MAURICE BENARD STATE OF MIND with LILLY MELGAR: Overcoming Loss during Covid, Mental Health & GH

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  • Опубліковано 21 сер 2024
  • Trigger Warning: talks of Suicide, Loss of a Parent
    This week I'm joined by Lilly Melgar. You may know Lilly best from her roles on General Hospital, The Bold and The Beautiful and The Bay, but Lilly and I have been friends for years.
    Lilly so bravely opens up about some hard experiences from the past year. I’m so proud of her for sharing her beautiful story. We all need to hear we are stronger than we know.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 280

  • @LillyMelgarOfficial
    @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +79

    Thank you Maurice for allowing such a safe and loving platform for me to share my experience in hopes of connecting to others and being a reminder that we CAN get through the hard stuff... the unbearable pain we will inevitably experience at some point in life. So much LOVE to all who viewed and have shared their own experience with us. I'll say it again .... we are all in this together.

    • @MBStateOfMind
      @MBStateOfMind  3 роки тому +7

      Thank you

    • @jolliebearforchrist5468
      @jolliebearforchrist5468 3 роки тому +2

      YOU MRS. LILLY ARE GORGEOUS!

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +1

      @@jolliebearforchrist5468 THANK YOU!!!

    • @lindaa2437
      @lindaa2437 3 роки тому +3

      Thank you both for being so open about your struggles. Lilly, I also was with my dad when he took his last breath. I was alone with my father when he died from lung cancer. Like you, I described what I went through immediately after his passing as a form of PTSD. Hearing you describe your experience as a form of PTSD validated my feelings. The comfort you recieved from the medium reinforces my faith that Dad is in Heaven with my mom. Thank you so much for that gift. I believe my dad sent me to this link to hear this message today. Thank you both and may God always Bless you both.

    • @reallauramaustin
      @reallauramaustin 3 роки тому +2

      You're very beautiful and I mean inner as well as on the outside. God bless!

  • @loisgreen4372
    @loisgreen4372 3 роки тому +17

    You better ask her to come back again💕💙

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +3

      He was kicking me out!!! hahahahahahahahahahaha (kidding!) ... we are clearly not done ... so many things we didn't touch upon.

  • @beautifulone5509
    @beautifulone5509 3 роки тому +16

    I like the advise Maurice gave about focusing on your strength instead of our weaknesses. To sit there after suffering so much loss is definitely a sign of strength. Peace and strength to you Lilly. God is with you.

  • @stephenhubler2014
    @stephenhubler2014 3 роки тому +4

    Wow...just Wow

  • @FaithfulJoanieBear
    @FaithfulJoanieBear 3 роки тому +7

    You stated it exactly when you said attempting suicide is trying to get rid of the pain (the physical & or the mental)... I attempted 12 times within a 3 year period. I found that I was on a medication that made me go to this extreme. With PTSD due to MST (military sexual trauma), as well as childhood abuse & a highly dysfunctional family due to my father’s & legal father’s issues , I was a hot mess. I got injured in the AF, I’m a 💯 disabled veteran. I definitely wanted those pains (mental & physical) to go away. Getting off of an antidepressant changed my world. Not that the ideations are not still around, but the change in medication & having better therapy, as well getting closer to God, has changed my life

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +7

      I am so incredibly sorry for all the pain and trauma you've had to endure.... I am so GRATEFUL you are still here and adjusting to live a higher quality of life ... healing and strengthening your faith. God BLESS you.

    • @MBStateOfMind
      @MBStateOfMind  3 роки тому +5

      God bless your brother

    • @jennifersmith5664
      @jennifersmith5664 3 роки тому +4

      I don't know you but I'm happy you are still here!

    • @FaithfulJoanieBear
      @FaithfulJoanieBear 3 роки тому +1

      Thank you all very much. God has been good to me. The symptoms of what caused me all of those attempts (trauma) will always be there, but learning to live with them has been the key to my therapists. I even ended up going to seminary, graduating with my M’Div.

  • @WynterSantiaga
    @WynterSantiaga 3 роки тому +7

    She's still pretty as hell!

  • @danielaioannides3851
    @danielaioannides3851 2 роки тому

    I have always loved the connection between Maurice Benard with Lilly Melgar, even since they were on GH years ago. They do have beautiful chemistry, even today. Thank you for sharing the severe issues of mental health which are needed to understand in this life.

  • @tellylott77
    @tellylott77 3 роки тому +5

    YOU NEVER DISAPPOINT!

  • @brendagagliardi2983
    @brendagagliardi2983 3 роки тому +9

    How can you forget Sonny Married this beauty? Best 1 ever for SONNY. 💯Lily, you're so strong! I'm sorry for your losses. God Bless you!❤🙏 Maurice, it was bad depression & anxiety for me too in pandemic, but look what she went through in it. I'll never complain again after that. You 2 as friends have great chemistry too & the no no no im not done😂😂😂

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +5

      I was his first wife AND I was pregnant!!! I'm literally STILL laughing at the "fiance' comment ... memory supplements on the way!!! LOL !!! ... Thank you love!!! I do think Lily was sooo GOOD for Sonny and those airplane scenes ... when he goes after her and gets on his knees crying telling her he chooses HER and their family ... soooo beautiful!!! ....
      I'm sorry for your anxiety and depression and trauma .... you are not alone!!! ... we are all dealing with our stuff!

  • @MrRe59
    @MrRe59 3 роки тому +10

    Thank you for bringing Lilly on I was so in love with her she was just so pretty and beautiful with you on screen, I hope she is doing well and still acting somewhere!!!

  • @Joe61055
    @Joe61055 3 роки тому +1

    Thanks Maurice for letting Lilly open up about her past year with COVID-19 and the loss of two men in her life.

  • @rebeccaweigel725
    @rebeccaweigel725 3 роки тому +4

    Go Maurice go gh!!

  • @loisgreen4372
    @loisgreen4372 3 роки тому +8

    Lilly, I’m so sorry your loss. You are amazing. Maurice you are fantastic. This state of mind was amazing. I know you would have sold a lot of books, even if we didn’t have this pandemic. Because of who you are. Oh my God I’m so sorry about your dad 🙏😢 God bless you and your family. Maurice, God bless you and your family. 💜💙💜💙

  • @AmyLMcCorkle
    @AmyLMcCorkle 3 роки тому +5

    Lily you are beautiful and resilient

  • @randinatkowitz2487
    @randinatkowitz2487 3 роки тому +8

    The Clink Boom episode of GH is one that I will never forget!!! So feast to see you two together again!! ❤️

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +3

      I love and adore this man. So GOOD to be together again :)

    • @randinatkowitz2487
      @randinatkowitz2487 3 роки тому +3

      @@LillyMelgarOfficial you look wonderful! I truly enjoyed your conversation with Maurice! ❤️

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +2

      @@randinatkowitz2487 Thank you!!

    • @nidkahg9648
      @nidkahg9648 Рік тому

      I loved that episode! I danced when Leelee died!!

  • @michellecollins5494
    @michellecollins5494 3 роки тому +13

    WOW WOW!!!! That was so deep, so raw!!!! You’re both so comfortable with each other. It was funny, emotional. You both could have talked for hours!♥️

  • @cindykolze7959
    @cindykolze7959 3 роки тому +12

    I cannot wait for this one, Lilly is such a beautiful soul and her strength amazes me. And you Maurice with your kind open heart, this SOMis going to be magical. My serenity Sunday will start out right with this right here.❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +2

      Thank you for your kind words. You have a beautiful soul that shines through everything you've shared with me in the past 24 hrs.

    • @cindykolze7959
      @cindykolze7959 3 роки тому +3

      @@LillyMelgarOfficial thank you for the kind words, coming from you that means a lot.❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @avamcwashington2158
    @avamcwashington2158 2 роки тому

    This was really a great interview. I forgot that Lilly was your first wife on GH. This was truly an edge of your seat interview. I was in tears hearing her struggles and wish her well. Thank you Maurice Bernard for this forum for mental illness. I feel like I am in a group therapy session and it is working. I always learn something new.

  • @laurietijerina3816
    @laurietijerina3816 3 роки тому +23

    I can't believe that you forgot that she played as your first wife. She's still beautiful too. Not right how they took her out of GH. She's sweet.

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +5

      WE need to get him some memory supplements ASAP!!! LOL!!!

  • @joseguerra3669
    @joseguerra3669 3 роки тому +2

    Yes like lilly said was very strong and he was proud of his body and work out for at least two hrs. every day and suddenly his body was "melting" he was loosing the battle against leukemia. I love him very much we talk everyday. Its so much I can say about him, but Lilly said he is in a better place. What a strong woman my dear Lilly. My love goes to her and the rest of the family. Thank you Maurice for allow Lilly to talk about my brother Gus (R.I.P). Great conversation you had with Lilly and we were captivated with it.

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому

      Gracias tio!! ... My dad LOVED you and I am so grateful he had you and for the beautiful relationship you both had ... truly .... so beautiful.

  • @toniidowu6428
    @toniidowu6428 3 роки тому +15

    Thank you Maurice for another great interview, and Thank you Lilly for being so open and willing to share your experiences. It does help. So sorry for the terrible fan who was so cruel. I confess, I hated that Sonny left Brenda and you became his wife, but you Lilly are beautiful. God Bless and thank you, again ♥️

  • @dianasantiago6101
    @dianasantiago6101 2 роки тому

    Just seeing Lilly brought back great memories of seeing her on GH! I was very heart broken when they killed her off GH and so happy to see her still looking amazing and gorgeous! You were so brave to come out and speak of your losses. Thank you and best wishes for you and your family! ❤️

  • @Mandylovesjesus2
    @Mandylovesjesus2 3 роки тому +15

    Thank you so much Maurice and Lily. It was wonderful to see y’all talking about history and suicide. Hope you have a blessed and wonderful day and many more to come! God Bless!🙏

  • @cowgirlup1960
    @cowgirlup1960 3 роки тому +6

    I know the feeling of losing a parent, I have lost both of mine. Lilly is a breath of fresh air, I loved her on GH but as you said Maurice the fans can be like your mother, I am a Carly fan- Laura Wright specifically. Pain and mourning cuts deep and sometimes we don’t know how to deal with it, we just have to move through it and if we can’t we need to reach out for help. Thank You for this weeks State of Mind! Stay Safe! We need you with us for a long time to come! You are a special person with a heart of gold

  • @ALouise301
    @ALouise301 2 роки тому +1

    This is a Wonderful Conversation. Luvd Lily and Sonny the Best!

  • @DuJay1994
    @DuJay1994 3 роки тому +5

    I liked Lily with Sonny.

  • @1crazysista
    @1crazysista 3 роки тому +6

    I think this episode of State of Mind is my absolute favorite. I appreciate the depth, insight, and vulnerability.

  • @manveengill5150
    @manveengill5150 3 роки тому +7

    Another amazing episode loved her on gh sorry for your loss you leave your loved once with so much pain someone I knew took his own life and nothings been the same ever since he left

  • @kaseyblack6763
    @kaseyblack6763 3 роки тому +3

    Ahhh! I JUST googled her the other day. Loved Lily on GH. I was only 11 or so, but that whole storyline was gripping

  • @cindykolze7959
    @cindykolze7959 3 роки тому +10

    Waiting with baited breath, was so excited about this one I woke up at 5am. Love these two beautiful souls.🥰🥰🥰🥰

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +5

      This literally just brought tears to my eyes!! YOU are a beautiful soul!!

  • @jennifersmith5664
    @jennifersmith5664 3 роки тому +6

    Wow Lilly, stunning inside & out! Thanks for tackling suicide and sharing. Great episode.

  • @sherrylandscaping3781
    @sherrylandscaping3781 3 роки тому +6

    I learn from each State of Mind. Thank you 💕

  • @karikarisutherland7589
    @karikarisutherland7589 3 роки тому +5

    Amazing interview

  • @cindykolze7959
    @cindykolze7959 3 роки тому +9

    Lilly, you are so strong, I can’t imagine what you were going through, my heart breaks for you.💔

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +3

      Thank you Cindy ... I don't feel strong at all ... cried more than I have in my entire life. I'm just SO GRATEFUL to KNOW with out a shadow of a doubt ... that he's still very much with us

  • @rebeccarodriguez2581
    @rebeccarodriguez2581 3 роки тому +6

    Loss is so hard, especially when one has multiple losses in a short period of time. My heart goes out to Lilly and her daughter. I've found that time replaces the upsetting images of the ill loved one with images from happier times. I hope this will happen for Lilly.

  • @bethschneider5223
    @bethschneider5223 3 роки тому +4

    Favorite thing to do on Sunday! Love ❤️ 💕 ❤️

  • @crystalellul845
    @crystalellul845 3 роки тому +7

    My greatest fear is to lose my mom. It terrifies me to sometimes I get panic attacks about it. Im so glad go watch these ones where you talk about loss of a parent and it shows me the strength yall have. Thank you again Mo for an amazing episode.
    Congrats of 25k followers woot woot!!!

  • @wolfgangproductions7402
    @wolfgangproductions7402 3 роки тому +5

    Lilly your story made me cry I wish that I could give you a big hug with all you have been through. Right now I’m watching my best friend my Pomeranian dying. His seizures seem to be under control with the anti seizure meds. When I lost my mom 5 years ago I still feel the emptiness of her not here anymore ....I still reach for the phone to call her. I’m very scared and depressed in this nightmare of the world. You also lost your dog ? Thank you Maurice for once again for your Sunday videos they are very comforting and gives me something to look forward too. Please have lily on again I relate a lot to her .....

    • @MBStateOfMind
      @MBStateOfMind  3 роки тому +3

      👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +2

      Thank you for the virtual hug and kind words. Blessings to your and your dog. I am so sorry for you loss as well. He'll have me back ... I'll make sure of it ;)

  • @hollycuellar3601
    @hollycuellar3601 3 роки тому +9

    I can't wait to see this video. She is awesome. She was great on GH. Love her too.

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +2

      Thank you Holly!!

    • @hollycuellar3601
      @hollycuellar3601 3 роки тому +2

      I just watched your video. I was very emotional and good at the same time. And informational also.

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +2

      @@hollycuellar3601 so grateful you enjoyed.

  • @terris7460
    @terris7460 3 роки тому +3

    Lilly was awesome I felt her pain of loss because I too saw my mother die in front of me and I took care of my grandma while she was dying. I was with her till the end and seeing her taking her last breath was and still is emotional difficult to deal with to this very day. I lost both my mom and grandma in a year and a half. And now I’m trying my best to get my 22 year old son help he is suicidal and I am so scared that when he is in room I constantly check on him and at night I go to his door to listen for him ( he snores) I want to thank you for today’s show. ❤️

  • @cindykolze7959
    @cindykolze7959 3 роки тому +6

    I hit that point in August Maurice, my family saved me.

  • @mariavieira4482
    @mariavieira4482 3 роки тому +8

    Wishing you peace in your life, Lilly. What a horrible year you’ve had. You are resilient and strong and what a wonderful example you’ve set for your daughter.
    I freely admit I was not a fan of Lily Rivera (hardcore S&B fan here), but I have only heard lovely things about Lilly Melgar. ✌️

  • @rhondahoneycutt9867
    @rhondahoneycutt9867 3 роки тому +9

    I look forward to every Sunday. you are such a blessing to so many. you always hit the nail on the head. god bless you and your family. can’t wait for next week.

  • @marykohler9864
    @marykohler9864 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you to both of you. It was heart-wrenching to hear Lilly talk about watching her father die, becauseI watched my mom die in January 2020, after a two month battle with an illness and it was the hardest thing EVER. I miss her every minute of every day.😥

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +2

      I hear you!! ... It's absolutely devastating. Sending you so much love.

    • @marykohler9864
      @marykohler9864 3 роки тому +1

      @@LillyMelgarOfficial Thanks so much, and the same to you.🤗

  • @jamillajohnson6108
    @jamillajohnson6108 Рік тому +1

    Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss you experienced in such a short amount of time. It was heartbreaking to hear but empowering at the same time. I love that you had the time to heal in a way that fit and helped you get through it. It does show strength.. I hope you see that, because I did.
    Side Note... Can't believe someone would send you "fan" mail that was intentionally meant to harm you. I'm an avid SnB fan from day 1 that was my couple....and was not happy with Lily Rivera interfering with them...but would NEVER think to do something like that! I'm so sorry that happen to you.

  • @vanessanichols5375
    @vanessanichols5375 10 місяців тому

    Maurice you are Too Cool 👍🦋🌷🦋, Lily you took us on a rollercoaster ride Loved you at the end 😘🎉

  • @PinkSunglasses50
    @PinkSunglasses50 3 роки тому +1

    i just recently saw my parents after about a year and a half. my dad was diagnosed with congestive heart failure since i last saw him he has lost so much weight. for the first time he looked OLD. that was HARD for me to see. my mom has so many things wrong diabetes kidney disease congestive heart failure dementia she is a amputee lost half a leg 15 years ago. I have always been closer to my dad he has always doted on me so its a mutual thing. I still ask him advice and if i cant figure my own way then i just do what he told me. life without him in it is going to be so hard.i love my mom but i feel unconditionally accepted and loved by my dad. so THANKFUL you are having these conversations.

  • @cindykolze7959
    @cindykolze7959 3 роки тому +4

    I love your easy rapport.❤️❤️❤️

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +2

      Seamless ... always deep and somehow light when we're together. Beautiful combo. :)

  • @kevinwade5540
    @kevinwade5540 3 роки тому +4

    I'm glad I made it.

  • @suecowles4560
    @suecowles4560 2 роки тому

    I just want to say thank you for doing these videos.. I just discovered them in the last week...As a sufferer of anxiety and depression... Listening to others and you yourself is most helpful.. I hope you continue with them...

  • @feliciabourque
    @feliciabourque 3 роки тому +5

    I really enjoyed this episode. ❤

  • @michelleguillen9646
    @michelleguillen9646 3 роки тому +7

    I always loved Lilly Melgar, this will be another fabulous interview. Will be watching;-)

  • @marthamadison1
    @marthamadison1 3 роки тому +4

    Atta girl! I’m so proud of you. ❤️

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +2

      Thank YOU for teaching me that sharing my vulnerabilities is JUST as important as sharing the good stuff ... I truly owe this to our friendship and your contribution to my life ... love you!

    • @marthamadison1
      @marthamadison1 3 роки тому +2

      @@LillyMelgarOfficial 😭❤️😘

  • @shelleyturner7029
    @shelleyturner7029 3 роки тому +3

    Great interview! Good to see her. I hope you have the Sarah Brown, Tamara Braun and Laura Wright on one Sunday. That would be awesome.

  • @cindykolze7959
    @cindykolze7959 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you both, it was wonderful.🥰🥰🥰

  • @reallauramaustin
    @reallauramaustin 3 роки тому +2

    Lilly has such beauty- inside and out. You're right that she is strong. Very admirable.

  • @kimsmith797
    @kimsmith797 3 роки тому +7

    This was great! I loved her honesty. There is always hope💕. I love the new set!

  • @sandyr8173
    @sandyr8173 3 роки тому +3

    Love and respect you so much Maurice ❤❤❤

  • @patriciafergerson5316
    @patriciafergerson5316 3 роки тому +1

    I feel for you too. I've been going through my daughter having ALL Leukemia in the last few years, I decided to have another baby and it was born with Prader Willi Syndrome , we was shocked cause it was so unexpected. So many things involved in his treatments. He has Autism and expect him not to learn to talk. I long to hear the word Mama. My faith is strong and I know he is who helps day to day. He has healed daughter. He's so good to us! I will have to say it is good to have a little time for myself to relax, so GH is a place I can escape to for a little while everyday. So Thank You GH and Maurice. Lilly you are strong , we both are. God Bless You both.

  • @cindykolze7959
    @cindykolze7959 3 роки тому +9

    You guys are just fantastic, this was another great episode. Lilly touched my heart when she spoke of her dad, I lost my mom recently and she made so much sense.

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +2

      Awww ... this means so much to me ... I'm so happy I was able to communicate in a way that connected for you. So important to know that we're all in this thing called 'life' together. I am SO SORRY for your loss. I can't even bear the 'thought' of life without my mother. Sending you so much love.

  • @cindykolze7959
    @cindykolze7959 3 роки тому +19

    It turns your world upside down when you lose a parent.💔

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +4

      It absolutely does! Close to an identity crisis.

    • @cindykolze7959
      @cindykolze7959 3 роки тому +3

      @@LillyMelgarOfficial exactly! I have lost both of my parents so I no one’s daughter anymore, who am I? I get it.

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +2

      @@cindykolze7959 Omg ... just reading this ... put that way ... it hurts. ... but they are always always with you!

    • @krystealexander6390
      @krystealexander6390 3 роки тому +2

      So true. Especially, when your parent(s) are your rock... 💜

    • @LULC0759
      @LULC0759 3 роки тому +2

      Yes it changes you. I’m 61. Lost my Mom 7 yrs ago this week, my Dad a year ago. Our entire family dynamic has changed. It fractures your world.

  • @bridget2336
    @bridget2336 3 роки тому

    Every time I watch an episode of state of mine I am blown away by the conversations on this channel. I also want to say two things…Paula is Maurice’s angel from heaven, like REALLY, and I always feel like I want to give Maurice the biggest hug ever.🤗 In general people always think celebrities and stars have the easiest lives, never any worries or problems, but you truly never know what people are going through in life and we ALL all have our struggles. I am so grateful to Maurice for opening up and always being vocal about his struggles because not only does he help himself by talking about it, but he’s helped so many other people too. Now doing state of mind, starting from just speaking to people in his car on a Sunday, to this and bringing people on the show has been such a huge blessing. 🙏🏻I could never thank him enough. I’ve been watching General Hospital for decades, since I was eight years old with my mom and grandma, now I’m in my 40s. I consider Maurice a part of my extended family because that’s what these people are to all of us fans.❤️

  • @TonyaOuimet
    @TonyaOuimet 3 роки тому +4

    It’s funny as I watch this it’s the end of the day today was my daughters 16th Birthday it’s bitter sweet because both men in my life our life have passed my husband and father and was smiling knowing they both are smiling proud of the little lady she has turned out to be this reminded me that they may not be here in the flesh but forever alive in spirit thank you for saying there’s a gift you get going through losing someone because it’s the absolute truth and omg I have to say as a woman there would never be no hesitation from this gal to be on SOM lol 😂 no joke

  • @franceslansberry4475
    @franceslansberry4475 2 роки тому

    Thank you for this. This is a great and safe space. I never talk about watching my dad pass away - which she explained lovingly. I have been dealing with mental health issues all my life and find this a great place to listen to and get understanding on what I am feeling.

  • @laurietijerina3816
    @laurietijerina3816 3 роки тому +3

    You have to be a fighter to get through pain ,heart ache and anything that's coming against you. To not commit suicide. I know, because I've been through it for years since I was 18 and now I'm 51. It's a will to survive. It's a battle of thoughts of good and evil. You got to keep telling the devil not me,behind me devil the Lord is with me,the lord is my rock and strong tower,I fear no evil,the lord is with me everywhere I go! Amen Not everyone strong, but they can,they just need to believe and have faith. Keep looking up to the heavens,pray for strength and guidance. You don't have to look very far for him,the lord is truly right there where you are. You just have to have faith. The lord loves us. Get rid of thoughts of doubt,fear and worry ,it's all sin and it's a crutch to our soul. Rejoice in the lord and let the holy spirit lead you. Amen Thanks for the new video Maurice, it's nice seeing you and Lillie again. Peace be with you all.

  • @kevinwade5540
    @kevinwade5540 3 роки тому +9

    This was such a great show. She's hilarious .

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому

      (blushing) ... Thank you :)

    • @Dusk1962
      @Dusk1962 3 роки тому +1

      I have always love Lilly as an actress. I loved the Sonny/Liy story line. The m
      Chemistry between Maurice and Lilly is amazing. Thank you both for sharing your stories. This past year was tough. I lost. Brother to COPD and a SIL to COVID. Talking about depression, anxiety, bipolar is so important. My uncle committed suicide in 2018. I said then I felt he just wanted to end his physical and emotional pain. Im positive he never thought about the impact his death would cause fir his family. His wife is now enduring bone cancer treatments.

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому

      @@Dusk1962 Thank you for your kind words and for sharing ... sending so much love.

  • @fernandopalma6160
    @fernandopalma6160 3 роки тому +2

    What a beautiful video!! And never forget that your loved ones will help you get through those hard stuff when need!! Lots of love lilly!

  • @kevinwade5540
    @kevinwade5540 3 роки тому +4

    You're so blessed with Paula. God bless her and her love for you.

  • @elaineloring
    @elaineloring 3 роки тому +2

    Maurice, this is such a wonderful, personal conversation, and for a GH fan, the perfect blend of fun Sonny/Lily reminiscences and real revelations about depression, suicide, trauma and mortality. Thanks to you for asking Lilly to join you, and Lilly, for agreeing! Hope to see you again someday in Toronto. Stay safe. Elaine Loring, (former Global TV Entertainment Reporter/Canada's Wonderland!)

  • @lkshaw1
    @lkshaw1 3 роки тому +1

    I lost a family member due to suicide last year then two family members due to COVID and helping one of my children through their mental health crisis. Thanks for this video and transparency

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +1

      I am SO SORRY. Sending you love.

    • @lkshaw1
      @lkshaw1 3 роки тому +1

      @@LillyMelgarOfficial Thank You ❤️

  • @aaroncalafato1
    @aaroncalafato1 3 роки тому +6

    Powerful episode !

  • @jennifermumma1064
    @jennifermumma1064 3 роки тому +2

    I barely remember Lilly but remember the story line. She’s gorgeous and so sweet! And Maurice...intuitive as always!!

  • @kevinwade5540
    @kevinwade5540 3 роки тому +3

    So right .

  • @rosemarylombardo3214
    @rosemarylombardo3214 2 роки тому

    My favorite thus far!

  • @cindykolze7959
    @cindykolze7959 3 роки тому +5

    Hummingbirds are my mom, I see them often now.🥰

  • @jmar2549
    @jmar2549 3 роки тому +1

    Love your shows. Today's show reminded me of the most helpful thing a counselor told me many years ago that helped me through so many horrible times of depression and hopelessness. She told me that every time I get to those dark places of worry, hopelessness and not wanting to go on, to just look back on my life and think of all those times and I will realize that 99% or more of all the things I was in a tailspin about......never came to pass. And it is true. I have used this remedy for over 30 years now and I could never say in words how it has saved me to go on and get out of the darkness. Blessing to you and yours. And thank you for helping so many by being so honest and real.

  • @elainesinelli9688
    @elainesinelli9688 Рік тому

    I think what Lilly said about people being addicted to the pain is true, but, Maurice, I do not think anyone likes it. Addicts are sick. I don't think anyone enjoys being sick. I believe people are not aware they are addicted to pain. I believe an addict will do anything for a fix, including looking for pain. Your quick answer of "not me" stood out to me. How do you know that your body is not addicted to the chemical your body releases during the dark times? Mental illness is so, so multi faceted. That rabbit hole is dark and seems endless. Thank you for shedding light in the dark places.

  • @ceebee3953
    @ceebee3953 3 роки тому +1

    Great show. Wonder how GH would have been if Lily did not die. She is awesome.

  • @shirleyleon3654
    @shirleyleon3654 2 роки тому

    She so beautiful omg she so strong beautiful story of strength thank you love your show blessings to you

  • @deniseguzzardo
    @deniseguzzardo 3 роки тому +3

    Love to you both 😍😘♥️

  • @kathielieberman6338
    @kathielieberman6338 3 роки тому +2

    Incredible episode. Lilly is an incredibly strong woman. This has been such a hard year for her and her family, she has endured with such grace. Thank you for having her as a guest. I am really enjoying State of Mind.

  • @MChantal76
    @MChantal76 3 роки тому +4

    This was a fantastic interview and I love your enduring friendship. I can't believe you didn't remember that Sonny and Lily were married and she was having his baby! She was his first wife and in my opinion, his BEST wife! Still, I love seeing you two together again.

  • @sandilang2874
    @sandilang2874 2 роки тому

    Wonderful interview, so open and honest. Wishing strength to both of you! I lost my beautiful mom and incredible step dad to covid, I experienced such sadness that I truly could not speak.

  • @annettephillips872
    @annettephillips872 3 роки тому +4

    This was phenomenal !!
    I lost my mother & sister during Covid & she helped me soooo much. I am so grateful. Thank you!!!

    • @christybrown5209
      @christybrown5209 3 роки тому +3

      God bless you. So glad she helped you 💕

    • @LillyMelgarOfficial
      @LillyMelgarOfficial 3 роки тому +2

      I am SOOOO SORRY !!! I can't imagine the pain of such losses ... GOD BLESS YOU!! Sending you so much healing light and love!

  • @103lorig
    @103lorig 3 роки тому +3

    I'm so sorry Lilly, I had that same feeling when my Dad who was also my everything passed away, And also had several things happen one after the other, you just keep going, because that is all you can do at the time and that when you have that moment and things slow down. Then it hits you like a brick! We somehow manage to find that inner strength,,

  • @yvetromanroman7443
    @yvetromanroman7443 2 роки тому

    I love and benefit from the honesty and the raw material, is raw as it may be!!!

  • @tsefcik
    @tsefcik 3 роки тому

    Yes Lilly Melgar! 100% on addiction to being in pain. That one statement brought so much clarity on a past relationship.

  • @mamabetts
    @mamabetts 2 роки тому

    I deal with my own mental illness (in recovery from alcohol).Your videos also help me understand my very close friend with BP.

  • @nkathleenbryanwallace1061
    @nkathleenbryanwallace1061 3 роки тому +1

    Lots to ponder. Thank you Lily Melgar!

  • @kevinwade5540
    @kevinwade5540 3 роки тому +3

    It's a beautiful thing to realize

  • @cindykolze7959
    @cindykolze7959 3 роки тому +3

    You guys are great!🥰🥰🥰

  • @ewebster509
    @ewebster509 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you 😊. I've been there. You explained it well.

  • @yvetromanroman7443
    @yvetromanroman7443 2 роки тому

    GOD BLESS THE EFFORTS OF YOU "B" AND YOUR GUEST! NO ONE WILL EVER SUFFER AS MUCH AS CHRIST DID ON THAT CROSS, YET CHRIST IS STILL WILLING FOR US TO LEAN ON HIM, WHILE WE PUSH THROUGH THE VERY PRESSING TIMES!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @susankelly7844
    @susankelly7844 3 роки тому +1

    I feel the same way about my Dad who passed. I feel your pain Lilly♥️

  • @cindykolze7959
    @cindykolze7959 3 роки тому +5

    I love my alone time too.

  • @elizabethb9711
    @elizabethb9711 Рік тому

    I love Lilly!!! I've been watching old episodes of B&B and also loved that she was in The Bay. Unfortunately, I wasn't watching GH when she was on.

  • @curioussandy
    @curioussandy 3 роки тому

    Maurice, thank you for being so candid about your bipolar depression.
    I watched my brother Michael go through this for years since he was a little boy . I knew something was different about him but of course back in the 50s no one had a clue .
    Later on in his teen years he seemed to be doing well until he was introduced to speed in college . Straight A student, got married right out of college . Drugs seemed to almost keep him “manic” and when the depression hit , it was bad .
    It took years for him to finally be diagnosed with bipolar type 2. The medication didn’t seem to work much , but staying high did.
    In and out of rehab that never lasted.
    His life went from wonderful to miserable and he wasn’t there much any more . Just tired of fighting. Tired of being some one that he wasn’t trying to secure his crack.
    He was in pain from physical issues , in pain from mental issues from deaths of close relatives that he just could not deal with it .
    A pain doctor gave him a fentanyl patch for his pain and it killed him in his sleep .
    If he had just have had some one with the same illness thar he had to talk to .
    I went through alot of what ifs.
    I had to be told by his doctor that I didn’t fail him . I felt like I let him down .
    He was 22 months to the day older than me . Thank you for sharing . I miss him every day . He died in august of 2003.

  • @donnagolub3355
    @donnagolub3355 2 роки тому

    I’m having horrific anxiety keeping me from driving bc I shake and sweat. The part where you say you have to face it really resonates. I don’t want to. It takes everything I have to face what trauma is causing this. It’s horrific. No one knows what a H mental health issues are unless you’ve gone through them. It’s not just mental it’s physical!

  • @jh9912
    @jh9912 3 роки тому +2

    I related so much to what Lilly was saying. Thank you , it helps me.

  • @jgcsn3533
    @jgcsn3533 3 роки тому +3

    Wonderful Show Such An Inspiration!!!