How to do NO CONTACT when you have kids together
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- How is it possible to do no contact with your ex when there are kids involved #nocontact #breakups #exback
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I’m really struggling with 😢my break up. I love my family so much but my ex said she fell out of love with me. We have 3 young kids together. I hope one day we can be a family again. We have broke up before like this and we managed to get back. We spent 13 years together 😢. Pray for me guys
@@kyysofyee I know your right bro it’s just so crap man
Try and see if you can do couple therapy
@@MoralKombato yeah I think that’s a good idea bro 👊🏻 I appreciate that. We got a lot to sort out
Stay patient brother, it’s been 4 years since I seen my children when my ex wife fell out of love but I’m here to tell you that’s it’s a patient game and the first few years will be hard but after a while you will be okay with this, and that this is a common situation that happens to men on a regular basis. Be patient my brother there is light in the end ❤
Walk away totally don't look back
I have full custody of my daughter no courts involved… I’m not on child support. I let her come see the baby two days a week which we both agreed on…. After we agreed that I cut her off. And moved on she communicates with my mother. When it comes to our child. If it isn’t about our daughter, I could care less about what she’s doing that’s what happens when you truly find peace
I think I will use these strategy..this is exactly what I've been looking for
I'm currently trying to break out of the cycle
10 years into a court-ordered schedule and shared parenting agreement, it means nothing if the other parent is bent on abusing you. They will take every opportunity to go against your agreement and terrorize you. You cannot co-parent with an abuser. Full stop.
Just decided to go no contact with a child involved. Hardest thing ive ever done, but there's no other way at this point. She was setting me up for child endagerment because i was enforcing boundaries.
Same situation I'm in I gotta just be like fuck it cuz the disrepect and she holds baby over my head.
women get too much power when kids are involved
Yeah man today is first day
My ex and I were together 3 years had 1 son (she had 2 from a previous relationship I stepped up to the plate) she broke up with me 2 months ago. I tried fighting for the relationship and pushed her away even more. She’s an avoidant. I’m in no contact now keeping it strictly about our child. I want my family back obviously. Don’t know what to do just focused on me and my son for now. I’m typing this as I’m picking up my son from her. It’s tough man.
I work 70 hours a week minimum. While at work I saw posts of my wife and another man out having dates. Unless it’s about the child then she doesn’t need to talk to you and you don’t need to talk to her.
My heart goes out to you. Im not looking forward to having to meet a future boyfriend.
@IzkAndrew that was one of the hardest parts, it was for me at least
It’s easy, she won’t let me see my son anyway. She fled the state and I have no clue where they are. It is what it is, focused on the bounce back. Already been through the bullshit and emotional work
I'm sorry to hear that my brother
I pray for you my brother. I went through that for 6 months and slept in my car while I got back on my feet and prepared to find my kids through mistakes my ex made like never being the parent who makes the kids game accounts she logged into the account and I got a notification with an IP address. Stay up my brother all things that are good will come together when it’s time I hope you get through it a better man
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we have a dog together like our kid we also have a grown up kid. i just keep it cool , no asking her back. no begging no doing her favors , act like im ready to move on.
Can someone pray for my family please my kids mother wants nothing to do with me and just wnat my family back please pray for us idk what to do anymore
same here
I miss my family so much i want to go home with them . She asked me to leave to my brothers for a while. I freaked out, and she told me why i think we won't get back together. We were engaged when she kicked me out. i threw my ring out of anger. i think i made it worse.
My girlfriend and I broke up after 18 years. we have 2 beautiful girls together. I miss her so much it's been 1 1/2 month since the breakup. I'm in no contact prey for me, please. 😢
How you holding up? Hope things have gotten better for you. Just ended 19 year relationship with 4 children.
I can function during the day for the most part. It's when I lay done alone in the dark when all my thoughts and anxiety come all at once.
Prayers going up brother. My Girl left 2 weeks ago after 23 years. If this is the first time she has left you have a good chance she comes back..this is the 4th time my Girl has done this shit..I probably shouldn't have taken her back at all
11 yr relationship down the drain I feel yo pain bro 🙏🏽
13 years here
I have a daughter aged 1 I’ve been out out on the street by her mum she no longer wants to be in a relationship but she’s very narcissistic towards me like she’s doesn’t care one bit that I have no one else to help me out I don’t speak to my family and I have no where to stay, I just feel sick and suicidal it’s very hard to see my daughter atm, I have to now work my fking ass off while I feel like this to get myself somewhere to live I don’t know if I’ll be able to carry on but I love my daughter to death and do not want her to be without a dad like I was growing up , I hope all the other people struggling here find peace and be okay hopefully I can too
Your not alone and don't give up 🙏🏽
@@Themidnightclub225 you can do it
U not alone buddy keep your head up
You still here, buddy? I was there bro. Focus on your daughter she needs you. Don't give up. Take this time and focus your energy on yourself. I believe in you. This breaks my heart because I know how you feel. You are not alone.
Mane she tricked me I gave her my all she half ass me cuz she was pretty widd a nice body n bragged abt her new man ngl ts crushed me idk how I’m making it thru life it’s been so hard I rlly wanna crash out cuz I hate wen my heart gets played with
Well see this is what happens when you let your lust win instead of choosing a pretty women with a good heart
Don’t kick a man when he’s down, he’s already made those decisions and I hope he learns from them moving forward. Stay strong
Please help me. I want to get back with my ex and we have 2 kids
you have to be cool let her go let her see you doing well without her and there is a chance you get back
How do you do no contact with your ex , with a child and you both live together.
Currently in no contact with my son dad this has been the worse 2 years of my life with having to deal with him. He’s mad I am talking to someone else he literally took a swing at me yesterday , stole my phone . Threatened me but did not once say anything about his son. Smh this is so toxic and atp I’m about to take my son and disappear there is no co parenting with a bitter man .
Man my ex constantly showed me she was interested in other people through 6 years and 2 kids and I kept forgiving her it started with small things and everytime I found something it got worst. If I would have trusted my gut earlier in the relationship I probably would have no been so fucked up from all the gas lighting and lying. I like to think I’m a decent man not perfect I can emotionally be shut off when I’m stressed and I give to much leeway for people I’m serious about because I want to work with them and figure it out but it’s difficult to find the person who knows you in those ways you need them .
Damn you sound just like me. Jesus
The mother of my child tells me everyday she don’t wanna be with me , And i fight everyday on if i should keep being the only one trynna fix things or put myself first . I’m a first time dad so the thought of not waking up next to my son (he’s 3) or knowing another man is around him and not knowing how he treats him? just the thought of it kills me kinda stuck and don’t know what to do
Try to go to counseling first
Damn sorry to hear that. Bro, looks like we're all going through similar situations. I'm literally in a similar situation. The best advice is to talk about coparenting and / or couple therapy if that don't work then just block all contact and focus on rebuilding yourself brother that's the only solution of course your child is most important but you have to do this for u .And if later on she come to realization she wasn't over u then who knows
It’s best to become the most successful person possible so you don’t even have to worry about those things if you are the bread winner you can fight for full custody and keep the kid away from any potential toxic environment because one thing I know for sure is women are bad at picking the right man
What happens if your wife moves out(infidelity) and doesn’t have a car? She wants to spend time with your child and needs that car ride from you for events and the days out with your child? She just moved out last month. Still sends me bread crumb messages about her phone and trivial things asking for help from me. Really don’t want to communicate but can’t be an arsehole either. Our child is with me and I am happy to be raising her so have to find a fine balance. Thanks for the videos.
Im in the same boat as you
Cut it! The car was a priviledge she had, and she doesn't have it anymore. Make sure you tell her exactly what you think and she will stop.
Yeah man I don't drive my baby momma no where she's in same situation IDC it's a privilege let her figured it out single handedly if she can't walk or take care of her kid she doesn't need them.
She can take the bus?
I'm going through this shit aswelll now.
She has already starting dating others, and I just want her to be gone of my life and forget her. But it's impossible, we have two children...
Stay up bro,how you doin?
Move away and do the best for the kids. Have them visit every 6 to 8 weeks for a week and keep them involved in video call routine. Let her deal with them as primary custodial and start a new fulfilling life. Or take the kids as primary and move away you have to get away when your the one that has no choice and wants them
now you know how OJ felt
I have no contact with my ex husband but I'm still also raising my kid. This has helped me
I don’t want to talk about anything. If he can decide when to be a father i can decide not to talk anymore.
Amazing video. I appreciate the useful advice. thanks brother 💯
Thank you. When there are kids around its always difficult
What about if you're married to someone who have kids with someone and mostly everyday the child mother keep messaging her ex which is the person current husband about their kids.
I put my bm out. I was scared I was going to get locked up. I'm on probation. She hit me with a flower pot. I put her out. I feel like shit. I feel so stupid.
@@floburnett8374 She came back after I begged her to. Just to damage more of my property.
Sometimes people just need space and time to reflect. When you’re living with that person and 1 or both parties are unhealed toxic things happen.
@@sleepinggiant575lmao. You begged your abuser back.
You did the right thing. She doesn’t take your freedom seriously. Distance yourself and enforce boundaries before it’s too late. Let your balls hang and stop being afraid to walk away. Why would you beg for someone back that treats you that way? Smh
Try to speak to family counseling together if you still love each other
Currently going through this rite now. I'm actually the one trying to be civil but he's the avoidant one.
My ex is constantly driven towards drama, toxic behavior. We entered no contact, and today she tried to keep my son from me. Something she’s done in the past, it led to me almost fighting her neighbor after she put hands on me as always than put on the “help me” act when it was convenient for her.
The best thing to do is to get a joint custody agreement through the courts and set boundaries
currently going threw this right now… had to leave the house because the disrespect and her patterns have changed way to much for me.. wish things could be different but if not im ready to let it go
My Ex and I broke up 2 months ago, I had to move back at my home with our son. After a month of No contact, I sent an apology message and he did not receive it well, He told me we would never get back together and other hurtful things were said, he believed i never loved him and he was just to blind to see it. I am practically a single Mother and the only thing he does for our son is send a maintenance fee monthly. whenever I would engage him about our son, it ends up in a fight and i try to be polite! Does he still have feelings me? He is constantly trying to hurt my feelings.
He's hurt but maybe would agree to family counseling
But what did you do? For the break up
How does no contact work when we live together with kids ?
What if youve done all of this and your ex still does not abide by your boundaries or schedules, or even your space? Sigh
No need ro talk to your child's mother you'll just turn into a yes man trying to be a father when you're allowed to be. Once you're on child support it's a done dill. The courts will not set a set school the father. Your talking about a perfect situation that rarely happens
May god bless her soul and my son's
Thank you this helped a lot even though i knew all of this i still needed to hear it from someone else keep up the good work
This was helpful as I'm currently in this situation.. thanks
how r you ?
My baby momma left me while she was pregnant and moved on with someone else that is the worst thing possible that can happen to someone
Sorry to hear that that is painful. You’ll pull thru and make it out a better man. Everting is temporary
Me and mine were having troubles throughout the pregnancy I didn’t get a say in wether we keep them or not. I have done my best since they came and they are 2 months old. She has bad post Partum and she broke up with me but we still lived together. Last week I saw her phone and she was messaging boys all night flirting.
Sorry bro hope you’re feeling okay
@@patrykgadomski4951same but remember most of the time they’re trying to fill a void … focus on being a better you and watch her come back bro , if not than you will be heal and ready to mingle
Dude must be a super simp; trust me mate it won’t last
Love you man, you're the best.
Thanks bro 🙏
Appreciate this video, thank you.
Finally…because nobody ever explains these things for folks with kids 😂
Thank you
When there 40 something now, No contact but I no longer want to go to Christmas at my daughters house. I don't even get a birthday text from my son's anymore. I used to get birthday cards. No contact With 2 Grandkids out of state. I din't know them tho I have texted and when I call they are too busy. I feel lost and broken.
Genius, all bets are off when kids are involved
meaning?
What about when they end you and you have a kid and the next days thy with some one new ?
My ex is doing this and my dad is very sick and he won’t take his child so I can help my family . Please help.
This is what I'm going through, it's killing me. I just want her out of my life all together and move forward. But it's impossible because of the kids we have..
I am going through a break up, i believe is the 3 week, i am doing the NO rule, the way things end up got me by surprise, i really want to stay away for good from that person, we have a daughter together, so i am using other channels to stay in contact with child...it is been tough, but i am focus more in me than never before...thanks for tips coach Blac...
This video makes me unhappy and about a break up, but I’m not ready to get a guy. His name is Andrew. He broke my heart two days ago before and I don’t like that. Thank you for helping me. This video is helping me and I like that now because it helps me because I don’t like anyone hurts my feelings and I don’t like that. Thanks for helping me about this video. I love that.❤ ❤❤❤😊
Much Respect!!! great video and thats where I am right now. Be the bigger person and act like an audlt!! I just keep telling myself I diddnt lose her she lost me, her choice!!
What if you live together.. seperate rooms... and have a child, 2 dogs and own the property. No contact? She wants to sell and go our seperate ways currently
Try counseling first
@@spicydragonroll88-wd2jl she don't want to
Me and my ex who I have a child with just broke up she says she wants to work on her self and she isn’t where she wants to be right now for the relationship but literally just a week ago we were in relationship now she wants to put on the friends and co parents act but she still texts me everyday and most of it isn’t about our kids she still texts me like she did when we were together. I love her and want to be with her but at the same time I’m frustrated about the split and don’t know if she really wants to get back together or if she’s through. Should I go no contact and keep it strictly about our son or continue to play this were apart but still keeping our talking routine game going on
hey man I'm goin thru that right now, almost exactly how you hare saying. i finally said no contact and left it all about our daughter. Its really hard since we been together for 8 years but she are not toys to be played with, we have feelings and these types of girls have no empathy on how they are just tossing us around. i kept the talking routine for about a month now and even hanging out but got no where, so its time brotha, let her go!!
@@regulocruz19see I’ve done that.. but the talking about the kids, has then turned to flirting. And has then turned to sex. I just don’t get it. Why I wasn’t good enough.‘she’s a teacher aswel.
@@millwallfan06 why are you complaining? She’s giving more than you had before, you want her back you have to let her build the attraction for you. Don’t talk about the relationship and just hang out and have fun and have sex.
You need to make appointment for family counseling and see if you can work on coming to compromise for each other there still seems to be love there
That is the scenario I am in. This can help me. Should I just set up a time to pick up my kids the next time she calls or do I have to work up to that. We are recently separated and this is her choice not mine
I've been apart from my sons mum for 4 years and still struggle with it, we have very little contact
What if she tries to use the mask of our child as a reason to talk to me? We are still married, she says we aren't getting back together, but neither of us have filed for separation. Please make sense of this
Im in same situation we have 2 kids 14 and 7
The bigger one wants to stay with me younger has to stay with mather i dot know what to do very bad situation
That works if the kids want to see their mom and they don't have bad things happen to them because of what their mom said and psychically did to them then it's better to keep the kids safe away from harm no matter how much a father wants the kids to have their mother in their lives always the safety of the kids
I'm dealing with this now this is so straining he made me into a spectacle more then a girlfriend or potential wife.… being made fun of constantly some times I feel as though there really is no help when it comes to toxic relationships & you got children by a person with no heart to truly care or love
I'm going through this right now, you've gave me a better understanding of my situation, she wants no contact. Obviously I'm still in love with her but it's got to be about the kids. Thanks
I’m in the same boat, I don’t know what to do bro.
@@coreythriftstay positive brotha,how u doin?
Did it work ?
He doesn’t want to contact me about the kids he contacts the maid or his mom talks to me if he wants to pick up the kids … he cheated on me and treating me as hell
This shit hurt bad, cuz we got 4 kids together. Her career is taking off, with the help and sacrifice from me, and all of a sudden, she needs time to work on herself. So now we have to break our home up. My kids never been a way from me more than a day or two. She really don't gaf 😂🤦🏿♂️🤦🏿♂️....14 years of me sacrificing for her. But i guess I'm to blame. So imma have take this one on the chin 😔
Something similar happened to me as well. Chin up.
Thank you so much, you helped me so much. I'm going through exactly what you're talking about. I feel 1000 time better knowing I could /should do this.
what if they want you to spend the night at their house with the kids every week or every other week so they can get a break
All I see is donkey from. Shrek while reading your comment.
she wants a babysitter to get with other men , nope
Glad u made a video bout this because i'ma going through this now only time i talk to him if they baby need something that's it wish it was different but life goes on
Hey what's up coach cool you're the best!
Good sound advice . Thank you . Can’t say I will follow it though 🤔
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Thank you for this brother !
Thank you
What if she can’t afford to pay bills on her own? Like rent
Kids clothes electric bill etc (3 kids only 1 is biologically mines) Do I continue to help with stuff like that outside of taking care of my own kid?
Hell no
No not your problem after she left
Thank you so so so much! Great content! The best!
Well said💯
Very well said
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Thank you
Thank you brother!!
Thanks Man!
Can I Have a session brother
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yes we need to talk
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