Discovering my dad is not my biological father through a DNA test
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- Опубліковано 15 чер 2024
- This video is the first in a series on discovering my heritage and the search for my biological father. I decided to create this as an outlet to vent about my experience but also to connect with others in similar circumstances. I would love to hear about your story and I'm happy to answer any questions you might have. Please like and subscribe for more videos cataloging this journey.
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She's angry because you are uncovering her lies. My mother is the same way. Do not let her bring you down with negativity. Their first response is always anger and surprise that you are questioning or challenging them. Know that what you are doing is right and just. Keep strong!
Thank you, Ryan
Absolutely!
Please research narcissistic mothers. My mum is covert. There are also overt types. The world revolves around them and they lack empathy.
My egg donor (I refuse to call her a mother) is the same way
@@rubblejane7413 You really need to take a real paternity test. Those Ancestry tests aren't completely accurate. I remember seeing a Buzzfeed video where a bunch of staff took DNA tests, and one of the staff's mothers had a completely different result than her daughter. Like it said her mother was European even though she was Indian. So you can't trust those tests alone.
Don’t cry 😢... my story .. I’m a 40 plus woman ... at 12 I moved in with my father. He was a tall dark beautiful southern black man. Around 18/19 in front of friends my sister tells me my father is not my father ...... my life as I’d known it change. He never knew he was not my father .. and a year later when he passed .. he’d be buried without ever knowing..... but I knew! Now as a fully mature adult ... I can say ... he was my father.. is my father.. and will always be my father. The lack of dna will not change that. ❤️
yes, if he educated you properly then he is your father, no matter what!
I think it's beautiful that you think of him as your father, but did you watch the video? The guy she'd always believed to be her father had treated her shitty most of her life.
Interestingly no tears though, maybe she was cried out
B Brunson You are a cool guy! More guys should be like you!
B Vivid75 bless your heart. And tell the sister to get lost... how evil
My husband found out his dad was not his bio father from a court ordered dna test @ 12 years olds. Now he has TWO dads that love him dearly. Good luck !
Amber S so true 😄
A relative found out when he was 40 years old that the man he thought that was his father wasn't actually his biological father. His mother had gotten pregnant by accident by a man who had a wife. This was at the time when you had to prove your fatherhood in court if it was a pregnancy out of marriage (for some reason), and they did that etc. When the boy was just a baby, his mother met the man she married. Now everybody else around knew about this, and no one really ever talked about it, because why would you? There was really nothing to talk about. No one had even thought that he didn't know it wasn't his biological father because everybody assumed they most have told him about it at some point. But nope. I don't know how he found out about it, but yeah, he was 40. Most have been a bit of a shock.
@Amber Sauls Women feel like DNA doesn't matter because you never have to worry about false paternity. You always know when your baby is yours, which is a privilege
Garolin Not at all. I think any woman that lies like that is a piece of shit. It just turned out well for my husband, as the child in the situation.
Garolin I’d agree with you.
I’m 33 and literally found out a week ago that my dad isn’t my biological father and I don’t even know where to begin processing the information. I’ve never felt so alone in my life. 😞 And my mother did the same, made it about her. Now I’m stuck with all of these emotions and feelings of being lost.
Same for me I’m 27 it’s a big identity crisis
@@klopez3500 I’m so sorry you’re going through it too. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. I’m currently in therapy and I’m in a much better place mentally than I was 7 months ago. Keep your head up, and give therapy a try if you can.
Yes he raised me and I love him for that but still doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt and it’s very confusing for me..
@@klopez3500 Exactly, the betrayal of being lied to for so long is what hurt the most for me and I would imagine for anyone else going through this. Remember that however you’re feeling about it is completely valid!
same here im 20
Such pain in her eyes. It's not right to hide your child's origin from them. So heartbreaking. I hope you can learn a lot about Egyptian culture and learn to love that half of yourself. you're beautiful.
Yes i can see the pain too and it breaks my heart. There is so much struggle in her life and yet she is so strong. ♥️
Yes I see your pain too (you need a banana)
Pain is a result of ignorance, she does not understand the report and interpret wrong
@@StalkedByLosers Do we know that this man didn't know she was having a baby? He could have left anyways knowing he was going to be a father. Other statements stand. She should have told her daughter the truth, she should not have lied to that other man...
“Terrorist lover”? 💀hmar
I am Egyptian and I am really ashamed of what you had to go through as a result of a careless father’s behavior and an irresponsible mother. Just look now at the bright side that you became part of a large community, exotic culture, rich heritage and extremely friendly people who would love to have you as part of their life. Cheer up :)
Visit Hurghada, Alexandria, Dahab, Sharm el sheikh (not just Cairo). You are from a beautiful country 🤗 welcome 🇪🇬 half egyptian here too 💕
I really appreciate hearing people say things like this. Right now she really needs to feel like she has a place to belong and a family. It sounds like a truly lovely culture to promote such a sense of warmth and family.
Mohamad Abaza - Yours is the first comment I've seen which allots equal blame and responsibility on the father! I thank you for that. There are too many 'walk-away' fathers. You create a life.. you are responsible
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Make a paternity dna test , this is not accurate , results can change ,
What you think about Egyptian of 2019? My nabour is Egyptian & he always park his car in my parking. Should i call him asshole?
50 years ago, you could keep secrets like this. I'd be so angry at my mom for lying to me.
Holly Bridges people who play with other people’s lives like that deserve severe punishment. SEVERE
@@LiterallyGod I know it depends on the family, but even if my own family pushed their own past regrets onto me and lied about my real parents, I do NOT wish punishment onto them at all,just a realization of their ignorance is fair enough for me. They still tried to raise and care for me and I KNOW they had their reasons for hiding it, they just failed to choose the right method of coping with the problem. And they all were raised from bad parenting and poverty, making them more ignorant, only me and my family would know why they are the way that they are, and no matter what they did, I still forgive them. But this is my opinion as someone who's already gone through a similar issue, I just feel horrible condoning suffering onto someone unless they are actual psychopaths.
Worst Username In the World i am not talking about the child being the victim. Im talking about the mother falsely accusing a man of fatherhood and making him take care of a child that secretly isn’t his. The woman should be forced to pay the man reparations and be put in jail. The child should be put in foster care. Its sad for the child but its not fair to the man. Men get treated like dispensable objects to work and toil for money. The way men are treated is not fait at all and needs to be reformed.
Her mother might have not known herself. Stop feeding the fire let her talk with her people herself.
Chris S excuse me but are you kidding me? Her mom may not have known? 😂 If youre letting more than one man ej*culate inside you on a regular basis, its absolutely your fault and you deserve to burn in hell for your neglect of the child and false father.
I have know since I was 15 the man who I loved as my dad was not in fact my biological father. I was told by both my mom and my dad. I was basically the family secret. My mom was pregnant with me when she married. They chose to keep the situation a secret. I carry my dad's name etc. But not his DNA. This is a search I am on myself. I am in my 70s now. Before I die I want to know who he is. Via Ancestry I now know who he was and am meeting family I never knew I had. Good luck with your search.
Sherry Hicks good luck! ❤️
Best of luck on your journey!
There is a Facebook support group called npe, not parent expected, for people in this situation
There's another one called DNA Detectives
Same here. I found out when I was 15 and then went a long journey to find out who I really was. After my biological father died, I found out that he was adopted and now 25 years later I’m slowly uncovering his past through DNA test. Everything I thought I was has been changed and evolved as I’ve searched.
Good luck sir.
Forgive me if I am overstepping...since I don't know you at all, but I just want you to know...it seems that you raised yourself. By sheer force, you became a seemingly fair and put together person. You show so much compassion for your mother in the way that you describe her behavior towards you. Genetics are interesting, but you have defied yours.... Just keep authoring your own life story. Parents do NOT define us.
thank you ❤🕊
"you are not your roots.
you are a flower
grown from them."
- pavana
She describes her mom as a sociopath so I wouldn't say it was compassionate at all! Plus, she was a single mom with two daughters and probably worked really hard and then she also has health issues, so... I feel quite more compassion for her than for her crying daughter.
@@MirelaRR You do realise that mental health issues can make a person impossible to live/have a relationship with. Without going into too much detail, I have an almost non-existent relationship with my mother for similar reasons - I can count on one hand the nice/positive things she has said to me in the last 5+years, but I would need more space than the entire internet to sort all of the negative comments she has made about me and my family. All of what she describes in this video sounds like her mother is a narcissist - being self-centred and being unable to see anything from the other persons view. Having a relationship with a narcissist is only possible if you are prepared to sacrifice your own mental health - I know from experience, I am currently trying to fight back after my own mental health was broken partly because of the actions of my mother! It sickens me when people try to tell me that I "need" to have a better relationship with her "because she is my mum" - if it was a friend or a boyfriend treating me this way, everyone would be telling me to get as far as way as possible from someone so toxic and who makes my life so miserable, but somehow because she birthed me, I should sacrifice my wellbeing?
M. R. R. Mental health issues don’t excuse toxic or abusive behaviour, sad as it is. You have simply inferred that her mum is a sociopath, which is the point really. Like the OP it struck me how she could’ve said, probably justifiably, that her mum is a selfish bitch, but she doesn’t, she frames it with compassion and sensitively. She also acknowledges her mums challenges as a single mother in her videos.
It seems her mother isn’t the only person who struggles to empathise...
@@LovelyLawla well put!!!
Your father probably doesn’t even know that he has a beautiful daughter. I wish you luck to find him.
Thank you!
Right she’s so pretty i hope they find each other again
This is me. I was 32 when I took my test and found out my Dad was not my bio dad. Broke my heart into a million pieces.
If he raised you, he's still your dad. ❣
@@wandertreenope he sid not choose to she lied to him and the man
I found out when I was 22 that I was adopted at about 9 months old. Just handed off between two people and grew up three miles from biological family and in the same high school with two sisters and not knowing! You should embrace this finding and try to get into a group so you will be at ease and learn to be happier.
Being adopted is a whole other animal than being lied to about your bio dad
Please don't cry. My dad became schizophrenic which is sad in its own right, but if he never met my mother I wouldn't be here right now. If your Egyptian dad never met your mother you would not be here right now. I think the world is a better place because you're a part of it. God bless and take care of yourself.
@@myx4947 I'm still here, honey. Always will be, my little Mia. 💝
My dad is going too. He left to the states from the uk and has been there now for 3 years. He hasn’t got a visa and has no health insurance and recently told me that he can’t come to my wedding next year otherwise he won’t be able to get back into the us. Hope u r ok. You are not alone with troubles with your parents. 🙂
But you DO have a good reason: Health. If nothing else, you may need an organ or other donation in your life. Your closest relatives are the best candidates, statistically. Not only that, but what if your bio dad's family is a great family and would welcome you? You could have more family than you ever dreamed of. Your mother sounds like a narcissist and she isn't going to be able to NOT make it all about her.
Health wise it would be more for genetic disorders, such as if there is a medical family history of kidney, liver, or heart disorders, or even some cancers.
Rachel Ward Exactly!
that's cool how you got exactly 50% on a result. I don't think I've ever seen that yet.
Brad Eddy that’s what I was thinking like we always say I’m half so and so and so and so and when we get our DNA it’s only a Small percentage of what we really ever
I got 49.99% from my mom and 49.5% from my dad.
This is why it’s so important to be completely honest with your children.
Being a Coptic Christian Egyptian is very cool. You are a survivor of a narcissistic mother. Keep strong. Your beauty is matched by your inner strength.
Thank you, Tahuan
Narcassistic mom, Empath daughter-tough situation
@@Justshill This is really common actually. I'm an empath and I developed it a lot as a coping mechanism to know how to navigate the eggshells I had to walk on.
(This isn't related to your comment but I don't feel comfortable making a comment about this topic without mentioning that I do wish that folks with NPD had all the access to care and support in dealing with things in a healthier way. These issues can largely be prevented and I wish in the future for this to happen in earlier intervention for everyone who needs it.)
Ig-nat-ius this resonates with me so much. Can you tell me more? I didn’t know being an empath could be a coping mechanism. Which makes perfect sense to me.
Rubble Jane God bless you Jesus Loves you. Give Jesus your problems and you will be more than a conqueror through Christ Jesus who strengthens us
Get in contact with a genealogist. They may be able to solve this mystery a lot quicker. I wish you luck on your journey.
Dear Jane, you are such a wonderful spirit. I am so sorry for what you have been through. No matter what your parents are like, you can create your own reality and life with only healthy relationships. You deserve this. We all deserve this ❤
I can’t imagine how hard this must be. I’ve never wanted to give a kind word and a hug to anyone more in my whole life. You’re so eloquent. I believe that sharing your story will help others. God bless.
This is what lying to children does, it causes so much damage. The truth comes out on the end. The truth is always better, never lie to your children, they just want the truth. Beautiful woman who deserves nothing but love, honesty and the truth 😐.
Or attempt to deceive them
Dawn Anderson right and people act like they need to lie to their young children. If anything introduce the truth to them when they’re young. They can handle it and likely won’t be harmed from it. They’ll accept it and move on. The damage comes when they’re adults and have been lied to forever then find out the truth.
Dawn Anderson: I agree, despite my mother telling me she didnt know for sure who my bio father was I cant stop thinking that my mother lied simply to avoid dealing with the situation and just to bury it.
@@draoicht22So sorry to hear, it's sadly all too common in families. 😕
As someone who has a family that "lies" that I lack both parents (mom was kinda forced into teenage pregnancy long story short), it never really affected me despite still being quite young since I found out everything myself and I still keep it a secret otherwise my family might get mad (even my relatives and teachers hid it from me according to my cousin). And while the situation nor did my father's choices affect in any way, I hate how having a family that lies to you really messes with your sense of trust, especially since that's not the only thing they hide from me. I'm saying this from experience, lying to your kids makes them more likely to get trust issues.
Your story is almost exactly the same as mine....
And I know this comment will probably get lost in the thousands of comments but I am also going through this almost identical situation right this very moment and my mind is running all over the place and I googled “my dad is not my actual dad” and your video came up....
My whole life I was told that both of my parents were adopted, so I knew no one genetically beyond my parents. I was also told my father had cheated on my mother and that’s why they weren’t together anymore. My mom was also a single mother and raised me on her own. I didn’t have a father listed on my birth certificate because I always thought my mom didn’t want my father to have parental rights because he cheated on her.
Basically my father too was absent for most of my life, in and out. We never really were close, he never treated me badly just was very MIA.
Fast forward to 2011, a man reached out to me on social media and claimed to be my biological father. He said he and my mom were living together around the time that I was born and he thought he may be my father.
Of course I asked my mother what this guy was talking about and she simply said that he was crazy and her “stalker”. So I figured he was trying to use me to get to her so I blocked him on social media.
Fast forward again to 2 years ago, I as gifted a 23 and me DNA kit and a few months ago connected with a woman who was biologically my mothers cousin. Because my mom was adopted I thought it would be interesting to buy my mom a kit and verify that this was in fact my moms cousin.
So we did just that and after my mom got her results... I jokingly said to her today “I should get my dad a kit for Father’s Day now” and she said nonchalantly back “oh so you can find out he’s not actually your father” and I was like ummm what? And she said “we talked about this”.
I rush to 23 and me and notice that it now breaks down the results by mother and father side of the family, and on my fathers side some of the last names match the man that reached out to me on social media back in 2011.
Basically my heart is shattered and I feel devastated that my mother lied to me my whole life. I have so many questions as to why she would keep me around if the guy that impregnated her was actually crazy, why she would lie and say that another man was actually my father.
It just makes me wonder, does my dad actually know he’s not actually my dad, is he lying too and that why he was so distant my whole life? I have so many questions that I don’t even know how to bring up to my mother.
I know it shouldn’t change anything, my dad and I weren’t even close... but it does because I am super close with my mom and she was the one person I could trust to tell me the truth and she kept this huge secret from me for my whole life. I’m almost 30 years old finding out who my dad really is...
This all happened today and like I said this comment will probably get lost and no one will read it but I just needed to tell my story somewhere.
Thanks to anyone that actually took the time to read this, I just needed to vent, also thank you for sharing your story. You are a beautiful woman and I’m glad I’m not the only person going through something like this, it’s helping me not feel so alone. Thank you.
God bless you. I am so sorry for your situation and I hope you get the answers you deserve.
Oh no!!! Is you mom still married to the man that thinks he's your dad? re you going to tell him?
How does your story go? Any answers yet?
You better go and unblock that person who contacted you on social media
I hope you reached out to the man who is your father
Dear Rubble Jane,
I could feel your pain, hurt, and abandonment. I wanted to hug you, and console your despair. Thank you for being so honest and vulnerable.
Your courage is strong, honourable, admirable. I have subscribed for I’m rooting that your tenacity shall persevere. Amen.
you are so well spoken and my heart feels for you ❤️ just know that wherever your biological dad is, and if he ever gets to meet you, he should be so so proud of the beautiful woman he got to help create ✨
I have a mother like yours. It really should be up to you decide whether you get to know him regardless of what she thinks. Good luck on your search!
Thank you, Peyton xo
I swear to god your baba is gonna be so happy to see his beautiful daughter once you guys reconnect. Inshallah you'll find him and learn about the beautiful Egyptian/Coptic culture 💗
Lechatnocternal go find him baby girl you won’t regret it ❤️ sending you love & light
i was moved by your story, the heartfelt emotion, and the struggle to make sense of this news and your identity. Also in this video, your grace, intelligence, humility, sense of boundary, and curiosity. This is the first video I've watched by im riveted and very hopeful for you to have a positive outcome and healing. Wishing you peace.
This happened to me over 6 years ago, i stopped counting the years cause of depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts. Except my mom abused me and made me her minion ever since my parents divorced. My mom thought her little secret would make my dad refuse custody over me and my other two siblings. I did not know what that secret was until i came home from school with my family crying in the kitchen and they huddled me in to show me the DNA test papers. My brother: 97%, my sister 0%, and me 0%. My brother is the only sibling to be biological to both my parents whom been there since i was born. My sister knows who her father is, as he is my mother old boss she used to work with and steal glasses from since she was a optometrist. My dad, i do not know. My mother has a twin sister and she was married to a man named Steve. My mom oddly hated steve i observed from her as she would gossip to me all the time. I have speculations that my mom's twin sister's ex-husband is my biological father...my Uncle. I have a cousin named Steven, he is my half brother. I have done the math over the years and everyone refuses to speak to me about the matter and i feel really unheard and ive been hospitalized once for suicidal tendencies, self harm and was put into a psychological behavioral center at 13/14 years old. Just at the beginning this year i was petitioned by my job to be put into a government or state ran psychiatric center that held me against my will for 24 hours. While staff workers verbally abused men and sexually harrassed women before and after they were discharged. I just want some fucking answers and some fucking sanity. Sorry to whoever had to read this.
Edit: im so fucking sorry to whoever has to go through this. Test results after youve already been curious as a kid or for a while is earth shattering. Its a pain that makes you forget who you are sometimes.
Dammmnn
❤️stay strong from Egypt
Annastacia Cocco I hope you are doing better! We do not choose family... So make life your own and move on. Easier said than done but it can be done! I always say to myself “The best is yet to be!” And now 52 and things are great and getting even better!
Encouragement, Prayers and Blessings from me to you. May your Guardian Angel strongly protect your emotional health..dear one. 🙇🏻♀️🔍🙏🏽❤️
Being suicidal for not knowing your biological father? Don’t you think that’s a bit extreme
Maybe try interviewing people who your mom was friends with around the period of time you were born. She must have told something to her mom, her best friend, her cousins etc. Somebody around her must known something! Or do some sniffing around her stuff, diaries, letters and photos. If none of that works, grow a thick backbone and confront her, like she's your equal, like an adult. Or hire a detective.
You’re basically half white half arab and looking at you I think you took the attractiveness of both sides
Of the Egyptian side
Copts are not arabs they lost their ancient egyptian language with the arab invasion circa 600ad
joseph adel:
You need to study the word "Arabized". What it means is that the people
of Egypt are genetically the the same people they were before the Arabs
arrived. They adopted the Arabic language, Arabic customs and cultures
and came to be known as Arabs like the people of Morocco, Tunisia,
Iraq and so on. The Arabs are still a people who have so much in
common and they have common enemies. I don't think you are Egyptian,
because your hatred for Arabs is showing as being too strong.
@@helen4yemen71 ancient egyptians were propably indoeuropean looking remember the iksos? The iksos who ruled egypt were indoeuropeans and they brought the chariot into egypt. They came from asia minor so they were either hittites or armenians or greeks or phrygians an ethnicity close to greeks. Ramses b had red hair and his insignia god seth was also a god symbolising the red colour. The coptic alphabet is the same as the greek. So what are u talking about arabs were in antiquity only in the arabian peninsula after the middle ages they invaded the lands they now call arabic.. learn history
Yes. Of both sides. You can see that.
This was incredibly pure, and honest, and open and I thank you. I can’t imagine what you’re going through but your pain feels familiar. My stepdad, who was much like my dad when I was very young (7 years old) told me when I was 12 that he had another daughter. It felt like a punch to the gut, like 5 years were a total lie. That was only 5 years, I can’t imagine your whole life and something even more personal. You’re so strong and handling this really well!
My father, never was in my life and I have pushed him aside a long time ago, but it's a pain that can never go away. I'm sorry you had to go through that, no child should go through that😔
Your features are very prominently and beautifully Middle Eastern. Wish you the best on your future endeavours
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She actually looks more French/Welsh and a bit Greek. If she is Coptic Christian she is Caucasian, not Arab middle Eastern. The Christians are a separate genetic group.
FacheChanteDeux The Dna test shows that she is 50% middleeastern so how do you say that coptics are “caucasion”. Obviously she is also 50% European so she is a mix.
@@FacheChanteDeux Welsh people and French people look nothing alike lmao??
She just looks like a regular white chick to me.
Im full egyptian and you really look egyptian you have those arab features in you face. Youre sooo pretty.
M A I wonder about my own DNA now because our faces are very similar. The only difference is my coloring. I naturally have medium brown hair, warm light skin tone and blue eyes.
M A Egyptian and Arab are different things and people with different histories
@@sefp Most egyptians have middle eastern influence. Many many civilisations have been in egypt, none as long as the arabs.
Carib Elias copts are egyptians christians but 95% egyptians are muslim it means you are arab
stop saying shit
@@yanislol all muslims aren't arab lmao yo'ure full of shit
muslim is a religion, arab is an ethnicity
I know it’s 4 years after your post and I hope you found peace with this. My mother lied to me too and led me to believe that my father was this jerk who wanted nothing to do with me. By the grace of god, my 1/2 sister popped up at 23andMe. I tracked down her father who admitted everything about his brief relationship with my mother. He was open and warm to the idea of accepting me into the family despite not knowing I existed beforehand. My mother Of course doubled down on denying everything. I told her I didn’t expect am apology, but just an acceptance of who my father really was. She still hasn’t reached out to me after I confronted her with the truth.
thank you for posting this, you have courage to do so. you are a strong, intelligent young woman. I think this video of yours might help other people who discover similar circumstances in their own lives. you are not alone. im proud of you
Whatever genes you inherited you certainly hit the lottery for beauty. Enjoy your journey discovering your ancestry.
So true. You are movie star gorgeous!🤩🤩🤩
Definitely looks Middle Eastern-White
Comments like this are under every video. Lol cant you see its irrelevant to the topic of the video? Whenever a girl is shown in whatever context there are ALWAYS people discussing her appearance in the comments
@@harleyquiinnnn How is it irrelevant on a video about a DNA test?
@@reizayin irrelevant to the topic of her finding out her dad is not her real dead
I think a lovely trip to the Middle East is in your future.
Planning a trip to Egypt for early next year!
@@rubblejane7413 I have become happier today, just imagining you discovering things in Egypt that delight you, as if you are a niece. I wish you nothing but the most joyful experiences, and much strength going forward.
JAD just say Egypt. The term “Middle East” is just confusing .
Rubble Jane DO NOT GO IN THE SUMMER, its extremely hot go in winter
Ugh, you are probably American right? Middle East is like telling her if she’s going to Europe or East Asia. We have countries in Middle East and different countries with different languages... seriously 😒
First off you are so brave to be willing to tell your story. My heart literally breaks as I watch you reveal your story with raw emotion and pain. I can relate to you so much...And I also want to say that you are beautiful! 🥰🥰 May God bless you and give you strength
Wow, what a roller coaster ride you've had, my dear. Thank you for your courage and for sharing your experiences. I would have done what you did.
You have an arabic beauty mashallah, don't be sad embrace your gene, go in Egypt and try to discover where you come from, your story.
For your information she's Christian
Ikhlas Benaiche
Arabic beauty? She’s beautiful yes, but she has no Arabian features in her. She looks more like an Italian
@@standingfortruth4043 $tupid comment. Arabs have different religion including Christianity.
@@mmgg3127 She looks beautiful as these Arabian beautiful women:
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Petit White
She’s beautiful and those women are beautiful, but she doesn’t look Arab thats what I was trying to say
I hope no one thinks she’s overreacting or too emotional. Your identity shapes how you carry yourself through life. I cried for you. I hope you can visit Egypt and become closer to your roots. You are amazing. 🌸
Thank you, Amaris! I had a few who felt I was overreacting but I think it's difficult for some people to imagine the impact of this. Those comments don't get to me too much. I'm more so blown away by the amount of love and support I've received. Thanks for the sweet comment
Yeah she is..
I found your video today ❤️. I did the same thing back in 2019 and still struggle with this. My uncle and cousins on my dad's side were showing me their results. I found it so interesting and wanted to see mine too mainly because I knew nothing about my mum's maternal side. I made sure to do the same test so I would link in as a DNA match to my dad's side. The result came in and much like you, I had believed I was something, but then turned out to be something completely unexpected. I was expecting 50% Scottish and Irish from my dad and 50% England from my mum. I noticed I didn't match to my uncle or cousins and immediately thought there must have been a mistake. I even called their helpline! I was shocked that I was basically 50% British and Irish which was actually from my mum, and then surprisingly 50% Portuguese. I had no idea about this. I knew nothing about the culture the language. I had visited the country a couple of times but that was it. Like you I asked my mum about it but I caused upset and felt guilty and feel that I can't ask any more. I still don't know who my family are on that side. My mum gave me a name but I'm on all the DNA sites and can't seem to work it out at all. Most of that side are fairly distant matches. Wishing you all the luck in your search for knowledge and in finding yourself. The thing I struggle with most is completely missing out on the culture, it's like half of me is missing but I already had 2 halves.
I can see the Egyptian in you, you're so beautiful! I hope you find the answers you're looking for. You have a right to know your history and origins.
Yes I think the same
She looks VERY coptic with that deep black hair
Your mother is wrong. You're an adult you have a right to know about your father. For medical reasons and for to know him and who you are! Don't fret you don't need her approval go find your Baba!
Almost every mother would very liar for spoke to children. That's why I took 23 and me kit plan as soon. I'm completely understand in the world
14:00 the maturity, the empathy, the eloquence you when you speak of your mother shows your true character. You are a good person and that isn't always an way thing to be. You're awesome. I just had to pause the video to comment before it slips my mind. What an incredible woman you are.
I was about to write a similar comment, and you put it so well. Despite her painful upbringing, she's managed to come out of it as a nice person who is mindful & eloquent.
You are so strong and beautiful. Thank you for sharing your story.
I know this is a year old. I found you because I took a 23 and me test, and I’m waiting on the results.
I’m sorry :(
I can relate to the difficult mother thing. I was never close with my father. I haven’t even seen him in 13 years, and he’s never met my 8 year old son. But he and his whole side of the family were never interested in my sisters and I. So I sort of joked with my mom that maybe he’s not my real father, and instead of just joking around and talking to me, she freaked out, got super offended, made the whole thing about her. Thought I was speaking negatively about her.
She passed away shortly after that conversation, but yeah.
I think it makes sense that you’d want to know about the other half of your dna. As others have said, it can even impact your health, since certain health risks run in certain families. Also, whether any father was close to you, it’s a piece of a puzzle to who you are, and it makes sense that you’d want to know about it.
And now you have this whole other ethnicity/culture to explore, that you had no idea you were part of!
I subscribed so I can follow your story to pray for you. The issue is not if you deserve a father, the issue is whether any man deserves to be your father. I can tell just by watching your video that you are a woman with a gentle spirit, a compassionate heart, and so deserving of love. Whoever your biological father is, the only question is whether he is worthy of you.
@@rijiriju Bucking Pervert. Go yack off in the shower or on the toilet.
@PortMourant2008 were you sleeping when you watched this. what?
Well maybe he doesn't even know that she exists so he never had a chance to do anything about it.
It is completely your business to search for your own father. Do not listen to your mom you have the right to do this no matter what she says. It is your life and you should be the one controlling it best of luck❤️
I really just want to hug you. Everything will be okay. We face different life lessons to help shape our soul and to learn to overcome the pain and the trials. You will find your way, and you already have begun. You are very strong, and i hope so much that you will find the beauty in your heritage, regardless of the pain from the lies that were pushed onto you. In the long run, you might realized you gained so much more than you may feel like you didnt have before. I hope you are doing amazing these days!! My prayers are with you
This newly found information is a blessing! How great is it to become closer to your heritage where you had no intel before. Turn this circumstance around and look at the positives here ❤️
Rami Malek is also an Egyptian Coptic Christian :) you are in good company. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Hang in there 🖤
But isn't he supposed to be a villain?
He is Muslim.
K J no he’s not
Adam Sahr real people can’t be villains, and Rami Malek is a lovely man
@@happyme3556 Coptic Christians are not Muslim. Look it up in Google before saying silly things.
You have a right to know who your father is and your mom is wrong for getting upset with you for wanting to know your heritage.
yes but her mom has 'problems' and she is very compassionate and understanding abou those problems. her mother's problems have hurt her thousands of times in a thousand ways, but she has empathy, and has the compassion to try to understand her mother and that she is limited in some ways. yet that is the mother she has, and her mother loves her despite her shortcomings and failures and she loves her mother too and works very hard to understand her. i find this young woman very impressive as a person.
I know how you feel. I found out my father wasn't my bio Dad via ancestry DNA. My Dad was never really in my life and didn't believe I was his. Come to find out my bio Dad always knew I was his and my mother purposely distanced myself away from him when I was 5 because she was jealous of our bond only because she didn't have a father. I think about it daily and pray to God he gives me peace regarding the situation.
I don't know your whole story, but I'm proud of you. Stay strong and love yourself. It doesn't seem like life dealt you the best hand, but you're doing great.
You have so beautiful Egyption features, please don't cry...
Мсье Рэалізм yes, she is beautiful!!😊💕🐸
If she had true original Egyptian features she would be dark skinned with high cheekbones and curly hair. Instead she is mayonnaise white.
@@lolaluv4940 nooo ur totally confused, Egyptian arw mixed in color shapes look, hight cheekbones are the pure originally Egyptians in south egypt north are kinda mediterranean
Lola Luv egyptians vary in looks
Lola Luv uneducated statement
50% Egyptian, 100% gorgeous. Don't cry. You may very well be better off not knowing who your real father is.
The mom knows. If she’s willing to tell.
This is the first video I have seen of yours, my heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry that you had this experience with your dna test and your mother. Life is complicated, I hope that you can find peace within yourself, your family and friends that are there for you. It could have been just as surprising to your mother and she may carry a lot of guilt.
I am so so sorry for what you went through. You had the right to know where you came from and to know who your father was even if he wasn't in your life. It's heartbreaking. I hope you can find out. I'm so sorry
I'm sure your "new" Egyptian family will welcome you with open arms. I'm German and married to a wonderful Egyptian man, with a big Egyptian clan attached. It's such a wonderful country with loving people.
Absolutely
Well her egyptian dad left her so how they will welcome her with open arms
Imbibing China did you move there? I’m soon to marry an Egyptian ...
@@Ladycooks I lived in Egypt for 4 years, then brought my Egyptian husband with me to China. 😁 If you have questions, just find me on Instagram or Facebook at ImbibingChina.
@Miss O’Genist Visiting Egypt is not dangerous for the average person, especially for travelers. Except traffic. Traffic in Egypt is dangerous!
I speak from experience. I used to live there for 4 years, and have traveled there many times as well.
I totally relate to you. This horrifying thing happened to me. Took an ancestry test in 2016 just for ethnic break down, my dad is Puerto Rican (mom is Native American). I was always curious about ethnic break down as Puerto Rican’s are very mixed with Spanish, Mid East, Jewish, African and Taino (native of Puerto Rico). After taking the test it became clear that my dad isn’t my bio dad. I had no cousin matches with Spanish names and the dna was strange... I had a huge percentage of Italian, small amounts of Greek, Middle East and Ashkenazi Jewish. My mom passed away when I was 8, she was pregnant with me when she was just 14. I’m 33 now but did this when I was 31. My daddy has always been in my life and I had no reason to think he wasn’t my dad. So I was horrified and even went in denial for about a year and told no one, just my husband who didn’t believe me. For a whole year I was in agony about my daddy not being my dad but I was curious who my bio dad was so I reached out to some cousin matches did some research and found my bio dad... an Italian man who I look identical to. He said he and my mom only hooked up once or twice. He didn’t remember her at first. It took a couple days then he told his daughters that he did remember my mom... I reached out to him thru his daughters as I couldn’t find a way to contact him. We have met a few times and it’s all still hear breaking. Idk what to do. My dad, the one I have always been raised with has no idea. I’m not going to tell him ever! I had to tell my maternal grandmother about this when I was first looking for bio dad as I wondered if she knew and if she could give me a name. She didn’t know either. I’m still dealing with so much hurt about it all. It’s a mix of emotions. Im a Puerto Rican and was raised that way but now I learn I’m Italian and know nothing about where I come from but don’t wanna be Italian and want no other dad but my daddy but met bio dad and he’s lovely and his daughters I like them and look like them and we are a lot alike but then when I’m with them it reminds me that my dad isn’t my dad and it hurts!!! I hope you find your bio dad if that’s what you want!!! I know the pain your going through and the wild curiosity also. Good luck.
Thank you for sharing your story
Omg, that lady who raised you get little credit for the work she did and did not abort you is very sad. She took the blunt of everything on her shoulders, yet all you can do is to pine over a man who doesn't every remember her. I feel for her not you.
@@theresag1969 Everyone has a right to know where they come from. I can be grateful for what I have and want to know about my biological family. The two are not mutually exclusive.
@@rubblejane7413
Sending love and compassion to your mother.
1969Vanessa G If you’re commenting on my story then perhaps you should reread it and comprehend it because your comment is off base. I’m not bashing my mom. You must have not done well in comprehension as I see you don’t understand my story at all. He didn’t remember because it was 33 years ago and they only hooked up a couple times, BEHIND my dad’s back. But I had his daughters show him her picture then he remembered. He wasn’t some grown man who didn’t even remember my “poor” mom. He too was a teenager and quite frankly my father was the victim as his first born isn’t even his first born and he has no clue. Now here I am 33 years later discovering this truth and it’s heartbreaking. And my mother wasn’t here to help me process this or lead me in the right direction. I’m sure she would have been surprised too and she probably wouldn’t have remembered the guy either she was still with my dad (guy who raised me) when she died 9 years later. I really don’t have to explain myself to you but your old ass needs to be checked. How dare you read my story, then make such an off base comment that had NOTHING to do with the context of my post. Comprehension is very important.
Thank you so much for sharing your story and your pain with us. I'm so sorry you had to go through all of this to find out about your ancestry. As an Egyptian and a Coptic Christian, I hope that our shared culture and heritage can help you heal on your journey up ahead. I'll be following along on your journey. Sending love your way ❤️ and if you ever have questions, it looks like you have quiet a few Egyptian followers and we would love to help. ❤️❤️❤️
Live your life independent of your parents. After 18 years of age, your life is your own make it as you wish. Forget the past. The past cannot be changed
You can't really forget the past. More like it is a part of the history.
Your jewish "father" probably knew (or suspected) you were not his daughter.
Roy B I think the person above is suggesting that...
I'm curious to why he never asked for a paternity test?
@@GALAXIE262 paternaty tests back then were very vague. They used blood type and couldn't prove paternity but only rule it out. So if their two blood types were incompatible, the test would prove he wasn't the dad but if they were compatible (and more than half the possible blood combinations were compatible) it would only show the man * might * be the father.
So it was quite possible for a child who was not the biological offspring to show up in the test as "might be" related to the father.
@@GALAXIE262 Plus, she mentioned that this guy had a wife and kids at home who didn't know about her. It would have taken complicated work arounds to do a paternity test during that time in order to hide that from his family.
Oh baby girl! God bless your heart! I have a daughter your age and I just wish you could feel the love of a parent like you should. I will be praying for you so that the Lord will lead you to find your father and maybe in ways you never expected. Be blessed and know that you are precious .
Thank you so much, Esther.
what makes a father is a person who raised you and treated you right and loved you and close you and took care of you regardless of anything that happened. My stepdad was more of a father to me than my dad ever will
I've recently started doing my ancestry work. As someone who works in the field of mental health, I really felt like I heard you. I think my heart was actually hurting. I know it's been a few years, and I hope you've been able to come up with some resolutions and closure since this upload. No matter what is said about nature or nurture, you are you, and there's nothing wrong with you or your questions to find out more. It is your history, and it belongs to you, personally, and you have the right to ask all the questions in the world to learn more about yourself. Wishing you the best.
I am an Egyptian and i want to tell you on behalf of all of us WELCOME 🥰 I am here if you need help or anything.
Hope one day you can come and visit Egypt 🇪🇬 trust me you will love it 😍
I am so sorry for all you have went through and I really wish you all the best ❤️
I love Egypt, the culture, and the people. Had my circumstances not changed, I wouldve stayed in Egypt. Met some of the best people, still in contact today, and I hope to go back for a month next year!! I love it there, simply for the people and culture ❤ 🇪🇬
@@mrs.elentz2336 yeah egypt is awesome , it's my second home. My family lives there (husband's fam) Alexandria to be exact . So full of energy there 🇪🇬😁
ايش تقول وليش تبكي جاني فضول 😭
@@user-dg5vx8li8f عملت dna و اكتشفت انها من الشرق الأوسط
@@aliegypt9354
شكرآ ❤
Hope you find your biological father. I also hope your mother can be more forthcoming about who he might be.
Her mom dont even know it.. she had open borders policy way before it was "cool". Breeding all kinds of mutts.. nowadays canada and us borders are wide open for any kind of non-white immigrant who wants to get on the wellfare system in here..
Thanks feminism and linerals.
@@sirbillymctip2549 Same here in Europa... 😫😓
@@sirbillymctip2549 You're stupid. Canada and the US have totally different approaches to immigration. Also, if this girl is a "mutt" then so are you. Everyone has diversity of heritage. Feminism has nothing to do with the immigration system, idiot. The US has open borders because that is what the top 1% WANTS. Rich people want open borders because it puts a downward pressure on wages. Wall Street loves open borders.
@@moehoffman9830 yeah but don't you think she has some idea of what egyptian men she's slept with?
@@strawberryseason No I'm not. I'm faithful. Even if I'm a 9/10
Girl wow, you are amazing!
Such strength and courage.
Tim McGraw said he grew up not knowing that Tug McGraw was his dad. He was pretty upset that nobody told him. The song he recorded "Grown men don't cry" hit home with him, the little boy in the song was only dreaming about his dad who was never around.
The DNA news was not bad, but your mother's reaction was bad! Sorry and good luck with your research on who your dad is.
I hope that you know you are welcome to be a part of the middle eastern culture and people :) As a middle easterners I am happy to answer any questions you may have about the culture etc. you will always be welcome to be a part of the ME community, your community. contrary to what the media will have you believe, ME people are caring/kind and hospitable people and will welcome you with open arms :)
Thank you, Deana! All of the people I have reached out to so far have been so incredibly warm, welcoming, and kind. I am proud of my newly discovered heritage and so excited to learn more about it :)
Egypt is not the Middle East.
@@MrAmhara You're right, it's in North Africa. Culturally, it is similar to to both North Africa and the middle east since it geographically links the two regions. I decided to put "Middle Eastern" on the thumbnail because Ancestry.com listed that as the largest part of my ethnicity. I now understand that the ethnicity breakdown is not totally accurate and 23andme had a more spot on estimation of my heritage.
only if you're a euro mix. not so so caring and hosptable if you're black.
MrAmhara it is in the middle East
I feel your pain girl. Be strong everyday is a new day to make your life your own you are a beautiful soul 🤗
This is the first celebrity one I've watched. Thank you, Winona!
Glad I'm not the only one to see the resemblance
I cried this whole video! Moms can be so difficult especially when there’s mental illnesses involved. It’s hard when the kids have to be the bigger people! Wish you the best ❤️
I am Egyptian.. and I can tell you do look Egyptian! A very pretty one. I think you should visit Egypt but make sure to have a friend that you can live with or contact when you travel because unfortunately we aren't really a country that would accept a girl to like live on her own. Good luck, gorgeous.
Maryam Abdullah She should watch out for Scammers too
But..she not full African..Egypt. She half white. My daughter is half Ethiopian..they look egypt
Nonsense, she looks Spanish.
Christians are Christians
Yes harrowing what some of the men in Egypt do. And when Egypt's currency is denied and foreign intervention comes to play dajjal is near.
Awwww sweetie, I feel your pain. I just reconnected with my biological father after 40 years of being told he tried to give me away when I was born and he didn't love me - Turns out my mom was jealous because he loved me so much and kicked him out when I was 3 and then told me lies about how he felt about me. She is now angry at me for talking to him.
I hope you find your dad and I hope he is amazing 💖💖 Don't let your mom get you down.
That first 5 seconds give me a goosebump. You’re strong.
Tbh you look very egyptian. But also remember you're way more than your ancestry!
She may look North Egyptian but I have been to Egypt in the South they are dark skinned. Called Nubians one of the oldest civilizations in Africa.
@@biochemp3347 yeah, she looks like North Egyptians soo much.
@@biochemp3347 yes but she has a white European mother so she would only be half Egyptian remember. She's beautiful either way tho 💕
Biochemp33 The vast majority of Egyptians live in the North and have light skin. Southern Egyptians have dark skin because they have a lot of Sub-Saharan African DNA.
As a mother....I cannot IMAGINE getting angry at my child...I would be more upset at myself for not telling them. If he was a bad man or not, she was wrong for keeping it from you and making it about her. I'm sorry, I know she's your mother, but...she's wrong. We don't know her past, but even so, don't do that. Do not make your child feel bad for a mistake YOU as a mother made.
I am appalled..and I am SO sorry. 💚💚💚 it is a little exciting to kinda have a new life you ever knew about though, I would imagine. I haven't watched the update videos but I'm about to. Much love
Thank you! You validated my feelings with this comment as I’m dealing with my mother that refuses to think outside her own feelings and projects her own selfish decisions unto me. The truma is extremely painful 😖 I almost ended it all and the same mother at the time told me to go ahead with it when I found out and confronted her. I pray she repents 🙏🏾
Oh sweetie, I feel for you. I know you posted this 3 years ago, yet I am watching it and feeling for you as if it just happened. My mom was very concerned with herself as you described your mom. It's very difficult to have a self involved, always right mother. Moms like that have deep control issues and as you seem like an empathetic, thoughtful person, this kind of person has to be willing to come out of their self obsession to actually feel and empathize for another. There probably won't be anything you can specifically do to help her...except say a prayer for her. I know it's heartbreaking...because it's your Mom.
Please know that your identity is, yes part from your mom and part from your dad, but there is something uniquely and spiritually 'YOU' that is beyond that. I hope that you continued to look for your father. I wish you well on your journey.
You are alive! Thank God!
Your mother still keeps it a secret, whereas it's not hers to keep. I would personally keep pressuring my mother until I had the answers, but everyone's of course different. Still, you DESERVE to know. If she still doesn't want to tell you and doesn't give a proper reason why, reach out to those known relatives from the DNA tests. Anyways, be proud of who you are; being Coptic Egyptian is also pretty cool.
Sounds like your mother has quite a narcissistic personality :( but it also seems like you learned that a while ago and have learned how to handle negative situations with her. I cannot imagine how difficult it would be to go through all this. You are strong to be able to share this with us! Stay strong ❤️
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this is so sad :( I am so sorry I hope you find peace and can get to know your family and heritage
yes she definitely looks middle eastern, face shape wise!
Yea i was like yea i totally see it
She has a little hooked nose
@@QueenofBluntTruth it wouldnt have cost u much to keep your mouth shut. With a flat nose like yours, i'd expect, you'll never mention ppl's noses!!
Jemma J wtf. She was just saying her nose looked middle eastern. Their noses tend to be a little hooked at the tip. She wasn’t bashing anything. There was absolutely no reason for your out of line comments.
@@jemmaj2919 I think my buttony flat nose is quite dashing. I was pointing out her middle eastern feature. The little hooked nose she has. YOU think that's negative, I dont. My God u fuckers on social media needs psychological counseling. Offended for pointing out a feature?
Coptic Christians are one of the most welcoming people in the world I know from experiencing them be thankful and explore there faith and try contact them
Really. ? Not to muslims
K J The Copts have been oppressed by the majority Muslim population in Egypt, and Egypt has treated them very badly in the past because they were not Muslim. They have their reasons, being a religious and ethnic minority in Egypt.
@@happyme3556 Egyptian muslims treat them horribly, like most muslims to Christian's
@@Happytown7523 please idiot. You know nothing.
I will have to Google Coptic Christians as I've never heard of it. I'm the opposite. I'm Christian and my DNA might say I'm Jewish. Mind blown.
Thank you for being brave enough to share your experience
It's difficult to find out that the difficult man you thought was your dad was not even related to you, but worse to suffer the reaction of a mom with no empathy. My heart goes out to you.
Hugs, hugs, and more hugs. I am so sorry your mother will not divulge who your biological father is. I pray she has a change of heart. You have a right to know for health reasons and to find if you have half-siblings that might want you in their lives.
I think the hardest part hearing this is that you grew up with very little moral support from your mother and "father". I'm profoundly sad and sorry that it seems to continue for you even into your adult life. The greatest news i think is that you get to know your true self and find new relatives to make new connections with a brighter hope. Stay strong.❤
Bless ur heart ✨🙏🏻 I hope that by now you’ve found out more about your heritage and Egyptian culture
Such strength to come forward with such personal experience. You are not definitely alone. All the Best.
I feel it's so disgusting that some people disliked your video, they have no empathy for you sharing such raw emotions, shame on them and please ignore them.
Thank you, Angel
Some people try to show empathy (that they're sad about what happened in the video) by hitting 'dislike.'
I once did that before I understood how UA-cam works.
Zzz 8
I am so sorry you went through this! I am also half Egyptian! If you want to talk about culture and get in touch with your Egyptian roots as an Egyptian American feel free to reach out to me ❤️❤️
This is the first time I've heard somebody else talk about all this. Thank you for your video. I'm going thru a very similar thing.....
WOW what a Wonderfull story! You are reinventing yourself.