The 5 MAJOR Traits That Make You ATTRACTIVE 1. Attractiveness - making the most of your looks - having a look that conveys something about you - being in good shape, having a good haircut, good style, being a look, which indicates that you are successful, that you are ambitious that you have status - posture and how you move 2. Assertiveness - the ability to ask for what you want - the ability to go after what you want - the ability to stand up for yourself - trust yourself 3. Assuredness - your belief that you are worthwhile that you are of value that you are right when you make decisions that she is going to like you - much better to make the assumption or else, it is self-sabotage - honest signal = social proof, good life, popular, well-received 4. Attentiveness - it is being present in the conversation, not focused on what happened 5 minutes ago - will help if and only if you are already high value 5. Aliveness - the willingness to take risks - the willingness to do something crazy - "done stupid things and lived" = be perceived as positive - Todd Valentine
Todd is best PUA, here is why; 1. He is average looking and short. 2. He doesnt have super advantages like money and status or fashion,cars etc. 3. His game is not flashy like super high energy, flashy stuff, instant kissing or pulling. His game is best for average smart guys. 4. He doesnt have any badboy qualities like tattoos, aesthetic body etc. He is looking very normal. Todd's game is best, not flashy not bullshit. Its just real fucking game
@Dominic dominic Yes a lot of guys better than him about lay count or lifestyle game. I know so many PUAs, some of them have big advantages like looks, status, badboy appearance(tattoos,mascular body etc). But Todd is best for average guys. His game is smart and depend on comfort. I'm seeing so many other pua using agressive game with good looks and it works for them. But it will rarely work for average guy.
@Dominic dominic I'm not trusting Bradicus. His insta infields are suspicious. Girls are too much relax and its not normal. In my experience girls not relax for recording kissing etc. Brain black is quite okey dude. His infields are normal not flashy but Bradicus is paying for girls in so many countries
*pops out of trash can* "Hey there, you know how they say ones man trash is another man's treasure? Me neither. But we're about to find out. Nice to meet you, I'm Todd"
@@aba2165 First time i read it I saw "poops out of trash can" ahahaha ... *poops out of trash can and proceeds "Hey there, my name is Todd, you look like trouble I like it" ahahahhhahah
Looks, posture Assertiveness: stand up 4 urself Assuredness: believe& trust in yourself Attentiveness: being present in convo Aliveness: risk taking, willing to do risky stuff.
Assertiveness:stand up 4 yourself Assuredness:belive and trust ij yourself Attentiveness: being present in a convo Aliveness: risk taking Attractiveness: looks, posture
todd is rarely ever smooth, but he's got a lot of experience and an interesting life that makes him confident and attractive. you don't have to be smooth or thrilling, you just have to be assured enough not to fuck it up
1) having a “look.” Carrying yourself, posture 2)assertiveness. Make a FIRM decision. Stand up for yourselves. 3)assuredness. Your belief that you have value and she will like you. 4) Paying attention to conversation and her, can be stalkerish. But if you are HIGH VALUE guy that finds them special and experience better. 5)Willingness to act crazy and try new things. Taking those risks!! Talk to her in a controversial way.
Dominance: leadership, authority, commanding influence Self Love: confidence, positive self belief, assertiveness, non neediness High(er) Status: Attributes that indicate you are “above” or “better than” others. The way you are indicates you currently are or have the potential to get well farther than others in life.
Self reliance - I would not call self-reliance as an attractive trait. We do live in a very dependable relationship in the world. We rely and depend on food, shelter, other beings, and technology to continue our lives forward. However I would change that to Self-trust. Knowing that you can do it yourself when you need to. That your internal voice is the same as your external output. You do what you say. And you understand what you good at and what you are not and may need to rely on some outside factor to help you with. Integrity - great I love that one. Ability to say no - Facing the consequences is where I would put that one. When you can handle the consequences it allows you to take those risks. And ability to say no comes with many risks. People don't have ability to say no cause they are afraid of the conflict due to the consequences. So they dig themselves into a deeper problem. Speak your authentic self will help with this. Which means speak out what you honestly believe and face the consequences. Then you will have the ability to say whatever you need or want without worry. Confidence - Yes (Most importantly strong self belief of yourself) Abundance - Which I call a detach dependency from outcome. If you win, great, if you don't, great, you learned something new. Another chance will come around.
So much of this comes down to energy/vitality levels. If you are eating well and exercising well and resting well you will be bursting of energy and wanting to go out and live a fun, fulfilling life.
This is a good video for teaching openers. She never showed any signs of being attracted to him. She didn't bother to face him and kept her left leg cross instead of the right one. She maintained a vibe of indifference for him to notice. Basically she was the one dominating the frame of the interaction. She provide a number but made clear not her personal one for him to reach. This is mostly an example of how an Alpha female (if that exist) handle strangers that approach her.
The #1 trait I’ve learned is awareness. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. If you get turned down move on, don’t wallow. It’s so hard but valuable in the end.
Todd, I love where you have taken things. You were my favorite back at your previous gig. Kudos to you and thank you so much for motivating & teaching us.
It's such a struggle that so much effort must be put in to attract girls. This alone turns off a lot of smart men because women are not THAT valuable but we have to seem that way due to our hormones really. Meanwhile a super attractive man doesn't even have to try very hard. Great advice though Todd.
I broke past that barrier recently. Basically, PUA advice can and should be applied to every part of your life, which will make it better in every way, and you will find it easy to attract girls eventually. The best part is the effort you put into PUA will last the rest of your life.
Point 5 was great. I once went skinny dipping in a fountain abroad, and only when I jumped in did I realize that it was outside of a police station. Girl I met that night went home with me. Crazy shit!
Thanks, Todd! Hadn't thought of it this way! I used to pick a bunch of girls up as a younger man, but lost all of my game and/or vibe. Now am, litte-by-little, changing it 4 the better. Always been very damn shy too.
i have th esystem , and i can say that todd maces a very high quality youtube , as he does on his paid content , i suggest that he enables the thanks button on his channel
Damn Todd! Been with my girl now 3 years after using your skills to get a solid partner. Played the game for 2 years so I did my thang. Now honestly I had let myself go but u got me realizing I gotta get my shit back together!
i would say, don't only apply this on girls but in your life in general. It makes it easier to apply it everywhere and i think it also would benefit you in other fields apart from dating.
@@ballislife9092 someone who isn't put off by a woman's shit test. The only way to pull high value women is to unreactive to their "coldness" that they put up to keep the non-confident guys away.
I would add a 6th, one of the most important, characteristic, strictly related to some of them: LEADERSHIP. I've noticed, that, even in lack of some features, leadership, and taking a sharp, precise decision, is extremely attractive; I would say, one of the requirements to be a real man.
I don't have attractiveness assertiveness, assuredness, aliveness. The only trait I do feel I have is Attentiveness I am aware and listen to the girl and the details. (which in this case actually is hurting me.) My background experience is a reflection of these. When I was younger I asked for what I wanted or needed and rarely got it. Most of the time I was ignored or moved to the side. (Trained to stop asking questions, and demanding for my needs) My beliefs about myself were many times left to question and I was not assured about making a firm decision. I have been working on this area but due to lots of negative feedback. I am not getting lots of real world responses that develops my confidence about myself. Many people doubt me, don't take me seriously, or ghost me out. It pisses me off because I know more about myself, It's just they don't see it and I can't easily convey it. So sometimes I am very assured but when put under pressure, I feel threatened and I end up doubting my belief. I used to practice taking risks and still do but just managing my risks a bit more. For example I have done many physically stupid things and am okay with them. I can take off my helmet on a bike. But I understand my risks and choose not to. However, from social pressures, conflicts, or demanding for what I want takes a lot out of me. This one time I had someone bothering my mom and arguing with her in a manner that was about to get violent. I heard it in a room next door but, was conflicted over stepping in and telling (demanding) the other person to leave my house. That's something I was afraid to do because I doubted I could do that. I felt that many times I was always ignored or pushed away, and treated like my works don't mean anything. Which means I would end up getting really mad and don't something to catch attention. Breaking something, shouting, or getting violent. I was afraid or dealing with the consequences because I did not know how it may end up and just hoped that I was all going to settle down on it's own which it did. But, that experience simply reinforced me to stay quiet and not take social risks cause I can't handle the consequences and I will probably have to with the way I end up getting treated. I'm just sick and tired of being walked or talked over, pushed to the side or simply ignored, or ghosted out. People only talk to me to get to something else. If was was not there it would not matter to them. I don't mater to them and they wouldn't miss me at all. Valueless and Attractive-less. It's very hard for me to flip this and I am trying. I left pretty much all my friends because they don't help out with this at all. Trying to find new supportive friend who are trying to grow and help reinforce and encourage, confidence and take risks with out judgement. Like Todd or other guys in the pickup community with good moral intention of course. So currently I am doing it alone and it's so difficult to ignore the past fears and re build my mind and belief through scraps of success if anything and keep believing in myself, ignoring the negative feedback or criticisms out there. I know the saying "what doe's not kill you makes you stronger." But you have to keep in mind, It also breaks you down. and if it breaks you down hard enough it can teach you the beliefs that you are weaker which keeps you there. Which is like the saying the Big elephant who is chained ed to the wall can break free easily, but believes he is not, because when he was young his past attempts failed and taught him he was too weak to do so. Now that the elephant if big he is stronger but mentally still weaker.
@@alexbophy7274 Not offended at all. Can you please tell me a good method for grow some balls. Is there a meditation technique? Maybe a process with steps of action? Is there a group or community to people with similar problems who are fixing this that I can join? Maybe there is information I am missing to make this work? You are right life will not only stand on me. It already is standing on me. I'm not simply bitching and whining about it. I'm actually looking for some valid solutions. But, I may need some coaching to get me out of my shoes and back live life to the best potential.
I can relate to you ..it’s important to get positive feedbacks/responses every now and then bcoz if all attempts lead to negative outcomes ever since you started trying It just brings you down instead of making you stronger bcoz it just enforces that you are not good enough for anything There a saying that we are meant for some not for all.. Problem is if every time one is getting negative outcomes /responses Then we start to question ourselves that surely there is a deeper issue going on Guess one way is to lowering expectancy ..try and build confidence from the small positive reactions / responses ( Todd said that in some video ) and work your way up Bcoz right now there is a ‘Dependency for positive things to happen ‘ as the world has been harsh whenever you have Tried to put yourself out there
I feel like i really know you.. i had similar problems in my childhood, but my life gave me obstacles where i had to grow balls without an option, which was very scary for me, but the more you get out of your comfort zone, the better it gets. Really try to train yourself to say no or put yourself in a position where "no i cant do it" is not an option
Aljaž Jesen true the more we try and expand our comfort zone .. be it through brute force most of time bcoz there’s really no other alternative The better it gets Though there’s always that thought of If only there was more positive reception for the actions that we took or moral support which boosts confidence levels ( gives these so called sudden bursts of positivity )and motivates to expand even more. Just somehow work on getting those small bursts via good responses / positive outcomes and thrive from them
I really hope he doesn't. This whole LMS vs. Game argument is played out. A certain percent of guys believe that game doesn't work. Fine. I'm not sure why they even bother watching PUA videos. They're complete psychopaths for doing that. Go make lots of money and looks-max and leave the rest of us alone.
@@helloladies21 If looks didn't matter then why aren't there any short, fat, non-white PUAs hitting the streets and making tons of successful vids with Todd?
@@voltinator Yeah all successful PUA are rich, white men that are at least fairly good looking. I've never known an ugly PUA either. AMS speaks a lot of truth too, but he's clearly a chad.
@@helloladies21 Having bad game can ruin any guy's chances, so for sure game counts for something. However an ugly looking man can have great game, and it will count for nothing. Todd V has some good advice, but it's clear that all PUA are above average in looks, and at least fairly wealthy.
The risk point is one of the key advantages of day game, it'll make you stand out and she'll respect your forwardness and appreciate you attention. Another is the concept in her head of serendipity (the romantic... 'we met on a bridge') and lastly day game is virtually free and can be done anywhere, any time. The only downside is it isn't easy but things worth having take a lot of work.
Women are absolutely attracted by men with a muscular frame. As a guy who was once scrawny, then put on lots of muscle, there was a night-and-day change with women.
I am assured, but not assertive 😖 But I went out and completed the task of talking to 8 strangers (all cute women) today! I worry about my "non-laughing/not smiling because Im with my friend who Im completely comfortable with" smile. I feel like the terminator if I maintain eye contact while even nudging my smile out, instead of it happening completely naturally.
I've watched as many of your videos as I can get my hands on with the same unsuccessful results. I feel like i understand better what a woman wants but can't seem to execute in the moment. Ever.
I trust him more than I trust movie-star-looking guys because he looks like an average guy. His dating success must be from his social skills, and possibly wealth but that isn't obvious from looking at him. His advice is worth listening to.
Todd I learned a thing looking at your body language! At one point while saying a sentence you had this swallow reflex. Then right after it, your voice got deeper on the next sentence! You didin't let the refex interupt yiur point.. I have the same reflex and it feels that it interupts my speech, makes it hard for me to continue.. I am going to recover the same way as you did there. Good video!
One roadblock I have from being truly assured (at an internal, spiritual level) is knowing that there are people wiser than me out there - my parents, older guys, etc. how can I be assured of my correctness when I’ve made substantial mistakes and poor judgment in the past?
Like for me, starting a conversation could be just smiling, making eye contact and saying “hi, how are ya?” And then bringing up a point of conversation “nice shirt, big Metallica girl huh?” “What’s your opinion on this beer?” And go from there. Idk. I guess I’m just a naturally confident and conversational guy. The whole beginning conversation was a little odd to me to just jump straight into an odd hypothetical, but hey whatever works for ya I suppose. Great advice in the video though.
More men need to listen to guys like this instead of the ones telling you that if you’re not a 6’3” model you’ll never get a good looking woman to pay attention.
My advice. Work on your weak areas and once you're ready to test yourself, start approaching girls in person. You can approach the ones who you're not too attracted to and then as your self confidence and anxiety diminishes due to those interactions, you can then approach girls that are more attractive and harder to impress. Forget the online dating. It's a total bullshit.
No dating apps, she cant see your great traits on a text message. Approach in person and remember dont care and have abundance mindset. There are more women on this planet than men.
@@londonB52 Correct, they already know you are trying to pick them up/seduce them the moment you show up, they play the game too, isn't about what you say but how you say it, check Todd's tone and delivery.
The 5 MAJOR Traits That Make You ATTRACTIVE
1. Attractiveness
- making the most of your looks
- having a look that conveys something about you
- being in good shape,
having a good haircut,
good style,
being a look, which indicates that you are successful,
that you are ambitious
that you have status
- posture and how you move
2. Assertiveness
- the ability to ask for what you want
- the ability to go after what you want
- the ability to stand up for yourself
- trust yourself
3. Assuredness
- your belief that you are worthwhile
that you are of value
that you are right when you make decisions
that she is going to like you
- much better to make the assumption
or else, it is self-sabotage
- honest signal
= social proof, good life, popular, well-received
4. Attentiveness
- it is being present in the conversation,
not focused on what happened 5 minutes ago
- will help if and only if you are already high value
5. Aliveness
- the willingness to take risks
- the willingness to do something crazy
- "done stupid things and lived" = be perceived as positive
- Todd Valentine
Martin Cruz can you dm me this pretty please?
Martin Cruz fuck that just go MGTOW and let bitches chase you
MVP of the year goes to Martin Cruz!
@@saraj7118 just fucking copy paste it lmfao how lazy can you be
thank you!
Attractiveness
Assertiveness
Assuredness
Attentiveness
Aliveness
These are some A+ qualities.
Thanks
Assuredness*
AMS Orgasm Moan Just fixed it. Thanks!
Assholiness
Boring
Bulbous
Bulimic
Boils
Bat shit crazy
Traits and things women can have and guys will still want them.
Todd is best PUA, here is why;
1. He is average looking and short.
2. He doesnt have super advantages like money and status or fashion,cars etc.
3. His game is not flashy like super high energy, flashy stuff, instant kissing or pulling. His game is best for average smart guys.
4. He doesnt have any badboy qualities like tattoos, aesthetic body etc. He is looking very normal.
Todd's game is best, not flashy not bullshit. Its just real fucking game
@Dominic dominic Yes a lot of guys better than him about lay count or lifestyle game.
I know so many PUAs, some of them have big advantages like looks, status, badboy appearance(tattoos,mascular body etc).
But Todd is best for average guys. His game is smart and depend on comfort. I'm seeing so many other pua using agressive game with good looks and it works for them. But it will rarely work for average guy.
what? Just by not having this and that doesn't mean hes the best PUA you dumbshit.
@Dominic dominic I'm not trusting Bradicus. His insta infields are suspicious. Girls are too much relax and its not normal. In my experience girls not relax for recording kissing etc.
Brain black is quite okey dude. His infields are normal not flashy but Bradicus is paying for girls in so many countries
He is physically good looking and has a good amount of money from youtube and bootcamps and dating programs. Those things help game.
true but he also cut some of his infield clips.
The thumbnail looks like you were hiding in the trash to greet the girl
He would have pulled it off nonetheless.
*pops out of trash can*
"Hey there, you know how they say ones man trash is another man's treasure? Me neither. But we're about to find out. Nice to meet you, I'm Todd"
Oscar the PUA pops out of trash to greet girl ..
@@aba2165 First time i read it I saw "poops out of trash can" ahahaha ... *poops out of trash can and proceeds "Hey there, my name is Todd, you look like trouble I like it" ahahahhhahah
@@aba2165 hahahahhaaha
Todd dropping bangers
Waiting for the sec Virgin movie !!!
Fawk buddy, I’ve seen you in comment sections on like 5 different channels now
Fawk yeah
Jack?🤣🤣
great minds think alike
Looks, posture
Assertiveness: stand up 4 urself
Assuredness: believe& trust in yourself
Attentiveness: being present in convo
Aliveness: risk taking, willing to do risky stuff.
Assertiveness:stand up 4 yourself
Assuredness:belive and trust ij yourself
Attentiveness: being present in a convo
Aliveness: risk taking
Attractiveness: looks, posture
2:52 wanna be more like that guy in the white shirt. Seems like he has no care in the world and enjoying the moment 👏😎
Yeah🤣🤣🤣
He's the MAN!
I guess he has compulsive obsession..
@@ibrahimtouman2279 from 2 seconds of footage? wow pretty wild guess
@@RaduP3 HAHAHAHA he is just guessing. It could be. 😂
“Women are not necessarily always attracted to who looks attractive, but to who is attractive.” Subtle but big distinction I’ve come to learn
Lol
Fun fact: "ATTRACTIVE" spelled backwards is "EVITCARTTA", which means absolutely nothing.
lol wtf
indeed a fun fact. useful? hell no
Sounds Español
Wow that has to be the most interesting thing Ive heard in a long time!
I told a NASCAR fan that racecar spelled backwards was racecar and he wrote it out on paper to verify it. LOL.
That infield.. omg. You are so smooth! It's exhilarating to watch!
I may be wrong, but I actually found it horrible haha Idk, it just seemed like what every guy would do and say. I've seen way better shit from todd
@@fabricio_santana simplicity works well!
todd is rarely ever smooth, but he's got a lot of experience and an interesting life that makes him confident and attractive. you don't have to be smooth or thrilling, you just have to be assured enough not to fuck it up
W2 And what makes you think that we don’t think you’re getting a hard on for todd too?
Actually he could of been a lot more assured in that interaction.
1) having a “look.” Carrying yourself, posture
2)assertiveness. Make a FIRM decision.
Stand up for yourselves.
3)assuredness. Your belief that you have value and she will like you.
4) Paying attention to conversation and her, can be stalkerish. But if you are HIGH VALUE guy that finds them special and experience better.
5)Willingness to act crazy and try new things. Taking those risks!! Talk to her in a controversial way.
Pure gold man. Pure gold. Nuff said! Todd is the best source of valuable help and information!
klasop lmfao this guy is the epitome of a turn off
@@hilary111 well, he's being didactic and very informative since it's a 'how to' video.
Tripp advice. Combine his teaching with todd and you succeed. One without the other is a lot less effective.
Go after what you want. True in every aspect of your life. Not just women.
Dominance: leadership, authority, commanding influence
Self Love: confidence, positive self belief, assertiveness, non neediness
High(er) Status: Attributes that indicate you are “above” or “better than” others. The way you are indicates you currently are or have the potential to get well farther than others in life.
This May be the only video you need.
💯 Game in a nutshell.
Omg you losers are so pathetic
김민재 yeah we are.... probably even worse than you think ;)
- Self-reliance
- Integrity
- Ability to say no
- Confidence
- Abundance
what about money & social status?
Good looks trumps literally any of those
Self reliance - I would not call self-reliance as an attractive trait. We do live in a very dependable relationship in the world. We rely and depend on food, shelter, other beings, and technology to continue our lives forward. However I would change that to Self-trust. Knowing that you can do it yourself when you need to. That your internal voice is the same as your external output. You do what you say. And you understand what you good at and what you are not and may need to rely on some outside factor to help you with.
Integrity - great I love that one.
Ability to say no - Facing the consequences is where I would put that one. When you can handle the consequences it allows you to take those risks. And ability to say no comes with many risks. People don't have ability to say no cause they are afraid of the conflict due to the consequences. So they dig themselves into a deeper problem. Speak your authentic self will help with this. Which means speak out what you honestly believe and face the consequences. Then you will have the ability to say whatever you need or want without worry.
Confidence - Yes (Most importantly strong self belief of yourself)
Abundance - Which I call a detach dependency from outcome. If you win, great, if you don't, great, you learned something new. Another chance will come around.
Simply Balling gtfo with that incel shit
N J hush Incel
The distinction between assured and assertive is so valuable. Thanks for that
So much of this comes down to energy/vitality levels. If you are eating well and exercising well and resting well you will be bursting of energy and wanting to go out and live a fun, fulfilling life.
“I like how you allow your assistant to refer to you as bitch, that shows character” 😂 that killed me
Came here to write the exact same thing! 🤣🤣🤣
1:10 that's an adult woman answer, she's attractive and dateable
The answer was vague and conflicting it made no sense at all.
Winged Hussar
No, it was a ramble.. from the sex that is supposed to be excellent at communication.
her life/occupation sounds highly structured, but she's _trying_ to sound adventurous. most women who _could_ just drop everything and go are losers
Her body language was really negative
@@360.Tapestry you just copied this
2:54 guy in background is an example of the opposite of what Todd is saying at that point. Synchronicity is amusing.
Let's not judge 👩⚖️
bro that guy was straight up vibin
This is a good video for teaching openers. She never showed any signs of being attracted to him. She didn't bother to face him and kept her left leg cross instead of the right one. She maintained a vibe of indifference for him to notice. Basically she was the one dominating the frame of the interaction. She provide a number but made clear not her personal one for him to reach. This is mostly an example of how an Alpha female (if that exist) handle strangers that approach her.
Still the very best dating and pick up coach I have ever come across! I don’t think anyone will ever top you
Proud of your work as always
Todd. You are a genius on all of this attraction and what women want.
Excellent video. This is fast becoming my favorite channel.
nice to hear that niggas
My boi Todd with the middle child beat. Should have known the video was going to be beast.
Attractiveness, Assertiveness, Assuredness, Attentiveness, Aliveness.
Victor H thanks boss
The #1 trait I’ve learned is awareness. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. If you get turned down move on, don’t wallow. It’s so hard but valuable in the end.
Todd, I love where you have taken things. You were my favorite back at your previous gig. Kudos to you and thank you so much for motivating & teaching us.
It's such a struggle that so much effort must be put in to attract girls. This alone turns off a lot of smart men because women are not THAT valuable but we have to seem that way due to our hormones really. Meanwhile a super attractive man doesn't even have to try very hard. Great advice though Todd.
Seriously this shit is ridiculous
I'm out of this, better be alone
It’s not a lot of effort lmao. This is pretty basic stuff. I would say working a 9-5 job requires way more effort
I broke past that barrier recently. Basically, PUA advice can and should be applied to every part of your life, which will make it better in every way, and you will find it easy to attract girls eventually. The best part is the effort you put into PUA will last the rest of your life.
Take notes field test and pan what works!!!!! Great video thank u Todd
Point 5 was great. I once went skinny dipping in a fountain abroad, and only when I jumped in did I realize that it was outside of a police station. Girl I met that night went home with me. Crazy shit!
The 5 major traits can be boiled down to two things: confidence and attractiveness. There it is. Cold hard bitter truth.
Confidence, Charisma, Masculinity and Social Intelligence. Those are the four traits, guys!
More infield Todd. Thank you! For sharing.
You look good Todd. Keep exercising.
Todd V: “Don’t get dead.”
lmaoooo that was funny
Honestly he should sell some shirts without phrase
Also don't forget through these " alive behaviors"
Thanks, Todd! Hadn't thought of it this way! I used to pick a bunch of girls up as a younger man, but lost all of my game and/or vibe. Now am, litte-by-little, changing it 4 the better. Always been very damn shy too.
Assuredness. My belief in my value, worthiness, and myself.
This guy's the best. One day I'll buy all your programs and go to your classes
12:34 "death defying things and getting dead" A+ grammar lol
Yeah i laughed at the "getting dead" too!
i have th esystem , and i can say that todd maces a very high quality youtube , as he does on his paid content , i suggest that he enables the thanks button on his channel
Damn Todd! Been with my girl now 3 years after using your skills to get a solid partner. Played the game for 2 years so I did my thang. Now honestly I had let myself go but u got me realizing I gotta get my shit back together!
This man don’t miss
One of the few guys who knows what he’s talking about
i would say, don't only apply this on girls but in your life in general. It makes it easier to apply it everywhere and i think it also would benefit you in other fields apart from dating.
Such a great video thanks todd!!🙌
Attentiveness. Be aware of the environment, the girl and pay attention to the details.
You break it down easier and quicker than others
This man got a Ph.D. in Words.
100% agree on the top 5. Solid video Todd
Great vid ....also other traits such as being non needy, unreactiveness, decisiveness are good.
“Unreactivness” lmao what are you talking about
New word replacing “not being emotional”, unreactiveness 👏🏿 Impressive
@@ballislife9092 someone who isn't put off by a woman's shit test. The only way to pull high value women is to unreactive to their "coldness" that they put up to keep the non-confident guys away.
I would add a 6th, one of the most important, characteristic, strictly related to some of them: LEADERSHIP. I've noticed, that, even in lack of some features, leadership, and taking a sharp, precise decision, is extremely attractive; I would say, one of the requirements to be a real man.
12:32 “getting dead” had me splitting my sides mate
I don't have attractiveness assertiveness, assuredness, aliveness. The only trait I do feel I have is Attentiveness I am aware and listen to the girl and the details. (which in this case actually is hurting me.) My background experience is a reflection of these. When I was younger I asked for what I wanted or needed and rarely got it. Most of the time I was ignored or moved to the side. (Trained to stop asking questions, and demanding for my needs) My beliefs about myself were many times left to question and I was not assured about making a firm decision. I have been working on this area but due to lots of negative feedback. I am not getting lots of real world responses that develops my confidence about myself. Many people doubt me, don't take me seriously, or ghost me out. It pisses me off because I know more about myself, It's just they don't see it and I can't easily convey it. So sometimes I am very assured but when put under pressure, I feel threatened and I end up doubting my belief. I used to practice taking risks and still do but just managing my risks a bit more. For example I have done many physically stupid things and am okay with them. I can take off my helmet on a bike. But I understand my risks and choose not to. However, from social pressures, conflicts, or demanding for what I want takes a lot out of me.
This one time I had someone bothering my mom and arguing with her in a manner that was about to get violent. I heard it in a room next door but, was conflicted over stepping in and telling (demanding) the other person to leave my house. That's something I was afraid to do because I doubted I could do that. I felt that many times I was always ignored or pushed away, and treated like my works don't mean anything. Which means I would end up getting really mad and don't something to catch attention. Breaking something, shouting, or getting violent. I was afraid or dealing with the consequences because I did not know how it may end up and just hoped that I was all going to settle down on it's own which it did. But, that experience simply reinforced me to stay quiet and not take social risks cause I can't handle the consequences and I will probably have to with the way I end up getting treated. I'm just sick and tired of being walked or talked over, pushed to the side or simply ignored, or ghosted out. People only talk to me to get to something else. If was was not there it would not matter to them. I don't mater to them and they wouldn't miss me at all. Valueless and Attractive-less.
It's very hard for me to flip this and I am trying. I left pretty much all my friends because they don't help out with this at all. Trying to find new supportive friend who are trying to grow and help reinforce and encourage, confidence and take risks with out judgement. Like Todd or other guys in the pickup community with good moral intention of course. So currently I am doing it alone and it's so difficult to ignore the past fears and re build my mind and belief through scraps of success if anything and keep believing in myself, ignoring the negative feedback or criticisms out there. I know the saying "what doe's not kill you makes you stronger." But you have to keep in mind, It also breaks you down. and if it breaks you down hard enough it can teach you the beliefs that you are weaker which keeps you there. Which is like the saying the Big elephant who is chained ed to the wall can break free easily, but believes he is not, because when he was young his past attempts failed and taught him he was too weak to do so. Now that the elephant if big he is stronger but mentally still weaker.
No offence pal but grow some balls please or life will stand on you.
@@alexbophy7274 Not offended at all. Can you please tell me a good method for grow some balls. Is there a meditation technique? Maybe a process with steps of action? Is there a group or community to people with similar problems who are fixing this that I can join? Maybe there is information I am missing to make this work? You are right life will not only stand on me. It already is standing on me. I'm not simply bitching and whining about it. I'm actually looking for some valid solutions. But, I may need some coaching to get me out of my shoes and back live life to the best potential.
I can relate to you ..it’s important to get positive feedbacks/responses every now and then bcoz if all attempts lead to negative outcomes ever since you started trying
It just brings you down instead of making you stronger bcoz it just enforces that you are not good enough for anything
There a saying that we are meant for some not for all..
Problem is if every time one is getting negative outcomes /responses
Then we start to question ourselves that surely there is a deeper issue going on
Guess one way is to lowering expectancy ..try and build confidence from the small positive reactions / responses ( Todd said that in some video ) and work your way up
Bcoz right now there is a ‘Dependency for positive things to happen ‘ as the world has been harsh whenever you have Tried to put yourself out there
I feel like i really know you.. i had similar problems in my childhood, but my life gave me obstacles where i had to grow balls without an option, which was very scary for me, but the more you get out of your comfort zone, the better it gets. Really try to train yourself to say no or put yourself in a position where "no i cant do it" is not an option
Aljaž Jesen true the more we try and expand our comfort zone .. be it through brute force most of time bcoz there’s really no other alternative
The better it gets
Though there’s always that thought of
If only there was more positive reception for the actions that we took or moral support which boosts confidence levels ( gives these so called sudden bursts of positivity )and motivates to expand even more.
Just somehow work on getting those small bursts via good responses / positive outcomes and thrive from them
This are the things e teached in his program "woman" whenhe was already n RSD
You should debate Face and LMS about point number 1. I'm sure he would have a few things to say.
I really hope he doesn't. This whole LMS vs. Game argument is played out. A certain percent of guys believe that game doesn't work. Fine. I'm not sure why they even bother watching PUA videos. They're complete psychopaths for doing that. Go make lots of money and looks-max and leave the rest of us alone.
@@helloladies21 If looks didn't matter then why aren't there any short, fat, non-white PUAs hitting the streets and making tons of successful vids with Todd?
@@voltinator Yeah all successful PUA are rich, white men that are at least fairly good looking. I've never known an ugly PUA either. AMS speaks a lot of truth too, but he's clearly a chad.
@@helloladies21 Having bad game can ruin any guy's chances, so for sure game counts for something. However an ugly looking man can have great game, and it will count for nothing. Todd V has some good advice, but it's clear that all PUA are above average in looks, and at least fairly wealthy.
God Damn, Todd! You're so prolific - I love it!
Great vid! Btw I just realised how many subs u have, glad u gained them back 👍
He's back boys!
2:53 that guy behind Todd 😂
“The first trait of an attractive man is attractiveness”. Thanks a lot ..,
Assertiveness. Go after what I want.
Should make a video analysing ‘game’ on love island, that’d be pretty interesting content imo
Brian it’s fake?
Yes INFIELD! Todd you're da man!
The risk point is one of the key advantages of day game, it'll make you stand out and she'll respect your forwardness and appreciate you attention. Another is the concept in her head of serendipity (the romantic... 'we met on a bridge') and lastly day game is virtually free and can be done anywhere, any time. The only downside is it isn't easy but things worth having take a lot of work.
The confidence he displays in front of the camera VS when he is talking to women is very noticeable.
Women are absolutely attracted by men with a muscular frame. As a guy who was once scrawny, then put on lots of muscle, there was a night-and-day change with women.
FreedomFox1 Don’t underestimate the effect that getting in shape had on your personality, and how attractive that newfound confidence was.
Todd would make an amazing psychologist
lucas loucetios he really would. He already knows so much about the topic he can do it maybe after he retires from game lol
I am assured, but not assertive 😖 But I went out and completed the task of talking to 8 strangers (all cute women) today! I worry about my "non-laughing/not smiling because Im with my friend who Im completely comfortable with" smile. I feel like the terminator if I maintain eye contact while even nudging my smile out, instead of it happening completely naturally.
more hollywood vs real life. heavily recommend the system btw guys
I've watched as many of your videos as I can get my hands on with the same unsuccessful results. I feel like i understand better what a woman wants but can't seem to execute in the moment. Ever.
this guy is a scientist !
Attractiveness:
"Your look, not looks"
Hey man your pickup advice is super solid. Have you ever thought about applying to work for RSD?
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Whaaattt??😕
really hope he's being sarcastic 😂
🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 Todd pls don’t u can work for my snake skin phone case amazon business
This video could blow up youtube better stop hiding this gold #game #success #lifetips #self-aware
I trust him more than I trust movie-star-looking guys because he looks like an average guy. His dating success must be from his social skills, and possibly wealth but that isn't obvious from looking at him. His advice is worth listening to.
More serious quality Todd, well done and thanks.
Attractiveness
Assertiveness
Assuredness
Attentiveness
Aliveness
Thanks for teching me
An awesome really well-explained video, which is the first one I watch of your channel and the reason you have a new subscriber.
Todd I learned a thing looking at your body language! At one point while saying a sentence you had this swallow reflex. Then right after it, your voice got deeper on the next sentence! You didin't let the refex interupt yiur point.. I have the same reflex and it feels that it interupts my speech, makes it hard for me to continue.. I am going to recover the same way as you did there. Good video!
I want more infields from start to close. This was great
Buy the system it has a ton
One roadblock I have from being truly assured (at an internal, spiritual level) is knowing that there are people wiser than me out there - my parents, older guys, etc. how can I be assured of my correctness when I’ve made substantial mistakes and poor judgment in the past?
So proud of myself to recognize he’s at Astor place from the 1st second of the video
Like for me, starting a conversation could be just smiling, making eye contact and saying “hi, how are ya?” And then bringing up a point of conversation “nice shirt, big Metallica girl huh?” “What’s your opinion on this beer?” And go from there. Idk. I guess I’m just a naturally confident and conversational guy. The whole beginning conversation was a little odd to me to just jump straight into an odd hypothetical, but hey whatever works for ya I suppose. Great advice in the video though.
Nice vid. Easy to remember... just need to keep reminding myself and checking that I'm aligned to it
outstanding and solid advice. well prepared presentation.
Um I'd say todd has somehow managed to become the Goku of game. wtf
Being attractive men its good too.
it all comes down to self-steem (check out nathaniel's branden) + empathy/sympathy
Todd reminds me of a ted bundy type he’s literally the best pick up coach out there
More men need to listen to guys like this instead of the ones telling you that if you’re not a 6’3” model you’ll never get a good looking woman to pay attention.
neverGiveUp you’re an incel, huh?
Attractiveness. Have a look that conveys something about me.
You NEED a podcast
Anyone else would like Todd to make a video about online dating apps and how to use them?
My advice. Work on your weak areas and once you're ready to test yourself, start approaching girls in person. You can approach the ones who you're not too attracted to and then as your self confidence and anxiety diminishes due to those interactions, you can then approach girls that are more attractive and harder to impress.
Forget the online dating. It's a total bullshit.
No dating apps, she cant see your great traits on a text message. Approach in person and remember dont care and have abundance mindset. There are more women on this planet than men.
Wow, she invested herself so quickly!
The dancing guy in the background at 2:54 ... 🤣
do you mean 2:54?
@@jaredtweed7826 you are right
Thank you, Todd. Super informational. Keep slaying it ;)
Noticing all the hypertechnical verbal game 🙊 if someone said that stuff to me I'd immediately think game. Maybe normal people wouldn't?
Girls aren't dumb. They know they're being gamed/hit on/picked up. But if the game is good enough then they don't care and are open to being seduced.
@@londonB52 Exactly!
@@londonB52 Correct, they already know you are trying to pick them up/seduce them the moment you show up, they play the game too, isn't about what you say but how you say it, check Todd's tone and delivery.
Nice Henley, Alpha m would approve