Thank you for such a great conversation! I have seen this issue cause a lot of turmoil in churches. I'm glad you addressed at the end that our role as parents changes when our kids are 18 and out of the house. In my ministry dealing with sexuality issues, I've ministered to many pastors who's adult children "come out" as LGBTQ. Sometimes the kids are in their late 20s or 30s, and have lived what would be considered respectable lives, and the parents seem to have managed their house hold well. But, I have seen some of these pastors in positions where people (and other leaders) in their church believe the pastor is no longer qualified for ministry since their child is living in sin. It adds so much turmoil to a pastor and his wife in the midst of a situation that is already heartbreaking for them.
If it is believing, it would assume that a father has sovereign power to save his children. And if his children are not saved, he's a spiritual defective. So then the Dad is under pressure to save his kids, or their eternal flame is his fault.
Thank you for such a great conversation! I have seen this issue cause a lot of turmoil in churches.
I'm glad you addressed at the end that our role as parents changes when our kids are 18 and out of the house. In my ministry dealing with sexuality issues, I've ministered to many pastors who's adult children "come out" as LGBTQ. Sometimes the kids are in their late 20s or 30s, and have lived what would be considered respectable lives, and the parents seem to have managed their house hold well. But, I have seen some of these pastors in positions where people (and other leaders) in their church believe the pastor is no longer qualified for ministry since their child is living in sin. It adds so much turmoil to a pastor and his wife in the midst of a situation that is already heartbreaking for them.
If it is believing, it would assume that a father has sovereign power to save his children. And if his children are not saved, he's a spiritual defective. So then the Dad is under pressure to save his kids, or their eternal flame is his fault.