myself the other night. I finally did it! I told him everything, how he made me feel, what I really thought about our entire relationship. I wished him well and called a couple of friends to help me move. Had I been there alone to try and pack. I wouldn't get past the front door. I finally came to a family and she lend me a place to stay and helped me find a job as well. I feel so free and fearless. I can breathe again. Heck I can wear whatever I want. I am so happy and I want to thank you for your video as well ❤ Truly thank you!
@@WintersGold94 aww thank you so much. Your post makes me happy. Continue to use your support system and feel proud of yourself. Today you did NOT betray yourself. You listened to your gut intuition and it's a very big deal. Well done 😊😊😊🙏🙏😍
I liked the fact that you said that a therapist can't answer these questions for you.
Awww thank you. I really appreciate it. It's very true. I think people do have the wisdom inside of them. I trust that. 😊
I will never understand how someone can purposely start an argument and tell you what an angry person YOU are but yet YOU didn't do anything to start the argument. I don't understand. Or when they start an argument and they continue to say that you're an angry person or you're just like this person or that person.
How do you confront a person is like this because most the time they'll deny deny deny and put it back on you
Don't! You'll always lose because the delusion is very strong with these types Silence kills them. They may even want to fight u for staying quiet. They love arguing
I dumped my guy. I bought a brand new car and I was exited to show him and the first this he said was "when someone buys a new car I dont picture them downgrading. " I got a new hair cut and the first thing he asked was "is that line supposed to be there?" Whilr everyone was giving me compliments, and after I told him how I felt he said I was making him out to be an asshole. And that he was just joking
Yea that makes sense. Its very normal when someone feels hurt, rejected or that their ego is bruised, to lash out. Very common.
Julia Hart I know exactly what I am doing when I get a new car gonna drive it past my ex with a smile on my face not because I’m a dickhead but because the reason she left me is because at the time she came to be with me even though my life was a shitstorm and I was homeless but I am working homeless she made the choice to be with me but the first day she gets in the situation and finally came to the realization that she too would be homeless (as I had already told her 🤷🏼♀️)she took off with the wind she berated me and blamed me for the situation like the narcissist she is and she really knows how to manipulate someone and shift blame she took absolutely no responsibility at all for her choices it’s pathetic you tell someone that you will be there with them and then take off it’s down right sad to be abandoned and let down like that especially by a partner i later found out she went back to her ex anyway the one she said was manipulative 🙄 go figure another lie of hers everything is always her exes fault and everyone else is to blame except her she’s so full of crap it’s kinda like that song “if I was richer I would still be with ya ha now ain’t that some shit” gnarles Barkley
@@nickkeomahavong01 it's common?
@@nickkeomahavong01 do you think hes a bad person for saying that? He has never done it again since
@@juliahart721 it depends. Some relationships have that dynamics.
I don't know why but I feel a lot of love, compassion and wisdom from just the way you talk. It's so calming to listen to you.
I’ve been going through emotional abuse issues for the better part of our nine year relationship. I realize that there are clearly two sides to every story, but my wife is condescending, belittling and has insurmountable expectations. She doesn’t work, we don’t have children, yet she wants me to do laundry, cook and help her clean.
She always wonders why my self esteem is virtually non existent, yet she keeps on pushing me down and she seemingly doesn’t realize that she’s doing it.
My mom recently passed away, it was the lowest point of my life and there she was, picking a fight with me about something so nonsensical that I can’t even remember what it was. I think it was at that point that I felt like I had a renewed sense of self worth and courage to see that I’m not the problem in the relationship that she constantly makes me out to be.
Hang in there my friend..sorry to hear about your loss.
It’s always different when u have kids together
Oh yes! Definitely. When kids are involved, it changes the whole dynamics for sure.
I don't need to listen to this. Easy. Just run for the hills.
😂😂
Yep no better way why should anyone deal with that plenty of fish out there...
Im always told im running away from my problems when i leave but in doing it to protect myself and my heart
Yes...depends on the situation. Sometimes we need to protect ourselves.
I walk away the moment I feel disrespected and he says his reactions shouldn’t matter to the conversation if I’m listening. EXCUSE ME!!! I am listening, that’s how I was able to recognize you saying “im the worst woman he’s ever come across” worse than his mother. I take that stuff as expression but my heart is on a flip flop feeling daily!!!
I put up with it because I have no where to go, no family in this country. I don't love him anymore, Im just afraid of being homeless. It's not easy for everyone to leave. Alot of people will have an opinion, but no one will offer their home or shelter if I leave him.
Oh no. I'm sorry to hear about your situation 😢
Nadia Chavez same here.
I know the feeling
So sorry to hear about your situation. I am in the same boat too. Married him bcoz i trusted in his lies 13 years ago. Had to leave the country bcoz i chose to leave Islam, so not safe to go back to my country. Had stopped my degree in the middle bcoz family disowned me/cut off all support. Even friends cut me off due to either choosing a man of different race or religion. BF asked me to marry him & had promised to help fund the final year of my education which never happened to this day. Growing up in a fundamentalist muslim family as a girl was hell (full of abuse, neglect) but just never imagined that trusting husbands promises would land me to this situation at this stage of my life. having to put up with much worse abuse, neglect not only just from him but his entire family! Having no solid qualification to become independent & not having the ability to legally live in foreign countries without having spousal visas, & not having any place or people to count on for support, means not having any good choices out of this predicament. it is so draining to even think and plan for another escape all over again! so the struggle continues!! Just keep hoping that God will open a door somehow, somewhere
@@ayeshasiddiqua5368 🥺🥹😦
Mine is so cruel to me all the time. Calls me horrible names daily. Tells ppl horrible negative things about me and says he's not talking bad about me. He's accurately describing me. If I don't want to be called a stupid Bch, I shouldn't be one.
You said I’d rather be single. I’m there now. After 11 years of marriage where she’s done this over and over. I guess I didn’t have a backbone. I do now.
Hang in there my friend 🙂
I hear you! It's tough to set boundaries but so necessary. I'm dealing with this same situation & it's the most challenging & stressful situation ever 😓 You deserve better & so does anyone in this situation 💗 God Created us for Hood & Joy 🥰 God Bless you on your journey 👼 Praying for you & all people dealing with difficult/abusive people 🙏
You can tell the person it’s not okay over and over and hope they will change. I’ve hoped my girlfriend would stop being so mean and belittling when she is angry. She hasn’t stopped and it makes me feel insignificant and unimportant. I love her so it sucks. I’ve debated on breaking up with her for a while now but it suck because of how much I do love her :(
So yes I have stood up for myself but it doesn’t always work. If you want to leave you have to deal with the heartbreak :(
My Name Is Glitter yes it's definitely a hard situation to be in for sure. Relationships are difficult. Just make sure it honors you, and you also honor you.
My Name Is Glitter I had to deal with this myself. Not easy at all.
Carolyn I agree Carolyn. It shouldn't be that difficult 😁
If there's no children involved I would leave instantly she putting you down as a sign she don't want you no matter how much you want her
You know I never understood why he would rage at me when I needed support. The most recent is when I went to the emergency department. He act so put out by it. He said you can go by yourself, so I did. He then came into the hospital randomly to sit with me, then complained his car was more important and the ticket was going to run out. Said call him when I had finished. When I did do this He picked me up and raged at me like I had nothing wrong with me, but still felt ill. The foul language that came out of his mouth was just poisonous. It seemed he wanted me to be lower than low.. Someone please explain this
The only reason why I'm alive is because of my kids but the amount of emotional abuse I have dealt with and it seem like no matter who comes into my life they hurt me
Hi kiyana. I'm sorry to hear about your situation. No one should have to face emotional abuse. Sending you strength and good wishes from Thailand. 🙏🙏🙏
Praying for you. Hope you are doing better
For me if I chose long term partner I get to become friends and then date Ive learned the good ones from the mean narcissistic ones I had to grow backbone,Ive cried and I was sad but had to get away from bad ones! I know its easier said then done but, I want to encourage you to love yourself enough to separate from this person whether friends help or a shelter.Please do it for you and stay safe!
Thanks bro. I’m a 6’0 225lb 25 year old grown. I needed that. Facts
Christian Nuñez you're welcome! I how this helped 🙏🙏🙏
My man puts me down consistantly when I stand up for myself he runs and tells everyone that I was being mean with him . He tried to hit me once I blocked him and he received a scratch on the face cause I was trying to block him he went and told everyone I attacked him out of the blue and showed everyone his scratch. I asked if he told them about him trying to hit me and he said no what do you care what my friends think do you like them or something?
Just absolutely insane. I finally got free it wasn't easy.
I'm glad you were able to move on from that dynamics.
For a man, having no respect from a partner is the worst feeling as there is no support
I think when my spirit can fly with wind freely at peace
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My husband intimidated me when I asked him why he is cruel.I don’t have financial support to leave.right now but I’m saving
Its called Narcissist Personality Disorder. My ex suffered From it and I left the relationship soon after discovering it.
I needed to hear this today.
Wonderful my friend 😊
I am verry codependent and I have said no to my friend several times and what it does to me he does not change also because I had no limit but just my words. Sometimes when I express my feelings, he gets angry and pulls me down, I now let him know that I'm not okay with it and sometimes I draw the line by 'not wanting to solve it anymore', he finally says sorry. But it happens so often now that I have stress, stress to leave him, but also stress to stay My joy of life is over for the moment I start hyperventilating and crying not really happy i accept i can't change him.
I'm so sorry for your situation. That sounds very difficult. Please take the time to take care of yourself. Please be patient and kind with yourself. Get still and you'll know what to do next. My heart goes out to you 🙏🙏🙏
Nick Keomahavong Thank you so much for your message
It means a lot to me
I will definitely do something with your advice
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Sorry if my English is bad
@@ib1452 your English is great. Believe in yourself and trust yourself.
Nick Keomahavong 💛
Yes thank you🙏 it hurts but you have to keep striving
BF puts me down after a small misunderstanding. He brings up things to trigger me. Says he wants me to hurt. I’ve done nothing but love him. Hard to leave bc my heart strings keep pulling me back
Yes its important to set boundaries.
I confronted him today! Thank you!
Always trust your gut.
I'm in a weird relationship. most the arguing comes in the morning. my gf has anxiety depression and bipolar. . we live together. I have anger myself but I'm trying hard to do better and I'm doing alotta self reflecting on myself. she gets easily annoyed every morning cause she thinks she's a queen and I should be completely quiet as a mouse to cater to her. we both pay bills and I respect her when she is sleeping but if me talking annoys her when we are both up in the morning, wtf. she is always bringing up my past and throws it in my face everyday which makes it harder for me to self reflect. our lease ends in December. it'll be a struggle for me with the bills but oh well. I need my sanity. weird thing is we argue in the morning then later in the day when I come home from work she acts silly and funny as if nothing happened. I'm so fed up and confused. she brings the worse outta me and I'm really struggling with my anger more when I'm with her. she makes it so hard for me to do better cause she is disrespectful, belittles me and throws my past in my face. I feel like less of a man at this point.
Oh no. I'm sorry to hear that. Hang in there my friend and take some time for yourself each day 😊
@@nickkeomahavong01 I try but she's always home. she can't even keep a job. she just quit another job this year. that makes 4 jobs she quit between 2 years. I just told her that I am breaking up with her today and she flipped the fuck out saying I wasted 2 years of her life. I can't wait til this lease is up. hopefully she leaves and not think I'm renewing the lease with her
Some ppl don't have a choice unless they wanna live in a shelter or that streets!!!!!!!
Yes each situation is different.
*long, but pls HELP!*
It’s not always that simple. I feel completely trapped. I’m in a same-sex marriage, I have been for almost 35 years, but my husband has no respect for me, cause he tells me to shut up when I voice an opinion, constantly tells me that whatever I’m talking about is pointless and stupid. Refuses to listen to anything I say, ignores me constantly, does whatever the hell he wants even if he knows I don’t want it to happen. For example, 20 years ago, he moved his mother in with us from El Salvador, and immigrated her here, I did not want my mother-in-law living with us, but he didn’t give a shit what I thought, and just did it anyways. We met when I was barely 20, I was young, stupid, and desperate for love, and grabbed it the first chance I got. Little did I know what I was grabbing hold of. But there’s another problem. When I was 20, about six months after we met, I was diagnosed with severe Crohn’s disease, six months later, my large intestine ruptured, killing me for three minutes, and starting me off on a journey of over 37 brutal gastrointestinal surgeries, along with four relapses of stage four intestinal cancer, that have left me with only 5% of my entire G.I. tract left, living on permanent, long-term disability. I’m screwed, because housing here in Toronto is insanely expensive, and we can barely afford to survive as it is. My medical expenses cost upwards of $2000 a month out-of-pocket, not covered by insurance or the government, so if I walked out like I so desperately want to, I would end up homeless, in which case I might as well just kill myself, because I live with 15 chronic diseases, 13 of which were side effects from the cancer and Crohn’s disease. I am angry all the time, because I know he cheated on me for the first few years of our marriage when I was stuck in the hospital for months at a time, he was having sex with countless other men at the gym he went to at the time. I didn’t find about it until later, but by that point he had immigrated his son to live with us. I was OK with that, because it is his son, but within a few years, he thought he would bring his mother here too, never even asking me, he just went ahead and did it, even after I told him I didn’t want her coming here to live with us. He spends his every waking moment with her, making me feel like the third wheel. He always ignores me and gives all of his attention to his mother, which really pisses me off. We fight constantly, I am filled with rage and hatred and anger at the way I’ve been treated after barely surviving over 30 years of hospitalizations and surgeries. Because I’ve been so sick for so long I haven’t had the health necessary to go off on my own. And now that I’m not able to work ever again, I’m absolutely screwed! My two choices are live with this, or suicide, and right now suicide is looking like the better option. That, and we haven’t had sex for 15 years. He knows I’m NOT attracted to fat men (no offence to anyone), when we met, he was only 128 pounds, he now weighs almost 300 pounds! He can’t even see his genitalia anymore! I am utterly turned off and not sexually attracted to him at all. I have begged him to lose weight, but he refuses, because his mother keeps feeding him constantly, and he refuses to say no to his mother, but has no problem telling me to F off and my my own business as he loves to say. It’s the most broken dysfunctional relationship you could imagine, and God knows I’ve tried everything I possibly can to make it work. I feel like I’ve sold my soul, and he still doesn’t give a shit. He will literally tell me if I don’t like it to get out. He says that, because he knows that if I left, I would be homeless. I have no friends because he’s insanely jealous and scares anyone away, I have no family to turn to, and there is no social service that can help. The waiting list for housing in this city is over six years long, but even then there’s no guarantee. I’m on the waiting list, he doesn’t know that, but they told me not to hold my breath. It’s so bad I told my doctors that if the cancer comes back, I’ll refuse all treatment, & let the cancer take me, it will be a hell of a lot easier than living like this. I’m angry when I wake up and I’m angry when I go to bed, and I hate when he’s home! It’s bad enough having to be stuck with my mother-in-law in the house all the time, because he tells her she can do whatever she wants, making my life a living hell, and he did that on purpose just to piss me off. I have no idea why I still love him, even though I HATE him with a passion. There are times I wish he would just drop dead from a heart attack from being so bloody fat and unhealthy. He refuses to go exercise at all. All he does is sit, eat, and talk to his mommy, constantly ignoring me, blaming me for everything in the house that goes wrong. Granted, I fight like hell back, I’ve called him every name of the book and then some, and though we’ve never physically hit one another, it’s getting to a point where I just want to punch him in the face is hard as I possibly can, and kick the living shit out of him in compensation for the decades of pain he has put me through, by taking advantage of the fact that he knows because of my health there’s not much I can do. I know I sound like I’m playing the victim, because I AM the victim. Financially, I’m screwed, I can’t leave the city because I have 15 different specialists all within walking distance, without them, I would literally die, as I take 22 different medication‘s, and have to go to the hospital for infusions every second day for the rest of my life to keep my internal organs alive. If I left the city for cheaper housing in another city, it’s literally not possible. I have done everything I could to bite my tongue and play along, but I can’t do it anymore. It’s incredible how you can love somebody and hate somebody so much at the same time, but I do. Emphasis on the hate part! He purposely contradicts everything I ask him to do just to piss me off, and then he and his mother team up against me, every time I get angry when they both do things that drive me absolutely crazy, and then they laugh about it. I’m trapped in my own personal hell. To say that I can leave is too simplistic, and in my case, fatal, literally! What I’ve said, is only the tip of the iceberg, there is way more involved, all of it horrific. All I ever wanted was someone to respect and love me, and I have tried so hard to be just that for him, only to get this in return, I don’t deserve it, especially after going through all the hell I have with my health. I told him if he doesn’t want me to be with him, then get the hell out, but he refuses to leave because his mommy likes the apartment, and refuses to leave. it seriously destroyed my mental health, to the point where I have fantasies of ending both of them, which I would deeply regret later on. But when I’m in one of those rages they send me into after driving me insane, and constantly putting me down and provoking me, let’s just say it’s a good thing I live in a country where guns aren’t allowed! That’s how bad it is here, and I don’t know what the hell to do. I don’t want to die this young, I fought like hell to survive through over 30 years of a hell on earth, you can’t even begin to imagine, battling cancer for times, and dealing with the Crohns disease, and the 13 other chronic diseases that develop the side effects from all the treatments and surgeries. But to have this on top of all that is more than my brain can handle, and I’m coming unglued. I’m terrified I might do something I’ll regret, but I’m also terrified of ending up on the street, because I’ll be as good as dead within a week. I have begged my doctors for help, but there’s nothing they can do because our elitist government cut funding to all social services to help people like me. At this point, I wish I wasn’t even born, because my life has been nothing but pain and suffering from the beginning, being put up for adoption from birth, not wanted by anyone, and when I find someone I thought did want me, they just wanted to use me. I’m at a point now where I hate everything and everybody, I’m angry at the world, and frankly see no point of living. I think I just answered my own question, suicide it is, and I’m not bullshitting, I can’t take this anymore, and, even if I end up going to hell for taking my own life, it can’t be any worse than the hell that I’m living in now. Thank you for listening, I’m sorry, but please understand my frustration and anger, I pray to God none of you ever get trapped like I am. Goodbye.
Great advice!!! Thank you!
Awww. Thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏
My pleasure. I truly appreciate your advice.
@@jessicamackan170 thank you very much 😁
Ok watching this video helped me a lot. It feels like she takes out her anger on me with her family issue. I don’t know what to do bec I feel like I’m doing so much and nothing is good enough
Glad it's helpful 😊
I really like this video, it really sums up the necessary things,
i'm more of an agreeable person and when I speak up I make trouble to my jealous ex,
miss her so much but in the end you have to make the decisions even though it hurts
Thank you 😊
You are insightful and I appreciate your thoughts.
sadhu sadhu. thank you so much 🙂🙂🙂
Leave cause he or she will never change. Be alone or wait for someone to love you and respect you. Its better to be alone and don't make marriage and idol.
The videos of them showing my body isn't good enough for him. And videos that he judges my body and how he picks on it. And I give him love over and over and he is ok with belittling my body and trying to make me feel like my body is ugly to him.
I'm a successful, confident and attractive man. She often tried belittling me and make comparisons with other men. I understand she was doing that because she's insecure I might leave her if I feel good about myself. But it's this behaviour that pushed me away.
Very insightful, logical answer.
Great video
Thank you so much 😊
Yes Sir!! Thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much 🙂🙂
My partner always puts me down. Shes not encouraging or inspiring me to become my best version. She is always insulting me. My appearance, my salary, and my efforts are all bare minimum to her. Even do I forgot almost all about myself, my health specifically because I always fetch her to work. I woke up 5am to fetch her home and from there travel to my work and work 8am to 7pm then after that I go back to her house to fetch her again to work at 9pm then going home late and eating late also. And so many things I offer and sacrifice for her and all I can hear is that all of this efforts are just nothing, a minimum efforts😭 I'm now experiencing mental breakdown because of these💔
I’m so sorry to hear that
Don't even deal with it, what are you still even doing there? They won't change
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@@nickkeomahavong01 ☺️ like seriously... I've been there❤️
@@ankeydorice7611 Preach!!! They don't ever change even if they beg. They still do the same thing over. They are just trouble maker
@@omolaraomojola complete waste if time and emotions 😅
Well I'm a husband,over nearly a year now my wife went from being a kind,compassionate wife,a partner,to snapping at everything I do,everything I say,somewhat belittling me,constantly getting onto me. 28yrs Together,21yrs married.. we're in our early/mid 40's
I'm tired of it,tried being understanding,cordial,tried stopping it with kindness and talking,nothing working
Don't know if she's going through a mid life crisis,some kind of depression,pre menopause from a partial hysterectomy she had about 5yrs ago.. I just don't know.. hoping its something that'll pass with some time before just leaving her
This is how my husband treats me and it’s damned if I do and damned if I don’t. He constantly says he is going to leave or divorce me but he hasn’t yet. He just keeps hurting me and then pulling me back in when he wants to be nice. I don’t want a divorce because of my faith but it is such a struggle. He never talks to me about why he treats me bad, he just ignores me and says that I should know why. I hope things get better for you guys. We are not alone in our struggles.
Check videos on narcissistic spouse/ partner. Also co dependancy. You might get some answers there.
Everyone with choices loves to say ..... Why would you put up with it why did anybody put up with it
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Beautiful Lake.
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Why wouldn't they just break up instead of keep going on? and no one should be be treated like that or be kept in the dark about the truth
This happens to men or women if their partners feel superior
My spouse has Asperger's syndrome and refuses to get help. It is affecting our marriage and I am just putting up with all the arguments.
Oh no. I hope you can get support on your end also.
The person i chose to love and be with therefore i gave up and did so much whatever i can in my power nowdays he isnt the person i fell in love with. At the beginning he was sweet, caring and loving person. Now.. anything i do, say, think he has always something to say and criticize. Never i mean like never nothing is good that involves me no matter what i do n try. I let him at the beginning but now i just cant take it anymore. When i try to talk back and explain myself he calls me “ u and ur excuses” im just soooooo sick of it. Makes me so angry and mentally its killing me like every day. Emotionally im dead and crazy no self esteem, confidence i dont even know who i am and what i am or doing and wanting always afraid of what he will think or wants or say. Im sick n sooo sick of being treated like no one. Ive tried to leave so many times yet he apologizes and tells me he will fix himself but i dont see anything positive yet im still the no one who can even raise my voice or dare to speak my mind out
Why am I putting up with it?
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My husband is so mean and gaslights me. We’re married with a baby though and I’ve been a stay at home mom so I have no income. I feel trapped.
I was seeing this girl for three months. Things were going great in the beginning and it seemed that I had found someone worth spending the rest of my life with. However, early on, we hit a rough patch and things just continued to get worse. Things I used to say or do that didn't upset her before would lead to arguments. I always felt like I was saying or doing something wrong and a lot of times I felt like a child being scolded by his parent. I was trying to be what I thought she wanted me to be. I would do things for her all the time and it felt one-sided. Of course, she would be very affectionate and loving and I thought that meant we were in a good place. However, we would fight almost all the time. Recently, she commented again on my "limited" vocabulary and put me down. I told her she was condescending and not the nice person she thinks she is. I know I'm not perfect and I have my issues, but constantly feeling like I wasn't good enough and always walking on eggshells took its toll on me. We haven't texted or spoken for a few days now and I miss her so much, but maybe it's best that we part. I only wish we could've ended better whether this situation deserves it or not.
If you haven’t left already please run. It’s not worth your sanity and self worth. No woman is more beautiful than your freedom!! You are just dating not married so you have the free opportunity to get away.
@@rtj703 I was dumb enough to stick around for another month. It’ll be a month tomorrow since we last spoke. No details needed. Should’ve never responded to her a month before. I’m doing my best to move on.
@@nahpeasohian Yes! As RTJ has stayed above, you should move on and cut off any form of communication with her permanently! It's a blessing that you're still not married with her.
Trust me when I say this, being in a toxic married relationship woth someone is very draining on the heart, mind and emotions. It's like you're constantly arguing with no end and you'll feel helpless. And if there is a child or children involved, it makes the situation more complicated and even worse since they have to witness your constant bickering and abuse all the time.
Stop thinking of yourself as a child. Work on relationships after that.
He insulted me.. infront of other girl..
She also told me stupid..
He was speaking to her for about 2 days... ignoring my calls..
Keep on busy with her..
After two days of being down.. feeling insulted..
Feeling ignored..
Cried like a hell .
Now he is telling that..he did prank..
I didn't like it...
Iam not Okay with it..
Please help me..wht to do..
I was being tortured..he even abused me
If you are being abused, please seek support. Its very important.
Divorce
That's an option
Thank you.
You're welcome 😁🙏🙏🙏
Some people can’t get out of situations cause if there finance
Yes definitely
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My partner unfortunately let me down 😢 😔 because me and him were arguing over my debit card. He doesn't trust my card I'm dating a guy with trust. Issues. I was at a theme park today were you supposed to have fun and smile. And he wanted to go home all because of my card didn't work 😢 I was pretty much arguing all day with him at the theme park.
Sadly I've been married twice...THEY BOTH TOLD ME THEY WERENT MARRYING ME FOR MY HAIR PROBLEM......BUT IN BOTH I WAS DISGRACED AT END...1 SHOWED PUCTURES TO THE WORLD TOLD YOUNG KIDS....THE 2ND IT WAS TROUBLED KIDS BOTH SIDES....BUT YOU KNOW FAT....NOT PRETTY....THIN HAIR...RETARDED...TOELESS...TOOTHLESS....SHAME ON ANYONE WHO MAKES FUN OF ANYONES LOOKS PROBLEMS.....ESPECIALLY TELLING THE WORLD.FAMILY........I WOULD NEVER EVER MAKE FUN OF ANYONES LOOKS PROBLEMS ......SOME PEOPLE DO IT TO MAKE THEM LOOK BETTER....WE ALL SIN IN WAYS...BUT REVENGE IS NOT THE WAY....
STOP having a other. since you can't make people act how you wish..... you have to watch their behavior until you decide you don't. unless you meet the rare exception to the rule, this is all there is. and why so needy and codependent anyways
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I don’t have partner, my father does that all my life, he does to me and my sis, even my mentally challenged brother, he always tells me I take my revenge from you, and I say what revenge? He never cared for my mom, always cheated on my mother, and believes we are my mothers children not his , 😓😢💔💔
Oh no...
He's your brother or sister. It's time to detach to that person and attach to the beauty of other people and care about those people. Emotionally invest in all those people and don't worry about giving because you'll never run out of it. Love is no object. Love circulates and the more you hord it, the less it is worth. This one mean person is not just your lover; this person is your rival, your friend, your partner and they will protect themselves against your snares and trespasses. Their vulnerability comes from their deep emotional investment in you and they WILL find other people to invest in to keep from losing their dignity to you or anyone else. Pride is a sin and they keep on sinning.
All you have to do is dump him
I left 2 jobs so he can have a better job in another state and now he's saying I don't do nothing then he gets mad when I have to do dishes I cry and he don't care I have to beg for attion
My boyfriend secretly records our conversations and arguments and posts it on social media without my consent .. I find that super abusive and humiliating n bully
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I want out!!!!!!!
My partner always tease me that I am fat... I keep on trying to loss weight for years now.. i had PCOS which hinders my body to function well especially my weight caused by my hormonal imbalance... I tried to keep it to my self that I am hurting every joke that he makes. I love him dearly he just want me to loss weight coz He said I am more beautiful if I loss some weight. I have a pretty face they said.. Would I confront him instead? Or break up?
1. It's important to have an honest conversation. 2. Its also important to reflect on the boundaries of that relationship.
There are many factors so it's difficult to say.
What if I’m 71 years old and I need help to get out
Maybe you can utilize the help of your support system or family and friends?
Is that Lake Miramar?
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What about if you have a child and don't want to break up because of child
Again you will have to take it specific for each case. There are many factors
I am totally not ok. And you are right. We don't know why they are doing it. But it sucks when you get the push and pull affect. It is Maddening. Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde. It's just beyond frustrating. And then you miss the good stuff. And wonder where the person is you met. They come and go. So maybe I should hire a priest. Maybe an exorcism is needed. Screw it. I don't have the money for a priest. I'll just walk away.
My family mom dad and two sisters are a bunch of drop outs and uneducated and not even smart yet they like to belittle everyone in the family because they like to be the one only to speak , me I laugh my ass off because I don’t put with their crap but what I smell is jealousy 😂
I know how you walk away
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The Real question is Why would you stay with such a person?
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You have no idea what you are talking about. Who respects your boundary. Can you tell your wife to respect it.
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